1 00:00:02,560 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: I am a Yamla. I had a baby daddy relationship. 2 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 1: I spent time in a relationship with a married man. 3 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: I had to learn the skills and tools required to 4 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:17,919 Speaker 1: make my relationships healthy, fulfilling and loving. Welcome to the 5 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: R Spot, a production of shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. 6 00:00:36,479 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: Blessings and greetings. Welcome to the R Spot, the place 7 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:45,200 Speaker 1: we come to talk about all things relationships, all kinds 8 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: of relationships and relationships with all kinds of things and people. 9 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:56,640 Speaker 1: I am Yamla, your support, your facilitator, your hosts for 10 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: today's investigation and explore. We're not talking about people today. Well, 11 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 1: we are talking about people, but we're talking about people's 12 00:01:07,959 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: relationship with money. Money, money, money. You know. I consider 13 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 1: money to be a living thing because money is energy 14 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:25,679 Speaker 1: and energy represents power. And it always amazes me that 15 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: people speak more often than not in the lack of money, 16 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 1: which says to me they have a lack of energy 17 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:38,360 Speaker 1: and possibly a lack of power. Money is a thing, 18 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 1: it's living and it supports us in giving and receiving 19 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: the things we need to live. And so many of 20 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: us have a disfunctional relationship with money. We have the 21 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: same kind of relationship with money that we often have 22 00:01:56,400 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: with people. So my question I got some questions for 23 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: you about your relationship with money. Are you a good 24 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 1: money partner? And are you a good partner to money? 25 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: If money is a living thing, if it's an energy, 26 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: if it's a power, what does your relationship with money 27 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 1: look like? I mean, do you court money, you know, 28 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 1: take it out, have a good time with it, and 29 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 1: make sure it has a good time, you have a 30 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:29,560 Speaker 1: good time. Do you know what money likes? Do you 31 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:33,519 Speaker 1: know what money makes do you know what makes money 32 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 1: feel good? And do you know how money makes you 33 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: feel good? Do you trust money? Do you trust yourself 34 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: with money? Do you know that you can count on 35 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:50,080 Speaker 1: money to be there when you need it, when you 36 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: want it? What kind of relationship do you have with money? 37 00:02:57,480 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: And what kind of relationship would you like to have 38 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,680 Speaker 1: with money? Do you want to marry it or do 39 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 1: you just want to roll around with it sometime? Yeah, 40 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 1: that's what we're talking about today on the r Spot. 41 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:15,080 Speaker 1: Our relationship with the energy of money, with the power 42 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 1: of money, with the structure of money, and how it 43 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:24,639 Speaker 1: operates and how does it operate in your life? I've 44 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 1: got some guests to have some interesting relationships with money. 45 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 1: Here's my first caller. Greetings, beloved, and welcome to the 46 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: our spot. We are talking today about our relationship with money. 47 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:43,360 Speaker 1: What is your current relationship with money? I mean, is 48 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 1: it good? Is it bad? Is it sometime? Is it 49 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 1: cheating on you? Are you cheating on it? 50 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 2: It's not harmonious and I'm proving you. 51 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: Y'all are cheating on each other. Yeah, yeah, what does 52 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: that look like? What does your cheating on money look like? 53 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 2: It looks like sometimes I feel like I have enough 54 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 2: and other times I feel like I don't have enough, 55 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 2: or I'm just like in and out of the relationship. 56 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, like, that's definitely a cheating on money. Yeah, sometime 57 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:29,440 Speaker 1: in sometime out Do you talk bad about it? 58 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:30,159 Speaker 2: No? 59 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: Do you talk? Do you talk good to it? 60 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 2: I do? I do? I do. I've learned this though, 61 00:04:40,600 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 2: but I've learned this through you know, a lot of 62 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 2: the teachings that I've been learning, you know, on the 63 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 2: spiritual front, I really have been like trying to connect 64 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 2: with money on a different, like an energetic level, and 65 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 2: I noticed one on a balance that it doesn't flow right. 