1 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 1: Welcome back, Bachelor Happy Hour listeners. We hope that you've 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:07,920 Speaker 1: been doing well and growing throughout this past week and 3 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: of course hopefully loving all of the recaps that we've 4 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:13,240 Speaker 1: been doing well. I can't say we, but what the 5 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: franchise is doing with the greatest seasons ever. I know 6 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: I have been loving it. But today we have a 7 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: very exciting episode for all of you and Rachel. This 8 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: is probably one of the most requested interviews that we've 9 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 1: been asked to do from all of our followers out there, 10 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:34,920 Speaker 1: and so I am thrilled to announce our next Bachelorette, 11 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: Claire Crawley, on the podcast today. And since she was 12 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:41,280 Speaker 1: announced as a bachelorette, you guys have been sending it 13 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 1: in so many questions, so many comments, so many thoughts 14 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:46,880 Speaker 1: for her, and so we really wanted to get into 15 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: some of those with her directly today. Absolutely, Becca, you 16 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:52,919 Speaker 1: said it's so well, it might have been me who 17 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: was writing in all those requests that can we have Claire? 18 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:57,639 Speaker 1: Can we have Claire? But I'm excited, I know you're 19 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: excited to have this opportunity to talk to her, And 20 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 1: I mean Claire's obviously no stranger to the Bachelor World. 21 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 1: But on these shows, you don't really get to see 22 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: the whole story. You only get to see a glimpse. 23 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 1: And now we're going to tell claire story. So I'm 24 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:14,040 Speaker 1: excited that we need to have this conversation, in depth 25 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: conversation with her today and hear about her journey to 26 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 1: get here, how she got here. So I'm just really 27 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:22,400 Speaker 1: excited that we get to have this in depth conversation 28 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:25,279 Speaker 1: with her today and just learn and hear more about 29 00:01:25,319 --> 00:01:28,479 Speaker 1: her journey, where she's been, how she got to where 30 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: she is today, what she's looking forward to and hoping 31 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: to get out of this incredible experience that she's about 32 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,760 Speaker 1: to embark on. Yeah, Rach you said it best, Like 33 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 1: when we're watching shows and seasons back, it's like you 34 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:45,960 Speaker 1: only get a glimpse of somebody's life, of who they are, 35 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,800 Speaker 1: you know, each season we get a two hour episode 36 00:01:49,800 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: on Mondays, Like you don't really get much more than 37 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: that than what's being portrayed. And I have a feeling 38 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 1: with Claire, like and just talking with her since she's 39 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: been announces badchhred and through DM and messages, like, there's 40 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: so much more to her that I really want to 41 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:07,600 Speaker 1: get into right now and give the world a little 42 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: bit more background before we see her on our screens, 43 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 1: because I think that's really important, and so I can't 44 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:14,920 Speaker 1: wait to chat with her. I feel like she has 45 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: a lot to say, and we've never done this before, 46 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 1: I think where we've had a lead prior to their season. 47 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 1: Come on, so it's going to be a good time. Yeah, 48 00:02:24,320 --> 00:02:26,880 Speaker 1: I have nothing to say. I don't want to wait anymore. 49 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: Let's for your on all right, So everybody, like I said, 50 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 1: you guys have sent in so many questions and we 51 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: wanted to get to as many as possible because I'm 52 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 1: feeling we're going to chat for a while, So everybody, 53 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:43,720 Speaker 1: let's get to it. Please welcome Claire Crawley. I feel 54 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:47,680 Speaker 1: like we should start singing. Finally it happen. That's how 55 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:49,359 Speaker 1: we've been. We've been like, when do we got to 56 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:51,359 Speaker 1: talk to Claire? When do we talk to Claire. I'm 57 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: so happy we finally get to do this, I was 58 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 1: saying on my Instagram earlier. I realized I have not 59 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 1: done a single podcast. I haven't really talked to anybody 60 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: this entire quarantine. So I am like, let's do this. 61 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: I'm so honored we're the first. We are the first. 62 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: Clear You're gonna look back on this quiet time like 63 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:15,119 Speaker 1: pre podcasts and interviews and be like, damn, I wish 64 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: I had that back, because pretty soon you will be 65 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: talking constantly and after a couple of months, you're gonna 66 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 1: be so sick of hearing your own voice. So you're 67 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: gonna look back on these months and be like, huh, 68 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 1: if only I could appreciate that more. Oh, hopefully I'll 69 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 1: have a lot more to talk about, so we shall see. Yeah, 70 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:32,959 Speaker 1: well we have a lot to talk about, So let's 71 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: just get us started now. First off, we know a 72 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 1: lot's gone on since we announced you at we as 73 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 1: if we have the power they annouse, since they announced 74 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: you as the bachelorette, like, the world is completely different 75 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: from that time that you were announced to now, so 76 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: how have you been, What's been going on? Like kind 77 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 1: of catch us up a bit. It was just it 78 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: was something that was crazy, like I was ready for 79 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 1: you're getting to that top of that roller coast to write, 80 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: and then once that, once I was sent home, it 81 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'm alone and I'm by myself. But then, honestly, 82 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: all the pandemic stuff got real serious, real fast, and 83 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: that honestly took over my life and took over everything. 84 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,600 Speaker 1: And I don't know with my mom. My mom is 85 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:22,279 Speaker 1: in a memory care facility, so that was first priority 86 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 1: for me and other I mean, I guess just health, 87 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 1: staying stay, staying healthy just took took precedence and took 88 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: priority over everything. So I've just been living in that world. 89 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: And that's the world I'm used to, I mean, not 90 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: quarantine world, but regular everyday life is what I'm comfortable with. 91 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: So I just went back into regular mode. But I've 92 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 1: just I mean, it's literally, like I said, that roller coaster, 93 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 1: you're kind of waiting, and I feel like for the 94 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: last three months, I've been sitting at the top of 95 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,119 Speaker 1: that roller coaster waiting for it to be like, what's 96 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 1: gonna happen? Well, Claire, you have, I think now taken 97 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:57,840 Speaker 1: the trophy in the longest ever Bachelorette because because of 98 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: this time, because you were announced months ago, and before 99 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 1: we get into talking about the upcoming season, we want 100 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: to first start this off by introducing our listeners to 101 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 1: the world of Claire Crawley, because sure we know bits 102 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 1: and pieces, but there's probably so much more to you 103 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,679 Speaker 1: that since we have the time before you start filming, 104 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: let's utilize it. So Claire, we're going to pass through 105 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 1: the mic for a second, so just tell us a 106 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: little bit about who you are, what you're all about. Well. 107 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: I love I love saying I love having this moment. 108 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: First of all, thank you for giving this space to 109 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:31,800 Speaker 1: even talk about this stuff, because I think there are 110 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: so many new younger followers of the Bachelor Bachelorette that 111 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 1: a lot of people have been like, I don't even 112 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: know who this girl is, which is totally cool, totally 113 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 1: fine for me. But the people that do know me, 114 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: no Claire six years ago, no Claire five years ago, 115 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:48,599 Speaker 1: and no five minutes of my life. So thank you 116 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: for the space you even talk about this, because there's 117 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: so much more to it that I think when I 118 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 1: had the initial meeting with the producers and stuff even 119 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:00,680 Speaker 1: about being Bachelorette, to be honest, I didn't even know 120 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:04,039 Speaker 1: that they obviously had me in mind or anything like that, 121 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:06,200 Speaker 1: and I don't think they really had me in mind, 122 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 1: But it was when I sat down with them and 123 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:10,400 Speaker 1: kind of gave history of what's been going on in 124 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: my life since even I was on one Pablos season. 125 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: That's the kind of got a grasp of really like 126 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,960 Speaker 1: she's been doing the work, you know, and a lot 127 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:21,640 Speaker 1: of it's not public either I don't really have a 128 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: public Instagram or I just lived my regular everyday life. 129 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: So what's been going on in my world? What I mean, 130 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 1: I don't know where do we start? Right? Where do 131 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 1: you guys want to start? I will, I will ask 132 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: you a question because I'm I'm a person who didn't 133 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:41,600 Speaker 1: watch the show before I was on it. So it's 134 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 1: like once you get in this fraternity sorority, you start 135 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:47,720 Speaker 1: learning about different people, and you're a name that would 136 00:06:47,720 --> 00:06:49,440 Speaker 1: come up, and so like I would hear certain things 137 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: about season and stuff you were on, but you bring 138 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: up a good point that was many years ago compared 139 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: to where you are now. Ye. So if I'm gonna 140 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:59,279 Speaker 1: put you to a little challenge, if you had to 141 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 1: sum up in one word, maybe two or three, who 142 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: Claire was five years ago, so people can have an 143 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: understanding versus who Claire is now in one to three words? 