WEBVTT - A Series Of Unfortunate Events 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:03.320 Hey, be a fam love this podcast, of course you do. 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:08.160 Just a quick reminder. We dropped new episodes every Wednesday 0:00:08.400 --> 0:00:11.920 and Friday. That's right, twice a week. So make Brown 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:15.560 Ambition part of your life and don't wait to listen. 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:24.079 Hey, hey, hey. 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:39.920 We're back, We're black, We're brown. 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:41.680 And ambition Ambition Ambition today. Girl, Well you know I 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:46.519 have I've got bronchitis. You got the itis, but the 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:50.239 bronc of the itis. Yeah, the ninth grader and me 0:00:50.360 --> 0:00:52.360 who was in the marching bandness like, can we eat 0:00:52.440 --> 0:00:55.600 a little sharp, but I'm on the I'm on the 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:57.440 man that that took some antibiotics. 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:00.000 Oh good. Bronchitis is the word. 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:02.240 Yes, I just I realized what it was. It was 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:04.240 like likely a cold that I did not take care of, 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.760 and I just wasn't. I just felt so exhausted and 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:09.800 I didn't rest, and so just you know, this happened 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:11.120 same time last year it happened. 0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:13.479 I was like, Tiffany, We've been through this and. 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:15.679 You're also on a book launch. Don't you always get 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:17.880 sick when there's like yeah, really, I just feel like 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:20.679 it's our body's way of being like and now I 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:23.559 have to make you sit down. Yeah, so I'm cool 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:27.000 with it. The body can only communicate through symptoms. 0:01:27.319 --> 0:01:29.400 Yes, if I feel like you know, I feel all in. 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:32.800 I feel pretty good considering when does main hole hit 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:37.960 the shelves. It hits the shelves November twenty first, oh 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:40.399 so close. Yeah, so let's do like we'll do like 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:42.399 a show like that that day, we'll do like a 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:44.920 made whole show like the whatever that Wednesday is of 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:45.880 the week that it comes out. 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:48.600 Let me ask the boss, Tiffany, can we do a 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:55.000 show like? Oh, that's the best, So. 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:57.360 Like imani like, just let's make sure we don't book 0:01:57.360 --> 0:01:59.240 anybody for that for that day whatever the twenty I 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:01.360 think it's the twenty sex like you know what. 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:02.880 Yeah, so let's not book an event. 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:05.920 Yeah that pho, Tiffany. 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:10.799 So how so we might as well just jump on 0:02:10.919 --> 0:02:13.040 ask me into it. 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.640 Okay, Well one, let's start with I know you went 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:18.400 to you know, late to rest your your uncle Mark. 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:24.160 Yes, I did, and it's over now, thank the Lord. 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:26.720 And it was as sad as can be expected, but 0:02:28.440 --> 0:02:32.239 good positive things. My baby is a dream travel buddy 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:34.560 and he's just like the emotional support. 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:37.520 Dog I saw the pictures he looks so cute, but 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:38.240 it was holding him. 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:40.520 I was like, oh, when I tell you, I didn't 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:43.680 have to worry about childcare for like six hours. I 0:02:43.800 --> 0:02:46.480 just put Remy in the stroller and just I was like, 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:49.520 he over there, some someone's got him. 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:51.880 Yeah. I mean, it's always nice to see my family, 0:02:51.960 --> 0:02:55.280 but you know, second time in one month, and yeah, 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:58.680 I've got some great love from the ba fam after 0:02:58.760 --> 0:02:59.960 last week's episode. 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:00.240 Code. 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:04.560 But yeah, we're doing we do and what we can do. 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:07.760 And I came back to New York. By the way, Lagardia. 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:10.960 I love Logardia now really beautiful. 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:13.880 Yeah, did they renovate or something? They've renovated. 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:15.960 I remember when I think when I moved here thirteen 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:18.720 years ago, they started renovating and it finally got done. 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:21.880 I don't know when, but it's just been delightful to 0:03:22.480 --> 0:03:25.400 travel through there. And let me tell you, if you 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:26.679 want a cheat code. 