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Speaker 1: talks back. Hey, y'all, it's me Tam Baw. It is

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Speaker 1: a j and this is we talk back on a

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Speaker 1: Black Effect podcast network. And guess what, we have something

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Speaker 1: special for you today. We have Drew Sadora from the

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Speaker 1: Real Housewives of Atlanta the newest cast member. Oh, it's

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Speaker 1: so exciting. So she's gonna be talking about She's gonna

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Speaker 1: be talking with us about a few things. We want

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Speaker 1: to know what the hell happened at the bachelor party

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Speaker 1: at Cynthia's bachelotte party. Also, where the fund did her

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Speaker 1: husband go for three days? No, I want to know

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Speaker 1: who smash who here? So tune in. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: we got Drew Sadora on our show. We're so excited

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Speaker 1: to have you today, and we really appreciate keep doing

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Speaker 1: our show. Yes, we made a happy guy. You know,

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Speaker 1: teamwork makes the dream work so beautiful. By the way,

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Speaker 1: you too, Yes, you're glowing. You're glowing. Hair is popping.

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Speaker 1: I'm a sayoud period, I'm Brasilian today. This is brilliant

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Speaker 1: or Cambodian. I think we said Cambodian. I think I'm

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Speaker 1: doing Brazilian today, you're Indian international. We are cultured period black,

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Speaker 1: so we definitely want to talk to you about your

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Speaker 1: peach and how you've been having some shades. Someone sitting

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Speaker 1: under your peach tree LaToya never heard that. That is good. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you could drop down on her next time. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna had to bring that back. That's a good one. Um. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's been interesting because for me, I was just excited

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Speaker 1: And I was completely blindsided that I was being judged

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Speaker 1: upon just like entering the door. Do you think it's

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Speaker 1: because who does that? Right? And you know, I kind

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Speaker 1: of I watched the show, so I'm trying to figure out,

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Speaker 1: you have the peach, You're already going to be permanently

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Speaker 1: the antagonist to try and get your peach like that

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Speaker 1: She thinks she has an opportunity to get your peach.

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Speaker 1: I she doesn't have a peach. Um, I'm not the producer,

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Speaker 1: You know, I can say that. I feel like she

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Speaker 1: little bit kaboodles. I call her kaboodles because she just

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Speaker 1: I just feel like as women, as women of color,

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Speaker 1: It's just like, why are we tearing each other down

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Speaker 1: So but it just seemed um inauthentic to me to

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Speaker 1: Right out the gate. She was talking about your character

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Speaker 1: at and you got the kids walking in sometimes like

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00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 1: it's just a whole what are you doing? Let's get

424
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:08,119
Speaker 1: off my mom, you're here. I got stories about that.

425
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 1: We had song like ah god, I was mortified, Like

426
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 1: I just all kind of other elements. All you gotta say,

427
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 1: all you gotta say is how do you think you

428
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 1: got here? That's my mama told me when I saw

429
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 1: her and my dad. How do you think you got here?

430
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,680
Speaker 1: That's it. Now you told me about saying should I

431
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:34,879
Speaker 1: told us three? She's like, right, I got here. I

432
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm gonna try that or I'm gonna try that.

433
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 1: But that's a tough thing because you try to shield

434
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 1: your kids for so long. But like we have a

435
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 1: nine year old and it's starting to get real world.

436
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 1: I know that conversation is like knocking on the door.

437
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:49,639
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm not ready, But don't let the

438
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 1: internet ready for that. Don't let the internet teach them,

439
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:56,119
Speaker 1: that's for sure. So I know we only have a

440
00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:58,640
Speaker 1: few more minutes. But I wanted. We wanted to play

441
00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 1: a game with you. So it's an acronym game and

442
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:04,800
Speaker 1: it's based on Chicago slang because we know you're for

443
00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:09,439
Speaker 1: Chicago girl to your gate. So let's see what kind

444
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,160
Speaker 1: of slang you know. All right, So here's the first one.

445
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:18,199
Speaker 1: W W it's a it's a slang word. All right,

446
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 1: we're gonna give you a um some clues. So basically,

447
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: if you're telling the story and you're trying to make

448
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 1: a long story short, Chicago slang like yeah, girl, I

449
00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:39,920
Speaker 1: went out with him, long story short. No, Hey, look

450
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Speaker 1: we found these on the rights. We wapped the band

451
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:48,400
Speaker 1: wa the band? No, y'all, don't you know? Okay, that's

452
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 1: just something how we talk. So that's that's that's more. Yeah,

453
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 1: our ladies would be like, w bam you know what

454
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But it's not always we want bam more

455
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:05,119
Speaker 1: you know. Um, well that's that's when we's but we

456
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,639
Speaker 1: want the band. Nobody else says that ship about Chicago.

