WEBVTT - Episode 387: F Your Watch (Feat. Jayda Cheaves) 0:00:02.640 --> 0:00:05.520 What's up his lip service. I'm Angela Ye, I'm g. G. Maguire, 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:09.440 I'm Laura Maura, and I'm Jadakay Jada Dada's first time 0:00:09.440 --> 0:00:13.119 on lid service. And first of all, I love seeing 0:00:13.119 --> 0:00:15.880 you with my guys. I earn your leisure and so 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:18.840 that was you're seeing all about your business because we 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:21.479 did see you on the Impact Atlanta and see you. 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:25.080 I love seeing you like in the warehouse working with everybody. 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:27.200 I think that's important as a person who is has 0:00:27.240 --> 0:00:29.479 a business for people to see you there too, like 0:00:29.640 --> 0:00:32.000 on the ground right, like really putting the work in. 0:00:32.520 --> 0:00:34.479 That's what it's about. That's the main reason I got 0:00:34.520 --> 0:00:36.080 on the show because I was like, I want to 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:38.519 showcase myself as a businesswoman and not just like this 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:40.680 cute girl that take pictures like it's more to me, 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:43.640 you know. All right, Well, before we get into all that, 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:45.440 you know, this is lip service, So we are going 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.159 to start with our tip of the day, So everybody 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:50.519 has to give a tip, all right. So the question 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:54.240 of the day was this one woman was asking me, listen, 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:57.800 I'm dating this guy. It's pretty new, but every time 0:00:57.840 --> 0:00:59.880 I gave him oral sex, he never comes from it. 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:02.640 So she asked for some advice on what she can 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:05.559 do to actually finish the job. And she's wondering, why 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:08.480 is it not working? Oh, he wanted, I don't come 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:15.920 from head man. Yeah, my tip for this young woman 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:19.720 would be to just simply ask him what is it 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:22.280 that he needs? You know, like the best way to 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:24.800 get the real answer is to ask the question, what 0:01:24.959 --> 0:01:27.600 can I do? Differently instruct me on what you like 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:29.640 and what you enjoy so that we can get to 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:32.520 the end of this. Because as much as I love 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:34.360 giving head, we ain't about to keep going through all 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:39.080 of this. I want I want the reward to from 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:42.880 all my good works, my jaw lock up period. Okay, 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:48.760 but if that's you, Jada, don't look around already. Um 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:51.720 So I would just say, of course acts because that's 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:53.160 like the main thing, Like you got to see what 0:01:53.200 --> 0:01:56.040 your partner wants and what they like. And honestly, it's 0:01:56.040 --> 0:01:57.840 no such thing as like bad head. You just gonna 0:01:57.840 --> 0:01:59.640 make sure you make a real, real what it probably 0:01:59.680 --> 0:02:02.440 isn't a thing. Well okay, but the water the better. 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:11.359 Not on that, but make sure he comes. But okay, yeah, right, 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:17.960 like dah she died giving head. I've had that same 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:19.880 issue too, And that's why I say when they asked you, 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:23.079 I don't like generate to give head because they take 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:24.720 so long and like you said, to pay you back 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:27.560 off what you guys say, wet for sure. I've learned 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:32.440 over the years that wet. And also you know, playing 0:02:32.480 --> 0:02:34.760 with it with both hands and doing different things and 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:37.440 touching under the balls. What is the call but the 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:41.119 good you wet, you touch it and you just look 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:43.160 at him and just make sure you know you can 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:46.400 feel pretty much. But it's really hard to make them 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:48.760 calm sometimes, so we know answer that. I'm not about 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:51.960 to answer this for this question, but I'm gonna tell 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:54.040 you what I tell her. Okay, Well, before you do that, 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.040 I just want to go and give a bonus, right, 0:02:56.720 --> 0:03:02.840 enjoy it? Yeah, you are always that matters that you enjoying. 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:06.520 You gotta you're gonna love it. And if he feels 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:10.560 like you're enjoying, pleasuring him to help get him there too. Yeah, 0:03:10.639 --> 0:03:12.320 that's what I told her too, right, So don't say 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:13.640 I'm not gonna answer it. So the first thing I 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:16.600 said was anticipation matters, So you gotta do a lot 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:18.280 of four plays so that like you ain't got to 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:19.960 do it right away. You gotta just act like you're 0:03:19.960 --> 0:03:21.560 about to go down there and come back up, go 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:23.960 down there and come back up. Then don't necessarily do 0:03:24.000 --> 0:03:25.960 it right away because then they're like, damn, putting your 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.800 mouth already, and by that time they already like, you know, 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:32.040 building it up. I said, you gotta make your noise 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:34.320 like you gotta like moan a little like you're really 0:03:34.520 --> 0:03:36.800 enjoying it. And y, that's a lot of spit, you 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:38.520 know what I'm saying. And then I just think you 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:41.600 gotta talk a little bit too in between you're doing it. 0:03:41.760 --> 0:03:45.120 You gotta say but if you know your man and 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:46.640 you know he liked his nipples played with, then we 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:54.720 gotta chick daddy. Daddy, you don't wear the nipples. I mean, yeah, 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:56.640 I will, but not while doing that. I gotta focus. 