1 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: Welcome back to a new episode of Couch Talks. Everybody. 2 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: If you are newer to the podcast, Couch Talks is 3 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: a Q and A episode that comes out every single 4 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 1: Wednesday where I usually answer questions that you guys send 5 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 1: into me and I'm usually doing the answering. But this 6 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:32,919 Speaker 1: week we have a special guest. She's back again, Kenzie Todd. Welcome, 7 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:35,920 Speaker 1: thank you. And what I did is I put out 8 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: a little message on Instagram and ask you guys if 9 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: you had any questions for Kenzie after listening to the 10 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: episode that we put out on Monday, and I got 11 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: some questions and I chose three. Now, usually I only 12 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,880 Speaker 1: do two questions on these days, but we're going to 13 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 1: try to get through three of them. So what we're 14 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: gonna do is I'm going to ask them to Kenzie 15 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: and we're just gonna let this fly. What's it feel 16 00:00:56,480 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: like to be back on the podcast? Just I love it. 17 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: I love talking to you. Any excuse I can get, 18 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 1: let's just get into it. We're gonna go straight into 19 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:08,959 Speaker 1: it with question number one. So the first question, and 20 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:11,640 Speaker 1: I actually got this more than once, and I've had 21 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:13,840 Speaker 1: a couple of people ask me this question from my 22 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:15,960 Speaker 1: perspective too, so I think it's cool to have you 23 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 1: answer it in another angle. But the question generally was 24 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: what advice would you give someone to start a dream business. 25 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: It's such a good question. I have multiple different answers 26 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 1: for this one. The first thing I would say is 27 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 1: make sure you're doing the dream job on the side 28 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:34,080 Speaker 1: um or the dream business. I would say, especially if 29 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: you want to get into a totally different industry, make 30 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:38,320 Speaker 1: sure you test the waters first before you just jump 31 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: ship and start your life all over, which is a 32 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:42,680 Speaker 1: wonderful thing to do. Just make sure that you know 33 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 1: what you're getting into before you do it. And then 34 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:46,880 Speaker 1: the other thing would be to make sure you have 35 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 1: six months of a reserve and make sure. My best 36 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: advice to you don't go into debt to start your business. 37 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: Make sure you started on cash. If you start in debt, 38 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 1: it's gonna be really hard to get out of it, 39 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: and then you're gonna be basically just drowning for years 40 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: and years and years to come. So I would say, 41 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:05,560 Speaker 1: build enough of a reserve, a minimum six months of cash, 42 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:08,079 Speaker 1: so that if you don't get paid or doesn't take 43 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: off the way that you thought it would, you're safe. Um, 44 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: you're comfortable or not stressed, because then that will impact 45 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: everything else, and I'll just snowball. And the other thing 46 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 1: is to make sure if you can to start your 47 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: business on cash so that you're not stressed out again. 48 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:23,359 Speaker 1: Financial stress can be very debilitating coming from a personal experience, 49 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 1: so I would just really encourage you to do that. 50 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: And then the third thing would be to make sure 51 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 1: that you have people around you that are really really 52 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 1: wise and specific areas. For example, make sure ever a 53 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 1: really good accountant and c p A. Make sure you 54 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:37,920 Speaker 1: have somebody that's really good at marketing that can help you. 55 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: Make sure you have somebody that's really good at strategy. Um, 56 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:42,640 Speaker 1: if you're not good at all those things, find people 57 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: that are, whether those are friends, family, or individuals that 58 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: you end up hiring to do those things. Make sure 59 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: you have that because you can't do it all. And 60 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 1: so make sure that you are well and prepared before 61 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: you just dive into it, because like I said, you'll 62 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: just probably keep drowning. And then just do it. I 63 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:00,679 Speaker 1: really encourage you to do it because it's the best. Yeah. 64 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 1: I like the last part because well, some people I 65 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:06,080 Speaker 1: guess can do this, but most of us are not 66 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 1: gifted in every single area of a business. That's why 67 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: there are different jobs, and so it can be so 68 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: overwhelming if you have to do everything. And I know, 69 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 