WEBVTT - Bachelorette Clare Crawley Stops By 0:00:01.960 --> 0:00:05.200 Welcome back, Bachelor Happy Hour listeners. We hope that you've 0:00:05.240 --> 0:00:07.920 been doing well and growing throughout this past week and 0:00:08.000 --> 0:00:11.080 of course hopefully loving all of the recaps that we've 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:13.240 been doing well. I can't say we, but what the 0:00:13.280 --> 0:00:17.000 franchise is doing with the greatest seasons ever. I know 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:20.040 I have been loving it. But today we have a 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:24.560 very exciting episode for all of you and Rachel. This 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:28.720 is probably one of the most requested interviews that we've 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:31.720 been asked to do from all of our followers out there, 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:34.920 and so I am thrilled to announce our next Bachelorette, 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:38.800 Claire Crawley, on the podcast today. And since she was 0:00:38.840 --> 0:00:41.280 announced as a bachelorette, you guys have been sending it 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:44.360 in so many questions, so many comments, so many thoughts 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:46.880 for her, and so we really wanted to get into 0:00:46.920 --> 0:00:51.040 some of those with her directly today. Absolutely, Becca, you 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:52.919 said it's so well, it might have been me who 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:55.280 was writing in all those requests that can we have Claire? 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:57.639 Can we have Claire? But I'm excited, I know you're 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:00.360 excited to have this opportunity to talk to her, And 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:03.440 I mean Claire's obviously no stranger to the Bachelor World. 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.360 But on these shows, you don't really get to see 0:01:06.440 --> 0:01:08.520 the whole story. You only get to see a glimpse. 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:10.920 And now we're going to tell claire story. So I'm 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:14.040 excited that we need to have this conversation, in depth 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:17.080 conversation with her today and hear about her journey to 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:20.120 get here, how she got here. So I'm just really 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.400 excited that we get to have this in depth conversation 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.279 with her today and just learn and hear more about 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:28.479 her journey, where she's been, how she got to where 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:31.640 she is today, what she's looking forward to and hoping 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:34.640 to get out of this incredible experience that she's about 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:37.760 to embark on. Yeah, Rach you said it best, Like 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:42.320 when we're watching shows and seasons back, it's like you 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:45.960 only get a glimpse of somebody's life, of who they are, 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:49.800 you know, each season we get a two hour episode 0:01:49.800 --> 0:01:53.160 on Mondays, Like you don't really get much more than 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:55.400 that than what's being portrayed. And I have a feeling 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:58.080 with Claire, like and just talking with her since she's 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:01.800 been announces badchhred and through DM and messages, like, there's 0:02:01.960 --> 0:02:04.400 so much more to her that I really want to 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:07.600 get into right now and give the world a little 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:09.880 bit more background before we see her on our screens, 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:13.160 because I think that's really important, and so I can't 0:02:13.160 --> 0:02:14.920 wait to chat with her. I feel like she has 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.600 a lot to say, and we've never done this before, 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:22.040 I think where we've had a lead prior to their season. 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:24.200 Come on, so it's going to be a good time. Yeah, 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:26.880 I have nothing to say. I don't want to wait anymore. 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:32.440 Let's for your on all right, So everybody, like I said, 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:35.640 you guys have sent in so many questions and we 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:38.000 wanted to get to as many as possible because I'm 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:40.000 feeling we're going to chat for a while, So everybody, 0:02:40.080 --> 0:02:43.720 let's get to it. Please welcome Claire Crawley. I feel 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:47.680 like we should start singing. Finally it happen. That's how 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:49.359 we've been. We've been like, when do we got to 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.359 talk to Claire? When do we talk to Claire. I'm 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:55.680 so happy we finally get to do this, I was 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:57.960 saying on my Instagram earlier. I realized I have not 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:01.160 done a single podcast. I haven't really talked to anybody 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:04.280 this entire quarantine. So I am like, let's do this. 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:09.040 I'm so honored we're the first. We are the first. 