Speaker 1: Hell I Suck at Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven
Speaker 1: and I heard radio podcast. Hey, welcome to an all
Speaker 1: new episode of help by Sucking Dating. I'm Jared Dean
Speaker 1: is here. We're all here, the whole gang is here.
Speaker 1: Easton Hannah. Everybody cool. We have a very special guest
Speaker 1: who's on the line. Who's joining us. You know her
Speaker 1: from Colton Underwood season of the Bachelor. It is Kurpa
Speaker 1: suited Kurpa, how the hell are you? I'm so good.
Speaker 1: Thank you guys for having me on, Thanks for being
Speaker 1: had um before we um, before we get to that,
Speaker 1: I got a question. We talked about this a little
Speaker 1: bit before we recorded the podcast. But Jared, you're back
Speaker 1: from Italy, Kirpa, you knew that he was in Italy? Jared,
Speaker 1: how was How was the trip? I just want to hear,
Speaker 1: like a quick quick trip? It was fun. Listen. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be honest. I'm not a big travel guy. I'd
Speaker 1: never have been. I'm not the person who says when
Speaker 1: they're like, what do you like to do? Like I'd
Speaker 1: love to travel. I'm a homebody. I don't flying. I
Speaker 1: get motion sickness. I'm I'm I'm a baby that way.
Speaker 1: But it was fun. It was really nice to go.
Speaker 1: We were very lucky to have Polaris on United which
Speaker 1: was like a complete game changer. And then we got there.
Speaker 1: There the so her friend rented out this I don't
Speaker 1: know a castle. Uh it's about an hour and a
Speaker 1: half north of Rome. So we flew into Rome, drove there.
Speaker 1: There was no WiFi, no TVs. So that was um
Speaker 1: fun for like ten minutes and then we were like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is bad, but it was very nice. UM and
Speaker 1: it was stunning. Uh. So the Whearstal dinner was Friday.
Speaker 1: That was outside and with stunning views and then the
Speaker 1: you know, the place is incredible, it's just being in Italy. UM.
Speaker 1: Food was really good. So then Sunday we drove to
Speaker 1: Rome and that was really fun. Sunday Monday we stayed
Speaker 1: in Rome. Ashley and I UM had some time to ourselves,
Speaker 1: which was great. UM and uh I had many many
Speaker 1: cappuccinos which was quite wonderful. We missed Dawson a lot,
Speaker 1: but you know, as errands, you know, you definitely need
Speaker 1: some time to um. You know, remember like, oh that's right,
Speaker 1: we're in a relationship. We should really do dating things
Speaker 1: because they're fun and we enjoy doing them, which is
Speaker 1: why we're married. The first trip away from him, no,
Speaker 1: it was our second. Our first trip away from him
Speaker 1: was for Paradise, which will air this this week. We
Speaker 1: got very lucky enough to be asked to go down
Speaker 1: there and hang out with the cast for a little while.
Speaker 1: So that was the first time we left him. This
Speaker 1: time was definitely harder because he's we're just you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's cliche to say, but our love
Speaker 1: girls for this kid, you know, more and more as
Speaker 1: every day passes, and so we're so connected to him now,
Speaker 1: and he's becoming such a he's developing such a personality
Speaker 1: that it's it's different leaving him now. Now it's not like, oh,
Speaker 1: would just take care of him. He's fine. Now he's
Speaker 1: like smiling and looking at you and interacting and like
Speaker 1: laughing and like not saying words, but he's like laugh
Speaker 1: and it's like, oh, it's just like, you know, missed that.
Speaker 1: So I don't know kids very well. Um, he's old
Speaker 1: enough to take care of himself all your way. I
Speaker 1: guess what does he do this? He's just like order
Speaker 1: pizza every night. When we were in Paradise when he
Speaker 1: was four or five months, it's much different. It's like, hey,
Speaker 1: you know, he fed, he gets fed. He just don't
Speaker 1: let him die, you know. Now it's like he needs
Speaker 1: to play and he wants to interact and his you know,
Speaker 1: her grand her parents brought him to a pumpkin patch
Speaker 1: and he was able to like see the colors and
Speaker 1: really you get to see his reaction to things. He's
Speaker 1: reacting to things, which is quite awesome. So he had
Speaker 1: a babysitter. He wasn't just free range in the house. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, they took him to do things and we
Speaker 1: got to see that. And it's crazy, man, because even
Speaker 1: we were away for six days and he was definitely
Speaker 1: bigger when we came back. Then when we left him,
Speaker 1: it's like, damn, it's just he's growing up so fast.
Speaker 1: Well that makes sense. Um, I guess you didn't really
Speaker 1: catch the joke there. Purpose you have gotten it though,
Speaker 1: say the joke again. Your old kid is not gonna
Speaker 1: take care of himself, Jared's least, that's good. I'm glad.
Speaker 1: I'm glad to hear you had fun. Your pictures look great. Um,
Speaker 1: thanks for pizza. Look delicious, dude. The pizza was definitely
Speaker 1: so much fun. I will say walking around. There was
Speaker 1: a moment when I was living in l A. Because
Speaker 1: I never really appreciated living in l A. Wasn't big
Speaker 1: l A fan. Still not, sorry, guys. But I was
Speaker 1: driving to the grocery store and I was on the
Speaker 1: phone with my sister and she's like, what are you doing.
Speaker 1: I said, Oh, I'm driving right now to the grocer
Speaker 1: strum on Sunset, And then I thought for a second,
Speaker 1: I just said that I'm driving down Sunset Boulevard, you know,
Speaker 1: and that has such a movie buff and a pop
Speaker 1: culture person of interest that that really was like wow,
Speaker 1: I let that soak in. I'm driving down Sunset just
Speaker 1: to go to the grocery store because I live here.
Speaker 1: I live in Los Angeles. And I had the same
Speaker 1: moment of realization when I was in Italy, because of
Speaker 1: course it was you know, it's inconvenient, and there's a
Speaker 1: lot going on in your jet lagged and we didn't
Speaker 1: fall asleep before in the morning, and things of that nature.
Speaker 1: But then we're walking to dinner on Sunday and walking
Speaker 1: down this cobblestone alley and I was like, man, and
Speaker 1: we're walking down this small cobblestone narrow alley in Rome.
