1 00:00:02,600 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 1: Radio Radio Radio Commies, a myth and bullshit, a radio 2 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: phonic novella Look Radio hosted by Malamn. Hello, Welcome back 3 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:27,920 Speaker 1: to local radio. Welcome, Welcome, This is Mala and this 4 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: is the ASA. We are last, Look Radio, coming to 5 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 1: you once again from Radio Espasio here at EsPAS nine 6 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,559 Speaker 1: in boil Heights, where we always record. Thank you so 7 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: much for joining us, Thank you for tuning in. Look 8 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:45,480 Speaker 1: At Radio is a radiophonic novella, a podcast archiving the legacies, 9 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: geniuses and brilliance of women and fans of color. That 10 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: is who we are and that is what we do. 11 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: It's been a while since we've recorded a hot minute. 12 00:00:54,960 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: We took an unexpected break. Um, Mala and I have 13 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 1: been working behind the scenes, so we haven't actually been 14 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: able to record. And then I was out of commission 15 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:08,680 Speaker 1: for about a week. Yeah, I got sick. You got sick. Yeah, 16 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: it's been kind of a weird August. It was. I'm 17 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: so ready for August to be over. And officially mercury 18 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: Is has stationed direct. We are out of retro rade. 19 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:20,760 Speaker 1: Thank you goddesses, thank you planets. I learned a lot 20 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 1: in this retrograde. In this recent retrograde. We're on the 21 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:27,759 Speaker 1: tail end. I mean there's like some weird stuff still 22 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: going on, right, you know, yeah, like in our lives, 23 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 1: in our personal lives, good stuff, lots of good stuff, 24 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:37,320 Speaker 1: good stuff, more good stuff than weird stuff and weird 25 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 1: stuff always, you know. Yes, Okay, So we have an announcement. 26 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: So as y'all know, we had to reschedule our meet up, 27 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: our Vienna party. Unfortunately, I was very ill. I had 28 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: I actually lost my voice, could not speak, could not 29 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 1: eat for about a week. It was her instruments the worst. Literally, 30 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: I told mom, I was like, I feel like Beyonce 31 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: and carry like I have to be on vocal us, 32 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 1: vocal rest, do not talk to her right right. And 33 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: then the last thing I wanted was for our locomotives, 34 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:09,079 Speaker 1: our Fly Fly Local motives to come to our meet 35 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 1: up and then get sick right and then get their 36 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:14,960 Speaker 1: family six. So I was like, no, Mala, we have 37 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:17,240 Speaker 1: to reschedule. And I was so heartbroken to have to 38 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:20,680 Speaker 1: do that, but you know, yeah, she wasn't quarantined, but 39 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:24,119 Speaker 1: literally we've rescheduled all that. To say that we have rescheduled, 40 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: so new date Saturday, August. That is just a week 41 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:29,919 Speaker 1: away a few days from now by the time y'all 42 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 1: are listening, so it'll still be a delicious pizza time change. 43 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 1: It's actually from two to four pm and d J. 44 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: Sizzle will be joining us. She'll be spinning and we're 45 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: super super excited. So if you weren't able to make it, um, 46 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: if that day didn't work for you, is what I mean. 47 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: Hopefully that y'all can make it to come on the party, 48 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 1: Pina Party, Come show your pianna, where your little dresses, 49 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: your little shorts, whatever makes you comfortable, whatever you want. Um, 50 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 1: there's pizza there. We're not buying food for people, but 51 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,400 Speaker 1: there is food. They're right, it is a meet up 52 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 1: and there's like they have some wine options, some beer options, 53 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: some beer options. So it's gonna be cute. So come through. 54 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: Someone um actually asked on the Instagram if they could 55 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 1: take their baby, and absolutely, you can take your child, 56 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:21,679 Speaker 1: bring your children. It is like, this is a pizza place, 57 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 1: it's an all ages events. So this is a perfect opportunity. 58 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:26,839 Speaker 1: If you cannot come to like any of our live 59 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 1: shows because you need to hire a babysitter or whatever 60 00:03:31,880 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: it is. You know, things happen, So yeah, this is 61 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:36,200 Speaker 1: a good this is a really great event. And at 62 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 1: the same so actually that day we also will be 63 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:43,119 Speaker 1: hosting our last show at Levin Pavilion. UM. It will 64 00:03:43,160 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 1: be we're so excited for this one. This is I 65 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: mean all of them, but this one in particular because 66 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: we actually saw them last year here at the special 67 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 1: and we didn't see them like it was just a 68 00:03:52,120 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: few of them. It wasn't the full ensemble, but in 69 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: all women's Maniatchi group will be at Levin I'm MacArthur 70 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:03,119 Speaker 1: Park next Saturday, and that's at seven pm. So we're 71 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: going to have our meetup and then we're gonna take 72 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 1: a little rest and then we're going to go to 73 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: to host UM Florida the flor Show. So we're super excited. 74 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 1: We like really hope that people come with us. Yes, 75 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:18,160 Speaker 1: you know, leave the meet up and let's go see 76 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: the ladies sing. They're incredible. They're so good, so effing good, magical. 77 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:27,159 Speaker 1: I believe they just won a Grammy, like the Latin 78 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: Grammy or something. I believe it they won like some 79 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: music award. One of the Mohennes in Florida is Miguel's cousin. 80 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:41,280 Speaker 1: For their first cousins like Miguel, the singer who I love. Right, 81 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:44,359 Speaker 1: he's from Santa Monica, right, My, Actually I went to 82 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:47,039 Speaker 1: middle school with one of his cousins. And it's so 83 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: funny because this is words side charged. But let me 84 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: just share this real quick, because I remember this boy 85 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: that I went to school with. I went to middle 86 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: school with, and he was like all about his cousin, 87 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:01,599 Speaker 1: the singer Miguel. He would always talk about his cousin 88 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 1: like he was like, my cousin is going to make it, 89 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:05,240 Speaker 1: Like my cousin is going to be super big, like 90 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: listen to my cousin's demo, listened to like all about 91 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:11,160 Speaker 1: his cousin. Turns out it ends up being sucking Miguel, 92 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 1: and he did make it, and he did make it, 93 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 1: and so um. So you know that Miguel is also Mexican, 94 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: so on his Mexican side, like that is the cousin. Yeah, wow, 95 00:05:22,279 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 1: how cute. He's an l a boy, like he's like 96 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:26,560 Speaker 1: a local boy, which is also why I love him 97 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: so much because he did make it. We love let 98 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 1: me tell you anyway. Anyway. Anyways, Okay, so also we 99 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 1: wanted to announce that we are also for we are 100 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:43,640 Speaker 1: booking for fall and winter. Seen, We're open to booking. 