1 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:12,319 Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapot. Hi guys, welcome back to this 2 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:17,279 Speaker 1: week's Teddy Teapot. I am like next level pregnant right now. 3 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: Like I'm sitting here like having to take my sweatshirt off, 4 00:00:20,239 --> 00:00:22,960 Speaker 1: and everybody else is in like multiple jackets, like it's 5 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: a situation here. I am hot, sweaty, and bothered. I 6 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: am so excited to have Kristen Cavalry on. Not only 7 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 1: have I been obsessed with her for years, She's on 8 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: Very Cavalry Thursday nights on eight Central. She is married 9 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:42,520 Speaker 1: to Jake Cutler and has a great jewelry line called 10 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:46,600 Speaker 1: Uncommon James three Ketto's. So we gotta dig into all 11 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: things pregnancy. And then later on in the episode, I 12 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:52,519 Speaker 1: am going to have on an O. B. G Way 13 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: in so we can ask all of the questions all 14 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 1: of us are too afraid to actually ask our doctors. 15 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: It's gonna be crazy. And you know what, I need 16 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:03,279 Speaker 1: to get these questions in now, because like I am 17 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 1: days away from having the baby. I mean it could 18 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 1: be today, it could be tomorrow, it could be at 19 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 1: the beginning of next week. I don't know. I'm ready, 20 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:13,400 Speaker 1: so oh my gosh, I can't wait. To dive right 21 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:18,039 Speaker 1: into it. Kristen, Hi, Hi, thanks so much for coming on. 22 00:01:18,160 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 1: How are you? I'm good? How are you? I mean, 23 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 1: to be honest, I'm kind of a hot mess express 24 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: right now. It's like working up till the last day. 25 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: I mean, it's craziness. I think that. I mean, I 26 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:33,720 Speaker 1: don't know if this happened to you, but did your 27 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:37,400 Speaker 1: mind forget everything from each pregnancy before you got pregnant 28 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 1: with the other one? Oh? Big time? Yeah? And now 29 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 1: of course I've completely forgotten everything, but are pregnant and 30 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 1: they're asking me questions like I don't remember any of this, 31 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: so why did they Why does that happen? I'm like, honestly, 32 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:54,160 Speaker 1: the other day, I was like, somebody's like, are you 33 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 1: packed for the hospital? And I was like, no, don't 34 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: I have to do that? Oh my gosh, yeah you do. 35 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: But I feel like, but what didn't you pack? Because 36 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:08,640 Speaker 1: I feel like the first time I packed all of 37 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: these ridiculous things that I never once used, Like I 38 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:15,040 Speaker 1: left with these like crazy granny panties that they gave 39 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 1: me and some like spray and my like baby take 40 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 1: home outfit didn't fit the baby anyway. So I'm like, 41 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: what what do you even need? No, I know it's true. 42 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:29,360 Speaker 1: The first one you have everything imaginable, and then each 43 00:02:29,360 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 1: one I feel like you bring less and less you need, 44 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: really thanks, and maybe some spacewash and that's about it. 45 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 1: Maybe a new pair of clothes after you have a baby, 46 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: and that's about it. That's what's I said. And then 47 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: one of my listeners said, bring tile and all pm 48 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:47,480 Speaker 1: because you need to sleep, and they're not allowed to 49 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: give it to you at the hospital, but you're allowed 50 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 1: to take it. And I was like, how did you 51 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: figure this ound? So that's also interesting because my first 52 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 1: five three I have two boys and a girl, and 53 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 1: my boys we never sent them to the nursery. I 54 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 1: think I felt bad or I didn't even know what 55 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: that was an option. And then my daughter, for the 56 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:07,919 Speaker 1: third one, I was like, oh wait, we can send 57 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: her to the nursery. Best decision of my life. I've 58 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 1: actually got some sleep that night was which was incredible 59 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:16,240 Speaker 1: because with my voice we had camped in my first 60 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:18,359 Speaker 1: at like two in the morning. I was up all night. 61 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:20,519 Speaker 1: You know, I never slapped and stay with Jackson, and 62 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: we didn't. So you start off with your own sleep. 63 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: So I would say and sending my mom to the 64 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: nursery as a game changer. I think so too. But 65 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,160 Speaker 1: then I don't know if this is a rumor. But 66 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 1: where I'm having the baby, somebody's like, oh, they don't 67 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: do that anymore, where you can send your kids to 68 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: the nursery. I'm like, I am, I'm like older now 69 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 1: more than ever. Do I want to like send the 70 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: baby to the nursery. But I'm like totally in denial. 71 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: Like my husband's like, do you think you could pack 72 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 1: the bag or do you think you could maybe organize 73 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:50,680 Speaker 1: like a babysitter to be with the kids when you 74 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: go into labor. I'm like, oh, yeah, this is really happening. 75 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 1: That's the hard part. Once you have more, It's like 76 00:03:57,680 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: you have to find childcare and you don't even know 77 00:03:59,600 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: when it's I'm gonna go down. You just have to 78 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: be prepared for your other kids. And what's the age 79 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 1: gap between your kids? So I have a seven year old, 80 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: a five year old, and a four year old, so 81 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:15,839 Speaker 1: they're all pretty closed. Okay, So I'm Mike had such 82 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: a big gap because my I have a stepdaughter that's eleven, 83 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:22,559 Speaker 1: my daughter seven, and then my son's five and then 84 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:24,599 Speaker 1: this was like a total surprise. I didn't even know 85 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:26,600 Speaker 1: that I was pregnant until I was nine weeks pregnant, 86 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: and um, so my kids are like at the point 87 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:33,000 Speaker 1: where like, mom, are we gonna have to be like 88 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 1: the baby center? I was like, I have some extra hands, 89 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,880 Speaker 1: which will be nice. But something I'm trying to think 90 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:47,600 Speaker 1: of is like that beginning stages when you have older kids, 91 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:51,279 Speaker 1: Like how much downtime did you have with your babies, 92 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,560 Speaker 1: Like before you know, you were up running around doing 93 00:04:54,600 --> 00:05:00,040 Speaker 1: all the things that you do now. Well, so I 94 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:04,160 Speaker 1: obviously you know downtime the window when you have other 95 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: little kids, you know. I mean I had all my 96 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:10,599 Speaker 1: really close and age, So my oldest was twenty one months, 97 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: and then my middle kid when I had my my daughter, 98 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 1: he was only nineteen months. I mean, I had babies, 99 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 1: so really when you think about it, but I didn't 100 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 1: go back to work um with my daughter for a 101 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:23,119 Speaker 1: few months. I had her in November, and I really 102 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 1: thought that was a great time because then obviously, thanks 103 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: to Christmas and everything, I could just chill out for 104 00:05:27,839 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 1: a while, which was awesome. My first after seven weeks, 105 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: he was on a plane with me to l a 106 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:35,840 Speaker 1: I took a red eye from l A to New 107 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:38,400 Speaker 1: York with him. I mean, I was just going going, 108 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: I have my mom with me, which was great, but 109 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 1: it was really tough, and I if I could go 110 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: back and do it again, I would have just taken 111 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:47,159 Speaker 1: more time to chill out. You know, you can't get 112 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 1: that time back. Um, So I don't know where did 113 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: you go. Each kid's different, and I don't know, it's 114 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 1: just it changes. But I think because my daughter was 115 00:05:55,920 --> 00:05:57,599 Speaker 1: my last one, and I knew she was gonna be 116 00:05:57,640 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: my last one, I really just built it for everything 117 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: was worth and I just enjoyed every second of her 118 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: baby face. I mean, that's that's what I'm telling myself. Like, 119 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:08,479 Speaker 1: I'm like, that's what I'm gonna do. I'm really gonna 120 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 1: take this time with her, and I'm going to not 121 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,839 Speaker 1: rush myself. And then I see myself scheduling things that 122 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:15,720 Speaker 1: are like four weeks out, and I'm like, what are 123 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:18,840 Speaker 1: you doing? Like I don't know how to stop myself 124 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:20,760 Speaker 1: now with the with the other kids, I didn't have 125 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 1: my business and I wasn't on the show or any 126 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: of those other things, and I didn't have a podcast, 127 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: and I was like able to have that time, and 128 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: I don't think I appreciated it I first, not because 129 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:33,080 Speaker 1: you don't appreciate it when you're in the midst of it. 130 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: Of everything, I know, I mean I think that more cancel. 