Speaker 1: That's you know, you just have like a moment realization
Speaker 1: of how cool that really is. Um. Yeah, definitely you're
Speaker 1: living the dream. Uh kurpa? What's going on with you?
Speaker 1: Can you feel listening on what you're what you're up to,
Speaker 1: what you've been up to, what life looks like? Um?
Speaker 1: I know that's such a generic question. What are you're
Speaker 1: supposed to go with that? But what have you been
Speaker 1: up to lately? Um? I just moved to Santa Monica
Speaker 1: with my boy, so that's been an adjustment, like living
Speaker 1: with someone, but a good adjustment. Um. I'm doing Donal
Speaker 1: hygiene still part time, like on the side. And then
Speaker 1: I just signed up actually for a life coaching program
Speaker 1: to become like a life and wellness coach, so starting
Speaker 1: that soon. Nice. Where Santa Monica did you guys move to?
Speaker 1: We're right behind the high school if you know where
Speaker 1: that is? Yeah, of course, very nice. I love Santa Monica.
Speaker 1: I always regret not having lived like closer to the Promenade.
Speaker 1: I guess I don't. I don't know why, but I've
Speaker 1: always kind of wanted to live in that area. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's good. That's awesome. And so you live with your boyfriend.
Speaker 1: You said, how long have you guys been together for?
Speaker 1: We met right before COVID, So we met in February
Speaker 1: of that kind of like sped things along because we
Speaker 1: basically were shocked up together all during COVID. So you
Speaker 1: guys started dating in February. Obviously, the pandemic hits in March,
Speaker 1: and then you decided to quarantine together. Yeah, damn, that
Speaker 1: was well. You guys really figured out quickly whether this
Speaker 1: relationship was going to make it or break it. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: Let's yeah, what was it like a month in? Was
Speaker 1: it awkward? Because I mean so many people wait months
Speaker 1: years to move in with each other. But now you know,
Speaker 1: like listen, you probably fart and you're like, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, you know, dude, I there's So
Speaker 1: there was actually a couple at the wedding. One of
Speaker 1: the girls still has not farted in front of her husband.
Speaker 1: They've been together since high school. High school, and they're
Speaker 1: in you got me. I was like, he's like, he
Speaker 1: tells her, He's like, please far in front, I mean, please,
Speaker 1: for love of god, she just doesn't want to, and
Speaker 1: she she farted once in her sleep, talking about I
Speaker 1: don't want to say their names, but yeah. But and
Speaker 1: then of course I'm looking at Ashley and she's like
Speaker 1: stinking up the entire bedroom most nice. So was that
Speaker 1: weird for you, like when you guys first moved in,
Speaker 1: where you're still in that like phase where you're like,
Speaker 1: oh god, I need to like I don't know, like
Speaker 1: that scene from Bridesmaids where like Chris and Weeds put
Speaker 1: makeup on um. I think things progressed pretty quickly, like
Speaker 1: the makeup thing that was like done pretty fast. I
Speaker 1: was like, I can't keep up this, like sarade, You're
Speaker 1: going to see what I look like. And at the
Speaker 1: time I was on acutane, so I was going through
Speaker 1: like gnarly acne. I was like, this, poor guy, if
Speaker 1: he can deal with this, like the God's end actually
Speaker 1: takes a speA lack of I don't know, something like
Speaker 1: that something. Yeah, So no, it was just really easy. Like,
Speaker 1: of course there were awkward moments, but like I didn't
Speaker 1: feel like I had to like be someone else. So
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, I knew, like this is this
Speaker 1: is solid. That's a great sign. Yeah, that is that
Speaker 1: is a good sign. You know, Klin still is not
Speaker 1: farted in front of me, what's still waiting for that
Speaker 1: special moment? Even in her sleep. Uh well, yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: usually asleep before her, and she is awake after or
Speaker 1: before me too, so I don't really get to like
Speaker 1: see her sleep. Very Have you ever walked into if
Speaker 1: that makes sense, have I have you ever walked into
Speaker 1: a room and smelt possibly a fart and been like
Speaker 1: that had to have been her, had to have been her?
Speaker 1: Uh No, I don't think so. Wow, No, I don't
Speaker 1: think so. That's just um, that's just she's she just
Speaker 1: doesn't want to be seen, I guess in that light,
Speaker 1: which I guess. Okay, more power to her. But I'm
Speaker 1: in the same I'm in the same boat as your friend.
Speaker 1: I'm like, just do it, just do it for me. Um,
Speaker 1: how did you meet the boyfriend? Because I don't think
Speaker 1: we've talked to you. We have talked to you on
Speaker 1: this podcast before, but I don't think we've talked to
Speaker 1: you since having met the boyfriend, have we? Um? I
Speaker 1: don't think so. I So we met on bumble oh yeah,
Speaker 1: on the apps, and I think we had matched a
Speaker 1: few months. So we matched like twenty nineteen, but like
Speaker 1: things just kept getting pushed off and like I would
Speaker 1: cancel or something would happen. And then finally in February
Speaker 1: he was like, I have an extra concert ticket. Do
Speaker 1: you just want to go with me to this show?
Speaker 1: And I was like okay, and yeah, the rest is
Speaker 1: history and the rest what was the show? Dermot Kennedy.
Speaker 1: It's like I was curious, like what band you guys
Speaker 1: really bonded over? No, it was, yeah, Dermy Kenny. He's
Speaker 1: a really good artist. You guys should look him up. Well,
Speaker 1: I der M Kennedy sing. I think it's more like pop,
Speaker 1: but like soul full pop. I don't know how to
Speaker 1: explain it. It's okay, Google, says Irish singer songwriter. Yes, okay, nice,
Speaker 1: Well let's get to know. Okay, So go if you're
Speaker 1: listening to this podcast and you're on the fence about
Speaker 1: going on a bumble date with your guy, maybe take
Speaker 1: him to an Irish Kennedy date. Irish Dermy Kennedy date.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, my tongue twisted there. How was a
Speaker 1: concert being the first date? Like okay, yeah, because that's
Speaker 1: really risky and I knew going into it this could
Speaker 1: be the best date or this could be the worst
Speaker 1: date because you're stuck with someone for so long. And
Speaker 1: we did dinner before so that was like a good
Speaker 1: way to feel it out and like see if there
Speaker 1: was any chemistry beforehand. We got to talk a little
Speaker 1: bit um and then the concert was great because I mean,
Speaker 1: even if it hadn't gone well, I could just like
Speaker 1: watch the concert or him and be fine. But no,
Speaker 1: it went well. It was all good. Yeah, that's a
Speaker 1: gamble because even dinner beforehand, you're committing uh, a good
Speaker 1: five hours with this human being. Usually on this podcast,
Speaker 1: we always advocate getting drinks with someone on the first
Speaker 1: day because then you can or either coffee or drinks
Speaker 1: because then you can go have one drink. If it's
Speaker 1: not going well, then you're like, okay, have a good one.