101 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 1: We're open to booking. Book us. Last year or last 102 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:49,240 Speaker 1: school year, we were at University of Oregon. We did 103 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: pit sir, we did ucsp A USC A bunch of times. Yes, 104 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: shout out USC. Yes we love our Trojan look I 105 00:05:57,279 --> 00:06:00,720 Speaker 1: motives Yes, and our Oregon look a motive. All of you, 106 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 1: all of you all. We love all of y'all. So 107 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 1: fly us out. We will travel. We will travel. UM. 108 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:09,720 Speaker 1: If you're so, if you are part of a student organization, 109 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 1: or if you team up with the cultural center at 110 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: your school or professor, if there's a conference, yes, UM, 111 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:19,479 Speaker 1: reach out to us. We can talk about all of 112 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:23,480 Speaker 1: that and figure it out. Basically, any of ours we 113 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: can turn into a workshop. We have turned them into workshops. 114 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 1: One of my faves thus far has been the Goddess 115 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: worship one that we did an Oregon, very fun. And 116 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 1: then the Multidimensional ho that we did at USC. Yes, UM, 117 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: that was really great. I also like our latinox tech 118 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 1: is also we can literally come and teach you how 119 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 1: to create a podcast. We can teach you how to 120 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 1: do a podcast. We have done that. We specifically have 121 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 1: created that workshop for youth. So if you work with youth, um, 122 00:06:52,760 --> 00:06:54,720 Speaker 1: even like a high school, like if you want to 123 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:57,039 Speaker 1: take us to a local high schools until even a 124 00:06:57,080 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: local high school. You know all of that. It's like 125 00:06:59,839 --> 00:07:03,359 Speaker 1: a women's history month, Latino History month, you know whatever 126 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: it is, even things that have to do with Um, 127 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: I don't even know what I'm talking about anymore, but yeah, 128 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: bring us out. Email us. Look, I thought our radio 129 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. We do it all. We do everything, 130 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 1: We do everything. Um yeah, okay, book us. Anyways. Also, 131 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 1: we've been working on things right, as I mentioned, we 132 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: took some time off because we have been working on 133 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: stuff behind the scenes, so we cannot share too much. 134 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 1: But we are launching a new project, very cute, exciting 135 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: new project that we're so excited about. Oh my god, 136 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: you are all gonna die. You're gonna love it. I 137 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 1: know it. Okay, that's enough, you're gonna love it. Say 138 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: no more. Um. Yeah, So we have been you know, 139 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 1: Mama likes to say that even when we're not podcasting, 140 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 1: we're podcasting, and that is honestly, very very true. Um, 141 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 1: we're podcasting. Last night at MacArthur Park, we were, we 142 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 1: were It was a lot of fun. Yeah, can I 143 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 1: sure about my pants to leave? Oh my god? So 144 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: last night we go out, right, Oh my god, my 145 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: poor mother. She wasn't here, she wasn't involved. I just 146 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:13,880 Speaker 1: didn't whenever I do things, I'm like my poor mother. 147 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 1: So right, so we go out. I got sick. The 148 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 1: aside took me home. I don't remember much, but I 149 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 1: had like this, this the will and the strength of 150 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 1: mind to like go into my grandmother's house and get 151 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 1: my dog, get get pop us, go in the backyard, 152 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 1: and then go up to my apartment. So when I 153 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: wake up this morning, I'm like, thes like, what happened? 154 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: How did I get home? Like? What's up? I did 155 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 1: not order an uber last night, So so we figured 156 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: it out. I had to come here to come record. 157 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:45,720 Speaker 1: So I'm leaving my apartment and I'm up on the 158 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 1: second story. I have a little bout, like you know, 159 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 1: my walkway, and I looked down and the pants that 160 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: I was wearing last night were like in a little pile, 161 00:08:56,800 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 1: like on this table like down below. There's one of 162 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 1: two things could have happened, and I know which one 163 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 1: it was. So either I got up to my apartment 164 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: and up from the balcony. I took up my pants 165 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 1: and I threw them across the yard and they landed 166 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 1: perfectly in a little pile on the corner of the table. 167 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 1: Or I took off my pants downstairs and then opened 168 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: the gate and walked up the stairs and walked past 169 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 1: my neighbor's window and front door, and then in my 170 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 1: thonge specifically important and then opened the I'm thinking that 171 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: that's what happened. I think it's the second one. So 172 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: I don't have evidence to really support either theory. And 173 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:42,120 Speaker 1: you know, I think that was also partially my responsibility. 174 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:45,679 Speaker 1: I didn't walk you into your apartment. But it's okay, 175 00:09:45,840 --> 00:09:49,679 Speaker 1: I made it in one piece, right, So anyways, what 176 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:52,559 Speaker 1: else are we talking about today? Anyway? That was fun. 177 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:55,439 Speaker 1: Point is I don't even know how we got We 178 00:09:55,520 --> 00:09:57,400 Speaker 1: got here baby around the car park. Oh, we were 179 00:09:57,440 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 1: at MacArthur Park, and then I ended up doing have 180 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:04,080 Speaker 1: panciless in my bank. At least you were in your backyard. 181 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:09,160 Speaker 1: I was in my backyard. Yes, anyway, Okay, so we're 182 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: moving on to our next second, next segment, O god 183 00:10:12,559 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 1: models going to kill us up, all right, all right, 184 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:19,319 Speaker 1: So we have a few questions for all your look 185 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: us and listener questions submitted via Instagram. So this question 186 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 1: is do you ever deal with imposter syndrome? Yes? Okay, 187 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 1: next question. Yeah, I'm an impostor impostor syndrome all the time, 188 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 1: all time, all the time. I think that like my 189 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:49,200 Speaker 1: impostor syndrome kicks in my impostor syndrome. Honestly, I think 190 00:10:49,360 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 1: kicks in a lot when it comes to romantic staff. 191 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:55,040 Speaker 1: I was gonna when it come say dating, I'm I'm 192 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:58,439 Speaker 1: thinking about podcasting work now check check, check, We're good, 193 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:00,320 Speaker 1: We're good, we're chilling, we're good, We're good when it 194 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: comes to dating. Same. You totally took that out of 195 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:05,199 Speaker 1: my mouth. Don't feel good for it. I don't feel 196 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 1: good enough. I don't feel like I'm actually like, I'm 197 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 1: like I shouldn't be dating. I shouldn't be dating, like 198 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 1: I shouldn't you know what I mean? What is your iteration? UM? 199 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:19,160 Speaker 1: I was going to say, um something similar. I think 200 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 1: that I have recently with my therapists have been like 201 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 1: unpacking my self, saboteur my inner self, belts for um. 202 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: And I think that it's very much tied to imposter 203 00:11:29,320 --> 00:11:33,600 Speaker 1: syndrome or it's like I've had these very tumultuous relationships, 204 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 1: um mutually unhealthy. So now that I'm in like the 205 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 1: healthy relationship I've been thus far, I catch myself like 206 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:48,280 Speaker 1: sometimes wanting to function up because I'm like so almost 207 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 1: like you're waiting for the other shooter drop right, Like 208 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, why is this going so well exactly? 