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:29.800 For airports, get you a kid, get you a baby, 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:32.200 get you a baby and a stroller, and go by yourself, 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:35.400 because the way I am just ushered through to all 0:03:35.440 --> 0:03:38.200 the shortest lines I get to and I don't even 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:42.280 need like diamond mendallion status. I get to board first anyway, sure, 0:03:43.000 --> 0:03:47.080 get comfy and shout out to the random strangers. I'm 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:50.360 at that level now of comfort where I'm just like, people. 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:51.560 Will ask if you need help, but you know how, 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:53.720 you do it automatically. You don't expect the person to 0:03:53.720 --> 0:03:56.560 be like yeah, and I'm like, here's the baby, because 0:03:56.560 --> 0:03:58.800 it's hard to buckle my seat belt with the baby 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:00.760 in my arms, very hard. 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:03.600 So everyone wants to hold a little baby. I'm like, oh, yes, 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:04.520 it's just hold your baby. 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:07.280 Whit especially run me. He's just a dream, you know, 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:11.080 he's just so smiling. But yeah, I was really really 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:13.240 happy to get back and I was like, let me 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:16.440 get back. And we had I thought what was going 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:19.000 to be a delightful double date planned. 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:21.480 I brought Tracy as my date. 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:24.320 But yes, that's fine. I was just really excited. I 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:25.680 was going to get to see you and we were 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:26.760 gonna do something cool. 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:29.719 And I had your your your Webby Awards with me. 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:34.760 Did you really hauled that heavy webby from Newark to Brooklyn? 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:37.159 Yeah, that's because they sent me the two boxes and 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:39.320 so like I was like okay, and then I was so, 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:42.600 let's down on back. So Mandy and I were supposed 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:47.360 to go to the Brooklyn Museum because Kimberly. What's Kimberly's last. 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:48.360 Name, Kimberly Grant. 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:49.680 I believe, Yes, Kimberly. 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:53.400 Then I so I love her, And so Kimberly Grant, 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:54.080 who's a listener? 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:55.240 Hey, Kimberly. 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:56.240 Kimberly. 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:58.280 She reached out to me and Mandy was like, oh 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:02.480 my goodness, I am a a curator at the Brooklyn Museum, one. 0:05:02.320 --> 0:05:03.400 Of the curator. 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:05.520 Yes, I believe. 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:09.520 Yeah, there's three black female curators at the Brookle Museum, 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:10.039 which she said is. 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:10.560 Like unheard of. 0:05:10.960 --> 0:05:15.359 Oh wow, yes, And so she she hit us up. 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:16.960 It was like, I love the podcast. I love what 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:17.599 you guys are doing. 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:19.760 I would love to give you guys a private tour 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:23.520 of the new Spike Lee exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:26.400 that she curated along with her team and Spike Lee. 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:31.320 And I was like, fancy behind the scenes, special treatment. Yes, 0:05:31.400 --> 0:05:35.560 we would love that. So Mandy and I planned to 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:40.039 go on Sunday and meet up, Like, Mandy, you bring 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.400 you brought husband? Is that who you initially bought? 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:45.520 Oh? I you know he he came with me for 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:48.359 the ride. Did we arrive at the museum, did we 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:54.120 get to partake and no, but our marriage survived yesterday. 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:55.800 So what happened. 0:05:55.800 --> 0:06:00.240 What happened was so the night before a friend, I 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:01.920 was like, cause I was going to have like dinner 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:04.839 with a friend after and my sister came with me, 0:06:04.920 --> 0:06:09.799 and they were like, hey, just so you know, it's 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:13.400 marathon Sunday. And I was like, what's that. They're like, 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.280 that means there's the New York City Marathon and so 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:18.080 just be mindful cause I was going to uber in 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:20.400 and they were like, don't uber in, you know, just 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:22.440 take the train, and I said at first, So I 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:24.840 got nervous, and so I text Mandy and Kimberley the 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:28.000 night before. I was like, Hey, it's marathon Sunday. Should 0:06:28.040 --> 0:06:30.560 we reschedule because I heard it's kind of crazy and 0:06:30.600 --> 0:06:32.360 it was just kind of like, no, just take the train. 