Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who
Speaker 1: talks back. Hey, y'all, it's me Tam Baw. It is
Speaker 1: a j and this is we talk back on a
Speaker 1: Black Effect podcast network. And guess what, we have something
Speaker 1: special for you today. We have Drew Sadora from the
Speaker 1: Real Housewives of Atlanta the newest cast member. Oh, it's
Speaker 1: so exciting. So she's gonna be talking about She's gonna
Speaker 1: be talking with us about a few things. We want
Speaker 1: to know what the hell happened at the bachelor party
Speaker 1: at Cynthia's bachelotte party. Also, where the fund did her
Speaker 1: husband go for three days? No, I want to know
Speaker 1: who smash who here? So tune in. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: we got Drew Sadora on our show. We're so excited
Speaker 1: to have you today, and we really appreciate keep doing
Speaker 1: our show. Yes, we made a happy guy. You know,
Speaker 1: teamwork makes the dream work so beautiful. By the way,
Speaker 1: you too, Yes, you're glowing. You're glowing. Hair is popping.
Speaker 1: I'm a sayoud period, I'm Brasilian today. This is brilliant
Speaker 1: or Cambodian. I think we said Cambodian. I think I'm
Speaker 1: doing Brazilian today, you're Indian international. We are cultured period black,
Speaker 1: so we definitely want to talk to you about your
Speaker 1: peach and how you've been having some shades. Someone sitting
Speaker 1: under your peach tree LaToya never heard that. That is good. Yes,
Speaker 1: you could drop down on her next time. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna had to bring that back. That's a good one. Um. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's been interesting because for me, I was just excited
Speaker 1: to get to know everybody, like we're we're grown women,
Speaker 1: so it's like, naturally, you just want to get to
Speaker 1: know people, connect and you know you're not gonna connect
Speaker 1: with everybody, so it was just kind of immature, you know.
Speaker 1: And I was completely blindsided that I was being judged
Speaker 1: upon just like entering the door. Do you think it's
Speaker 1: because who does that? Right? And you know, I kind
Speaker 1: of I watched the show, so I'm trying to figure out,
Speaker 1: you have the peach, You're already going to be permanently
Speaker 1: on the show. As far as I'm gonna sern, I
Speaker 1: don't know what's in the background, But do you think
Speaker 1: that maybe the producers put her on to be like
Speaker 1: the antagonist to try and get your peach like that
Speaker 1: She thinks she has an opportunity to get your peach.
Speaker 1: I she doesn't have a peach. Um, I'm not the producer,
Speaker 1: so I don't know if she's gonna get a peach.
Speaker 1: You know, I can say that. I feel like she
Speaker 1: came on here a little thirsty um and just a
Speaker 1: little bit kaboodles. I call her kaboodles because she just
Speaker 1: does the absolute moment. I just honestly like, if it
Speaker 1: is the producers, then she's a show girl and she's
Speaker 1: being fake. And if she's being authentic and that's really her,
Speaker 1: then I'm saying lose lose in my book, because you know,
Speaker 1: I just feel like as women, as women of color,
Speaker 1: especially after coming off of Black Lives Matters we had,
Speaker 1: It's just like, why are we tearing each other down
Speaker 1: like that and off of no basis Like I can
Speaker 1: see if I did something, because I can give you
Speaker 1: a couple of reasons to be mad, Like you want it,
Speaker 1: you can get it, you know, I can give it.
Speaker 1: So but it just seemed um inauthentic to me to
Speaker 1: just pass judgment without really even getting to know me.
Speaker 1: Right out the gate. She was talking about your character
Speaker 1: on the game, like I don't like you because of
Speaker 1: your character on the game, like it was just fresh
Speaker 1: out of the gate, like y'all didn't really have any
Speaker 1: real interaction. She was judging you off. It was nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with your hair on the first episode. I didn't
Speaker 1: think so ever, it was nothing wrong with it. It
Speaker 1: was covid. I was doing my own wigs. So but
Speaker 1: I felt good about my wig. I felt great about it.
Speaker 1: I was confident, and I was just like, I'm glad
Speaker 1: you watched. You know. That's how I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: glad you watched. Okay, you know what I mean. Moving
Speaker 1: on next, I realized very quickly that I just she
Speaker 1: wasn't my cup of tea. We didn't connect and and
Speaker 1: that's okay. You know, it's okay. I'm okay with that.
