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Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hey, everyone,

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Speaker 1: welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is all about

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Speaker 1: the choices we make and where they lead us. Okay,

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Speaker 1: being a badass isn't just about being cool. It's about

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Speaker 1: blazing your own trail, standing up for others, and using

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Speaker 1: your beautiful voice. Today we are going to jump into

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Speaker 1: an incredible panel of women who are doing just that.

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Speaker 1: Actress and podcast host Yvette Nicole Brown, actress from Netflix

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Speaker 1: pitch show Nobody Wants This, My Girl, Jackie Tone and

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Speaker 1: former Bachelorette, and she recently was gorgeous on Dancing with

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Speaker 1: the Stars Jen Tran. Before we get into our I

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Speaker 1: Choose to Be a Badass panel, I want to just

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Speaker 2: We've got another panel who all right, So these are

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Speaker 2: some women who have blazed some trails, so please help me.

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Speaker 2: Welcome our next panel, which is I Choose to be

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Speaker 2: a bad Ass. So First up, Emmy nominated actor known

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Speaker 2: for her roles in Community and a Black Lady sketch

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Speaker 2: show that the Call Brown Here, I'm Dad.

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Speaker 3: Dance it up, dance it up.

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Speaker 4: I love it.

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Speaker 5: Take it all right.

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Speaker 2: Next up, TV personality and former Store of the Bachelorette

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Speaker 2: who actually Recidy competed on my alma mater Dancing with

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Speaker 2: the Stars.

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Speaker 1: Please welcome Jen Tran.

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Speaker 5: I'm going Lord and the Jen Boots all right.

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Speaker 2: And last but not least after comic and writer known

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Speaker 2: from the hit Netflix show That Is Awesome. If you

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Speaker 2: haven't seen it, make sure you check it out. It

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Speaker 2: is the show nobody wants this. It's Jackie tom.

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Speaker 6: Am I walking normal? Am I locking normal?

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Speaker 4: Here to shave?

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Speaker 1: I love it.

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Speaker 5: I leave it to you.

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Speaker 6: Jenny. All right, Hey, gorgeous girl.

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Speaker 5: All right, you guys go take it away and say

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Speaker 5: it twenty years.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you guys. I love this panel. I

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Speaker 1: love this panel too.

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Speaker 6: You everybody doing?

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Speaker 5: How about I thought? Yvett said, what's everybody doing? I

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Speaker 5: was doing a pan just so hustle me somebody doing immediately.

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Speaker 1: You, guys, what do you think it takes to be

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Speaker 1: a badass start? I think it takes persistence, yes, for sure,

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Speaker 1: willingness to reinvent yourself as much as you want.

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Speaker 6: Yes, what else? You know, not being afraid to be unliked.

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Speaker 6: And this is coming from a people pleaser. I'm a

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Speaker 6: people pleaser, but the idea of understanding that sometimes you

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Speaker 6: have to make a move that people may not like

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Speaker 6: and it's okay as long as it's the right thing

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Speaker 6: to do, it's okay. I oh, were you about to go?

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Speaker 6: I will step on today.

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Speaker 5: Yes, you will save the best of real lass to

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Speaker 5: you first, Okay.

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Speaker 6: Jokes.

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Speaker 5: So, I feel like something just happened to me yesterday.

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Speaker 5: And I think one of the things that makes me

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Speaker 5: feel badassy is it's really hard to do and it

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Speaker 5: makes me uncomfortable. And I'm still working on it, but

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Speaker 5: advocating for myself. And yesterday was that a rehearsal for

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Speaker 5: something and we had ten minutes and I really needed

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Speaker 5: to focus, and I knew that I would maybe look

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Speaker 5: like a bee if I asked the people four inches

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Speaker 5: I was in the middle of a full rehearsal, I

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Speaker 5: had to focus on something. I had someone in my

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Speaker 5: to me, and I was like, years ago, I would

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Speaker 5: have just been like, okay, truck through, truck through. And

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Speaker 5: then I just like on the mic, was like, can

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Speaker 5: ten feet away, and then I kept rehearsing and I

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Speaker 5: And afterward I said to my publicist like, did I

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Speaker 5: was like, you have to, you have, we have to

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Speaker 5: get the job done. We're the like, we're very we're

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Speaker 5: forward facing, you're it's us who you see. And so

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Speaker 5: I don't know, that's a long winded answer. Does anyone awake?

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Speaker 5: I love toad answer. I agree.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna go off of a bad's answer a little

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Speaker 4: like don't be afraid to do something that's out of

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Speaker 4: something different, that's when something incredible truly happens. And so

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Speaker 4: I'd say that that's kind of really what's helped me

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Speaker 4: become pretty badass.

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Speaker 1: I'd say, I agree with you on your bad assess,

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Speaker 1: and I'm so glad you feel badassy.

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Speaker 5: I would like to congratulate all the women up here

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Speaker 5: on their bad assery.

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Speaker 1: I can't top that. S TM. I own that now

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Speaker 1: you are the just definition of badass, true, Jenny. You

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Speaker 1: speak your mind, you talk about things that aren't.

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Speaker 5: Right, you talk about politics.

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Speaker 1: You're not afraid.

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Speaker 6: I'm not, you know. I believe in and hear me

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Speaker 6: out everybody. I think that everyone is given a platform

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Speaker 6: for a purpose, right, And so there's some people in

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Speaker 6: the entertainment industry that don't speak up because, oh, I

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Speaker 6: got the job, and I want to keep getting the jobs.

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Speaker 6: I have a college degree and McDonald's is always hiring.

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Speaker 6: So if things go terribly wrong for me because I

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Speaker 6: spoke up about something that matters, then that's fine.

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Speaker 1: It's fine.

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Speaker 6: And you have to be at the place where you

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Speaker 6: have to decide, am I going to care about this country?

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Speaker 6: Am I going to care about other people? Or am

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Speaker 6: I only going to care about myself and me and mine.

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Speaker 6: We have to come together and be for all people

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Speaker 6: or none of us are going to make it.

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Speaker 4: So thank you.

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Speaker 6: So I use my platform for good.

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Speaker 1: And this is the thing.

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Speaker 6: Everybody has a platform. You don't have to have millions

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Speaker 6: of followers. Have a platform. Your platform might be the

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Speaker 6: produce section at your local grocery store. But if you

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Speaker 6: see something, say something and encourage other people to people

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Speaker 6: to do the same. So that's how I live my life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Do you have a lot of badass friends?

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Speaker 6: Every single one of them, every single one because I

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Speaker 6: think you draw to you who you are, right, So

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Speaker 6: either people need to level up and become someone that

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Speaker 6: cares about others or they're not supposed to be around

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Speaker 6: me because the way I move, you're going to start

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Speaker 6: caring about everybody. If it doesn't work with you're gonna

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Speaker 6: get out of there yourself.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, speaking of badass, you recently got married.

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Speaker 7: I did.

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Speaker 5: People. Oh my god, that exclusive in People was gorgeous thing.

