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Speaker 1: Hey, be a fam love this podcast, of course you do.

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Speaker 1: Just a quick reminder. We dropped new episodes every Wednesday

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Speaker 1: and Friday. That's right, twice a week. So make Brown

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Speaker 1: Ambition part of your life and don't wait to listen.

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Speaker 2: Hey, hey, hey.

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Speaker 3: We're back, We're black, We're brown.

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Speaker 1: And ambition Ambition Ambition today. Girl, Well you know I

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Speaker 1: have I've got bronchitis. You got the itis, but the

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Speaker 1: bronc of the itis. Yeah, the ninth grader and me

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Speaker 1: who was in the marching bandness like, can we eat

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Speaker 1: a little sharp, but I'm on the I'm on the

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Speaker 1: man that that took some antibiotics.

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Speaker 4: Oh good. Bronchitis is the word.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I just I realized what it was. It was

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Speaker 1: like likely a cold that I did not take care of,

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Speaker 1: and I just wasn't. I just felt so exhausted and

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Speaker 1: I didn't rest, and so just you know, this happened

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Speaker 1: same time last year it happened.

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Speaker 2: I was like, Tiffany, We've been through this and.

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Speaker 4: You're also on a book launch. Don't you always get

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Speaker 4: sick when there's like yeah, really, I just feel like

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Speaker 4: it's our body's way of being like and now I

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Speaker 4: have to make you sit down. Yeah, so I'm cool

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Speaker 4: with it. The body can only communicate through symptoms.

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Speaker 2: Yes, if I feel like you know, I feel all in.

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Speaker 1: I feel pretty good considering when does main hole hit

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Speaker 1: the shelves. It hits the shelves November twenty first, oh

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Speaker 1: so close. Yeah, so let's do like we'll do like

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Speaker 1: a show like that that day, we'll do like a

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Speaker 1: made whole show like the whatever that Wednesday is of

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Speaker 1: the week that it comes out.

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Speaker 4: Let me ask the boss, Tiffany, can we do a

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Speaker 4: show like? Oh, that's the best, So.

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Speaker 1: Like imani like, just let's make sure we don't book

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Speaker 1: anybody for that for that day whatever the twenty I

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Speaker 1: think it's the twenty sex like you know what.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so let's not book an event.

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Speaker 4: Yeah that pho, Tiffany.

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Speaker 2: So how so we might as well just jump on

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Speaker 2: ask me into it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well one, let's start with I know you went

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Speaker 1: to you know, late to rest your your uncle Mark.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I did, and it's over now, thank the Lord.

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Speaker 4: And it was as sad as can be expected, but

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Speaker 4: good positive things. My baby is a dream travel buddy

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Speaker 4: and he's just like the emotional support.

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Speaker 2: Dog I saw the pictures he looks so cute, but

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Speaker 2: it was holding him.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, when I tell you, I didn't

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Speaker 1: have to worry about childcare for like six hours. I

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Speaker 1: just put Remy in the stroller and just I was like,

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Speaker 1: he over there, some someone's got him.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I mean, it's always nice to see my family,

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Speaker 4: but you know, second time in one month, and yeah,

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Speaker 4: I've got some great love from the ba fam after

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Speaker 4: last week's episode.

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Speaker 1: Code.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, we're doing we do and what we can do.

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Speaker 4: And I came back to New York. By the way, Lagardia.

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Speaker 4: I love Logardia now really beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, did they renovate or something? They've renovated.

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Speaker 4: I remember when I think when I moved here thirteen

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Speaker 4: I don't know when, but it's just been delightful to

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Speaker 4: travel through there. And let me tell you, if you

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Speaker 4: want a cheat code.

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Speaker 1: For airports, get you a kid, get you a baby,

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Speaker 1: get you a baby and a stroller, and go by yourself,

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Speaker 1: because the way I am just ushered through to all

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Speaker 1: the shortest lines I get to and I don't even

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Speaker 1: need like diamond mendallion status. I get to board first anyway, sure,

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Speaker 1: get comfy and shout out to the random strangers. I'm

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Speaker 1: at that level now of comfort where I'm just like, people.

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Speaker 4: Will ask if you need help, but you know how,

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Speaker 4: you do it automatically. You don't expect the person to

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Speaker 4: be like yeah, and I'm like, here's the baby, because

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Speaker 2: So everyone wants to hold a little baby. I'm like, oh, yes,

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Speaker 4: Whit especially run me. He's just a dream, you know,

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Speaker 4: he's just so smiling. But yeah, I was really really

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Speaker 4: happy to get back and I was like, let me

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Speaker 4: to be a delightful double date planned.

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Speaker 2: I brought Tracy as my date.