Speaker 1: I'm good. But no, Yeah, that was usually my go to.
Speaker 1: But something was telling me like go to the concert,
Speaker 1: like yeah, say yes, And I was like, okay, listen
Speaker 1: to your gut. Yeah, damn. How you guys live together?
Speaker 1: And I've got a question, how do you work part
Speaker 1: time as a dental high as a dental hygienist. How
Speaker 1: does that work? So luckily? As a dental higgenis. You
Speaker 1: can either work in different offices, like so most donal
Speaker 1: higgenists don't have a full time office because office don't
Speaker 1: want to pay you or want to give you benefits,
Speaker 1: so you're always part time, usually at a few offices.
Speaker 1: And then there's also something you could do called temp work.
Speaker 1: So if an office hasn't has a high jenis that
Speaker 1: calls out sick or is going on maternity leaves, stuff
Speaker 1: like that, they'll look for a high jenis that is
Speaker 1: open to temping, and you'll just go either for the
Speaker 1: week to help out, or the day or a few months.
Speaker 1: So that's what I've been doing. Okay, Nice, that makes sense.
Speaker 1: I've always wondered because I always thought that was just
Speaker 1: like a like a normal Monday through Friday's nine five
Speaker 1: kind of job, you know. Yeah, No, it has a
Speaker 1: lot of flexibility. It's nice. Okay, that's cool. Um, well, Jared,
Speaker 1: what else? What else do we have for Kirtpie? Well?
Speaker 1: Always curious, Kirpa, because you were obviously on Colton season
Speaker 1: of the Bachelor, But if my regulation, you were never
Speaker 1: on a season of Paradise, right, No, I wasn't was there? Ever?
Speaker 1: I'm very curious as to why you were never on
Speaker 1: Paradise because was that ever a conversation. Yeah, I went
Speaker 1: were all like the medical testing and everything, and it
Speaker 1: just never happened. They didn't need me, So I don't know,
Speaker 1: so you wanted to go. I mean I was open
Speaker 1: to it because at the time, when it was after
Speaker 1: Colton season, I went through all the testing, I wasn't
Speaker 1: dating anyone, um, so I was like, yeah, if it happens,
Speaker 1: it happens. And I like all the girls from Colton
Speaker 1: season we're going on. So I was like, it would
Speaker 1: be fun to like even hang out there and even
Speaker 1: if I don't meet someone there, like just have a
Speaker 1: good time. Yeah. That's so crazy. Yeah, because when you
Speaker 1: were coming in the podcast, I was like, oh, Kurpa, Yeah,
Speaker 1: of course I know Curpa. And then I was obviously
Speaker 1: researching you creepy um. But then I realized you were
Speaker 1: never on Paradise, but you made such an I just
Speaker 1: remember you. I remember so like you made such an
Speaker 1: impact on Colton season. It's kind of shocking that you
Speaker 1: were never on Paradise. I guess I just assumed, um,
Speaker 1: But so Colton was there only one season in Paradise
Speaker 1: after your season to the Bachelor and then COVID hit.
Speaker 1: I think, so maybe that has something to do that.
Speaker 1: Maybe they were like, we'll bring her on, like if
Speaker 1: she's still single next year, maybe something didn't work out,
Speaker 1: and then obviously COVID hit and everything. Yeah, but then
Speaker 1: now you're dating Taylor, which is very sweet. So you
Speaker 1: guys have been dating so the big in the pandemics
Speaker 1: for over two years. Yeah. Yeah, and so like, I mean,
Speaker 1: what's what's the status? You think this is it? Are
Speaker 1: you guys obviously is this the one you foresee an
Speaker 1: engagement marriage? Yeah? No, definitely, We've talked about it. I
Speaker 1: think I want to be in a place where I'm
Speaker 1: more like financially stable and know what I'm going to
Speaker 1: do in life, because I'm still trying to figure that
Speaker 1: out because I don't. I do want to get out
Speaker 1: of dental hygiene completely, so I think at some point, yes,
Speaker 1: that's coming, but I'm okay to wait, Okay, that's good too.
Speaker 1: How old are you? I'm thirty. You got plenty of time. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that makes sense. Yeah, we're not going to rush it
Speaker 1: just because people are expecting it. Yeah. Well, and so
Speaker 1: can we talk about this for a second as well,
Speaker 1: because according to this it says you've been engaged before.
Speaker 1: Is that right? Yes, I was engaged. I got engaged
Speaker 1: when I was twenty four, I think or twenty three. Yeah,
Speaker 1: got you what and what like kind of experiences did
Speaker 1: you learn from that? Because obviously super young and I
Speaker 1: know what, every will gets engaged with the intention of
Speaker 1: breaking off an engagement, right, So like what did you
Speaker 1: want to take away from all that? Um? Well, I
Speaker 1: think back then when I first got engaged, I was
Speaker 1: kind of going with the motions like, oh, this is
Speaker 1: what you're supposed to do, like you meet someone, you
Speaker 1: get engaged, you have kids, whatever, whatever, And so I
Speaker 1: was more in that mindset and not thinking like is
Speaker 1: this gonna like really make me happy? And so I
Speaker 1: think at a certain point I just like had a
Speaker 1: break down and I was like, this is not the
Speaker 1: person I want to be with, Like were family issues,
Speaker 1: Like his family wasn't a big fan of me. So
Speaker 1: I was like, this is clearly is not the person.