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:59.840 So like I'm already trying to, like because I figured 0:04:00.000 --> 0:04:02.400 out my thing, like getting more into it to please 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:05.200 my partner is like pleasing myself too, So like I 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:07.640 have a Twitter and I'm like doing it at the 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:09.520 same time, so like I'm also trying to, you know, 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:11.800 get myself there as well as pleasing you, and that 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:15.240 makes everybody's happy. As that's a good tip. Play with 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:19.760 yourself like yeah, and you know what you talking about? 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:21.680 Tip too. That's another thing. A lot of times women 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:23.840 think you have to yeah, deep thrown into everything. But 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:27.840 when you play with the tip, used the hand and 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:30.680 then just that's that's how I have made men come 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:34.640 right with the tip. And you know that part times 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:36.720 to the tips of it. But I have enjoyed it 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:39.000 over there. The more I do it, like I said, 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:41.200 and the more I pick up those tips, I actually 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:44.679 do and joy everybody. But you know, you gotta be confident, 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:50.040 never might swallow. Can you call me and tell you 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:55.040 about the first one. I'm gonna please. Yeah, you get 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:59.760 your superhero strength. After that time, you're gonna go from 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:04.839 little little lord a big lord like Mario graduated. Stop, 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:07.239 oh my gosh. Now you know how the day season 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:09.000 is also kind of like a break up time for 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:12.440 some people. Now do you officially need to break up 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:14.640 with somebody or does it just kind of fade out, 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.680 like do you have to be like, okay, let's have 0:05:17.760 --> 0:05:20.200 a conversation we are broken up or is it kind 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:23.760 of understood when something happens. I feel like it's understood. 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:27.359 I don't think it's a conversation that's needed because everybody 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:29.839 not mentally there yet to have a conversation when they 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:32.520 feel like they did something wrong. So like me, I'm 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:35.160 ready to talk about my problems, but like the nigga 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:37.640 might not be on that because he's not mentally there yet. 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:39.400 Like they run away from their problem, they're not ready 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:42.640 to face them. So me, I'll be wanting to talk, 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:45.560 but I don't get that. He's like when I talk 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:47.760 about I just let it fade away. You know, it's 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:49.720 never like we're broken up. That's not it no more 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:51.920 because guys be like, once you have that, like, yo, 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:54.040 we need to talk about this. They don't never want 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:59.480 they're gonna have you ever dated a guy they wanted 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:02.840 to talk? So I'm actually crashed off of a breakup. 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:09.280 That the most craziest breakup, right. Yeah. So we were 0:06:09.320 --> 0:06:12.799 together for like a year and a half, and without 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:15.560 getting into too much detail, I just felt like there 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:17.839 was a point when I just realized that the relationship 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:20.440 wasn't working for me. So you know, we had went 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:25.040 days and days without speaking and um, you know, I 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:27.400 had a tragedy come through my life and wrecked things, 0:06:27.520 --> 0:06:28.760 and I just felt like he wasn't there for me 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.800 at that time. So at that point, I'm just like, Okay, 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:35.039 I'm done trying, and we kind of just faded apart. 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:37.080 But there was a time when I literally said to 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:39.680 him like, hey, we need to talk. And we never 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:42.040 had to talk, but I was really feeling like I 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:45.680 just wanted to ended because I just wasn't getting what 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:47.920 I needed. But we just never had the chance to 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:50.440 do so, so it faded and it's over and I'm single. Y'all. 