Speaker 1: I am a Yamla. I had a baby daddy relationship.
Speaker 1: I spent time in a relationship with a married man.
Speaker 1: I had to learn the skills and tools required to
Speaker 1: make my relationships healthy, fulfilling and loving. Welcome to the
Speaker 1: R Spot, a production of shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio.
Speaker 1: Blessings and greetings. Welcome to the R Spot, the place
Speaker 1: we come to talk about all things relationships, all kinds
Speaker 1: of relationships and relationships with all kinds of things and people.
Speaker 1: I am Yamla, your support, your facilitator, your hosts for
Speaker 1: today's investigation and explore. We're not talking about people today. Well,
Speaker 1: we are talking about people, but we're talking about people's
Speaker 1: relationship with money. Money, money, money. You know. I consider
Speaker 1: money to be a living thing because money is energy
Speaker 1: and energy represents power. And it always amazes me that
Speaker 1: people speak more often than not in the lack of money,
Speaker 1: which says to me they have a lack of energy
Speaker 1: and possibly a lack of power. Money is a thing,
Speaker 1: it's living and it supports us in giving and receiving
Speaker 1: the things we need to live. And so many of
Speaker 1: us have a disfunctional relationship with money. We have the
Speaker 1: same kind of relationship with money that we often have
Speaker 1: with people. So my question I got some questions for
Speaker 1: you about your relationship with money. Are you a good
Speaker 1: money partner? And are you a good partner to money?
Speaker 1: If money is a living thing, if it's an energy,
Speaker 1: if it's a power, what does your relationship with money
Speaker 1: look like? I mean, do you court money, you know,
Speaker 1: take it out, have a good time with it, and
Speaker 1: make sure it has a good time, you have a
Speaker 1: good time. Do you know what money likes? Do you
Speaker 1: know what money makes do you know what makes money
Speaker 1: feel good? And do you know how money makes you
Speaker 1: feel good? Do you trust money? Do you trust yourself
Speaker 1: with money? Do you know that you can count on
Speaker 1: money to be there when you need it, when you
Speaker 1: want it? What kind of relationship do you have with money?
Speaker 1: And what kind of relationship would you like to have
Speaker 1: with money? Do you want to marry it or do
Speaker 1: you just want to roll around with it sometime? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what we're talking about today on the r Spot.
Speaker 1: Our relationship with the energy of money, with the power
Speaker 1: of money, with the structure of money, and how it
Speaker 1: operates and how does it operate in your life? I've
Speaker 1: got some guests to have some interesting relationships with money.
Speaker 1: Here's my first caller. Greetings, beloved, and welcome to the
Speaker 1: our spot. We are talking today about our relationship with money.
Speaker 1: What is your current relationship with money? I mean, is
Speaker 1: it good? Is it bad? Is it sometime? Is it
Speaker 1: cheating on you? Are you cheating on it?
Speaker 2: It's not harmonious and I'm proving you.
Speaker 1: Y'all are cheating on each other. Yeah, yeah, what does
Speaker 1: that look like? What does your cheating on money look like?
Speaker 2: It looks like sometimes I feel like I have enough
Speaker 2: and other times I feel like I don't have enough,
Speaker 2: or I'm just like in and out of the relationship.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like, that's definitely a cheating on money. Yeah, sometime
Speaker 1: in sometime out Do you talk bad about it?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: Do you talk? Do you talk good to it?
Speaker 2: I do? I do? I do. I've learned this though,
Speaker 2: but I've learned this through you know, a lot of
Speaker 2: the teachings that I've been learning, you know, on the
Speaker 2: spiritual front, I really have been like trying to connect
Speaker 2: with money on a different, like an energetic level, and
Speaker 2: I noticed one on a balance that it doesn't flow right.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm hm. So let me ask you this. If
Speaker 1: I were to say to you, who is money in
Speaker 1: your life? What would you say?
Speaker 2: The first thing that came to my head, it's the
Speaker 2: enemy that separates me from actually being able to be.
Speaker 1: Wow, the enemy that separates me. Okay, So if I
Speaker 1: were to say the money, who is this woman in
Speaker 1: your life? And it's said, the enemy that separates me
Speaker 1: from being who I want to be? How would you
Speaker 1: feel about that?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: Just deep, Yeah, we're going deep.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't feel good about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And what would you do if you knew somebody
Speaker 1: thought that about you, felt that about you, said that
Speaker 1: about you? What would you do?
