Speaker 1: All right, Ashley Bailey, all right, this is for you
Speaker 1: Hanesbrooke and Jeffrey in the morning. And she has been
Speaker 1: insisting in all caps that she needs more awkward Tuesday
Speaker 1: phone calls.
Speaker 2: Yes she has, Well, we can't fit more tuesdays in
Speaker 2: the week.
Speaker 1: It's true. That's a that's a problem that Ashley's happening.
Speaker 1: But today you get a brand new awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1: It's your day, Ashley, It's Tuesday. Yeah, and that's coming
Speaker 1: up in just a minute. But alexis what else do
Speaker 1: you see on the comment board? Yeah, we got a
Speaker 1: few from yesterday's second date update because that was yep,
Speaker 1: where she didn't tell us that she brought her two
Speaker 1: children on the date with.
Speaker 3: It.
Speaker 1: I don't remember, I think, I mean after one I
Speaker 1: lose track.
Speaker 4: Details.
Speaker 1: But Kyle Anderson said this show is why my girlfriend
Speaker 1: and I decided we're never breaking up. Oh kay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because they can't go back into the dating world.
Speaker 2: Yeah, people to get oh and someone else said, as
Speaker 2: a psych major, I find the show to be a
Speaker 2: gold mine. This particular episode is worthy of a paper.
Speaker 1: In the most professional words, all I can say is, wait,
Speaker 1: what what.
Speaker 4: Every week?
Speaker 2: It's like I cousis on that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would be the worst therapist just because my
Speaker 1: face shows all of my judgment.
Speaker 2: Oh, I would.
Speaker 4: Text my friends immediately.
Speaker 5: I would tell the person the person just said, yeah.
Speaker 1: Than the last time. All right, let's get your brand
Speaker 1: new awkward Tuesday phone call started right now.
Speaker 2: It's a broken Jeffrey in the morning. And today one
Speaker 2: of our listeners has come to us with a curious conundrum.
Speaker 1: Oh, sounds like a mystery.
Speaker 2: Because something unwelcome has been living in his apartment. Oh
Speaker 2: my god, a pest of sorts that he just cannot
Speaker 2: get rid of. But why didn't he call pest control
Speaker 2: or his local exterminator because it's actually a living, breathing person.
Speaker 1: Oh my goshminators don't deal with them.
Speaker 2: His own friend even, And that's why he's turned to
Speaker 2: us for help. Because I have a feeling this pest
Speaker 2: is about to rear its ugly face and shock us
Speaker 2: all in a brand new awkward Tuesday phone call. That's next.
Speaker 2: It's awkward. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. What would you
Speaker 2: do if a friend of yours fell on hard times
Speaker 2: and needed your help? Would you step up for them?
Speaker 2: Yeahely and I'm not just asking that because Alexis is
Speaker 2: about to be kicked off her mom's insurance. But I'm
Speaker 2: glad to hear you're so altruistic about it.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Bro.
Speaker 2: So we'll get all ready.
Speaker 1: I can put you in as a dependent So I
Speaker 1: think we're okay, perfect.
Speaker 2: Now that that fire is put out. I also bring
Speaker 2: it up because one of our listeners apparently has a
Speaker 2: good friend who's going through a bit of a rough
Speaker 2: patch in life. Oh, and so he's reaching out to
Speaker 2: us for help. So, Chris, are you looking for a
Speaker 2: direct money donation from Brook or how exactly can we
Speaker 2: assist you today?
Speaker 3: So? I actually I had this awkward situation and I
Speaker 3: don't even know how to handle it.
Speaker 4: The Brook thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the first time someone hasn't taken me up
Speaker 1: on money.
Speaker 2: Yeah, keep him on the phone away, Brook. What's going
Speaker 2: on with you? And you said you had a buddy.
Speaker 2: What's his name?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 3: His name is Ethan?
Speaker 2: Okay, what's going on with Ethan?
Speaker 3: So pretty much he's falling on these hard times lately.
