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Speaker 1: First Day of follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocates Law dot com.

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Speaker 2: Blake is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Selena. So in

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Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But before we do that, Blake, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Selena?

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Speaker 3: It has been like several days a week maybe, And

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Speaker 3: it's not technically a first day followup because we didn't

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Speaker 3: even get our first date. No, what happened she ghosted

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Speaker 3: me on the first date. We got set up with

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Speaker 3: friends who like a group chat, and we really hit

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Speaker 3: it off, and we'd been talking for she was a

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Speaker 3: town business and so we've been just chatting and we'd

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Speaker 3: facetiming and it was going like super well, like she's

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Speaker 3: really great, and I definitely thought we'd hit it off

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Speaker 3: and we were going to hang out the day she

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Speaker 3: got back into town. We were going to have like

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Speaker 3: a late launch, early dinner thing. And I had a

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Speaker 3: whole plan, like just in Kate, you know, like if

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Speaker 3: the night went well, I have a telescope on the

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Speaker 3: roof of my building and I was going to show

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Speaker 3: her the stars. It was going to be so so cute,

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Speaker 3: and she never showed up, and I have not heard

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Speaker 3: from her since then.

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Speaker 1: Good, So have you tried texting her? How many times

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Speaker 1: have you reached out to her in that week?

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Speaker 3: I mean I probably sent a bunch of texts that afternoon,

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Speaker 3: like you know, like we're worried about her and stuff.

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Speaker 3: And then I've tried to not be you know, I

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Speaker 3: don't want to be crazy if if she's not responding.

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Speaker 3: I mean, she she definitely got the other messages, so

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Speaker 3: you know, I've checked in. I waited a few days

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Speaker 3: and I checked in again and still nothing.

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Speaker 4: What do you think could have happened?

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Speaker 3: I mean, look, the only thing I can think is

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Speaker 3: that maybe it was like too intense before we actually met.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it really felt special to me, like

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Speaker 3: I thought for sure, like we've been talking every we're

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Speaker 3: facetiving every day, and I think maybe I wonder if

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Speaker 3: maybe she got freaked out that it was like too

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Speaker 3: much pressure for a date and like couldn't possibly live

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Speaker 3: up to whatever we were imagining it would be or something.

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Speaker 1: It is weird, how close you can get to somebody

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Speaker 1: just off of like FaceTime, so you feel like you

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Speaker 1: kind of know a person. So essentially, you guys had

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Speaker 1: a day. It just was on the phone the.

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Speaker 3: Much the longest we've gone without talking since then is

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Speaker 3: the thing. So it's like it's wrong we ever had

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Speaker 3: a week off. So I don't know, and I checked.

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Speaker 3: I texted because it was a mutual friends so I

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Speaker 3: reached out of the friends just like make sure they

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Speaker 3: were she was okay, and they were like yep.

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Speaker 4: They just said yep.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they just said yep. So I like, I assume

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Speaker 3: that she's I mean, that sounded like they knew something,

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Speaker 3: but I didn't want to like follow up. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I got scared about following up then and I

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Speaker 4: Is there anything to be said to her that she

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. I mean, like I mean between us,

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Speaker 3: you know, and I've I don't know, I've never actually

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Speaker 3: been ghosted before. I don't think so. I think maybe

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Speaker 3: I just like too was too optimistic and I just

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Speaker 3: married that day or something. I didn't say that. I

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Speaker 1: Just kidding.

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Speaker 4: What was the last conversation you guys had?

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Speaker 3: Well the night before, because she was like, she was

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Speaker 3: we were facetiming. And then afterwards, I mean I text

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Speaker 3: her a few times before she went to sleep, and

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Speaker 3: like she asked for a steamy picture, okay, and she

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Speaker 4: That's it.

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Speaker 3: That was the last interaction we had. It wasn't it

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Speaker 3: wasn't gross. It was very it was you know, it

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Speaker 4: You knowower and took a picture of your shower. Would that.

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Speaker 3: It was like, look, I mean, look, I'm not I know,

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Speaker 3: I know, I know the rules. I'm not sending you know,

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Speaker 3: I'm not sending her my junk. You know. It was

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Speaker 3: I don't know, but she just hearted it. And I

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Speaker 3: But then like that was the last thing.

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Speaker 1: I'm just wondering what her true reaction was to seeing

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Speaker 1: the photo and like, I'm sure you're lovely by I'm

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Speaker 1: just want you know what I mean, Like, would that

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Speaker 1: be any reason? Like you do you look like.

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Speaker 3: If it was that?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Very so?

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Speaker 4: Maybe you know, she's just like, you're such a man.

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Speaker 2: She can't I can't handle it. She's like, oh no,

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Speaker 2: I shouldn't ask her a Stevie picture.

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Speaker 4: I don't know what kind of man I was gonna get.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, we're laughing. Yeah, maybe maybe you're too much, man.

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Speaker 3: Blake, I must be it.

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Speaker 4: All right, we'll figure it out.

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Speaker 5: Man.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song come Back, and then call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 4: If you still want.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song come back, get your

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Speaker 2: first day follow up next right in the middle of

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Speaker 2: your first date follow up if you're just joining us.