Speaker 2: I probably would either one try to find out why
Speaker 2: they feel that way, or two I would be like,
Speaker 2: well I'm out.
Speaker 1: Stay the hell away from it, right. So yeah, so
Speaker 1: let's okay, So let's say that that's the case. Why
Speaker 1: do you feel that way about me money?
Speaker 2: When people in my life remind me that I'm limited
Speaker 2: to based on the amount of money that I have
Speaker 2: in order to be able to experience what they experience
Speaker 2: or things, you know, like do certain things, then it
Speaker 2: makes me feel that way. And then there are times
Speaker 2: where I'm like everything always works out. I know that
Speaker 2: the money is going to flow. I don't have to
Speaker 2: worry about it. Everything will fall into place. But then
Speaker 2: when I think, sometimes the reality of how we use
Speaker 2: the money step in. Then I'd be like, oh, God,
Speaker 2: like just when that's here and it's I think it's
Speaker 2: it stimulates from you know, childhood.
Speaker 1: You know what was your relationship like with money when
Speaker 1: you were growing up? What did you learn about money?
Speaker 2: Here?
Speaker 1: About money? What's your money's story?
Speaker 2: Well, my grandmother used like she used to be like, well,
Speaker 2: that'll always send a ram in the bush, and he did.
Speaker 2: But then that that'll always send a ram in the
Speaker 2: bush was like waiting on somebody else to rescue you.
Speaker 1: But that means money's scarce. Money's scarce. It only shows
Speaker 1: up in emergencies.
Speaker 2: How do I maintain that frequency where I can operate
Speaker 2: in the space where I don't look at money, in
Speaker 2: where I can look at money on an energetic level,
Speaker 2: where I realize that it's only energy and that I
Speaker 2: can maintain my energetic stance or vibration to be able
Speaker 2: to receive it, or to be able to receive those things.
Speaker 2: Like I was saying, those experiences the things that I
Speaker 2: desire and be able to have that as and slow.
Speaker 1: You know, well, the first thing you have to do
Speaker 1: is get to know yourself and your own energy because
Speaker 1: like attracts like. So you've got to look at the
Speaker 1: places where you think you're in scarcity. I'm not good enough,
Speaker 1: I don't know enough, I don't have enough, I didn't
Speaker 1: do enough. You've got to look at that because money
Speaker 1: is going to be attract to. It's like frequency. So
Speaker 1: if your frequency and energy and love is low, it's
Speaker 1: frequency and energy is gonna be loved. So if you're
Speaker 1: thinking about yourself, I'm not enough, I'm not good enough,
Speaker 1: I don't do enough, I don't have enough, then money's
Speaker 1: gonna say, well, I don't want nothing to do with that,
Speaker 1: cause I'm all there is. I'm good, I'm you know whatever.
Speaker 1: That's So that's number one up level your frequency about yourself.
Speaker 1: Your second thing would be you know your worth? What
Speaker 1: are you worth? Because it's really not about the money.
Speaker 1: It's about you attracting, creating, calling in what you believe
Speaker 1: you are worth from the inside out. So when you
Speaker 1: know that you're powerful, when you know that you are
Speaker 1: love and light and joy and all of those things,
Speaker 1: that will up level, your energetic frequency, and you know
Speaker 1: you deserve to have the home the trip because you
Speaker 1: said earlier. You know, people telling you or you making
Speaker 1: up I don't know which it is that people tell
Speaker 1: you you can only do this or have that based
Speaker 1: on the amount of money you have. Well that's not true.
Speaker 2: Or I have a cousin that always says to me,
Speaker 2: or a broke person you show do go a lot
Speaker 2: of places to do a lot of things.
Speaker 1: Well I would denounce that, and I would say, I
Speaker 1: am not broke. There's nothing broke about me. Nothing broke
Speaker 1: about me. And we'll talk about that when we come back.
Speaker 1: Welcome back to the r spot. Money is just the
Speaker 1: medium of exchange, that's all it is. But most of
Speaker 1: us are or raised in the consciousness that money is
Speaker 1: the result of what we do. And even though you're
Speaker 1: trying to be grateful, you think you have to do
Speaker 1: things or think things or say things. Money is not
Speaker 1: the result of what you do, your ability to attract
Speaker 1: money to create you know, abundant situations is a function
Speaker 1: of who you believe you are, not what you do.