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:12.280 Clear You're gonna look back on this quiet time like 0:03:12.440 --> 0:03:15.119 pre podcasts and interviews and be like, damn, I wish 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:17.880 I had that back, because pretty soon you will be 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:20.520 talking constantly and after a couple of months, you're gonna 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:22.880 be so sick of hearing your own voice. So you're 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:24.720 gonna look back on these months and be like, huh, 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.720 if only I could appreciate that more. Oh, hopefully I'll 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:30.480 have a lot more to talk about, so we shall see. Yeah, 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:32.959 well we have a lot to talk about, So let's 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:35.960 just get us started now. First off, we know a 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:39.640 lot's gone on since we announced you at we as 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:42.840 if we have the power they annouse, since they announced 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:46.720 you as the bachelorette, like, the world is completely different 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:49.440 from that time that you were announced to now, so 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:53.200 how have you been, What's been going on? Like kind 0:03:53.200 --> 0:03:55.800 of catch us up a bit. It was just it 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.040 was something that was crazy, like I was ready for 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:00.480 you're getting to that top of that roller coast to write, 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:04.640 and then once that, once I was sent home, it 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:08.320 was like, oh, I'm alone and I'm by myself. But then, honestly, 0:04:08.400 --> 0:04:12.040 all the pandemic stuff got real serious, real fast, and 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:15.160 that honestly took over my life and took over everything. 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:18.600 And I don't know with my mom. My mom is 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:22.279 in a memory care facility, so that was first priority 0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:24.440 for me and other I mean, I guess just health, 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:27.720 staying stay, staying healthy just took took precedence and took 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:30.000 priority over everything. So I've just been living in that world. 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:32.000 And that's the world I'm used to, I mean, not 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:35.640 quarantine world, but regular everyday life is what I'm comfortable with. 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:38.120 So I just went back into regular mode. But I've 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:40.599 just I mean, it's literally, like I said, that roller coaster, 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:42.960 you're kind of waiting, and I feel like for the 0:04:43.040 --> 0:04:44.640 last three months, I've been sitting at the top of 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:47.119 that roller coaster waiting for it to be like, what's 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:52.200 gonna happen? Well, Claire, you have, I think now taken 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:57.840 the trophy in the longest ever Bachelorette because because of 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:01.960 this time, because you were announced months ago, and before 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:04.360 we get into talking about the upcoming season, we want 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:06.960 to first start this off by introducing our listeners to 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:09.560 the world of Claire Crawley, because sure we know bits 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:11.920 and pieces, but there's probably so much more to you 0:05:12.200 --> 0:05:14.679 that since we have the time before you start filming, 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:17.640 let's utilize it. So Claire, we're going to pass through 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:19.880 the mic for a second, so just tell us a 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:23.680 little bit about who you are, what you're all about. Well. 0:05:23.720 --> 0:05:27.120 I love I love saying I love having this moment. 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:28.640 First of all, thank you for giving this space to 0:05:28.680 --> 0:05:31.800 even talk about this stuff, because I think there are 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:35.440 so many new younger followers of the Bachelor Bachelorette that 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:37.240 a lot of people have been like, I don't even 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:39.400 know who this girl is, which is totally cool, totally 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:42.120 fine for me. But the people that do know me, 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:45.080 no Claire six years ago, no Claire five years ago, 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:48.599 and no five minutes of my life. So thank you 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:51.000 for the space you even talk about this, because there's 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:53.960 so much more to it that I think when I 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:58.560 had the initial meeting with the producers and stuff even 0:05:58.600 --> 0:06:00.680 about being Bachelorette, to be honest, I didn't even know 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:04.039 that they obviously had me in mind or anything like that, 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:06.200 and I don't think they really had me in mind, 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:08.320 But it was when I sat down with them and 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:10.400 kind of gave history of what's been going on in 0:06:10.480 --> 0:06:13.880 my life since even I was on one Pablos season. 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:16.640 That's the kind of got a grasp of really like 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:19.960 she's been doing the work, you know, and a lot 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:21.640 of it's not public either I don't really have a 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:25.760 public Instagram or I just lived my regular everyday life. 