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:33.239 You should be fine. 0:06:33.400 --> 0:06:37.880 So I told Tracy, let's leave or extra early and 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.440 we will hit up the Brooklyn Library to go to 0:06:40.480 --> 0:06:41.240 the jay Z exhibit. 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:43.480 I'd seen it, but Tracy had not. That way, we're 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:44.279 there an hour early. 0:06:44.400 --> 0:06:47.599 That way gives us plenty of buffer, and then we 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:49.600 you know, will walk down because the museum and the 0:06:49.640 --> 0:06:51.600 Library of a five minute walk from each other. So 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:53.800 we did that. We got up, We took the train. 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.640 It was actually super smooth. Took the path path to 0:06:56.720 --> 0:07:00.200 the World Trade Center, World Trade Center, took the two to. 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:02.080 Grand Army Plaza. 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:05.520 We got there ten minutes before the library opened, walked 0:07:05.520 --> 0:07:08.520 around for an hour, enjoyed ood ah over jay Z's 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:11.360 genius and brilliance, and then walked to the museum and 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:13.120 I was like, that was Mandy was right. 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:15.880 That's the meanest that is the meanest thing you've ever 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:19.520 said to me. The way that you described how easy 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.560 it was for you to get you from point A 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:25.440 to B yesterday. Why would you be so cruel? 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:31.240 And then well, I wasn't nervous, Nelly like, I don't know, man, 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.840 Who's like, don't you worry about it? I love marathon Sunday, 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:37.360 So then that's optimistic. I was excited. 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:40.000 I was so excited because you know what, how did 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:40.560 it go for you? 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:44.280 Sorry, I'm so mad at you for starting because the 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.800 way that that is the opposite of how my day went. 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:50.240 I mean, after all this darkness and like bullshit, I 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:52.320 feel like I've barely seen my husband and we all 0:07:52.360 --> 0:07:54.560 know my attachment style now I need physical I'm like, 0:07:54.640 --> 0:07:56.480 just sit next to me, so our thoughtys touched to me. 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:59.000 I can like, you know, feel that physical connection. So 0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:01.080 I was really excited to have a reason to drop 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:04.840 the kids off with the Buelos. And then I was like, 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:07.520 it's perfect, we can drive down. Well, then we'll take 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:12.080 the train. It'll be easy. And we too left Hella 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:14.119 early because I got two kids and I wasn't about 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:16.800 to be late. And I think we hit yeah. We 0:08:17.080 --> 0:08:21.160 got on the train at twelve thirty pm, and which. 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:22.000 Was yeah, to get to Brooklyn. 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:24.280 It was going to take us like maybe forty five minutes, 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:27.360 and I was like, we can grab some food. We 0:08:27.400 --> 0:08:29.520 can see I haven't been a Prospect park in a minute. 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:30.440 Maybe we'll spectate. 0:08:30.520 --> 0:08:33.000 I love the marathon because it's just so joyful. I 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:34.720 don't want to run it, but I like to cheer 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:38.600 people on. And like, I don't know if the gods 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:40.600 were with your they were on your side, because we 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:43.439 both were on the same express train, but you were 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:47.080 there maybe like twenty minutes before me, and you just 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:54.760 missed someone someone deleting hitting delete on their life via 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:57.360 the subway because someone jumped on the. 0:08:57.360 --> 0:08:59.520 Drugs and I don't know they jumped. 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.959 Oh my god, yeah, I mean yeah, so yeah, our 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:05.640 train stopped and it was like this is the last 0:09:05.640 --> 0:09:07.880 stop due to an injured passenger. And then of course 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:10.400 you got on X or Twitter or whatever it's called. 0:09:10.679 --> 0:09:12.760 Still good for, you know, finding out what the heck's 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:18.120 happening on the train, and it was so bad, it 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:20.000 was we couldn't. We were like in the We were 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:25.559 in Lower Manhattan, and from there it was just catastrophe. 0:09:25.880 --> 0:09:28.199 We got off. I was so hungry. We grabbed the 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:31.400 taco for like five minutes and so I could get 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.880 my mind straight. And then it was like, there's really 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:40.280 no train that can get us across this river to Brooklyn. 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:44.520 So what did we do? We called lyft when we 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:47.320 try to lift, and it was like it took fifteen 0:09:47.360 --> 0:09:50.000 minutes for the driver to get there, inexplicably because there 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:52.360 wasn't much like traffic in downtown Manhattan. 