Speaker 2: Does that make sense, Yeah, you say, operate in the
Speaker 2: belief and not not not focusing on what I would
Speaker 2: cause a mantra.
Speaker 1: Well, mantras are very, very powerful. But what do you
Speaker 1: believe your worth? If the universe said, okay, baby, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna pay you X amount of dollars a day. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna bring you X amount of dollars a day, what
Speaker 1: would you ask for?
Speaker 2: I never even thought about it.
Speaker 1: What do you think you're.
Speaker 2: Worth about dollars a day?
Speaker 1: Ten thousand? Why? Ten thousand? You know? See me, I'm
Speaker 1: worth an unlimited supply because I don't know what's gonna
Speaker 1: come up today. I'm worth an unlimited supply. There is
Speaker 1: no number on it.
Speaker 2: And you know what's funny, because I'm thinking what you're saying,
Speaker 2: like in a number. But I also know, I know,
Speaker 2: And this is this is where I really really know
Speaker 2: that I am priceless, Like I.
Speaker 1: Know that, Yeah, okay, well live it. I want to.
Speaker 1: I want to offer you an abundance principle from John
Speaker 1: Randolph Price. So take a breath and close your eyes,
Speaker 1: and when you hear this, tell me how it lands
Speaker 1: in your body. I am conscious of the inner presence
Speaker 1: as my lavish abundance. I am conscious of the constant
Speaker 1: activity of this presence of infinite prosperity. Therefore, my consciousness
Speaker 1: is filled with the light of truth. I am conscious
Speaker 1: of the inner presence as my lavish abundance. I am
Speaker 1: conscious of the constant activity of this mind, this presence
Speaker 1: of infinite that means without end prosperity. Therefore my consciousness
Speaker 1: is filled with the light of truth. How does that
Speaker 1: land in your body?
Speaker 2: I got like tangling sensations in my head and I
Speaker 2: have like I saw a white light in like my
Speaker 2: third eye.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and notice I talked about abundance and prosperity and truth.
Speaker 1: I didn't say anything about money. So I think you
Speaker 1: have in a relationship with somebody you don't really know.
Speaker 1: So get to know money, Get to know what it is,
Speaker 1: get to know how it operates, get to know want
Speaker 1: to be with it, and check that thought that you
Speaker 1: have that money is the enemy that keeps me from
Speaker 1: being who I want to be. Okay, work through.
Speaker 2: That due thank you, and in the meantime, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: work myself.
Speaker 1: We got to get clear about who and what we
Speaker 1: think money is. We think of money as you know,
Speaker 1: like a one night stand. You know, I need this
Speaker 1: for this, I need you now for this. I need
Speaker 1: you now for that a one night stand, just popping
Speaker 1: in and out, trying to get hooked up for the moment,
Speaker 1: as opposed to understanding that money is in the flow
Speaker 1: of how we think that money is. Let me blow
Speaker 1: your mind right now. This is pearls for clutching. Okay,
Speaker 1: pearls for clutching, So just go ahead and grab your
Speaker 1: pearls out. There is no shortage of money. There's no
Speaker 1: shortage of money. There is more than enough money to
Speaker 1: go around, for everyone to be wealthy, for everyone to
Speaker 1: have everything they need. There's no shortage of money, people.
Speaker 1: The shortage is in how we think about what we
Speaker 1: think about money and what its purpose is in our life.
Speaker 1: Money's purpose is not to buy things and get things.
Speaker 1: It's to give us the opportunity to experience and express
Speaker 1: our abundance. So maybe we should stop talking bad about
Speaker 1: money and start living with a consciousness of abundance. Let
Speaker 1: me see what my next caller has to say about
Speaker 1: that this is a one night stand or just a
Speaker 1: baby daddy. Greetings of love it and welcome to the
Speaker 1: art spot. We are talking today about our relationship with money.
Speaker 1: I want to know, do you have a long term,
Speaker 1: committed relationship are you doing a bunch of one night
Speaker 1: stands with money?
Speaker 3: So my relationship with money is dysfunctional. I feel, so.
Speaker 2: Start work two jobs and I do hair. Then I
Speaker 2: have a corporate job as well. So I think I'm
Speaker 2: chasing money because I don't feel secure with my partner.