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:28.400 So what's been going on in my world? What I mean, 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:32.960 I don't know where do we start? Right? Where do 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:35.400 you guys want to start? I will, I will ask 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:39.080 you a question because I'm I'm a person who didn't 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:41.600 watch the show before I was on it. So it's 0:06:41.640 --> 0:06:45.280 like once you get in this fraternity sorority, you start 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:47.720 learning about different people, and you're a name that would 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:49.440 come up, and so like I would hear certain things 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:51.320 about season and stuff you were on, but you bring 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:53.520 up a good point that was many years ago compared 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:56.240 to where you are now. Ye. So if I'm gonna 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:59.279 put you to a little challenge, if you had to 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:03.680 sum up in one word, maybe two or three, who 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:06.560 Claire was five years ago, so people can have an 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:10.720 understanding versus who Claire is now in one to three words? 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:13.680 What would those be in one to three words? Um, 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:19.280 no pressure at all, right, right, I am before even 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:23.160 I think coming off of one Paulost season, we can talk. 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:25.440 I guess about had that moment was pivotal for me, 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:31.280 but I was weak. I didn't know who I was. 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:37.120 I was somebody that more than three words, right, I 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:45.240 just wasn't self aware, I guess. And now coming from 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.800 there and doing all the work over these last you know, 0:07:48.280 --> 0:07:51.920 all in my thirties, I'm an empowered woman now and 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:55.280 a strong woman. And I would say even more than 0:07:55.360 --> 0:07:58.400 as being a strong woman, because I'm not always strong. 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:02.600 There's many times where I I'm very weak. But more 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:04.760 than anything, I would say I'm a courageous woman now. 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:07.880 And even when I am weak, I still have the 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:11.240 courage within myself to do hard things. And that is 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:13.960 something that I'm proud of. Now, you know what, Claire, 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:16.320 I am so glad you took more than one to 0:08:16.440 --> 0:08:19.800 three words to explain that. Because it was powerful, you 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:24.200 better preach. This is what people have been I'm not 0:08:24.240 --> 0:08:26.679 trying to not go off on a tangent, but during 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:28.840 the prior seasons, these last few seasons, people have been 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:32.439 preaching that they want someone who's more mature, who's had 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:35.400 some life experience and who understands this, who knows who 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:38.400 they are before they enter this journey. So they're not 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.680 trying to figure themselves out and the journey at the 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:43.080 same time. So to hear you sum that up from 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:45.280 where you were, you know, five to six years ago 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:49.160 to where you are now. Everybody listen, this is the 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:53.200 Bachelorette we need. I'm telling you someone who knows who 0:08:53.240 --> 0:08:55.040 they are so they know what they want. So this 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:58.079 I want to see you navigate through all these men 0:08:58.160 --> 0:09:00.760 and these relationships because it's going to bring a whole 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:03.840 another different element. You're gonna raise the bar for sure. 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:07.720 Oh I can't I can't wait. I have a question 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:11.240 playing into this because you mentioned being more courageous now. 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:14.160 So I think that is such a good sentiment because 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:16.640 for any of us who have gone through the show, 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:20.560 you know, it's scary as all hell, putting your life 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:22.920 on the line, saying goodbye to your family, goodbye to 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:26.280 your friends, not having your phone, any sort of normalcy, 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:30.160 and so to put yourself out there, not only like once, 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:32.040 but to do this again and say yes, I'm ready, 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:34.640 I want this. That that does show courage because you 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:36.760 are fighting for what you want, you hopefully want that 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:41.280 strong partnership. One thing that okay, I always say this 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.800 and I hate this phrase because it's so cliche, but 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:47.160 I truly think everything happens for a reason at the 0:09:47.240 --> 0:09:49.880 right time when it should. And so for you, you know, 0:09:49.960 --> 0:09:53.320 we saw you on Juan Pablo season six years ago. 0:09:53.920 --> 0:09:56.319 Do you think had you been offered the chance of 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:58.959 Batchette right after that, like you would have been prepared, 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:01.480 you would have been in the right headspace mindset for 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:05.000 that role. One thousand percent. I was. We had. I 0:10:05.040 --> 0:10:07.240 had gone down there for meetings and stuff regarding it. 