131 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:40,679 Speaker 1: It is nice to get back into a groove after 132 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 1: you know, just sitting on a couch all day and 133 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:45,840 Speaker 1: leggings out with an ice patch, you know. I mean, 134 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: it's small nice to have a reason to get dressed 135 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: in the morning and kind of feel like yourself again. 136 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: But I think the beauty and um, you know, just 137 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:57,040 Speaker 1: taking it slow and not being hard on ourselves and 138 00:06:57,040 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 1: and just you know, resting as much as possible because 139 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 1: it is it's hard, and we're going on most sleep 140 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: in the beginnings. Yeah, that's definitely. Well, somebody sent me 141 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: the snow or schnoo, I might be pronouncing, have you 142 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 1: heard of this? Okay, So apparently it like completely simulates 143 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: the mother's womb, and like you can rent that. People 144 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 1: are renting them, everybody's talking about them. This is not 145 00:07:19,280 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 1: an ad, by the way, but I never had them 146 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 1: with my other kids. We like set it up in 147 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 1: my room. It tracks their heartbeat, attracts the movements that 148 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: they need and everybody's like, oh, the baby will be sleeping, 149 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,760 Speaker 1: Like you won't believe there's no colic. I'm like, so 150 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 1: I am like ready to test it out. I already 151 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:36,440 Speaker 1: have it set up. I have like the app set up. 152 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: My husband's like, you've lost your mind. I'm like, everybody 153 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: swears by this, but there are always those like things 154 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: that people swear by and then you get it and 155 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:45,760 Speaker 1: you're like, oh, that actually didn't work for me, or 156 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: you know what, this is not the best thing ever. 157 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: How I mean when it comes to sleep, I would 158 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:56,800 Speaker 1: try everything anything. And how is Jay like within the 159 00:07:56,840 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: newborn phase because Edwin is like the most nervous human 160 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: being touching the baby, He's like acting as if it's 161 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 1: like a foreign object. He's like hello, and I'm like, 162 00:08:07,000 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 1: can you do the diaper? And he's like, can we 163 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 1: wait till the chord falls off? I know, guys are 164 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: so funny with newborn babies. Jay, it's with each kid 165 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: he'd be like, I'll be on, I'm on, toddler, dude, 166 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: you your baby, Dude, Like, can you kill the baby 167 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 1: for five seconds to give me a play? I mean 168 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 1: he's this way, he really, He's like all come around 169 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 1: when they're like seven eight months old. That's I think 170 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 1: guys just they feel like they have nothing to control. 171 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 1: For you. I kind of understand it, you know. I 172 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:39,199 Speaker 1: mean I understand it too. But there were some nights 173 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: where I know my husband was simply checking on me 174 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: just to like so he could say he did. Like 175 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: he'd be like, all good, babe when the baby was crying, 176 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 1: and I'd be like, you are so full of it. 177 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 1: You're just trying to be nice, and then you like 178 00:08:51,640 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: put your headphones on to like drown out the noise 179 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: and don't like, must be nice. Jay. I'm like, I 180 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 1: know awake, and I know you're pretending to be asleep, 181 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 1: but I don't as see what you're doing. Buddy. It's 182 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:10,200 Speaker 1: like safe like that you get into tonight, everyone's surprised. 183 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: Everyone's hilarious and right now that have babies and they're 184 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: like in the middle of the night, I'm like, oh, 185 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:21,360 Speaker 1: I know, but it gets better, trust me at all. 186 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: It gets better. But yeah, I'm really happy to be 187 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 1: out of that that you're going because it's so hard. 188 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:30,720 Speaker 1: It's just it's hard. You've just given me a reality 189 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 1: check because I've totally blocked it out. Now that you're 190 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: saying this, I'm reliving all of these moments again, and 191 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:40,240 Speaker 1: I'm starting to be like, no, but I need this 192 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:44,439 Speaker 1: because I swear this is why postpartum happens. Because everybody 193 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:46,680 Speaker 1: talks about how you're going to have this baby and 194 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: then your life will be the best it's ever been, 195 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: and there are moments that are so beyond hard, and 196 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:56,559 Speaker 1: like they don't talk about those moments and they don't 197 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: talk about the fact like I remember with my first baby, 198 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: I thought that I was like going to have the 199 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:03,800 Speaker 1: baby and then like feel good to like you know, 200 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:07,960 Speaker 1: trot out of the hospital, like you know, you see 201 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 1: and like the magazines when you see like you know, 202 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:14,080 Speaker 1: one of the princesses leaving like in her like pants suit, 203 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:17,080 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I am sitting here in these underwear 204 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:21,200 Speaker 1: that are like bigger than my bathroom. I am a 205 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:25,559 Speaker 1: disaster zone pregnant. No one told me that. I was like, wait, 206 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 1: why is what is my stomach? Yeah? Why? I actually 207 00:10:30,360 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 1: feel worse in closed after the baby comes that I 208 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:39,280 Speaker 1: do when i'm pregnant, because then it also it feels 209 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 1: like something that you don't even really it's like a goo. 210 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:46,320 Speaker 1: Your stomach is like this gooey feeling, and it is 211 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 1: a it is a weird feeling, and until you experience it, 212 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 1: you can't even explain it to somebody. But that's exactly 213 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: It's like, it's bizarre. And Molle talked about that before 214 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:57,840 Speaker 1: I had a kid. I was like, WHOA, I wish 215 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 1: someone would have warned me about that stuff. Yeah, why 216 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: did nobody tell me about the goo? And like, why 217 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 1: did nobody like tell you that even though you're tired, 218 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 1: you really can't sleep. Even when you can't sleep, you're 219 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 1: just like staring at a child. I know. And I 220 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:18,840 Speaker 1: felt like, especially with my first I had all this adrenaline. 221 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: When I first got home from the hospital two weeks, 222 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:23,439 Speaker 1: I felt like I was just running off of adrenaline 223 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:26,240 Speaker 1: and everyone, you know, my mom, I didn't have a nanny. 224 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: It's all my oldest seven months old, and so I'm 225 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:31,160 Speaker 1: my mom and my mother in law being like people, 226 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: lay down, lets go lay down and take some sleep. 