144 00:07:10,720 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: What would those be in one to three words? Um, 145 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 1: no pressure at all, right, right, I am before even 146 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:23,160 Speaker 1: I think coming off of one Paulost season, we can talk. 147 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: I guess about had that moment was pivotal for me, 148 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 1: but I was weak. I didn't know who I was. 149 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 1: I was somebody that more than three words, right, I 150 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 1: just wasn't self aware, I guess. And now coming from 151 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: there and doing all the work over these last you know, 152 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:51,920 Speaker 1: all in my thirties, I'm an empowered woman now and 153 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: a strong woman. And I would say even more than 154 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:58,400 Speaker 1: as being a strong woman, because I'm not always strong. 155 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 1: There's many times where I I'm very weak. But more 156 00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 1: than anything, I would say I'm a courageous woman now. 157 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 1: And even when I am weak, I still have the 158 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 1: courage within myself to do hard things. And that is 159 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 1: something that I'm proud of. Now, you know what, Claire, 160 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: I am so glad you took more than one to 161 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 1: three words to explain that. Because it was powerful, you 162 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 1: better preach. This is what people have been I'm not 163 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:26,679 Speaker 1: trying to not go off on a tangent, but during 164 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:28,840 Speaker 1: the prior seasons, these last few seasons, people have been 165 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:32,439 Speaker 1: preaching that they want someone who's more mature, who's had 166 00:08:32,480 --> 00:08:35,400 Speaker 1: some life experience and who understands this, who knows who 167 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 1: they are before they enter this journey. So they're not 168 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:40,680 Speaker 1: trying to figure themselves out and the journey at the 169 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,080 Speaker 1: same time. So to hear you sum that up from 170 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: where you were, you know, five to six years ago 171 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 1: to where you are now. Everybody listen, this is the 172 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: Bachelorette we need. I'm telling you someone who knows who 173 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: they are so they know what they want. So this 174 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:58,079 Speaker 1: I want to see you navigate through all these men 175 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: and these relationships because it's going to bring a whole 176 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: another different element. You're gonna raise the bar for sure. 177 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:07,720 Speaker 1: Oh I can't I can't wait. I have a question 178 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 1: playing into this because you mentioned being more courageous now. 179 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 1: So I think that is such a good sentiment because 180 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:16,640 Speaker 1: for any of us who have gone through the show, 181 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:20,560 Speaker 1: you know, it's scary as all hell, putting your life 182 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 1: on the line, saying goodbye to your family, goodbye to 183 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:26,280 Speaker 1: your friends, not having your phone, any sort of normalcy, 184 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: and so to put yourself out there, not only like once, 185 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 1: but to do this again and say yes, I'm ready, 186 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: I want this. That that does show courage because you 187 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: are fighting for what you want, you hopefully want that 188 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: strong partnership. One thing that okay, I always say this 189 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 1: and I hate this phrase because it's so cliche, but 190 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:47,160 Speaker 1: I truly think everything happens for a reason at the 191 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:49,880 Speaker 1: right time when it should. And so for you, you know, 192 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:53,320 Speaker 1: we saw you on Juan Pablo season six years ago. 193 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:56,319 Speaker 1: Do you think had you been offered the chance of 194 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:58,959 Speaker 1: Batchette right after that, like you would have been prepared, 195 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 1: you would have been in the right headspace mindset for 196 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: that role. One thousand percent. I was. We had. I 197 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 1: had gone down there for meetings and stuff regarding it. 198 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 1: But I think, first of all, it couldn't have gone 199 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 1: to a better person. I went to Andy, and I loved, 200 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:15,439 Speaker 1: loved her season. She was ready for that. I was 201 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:19,920 Speaker 1: hot off the heels of the season where I guess, 202 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: I guess you guys, leading into this, there's so much 203 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:27,200 Speaker 1: more background that I have never even talked about, even 204 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 1: on that season of The Bachelor, I had never talked 205 00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: about that I had held inside that I didn't share 206 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:36,200 Speaker 1: with the world. I didn't even share with my friends. 207 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 1: Some of my family knew about it. But I had 208 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 1: just gone through a really, really abusive relationship going into 209 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 1: one Pablo season. So coming to the very end where 210 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 1: it just broke me down and I hear it in 211 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:53,320 Speaker 1: my voice the whole time of just trying to be 212 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 1: strong and trying to be empowered, but then at the 213 00:10:56,920 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 1: very end having enough in me to be like, you 214 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:04,079 Speaker 1: know what, No, that's not okay. You don't treat somebody 215 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 1: like that, you don't disrespect somebody like that. I hadn't 216 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:11,160 Speaker 1: fully convinced myself of that yet, and so it took 217 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 1: me time right after that to sit and process that 218 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 1: and go what just happened? What do I need to 219 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: work on? And why did that shape me? And I'm 220 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:21,680 Speaker 1: glad it shook me, but I was by no means 221 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:23,520 Speaker 1: I was just starting to do the work. I was 222 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: just starting to crack myself open and kind of find 223 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:30,960 Speaker 1: out all about me and why I had had that moment, 224 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 1: but even more so all the stuff leading up to 225 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:37,320 Speaker 1: it that I had to still process. I think that's 226 00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:41,000 Speaker 1: really important, Claire, because like, and thank you for sharing that, 227 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 1: because I know that that's not an easy story to 228 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: share it. And I think it's so important though for 229 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: our listeners to hear because a lot of times, as 230 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: bacherettes were looked at as role models, and a lot 231 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:52,920 Speaker 1: of people try to compare, you know, things that they've 232 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 1: gone to to us, and I haven't really heard someone 233 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 1: share that journey before, but I think it's so powerful 234 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: that you can self reflect and say this is where 235 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:04,240 Speaker 1: I was, but this is where I am now, and 236 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:06,920 Speaker 1: other people can relate to that and see, Okay, I 237 00:12:07,040 --> 00:12:08,840 Speaker 1: used to be like Claire, but look at where she 238 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 1: is now. And I'm very curious because Becca said that 239 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:15,839 Speaker 1: you hold the trophy for being the longest Bacherette, which 240 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:18,440 Speaker 1: is a gift, and a lot of what's happened with 241 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: the pandemic hitting and then just the current movement we're 242 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:23,960 Speaker 1: in now, a lot of it for you has been 243 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:25,720 Speaker 1: a gift and a little bit of a curse because 244 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:27,200 Speaker 1: you've had to wait and you've really had to be 245 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:30,320 Speaker 1: patient more than any other Bacherette. But the beauty in 246 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:32,280 Speaker 1: that is and Becca and I can speak to this. 247 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:37,120 Speaker 1: When you're announced, you immediately go into interviews and pr 248 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:40,079 Speaker 1: and fittings and you really don't get the time so 249 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 1: process at all. So for you, are you happy that 250 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:46,160 Speaker 1: you got this extra time to kind of self reflect 251 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:49,440 Speaker 1: on when you started with this whole franchise, you know, 252 00:12:49,559 --> 00:12:52,840 Speaker 1: having those meetings, going through Paradise, going through Winter Games, 253 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 1: and then to where you are now. Are you happy 254 00:12:55,520 --> 00:12:58,200 Speaker 1: you've had this time to reflect on just who you 255 00:12:58,240 --> 00:13:00,319 Speaker 1: are as a person, but then also what you want 256 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 1: to be as a bachelorette. Yeah, I would say instantly 257 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: if you ask me that, right when we went into 258 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:07,640 Speaker 1: quarantine and finding out that it would be a few months, 259 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:10,120 Speaker 1: I would be like, no, I'm ready for this. But 260 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 1: it has Everything happens for a reason, right, Rachel, Like 261 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:17,600 Speaker 1: it has given me the time to sit and go 262 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: what is my message? Like, what is it that I 263 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 1: want to share with women my age, women, our age, 264 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 1: women of any age, anybody? What is it that I 265 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:31,559 Speaker 1: really want to share that to let them know that, Yeah, 266 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:34,400 Speaker 1: this is one of those positions that is very rare 267 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: to be in and I'm so honored to be in it. 268 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 1: But more importantly, I want to be that woman for 269 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 1: other people to say and to see that we all 270 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:48,880 Speaker 1: go through pretty awful stuff sometimes and sometimes other people 271 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:52,680 Speaker 1: just from what you see, whether it be on social media, 272 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:56,080 Speaker 1: whether it be what you hear publicly, it's not always 273 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:58,080 Speaker 1: the case. And it's like, I want to be able 274 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:00,840 Speaker 1: to share my message and it's a message frankly that 275 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:05,320 Speaker 1: I have been Like I said, it's not a lot 276 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:08,440 Speaker 1: that I've shared with anybody, even on any prior show 277 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:10,440 Speaker 1: that I've been on. It's nothing that I've shared before. 