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:09.880 But I think, first of all, it couldn't have gone 0:10:09.880 --> 0:10:12.920 to a better person. I went to Andy, and I loved, 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:15.439 loved her season. She was ready for that. I was 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:19.920 hot off the heels of the season where I guess, 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:24.000 I guess you guys, leading into this, there's so much 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:27.200 more background that I have never even talked about, even 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:30.640 on that season of The Bachelor, I had never talked 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:33.840 about that I had held inside that I didn't share 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:36.200 with the world. I didn't even share with my friends. 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:38.800 Some of my family knew about it. But I had 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:44.480 just gone through a really, really abusive relationship going into 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.360 one Pablo season. So coming to the very end where 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:51.400 it just broke me down and I hear it in 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:53.320 my voice the whole time of just trying to be 0:10:53.400 --> 0:10:56.800 strong and trying to be empowered, but then at the 0:10:56.920 --> 0:11:00.920 very end having enough in me to be like, you 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:04.079 know what, No, that's not okay. You don't treat somebody 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:07.960 like that, you don't disrespect somebody like that. I hadn't 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:11.160 fully convinced myself of that yet, and so it took 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:14.400 me time right after that to sit and process that 0:11:14.520 --> 0:11:16.640 and go what just happened? What do I need to 0:11:16.679 --> 0:11:18.600 work on? And why did that shape me? And I'm 0:11:18.640 --> 0:11:21.680 glad it shook me, but I was by no means 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:23.520 I was just starting to do the work. I was 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:27.000 just starting to crack myself open and kind of find 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:30.960 out all about me and why I had had that moment, 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:34.080 but even more so all the stuff leading up to 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:37.320 it that I had to still process. I think that's 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:41.000 really important, Claire, because like, and thank you for sharing that, 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:42.800 because I know that that's not an easy story to 0:11:42.840 --> 0:11:44.680 share it. And I think it's so important though for 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:47.000 our listeners to hear because a lot of times, as 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:50.160 bacherettes were looked at as role models, and a lot 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:52.920 of people try to compare, you know, things that they've 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:55.920 gone to to us, and I haven't really heard someone 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:59.280 share that journey before, but I think it's so powerful 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:01.640 that you can self reflect and say this is where 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:04.240 I was, but this is where I am now, and 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:06.920 other people can relate to that and see, Okay, I 0:12:07.040 --> 0:12:08.840 used to be like Claire, but look at where she 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:12.640 is now. And I'm very curious because Becca said that 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:15.839 you hold the trophy for being the longest Bacherette, which 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:18.440 is a gift, and a lot of what's happened with 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:21.120 the pandemic hitting and then just the current movement we're 0:12:21.120 --> 0:12:23.960 in now, a lot of it for you has been 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:25.720 a gift and a little bit of a curse because 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:27.200 you've had to wait and you've really had to be 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:30.320 patient more than any other Bacherette. But the beauty in 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:32.280 that is and Becca and I can speak to this. 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:37.120 When you're announced, you immediately go into interviews and pr 0:12:37.200 --> 0:12:40.079 and fittings and you really don't get the time so 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:43.280 process at all. So for you, are you happy that 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:46.160 you got this extra time to kind of self reflect 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:49.440 on when you started with this whole franchise, you know, 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:52.840 having those meetings, going through Paradise, going through Winter Games, 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:55.480 and then to where you are now. Are you happy 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:58.200 you've had this time to reflect on just who you 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.319 are as a person, but then also what you want 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:03.520 to be as a bachelorette. Yeah, I would say instantly 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:05.000 if you ask me that, right when we went into 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:07.640 quarantine and finding out that it would be a few months, 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:10.120 I would be like, no, I'm ready for this. But 0:13:11.160 --> 0:13:14.200 it has Everything happens for a reason, right, Rachel, Like 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:17.600 it has given me the time to sit and go 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:20.000 what is my message? Like, what is it that I 0:13:20.040 --> 0:13:23.600 want to share with women my age, women, our age, 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:27.480 women of any age, anybody? What is it that I 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:31.559 really want to share that to let them know that, Yeah, 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.400 this is one of those positions that is very rare 0:13:34.440 --> 0:13:36.280 to be in and I'm so honored to be in it. 