Speaker 1: And so that's why it ended. You said his family
Speaker 1: wasn't a big fan of you. Yeah, more of like
Speaker 1: a race thing, not like they didn't like my personality
Speaker 1: or anything. They just preferred that he was someone that
Speaker 1: wasn't the same ethnicity. That's so stup. Yeah, unfortunately unfortunately. Indeed,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm very sorry that you went through that, and
Speaker 1: thank god you didn't end up with that guy. I
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know if what his thoughts on
Speaker 1: it were. That's um yeah, I mean we always talked
Speaker 1: about on that on this podcast about how important it
Speaker 1: is to um like have be get along with the family,
Speaker 1: or how important is it in order to get engaged
Speaker 1: with someone, Like if you don't get along with the
Speaker 1: mother in law or the family, you know, is that
Speaker 1: kind of a huge red flag that might factor into
Speaker 1: whether you get married to someone. Yeah, it is absolutely. You, Like,
Speaker 1: you're going to be spending holidays and lots of time
Speaker 1: with these people. You want to get along with them
Speaker 1: and be accepted. Yeah. Yeah, And this new boyfriend of
Speaker 1: yours obviously there's no issues with all that. Now. His
Speaker 1: family is actually coming into town today for his birthday,
Speaker 1: so we're all gonna hang out and they're staying with us.
Speaker 1: So we get along really really well. Nice. When when
Speaker 1: did you meet the family, Because you guys started dating
Speaker 1: during COVID, did you meet like through a zoom No.
Speaker 1: I actually so his family lives in Chicago, and I
Speaker 1: think it was we're man in February. I think it
Speaker 1: was like July. He was like, do you want to
Speaker 1: go to Chicago? And I was like, okay, yeah. I
Speaker 1: met them pretty early on compared to like I think
Speaker 1: if I had been dating someone outside of COVID times,
Speaker 1: everything just was very quick. Yeah, well that's that's kind
Speaker 1: of like the blessing on the curse of COVID, right,
Speaker 1: kind of gives you the the chance to speed things
Speaker 1: up a little bit more. Well, that's great. I mean
Speaker 1: just hearing you talked about everything, hearing about how you've
Speaker 1: been engaged before and now you're in this relationship, and
Speaker 1: how you see it happening again, because I always, I guess,
Speaker 1: I don't know how I feel about it in the
Speaker 1: sense where it's like if you're talking to someone that's
Speaker 1: been in a relationship for two years, that's never been
Speaker 1: in like a serious long term relationship, and they're always
Speaker 1: talking about getting engaged next, you always kind of are like, okay, sure,
Speaker 1: But knowing that you've obviously been through it already before,
Speaker 1: I think there holds a little bit more weight to
Speaker 1: the idea of it, right, Yeah, definitely, Yeah, so that's good.
Speaker 1: I'm really happy for you guys. Thank you. What does
Speaker 1: he do for work? Let's make sure he's up to
Speaker 1: your standards. Let's make sure he's uh if it's the Bill, No,
Speaker 1: he's great. He's a graphic designer. He works for Hawk Media,
Speaker 1: and he's extremely talented. So he definitely is up to
Speaker 1: my standards. Okay, Okay, I guess we'll let this happen then. Um,
Speaker 1: that's good. Okay, Well, congratulations. I hope you guys. Obviously
Speaker 1: I wish you all the best. I guess I should
Speaker 1: say you. Um. We're gonna take a quick break though,
Speaker 1: and then we're gonna come back with Jared's favorite segment
Speaker 1: of the uh hot topics. Bro, hot topics, damn hot topics.
Speaker 1: You were here last week, so we don't have to
Speaker 1: suffer through this, so but stay tuned the other brake.
Speaker 1: We'll be right back. I'm just kidding. I love the
Speaker 1: hot topics Mastard. All right, welcome back to help I
Speaker 1: suck at dating myself. Dean Kirpa, you're still here. We're
Speaker 1: going to get into some hot topics. The first one
Speaker 1: is about a fifty six year old Utah grandma who's
Speaker 1: serving as a surrogate for her son whose wife has
Speaker 1: had a hysterectomy. First of all, I don't know this.
Speaker 1: I know the word hys directed me. I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 1: Think it's where you get what does it that? What
Speaker 1: does that exactly entail? I think it's yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: all the female reproductive stuff taken out, So you're essentially
Speaker 1: it's like getting a vasectomy for a woman basically. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: way yeah, yeah, sorry, way more intense. I didn't mean
Speaker 1: it down play that at all. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: fair point. Well, at fifty six, Nancy Hawk will soon
Speaker 1: experience something truly unique. So I'm reading from the People
Speaker 1: article music the People article about this. She's going to
Speaker 1: give birth to her own granddaughter. Now she's serving as
Speaker 1: a sturry gift for her thirty two year old son,
Speaker 1: Jeff and his wife Cambria. Now Jeff and Cambria, they're
Speaker 1: already parents two twins that are three years old, and
Speaker 1: apparently they went on to have a lot of complications
Speaker 1: from the birth of her twin boys. Now the couple
Speaker 1: hope to have a fifth child. They had Oh my god,
Speaker 1: excuse me. So they've had two boys and twins, so
Speaker 1: there are four kids. They wanted a fifth, but Cambria,
Speaker 1: the wife, had a hyster direct to me, like we
Speaker 1: talked about following apparently a pretty traumatic birth of their
Speaker 1: twins in September of last year, because now they're well
Speaker 1: a couple of years three year old, three year old
Speaker 1: twins um and so, uh, they go on to talk about.
Speaker 1: Then that's when Nancy, the the grandma, stepped in and
Speaker 1: said that I just suddenly had a feeling a few
Speaker 1: months ago after that I should offer to be the surrogate.