457
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:14,400
Speaker 1: But alright, that's funny that, y'all. All right, what this one?

458
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 1: Pull it down, don't cover all right? This one is

459
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 1: like if she you run out for me one more time,

460
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:29,600
Speaker 1: you're gonna say this. I'm gonna beat her ass. Oh

461
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 1: my mama, that's what it's okay, it's kind of like that,

462
00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: Oh my mama. All right, I'm gonna tell you on

463
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:46,120
Speaker 1: phone them on phone. Now she looks like you don't

464
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 1: know that one. This is somebody from Chicago gave me

465
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:55,440
Speaker 1: this one, say, mama, Oh, Larry Hoover. I put that

466
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:58,960
Speaker 1: on old block like you gotta put it on like yeah,

467
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:02,640
Speaker 1: oh my mama. Then that's one. Okay, Yeah, alright, here's

468
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:11,040
Speaker 1: this one. Oh wait, somebo say y'allo not bolo. I

469
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 1: don't know nothing about blo. Okay. And then here's the

470
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 1: last one. All right. This one is a little bit

471
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 1: more difficult. This is if you go to South Carolina

472
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 1: and you're hanging out with your girls and the cameras

473
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: go off, Bolo what We're just gonna tell you, Lord, mama. Second,

474
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:50,320
Speaker 1: bitch what I don't know? Bitch what? Bolo? What his

475
00:27:50,520 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 1: thing is? Bitch? Fuck the strip of did somebody did?

476
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 1: It's only two bitches, So weren't you two bitches? Sucking stripper?

477
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,960
Speaker 1: I saw the for the next episode, and somebody was

478
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,440
Speaker 1: looking a little shame in the face. But I don't

479
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:13,480
Speaker 1: know who y'all think who y'all think it was, because

480
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,679
Speaker 1: I don't think that that happened. But I mean, Kenya

481
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: is running and driving the train and everybody's jumping on it.

482
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 1: But I was like, nobody told me they did, like

483
00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 1: not even on something. Don't tell nobody. I really think

484
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 1: it's made up. So that's why I'm watching, just like

485
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 1: everybody else. Like when he left seven morning, he just

486
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 1: stayed in night there in that extra bit they was

487
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: in there doing barber still the girl. Maybe it's Uber

488
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 1: didn't come until that girl. If I could mean a crime,

489
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 1: I want you to he drown a whole Cadillac escalated

490
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 1: off the next morning. I don't even er X. I

491
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 1: was like, maybe Candy was sleep and forgot to call

492
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 1: us Uber. I don't know, I don't know. Nothing funny,

493
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:15,280
Speaker 1: but like I really truly don't believe it. I felt

494
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 1: like it was Kenya just trying to character assassinate Porsche

495
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:24,320
Speaker 1: and Tanya. Like I just felt like it was just

496
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: all made up for Kenya to just once again try

497
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 1: to tear down another black woman. That's how I do.

498
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: That's what I discerned, That's what I felt because it

499
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 1: was just like we all were having fun. You weren't

500
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 1: in their room. How do you know, like could have

501
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 1: been girln girl? How are you just gonna say that,

502
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 1: like you just don't know for sure. And I just

503
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 1: felt like to throw those things around. Yeah, not portunate, Tanya.

504
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: That man was so fine, like whoever it was. I'm

505
00:29:55,120 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 1: not mad. I'm not like if they wanted to do

506
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 1: what they want, they grown women, leave them bone like

507
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 1: we were all able. But my thing is, if you

508
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 1: did it, own it. You know, That's what I really

509
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: stand behind, that just own it. That's why I don't

510
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 1: believe it, because she's so honest and so real, like

511
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 1: she says, I wouldn't think people would say that's like

512
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: she's somebody that would own it. Be like, look, she

513
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 1: doesn't have anything to hide. She's single, you know, um,

514
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. I mean, she's definitely free

515
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 1: to do. I don't think she's not married. But I

516
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 1: just hope, you know, I believe that she would be

517
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 1: totally honest. Um, so h somebody, Yeah, somebody need to

518
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:38,880
Speaker 1: own nay hoole and let us know. But Candy said,

519
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 1: in the dungeon stays in the dungeon. So if the

520
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 1: dungeon was closed. Why are we even still talking about it?

