Speaker 1: Welcome back, Bachelor Happy Hour listeners. We hope that you've
Speaker 1: been doing well and growing throughout this past week and
Speaker 1: of course hopefully loving all of the recaps that we've
Speaker 1: been doing well. I can't say we, but what the
Speaker 1: franchise is doing with the greatest seasons ever. I know
Speaker 1: I have been loving it. But today we have a
Speaker 1: very exciting episode for all of you and Rachel. This
Speaker 1: is probably one of the most requested interviews that we've
Speaker 1: been asked to do from all of our followers out there,
Speaker 1: and so I am thrilled to announce our next Bachelorette,
Speaker 1: Claire Crawley, on the podcast today. And since she was
Speaker 1: announced as a bachelorette, you guys have been sending it
Speaker 1: in so many questions, so many comments, so many thoughts
Speaker 1: for her, and so we really wanted to get into
Speaker 1: some of those with her directly today. Absolutely, Becca, you
Speaker 1: said it's so well, it might have been me who
Speaker 1: was writing in all those requests that can we have Claire?
Speaker 1: Can we have Claire? But I'm excited, I know you're
Speaker 1: excited to have this opportunity to talk to her, And
Speaker 1: I mean Claire's obviously no stranger to the Bachelor World.
Speaker 1: But on these shows, you don't really get to see
Speaker 1: the whole story. You only get to see a glimpse.
Speaker 1: And now we're going to tell claire story. So I'm
Speaker 1: excited that we need to have this conversation, in depth
Speaker 1: conversation with her today and hear about her journey to
Speaker 1: get here, how she got here. So I'm just really
Speaker 1: excited that we get to have this in depth conversation
Speaker 1: with her today and just learn and hear more about
Speaker 1: her journey, where she's been, how she got to where
Speaker 1: she is today, what she's looking forward to and hoping
Speaker 1: to get out of this incredible experience that she's about
Speaker 1: to embark on. Yeah, Rach you said it best, Like
Speaker 1: when we're watching shows and seasons back, it's like you
Speaker 1: only get a glimpse of somebody's life, of who they are,
Speaker 1: you know, each season we get a two hour episode
Speaker 1: on Mondays, Like you don't really get much more than
Speaker 1: that than what's being portrayed. And I have a feeling
Speaker 1: with Claire, like and just talking with her since she's
Speaker 1: been announces badchhred and through DM and messages, like, there's
Speaker 1: so much more to her that I really want to
Speaker 1: get into right now and give the world a little
Speaker 1: bit more background before we see her on our screens,
Speaker 1: because I think that's really important, and so I can't
Speaker 1: wait to chat with her. I feel like she has
Speaker 1: a lot to say, and we've never done this before,
Speaker 1: I think where we've had a lead prior to their season.
Speaker 1: Come on, so it's going to be a good time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I have nothing to say. I don't want to wait anymore.
Speaker 1: Let's for your on all right, So everybody, like I said,
Speaker 1: you guys have sent in so many questions and we
Speaker 1: wanted to get to as many as possible because I'm
Speaker 1: feeling we're going to chat for a while, So everybody,
Speaker 1: let's get to it. Please welcome Claire Crawley. I feel
Speaker 1: like we should start singing. Finally it happen. That's how
Speaker 1: we've been. We've been like, when do we got to
Speaker 1: talk to Claire? When do we talk to Claire. I'm
Speaker 1: so happy we finally get to do this, I was
Speaker 1: saying on my Instagram earlier. I realized I have not
Speaker 1: done a single podcast. I haven't really talked to anybody
Speaker 1: this entire quarantine. So I am like, let's do this.
Speaker 1: I'm so honored we're the first. We are the first.
Speaker 1: Clear You're gonna look back on this quiet time like
Speaker 1: pre podcasts and interviews and be like, damn, I wish
Speaker 1: I had that back, because pretty soon you will be
Speaker 1: talking constantly and after a couple of months, you're gonna
Speaker 1: be so sick of hearing your own voice. So you're
Speaker 1: gonna look back on these months and be like, huh,
Speaker 1: if only I could appreciate that more. Oh, hopefully I'll
Speaker 1: have a lot more to talk about, so we shall see. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well we have a lot to talk about, So let's
Speaker 1: just get us started now. First off, we know a
Speaker 1: lot's gone on since we announced you at we as
Speaker 1: if we have the power they annouse, since they announced
Speaker 1: you as the bachelorette, like, the world is completely different
Speaker 1: from that time that you were announced to now, so
Speaker 1: how have you been, What's been going on? Like kind
Speaker 1: of catch us up a bit. It was just it
Speaker 1: was something that was crazy, like I was ready for
Speaker 1: you're getting to that top of that roller coast to write,
Speaker 1: and then once that, once I was sent home, it
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'm alone and I'm by myself. But then, honestly,
Speaker 1: all the pandemic stuff got real serious, real fast, and
Speaker 1: that honestly took over my life and took over everything.
Speaker 1: And I don't know with my mom. My mom is
Speaker 1: in a memory care facility, so that was first priority
Speaker 1: for me and other I mean, I guess just health,
Speaker 1: staying stay, staying healthy just took took precedence and took
Speaker 1: priority over everything. So I've just been living in that world.
Speaker 1: And that's the world I'm used to, I mean, not
Speaker 1: quarantine world, but regular everyday life is what I'm comfortable with.
Speaker 1: So I just went back into regular mode. But I've
Speaker 1: just I mean, it's literally, like I said, that roller coaster,
Speaker 1: you're kind of waiting, and I feel like for the
Speaker 1: last three months, I've been sitting at the top of
Speaker 1: that roller coaster waiting for it to be like, what's
Speaker 1: gonna happen? Well, Claire, you have, I think now taken
Speaker 1: the trophy in the longest ever Bachelorette because because of
Speaker 1: this time, because you were announced months ago, and before
Speaker 1: we get into talking about the upcoming season, we want
Speaker 1: to first start this off by introducing our listeners to
Speaker 1: the world of Claire Crawley, because sure we know bits
Speaker 1: and pieces, but there's probably so much more to you
Speaker 1: that since we have the time before you start filming,
Speaker 1: let's utilize it. So Claire, we're going to pass through
Speaker 1: the mic for a second, so just tell us a
Speaker 1: little bit about who you are, what you're all about. Well.
Speaker 1: I love I love saying I love having this moment.
Speaker 1: First of all, thank you for giving this space to
Speaker 1: even talk about this stuff, because I think there are
Speaker 1: so many new younger followers of the Bachelor Bachelorette that
Speaker 1: a lot of people have been like, I don't even
Speaker 1: know who this girl is, which is totally cool, totally
Speaker 1: fine for me. But the people that do know me,
Speaker 1: no Claire six years ago, no Claire five years ago,
Speaker 1: and no five minutes of my life. So thank you
Speaker 1: for the space you even talk about this, because there's
Speaker 1: so much more to it that I think when I
Speaker 1: had the initial meeting with the producers and stuff even
Speaker 1: about being Bachelorette, to be honest, I didn't even know
Speaker 1: that they obviously had me in mind or anything like that,
Speaker 1: and I don't think they really had me in mind,
Speaker 1: But it was when I sat down with them and
Speaker 1: kind of gave history of what's been going on in
Speaker 1: my life since even I was on one Pablos season.