209 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:57,960 Speaker 1: And why are you do treat me this way in 210 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:03,280 Speaker 1: a good way? Right, And like I don't understand. I'm 211 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:06,440 Speaker 1: just like, what's going to happen? Definite impostor syndrome when 212 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 1: it's comes into dating. But I feel like, um, because 213 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:13,199 Speaker 1: our listeners do so many amazing things, I feel like 214 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: this question might be about school or about work and 215 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 1: not so much relationships. So I just want to say, 216 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:22,520 Speaker 1: like remember that, like there is no one like you, 217 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:25,679 Speaker 1: no one, and what you bring to the table like 218 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:29,760 Speaker 1: is completely unique. So whether that be for school, for work, 219 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 1: in a relationship, in your friendships, your family, Like you 220 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 1: are like the expert at you of being you, you 221 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: know what I mean. So it's like who I don't know, 222 00:12:39,440 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: like honing on that power like trust, that trust, that 223 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 1: inner strength, that inner goddess, that inner fierceness. Yeah, you 224 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:48,240 Speaker 1: know what I mean, And of course that's easier said 225 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 1: than done. Yeah, And what I like to have this 226 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 1: conversation too with my friends, and especially when I do 227 00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: like self defense workshops and stuff when I like to 228 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:00,600 Speaker 1: talk to girls about is the fact that, like, if 229 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 1: you look at people who are considered like super intelligent 230 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:06,520 Speaker 1: or accomplished and like the people that we are all 231 00:13:06,559 --> 00:13:10,320 Speaker 1: supposed to look up to as like examples of hard work, 232 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:13,120 Speaker 1: and we could name any like whether it's a Steve 233 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:16,440 Speaker 1: Jobs or this or that whoever you know, figures um, 234 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: the people that we consider actual we base our standards 235 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 1: of intelligence off of those people have all kinds of 236 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:26,120 Speaker 1: fucked up ship going on in their fucking lives, like 237 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:29,400 Speaker 1: their messes. Like if there's one thing that the Me 238 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:32,440 Speaker 1: too in Times of Movement have shown me with all 239 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:35,280 Speaker 1: of the disclosures of sexual violence going on in Hollywood, 240 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:38,560 Speaker 1: with these major producers and artists and geniuses and actors 241 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 1: in this and that and journalists forget Matt Lauer, all 242 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:44,199 Speaker 1: these fools who are supposedly the gold standard, who are 243 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 1: so great and geniuses, they're not effing geniuses there. They've 244 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:50,480 Speaker 1: had access to things, They've been able to go to 245 00:13:50,520 --> 00:13:53,319 Speaker 1: the best schools, they've been supported their whole lives. Honestly, 246 00:13:53,760 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 1: they're not that fucking intelligent and they're not that creative. 247 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 1: They're not more creative than you, and they're pieces of ship. 248 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:02,880 Speaker 1: Like you know, so when we think about I'm an 249 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:06,280 Speaker 1: impostor compared to who, who's the real effing impostor here? 250 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 1: Like if you got into your school, if you're taking 251 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:11,360 Speaker 1: your classes like you're supposed to be there, You're supposed 252 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 1: to be there, and you know, like, I actually think 253 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 1: that we are better than a lot of people in 254 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 1: many ways who were supposedly supposed to look up to. 255 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? That would be my concert home, 256 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 1: like all about imposter syndrome. Yeah, yeah, that's those guys. 257 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 1: You're great, right, absolutely, and I think that they're Um, 258 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 1: I want to recommend our Friends of Cheeseman. They actually 259 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 1: have a an episode specifically about imposter syndrome that maybe 260 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: you'll want to check out because they unpacked this and 261 00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: what it's like for folks of color and when you 262 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 1: like um tying like sexuality and gender and class and 263 00:14:50,240 --> 00:14:52,320 Speaker 1: all of these different things. You know, we definitely can 264 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,960 Speaker 1: feel like we're not deserving of having great things there's 265 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 1: so much to talk about, and you know, there's like 266 00:14:57,400 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 1: these ongoing jokes and like comedians will make jokes about it. 267 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: I'll see it on Twitter. But it's like when you 268 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:06,720 Speaker 1: are doing something really cool in your community and then 269 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 1: people your family will like make fun of you about it, right, 270 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 1: you know she's real And then so I think we 271 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:21,600 Speaker 1: also come from that being humbled constantly, right right, right? 272 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 1: And I yeah, definitely, because I feel like the only 273 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:25,840 Speaker 1: one that really gets what I do is my mother 274 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:28,560 Speaker 1: and my my Buddymo because he lives with me, so 275 00:15:28,600 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 1: he's like they literally see me leaving all the time 276 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:33,600 Speaker 1: to do stuff for the podcast, as opposed to a 277 00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:35,920 Speaker 1: family that doesn't live with me or it doesn't see 278 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:38,360 Speaker 1: me constantly and obviously don't listen. It's just like, oh, yeah, 279 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 1: she's she's hosting a party, she's going she's going to 280 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 1: a party. Party, She's yeah, she's going to a party. Right. 281 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 1: They don't see the process, right, right, right, So the 282 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:51,520 Speaker 1: impostor syndrome, I think, well, it's kind of like it's 283 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:53,840 Speaker 1: kind of like our families feel like they know the 284 00:15:53,920 --> 00:15:56,640 Speaker 1: true us, the one true Us, so it won't be 285 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:58,760 Speaker 1: DV outside of it They're like, Nope, you're not. That's 286 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 1: not you. You are a suster well away anyway, next 287 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: next question, Okay, what boundaries do you set for work 288 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:15,840 Speaker 1: life balance? What is the next career move? I had 289 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 1: a career move recently. I am no longer working full 290 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 1: time as a rape crisis counselor advocate. I'm a teacher now, 291 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:26,560 Speaker 1: and I will not say much more about it because 292 00:16:26,840 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 1: we are work life value. This is the answer. I'm 293 00:16:30,160 --> 00:16:32,640 Speaker 1: a teacher, but I'm not going to be sharing really 294 00:16:32,920 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: because previously I would share a lot like about my 295 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 1: work because it was so relevant to the podcast. I'm 296 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:41,000 Speaker 1: still going to volunteer on the crisis hotline. Um, but 297 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 1: my my full time gig now I'm teaching mostly like 298 00:16:43,840 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 1: sex said type stuff, so it's it's fun times, but 299 00:16:46,800 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 1: I do more and more. Like I set my individual 300 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: Instagram to private, I set my individual Twitter to private, Like, 301 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: I'm really thinking of getting rid of the Twitter. Honestly, 302 00:16:56,560 --> 00:16:58,080 Speaker 1: I've been on it for six years and I'm kind 303 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 1: of tired of the app. I'm tired. I'm tired of 304 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:05,639 Speaker 1: Twitter dot com. So I'm trying to like set those 305 00:17:05,760 --> 00:17:11,440 Speaker 1: boundaries for myself. UM, let's see for me, I don't 306 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:14,880 Speaker 1: think I necessarily have boundaries like I don't have thus far. 307 00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:19,240 Speaker 1: I don't have like podcast boundaries. Um, Like I'm constantly 308 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:23,760 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm constantly um thinking about stuff for 309 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:26,040 Speaker 1: the podcast and I and I'll text Mole. I was like, well, 310 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: we're I feel like we're almost like we're podcast. Obviously 311 00:17:29,760 --> 00:17:33,280 Speaker 1: that's like a that's a very like that's a hyperbole, hyperbolic, 312 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:38,280 Speaker 1: but it's like it's right. But