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Speaker 1: I think your handsome husband is here.

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Speaker 6: He's not here today because we are We couldn't find

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Speaker 6: someone to watch our dog, and we are those crazy

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Speaker 6: people that don't leave the dog home.

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Speaker 1: Alone.

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Speaker 6: I love that dog is so like spoiled. So he

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Speaker 6: had to stay home with Harley, but yeah, he was

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Speaker 1: You waited for a while in your life to find

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Speaker 6: Fits, I'll say a while. Can you say fifty three?

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Speaker 6: Fifty three? I got married at fifty three. And the

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Speaker 6: reason I share my age with people is because one,

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Speaker 6: I think that women have been sold to bill of goods,

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Speaker 6: and we've been told that after thirty five were worth nothing.

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Speaker 6: We've also been told that if you're thirty five and

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Speaker 6: haven't gotten your husband and your kids yet, you're really

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Speaker 6: worth nothing. And I disagree with that, And so I

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Speaker 6: refused to just pick a guy because they said it

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Speaker 6: was time. I waited until I found the one my

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Speaker 6: heart loves, and then we got married at fifty three.

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Speaker 1: So it's fine, that's you choosing you right there.

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Speaker 6: I chose me. I love that.

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Speaker 1: What So do you have bad These women are all

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Speaker 1: bad asses. All of you are badasses. I think every

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Speaker 1: single woman is a bad ass. Right, That's why we

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Speaker 1: name this panel badass.

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Speaker 5: It feels right, it feels right. Yeah, I didn't suggest

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Speaker 5: a change of name.

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Speaker 6: I read it.

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Speaker 1: I said these are the ladies on it.

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Speaker 6: This is crunch you.

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Speaker 1: You've talked about having type two diabetes, Yes, and turning

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Speaker 1: that around. Yes, share with people how you did that.

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Speaker 6: You know what we were in the black community, we

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Speaker 6: call it sugar. You got a little bit of the sugar, right,

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Speaker 6: there is a sugar. And we all have seen people

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Speaker 6: And I decided that I need my feet. So when

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Speaker 6: don't need to eat all the donuts when we take

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Speaker 6: craft service. And craft service got did me dirty. If

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Speaker 6: you guys watch Community from the first season to the fifth,

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Speaker 6: I gained like sixty pounds so and that was me

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Speaker 6: going to eat donuts and stuff. So I realized I

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Speaker 6: that's what I did. I stopped eating all the sugar.

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Speaker 6: I started walking. I'm not I don't love exercise, but

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Speaker 6: And I want to be here for a long time.

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Speaker 1: We're talking about longevity. Yeah, yeah, it's what we need

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Speaker 1: to focus on. I think got us absolutely. What about women?

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Speaker 1: So I heard you say that women over fifty, over forty,

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Speaker 1: over fifty, they're overlooked. How do you say that that

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Speaker 1: is changing in today's environment?

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Speaker 6: You know, I think it changes by things like this,

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Speaker 6: what you're doing your podcast. It changes by women showing up.

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Speaker 6: How many women are here have felt invisible at some point?

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Speaker 6: You know, you're on the air you're getting off an airplane,

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Speaker 6: and they're helping everybody else with their bags, and nobody

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Speaker 6: And each woman that raised their hand can remember when

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Speaker 6: that wasn't the case, on the line of demarcation from

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Speaker 6: when you were away and that was seen and when

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Speaker 6: you became invisible. Maybe it's one day you had a

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Speaker 6: lash on, you went out without the lash and the lipstick,

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Speaker 6: and all of a sudden, you're invisible.

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Speaker 1: It's the worst feeling. Don't feel invisible.

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Speaker 6: Exactly, And so you have to then decide yourself, no,

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Speaker 6: I still exist, I'm still here I will vocally. So

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Speaker 6: you're just gonna go get Sally's bag. You're not gonna

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Speaker 6: get mine. I'll say it and they'll go, oh, oh okay,

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Speaker 6: let me. Yeah, I'm a woman too, I'm a lady,

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Speaker 6: so you know, so.

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Speaker 5: You just have to speak up. But a woman looks

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Speaker 5: at you and she's like, my name is Linda, who's Sally?

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Speaker 6: Okay, okay, I understood it. I understood Jen.

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Speaker 1: You were a badass on The Bachelor. Everybody that saw that.

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Speaker 1: You're the first Asian American to represent on the Bachelorette,

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Speaker 1: and you did an amazing job. You are so inspirational.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you because you turned lemons into lemonade.

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Speaker 4: Oh I love lemonade so good.

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Speaker 1: Your life is a lemonade now you killed it on

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Speaker 1: Dancing with the Stars.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: It amazing. I was blown away. I didn't expect to

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Speaker 1: see that from you and me.

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Speaker 5: Neither, honestly, never dance a day of my life. Yeah, never.

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Speaker 3: It was.

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Speaker 4: Dancing's very it's very different. It's very vulnerab You got

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Speaker 4: to move your body and your booty and ways that

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Speaker 4: you never moved before. And I've never done that before,

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Speaker 4: so it was very interesting.

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Speaker 1: You've pushed yourself out of your comfort zone a number

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Speaker 1: important that is.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I think it's so important to push

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Speaker 4: yourself outside of the comfort zone. And I think the

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Speaker 4: reason that is is because I think oftentimes we're so

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Speaker 4: complacent in our lives and we sit around and we're like, oh,

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Speaker 4: why is this happening to me? Why is my life

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Speaker 4: like this? Why is X y Z happening? And I

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Speaker 4: think our life is in our own hands, Like we

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Speaker 4: have the power to change our lives at any moment,

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Speaker 4: and it starts slowly. It's one decision to the next

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Speaker 4: decision to the next decision. And for me, I've always

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Speaker 4: had to push outside my comfort zone to reach the

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Speaker 4: goals that I've wanted to reach. Yeah, and if you

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Speaker 4: don't do that, then you won't end up at the

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Speaker 4: place that you want to be and you're going to

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Speaker 4: be unhappy. So I think the overall message is to

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Speaker 4: remember that your life is in your own hands, and

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Speaker 4: you were the person without power at the end of the.

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Speaker 1: Day, Jackie, when's the last time you did that?

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Speaker 5: Put yourself out of your comfort this morning? Never probably

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Speaker 5: never comfortable, Jenny.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't putting on your suit because I told you

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Speaker 1: backstage how cute you look.

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Speaker 6: I look so adorable.

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Speaker 5: I look like, oh, you need to clap you angel babies.

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Speaker 5: I felt like putting this on, I look like a

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Speaker 5: paper doll going on the office, like a toy office worker. Okay,

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Speaker 5: I'm in I'm obsessed with it, but I paper doll office.

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Speaker 5: What I was gonna say about what Jen was saying,

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Speaker 5: damn it, Jackie with the ADHD was the very last

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Speaker 5: thing you said, because I was gonna say to me

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Speaker 5: before I did the alpha bit.

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Speaker 1: You don't remember either.

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Speaker 6: You have the power, yes, yes, you have the power.