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Speaker 2: When Blake is on the phone and he's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by Selena and he has no idea why So we're

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Speaker 2: gonna call her in a minute and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: another date. But real quick, before we do that, Blake,

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Speaker 2: why don't you refresh everybody's memory about your not really

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Speaker 4: Selena thing?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we talked on FaceTime for like a month before

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Speaker 3: she got back from a road trip and then work trip,

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Speaker 3: and then when she lands were supposed to have a date,

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Speaker 3: but then she ghosted me after that, and I think

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Speaker 2: The last thing, the last thing that happened was you

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Speaker 2: sent her a steamy picture and that's it. You haven't

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Speaker 2: heard from her since. Way she did ask for the

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Speaker 2: steamy picture, right she did. Okay, are you ready to

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Speaker 2: call her? Yep, okay, yep, here we go. Hello, Hi, man,

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Speaker 2: speak to Selena.

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Speaker 4: Please.

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Speaker 5: This is Selena.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Selena, how are you? My name is Jewbull and

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Speaker 2: I host a radio show. It's called The Jewel Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Selena, I'm Nina also on the show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 5: Oh Hi, Hi, I'm Felena.

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Speaker 1: Nice to meet you. Selena.

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Speaker 4: Have you ever heard of The Jewel Show before?

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Speaker 5: Maybe it sounds vaguely familiar.

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Speaker 2: We do a segment on our show it's called the

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Speaker 2: first Date follow Up. What that means is if you

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Speaker 2: go out on a date with somebody and end up

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Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can email us to get you

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Speaker 2: on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So,

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Speaker 2: we got an email about you from one of our listeners.

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Speaker 2: No really, Yeah, his name is Blake, and he's wondering, Oh,

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting Blake.

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Speaker 5: Wait, so he thinks I'm ghosting him.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He told us about how you guys like facetimed a

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Speaker 2: send me a steamy picture, and then so she sent

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Speaker 2: you a Seemy pick and then that's the last you

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Speaker 2: heard from you. So he doesn't understand what happened, right,

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Speaker 2: That's totally fair.

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Speaker 5: That's totally fair. I Uh, this is the weirdest thing

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Speaker 5: because I just got my phone back today. I was

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Speaker 5: on a flight. I flew out to Chicago for work

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Speaker 5: and I left my phone on the plane and they

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Speaker 5: literally like just nailed it. Back to me this morning,

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Speaker 5: probably an hour ago, opened up the package, and so like,

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Speaker 5: this is so weird, this is so like so no, no, I.

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Speaker 1: Didn't want to.

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Speaker 5: I've been trying, like I sent him a Facebook message,

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Speaker 5: like I didn't ghost him on purpose, and I've tried

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Speaker 5: to call him later now that I have my phone back,

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Speaker 5: but I didn't have any of my contacts. I had

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Speaker 4: Seriously, that is yeah, and you just got your phone back.

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Speaker 5: Yes, I literally just got it back today. I can't

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Speaker 5: I don't.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 5: That sounds like it's not real. It's real, Like it's

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Speaker 5: so weird. Oh maybe it's like kissing it or fate

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Speaker 2: Got to say, Yeah, I guess what Blake is actually

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Speaker 2: on the phone listening and wants to talk to you,

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Speaker 2: so kind of like you.

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Speaker 5: Called awesome, Well hey I was.

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Speaker 3: I just pull up your Facebook message. I'm sorry i'n't

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Speaker 3: open Facebook in like two years. I'm so sorry. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 5: I can't even this is so weird. I was literally

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Speaker 5: going to call you this afternoon, but I had to

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Speaker 5: do my work first. I've got my phone just now

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Speaker 5: and the phone ring, and I was like, oh, I

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Speaker 5: have no idea what this is, but I'm I'm so

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Speaker 5: thrilled that it's you, and that like, I don't know,

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Speaker 5: it feels like I don't it feels like it was

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Speaker 3: You're not. I'll give you I'll give you my numbers.

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Speaker 5: We're not on the air anymore, right, Maybe I should

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Speaker 5: write it down this time somewhere somewhere. Maybe address books

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Speaker 5: were for a reason when people used to write them.

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Speaker 1: You guys, they have technology for that.

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Speaker 3: I'm just I'm just so glad you're not ghosting me

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Speaker 3: and I I have I'm happy to restart the date

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Speaker 3: plan whenever you are free.

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Speaker 5: I love that. I'll be back in town in like

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Speaker 5: a week or two. And then, so you sent me

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Speaker 5: that picture. That was the last like internet like, that's

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Speaker 5: the last time I talked to you. Was that was

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Speaker 5: that was a good picture. I'm sorry that. I'm sorry

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Speaker 5: that that wasn't wasn't too much.

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Speaker 3: Man, they think the picture was too much and you

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Speaker 3: couldn't handle it, and that's why you disappeared, maybe.

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Speaker 5: Like subconsciously that's but no, I absolutely like it was

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Speaker 5: so fun, like getting to know you and talking to you,

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Speaker 5: and I was really looking forward to it too, and

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Speaker 5: so I was just thinking, like I guess I wasn't

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Speaker 5: meant to be you know, and then this totally flipped

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Speaker 5: it around.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so, Selena, would you like to go on another

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Speaker 2: date with Blake.

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Speaker 4: We'll pay for it. Absolutely, that's exciting.

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Speaker 3: I can't wait. And if you lose a phone again

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Speaker 3: then I'll just look for you on Facebook.

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Speaker 4: I guess. Wait ye air tag.

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Speaker 5: Oh, that's a good idea. I'll have to put an

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Speaker 5: air tag on you and then I can sign you

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Speaker 5: from the air tag.

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Speaker 4: In you heard. With the air tag, you will first date,

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Speaker 4: follow up