it's like, well, sure 313 00:17:38,320 --> 00:17:41,080 Speaker 1: I'm not putting in eight hours straight, you know, but 314 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:43,320 Speaker 1: I am like putting in thirty minutes here and then 315 00:17:43,359 --> 00:17:46,920 Speaker 1: thirty minutes there and there, and then a twenty minute 316 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:48,439 Speaker 1: phone call with you and vice for you know what, 317 00:17:48,560 --> 00:17:50,840 Speaker 1: and so on and so forth almost every day. Right, 318 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 1: So I don't necessarily have that boundary yet. But um, 319 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 1: for work, I mean I had I work a nine 320 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:59,080 Speaker 1: to five, so I that's that's my boundary. I get 321 00:17:59,119 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 1: to clock in, I get to clock out. Um for 322 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:03,920 Speaker 1: the most part, I don't work weekends. I don't really 323 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 1: work late. Um, so that is my that is my balance. Um. 324 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:11,160 Speaker 1: And then my next career move, um, I am plotting 325 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,920 Speaker 1: on it. We'll see. This has been a really good 326 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:16,760 Speaker 1: like transition job and a really good like just to 327 00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:19,760 Speaker 1: feel things out, um what my next move might be. 328 00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:22,320 Speaker 1: But I don't know. We have we have things in 329 00:18:22,359 --> 00:18:25,600 Speaker 1: the work. I really do believe that, Like well, each 330 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:28,919 Speaker 1: year of the podcast has been a momentous year with 331 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 1: lots of things going on, and there is this this 332 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:34,959 Speaker 1: coming year. I just know there's going to be all 333 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:37,720 Speaker 1: kinds of stuff coming our way. And who knows what 334 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:39,760 Speaker 1: we're going to be talking about this time next year, 335 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:50,200 Speaker 1: right right? Yes, all right, So we have any other 336 00:18:50,320 --> 00:18:56,360 Speaker 1: else's um no, So we're going to get into our 337 00:18:56,400 --> 00:18:59,199 Speaker 1: song break now. Um. We have a guest for the 338 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:01,359 Speaker 1: second half of the in for the second half of 339 00:19:01,359 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 1: this law so or Cara, Belly Rosa and and and 340 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:15,680 Speaker 1: and and and and and and and and and and 341 00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:25,160 Speaker 1: and and and and and and and and Belly rack 342 00:19:25,560 --> 00:19:31,040 Speaker 1: and and and send Delly rang and and and send 343 00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:41,240 Speaker 1: Bell rang and and and ummm from from from from 344 00:19:43,359 --> 00:19:51,800 Speaker 1: M M of it and Little ship M welcome back. 345 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: So we're super excited to have this guest on the show. 346 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:58,120 Speaker 1: Her name is Andrea, and I'm gonna let her introduce herself. 347 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: Hey girl, welcome, Hi, I hope for everyone. I am 348 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:08,119 Speaker 1: Andrea and I create videos on YouTube about disability and 349 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:13,879 Speaker 1: disabled awareness and education. I am disabled myself, I have spina, 350 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:18,000 Speaker 1: and then with my education. I like to throw in 351 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:23,280 Speaker 1: the intersection of being a Latina because they intersect, um, 352 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:25,640 Speaker 1: and I can't really get around it because it's both 353 00:20:25,720 --> 00:20:28,480 Speaker 1: my identities and what kind of Latina are you? We 354 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:30,840 Speaker 1: were talking about this before we started recording. This is 355 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:34,400 Speaker 1: important supposed to ask people. You're not supposed to ask 356 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:40,400 Speaker 1: people why they're why I am Cuban and Puerto Rican. 357 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:43,159 Speaker 1: My dad's from Puerto Rico, my mom's from Cuba. So 358 00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 1: I generally tell people I'm a Cuba Rican. And the 359 00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:51,359 Speaker 1: only frustrating thing I have about it, there's two things. Um, 360 00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 1: there's never merchandise that mixes look flats, so I always 361 00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:59,760 Speaker 1: have to buy individual things, and so it sucks because 362 00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:02,400 Speaker 1: I want to wear like a body question. But then 363 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm Cuban. Two I need them to know 364 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:09,280 Speaker 1: him right or things like that, or people who are 365 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 1: familiar with Cuban Puerto Rico. Apparently that the islands don't 366 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:17,280 Speaker 1: get along. Um. So they asked me if my parents 367 00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:20,040 Speaker 1: still love each other, if they're still married. Oh my god, 368 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 1: I'm like I didn't know this as a kid, so 369 00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:25,000 Speaker 1: I was like, what are you guys talking about? But 370 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 1: it was. It was a big thing. And I learned 371 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,840 Speaker 1: later that my parents had like a lot of issues 372 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,640 Speaker 1: for a while with my dad's family for my dad 373 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 1: marrying my mom. But like now everyone's kind of fine, 374 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:41,159 Speaker 1: especially because my dad, I guess, fulfilled his duty and 375 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:44,040 Speaker 1: had like six kids, but he had no sons, and 376 00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:48,000 Speaker 1: so we gave him a boy dog. So okay, here's 377 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,920 Speaker 1: your boy, here's your boy child. He kept thinking, he 378 00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:53,920 Speaker 1: was like every kid he kept getting. He was like, 379 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 1: this will be the one. And then we're all like, no, Dad, 380 00:21:56,960 --> 00:22:02,119 Speaker 1: we're better. And you you are also online and you 381 00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:04,879 Speaker 1: are a content creator as well. Right when we were 382 00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:07,080 Speaker 1: talking about that too, Yeah, you want to talk a 383 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:10,159 Speaker 1: little bit about like your your videos and like what 384 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,879 Speaker 1: you discuss and your mediums and all that good stuff. Yeah. So, um, 385 00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,479 Speaker 1: the main video I do every week. It comes out 386 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 1: on Mondays on my channel UM. I call it hashteck spinnipifida, 387 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:27,119 Speaker 1: and I started that because while I have a physical disability, 388 00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:30,479 Speaker 1: it's invisible most of the time unless people really focus 389 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:33,280 Speaker 1: on my walk or if I use a cane. UM. 390 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:36,360 Speaker 1: But growing up, my parents were always just like, yeah, 391 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,080 Speaker 1: you're disabled, Like it wasn't really a bad thing. It 392 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:43,160 Speaker 1: was just as a matter of fact, because everyone likes 393 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 1: to use these weird um I forgot those like pseudonyms 394 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,639 Speaker 1: or whatever of saying like you're differently abled or stuff, 395 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:55,920 Speaker 1: and that's I don't know, I don't. Some disabled people 396 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,639 Speaker 1: use it, and that's fine because the community itself we 397 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:03,320 Speaker 1: can identify how we but able people meaning someone that 398 00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:08,560 Speaker 1: doesn't have any mental illnesses physical disabilities. Those are able 399 00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:12,000 Speaker 1: people and um, not to be confused with able body. 400 00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,879 Speaker 1: A lot of people say able bodied, but there are 401 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,480 Speaker 1: disabled people who are able bodied. They could have a 402 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:21,760 Speaker 1: mental illness, um, but they're still able body. And so 403 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:24,800 Speaker 1: when you do that, you like exclude other people in 404 00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 1: the disabled community. But I like disabled because it says 405 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 1: what it is, I can't do stuff, and that's and 406 00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:37,200 Speaker 1: everyone can't do things, um right and disabilities of culture. 