278 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 1: And only till recently did I share with producers saying 279 00:14:13,679 --> 00:14:18,400 Speaker 1: this is my healing journey that I've gone through and 280 00:14:18,440 --> 00:14:20,360 Speaker 1: how I got to where I am today that if 281 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:22,840 Speaker 1: I can do it, literally anybody can do it. It It 282 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:26,000 Speaker 1: just takes those steps. So to kind of plan what 283 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:27,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to share and how I'm going to share 284 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: with it, share all this stuff with everybody, just maybe 285 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:34,360 Speaker 1: to have hope for something that it does get better 286 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:38,440 Speaker 1: and things can change, you know, I gotta say, just 287 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 1: listening to you right now, I'm getting the chills because 288 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:43,120 Speaker 1: for the longest time, prior to you being announced as 289 00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 1: about Shutte, I mean and Rachel and I had talked 290 00:14:45,240 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 1: about this like it was getting a little bit hard 291 00:14:47,920 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 1: for me to watch the show and be able to relate. 292 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:52,520 Speaker 1: I felt like as I was getting older, the cast 293 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:55,160 Speaker 1: was getting younger, and it was just hard, Like I 294 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:59,000 Speaker 1: couldn't necessarily click, I couldn't put myself in that mindset. 295 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: And so listening to you and just the self awareness 296 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:06,160 Speaker 1: that you have and the like the capacity and the 297 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:09,880 Speaker 1: ability and that drive for growth and striving to be 298 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 1: better and still staying hopeful for all of this. It's 299 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:15,440 Speaker 1: just amazing. So this is why ladies and gentlemen, Claire 300 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: Crawley has been picked to be the next Batchlord because 301 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 1: she you. I don't even want to say you've earned it, 302 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:25,760 Speaker 1: but like you had, like you deserve this. Yes, thank you, 303 00:15:25,800 --> 00:15:28,360 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. I just I'm still in shock. 304 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:31,920 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, like I'm so hyped about it, 305 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:35,400 Speaker 1: but I'm still Last week I literally was like, is 306 00:15:35,440 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 1: this is this happening? But I have no idea I 307 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 1: found it. As a matter of fact, I found out 308 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:44,920 Speaker 1: maybe two hours ago actually when I'll be going down 309 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 1: and the final date that I'm leaving. So it's very 310 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:52,240 Speaker 1: very still it's happening. It gets happening good. I still 311 00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:54,200 Speaker 1: want to ask you details about that, but I know 312 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 1: we can't. I you after Yeah, we'll have like this 313 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:02,200 Speaker 1: little Girl's secret time. Or do you ever wake up 314 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 1: in the mornings and like does it feel like a dream? 315 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:10,200 Speaker 1: Does it feel like it's not fully real? Yet? Absolutely? Absolutely? 316 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 1: Like I said, coming from the space where I used 317 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: to be emotionally, I grew up having no self confidence 318 00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:22,760 Speaker 1: and because of a lot of things that have happened 319 00:16:23,000 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 1: in my life, not believing in myself and not feeling 320 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 1: worthy of a lot of stuff. So that is something 321 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:33,960 Speaker 1: that is kind of at my core that when things 322 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 1: are hard or challenging, it kind of sometimes reverts to 323 00:16:36,840 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 1: that unknowingly. Yeah, And there's those moments when I wake 324 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 1: up and I'm like, why did they pick me? Or 325 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 1: what you know? Is this even? Maybe it is this 326 00:16:45,880 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 1: a joke or I didn't get it? And then there's 327 00:16:47,880 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 1: sometimes other times where I sit there and I'm like, hell, yeah, 328 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:56,720 Speaker 1: I cannot wait to kind of share my story and 329 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 1: just be another voice for women to feel and be 330 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,440 Speaker 1: and men too. I want to be inclusive on that 331 00:17:03,320 --> 00:17:08,480 Speaker 1: feel empowered and to see that being forty not forty yet. Sorry, 332 00:17:08,560 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: jump in the gun, kay, single. There's a reason why 333 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:15,919 Speaker 1: we are where we're at in our lives, and I 334 00:17:15,960 --> 00:17:18,160 Speaker 1: want to, you know, I want so bad for other 335 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:21,440 Speaker 1: women that are waiting and have waited to know that 336 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 1: you know, their self worth comes first more than anything. 337 00:17:26,400 --> 00:17:28,359 Speaker 1: It's taken me a little longer to work on it 338 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 1: and to feel it and to believe it. But only 339 00:17:31,119 --> 00:17:33,200 Speaker 1: till you feel it and believe it can you allow 340 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:36,200 Speaker 1: and you love yourself, can you allow other love into 341 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:39,640 Speaker 1: your life? And it's you know, however long that takes, 342 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:42,399 Speaker 1: I don't care if I was forty nine or fifty 343 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 1: nine that self love. Once that self love came, it 344 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:47,960 Speaker 1: was like, I'm ready for this and I want other 345 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 1: women to just know that it's so okay whenever in 346 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:54,720 Speaker 1: your life, you know, to be ready for that love. You, guys, 347 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:58,360 Speaker 1: Claire is writing pages to a book right now, are 348 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:02,000 Speaker 1: y'all saying? Outside this podcast? She just turned two to 349 00:18:02,080 --> 00:18:04,720 Speaker 1: three pages, my guys, was so powerful. And what you 350 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:07,840 Speaker 1: said go ahead back, I'm sorry. I don't mean no, no, 351 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:10,000 Speaker 1: You're fine. I have two things that I want to say. Well. 352 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:14,679 Speaker 1: Number one, first of all, I love that you you say, like, 353 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 1: don't let age define you as a as a woman, 354 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:20,600 Speaker 1: you know, like coming from my great aunt was fifty 355 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:22,919 Speaker 1: when she found the love of her life and got married. 356 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:26,560 Speaker 1: So it can happen when you least expect it. But 357 00:18:26,680 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 1: as long as you know what you want and fight 358 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 1: for them and don't settle. I mean, it sounds like 359 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:33,160 Speaker 1: you're on the right path. I was going to ask 360 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:34,840 Speaker 1: you though, and it kind of plays into what you 361 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:37,760 Speaker 1: were just saying. But you know you talk about where 362 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:40,440 Speaker 1: you are now, but I know this question will come 363 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: up because some people just focus on age or whatever 364 00:18:44,119 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 1: where we are in our life, because I got it too, 365 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:49,520 Speaker 1: because I was thirty two. I don't even remember how 366 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:51,360 Speaker 1: old I was their two thirty three when I went 367 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:54,439 Speaker 1: on the bachelorette. And I'm from the South and I 368 00:18:54,520 --> 00:18:56,960 Speaker 1: have friends that are on their third marriage. And it's 369 00:18:56,960 --> 00:18:58,560 Speaker 1: a way of life that people think. You come out 370 00:18:58,560 --> 00:19:00,200 Speaker 1: of school and you're supposed to be married and you're 371 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:02,600 Speaker 1: supposed to have kids, and this is just how it is. 372 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 1: And we're in a new day where it's not necessarily 373 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 1: that way. But why do you think, because I feel 374 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:09,240 Speaker 1: like some people are going to ask you this, why 375 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:12,080 Speaker 1: do you think that love hasn't stuck for you in 376 00:19:12,119 --> 00:19:14,399 Speaker 1: the past, because and we've seen a little bit of 377 00:19:14,440 --> 00:19:17,479 Speaker 1: your love journey, but we don't know it all. Yeah, 378 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:24,199 Speaker 1: I think it's I would say two things. A. I 379 00:19:24,320 --> 00:19:27,480 Speaker 1: picked a lot of wrong guys for me, but that 380 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:32,720 Speaker 1: is because I wasn't in the space to fully understand 381 00:19:33,320 --> 00:19:38,400 Speaker 1: self love. And I was always, like I said, there's 382 00:19:38,440 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 1: a lot that I haven't shared with everybody publicly, but 383 00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:46,360 Speaker 1: there was a lot that I had gone through that 384 00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 1: just really tore me down emotionally inside and it was 385 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 1: almost I wore all that stuff and all those feelings 386 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:56,560 Speaker 1: as in the reason why I never shared it was 387 00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:59,520 Speaker 1: a lot of shame, a lot of embarrassment. I didn't 388 00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:02,879 Speaker 1: want to a victim. I didn't want that to be 389 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,119 Speaker 1: a reason or somebody to not like that about me 390 00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:07,199 Speaker 1: or to not be likable with, you know, because of 391 00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:09,720 Speaker 1: the things that have happened in my life that I've 392 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:13,360 Speaker 1: gone through and experienced. But so it was almost like 393 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:17,600 Speaker 1: I hit it inside. And it wasn't until the last 394 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:22,119 Speaker 1: literally recently the last year, that I really felt like 395 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:27,359 Speaker 1: I want so like I said, working on the self 396 00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:29,840 Speaker 1: love and building that with inside me, but I want 397 00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:32,840 Speaker 1: to be able to let down my guard. And that's 398 00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:34,439 Speaker 1: why I talk about that a lot. I need a 399 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:37,160 Speaker 1: man that lets down their guard. But it wasn't until 400 00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:39,880 Speaker 1: recently