Speaker 1: This is what she told. She said, I told my
Speaker 1: son and he teared up and was shocked. I hadn't
Speaker 1: even told my husband at this point, but he was
Speaker 1: very supportive. And then Jeff goes on to say, I
Speaker 1: feel grateful to have such a selfless and loving mother
Speaker 1: that was willing to make that kind of sacrifice for
Speaker 1: my family. Having experienced over the past four years of
Speaker 1: infertility treatments, I know how complicated the process can be,
Speaker 1: and doubted that it was possible for her to carry
Speaker 1: a baby force. But I was very moved that she
Speaker 1: would even offer. Apparently doctors told her that she was
Speaker 1: healthy enough condition even though she's fifty six, you carry
Speaker 1: a pregnancy um and become a surrogate. And she began
Speaker 1: hormone treatment back in January two. Within weeks, she became
Speaker 1: pregnant with the fertilized embryos from Jeff and Cambria quote,
Speaker 1: She's sacrificing so much for us in our family, and
Speaker 1: we just felt so grateful. Cambria spoke of her mother
Speaker 1: in law, so this that's crazy. So I'm trying to
Speaker 1: put myself in that position where I okay, you're you know,
Speaker 1: you like if I was so if this was happening
Speaker 1: and Ashley was having infantra, you know, fertility issues, and
Speaker 1: my mom was like, I want to carry your baby.
Speaker 1: M hmm, I don't know. I don't know, man, that's
Speaker 1: something I have to I mean, first of all, the
Speaker 1: offer is incredibly gracious, obviously selfless. What they're doing is
Speaker 1: pretty amazing. But if I put myself in that position,
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, I don't know if I could
Speaker 1: do it. I gotta be honest. That's because then it
Speaker 1: would be I mean, let's just I'm being around the
Speaker 1: bush gig, but like this me would be you know,
Speaker 1: obviously not the physical, but like the wealth physical. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know how to say this. I got nothing,
Speaker 1: I got nothing. I don't know what to say. I
Speaker 1: don't want to say. I don't want to say it
Speaker 1: a little freaky, get a little weird. Now, if this
Speaker 1: is going down, listen, it's beautiful. What I'm gonna say
Speaker 1: is that people are entitled to do whatever they want.
Speaker 1: It's a beautiful act. Uh, it's really you know, sad
Speaker 1: that Cambria can't have more kids, even though they both
Speaker 1: heard Jeff want more kids because of the traumatic birth
Speaker 1: of her kids beforehand. So there's a lot factoring into
Speaker 1: this story. Um, I can't believe the mom in fifty
Speaker 1: six is healthy enough to carry a kid. That's that's
Speaker 1: insane in itself. Yeah, that's crazy. I don't think i'd
Speaker 1: want to put my mom through that though, because I
Speaker 1: know pregnancy is a lot, and at fifty six, that's
Speaker 1: a lot for your body to take on. My thing
Speaker 1: with it is you guys already have so many kids.
Speaker 1: Just like, give it a rest, just just call it quits.
Speaker 1: There's already enough people in this world. Don't like work
Speaker 1: so hard to bring another one in If you like
Speaker 1: I get if you have zero and you're going to one.
Speaker 1: Maybe if you're going from one to two, But what
Speaker 1: did you say they had five or four or five
Speaker 1: or something like that, give it a rest. Come on,
Speaker 1: you've got four healthy kids, Like, let's just let's not
Speaker 1: risk our mom's, our grandma's healthier, um by by having
Speaker 1: her birth another child, Like, we don't need a fifth child.
Speaker 1: Four to five. The returns on a fifth child are
Speaker 1: not nearly enough to make it worth that in my opinion.
Speaker 1: Um also on the on the same note, in the
Speaker 1: same vein, I guess it kind of reminds me of
Speaker 1: a story or a situation that I was in, uh
Speaker 1: for some reason. I think I've shared about this on
Speaker 1: the podcast before. But I used to think that I
Speaker 1: was sterile, Like whereas I couldn't I was shooting block,
Speaker 1: I was shooting blanks, essentially, is what my assumption was.
Speaker 1: And I thought this for maybe about a decade or so.
Speaker 1: And in that entire time, and this is back when
Speaker 1: I was like really not really gung home, but where
Speaker 1: I was like young enough to be like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: could see myself having kids, And I was like, well,
Speaker 1: if I can't have kids, what am I gonna do
Speaker 1: because I'm sterile, and so in the back of my
Speaker 1: head the entire time, I was like, oh, well, that's fine.
Speaker 1: I can just have one of my brothers, uh give
Speaker 1: provide a sample that we can then use to inseminate
Speaker 1: whomever the poor soul is that I'm going to have
Speaker 1: a child with. Because I was like, I was thinking, like,
Speaker 1: that's the closest thing to me was my brother right,
Speaker 1: So I was like, Okay, cool, I can just do that.
Speaker 1: Long story short, come to find out I'm not sterile.
Speaker 1: I got tested at a sperm sperm bank in Los Angeles.
Speaker 1: Um relations, yeah, yeah, thank you very much. They're not
Speaker 1: the strongest swimmers in the world, but you know, there's
Speaker 1: some there's some good ones in there, and uh, it's
Speaker 1: it's a little bit different obviously than like a surrogate,
Speaker 1: but it is similar where it's like I would have
Speaker 1: and I did never ask my brothers for this too,
Speaker 1: by the way, that I just assumed that they would
Speaker 1: give me a sample per my request on a moment's notice.
Speaker 1: Um So, I don't know, I don't know where I'm
Speaker 1: going at this, but it's kind of similar in the
Speaker 1: sense where it's like I would have leaned on a
Speaker 1: family member. I could see why they would want a
Speaker 1: family member to be a surrogate, But a fifty six
Speaker 1: year old woman, I think, Um, I think that's too old.
Speaker 1: I think not not too I don't know is that
Speaker 1: inappropriate to me to say. I just think that there
Speaker 1: are better options on the table than to have your
Speaker 1: grandma fifty six year old, six years old to carry
Speaker 1: the child you don't want to happen to her. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it is a lot on woman's body. It's pretty insane.
Speaker 1: Is it a slow hot topics day? How did that
Speaker 1: make the tough? It was the first one, and I
Speaker 1: was I was, I mean, it's a pretty interesting story.
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's just one of those things when you
Speaker 1: really think about it. As I was reading it again,
Speaker 1: I was like, wait a minute, I don't know this
Speaker 1: is different. But hey, to reach their own I'm very
Speaker 1: happy as long as uh, you know, everybody's involved in
Speaker 1: loving and you know they already have four kids. So hey,
Speaker 1: if the grandma wants to do it, good for her.