1: for me, the like the money and the like legal 70 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 1: aspects of things really freak me out because I don't 71 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:21,960 Speaker 1: I mean, I used to have a fear that I 72 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:25,520 Speaker 1: was always going to be like arrested for like not 73 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:28,080 Speaker 1: doing something correctly. Not because I like lied, but like 74 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: what if I missed something on my taxes or I 75 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 1: I filed something wrong or And so I'm not gifted 76 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 1: in that. I didn't go to school for that. I 77 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: went to school for something very specific. And so I'm 78 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 1: a dreamer. I'm a seven, and so I can have 79 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: all these big ideas, but to make them come to 80 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: life stresses me out. And I think that's what a 81 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 1: lot of people who I know, you're not a seven, 82 00:03:46,600 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: but a lot of people who have big ideas for 83 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: businesses are sevens, and and it can be very overwhelming, 84 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 1: and then we just don't do anything. Yeah, I would 85 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 1: just I mean, it's always the fear of not doing 86 00:03:58,000 --> 00:03:59,640 Speaker 1: something that really can push you to do it, which 87 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 1: is eight. But at the same time, you want to 88 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: be really realistic because I think it looks really easy, like, 89 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I just want to start a business 90 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: or I want to do my dream job, which are 91 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: all great and valuable, and you should have the courage 92 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: to do those things. But anyone that's still around and 93 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,240 Speaker 1: still running a business will tell you kind of do 94 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: things that either I did that work or things that 95 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 1: I didn't do and wish I had done. Two of 96 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: those things I did. I started on cash. I didn't 97 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: start on any loans or investors or anything like that. 98 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 1: And I had six months of a reserve, so that 99 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 1: by the time I was so exhausted from doing my 100 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: building my business at four am in the morning and 101 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: after work and on the weekends, um, I could leave 102 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 1: my job and I could not get paid, which I 103 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 1: didn't get paid for about four to six months. So 104 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: it's really important to make sure that you can pay 105 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: all your bills and live your life and have money. 106 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 1: The thing that I didn't really do was have all 107 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: these really wise people in all those areas, and I 108 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:53,919 Speaker 1: did that as soon as I could. Yeah, So it 109 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:56,159 Speaker 1: sounds like patients is something that you need. Yes, you 110 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 1: need to be patient because it's going to take I 111 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 1: mean the biggest thing that I always the remember of, Like, man, 112 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:03,320 Speaker 1: there's days around like I wish I was making more 113 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:04,839 Speaker 1: money and I wish that I was here, and I 114 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 1: have all these like financial goals and then I kind 115 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:09,640 Speaker 1: of stop and go, Wait, my business that I created 116 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: is paying my bills, and like, I'm making a salary 117 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 1: through something that I created, and that's really cool. And 118 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:17,800 Speaker 1: regardless of the number, that is something that I look 119 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 1: at and I'm very proud of. So, you know, it's 120 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: really cool to be able to do that. So I 121 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 1: always remember to take things in perspective and just be 122 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 1: really really patient and you know, really just like strong 123 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:30,719 Speaker 1: in your pursuit of your dream because those things should 124 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,240 Speaker 1: never deter you, but you should make sure that those 125 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:35,720 Speaker 1: things are in line so that you can be your 126 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 1: best version and you can continue to grow your business 127 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:40,479 Speaker 1: because trust me, once you're in it, you are treading 128 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: water and you're drowning for for a few years, which 129 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 1: is what I feel like I am still doing sometimes. 