Speaker 3: He lost his job and to make things worse, he
Speaker 3: got dumped by his girlfriend of two years, all on
Speaker 3: the same time, and he had to move out, and
Speaker 3: I really wanted to be there for him, so I
Speaker 3: offered him to stay at my apartment. I have this
Speaker 3: spare room. You know, no problem till you get back
Speaker 3: on your feet. He was all about that, which was
Speaker 3: really cool.
Speaker 2: Okay, is he allowed in any other part of the
Speaker 2: apartment or just the spare room?
Speaker 3: So wait, wait till I tell you this. So pretty
Speaker 3: much the first week I didn't ask anything of him, like,
Speaker 3: nothing at all.
Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, your home be comfortable.
Speaker 3: Yea, as supportive as Yeah, he can crash on the couch,
Speaker 3: he can watch TV all that stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he probably could use that after getting done the breakup.
Speaker 3: No, no, nothing like that. Well, after a while he's
Speaker 3: been living here and using my utilities and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: I mean, who didn't see this coming?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean how long is a while?
Speaker 3: Well, he's been here for already, like four months.
Speaker 1: Has he offered to help chip in? I mean, maybe
Speaker 1: he can't cover his half yet?
Speaker 3: But nothing. He has not offered anything. And at the
Speaker 3: time he didn't have a job, so I pretty much
Speaker 3: reduced the raid. I was like, look, buddy, you don't
Speaker 3: have to give me anything, but when the time comes,
Speaker 3: you can maybe help out, and he said, yeah, sure,
Speaker 3: no problem.
Speaker 1: So you did have that conversation, then that's good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I mean he didn't really we didn't even
Speaker 3: touch base on it after that. You know, he'd just
Speaker 3: been crashing. He's been eating all of my groceries.
Speaker 4: And there wasn't like a number you said, like, hey,
Speaker 4: when you get on your feet, five.
Speaker 3: Hundred mon like nothing, nothing like that. I guess that
Speaker 3: was my mistake too. Maybe is he working now?
Speaker 6: He is?
Speaker 3: He actually has a part time job, part time.
Speaker 1: You can chip in some money, like yeah, you can't
Speaker 1: pay part time, but yeah, a hundred bucks.
Speaker 3: Or something exactly exactly. That's what I'm saying. That's why
Speaker 3: I called you guys, because I mean he's spending almost
Speaker 3: all his time just chilling at my place, like watching TV.
Speaker 3: He makes a really big mess and I'm like a
Speaker 3: neat freak, so I'm always picking up after him in
Speaker 3: I mean.
Speaker 1: You don't really know someone until you live with them totally,
Speaker 1: you know, totally.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I was. I was forgiving at first, but
Speaker 3: this has been going on for months, Like I say, so, yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't know. I just feel like a jerk even
Speaker 3: bringing this up. But like I feel like he should
Speaker 3: be helping out.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's well, and I also think it's it
Speaker 1: should be on him, because you've already said, like when
Speaker 1: you're back on your feet, this is the expectation, and.
Speaker 4: I think you know it's bad when it's your brotelling you.
Speaker 5: Like, girls are way clean, they're always gonna be liked.
Speaker 4: But that's like, help me.
Speaker 2: Bro, I mean, are you sure you don't want to
Speaker 2: help getting him to move out, because it doesn't sound
Speaker 2: like you two are really simpatico as roommates.
Speaker 3: That would be a good idea, of course, because I
Speaker 3: like my free time. But I mean, like I said,
Speaker 3: he's my really good friend. I mean I just would
Speaker 3: like for him to pitch in a little bit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well that's like and that sucks too, because
Speaker 1: like you're probably developing animosity towards him over it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I am, to be honest, Like there's times where
Speaker 3: I have to like squeeze in a meal just knowing
Speaker 3: that he's going to be home in like in an
Speaker 3: hour or so, so like I'm rushing to cook for
Speaker 3: myself and I even feel bad coming home with fast
Speaker 3: food and not having something for him.