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Speaker 4: But yes, that's fine. I was just really excited. I

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Speaker 2: And I had your your your Webby Awards with me.

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Speaker 4: Did you really hauled that heavy webby from Newark to Brooklyn?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's because they sent me the two boxes and

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Speaker 1: so like I was like okay, and then I was so,

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Speaker 1: let's down on back. So Mandy and I were supposed

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Speaker 1: to go to the Brooklyn Museum because Kimberly. What's Kimberly's last.

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Speaker 4: Name, Kimberly Grant.

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Speaker 2: I believe, Yes, Kimberly.

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Speaker 1: Then I so I love her, And so Kimberly Grant,

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Speaker 1: who's a listener?

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Speaker 2: Hey, Kimberly.

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Speaker 4: Kimberly.

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Speaker 1: She reached out to me and Mandy was like, oh

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Speaker 1: my goodness, I am a a curator at the Brooklyn Museum, one.

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Speaker 4: Of the curator.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I believe.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's three black female curators at the Brookle Museum,

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Speaker 1: which she said is.

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Speaker 2: Like unheard of.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, yes, And so she she hit us up.

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Speaker 2: It was like, I love the podcast. I love what

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Speaker 2: you guys are doing.

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Speaker 1: I would love to give you guys a private tour

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Speaker 1: of the new Spike Lee exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum

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Speaker 1: that she curated along with her team and Spike Lee.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, fancy behind the scenes, special treatment. Yes,

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Speaker 1: we would love that. So Mandy and I planned to

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Speaker 1: go on Sunday and meet up, Like, Mandy, you bring

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Speaker 1: you brought husband? Is that who you initially bought?

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Speaker 4: Oh? I you know he he came with me for

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Speaker 4: the ride. Did we arrive at the museum, did we

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Speaker 4: get to partake and no, but our marriage survived yesterday.

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Speaker 2: So what happened.

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Speaker 1: What happened was so the night before a friend, I

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Speaker 1: and they were like, hey, just so you know, it's

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Speaker 1: marathon Sunday. And I was like, what's that. They're like,

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Speaker 1: got nervous, and so I text Mandy and Kimberley the

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Speaker 1: night before. I was like, Hey, it's marathon Sunday. Should

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Speaker 1: we reschedule because I heard it's kind of crazy and

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Speaker 1: it was just kind of like, no, just take the train.

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Speaker 2: You should be fine.

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Speaker 1: So I told Tracy, let's leave or extra early and

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Speaker 1: we will hit up the Brooklyn Library to go to

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Speaker 1: the jay Z exhibit.

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Speaker 2: I'd seen it, but Tracy had not. That way, we're

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Speaker 1: That way gives us plenty of buffer, and then we

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Speaker 1: Library of a five minute walk from each other. So

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Speaker 1: we did that. We got up, We took the train.

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Speaker 1: It was actually super smooth. Took the path path to

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Speaker 2: Grand Army Plaza.

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Speaker 1: We got there ten minutes before the library opened, walked

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Speaker 1: I was like, that was Mandy was right.

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Speaker 4: That's the meanest that is the meanest thing you've ever

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Speaker 1: And then well, I wasn't nervous, Nelly like, I don't know, man,

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Speaker 1: Who's like, don't you worry about it? I love marathon Sunday,

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Speaker 2: I was so excited because you know what, how did

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Speaker 4: Sorry, I'm so mad at you for starting because the

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Speaker 4: way that that is the opposite of how my day went.

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Speaker 4: I mean, after all this darkness and like bullshit, I

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Speaker 4: know my attachment style now I need physical I'm like,

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Speaker 4: it's perfect, we can drive down. Well, then we'll take

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Speaker 4: the train. It'll be easy. And we too left Hella

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Speaker 4: I love the marathon because it's just so joyful. I

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Speaker 4: So what did we do? We called lyft when we

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Speaker 4: try to lift, and it was like it took fifteen

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Speaker 4: Lyft driver gets here and he seems like, sus I'm

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Speaker 4: not gonna lie, you know, when the car smells a

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Speaker 4: all these like because there's all this like road closures

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Speaker 1: maybe a few hundred bucks or whatever that you you know,

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Speaker 1: ten years from now, you're like, I can't even purchase anything,

437
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Speaker 1: you know, from them, So consider if you're really into art,

438
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Speaker 1: Like now that I'm decorating my condo, you know, I'm

439
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Speaker 1: really interested. Because that's why I was asking her, like, well,

440
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Speaker 1: how do I purchase art in a way that's cost effective,

441
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Speaker 1: because I really want to fill my condo with largely

442
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Speaker 1: black and brown artists, especially artists women, you know. And

443
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Speaker 1: she was like, you know, look into these open studios

444
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Speaker 1: and you know, purchase from students, people whose art you

445
00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:04,440
Speaker 1: just think it's delightful and beautiful and it may turn

446
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Speaker 1: into something one day, meaning they're this huge artist, and

447
00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:10,480
Speaker 1: if not, you have a piece you love either way, directly.