130 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:48,039 Speaker 1: But I do feel like I am in a much 131 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:50,720 Speaker 1: better situation than I was when I started. Yeah, well, 132 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 1: thank you, that's great advice, great question. Okay, So then 133 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 1: number two, and that's is actually when I think I've 134 00:05:56,520 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: gotten for myself too. I don't think I've answered it 135 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: on here, but it is. What is it like working 136 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:04,400 Speaker 1: in the fitness industry body image wise? As in, do 137 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:06,760 Speaker 1: you feel pressure to look a certain way or not 138 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: look a certain way? That's a very powerful question, you know. 139 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: I think it really depends on where you work, depending 140 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: on how you feel about your body. I will say 141 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 1: that when I started four and a half years ago, 142 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:23,039 Speaker 1: I definitely felt pressure to look a certain way. And 143 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 1: then when I got in it and I was able 144 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:27,719 Speaker 1: to create help be a part of creating a brand, 145 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: I don't feel that pressure at all because at full 146 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: Rade we get to set the tone of how people feel, 147 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: and so I think there's something so liberating as a female, 148 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: especially to ride in a sports spraw regardless of what 149 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: I ate the night before or if it's that time 150 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:46,279 Speaker 1: of month. I feel so comfortable at Ford. Now. Do 151 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: I feel that way at other places? No, because I 152 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:50,600 Speaker 1: think it does depend on where you are and what 153 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: tone is set in that specific environment. But I will 154 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: say working in the fitness industry has its ups and downs, 155 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:00,520 Speaker 1: for sure, especially being a part of a brand and 156 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:03,840 Speaker 1: and being an owner of that brand. I think at thirty, 157 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 1: I feel very confident in who I am and I 158 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:09,120 Speaker 1: know that I've earned the place in my life now 159 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: with with my body. But I can definitely tell you, 160 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: in all truth and honesty that it's not always been 161 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: this way. So um, now I feel very confident. I 162 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: feel like I can look a certain way and whatever, 163 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 1: and I'm just like, this is who I am and 164 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: this is how my body is, and I just I 165 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: try to always make sure I'm thanking my body for 166 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: what it's doing, because it's literally getting me through twelve 167 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 1: classes a week and getting me from point A to 168 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 1: point B. But there are ups and downs with being 169 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: in the fitness industry. But my biggest encouragement to anyone 170 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 1: that's in it or is wanting to get in it, 171 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: and it is kind of worried about that would be 172 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: pay attention to what brand you're representing and how they 173 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: make you feel, because it's going to then affect everybody 174 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: else that comes in those doors. So kind of long 175 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 1: winded version. I don't feel pressure to look a certain 176 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 1: way I used to, and I don't feel pressure being 177 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: in the fitness energy to look a certain way because, 178 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: as Cat says, all bodies are good days, and so 179 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 1: it really doesn't matter what you look like, and that's 180 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: not our end goal at full ride. It's not. Yes, 181 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: your cardiovascular is improving every single time you come in, 182 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 1: you're getting stronger, you're building muscle um, you're burning calories, 183 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: all those things, those languages that we don't use that 184 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 1: language of for ride. But at the end of the day, 185 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 1: we're working our head and our hearts a lot more 186 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: and that's our priority. And there for the pressure of 187 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 1: looking in a certain way, just it doesn't exist for me. 188 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: And I don't know, I can't speak for everybody, but 189 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 1: that's at least how I feel. I agree so much 190 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 1: with what you said in that in the sense of 191 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 1: even me like this is what I do for a 192 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 1: living is body image work, and I can be super 193 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: confident and and love my body and appreciate it. And 194 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:41,200 Speaker 1: I still have bad days, like bad body image days, 195 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 1: but I have not once ever at full Ride felt 196 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 1: insecure about what I look like. And I agree I 197 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: don't always feel that going into other environments. I think 198 00:08:50,920 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 1: there's something to be said as anywhere you go, there 199 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: you are. So I'm taking my own feelings into any area, 200 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:59,120 Speaker 1: but there are some environments that just don't have the 201 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: same presentation of of what their goals are. And I've 202 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: never once heard in a full eyed class anything about 203 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:10,520 Speaker 1: food or weight or working certain muscles to get them 204 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 1: to look a different way. It's like, yeah, I want 205 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 1: you to feel this muscle right now, but it's not 206 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 1: feel this muscle getting bigger. So people can see it 207 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 1: when you take your shirt off, exactly, And I think 208 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 1: that has a huge impact on the quality of not 