66 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: Mm hmmm hm. So let me ask you this. If 67 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: I were to say to you, who is money in 68 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 1: your life? What would you say? 69 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:15,520 Speaker 2: The first thing that came to my head, it's the 70 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 2: enemy that separates me from actually being able to be. 71 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 1: Wow, the enemy that separates me. Okay, So if I 72 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,480 Speaker 1: were to say the money, who is this woman in 73 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 1: your life? And it's said, the enemy that separates me 74 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:38,919 Speaker 1: from being who I want to be? How would you 75 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:39,599 Speaker 1: feel about that? 76 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 2: Oh? 77 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 1: Just deep, Yeah, we're going deep. 78 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 2: I wouldn't feel good about it. 79 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, And what would you do if you knew somebody 80 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: thought that about you, felt that about you, said that 81 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 1: about you? What would you do? 82 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 2: I probably would either one try to find out why 83 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 2: they feel that way, or two I would be like, 84 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 2: well I'm out. 85 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:19,840 Speaker 1: Stay the hell away from it, right. So yeah, so 86 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: let's okay, So let's say that that's the case. Why 87 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:26,720 Speaker 1: do you feel that way about me money? 88 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 2: When people in my life remind me that I'm limited 89 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:36,320 Speaker 2: to based on the amount of money that I have 90 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 2: in order to be able to experience what they experience 91 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 2: or things, you know, like do certain things, then it 92 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:50,120 Speaker 2: makes me feel that way. And then there are times 93 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 2: where I'm like everything always works out. I know that 94 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 2: the money is going to flow. I don't have to 95 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:02,640 Speaker 2: worry about it. Everything will fall into place. But then 96 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 2: when I think, sometimes the reality of how we use 97 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:12,239 Speaker 2: the money step in. Then I'd be like, oh, God, 98 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:18,040 Speaker 2: like just when that's here and it's I think it's 99 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 2: it stimulates from you know, childhood. 100 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: You know what was your relationship like with money when 101 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 1: you were growing up? What did you learn about money? 102 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 2: Here? 103 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: About money? What's your money's story? 104 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 2: Well, my grandmother used like she used to be like, well, 105 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 2: that'll always send a ram in the bush, and he did. 106 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 2: But then that that'll always send a ram in the 107 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:54,320 Speaker 2: bush was like waiting on somebody else to rescue you. 108 00:07:55,560 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: But that means money's scarce. Money's scarce. It only shows 109 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 1: up in emergencies. 110 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:08,240 Speaker 2: How do I maintain that frequency where I can operate 111 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 2: in the space where I don't look at money, in 112 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 2: where I can look at money on an energetic level, 113 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 2: where I realize that it's only energy and that I 114 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:26,880 Speaker 2: can maintain my energetic stance or vibration to be able 115 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 2: to receive it, or to be able to receive those things. 116 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 2: Like I was saying, those experiences the things that I 117 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 2: desire and be able to have that as and slow. 118 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 1: You know, well, the first thing you have to do 119 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: is get to know yourself and your own energy because 120 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: like attracts like. So you've got to look at the 121 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: places where you think you're in scarcity. I'm not good enough, 122 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:55,480 Speaker 1: I don't know enough, I don't have enough, I didn't 123 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:59,120 Speaker 1: do enough. You've got to look at that because money 124 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:02,960 Speaker 1: is going to be attract to. It's like frequency. So 125 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 1: if your frequency and energy and love is low, it's 126 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 1: frequency and energy is gonna be loved. So if you're 127 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 1: thinking about yourself, I'm not enough, I'm not good enough, 128 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:18,200 Speaker 1: I don't do enough, I don't have enough, then money's 129 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: gonna say, well, I don't want nothing to do with that, 130 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: cause I'm all there is. I'm good, I'm you know whatever. 131 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: That's So that's number one up level your frequency about yourself. 132 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: Your second thing would be you know your worth? What 133 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: are you worth? Because it's really not about the money. 134 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 1: It's about you attracting, creating, calling in what you believe 135 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 1: you are worth from the inside out. So when you 136 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 1: know that you're powerful, when you know that you are 137 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:52,319 Speaker 1: love and light and joy and all of those things, 138 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 1: that will up level, your energetic frequency, and you know 139 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: you deserve to have the home the trip because you 140 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:03,959 Speaker 1: said earlier. You know, people telling you or you making 141 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:07,680 Speaker 1: up I don't know which it is that people tell 142 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:11,760 Speaker 1: you you can only do this or have that based 143 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 1: on the amount of money you have. Well that's not true. 144 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 2: Or I have a cousin that always says to me, 145 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 2: or a broke person you show do go a lot 146 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 2: of places to do a lot of things. 