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Speaker 6: You have the power.

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Speaker 5: So I was talking to my boyfriend yesterday and we

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Speaker 5: were having a conversation when you have these hard conversations

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Speaker 5: when you feel like someone's your boss but really kind

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Speaker 5: of they work for you, but it's this awkward or whatever.

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Speaker 1: You work together.

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Speaker 5: And I remember, remember I when I was more focused

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Speaker 5: on songwriting, I worked with a publisher and he said

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Speaker 5: this sort of cheesy thing, but I think of it

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Speaker 5: almost every single day. And he was just like we would.

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Speaker 5: I was in my twenties, I had nothing going on

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Speaker 5: at no money, and he would constantly tell me I

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Speaker 5: was the CEO. Every he would be like, he would

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Speaker 5: be like, well, what decisions are you making on this?

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Speaker 6: So you're the CEO.

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Speaker 5: You're the CEO of Jackie Don't incorporated.

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Speaker 6: You're the CEO of this song. You're in this room.

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Speaker 5: It was your idea, you pitch the title, you are

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Speaker 5: the CEO.

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Speaker 7: What is it?

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Speaker 5: And then I have chills And it's like to speak

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Speaker 5: to a Jema saying, it's that feeling of you. We

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Speaker 5: feel like everyone else is pulling the strings, and I

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Speaker 5: think in a lot of ways they are, but of

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Speaker 5: the things we can control, It's like I said about

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Speaker 5: that weird story yesterday. It's like, without being mean, I'm

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Speaker 5: the CEO, and I'm asking for a boundary in this

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Speaker 5: need to get done. And it's pretty cut and dry.

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Speaker 6: And one of my friends was.

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Speaker 5: Backstage with me and she's like, where do you get

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Speaker 5: the balls? And I was like, I don't know, but

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Speaker 5: I'm learning as I get older, you have to fake

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Speaker 5: the ball. So you I have enormous I could barely

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Speaker 5: This took a turn.

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Speaker 6: Jenny.

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Speaker 1: I apologize.

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Speaker 5: You should never have asked you.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 1: You know how much I love you.

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Speaker 6: What did you ask me to we were talking?

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Speaker 1: You no I love you. I I wanted to talk

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Speaker 1: to you a little bit about Jewish representation on TV. Okay,

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Speaker 1: because you are killing it, your character is I'm sorry

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Speaker 1: the breakout on that show.

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Speaker 5: I would never tell anyone you said that, tweeted everybody.

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Speaker 6: No, No, I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 5: Don't use Twitter, obviously, delete your account.

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Speaker 7: My good.

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Speaker 1: Out here, Get me started. Do you feel proud? Do

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Speaker 1: you feel like I love that representing your culture in

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Speaker 1: a new way that you have it before.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, I I am very.

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Speaker 3: Me and.

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Speaker 5: Also Jewish at obviously, and it feels nice to not

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Speaker 5: have to you know, not every character you play is

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Speaker 5: going to be you years and years ago when it's

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Speaker 5: going on auditions all the time. I did an episode

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Speaker 5: I played like this girl with a drinking problem from

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Speaker 5: the South on an episode of Memphis Beat, and it

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Speaker 5: was so fun and weird, not a big fake accent,

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Speaker 5: and it was just a delight.

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Speaker 6: And this is the polar opposite of that.

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Speaker 5: This is a community of people and a crew of

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Speaker 5: people that I'm working with who are valuing my opinion

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Speaker 5: and asking my opinion and making sure that the Jewish

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Speaker 5: representation is authentic, and making sure that the people saying

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Speaker 5: these words make sense saying them, And I got to

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Speaker 5: tell you, it feels real good. It feels it feels fabulous.

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Speaker 6: My mother is plotzing.

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Speaker 1: It's a delight. Wait, what does plotzing mean? I don't.

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Speaker 5: It's like plotzing is like shepiknachus Jenny.

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Speaker 6: No, I'm kidding.

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Speaker 5: I knew, I knew, I would just make it more confusing.

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Speaker 6: Plotzing is like being so excited.

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Speaker 5: For someone just you can't keep it in. Yeah, like

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Speaker 5: you're watching someone succeed and you're just like over brimming.

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Speaker 1: I'm plotzing for you too. I know how hard you've worked.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, I feel that you actually are Jenny,

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Speaker 5: and not as a joke. I'll get emotional, but I

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Speaker 5: don't know you yet, and I'm so excited to meet you,

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Speaker 5: but I know both of you, and you are both

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Speaker 5: so authentic, so proud of you that I'll cry if

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Speaker 5: I think about how kind you are, just so supportive

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Speaker 5: and so warm. And when you see a person I'm

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Speaker 5: in my forties, like I'm first. You know, it's nice

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Speaker 5: to get yours when you know you're close to dead.

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Speaker 5: That's how they treat us, like you're howled. But yeah,

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Speaker 5: you two are both I mean just for those of

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Speaker 5: but so authentically supportive, and it's I think it used

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Speaker 5: to be a lot more rare, but I think now

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Speaker 5: we find as we get older, like, well there's room

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Speaker 5: for all of us, and keeping your elbow on someone's heads,

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Speaker 5: that that's not making there be less room, Like we're.

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Speaker 6: Gonna, we're gonna find a way around. I've heard of

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Speaker 6: a phrase it says a candle loses nothing by lighting another.

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Speaker 6: A candle loses nothing by lighting another. And I think

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Speaker 6: especially in this industry where totally one can get through

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Speaker 6: it's a lie.

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Speaker 1: It's a lie.

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Speaker 6: It's wide open and celebrate and support each other, and

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Speaker 6: not just in this industry, in life, help people, see people,

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Speaker 6: show up for people, support people. It's important.

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Speaker 5: And then what ends up happening is every we all

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Speaker 5: want to be around each other exactly, and then we're friends.

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Speaker 5: And so you'd end up doing something and you're like, oh,

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Speaker 5: these people should come and do it, and so by

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Speaker 5: we all have room to blossom and be near each

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Speaker 5: other and laugh and be silly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it was such an eye opening experience for me

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Speaker 1: when I started doing the QVC with my Q fifty sisters.

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Speaker 1: There's a group of women called the Q fifty and

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Speaker 1: we represent women of a certain age. And once I

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Speaker 1: stepped into that environment of women supporting women and building

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Speaker 5: I feel the exact same way I was up and

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Speaker 5: coming when I was an up and coming comic. It's

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Speaker 5: such a boys game. I mean, everything we do is

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Speaker 5: a songwriting. I just all a boys game. And I

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Speaker 5: think with women on television there's generally only there's one,

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Speaker 5: Like there's one funny girl on the show, is it

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Speaker 7: Using?

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Speaker 1: Who's it?

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Speaker 5: And so you're always having a fight for your spot.

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Speaker 6: But I also think that.

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Speaker 5: The changes coming from the inside where now things are

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Speaker 5: they were like, oh, all the crazy chickens can come

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Speaker 5: and play. There was fifteen of us just absolutely being bonkers,

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Speaker 5: and so there's just it's nice to be in a

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Speaker 6: You know, we got a long way to go.