Speaker 1: And so, wow, so you use a money chaser.
Speaker 3: I'm chasing it because when I was growing up, I
Speaker 3: didn't have much. So I just recently bought a home
Speaker 3: and I feel like I'm building a life for my
Speaker 3: kids that I didn't have. So I'm scared to lose it.
Speaker 3: And I don't want to depend on my cientific other
Speaker 3: because I feel like he does not give the most,
Speaker 3: just a minimum. So it's just scary for me. So,
Speaker 3: I mean, it's very dysfunctional I feel, and I'm just
Speaker 3: I'm kind of spinning at this point.
Speaker 1: Yeah, woo baby. Let me tell you something. If I
Speaker 1: was a dollar bill, i'd be running the hell away
Speaker 1: from you because you scared of me. Yeah, you scared
Speaker 1: of me?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And then probably if you're not, if you're afraid to
Speaker 1: lose me, you're probably clutching on, squeezing, holding me a
Speaker 1: little too tight.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, yeah, that's okay, And I find myself
Speaker 3: spending a lot of time away from my kids because
Speaker 3: I'm doing both. And so I'm just trying to figure
Speaker 3: out a balance with that and trying to figure out
Speaker 3: not to be so afraid about it. So I don't
Speaker 3: know what to do.
Speaker 1: So, so you and money are kind of dating, but
Speaker 1: money won't put a ring on it. Yeah, because that's
Speaker 1: what it's That's what it sounds like you're doing with
Speaker 1: your partner too. That's what sounds like you're doing with
Speaker 1: your partner. So not only are you afraid of money,
Speaker 1: you're chasing money, you're squeezing money. You're scared of money,
Speaker 1: but you've got money wired up to other people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true. It's with him. I just I feel
Speaker 3: like with him, I mean, I can't really focus on
Speaker 3: our relationship because I'm so scared because I feel so
Speaker 3: it's like unsecure in an aspect of it. So, I mean, yeah,
Speaker 3: this is a lot time frustrated.
Speaker 1: So let me ask you a question. How did you
Speaker 1: build your romantic relationship with your partner? How did you
Speaker 1: build that?
Speaker 3: So when it first started, it kind of started off
Speaker 3: me coming out of a relationship, and so I mean
Speaker 3: I think it's just built on like a friendship. In
Speaker 3: the beginning, he was just there for me, and then
Speaker 3: like once I came out of my toxic relationship, we
Speaker 3: just kind of ended together. So I don't think that.
Speaker 3: I think it was kind of like a roughh decision.
Speaker 3: I didn't really field it out before I jumped in it,
Speaker 3: but it just felt good at the time. So I mean,
Speaker 3: the foundation, to me, it was a little shaky.
Speaker 1: So it's not as bad as it was, but it's
Speaker 1: not what you want it to be.
Speaker 3: Correct.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's exactly what you're saying about your relationship with money.
Speaker 1: Not as bad as it was when I was growing up,
Speaker 1: but it's not what I wanted to be now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: exactly the same thing.
Speaker 3: Yes, I agree.
Speaker 1: If I were to ask you, tell me two things
Speaker 1: that you love about money.
Speaker 3: One is it provides for my family stability and freedom.
Speaker 1: Is that true that money provides stability and freedom for
Speaker 1: your family? Is that true?
Speaker 3: I mean, I believe it is. I believe it's true.
Speaker 1: Okay, So you believe it's true that money provides stability
Speaker 1: and freedom for your family. So let me ask you this,
Speaker 1: is there something as true or truer than that money
Speaker 1: provides for me, provides stability and freedom for me and
Speaker 1: my family. Is there something as true or truer than
Speaker 1: that statement?
Speaker 3: No, I don't think so.
Speaker 2: I don't think so.
Speaker 3: I think that's what it is for me. I mean
Speaker 3: that's just what I maybe would I want it to
Speaker 3: be for me. But it's technically not freedom because I'm
Speaker 3: always glued to either computer screen or somebody here. So
Speaker 3: that's I am kind of I guess the freedom is
Speaker 3: not there for me.
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I love and Okay, So what you like
Speaker 1: about money is that it provides stability and freedom for
Speaker 1: you and your family, and we already know that that's
Speaker 1: not true, all right? What else do you like about money?