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:53.760 Would you have wanted to talk? Yes, I feel like 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:56.840 most women do. Um. I mean, I don't know. I 0:06:57.000 --> 0:06:59.960 just really was at the point where I didn't feel 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:03.760 like myself in the relationship was a priority in his life. 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:05.520 Like I feel like once he got me to a 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:07.280 point where I was in a safe space, like I 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:09.239 was in the savings account versus being in the checking 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:11.360 then I felt like he's like, all right, she good, 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:13.240 I don't got worried about her. I got her tucked off, 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:14.920 I can go do this, this, this that, and that 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:18.120 it wasn't out things outside the relationship, but focusing on 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:21.600 his businesses and his health and his family and personal things. 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:25.280 And I just feel like me knowing what I need 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:27.840 in a relationship and knowing what you know, I want 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:30.560 to expect time is something that's very important to me, 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:32.720 and that was what was lost, and I just didn't 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:35.280 feel prioritized. So I wanted to tell him these things, 0:07:35.440 --> 0:07:37.120 you know, I wanted to be were we were very 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:38.800 open with each other, so I wanted to be completely 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:40.760 honest with him and let him know that this is 0:07:40.800 --> 0:07:43.880 not working for these reasons. But we it just faded away, 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:47.080 and I guess that's just it. So I remember somebody 0:07:47.160 --> 0:07:48.800 posted I remember who it was, but they were like, 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:52.400 for a man who's successful, you'll never be a priority. 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:56.240 They were talking about meeting because he's very successful, and 0:07:56.480 --> 0:07:58.760 I just I mean, there was a point in time, 0:07:58.840 --> 0:08:01.160 in the very beginning, of course, where I did feel 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:08.040 like things were a priority for using. I want us 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:11.880 to be a party, not say meeting us, our relationship, 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:16.160 what we have, so like, yeah, like you that's true, 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:18.960 you would never yourself be but our relationship. We even 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.440 started working on a business that a business venture that 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:23.760 we were going to go and sit together, and that 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:27.080 just like got pushed to the back burning for you know, 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:30.640 whatever reason. And I was just like I just needed 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:33.040 him to kind of like stand by his word and 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:35.440 then do the things that we spoke about and really 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:38.640 make things happen instead of it always being this what 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:40.480 we're gonna do. This what we're gonna do. And I 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:42.520 just got like, all right, I got to move on. 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:47.000 So now jaded watching you on the Impact Atlanta, Right, 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:49.040 you said that you are single. I know you're used 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:52.000 to being in relationships. So being single, did you have 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.320 like a breakup talk or did you, like you said, 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:58.040 just fade away. Um, it just got bad to the 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:00.640 point it was like it was all over the internet. 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:03.520 It was like we was going back and forth to 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:05.120 the point I just had to take a step back. 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:07.800 So it wasn't really like a this we're breaking up. 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:09.319 It was like we didn't have no choice but to 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:11.360 break up. It was so bad, like we both we 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:15.200 can't keep doing this. So you think the internet because clearly, 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:17.640 like and we know that, you know, from starting off young, 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:20.160 you've always you've always had a big following. You think 0:09:20.240 --> 0:09:23.400 without the Internet things could have been better, you know, 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:26.959 because I think sometimes relationships are public and people go 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:29.480 through whatever issues, but as long as the world doesn't 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:34.480 know about it, Yeah, the internet knowing in everybody's seeing 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:36.640 and telling you what you should do. Not that I 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:39.760 care about what people say, but it's like I have 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:41.840 to have respect for myself to like I can't keep 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:43.880 letting you play with me and I'm just sitting here 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:46.679 all smiles, because that should hurt, you know, like my 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:49.360 feelings hurt. So eventually I had to like take action, 0:09:49.400 --> 0:09:51.079 like Okay, I gotta step back because it's ain't it. 0:09:51.960 --> 0:09:54.439 And that's what I did. And so you think it's 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:57.400 permanent now or you feel like there's a chance that 0:09:57.559 --> 0:10:00.880 like things could if you know, all I'm still young too, 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:04.320 so it's always a potential that like, all right, I'm young, 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:07.240 you're young. We both lit, we pop in, but maybe 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:09.400 later on down the line. The love is still there. 