147 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:26,679 Speaker 1: Well I would denounce that, and I would say, I 148 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 1: am not broke. There's nothing broke about me. Nothing broke 149 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 1: about me. And we'll talk about that when we come back. 150 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:44,200 Speaker 1: Welcome back to the r spot. Money is just the 151 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:48,800 Speaker 1: medium of exchange, that's all it is. But most of 152 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:55,080 Speaker 1: us are or raised in the consciousness that money is 153 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 1: the result of what we do. And even though you're 154 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 1: trying to be grateful, you think you have to do 155 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: things or think things or say things. Money is not 156 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 1: the result of what you do, your ability to attract 157 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:17,680 Speaker 1: money to create you know, abundant situations is a function 158 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 1: of who you believe you are, not what you do. 159 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 2: Does that make sense, Yeah, you say, operate in the 160 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 2: belief and not not not focusing on what I would 161 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 2: cause a mantra. 162 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 1: Well, mantras are very, very powerful. But what do you 163 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: believe your worth? If the universe said, okay, baby, I'm 164 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:41,440 Speaker 1: gonna pay you X amount of dollars a day. I'm 165 00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 1: gonna bring you X amount of dollars a day, what 166 00:11:45,400 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 1: would you ask for? 167 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:49,959 Speaker 2: I never even thought about it. 168 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 1: What do you think you're. 169 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:54,640 Speaker 2: Worth about dollars a day? 170 00:11:57,080 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 1: Ten thousand? Why? Ten thousand? You know? See me, I'm 171 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: worth an unlimited supply because I don't know what's gonna 172 00:12:03,760 --> 00:12:08,640 Speaker 1: come up today. I'm worth an unlimited supply. There is 173 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: no number on it. 174 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 2: And you know what's funny, because I'm thinking what you're saying, 175 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 2: like in a number. But I also know, I know, 176 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 2: And this is this is where I really really know 177 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:23,679 Speaker 2: that I am priceless, Like I. 178 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:28,840 Speaker 1: Know that, Yeah, okay, well live it. I want to. 179 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 1: I want to offer you an abundance principle from John 180 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 1: Randolph Price. So take a breath and close your eyes, 181 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 1: and when you hear this, tell me how it lands 182 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:49,440 Speaker 1: in your body. I am conscious of the inner presence 183 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:55,960 Speaker 1: as my lavish abundance. I am conscious of the constant 184 00:12:56,120 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 1: activity of this presence of infinite prosperity. Therefore, my consciousness 185 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 1: is filled with the light of truth. I am conscious 186 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:15,319 Speaker 1: of the inner presence as my lavish abundance. I am 187 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 1: conscious of the constant activity of this mind, this presence 188 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:28,800 Speaker 1: of infinite that means without end prosperity. Therefore my consciousness 189 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: is filled with the light of truth. How does that 190 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 1: land in your body? 191 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:42,480 Speaker 2: I got like tangling sensations in my head and I 192 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 2: have like I saw a white light in like my 193 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 2: third eye. 194 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, and notice I talked about abundance and prosperity and truth. 195 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,880 Speaker 1: I didn't say anything about money. So I think you 196 00:13:57,000 --> 00:14:00,240 Speaker 1: have in a relationship with somebody you don't really know. 197 00:14:02,160 --> 00:14:04,839 Speaker 1: So get to know money, Get to know what it is, 198 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: get to know how it operates, get to know want 199 00:14:09,360 --> 00:14:12,720 Speaker 1: to be with it, and check that thought that you 200 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 1: have that money is the enemy that keeps me from 201 00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 1: being who I want to be. Okay, work through. 202 00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:23,480 Speaker 2: That due thank you, and in the meantime, I'm gonna 203 00:14:23,520 --> 00:14:24,760 Speaker 2: work myself. 204 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 1: We got to get clear about who and what we 205 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 1: think money is. We think of money as you know, 206 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:40,400 Speaker 1: like a one night stand. You know, I need this 207 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:42,680 Speaker 1: for this, I need you now for this. I need 208 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 1: you now for that a one night stand, just popping 209 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:48,360 Speaker 1: in and out, trying to get hooked up for the moment, 210 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:53,520 Speaker 1: as opposed to understanding that money is in the flow 211 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:58,680 Speaker 1: of how we think that money is. Let me blow 212 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 1: your mind right now. This is pearls for clutching. Okay, 213 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: pearls for clutching, So just go ahead and grab your 214 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 1: pearls out. There is no shortage of money. There's no 215 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 1: shortage of money. There is more than enough money to 216 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:22,520 Speaker 1: go around, for everyone to be wealthy, for everyone to 217 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 1: have everything they need. There's no shortage of money, people. 