227 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:36,079 Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't. I literally cannot. I like jacked up. 228 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 1: And then it like three months was when it hit me. 229 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 1: It all just came crashing down on me and I 230 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:44,960 Speaker 1: got really tired. But luckily that's you know, right when 231 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 1: he was starting to sleep through tonight. So it all 232 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:49,800 Speaker 1: worked out. But you know, no one really really talks 233 00:11:49,840 --> 00:11:52,880 Speaker 1: about that stuff. Everyone is most of what's ever happened, 234 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 1: and it is. It is the most amazing thing that 235 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 1: will ever happen to anyone who was a tack. But 236 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 1: it is also really hard, and so I think it's 237 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:03,280 Speaker 1: important to have honest conversations about that so that people 238 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 1: don't feel like they're alone off on a little island. Yeah, 239 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:08,199 Speaker 1: because then and then you go through this phase where 240 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:10,160 Speaker 1: you're like, I don't want the people in my life 241 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:12,680 Speaker 1: to see how much I'm struggling, and then it makes 242 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:17,040 Speaker 1: things worse. Like even recently, I have this thing. It's crazy, 243 00:12:17,080 --> 00:12:20,080 Speaker 1: but it's called lightning crotch. Doesn't that sound lovely? But 244 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:22,559 Speaker 1: it's where I'm walking and then all of a sudden 245 00:12:22,640 --> 00:12:25,240 Speaker 1: I will be brought down to my knee. It feels 246 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 1: like somebody took a lightning bolt, and like, and I 247 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:30,320 Speaker 1: didn't even realize it was a thing. I went to 248 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:32,760 Speaker 1: the doctor. I'm like, every couple of days this thing 249 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 1: happens and I don't know, it never happened with the 250 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:37,320 Speaker 1: other kids, And he's like, oh, lightning crotch totally normal, 251 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 1: And I was like what, Like I thought I was 252 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 1: going into early like labor, Like what is this And 253 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:46,439 Speaker 1: he's like, oh no, it just happens to some people, 254 00:12:46,600 --> 00:12:49,679 Speaker 1: like and doctors are so casual about everything that then 255 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:51,679 Speaker 1: you feel like a crazy person. I'm like, well, I 256 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 1: didn't realize, and I'm walking with my kids and all 257 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 1: of a sudden, I'm like lean down on my knees, 258 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 1: like shuddering and pain, Like I wish I would have 259 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 1: known that something like this was like a situation. So 260 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 1: does it really does it feel like your who has 261 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 1: like ripping apart, like your phones are like literally ripping apart? 262 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 1: What it is? But it's what It's insane and it's 263 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:18,320 Speaker 1: so bad. It happens for no reason, Like it's not 264 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 1: like it's right after doing something strenuous or workout. Like 265 00:13:21,720 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 1: the other day, I was just leaving my daughter's dance 266 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 1: class with like I wasn't dancing, I was just walking 267 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 1: with her out of class and I was like, oh oh, 268 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:32,040 Speaker 1: and she's like, okay, are you having the baby, and 269 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:35,680 Speaker 1: like no, it's and then how much do you explain 270 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:40,559 Speaker 1: to the other kids? Right? Yeah, so right, Mommy's like 271 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:47,680 Speaker 1: it's ripping and sorry, well my son already thinks that 272 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:51,120 Speaker 1: the baby's coming out of my butt. Oh that's always 273 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:54,720 Speaker 1: a lovely conversation too, isn't it. Other time my kids 274 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 1: saw the babies came out of our belly button. I'm 275 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:04,200 Speaker 1: the I wonder like once we tell them, then they're 276 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: going to tell everyone in school, and like, what is 277 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:09,120 Speaker 1: an appropriate age to tell them? I mean, I don't 278 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:11,719 Speaker 1: I don't know. I have a like an O B 279 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 1: G coming on later that I'm going to ask what 280 00:14:14,320 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: I did ask like my pediatrician and she's like, you 281 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 1: should just be very honest with them. So I was, 282 00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 1: and I just said, actually, cruise, the babies come out 283 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 1: of your vagina. And but now he's one, he can't 284 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: say vagina. He says vagina. So now all the time 285 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:37,000 Speaker 1: he's like, how's the vagina? Mom, I'm like, do you, like, 286 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:40,480 Speaker 1: can I see your vagina? Know why? And then I 287 00:14:40,600 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: look at the doctor. I'm like, I'm so glad you 288 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 1: had me have this conversation with him. Yeah, now I 289 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: look like the creepy mom, like just trying to like 290 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: get lunch um, but yeah, no, it's so much craziness, 291 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:57,400 Speaker 1: But thank you so much for coming on and sharing. 292 00:14:57,480 --> 00:15:00,840 Speaker 1: If you could leave the listeners with like one tip 293 00:15:01,080 --> 00:15:04,760 Speaker 1: of like pregnancy and becoming a new mom, what would 294 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: you say? I would say, don't compare yourself to others 295 00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 1: and listen to people, but take it with a grain 296 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 1: of salt, because at the end of the day, as moms, 297 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:16,680 Speaker 1: we only know what's best for us and our babies. 298 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:21,000 Speaker 1: And every baby is different, every experience is different, parenting 299 00:15:21,120 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 1: is different for each kid as well, and so I 300 00:15:23,400 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 1: would just say open, just go ahead, listen to you, 301 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 1: you know, and and again, just don't compare because everyone 302 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 1: is different. You know what. I couldn't love that advice more. 303 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:36,200 Speaker 1: It's so good and so true. And thank you so 304 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:39,080 Speaker 1: much Kristen for being on I and you guys have 305 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 1: to tune into Very Cavalry. It's Thursday nights on E 306 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:46,360 Speaker 1: It's so great, so funny. I love y'all's dynamic and 307 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 1: thank you. Thank you for coming on the show. Thanks 308 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 1: for having me. I will post you later. Talk okay, 309 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:59,160 Speaker 1: bye Teddy bye? Okay. How amazing is kristin Cavalary? Like 310 00:15:59,280 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 1: I need her to live than Los Angeles would be 311 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 1: one of my besties. Can you move? Thanks? Uh now? 312 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: I am bringing on Dr Tristan Bickman. She is the 313 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:11,240 Speaker 1: author of whoa Baby, a guide for new moms who 314 00:16:11,240 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed and freaked out and wonder what the A 315 00:16:14,680 --> 00:16:17,960 Speaker 1: lot of asterisks just happened. Um. She is a board 316 00:16:17,960 --> 00:16:21,360 Speaker 1: certified O B g U I N with affiliations with St. 317 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 1: John's Health Center and U C l A. I mean, 318 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:25,560 Speaker 1: the list goes on and on, and she's going to 319 00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:36,400 Speaker 1: really help us everybody. Let's welcome Dr Tristan. Is that 320 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:39,800 Speaker 1: what I should call you? Okay? Perfect? We're so excited 321 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: because essentially what this podcast is is I asked my 322 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:46,160 Speaker 1: listeners what they want to hear about, and then they 323 00:16:46,160 --> 00:16:48,080 Speaker 1: write in questions and then we kind of take our 324 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 1: cues from there. And something that everybody is obsessed about 325 00:16:51,520 --> 00:16:53,640 Speaker 1: is like the good, the bad, and the ugly of 326 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: being pregnant and childbirth and all of that and all 327 00:16:57,480 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 1: of the things that you're frightened to actually find out 328 00:17:00,520 --> 00:17:02,200 Speaker 1: from your O B g U I N or too 329 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 1: embarrassed to ask in front of your husband or whatever 330 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:07,560 Speaker 1: it may be. Like I'm going to start off with like, 331 00:17:08,960 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 1: it's a very embarrassing story that happened to me, but 332 00:17:12,080 --> 00:17:14,679 Speaker 1: I had absolutely no idea it was even something that 333 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:20,040 Speaker 1: could happen. Um When I was having my baby, when 334 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:25,640 Speaker 1: my first my husband kept saying when I was in delivery, 335 00:17:26,359 --> 00:17:29,919 Speaker 1: she's coming, She's coming, and I was like looking at 336 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:32,480 Speaker 1: the doctor and he didn't seem very positive about it, 337 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 1: and he's like, he's