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:11.800 I mean, the love is always gonna be there. But 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:14.040 as far as like a relationship, that's just not something 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:17.080 that I'm focused on because I feel like I'm healing 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:20.040 and I need him to heal too, because like we 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:21.800 could even hang around each other now and it's still 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.719 stuff like I'm like looking at like he doing this 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:27.240 because of that, or like I'm looking at your flaws. 0:10:27.280 --> 0:10:29.199 I'm trying to dig into you, like why do you 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:30.760 do the things you do. Why do you speak on 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:33.880 the things that you speak on? And it's like I'm 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.679 a little bit to heal, so it's like I need 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:40.400 him to get on that same catch up a little 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:42.599 bit so we could kind of like balance and you know, 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:45.680 meet in the middle rather than it's like Okay, I'm 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:47.559 here and you here. You know what I'm saying. And 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:50.439 you think there's also pressure from what people have expectations 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:53.160 of what you're supposed to be like as an artist too, 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:55.520 you know, because I know back in the day used 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:57.080 to be like, oh, if he's gonna be an artists, 0:10:57.080 --> 0:11:00.480 you can't publicly have a girlfriend. I feel like you 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:04.599 being his girlfriend was still lit for him though, you 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:06.800 know what I mean. But I think at a certain point, 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:08.880 like it is a lot of pressure for guys, a 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.280 lot a lot of pressure, and you gotta think, like 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:14.880 you get way more cool points having five holes than 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:19.439 having one. I mean, it's messed up, but generation now, 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:21.920 like that's really like people goes like, oh damn, he 0:11:22.080 --> 0:11:24.480 was with her, he was with her, Like that's what 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:26.480 goes viral for guys now, you know what I'm saying. 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:30.959 So like, I don't know, it's just society, Like, what 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:33.800 are you looking for now, Like, I know businesses first, 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.280 but if you can say, because everything is a learning experience, 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:38.880 so I feel like, no matter what we go through, 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:41.000 even if things didn't work out, you know obviously have 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:43.719 a beautiful son, and it is a learning experience. So 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:45.959 what would you say in the future. You're like, this 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:48.760 is what I want, and this is what I won't tolerate. Um, 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:53.959 I'm not tolerating an insecure man. I'm not tolerating hosts 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:57.880 like a guy having, a guy having or just feeling 0:11:57.920 --> 0:11:59.240 like he could do whatever you want to do. I'm 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:01.520 not tolerting like a lot of the stuff I used 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:03.880 to like just let slide. I'm not tolerating it. I 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:07.080 want to secure man. I want a man that bounces 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:09.040 off me, like somebody I could get life from. I'm 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:10.760 not just like pouring it to you. I need somebody 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:13.920 to pour back into me. And we're just helping each 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:16.120 other win. Like that's what a relationship is about. It's 0:12:16.160 --> 0:12:18.400 an agreement that we got to be with each other. 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:19.800 I'm not trying to control you. I don't want you 0:12:19.880 --> 0:12:22.640 to control me, but we are here to benefit each 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:24.679 other in some type of way. And that's all I want. 0:12:24.679 --> 0:12:26.360 I just want to secure man that could just like 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:31.200 we went together, like live life at our fullest. Now, 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:34.360 somebody had told me about dating a guy with kids, 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:36.640 like be careful because he always still gonna suck with 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:40.439 his baby mom. What do you think about that? Oh, 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:45.319 because y'all did have like some Okay, No, I definitely 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.600 that baby mama, Like I'm not even gonna stay here 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:52.160 and lie, I'm definitely like that baby mama. That it 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:54.559 hit a little different, Like he gonna always you know, 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:56.560 we're gonna talk on the phone, We're gonna be cool, 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:59.800 like even if we're not physically intimate or like we 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:02.199 on that level, we're gonna always chop it up. He's 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:04.200 gonna randomly face time me. I'm a randomly face on him. 