Speaker 1: So I'm okay. Out of the all the women that
Speaker 1: you're you're dealing with on the show, who's your favorite?
Speaker 1: Who do you feel like you connect with the most honestly? Um,
Speaker 1: definitely Porsche. I mean we have a very genuine friendship.
Speaker 1: We have a lot of fun. Um. I find her
Speaker 1: to be very honest, down to earth, like she's not
Speaker 1: a show girl, Like what you see is what you get.
Speaker 1: Our daughters played together. She's my neighbor, so it was
Speaker 1: just a very genuine connection. Um, Cynthia, that's my rider
Speaker 1: die Um. She and Mike are both friends with Ralph
Speaker 1: and I, so it's like we have a couple of
Speaker 1: friends and that's you know, She's she's really like a
Speaker 1: big ciss to me. So Um, I would say those
Speaker 1: are my two. But I get along with pretty much everybody, Shamia, Candy,
Speaker 1: I don't have no problems like those are all like
Speaker 1: people except for just these two, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Very bitter two would be LaToya and Kenya, right, those
Speaker 1: two you don't have to say listen, I can feel
Speaker 1: like energy through the screen looks SIPs t. So the
Speaker 1: last episode, Baby, it was juicy. I enjoyed the episode. Girl,
Speaker 1: I was watching God that I was watching the episode.
Speaker 1: I had the running back. Okay, I was nervous because
Speaker 1: and I mean for me, I have fun. I told
Speaker 1: everybody what happened. I was excited about it. Bolo is amazing,
Speaker 1: you know at what he does. But I saw some
Speaker 1: things that I was like, yeah, I don't know if
Speaker 1: they're gonna show all of that, which they did it.
Speaker 1: They did it, but I was nervous for um, some
Speaker 1: particular person that I was just like, oh, if they
Speaker 1: showed what she did, I mean, it's gonna be really bad.
Speaker 1: But they didn't. They didn't show everything right, and you know,
Speaker 1: she's lucky she caught a pass on that one. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you all right, So the scene one, y'all
Speaker 1: are on like the cameras from the patio or something,
Speaker 1: and they're looking in the window. If I can't tell
Speaker 1: what you're doing since but it looked like you're willing
Speaker 1: like that girl. And I was the screen talking out.
Speaker 1: So Um, I was learning how to twork. Had taught
Speaker 1: me how to t work because I really don't know
Speaker 1: how to work. I didn't I didn't know how to
Speaker 1: work at the time. So you know, everybody lap dances
Speaker 1: and I was just, you know, next to the line.
Speaker 1: And when it came to hime, I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: about to learn everything to back home to my husband.
Speaker 1: So that was my intention, and I was like the
Speaker 1: girls were were rooting me on. It was comed for me,
Speaker 1: so I felt good about what, you know, tricks I learned.
Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, he what He flipped me over the
Speaker 1: coffee table, gave me my little one to you know,
Speaker 1: left is and it was it was great. It was
Speaker 1: a bachelorette mad So do didn't feel bad about none
Speaker 1: of it? So do you think that, um, because I
Speaker 1: am a firm believer in giving men something to deal with,
Speaker 1: because if you'd be a little bit too easy going,
Speaker 1: you're making get up and go to Tampa for three
Speaker 1: days without you knowing. So do you think maybe that
Speaker 1: scene kinda put him in his place to let him know,
Speaker 1: don't get too familiar with me. Yeah, you're you're my husband.
Speaker 1: I've been you know, we've been married for a while.
Speaker 1: But don't get too familiar to where you think you
Speaker 1: just play with me on the type of is. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think for you know, anybody who's married, it's like
Speaker 1: first and foremost marriage is hard. Like marriage is a
Speaker 1: lot of work. And I think when you just have
Speaker 1: two people that are committed, you're gonna have these evan
Speaker 1: these flows and so yeah, for that situation and him
Speaker 1: leaving for three days and we're actively in marriage counseling,
Speaker 1: I did learn that as a wife. I mean we
Speaker 1: talked about it on the show. His expectation it's a
Speaker 1: little different than mine. He expects to have what respect
Speaker 1: and sex three three times a week. So for me,
Speaker 1: I do have to and I had to own that
Speaker 1: I have to step it up in that area, you know,
Speaker 1: of being more of a sexual being, making sure I
Speaker 1: get my naps in so we can I can I
Speaker 1: can submit to him in the way that you got
Speaker 1: several dogs to be met. You sever, anybody listening, you
Speaker 1: gotta step up your sex game, like women can be
Speaker 1: up here with holding sex and expecting their husband and
Speaker 1: be faithful. And so for me in marriage counseling, I
Speaker 1: own that portion. So me going and learning some new tricks.