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:53.360 Anyway. 0:09:53.559 --> 0:09:56.600 Lyft driver gets here and he seems like, sus I'm 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:58.560 not gonna lie, you know, when the car smells a 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:03.000 little funky, and he like didn't really understand what we 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:04.600 were trying to tell him on like which corner we 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:06.719 were gonna need him on. But anyway, we get in 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:08.360 the car and just like get me to Brooklyn at 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:12.560 this point, I'm gonna be late anyway. And we start 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:14.600 driving and we do get across the bridge, and then 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.640 as soon as we do, he starts like he's not 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:20.320 following the map. He's trying to find his way around 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.520 all these like because there's all this like road closures 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:23.679 because of the marathon. 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:26.360 We get trapped on. 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:29.480 This dead end where there's a barricade and there's like 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:32.199 five cars behind us and they are getting out and 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:34.719 yelling at each other, get out of the way, get 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:36.680 out of the way. Our driver's like there's a barricade, 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:40.040 we can't move. Everyone's stuck. And then you know, like 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.360 when you're when you're stuck on a one way. Our 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:46.560 card left driver was trying to like fast, like like 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:49.320 vin diesel his way out, like you know, a little 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:51.120 bit for a little bit back turn around, you know, 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:53.720 try to like squeeze himself out. It wasn't happening, and 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:56.960 my anxiety, I am not proud. 0:10:57.000 --> 0:10:58.839 I just was like, give me the fuck out of 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:00.400 this car. I'm getting out of this car and getting 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:02.560 out of this car. And my husband was like okay. 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:05.280 So we got out of the car and then couldn't 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:08.040 get another lift. So we're like at this point where 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:13.080 maybe a thirty minute walk from the museum and it 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:16.280 sounds so silly, but at that point we start walking 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:22.240 and found out that husband man, bless his heart, but 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:24.400 to be a New Yorker, he has the worst sense 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:27.120 of direction. And I was like ge and I was like, Jesus, 0:11:27.120 --> 0:11:29.480 take the wheel. Someone else planned, like someone else, get 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:31.520 me to the museums. I was like, Bay, you handle 0:11:31.559 --> 0:11:34.920 the walking instructions. He went the wrong direction, and then 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:36.440 all of a sudden, a thirty minute walk was a 0:11:36.480 --> 0:11:38.400 forty minute walk topen me. And that was the point 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:40.280 when I tell you, if you were outside the Whole 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:42.640 Foods and Guanas yesterday and you saw a woman with 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:46.240 her head banging against the fence, that was me and 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:50.280 a very very concerned man who had no idea what 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:53.480 to do to comfort or that's my husband. And I 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:55.880 was I was like updating all along the way, like oh, 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.959 this obstacle, you know, but we're in this obstacle. 0:11:59.040 --> 0:12:01.199 Yeah, okay, yeah, I was reading those. 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:03.080 Texts and it was like my husband's looking at me. 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:05.439 He's like it's three forty five. We got to pick 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:08.000 up the kids by five because Bila has Bengo night 0:12:08.000 --> 0:12:10.319 and we promised her she could go to Bingo and 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:13.880 I was like, let's just go home. Let's just go home. 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:18.120 But the night ended fine because once I had my kids, 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:19.920 I was just when I'm like anxious like that and 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:24.559 I'm kind of spiraling, I hate being away from home 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:27.240 and my kids just like get them near me. I 0:12:27.240 --> 0:12:28.720 need to like see them. So once they were in 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:31.160 the car and we were on the way home, I 0:12:31.200 --> 0:12:35.280 finally like could mellow out, and I said, you know what, 0:12:35.800 --> 0:12:38.600 let's turn this day around. So we went to the 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:41.040 grocery store and I got what I like to do 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:42.959 to I don't know if this is like something that 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:45.120 helps you. You don't cook very much, you don't like cooking, right, 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:49.319 But for me, when I'm really struggling with anxiety, cooking 0:12:49.520 --> 0:12:52.240 so calms me down. So I made some bang in 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:55.680 food last night. I made chicken pikada and I made 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:59.280 this like apple kale salad that I have been fantasizing 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:01.600 about eating but I couldn't find anywhere. I finally made 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:05.480 it my damn self, and we had and mashed potatoes. 