448
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 2: From the artists themselves, you know.

449
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Speaker 1: And so I just thought that was a great way

450
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Speaker 1: to dip your baby tow into purchasing art.

451
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Speaker 4: Oh God, we should have Kimberly on and do your

452
00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:22,080
Speaker 4: whole show on black Art, I could see it. What

453
00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:23,679
Speaker 4: else is this going on in the world? So if

454
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Speaker 4: you notice behind me, the zen den is not so

455
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Speaker 4: zeny right now, if you guys are watching on YouTube,

456
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Speaker 4: this is November and it's a double it's this is

457
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Speaker 4: like I mentioned, this is this is the time of

458
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Speaker 4: year when it's like, okay, let's get it together because

459
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Speaker 4: Rio's birthday is coming up, and so is Thanksgiving, and

460
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Speaker 4: my dad's going to be in town. But for Rio's birthday,

461
00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:46,080
Speaker 4: my husband and I are trying to be like, you know,

462
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Speaker 4: we want to give him his own day. We don't

463
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Speaker 4: want it to feel like a Turkey Day extension because

464
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Speaker 4: it is like the day after Thanksgiving or a couple

465
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Speaker 4: of days after Thanksgiving.

466
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Speaker 2: But also, I have hate.

467
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Speaker 4: So deep for toys. I know that I had toys

468
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Speaker 4: as a kid. Obviously I did. I loved Barbie Dolls,

469
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Speaker 4: I love Power Rangers, I love video games and Game

470
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Speaker 4: Boy like every other kid, Giga pets, I had them all.

471
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Speaker 1: But the.

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Speaker 4: I don't like what it turned like, what it does

473
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Speaker 4: to my kid, like he is so toy obsessed that

474
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Speaker 4: he wants to talk of nothing else. We can't even

475
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Speaker 4: you know, sometimes we can't even go to a store

476
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Speaker 4: like CBS. Whoever decided to put model cars at the

477
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Speaker 4: entrance of every CBS, like, you're the reason I can't

478
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Speaker 4: patronize your store with my rid.

479
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Speaker 1: Anymore because the number of times I had to like

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Speaker 1: drag him out, kicking and.

481
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Speaker 4: Screaming, Oh my goodness. And last year, I mean it's

482
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Speaker 4: because he's a pandemic baby. I don't know, but.

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Speaker 1: Last year we did the whole birthday, like the bounce

484
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Speaker 1: house and the toys in the morning, and my husband,

485
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Speaker 1: I think, to heal his inner child, was like little

486
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Speaker 1: all these trucks laid out on the kitchen tables. We

487
00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 1: can come downstairs and be like, whoa overstimulation is the

488
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Speaker 1: is what happens. So anyway, long story short, I decided

489
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Speaker 1: for this birthday, my gift to him is going to

490
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Speaker 1: be his own space in my basement. I have I'm

491
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Speaker 1: starting to I've been thinking about it, thinking about it

492
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Speaker 1: and designing in my head, and I have the perfect

493
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Speaker 1: plan for his little play area because he doesn't have

494
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Speaker 1: like we don't have a family room, you know, because

495
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Speaker 1: I didn't have a family when I bought this house.

496
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Speaker 4: I wasn't thinking. But anyway, he's going to have. I'm

497
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Speaker 4: gonna trick it out. It's going to be amazing. I'm

498
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Speaker 4: gonna take all of his favorite toys. I'm gonna purge

499
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Speaker 4: a bunch of stuff he doesn't need anymore, and I'm

500
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Speaker 4: going to show him that he has amazing toys. And

501
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Speaker 4: I'm going to have a little arts center and a

502
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Speaker 4: little kitchen. I'm going to set it up kind of

503
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Speaker 4: like you know, preschool style, like with little little zones

504
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Speaker 4: and in a little library reading area so that he

505
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Speaker 4: and Remy can play on here. And that's gonna be

506
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Speaker 4: his birthday experience. So this is me just starting it

507
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,439
Speaker 4: and Husby has no idea. I threw out a lot

508
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Speaker 4: of his stuff today, these old drop clause and like

509
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:13,639
Speaker 4: you know, like nicks and knick knacks and pieces of

510
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Speaker 4: like who knows what even the half this stuff goes to.