Speaker 1: Yeah that's true. That's all that matter. As long as
Speaker 1: she wants to do it. Have you guy seen the movie?
Speaker 1: Don't worry darling, No, no, no yet, you haven't seen it, okay, So,
Speaker 1: so it's good. I liked it personally. But Klin was
Speaker 1: talking about so we just saw it in theaters the
Speaker 1: other day and she was excited about all the drama
Speaker 1: that's gone on in that movie. Have you heard about it? Yeah?
Speaker 1: So so, Jared, you could probably explain this better than me,
Speaker 1: and Kirpa will get your opinion of it. I don't know,
Speaker 1: like you just hear stories that apparently so Olivia Wilde
Speaker 1: is dating Harry Styles and Olivia is uh directing the
Speaker 1: movie as well in Harry Stone was starring in it,
Speaker 1: and then there was like all this drama I don't know. First,
Speaker 1: like apparently Harry's role got offered a Shila a Buff,
Speaker 1: but then because Olivia and Shila Buff were they dating.
Speaker 1: I don't know, there's like drama between them. I don't
Speaker 1: really know. And then like it got taken away and
Speaker 1: then Harry got cast, and then their stories that Florence
Speaker 1: Pugh who starts in the movie, and Olivia wild hate
Speaker 1: each other and they were arguing on set every single day,
Speaker 1: and then Chris Pine is in the movie. I don't
Speaker 1: know if you saw it from like the premier Uh,
Speaker 1: there was a there was a video where Harry walked
Speaker 1: in and it looked like he spit on Chris Pine.
Speaker 1: I don't think he did. But there's like just a
Speaker 1: lot of drama. Is that kind of where you're going at, Dean, Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of drama around it. And then what
Speaker 1: happened and then Olivia, Um saw that Harry and the
Speaker 1: other girl that you just mentioned, that Caralce Florence Pugh,
Speaker 1: We're like hitting it off, and Olivia got jealous or
Speaker 1: something like that. Anyways, it's this movie where Olivia the
Speaker 1: Big Pictures Olivia I directed this movie. There's been a
Speaker 1: lot of controversy around the cast, I guess, and I
Speaker 1: don't know. I just thought it was interesting. I thought
Speaker 1: it was something worth bringing up. Kaylin the only Kaylin
Speaker 1: never I thought that she never wants to go see movies. Um,
Speaker 1: but she never was like, let's go see a movie tonight.
Speaker 1: And so the other day she was like, I really
Speaker 1: want to go see this movie. And I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's very unlike you, but I'm down. Let's go do
Speaker 1: it and we go see the movie. And I liked it.
Speaker 1: I didn't think it was the best movie in the world.
Speaker 1: But I was entertained for the most part. And then
Speaker 1: after the fact, she was like talking about all the
Speaker 1: drama that had unfolded in the movie. Uh, and she
Speaker 1: was like, I really wanted to see it because I
Speaker 1: wanted to see how the all the drama played out
Speaker 1: on screen. And I was like, Oh, so you only
Speaker 1: wanted to see the movie because you're interested in the
Speaker 1: off screen drama. I just thought that was a little interesting,
Speaker 1: Like that was the big hook for her to want
Speaker 1: to go see a movie, you know, that was their
Speaker 1: plan all along. Yeah, to promote it, That's what Klin
Speaker 1: was saying, and how a live But then she made
Speaker 1: a good point and she was like, I don't think
Speaker 1: Olivia Wilde would put her reputation on the line like
Speaker 1: she has just for more ticket sales, because I think
Speaker 1: one of the big things was that Olivia Wilde was
Speaker 1: saying how much of a feminist she is, and then
Speaker 1: that she's supporting the other Penelope lapew Uh and how
Speaker 1: she wants her to be comfortable. But then it finds
Speaker 1: that we come to find out later on that Olivia
Speaker 1: actually was begging child about to come back onto the set.
Speaker 1: So it's like a whole It's like there's a whole
Speaker 1: lot of misinformation out there, a lot of heat said
Speaker 1: she said, Um, yeah, I caught that to Easton. Easton's
Speaker 1: calling out Penelope Lapew. It's like, yeah, no, don't worry,
Speaker 1: darling starring Harry Styles and Pepe Lapew coming to a
Speaker 1: theater near you. What's her name again, Florence Pew? Penello?
Speaker 1: Did you say Penello? Be Lepew? Florence Pew. I've never
Speaker 1: seen her in anything before, but she was a good actress,
Speaker 1: and I think the whole movie was fine. But you
Speaker 1: tell in the movie like that there was tension, Like
Speaker 1: did it play out in the movie that way? Well,
Speaker 1: it's kind of a tense movie, so if there was,
Speaker 1: they did a pretty good job of like organically putting
Speaker 1: into the movie. Um, but I will say I was
Speaker 1: pleasantly surprised by Harry Styles acting. I didn't expect him
Speaker 1: to be a good actor, but he was pretty good.
Speaker 1: So if you guys have the chance to go see
Speaker 1: the movie. I rated it a seven point eight out
Speaker 1: of ten. Kalin gave it a six out of ten.
Speaker 1: I'm curious to hear what you guys would have to
Speaker 1: say about it. I know I know what the twist
Speaker 1: is in the movie? Um, because I didn't. I don't
Speaker 1: really have that much interest in seeing it. But again,
Speaker 1: the drama surrounding it made me very interested in the
Speaker 1: film itself. And so I was reading reviews and watching
Speaker 1: YouTube reviewers because you know that's what I do. And uh,
Speaker 1: one was a spoiler review and I was like, I
Speaker 1: gotta just know. So I found out what do you
Speaker 1: think of the twist? Um? I can see what people
Speaker 1: thought it was predictable. Um. But anyhow, we won't get
Speaker 1: into it. Let's get into the last hot topic before
Speaker 1: we end up moving on from this podcast. Apparently drafting
Speaker 1: season is upon US guy's drafting season. I'm not talking
Speaker 1: about the NFL. I'm not talking about basketball. I'm talking
Speaker 1: about dating. YEP. It's apparently a new sex trend that
Speaker 1: could go terribly wrong. So this is from the New
Speaker 1: York Post after enjoying a quote, I can't believe I'm
Speaker 1: saying this slutty summer complete with sex parties and three sums.