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:07.920 And I got a brand new potato riser the way 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:11.920 I'm excited about a kitchen utensil, but a potato riser 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:13.720 because you put your boiled potato in it and it 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:17.200 makes it so much like creamier than like mashing it 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:20.240 with a masher. And I had a big old glass 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:24.120 of wine and all is well. But that was a 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:28.360 hallacious and I'm sorry if I cause any secondhand anxiety 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:32.120 for those listening. Yeah, it wasn't my day yesterday. It 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:32.760 just wasn't. 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:35.120 And you know, and here's I'll say this that, well, 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:37.360 what I'm not gonna lie. The way home was a 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:40.640 nightmare because they now closed the Holland Tunnel at a 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:43.319 certain time and so they like don't tell anybody. They're like, 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:45.680 oh yeah, it's closed, And so we all had to 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:47.679 take the Lincoln. So I was stuck in New York 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:49.120 for like an hour, just sitting in an uber like 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:51.240 am I not gonna get home? So it makes you 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:53.040 feel any better? Yeah, But I was just like, no. 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:56.720 I don't want you to suffer, but I will listen 0:13:56.760 --> 0:13:59.760 to you. When you said maybe we should reschedule. 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:03.000 No end up working because Kimberly it because that was 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:04.480 really the last weekend because you know, now I'm on 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:06.640 book promo, so I wouldn't have gotten a chance. And 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:10.920 she was so awesome and like the exhibit, please go 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:14.920 see at the Spike Lee exhibit. And she's just like 0:14:15.040 --> 0:14:18.680 so smart. She has her bachelor's, her masters, and her doctorate. 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:20.960 I want to tell her, yeah, well. 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:23.120 No, well she's gonna, she says, she's gonna. Definitely. 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:26.040 She's like she wants to take you and husband whoever 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:27.800 on the tour. She was like, no, I'm gonna do 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:28.080 it again. 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:28.560 For Mandy. 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:31.800 It was just so amazing to kind of go behind 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:34.800 the scenes and to like hear about the pieces and 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:37.720 why they were chosen and what she was thinking, and 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:41.880 it just was like an amazing, amazing, amazing exhibit. So 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:47.760 just for clarity, the jay Z exhibit at the library 0:14:48.440 --> 0:14:51.040 is really like the history. 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:53.600 Of jay Z in his life, like you know, all 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:54.640 things jay Z his life. 0:14:54.880 --> 0:14:59.040 Spike Lee's exhibit at the museum is Spike Lee's actual 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:01.960 artwork and collect so it's not really about Spikes at 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:05.560 least life directly. It's like he is an avid collector 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:10.320 of movie posters, of art, of photography, all things creative 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:14.000 and art, a film and so it's his a fraction 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:18.080 of his immense collection, which a large part of it 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:21.080 is you know, black artists, you know, And so it 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:24.040 was just really she split it into seven categories. It 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:30.200 was like Brooklyn sports, activism or something like that. Like family, 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:32.840 it was just Spike, I did not know, comes from 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:36.280 a very very very artistic family. His sisters and actress, 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:39.440 his brother's a photographer, his grandfather was a jazz musician, 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.480 his mother was an art teacher. It was just so 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:46.160 it was just this amazing collection, like this, this amazing 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:49.280 collection from this man who clearly has a huge love 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:52.600 of all things creative and art in blackness and so like, 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:54.360 and you know, to hear from her like why they 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:57.480 chose certain things and that other things and what those 0:15:57.480 --> 0:16:02.120 things meant, and how each of the seven components was anchored. 