511
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Speaker 4: So that's my uh, that's my project for the month.

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Speaker 2: Okay, my project for the month is just made to

513
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Speaker 2: do this launch.

514
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Speaker 1: You're gonna do made to do the launch?

515
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Speaker 2: You know, you know, actually, if you are listening.

516
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Speaker 1: Which you are, I forgot to say so on there's

517
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Speaker 1: there's probably a few copies left. So I signed about

518
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Speaker 1: five thousand copies of the book. Yes, with your own hand.

519
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Speaker 1: Well you don't, so the way you signed book, you

520
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Speaker 1: don't because it's impossible to like handle that many books.

521
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Speaker 2: They have you signed those book plates? Have you ever

522
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Speaker 2: said it? They do' like stickers?

523
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Speaker 1: Oh okay, you know, so some books you actually signed themselves.

524
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Speaker 1: But like when it's that many, because they wanted me

525
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Speaker 1: to sign thousand and you can't possibly because they're like,

526
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Speaker 1: they can't mail you five thousand, so they send you

527
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Speaker 1: like book plates. So I signed five thousand of those

528
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Speaker 1: that you stick in that then then the team will

529
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Speaker 1: stick them inside the books. You know, well, do sign

530
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Speaker 1: copies of the book, and I mailed them five thousand

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Speaker 1: of my.

532
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Speaker 2: Budget ester bracelets.

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Speaker 1: M hm, So you should have gotten an email. I'm

534
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Speaker 1: trying to think like where you'll be able to get it? No, No,

535
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Speaker 1: you know what if you go to maid Whole workbook

536
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Speaker 1: dot com if there are any of those like you

537
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Speaker 1: know you want to pre order the book. Now, last

538
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Speaker 1: time I checked, we had already sold half of them

539
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Speaker 1: already to over twenty five hundred copies have already been sold,

540
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Speaker 1: So I don't know by the time this comes out,

541
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Speaker 1: Hopefully there's a few hundred copies left. If you want

542
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Speaker 1: to sign copy of the book and it comes with

543
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Speaker 1: the bracelet for free, same price as like the regular book. Yeah,

544
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Speaker 1: Mad Whole Workbook dot Com. Get your signed copy, get

545
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Speaker 1: your Budgetesa bracelet. Yeah, so yeah, I just want to make

546
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Speaker 1: sure that. I was like, wait, did I tell them?

547
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Speaker 1: I'm like no, So hope when you go, you're not

548
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Speaker 1: likely already sold out. I'm like my dad, so it

549
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Speaker 1: should be.

550
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Speaker 2: I'm sure there'll still be a few hundred copies left

551
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Speaker 2: by the time this comes here.

552
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Speaker 4: We do a couple, you can do we I'm like.

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Speaker 1: B a fan.

554
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so like it should be.

555
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like but just Harry up, Harry up and go

556
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Speaker 1: Made Whole work Book dot Com. But yeah, do you

557
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Speaker 1: want to take a break, So we come back for

558
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Speaker 1: brown Break, brown Boost.

559
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Speaker 4: That sounds good, see you on a bit.

560
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,200
Speaker 2: We're back and we're black and we're brown.

561
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:37,680
Speaker 1: And then well, some of y'all don't remember that song.

562
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,159
Speaker 1: We're back now and like it's like a like a

563
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Speaker 1: preschool song.

564
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Speaker 4: I had this chicken Chicken boom boo. When I tell

565
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 4: you that earworm, don't want to get out.

566
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Speaker 1: I love that book. Chicken Chicken boom boom, will there

567
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 1: be enough root boom.

568
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's great, but I heard that I've been listening

569
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Speaker 4: to books on tape with Rio in the car and

570
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:02,960
Speaker 4: get some updated narrators because the guy it just sounds

571
00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 4: like they were made in like the fifties, Doctor Seuss anyway,

572
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 4: Chicka boom boom, yeah, yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: Uhbery yeah. Do you want to go first? Because I

574
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 2: can't think of anything just yet, so you can go.

575
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 4: Oh, I'm gonna do a boost because you know, one

576
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:18,880
Speaker 4: of the bright spots of this weekend other than getting

577
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:22,239
Speaker 4: to squeeze my brother and squeeze my dad was I

578
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Speaker 4: just happened to be watching CNN on Saturday. Yes, Saturday morning,

579
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Speaker 4: around seven am, there's a brand new show and it's

580
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Speaker 4: called First of All, which tells you what you need

581
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Speaker 4: to know, is hosted by a black man.

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Speaker 2: First of All.

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Speaker 4: It's called First of All, and it's hosted by Victor Blackwell.