like, I see her head. I 338 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:37,680 Speaker 1: see her head, Babe, you're getting there. And then I 339 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:39,480 Speaker 1: look at the doctor and he would shake his head 340 00:17:39,520 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 1: like and I'm like, what the heck is happening. Finally, 341 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:45,439 Speaker 1: Edwin like goes to the restroom or something and I'm like, 342 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:48,440 Speaker 1: dr G, what is happening. Why does he keep saying 343 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:51,720 Speaker 1: the baby's coming and he's not coming? And he's like, Teddy, 344 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:53,720 Speaker 1: you don't want to know? Can you just not know? 345 00:17:53,800 --> 00:17:55,880 Speaker 1: I'm like, I need to know. What does he think 346 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:58,560 Speaker 1: is the baby's head? And she's like, well, you've you've 347 00:17:58,560 --> 00:18:01,320 Speaker 1: gotten a hemorrhoid and every time you push it fills 348 00:18:01,359 --> 00:18:05,119 Speaker 1: up with blood. And your husband thinks that that's the 349 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:09,280 Speaker 1: baby's head. And I'm like, no, like you've got that 350 00:18:09,400 --> 00:18:11,679 Speaker 1: isn't happening. That isn't what he's seeing down there. And 351 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:14,399 Speaker 1: I remember being like, one why did nobody tell me this? 352 00:18:14,440 --> 00:18:17,320 Speaker 1: Happens to what do I do now? Three? How long 353 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:19,400 Speaker 1: am I going to have this hymn? Right? And which 354 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:23,600 Speaker 1: was a while? And to no, yes, now one way 355 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:25,200 Speaker 1: because I had to get it removed. I had to 356 00:18:25,240 --> 00:18:27,160 Speaker 1: go get one of those things where they like put 357 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 1: a little like around it and then it falls off. 358 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,760 Speaker 1: But like, please, like these are the things that you're 359 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:38,280 Speaker 1: just not warned about. And I mean still to this day, 360 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:40,600 Speaker 1: I hope my husband doesn't listen to this podcast because 361 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:43,399 Speaker 1: like I never told him, like that wasn't actually the 362 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:45,960 Speaker 1: baby's head. But these are the types of things that 363 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,880 Speaker 1: I don't think that people really know going into the hospital, 364 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:51,960 Speaker 1: Like why does no one tell you tell mothers that 365 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: they leave the hospital and basically diapers and like what 366 00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:57,400 Speaker 1: is actually happening down there that we need to leave 367 00:18:57,400 --> 00:19:02,399 Speaker 1: in diapers? Well, number one, presuming it's vaginal delivery or 368 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 1: even actually for a C section, there's so much bleeding 369 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:07,120 Speaker 1: that a little, a little mini pad isn't gonna take 370 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:09,440 Speaker 1: care of it. Um number one. Number two weeks asked 371 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:12,680 Speaker 1: you not to use tampons, So you need something that's 372 00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:16,119 Speaker 1: very large, you need something that's very absorbent and that 373 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:18,840 Speaker 1: doesn't leak and Also that's not tight because you want 374 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:23,400 Speaker 1: nothing touching you down there. Sounds comfy. I'm days out 375 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:25,359 Speaker 1: from this. And then you get a nice east infection 376 00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:30,680 Speaker 1: because you get all the non cotton absorbent liners. Also, 377 00:19:30,760 --> 00:19:32,439 Speaker 1: when I would go to the restroom, I would have 378 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 1: to like squirt water on myself at the same time 379 00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:39,320 Speaker 1: because the p would hurt my my private right. It's 380 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:42,520 Speaker 1: like salt in a wound. And like Derma blast became 381 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:45,080 Speaker 1: my best friend. They gave me one, which you can't buy. 382 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:48,080 Speaker 1: By the way, you can't know. Yah, you have to 383 00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:50,959 Speaker 1: just ask for multiple Okay, good to know, because I 384 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:52,639 Speaker 1: was like, I need to go on Amazon and like 385 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:55,720 Speaker 1: buy a twelve pack because that was just keep stalking 386 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:58,560 Speaker 1: and the minute you get to postpartum, okay, perfect, all right, 387 00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:01,119 Speaker 1: and can you explain and I don't actually know what 388 00:20:01,240 --> 00:20:06,199 Speaker 1: this is, but can you explain the bloody show? So 389 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 1: the bloody show is referring to something pre delivery. Okay, 390 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:12,399 Speaker 1: this is not postpartum. This is prior to going into labor. 391 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 1: It's usually as your cervic starts to soften, which is 392 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:17,639 Speaker 1: part of labor, and you kind of wipe and you 393 00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:19,639 Speaker 1: see a little blood. Is it the same as the 394 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:24,640 Speaker 1: mucus plug. No, the mucus plug is this entity which 395 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:27,119 Speaker 1: I feel is super overrated and over talked about, so 396 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,560 Speaker 1: I won't talk about it a lot um. But it's 397 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:32,840 Speaker 1: a piece of mucus that that serves as a little 398 00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:35,520 Speaker 1: protection in the cervix. Some people see it fall out, 399 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 1: some people don't see it fall out. Some people think 400 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:39,680 Speaker 1: when it falls out it means labor is imminent, but 401 00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:41,679 Speaker 1: it really has nothing to do with the timing of labor. 402 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:44,480 Speaker 1: That's good to know, because honestly, I've been looking for one. 403 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 1: I haven't seen it, and I'm supposed to be having 404 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:50,919 Speaker 1: a baby sooner. But with my daughter, I was induced, 405 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:53,359 Speaker 1: and with my son he came on his own. My 406 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 1: water broke, but I still never had any bloody show 407 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 1: or mucus plug or really any warning that he was 408 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: going to be coming. Like I just like got up 409 00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:02,440 Speaker 1: to use the restroom like it was any morning and 410 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: then all of a sudden. Also, it's a lot of water, right, 411 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:08,160 Speaker 1: Like I had a lot of water. It's a lot 412 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 1: of water in the sack. When the sack tears, the 413 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:13,120 Speaker 1: water comes out. So it depends how big the tear 414 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:14,920 Speaker 1: is in the sack. Oh, so that might be why 415 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:16,800 Speaker 1: how it had a large tear, Like I had to 416 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:20,520 Speaker 1: go my husband drove a sports car to take me 417 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:23,480 Speaker 1: to the hospital and because we had to like have 418 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 1: his mom they're driving my daughter to preschool, you know, 419 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:29,439 Speaker 1: whatever it was. And I remember having to wrap myself 420 00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 1: in towels to go to the hospital because it wasn't stopping. 421 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:34,760 Speaker 1: Because that's not for every that's not everyone. Know, some 422 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 1: people have a little trickle. In fact, they don't even 423 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 1: know what's happening because they think it's just sweat or 424 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,960 Speaker 1: a little bit of urin leaking. So I could be 425 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:42,959 Speaker 1: my water could be breaking right now. It could be 426 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:47,520 Speaker 1: you could be pinking on yourself. Your water could be broken. Um, 427 00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:50,840 Speaker 1: A lot of people have this question, and truthfully, I 428 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:53,280 Speaker 1: don't have an answer for it. I just have kind 429 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:56,399 Speaker 1: of embraced mine. But it's stretch marks. How do moms 430 00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:59,200 Speaker 1: get rid of them? How do you like, is there 431 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,439 Speaker 1: something they should be doing during pregnancy? I mean I've 432 00:22:01,480 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 1: been putting a little bit of like coconut butter on, 433 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 1: but like not religiously. Mostly it's genetic. So I think 434 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 1: if you got them the first time, you're probably going 435 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:12,760 Speaker 1: to get him the second time, or get him the 436 00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:15,919 Speaker 1: third time. Um, people do use creams. They market a 437 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:18,280 Speaker 1: lot of creams. Personally, I use creams and I didn't 438 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:20,119 Speaker 1: get stretch marks, but I don't really credit it to 439 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:23,159 Speaker 1: the creams. However, I used it every time because it worked. 440 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,400 Speaker 1: But there are people that use creams and they still 441 00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 1: get stretch marks. And it's mostly genetic. See, I got 442 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:31,240 Speaker 1: stretch marks on my upper legs, like on my like 443 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:34,760 Speaker 1: growing area, but I didn't get any on my And 444 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:36,680 Speaker 1: then they say, I don't know if this is true, 445 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: but if you didn't get it with your first you're 446 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,280 Speaker 1: probably not going to get them with your third, correct 447 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:44,120 Speaker 1: because of the genetics. Genetics. Okay, so that makes sense. 