407 00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 1: And so my parents just kind of like, let me 408 00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:44,640 Speaker 1: be happy with my label. But growing up we would 409 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:48,960 Speaker 1: get like aggressions from people outside. Um. I've had a 410 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:52,600 Speaker 1: disabled placard that I carry with me and I will 411 00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:54,720 Speaker 1: use it on days where I am having just trouble 412 00:23:54,800 --> 00:24:00,400 Speaker 1: walking far distances. And because of that people My sister 413 00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,680 Speaker 1: and I would use it a lot because we lived 414 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 1: with her while I was in college and she would 415 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,560 Speaker 1: park in it to pick me up from class, and 416 00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:12,920 Speaker 1: we would get harassed by elderly people, by a police 417 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:17,000 Speaker 1: officer and because I didn't look disabled enough to them. 418 00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,359 Speaker 1: And that's just the issue that everyone thinks it looks 419 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,240 Speaker 1: like that sign, and I'm like, disability doesn't look like 420 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:28,720 Speaker 1: that sign. Um that element attached, right, yeah, And that 421 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,560 Speaker 1: sign is like it's good and bad. It gives everyone 422 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:36,800 Speaker 1: and they know what that's for, but it adds a 423 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:40,720 Speaker 1: lot of problems because it's a wheelchair sign and there's 424 00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:43,800 Speaker 1: the diversity of that. But also it gets people confused 425 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,840 Speaker 1: about wheelchair users. Everyone thinks, you will chair users are 426 00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:49,639 Speaker 1: bound to their chairs, and majority of the time they're not. 427 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:51,680 Speaker 1: They can get up and stuff, and that's when you 428 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:55,240 Speaker 1: get those like shitty, am I will to curse? Yeah? Absolutely. 429 00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:58,000 Speaker 1: And the word that you used again before we started recording, 430 00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:00,520 Speaker 1: the word that you that you used to just scribe 431 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:05,639 Speaker 1: um like a cane or a wheelchair was mobility aid. Okay, 432 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:08,440 Speaker 1: so so right because it's an aid. Yeah, so it 433 00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:10,680 Speaker 1: can be used in any number of ways. Yeah, and 434 00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:12,640 Speaker 1: like a lot of things can be an aid. If 435 00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:16,280 Speaker 1: it's helping better your life, it's an aid. Um. I 436 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:20,439 Speaker 1: use uh text to talk a lot on my phone, 437 00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:23,720 Speaker 1: especially when I'm walking, because when I'm I have no balance. 438 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,040 Speaker 1: Uh We've talked about this a lot. I have nerve 439 00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:29,200 Speaker 1: damage on my feet, so I don't have balance, and 440 00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:32,879 Speaker 1: I look the way. My brain compensated for that because 441 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:35,159 Speaker 1: I lost feeling from one of my back surgeries. They 442 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:38,040 Speaker 1: took out nerves and I just lost feeling at my feet, 443 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:41,000 Speaker 1: so I looked down a lot. And Um, when I'm walking, 444 00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 1: I have to focus. And so when people text me, 445 00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:48,000 Speaker 1: I'll use my headphones and I'll text to talk And 446 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:52,040 Speaker 1: I consider that as like an accessibility tools because it's 447 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:55,400 Speaker 1: helping me still stay stay safe because l A drivers, 448 00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,360 Speaker 1: oh my god, moving out here, they don't. The only 449 00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:00,320 Speaker 1: time I don't care is when I'm in Sandem Monica 450 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:02,639 Speaker 1: seeing my doctors because it's rich white people and I 451 00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:06,200 Speaker 1: want to get hit hit me. I have. I have 452 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,680 Speaker 1: student laws and they like they're old, they're going to 453 00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: die soon. Give me money. But but it's just going 454 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,199 Speaker 1: through all that, Like I got harassed a lot by 455 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:22,200 Speaker 1: police officers, and looking back now, it's scary. I I'm 456 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:24,680 Speaker 1: very I'm white passing. I'm a white Latina from my 457 00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:27,360 Speaker 1: mom's side. My dad has Diana blood, but I look 458 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:31,159 Speaker 1: like my mom's I have skin, so I'm privileged in that. 459 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:34,119 Speaker 1: But my sister got my dad's skin, so she is 460 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,040 Speaker 1: like your color. And so that's scary thinking about that 461 00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 1: we would get stopped by cops. And the mention of 462 00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 1: street harassment and the harassment from the police and from 463 00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 1: other people. You were talking about how there is a 464 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:51,520 Speaker 1: very specific intersection of like disability and street harassment, and 465 00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:54,720 Speaker 1: that's so interesting to me. How even like the carcetral 466 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:59,600 Speaker 1: state becomes like the FED through the police become involved 467 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:01,280 Speaker 1: in that. You talk a little bit more about that 468 00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:05,040 Speaker 1: intersection of the street harassment. Yeah, well, I mean there's many. 469 00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:08,320 Speaker 1: So I'll have to for those situations, I have to 470 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,639 Speaker 1: prove that I can park there. They just have to 471 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:13,040 Speaker 1: run my I d But they like it doesn't stop 472 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,560 Speaker 1: them from making side comments. They're like, well, you look 473 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:19,159 Speaker 1: so healthy and all these things, and I'm like, okay, 474 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:21,080 Speaker 1: that happens at the doctor's office. I go to the 475 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,600 Speaker 1: urologist a lot and it's just feel old people that 476 00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,560 Speaker 1: their bladders don't work. I didn't have to get old 477 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,040 Speaker 1: to have like a shitty bladder. And I just look 478 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,280 Speaker 1: at them, like Helen, because they look at me, and 479 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,000 Speaker 1: I can tell that they are like, why is she here? 480 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:36,720 Speaker 1: Like they're trying to figure out what's wrong. I'm like, Helen, 481 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:38,480 Speaker 1: I'm just trying to get my bladder looked at like 482 00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:43,159 Speaker 1: you're going to die. I'm just trying not to right. 483 00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 1: But the other the other street harassment, um is this 484 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:51,440 Speaker 1: one with like the Kane yes, what happened Kane Yes? 485 00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:55,600 Speaker 1: And what happened? Okay? So okay, So earlier today, earlier today, 486 00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 1: I was turning the corner coming to a spa and 487 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 1: I was recording a video to my Instagram stories. So 488 00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:03,399 Speaker 1: I was like la la la, you know, and I 489 00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:07,200 Speaker 1: and I'm still recovering from last night. You know, I'm 490 00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,359 Speaker 1: like not all here, so, you know, So I'm walking 491 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:14,240 Speaker 1: around the corner and I see a mariachi sitting on 492 00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: a bench and a young lady sitting next to him 493 00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:19,880 Speaker 1: and they're like talking. They're like talking or he's talking, 494 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:21,840 Speaker 1: and I'm not really painted, I don't know, So I 495 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,320 Speaker 1: was like, maybe that's his niece or his daughter or something, 496 00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: because you do look very young, and she's very that's 497 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,000 Speaker 1: living my dad, jeez, that's the thing, you know, is 498 00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:33,000 Speaker 1: very petite. And so I'm walking by and she goes 499 00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:35,280 Speaker 1: my lad and she looks at me, and I'm like, oh, hey, 500 00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:37,560 Speaker 1: Like but I didn't know what was going on, so 501 00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 1: I kind of kept walking for this. I kept with them. 502 00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,160 Speaker 1: I like kept looking back and I stopped in the 503 00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,640 Speaker 1: doorway and I'm like, I kept looking at my eyes 504 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:49,920 Speaker 1: were wide. I was like, yeah, not so yeah. So 505 00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:51,720 Speaker 1: then I stopped in the doorway and I was like, 506 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:57,120 Speaker 1: is everything good? And I was like yeah, And then 507 00:28:57,160 --> 00:28:59,880 Speaker 1: he had he pulled up because then I was just 508 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,760 Speaker 1: going to already and beligne it to you. So he 509 00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,240 Speaker 1: put his hand out to shake his hand, and like God, 510 00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:08,920 Speaker 1: but I'm like torn because at the same time, I'm 511 00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,480 Speaker 1: like I don't want to don't feel like gross. But 512 00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:14,640 Speaker 1: also my dad, my dad's a marine and raised me 513 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,400 Speaker 1: that I need to like handshake, and he had a 514 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:20,200 Speaker 1: ship handshake because my dad has had a ship. That's 515 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,160 Speaker 1: that's the thing too. My dad, I think because he 516 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 1: overcompensated that he had no boys, he made sure that 517 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,120 Speaker 1: all the things he would want to teach a boy. 518 00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,640 Speaker 1: He taught to my sisters and I, which is like 519 00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,200 Speaker 1: that thing he should teach any I know, good thing 520 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,720 Speaker 1: to teach a kid, like when he would give us handshake. 