Speaker 1: He's not complaining now, you know, but it is the truth.
Speaker 1: Like whatever you do, we can do and do with better.
Speaker 1: So you know, sometimes you have to, you know, just
Speaker 1: teach them some things. And but the biggest thing is
Speaker 1: I always stand behind telling the truth, um, you know,
Speaker 1: being honest and transparent, um, but also learning how to submit.
Speaker 1: And it's okay to say, you know what, I'm not perfect.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna work on these areas because this is what
Speaker 1: my husband is saying that he needs and it has
Speaker 1: to be two way street. So but here I'll give
Speaker 1: him more sex. He won't leave for three days? Are
Speaker 1: you said? You're learning new tricks, okay, and that's good,
Speaker 1: but they gotta learn some new tricks too. You're bringing
Speaker 1: that same thing to the bed that you've been bringing
Speaker 1: to the bed for years and years and years. We
Speaker 1: shouldn't be the only you know, And that's where you
Speaker 1: gotta get I get into my actress bag and we
Speaker 1: do a little role play. I got me like a
Speaker 1: little strobe light. You know, you gotta you gotta make
Speaker 1: a creative so we we do little trips, you know,
Speaker 1: we use our imagination and and it really keeps the
Speaker 1: bedroom spicy. So I think, after, like you said, you've
Speaker 1: been with somebody for like years and years and years,
Speaker 1: you gotta find new ways to keep it engaging and exciting.
Speaker 1: So y'all got that part right? That is very true.
Speaker 1: What about bringing somebody else in there? Oh, Cynthia? Is
Speaker 1: that now? I can honestly say, I've had thoughts about it,
Speaker 1: and we'll go to the strip club, but I'm not there.
Speaker 1: Like I don't judge women that do that. I commend
Speaker 1: them for their confidence. But our marriage is not that
Speaker 1: stable and I'm a little territorial and I'm not ready
Speaker 1: to do that. We're just not strong enough I'll be
Speaker 1: the first to admit we're not strong. So has that
Speaker 1: ever came up in your relationship? We did a whole episode.
Speaker 1: We had a gentleman who's been in uh five year
Speaker 1: non monogamous, open relationship. So how ever presented that to you?
Speaker 1: What would you think of that? Like if you've been saying,
Speaker 1: I mean you guys, you guys have been and a
Speaker 1: monogamous relationship her You've been married what six years? Right? Ye?
Speaker 1: Six years? So let's just say tomorrow he comes in
Speaker 1: and say, you know what, you know, I've been maybe
Speaker 1: we should have an open relationship. How does that look like?
Speaker 1: For you know, listen, I believe in honesty. I believe
Speaker 1: in honesty, and I believe that if a man is
Speaker 1: not being fulfilled, he has a right to speak up
Speaker 1: and the wife should acquiesce to that. Um, I've never
Speaker 1: been in that situation, so I can't honestly say how
Speaker 1: would react? Like what I leave? What I think about it?
Speaker 1: Like I really have to sit in that because I've
Speaker 1: had thoughts of okay, three some kind of sounds sexy.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying could turn me on. We
Speaker 1: go to strip clubs, but it's like the to actually
Speaker 1: do it. I feel like I couldn't do it, Like
Speaker 1: when I really put real thought into it. It's like
Speaker 1: not something I don't think I would be okay with.
Speaker 1: You know, it's and that could change, you know, we'll
Speaker 1: have to talk again in the future. Really, it's like
Speaker 1: I don't I don't have all the answers, but I
Speaker 1: just feel like where we are right now, our marriage
Speaker 1: isn't strong enough. Now maybe if your marriage is strong enough,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, and my confidence is is
Speaker 1: higher and we have better communicy, you know, then maybe
Speaker 1: it could change. But like where we are right now,
Speaker 1: I just can't even fathom the thought. Like I'm still
Speaker 1: trying to figure out where he was, what he was.