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Speaker 4: I will say you have to find those people though,

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Speaker 4: because I think if you're confined in a space where

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Speaker 4: world is like that. And I think I've kind of

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Speaker 4: had to learn the hard way and cut ties with

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Speaker 4: a lot of people over the years and realize like, no,

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Speaker 4: those aren't my real friends. People who are competitive with me,

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Speaker 4: who are jealous of me like I, and so what

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Speaker 4: cutting ties with them is like the best thing I've

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Speaker 4: ever did, because it's hard.

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Speaker 1: That's so hard.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it is really hard. I call those this is

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Speaker 5: not catchy at all, but I've been calling it this

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Speaker 1: The friendship scissors.

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Speaker 6: Got to take them out. Bye bye, bye bye baby.

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Speaker 6: But also, you're not happy for me?

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Speaker 5: What is this?

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Speaker 6: But you also have to realize it becomes easy when

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Speaker 6: you realize if someone's competing with you, they're not a friend,

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Speaker 6: they're front. So it's not hard to cut an enemy

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Speaker 6: off or someone that is out to get you. You know,

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Speaker 6: not that people are out to get you, but you

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Speaker 6: understand either we're both rowing in the same way in

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Speaker 6: lend it's brought water and waiting for us to sink,

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Speaker 6: which are you?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: And if you are not rowing with me, you got

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Speaker 6: to get out the boat. I don't want you to

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Speaker 6: drown if I have a boat.

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Speaker 5: Remember when I said that much less eloquently and worse

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Speaker 1: But I can so relate when you were doing the

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Speaker 1: Bachelor Bachelor, I get some confused.

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Speaker 4: Bachelor and Bachelor.

444
00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:38,159
Speaker 1: Yes, did you have that feeling inside of you or

445
00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:39,720
Speaker 1: what was that environment like for you?

446
00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:41,120
Speaker 5: It's tough.

447
00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:43,760
Speaker 4: I mean, it's when we are going to be competitive

448
00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,320
Speaker 4: when it's twenty five of you dating one man.

449
00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:49,720
Speaker 5: Absolutely, absolutely, it's hard not to be I think, and.

450
00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,760
Speaker 4: I mean even I was pretty competitive, but I also

451
00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:57,800
Speaker 4: kept my relationship very private when I was on the Bachelor,

452
00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,440
Speaker 4: Like I was like, these girls are my friend, but

453
00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:02,760
Speaker 4: I'm also my heart was in it for that man

454
00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:05,000
Speaker 4: at the time, So you had to do what you

455
00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,360
Speaker 4: had to do. But at the end of the day,

456
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:09,919
Speaker 4: after all was said and done, we are a lot

457
00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:12,600
Speaker 4: of us are still really good friends. So I think

458
00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:15,399
Speaker 4: that's also something to be said about womanhood.

459
00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:18,199
Speaker 1: Right, I think, I mean, to be honest, growing up

460
00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:22,399
Speaker 1: in the business, feeling those competitive energies, and especially with

461
00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:25,320
Speaker 1: the way this industry works and being pitted against one

462
00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 1: another to get the role or to have more lines,

463
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 1: or to be pretty whatever the thing is. I struggled

464
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:35,560
Speaker 1: with that, if I'm being perfectly honest, now, no, not now,

465
00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,119
Speaker 1: back then. I mean, there's still those little voices inside

466
00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:39,520
Speaker 1: my head that I have to hold back.

467
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,800
Speaker 6: You came up when it was really rough. It was

468
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:45,200
Speaker 6: nineties girl. I'm glad you made it out because it

469
00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:49,800
Speaker 6: was right entertainment. It was a lot of stuff going on.

470
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, it was rough, and I think that

471
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 1: it made me stronger, but it also was very Is

472
00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:58,359
Speaker 1: this the word thwarting?

473
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Speaker 6: Thwarted? You thwarted me?

474
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:01,199
Speaker 4: Thwarted?

475
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:03,360
Speaker 1: Honestly one of the worst words.

476
00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:04,000
Speaker 4: It is.

477
00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 5: You're using it properly, but it's a terrible As you said,

478
00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:11,720
Speaker 5: it's a right, it's correct, but it's horrible. Thwarted.

479
00:22:12,119 --> 00:22:15,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it wasn't sorry about to use it. I know. Sorry. Well,

480
00:22:16,280 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 1: it wasn't until later that I really realized that we are.

481
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:21,399
Speaker 6: All in this click what click for you?

482
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:23,760
Speaker 1: I have to be honest. It was it was meeting

483
00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:26,639
Speaker 1: the Q fifty women. It was it was meeting and

484
00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 1: realizing I don't want to surround myself with people who

485
00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:35,160
Speaker 1: are insecure and challenging or like fighting with me for attention.

486
00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:38,159
Speaker 1: I want to be around women that are smarter than me,

487
00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 1: better than me, and they can teach me. And I

488
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 1: like when I find new friends like many of you

489
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,440
Speaker 1: here today, it's because you inspire me.

490
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Speaker 6: Can I since you've brought it up, can I speak

491
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:55,359
Speaker 6: of how much I love you? Certainly I'm a little

492
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:57,399
Speaker 6: I'm a smidge older, but I was a big fan

493
00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 6: of nine to two one Oho. You're my favorite, and

494
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Speaker 6: I I feel like I grew up with you because

495
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:03,160
Speaker 6: I was watching I was it was my first year

496
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:05,119
Speaker 6: of college when the show came on, and so I

497
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:07,720
Speaker 6: watched the show and my first time meeting you. But

498
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:10,520
Speaker 6: I've always felt that you were good people. I could

499
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,600
Speaker 6: always feel in my spirit that you were good people.

500
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 6: So when this opportunity came to be able to meet

501
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:16,879
Speaker 6: you and be on this panel, I was like, yes, please.

502
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 6: So I want you to know that who you are

503
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 6: shines even back then when you were going through whatever

504
00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 6: you were going through, your general kindness and sweetness and

505
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:28,399
Speaker 6: care for others always showed. So thank you, Yes, thank you.

506
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 1: It's so easy to get derailed. It's so easy to

507
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 1: get derailed and to listen to the wrong messaging and

508
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:35,879
Speaker 1: believe it.

509
00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:38,879
Speaker 6: It is so true and to what you were just saying, Jenny,

510
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,119
Speaker 6: I was the exact same way.

511
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 1: I struggled with it.

512
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 5: I was very much you know, you just wonder, like

513
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 5: the one other girl on the show, like how many

514
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:52,959
Speaker 5: scenes is she in? How many does she have more

515
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 5: to do than me?

516
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,320
Speaker 6: And oh god, I only have one line, one nothing.

517
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 5: I'm practically not even in this. And it's hard when

518
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,160
Speaker 5: there's so little. There was so little given to women,

519
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 5: especially in comedy. It's it's hard to not feel competitive

520
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:10,440
Speaker 5: and you try not to. But it did change for me.