Speaker 4: Oh, I feel that.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, and I understand it. That's got to be
Speaker 2: an awkward conversation. But it's like they always say, if
Speaker 2: you don't make your friends feel ashamed about themselves and
Speaker 2: their life choices, how else are they going to grow?
Speaker 6: I mean, okay, I don't know that.
Speaker 2: Did your friends not ever say that to you? Okay?
Speaker 2: I guess in the private schools we have different sayings.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 2: All right, well that's fine, but we'll come back, I guess,
Speaker 2: and we'll think of some good advice to give to
Speaker 2: you so that you can call your buddy slash roommate
Speaker 2: and start to ask him to pay his fair share
Speaker 2: of the rent.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, because that's what I was wondering. I'm like,
Speaker 3: how do I even approach this conversation and.
Speaker 1: Also clean up after himself and also not be such
Speaker 1: a slot?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 2: If nothing else, Brooke will let him live at her
Speaker 2: place down in the basement, no, okay, up in the
Speaker 2: attic then right now, we can't do that.
Speaker 1: Even the kids have to do chores, Jeff, Oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: there's nobody that goes without a workload in my house.
Speaker 2: All right. That house has enough of a hell hole.
Speaker 2: So we'll come up with better advice and let you
Speaker 2: make your awkward Tuesday phone call right after this. Hold on, man,
Speaker 2: it's awkward. It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 2: It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning, and we're dealing
Speaker 2: with a fairly common situation here where you try to
Speaker 2: help someone out and feel like they're taking advantage of
Speaker 2: your kindness. And what's the saying, don't mistake my kindness
Speaker 2: for weakness. I think McCaulay culkin said that to the
Speaker 2: Robbers in Home Alone, yea or no?
Speaker 7: Was it?
Speaker 2: John Stamos said that to the Full House Twins. Yeah,
Speaker 2: a lot of that's going around on TV and on movies,
Speaker 2: but maybe it's just a life lesson that stayed with me.
Speaker 2: That definitely applies to our listener Chris today because he
Speaker 2: took in a close buddy of his who lost his
Speaker 2: job and his girlfriend almost at the same time. Guy's
Speaker 2: been staying with him for the last four months and
Speaker 2: it's not going well because his buddy is super messy,
Speaker 2: not helping to chip in for the rent, and he's
Speaker 2: decided at this point something has to.
Speaker 1: Change the rent or the food, jeff all of it.
Speaker 2: So how do we help him broach that topic of conversation. Brooke,
Speaker 2: what's your advice.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing.
Speaker 4: You sound pretty upset.
Speaker 2: I am upset. I don't think that this is oh, Chris.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Chris, I feel for any I mean, he was heated, dude.
Speaker 1: I think what you do is you just tell your roommate, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: my nephew's coming into town.
Speaker 4: So he's got to leave for a couple of weeks
Speaker 4: just so.
Speaker 1: That you can give some space to clear your mind
Speaker 1: before you have this terrible conversation with him.
Speaker 2: So it sounds like, again, Brook, your advice is to
Speaker 2: not make the awkward Tuesday phone call in this segment
Speaker 2: that we're actively doing right now.
Speaker 1: I mean, the problem is is that I just don't
Speaker 1: think you can have a productive conversation when your emotions
Speaker 1: are really high.
Speaker 2: Okay, we're going to cancel that and move right on
Speaker 2: over to Jose. What's your advice, Jose.
Speaker 4: I would just.
Speaker 5: Tell him that the landlord saw, oh blame the landlord,
Speaker 5: like they noticed him coming in and out of the apartment,
Speaker 5: and it's totally cool. But that just means you got
Speaker 5: to put him on the least and you guys should
Speaker 5: probably start talking about payments.
Speaker 1: M this is actually really helpful, Mose.
Speaker 2: Okay, what do you feel about that?
Speaker 3: Chris? Can?