584
00:27:39,840 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 4: And I was not familiar with him. He's a CNN

585
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Speaker 4: anchor and I kind of like read his bio. He's,

586
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 4: you know, worked a bunch of different stations in Florida,

587
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Speaker 4: but now he's at CNN in Atlanta and he has

588
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Speaker 4: his own new show, weekend show on Saturday Mornings, first

589
00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 4: of all, and what I love about it other than

590
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Speaker 4: the fact that he is beautiful black man with like

591
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Speaker 4: the perfect bald head, like no shine at all. The

592
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 4: makeup team was on it, and it was his premiere day,

593
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Speaker 4: so it felt special and it was fun. He had

594
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Speaker 4: an expert on to talk about the new Beyonce fragrance,

595
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 4: and he even like whipped out his like space boots

596
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 4: that he wore to the Renaissance tour because he's like,

597
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Speaker 4: I don't have a lifestyle where I'm gonna wear these again,

598
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Speaker 4: so if I talk about Beyonce, I'm gonna bring these

599
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 4: shoes to work. And then we.

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Speaker 2: Talked about black art.

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Speaker 4: Earlier he featured this black artist who I immediately went

602
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Speaker 4: and found on Instagram and does some really amazing art

603
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 4: sort of putting like he's a painter and he focuses

604
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Speaker 4: on trauma, but you know, painting in a way that

605
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Speaker 4: sort of like is liberating or liberating from trauma. And

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Speaker 4: I just thought it was a dope show and it

607
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 4: put a smile on my face. And so shout out

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Speaker 4: to first of all on CNN, and to Victor Blackwell,

609
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Speaker 4: who I don't know, but I liked it and maybe

610
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 4: I'll watch the news more often now.

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Speaker 2: We love that.

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Speaker 1: I think I saw I think I think I saw

613
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Speaker 1: you had posted a clip of it, so I posted

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Speaker 1: a little bit don Lemon, who who needs them? You know?

615
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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm worshim well, but it was you know,

616
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Speaker 4: we can have more, can be more than one, do

617
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Speaker 4: you know what I mean? And I wish him all

618
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 4: the best, and I hope that this show is very successful.

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Speaker 1: We wish you the best. Two brother, I will do

620
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Speaker 1: a boost as well. So I have been trying for

621
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Speaker 1: the last twenty years to do the full Like I

622
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 1: don't wanna say trifecta because it's more than three things.

623
00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 1: Like so when it comes to health, right, there are

624
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:40,239
Speaker 1: a number of things you're supposed to do to have

625
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: optimum health. So one of those things is like drink water,

626
00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 1: you know, like you know, like over index on drinking

627
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 1: water versus like sugary drinks whatever that like, that's what

628
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 1: that was. That was like the first shift I made.

629
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 1: I want to say, ten years ago, I was a girl.

630
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Speaker 1: You and this ginger has a choke hold stop it,

631
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Speaker 1: So like drink water. I was like, okay, two, you know,

632
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: you want to have a reasonably healthy diet, you know,

633
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 1: like low on processed foods, and so like I I've

634
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Speaker 1: been at that space for a while, Like, I don't

635
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,840
Speaker 1: healthy diet for you. So for me, red meat doesn't

636
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Speaker 1: sit well with me.

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00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 2: Neither is this chicken.

638
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 1: But for you, like my sister Karen, she needs red

639
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 1: meat because low iron, you know.

640
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 2: But for me, the.

641
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Speaker 1: Reasonably healthy diet, I eat a lot of veggies, very

642
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:26,800
Speaker 1: low on processed foods. I get my protein in and

643
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 1: so these are things like I'm like, I'm like, all right, finally, Tiffany,

644
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: you're pretty good in that space.

645
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 2: Then it was a cardio.

646
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: So two years ago, y'all know, I started walking, and

647
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 1: I walk almost every day, typically for about an hour.

648
00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 1: So I'm like, all right, I got my cardio in.

649
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 1: For some of y'all might be running, rollerblading, whatever that is.

650
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Speaker 1: And so the last component has been.

651
00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 2: Eluding me for the longest, which is strength training. You know.

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Speaker 1: Like, so if you get your diet together and make

653
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Speaker 1: sure you have your protein, your veggies, your healthy eat,

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Speaker 1: you drink your water, sleep too. That's why the fifth

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Speaker 1: one of sleep, I definitely like my sleep has improved significantly.

656
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Speaker 1: My cardio was here, but I could not get back

657
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Speaker 1: into I just didn't. I used to go to the

658
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Speaker 1: gym all the time, and I used to love lifting

659
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Speaker 1: weights and stuff like that, but I just I didn't want.

