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Speaker 1: Order was a fresh show. It's Kiki's court, It's all rights,

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Speaker 1: the honorable Kikiliko. Okay, take it away, judge. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: your honor.

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Speaker 2: With my new gavel, I'm gonna go ahead and hit

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Speaker 2: that boom. Let's get into this case, it says, Hey, Kiki,

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Speaker 2: I know I may get judged harshly, but I'm hoping

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Speaker 2: that there are people out there that can give insight

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Speaker 2: on what I'm going through. My childhood best friend had

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Speaker 2: a baby by my husband. I made the choice to

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Speaker 2: although it happened six years ago, I am still dealing

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Speaker 2: with the repercussions of his mistake. After I found out

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Speaker 2: about the affair, my ex best friend moved away and

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Speaker 2: we hadn't heard from her for the last six years,

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Speaker 2: no communication at all, until last month, when she popped

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Speaker 2: to take custody of the child. Her reason she was

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Speaker 2: battling a sobriety issue and could no longer care for

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Speaker 2: their son. So my husband quickly agreed, and the boy

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Speaker 2: has been living with us for the last month. However,

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Speaker 2: I never wanted children, and I especially never wanted to

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Speaker 2: raise an a fair baby. Am I wrong for asking

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Speaker 2: my husband to find another option for their son?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 3: I know I've been. I'm stressed.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean why you just bring that on us

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Speaker 2: Is very heavy, Yes, very very heavy. And I think

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Speaker 2: you are wrong. You know, I think you are wrong.

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Speaker 2: You made the decision to stick with your husband, and

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Speaker 2: making that decision, you accepted his.

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Speaker 3: Reality, which is he is a father of a child.

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Speaker 2: Now you've been in Delululand for the last six years

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Speaker 2: and you all have had no responsibility to this child.

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Speaker 2: But now that the responsibility is in your face, you

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Speaker 2: want the child to be relocated from his living parent.

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Speaker 2: I think you need to pack your bags if this

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Speaker 2: is you don't want to kid around. But it's not

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Speaker 2: your husband. But you don't want to accept his mistake,

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Speaker 2: you know, lack of better words, but the mistake that

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Speaker 2: came with it, that's not right. You can't find another

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Speaker 2: place for the sun to go. No, you find another

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know. I mean they made a promise to

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Speaker 1: one another. If you buy into that till death do

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Speaker 1: if you want to call it that an indiscretion in

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Speaker 1: their marriage. This is the result. So this is the

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Speaker 1: hand that they're dealt exactly, And he's doing the right

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Speaker 1: in some capacity. Why he wasn't, I don't know. Maybe

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Speaker 1: because of her I.

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Speaker 2: Mean, and she said the best friend moved away, you know,

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Speaker 2: she moved away and they had she had no contact

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Speaker 2: with him after the affair was revealed. So you guys

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Speaker 2: and now the reality has hit and you you know,

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Speaker 2: You can't ask for the child to be relocated somewhere

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Speaker 1: Going anywhere to Yeah, I agree, I agree eight five

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Speaker 2: I mean, I know it's hard. I've never been married,

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Speaker 1: Well, and she decided to stay with them, and easier

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Speaker 3: The kids can feel that. So if you're not gonna

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Speaker 1: She's got to go because I heard this long time ago.

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Speaker 1: which means that it needs to end exactly because I

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Speaker 1: that doesn't mean the kids are like a far second.

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Speaker 1: I don't think she's ever going to come around. She's

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Speaker 1: The dad has an obligation to his child. The wife

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Speaker 1: So this is just a package deal. Now it has

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Speaker 2: Like I don't And it seems like to me you're

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Speaker 3: Child like it's not the child.

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Speaker 1: He's got to go, he's him and a child have

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Speaker 1: I know where you came from. You know what I'm

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Speaker 1: very beginning. Hey Karen, Hi, Karen, good morning? Hey, what

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Speaker 1: say you? I would say that this woman has to go?

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Speaker 3: You know, she should have gone six years ago when

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Speaker 3: he's an affair and a kid and everything that was.

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Speaker 3: Why is she complaining now, well.

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Speaker 1: They should have been involved in the past six years.

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Speaker 1: Because again she has the choice to leave, but she

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Speaker 3: Kids, paul So she was gone, Yes, I agree.

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Speaker 1: I agree, Thank you Karen. You have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, like I said, I would say, normally,

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Speaker 2: And I just say that for six years, she's been

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Speaker 3: No child that came from this relationship. She blocked it out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you can't do that, Like you have to

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Speaker 1: Or don't or don't or don't. But he has an

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 1: He should get back with the other woman, help her

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Speaker 2: We get message woman, and I don't want to sound

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Speaker 2: its sensitive to her situation. Can you imagine your best

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Speaker 3: No, I can't, Pauline, When were we in jail, girl.

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine the trauma that would come from that,

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Speaker 1: I'd be long gone. Honestly, if if it were being

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Speaker 3: I don't think so.

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Speaker 1: And I think that you guys just go live your

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Speaker 1: and I wouldn't. It wouldn't be I would never say

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Speaker 1: The kid has to go somewhere else. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Not my problem. It is your problem now, it is.

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Speaker 2: And girl, you just got to accept that reality. I'm

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Speaker 1: You.

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Speaker 3: Gotta look at the kid every day.

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Speaker 1: Said they came in late the kiki, Yes, give us

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Speaker 3: Went to my courtroom late, apologize your honor?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, recap. So this so a woman is reaching

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Speaker 1: out to you because her husband cheated on her with

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Speaker 1: The woman the best friend and the kid. They go off,

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Speaker 1: I can't raise him. I'm having issues on my own.

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Speaker 1: You need to raise him. So now the husband's like,

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Speaker 1: well okay, I'm in, and the wife is going, hey,

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Speaker 1: want we don't I want out?

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Speaker 2: Basically, well, she's not saying she wants that, she wants

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Speaker 2: the kid. She said, can we find somewhere else for

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Speaker 2: this kids to go?

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Speaker 1: So no? Bye? No, I mean this is I feel

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Speaker 1: like this is like a unanimous court decision.

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Speaker 3: Exist.

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Speaker 1: Well, bang your gavel again.

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Speaker 3: Oh there we go.

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Speaker 1: Just open a shut just like that problem solve. See

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Speaker 1: you later, late, lady. Yeah yeah, that's sounded menacing, didn't it.

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Speaker 1: See you later, lady? You take that? Yeah? Bye, But

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Speaker 1: you didn't see that one coming, did you. How we

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Speaker 1: lost the listener and maybe we gain three I'm not sure.

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Speaker 1: The kid and then the other two. Rupie over here

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Speaker 1: is saying go get with her now,