that I was allowed myself to let my guard 401 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:42,639 Speaker 1: down and say and to feel like I want the 402 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:44,960 Speaker 1: man of my dreams to see the worst of me, 403 00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:49,119 Speaker 1: to know the worst of me, not to have maybe 404 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 1: compassion or anything like that, but to maybe see it's 405 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:56,200 Speaker 1: not always easy and confident and strong and empowered. There 406 00:20:56,280 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 1: was a lot that I went through that I want 407 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:03,399 Speaker 1: them to know the hard, ugly, embarrassing struggles of my life, 408 00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:05,439 Speaker 1: to appreciate the woman that I am today. And I 409 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,959 Speaker 1: want a man to love me for that, and not 410 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,920 Speaker 1: just for the easy you know, makeup and hair and 411 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:13,800 Speaker 1: that type of stuff. You know, anybody can love you. 412 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:17,480 Speaker 1: Anybody can love you for the easy fun times and 413 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 1: the smiles and laughs. Like my friends always know me 414 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:21,920 Speaker 1: as like I'm the goover of the group. I'm the 415 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:24,520 Speaker 1: one that will make everybody laugh. But it's easy to 416 00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 1: love somebody and to be attracted to somebody for that. 417 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:29,479 Speaker 1: But I want somebody to love me for all the 418 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 1: hard stuff that I've been through. And it's been something 419 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 1: that I've hidden for so many years. So until I 420 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 1: not to make it long winded, but until I owned 421 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:40,359 Speaker 1: that part of my life and looked not as my past, 422 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:43,520 Speaker 1: the stuff I've been through as shame, but to look 423 00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:46,960 Speaker 1: at it as my superpower. And these are the things 424 00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 1: that have made me the woman that I am today. 425 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 1: So that's what I bring to the table. And only 426 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 1: until I am open with that. Now it's like now 427 00:21:56,359 --> 00:21:58,320 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm gonna start attracting the right kind 428 00:21:58,359 --> 00:22:04,560 Speaker 1: of Men m Chapter three. So playing into that, you know, 429 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:07,080 Speaker 1: find wanting to find a partner who's gonna love you 430 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:12,879 Speaker 1: to your core? What other attributes trades? What are you 431 00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:15,679 Speaker 1: looking for in a partner? What do you want? I 432 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:22,400 Speaker 1: want somebody who loves to make up. No, I want 433 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:27,080 Speaker 1: I mean obviously that, But I want somebody. Okay, you 434 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:29,000 Speaker 1: want to talk about my book? I feel like I 435 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:31,760 Speaker 1: have the title for my book would be facing the 436 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,440 Speaker 1: That's what I wanted to be, facing the fire. Yes 437 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:37,880 Speaker 1: like that, you know, if there's a book out there 438 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:40,400 Speaker 1: like that. But I my thing is I want a man. 439 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,840 Speaker 1: I'm not scared to be the one that will step 440 00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:46,160 Speaker 1: up and do what needs to be done for a relationship, 441 00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:49,200 Speaker 1: whether it be somebody's in the hospital, or somebody's sick, 442 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:52,480 Speaker 1: or you guys encounter really hard things in a relationship. 443 00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 1: I want somebody who will walk towards it and stand 444 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,440 Speaker 1: tall and be strong and be right there next to me. 445 00:22:58,640 --> 00:23:01,119 Speaker 1: Because I do that, I don't ever ask anything of 446 00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:03,919 Speaker 1: any man that I don't bring to the table. And 447 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:06,280 Speaker 1: I'm the one that steps up and does what needs 448 00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:07,840 Speaker 1: to be done. So I want a man who will 449 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:11,040 Speaker 1: do the same, who when things get hard they don't 450 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,760 Speaker 1: run away when they get scared. They don't just go 451 00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:15,720 Speaker 1: quiet and go into a shell. I want a man 452 00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:20,520 Speaker 1: who is strong enough to say, I'm right here next 453 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,280 Speaker 1: to you. I gus, you know I love it, Claire. 454 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:29,159 Speaker 1: What's your love language? I believe obviously, I think for 455 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:30,760 Speaker 1: a lot of us, it's a couple of them. I 456 00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:34,320 Speaker 1: really love. I hope my guys are listening to this, 457 00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:39,160 Speaker 1: but I am very I'm very much. I believe it's 458 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:44,359 Speaker 1: acts of service and physical touch. You're gonna get a 459 00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 1: lot of that pretty soon. Yeah, yeah, Derby, plus probably 460 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:50,760 Speaker 1: physical touches. But let me make this, Let me make 461 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 1: this clear. I show I show it in physical touch. Um, 462 00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: like I love to be holding hands and hugging. I'm 463 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: nothing for me to receive it. Um, it's a guy 464 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,639 Speaker 1: that doesn't want anything in return other than I had 465 00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:08,919 Speaker 1: a guy one time. Um we were had in a 466 00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 1: long distance relationship, but he had amazon me, um, a 467 00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,359 Speaker 1: light bulb and I was like, what is this, dude, 468 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,359 Speaker 1: what is this? And he was like, when you were 469 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:18,120 Speaker 1: walking in the other night from your car, I saw 470 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:24,560 Speaker 1: your stoph Can I have your babies now? Right? All 471 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:28,159 Speaker 1: of them? Who is listen? I've been thinking since you 472 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:31,159 Speaker 1: said physical touch, I've been thinking about this for your season. 473 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:34,639 Speaker 1: Now we've all been quarantine so then the people who 474 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:37,840 Speaker 1: have been by themselves, they're they're hot, hot to try 475 00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 1: right feel. I've been thinking about this for you, Claire. 476 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 1: These men are going to be horny as hell. Claire, 477 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:53,640 Speaker 1: you might mean security guards on night one. I'm just saying, hey, man, 478 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 1: I'm think about it. I've been quarantined too, so game on. Yeah. No, 479 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:02,240 Speaker 1: I'm wait wait, wait real real quickly. I have to 480 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,040 Speaker 1: ask you this too. What's your astrological side? Just in 481 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,720 Speaker 1: case people are listening, And if you know you're Anyagram number, 482 00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:11,600 Speaker 1: please say that as well. I'm just very just you know, 483 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:13,760 Speaker 1: I have to know. I knew she was going to 484 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:16,159 Speaker 1: ask that one. I don't. I don't know my number. 485 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,320 Speaker 1: I think I remember looking into it once. I want 486 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,919 Speaker 1: to say it was. Eric Bigger is really good on 487 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,639 Speaker 1: this and he talks yes. I want to say he 488 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:30,240 Speaker 1: said I was an eight. I don't gay for me, 489 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:32,040 Speaker 1: I was an eight. I don't know if I'm an eight? 490 00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:34,960 Speaker 1: Is he just telling everyone we're eight? No, I've taken 491 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,520 Speaker 1: the test. I'm an eight at Claire, you know, we 492 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:39,920 Speaker 1: get along well, so you might be an eight as well. 493 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,000 Speaker 1: But some reason I want to say, let's go with eight. 494 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,000 Speaker 1: Some reason I want to say three, but I think 495 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,800 Speaker 1: it's eight. I'm pretty sure it's an eight. But I 496 00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:53,040 Speaker 1: am a Pisces. I'm the last day of Pisces and 497 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:57,080 Speaker 1: first day of area. You're Pisces. Yeah, okay, I don't 498 00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 1: know why I didn't ask you this before. This is 499 00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:00,840 Speaker 1: why we get along. I did not know you are 500 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:04,320 Speaker 1: a Pisces. Okay, are you a cancer or what are you? No? No, no, 501 00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:08,720 Speaker 1: I'm a Taurus. Okay, but tell me more about this. Well, 502 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,320 Speaker 1: we're like an eight to core, like a Taurus is. 503 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:15,560 Speaker 1: We can be stubborn, we're very loyal, we're very frugal, 504 00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:20,080 Speaker 1: we're very passionate. Yeah, but we're we're a bull. So 505 00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:23,760 Speaker 1: you know this isn't surprising coming for me. You know, 506 00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:28,320 Speaker 1: my horns are usually up if I'm not a Taurus, 507 00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:30,600 Speaker 1: because you're all I got you on that. But you're 508 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 1: a water side. I'm an earth side. They go, they go, 509 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:36,159 Speaker 1: they go really well, Um, okay, so we could Claire, 510 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:38,280 Speaker 1: we'll we'll call I'll call you and we'll talk about 511 00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,119 Speaker 1: this because I'll keep going. I gotta plane into this 512 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:43,720 Speaker 1: because obviously we want to get to know you a 513 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: little bit more. But I want to know since you've 514 00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 1: had all this time, now have you Okay, have you 515 00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:52,320 Speaker 1: googled the guys at all who have been announced? Obviously? 516 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:58,879 Speaker 1: What what woman would know exactly? Well? I was thinking 517 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:02,000 Speaker 1: about it, and you know, quite honestly, I don't know 518 00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,359 Speaker 1: if I would. I mean I probably would have, I 519 00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:07,520 Speaker 1: don't know how deep I would have dug because I 520 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:09,360 Speaker 1: want to like get to know people for who they are, 521 00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:14,680 Speaker 1: but without giving any names away or any any little details. 522 00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 1: What are your overall thoughts of the men? Okay, Well 523 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:20,680 Speaker 1: I will I will say this at first, Up, it 524 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:24,960 Speaker 1: wasn't up until I would say at first, I really didn't. 525 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:29,399 Speaker 1: I really did not, and I it was because I 526 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:31,760 Speaker 1: don't know. I just kind of felt like I want 527 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,120 Speaker 1: to get to know them in regards. I know how 528 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:36,520 Speaker 1: my Instagram is, it's a piece of my life, but 529 00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:39,440 Speaker 1: it's not. It's one of those you have to see 530 00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:41,600 Speaker 1: and feel it in person, and so regardless of what 531 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 1: their life is, what it looks like on their Instagram, 532 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 1: it's like, it's nice to actually see him in person. 