Speaker 3: That it can buy me things? That I can buy
Speaker 3: my kids whatever they need. That is it just sometimes
Speaker 3: it gives me security to know that it's there if
Speaker 3: I need it, I if something comes up, if an
Speaker 3: emergency comes up, or is just there for me?
Speaker 1: So, oh, money is there for you to buy you things?
Speaker 1: You like that about it, that it's there to buy
Speaker 1: you things?
Speaker 2: Yeah, to provide to provide the things that I wanted?
Speaker 1: Okay, provide what you want? Is that true that money
Speaker 1: provides you with the things that you want to need.
Speaker 1: Is that true?
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 3: Yeah in a sense, in a sense.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not challenging you. I just wanted to know
Speaker 1: what you warnt about money. You said that it provides you,
Speaker 1: you and your family with stability and freedom. That's not true,
Speaker 1: but that's what you believe. And then because in order
Speaker 1: for you to have the money, you've got to be
Speaker 1: on a computer screen or on somebody's hair, so you
Speaker 1: really don't have the freedom. That's number one. And if
Speaker 1: you're not on the computer screen, if the computers all
Speaker 1: blow up tomorrow, and if everybody shaves their head ball,
Speaker 1: what you're gonna do nothing.
Speaker 2: I won't have that.
Speaker 1: And then you said okay, and then you said that
Speaker 1: money buys me the things, not my choices, not what
Speaker 1: I think I deserve or need in the moment, but
Speaker 1: it's money that buys these things. So you're telling yourself
Speaker 1: that what you have is what you want. And when
Speaker 1: we don't think we can have more, we'll talk ourselves
Speaker 1: into believing that what we have is really what we want.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't sound like you have the kind of
Speaker 1: relationship with money that you want to have with it,
Speaker 1: But you're telling yourself. I got to do this so
Speaker 1: I can have what I want and what you have
Speaker 1: ain't what you want.
Speaker 3: This is true, I do that.
Speaker 1: Is that crazy as hell? Or what is that crazy?
Speaker 3: It is? It's crazy?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's sure. Do you know that it is
Speaker 1: not your jobs or doing hair that brings money into
Speaker 1: your life? Do you know that?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what brings money into your life is your desire
Speaker 1: to have it, and you made up this is what
Speaker 1: I have to do to get it. Yeah, because money
Speaker 1: is energy. Money is energy, that's all it is. And
Speaker 1: money is flowing everywhere. You have a desire to have
Speaker 1: certain things, and either because of what you saw, what
Speaker 1: you heard, what you were told growing up, you, like
Speaker 1: so many of us, were suckered and snookered into the
Speaker 1: belief that the way to get money is to work
Speaker 1: hard for it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Would that be accurate?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's definitely accurate. And it's it's scary and it
Speaker 3: gives me anxiety. So I think that's why. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: do what I do, and then I'm beating myself in
Speaker 3: the ground, will working myself in the ground and in
Speaker 3: stressing about it in the process.
Speaker 1: And so you hold money like you're the other like
Speaker 1: you're the other woman. Yes, I get it when I can. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you decide piece.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that.
Speaker 1: I want to say this to you again. I want
Speaker 1: to say this to you again. It's not your working.
Speaker 1: It's not you're working that brings money into your life.
Speaker 1: It's your desire to have certain things. You could focus
Speaker 1: more if you would focus more on the desires without
Speaker 1: the fear. And the fear is a learned behavior, learn
Speaker 1: from childhood, scarcely, lack poverty, conscious If you would focus
Speaker 1: more on the desires, certain things would show up and
Speaker 1: you wouldn't even have to lift a finger for it.
Speaker 1: And we'll talk about that when we come back. Welcome
Speaker 1: back to the art spot. Let me tell you quick story.
Speaker 1: So there was this class that I wanted to take.
Speaker 1: I wanted to take this class and it was a
Speaker 1: six month class and the class costs ten thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: But because of you know, I'm always working in the world,
Speaker 1: working with people. I can't give what I don't have,
Speaker 1: so I'm always studying, always seeking, always learning. So when
Speaker 1: I read about the class, I said, Okay, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: take this class. I didn't even know how much it costs.
Speaker 1: I didn't know. I didn't have any idea. And when
Speaker 1: I called to do the orientation, I was talking to
Speaker 1: the woman and she said, what I would like to
Speaker 1: do is offer you a fifty percent discount on this class.