448 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:47,640 Speaker 1: All right, this is a personal thing that actually affects me. 449 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:52,360 Speaker 1: Best advice for lightning crotch, like I will be walking 450 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:54,439 Speaker 1: and be brought down to my knees. I was just 451 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:56,359 Speaker 1: talking to our other guests about it, and I was like, 452 00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,600 Speaker 1: and she said, the same thing happened to her. Yeah. 453 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:02,359 Speaker 1: The hard thing bad is it's unpredictable. It stops you 454 00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,720 Speaker 1: in your tracks when it happens, and you don't know 455 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,320 Speaker 1: when it's coming. Sometimes it's it's from the pressure of 456 00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:10,320 Speaker 1: the uterus with the growing baby pushing on different nerves. 457 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:12,760 Speaker 1: So sometimes if it gets really severe, you can wear 458 00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,360 Speaker 1: like a belly binder and elevate your abdomen and your 459 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,480 Speaker 1: uterus and that might kind of alleviate the pressure on 460 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,919 Speaker 1: the nerves. But outside of that, and there's nothing that 461 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,560 Speaker 1: you could have done to make it not happen or correct. 462 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,160 Speaker 1: All right, Well, what about tips for preventing swollen feet? 463 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:30,800 Speaker 1: Drink lots of fluid, minimize your salt, and keep your 464 00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 1: feet elevated. Okay, um, and outside of that, it's going 465 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:38,320 Speaker 1: to happen. Yeah, I mean mine or to the point 466 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:40,920 Speaker 1: now where like I grew out of my sneakers, like 467 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 1: where open toe shoes? Or right now? They my husband 468 00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:48,040 Speaker 1: like are those slippers? Are you going to eyeheart and slippers? 469 00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:53,000 Speaker 1: And yes I have. They're very comfortable and pretty much pajamas. Um. 470 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:55,800 Speaker 1: What are the pros and cons of C section and 471 00:23:55,920 --> 00:24:00,239 Speaker 1: vaginal birth? That's a that's a big question. Um, well 472 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:03,639 Speaker 1: I can tell you differences pros and cons. So the 473 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:06,960 Speaker 1: big difference mostly what I tell my patients is a 474 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:10,879 Speaker 1: vaginal delivery is very unpredictable. It could go especially on 475 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:12,280 Speaker 1: a first when we have nothing to compare it to 476 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 1: you for years since you've had it two others, maybe 477 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,280 Speaker 1: it's a little bit more predictable. We know you can 478 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 1: do it, so odds are you can do it again. 479 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 1: But for someone who hasn't had a delivery before, with 480 00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,440 Speaker 1: a vaginal delivery, it could be super easy. It could 481 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:26,040 Speaker 1: be quick. It could be three minutes of pushing and 482 00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: no tears. Too. It could be fifty hours of labor 483 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,439 Speaker 1: and six hours of pushing and still a C section 484 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:34,800 Speaker 1: or a big terror and you're sitting on your side 485 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:37,199 Speaker 1: for six weeks wishing you never did that. So it's 486 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,680 Speaker 1: very unpredictable. With the C section, if all goes well, 487 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:42,679 Speaker 1: and usually they do, it's very it's very predictable. You 488 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 1: walk in, you get your anesthesia, takes ten or fifteen 489 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 1: minutes to get the baby out, and about the same 490 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:49,320 Speaker 1: to sell everything up, and you you go to your 491 00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:52,439 Speaker 1: recovery room. So it's very predictable. So those are the 492 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:55,560 Speaker 1: two big differences in terms of what to expect in 493 00:24:55,680 --> 00:25:00,200 Speaker 1: terms of medically well C sections of surgery. So there's 494 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,640 Speaker 1: risk to surgery that aren't risk of aginl delivery, there's 495 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: risks of infection, there's risk of injuring other um structures 496 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,399 Speaker 1: inside your abdomen while we're operating, and there's risk of 497 00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:14,200 Speaker 1: other post operative complications. With a vaginal delivery, there's there's 498 00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:16,399 Speaker 1: risk to you of tearing and a lot of the 499 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:19,120 Speaker 1: risk with a vaginal delivery. Once you've gotten to that point, 500 00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,359 Speaker 1: it's almost too late to turn back, so you just 501 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 1: kind of have to manage it at that moment. You 502 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 1: could have a big tear, you could have a little tear. 503 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,080 Speaker 1: You could be incontinent, you cannot be incontinent, you could 504 00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:30,600 Speaker 1: have more hemorrhoids. UM. So there's complications on that end, 505 00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: and then in terms of the fetus, there's other complications 506 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:36,239 Speaker 1: too with a vaginal delivery. With a C section, if 507 00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,000 Speaker 1: you walk in just for a scheduled C section, you 508 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 1: kind of walked in with a healthy baby in presumably 509 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:41,879 Speaker 1: you're gonna walk out with a healthy baby. Um with 510 00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,199 Speaker 1: a vaginal delivery, there could be fetal distress that we 511 00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 1: can't predict. Of course, if the fetal distress is too severe, 512 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,119 Speaker 1: than we would do a C section. And then what 513 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:53,680 Speaker 1: about like the stitch, So like I feel I stitch well, 514 00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:56,919 Speaker 1: some people I remember this happened to one of my 515 00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:59,679 Speaker 1: friends not me, I think I I think I had 516 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:01,240 Speaker 1: a big hair with one and not a tear on 517 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:02,960 Speaker 1: the with the other. I blocked it out. I don't 518 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 1: actually know the answer, so I don't probably lie to you. 519 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,520 Speaker 1: But I have a girlfriend that she got stitched, but 520 00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:12,200 Speaker 1: they like stitched her in a spot, and I remember 521 00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:14,960 Speaker 1: about two weeks later she was like, guys, I think 522 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:18,640 Speaker 1: there's like an extra hole or something, because they stitched 523 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:21,359 Speaker 1: and then they left a little spot and it became 524 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:24,280 Speaker 1: and she had to get the whole thing stitched re stitched. 525 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,720 Speaker 1: So how big are these tears? How many stitches are 526 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 1: actually happening? Like how many? I don't even know how 527 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 1: many stitches I've had. I blanked all that out well. 528 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,280 Speaker 1: I described the vagina to patients as kind of like 529 00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:38,200 Speaker 1: a mouth when I explained the tears. You could tear 530 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:40,639 Speaker 1: like down to your chin, you could tear inside to 531 00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,400 Speaker 1: your molars, you could tear up. So you could really 532 00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:47,240 Speaker 1: tear any which way, And depending on the severity of 533 00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:52,040 Speaker 1: the tear dictates usually the recovery. Um not necessarily the 534 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,400 Speaker 1: more tears, the harder recovery, but the deeper the tear, 535 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 1: so the deeper the like, the deeper the cut the 536 00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 1: longer it's going to take to heal. Um, but you could, 537 00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:03,359 Speaker 1: you could tear any possible way. It's you're getting something 538 00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,360 Speaker 1: smaller out of something bigger. You know, something bigger out 539 00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:08,040 Speaker 1: of something smaller. So it's it's got to give. And 540 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:12,520 Speaker 1: it's not the baby's head that gives that. I'm remembering something. 541 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,280 Speaker 1: And we don't really quantify suturing. People always like someone 542 00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:16,960 Speaker 1: this morning, email me, can you tell me how many 543 00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:20,840 Speaker 1: stitches I had last June? And no, I don't remember her. 544 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:26,720 Speaker 1: I remember yesterday, but um, we don't count the stitches. 