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Speaker 1: I was like, so for the longest, I was like,

661
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Speaker 1: this is the one part that's eluding me. And I

662
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Speaker 1: found that I was yo yoing in weight. And I

663
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Speaker 1: know a large part is because I wasn't strength training.

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Speaker 1: Because with no real muscle, you don't have anything to

665
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Speaker 1: stabilize you, you know. So it's like if I ate

666
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Speaker 1: great that week, stable, if I didn't, I'm up five pounds.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, damn, just one week, you know.

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Speaker 1: And I knew it was because, like I said, I

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Speaker 1: wasn't strength training and I really didn't have any strength.

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Speaker 2: Despite my arms looking like they're cut, it's deceitful. This

671
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Speaker 2: is just good jeans.

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Speaker 1: But I recently started doing calisthenics and I've been really

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Speaker 1: enjoying it.

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Speaker 4: And so the stomachs is like you use your body weight, yes, yeah,

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Speaker 4: you're not like lifting weights.

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 1: Is that like like is it a class or it's

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Speaker 1: just a genre of a genre.

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Speaker 2: I guess if you if you know, yeah, I would

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Speaker 2: say so.

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Speaker 1: I was trying to figure out because a friend of

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Speaker 1: mine does calisthenics and he was like, you know, he's

683
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Speaker 1: been trying to get me to do I was like,

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Speaker 1: I don't want that's like clinking and and yeah.

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Speaker 2: So they are like five core moves. There's like there's

686
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Speaker 2: push ups.

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Speaker 1: Which I do very modified, meaning like in the beginning

688
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Speaker 1: really was just me pushing against the wall because girl

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Speaker 1: who had their arm strength not me, you know, I

690
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Speaker 1: couldn't even do like the ones on your knees. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: So it's like pushing against the wall and then like

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Speaker 1: against the kitchen table, so it's like you try to

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Speaker 1: get as close to the ground as possible. Right now,

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm on table level. That's how much my arms

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Speaker 1: can do, you know. So push ups then pull ups,

696
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Speaker 1: So pull ups like you know, like those those are

697
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Speaker 1: especially really hard, especially for a lot of women because

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Speaker 1: we don't have as much arm strength as men tend to.

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Speaker 1: So I do a super modifate, moderated modified version, yes,

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Speaker 1: where it's like I hold on like I have like

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Speaker 1: a bar thing in my basement and I hold on

702
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Speaker 1: to it and I just pull myself toward it.

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Speaker 2: So I'm slowly building.

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Speaker 1: The muscle that I'm in a need to eventually be able,

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Speaker 1: so it might take a year before I could do

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Speaker 1: one pull up, if even that. But pull ups is

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Speaker 1: one another one of squats, which I have downpad like

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Speaker 1: you know, women have them strong legs, so the squats

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Speaker 1: are easy. The other one is dips, which when I

710
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Speaker 1: tell you, I didn't realize how my chicken. So dips

711
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Speaker 1: are like you know, pretend like think about like the

712
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Speaker 1: double handlebar, like well, like the the two bars like

713
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Speaker 1: on the left side right, and then you basically lift

714
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Speaker 1: yourself up and down and it looks so easy.

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Speaker 4: You don't use a bar because it's calisthenics, because I

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Speaker 4: know dips with like the.

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Speaker 1: Bar, yeah, so I don't. So you can actually do

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Speaker 1: a dip literally like I just do. I have a

719
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Speaker 1: bench like a like a you can literally just sit

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Speaker 1: in a chair and just like put your hands on

721
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Speaker 1: the side, but and then you kind of sit at

722
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Speaker 1: the edge of the chair and then you dip. But

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Speaker 1: the dips were so hard because I have no muscle

724
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Speaker 1: strength back here, so I could do like half a one,

725
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Speaker 1: and I was like, oh my god, I'm so weak.

726
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Speaker 1: But dips is one, so it's five. It's dips, dips. Oh,

727
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Speaker 1: and the last one is something called the el sit,

728
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Speaker 1: which is basically.

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Speaker 2: Core strength against them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I ain't doing all that, so the the

731
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Speaker 1: what I'm learning is to build the mussle a muscle

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Speaker 1: up to be able to do the thing. So for

733
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Speaker 1: that I'm doing leg lifts because it's just core muscle strength.

734
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Speaker 1: So right now, so it's so those are the five.

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Speaker 1: In the beginning, when I could tell tell you the

736
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Speaker 1: first week, I could barely do one of each. But

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Speaker 1: it wasn't about that. I was like, tipicanally, just wake up,

738
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Speaker 1: they call it around the world. When you do all five,

739
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Speaker 1: just wake up and just do one of each if

740
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Speaker 1: that's what it looks like. And then I was like, oh,

741
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Speaker 1: I could do five of each, and now I'm.