209 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: only the workout that somebody gets, but like the quality 210 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:30,320 Speaker 1: of how they feel in that space. So thank you 211 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:33,440 Speaker 1: for helping create that environment, and thank you for saying that, 212 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:36,240 Speaker 1: because for anybody who is I work with a lot 213 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:38,360 Speaker 1: of people aspiring to work in fitness and a lot 214 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:41,079 Speaker 1: of people that work in fitness, and it is hard. 215 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:43,840 Speaker 1: And that a question that I've gotten a couple of times, 216 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:46,640 Speaker 1: and I've I've welcomed it in sessions of like what's 217 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:49,920 Speaker 1: it like not looking like the typical fitness instructor and 218 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 1: being a face in the natural fitness community. And for 219 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 1: me it's the same. It wasn't always this way, but 220 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: like what am I my things like? I don't think 221 00:09:57,640 --> 00:10:00,480 Speaker 1: about it anymore because where I'm going and that's not 222 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:03,600 Speaker 1: a thought we have. So if you are really really 223 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: insecure about that thought, yes, there's work to do within 224 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 1: yourself and also be very careful where you're spending your time. 225 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:12,199 Speaker 1: So that's yeah. Amen. Amen. If you have to think 226 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 1: about putting makeup on or you know, wearing a cute 227 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: workout outfit, now, everybody loves to feel good. You know, 228 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with putting on makeup to work out. 229 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:24,200 Speaker 1: I wear a maskara and I cover up my circles 230 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 1: when I teach because they're you know, they're very big, 231 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:28,839 Speaker 1: and you know, I like, everyone likes acute the workoutfit 232 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:30,679 Speaker 1: and it makes you feel good. But if as long 233 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:33,640 Speaker 1: as you're doing it to make yourself feel good, you're okay. 234 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 1: But if you're doing it to impress others in that 235 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: workout class, or if you're doing it to be seen 236 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 1: to fit in yes, or to fit in big Red Flag, 237 00:10:41,760 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: don't go there anymore. Take some time back, reassess what 238 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: your needs are, what your goals are, and make sure 239 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 1: that you're around the language that's needed. Now. Not everybody 240 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 1: needs that, but I'm I'm somebody who has struggled with 241 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,200 Speaker 1: body image issues in my past, and so I know 242 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: how to protect myself in the right way, and I 243 00:10:56,640 --> 00:10:58,720 Speaker 1: know not to get caught up in certain things. So 244 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:01,520 Speaker 1: I avoid certain places to work out in Nashville because 245 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:05,720 Speaker 1: of that or wherever. And no workout is worth making 246 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 1: yourself feel like crap, exactly. I don't care how many 247 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:11,200 Speaker 1: calories you burn in that workout. It's not worth it 248 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,640 Speaker 1: if if you have anxiety going in and you leave 249 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:17,280 Speaker 1: feeling less about yourself than when you walked in. Exactly. Yeah, 250 00:11:17,360 --> 00:11:19,200 Speaker 1: And I feel like one lass note that's really important 251 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:21,320 Speaker 1: that I was thinking about when we talked last week. 252 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 1: Is like for those that I have struggled with body 253 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 1: image or do, I guess my best advice to you 254 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:27,840 Speaker 1: as someone who is in the industry, but also just 255 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:30,320 Speaker 1: as a thirty year old female is like I have 256 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: found that. So I used to restrict myself when I 257 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 1: lived in l A. I wanted to look a certain 258 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:36,960 Speaker 1: way and I would need ice cream. I never writ burgers, 259 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 1: you know, No, I didn't eat anything that was not 260 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:44,079 Speaker 1: being healthy. I moved to Nashville and my entire perspective 261 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 1: on life changed, and I started eating ice cream and 262 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 1: burgers and things real food, and my body looks better 263 00:11:51,200 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: now than it did when I starved myself or when 264 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 1: I deprived myself or whatever it was. And I really 265 00:11:56,920 --> 00:12:00,079 Speaker 1: believe it's because I'm happy, Like I'm genuinely happy e 266 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: and I have really healthy relationships and I have, you know, 267 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 1: just all these things, and I just I want to 268 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: say that because I feel like you can restrict yourself 269 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:12,200 Speaker 1: and you can work out three times a day, but 270 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 1: if you're not happy, your body is never going to 271 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: get there because it's never going to be in its 272 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 1: natural state, you know. So I just want to say 273 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:20,840 Speaker 1: that because your body was probably on fight or flight 274 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 1: the whole time. The other thing is a lot of 275 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:26,200 Speaker 1: body image work is how you actually feel about yourself. 