521 00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:38,560 Speaker 1: When he would teach us how to give a handshake, 522 00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:40,800 Speaker 1: he was like, you have to do with the marine way, 523 00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 1: So you have to like it's like a power show. 524 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,240 Speaker 1: You have to squeeze. And I do that with everyone. 525 00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:48,480 Speaker 1: I love it though, because like men don't think women 526 00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:51,000 Speaker 1: will do that, And they go to give like such 527 00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,880 Speaker 1: a like half ash shake and I squeeze their hand 528 00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:57,480 Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, I'm the fucking authoritive. Sometimes I 529 00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 1: like to invert it though, and I'd like to make 530 00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:05,960 Speaker 1: all the time. Mama will do like the hi like 531 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 1: she's like expecting you to kiss her hand. That's literally 532 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:12,720 Speaker 1: what she does a constantly think. I like laughed at me. 533 00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:18,600 Speaker 1: She's like, Zoey, what the is that? Anyway? I'm but 534 00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:23,920 Speaker 1: the with with the guy. He so before Mama got there, 535 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:26,880 Speaker 1: he I was sitting on the bench because they weren't 536 00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:29,520 Speaker 1: here yet, and I got here really early, um and 537 00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:32,600 Speaker 1: I saw him walk by and I was like, God, 538 00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:35,720 Speaker 1: damn it, he is going to say something to me later. 539 00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:39,520 Speaker 1: You always know because he because he walked by and 540 00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:42,840 Speaker 1: he got like, I'm not good with math. He got 541 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:45,720 Speaker 1: a good distance and he stopped and looked back and 542 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,240 Speaker 1: then kept going. And that's when I was like, and 543 00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,920 Speaker 1: so I was instagramming my friends being like this is 544 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:54,280 Speaker 1: going to happen. And then he came back. He started 545 00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:57,960 Speaker 1: talking to me, and then he just was saying I 546 00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 1: was really pretty, and then I was just like, okay, 547 00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:03,480 Speaker 1: thank you. And he's much older. Yeah, he was like 548 00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:08,640 Speaker 1: it was no even if even if like he wanted 549 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:12,200 Speaker 1: to pay my student loans, it's enough. I never understand. 550 00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:14,920 Speaker 1: I really never understand. I truly don't get it when 551 00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,800 Speaker 1: like older and I'm sorry, ugly guys like old men, 552 00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:22,200 Speaker 1: Like what do I call them? All these grossos out 553 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:27,160 Speaker 1: here and they're just there. I know, there's such grossos 554 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:29,600 Speaker 1: and they're so old and ugly, and like I'm like, 555 00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:31,840 Speaker 1: why do you how where did you get where did 556 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:35,640 Speaker 1: you get the confidence to approach me? Well, it's why 557 00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,080 Speaker 1: do you think that it's okay? Why do you think 558 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:39,800 Speaker 1: that it's okay to speak to me? I don't get 559 00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:43,680 Speaker 1: it because like I he asked, like what I did, 560 00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,200 Speaker 1: and then I didn't know I was. You get so 561 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:51,880 Speaker 1: like not flustered, the confused because you're processing that this 562 00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,360 Speaker 1: guy is just talking to you and so and I 563 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:57,120 Speaker 1: have That's the thing I need to work on. I 564 00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:02,480 Speaker 1: really hate lying to everybody and I know and like, 565 00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,720 Speaker 1: I mean, I was glad, I just don't like, oh, 566 00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,560 Speaker 1: I work with computers, and then he was It's not 567 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:11,880 Speaker 1: a full lie, but it was like enough where he 568 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,200 Speaker 1: was just like, oh, but I bet your talents like 569 00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,880 Speaker 1: being beautiful. Sometimes I like to tell men that I 570 00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,400 Speaker 1: like work at as like a mortician or something that 571 00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,040 Speaker 1: I work in a mortuary, Like what is the most 572 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:26,080 Speaker 1: like horrific? You know what I mean. But back to 573 00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 1: the mariachi on the street, he you also brought up. 574 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:33,880 Speaker 1: That's where the mobility aid conversation also came to play. Yeah, 575 00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:37,600 Speaker 1: he um. So it's a lot of for me. I've 576 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,520 Speaker 1: been using my aid for like a little bit over 577 00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:43,320 Speaker 1: a year. And that was a big confidence thing too, 578 00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:47,000 Speaker 1: because there's so much able is um and internalized able 579 00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:50,280 Speaker 1: ism where I don't want. I have the privilege that 580 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:54,239 Speaker 1: I can hide my disability so I can decide if 581 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,560 Speaker 1: it's safe for people to know. But with AID. It 582 00:32:56,640 --> 00:33:01,320 Speaker 1: makes me more visible to people. Um and like there's 583 00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:02,720 Speaker 1: a lot of stuff like I got my AID because 584 00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:04,560 Speaker 1: my ex and I were talking about it and he 585 00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:06,880 Speaker 1: was like you need it and like I want you 586 00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:08,040 Speaker 1: to have it, and he's like, you want me to 587 00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 1: get one too? So we match and I was like, no, 588 00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,720 Speaker 1: I'm fine because I used him as an aide. That 589 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:15,920 Speaker 1: was only perku dating him like cold his hand and 590 00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:20,360 Speaker 1: it would be my AID at the same time. But yeah, 591 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,160 Speaker 1: it was like he was always that was the thing too. 592 00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:26,360 Speaker 1: I cried once because I was like when I got it, 593 00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 1: and I was like, are you still going to hold 594 00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:30,880 Speaker 1: my hand when we walk when I use it? And 595 00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:33,680 Speaker 1: he was like, yeah, why are you asking this? Like 596 00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,600 Speaker 1: fu And I was like I just I know because 597 00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:38,080 Speaker 1: I never see it. Like that's the thing too. The 598 00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,920 Speaker 1: aids aren't really shown in a positive light with dating, 599 00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:43,920 Speaker 1: so I was like, what do I do? Can I 600 00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,680 Speaker 1: hold his hand or do I need to and it anymore? 