Speaker 1: I don't I'm not going to get in a business
Speaker 1: because like I feel like both of our both of
Speaker 1: us are like the type of friends, Like you can
Speaker 1: tell me all the type of all the things you
Speaker 1: want to tell me about your man. I may not
Speaker 1: even ask for an update when you like him, I
Speaker 1: love him. When you don't like him, I don't like
Speaker 1: his ask. So all I want to know is that
Speaker 1: you know what happened in Tampa. I'm not asking you
Speaker 1: what happened in Tampa. But I want to know, do
Speaker 1: you know what happened to Tampa who he was with
Speaker 1: a little bit of a business. I will say, um,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to tease too much, but in
Speaker 1: marriage counseling, he did like kind of share some things
Speaker 1: that shed a little more light. Um. And it was
Speaker 1: good for me, Like I felt complete and knowing that
Speaker 1: he was on his best behavior and in marriage counseling
Speaker 1: he needed to do what he needed to do. And
Speaker 1: it wasn't so much like running to someone. Um, it
Speaker 1: was just running away from me at that moment, because
Speaker 1: you know that I've been before. I've actually been ralphed before.
Speaker 1: I ran away for a couple of days, Yes, because
Speaker 1: I felt and you know, you kind of said something
Speaker 1: recently where you said that you felt like the show
Speaker 1: was helping you with your marriage. Um, I kind of felt.
Speaker 1: I kind of feel like and at the time we
Speaker 1: were also in therapy. I feel like me going to
Speaker 1: Atlanta may have helped him straighten up a little bit.
Speaker 1: I don't know. So now you're trying to bust it
Speaker 1: wide open a little bit more for him because you
Speaker 1: don't want him to go to outside resources to outsource
Speaker 1: the vagina. That's you know what what I what I
Speaker 1: realize is like, you know, people have their vices, So
Speaker 1: it could be alcohol, drugs, cheating. For him, it was
Speaker 1: going to the beach literally going to meditate and getting away,
Speaker 1: just bringing separation to the both of us because it
Speaker 1: could have I mean, when you think about people that
Speaker 1: end up in a violent domestic situation, it's like they
Speaker 1: they may not be abusers or they wanted to do
Speaker 1: the issues because when you're so emotional, it's like he
Speaker 1: made the best decision for our marriage to have a
Speaker 1: chance at that time. And also when he was younger, um,
Speaker 1: and this is what we learned the marriage counseling. He
Speaker 1: would run away from home whenever he got too stressed
Speaker 1: or his mom made him feel unappreciated. And so a
Speaker 1: lot of what you bring it to your marriage is
Speaker 1: the baggage of your past. And so once I realized
Speaker 1: it wasn't about me, because like when you had to
Speaker 1: run away, wasn't you just needed to get away? Was
Speaker 1: it you needed to fulfill something? All of like what
Speaker 1: was everything? Look I'm not the interview but kind of session,
Speaker 1: it was just me I needed to I needed to
Speaker 1: get away, literally, like seriously, I just needed I felt
Speaker 1: like you were just familiar with me. You thought I
Speaker 1: would never leave, and I just wanted you to feel
Speaker 1: a little bit away. And that's bad because that's just
Speaker 1: not what you do in a relationship, especially if you're
Speaker 1: going through therapy and trying to figure things out. Because
Speaker 1: you know that I'm I'm engaged. So that's my fiance's thing.
Speaker 1: Like you left while we were in therapy. I'm like,
Speaker 1: but it was after the first because first sounds the therapy,
Speaker 1: it was the first session. It was like, the first
Speaker 1: session ain't work. We need like six more. So I
Speaker 1: understand rouble a little bit. And one thing I wanted
Speaker 1: to say to you because um as I saw where
Speaker 1: he said that, Um, you know, you didn't know what
Speaker 1: was gonna be, what what we would see, what the
Speaker 1: public would see as far as the episode, and you
Speaker 1: were like counting your blessings every time the commercial came on.
Speaker 1: And then you mentioned to him, well, I still don't
Speaker 1: know what you did in Tampa. Is that deflecting because
Speaker 1: you got over Tampa? Right? Did you get over Tampa?