742
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Speaker 2: Up to eight.

743
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Speaker 1: Well, the squats are easy, but I'm up to eight

744
00:34:39,640 --> 00:34:41,960
Speaker 1: of even the hardest one, and I'm like, okay, so

745
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Speaker 1: I think this week I'm going to see if I

746
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Speaker 1: could do two sets of eight when it comes to

747
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Speaker 1: the hardest one, and I feel really good. I'm like,

748
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 1: because you can see yourself getting stronger. And I am

749
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Speaker 1: trying to create a lifestyle for myself where I don't

750
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Speaker 1: need things in order to be healthy, meaning I want

751
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Speaker 1: to be able to do this type of X size,

752
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:03,480
Speaker 1: whether I'm in a hotel room, whether I'm home. You

753
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:05,279
Speaker 1: know what I mean, because I find myself falling off

754
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Speaker 1: if I don't have access to the gym or my dumbelts,

755
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:09,840
Speaker 1: you know. So I'm like walking, I can do wherever.

756
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Speaker 1: Calisthetics for the most part, I can do wherever. And

757
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 1: so it was just I just wanted to do that

758
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 1: as like, as like a boost to be like, Okay,

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00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 1: I finally I'm like, you're sleeping, you're drinking your water,

760
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:25,720
Speaker 1: you're eating better, You're you're walking, and now your strength training. Tiffany, Yes,

761
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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm finding Oh go ahead, God No,

762
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I just feel like good about Like

763
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 1: a holistically healthy lifestyle is what I want for myself,

764
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 1: one where I feel good on a regular basis and

765
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Speaker 1: it doesn't feel like this FOURTHD thing because I love

766
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 1: to walk and I'm actually enjoying calisthetics and I like

767
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:45,879
Speaker 1: to drink water, and the food that I'm eating, even

768
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 1: though it's healthy, I like the way it tastes because

769
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 1: I don't like I'm choosing a healthy lifestyle not from

770
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:53,120
Speaker 1: a place of I guess girl, like all the choices

771
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 1: I'm making are made in a space where I'm like,

772
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: I'm enjoying those choices.

773
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:58,720
Speaker 2: And I didn't think that that was possible.

774
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: I thought like healthy lifestyle meant deprivation and martyrdom. And

775
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:04,960
Speaker 1: I'm not feeling that like that at all. All the

776
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:09,479
Speaker 1: five ways that I'm achieving this healthy lifestyle feels good

777
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 1: to me. So I'm just excited about like navigating into

778
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 1: that space good.

779
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 4: That's funny that you mentioned that because and I was

780
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 4: gonna ask so that the calistonics to you, are you

781
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 4: just coaching yourself or do you like follow a program

782
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 4: or YouTube university?

783
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 2: So there's like iet the Grip.

784
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:27,000
Speaker 1: There's a young woman on and you do I forget

785
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,920
Speaker 1: her name, and she does like she does. What I

786
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 1: love is just she did super beginner. So you can

787
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 1: kind of see like, oh, you can't do a push up?

788
00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: Can you push against a chair that's too low? Can

789
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 1: you do a table that's too low? Can you do

790
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 1: against the wall? So she does, like you know, I

791
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 1: love that. So it's like, no matter what kind of

792
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 1: like modality you have, She's like, here are the exercises

793
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Speaker 1: sometimes to even just build a muscle to be even

794
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:51,600
Speaker 1: able to attempt the thing.

795
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Speaker 2: So so yeah, that's what I'm just doing.

796
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Speaker 3: Mm hmm.

797
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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's funny that you mentioned it, because in the

798
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Speaker 4: last like two months, my mom friend and she's just

799
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Speaker 4: my friend friend, really good friend named Jessica. She's a

800
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Speaker 4: runner and she you know, she's also anyway, she works downtown,

801
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 4: and she'd be like, yeah, I mean I ran the

802
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 4: broken bridge when I got to the office this morning.

803
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 4: I'm like, you're special. I love that for you. But

804
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 4: she and her husband have a sick gym at their

805
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 4: house and they're like five minutes for me. Anyway, I

806
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 4: asked Jessica because she's always kind of like going to

807
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 4: like traveling for little races, and I said, I really

808
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 4: want to build up to doing like a five k

809
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 4: or a ten k because I enjoy running and I

810
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 4: just haven't run in a long time. And I asked

811
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Speaker 4: her if she would train me. And I don't know

812
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 4: much about her history, but I know she was like

813
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:39,960
Speaker 4: a she was a jock, you know, she used to

814
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 4: like do sports in college and high school and all

815
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 4: that kind of stuff. So Jessica has been we've been

816
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 4: meeting up on Saturdays at her house, and it's so

817
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,399
Speaker 4: fun because like her, she has a four year old

818
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 4: named Cary and he just kind of like hangs out

819
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:54,920
Speaker 4: and her dog Beanie just hangs out. And Carrie's like

820
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 4: blasting paw patrol on his iPad and she's training me

821
00:37:58,560 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 4: on the treadmill.