Speaker 1: That's the kind of got a grasp of really like
Speaker 1: she's been doing the work, you know, and a lot
Speaker 1: of it's not public either I don't really have a
Speaker 1: public Instagram or I just lived my regular everyday life.
Speaker 1: So what's been going on in my world? What I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know where do we start? Right? Where do
Speaker 1: you guys want to start? I will, I will ask
Speaker 1: you a question because I'm I'm a person who didn't
Speaker 1: watch the show before I was on it. So it's
Speaker 1: like once you get in this fraternity sorority, you start
Speaker 1: learning about different people, and you're a name that would
Speaker 1: come up, and so like I would hear certain things
Speaker 1: about season and stuff you were on, but you bring
Speaker 1: up a good point that was many years ago compared
Speaker 1: to where you are now. Ye. So if I'm gonna
Speaker 1: put you to a little challenge, if you had to
Speaker 1: sum up in one word, maybe two or three, who
Speaker 1: Claire was five years ago, so people can have an
Speaker 1: understanding versus who Claire is now in one to three words?
Speaker 1: What would those be in one to three words? Um,
Speaker 1: no pressure at all, right, right, I am before even
Speaker 1: I think coming off of one Paulost season, we can talk.
Speaker 1: I guess about had that moment was pivotal for me,
Speaker 1: but I was weak. I didn't know who I was.
Speaker 1: I was somebody that more than three words, right, I
Speaker 1: just wasn't self aware, I guess. And now coming from
Speaker 1: there and doing all the work over these last you know,
Speaker 1: all in my thirties, I'm an empowered woman now and
Speaker 1: a strong woman. And I would say even more than
Speaker 1: as being a strong woman, because I'm not always strong.
Speaker 1: There's many times where I I'm very weak. But more
Speaker 1: than anything, I would say I'm a courageous woman now.
Speaker 1: And even when I am weak, I still have the
Speaker 1: courage within myself to do hard things. And that is
Speaker 1: something that I'm proud of. Now, you know what, Claire,
Speaker 1: I am so glad you took more than one to
Speaker 1: three words to explain that. Because it was powerful, you
Speaker 1: better preach. This is what people have been I'm not
Speaker 1: trying to not go off on a tangent, but during
Speaker 1: the prior seasons, these last few seasons, people have been
Speaker 1: preaching that they want someone who's more mature, who's had
Speaker 1: some life experience and who understands this, who knows who
Speaker 1: they are before they enter this journey. So they're not
Speaker 1: trying to figure themselves out and the journey at the
Speaker 1: same time. So to hear you sum that up from
Speaker 1: where you were, you know, five to six years ago
Speaker 1: to where you are now. Everybody listen, this is the
Speaker 1: Bachelorette we need. I'm telling you someone who knows who
Speaker 1: they are so they know what they want. So this
Speaker 1: I want to see you navigate through all these men
Speaker 1: and these relationships because it's going to bring a whole
Speaker 1: another different element. You're gonna raise the bar for sure.
Speaker 1: Oh I can't I can't wait. I have a question
Speaker 1: playing into this because you mentioned being more courageous now.
Speaker 1: So I think that is such a good sentiment because
Speaker 1: for any of us who have gone through the show,
Speaker 1: you know, it's scary as all hell, putting your life
Speaker 1: on the line, saying goodbye to your family, goodbye to
Speaker 1: your friends, not having your phone, any sort of normalcy,
Speaker 1: and so to put yourself out there, not only like once,
Speaker 1: but to do this again and say yes, I'm ready,
Speaker 1: I want this. That that does show courage because you
Speaker 1: are fighting for what you want, you hopefully want that
Speaker 1: strong partnership. One thing that okay, I always say this
Speaker 1: and I hate this phrase because it's so cliche, but
Speaker 1: I truly think everything happens for a reason at the
Speaker 1: right time when it should. And so for you, you know,
Speaker 1: we saw you on Juan Pablo season six years ago.
Speaker 1: Do you think had you been offered the chance of
Speaker 1: Batchette right after that, like you would have been prepared,
Speaker 1: you would have been in the right headspace mindset for
Speaker 1: that role. One thousand percent. I was. We had. I
Speaker 1: had gone down there for meetings and stuff regarding it.
Speaker 1: But I think, first of all, it couldn't have gone
Speaker 1: to a better person. I went to Andy, and I loved,
Speaker 1: loved her season. She was ready for that. I was
Speaker 1: hot off the heels of the season where I guess,
Speaker 1: I guess you guys, leading into this, there's so much
Speaker 1: more background that I have never even talked about, even
Speaker 1: on that season of The Bachelor, I had never talked
Speaker 1: about that I had held inside that I didn't share
Speaker 1: with the world. I didn't even share with my friends.
Speaker 1: Some of my family knew about it. But I had
Speaker 1: just gone through a really, really abusive relationship going into
Speaker 1: one Pablo season. So coming to the very end where
Speaker 1: it just broke me down and I hear it in
Speaker 1: my voice the whole time of just trying to be
Speaker 1: strong and trying to be empowered, but then at the
Speaker 1: very end having enough in me to be like, you
Speaker 1: know what, No, that's not okay. You don't treat somebody
Speaker 1: like that, you don't disrespect somebody like that. I hadn't
Speaker 1: fully convinced myself of that yet, and so it took
Speaker 1: me time right after that to sit and process that
Speaker 1: and go what just happened? What do I need to
Speaker 1: work on? And why did that shape me? And I'm
Speaker 1: glad it shook me, but I was by no means
Speaker 1: I was just starting to do the work. I was
Speaker 1: just starting to crack myself open and kind of find
Speaker 1: out all about me and why I had had that moment,
Speaker 1: but even more so all the stuff leading up to
Speaker 1: it that I had to still process. I think that's
Speaker 1: really important, Claire, because like, and thank you for sharing that,
Speaker 1: because I know that that's not an easy story to
Speaker 1: share it. And I think it's so important though for
Speaker 1: our listeners to hear because a lot of times, as
Speaker 1: bacherettes were looked at as role models, and a lot
Speaker 1: of people try to compare, you know, things that they've
Speaker 1: gone to to us, and I haven't really heard someone
Speaker 1: share that journey before, but I think it's so powerful
Speaker 1: that you can self reflect and say this is where
Speaker 1: I was, but this is where I am now, and
Speaker 1: other people can relate to that and see, Okay, I
Speaker 1: used to be like Claire, but look at where she
Speaker 1: is now. And I'm very curious because Becca said that
Speaker 1: you hold the trophy for being the longest Bacherette, which
Speaker 1: is a gift, and a lot of what's happened with
Speaker 1: the pandemic hitting and then just the current movement we're
Speaker 1: in now, a lot of it for you has been
Speaker 1: a gift and a little bit of a curse because
Speaker 1: you've had to wait and you've really had to be
Speaker 1: patient more than any other Bacherette. But the beauty in
Speaker 1: that is and Becca and I can speak to this.