Speaker 1: Are we over Tampa? Now? Um? I am? I am
Speaker 1: not completely healed, right, So I'll be honest, let me,
Speaker 1: let me process this. So I am content and I
Speaker 1: received the reason why. I think it's more of the
Speaker 1: reason that I realized why he had to leave more
Speaker 1: so than his actions. So we've made an agreement, um
Speaker 1: that you can't abandon your family. You can't just leave
Speaker 1: because it gets hard, because that's what marriage is hard.
Speaker 1: You can't just run, you can't be a runner. So
Speaker 1: I am complete with that. But I feel like, you know, um,
Speaker 1: me being open and honest and transparent, that was my
Speaker 1: you know, intention was just to be like, this is
Speaker 1: how you could be. You could just if he would
Speaker 1: have said to me, I'm going away to Tampa. I
Speaker 1: need a break, I would have been like, okay, you know,
Speaker 1: all right. But I think the fact was it wasn't
Speaker 1: that he actually went. It was that I didn't know
Speaker 1: where he was and he was watching. But see you
Speaker 1: better because my man, let's say I'm going to Tampa.
Speaker 1: I would be like, we're going to Tampa. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I would be able to be like, okay,
Speaker 1: go ahead, no, no, no. When you're married for six years,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, like I am happy when I need
Speaker 1: my breaks and so but the difference is I'll tell
Speaker 1: him like, I will get me a hotel for a
Speaker 1: night or two, because everybody needs the of me time.
Speaker 1: We got three kids, so no, no, no, we need
Speaker 1: our own corners. Sometimes he'll go in the guest room.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I go just because I want to watch my shows.
Speaker 1: I want to heat on a certain temperature. He wants
Speaker 1: it like, it's just certain things that you you need
Speaker 1: a break. You're gonna need a break, but you have
Speaker 1: to communicate that you need it and let your family
Speaker 1: know where you're going. So my reason for communicating everything
Speaker 1: on a trip was to let him know. This is
Speaker 1: what you should do to your spots, is to be honest, open, transparent,
Speaker 1: and then it's all good. Like that's what I feel.
Speaker 1: Even if you're like, hey, you're not given me enough sex.
Speaker 1: I'm about to go get a girlfriend to go cheat.
Speaker 1: Let let it be my choice if I want to
Speaker 1: leave you or stay. Don't take my choice away from me.
Speaker 1: So that was me. I'm gonna be honest even if
Speaker 1: you don't like it. Look the stripper flip me over.
Speaker 1: You can't be I didn't cheat. I was at a
Speaker 1: bachelor party. I mean, yeah, I tworked, but if everything
Speaker 1: was good, this is what I meant by deflecting, Because
Speaker 1: if let's say Ralph never went to Damn and everything
Speaker 1: was good in our relationship, would you have had that
Speaker 1: much fun at what you have left? Blowing flipping on
Speaker 1: the table? Girl? You see, That's what I meant by
Speaker 1: dislike me because you had such fun because you said
Speaker 1: it in tample, I don't know what you did, so ship,
Speaker 1: I don't wanna do it. I'm gonna gonna have fun
Speaker 1: at this is a bachelor party. I honestly, I honestly
Speaker 1: feel like if he hadn't left and it was still
Speaker 1: COVID and I have been in the house for seven months,
Speaker 1: I had three achille rupture surgery. That was my first
Speaker 1: bachelorette party that I ever been to, I feel like
Speaker 1: I want to do the same thing. I feel like
Speaker 1: as a woman, I was living for me. Now it
Speaker 1: was so much not about him because he goes to
Speaker 1: the strip club. He goes with his friends to the
Speaker 1: strip club, and it's lap like that's just part of
Speaker 1: like male culture. So oh, I think women can have
Speaker 1: the same fund then happen. We would like to think so,
Speaker 1: but we already know men don't fool They do well
Speaker 1: he's gonna have the hes, gonna have to like get
Speaker 1: emotionally stronger, and he gonna have to understand that we're equals.
Speaker 1: I'm not living in that men are but women or
Speaker 1: those gender roles, No, whatever you do, women can do.