Speaker 2: Can you blame your landlord?
Speaker 3: I mean I guess I could, But I mean, do
Speaker 3: you guys have any other advice?
Speaker 4: Oh, this happened to.
Speaker 1: Me and I just complained in silence for like five
Speaker 1: months and suffered.
Speaker 4: So don't ask me. I'm pretty sure.
Speaker 1: If I remember when Alexis started here, she was living
Speaker 1: with five people in a two bedroom apartment. Nobody was
Speaker 1: paying except for her.
Speaker 2: Oh, so maybe you can send your buddy Ethan over
Speaker 2: to live with Alexis's friends.
Speaker 4: I won't kick him out.
Speaker 2: I won't be able to community living. But here we go.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna dial Ethan's number, and we're gonna step back
Speaker 2: and let you do this. You got it? Are you ready?
Speaker 3: All right? Okay? Okay, okay, okay, here's your friend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, nothing on the line except friendship, so here.
Speaker 3: Okay, Hello, hey bro, what's up? What do you? What
Speaker 3: do you want to wait? Is Chris? Yeah? Oh, dude,
Speaker 3: you call from a weird number. I don't know. Maybe
Speaker 3: it's uh, I don't know. I'm calling for my phone.
Speaker 3: I don't know why. Oh oh that's weird. Okay, Yeah, man, dude,
Speaker 3: I'm just I'm just hanging dude. Man, I'm tired today.
Speaker 6: I didn't get enough restless. But Hagan, do you want
Speaker 6: to or some pizza or something.
Speaker 3: You want them? No, I'm not. I'm actually at work.
Speaker 3: Oh burger.
Speaker 6: That sucks, dude.
Speaker 3: You know what could you? Could you steal?
Speaker 6: Like DoorDash diffrom your phone?
Speaker 3: Would that be cool? Are you being serious? You want
Speaker 3: me to door dash your food at my place? Is that?
Speaker 6: Is?
Speaker 3: Am I hearing it correctly? Dude? I'm a little white
Speaker 3: this week?
Speaker 6: Man? Could you help me out.
Speaker 3: Just a little bit? You're always light every week. That's
Speaker 3: actually the reason why I'm calling you about.
Speaker 6: What? What?
Speaker 3: That? This is why you're calling man. You've you've been
Speaker 3: staying in my place for a while now, and if
Speaker 3: I'm being totally honest, it's just I just I'm starting
Speaker 3: to feel like I'm getting take advantage of Wait, wait,
Speaker 3: who's taking advantage of you? Well? You you are. That's
Speaker 3: or that's how it feels, Chris, Abe, it's right out me.
Speaker 6: You have don't want I take.
Speaker 3: An advantage of you? Dude. Wa. Well, it's it's been months.
Speaker 3: I've been helping you out, and you literally just asked
Speaker 3: me to pay for your lunch and you know I'm
Speaker 3: covering most share of the rent.
Speaker 7: And hold on, dude, hold on, hold on. Okay, you
Speaker 7: told me that I could stay here and you would
Speaker 7: take care of everything, right, he said, it was no problem, right,
Speaker 7: he said, he said, don't.
Speaker 6: Worry, dude, I got you. Man, This is you getting
Speaker 6: it right now? Man?
Speaker 3: Right? Yeah, exactly. Well, I said that I can help
Speaker 3: you out for a while, but I didn't I didn't
Speaker 3: mean I'd cover your expenses forever. And you have a
Speaker 3: job now, you're working part time?
Speaker 6: Yeah, dude, I am working part time.
Speaker 3: Not like your job though. Bro, Wait what is that
Speaker 3: supposed to mean? Dude?
Speaker 6: Come on, come on, dude, we both know you're making
Speaker 6: a lot more money than I am.
Speaker 3: Dude, don't play man ethan. That doesn't both, that doesn't
Speaker 3: even matters. That's not what we're talking about right now.