521
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:13,000
Speaker 1: I was lucky my Q fifty.

522
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 6: I guess it was glow because season.

523
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,080
Speaker 5: One it was there a little, there was a little

524
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 5: juju of like like we loved each other, but it

525
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:24,640
Speaker 5: was it was quietly competitive. It was like not passive aggressive,

526
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,919
Speaker 5: but it was just like question me, like oh how

527
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:27,360
Speaker 5: many scenes?

528
00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:29,120
Speaker 6: Like do a lot to do in this next one?

529
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 5: And these kind of things, and then those conversations just

530
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 5: went by the wayside once we started like fully watch

531
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 5: like me watching my friend's kids and being like sort

532
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 5: of ingratiated into everyone's families and lives. You just start

533
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 5: loving each other and it doesn't matter anymore. So that's

534
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 5: when it sort of dissolved for me. But my I

535
00:24:47,280 --> 00:24:48,080
Speaker 5: started acting when I.

536
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 1: Was nine, So my entire career I was really.

537
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:56,960
Speaker 5: Like, probably a little pushy and elbowie because it was

538
00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:01,120
Speaker 5: so important to me to get mine and I wasn't.

539
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,400
Speaker 5: But it really didn't until I was thirty six.

540
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:05,680
Speaker 6: This is what's crazy about that. Though, I believe cream

541
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:08,000
Speaker 6: always rises to the top, right, And so I think

542
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 6: I'll use my example when I was in Community because

543
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 6: my character was not really written and this is no

544
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,920
Speaker 6: shade against Dan Harmon, there were other people to do

545
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:15,960
Speaker 6: other things, so I didn't have a lot to do

546
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,159
Speaker 6: on the show. It looks like I did because I

547
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,159
Speaker 6: knew that I was in the corner of the screen

548
00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:22,879
Speaker 6: and somebody, even even I didn't have lines, somebody was

549
00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:24,800
Speaker 6: going to look in that corner. So I would give

550
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 6: them something. It would be a facial reaction, it would

551
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:29,399
Speaker 6: be a grunt, it would be that's nice when it

552
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,719
Speaker 6: wasn't scripted, and I said, whoever that person is watching Shirley,

553
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:34,520
Speaker 6: I want them to have a good time and so

554
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 6: I take that with me everywhere I go. And it's

555
00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 6: not about stealing the scene. It's just I don't I'm here,

556
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:40,440
Speaker 6: the camera's doing a two shot.

557
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:41,480
Speaker 5: This is what Shirley would do.

558
00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 4: It's a shot.

559
00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:45,679
Speaker 6: Surely would have something to say about that, could chase something.

560
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 1: Surely be in it, be there.

561
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 6: And the thing is, you still show up. So whether

562
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 6: you have a line or not, whether you're the focus

563
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 6: or not, even if you're in deep background.

564
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:55,480
Speaker 5: You're still there.

565
00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 1: You're still a part of what of this.

566
00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:00,879
Speaker 6: Tableau, of this mosaic that's being hate it and you

567
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:04,440
Speaker 6: were undeniable. There's no way it wasn't gonna be you.

568
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:05,480
Speaker 6: Were you kidding?

569
00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:06,640
Speaker 1: You kiding me? My mom?

570
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 6: Event love Jewish mother. No, I love it. I appreciate you.

571
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 5: I mean, this is how she speaks it. Really it's

572
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 5: very heartwarming in it. It means a lot to me,

573
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:17,160
Speaker 5: it really does.

574
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 1: It's the key. I think you're such a great example

575
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 1: of this building other women up.

576
00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 6: Absolutely, it's so important. Brick by brick, we have to

577
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:28,639
Speaker 6: This is the other thing, Jenny. I remember when I

578
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:30,760
Speaker 6: when I came into the industry. I have a group

579
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 6: of friends, my tribe, my group that I came up

580
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 6: with we share information, so we will hear about an audition.

581
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 6: Go Girdie looking for us gone. This is the this

582
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 6: is the cast and director. These are the size, This

583
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 6: is how many people were in the room. Because the

584
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:42,920
Speaker 6: other thing is sometimes you find out about an opportunity

585
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 6: because it is someone else's opportunity. You heard about it first,

586
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,119
Speaker 6: but it was always jackiees. So who am I to

587
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:51,359
Speaker 6: stop Jackie from her opportunity. If it's mine, it's got

588
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 6: a bowl on it that says event, no one can

589
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 6: take it. If it's Jackie, it's got Jackie's bowl, it's

590
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:57,399
Speaker 6: got your boat. So why am I not gonna give

591
00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 6: her her present? Why would I?

592
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 1: Why would I get She needs her presence.

593
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 6: I love their information.

594
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:10,480
Speaker 1: Wait, this is not We're just not loving each other enough.

595
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 1: You are. She's such an amazing human being, you guys.

596
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 1: Do you know that she turned down season six of

597
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:24,440
Speaker 1: Community just when it was coming strong to take full

598
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: time care of her ailing father.

599
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:27,720
Speaker 5: Yeah.

600
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, twelve years later, we're still going strongly. And Daddy.

601
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:35,480
Speaker 1: I saw him on the wedding video when they brought

602
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 1: him down the aisle.

603
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 6: I borrow the ugly cry. I was like, I'm about

604
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 6: to lose this lash. This lash is about to just fall. Yeah,

605
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 6: And that was a wonderful surprise that my husband. My

606
00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 6: dad has dementia and he had a fall recently and

607
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,160
Speaker 6: he no longer walks, and so the idea of trying

608
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 6: to get him to the wedding I could. I mentally

609
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 6: couldn't figure out how it could happen, and so I

610
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 6: just said, I'll go. I'll go after tomorrow. We'll put

611
00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:58,879
Speaker 6: the dress back on, we'll go to where he's his

612
00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,200
Speaker 6: carried place, and I'll show him the wedding. And my

613
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 6: husband knew that I would not be okay if my

614
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 6: dad wasn't there. And so after I met him at

615
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 6: the altar, he says, do you trust me? I said yes,

616
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 6: He said, I'll be right back. He comes back in

617
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 6: willing my dad in. There was not a dry eye

618
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:16,119
Speaker 6: in the girl. I was a mess, Jackie. I was

619
00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 6: a mess, a mess, honey. So, yeah, my dad is

620
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 6: everything to me. And I want to say this, since

621
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 6: you brought this up, guys, be mindful that before we

622
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 6: leave here, we will all either be a caregiver or

623
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:30,000
Speaker 6: a caregiving So you need to wrap your mind around

624
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:33,320
Speaker 6: what that means for you. And know that it's not scary.

625
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:37,240
Speaker 6: Caregiving is just loving someone else. We do it every day,

626
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 6: and if the person has dementia, we're a caregiver, a

627
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 6: caretaker of their memories. What a great gift that is

628
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 6: to be able to tell my dad about his life.

629
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 5: Daddy, remember when you used to singing you do walk

630
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:49,320
Speaker 5: group back in Alabama?