533 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 1: And I am huge on pheromones. So that's like the 534 00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 1: end of for me. If they smell amazing, Man, if 535 00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:59,240 Speaker 1: they smell it like the right smell, that's everything to me. 536 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 1: So but I will say I have looked a little bit. 537 00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:03,760 Speaker 1: My friends have looked more than I have. To be honest, 538 00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:07,280 Speaker 1: good friends see this? Did you see that? But there 539 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,880 Speaker 1: there are some things where I don't know. You can 540 00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:14,040 Speaker 1: kind of tell people's lifestyles, like from their Instagram stories, 541 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,600 Speaker 1: and I see some that I'm like, mmmm, that's not 542 00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:21,639 Speaker 1: really my vibe. But in others where I look at 543 00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:24,719 Speaker 1: him and I'm like, oh, that's hot, you know, like 544 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:26,840 Speaker 1: I can't wait to meet that guy. I hope he's 545 00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:30,119 Speaker 1: on my I hope he's on the season. What's like 546 00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,960 Speaker 1: the number one trade for a partner that draws you in? 547 00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:35,480 Speaker 1: Like if if it's like the beautiful eyes, I'm gonna 548 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:37,720 Speaker 1: be paying attention to watching you night one. And if 549 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,400 Speaker 1: a guy would just like gorgeous eyes walks and we like, 550 00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,560 Speaker 1: that's she's into him? Yeah, what is it? Um? I 551 00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,520 Speaker 1: would say, Hike, it's a big thing for me, Hike 552 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:51,000 Speaker 1: and a really good smile. M yeah, let me in 553 00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:56,480 Speaker 1: me too. Um Oh wait, Becka, are you gonna say something. No, 554 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:58,520 Speaker 1: I was just gonna say. This is bringing. It's given 555 00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 1: me all the feels to like think back to that 556 00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 1: night one and just you literally right now don't know 557 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 1: what to expect. And that's the beautiful thing about starting 558 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:11,000 Speaker 1: any new season is you have so much to learn, 559 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,560 Speaker 1: just like the anticipation of who you're gonna meet, what 560 00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,440 Speaker 1: they're gonna say to you, what gifts are they gonna 561 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:17,800 Speaker 1: give you, who's going to kiss you? Like, what are 562 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 1: you most looking forward to that first night meeting the guys. 563 00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:24,040 Speaker 1: I guess just meeting them and seeing how they come 564 00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:29,560 Speaker 1: because I'm actually not I don't know if this is 565 00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,720 Speaker 1: saying too much, but I'm not into the I think 566 00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:35,520 Speaker 1: how they present themselves says a lot about who they are. 567 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:40,000 Speaker 1: And I'm if there's one's just coming off just being goobers. 568 00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:45,880 Speaker 1: But Claire, you said you were a goober. I'm goober, 569 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:48,760 Speaker 1: but I mean true. Yeah, I don't, I don't know, 570 00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:52,320 Speaker 1: I will say weirdly. I was just talking a couple 571 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:56,200 Speaker 1: of the producers about this yesterday. For me, I'm not 572 00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:59,760 Speaker 1: I would say the first night I'm not a physical person, 573 00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:01,920 Speaker 1: like I want a guy to get to know me. 574 00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 1: I want to get to know them. That's what's important 575 00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 1: to me. Anybody that kind of tries to kiss right away, 576 00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:10,800 Speaker 1: that to me is kind of like I don't have 577 00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:12,640 Speaker 1: enough good stuff to stay right now, so I'm just 578 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:14,520 Speaker 1: going to lean in for it. I think there is 579 00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:18,040 Speaker 1: plenty of time for that portion of it. Let's get 580 00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:22,000 Speaker 1: to know each other. That's what's important to me. Okay, Claire, 581 00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:25,960 Speaker 1: let me tell you. Be careful what you say. Because 582 00:30:26,240 --> 00:30:30,280 Speaker 1: I said I didn't want to kiss anybody the first night. Yeah, 583 00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:33,200 Speaker 1: I said, not a one for the same I was 584 00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,160 Speaker 1: just like you. The man I'm married to is the 585 00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:39,280 Speaker 1: man who didn't just kiss me, just went at it. 586 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,640 Speaker 1: People hate it the way I mean, he like attacked 587 00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:44,280 Speaker 1: my face. I loved it, but people hate it to 588 00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:46,800 Speaker 1: watch it. And I was so happy that he kissed 589 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,360 Speaker 1: me because then all the men were afraid of me 590 00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:51,120 Speaker 1: the first night is what I felt like, just to 591 00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:54,680 Speaker 1: make a move. To me, it stood out because he 592 00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:56,080 Speaker 1: was the only one willing to do it. I mean, 593 00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:59,760 Speaker 1: we talked in everything. But be careful what you say. 594 00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:03,120 Speaker 1: You know, I will stand corrected if that's if that 595 00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:06,160 Speaker 1: happens to me, because I guess when it's there, it's there. 596 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,720 Speaker 1: I just don't want somebody going for it when it's 597 00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:12,360 Speaker 1: not sure, but embrace it if it happens, because it 598 00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:15,320 Speaker 1: just might be the best thing that you have going 599 00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:17,320 Speaker 1: for you that I will be ready for and that 600 00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 1: I have no problem with. But when it's not there, 601 00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,560 Speaker 1: and that's almost like we got nothing to talk about, 602 00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:23,760 Speaker 1: someone's gonna go for it. So I know, speaking of 603 00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:27,120 Speaker 1: open for whatever we've talked like outside of the podcast, 604 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:28,960 Speaker 1: and so like I know a little bit of your 605 00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,880 Speaker 1: interests more than maybe those who are listening, because I 606 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:33,800 Speaker 1: feel like we're gonna have some nosy people that are 607 00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:36,800 Speaker 1: listening to this. But just when Becca was like asking you, 608 00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:38,680 Speaker 1: what is it that you're looking for in a partner, 609 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:42,280 Speaker 1: one of the things that I know we talked about. 610 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:45,720 Speaker 1: But then also before you were chosen, and then even 611 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:49,320 Speaker 1: with everything that's going on now, it's like we were saying, 612 00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:52,640 Speaker 1: we want somebody, like Becca said, we're a little dissatisfied 613 00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:54,280 Speaker 1: with what we've seen on the show. We want someone 614 00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,080 Speaker 1: who knows who they are and knows what they want, 615 00:31:56,520 --> 00:32:00,760 Speaker 1: has had life experience, but someone who's also just interested 616 00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:05,560 Speaker 1: in dating people from different backgrounds and different races. So 617 00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:07,160 Speaker 1: I want you to like, just talk a little bit 618 00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:09,600 Speaker 1: about that, because I know we've had that conversation before 619 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:13,080 Speaker 1: in private. Absolutely, if you I've always said this, if 620 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:16,960 Speaker 1: you line up and publicly people don't know who I've 621 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:19,800 Speaker 1: actually dated. I keep everything pretty private. But if you 622 00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:22,040 Speaker 1: line up all the guys that I've dated in my past, 623 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:28,760 Speaker 1: they are all different shapes, sizes, colors, heights, different backgrounds, 624 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:32,720 Speaker 1: different jobs, They're all all types of different men. What 625 00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:35,840 Speaker 1: attracts me, like I said, is pheromones, that chemistry of 626 00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:41,160 Speaker 1: getting each other. But yeah, I do. I care so 627 00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,440 Speaker 1: much more and I put so much weight on how 628 00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:46,720 Speaker 1: they make me feel, and that's what's important to me. 629 00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:51,000 Speaker 1: So regardless of anything, that's what's important to me, especially 630 00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,760 Speaker 1: at this age. I've had the hot men. I've had 631 00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 1: the men that just have the smoke and hot bodies, 632 00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:58,320 Speaker 1: and I'll tell you what, for me, it hasn't been 633 00:32:58,360 --> 00:33:00,560 Speaker 1: fun when they care more about them and they're looking 634 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,440 Speaker 1: at themselves in the mirror more than they're checking me out. 635 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:07,440 Speaker 1: So no, so true. What are some deal breakers for you? 636 00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:15,920 Speaker 1: Somebody who is very guarded, that's a deal breaker for me. 637 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:19,360 Speaker 1: I can appreciate it, and I understand people have everybody's 638 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,200 Speaker 1: got walls up to a certain extent, especially when they're 639 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:25,600 Speaker 1: new to this experience. It's intimidating, it's scary, and it's hard, 640 00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:31,120 Speaker 1: but I've done the work. And at this age, if 641 00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:34,320 Speaker 1: you're still having walls up and you're not emotionally intelligent 642 00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:38,600 Speaker 1: enough to know when to let your guard down, I'm 643 00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,520 Speaker 1: not your mom and I'm not your therapist. I'm not 644 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,240 Speaker 1: going to be going to be the person that's going 645 00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:44,160 Speaker 1: to help you learn or teach you how to do 646 00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:46,720 Speaker 1: anything like that. Get your shit together before you come 647 00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:51,040 Speaker 1: to me. Yeah, be self aware enough and be emotionally 648 00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:55,200 Speaker 1: intelligent enough to know to let your guard down. If 649 00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:57,360 Speaker 1: you're just trying to dabble and trying to figure out 650 00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:58,840 Speaker 1: and you don't know what you want and what you're 651 00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:01,040 Speaker 1: looking for, I'm not here to teach you and to 652 00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,400 Speaker 1: show you, So you can't come at me like that. 653 00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:07,040 Speaker 1: This is not the space for that. Well, and that's 654 00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:11,000 Speaker 1: what one thing that you know, people watch the show 655 00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:14,040 Speaker 1: and they're like, how could people fall in love and 656 00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 1: get engaged after just two months? Like, people watch it 657 00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,360 Speaker 1: and a lot of them think that it's kind of crazy. 