218 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:31,320 Speaker 1: The shortage is in how we think about what we 219 00:15:31,440 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: think about money and what its purpose is in our life. 220 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:41,000 Speaker 1: Money's purpose is not to buy things and get things. 221 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:45,840 Speaker 1: It's to give us the opportunity to experience and express 222 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:51,520 Speaker 1: our abundance. So maybe we should stop talking bad about 223 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:56,760 Speaker 1: money and start living with a consciousness of abundance. Let 224 00:15:56,840 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 1: me see what my next caller has to say about 225 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:02,080 Speaker 1: that this is a one night stand or just a 226 00:16:02,120 --> 00:16:09,240 Speaker 1: baby daddy. Greetings of love it and welcome to the 227 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:14,280 Speaker 1: art spot. We are talking today about our relationship with money. 228 00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:17,280 Speaker 1: I want to know, do you have a long term, 229 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:20,400 Speaker 1: committed relationship are you doing a bunch of one night 230 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: stands with money? 231 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:28,280 Speaker 3: So my relationship with money is dysfunctional. I feel, so. 232 00:16:30,840 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 2: Start work two jobs and I do hair. Then I 233 00:16:35,520 --> 00:16:39,640 Speaker 2: have a corporate job as well. So I think I'm 234 00:16:39,720 --> 00:16:44,880 Speaker 2: chasing money because I don't feel secure with my partner. 235 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:52,400 Speaker 1: And so, wow, so you use a money chaser. 236 00:16:54,680 --> 00:16:58,000 Speaker 3: I'm chasing it because when I was growing up, I 237 00:16:58,040 --> 00:17:02,560 Speaker 3: didn't have much. So I just recently bought a home 238 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:04,680 Speaker 3: and I feel like I'm building a life for my 239 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:07,880 Speaker 3: kids that I didn't have. So I'm scared to lose it. 240 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:12,920 Speaker 3: And I don't want to depend on my cientific other 241 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 3: because I feel like he does not give the most, 242 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:22,280 Speaker 3: just a minimum. So it's just scary for me. So, 243 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:26,320 Speaker 3: I mean, it's very dysfunctional I feel, and I'm just 244 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 3: I'm kind of spinning at this point. 245 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, woo baby. Let me tell you something. If I 246 00:17:35,040 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: was a dollar bill, i'd be running the hell away 247 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 1: from you because you scared of me. Yeah, you scared 248 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: of me? 249 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:44,960 Speaker 3: Yeah? 250 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:49,239 Speaker 1: And then probably if you're not, if you're afraid to 251 00:17:49,400 --> 00:17:54,520 Speaker 1: lose me, you're probably clutching on, squeezing, holding me a 252 00:17:54,520 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 1: little too tight. 253 00:17:55,560 --> 00:18:02,520 Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, yeah, that's okay, And I find myself 254 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 3: spending a lot of time away from my kids because 255 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:10,200 Speaker 3: I'm doing both. And so I'm just trying to figure 256 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:14,200 Speaker 3: out a balance with that and trying to figure out 257 00:18:14,880 --> 00:18:18,840 Speaker 3: not to be so afraid about it. So I don't 258 00:18:18,880 --> 00:18:20,520 Speaker 3: know what to do. 259 00:18:23,240 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 1: So, so you and money are kind of dating, but 260 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 1: money won't put a ring on it. Yeah, because that's 261 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:32,879 Speaker 1: what it's That's what it sounds like you're doing with 262 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:35,639 Speaker 1: your partner too. That's what sounds like you're doing with 263 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:38,919 Speaker 1: your partner. So not only are you afraid of money, 264 00:18:39,240 --> 00:18:43,080 Speaker 1: you're chasing money, you're squeezing money. You're scared of money, 265 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,760 Speaker 1: but you've got money wired up to other people. 266 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true. It's with him. I just I feel 267 00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:57,679 Speaker 3: like with him, I mean, I can't really focus on 268 00:18:57,720 --> 00:19:00,919 Speaker 3: our relationship because I'm so scared because I feel so 269 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:06,480 Speaker 3: it's like unsecure in an aspect of it. So, I mean, yeah, 270 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:09,640 Speaker 3: this is a lot time frustrated. 271 00:19:10,040 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 1: So let me ask you a question. How did you 272 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:20,600 Speaker 1: build your romantic relationship with your partner? How did you 273 00:19:20,680 --> 00:19:21,119 Speaker 1: build that? 274 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:27,280 Speaker 3: So when it first started, it kind of started off 275 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:31,840 Speaker 3: me coming out of a relationship, and so I mean 276 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:33,919 Speaker 3: I think it's just built on like a friendship. In 277 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:37,640 Speaker 3: the beginning, he was just there for me, and then 278 00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:42,160 Speaker 3: like once I came out of my toxic relationship, we 279 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:45,840 Speaker 3: just kind of ended together. So I don't think that. 280 00:19:46,960 --> 00:19:48,680 Speaker 3: I think it was kind of like a roughh decision. 281 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 3: I didn't really field it out before I jumped in it, 282 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 3: but it just felt good at the time. So I mean, 283 00:19:57,400 --> 00:19:59,639 Speaker 3: the foundation, to me, it was a little shaky. 284 00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:06,120 Speaker 1: So it's not as bad as it was, but it's 285 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 1: not what you want it to be. 286 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:08,720 Speaker 3: Correct. 287 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:14,439 Speaker 1: Yes, that's exactly what you're saying about your relationship with money. 288 00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:17,119 Speaker 1: Not as bad as it was when I was growing up, 289 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:20,480 Speaker 1: but it's not what I wanted to be now. Yeah, 290 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 1: exactly the same thing. 