Speaker 1: When you're announced, you immediately go into interviews and pr
Speaker 1: and fittings and you really don't get the time so
Speaker 1: process at all. So for you, are you happy that
Speaker 1: you got this extra time to kind of self reflect
Speaker 1: on when you started with this whole franchise, you know,
Speaker 1: having those meetings, going through Paradise, going through Winter Games,
Speaker 1: and then to where you are now. Are you happy
Speaker 1: you've had this time to reflect on just who you
Speaker 1: are as a person, but then also what you want
Speaker 1: to be as a bachelorette. Yeah, I would say instantly
Speaker 1: if you ask me that, right when we went into
Speaker 1: quarantine and finding out that it would be a few months,
Speaker 1: I would be like, no, I'm ready for this. But
Speaker 1: it has Everything happens for a reason, right, Rachel, Like
Speaker 1: it has given me the time to sit and go
Speaker 1: what is my message? Like, what is it that I
Speaker 1: want to share with women my age, women, our age,
Speaker 1: women of any age, anybody? What is it that I
Speaker 1: really want to share that to let them know that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is one of those positions that is very rare
Speaker 1: to be in and I'm so honored to be in it.
Speaker 1: But more importantly, I want to be that woman for
Speaker 1: other people to say and to see that we all
Speaker 1: go through pretty awful stuff sometimes and sometimes other people
Speaker 1: just from what you see, whether it be on social media,
Speaker 1: whether it be what you hear publicly, it's not always
Speaker 1: the case. And it's like, I want to be able
Speaker 1: to share my message and it's a message frankly that
Speaker 1: I have been Like I said, it's not a lot
Speaker 1: that I've shared with anybody, even on any prior show
Speaker 1: that I've been on. It's nothing that I've shared before.
Speaker 1: And only till recently did I share with producers saying
Speaker 1: this is my healing journey that I've gone through and
Speaker 1: how I got to where I am today that if
Speaker 1: I can do it, literally anybody can do it. It It
Speaker 1: just takes those steps. So to kind of plan what
Speaker 1: I'm going to share and how I'm going to share
Speaker 1: with it, share all this stuff with everybody, just maybe
Speaker 1: to have hope for something that it does get better
Speaker 1: and things can change, you know, I gotta say, just
Speaker 1: listening to you right now, I'm getting the chills because
Speaker 1: for the longest time, prior to you being announced as
Speaker 1: about Shutte, I mean and Rachel and I had talked
Speaker 1: about this like it was getting a little bit hard
Speaker 1: for me to watch the show and be able to relate.
Speaker 1: I felt like as I was getting older, the cast
Speaker 1: was getting younger, and it was just hard, Like I
Speaker 1: couldn't necessarily click, I couldn't put myself in that mindset.
Speaker 1: And so listening to you and just the self awareness
Speaker 1: that you have and the like the capacity and the
Speaker 1: ability and that drive for growth and striving to be
Speaker 1: better and still staying hopeful for all of this. It's
Speaker 1: just amazing. So this is why ladies and gentlemen, Claire
Speaker 1: Crawley has been picked to be the next Batchlord because
Speaker 1: she you. I don't even want to say you've earned it,
Speaker 1: but like you had, like you deserve this. Yes, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. I just I'm still in shock.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, like I'm so hyped about it,
Speaker 1: but I'm still Last week I literally was like, is
Speaker 1: this is this happening? But I have no idea I
Speaker 1: found it. As a matter of fact, I found out
Speaker 1: maybe two hours ago actually when I'll be going down
Speaker 1: and the final date that I'm leaving. So it's very
Speaker 1: very still it's happening. It gets happening good. I still
Speaker 1: want to ask you details about that, but I know
Speaker 1: we can't. I you after Yeah, we'll have like this
Speaker 1: little Girl's secret time. Or do you ever wake up
Speaker 1: in the mornings and like does it feel like a dream?
Speaker 1: Does it feel like it's not fully real? Yet? Absolutely? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: Like I said, coming from the space where I used
Speaker 1: to be emotionally, I grew up having no self confidence
Speaker 1: and because of a lot of things that have happened
Speaker 1: in my life, not believing in myself and not feeling
Speaker 1: worthy of a lot of stuff. So that is something
Speaker 1: that is kind of at my core that when things
Speaker 1: are hard or challenging, it kind of sometimes reverts to
Speaker 1: that unknowingly. Yeah, And there's those moments when I wake
Speaker 1: up and I'm like, why did they pick me? Or
Speaker 1: what you know? Is this even? Maybe it is this
Speaker 1: a joke or I didn't get it? And then there's
Speaker 1: sometimes other times where I sit there and I'm like, hell, yeah,
Speaker 1: I cannot wait to kind of share my story and
Speaker 1: just be another voice for women to feel and be
Speaker 1: and men too. I want to be inclusive on that
Speaker 1: feel empowered and to see that being forty not forty yet. Sorry,
Speaker 1: jump in the gun, kay, single. There's a reason why
Speaker 1: we are where we're at in our lives, and I
Speaker 1: want to, you know, I want so bad for other
Speaker 1: women that are waiting and have waited to know that
Speaker 1: you know, their self worth comes first more than anything.
Speaker 1: It's taken me a little longer to work on it
Speaker 1: and to feel it and to believe it. But only
Speaker 1: till you feel it and believe it can you allow
Speaker 1: and you love yourself, can you allow other love into
Speaker 1: your life? And it's you know, however long that takes,
Speaker 1: I don't care if I was forty nine or fifty
Speaker 1: nine that self love. Once that self love came, it
Speaker 1: was like, I'm ready for this and I want other
Speaker 1: women to just know that it's so okay whenever in
Speaker 1: your life, you know, to be ready for that love. You, guys,
Speaker 1: Claire is writing pages to a book right now, are
Speaker 1: y'all saying? Outside this podcast? She just turned two to
Speaker 1: three pages, my guys, was so powerful. And what you
Speaker 1: said go ahead back, I'm sorry. I don't mean no, no,
Speaker 1: You're fine. I have two things that I want to say. Well.
Speaker 1: Number one, first of all, I love that you you say, like,
Speaker 1: don't let age define you as a as a woman,
Speaker 1: you know, like coming from my great aunt was fifty
Speaker 1: when she found the love of her life and got married.
Speaker 1: So it can happen when you least expect it. But
Speaker 1: as long as you know what you want and fight
Speaker 1: for them and don't settle. I mean, it sounds like
Speaker 1: you're on the right path. I was going to ask
Speaker 1: you though, and it kind of plays into what you
Speaker 1: were just saying. But you know you talk about where
Speaker 1: you are now, but I know this question will come
Speaker 1: up because some people just focus on age or whatever
Speaker 1: where we are in our life, because I got it too,
Speaker 1: because I was thirty two. I don't even remember how
Speaker 1: old I was their two thirty three when I went
Speaker 1: on the bachelorette. And I'm from the South and I
Speaker 1: have friends that are on their third marriage. And it's
Speaker 1: a way of life that people think. You come out
Speaker 1: of school and you're supposed to be married and you're
Speaker 1: supposed to have kids, and this is just how it is.