545 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,919 Speaker 1: We we talk about the level of tearing. And is 546 00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:33,000 Speaker 1: it true that you cannot leave the hospital until you've 547 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:36,280 Speaker 1: had your first ballbo? Not true? Not true? Not true? 548 00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 1: Why am I drinking so much pre injuice when I'm there? Then? 549 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,000 Speaker 1: Good question. They want they want your stool not to 550 00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,200 Speaker 1: be hard when it does come out, but it doesn't 551 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 1: need to come out prior it doesn't. It does not. 552 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:52,119 Speaker 1: I do remember it not being very pleasurable, though it 553 00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:56,159 Speaker 1: can be sore, and people often are terrified of it 554 00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,040 Speaker 1: so they kind of hold it back, which then can 555 00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:01,240 Speaker 1: lead to more constipation, which can make it harder physically. 556 00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:03,760 Speaker 1: When it does come out, What is the cure or 557 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,520 Speaker 1: what are some of the things you can do to 558 00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 1: alleviate that from the constipation from getting bad? So, constipation 559 00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:14,840 Speaker 1: can be caused from a lot of different things postpartum, 560 00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:20,760 Speaker 1: from the anesthesia, from having not eaten, from taking pain medicine, 561 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,800 Speaker 1: which is super constipating, from taking iron in your vitamins, 562 00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,040 Speaker 1: which is super constipating. So a lot of these things 563 00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:29,159 Speaker 1: are constipating. So I I don't put my patients on 564 00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 1: prenatal vitamins right away after delivery, or I asked them 565 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,480 Speaker 1: to take the gummies without iron because that will decrease 566 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,520 Speaker 1: the constipation. We tell them to limit their narcotics if 567 00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: they need to. If they don't, I ask mine to 568 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:41,600 Speaker 1: take a stool softener every time they take a narcotic 569 00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,040 Speaker 1: to kind of counteract that, and then to drink lots 570 00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:46,560 Speaker 1: of water and to eat foods high in fiber. So, 571 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:49,360 Speaker 1: now that you're bringing up in narcotics, how long are 572 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:55,360 Speaker 1: after delivery are you normally on narcotics? Everybody's different. Some 573 00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 1: people don't ask for a prescription, some people are calling 574 00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,160 Speaker 1: for refills. So it's it's like do you stay home 575 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 1: when you get a cold, or do you fight through it. 576 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:06,560 Speaker 1: It's a lot about just the person specifically, and which 577 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 1: trimester have you seen has been the hardest for moms emotionally. 578 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,680 Speaker 1: For me, it's been different with every every baby. That's 579 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:18,520 Speaker 1: a good question. Um, I think the second is the easiest. Um, 580 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,440 Speaker 1: You're you're not feeling really crappy like you are in 581 00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:24,440 Speaker 1: the first. You're not nauseated, you're not tired, you're not 582 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:26,920 Speaker 1: feeling big and tired and full like you are in 583 00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,920 Speaker 1: the third. So the second is usually the best. And 584 00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 1: then it really depends on how bad that first trimester 585 00:29:32,720 --> 00:29:34,880 Speaker 1: is for people. People have a really bad first trimester 586 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,440 Speaker 1: that probably wins. Yeah, so it's like some people get 587 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:40,920 Speaker 1: really really sick. Like I had a girlfriend that just 588 00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,800 Speaker 1: was throwing up the entire first trimester, And for me, 589 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,000 Speaker 1: I didn't this baby. I didn't even know I was 590 00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,360 Speaker 1: pregnant until I was nine weeks pregnant because I wasn't 591 00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,840 Speaker 1: having any signs and this is my first natural getting 592 00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:56,560 Speaker 1: pregnant naturally. But I thought, like, truthfully, I thought like 593 00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:58,840 Speaker 1: maybe I escaped all the symptoms this time. Like I 594 00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 1: was like, I am like feeling good, I am busy, 595 00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:03,760 Speaker 1: I am like I am able to do all of 596 00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,760 Speaker 1: these things. I'm feeling awesome, and honestly, the last three 597 00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:10,000 Speaker 1: weeks I feel like I was run over by mac track. 598 00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,120 Speaker 1: How many weeks are you, I'm thirty eight point five. 599 00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:16,440 Speaker 1: So for you, the third trime muster is the worst 600 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,280 Speaker 1: because you had an easy first try muster. So if 601 00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:21,040 Speaker 1: you were your friends, she probably would have said her 602 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,560 Speaker 1: first was worse. So it just really depends where you are. 603 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:27,600 Speaker 1: And I think the biggest thing is like I finally learned, 604 00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,360 Speaker 1: you know, it took me three times but to kind 605 00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:33,640 Speaker 1: of say how I'm feeling and started dressing it. Whereas 606 00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,760 Speaker 1: like the first, you know, I didn't want to say 607 00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:38,720 Speaker 1: how I was feeling to my family, you know, I 608 00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:39,920 Speaker 1: was like, oh, I just want to I want to 609 00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:42,920 Speaker 1: white knuckle through it. But this time I can be like, hey, guys, 610 00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,480 Speaker 1: I'm a little bit tired, Like Sunday, I'm gonna go 611 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 1: watch the football game with you guys. But then like, 612 00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:51,560 Speaker 1: can you maybe do like a daddy and kiddo date 613 00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:53,440 Speaker 1: like at the park and I can maybe rest a 614 00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:56,040 Speaker 1: little bit, like whereas before I wouldn't have said it, 615 00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,720 Speaker 1: But like, I know myself and if I don't say 616 00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:02,680 Speaker 1: those things, and I don't set those bound trees. I'm moody. Yeah, yeah, 617 00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:12,840 Speaker 1: it's always good to ask for help. What is the 618 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,560 Speaker 1: best piece of advice you would give to an expecting 619 00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:19,000 Speaker 1: mother going through her first pregnancy to go into it 620 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:23,320 Speaker 1: with an open mind. It's very unpredictable, and I always 621 00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,720 Speaker 1: tell my patients not to overthink it, just to keep 622 00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:27,880 Speaker 1: it really simple, like you you're getting pregnant and you're 623 00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:30,240 Speaker 1: gonna walk out with a healthy baby, and that's just 624 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,080 Speaker 1: it's it's a long process and it could go a 625 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:36,680 Speaker 1: million different ways, and especially for first we have nothing 626 00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:39,360 Speaker 1: to compare it to. The patient has nothing to compare 627 00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,080 Speaker 1: it to. I have nothing to compare it to for 628 00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,160 Speaker 1: the patient. Um, And it's just very unpredictable, and just 629 00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:46,479 Speaker 1: go in with an open mind. Don't beat yourself up 630 00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:50,680 Speaker 1: about things. Stop stop googling, and call me or email 631 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,920 Speaker 1: me if you have any questions. I feel like I'm 632 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:55,440 Speaker 1: a doctor of Google, though I love to take myself 633 00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:59,080 Speaker 1: down rabbit holes of things that don't exist. Um. Now, 634 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:01,880 Speaker 1: they were getting two questions that people are asking me 635 00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:04,200 Speaker 1: that I might need you to weigh in on because 636 00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,520 Speaker 1: I don't I can say how affected me, but I 637 00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:11,080 Speaker 1: don't know the actual answer. Um, what is my absolute 638 00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 1: hospital must have? Um? For me, I think it was 639 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:22,160 Speaker 1: comfy like Pj's. Like I really don't like the test 640 00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:24,720 Speaker 1: texture of the hospital gown that they give you. It's 641 00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:27,240 Speaker 1: like kind of crunchy and like I'm a texture kind 642 00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:30,080 Speaker 1: of gal so like for me, I really needed that. 643 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:33,480 Speaker 1: But what do you think like a common thing that's 644 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:37,000 Speaker 1: that's great? I also tell patients to bring chapstick because 645 00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,040 Speaker 1: their lips get super chapped in labor and we're not 646 00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:40,880 Speaker 1: letting them really drink a lot, and they don't really 647 00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:43,400 Speaker 1: feel like drinking a lot, so chap six. Chap six 648 00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: is helpful. Um. Of course, you know that your own toothbrush, slippers, 649 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:49,640 Speaker 1: to walk around in a robe so you can keep 650 00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:52,120 Speaker 1: covered if you do wear the hospital gown, it shows 651 