291 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,280 Speaker 3: Yes, I agree. 292 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:28,800 Speaker 1: If I were to ask you, tell me two things 293 00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 1: that you love about money. 294 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:42,920 Speaker 3: One is it provides for my family stability and freedom. 295 00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 1: Is that true that money provides stability and freedom for 296 00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 1: your family? Is that true? 297 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:53,040 Speaker 3: I mean, I believe it is. I believe it's true. 298 00:20:54,119 --> 00:21:01,120 Speaker 1: Okay, So you believe it's true that money provides stability 299 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:03,720 Speaker 1: and freedom for your family. So let me ask you this, 300 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:10,440 Speaker 1: is there something as true or truer than that money 301 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:14,040 Speaker 1: provides for me, provides stability and freedom for me and 302 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:19,280 Speaker 1: my family. Is there something as true or truer than 303 00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:20,080 Speaker 1: that statement? 304 00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:23,080 Speaker 3: No, I don't think so. 305 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:24,959 Speaker 2: I don't think so. 306 00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:28,680 Speaker 3: I think that's what it is for me. I mean 307 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:31,199 Speaker 3: that's just what I maybe would I want it to 308 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:36,120 Speaker 3: be for me. But it's technically not freedom because I'm 309 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:39,719 Speaker 3: always glued to either computer screen or somebody here. So 310 00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:43,840 Speaker 3: that's I am kind of I guess the freedom is 311 00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:45,040 Speaker 3: not there for me. 312 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:53,240 Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I love and Okay, So what you like 313 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:56,800 Speaker 1: about money is that it provides stability and freedom for 314 00:21:56,880 --> 00:21:59,480 Speaker 1: you and your family, and we already know that that's 315 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:02,040 Speaker 1: not true, all right? What else do you like about money? 316 00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:07,240 Speaker 3: That it can buy me things? That I can buy 317 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:12,760 Speaker 3: my kids whatever they need. That is it just sometimes 318 00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:15,400 Speaker 3: it gives me security to know that it's there if 319 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:18,840 Speaker 3: I need it, I if something comes up, if an 320 00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 3: emergency comes up, or is just there for me? 321 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:29,440 Speaker 1: So, oh, money is there for you to buy you things? 322 00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:33,560 Speaker 1: You like that about it, that it's there to buy 323 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:34,480 Speaker 1: you things? 324 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, to provide to provide the things that I wanted? 325 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:44,479 Speaker 1: Okay, provide what you want? Is that true that money 326 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:47,880 Speaker 1: provides you with the things that you want to need. 327 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 1: Is that true? 328 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:52,160 Speaker 2: Mm hmm. 329 00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:57,120 Speaker 3: Yeah in a sense, in a sense. 330 00:22:57,000 --> 00:23:00,679 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not challenging you. I just wanted to know 331 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:06,639 Speaker 1: what you warnt about money. You said that it provides you, 332 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:10,200 Speaker 1: you and your family with stability and freedom. That's not true, 333 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,280 Speaker 1: but that's what you believe. And then because in order 334 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:16,399 Speaker 1: for you to have the money, you've got to be 335 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:19,119 Speaker 1: on a computer screen or on somebody's hair, so you 336 00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:23,000 Speaker 1: really don't have the freedom. That's number one. And if 337 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 1: you're not on the computer screen, if the computers all 338 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,800 Speaker 1: blow up tomorrow, and if everybody shaves their head ball, 339 00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 1: what you're gonna do nothing. 340 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:33,560 Speaker 2: I won't have that. 341 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:37,919 Speaker 1: And then you said okay, and then you said that 342 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: money buys me the things, not my choices, not what 343 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: I think I deserve or need in the moment, but 344 00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:50,960 Speaker 1: it's money that buys these things. So you're telling yourself 345 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:56,640 Speaker 1: that what you have is what you want. And when 346 00:23:56,720 --> 00:24:00,640 Speaker 1: we don't think we can have more, we'll talk ourselves 347 00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:04,720 Speaker 1: into believing that what we have is really what we want. 348 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,399 Speaker 1: And it doesn't sound like you have the kind of 349 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:10,399 Speaker 1: relationship with money that you want to have with it, 350 00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:12,840 Speaker 1: But you're telling yourself. I got to do this so 351 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,320 Speaker 1: I can have what I want and what you have 352 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:16,240 Speaker 1: ain't what you want. 353 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 3: This is true, I do that. 354 00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 1: Is that crazy as hell? Or what is that crazy? 355 00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,720 Speaker 3: It is? It's crazy? 