658 00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,680 Speaker 1: But what people don't always see is the show is 659 00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,080 Speaker 1: set up in a way where you really have to 660 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:27,520 Speaker 1: open up and to get to know someone a lot 661 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:31,239 Speaker 1: quicker than you would say dating in you know, a 662 00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,680 Speaker 1: normal setting, like for conversations that I remember I had 663 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:36,879 Speaker 1: on the show with some of the guys and even 664 00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,920 Speaker 1: when I was on Bachelor, like we got down and 665 00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,319 Speaker 1: dirty pretty early, like it I think it was my 666 00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:45,640 Speaker 1: first date with Ari was telling them about how my 667 00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:47,839 Speaker 1: father has passed and how that's kind of shaped me. 668 00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:49,719 Speaker 1: It's like on a normal date, if I would have 669 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:52,360 Speaker 1: just met like a Joe Schmo on the street, like 670 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:54,880 Speaker 1: there's no way in hell I'd be telling them about that. 671 00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:57,520 Speaker 1: And so that's what's hopefully, I mean, hopefully the men 672 00:34:57,600 --> 00:34:59,919 Speaker 1: coming on your season realize that, like realize what they're 673 00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,640 Speaker 1: getting into. They have to open up to a certain 674 00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,239 Speaker 1: extent at a certain point, and so that's kind of 675 00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:07,000 Speaker 1: the beauty or on the show is that you really 676 00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:10,120 Speaker 1: have to have those conversations earlier on than you normally would. 677 00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,480 Speaker 1: And so for all the men listening out there on 678 00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:15,320 Speaker 1: clear season, be prepared for this because it's going to 679 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:19,439 Speaker 1: have to happen. Yes, And that's the thing, especially now 680 00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:22,600 Speaker 1: you've had months and months of sitting in quarantine, like 681 00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,279 Speaker 1: I have to sit and process and to make sure 682 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 1: and to see if this is the you know, the 683 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:30,879 Speaker 1: thing you want to be doing, if you're coming on going. 684 00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:32,239 Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm ready for this. I don't 685 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:35,480 Speaker 1: know if this is what I want. Want it because 686 00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,680 Speaker 1: I want it, and I'm not trying to waste anybody's time. 687 00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:39,399 Speaker 1: And I don't want anybody trying to waste my time 688 00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,120 Speaker 1: just trying to figure out if what their thing is 689 00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:47,000 Speaker 1: or coming in guarded this is? Are you worried on 690 00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:50,520 Speaker 1: the flip in? I know, Becca, ask you about you 691 00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:53,200 Speaker 1: looking at some of the guys that have been casted 692 00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:54,680 Speaker 1: for the season, or we don't really know, we don't 693 00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:56,360 Speaker 1: you don't know actually who you're going to meet. But 694 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:58,680 Speaker 1: at least prior to all this, are you worried that 695 00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,719 Speaker 1: in return they've searched you since they've had the time 696 00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:03,879 Speaker 1: to do that too. I hope they have. I hope 697 00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,960 Speaker 1: they have. These babies? Do you see him? These little yes, 698 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:11,799 Speaker 1: we do. These guys are my everything. So do your 699 00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:14,759 Speaker 1: research know that my whole life is obsessed with these two. 700 00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:19,080 Speaker 1: Um so maybe somebody can be allergic jogs, but take 701 00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:23,839 Speaker 1: you that a door. Guys or take your Claire's picking 702 00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:28,960 Speaker 1: the dogs over the men, and you should. These babies 703 00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:32,719 Speaker 1: have been here for me regardless, so they stay. That's right. 704 00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:35,680 Speaker 1: I've got a question for you too, now playing into 705 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:38,920 Speaker 1: like the whole world of researching since since you have 706 00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:41,919 Speaker 1: the time. So when rache Night were announced, we went 707 00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:45,160 Speaker 1: straight into interviews and filming, so like, at least for me, 708 00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:47,880 Speaker 1: my phone was taken away right away, so I wasn't 709 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:50,680 Speaker 1: on social media. I didn't know what people were saying 710 00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:53,160 Speaker 1: to me, what people were saying about me, what dms were. 711 00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:56,880 Speaker 1: What has the overall response from the fan base been 712 00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:58,799 Speaker 1: for you are? Do you feel like you're pretty much 713 00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:04,080 Speaker 1: supported right now? Going into this role depends on what 714 00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,880 Speaker 1: day you ask what day you asked. There's days where 715 00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:12,640 Speaker 1: I sit there and for example, like I've tweeted some 716 00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:15,440 Speaker 1: things out that I have a complete history on that 717 00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:18,200 Speaker 1: I know about and there's a lot of background to it. 718 00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:22,160 Speaker 1: And just because I don't put out or say a 719 00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:24,280 Speaker 1: lot of stuff that I have and know about doesn't 720 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,000 Speaker 1: mean it's not there. So I think a lot of 721 00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:31,319 Speaker 1: people just have passed judgment because I feel like when 722 00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:33,160 Speaker 1: I was announced as bachelorte, like I said, my phone 723 00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:35,400 Speaker 1: was taken away, but I got a lot of support, 724 00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:37,600 Speaker 1: and I think mainly it was because I got dumped 725 00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:40,080 Speaker 1: on National TV by Ari and people were like in 726 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:43,360 Speaker 1: my corner rooting for me. And I feel like Bachelor 727 00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:45,360 Speaker 1: Nation as a whole, everyone that I have talked to 728 00:37:45,719 --> 00:37:47,719 Speaker 1: has been rooting for you and is so excited for you. 729 00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:50,560 Speaker 1: But have you felt that same love and support, like 730 00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:53,680 Speaker 1: during this off time before you start filming. I've definitely 731 00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:55,880 Speaker 1: felt love. I think that it's mixed, though, honestly, I 732 00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:58,160 Speaker 1: think that it's mixed. A lot of times people don't 733 00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:01,319 Speaker 1: know who I am. I'm older them or in this right. 734 00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:06,160 Speaker 1: I mean, social media is brutal. I think I was 735 00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:12,239 Speaker 1: telling producers this that I think my saving grace is 736 00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:14,359 Speaker 1: that I am a strong woman, and I know when 737 00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:16,880 Speaker 1: people spit out hate and when they're putting out negative 738 00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,760 Speaker 1: comments and when they're just trashing you and saying things 739 00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:23,640 Speaker 1: that are irrelevant in your whole reality of your world. 740 00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:28,839 Speaker 1: It's coming from a place of think something that they 741 00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:30,640 Speaker 1: can relate to. People only talk about what they can 742 00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:32,560 Speaker 1: relate to, So if people are spitting out hate and 743 00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:35,680 Speaker 1: talking negative, it's because that's what's going on inside them. 744 00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:38,839 Speaker 1: Is hate negativity. You notice the women and the men 745 00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:41,800 Speaker 1: that are supportive and then are encouraging each other and 746 00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:43,719 Speaker 1: they are sending love to each other. Those are the 747 00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:47,279 Speaker 1: people that have love inside them to share. And I 748 00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:50,080 Speaker 1: would be the first to say that on my worst days, 749 00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,000 Speaker 1: I've done it too, where I look at people on 750 00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:54,600 Speaker 1: social media and I'm just like, Mmm, you know, you 751 00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:56,920 Speaker 1: have your judgments, but I would never go as so 752 00:38:57,000 --> 00:39:01,120 Speaker 1: far as go on their page, pick a comment, do 753 00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:03,520 Speaker 1: it DM Like, I just think you have to be 754 00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:07,359 Speaker 1: a special kind of person to have that much hate 755 00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:11,080 Speaker 1: in you. Yeah, people that do that, there's always going 756 00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,960 Speaker 1: to be those people. My sister, My sister once told me, 757 00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:15,799 Speaker 1: she was like, I know that there's people who send 758 00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:17,239 Speaker 1: hate on there, but she was like, if you go 759 00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,680 Speaker 1: check mother Teresa's Twitter account, there's gonna be hate on that. 760 00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:24,239 Speaker 1: There's always going to be people having an opinion on 761 00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:26,680 Speaker 1: who you are. And at the end of the day, 762 00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:31,319 Speaker 1: it's so irrelevant. It's so irrelevant, you know, But what 763 00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,759 Speaker 1: if advice would you give to people who might be 764 00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:36,960 Speaker 1: going through that same thing? You know, I know we 765 00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:38,640 Speaker 1: get it on a certain level, but there are other 766 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,640 Speaker 1: people who don't have as big of a platform that 767 00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:44,080 Speaker 1: are still getting that negative attention that they're not wanting, 768 00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:46,319 Speaker 1: Like what advice would you give to them to get 769 00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:50,440 Speaker 1: through it? It really kind of crushes me sometimes because 770 00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:53,480 Speaker 1: I know us as strong women, we can we know 771 00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:55,560 Speaker 1: kind of being on the show that there's going to 772 00:39:55,640 --> 00:39:58,160 Speaker 1: be space for that. But the people that don't sign 773 00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:00,200 Speaker 1: up for stuff like this or I mean, no, he 774 00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:06,000 Speaker 1: deserves hate like that. I just I've really I've reiterated 775 00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:09,840 Speaker 1: that hurt people. Hurt people is what I've always been told. 776 00:40:10,040 --> 00:40:13,600 Speaker 1: And if somebody is saying hurt and speaking hurt, it's 777 00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:18,120 Speaker 1: because they're hurting. And I always I've done it so 778 00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:20,000 Speaker 1: many times. I can't tell you what people have said 779 00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:24,040 Speaker 1: really hurtful things to me. And it's stuff that's hurtful, 780 00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:26,959 Speaker 1: that is something that I've felt about myself at some point. 