Speaker 1: And we're in a new day where it's not necessarily
Speaker 1: that way. But why do you think, because I feel
Speaker 1: like some people are going to ask you this, why
Speaker 1: do you think that love hasn't stuck for you in
Speaker 1: the past, because and we've seen a little bit of
Speaker 1: your love journey, but we don't know it all. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's I would say two things. A. I
Speaker 1: picked a lot of wrong guys for me, but that
Speaker 1: is because I wasn't in the space to fully understand
Speaker 1: self love. And I was always, like I said, there's
Speaker 1: a lot that I haven't shared with everybody publicly, but
Speaker 1: there was a lot that I had gone through that
Speaker 1: just really tore me down emotionally inside and it was
Speaker 1: almost I wore all that stuff and all those feelings
Speaker 1: as in the reason why I never shared it was
Speaker 1: a lot of shame, a lot of embarrassment. I didn't
Speaker 1: want to a victim. I didn't want that to be
Speaker 1: a reason or somebody to not like that about me
Speaker 1: or to not be likable with, you know, because of
Speaker 1: the things that have happened in my life that I've
Speaker 1: gone through and experienced. But so it was almost like
Speaker 1: I hit it inside. And it wasn't until the last
Speaker 1: literally recently the last year, that I really felt like
Speaker 1: I want so like I said, working on the self
Speaker 1: love and building that with inside me, but I want
Speaker 1: to be able to let down my guard. And that's
Speaker 1: why I talk about that a lot. I need a
Speaker 1: man that lets down their guard. But it wasn't until
Speaker 1: recently that I was allowed myself to let my guard
Speaker 1: down and say and to feel like I want the
Speaker 1: man of my dreams to see the worst of me,
Speaker 1: to know the worst of me, not to have maybe
Speaker 1: compassion or anything like that, but to maybe see it's
Speaker 1: not always easy and confident and strong and empowered. There
Speaker 1: was a lot that I went through that I want
Speaker 1: them to know the hard, ugly, embarrassing struggles of my life,
Speaker 1: to appreciate the woman that I am today. And I
Speaker 1: want a man to love me for that, and not
Speaker 1: just for the easy you know, makeup and hair and
Speaker 1: that type of stuff. You know, anybody can love you.
Speaker 1: Anybody can love you for the easy fun times and
Speaker 1: the smiles and laughs. Like my friends always know me
Speaker 1: as like I'm the goover of the group. I'm the
Speaker 1: one that will make everybody laugh. But it's easy to
Speaker 1: love somebody and to be attracted to somebody for that.
Speaker 1: But I want somebody to love me for all the
Speaker 1: hard stuff that I've been through. And it's been something
Speaker 1: that I've hidden for so many years. So until I
Speaker 1: not to make it long winded, but until I owned
Speaker 1: that part of my life and looked not as my past,
Speaker 1: the stuff I've been through as shame, but to look
Speaker 1: at it as my superpower. And these are the things
Speaker 1: that have made me the woman that I am today.
Speaker 1: So that's what I bring to the table. And only
Speaker 1: until I am open with that. Now it's like now
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm gonna start attracting the right kind
Speaker 1: of Men m Chapter three. So playing into that, you know,
Speaker 1: find wanting to find a partner who's gonna love you
Speaker 1: to your core? What other attributes trades? What are you
Speaker 1: looking for in a partner? What do you want? I
Speaker 1: want somebody who loves to make up. No, I want
Speaker 1: I mean obviously that, But I want somebody. Okay, you
Speaker 1: want to talk about my book? I feel like I
Speaker 1: have the title for my book would be facing the
Speaker 1: That's what I wanted to be, facing the fire. Yes
Speaker 1: like that, you know, if there's a book out there
Speaker 1: like that. But I my thing is I want a man.
Speaker 1: I'm not scared to be the one that will step
Speaker 1: up and do what needs to be done for a relationship,
Speaker 1: whether it be somebody's in the hospital, or somebody's sick,
Speaker 1: or you guys encounter really hard things in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I want somebody who will walk towards it and stand
Speaker 1: tall and be strong and be right there next to me.
Speaker 1: Because I do that, I don't ever ask anything of
Speaker 1: any man that I don't bring to the table. And
Speaker 1: I'm the one that steps up and does what needs
Speaker 1: to be done. So I want a man who will
Speaker 1: do the same, who when things get hard they don't
Speaker 1: run away when they get scared. They don't just go
Speaker 1: quiet and go into a shell. I want a man
Speaker 1: who is strong enough to say, I'm right here next
Speaker 1: to you. I gus, you know I love it, Claire.
Speaker 1: What's your love language? I believe obviously, I think for
Speaker 1: a lot of us, it's a couple of them. I
Speaker 1: really love. I hope my guys are listening to this,
Speaker 1: but I am very I'm very much. I believe it's
Speaker 1: acts of service and physical touch. You're gonna get a
Speaker 1: lot of that pretty soon. Yeah, yeah, Derby, plus probably
Speaker 1: physical touches. But let me make this, Let me make
Speaker 1: this clear. I show I show it in physical touch. Um,
Speaker 1: like I love to be holding hands and hugging. I'm
Speaker 1: nothing for me to receive it. Um, it's a guy
Speaker 1: that doesn't want anything in return other than I had
Speaker 1: a guy one time. Um we were had in a
Speaker 1: long distance relationship, but he had amazon me, um, a
Speaker 1: light bulb and I was like, what is this, dude,
Speaker 1: what is this? And he was like, when you were
Speaker 1: walking in the other night from your car, I saw
Speaker 1: your stoph Can I have your babies now? Right? All
Speaker 1: of them? Who is listen? I've been thinking since you
Speaker 1: said physical touch, I've been thinking about this for your season.
Speaker 1: Now we've all been quarantine so then the people who
Speaker 1: have been by themselves, they're they're hot, hot to try
Speaker 1: right feel. I've been thinking about this for you, Claire.
Speaker 1: These men are going to be horny as hell. Claire,
Speaker 1: you might mean security guards on night one. I'm just saying, hey, man,
Speaker 1: I'm think about it. I've been quarantined too, so game on. Yeah. No,
Speaker 1: I'm wait wait, wait real real quickly. I have to
Speaker 1: ask you this too. What's your astrological side? Just in
Speaker 1: case people are listening, And if you know you're Anyagram number,
Speaker 1: please say that as well. I'm just very just you know,
Speaker 1: I have to know. I knew she was going to
Speaker 1: ask that one. I don't. I don't know my number.
Speaker 1: I think I remember looking into it once. I want
Speaker 1: to say it was. Eric Bigger is really good on
Speaker 1: this and he talks yes. I want to say he
Speaker 1: said I was an eight. I don't gay for me,
Speaker 1: I was an eight. I don't know if I'm an eight?
Speaker 1: Is he just telling everyone we're eight? No, I've taken
Speaker 1: the test. I'm an eight at Claire, you know, we
Speaker 1: get along well, so you might be an eight as well.
Speaker 1: But some reason I want to say, let's go with eight.
Speaker 1: Some reason I want to say three, but I think
Speaker 1: it's eight. I'm pretty sure it's an eight. But I
Speaker 1: am a Pisces. I'm the last day of Pisces and
Speaker 1: first day of area. You're Pisces. Yeah, okay, I don't
Speaker 1: know why I didn't ask you this before. This is
Speaker 1: why we get along. I did not know you are
Speaker 1: a Pisces. Okay, are you a cancer or what are you? No? No, no,
Speaker 1: I'm a Taurus. Okay, but tell me more about this. Well,
Speaker 1: we're like an eight to core, like a Taurus is.