Speaker 1: I am a feminist. I women empowerment, and as long
Speaker 1: as you don't cross that line. I feel like everybody's
Speaker 1: line is different. Like I said, if you and your
Speaker 1: may agree on to open marriage, that's y'all line. Y'all
Speaker 1: line is over there. If your line is having you know,
Speaker 1: three something, that's your line. My line is here. It's
Speaker 1: a little bit closer, but that's our line. Don't cheat,
Speaker 1: don't lie. That's my tolerant you know those things I
Speaker 1: can um not tolerated the cheating, the lying, and the
Speaker 1: lack of transparency. I agree, Yeah, I agree. I mean
Speaker 1: that's why it's a lining for me, right, And that's
Speaker 1: why this that our our podcast is we talk back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I mean it's just about female empowerment. I won't
Speaker 1: necessarily say I'm a feminist because I like to be
Speaker 1: taken care of at least. I like to chack. I
Speaker 1: like to be called sweetie. Like, do you think you're
Speaker 1: your your profession kind of do you think you're pro
Speaker 1: fashion and kind of challenges like you're you're marriage a
Speaker 1: little bit like what you do for a living. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: it definitely does. You know why, because my husband is
Speaker 1: not an entertainment and he's incorporate and that's a different structure.
Speaker 1: And then for me, it's like I cannot have a
Speaker 1: job today and like be on a series tomorrow. My
Speaker 1: schedule is not repetitious. So having kids and a husband's like,
Speaker 1: where's my dinner? Oh? Well, I was working, you know,
Speaker 1: I had to film something until one in the morning.
Speaker 1: It makes for just you have to be down for
Speaker 1: the roller coaster, and initially he is not used to that,
Speaker 1: and that that brings challenges, you know, because I'll be
Speaker 1: sleepy and he'd be ready to get it in and
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I worked, you know what. We gotta
Speaker 1: find times to get like on the same day, because
Speaker 1: really all he cares about sex, Like he's a great husband.
Speaker 1: I think aquaries. I googled him. He's an aquary. That's
Speaker 1: the only thing I looked up about him. My fiance
Speaker 1: is an aquaries. Girl. I know what you're going through.
Speaker 1: I know, yes, I know you smart. You are smart.
Speaker 1: That's a lot of I'm not a stalker. Now, that's
Speaker 1: the only thing I wanted to know. From the first episode.
Speaker 1: I said, let me see what this nigga science. It
Speaker 1: already knew. So wait, does that mean aquaries like they
Speaker 1: just like sex a lot? Yes, aquaries a lot of sex. Uh,
Speaker 1: role play, all all these you have to really keep up.
Speaker 1: So wait, between the two of you, what do you
Speaker 1: think it's a healthy amount of sex a week? I
Speaker 1: would say three to days, three to four days. But
Speaker 1: for him it's like every day. And if it's just not,
Speaker 1: it was not in of course, they's gotta be something
Speaker 1: else Ryan, and that I'll be trying to I'll be like,
Speaker 1: like I now love getting a sore throat because I'm
Speaker 1: like my throat girl, I got t m J listen,
Speaker 1: I have and from this work, so like my job.
Speaker 1: Let me see if you can here hold on her
Speaker 1: dogs clicking off. You got a doctor's excuse. Yes, I
Speaker 1: really love you. If I'm doing all that extra working,
Speaker 1: I don't feel like it. I swear I don't feel like. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's a lot of work. That's like, that's part of
Speaker 1: the marriage. I mean, that's a lot of work within itself,
Speaker 1: Like I gotta take vitamins, I gotta get a napid
Speaker 1: wait till you guys have children, like a family, it's
Speaker 1: at and you got the kids walking in sometimes like
Speaker 1: it's just a whole what are you doing? Let's get
Speaker 1: off my mom, you're here. I got stories about that.
Speaker 1: We had song like ah god, I was mortified, Like
Speaker 1: I just all kind of other elements. All you gotta say,
Speaker 1: all you gotta say is how do you think you
Speaker 1: got here? That's my mama told me when I saw
Speaker 1: her and my dad. How do you think you got here?
Speaker 1: That's it. Now you told me about saying should I
Speaker 1: told us three? She's like, right, I got here. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm gonna try that or I'm gonna try that.
Speaker 1: But that's a tough thing because you try to shield
Speaker 1: your kids for so long. But like we have a
Speaker 1: nine year old and it's starting to get real world.