781 00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:30,440 Speaker 1: So it triggers us, right, And so you're like, maybe 782 00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:33,440 Speaker 1: that it just hurts and it stings, and I am human, 783 00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:36,200 Speaker 1: we're human, so it does get to us. But I've 784 00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:38,520 Speaker 1: written people back and said, you know, does that make 785 00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:40,600 Speaker 1: you feel better saying that to somebody, or how does 786 00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:43,759 Speaker 1: it make you feel trashing somebody and just demeaning and 787 00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:46,680 Speaker 1: degrading somebody. Does that make you feel good saying that? 788 00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:49,760 Speaker 1: And I've had people right back and say I'm so sorry, 789 00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:52,040 Speaker 1: I'm just having a terrible day. I was just gonna say, 790 00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,680 Speaker 1: it's like ninety percent people will get back to you. Yeah, 791 00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:56,719 Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh, I'm so sorry. Yeah, And I 792 00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:59,480 Speaker 1: think they forget a lot of times. We're human and 793 00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,359 Speaker 1: it hurts sometimes and if I'm having a bad day, 794 00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:06,080 Speaker 1: boy does it sting? You know, it stings and it hurts. 795 00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:09,400 Speaker 1: And especially there's days where I mean, there was one 796 00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,239 Speaker 1: day where it was a really tough day with my 797 00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:17,880 Speaker 1: mom and I get super emotional talk about my mom, 798 00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:19,480 Speaker 1: but like, it was a really hard day with my mom, 799 00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:22,000 Speaker 1: and just in life. I was a struggle in quarantine 800 00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:24,920 Speaker 1: just for myself on one of those days, and somebody 801 00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:27,920 Speaker 1: had just said something really awful, and it was like, 802 00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:30,799 Speaker 1: do you have no idea what somebody is going through 803 00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:34,479 Speaker 1: on the other end of your hate? So that could 804 00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:37,600 Speaker 1: be the comment that pushes somebody over to a place 805 00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:40,279 Speaker 1: that's not good, that's, you know, a not a good 806 00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:43,480 Speaker 1: space to be in. So I feel like just spread 807 00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:46,280 Speaker 1: love or just don't say anything, you know, it doesn't 808 00:41:46,360 --> 00:41:51,160 Speaker 1: serve anybody or doesn't help anybody. Yeah, you said it best, 809 00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:52,600 Speaker 1: and it's like, at the end of the day, we're 810 00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:56,320 Speaker 1: all humans, we all have emotions on the other side. 811 00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:59,719 Speaker 1: And I think somebody they worded it so well, and 812 00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,560 Speaker 1: they said, like, you know when people type that hate 813 00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:05,520 Speaker 1: and say those mean, rude messages, like they obviously don't 814 00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:07,719 Speaker 1: know you. They take maybe twenty seconds out of their 815 00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,359 Speaker 1: day to say these hurtful words. Hits end and then 816 00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:12,560 Speaker 1: they go off, like they go walk their dog, or 817 00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:14,080 Speaker 1: they go brush their teeth, or they go to work 818 00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,360 Speaker 1: and don't think about it again. But for everyone on 819 00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:19,319 Speaker 1: the receiving end, like that sticks with you longer than 820 00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:21,840 Speaker 1: just those twenty seconds. Like sometimes it can cut to 821 00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:25,880 Speaker 1: your core and so like what it comes down to 822 00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:28,200 Speaker 1: is just knowing your self worth. And that's why again, 823 00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:31,240 Speaker 1: I'm so happy that you are now in this position 824 00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:34,359 Speaker 1: because you've you've done a few seasons, so you it's 825 00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:37,480 Speaker 1: not like you're coming into this fresh and blind to 826 00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:41,279 Speaker 1: thinking there's not going to be tough times ahead. I 827 00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:43,920 Speaker 1: think when people watch the show, they're like, oh, the 828 00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,319 Speaker 1: bachelors and bachelortes haven't made and they have all these 829 00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:48,320 Speaker 1: crazy cool opportunities to come from it, but at the 830 00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:50,799 Speaker 1: end of the day too, like there's hard days, Like 831 00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,759 Speaker 1: there are things that can push you over the edge 832 00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:57,719 Speaker 1: in a second. And so the fact that you, you know, 833 00:42:57,840 --> 00:42:59,719 Speaker 1: have been through this and know your self worth and 834 00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:01,520 Speaker 1: can stand your ground and be like, you know better 835 00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,399 Speaker 1: days are to come, you can't let this get under 836 00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:07,480 Speaker 1: your skin as much as you'd think it would. So 837 00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:09,440 Speaker 1: I'm what I guess I'm trying to say is I'm 838 00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:12,120 Speaker 1: glad that it's you in this position to kind of 839 00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:14,600 Speaker 1: realize that, but then to help people now here on 840 00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:17,600 Speaker 1: after or maybe I'm your season or whoever will come 841 00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,960 Speaker 1: on future seasons to help out. Yeah, it's it's something 842 00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,200 Speaker 1: that is so terrible. I don't know. I just get 843 00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:26,960 Speaker 1: sick hearing people spit hate, not for me, but for them. 844 00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:30,279 Speaker 1: It's like, how bad are you hurting that you want 845 00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:33,360 Speaker 1: to have to hurt somebody else? You have no idea 846 00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:37,360 Speaker 1: it just because we have this opportunity, just because we get, 847 00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:40,680 Speaker 1: you know, these amazing things that come along with being 848 00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:44,120 Speaker 1: a bachelrette. It doesn't negate that we are human, doesn't 849 00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:46,759 Speaker 1: negate that we have hard days and things that do 850 00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:50,439 Speaker 1: affect us or insecurities as well. It doesn't take away 851 00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:53,760 Speaker 1: from that, but it just it's it's seriously a place 852 00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:57,000 Speaker 1: of like, God, do you feel that bad? Like almost 853 00:43:57,040 --> 00:43:59,719 Speaker 1: like an empathy and a compassion for those people, like 854 00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:04,680 Speaker 1: they must be really struggling today. That's like, yeah, that sucks. 855 00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:09,080 Speaker 1: You know you mentioned you talked about like doing the 856 00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:11,680 Speaker 1: work you know you want. You've done the work, You've 857 00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:13,759 Speaker 1: put in the time to be in the place that 858 00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:16,320 Speaker 1: you are now. The men who are coming on your season, 859 00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,200 Speaker 1: this is a message to them, You're like, you need 860 00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:20,360 Speaker 1: to have the work done before you step out of 861 00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:23,360 Speaker 1: the limo. Right. So for other girls who are like 862 00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:27,040 Speaker 1: struggling with self love, what advice do you have for them? 863 00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:29,799 Speaker 1: And what are some tools that have been helpful in 864 00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:32,400 Speaker 1: your journey that have helped you get to be the 865 00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,000 Speaker 1: woman that you are today? Ah? I love this question. 866 00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:37,440 Speaker 1: I was talking to my friend about that literally this morning, 867 00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:41,600 Speaker 1: because I think if you look at it, it's like 868 00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:44,600 Speaker 1: where do you start? Right? And I could speak for 869 00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:52,440 Speaker 1: only myself, but I have been at at one point 870 00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,440 Speaker 1: I was living in my car for three months and 871 00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:58,279 Speaker 1: I barely had a job making minimum wage being in 872 00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:01,840 Speaker 1: a hairstyles assistant. When I first started here, I was 873 00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:05,000 Speaker 1: in an abusive relationship and I just had lost my 874 00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:07,360 Speaker 1: dad too, so I was at I would feel like 875 00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:14,400 Speaker 1: the lows of lows, and I think from that to 876 00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:18,000 Speaker 1: where I'm at now, the best I could say is 877 00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:21,440 Speaker 1: even when you don't feel like because that's a big 878 00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:23,680 Speaker 1: journey to go on, right, That's that's kind of like 879 00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:29,320 Speaker 1: how do you get there? But it's it's saying essentially 880 00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:32,000 Speaker 1: taking that step, even if it's a small baby step, 881 00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:34,280 Speaker 1: and saying I'm going to go on a walk today 882 00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:37,200 Speaker 1: because it makes me feel good, and doing something for 883 00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:41,920 Speaker 1: yourself that shows you love yourself, whether it's like cooking 884 00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:44,960 Speaker 1: the meal that you love, that's showing yourself you're worthy 885 00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:46,759 Speaker 1: of it, and you you know, you want to take 886 00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:52,000 Speaker 1: care of yourself, finding stuff that you love, reading the books, 887 00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:55,920 Speaker 1: doing the research. Because once you start believing it in yourself, 888 00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:59,279 Speaker 1: even if it's just barely start believing in yourself, it 889 00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:02,600 Speaker 1: builds and it builds and it builds, and after a 890 00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:05,799 Speaker 1: while you look back and you go, I can't believe 891 00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:08,640 Speaker 1: how far I've come, you know. And it's it's not 892 00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:12,400 Speaker 1: a trajectory of that to self love. It's kind of 893 00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:14,839 Speaker 1: like you face something else hard and it goes this way, 894 00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:16,480 Speaker 1: and it goes that way that's hard, and then you 895 00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:18,880 Speaker 1: feel really good and then something crappy happens and you 896 00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:21,120 Speaker 1: learn and you learn from more and more. So what 897 00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:24,680 Speaker 1: you said Rachel earlier, I wanted to say too, I've 898 00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,680 Speaker 1: done the work, but I'm also still forever doing the work, 899 00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:30,120 Speaker 1: and I want to be who will come on, who 900 00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:32,399 Speaker 1: he doesn't have to. I'm not looking for a perfect man. 901 00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:35,479 Speaker 1: I've never been looking for a perfect man. I want 902 00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:39,480 Speaker 1: somebody who wants to do the work and wants to 903 00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:42,960 Speaker 1: be a better them, and we'll always continue to do 904 00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,560 Speaker 1: the work because I will forever be a work in progress. 