Speaker 6: Hey, be honest, man, it's just me and you to
Speaker 6: be honest. Money do you actually make?
Speaker 3: Tell me what? What?
Speaker 6: How much?
Speaker 3: Dude?
Speaker 6: How much how much do you actually make? Dude?
Speaker 3: Tell me what does that have anything to do with this? Like?
Speaker 6: What are you saying you know what I has to do,
Speaker 6: because you know what the other day I was born, right,
Speaker 6: I'll try to run around. Came across from your bank
Speaker 6: statements and Chris.
Speaker 3: Those are the big numbers, dude.
Speaker 6: What do you mean what do you think those numbers
Speaker 6: were that normous?
Speaker 3: Dude? Bro, Bro, you can't be going through my stuff.
Speaker 3: That's not okay.
Speaker 6: If you want to come at me asking for money,
Speaker 6: you should be making less than two hundred thousand dollars
Speaker 6: a year. Dude, You're not.
Speaker 3: You're not. What are you?
Speaker 1: Chris?
Speaker 3: Whoa? What is this? What is that? Hold on?
Speaker 2: Chris? You really make that much money to do anything?
Speaker 2: They could do with anything?
Speaker 1: He works hard and he's.
Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, you're right, you're right.
Speaker 1: Yes, No, it doesn't mean he should be paying for
Speaker 1: his buddy.
Speaker 2: It's fine. We'll get a job application forever you work
Speaker 2: after this, quick, Ethan, you're probably hearing a lot of
Speaker 2: people right now because you're on the radio with a
Speaker 2: show called Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: I'm on the radio.
Speaker 6: Wait, how are I on the radio?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Well, the magic of your friend emailing us asking for help,
Speaker 2: because this is a segment called the Awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 4: We've been listening the whole time.
Speaker 1: Why are you going through his bank statements?
Speaker 3: Okay, look, it was just there.
Speaker 6: It was just there on the on the calendar.
Speaker 3: I didn't just go rumging through his stuff. I'm not
Speaker 3: that kind of friend.
Speaker 1: He didn't have your name on it.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm sure he was cleaning it. He was cleaning
Speaker 2: up the calendar, and it just his eye for a second.
Speaker 1: You're freeloading off your buddy, man.
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's get to the core of why we're doing
Speaker 2: this entire call, Ethan, is because your friend Chris reached
Speaker 2: out needing help addressing the fact that you've been staying
Speaker 2: with him now for it sounds like four months and
Speaker 2: haven't contributed anything to dude.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but did you hear how much he makes you like?
Speaker 4: Sugar baby? Dude like.
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter, sugar buddy? Is that a thing?
Speaker 4: I don't know, sugar, but I like that.
Speaker 3: Man. That's not even the point. The other day you
Speaker 3: used all my toothbrush and then you had the audacity
Speaker 3: to tell me to go to the store and get
Speaker 3: some more wait, toothpaste, by another toothbrush.
Speaker 6: You could buy a toothbrush for every day of the week.
Speaker 1: Bo.
Speaker 3: But that's not even the point here.
Speaker 4: It's the morals.
Speaker 7: Man.
Speaker 5: It's like, I mean, I'm trying to say the base
Speaker 5: of it.
Speaker 1: It feels weird, Like you don't feel weird not paying
Speaker 1: for your share, not doing your part.
Speaker 6: Honestly, it feels weird that he's not paying for more.
Speaker 6: We should have a better apartment. This apartment is a.
Speaker 7: Dude.
Speaker 1: Don't get a full time job and move out, I think,
Speaker 1: is what he's trying to say.
Speaker 3: Chris.
Speaker 6: If the roles were reversed right, and like I was
Speaker 6: in your shoes and you were in my shoes, I
Speaker 6: wouldn't ask you for a single.
Speaker 2: Dime oh wow.
Speaker 6: And I wouldn't be over here faking being poor and
Speaker 6: like I'm some secret one percent Wow.
Speaker 2: What does that mean?