Speaker 1: I know that conversation is like knocking on the door.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm not ready, But don't let the
Speaker 1: internet ready for that. Don't let the internet teach them,
Speaker 1: that's for sure. So I know we only have a
Speaker 1: few more minutes. But I wanted. We wanted to play
Speaker 1: a game with you. So it's an acronym game and
Speaker 1: it's based on Chicago slang because we know you're for
Speaker 1: Chicago girl to your gate. So let's see what kind
Speaker 1: of slang you know. All right, So here's the first one.
Speaker 1: W W it's a it's a slang word. All right,
Speaker 1: we're gonna give you a um some clues. So basically,
Speaker 1: if you're telling the story and you're trying to make
Speaker 1: a long story short, Chicago slang like yeah, girl, I
Speaker 1: went out with him, long story short. No, Hey, look
Speaker 1: we found these on the rights. We wapped the band
Speaker 1: wa the band? No, y'all, don't you know? Okay, that's
Speaker 1: just something how we talk. So that's that's that's more. Yeah,
Speaker 1: our ladies would be like, w bam you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But it's not always we want bam more
Speaker 1: you know. Um, well that's that's when we's but we
Speaker 1: want the band. Nobody else says that ship about Chicago.
Speaker 1: But alright, that's funny that, y'all. All right, what this one?
Speaker 1: Pull it down, don't cover all right? This one is
Speaker 1: like if she you run out for me one more time,
Speaker 1: you're gonna say this. I'm gonna beat her ass. Oh
Speaker 1: my mama, that's what it's okay, it's kind of like that,
Speaker 1: Oh my mama. All right, I'm gonna tell you on
Speaker 1: phone them on phone. Now she looks like you don't
Speaker 1: know that one. This is somebody from Chicago gave me
Speaker 1: this one, say, mama, Oh, Larry Hoover. I put that
Speaker 1: on old block like you gotta put it on like yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my mama. Then that's one. Okay, Yeah, alright, here's
Speaker 1: this one. Oh wait, somebo say y'allo not bolo. I
Speaker 1: don't know nothing about blo. Okay. And then here's the
Speaker 1: last one. All right. This one is a little bit
Speaker 1: more difficult. This is if you go to South Carolina
Speaker 1: and you're hanging out with your girls and the cameras
Speaker 1: go off, Bolo what We're just gonna tell you, Lord, mama. Second,
Speaker 1: bitch what I don't know? Bitch what? Bolo? What his
Speaker 1: thing is? Bitch? Fuck the strip of did somebody did?
Speaker 1: It's only two bitches, So weren't you two bitches? Sucking stripper?
Speaker 1: I saw the for the next episode, and somebody was
Speaker 1: looking a little shame in the face. But I don't
Speaker 1: know who y'all think who y'all think it was, because
Speaker 1: I don't think that that happened. But I mean, Kenya
Speaker 1: is running and driving the train and everybody's jumping on it.
Speaker 1: But I was like, nobody told me they did, like
Speaker 1: not even on something. Don't tell nobody. I really think
Speaker 1: it's made up. So that's why I'm watching, just like
Speaker 1: everybody else. Like when he left seven morning, he just
Speaker 1: stayed in night there in that extra bit they was
Speaker 1: in there doing barber still the girl. Maybe it's Uber
Speaker 1: didn't come until that girl. If I could mean a crime,
Speaker 1: I want you to he drown a whole Cadillac escalated
Speaker 1: off the next morning. I don't even er X. I
Speaker 1: was like, maybe Candy was sleep and forgot to call
Speaker 1: us Uber. I don't know, I don't know. Nothing funny,
Speaker 1: but like I really truly don't believe it. I felt
Speaker 1: like it was Kenya just trying to character assassinate Porsche
Speaker 1: and Tanya. Like I just felt like it was just
Speaker 1: all made up for Kenya to just once again try
Speaker 1: to tear down another black woman. That's how I do.
Speaker 1: That's what I discerned, That's what I felt because it
Speaker 1: was just like we all were having fun. You weren't
Speaker 1: in their room. How do you know, like could have
Speaker 1: been girln girl? How are you just gonna say that,
Speaker 1: like you just don't know for sure. And I just
Speaker 1: felt like to throw those things around. Yeah, not portunate, Tanya.