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:55,000 Speaker 1: your back, so to wear a robe. But the hospital 652 00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:57,280 Speaker 1: otherwise really really provides a lot. And you know what 653 00:32:57,360 --> 00:33:00,640 Speaker 1: the best thing that hospitals have crushed ice, you know what, 654 00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:03,560 Speaker 1: Like I wanted to buy a crushed ice maker afterwards 655 00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:05,840 Speaker 1: because it was so delicious the way they would like 656 00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:09,479 Speaker 1: deliver the water or the prune apple juice combo. Like 657 00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:13,400 Speaker 1: I thought it was like a delicious cocktail. What is 658 00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:16,280 Speaker 1: one thing I have learned from my previous deliveries that 659 00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:20,160 Speaker 1: I would do differently with this one. Um my first delivery, 660 00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:23,080 Speaker 1: I was I had this whole birth plan and all 661 00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,400 Speaker 1: of this, you know, I really thought I was going 662 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,680 Speaker 1: to follow everything to a tea And what that ended 663 00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:31,200 Speaker 1: up doing to me was gave me like a little 664 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:35,000 Speaker 1: bit of like postpart I created more anxiety and myself 665 00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:37,160 Speaker 1: by like wanting the birth plan to go exactly this 666 00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:39,960 Speaker 1: certain way, by wanting her to sleep, schedule to go exactly, 667 00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 1: I was so structured that I was unable to be 668 00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:45,960 Speaker 1: in the moment. Yeah, I agree. I tell my patients, 669 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:48,600 Speaker 1: you know, of course, our birth plan is to have 670 00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:52,480 Speaker 1: a healthy baby, but you set yourself up for disappointment 671 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,880 Speaker 1: if you have all these expectations and if they don't 672 00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 1: go right, then you're kind of beating yourself up for 673 00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 1: something that was so unnecessary. So I really, like I 674 00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,120 Speaker 1: said before, I tell my patients to try and keep 675 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,880 Speaker 1: it simple, not to overthink it. And if you say 676 00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:07,760 Speaker 1: you want this and you end up not wanting it, 677 00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:10,320 Speaker 1: let it go and just move. Things are going to 678 00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:12,160 Speaker 1: change and they're going to shift, and they're not going 679 00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:14,759 Speaker 1: to go exactly according to plan, and sometimes they're not 680 00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:16,880 Speaker 1: going to go exactly according to the way your doctor 681 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:20,400 Speaker 1: answered it, you know, Like I remember being like, but 682 00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:23,279 Speaker 1: but so the pediatrician said this, this means this, and 683 00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,000 Speaker 1: then I would like email her and she'd be like, yeah, 684 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,800 Speaker 1: that's fine, you know, like I just gave you the answer, 685 00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:33,680 Speaker 1: um U. I had a couple of miscarriages um before 686 00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:37,080 Speaker 1: getting pregnant with my son, So somebody's asking me, what 687 00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:38,960 Speaker 1: are things that you can do to feel secure during 688 00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:42,759 Speaker 1: your pregnancy when you've had miscarriages. I don't necessarily know 689 00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,400 Speaker 1: the answer to this. When I was in the midst 690 00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:48,680 Speaker 1: of having miscarriages, there's nothing anybody could have said to 691 00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:51,759 Speaker 1: me to change the way I was feeling. I was 692 00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:56,040 Speaker 1: very emotional, I was very sad um and I put 693 00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:58,279 Speaker 1: a lot of pressure on myself. Yes, I would love 694 00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:01,040 Speaker 1: to say, you know, just try to take it moment 695 00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:03,000 Speaker 1: by moment and know that it's meant to be, it's 696 00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,680 Speaker 1: going to happen, but I was not that way. I 697 00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,399 Speaker 1: just have to be honest. I was kind of the 698 00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:13,640 Speaker 1: most upset I had ever been um with this baby. 699 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,360 Speaker 1: I haven't had those feelings because I wasn't having the 700 00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:19,880 Speaker 1: miscarriages right beforehand. So I've really just tried to embrace 701 00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:25,160 Speaker 1: this pregnancy as this pregnancy, and I haven't had those concerns. 702 00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,880 Speaker 1: But I don't know if that's because I didn't have 703 00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:32,319 Speaker 1: miscarriages leading up to this baby. That makes sense, you know, 704 00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,080 Speaker 1: I have some of course, I have patients who have 705 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:35,960 Speaker 1: had miscarriages, and I tell them, you know, whatever it 706 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,839 Speaker 1: takes to kind of get you through that period. If 707 00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:41,880 Speaker 1: it's coming in for ultrasounds every day every week, doing 708 00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,640 Speaker 1: blood tests more frequently, just to reassure that everything is 709 00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,120 Speaker 1: moving along, then we can do that. These are all 710 00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:50,719 Speaker 1: non invasive ways that are completely safe to help reassurance. 711 00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:52,640 Speaker 1: So if you're feeling that way, reach out to your 712 00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:54,640 Speaker 1: doctor and there's ways that they can work with you. 713 00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:58,359 Speaker 1: I mean that's huge, definitely. Um, how long do you 714 00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:02,960 Speaker 1: bleed after giving birth? I can't remember. I tell my 715 00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:06,960 Speaker 1: patients up to eight weeks, usually getting better, not worse. 716 00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:09,080 Speaker 1: Of course, the sign of its getting worse would be 717 00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:12,200 Speaker 1: something a reason to call your doctor, but six weeks 718 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:16,920 Speaker 1: is pretty typical. The next one, did I poop on 719 00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:20,640 Speaker 1: the table? Is that real? Okay? I don't know if 720 00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:23,800 Speaker 1: I did it was I know I had a bloody hemorrhoid, 721 00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:27,120 Speaker 1: So I mean, I feel like that's just as bad. Um. 722 00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:28,840 Speaker 1: I don't know if I pooped on the table. No 723 00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:30,879 Speaker 1: one told me if I did. I never saw any 724 00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:34,319 Speaker 1: wiping of poop. I do have a girlfriend. This is 725 00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:38,520 Speaker 1: she took castor oil before she wanted to have the baby, 726 00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:40,880 Speaker 1: and that because she wanted to like induced labor. She 727 00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,560 Speaker 1: was like forty one weeks pregnant. She read online. I 728 00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:45,960 Speaker 1: guess it's you're supposed to take like a little teaspoon. 729 00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,400 Speaker 1: She took whatever the bigger spoon, like whatever was. She 730 00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:53,880 Speaker 1: messed it up and she had like explosive during childhood 731 00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:56,799 Speaker 1: because of the cast Royal. And then the icing on 732 00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:59,840 Speaker 1: the cake of this story is that then her mom 733 00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:02,600 Speaker 1: is trying to like fix the situation because the husband's 734 00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,759 Speaker 1: in there. They have a videographer, and she thinks she's 735 00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:08,320 Speaker 1: getting baby wipes out of her purse to wipe her down, 736 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:13,759 Speaker 1: but she actually got chlorox wipes and like like bleaching 737 00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:16,800 Speaker 1: her skin, like burning her. So I don't know about 738 00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:18,960 Speaker 1: the poop. I do know, like I'm not ever going 739 00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,719 Speaker 1: to take cast royal because of that story. But how 740 00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:24,280 Speaker 1: common is it that somebody poops on the table super common, 741 00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:26,239 Speaker 1: so I probably did. That's what you're saying. This is 742 00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:30,680 Speaker 1: your third at least one out three it did. I 743 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:36,360 Speaker 1: If not, it's your lucky day. Um Oh, how do 744 00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:40,839 Speaker 1: I shave my vagina when you can't see it? Well? UM, 745 00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:43,320 Speaker 1: I think that you know, there's different options for everybody. 746 00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:46,320 Speaker 1: A lot of people have done laser hair removal prior 747 00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:49,719 Speaker 1: to having a baby. Um. For me, I just like 748 00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:52,520 Speaker 1: kind of wing it and it works out for the best. 749 00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:56,160 Speaker 1: I don't know that there's like the best way. I mean, 750 00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:58,560 Speaker 1: I've I've had the vagina in the same place for 751 00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:00,640 Speaker 1: a long time, so like I just to reach down 752 00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:02,839 Speaker 1: there and hope for the best. But I don't. I mean, 753 00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,320 Speaker 1: I don't think it's like the prettiest it's ever looked. 