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Speaker 2: But we do.

823
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Speaker 4: We've been doing strength and the reason I asked if

824
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,719
Speaker 4: you had a coach is because I didn't. I tried

825
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 4: to tell Jessica, no, I cannot, and.

826
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Speaker 2: She will hand me. She's like, you better.

827
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Speaker 4: Get those fifteen pound weights. And I have been so

828
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:18,520
Speaker 4: like pleasantly surprised by my own strength and it does.

829
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Speaker 4: It feels really good to be, you know, building that

830
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Speaker 4: muscle and it's like, you know, little progressions. Jessica's advice

831
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Speaker 4: was we pick one, like we use her. We both

832
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 4: have pelotons that we use and she has the tread

833
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 4: so we use the peloton strength workouts and she's like,

834
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Speaker 4: we're gonna pick one because analysis paralysis too many to choose.

835
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Speaker 4: We're gonna pick one, and we're gonna pick one ad

836
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Speaker 4: workout and one strength and one we're gonna do one

837
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Speaker 4: kind of like running plan and we're gonna do that

838
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 4: strength one so Andre, that's who I follow for the

839
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 4: strength exercise. I've been doing that with him and like

840
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Speaker 4: it's it's cool because it's the same movements and you're like,

841
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 4: oh this is a little easier.

842
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 2: Oh yes, does that look You're.

843
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:04,560
Speaker 4: Like film, I know, yeah, but I needed Jessica have

844
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 4: because otherwise I'd still be doing my ten pound weights

845
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 4: as my heavyweights. She's like, no, no, no, fifteen to

846
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 4: twenty is your heavy ten.

847
00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:12,480
Speaker 2: Is your light.

848
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:16,520
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, Jessica.

849
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Speaker 1: I love just making like these small progress you know,

850
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Speaker 1: Like I just I just feel like, you know, I

851
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 1: love how we are holistically, Like, Okay, there's a better

852
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 1: life out there. Doesn't have to be like this push

853
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 1: and pull. You can walk joyfully toward like a holistically

854
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 1: healthier life and still love where you are right now.

855
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 2: You know.

856
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm all about Yes, I'm about that. Yeah, I'm

857
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:42,279
Speaker 4: like no judgment zone where I'm at. I don't know,

858
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 4: I'm not I don't I don't weigh myself. I don't

859
00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 4: think about I have like I have to really talk

860
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:51,799
Speaker 4: to myself when I get into any kind of thought

861
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:54,720
Speaker 4: where it's like, oh I should be or I didn't

862
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 4: do this today, and so I'm such and such. Yeah,

863
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:01,440
Speaker 4: it's like it's really yeah exactly. I think it's about

864
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:05,040
Speaker 4: doing what makes you feel good. It makes you feel happy,

865
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Speaker 4: and I think we all have our own way of

866
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Speaker 4: doing that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so we hope you're getting your your help onto

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Speaker 2: ba fam. You know, like this is years in the

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Speaker 2: make of child was five years ago. I started with water.

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Speaker 2: I'm just now getting here.

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Speaker 1: So like, whatever small little thing you can do, whether

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Speaker 1: it's eating a little better, sleeping a little better, taking

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Speaker 1: your walk or run, or you know, do a little

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Speaker 1: strength training, start to add those things on.

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Speaker 2: You know, someone was like.

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Speaker 1: You, yes, I love that doing that something with your neighbor,

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Speaker 1: with your kids, something, you know, because if you're going

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Speaker 1: to be here.

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Speaker 2: On this this this.

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Speaker 1: Rolling rock that we call earth, you know ideally you

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Speaker 1: want to be and as healthy as you can be

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Speaker 1: so you can enjoy it as long as you can.

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Speaker 2: So mm hmm kaba fam. We will see you on

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Speaker 2: Friday for b a QA.

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Speaker 1: Financial questions, business questquestions, career questions, just question questions. You

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Speaker 1: can ask them at Branda Vision podcast dot com, brin

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Speaker 1: A Vision Podcasts at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 2: Brid A Vision Podcasts.

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Speaker 1: On IG and the b a podcast on Twitter X

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Speaker 1: or whatever they call it these days.

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Speaker 2: All right, y'all until next week or next until Friday,