Speaker 1: And I said, okay, I'm going to pray about it.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna think about it because I got to make
Speaker 1: sure that I have the time to do the class.
Speaker 1: I wasn't worried about. I didn't know how much it costs.
Speaker 1: So we went on talking a little bit more and
Speaker 1: she said, so, you know, I know your work, I
Speaker 1: know who you are, and I really want to offer
Speaker 1: you this because I really think this would be supportive
Speaker 1: to you as you work with other people. And I
Speaker 1: said okay. I said, you know what how much is
Speaker 1: the class? And she said ten five hundred dollars and
Speaker 1: I want to offer you fifty percent off. And I said, okay,
Speaker 1: let me think about it. And then like a brick
Speaker 1: fell on my head. The Holy Spirit dropped the brick
Speaker 1: on my head and I said, oh, wait a minute,
Speaker 1: wait a minute, I'm in, I'm in. You have said
Speaker 1: to me twice that you are giving me fifty percent
Speaker 1: off this class, and what is there for me to
Speaker 1: think about. I want the class and the universe is
Speaker 1: providing it to me. And I said to her, forgive me.
Speaker 1: I am learning how to receive. You've got money need
Speaker 1: tied to your work, which says to me, you probably
Speaker 1: don't even know how to receive. No, you're looking at
Speaker 1: your partner and what he isn't doing, as opposed to
Speaker 1: receiving what he is doing and being grateful knowing that
Speaker 1: it can multiply, because if you're saying to him, it's
Speaker 1: not enough, not enough, it's not enough, and I'm insecure,
Speaker 1: I'm going to lose. You know, how do you think
Speaker 1: that makes him feel? As a man, telling him he's inadequate. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And you're not telling him that about him, you are
Speaker 1: speaking that about yourself. I am inadequate to get what
Speaker 1: I need? Can you hear me?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: And that's what happens to the side piece. The side
Speaker 1: piece said, well, why can't he stay with me? Why
Speaker 1: can't he be with me? Why can't I have what
Speaker 1: I want? Why he over? That's what you say it?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, it's a lot of wives. It's a lot
Speaker 3: of wives going on over in here.
Speaker 1: You are gonna shift your consciousness as it relates to money.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you a principle. Okay, I'm gonna give
Speaker 1: you a principle, and you're gonna walk this principle here.
Speaker 1: It is. Money is not my supply. No person, place,
Speaker 1: or condition is my supply. Because what you're talking about
Speaker 1: is supplying your desires, supplying your needs. My awareness, understanding
Speaker 1: and knowledge of the awe providing activity of the divine
Speaker 1: mind within me is my supply. My consciousness of this
Speaker 1: truth is unlimited. Therefore, my supply is unlimited. Money is
Speaker 1: not my supply. My supply is unlimited. So what your
Speaker 1: work is, beloved is to really get to an unlimited consciousness,
Speaker 1: focus on your desires, and dismantle your childhood's story. When
Speaker 1: you were a child, did people give you money? Or
Speaker 1: when you had a little bit of money, what happened?
Speaker 1: Did you get an.
Speaker 2: Allowing so you spent it?
Speaker 4: So yeah, yeah, so again the side piece in and out,
Speaker 4: in and out, in and out, yeah, in and out.
Speaker 1: You didn't know when it was coming, you didn't know
Speaker 1: where it was coming from. But when it came, you
Speaker 1: went and got what felt good, and then you went
Speaker 1: on about your business till the next time you got
Speaker 1: to dismantle that, did you You have to dismantle that.
Speaker 1: Money is not your supply. Your desire is your supply
Speaker 1: that tracks the energy of what it is that you're
Speaker 1: calling forward money. You're you're not making money by working.
Speaker 1: That's that's not what you're doing. You think you are,
Speaker 1: but you're not. What keeps you working is your desire
Speaker 1: to have the home. So you got a lot to
Speaker 1: dismantle in there, Okay, by bye. You know it's interesting,
Speaker 1: I was the other woman. I was the other woman
Speaker 1: in a relationship for a long long time, really really
Speaker 1: loved this man, and I was the other woman, constantly
Speaker 1: afraid that he was going to leave me, constantly afraid
Speaker 1: that he was going to go back to his wife,
Speaker 1: constantly afraid that what I had I was going to lose. It.