Speaker 1: We can be stubborn, we're very loyal, we're very frugal,
Speaker 1: we're very passionate. Yeah, but we're we're a bull. So
Speaker 1: you know this isn't surprising coming for me. You know,
Speaker 1: my horns are usually up if I'm not a Taurus,
Speaker 1: because you're all I got you on that. But you're
Speaker 1: a water side. I'm an earth side. They go, they go,
Speaker 1: they go really well, Um, okay, so we could Claire,
Speaker 1: we'll we'll call I'll call you and we'll talk about
Speaker 1: this because I'll keep going. I gotta plane into this
Speaker 1: because obviously we want to get to know you a
Speaker 1: little bit more. But I want to know since you've
Speaker 1: had all this time, now have you Okay, have you
Speaker 1: googled the guys at all who have been announced? Obviously?
Speaker 1: What what woman would know exactly? Well? I was thinking
Speaker 1: about it, and you know, quite honestly, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I would. I mean I probably would have, I
Speaker 1: don't know how deep I would have dug because I
Speaker 1: want to like get to know people for who they are,
Speaker 1: but without giving any names away or any any little details.
Speaker 1: What are your overall thoughts of the men? Okay, Well
Speaker 1: I will I will say this at first, Up, it
Speaker 1: wasn't up until I would say at first, I really didn't.
Speaker 1: I really did not, and I it was because I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just kind of felt like I want
Speaker 1: to get to know them in regards. I know how
Speaker 1: my Instagram is, it's a piece of my life, but
Speaker 1: it's not. It's one of those you have to see
Speaker 1: and feel it in person, and so regardless of what
Speaker 1: their life is, what it looks like on their Instagram,
Speaker 1: it's like, it's nice to actually see him in person.
Speaker 1: And I am huge on pheromones. So that's like the
Speaker 1: end of for me. If they smell amazing, Man, if
Speaker 1: they smell it like the right smell, that's everything to me.
Speaker 1: So but I will say I have looked a little bit.
Speaker 1: My friends have looked more than I have. To be honest,
Speaker 1: good friends see this? Did you see that? But there
Speaker 1: there are some things where I don't know. You can
Speaker 1: kind of tell people's lifestyles, like from their Instagram stories,
Speaker 1: and I see some that I'm like, mmmm, that's not
Speaker 1: really my vibe. But in others where I look at
Speaker 1: him and I'm like, oh, that's hot, you know, like
Speaker 1: I can't wait to meet that guy. I hope he's
Speaker 1: on my I hope he's on the season. What's like
Speaker 1: the number one trade for a partner that draws you in?
Speaker 1: Like if if it's like the beautiful eyes, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be paying attention to watching you night one. And if
Speaker 1: a guy would just like gorgeous eyes walks and we like,
Speaker 1: that's she's into him? Yeah, what is it? Um? I
Speaker 1: would say, Hike, it's a big thing for me, Hike
Speaker 1: and a really good smile. M yeah, let me in
Speaker 1: me too. Um Oh wait, Becka, are you gonna say something. No,
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say. This is bringing. It's given
Speaker 1: me all the feels to like think back to that
Speaker 1: night one and just you literally right now don't know
Speaker 1: what to expect. And that's the beautiful thing about starting
Speaker 1: any new season is you have so much to learn,
Speaker 1: just like the anticipation of who you're gonna meet, what
Speaker 1: they're gonna say to you, what gifts are they gonna
Speaker 1: give you, who's going to kiss you? Like, what are
Speaker 1: you most looking forward to that first night meeting the guys.
Speaker 1: I guess just meeting them and seeing how they come
Speaker 1: because I'm actually not I don't know if this is
Speaker 1: saying too much, but I'm not into the I think
Speaker 1: how they present themselves says a lot about who they are.
Speaker 1: And I'm if there's one's just coming off just being goobers.
Speaker 1: But Claire, you said you were a goober. I'm goober,
Speaker 1: but I mean true. Yeah, I don't, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I will say weirdly. I was just talking a couple
Speaker 1: of the producers about this yesterday. For me, I'm not
Speaker 1: I would say the first night I'm not a physical person,
Speaker 1: like I want a guy to get to know me.
Speaker 1: I want to get to know them. That's what's important
Speaker 1: to me. Anybody that kind of tries to kiss right away,
Speaker 1: that to me is kind of like I don't have
Speaker 1: enough good stuff to stay right now, so I'm just
Speaker 1: going to lean in for it. I think there is
Speaker 1: plenty of time for that portion of it. Let's get
Speaker 1: to know each other. That's what's important to me. Okay, Claire,
Speaker 1: let me tell you. Be careful what you say. Because
Speaker 1: I said I didn't want to kiss anybody the first night. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I said, not a one for the same I was
Speaker 1: just like you. The man I'm married to is the
Speaker 1: man who didn't just kiss me, just went at it.
Speaker 1: People hate it the way I mean, he like attacked
Speaker 1: my face. I loved it, but people hate it to
Speaker 1: watch it. And I was so happy that he kissed
Speaker 1: me because then all the men were afraid of me
Speaker 1: the first night is what I felt like, just to
Speaker 1: make a move. To me, it stood out because he
Speaker 1: was the only one willing to do it. I mean,
Speaker 1: we talked in everything. But be careful what you say.
Speaker 1: You know, I will stand corrected if that's if that
Speaker 1: happens to me, because I guess when it's there, it's there.
Speaker 1: I just don't want somebody going for it when it's
Speaker 1: not sure, but embrace it if it happens, because it
Speaker 1: just might be the best thing that you have going
Speaker 1: for you that I will be ready for and that
Speaker 1: I have no problem with. But when it's not there,
Speaker 1: and that's almost like we got nothing to talk about,
Speaker 1: someone's gonna go for it. So I know, speaking of
Speaker 1: open for whatever we've talked like outside of the podcast,
Speaker 1: and so like I know a little bit of your
Speaker 1: interests more than maybe those who are listening, because I
Speaker 1: feel like we're gonna have some nosy people that are
Speaker 1: listening to this. But just when Becca was like asking you,
Speaker 1: what is it that you're looking for in a partner,
Speaker 1: one of the things that I know we talked about.
Speaker 1: But then also before you were chosen, and then even
Speaker 1: with everything that's going on now, it's like we were saying,
Speaker 1: we want somebody, like Becca said, we're a little dissatisfied
Speaker 1: with what we've seen on the show. We want someone
Speaker 1: who knows who they are and knows what they want,
Speaker 1: has had life experience, but someone who's also just interested
Speaker 1: in dating people from different backgrounds and different races. So
Speaker 1: I want you to like, just talk a little bit
Speaker 1: about that, because I know we've had that conversation before
Speaker 1: in private. Absolutely, if you I've always said this, if
Speaker 1: you line up and publicly people don't know who I've
Speaker 1: actually dated. I keep everything pretty private. But if you
Speaker 1: line up all the guys that I've dated in my past,
Speaker 1: they are all different shapes, sizes, colors, heights, different backgrounds,
Speaker 1: different jobs, They're all all types of different men. What
Speaker 1: attracts me, like I said, is pheromones, that chemistry of
Speaker 1: getting each other. But yeah, I do. I care so
Speaker 1: much more and I put so much weight on how
Speaker 1: they make me feel, and that's what's important to me.
Speaker 1: So regardless of anything, that's what's important to me, especially
Speaker 1: at this age. I've had the hot men. I've had
Speaker 1: the men that just have the smoke and hot bodies,
Speaker 1: and I'll tell you what, for me, it hasn't been
Speaker 1: fun when they care more about them and they're looking
Speaker 1: at themselves in the mirror more than they're checking me out.