631
00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 6: He said, I did, Yes, you did. It's a beautiful

632
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 6: gift that you can give. So please, when it's your turn,

633
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 6: lean into it. When it's your turn, let somebody care

634
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 6: for you. Let somebody care for you and be okay

635
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:03,200
Speaker 6: with caring for others.

636
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 1: You can do it.

637
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 6: I promise you can do it. Okay. Please, I see you, honey,

638
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 6: I see you.

639
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: So what I want to know?

640
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 6: Why are you?

641
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 1: Whether are the emotions? What got you here? I want

642
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 1: to support you.

643
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:19,880
Speaker 6: You get it?

644
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 4: You get it.

645
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 7: Wait?

646
00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 1: Wait, I'm going to bring you a microphone. Okay, yeah, no,

647
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: hurry your stake, baby, you need the spotlight.

648
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 6: Thank you, Jenny, You're so beautiful, so are you?

649
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 5: Thank you?

650
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:37,959
Speaker 4: Now?

651
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 3: My I I knew a little bit of Samantha's story.

652
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 3: If you want to know my breast cancer story, it's

653
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 3: exactly hers.

654
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 6: It's we went through it at.

655
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 3: The same time twenty fourteen, for forty years old.

656
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 1: Everything.

657
00:29:57,160 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 3: While I was going through my breast cancer, I was

658
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 3: taking care of my mom who was going through ladder

659
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 3: cancer and to keep ourselves sane through it all. It

660
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 3: was one hospital after another and we would just go

661
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 3: to gift shops to keep ourselves going.

662
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 6: And I know, I know, and and I took care

663
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 6: of her full time.

664
00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 3: I left my job as a flight attendant to take.

665
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Speaker 5: Care of her.

666
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 3: And I lost her in twenty fifteen.

667
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 6: Sorry, she was my rock, she was my best friend.

668
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 6: I missed her tremendously.

669
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 3: And yeah, I mean, it's just it's yeah, And I

670
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 3: mean I sat there and we told the stories. And

671
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 3: you know, prior to that, I had lost my sister

672
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 3: and my dad. And it's it's terrible, you know.

673
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 6: And what's something I will share with you. And I

674
00:30:58,080 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 6: lost my mom in twenty twenty one, and I get it.

675
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 6: It's it's horrible. The grief is equal to the love.

676
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 6: It is so when it is tearing you up, you

677
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 6: will get to the point where you laugh because it's

678
00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 6: like Dad, I had a great mother. Oh my sister

679
00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 6: was awesome. Because I am tore up right, now, and

680
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 6: that's the way it should be. If you're loved good.

681
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,600
Speaker 6: When they go, it's supposed to hurt. So just know

682
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 6: that that is a sign that that you did it

683
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 6: right and she did it right. And I'm so sorry

684
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 6: for your loss and.

685
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 3: It will last your life. You never get over it.

686
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 3: I hate when people say that, you know when when

687
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 3: you're gonna get over it. You don't get over it

688
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 3: because you love that person forever and your grief will

689
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 3: be forever.

690
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:44,760
Speaker 1: Yes for sharing, thank you for.

691
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:49,959
Speaker 6: Ginny and I share one more thing. Just care, give

692
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 6: me space.

693
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 1: And this is not no you are you know about this?

694
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 6: This is not self serving. I really I did a

695
00:31:56,160 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 6: podcast called Squeezed, and it's about those of us that

696
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 6: what she just described, where she's going through her own

697
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 6: thing and then she's getting squeezed because she has to

698
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 6: care for her mother. Some people are caring for children

699
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 6: and also their parents. Please find the podcast because it

700
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 6: is literally like a friend in the journey. You can

701
00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 6: turn it on and here it's like a docu podcast

702
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 6: where you're hearing these lives and you're hearing people talk

703
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 6: about what they're going through and sharing what got them through.

704
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 6: You can put it on in the background where you're

705
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:24,479
Speaker 6: caring for someone. You can put it on the background

706
00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 6: where you're going through a treatment yourself, and it makes

707
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 6: you feel like you're not alone. So it's called squeezed.

708
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:30,480
Speaker 6: It's everywhere.

709
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 1: Can I ask you a question about this, sorry, How

710
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 1: do you find the time to choose yourself when you're

711
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 1: a full time caregift.

712
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 6: I don't know the answer to that. Self care is

713
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 6: so bad for me. I don't know how to do it.

714
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:44,520
Speaker 6: It's good for me. I just know how to do it.

715
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,200
Speaker 6: And that's why the idea of I choose me is

716
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 6: like resonating with me in ways I can't even explain

717
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 6: to you right now, because it just it's a choice. Everybody.

718
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:54,800
Speaker 6: You really do have to say No, I'm gonna go

719
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 6: get a bagel today, I'm gonna go get my coffee.

720
00:32:57,720 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 6: I'm gonna take my sake.

721
00:32:58,720 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 1: Oh gets me every time.

722
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 6: But well, little butter Toasted the batil gets you every time,

723
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 6: you know, go to the movie, you know, go go

724
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 6: visit friends and have a bite of lunch. You have

725
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 6: to find a way to prioritize yourself. And it's not selfish.

726
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 5: We were not and I were saying this backstage but

727
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 5: very common concept. But you can't help anybody if you don't.

728
00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 7: Have your own own Coxtons, and so it's that it's

729
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 7: my My mom's generation was all very and she used

730
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 7: to tell me anything she did for herself was like very,

731
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 7: it's very selfish.

732
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 5: You're very selfish.

733
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 4: It's okay to be selfish, though you have to be

734
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 4: selfish sometimes.

735
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 6: Are you're going to survive. And we have to change

736
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 6: the words.

737
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:44,200
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say it selfish.

738
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 6: It's it's caring for yourself, you know, it's choosing.

739
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 5: It's selfish choosing to say change selfish to choosing me.

740
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 1: I choose me, I choose me, and it's not selfish,

741
00:33:55,720 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 1: it's vital to your wells. Yep, yep, Jen, What was

742
00:34:05,800 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 1: the most badass thing you've ever done, both on television

743
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: and in your real life?

744
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 5: Oh that's a good question.

745
00:34:18,080 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: I mean, go get my pjs out, let's get.

746
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 5: The line out.

747
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:24,839
Speaker 1: Really skill, let's see.

748
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 4: I would probably say the most badass thing I've ever

749
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 4: done on television is probably the Batcherette finale when I

750
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,839
Speaker 4: was sitting across from my ex fiance at.

751
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 1: The time and ex.

752
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 4: Fiance excuse me, and I had to basically like confront

753
00:34:42,239 --> 00:34:45,880
Speaker 4: him in front of a live audience on live I

754
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 4: remember how well for the entire world to see, and

755
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 4: basically had to like fight through tears to find the

756
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 4: words to confront him and get my truth out and

757
00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 4: and talk to him and kind of call him out.

758
00:34:58,200 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 6: And I will say that.