Speaker 1: With that, who are they interviewing for this interview? Who's
Speaker 1: having sex parties and three seas? Their life is far
Speaker 1: more interesting than my own. Many singles apparently are making
Speaker 1: proactive plans to find a more serious partner to settle
Speaker 1: down with. This is called drafting season, which is this
Speaker 1: falls hottest dating trend, with uncoupled youngsters crafting a roster
Speaker 1: of potential paramours to date over the autumn months before
Speaker 1: they finally choose a winter to commit when winter arrives.
Speaker 1: Think of it like sports drafting, but only one person
Speaker 1: comes out of victorious before winters. Quote cuffing season coffing season.
Speaker 1: If you guys don't know something we talked about on
Speaker 1: this podcast. That's when you couple up with someone during
Speaker 1: the winter. It's cuffing season. You handcuffed to each other,
Speaker 1: and then of course you know, you have your single summer.
Speaker 1: Isn't that quite pathetic that we're like, okay, so the
Speaker 1: falls drafting season, as you can still get out there
Speaker 1: mingle a little bit. It's you know, you get your
Speaker 1: October Fest. It's cold, it's kind of chilly, but you
Speaker 1: can still go outside. But then once winter hits and
Speaker 1: the sun sets at four thirty, especially around here, it's
Speaker 1: quite depressing. You want coffing season because you just want
Speaker 1: to go home and like binge Netflix with someone and
Speaker 1: then once the weather starts changing, You're like, all right,
Speaker 1: screw this person. I want to go back out. I'm
Speaker 1: ready for summer. I'm gonna go to the beach. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna mingle and have myself a nice little June, July
Speaker 1: and August. Yeah, we're we know what cofing season is.
Speaker 1: It's the only thing you got to add to this.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, wait, I'm so confused. I thought that
Speaker 1: you were explaining what coming season was to us. No,
Speaker 1: I was just kind of like, you know, going off
Speaker 1: the cuff a little bit. Anyway, I'll continue reading the
Speaker 1: article here. So apparently a sex expert named Kelly Gordon
Speaker 1: was interviewed for this article, and she said this period
Speaker 1: of tryouts separates would be relationship materials from ghosts. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, I know ghost rs. I guess
Speaker 1: same thing, bread crumbers and love bombers. Yes. She goes
Speaker 1: on to say this is an exercise and self awareness
Speaker 1: and self preservation. However, the sex expert Kelly Gordon says
Speaker 1: that some people are so desperate when winter's winter hits
Speaker 1: that they end up set dling for whoever is available,
Speaker 1: and often this is just bad news. Drafting season does
Speaker 1: allow a singleton to take their time trying out potential
Speaker 1: partners over a period of months before making a final pick.
Speaker 1: Just like sports teams, they take stock of their relationship.
Speaker 1: Make good choices, you'll spend time with. You'll make choices
Speaker 1: on your health and happiness. Botta bata ba. For those
Speaker 1: looking to try our drafting season or the order over
Speaker 1: the autumn, Kelly Gordon has some hot tips though ready.
Speaker 1: She advises that dating should be kept fun and non
Speaker 1: serious until you figure out which partner you like best.
Speaker 1: She also urges single people to take their time, don't
Speaker 1: rush to make something exclusive. Remember you have the whole
Speaker 1: season to try things out, given that drafting season is
Speaker 1: meant to be a time of experimentation. Kelly goes on
Speaker 1: to say that singles should be open to dating people
Speaker 1: who are not their usual type. Now at the end
Speaker 1: of this drafting season, making the right choice about who
Speaker 1: to pick for the winter is essential and it could
Speaker 1: possibly lead to love that last a lifetime. So pretty
Speaker 1: much what Kelly Gordon is saying is that you should
Speaker 1: just have your own personal bachelorette season over the next
Speaker 1: two to three months where you go on dates with
Speaker 1: like fift twenty guys before you pick one and you
Speaker 1: give out that final rows just for the months of January, February, March,
Speaker 1: because once April hits and those flowers come back a
Speaker 1: blooming bye bye. So pretty much, it's exactly like a
Speaker 1: Bachelotte relationship. You know, you date someone you and then
Speaker 1: you know you you give them a final rose, and
Speaker 1: then you guys go on to date for like two
Speaker 1: or three more months and then you break up. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't hate it. I think that's pretty yeah, pretty great.
Speaker 1: I hate it, and I'll tell you exactly why I
Speaker 1: hate it. I hate it because this is the same
Speaker 1: article that was talking about sex parties and three somes
Speaker 1: and so everything they say after that is completely worthless
Speaker 1: to me. I don't think anything they say carries anyway
Speaker 1: after the sex parties in three someome summer that we
Speaker 1: all just that. So I don't know if it's necessarily
Speaker 1: the best idea in the world to do what they're recommending,
Speaker 1: but it would be really interesting to see instead of
Speaker 1: like a draft uh and dating like fifteen to twenty people,
Speaker 1: I guess it kind of is the same. I want
Speaker 1: to see like a like a bracket style date off
Speaker 1: where It's like you could be you could have a
Speaker 1: bachelord or a bachelor, right, and then you have twenty
Speaker 1: what would it be like thirty two people and they're
Speaker 1: like head to head and they slowly eliminate down to
Speaker 1: the final two, and then at the very end, the
Speaker 1: person chooses one person that would that would be It's
Speaker 1: kind of like bachelor Bachelorette, but but it's different enough
Speaker 1: to where I think it could still be interesting. You
Speaker 1: guys start something, Yeah, we're onto something, And if you're
Speaker 1: bored enough on your own and you don't feel like
Speaker 1: waiting for the TV show, then I could see you
Speaker 1: wanting to do it on your own and just like,
Speaker 1: you know, making your own thing out of it. But
Speaker 1: I just I don't know. And after you said the
Speaker 1: whole sex party and three something, I kind of I
Speaker 1: kind of tuned out because I was like, Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna listen to anything this article is to say
Speaker 1: about anything. I don't know. I'm suppose you didn't read
Speaker 1: the next one about the actual celebrity that's Keenan Thompson
Speaker 1: run down celebrity. I think, yeah, Keena Thompson's very much
Speaker 1: a celebrity. Well, this last one well we'll get to
Speaker 1: before we wrap things up. So Keena Thompson the SNL
Speaker 1: Uh not a lum because he's currently honest and l
Speaker 1: the SNL cast member, former Nickelodeon alum. Also, r I
Speaker 1: P to Coolio, who passed away yesterday. And uh, the
Speaker 1: reason I bring that up is because Coolio wrote the
Speaker 1: theme song intro to Keenan and Kel. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you guys remember Keenan Kell and Nickelodeon. And uh,
Speaker 1: it's like it's it starts off with like Coolio and
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, here he goes and and then it
Speaker 1: starts the intro and it's the coolest thing ever. And anyway,
Speaker 1: So r I P Coolio Gangsters Paradise. Uh. But Keenan
Speaker 1: Thompson anyway, estranged wife is dating his former SNL co
Speaker 1: star Chris Reid. Does anybody know who Chris read? Is?