601 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:50,560 Speaker 1: But um, I I've kind of regressed a bit back 602 00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:52,840 Speaker 1: since we've been broken up because now I'm back in 603 00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:56,200 Speaker 1: the dating world. And when I when I met my ex, 604 00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:58,520 Speaker 1: he already kind of knew about my disability and he 605 00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,760 Speaker 1: watched my channel a lot. I was gonna say, I 606 00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,080 Speaker 1: wanted to ask you something because I know that you're 607 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:07,360 Speaker 1: also a writer and you contribute to Fearce let you do. 608 00:34:07,600 --> 00:34:09,719 Speaker 1: And so you have a few articles, well one article 609 00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:14,160 Speaker 1: in particular where you talk about dating and your disability 610 00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:15,640 Speaker 1: and like what that's like for you. I don't know 611 00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:17,560 Speaker 1: if that's something you want to share and like talking 612 00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:19,800 Speaker 1: here on the show, I can do I can do that. 613 00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:23,560 Speaker 1: That article was about my first time having sex and 614 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:27,480 Speaker 1: it was with my ex and like my petty I'm 615 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:30,239 Speaker 1: little kidding, like my petty side. I almost sent him 616 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:34,080 Speaker 1: the article to be like hey, um, like I know 617 00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:36,400 Speaker 1: you're having a ship time right now, but like at 618 00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:38,279 Speaker 1: least something good came out of dating and I got 619 00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:41,680 Speaker 1: to fucking make money off of having sex with you, bish, 620 00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,160 Speaker 1: I got paid. What do you do and still work 621 00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,160 Speaker 1: in your job? That is like the pettiest thing I've 622 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,800 Speaker 1: heard in a while, Like right, and we hear a 623 00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,680 Speaker 1: lot of petty things. So can you talk about I mean, 624 00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:55,680 Speaker 1: if you're comfortable sharing like your experience dating and what's 625 00:34:55,680 --> 00:35:00,200 Speaker 1: it like, what is it like for you? I us 626 00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:02,920 Speaker 1: now starting to date again. I took just time like 627 00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:06,759 Speaker 1: focusing on work and paying stuff because I was just like, 628 00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:11,040 Speaker 1: I didn't want to really deal with anything at the moment. 629 00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,719 Speaker 1: And I was scared because since he knew everything and 630 00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:17,440 Speaker 1: my ex and he UM was really good at like 631 00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:19,359 Speaker 1: he was really good dating, like he was very good 632 00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,960 Speaker 1: at learning about my disability, never overstepping his boundaries and 633 00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:25,520 Speaker 1: the stuff. In my article, I had said, because I 634 00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:28,160 Speaker 1: wear bladder control pads and it still makes me weird 635 00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:31,320 Speaker 1: saying it out loud, but I have so many videos 636 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:34,560 Speaker 1: I can't really hide it. But that was my issue 637 00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:37,680 Speaker 1: on having sex with him, because I was like, he's 638 00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:40,200 Speaker 1: going to see these pads. It's not like I can 639 00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:44,080 Speaker 1: hide them. I wear them every day. UM. And leading 640 00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:45,960 Speaker 1: up to it, I we were going to watch a 641 00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,120 Speaker 1: movie and I told him about it and I was 642 00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:50,560 Speaker 1: crying because he thought I was going to like say 643 00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:53,960 Speaker 1: something like that I've been like cheating or whatever, and 644 00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,239 Speaker 1: I was just like, I wear these pads and I did. 645 00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:58,279 Speaker 1: This is why I didn't want to have sex yet, 646 00:35:58,320 --> 00:35:59,839 Speaker 1: because I didn't know if you would find it grow. 647 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,680 Speaker 1: And he I will give him credit, he had the 648 00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:05,719 Speaker 1: best response to it. He was like I already knew 649 00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:07,719 Speaker 1: and I was like how do you know? And he's like, 650 00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:10,600 Speaker 1: you have a video, an old one about it. But 651 00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,640 Speaker 1: I was just waiting for you to tell me. So 652 00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,279 Speaker 1: would so he was he was watching he would watch 653 00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:19,080 Speaker 1: your videos before you guys started dating. Yeah, well, because 654 00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:21,600 Speaker 1: I would you consider him like a was he like 655 00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,800 Speaker 1: a follower, you know, And he's a musician. He's a drummer. 656 00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:33,759 Speaker 1: This is why it didn't work out. Musicians. We're still 657 00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:38,160 Speaker 1: we're still we both are still paying for Yes, we are. 658 00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:42,000 Speaker 1: Well I'm joining that club because I don't laugh like 659 00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:46,520 Speaker 1: that of it. But my last visit laughed through the 660 00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:50,640 Speaker 1: pain the same, right, laughing instead of crying moments. I 661 00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:54,239 Speaker 1: just joked through it all. I'm sorry, do you have 662 00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:56,080 Speaker 1: because we have a rule that we really are not 663 00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:59,680 Speaker 1: supposed to date. We're not as a datorhook up with 664 00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:02,400 Speaker 1: our senners for like followers, Why do you make the 665 00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,960 Speaker 1: phase that you have because I have. I'm just laughing 666 00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:09,120 Speaker 1: because I'm like, there's podcast listeners and followers, and then 667 00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:13,840 Speaker 1: there's like I followers. I think when it gets blurry 668 00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:17,600 Speaker 1: when they've usually what I have seen them due to 669 00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:22,040 Speaker 1: my life. The line actually something that you wanted to 670 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:24,200 Speaker 1: ask earlier, and I forgot, but I'm gonna ask now 671 00:37:24,280 --> 00:37:27,000 Speaker 1: because I think it's interesting going back to the talking 672 00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:32,600 Speaker 1: and texting, and you mentioned that that was like an 673 00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:37,319 Speaker 1: invention by disabled people for and then now we all 674 00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:40,480 Speaker 1: utilize it. And then you were also talking about like streets, 675 00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:43,520 Speaker 1: like enhancements on the streets and like the things that 676 00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,560 Speaker 1: disabled individuals have put into place, like all of us 677 00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:51,240 Speaker 1: benefit from it. Yeah, but um, there's a little saying 678 00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:55,320 Speaker 1: that accessibility benefits everybody, Like if you make things accessible, 679 00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:59,279 Speaker 1: it's going to help everyone, regardless if they're disabled or not. 680 00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:03,919 Speaker 1: And they're simple things to Like a lot of times 681 00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:07,440 Speaker 1: people make fun of those gadgets that are like as 682 00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:11,319 Speaker 1: seen on TV. But those gadgets of majority of the time, 683 00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:14,600 Speaker 1: we're intentionally for disabled people. But if you market it 684 00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,480 Speaker 1: to them, the price goes up because it's seen as 685 00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:21,320 Speaker 1: a medical so they market it like that. So that 686 00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:24,200 Speaker 1: like the slap chop that was for people who don't 687 00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:28,200 Speaker 1: have the dexterity to chop with their hairs. Um, snuggies 688 00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:33,239 Speaker 1: were made for wheelchair users because the point was that 689 00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:35,320 Speaker 1: you could have a full blanket on you but not 690 00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:39,840 Speaker 1: get it caught in your wheels. But then people always 691 00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:42,239 Speaker 1: like go to. There's one right now that's going around 692 00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:44,839 Speaker 1: people are making fun of where it's helping you put 693 00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:48,920 Speaker 1: on your socks, and everyone's go to is just to 694 00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:50,960 Speaker 1: make fun of it, Like who needs that? That's lazy? 695 00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:55,439 Speaker 1: You never think that, like it's a disabled item, that's 696 00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:58,640 Speaker 1: just sneakily disabled. I have no idea. I don't know 697 00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:01,880 Speaker 1: that either. But even in the recent band of straws 698 00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:06,200 Speaker 1: has been a conversation because the percentage of the landfill 699 00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:10,160 Speaker 1: is like very small in comparison to everything else, right, 700 00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:14,280 Speaker 1: Like I have a video of wh tell that? Because 701 00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:17,319 Speaker 1: everyone brings up alternatives and I use a metal straw, 702 00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,239 Speaker 1: I don't for myself with my disability, I have no 703 00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:23,799 Speaker 1: issues with alternative straws. But a lot of people keep 704 00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:27,600 Speaker 1: saying all these alternatives, but disabled people keep educating me 705 00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,840 Speaker 1: like these alternatives