759
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 4: That would have been very hard for me to do,

760
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:05,320
Speaker 4: like even two years ago alone in a room with

761
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 4: like an X, but like to be able to do

762
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 4: that on a stage.

763
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 1: Where did you find this strength in that moment? Balls?

764
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 5: I grew balls that day. I gave her a special aliss.

765
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,760
Speaker 1: She gave me the ball Balls.

766
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 6: Honestly, we really don't have you.

767
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 5: Let's change that.

768
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to neither do I.

769
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 5: No, I don't mean we don't even we don't even

770
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 5: theoretically need like we as women, Yeah, we do not

771
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:31,720
Speaker 5: need We don't need them anyway.

772
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 4: But I will say I think there was a certain

773
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 4: like the live element to it definitely scared the shit

774
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:39,240
Speaker 4: out of me. But I will also say it also

775
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 4: pushed me because I was like, this is my one

776
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 4: and only shot. This is the only time I have

777
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 4: to say what I need to say to this man,

778
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 4: and to get in to hear everything I need to say,

779
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 4: and to get the world to hear everything that happens,

780
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 4: because otherwise no one's going to be able to.

781
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 1: Know what really happened.

782
00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 4: And that was kind of what pushed me over the

783
00:35:59,320 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 4: edge there.

784
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,840
Speaker 1: All my daughters and myself were standing up cheering for

785
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 1: you in my living.

786
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:04,800
Speaker 6: Thank you, thank you.

787
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 1: So real life was in real life? Well that was

788
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: your real life.

789
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:10,919
Speaker 5: Oh that was kind of real life.

790
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was that was two for for sure.

791
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

792
00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:17,320
Speaker 1: I love that. And you have the courage to continue

793
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 1: forward and keep finding out what's next for you by

794
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 1: going on Dancing with the Stars.

795
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 5: It was the best time of my life.

796
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 4: And that's why I say, like take every opportunity you can,

797
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 4: because when I started The Bachelor of the Bachelor, I

798
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 4: didn't know it was gonna end up on Dancing with

799
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:29,600
Speaker 4: the Stars.

800
00:36:30,040 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 1: Thinks they're gonna end up there by nobody does.

801
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:35,200
Speaker 4: Nobody does. That is like a dream for like five

802
00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 4: year old Jen, Like I watched that show all the

803
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:37,920
Speaker 4: time growing up.

804
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 5: I was like, I always want to be on the show.

805
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:41,439
Speaker 4: I thought I was gonna be a pro dancer because

806
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:43,920
Speaker 4: I was like, maybe I'll take some dance lessons one day.

807
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 4: Never got to that stage, never thought I'd be like

808
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 4: the star of the show, but I it was incredible

809
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 4: and it was like the best time of my life.

810
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 4: I truly do not think anything will ever overcome it

811
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 4: because I just had so much fun. It was like

812
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 4: the most therapeutic thing and came at such a therapeutic time,

813
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:03,759
Speaker 4: like I've really needed that.

814
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you have girls coming, women coming up to

815
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:10,360
Speaker 1: you now and thanking you for being so brave?

816
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 4: Yeah? I do, And it is kind of a crazy

817
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:15,880
Speaker 4: thing to hear so many people come up to me

818
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 4: and like thank me for just being the first Asian

819
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 4: American bacheh, or for just being so vulnerable. But I

820
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 4: think that the vulnerable part is the part that makes

821
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 4: me so proud to be able to do because growing

822
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 4: up I was never so vulnerable in my household, Like

823
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 4: my family never really talked about our feelings, and so

824
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 4: all those kinds of things were kind of just closeted.

825
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 4: And so for me to be able to go on

826
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,400
Speaker 4: TV and just like talk about what makes me mean,

827
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 4: what I'm afraid of, what I'm most insecure about, what

828
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 4: scares the shit out of me, I think it really

829
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 4: resonated with a lot of people and to be able

830
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 4: to just have my heart fully out there and for

831
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:55,320
Speaker 4: everyone to see that.

832
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 1: I think more people need to do that so that

833
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:01,399
Speaker 1: we can get vulnerable. I want to talk. Let's talk

834
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:03,520
Speaker 1: about vulnerability a second.

835
00:38:03,719 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 5: I was just gonna say, authenticity works every time. Every time,

836
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 5: It's like you can't really choose to do it or

837
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:11,840
Speaker 5: not do it. If you are you are and everybody

838
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 5: just feels it.

839
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:17,240
Speaker 1: Whenever I'm inauthentic, I can feel I'm out of alignment

840
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 1: with who I'm meant to be, who I wander and vulnerability,

841
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: I go bruggle.

842
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I just I just did just now.

843
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 5: I literally just case and pointed my own self.

844
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: Wait to explain it, what happened?

845
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,040
Speaker 5: I just like I just make everything funny, like I

846
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:39,800
Speaker 5: try to make every difflect with always, but I feel

847
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 5: very deeply and I love to connect very deeply. And

848
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 5: I'm super attracted to vulnerability, like I'm a magnet to

849
00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 5: a vetom just to just you dive right into futu

850
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 5: and it's just this feeling of like, oh this is

851
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 5: so it just feels so connected. But I don't I

852
00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 5: don't lead with that. I think you ladies lead with that.

853
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 5: I lead with like I'm in a doll work outfit.

854
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 5: I'm saying, I always have some shick what's scary about

855
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 5: it for you? What is it about vulnerable?

856
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:08,680
Speaker 6: Sorry?

857
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 5: Okay, well I just don't even know if it's scary

858
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 5: or if it's like I think, if we're getting real real,

859
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 5: I think it's inherited trauma. Because my mom is the

860
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 5: most amazing, funny, wonderful person, but she is so sarcastic.

861
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 5: And my grandma, who is a Holocaust survivor and the strongest,

862
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,480
Speaker 5: most amazing woman you would have ever met.

863
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:35,520
Speaker 6: I came out in my prom.

864
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 5: Outfit and she's like, this is what you're wearing, and like,

865
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 5: if this is who we are, this is what we do.

866
00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 5: We never led with vulnerability, Like my grandma would be

867
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 5: on the couch like in her very very old age

868
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 5: and I'd be like, hey, what are you doing and

869
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 5: She's like going dancingk what does it look like I'm doing?

870
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:56,280
Speaker 5: You're like, okay, So I am from a long line

871
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 5: of just like absolute capital wise assery, and so I

872
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:04,800
Speaker 5: just don't lead with like feelings almost ever. And so

873
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,239
Speaker 5: I realized, like in a relationship even it's like I

874
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 5: have to oh, yes, I have to, Like really, I

875
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 5: go to therapy and then I'm like, how should I

876
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 5: word it?

877
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,439
Speaker 6: Like what words should I say?

878
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:16,840
Speaker 1: Truly me?

879
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:17,360
Speaker 2: What to do?

880
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 4: Yeah?

881
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 6: What are the words?