356 00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's sure. Do you know that it is 357 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:35,840 Speaker 1: not your jobs or doing hair that brings money into 358 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:37,120 Speaker 1: your life? Do you know that? 359 00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:38,120 Speaker 2: No? 360 00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:39,720 Speaker 3: I don't. 361 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:44,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, what brings money into your life is your desire 362 00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 1: to have it, and you made up this is what 363 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:52,680 Speaker 1: I have to do to get it. Yeah, because money 364 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:55,960 Speaker 1: is energy. Money is energy, that's all it is. And 365 00:24:56,320 --> 00:25:00,479 Speaker 1: money is flowing everywhere. You have a desire to have 366 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:04,200 Speaker 1: certain things, and either because of what you saw, what 367 00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 1: you heard, what you were told growing up, you, like 368 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:12,840 Speaker 1: so many of us, were suckered and snookered into the 369 00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,720 Speaker 1: belief that the way to get money is to work 370 00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:16,480 Speaker 1: hard for it. 371 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:19,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. 372 00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:21,320 Speaker 1: Would that be accurate? 373 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:24,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's definitely accurate. And it's it's scary and it 374 00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 3: gives me anxiety. So I think that's why. Yeah, I 375 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:30,600 Speaker 3: do what I do, and then I'm beating myself in 376 00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:33,480 Speaker 3: the ground, will working myself in the ground and in 377 00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:38,200 Speaker 3: stressing about it in the process. 378 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,919 Speaker 1: And so you hold money like you're the other like 379 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:52,439 Speaker 1: you're the other woman. Yes, I get it when I can. Yeah, 380 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:53,600 Speaker 1: you decide piece. 381 00:25:57,560 --> 00:25:58,679 Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like that. 382 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 1: I want to say this to you again. I want 383 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:06,320 Speaker 1: to say this to you again. It's not your working. 384 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:13,639 Speaker 1: It's not you're working that brings money into your life. 385 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 1: It's your desire to have certain things. You could focus 386 00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:23,840 Speaker 1: more if you would focus more on the desires without 387 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:27,640 Speaker 1: the fear. And the fear is a learned behavior, learn 388 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:32,920 Speaker 1: from childhood, scarcely, lack poverty, conscious If you would focus 389 00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:38,760 Speaker 1: more on the desires, certain things would show up and 390 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,159 Speaker 1: you wouldn't even have to lift a finger for it. 391 00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 1: And we'll talk about that when we come back. Welcome 392 00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:00,719 Speaker 1: back to the art spot. Let me tell you quick story. 393 00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:05,200 Speaker 1: So there was this class that I wanted to take. 394 00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:08,280 Speaker 1: I wanted to take this class and it was a 395 00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:13,160 Speaker 1: six month class and the class costs ten thousand dollars. 396 00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:17,040 Speaker 1: But because of you know, I'm always working in the world, 397 00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,360 Speaker 1: working with people. I can't give what I don't have, 398 00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 1: so I'm always studying, always seeking, always learning. So when 399 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:27,960 Speaker 1: I read about the class, I said, Okay, I'm gonna 400 00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:31,520 Speaker 1: take this class. I didn't even know how much it costs. 401 00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:34,560 Speaker 1: I didn't know. I didn't have any idea. And when 402 00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:38,480 Speaker 1: I called to do the orientation, I was talking to 403 00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,080 Speaker 1: the woman and she said, what I would like to 404 00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,360 Speaker 1: do is offer you a fifty percent discount on this class. 405 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:48,199 Speaker 1: And I said, okay, I'm going to pray about it. 406 00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:51,360 Speaker 1: I'm gonna think about it because I got to make 407 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:53,960 Speaker 1: sure that I have the time to do the class. 408 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,520 Speaker 1: I wasn't worried about. I didn't know how much it costs. 409 00:27:57,560 --> 00:28:00,440 Speaker 1: So we went on talking a little bit more and 410 00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:06,359 Speaker 1: she said, so, you know, I know your work, I 411 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:09,119 Speaker 1: know who you are, and I really want to offer 412 00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,800 Speaker 1: you this because I really think this would be supportive 413 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:15,119 Speaker 1: to you as you work with other people. And I 414 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,639 Speaker 1: said okay. I said, you know what how much is 415 00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 1: the class? And she said ten five hundred dollars and 416 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:26,199 Speaker 1: I want to offer you fifty percent off. And I said, okay, 417 00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,720 Speaker 1: let me think about it. And then like a brick 418 00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 1: fell on my head. The Holy Spirit dropped the brick 419 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:35,960 Speaker 1: on my head and I said, oh, wait a minute, 420 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 1: wait a minute, I'm in, I'm in. You have said 421 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:43,400 Speaker 1: to me twice that you are giving me fifty percent 422 00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:45,800 Speaker 1: off this class, and what is there for me to 423 00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:49,360 Speaker 1: think about. I want the class and the universe is 424 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:52,960 Speaker 1: providing it to me. And I said to her, forgive me. 425 00:28:53,560 --> 00:29:00,280 Speaker 1: I am learning how to receive. You've got money need 426 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:04,560 Speaker 1: tied to your work, which says to me, you probably 427 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:09,000 Speaker 1: don't even know how to receive. No, you're looking at 428 