754 00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:11,520 Speaker 1: But I don't know. Yeah, definitely people miss spots, so 755 00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:14,920 Speaker 1: being spoken from a doctor herself is not looking it's 756 00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:18,960 Speaker 1: including myself. By the way, some people I know have 757 00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:22,480 Speaker 1: like their husbands do it. No way I would trust 758 00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:26,160 Speaker 1: my husband was a razor near my vagina. Sorry, not 759 00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:30,400 Speaker 1: gonna happen. I'd rather be spotty. Um. Any tips for 760 00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:35,520 Speaker 1: relieving the pressure down there after having the baby. Ice 761 00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:39,920 Speaker 1: ice can help with the swelling. The cold helps contract 762 00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:42,240 Speaker 1: vessels and tissues so that I can help with the swelling. 763 00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:43,759 Speaker 1: It also numbs it a little bit. The ice is 764 00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:45,719 Speaker 1: most helpful in the first twenty four hours, so like 765 00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:52,160 Speaker 1: beyond that, it's just time. Yeah for me. Yeah, okay, 766 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:55,040 Speaker 1: well I record the labor all right. So I don't 767 00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:58,200 Speaker 1: actually know the answer to this question because I've been 768 00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:02,279 Speaker 1: burned because my husband been recorded me, me having the 769 00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:07,160 Speaker 1: hemorrhoid baby, the bloody hemorrroid baby. He recorded and then 770 00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:10,919 Speaker 1: he sent it out to people, and I was like, 771 00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:14,839 Speaker 1: he wasn't like also recording like a production cam, like 772 00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:18,279 Speaker 1: in the right flattering areas. He was like recording the 773 00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:20,640 Speaker 1: full thing and like send it to like our parents 774 00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:23,960 Speaker 1: that weren't there in the room, and like our friends. 775 00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:29,000 Speaker 1: And it wasn't until his assistant texted me, was like, hey, 776 00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:33,279 Speaker 1: you should tell Edwin. He's texting out like I don't 777 00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:34,759 Speaker 1: know that you want to see it, and I'm like, 778 00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:38,560 Speaker 1: and why are you sending people? And he was like 779 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:40,960 Speaker 1: just this, you can't really see anything. I'm like, you 780 00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:45,680 Speaker 1: can see everything. Like I'm still embarrassed with that video, 781 00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:47,640 Speaker 1: and it's like on one of our iPad maybe this 782 00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:51,200 Speaker 1: is your time to retain side. I don't know, so 783 00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:55,880 Speaker 1: that's still up in the air. Um. And will I breastfeed? Um? 784 00:39:55,880 --> 00:40:00,640 Speaker 1: My plan is yes. Um. With my daughter, I breastfed 785 00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:04,600 Speaker 1: for seven months and then I still pumped. And with 786 00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,600 Speaker 1: my son, he immediately was in the nick the nick 787 00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:12,120 Speaker 1: you and he would never latch. So I always pumped 788 00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:15,080 Speaker 1: with him and it was really, I have to be honest, 789 00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:17,520 Speaker 1: it was really hard to consistently pump when he would 790 00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:20,600 Speaker 1: never latch. Um. And so I really don't know. And 791 00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:22,600 Speaker 1: to be perfectly honest, I have to ask you about this. 792 00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:26,560 Speaker 1: I had my boobs done after my son, and I 793 00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,920 Speaker 1: don't know if that is going to change anything when 794 00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:30,560 Speaker 1: it comes to I was didn't think I was going 795 00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:33,120 Speaker 1: to get pregnant again, so I never thought to even 796 00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:36,360 Speaker 1: ask those questions like will that change things when it 797 00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:40,719 Speaker 1: comes to breastfeeding. It shouldn't you should? Yeah? Should not 798 00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:43,839 Speaker 1: affect it? Okay, So, but but to answer to say 799 00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:45,319 Speaker 1: one thing, you know, it's not so much. I mean, 800 00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:47,640 Speaker 1: the breastfeeding is good for bonding, but most importantly that 801 00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:49,640 Speaker 1: you're giving the baby your milk. So if you need 802 00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:52,080 Speaker 1: to pump, you need to pump. Yeah, that's more important. 803 00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,560 Speaker 1: I mean, that's my plan is to breastfeed. But I 804 00:40:55,120 --> 00:40:57,920 Speaker 1: I have learned that beating myself up right after I 805 00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:00,719 Speaker 1: have a baby isn't the best thing, and that I 806 00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,800 Speaker 1: just have to see what works for us and trust 807 00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,560 Speaker 1: that whatever my body is letting me do and whatever 808 00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,879 Speaker 1: the baby wants to do is what's best for us. 809 00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:11,719 Speaker 1: And I see, you know, I remember when I was 810 00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:14,239 Speaker 1: in the nick you there was a mom next to 811 00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:16,800 Speaker 1: me and her son was solely in the nick you 812 00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:19,319 Speaker 1: because she was upset that her breastmolk wasn't coming in, 813 00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:22,520 Speaker 1: and I'm not. I just remember thinking, wow, you know, 814 00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:26,480 Speaker 1: like there's there's a huge problem, like that, this is 815 00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,360 Speaker 1: not the world's biggest problem. And we take things and 816 00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,160 Speaker 1: we really make things, you know, hard on ourselves, and 817 00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:35,200 Speaker 1: it's like, I know that moment where you're just like 818 00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,279 Speaker 1: beyond you want things to go a certain way and 819 00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:41,200 Speaker 1: you can and this you cannot control it, all right, 820 00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,920 Speaker 1: And the most important, of course is the baby gets nutrition, 821 00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:47,279 Speaker 1: whatever means. And I tell patients, patients come to me 822 00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:50,000 Speaker 1: trying to breastfeed and they asked for antidepressence for breastfeeding, 823 00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:52,439 Speaker 1: and I'm like, let it go, you know, just feed 824 00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:54,960 Speaker 1: the baby, don't. You've got to enjoy the baby. Otherwise 825 00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:57,799 Speaker 1: you're getting so obsessed about this that you're losing sight 826 00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:00,800 Speaker 1: of this newborn you have and it's just taking for everything. 827 00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:04,319 Speaker 1: So not everybody can do it, and that's okay, And 828 00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:07,239 Speaker 1: I think that's the that's that's the thing with with 829 00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:09,759 Speaker 1: parenting and with becoming a mom, Like we're all going 830 00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:11,360 Speaker 1: to make mistakes and we're all going to do the 831 00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:14,000 Speaker 1: best that we can, and you know, listen to your 832 00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,880 Speaker 1: gut instinct most of the time, like your motherly instinct 833 00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:20,360 Speaker 1: is right, I mean, am I right? Correct? Um? What 834 00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:23,879 Speaker 1: would you leave our listeners with one thing? Like, if 835 00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:26,400 Speaker 1: they are about to have a baby or they're in 836 00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:28,799 Speaker 1: the midst of like a hard pregnancy, what would your 837 00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,839 Speaker 1: tippy that it's all worth it, that that you know, 838 00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:35,200 Speaker 1: whatever however it goes, it's worth it if it if 839 00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:37,120 Speaker 1: it ends up in a C section, it's worth it. 840 00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,399 Speaker 1: If you end up not breastfeeding, it's okay. If you're 841 00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:41,480 Speaker 1: sitting home on your side and someone else has to 842 00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:43,920 Speaker 1: take care of the baby for a while because you can't, 843 00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,040 Speaker 1: it's okay. And at the end of the day, you'll 844 00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:48,560 Speaker 1: probably do it again and again because it is worth it. 845 00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:50,880 Speaker 1: At the end of the day, you'll have a seven 846 00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:53,719 Speaker 1: five year all that don't appreciate you, park at you, 847 00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:56,319 Speaker 1: and actually are the best things that ever happened to you. 848 00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:59,799 Speaker 1: So it's amazing. Thank you so much. Thanks for helping 849 00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:02,279 Speaker 1: my pleasure. Best of luck to you and guys. I'm 850 00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:04,360 Speaker 1: like gone for a bit because I'm like on a 851 00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:07,759 Speaker 1: maternity leave ish, I don't know I'm gonna. I say, 852 00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:09,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be back real quick, but we'll see how 853 00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:13,120 Speaker 1: long it takes. 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