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:04.320 She she chose like a clip from one of Spike's 0:16:04.320 --> 0:16:08.120 movies to anchor that component, like Crookland was like for 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:12.000 the family component, and all pictures of like his his 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:14.480 family were all in there. So it just it was 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.480 really awesome And so I can't wait for you to 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:18.200 see it. If you haven't, please go see it. It's 0:16:18.240 --> 0:16:22.960 just an amazing exhibit. Each of the seven rooms is 0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:26.000 separated by what looks like, which I thought was really 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.720 brilliant because you know, he's a film director and so 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:29.440 it looks like a. 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:33.520 Like a film shoot, you know, yes, and. 0:16:33.480 --> 0:16:35.760 So it was just really it just so yeah, it 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:37.720 really was, honestly, and she just, like I said, it 0:16:37.760 --> 0:16:41.520 was super kind and nice and smart and and it's 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:43.640 just I also be cause my my niece Amelia is 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:45.920 really into art, and I just was asking her questions, 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:48.120 like how did you get into this like space, like 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:50.200 what does it look like? So at one point she 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:52.960 worked at Newark Museum, she worked in Chicago. I think 0:16:52.960 --> 0:16:56.040 she's from Chicago originally, and she was just kind of 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:58.400 sharing kind of like her history and and like the 0:16:58.440 --> 0:17:00.480 school that she you know, like how she got her 0:17:00.520 --> 0:17:03.280 master's and her doctorate and like what you can kind 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:05.040 of do with it, because I think people think of 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:08.560 the liberal arts degrees and you can't do anything, yes, 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:11.679 but here she is being this dope, you know, brown 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:15.040 woman curating and she was telling me, like, I said, well, 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:16.560 what's next, because I could tell she said, this was 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:19.840 almost two years in the making to do this amazing yes, 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:22.000 And she said the next thing, I think I want 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.879 to say in February or March of next year, is 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:27.800 that she's doing the Dean So she's doing Alicia Keys 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:33.640 and Swiss Beats. They have an immense ye she said, yes, 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:36.160 watching when I saw some of ad art. 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:38.040 Architecture. 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:40.199 Doctor, yes, so she said she actually went to their 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:41.720 home to kind of view some of their arts to 0:17:41.800 --> 0:17:44.240 help them to side and pixel she's curating that. 0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:46.480 I just thought that was amazing. 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:49.639 I mean, oh, she just Kimberly, you just honestly just 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:52.159 made my heart saying and just think a good person, 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:53.880 you know, good energy. So I can't wait for you 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:56.640 to meet her and for her to you know, take 0:17:56.680 --> 0:17:59.240 you around and then she's inviting us back when that 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:00.919 when the Dean collection. 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:04.200 Is is that's so sweet? Yeah, of the arts in general, man, 0:18:04.240 --> 0:18:06.440 because you know what, I'm gonna make it happen, because 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:08.439 I really I still need it just a day to 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.280 like look at something with some levity and some because 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:15.160 there's so much darkness. But you forget about these, you know, 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:19.119 these public spaces that are available to anyone in the museums. 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:22.240 I haven't been to the Brooklyn Museum in years, and 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:25.160 I remember, for me, there's this hall at the Brooklyn 0:18:25.200 --> 0:18:27.879 Museum where they have all these statues of black women. 0:18:27.920 --> 0:18:29.879 I don't know what exhibit it is, but I'll never 0:18:30.000 --> 0:18:34.480 forget looking at those statues and being like, that's my body. 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:38.080 Those are my like my little rolls, my fouah, my thighs, 0:18:38.119 --> 0:18:43.400 like felt so seen even before, like fini and you know, giddy. 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:47.280 We're using models with like, you know, regular bodies. Anyway, 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:50.719 that's so amazing. I can't wait to have. And I'm glad, 0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:54.080 you know how it's hard to It's really difficult when 0:18:54.119 --> 0:18:57.560 you're when you have. We've talked about it recently, but 0:18:57.600 --> 0:19:00.320 it's really difficult to say to say that's enough, I'm 0:19:00.359 --> 0:19:03.520 going to try again another time. And yesterday when I 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:06.439 had to, I mean it felt like quitting, giving up 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:08.800 or whatever. But I wasn't at that point in the 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:11.520