00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:12,280 Speaker 1: your partner and what he isn't doing, as opposed to 429 00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:19,560 Speaker 1: receiving what he is doing and being grateful knowing that 430 00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 1: it can multiply, because if you're saying to him, it's 431 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:27,800 Speaker 1: not enough, not enough, it's not enough, and I'm insecure, 432 00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,760 Speaker 1: I'm going to lose. You know, how do you think 433 00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:38,360 Speaker 1: that makes him feel? As a man, telling him he's inadequate. Yeah, 434 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:42,120 Speaker 1: And you're not telling him that about him, you are 435 00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:47,400 Speaker 1: speaking that about yourself. I am inadequate to get what 436 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: I need? Can you hear me? 437 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:49,440 Speaker 3: Yeah? 438 00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,320 Speaker 1: And that's what happens to the side piece. The side 439 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 1: piece said, well, why can't he stay with me? Why 440 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:57,960 Speaker 1: can't he be with me? Why can't I have what 441 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,520 Speaker 1: I want? Why he over? That's what you say it? 442 00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:04,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, it's a lot of wives. It's a lot 443 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:06,240 Speaker 3: of wives going on over in here. 444 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:12,080 Speaker 1: You are gonna shift your consciousness as it relates to money. 445 00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,160 Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you a principle. Okay, I'm gonna give 446 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:19,560 Speaker 1: you a principle, and you're gonna walk this principle here. 447 00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:26,479 Speaker 1: It is. Money is not my supply. No person, place, 448 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:31,760 Speaker 1: or condition is my supply. Because what you're talking about 449 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:40,000 Speaker 1: is supplying your desires, supplying your needs. My awareness, understanding 450 00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:46,440 Speaker 1: and knowledge of the awe providing activity of the divine 451 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:53,120 Speaker 1: mind within me is my supply. My consciousness of this 452 00:30:53,280 --> 00:31:00,600 Speaker 1: truth is unlimited. Therefore, my supply is unlimited. Money is 453 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:06,640 Speaker 1: not my supply. My supply is unlimited. So what your 454 00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:11,280 Speaker 1: work is, beloved is to really get to an unlimited consciousness, 455 00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:17,840 Speaker 1: focus on your desires, and dismantle your childhood's story. When 456 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,280 Speaker 1: you were a child, did people give you money? Or 457 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:22,400 Speaker 1: when you had a little bit of money, what happened? 458 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:25,280 Speaker 1: Did you get an. 459 00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 2: Allowing so you spent it? 460 00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 4: So yeah, yeah, so again the side piece in and out, 461 00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 4: in and out, in and out, yeah, in and out. 462 00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:42,320 Speaker 1: You didn't know when it was coming, you didn't know 463 00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:44,240 Speaker 1: where it was coming from. But when it came, you 464 00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:47,200 Speaker 1: went and got what felt good, and then you went 465 00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:49,720 Speaker 1: on about your business till the next time you got 466 00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:55,080 Speaker 1: to dismantle that, did you You have to dismantle that. 467 00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:59,120 Speaker 1: Money is not your supply. Your desire is your supply 468 00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:03,000 Speaker 1: that tracks the energy of what it is that you're 469 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:08,200 Speaker 1: calling forward money. You're you're not making money by working. 470 00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:11,920 Speaker 1: That's that's not what you're doing. You think you are, 471 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:17,360 Speaker 1: but you're not. What keeps you working is your desire 472 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:20,600 Speaker 1: to have the home. So you got a lot to 473 00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:28,200 Speaker 1: dismantle in there, Okay, by bye. You know it's interesting, 474 00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,160 Speaker 1: I was the other woman. I was the other woman 475 00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:35,280 Speaker 1: in a relationship for a long long time, really really 476 00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:41,080 Speaker 1: loved this man, and I was the other woman, constantly 477 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:45,120 Speaker 1: afraid that he was going to leave me, constantly afraid 478 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,440 Speaker 1: that he was going to go back to his wife, 479 00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:52,040 Speaker 1: constantly afraid that what I had I was going to lose. It. 480 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:57,840 Speaker 1: Is that not the story that my caller just told. Yeah, 481 00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:00,680 Speaker 1: because when you decide piece, when you the other women, 482 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,000 Speaker 1: you gotta take what you can get, and no matter 483 00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:07,640 Speaker 1: how much you do, it's like they're not going to 484 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,960 Speaker 1: leave the other person to be with you. And some 485 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,000 Speaker 1: of us are having a side piece relationship with money 486 00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:17,800 Speaker 1: men and women just getting what you can, doing as 487 00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,680 Speaker 1: much as you can to try to get more and 488 00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:26,400 Speaker 1: then dissatisfied. Oh yeah, dissatisfied with the way money treats 489 00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:30,680 Speaker 1: you and the way you treat it. Oh my goodness, listen, 490 00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:37,680 Speaker 1: go back and look at your childhood experience with money. 