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:39.760 But more importantly, I want to be that woman for 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:44.160 other people to say and to see that we all 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:48.880 go through pretty awful stuff sometimes and sometimes other people 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:52.680 just from what you see, whether it be on social media, 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:56.080 whether it be what you hear publicly, it's not always 0:13:56.080 --> 0:13:58.080 the case. And it's like, I want to be able 0:13:58.120 --> 0:14:00.840 to share my message and it's a message frankly that 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:05.320 I have been Like I said, it's not a lot 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:08.440 that I've shared with anybody, even on any prior show 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:10.440 that I've been on. It's nothing that I've shared before. 0:14:10.520 --> 0:14:13.640 And only till recently did I share with producers saying 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:18.400 this is my healing journey that I've gone through and 0:14:18.440 --> 0:14:20.360 how I got to where I am today that if 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:22.840 I can do it, literally anybody can do it. It It 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:26.000 just takes those steps. So to kind of plan what 0:14:26.040 --> 0:14:27.840 I'm going to share and how I'm going to share 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:31.720 with it, share all this stuff with everybody, just maybe 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:34.360 to have hope for something that it does get better 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:38.440 and things can change, you know, I gotta say, just 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:40.720 listening to you right now, I'm getting the chills because 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:43.120 for the longest time, prior to you being announced as 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:45.240 about Shutte, I mean and Rachel and I had talked 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.880 about this like it was getting a little bit hard 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:50.040 for me to watch the show and be able to relate. 0:14:50.080 --> 0:14:52.520 I felt like as I was getting older, the cast 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.160 was getting younger, and it was just hard, Like I 0:14:55.200 --> 0:14:59.000 couldn't necessarily click, I couldn't put myself in that mindset. 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:02.680 And so listening to you and just the self awareness 0:15:02.760 --> 0:15:06.160 that you have and the like the capacity and the 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:09.880 ability and that drive for growth and striving to be 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:12.240 better and still staying hopeful for all of this. It's 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:15.440 just amazing. So this is why ladies and gentlemen, Claire 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:18.200 Crawley has been picked to be the next Batchlord because 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:20.720 she you. I don't even want to say you've earned it, 0:15:20.760 --> 0:15:25.760 but like you had, like you deserve this. Yes, thank you, 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:28.360 thank you, thank you. I just I'm still in shock. 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:31.920 I'm gonna be honest, like I'm so hyped about it, 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:35.400 but I'm still Last week I literally was like, is 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:39.520 this is this happening? But I have no idea I 0:15:39.560 --> 0:15:41.240 found it. As a matter of fact, I found out 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:44.920 maybe two hours ago actually when I'll be going down 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:47.160 and the final date that I'm leaving. So it's very 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:52.240 very still it's happening. It gets happening good. I still 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.200 want to ask you details about that, but I know 0:15:54.280 --> 0:15:57.600 we can't. I you after Yeah, we'll have like this 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:02.200 little Girl's secret time. Or do you ever wake up 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:04.600 in the mornings and like does it feel like a dream? 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:10.200 Does it feel like it's not fully real? Yet? Absolutely? Absolutely? 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:13.800 Like I said, coming from the space where I used 0:16:13.840 --> 0:16:19.320 to be emotionally, I grew up having no self confidence 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:22.760 and because of a lot of things that have happened 0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:25.600 in my life, not believing in myself and not feeling 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:28.960 worthy of a lot of stuff. So that is something 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:33.960 that is kind of at my core that when things 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.760 are hard or challenging, it kind of sometimes reverts to 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:40.600 that unknowingly. Yeah, And there's those moments when I wake 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:43.040 up and I'm like, why did they pick me? Or 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:45.840 what you know? Is this