Speaker 1: So no, so true. What are some deal breakers for you?
Speaker 1: Somebody who is very guarded, that's a deal breaker for me.
Speaker 1: I can appreciate it, and I understand people have everybody's
Speaker 1: got walls up to a certain extent, especially when they're
Speaker 1: new to this experience. It's intimidating, it's scary, and it's hard,
Speaker 1: but I've done the work. And at this age, if
Speaker 1: you're still having walls up and you're not emotionally intelligent
Speaker 1: enough to know when to let your guard down, I'm
Speaker 1: not your mom and I'm not your therapist. I'm not
Speaker 1: going to be going to be the person that's going
Speaker 1: to help you learn or teach you how to do
Speaker 1: anything like that. Get your shit together before you come
Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, be self aware enough and be emotionally
Speaker 1: intelligent enough to know to let your guard down. If
Speaker 1: you're just trying to dabble and trying to figure out
Speaker 1: and you don't know what you want and what you're
Speaker 1: looking for, I'm not here to teach you and to
Speaker 1: show you, So you can't come at me like that.
Speaker 1: This is not the space for that. Well, and that's
Speaker 1: what one thing that you know, people watch the show
Speaker 1: and they're like, how could people fall in love and
Speaker 1: get engaged after just two months? Like, people watch it
Speaker 1: and a lot of them think that it's kind of crazy.
Speaker 1: But what people don't always see is the show is
Speaker 1: set up in a way where you really have to
Speaker 1: open up and to get to know someone a lot
Speaker 1: quicker than you would say dating in you know, a
Speaker 1: normal setting, like for conversations that I remember I had
Speaker 1: on the show with some of the guys and even
Speaker 1: when I was on Bachelor, like we got down and
Speaker 1: dirty pretty early, like it I think it was my
Speaker 1: first date with Ari was telling them about how my
Speaker 1: father has passed and how that's kind of shaped me.
Speaker 1: It's like on a normal date, if I would have
Speaker 1: just met like a Joe Schmo on the street, like
Speaker 1: there's no way in hell I'd be telling them about that.
Speaker 1: And so that's what's hopefully, I mean, hopefully the men
Speaker 1: coming on your season realize that, like realize what they're
Speaker 1: getting into. They have to open up to a certain
Speaker 1: extent at a certain point, and so that's kind of
Speaker 1: the beauty or on the show is that you really
Speaker 1: have to have those conversations earlier on than you normally would.
Speaker 1: And so for all the men listening out there on
Speaker 1: clear season, be prepared for this because it's going to
Speaker 1: have to happen. Yes, And that's the thing, especially now
Speaker 1: you've had months and months of sitting in quarantine, like
Speaker 1: I have to sit and process and to make sure
Speaker 1: and to see if this is the you know, the
Speaker 1: thing you want to be doing, if you're coming on going.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm ready for this. I don't
Speaker 1: know if this is what I want. Want it because
Speaker 1: I want it, and I'm not trying to waste anybody's time.
Speaker 1: And I don't want anybody trying to waste my time
Speaker 1: just trying to figure out if what their thing is
Speaker 1: or coming in guarded this is? Are you worried on
Speaker 1: the flip in? I know, Becca, ask you about you
Speaker 1: looking at some of the guys that have been casted
Speaker 1: for the season, or we don't really know, we don't
Speaker 1: you don't know actually who you're going to meet. But
Speaker 1: at least prior to all this, are you worried that
Speaker 1: in return they've searched you since they've had the time
Speaker 1: to do that too. I hope they have. I hope
Speaker 1: they have. These babies? Do you see him? These little yes,
Speaker 1: we do. These guys are my everything. So do your
Speaker 1: research know that my whole life is obsessed with these two.
Speaker 1: Um so maybe somebody can be allergic jogs, but take
Speaker 1: you that a door. Guys or take your Claire's picking
Speaker 1: the dogs over the men, and you should. These babies
Speaker 1: have been here for me regardless, so they stay. That's right.
Speaker 1: I've got a question for you too, now playing into
Speaker 1: like the whole world of researching since since you have
Speaker 1: the time. So when rache Night were announced, we went
Speaker 1: straight into interviews and filming, so like, at least for me,
Speaker 1: my phone was taken away right away, so I wasn't
Speaker 1: on social media. I didn't know what people were saying
Speaker 1: to me, what people were saying about me, what dms were.
Speaker 1: What has the overall response from the fan base been
Speaker 1: for you are? Do you feel like you're pretty much
Speaker 1: supported right now? Going into this role depends on what
Speaker 1: day you ask what day you asked. There's days where
Speaker 1: I sit there and for example, like I've tweeted some
Speaker 1: things out that I have a complete history on that
Speaker 1: I know about and there's a lot of background to it.
Speaker 1: And just because I don't put out or say a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff that I have and know about doesn't
Speaker 1: mean it's not there. So I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people just have passed judgment because I feel like when
Speaker 1: I was announced as bachelorte, like I said, my phone
Speaker 1: was taken away, but I got a lot of support,
Speaker 1: and I think mainly it was because I got dumped
Speaker 1: on National TV by Ari and people were like in
Speaker 1: my corner rooting for me. And I feel like Bachelor
Speaker 1: Nation as a whole, everyone that I have talked to
Speaker 1: has been rooting for you and is so excited for you.
Speaker 1: But have you felt that same love and support, like
Speaker 1: during this off time before you start filming. I've definitely
Speaker 1: felt love. I think that it's mixed, though, honestly, I
Speaker 1: think that it's mixed. A lot of times people don't
Speaker 1: know who I am. I'm older them or in this right.
Speaker 1: I mean, social media is brutal. I think I was
Speaker 1: telling producers this that I think my saving grace is
Speaker 1: that I am a strong woman, and I know when
Speaker 1: people spit out hate and when they're putting out negative
Speaker 1: comments and when they're just trashing you and saying things
Speaker 1: that are irrelevant in your whole reality of your world.
Speaker 1: It's coming from a place of think something that they
Speaker 1: can relate to. People only talk about what they can
Speaker 1: relate to, So if people are spitting out hate and
Speaker 1: talking negative, it's because that's what's going on inside them.
Speaker 1: Is hate negativity. You notice the women and the men
Speaker 1: that are supportive and then are encouraging each other and
Speaker 1: they are sending love to each other. Those are the
Speaker 1: people that have love inside them to share. And I
Speaker 1: would be the first to say that on my worst days,
Speaker 1: I've done it too, where I look at people on
Speaker 1: social media and I'm just like, Mmm, you know, you
Speaker 1: have your judgments, but I would never go as so
Speaker 1: far as go on their page, pick a comment, do
Speaker 1: it DM Like, I just think you have to be
Speaker 1: a special kind of person to have that much hate
Speaker 1: in you. Yeah, people that do that, there's always going
Speaker 1: to be those people. My sister, My sister once told me,
Speaker 1: she was like, I know that there's people who send
Speaker 1: hate on there, but she was like, if you go
Speaker 1: check mother Teresa's Twitter account, there's gonna be hate on that.