Speaker 6: You should see this place. It's a dupe, and you
Speaker 6: should see the crappy car. He has a way better car.
Speaker 1: Guys his money probably why he has money, he sees.
Speaker 2: A lot of potential in you, Chris, reading between the
Speaker 2: lines in a good way.
Speaker 3: You know what, Ethan, it doesn't matter because my landlord
Speaker 3: saw you the other day and she actually reached out
Speaker 3: and she told me that we need to sign a
Speaker 3: lease and I need to probably even have you on
Speaker 3: the lease now.
Speaker 4: Oh wow, yeah, I.
Speaker 6: Mean if I got to sign a least, I'm okay
Speaker 6: with sign a least, but you definitely got to pay more.
Speaker 3: Dude, you have the bigger rooms.
Speaker 2: Just real estate wise, that seems fair.
Speaker 3: Ethn.
Speaker 2: We all, we all understand that you've fallen on a
Speaker 2: rough time in your life. And the whole reason that
Speaker 2: Chris even wanted to do this is because he values
Speaker 2: your friendship. He doesn't want to be kicking you out
Speaker 2: on your butt with nowhere else to go. He just
Speaker 2: wants a little bit of fairness.
Speaker 6: I get it, man, I'm trying to be respectful. You know,
Speaker 6: I didn't want to bring any ladies over anything like that.
Speaker 6: But you know one's gonna happen this weekend. He's definitely
Speaker 6: gonna come over and ever gonna hang out.
Speaker 2: Hold on, in that case, she better get he better
Speaker 2: get the bigger room. If there's going to be.
Speaker 3: Gonna have to swamp all right, you know what, we'll
Speaker 3: meet with the landlord and we'll just figure everything out. Okay, Well,
Speaker 3: we'll sort everything out somehow. I guess.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's good, is it?
Speaker 1: It just sounds like he's stuck.
Speaker 6: With each No, nobody stuck with me.
Speaker 3: I'm a privilege to live.
Speaker 2: No, I get it. Brook tells us all the time.
Speaker 2: It's a privilege that we get to work with her.
Speaker 2: Same vine rookie Jeffrey in the morning. I want to
Speaker 2: say that we helped with that situation, but think so.
Speaker 2: Why do I feel like we're going to get a
Speaker 2: call one year from now from Chris again saying help
Speaker 2: he's still living here, yeah, or yeah, I kicked him
Speaker 2: out and now he's living with my landlord and charging
Speaker 2: me rent.
Speaker 1: Oh man, I just love that his friend thinks that
Speaker 1: he's owed somehow some of Chris's money.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean you said Chris was the one that
Speaker 2: came to him being like, I'll spot you. I got you.
Speaker 2: You don't have to worry. He took it a little
Speaker 2: bit too far.
Speaker 5: Yeah, checked his bank account to see how.
Speaker 1: Long it could actually financially.
Speaker 2: Last, I will say, don't leave your bank statements all
Speaker 2: over your apartment though. If you don't, if you're yeah,
Speaker 2: if you're letting somebody live there, don't leave them out
Speaker 2: for everyone to see and then get and then complain.
Speaker 4: If we're going to give Chris anything as a mistake.
Speaker 2: That was a bad mood on the party. It does
Speaker 2: sound like Ethan needs to find his own personal motivation though,
Speaker 2: because that's what they say is you can't make people
Speaker 2: want to change, They have to want it themselves.
Speaker 4: You should make su or K on his own doing
Speaker 4: what he wants.
Speaker 1: At least find a girlfriend that's making money so he
Speaker 1: can move off or her. Chris isn't even getting any
Speaker 1: like Bennies.
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Ship, Ethan just wants to keep living that sugar buddy
Speaker 2: life and for it.
Speaker 4: I love that you invented sugar buddy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do want one that's top. We could be
Speaker 2: your sugar buddies and call somebody who you need help calling.
Speaker 2: We can do it with your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 2: email the show. We could help you out.