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:06.120 I'm always answer no matter what I'm doing, whom around, 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:09.000 who I'm around, just because like we were always friends first. 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:13.120 But if I had a guy who I was dealing 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:14.600 with and he was like that with his baby mama, 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:16.520 I would be like, oh, like, you ain't the one 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:18.400 for me. I can't even like I'm not about the 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.400 vibe with you. On the flip side of that point, 0:13:20.480 --> 0:13:22.640 if you are to move on to a new relationship, 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:26.600 and you have this relationship with your son's father, How 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:29.439 do you think a guy is going to feel about 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:31.880 that or come to you and be like, I don't 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:33.839 really like the way you and him rock, you know, 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:37.559 would you kind of not breaking? Would you kind of 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:42.400 like that? Would you be like, no matter what we 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.199 what we are right now this is the potentially forever 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:47.560 because y'all have a son together. We have a son together. 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:49.640 But if I really meet a guy who makes me 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:51.000 want to do that, because you know, I'm an in 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:54.040 dealt with other people besides my child's father. I just 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:57.240 haven't met the person that's really like I'm a lock 0:13:57.320 --> 0:14:00.800 in with him or like it's serious, if it's worth it. 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:04.640 Oh yeah, like out of here, like I'll talk to 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:06.439 you and we need to talk about my son. But 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:08.960 like right now, I'm just really out of space where 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.160 I'm just like living life doing me like I don't 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:13.199 got no rules, there's no rules, I don't gotta answer 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:16.160 to nobody, nobody is controlling me. I'm just living the wonderful. 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:20.360 It's oh my god, like so happy in real life. 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.440 What if he finds someone that and he set boundaries 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:25.440 on you but you're not. How would you handle that? 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:29.360 Oh no, I'm so comfortable in myself. I'm ready. Right. 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.520 Of course it's gonna hurt because the love is still 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.000 there for him, But like I would respect it. I 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:37.600 would definitely respect it all the way. And I'm not 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:40.960 like I'll say this, we're all genuine iss in me. 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:43.800 I really would respect it and just be like shit, 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:45.840 that's what it is. But I hope she a good 0:14:45.920 --> 0:14:47.760 girl because she's gonna be around my son. I gotta 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:55.800 respect it. But a time, listen, But I must say, 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:58.520 I always think like this. We always think is our plan, 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.560 and we have plans, and we make these plans thinking 0:15:00.600 --> 0:15:02.160 this is the person and this is right now, and 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:05.120 it's on God's time and God's plans. So maybe right 0:15:05.200 --> 0:15:07.280 now is not the time for both of you, guys, 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:09.800 And both of you are super successful, like you got 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:11.760 a lot going on as well, just as much as 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:14.360 he do. So you never know, like you, and it 0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:17.000 is the son of your child, so he's never gonna 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:21.000 leave it never again. Sorry. Yeah, so you get what 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:23.160 I'm saying. So maybe you get what I'm saying later 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:25.280 on in life when you guys, because sometimes that happened 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:29.320 I've seen relationships were like eight years later. You know, 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.240 you guys been through whatever you've been through, and at 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:32.960 the end of the day, that love remains that love 0:15:33.280 --> 0:15:37.360 and you and you'll never know. And let me ask 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:41.080 you this. Javonte Davis, right, we were watching um before 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:44.840 the fight. We saw that his his child's mother shifted 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:46.640 on his tooth first. I know, I'm sure you saw 0:15:46.720 --> 0:15:49.160 that on social media. He posted it, what's the craziest 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:52.080 