276 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:30,560 Speaker 1: So we see ourselves through the interceptive messages that we 277 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:32,840 Speaker 1: have inside of our body. So if I'm feeling really 278 00:12:32,840 --> 00:12:34,920 Speaker 1: crappy about myself, the picture that I'm gonna see in 279 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 1: the mirror is going to be crap. If I feel confident, 280 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: if I feel happy, if I'm treating my body, kind 281 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: of picture I'm going to see in the mirror is 282 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 1: going to be something that I like because I like 283 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:46,560 Speaker 1: how I feel on the inside and that's not made 284 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:50,360 Speaker 1: up like Wi Wu therapy like self love talk, that's science, 285 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 1: and your eyes see things differently when you have a 286 00:12:53,480 --> 00:12:56,920 Speaker 1: better relationship with them. So that's why I always say 287 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 1: with people, it's like you can like see a guy 288 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:01,400 Speaker 1: or a girl, I'm not attracted to them, I'm never 289 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: going to date them, and then you get to know 290 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:04,160 Speaker 1: them and they're like, oh my god, I'm in love 291 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 1: with this person because you get to know the person 292 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 1: and you have a kind relationship with them and you 293 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:12,439 Speaker 1: see them differently, And that is what happens with our 294 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:15,840 Speaker 1: body image. And that's but the body image distortion is 295 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:17,840 Speaker 1: we see what we feel. So if you walk into 296 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:20,679 Speaker 1: a place that feels unkind and you've been restricting your 297 00:13:20,720 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 1: body and you've been restricting what you eat and you've 298 00:13:22,640 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 1: been over exercising, you are going to find everything wrong 299 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: that you can with your body, and you might even 300 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:29,960 Speaker 1: see it a different size than it really is. But 301 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 1: when we have a kind relationship with ourselves and we 302 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:34,839 Speaker 1: feel supported and loving, we look in the mirror and 303 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:36,960 Speaker 1: we see something that we love. It is that easy. 304 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:41,040 Speaker 1: So yeah, exactly, yeah, and I am an example of that. 305 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:44,160 Speaker 1: All right, So last question. We're getting through all of 306 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 1: them today. So this one of course I love this 307 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:49,640 Speaker 1: one too, because it's about therapy. I started going to 308 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: therapy recently, and I'm struggling to stay engaged because it 309 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 1: seems like it can be more painful than helpful at times. 310 00:13:56,440 --> 00:13:58,360 Speaker 1: I'm not sure if that is normal. But what I 311 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:00,240 Speaker 1: want to know is what has been the hardest part 312 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:02,560 Speaker 1: and the best part about going to therapy for you? 313 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:05,240 Speaker 1: And my interpretation of this question is they want to 314 00:14:05,280 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 1: know your experience because they don't know if the like 315 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:11,040 Speaker 1: painful parts are normal. Yes, the painful parts are very normal. 316 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 1: I've been in therapy since I was nineteen, on and off. 317 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: I'm back in it again in two different forms. One 318 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,400 Speaker 1: my boyfriend and I are seeing a therapist together, and 319 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:21,240 Speaker 1: then the other form is I'm doing it on my own. 320 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:23,880 Speaker 1: The painful parts are really hard. I will get off 321 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:25,880 Speaker 1: a session and I'll be sad for a few days 322 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: with my counselor um after I've talked to her and 323 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:31,840 Speaker 1: I'm feeling it, and it's just that's the hardest part 324 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 1: about it. But it's also the most beautiful and best 325 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 1: part about it, because I'm actually again feeling these things 326 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 1: that I probably don't even I honestly don't recognize until 327 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 1: I I sit down and talk with her. And I 328 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 1: think a lot of times too in therapy, we think, oh, 329 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 1: I have nothing to talk about. I really I don't 330 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 1: need the session. I'm not going to spend the money 331 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:50,440 Speaker 1: this week. I really don't need it. And then you 332 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 1: sit down and you're just word WoT it. And then 333 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:54,840 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, as you verbally expressed to somebody 334 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 1: who doesn't know your family, you know, doesn't know the 335 00:14:57,160 --> 00:15:01,560 Speaker 1: intricacies of your life, is so you know biased to you, 336 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:04,280 Speaker 1: you start to figure out while talking with him, you 337 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:06,840 Speaker 1: know how you actually feel or what's going on, and 338 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:10,200 Speaker 1: they help you make sense of those feelings and then 339 00:15:10,240 --> 00:15:12,960 Speaker 1: give you the tools so that three days later, when 340 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,320 Speaker 1: you're going through it again, you can hear that voice 341 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:17,520 Speaker 1: in your head. And one of my girlfriends and I 342 