aren't safe for us. A lot of 706 00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:34,560 Speaker 1: the ones that like biodegrade, a lot of disabled people 707 00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,480 Speaker 1: take a long time to drink, so it bio degrades, 708 00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:40,279 Speaker 1: it can cause choking hazards, um a lot of the 709 00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:43,719 Speaker 1: little dysentery into yeah, and then a lot of like 710 00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:47,320 Speaker 1: the metal ones, people have allergies to that. There's like 711 00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:50,719 Speaker 1: corn and pasta ones. Um, people have allergies to that. 712 00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:54,880 Speaker 1: And so also the straw was a disabled invention. It 713 00:39:54,960 --> 00:40:00,200 Speaker 1: was only available in hospitals, um, and so there's that's 714 00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:02,920 Speaker 1: like a conversation that there's an issue where able people 715 00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:06,440 Speaker 1: will take stuff that's made for us and they'll abuse it, 716 00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:09,200 Speaker 1: and then that's where it becomes a problem. But then 717 00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:13,440 Speaker 1: we're victimized for using it. And then there's the argument, well, 718 00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:17,000 Speaker 1: you can just ask for a straw if you need it, 719 00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,600 Speaker 1: but that comes with harassment. We already get harassed if 720 00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:23,239 Speaker 1: no one believing our disabilities, and so if we were 721 00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:26,719 Speaker 1: to ask and we don't look like we need it, 722 00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:30,839 Speaker 1: they're they're going to start guilt tripping us. And yeah, 723 00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:33,759 Speaker 1: so it's like and I mean, I got that video 724 00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:36,600 Speaker 1: cut so much like hate from people because they weren't listening, 725 00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:39,400 Speaker 1: because I was like, I was like, we can find like, 726 00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:44,520 Speaker 1: let's find like ways to maybe improve our recycling of them, 727 00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,719 Speaker 1: but like work with disabled people to do that. Don't 728 00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:52,520 Speaker 1: make these decisions without including us. Because people got mad 729 00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:54,480 Speaker 1: and I said, this can cause people to die, a 730 00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:56,880 Speaker 1: lot of these things lead to death, and they're like, 731 00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:01,960 Speaker 1: you're exaggerating, and I'm like, I'm not Yeah, I'm sorry, 732 00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:03,400 Speaker 1: go ahead. I'm like I was just gonna say, and 733 00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:06,560 Speaker 1: that's like what people fail. They think we're just we're 734 00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:10,320 Speaker 1: being over dramatic or like an s g W that 735 00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:13,280 Speaker 1: I get constant in my videos right when you're stating 736 00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:16,680 Speaker 1: a need that you know your community needs. So, UM, 737 00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:18,800 Speaker 1: I think we're coming to an end. But I wanted 738 00:41:18,840 --> 00:41:23,800 Speaker 1: to um and on a note that our listeners um or, 739 00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:25,359 Speaker 1: I want to ask this question. I'm want to pose 740 00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:28,759 Speaker 1: this question to you, UM for everyone listening. What are 741 00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,759 Speaker 1: ways that we can be allies to folks in the 742 00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:35,000 Speaker 1: disabled community or folks with any type of disabilities. What 743 00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:38,200 Speaker 1: are some ways that we can use our to be 744 00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:41,839 Speaker 1: to be allies or accomplices. And and I want to add, 745 00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:45,239 Speaker 1: especially if you identify as Latino X, because you did 746 00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:48,640 Speaker 1: mention that there's an element of just like disbelief that 747 00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:52,279 Speaker 1: disability even exists, like in Latino X communities. Yeah, I 748 00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:55,840 Speaker 1: find in like the English, like I guess white community, 749 00:41:56,120 --> 00:42:00,760 Speaker 1: it's not perfect at all, um, but the more willing 750 00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:03,799 Speaker 1: to be like, okay they're disabled, and like at least 751 00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:07,320 Speaker 1: kind of have a conversation. But in the Latino community, 752 00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:09,480 Speaker 1: I find like no one wants to talk about it. 753 00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:12,080 Speaker 1: I don't know how to explain my disability in Spanish 754 00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:15,600 Speaker 1: because I was never taught the words to explain it. UM. 755 00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:17,600 Speaker 1: I don't know if that was intentional or maybe my 756 00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:21,680 Speaker 1: parents just also didn't know what to say UM. But 757 00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:25,360 Speaker 1: that also leads to just I can't I feel like 758 00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:30,120 Speaker 1: in Latin X spaces, I can't ask for accommodations because 759 00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:32,879 Speaker 1: I don't think it will be understood as easy as 760 00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:35,600 Speaker 1: if I was just in a non Latin X space. 761 00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:38,880 Speaker 1: So for for ally ship, right, I mean that's important 762 00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:42,839 Speaker 1: for folks that like organize events, organized parties, whatever, whatever 763 00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:46,279 Speaker 1: type of the work the organizers do, like also take 764 00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:50,040 Speaker 1: into taking into account accessibility and if you're not sure, 765 00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:54,840 Speaker 1: like ask a disabled person to make me help um honously, 766 00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:59,279 Speaker 1: Like not every accessibility tool I need or whatever I 767 00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:02,520 Speaker 1: suggest will be for everyone, but like there's like standards 768 00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:06,919 Speaker 1: like have an interpreter, have someone that's open captioning, because 769 00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:10,120 Speaker 1: not every person that's deaf can that knows American Sign 770 00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:14,480 Speaker 1: language UM, and then having like reserve disabled seating at 771 00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:16,719 Speaker 1: the front because a lot of people put it at 772 00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:19,640 Speaker 1: the back and it's like we can't see anything. And 773 00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:23,120 Speaker 1: then a lot of times. Wheelchair accessibility for where they 774 00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,320 Speaker 1: can be is always at the back and so no 775 00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:28,720 Speaker 1: one can see anything. Um and if you have staff 776 00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:33,960 Speaker 1: at an event, have them educate on like what that 777 00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:36,520 Speaker 1: there's a diversity of something that might use this. Now 778 00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:41,359 Speaker 1: I'm like even thinking like for like show, Oh my god, 779 00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:45,319 Speaker 1: what if we had what if we had a sign 780 00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:49,439 Speaker 1: language interpreter there? I think that that's the great idea. 781 00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:53,960 Speaker 1: Thoughts are being thought. I love it, so please share 782 00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:56,360 Speaker 1: with everybody as we as we end. Thank you so 783 00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:58,960 Speaker 1: much for being here today, Like I love this conversation. 784 00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:03,080 Speaker 1: We have not discuss disability on the podcast yet, so 785 00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:05,200 Speaker 1: thank you so much for bringing all of your knowledge 786 00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:08,120 Speaker 1: and experience and artistry and everything you do. Where can 787 00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:10,680 Speaker 1: our listeners find you and support you and follow you 788 00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:13,680 Speaker 1: and read your stuff and watch your videos. You can 789 00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:16,760 Speaker 1: find me mostly on YouTube. All my links to everything 790 00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:19,560 Speaker 1: else is on my YouTube, and so it's just YouTube 791 00:44:19,600 --> 00:44:23,960 Speaker 1: dot com, slash Andrea low Cell and then um, my 792 00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:28,000 Speaker 1: handles are all Andrea Loves except for my Facebook page 793 00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:31,879 Speaker 1: it's and andreall assault Okay, because for some reason someone 794 00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:35,880 Speaker 1: took my name rude and we'll be tagging you and everything. 795 00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:39,400 Speaker 1: We'll tag her so you can find her her YouTube 796 00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:42,680 Speaker 1: and her I G and all that good stuff. So well, 797 00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:45,120 Speaker 1: thank you so much for being here, and thank you 798 00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,520 Speaker 1: to our locomotives for tuning in once again to another 799 00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:51,120 Speaker 1: Capital Radio. 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