thing you've done when you've been mad? I'm not crazy, 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:55.280 Like you've never done nothing, not for real. I don't 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:57.480 ever allow myself to get out of character like that. 0:15:57.720 --> 0:15:59.280 I'm gonna cut you Out'm gonna be mad. But like 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:01.840 as far as like breaking your stuff trying to like 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:06.320 I've never been that in love to where I got 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:08.400 to come out of character like trying to like ruin 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:11.120 your car or oh okay, So I would say the 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:14.120 craziest thing I've done, I'm not gonna like fuck your 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:16.360 property up or like do nothing like that, but I 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:19.000 have like took all his jewelry, and I like, Hiddy, 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:25.440 that's because you're you're going to have to talk to 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:27.240 You're going outside that right, I would say, that's the 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:29.360 most craziest thing I've ever done. But I'm not like that. 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:34.520 I'm not gonna pop up on convenience where you put 0:16:34.560 --> 0:16:36.720 my watch at? I made sure to take because I 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.160 left everything. I took the most expensive I took the 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:40.800 most expensive watch, and I just took it with me 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:42.720 because I always would keep my own place when we 0:16:42.920 --> 0:16:44.760 lived together. I will always have my own place. I 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:47.480 just took it left and then um, I guess he 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:49.080 was ready to go out one night and he was like, 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:53.600 where my watch that? And I was like, I'd like 0:16:53.640 --> 0:17:01.520 ignore him. He started up, he started blowing my phone up. 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:03.040 I was like, yeah, that's all I wanted to get 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:06.440 your watch, Come get it? Yeah, Come, that's funny that 0:17:06.520 --> 0:17:09.080 you know that would bother him. Yeah. So, as far 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:10.800 that would be the craziest thing I've done, But as 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:13.040 far as like crazy crazy, I'm not there. Like I 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:16.200 would never do no ship, I'm not crazy like that either, 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:18.280 but I was saying I was telling them earlier. The 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:21.119 craziest thing I did was UM, when my ex boyfriend 0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:23.479 was cheating on me. I the girl. I found her 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:26.760 on Facebook and she was engaged, and so I hit 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:30.000 up her fiancee and sending him like the emails of 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:31.840 the trip they took together with the receipts and the 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:34.359 pictures and everything. See, I'm not that bold. I did 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:36.680 something a little similar. Yeah I did that. Well, I 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:39.160 didn't do that, but that's like a classy, like a classy. 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:41.840 You know what I'm saying. I don't even want to 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:45.399 cross paths with the other motion. I I gotta just 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:47.920 leave you alone. I can't. I don't want to even 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:50.520 have a conversation with the next party. Because see that's 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:54.840 what I did. He told me, like my ex c 0:17:56.960 --> 0:17:59.760 the new girlfriend. Yeah, I him to her and was like, 0:17:59.840 --> 0:18:02.200 hey girl, I just want you know that your man 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:04.680 said this, this, this, this, this and that, and he 0:18:04.840 --> 0:18:06.240 lied about this, this and that. And I saw a 0:18:06.240 --> 0:18:08.440 proof when I went through his phone. And I'm only 0:18:08.480 --> 0:18:11.359 telling you because I wish somebody would have the proof. 0:18:12.400 --> 0:18:13.760 I didn't send her to proof. But but but the 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:18.760 things that I said, she knew that clearly. I was, yeah, no, no, 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:22.159 but don't know she saw it? Oh please? Would you 0:18:22.200 --> 0:18:23.840 you know? People say like I would want to know? 0:18:24.040 --> 0:18:27.680 Would you want to know? Oh no. The only reason 0:18:27.760 --> 0:18:29.680 the things I did find out in my past relationship 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:31.320 was because it hit the blogs, like I don't go 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:33.600 looking for nothing. I really like to stay on my 0:18:33.680 --> 0:18:35.840 own bubble. I always go off of what you don't know. 0:18:35.840 --> 0:18:38.359 I won't kill you as long as I'm happy until 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:40.320 you I'm gonna go until you find out. And then 0:18:40.359 --> 0:18:42.480 that's when my life is shot. And when you go 0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:45.200 looking for it. And I never went like, I don't 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:48.240 go through phone and I'm not I'm not searching for 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:51.040 If it just following my lap, then I'm gonna start investigating. 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:52.960 But like, I'm not going looking for nothing. I know 0:18:53.119 --> 0:18:54.959 his hurt job to the floor every time he hit 0:18:55.000 --> 0:19:02.360 the blog, say have you ever been together when something 0:19:02.440 --> 0:19:06.040 hit the blogs? And yeah, and you got that first, 0:19:06.400 --> 0:19:13.399 you got that first real reaction. But you know, you 0:19:13.440 --> 0:19:16.200