Speaker 1: There's always going to be people having an opinion on
Speaker 1: who you are. And at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: it's so irrelevant. It's so irrelevant, you know, But what
Speaker 1: if advice would you give to people who might be
Speaker 1: going through that same thing? You know, I know we
Speaker 1: get it on a certain level, but there are other
Speaker 1: people who don't have as big of a platform that
Speaker 1: are still getting that negative attention that they're not wanting,
Speaker 1: Like what advice would you give to them to get
Speaker 1: through it? It really kind of crushes me sometimes because
Speaker 1: I know us as strong women, we can we know
Speaker 1: kind of being on the show that there's going to
Speaker 1: be space for that. But the people that don't sign
Speaker 1: up for stuff like this or I mean, no, he
Speaker 1: deserves hate like that. I just I've really I've reiterated
Speaker 1: that hurt people. Hurt people is what I've always been told.
Speaker 1: And if somebody is saying hurt and speaking hurt, it's
Speaker 1: because they're hurting. And I always I've done it so
Speaker 1: many times. I can't tell you what people have said
Speaker 1: really hurtful things to me. And it's stuff that's hurtful,
Speaker 1: that is something that I've felt about myself at some point.
Speaker 1: So it triggers us, right, And so you're like, maybe
Speaker 1: that it just hurts and it stings, and I am human,
Speaker 1: we're human, so it does get to us. But I've
Speaker 1: written people back and said, you know, does that make
Speaker 1: you feel better saying that to somebody, or how does
Speaker 1: it make you feel trashing somebody and just demeaning and
Speaker 1: degrading somebody. Does that make you feel good saying that?
Speaker 1: And I've had people right back and say I'm so sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm just having a terrible day. I was just gonna say,
Speaker 1: it's like ninety percent people will get back to you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh, I'm so sorry. Yeah, And I
Speaker 1: think they forget a lot of times. We're human and
Speaker 1: it hurts sometimes and if I'm having a bad day,
Speaker 1: boy does it sting? You know, it stings and it hurts.
Speaker 1: And especially there's days where I mean, there was one
Speaker 1: day where it was a really tough day with my
Speaker 1: mom and I get super emotional talk about my mom,
Speaker 1: but like, it was a really hard day with my mom,
Speaker 1: and just in life. I was a struggle in quarantine
Speaker 1: just for myself on one of those days, and somebody
Speaker 1: had just said something really awful, and it was like,
Speaker 1: do you have no idea what somebody is going through
Speaker 1: on the other end of your hate? So that could
Speaker 1: be the comment that pushes somebody over to a place
Speaker 1: that's not good, that's, you know, a not a good
Speaker 1: space to be in. So I feel like just spread
Speaker 1: love or just don't say anything, you know, it doesn't
Speaker 1: serve anybody or doesn't help anybody. Yeah, you said it best,
Speaker 1: and it's like, at the end of the day, we're
Speaker 1: all humans, we all have emotions on the other side.
Speaker 1: And I think somebody they worded it so well, and
Speaker 1: they said, like, you know when people type that hate
Speaker 1: and say those mean, rude messages, like they obviously don't
Speaker 1: know you. They take maybe twenty seconds out of their
Speaker 1: day to say these hurtful words. Hits end and then
Speaker 1: they go off, like they go walk their dog, or
Speaker 1: they go brush their teeth, or they go to work
Speaker 1: and don't think about it again. But for everyone on
Speaker 1: the receiving end, like that sticks with you longer than
Speaker 1: just those twenty seconds. Like sometimes it can cut to
Speaker 1: your core and so like what it comes down to
Speaker 1: is just knowing your self worth. And that's why again,
Speaker 1: I'm so happy that you are now in this position
Speaker 1: because you've you've done a few seasons, so you it's
Speaker 1: not like you're coming into this fresh and blind to
Speaker 1: thinking there's not going to be tough times ahead. I
Speaker 1: think when people watch the show, they're like, oh, the
Speaker 1: bachelors and bachelortes haven't made and they have all these
Speaker 1: crazy cool opportunities to come from it, but at the
Speaker 1: end of the day too, like there's hard days, Like
Speaker 1: there are things that can push you over the edge
Speaker 1: in a second. And so the fact that you, you know,
Speaker 1: have been through this and know your self worth and
Speaker 1: can stand your ground and be like, you know better
Speaker 1: days are to come, you can't let this get under
Speaker 1: your skin as much as you'd think it would. So
Speaker 1: I'm what I guess I'm trying to say is I'm
Speaker 1: glad that it's you in this position to kind of
Speaker 1: realize that, but then to help people now here on
Speaker 1: after or maybe I'm your season or whoever will come
Speaker 1: on future seasons to help out. Yeah, it's it's something
Speaker 1: that is so terrible. I don't know. I just get
Speaker 1: sick hearing people spit hate, not for me, but for them.
Speaker 1: It's like, how bad are you hurting that you want
Speaker 1: to have to hurt somebody else? You have no idea
Speaker 1: it just because we have this opportunity, just because we get,
Speaker 1: you know, these amazing things that come along with being
Speaker 1: a bachelrette. It doesn't negate that we are human, doesn't
Speaker 1: negate that we have hard days and things that do
Speaker 1: affect us or insecurities as well. It doesn't take away
Speaker 1: from that, but it just it's it's seriously a place
Speaker 1: of like, God, do you feel that bad? Like almost
Speaker 1: like an empathy and a compassion for those people, like
Speaker 1: they must be really struggling today. That's like, yeah, that sucks.
Speaker 1: You know you mentioned you talked about like doing the
Speaker 1: work you know you want. You've done the work, You've
Speaker 1: put in the time to be in the place that
Speaker 1: you are now. The men who are coming on your season,
Speaker 1: this is a message to them, You're like, you need
Speaker 1: to have the work done before you step out of
Speaker 1: the limo. Right. So for other girls who are like
Speaker 1: struggling with self love, what advice do you have for them?
Speaker 1: And what are some tools that have been helpful in
Speaker 1: your journey that have helped you get to be the
Speaker 1: woman that you are today? Ah? I love this question.
Speaker 1: I was talking to my friend about that literally this morning,
Speaker 1: because I think if you look at it, it's like
Speaker 1: where do you start? Right? And I could speak for
Speaker 1: only myself, but I have been at at one point
Speaker 1: I was living in my car for three months and
Speaker 1: I barely had a job making minimum wage being in
Speaker 1: a hairstyles assistant. When I first started here, I was
Speaker 1: in an abusive relationship and I just had lost my
Speaker 1: dad too, so I was at I would feel like
Speaker 1: the lows of lows, and I think from that to
Speaker 1: where I'm at now, the best I could say is
Speaker 1: even when you don't feel like because that's a big
Speaker 1: journey to go on, right, That's that's kind of like
Speaker 1: how do you get there? But it's it's saying essentially
Speaker 1: taking that step, even if it's a small baby step,
Speaker 1: and saying I'm going to go on a walk today
Speaker 1: because it makes me feel good, and doing something for
Speaker 1: yourself that shows you love yourself, whether it's like cooking
Speaker 1: the meal that you love, that's showing yourself you're worthy
Speaker 1: of it, and you you know, you want to take
Speaker 1: care of yourself, finding stuff that you love, reading the books,
Speaker 1: doing the research. Because once you start believing it in yourself,
Speaker 1: even if it's just barely start believing in yourself, it
Speaker 1: builds and it builds and it builds, and after a
Speaker 1: while you look back and you go, I can't believe
Speaker 1: how far I've come, you know. And it's it's not
Speaker 1: a trajectory of that to self love. It's kind of
Speaker 1: like you face something else hard and it goes this way,
Speaker 1: and it goes that way that's hard, and then you
Speaker 1: feel really good and then something crappy happens and you
Speaker 1: learn and you learn from more and more. So what
Speaker 1: you said Rachel earlier, I wanted to say too, I've
Speaker 1: done the work, but I'm also still forever doing the work,
Speaker 1: and I want to be who will come on, who
Speaker 1: he doesn't have to. I'm not looking for a perfect man.