Speaker 1: Chris Red? Chris Red? Excuse me? What s I read?
Speaker 1: I can't say words anymore? No, he played Kanye West.
Speaker 1: Oh that's all right, that's so good. Uh, he's a
Speaker 1: very funny SNL cast member. Anyway, So Keenan Thompson's estranged wife,
Speaker 1: estranged wife is it a stranged ex wife. Are they
Speaker 1: going through a divorce? I don't even know these things anyway.
Speaker 1: His estranged wife has moved on from the longtime SNL
Speaker 1: star with one of his former co stars, Christina Evangeline.
Speaker 1: Evengelant Evangeline is dating Chris Red. TMZ reported back on Tuesday,
Speaker 1: claiming there is no bad blood between Thompson and Red
Speaker 1: over the budding relationship. Sources close to the new couple
Speaker 1: told the outlet that read became official with teen Keenan
Speaker 1: Thompson's wife excuse me a strange wife, within the past year,
Speaker 1: and that there was no cheating or overlap in the relationships.
Speaker 1: In fact, that Keenan and kel Alum reportedly have been
Speaker 1: living separate from his estranged wife since two thousand and nineteen.
Speaker 1: So I guess they're still co workers. I want I
Speaker 1: have known it. If their friends or not, well, what
Speaker 1: you know? I mean, the only thing we can compare
Speaker 1: it to is like Dean. If you know Ashley and
Speaker 1: I got a divorce and then you started dating Ashley
Speaker 1: a year later, how would I feel about that? I
Speaker 1: don't know if I could do the podcast anymore. I
Speaker 1: don't know if I could work with you. How would
Speaker 1: you What would you feel about that? Not good? Not
Speaker 1: good at all. I definitely would just quit the podcast.
Speaker 1: And I just kept dating Kalin two and then we
Speaker 1: just had sexy threesomes all summer long. I would definitely
Speaker 1: quit the podcast then, yeah, yeah, that's that's a reasonable
Speaker 1: response to that. I would probably quit the podcast too.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, who needs this? I don't suck a
Speaker 1: dating anymore. Well, it says how would you deal? So
Speaker 1: I'm so confused. Oh it's former sent Alko star. So
Speaker 1: it's keen non snl anymore. I don't I don't know
Speaker 1: if he is, but that's still weird. Yeah, how did
Speaker 1: they meet? That's what I'm curious, Like, did Keenan introduce
Speaker 1: Chris to his wife when they were going well? And
Speaker 1: then yeah, probably it didn't work out and then Chris
Speaker 1: was like, let me reach out, you know, I've always
Speaker 1: had a crush on her. Yeah. But it does say
Speaker 1: that they've been living separate lives since two thousand nineteen,
Speaker 1: so that's a long time to heal and be okay
Speaker 1: with one of your friends dating your old wife. You're
Speaker 1: a strange wife, is it your ex wife? Is it?
Speaker 1: You're just your like you just don't talk to your
Speaker 1: wife anymore. I don't know how it all works. Dude,
Speaker 1: Chris Red is not on the show anymore. That's crazy.
Speaker 1: He yeah, he says he was a cast member of
Speaker 1: SNL from two THO. Damn. I mean, obviously, conspiracy theories
Speaker 1: are coming to my head now. I think it was Keenan, like, Yo,
Speaker 1: this guy's dating my ex wife. It's gotta go right
Speaker 1: uh yeah, because Keenan is probably one of the higher
Speaker 1: ups in US and now now he's been there for
Speaker 1: a while, right, Well, that's why I thought that Keenan
Speaker 1: would be the one who would leave SNL because he's
Speaker 1: you know, you see a lot of big stars, Will Ferrell,
Speaker 1: Adam Sandler, people who make such a big name on
Speaker 1: SNL and then go on and do movies or other things.
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, maybe Keenan's gonna start doing that.
Speaker 1: But no, Keenan still in there, and Chris Red is
Speaker 1: not on us the more, which is funny because he
Speaker 1: was so good on it. H I've never been a
Speaker 1: big SNL fan. I don't know. I just can't can't
Speaker 1: buy into the humor. But some of the skits are funny,
Speaker 1: I would say, I could watch like the highlights of
Speaker 1: the skits, but not a regular episode. Yeah it's not
Speaker 1: like good anymore. Um, but Jared, you know what, that's
Speaker 1: gonna probably do it for this week's episode of help
Speaker 1: I Suck at Dating. Um slow news week in the
Speaker 1: hot topics, which is a bit of a bummer, but uh,
Speaker 1: it is what it is. Kurby. I'm sorry we couldn't
Speaker 1: get anything more spicy for you out here, but thank
Speaker 1: you so much for joining us and co hosting with
Speaker 1: us this week. We are going to take a couple
Speaker 1: of days off and then we're gonna be bad on
Speaker 1: Thursday with our caller segment. Kurpo, You're gonna stick around
Speaker 1: for that, trust me. Uh it's good fun. Sometimes we
Speaker 1: had we have last week that really enjoyed it. Um,
Speaker 1: I can't remember, but uh so stick around for that, Kurpa.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for joining us. Best of luck
Speaker 1: with everything, and we'll see in a couple of days.
Speaker 1: We'll talk to you soon, or maybe we suck just
Speaker 1: a little bit less. Follow help By Suck At Dating
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