1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:01,200 Speaker 1: I don't know if I told you this, but the 2 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:04,680 Speaker 1: very very very first day, the very first interaction I had, 3 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: I go to breakfast and then I go to do 4 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 1: a meditation, which my previous attempts at meditating did not 5 00:00:10,520 --> 00:00:12,639 Speaker 1: go well. And that's the add And I walk in 6 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: and the monk who was leading it looks at me 7 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: and says, oh, you're in a lot of pain. I 8 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:20,120 Speaker 1: got to learn how to start loving yourself. And I'm 9 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 1: kind of looking around like this dude's talking to me. 10 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 1: It's just me. So I wore it. I wore the 11 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: trauma and the and wore the pain and my face 12 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 1: pretty clearly. But when he said it to me, I 13 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:37,879 Speaker 1: just started crying. Of course, it's incredible that he just 14 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: said it right to you like that. You know, it 15 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: was the right moment. Yep. Yeah, there was a lot 16 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: of moments that that I you know, I cried and 17 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 1: I you know, shared with people. And one of the 18 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:51,200 Speaker 1: things I learned I did sit for a few days 19 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 1: and it was amazingly one of the things they taught me. 20 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 1: And they said, hey, we want you to sit in 21 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 1: your pain. And I said, I my pain every day. 22 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 1: And I wasn't very nice to your monks, by the way, 23 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:04,400 Speaker 1: at first, because I was so self loathing. Yeah, and 24 00:01:05,319 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people come out there and 25 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:08,960 Speaker 1: they want answers now right, and then when I don't 26 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 1: get the answer, I'm looking for him. Now you're frustrated. 27 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 1: So they said, you know, we want you to sit 28 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 1: in your pain for a few days. And I said, 29 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 1: I sit in my pain every day and they said, no, 30 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: you experience your pin every day like you don't sit 31 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 1: in it. I want you to sit in it and 32 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: grieve it and heal it. And I didn't understand what 33 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 1: they were talking about until I did. I sat there 34 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: and I said, okay, what I mean? And I just 35 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,479 Speaker 1: started thinking about the worst things that I have gone 36 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 1: through one and then they said, when you sit in 37 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 1: your pain, and I called myself Jason growing up, not Jay. 38 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: So we want you to sit in your pain, really 39 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 1: feel it, and hold little Jason's hand and put your 40 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:52,920 Speaker 1: arm around him and show him compassion because it doesn't 41 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: feel like he's at me. That was I've repeated this 42 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: story to half the NFL, and you've seen the baddest 43 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 1: and the crap planet cry. I tell them this, and 44 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: I learned that from your people that's powerful and beautiful 45 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: and so healing, so healing. I feel that our mentors 46 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:20,959 Speaker 1: are just the greatest healing balmb what they offer the wisdom, 47 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: and they're so gentle, gentle, just like when you're sharing it. 48 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: You know, we could feel that kindness that you felt 49 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 1: for little Jason, And I would say that the invitation 50 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: is there for our guests when they come to step in, 51 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: because it's a very non threatening environment. I mean, you 52 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 1: might have been looking for answers and where were they 53 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:43,119 Speaker 1: an impatient, But the minute he said that to you, 54 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:45,800 Speaker 1: it struck a chord and it was said in a 55 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,080 Speaker 1: such a kind way that there was no resistance to 56 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: that that gentle hand. I think that's what we all 57 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 1: need more of. I really really do. Yeah. I think 58 00:02:57,400 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: we could do it for each other, like you don't 59 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 1: have to be among to just exactly no day today, 60 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: when when we're talking about what can help, I really 61 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: believe we can talk about, you know, the herbs. We 62 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: can talk about many things, but being kinder to ourselves, 63 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: which then extends to being kinder gentler to others. We 64 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:20,360 Speaker 1: can still be rough and tumble, we can still do 65 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:23,239 Speaker 1: all that other stuff, but it's okay sometimes to wear 66 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:26,240 Speaker 1: a different hat. I know what just me the most 67 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: in my life is the gentleness of people's humanity.