Speaker 1: I've never been looking for a perfect man. I want
Speaker 1: somebody who wants to do the work and wants to
Speaker 1: be a better them, and we'll always continue to do
Speaker 1: the work because I will forever be a work in progress.
Speaker 1: So from that baby step up until now, I'm still
Speaker 1: doing it, and there I've still Two days ago was
Speaker 1: a really awful, hard day. I didn't even get out
Speaker 1: of bed all day. I was struggling and I just
Speaker 1: couldn't stop crying. But then the next day I was
Speaker 1: like no, like I felt. I did the things for
Speaker 1: myself that made me feel better, that made me feel empowered.
Speaker 1: I went and sat in sauna, I did an icebout.
Speaker 1: I did stuff that made me feel strong as a woman,
Speaker 1: that showed me my true strength, and I think willing
Speaker 1: to try is the first step for that. That's self love,
Speaker 1: wanting to even want that for yourself. M yeah, and
Speaker 1: even smitting it, you know, recognizing that, hey, you know what,
Speaker 1: today I'm not okay, and then taking those steps, like
Speaker 1: you said, trying to do those things to make yourself
Speaker 1: feel better. And I think we need to hear that.
Speaker 1: You know, we all talk about it. We're all strong women,
Speaker 1: you know, on this podcast, and we talk about our
Speaker 1: strength and our independence and all that, but it's also
Speaker 1: so important, like you're doing, to talk about how we're
Speaker 1: not okay sometimes and we're not a vulnerable Two weeks ago,
Speaker 1: I have to couldn't take two steps without shedding a tear.
Speaker 1: I was not okay, and I think it's important to
Speaker 1: recognize that you're not okay. One thing I do want
Speaker 1: to ask you, because Back and I joke about this
Speaker 1: between ourselves, but we're known for not having dramatic seasons.
Speaker 1: Really like some people have said that our seasons are
Speaker 1: a little we're a little boring, Rachel. I don't think yours.
Speaker 1: I don't think anyone said yours is boring. Mine was.
Speaker 1: They said both well, they said both of us well,
Speaker 1: they said both of us was, and I was gonna say,
Speaker 1: and I don't think either one of them I want.
Speaker 1: I mean, I've experienced mine, I watched yours. I don't
Speaker 1: think so. But the reason they said that is because
Speaker 1: we we came in like this is what we want.
Speaker 1: We don't have time to play games where oh, you
Speaker 1: want to do this, Nope, you gotta go buy. And
Speaker 1: I feel like some people think, oh, because Claire has
Speaker 1: had these life experiences and she knows what she wants,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be a boring season. But I beg to
Speaker 1: differ because Claire, I feel like I want to almost
Speaker 1: wanted to end sports. We do like over under. I
Speaker 1: don't know who does betting, but I would love to
Speaker 1: do the over under on how many guys you tell off? Oh,
Speaker 1: I like this game. And that's the thing. I feel like.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people go into the show and like you're kind
Speaker 1: of walking, especially Night one, like you're kind of walking
Speaker 1: on eggshells. You don't quite know how to handle things.
Speaker 1: And I feel like, Claire, you've done this, you know
Speaker 1: what's up. You're in the position to be like, hey,
Speaker 1: if I don't like what you said, if I don't
Speaker 1: like what you're doing, you're gone. And I cannot wait
Speaker 1: for those moments. Have you thought about that, Like, have
Speaker 1: you thought about how you're going to be as the bachelorette,
Speaker 1: because that's you kind of have to like, you know
Speaker 1: what you're open for, you know you're type, but you
Speaker 1: also have to have a mindset of how you're going
Speaker 1: to navigate this, Lily. Absolutely. Here's the thing though, is
Speaker 1: that my friends know me is this and a lot
Speaker 1: of guys who have dated know this about me. I
Speaker 1: am way good, way cool until I'm not. You are
Speaker 1: good to me and so good to me. You will
Speaker 1: get that back for me if you are loving on me,
Speaker 1: I will love you right back. Once you cross that
Speaker 1: line or once you disres back me, game on and
Speaker 1: I will let you know how I feel. And I
Speaker 1: don't hold back on that. But I am I am
Speaker 1: so nice until I'm not. I'm probably, if anything, like
Speaker 1: a puppy dog, and at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: I'm like, love me. You know that's a sap. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm such a sap until I'm not. So well, as
Speaker 1: long as they stay on my good side, as long
Speaker 1: as they're good to me and don't try to pull
Speaker 1: one over on me or play me, We're good we
Speaker 1: are good, you will get nothing but love for me.
Speaker 1: That's something easy enough, right, you would think, well, and
Speaker 1: I love that, Rachel Asset, because we go in like
Speaker 1: thinking we're gonna like navigate this entire journey quote unquote
Speaker 1: one way, and you can never plan for what's going
Speaker 1: to happen. I mean, you will be thrown for curveballs.
Speaker 1: You think you know yourself in one moment and you're
Speaker 1: sobbing on the floor of the next, mean, like, what
Speaker 1: the hell just happened. But if there's one thing I
Speaker 1: can I can guess is that you're gonna give us
Speaker 1: like you know what you want. You're gonna go in
Speaker 1: there with your eye on the prize, like don't settle.
Speaker 1: But I think you're also going to hold your own
Speaker 1: and be very entertaining. Like overall, it's probably going to
Speaker 1: be the most one of the most well rounded seasons
Speaker 1: that we couldn't hope to see. I hope, so man,
Speaker 1: I hope. So I was laughing because I'm like, I
Speaker 1: guess I am my normal everyday life is pretty boring
Speaker 1: and basic and I love it like that. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: trade it for the world. So I don't know, we'll
Speaker 1: see I can also, I mean it could. I've been
Speaker 1: known to be a little dramatic in the past. So
Speaker 1: we listen. We all are, we all are, We all
Speaker 1: are in our own right. I ask people that when
Speaker 1: they're like, you're so dramatic? Are you so this or that?
Speaker 1: And it's like, but I love just as hard as
Speaker 1: I am dramatic, So not the opposite. Do you want
Speaker 1: me you know? Do you want me meek? And what's
Speaker 1: the opposite of being you know like that? I don't know.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to be punk. No. I that's what's
Speaker 1: going to make you a great bachelorette because you do
Speaker 1: love hard, and that's a really it's a real no
Speaker 1: matter who you are, you know, whether you have life
Speaker 1: experience or not, it's a key component to being a
Speaker 1: good bachelorette because that means that you're open to certain
Speaker 1: things and that you want this. Thanks for listening in today, Everybody.
Speaker 1: Part two of this episode will air next week, so
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