882
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 5: And then I like come home and I struggle. Like

883
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,879
Speaker 5: even my boyfriend is like sometimes I'll just say things

884
00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 5: and he's like, I don't think I'm saying this to

885
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:26,960
Speaker 5: raise your consciousness. I don't think you know how you

886
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 5: just said that.

887
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:28,040
Speaker 7: I don't.

888
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 5: I don't think you just heard yourself. And then I'm like,

889
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 5: dead serious, do a line reading. Because he's an actor too,

890
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 5: I'm like, how was it? And then he do it

891
00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,800
Speaker 5: back to me and it's like, ooh, but I don't

892
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 5: mean it like I'm trying to have a connected emotional conversation.

893
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 7: You know.

894
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 6: You know what I'll say this. You do have the

895
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:46,800
Speaker 6: ability to be there, you know what I'm saying. So

896
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:48,440
Speaker 6: I want you. I want you. You can keep doing

897
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:50,800
Speaker 6: your work as we all should, but just know that

898
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 6: you show up for people authentically and we can feel

899
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 6: that you're there. We can feel that you love us,

900
00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 6: we can feel that you see us. So don't think

901
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 6: that the wise assery is blocking the beating. Sweet delicious heart,

902
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 6: I see tears I see her, she knows I see her,

903
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 6: and and I want you to know that that we

904
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:11,439
Speaker 6: it's there.

905
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 5: It still comes through, you know what I mean? So

906
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 5: just know that that's It's also like a muscle that

907
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 5: you flex.

908
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:19,080
Speaker 4: You know, you're not great at it the first time,

909
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 4: but the more you do it, the easier it is

910
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 4: to get it open.

911
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:25,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's really nice. You guys are my girlfriends.

912
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:27,279
Speaker 3: Ride or die?

913
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 5: Baby?

914
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:33,239
Speaker 1: I feel like.

915
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:36,839
Speaker 6: It's really great. It's really good.

916
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: What would you, ladies tell each of you just a

917
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 1: quick how can we be better? Badasses?

918
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 6: Trust yourself. Your gut knows what you're supposed to do,

919
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:52,360
Speaker 6: what you're supposed to say, where you're supposed to be.

920
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:54,440
Speaker 6: You know it, and you know how you know it

921
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 6: because when you don't do it, you feel bad that

922
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 6: you didn't do it. You know when it's your moment

923
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 6: to stand up and be the bad and when you

924
00:42:01,239 --> 00:42:04,880
Speaker 6: don't do it, you feel that you've betrayed yourself. So

925
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:06,960
Speaker 6: when you feel it, you know what the aftermath is

926
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:07,960
Speaker 6: going to be. I'm gonna be home going.

927
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 5: Why didn't I say that? I should have Just say

928
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,360
Speaker 5: the thing, Just say the thing, Just.

929
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 6: Do the thing, because the thing is the people that

930
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,920
Speaker 6: are supposed to be in your life, they realize you're

931
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 6: one of their people because you say.

932
00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:21,399
Speaker 1: And do the thing.

933
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 6: If you don't ever say and do the thing, you

934
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:26,479
Speaker 6: will never meet the people that are supposed to walk

935
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 6: this road with you. And as this world changes negatively,

936
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 6: we're gonna need people on the road with us, and

937
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 6: you want fellow badasses with you. So do the thing,

938
00:42:36,520 --> 00:42:37,280
Speaker 6: say the thing.

939
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 1: Say the thing, Say the thing.

940
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 4: Jen, what's your advice, Elva, I'm gonna go really cliche

941
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:46,320
Speaker 4: here and say to follow your heart. I think with

942
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 4: every decision that I've made in my life so far,

943
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:50,360
Speaker 4: I've done it with full.

944
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 5: HUTSBA and.

945
00:42:53,600 --> 00:43:02,239
Speaker 4: I impressive, Yeah, but I've just like every decision I've made,

946
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:05,160
Speaker 4: I've I've known it to my core that it's been

947
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 4: something Every decision has been something that I want to

948
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:12,920
Speaker 4: do fully, and no matter how crazy that decision has been,

949
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 4: like not going to PA school and putting it on holding,

950
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:17,840
Speaker 4: going to do the Batchel, I just knew that it

951
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 4: was right for me. And I will say, like, if

952
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 4: something is scary to you but feels right to you,

953
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 4: just do it, because if your heart is in it,

954
00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 4: then it's meant for you.

955
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:31,320
Speaker 1: I heard you're going back to school, which is crambling, Jackie,

956
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: give it to me.

957
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:35,800
Speaker 5: I think mine is just full circle and it's just

958
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 5: advocate for yourself and that you're the CEO and no

959
00:43:41,080 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 5: one is gonna work as hard for you as you're

960
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 5: gonna work for you. And also piggybacking on I vets

961
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,840
Speaker 5: a little. I think it's really easy, like if you

962
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 5: want to start something to be like, oh, so many

963
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 5: people are like doing that. So yeah, everyone's doing everything,

964
00:43:57,120 --> 00:44:00,239
Speaker 5: everyone's doing everything, not you, so right exactly, and so

965
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:05,279
Speaker 5: I think it that's sort of my separating the bad

966
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 5: Assy is just do again, do the thing, advocate for yourself,

967
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 5: and like you run your business. I run this very much,

968
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 5: run this business, and I think you know, I have

969
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 5: a hand in every single thing I do. Like if

970
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 5: I get styled for something, it's like, you know, I

971
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 5: think that goes for all of us. There's I'm not

972
00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:28,279
Speaker 5: just sitting there while other people are making decisions for me.

973
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 5: I am very active in my own bad Assy, you really.

974
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 1: Have a leg up because you're younger hardly.

975
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 5: But thank you.

976
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 1: Look at her.

977
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 6: So what's it like to be young?

978
00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:40,439
Speaker 7: Yeah?

979
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 5: God, I am Well, I'm.

980
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:44,840
Speaker 6: Nineteen and I just have my moments.

981
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:46,719
Speaker 1: Funk I am. I feel good, I feel young.

982
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:50,320
Speaker 5: I don't need glasses when I look at my phone.

983
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:52,320
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Okay, stop, yeah I do.

984
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 5: I do need glasses look at my.

985
00:44:55,640 --> 00:44:56,200
Speaker 6: Don't swear.

986
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:57,239
Speaker 4: I just know.

987
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 5: I just got classes.

988
00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 4: Unfortunately, I've been driving blind the past two years. I

989
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:02,000
Speaker 4: finally got class.

990
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:02,920
Speaker 6: I'm sorry. I'm a sake.

991
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 5: You guys need to celebrate.

992
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:07,800
Speaker 1: I have loved this discussion so much. You have no

993
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:10,440
Speaker 1: idea this diverse group of women, we all come from

994
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 1: different places, different lives. That you are, each and every

995
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: one of you an inspiration to being a badass. And

996
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:20,640
Speaker 1: I hope you all feel that. Thank you, thank you,

997
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 1: thank you. All right, let's let's.

998
00:45:24,719 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 6: Give it up for our bad ass handle.

999
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:31,279
Speaker 3: Thank you, ladies, and that Jennie and Jen