Speaker 1: Is that not the story that my caller just told. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because when you decide piece, when you the other women,
Speaker 1: you gotta take what you can get, and no matter
Speaker 1: how much you do, it's like they're not going to
Speaker 1: leave the other person to be with you. And some
Speaker 1: of us are having a side piece relationship with money
Speaker 1: men and women just getting what you can, doing as
Speaker 1: much as you can to try to get more and
Speaker 1: then dissatisfied. Oh yeah, dissatisfied with the way money treats
Speaker 1: you and the way you treat it. Oh my goodness, listen,
Speaker 1: go back and look at your childhood experience with money.
Speaker 1: Go back and look at it, and so that you
Speaker 1: can begin to understand and recognize what you have to
Speaker 1: dismantle scarcity, lack you know, fear, and the stories you
Speaker 1: were told you don't need that. That's a waste of money.
Speaker 1: I cannot tell you, as an adult how much money
Speaker 1: I have wasted. For me, wasting money means that I
Speaker 1: buy things that I don't need, that I instead of
Speaker 1: planning properly, I wait till the last minute. Then everything
Speaker 1: costs me more. Or listen, I can't. Okay, let me
Speaker 1: just tell all the way off myself. Okay. Have you
Speaker 1: ever gone in your closet and found that you had
Speaker 1: two of the identical items in your closet and both
Speaker 1: of them still got the price tag hanging on them,
Speaker 1: meaning you bought them and you're never warm. You forgot
Speaker 1: you had one so you wouldn't bought another. That's a waste.
Speaker 1: That is a waste. Okay, I'm looking at my shelf
Speaker 1: right now where I got two and three of the
Speaker 1: same book. Oh Lord help me, but I grew up.
Speaker 1: That's a waste of money. That's a waste of money.
Speaker 1: You don't need that, that's a waste of money. So
Speaker 1: now I try to fill the deprivation by buying things
Speaker 1: that I don't even need, buying things that I already
Speaker 1: have to fill that childhood whole. I'm better now. I'm
Speaker 1: better now. Okay, until it comes to Quilton fabric. I
Speaker 1: ain't better about that. But I'm in the other area. Listen,
Speaker 1: I live alone, well with my six year old grandson,
Speaker 1: and I have two refrigerators. I have two refrigerators and
Speaker 1: both of them are filled. Shelf, every shelf, every copy,
Speaker 1: every Why because I experienced deprivation as a child, so
Speaker 1: much deprivation, so much lack, so much scarcity. So if
Speaker 1: I'm talking to you, go back and look at what
Speaker 1: you experienced as a child, But more important, look at
Speaker 1: how it's showing up in your life today. How are
Speaker 1: you acting that out today? And then you make the adjustments.
Speaker 1: You can make the adjustments. One of the things that
Speaker 1: I do when I'm feeling deprivation and I want to
Speaker 1: go shop, and I can shop anywhere. I can shop
Speaker 1: in the drug store, I can shop in the supermarket.
Speaker 1: I can shop, you know, on the flea market. I
Speaker 1: can shop anywhere. I can buy. I can always find
Speaker 1: something to buy. But one of the things that I
Speaker 1: ask myself when I'm feeling that deprivation in my body,
Speaker 1: I know how it feels, and I go out to
Speaker 1: buy something, I ask myself, Okay, what are you feeling?
Speaker 1: Why are you buying this? Why are you buying this?
Speaker 1: And if I'm buying it to fill that hole, I stop,
Speaker 1: I stop myself and I okay, let me fill the hole.
Speaker 1: Let me fill the hole. People do that with food,
Speaker 1: They do it with drugs, alcohol, sex, and shopping money,
Speaker 1: and that doesn't have anything to do with money. And
Speaker 1: it's availability or lack of available availability that doesn't have
Speaker 1: anything to do with money. It's availability or lack of
Speaker 1: availability that has to do with what's going on inside us.
Speaker 1: Because money is just energy, and if we have a
Speaker 1: dysfunctional energy within as it relates to money, we're going
Speaker 1: to act that out in some way. Well, I hope
Speaker 1: you heard something today that you can use in your life.
Speaker 1: Something you know now that you didn't know when you
Speaker 1: tuned in our relationship with money. Let's clean it up,
Speaker 1: let's lift it up, let's elevate it. Okay, and I'll
Speaker 1: see you next time. So in the meantime, stay in
Speaker 1: peace and not in pieces. The R Spot is a
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