even? Maybe it is this 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:47.840 a joke or I didn't get it? And then there's 0:16:47.880 --> 0:16:52.480 sometimes other times where I sit there and I'm like, hell, yeah, 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:56.720 I cannot wait to kind of share my story and 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:59.880 just be another voice for women to feel and be 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:02.440 and men too. I want to be inclusive on that 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:08.480 feel empowered and to see that being forty not forty yet. Sorry, 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:13.560 jump in the gun, kay, single. There's a reason why 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:15.919 we are where we're at in our lives, and I 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:18.160 want to, you know, I want so bad for other 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:21.440 women that are waiting and have waited to know that 0:17:22.200 --> 0:17:26.000 you know, their self worth comes first more than anything. 0:17:26.400 --> 0:17:28.359 It's taken me a little longer to work on it 0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:31.000 and to feel it and to believe it. But only 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:33.200 till you feel it and believe it can you allow 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:36.200 and you love yourself, can you allow other love into 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:39.640 your life? And it's you know, however long that takes, 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:42.399 I don't care if I was forty nine or fifty 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:45.800 nine that self love. Once that self love came, it 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:47.960 was like, I'm ready for this and I want other 0:17:48.000 --> 0:17:51.480 women to just know that it's so okay whenever in 0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:54.720 your life, you know, to be ready for that love. You, guys, 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:58.360 Claire is writing pages to a book right now, are 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:02.000 y'all saying? Outside this podcast? She just turned two to 0:18:02.080 --> 0:18:04.720 three pages, my guys, was so powerful. And what you 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:07.840 said go ahead back, I'm sorry. I don't mean no, no, 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:10.000 You're fine. I have two things that I want to say. Well. 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:14.679 Number one, first of all, I love that you you say, like, 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:17.600 don't let age define you as a as a woman, 0:18:17.840 --> 0:18:20.600 you know, like coming from my great aunt was fifty 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:22.919 when she found the love of her life and got married. 0:18:23.000 --> 0:18:26.560 So it can happen when you least expect it. But 0:18:26.680 --> 0:18:28.720 as long as you know what you want and fight 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:31.520 for them and don't settle. I mean, it sounds like 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:33.160 you're on the right path. I was going to ask 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:34.840 you though, and it kind of plays into what you 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:37.760 were just saying. But you know you talk about where 0:18:37.800 --> 0:18:40.440 you are now, but I know this question will come 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:44.000 up because some people just focus on age or whatever 0:18:44.119 --> 0:18:45.800 where we are in our life, because I got it too, 0:18:45.840 --> 0:18:49.520 because I was thirty two. I don't even remember how 0:18:49.560 --> 0:18:51.360 old I was their two thirty three when I went 0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:54.439 on the bachelorette. And I'm from the South and I 0:18:54.520 --> 0:18:56.960 have friends that are on their third marriage. And it's 0:18:56.960 --> 0:18:58.560 a way of life that people think. You come out 0:18:58.560 --> 0:19:00.200 of school and you're supposed to be married and you're 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:02.600 supposed to have kids, and this is just how it is. 0:19:03.000 --> 0:19:05.080 And we're in a new day where it's not necessarily 0:19:05.119 --> 0:19:07.840 that way. But why do you think, because I feel 0:19:07.840 --> 0:19:09.240 like some people are going to ask you this, why 0:19:09.280 --> 0:19:12.080 do you think that love hasn't stuck for you in 0:19:12.119 --> 0:19:14.399 the past, because and we've seen a little bit of 0:19:14.440 --> 0:19:17.479 your love journey, but we don't know it all. Yeah, 0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:24.199 I think it's I would say two things. A. I 0:19:24.320 --> 0:19:27.480 picked a lot of wrong guys for me, but that 0:19:27.640 --> 0:19:32.720 is because I wasn't in the space to fully understand 0:19:33.320 --> 0:19:38.400 self love. And I was always, like I said, there's 0:19:38.440 --> 0:19:42.080 a lot that I haven't shared with everybody publicly, but 0:19:42.119 --> 0:19:46.360 there was a lot that I had gone through that 0:19:46.480 --> 0:19:51.240 just really tore me down emotionally inside and it was 0:19:51.280 --> 0:19:54.240 almost I wore all that stuff and all those feelings 0:19:54.320 --> 0:19:56.560 as in the reason why I never shared it was 0:19:56.600 --> 0:19:59.520 a lot of shame, a lot of embarrassment. I didn't 0:19:59.520 --> 0:20:02.879 want to a victim. I didn't want that to be 0:20:02.920 --> 0:20:05.119 a reason or somebody to not like that about me 0:20:05.240 --> 0:20:07.199 or to not be likable with, you know, because of 0:20:07.200 --> 0:20:09.720 the things that have happened in my life that I've 0:20:09.760 --> 0:20:13.360 gone through and experienced. But so it was almost like 0:20:13.920 --> 0:20:17.600 I hit it inside. And it wasn't until the last 0:20:17.960 --> 0:20:22.119 literally recently the last year, that I really felt like 0:20:23.960 --> 0:20:27.359 I want so like I said, working on the self 0:20:27.359 --> 0:20:29.840 love and building that with inside me, but I want 0:20:29.880 --> 0:20:32.840 to be able to let down my guard. And that's 0:20:32.840 --> 0:20:34.439 why I talk about that a lot. I need a 0:20:34.440 --> 0:20:37.160 man that lets down their guard. But it wasn't until 0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:39.880 recently that I was allowed myself to let my guard 0:20:39.880 --> 0:20:42.639