521
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 1: You know? And that was my point, Like, it's a

522
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 1: bachelorette party. What happens I was raised, What happens at

523
00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 1: a girl's bachelor party stays there? As Candy said, what

524
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 1: happens in the dungeon stays in thet So like, why

525
00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 1: are we even trying to figure out? We had a

526
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 1: great time after we act. That was one of the

527
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 1: few times that we all genuinely we're kidding along. So

528
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 1: why are we now making this negative? I didn't like it.

529
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 1: I didn't like it at all. Right, agree, we agree

530
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: with well, we know our time is up. We wish

531
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: it wasn't over because we were having so much fun

532
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 1: with you, but we think we want you back. Appreciate

533
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 1: ll please have me back because we gotta do a

534
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 1: whole segment on just aquarious man Like I feel like

535
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:28,440
Speaker 1: I'm a whole Hordschop type person. I'm a gym and

536
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 1: I what's your sign? I'm a tory doors. I love

537
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:42,680
Speaker 1: to give me a nothing queries they special love that

538
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 1: I don't. I haven't dealt with one of those girl

539
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 1: child pat Bopass and Scorpios. I loved I wasn't aquarious

540
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,720
Speaker 1: and he was he. My mom is now sharing with

541
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 1: me how similar he is to my husband. He as

542
00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 1: being the daughter I didn't see that. Stop you know

543
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 1: that happened behind closed doors. Now my mom is telling

544
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 1: me something like me. So yeah, my dad is even

545
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:13,120
Speaker 1: similar to my husband's that's crazy, crazy. Thank you so much,

546
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 1: thank you, Thank y'all. Y'all are awesome. Thank you, thank you,

547
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 1: thank you. To talk to you all again, we're gonna

548
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,720
Speaker 1: have to recap. If it comes out, then we're gonna

549
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: have to talk. Yes, talk back, So definitely, I don't

550
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:32,040
Speaker 1: even talk about I'm wanna talk about Bolo. And you

551
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: can have Ralph on here anytime because to hear what

552
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: he has to say. Yes, we want to hear his side.

553
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: We want to know what happened is you are free

554
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 1: to ask him. You have my permission, okay, alright, alright boy,

555
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 1: ye hold on before we get into anything else, let's

556
00:32:54,000 --> 00:33:00,760
Speaker 1: pay some bills real quick. Oh my god, I love

557
00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 1: Drew so much. She was great. She feels like a

558
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 1: homegirl like you know in real life. You know, Yes,

559
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 1: I cannot wait. I hope she really comes back to

560
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: the show to talk about some of the ship a

561
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 1: little bit more. Bring Ralph. Ralph probably gonna do that's Quaries.

562
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 1: He's not about to do the show, No, probably not,

563
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:23,120
Speaker 1: but we would love to have you, Ralph. You got

564
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 1: that life to get grilled a little bit. So if

565
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: you guys enjoyed that episode, please hit us up all

566
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: We Talk Back podcast on Instagram. Also, we are so

567
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 1: looking for those dumb bitch stories. Yeah, you know y'all

568
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 1: out here doing dumb ship or I have done some

569
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 1: dumb ship you've learned from or doing some dumb sh

570
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 1: it right now right that you need some advice on

571
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:49,720
Speaker 1: share it, So you can hit us up again on Instagram,

572
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 1: or you can email us those dumb bitch stories or

573
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: simple series stories that's equivalent to dumb bitch for men. Right,

574
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:00,920
Speaker 1: you can hit us up at We Talk Back p

575
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 1: l D at gmail dot com. And we're still looking

576
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 1: for you man for the whole campaign for that. Just

577
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: don't worry, bit, We're gonna find you man. We're gonna

578
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:15,360
Speaker 1: do it. It's gonna be like that Queries too, I

579
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:20,359
Speaker 1: felt left out, bitch. Don't don't wish for that. They'd

580
00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 1: be good and bad because Mike Queries is great. But girl, listen,

581
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 1: We're gonna do a whole campaign. Yeah, because I'm I'm

582
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 1: feeling into every show, like like I need a nigga

583
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 1: that bad, Like, don't get it twisted. A little man

584
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: not all that bad. So yeah, I'm not desperate, guys,

585
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 1: don't get it twisted. I'm still I'm popping out here,

586
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 1: all right, y'all check the out later by