905 00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:49,240 Speaker 1: So from that baby step up until now, I'm still 906 00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:52,160 Speaker 1: doing it, and there I've still Two days ago was 907 00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:55,319 Speaker 1: a really awful, hard day. I didn't even get out 908 00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:57,120 Speaker 1: of bed all day. I was struggling and I just 909 00:46:57,160 --> 00:47:00,719 Speaker 1: couldn't stop crying. But then the next day I was 910 00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:03,400 Speaker 1: like no, like I felt. I did the things for 911 00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:07,080 Speaker 1: myself that made me feel better, that made me feel empowered. 912 00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:09,040 Speaker 1: I went and sat in sauna, I did an icebout. 913 00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:12,120 Speaker 1: I did stuff that made me feel strong as a woman, 914 00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,440 Speaker 1: that showed me my true strength, and I think willing 915 00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:19,479 Speaker 1: to try is the first step for that. That's self love, 916 00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:23,840 Speaker 1: wanting to even want that for yourself. M yeah, and 917 00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:28,239 Speaker 1: even smitting it, you know, recognizing that, hey, you know what, 918 00:47:28,360 --> 00:47:31,600 Speaker 1: today I'm not okay, and then taking those steps, like 919 00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:34,080 Speaker 1: you said, trying to do those things to make yourself 920 00:47:34,120 --> 00:47:36,120 Speaker 1: feel better. And I think we need to hear that. 921 00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:38,760 Speaker 1: You know, we all talk about it. We're all strong women, 922 00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:40,759 Speaker 1: you know, on this podcast, and we talk about our 923 00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:43,160 Speaker 1: strength and our independence and all that, but it's also 924 00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:46,839 Speaker 1: so important, like you're doing, to talk about how we're 925 00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:49,359 Speaker 1: not okay sometimes and we're not a vulnerable Two weeks ago, 926 00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:51,560 Speaker 1: I have to couldn't take two steps without shedding a tear. 927 00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:55,440 Speaker 1: I was not okay, and I think it's important to 928 00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:58,120 Speaker 1: recognize that you're not okay. One thing I do want 929 00:47:58,120 --> 00:48:01,080 Speaker 1: to ask you, because Back and I joke about this 930 00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:06,840 Speaker 1: between ourselves, but we're known for not having dramatic seasons. 931 00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:10,560 Speaker 1: Really like some people have said that our seasons are 932 00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,840 Speaker 1: a little we're a little boring, Rachel. I don't think yours. 933 00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:16,920 Speaker 1: I don't think anyone said yours is boring. Mine was. 934 00:48:17,200 --> 00:48:20,520 Speaker 1: They said both well, they said both of us well, 935 00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:22,359 Speaker 1: they said both of us was, and I was gonna say, 936 00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:23,960 Speaker 1: and I don't think either one of them I want. 937 00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:26,200 Speaker 1: I mean, I've experienced mine, I watched yours. I don't 938 00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:28,040 Speaker 1: think so. But the reason they said that is because 939 00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:31,319 Speaker 1: we we came in like this is what we want. 940 00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:34,080 Speaker 1: We don't have time to play games where oh, you 941 00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:36,560 Speaker 1: want to do this, Nope, you gotta go buy. And 942 00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:39,839 Speaker 1: I feel like some people think, oh, because Claire has 943 00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:42,480 Speaker 1: had these life experiences and she knows what she wants, 944 00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:45,319 Speaker 1: it's gonna be a boring season. But I beg to 945 00:48:45,560 --> 00:48:49,520 Speaker 1: differ because Claire, I feel like I want to almost 946 00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:51,680 Speaker 1: wanted to end sports. We do like over under. I 947 00:48:51,680 --> 00:48:54,840 Speaker 1: don't know who does betting, but I would love to 948 00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:58,880 Speaker 1: do the over under on how many guys you tell off? Oh, 949 00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:02,520 Speaker 1: I like this game. And that's the thing. I feel like. 950 00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:05,719 Speaker 1: Sometimes people go into the show and like you're kind 951 00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:07,719 Speaker 1: of walking, especially Night one, like you're kind of walking 952 00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:09,920 Speaker 1: on eggshells. You don't quite know how to handle things. 953 00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:12,640 Speaker 1: And I feel like, Claire, you've done this, you know 954 00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:15,839 Speaker 1: what's up. You're in the position to be like, hey, 955 00:49:16,040 --> 00:49:17,560 Speaker 1: if I don't like what you said, if I don't 956 00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:20,200 Speaker 1: like what you're doing, you're gone. And I cannot wait 957 00:49:20,280 --> 00:49:22,960 Speaker 1: for those moments. Have you thought about that, Like, have 958 00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:26,759 Speaker 1: you thought about how you're going to be as the bachelorette, 959 00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:29,400 Speaker 1: because that's you kind of have to like, you know 960 00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:31,120 Speaker 1: what you're open for, you know you're type, but you 961 00:49:31,200 --> 00:49:33,160 Speaker 1: also have to have a mindset of how you're going 962 00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:37,120 Speaker 1: to navigate this, Lily. Absolutely. Here's the thing though, is 963 00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,480 Speaker 1: that my friends know me is this and a lot 964 00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:41,920 Speaker 1: of guys who have dated know this about me. I 965 00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:50,600 Speaker 1: am way good, way cool until I'm not. You are 966 00:49:50,680 --> 00:49:54,160 Speaker 1: good to me and so good to me. You will 967 00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:56,160 Speaker 1: get that back for me if you are loving on me, 968 00:49:56,280 --> 00:49:58,640 Speaker 1: I will love you right back. Once you cross that 969 00:49:58,719 --> 00:50:02,239 Speaker 1: line or once you disres back me, game on and 970 00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:04,200 Speaker 1: I will let you know how I feel. And I 971 00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:08,120 Speaker 1: don't hold back on that. But I am I am 972 00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:11,000 Speaker 1: so nice until I'm not. I'm probably, if anything, like 973 00:50:11,040 --> 00:50:12,560 Speaker 1: a puppy dog, and at the end of the day, 974 00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:18,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, love me. You know that's a sap. Yeah, 975 00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:23,279 Speaker 1: I'm such a sap until I'm not. So well, as 976 00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:25,200 Speaker 1: long as they stay on my good side, as long 977 00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:26,919 Speaker 1: as they're good to me and don't try to pull 978 00:50:26,920 --> 00:50:29,840 Speaker 1: one over on me or play me, We're good we 979 00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:31,799 Speaker 1: are good, you will get nothing but love for me. 980 00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:37,560 Speaker 1: That's something easy enough, right, you would think, well, and 981 00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:40,560 Speaker 1: I love that, Rachel Asset, because we go in like 982 00:50:40,640 --> 00:50:44,280 Speaker 1: thinking we're gonna like navigate this entire journey quote unquote 983 00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:48,319 Speaker 1: one way, and you can never plan for what's going 984 00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:51,839 Speaker 1: to happen. I mean, you will be thrown for curveballs. 985 00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:54,160 Speaker 1: You think you know yourself in one moment and you're 986 00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:56,040 Speaker 1: sobbing on the floor of the next, mean, like, what 987 00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:59,640 Speaker 1: the hell just happened. But if there's one thing I 988 00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:02,640 Speaker 1: can I can guess is that you're gonna give us 989 00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:04,960 Speaker 1: like you know what you want. You're gonna go in 990 00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:08,720 Speaker 1: there with your eye on the prize, like don't settle. 991 00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:11,879 Speaker 1: But I think you're also going to hold your own 992 00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:16,000 Speaker 1: and be very entertaining. Like overall, it's probably going to 993 00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:18,800 Speaker 1: be the most one of the most well rounded seasons 994 00:51:19,040 --> 00:51:23,000 Speaker 1: that we couldn't hope to see. I hope, so man, 995 00:51:23,080 --> 00:51:25,719 Speaker 1: I hope. So I was laughing because I'm like, I 996 00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:28,640 Speaker 1: guess I am my normal everyday life is pretty boring 997 00:51:28,680 --> 00:51:30,920 Speaker 1: and basic and I love it like that. I wouldn't 998 00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:35,080 Speaker 1: trade it for the world. So I don't know, we'll 999 00:51:35,080 --> 00:51:38,359 Speaker 1: see I can also, I mean it could. I've been 1000 00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:40,120 Speaker 1: known to be a little dramatic in the past. So 1001 00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:44,759 Speaker 1: we listen. We all are, we all are, We all 1002 00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:46,880 Speaker 1: are in our own right. I ask people that when 1003 00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:49,200 Speaker 1: they're like, you're so dramatic? Are you so this or that? 1004 00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:51,920 Speaker 1: And it's like, but I love just as hard as 1005 00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:55,120 Speaker 1: I am dramatic, So not the opposite. Do you want 1006 00:51:55,239 --> 00:51:57,399 Speaker 1: me you know? Do you want me meek? And what's 1007 00:51:57,400 --> 00:52:00,960 Speaker 1: the opposite of being you know like that? I don't know. 1008 00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:07,239 Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to be punk. No. I that's what's 1009 00:52:07,239 --> 00:52:09,920 Speaker 1: going to make you a great bachelorette because you do 1010 00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:13,839 Speaker 1: love hard, and that's a really it's a real no 1011 00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:15,520 Speaker 1: matter who you are, you know, whether you have life 1012 00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:18,319 Speaker 1: experience or not, it's a key component to being a 1013 00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:20,680 Speaker 1: good bachelorette because that means that you're open to certain 1014 00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:25,120 Speaker 1: things and that you want this. Thanks for listening in today, Everybody. 1015 00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:27,719 Speaker 1: Part two of this episode will air next week, so 1016 00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:30,400 Speaker 1: please make sure to tune in then and in the meantime, 1017 00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:34,080 Speaker 1: of course, keep tuning into Bachelor the Greatest Seasons Ever 1018 00:52:34,120 --> 00:52:37,600 Speaker 1: every Monday night at eight seventh Central on ABC. And 1019 00:52:37,680 --> 00:52:40,600 Speaker 1: don't forget to keep writing into us on social media. 1020 00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:44,319 Speaker 1: You can like us, comment, dm follow, whatever you gotta do. 1021 00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:47,279 Speaker 1: It's at Bachelor Happy Hour on Instagram and at Batch 1022 00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:49,280 Speaker 1: Happy Hour on both Facebook and Twitter.