491 00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,160 Speaker 1: Go back and look at it, and so that you 492 00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,239 Speaker 1: can begin to understand and recognize what you have to 493 00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:50,600 Speaker 1: dismantle scarcity, lack you know, fear, and the stories you 494 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,440 Speaker 1: were told you don't need that. That's a waste of money. 495 00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:58,280 Speaker 1: I cannot tell you, as an adult how much money 496 00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:02,520 Speaker 1: I have wasted. For me, wasting money means that I 497 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:06,440 Speaker 1: buy things that I don't need, that I instead of 498 00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:09,800 Speaker 1: planning properly, I wait till the last minute. Then everything 499 00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 1: costs me more. Or listen, I can't. Okay, let me 500 00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:20,400 Speaker 1: just tell all the way off myself. Okay. Have you 501 00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:24,200 Speaker 1: ever gone in your closet and found that you had 502 00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:28,439 Speaker 1: two of the identical items in your closet and both 503 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:32,359 Speaker 1: of them still got the price tag hanging on them, 504 00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:35,440 Speaker 1: meaning you bought them and you're never warm. You forgot 505 00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:38,200 Speaker 1: you had one so you wouldn't bought another. That's a waste. 506 00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:42,080 Speaker 1: That is a waste. Okay, I'm looking at my shelf 507 00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:44,319 Speaker 1: right now where I got two and three of the 508 00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:52,239 Speaker 1: same book. Oh Lord help me, but I grew up. 509 00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:54,439 Speaker 1: That's a waste of money. That's a waste of money. 510 00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,759 Speaker 1: You don't need that, that's a waste of money. So 511 00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:01,160 Speaker 1: now I try to fill the deprivation by buying things 512 00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:05,120 Speaker 1: that I don't even need, buying things that I already 513 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:09,759 Speaker 1: have to fill that childhood whole. I'm better now. I'm 514 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:13,080 Speaker 1: better now. Okay, until it comes to Quilton fabric. I 515 00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:16,480 Speaker 1: ain't better about that. But I'm in the other area. Listen, 516 00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:20,520 Speaker 1: I live alone, well with my six year old grandson, 517 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:28,520 Speaker 1: and I have two refrigerators. I have two refrigerators and 518 00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:32,440 Speaker 1: both of them are filled. Shelf, every shelf, every copy, 519 00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:38,279 Speaker 1: every Why because I experienced deprivation as a child, so 520 00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:45,120 Speaker 1: much deprivation, so much lack, so much scarcity. So if 521 00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:49,840 Speaker 1: I'm talking to you, go back and look at what 522 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:54,239 Speaker 1: you experienced as a child, But more important, look at 523 00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:57,879 Speaker 1: how it's showing up in your life today. How are 524 00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:03,160 Speaker 1: you acting that out today? And then you make the adjustments. 525 00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,600 Speaker 1: You can make the adjustments. One of the things that 526 00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:10,200 Speaker 1: I do when I'm feeling deprivation and I want to 527 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:12,800 Speaker 1: go shop, and I can shop anywhere. I can shop 528 00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,760 Speaker 1: in the drug store, I can shop in the supermarket. 529 00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:19,520 Speaker 1: I can shop, you know, on the flea market. I 530 00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:21,839 Speaker 1: can shop anywhere. I can buy. I can always find 531 00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:24,120 Speaker 1: something to buy. But one of the things that I 532 00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:27,880 Speaker 1: ask myself when I'm feeling that deprivation in my body, 533 00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:31,239 Speaker 1: I know how it feels, and I go out to 534 00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:34,520 Speaker 1: buy something, I ask myself, Okay, what are you feeling? 535 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:41,239 Speaker 1: Why are you buying this? Why are you buying this? 536 00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:46,680 Speaker 1: And if I'm buying it to fill that hole, I stop, 537 00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:51,160 Speaker 1: I stop myself and I okay, let me fill the hole. 538 00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,200 Speaker 1: Let me fill the hole. People do that with food, 539 00:36:54,920 --> 00:37:00,160 Speaker 1: They do it with drugs, alcohol, sex, and shopping money, 540 00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,759 Speaker 1: and that doesn't have anything to do with money. And 541 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:08,440 Speaker 1: it's availability or lack of available availability that doesn't have 542 00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:12,520 Speaker 1: anything to do with money. It's availability or lack of 543 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:17,239 Speaker 1: availability that has to do with what's going on inside us. 544 00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:22,000 Speaker 1: Because money is just energy, and if we have a 545 00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:26,839 Speaker 1: dysfunctional energy within as it relates to money, we're going 546 00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:32,080 Speaker 1: to act that out in some way. Well, I hope 547 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,520 Speaker 1: you heard something today that you can use in your life. 548 00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,759 Speaker 1: Something you know now that you didn't know when you 549 00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:43,040 Speaker 1: tuned in our relationship with money. Let's clean it up, 550 00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:48,319 Speaker 1: let's lift it up, let's elevate it. Okay, and I'll 551 00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:51,399 Speaker 1: see you next time. So in the meantime, stay in 552 00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:59,680 Speaker 1: peace and not in pieces. The R Spot is a 553 00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:05,319 Speaker 1: productection of Shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. For more 554 00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:10,799 Speaker 1: podcasts from Shondaland Audio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, 555 00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:13,600 Speaker 1: or wherever you listen to your favorite show.