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: were talking about this because she and her boyfriend are 343 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:23,200 Speaker 1: in counseling as well, and they hear the name of 344 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:25,320 Speaker 1: their counselor they go, oh, you know, so and so 345 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 1: would say this, and it's surematically changing their relationships. So 346 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: I would just say, it's totally worth the work, and 347 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:36,360 Speaker 1: it's you're getting tools and resources to deal with your life, 348 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 1: and everyone needs to be in therapy everybody, no matter 349 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:43,480 Speaker 1: what you've been through, because you're getting these these incredible 350 00:15:43,520 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: tools to help you live your life and be the 351 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:48,240 Speaker 1: best version of you. It's just like my version of like, 352 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 1: if you don't want to be in therapy, you're okay, 353 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:54,520 Speaker 1: just staying stuck where you are, And unfortunately that's just 354 00:15:54,720 --> 00:15:56,760 Speaker 1: I don't think that that's any way to live. So 355 00:15:56,840 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 1: stick through it and feel the painful parts, because normally 356 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 1: when I talk to my counselor, I'm pretty sad for 357 00:16:02,320 --> 00:16:05,080 Speaker 1: a few days after, and that's totally normal. Two things 358 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 1: I want to add to that. Therapy Usually, if you're 359 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 1: doing it right, it gets worse before it gets better. 360 00:16:10,480 --> 00:16:14,440 Speaker 1: Like you go through a like digging up part where 361 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 1: you are just like digging a hole into all of 362 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:18,400 Speaker 1: the stuff that you've held that you don't need a 363 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 1: hold anymore, and you're just making it real and open, 364 00:16:21,920 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 1: and then you do the work of climbing out of 365 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:26,640 Speaker 1: the hole. So the good thing is you're climbing out 366 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 1: of the hole and there's gonna be joy and gladness 367 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: on the other side. And we can't selectively numb our emotions. 368 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 1: So if we just want to act like everything's fine, 369 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:38,120 Speaker 1: that's okay, but you're going to be at this like 370 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 1: I guess like a standstill. What you're talking about, your stuck. 371 00:16:42,040 --> 00:16:44,120 Speaker 1: It's you might not be feeling really really sad, but 372 00:16:44,160 --> 00:16:46,720 Speaker 1: where is your level of joy, Where is your level 373 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 1: of gladness, where is your level of gratitude. It's going 374 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:51,080 Speaker 1: to be at the same level that your pain is 375 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:54,000 Speaker 1: at because you're numbing and you can't just choose certain 376 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: emotions to like I don't want that, I don't want 377 00:16:56,480 --> 00:17:00,239 Speaker 1: that you're feeling or you're not feeling. So I will say, like, yeah, 378 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:03,320 Speaker 1: this makes me think of that like quote of what 379 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:07,160 Speaker 1: is it the good and hard thing? The good days 380 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:11,800 Speaker 1: are the hard days, and they're good because they're hard advice. Yeah, yeah, 381 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:14,320 Speaker 1: that makes me think of that because like, yeah, therapy 382 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: is hard, and digging up that stuff is hard, but 383 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,520 Speaker 1: it's gonna be good in the end because you're going 384 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:21,320 Speaker 1: to climb out of the hole that you sometimes you 385 00:17:21,320 --> 00:17:24,720 Speaker 1: don't know you're in. Yeah, honestly, I still to this day, 386 00:17:24,760 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 1: when I was nineteen when I started therapy for the 387 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:28,720 Speaker 1: first time, when I was living in California, was in college, 388 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 1: that man change my life and I still think of 389 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:33,160 Speaker 1: the things that he told me, and I say those 390 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: things in class sometimes and you know, I will call 391 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:37,880 Speaker 1: him every once in a while just because he knew me, 392 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:40,960 Speaker 1: you know, over a decade ago. Those things are still 393 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:45,720 Speaker 1: dramatically impacting my life in a really beautiful way. So yeah, 394 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 1: you're a right, like, you've gotta you gotta go through it, 395 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,400 Speaker 1: and it it's really rough before it gets so much better. 396 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:54,159 Speaker 1: But that's normal. It's normal to answer that person's question. 397 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:57,800 Speaker 1: All right, Well we got through them all. Thank you 398 00:17:57,840 --> 00:18:02,320 Speaker 1: for doing this. Anything you want to add, no, no, great. 399 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: I love talking about these things. I love talking about 400 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:08,800 Speaker 1: feelings and career and all that. So I'm always here 401 00:18:08,840 --> 00:18:11,119 Speaker 1: anytime that you want me or anytime there's questions, I 402 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:13,159 Speaker 1: would love to answer them. Well, thank you, thank you 403 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:15,760 Speaker 1: for doing this, and I will talk to you guys 404 00:18:15,760 --> 00:18:19,359 Speaker 1: on Monday. Next week is need a week, so be 405 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:24,720 Speaker 1: prepared for a lot of content around body image, eating disorders, movement, 406 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:27,719 Speaker 1: all of that. We are going headfirst into it. So 407 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:29,760 Speaker 1: I will talk to you guys on Monday.