Speaker 1: That man was so fine, like whoever it was. I'm
Speaker 1: not mad. I'm not like if they wanted to do
Speaker 1: what they want, they grown women, leave them bone like
Speaker 1: we were all able. But my thing is, if you
Speaker 1: did it, own it. You know, That's what I really
Speaker 1: stand behind, that just own it. That's why I don't
Speaker 1: believe it, because she's so honest and so real, like
Speaker 1: she says, I wouldn't think people would say that's like
Speaker 1: she's somebody that would own it. Be like, look, she
Speaker 1: doesn't have anything to hide. She's single, you know, um,
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. I mean, she's definitely free
Speaker 1: to do. I don't think she's not married. But I
Speaker 1: just hope, you know, I believe that she would be
Speaker 1: totally honest. Um, so h somebody, Yeah, somebody need to
Speaker 1: own nay hoole and let us know. But Candy said,
Speaker 1: in the dungeon stays in the dungeon. So if the
Speaker 1: dungeon was closed. Why are we even still talking about it?
Speaker 1: You know? And that was my point, Like, it's a
Speaker 1: bachelorette party. What happens I was raised, What happens at
Speaker 1: a girl's bachelor party stays there? As Candy said, what
Speaker 1: happens in the dungeon stays in thet So like, why
Speaker 1: are we even trying to figure out? We had a
Speaker 1: great time after we act. That was one of the
Speaker 1: few times that we all genuinely we're kidding along. So
Speaker 1: why are we now making this negative? I didn't like it.
Speaker 1: I didn't like it at all. Right, agree, we agree
Speaker 1: with well, we know our time is up. We wish
Speaker 1: it wasn't over because we were having so much fun
Speaker 1: with you, but we think we want you back. Appreciate
Speaker 1: ll please have me back because we gotta do a
Speaker 1: whole segment on just aquarious man Like I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm a whole Hordschop type person. I'm a gym and
Speaker 1: I what's your sign? I'm a tory doors. I love
Speaker 1: to give me a nothing queries they special love that
Speaker 1: I don't. I haven't dealt with one of those girl
Speaker 1: child pat Bopass and Scorpios. I loved I wasn't aquarious
Speaker 1: and he was he. My mom is now sharing with
Speaker 1: me how similar he is to my husband. He as
Speaker 1: being the daughter I didn't see that. Stop you know
Speaker 1: that happened behind closed doors. Now my mom is telling
Speaker 1: me something like me. So yeah, my dad is even
Speaker 1: similar to my husband's that's crazy, crazy. Thank you so much,
Speaker 1: thank you, Thank y'all. Y'all are awesome. Thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you. To talk to you all again, we're gonna
Speaker 1: have to recap. If it comes out, then we're gonna
Speaker 1: have to talk. Yes, talk back, So definitely, I don't
Speaker 1: even talk about I'm wanna talk about Bolo. And you
Speaker 1: can have Ralph on here anytime because to hear what
Speaker 1: he has to say. Yes, we want to hear his side.
Speaker 1: We want to know what happened is you are free
Speaker 1: to ask him. You have my permission, okay, alright, alright boy,
Speaker 1: ye hold on before we get into anything else, let's
Speaker 1: pay some bills real quick. Oh my god, I love
Speaker 1: Drew so much. She was great. She feels like a
Speaker 1: homegirl like you know in real life. You know, Yes,
Speaker 1: I cannot wait. I hope she really comes back to
Speaker 1: the show to talk about some of the ship a
Speaker 1: little bit more. Bring Ralph. Ralph probably gonna do that's Quaries.
Speaker 1: He's not about to do the show, No, probably not,
Speaker 1: but we would love to have you, Ralph. You got
Speaker 1: that life to get grilled a little bit. So if
Speaker 1: you guys enjoyed that episode, please hit us up all
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Speaker 1: out here doing dumb ship or I have done some
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Speaker 1: for you man for the whole campaign for that. Just
Speaker 1: don't worry, bit, We're gonna find you man. We're gonna
Speaker 1: do it. It's gonna be like that Queries too, I
Speaker 1: felt left out, bitch. Don't don't wish for that. They'd
Speaker 1: be good and bad because Mike Queries is great. But girl, listen,
Speaker 1: We're gonna do a whole campaign. Yeah, because I'm I'm
Speaker 1: feeling into every show, like like I need a nigga
Speaker 1: that bad, Like, don't get it twisted. A little man
Speaker 1: not all that bad. So yeah, I'm not desperate, guys,
Speaker 1: don't get it twisted. I'm still I'm popping out here,
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