WEBVTT - Don’t Worry Dean with Kirpa Sudick 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.680 Hell I Suck at Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:11.440 and I heard radio podcast. Hey, welcome to an all 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:14.480 new episode of help by Sucking Dating. I'm Jared Dean 0:00:14.600 --> 0:00:16.440 is here. We're all here, the whole gang is here. 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:20.400 Easton Hannah. Everybody cool. We have a very special guest 0:00:20.440 --> 0:00:22.320 who's on the line. Who's joining us. You know her 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:25.919 from Colton Underwood season of the Bachelor. It is Kurpa 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:29.800 suited Kurpa, how the hell are you? I'm so good. 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:33.000 Thank you guys for having me on, Thanks for being 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:37.720 had um before we um, before we get to that, 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:39.440 I got a question. We talked about this a little 0:00:39.440 --> 0:00:41.960 bit before we recorded the podcast. But Jared, you're back 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:45.760 from Italy, Kirpa, you knew that he was in Italy? Jared, 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:47.720 how was How was the trip? I just want to hear, 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:51.240 like a quick quick trip? It was fun. Listen. I'm 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:53.040 gonna be honest. I'm not a big travel guy. I'd 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:56.240 never have been. I'm not the person who says when 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:57.760 they're like, what do you like to do? Like I'd 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:00.560 love to travel. I'm a homebody. I don't flying. I 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.200 get motion sickness. I'm I'm I'm a baby that way. 0:01:03.480 --> 0:01:05.319 But it was fun. It was really nice to go. 0:01:05.680 --> 0:01:08.480 We were very lucky to have Polaris on United which 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:11.160 was like a complete game changer. And then we got there. 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:15.600 There the so her friend rented out this I don't 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:18.320 know a castle. Uh it's about an hour and a 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:20.800 half north of Rome. So we flew into Rome, drove there. 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:24.960 There was no WiFi, no TVs. So that was um 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:27.160 fun for like ten minutes and then we were like, oh, 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:31.440 this is bad, but it was very nice. UM and 0:01:31.520 --> 0:01:34.880 it was stunning. Uh. So the Whearstal dinner was Friday. 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:37.679 That was outside and with stunning views and then the 0:01:38.040 --> 0:01:41.360 you know, the place is incredible, it's just being in Italy. UM. 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:44.880 Food was really good. So then Sunday we drove to 0:01:45.040 --> 0:01:47.960 Rome and that was really fun. Sunday Monday we stayed 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:50.920 in Rome. Ashley and I UM had some time to ourselves, 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:54.760 which was great. UM and uh I had many many 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:59.120 cappuccinos which was quite wonderful. We missed Dawson a lot, 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:01.240 but you know, as errands, you know, you definitely need 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:05.120 some time to um. You know, remember like, oh that's right, 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:08.919 we're in a relationship. We should really do dating things 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:11.400 because they're fun and we enjoy doing them, which is 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:15.840 why we're married. The first trip away from him, no, 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:17.919 it was our second. Our first trip away from him 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:22.959 was for Paradise, which will air this this week. We 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:24.919 got very lucky enough to be asked to go down 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:26.600 there and hang out with the cast for a little while. 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:28.360 So that was the first time we left him. This 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:31.720 time was definitely harder because he's we're just you know, 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:34.000 I mean, it's it's cliche to say, but our love 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:36.799 girls for this kid, you know, more and more as 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:40.680 every day passes, and so we're so connected to him now, 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:45.200 and he's becoming such a he's developing such a personality 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:49.160 that it's it's different leaving him now. Now it's not like, oh, 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:51.000 would just take care of him. He's fine. Now he's 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:54.080 like smiling and looking at you and interacting and like 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.880 laughing and like not saying words, but he's like laugh 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:00.440 and it's like, oh, it's just like, you know, missed that. 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:04.280 So I don't know kids very well. Um, he's old 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:06.000 enough to take care of himself all your way. I 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:08.400 guess what does he do this? He's just like order 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:11.000 pizza every night. When we were in Paradise when he 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:13.359 was four or five months, it's much different. It's like, hey, 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:15.880 you know, he fed, he gets fed. He just don't 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:19.160 let him die, you know. Now it's like he needs 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.960 to play and he wants to interact and his you know, 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:25.400 her grand her parents brought him to a pumpkin patch 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:27.920 and he was able to like see the colors and 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:30.919 really you get to see his reaction to things. He's 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:34.280 reacting to things, which is quite awesome. So he had 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:37.760 a babysitter. He wasn't just free range in the house. Yeah, 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:39.800 you know, they took him to do things and we 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:42.440 got to see that. And it's crazy, man, because even 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.120 we were away for six days and he was definitely 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:48.040 bigger when we came back. Then when we left him, 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:51.120 it's like, damn, it's just he's growing up so fast. 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:55.480 Well that makes sense. Um, I guess you didn't really 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:57.560 catch the joke there. Purpose you have gotten it though, 0:03:58.320 --> 0:04:00.400 say the joke again. Your old kid is not gonna 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:04.320 take care of himself, Jared's least, that's good. I'm glad. 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:07.040 I'm glad to hear you had fun. Your pictures look great. Um, 0:04:07.680 --> 0:04:10.720 thanks for pizza. Look delicious, dude. The pizza was definitely 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:13.280 so much fun. I will say walking around. There was 0:04:13.320 --> 0:04:15.880 a moment when I was living in l A. Because 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:17.960 I never really appreciated living in l A. Wasn't big 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:20.520 l A fan. Still not, sorry, guys. But I was 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:22.080 driving to the grocery store and I was on the 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:23.600 phone with my sister and she's like, what are you doing. 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:25.120 I said, Oh, I'm driving right now to the grocer 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:28.000 strum on Sunset, And then I thought for a second, 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:32.039 I just said that I'm driving down Sunset Boulevard, you know, 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:34.160 and that has such a movie buff and a pop 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:38.719 culture person of interest that that really was like wow, 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:41.680 I let that soak in. I'm driving down Sunset just 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.360 to go to the grocery store because I live here. 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.320 I live in Los Angeles. And I had the same 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:47.359 moment of realization when I was in Italy, because of 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:50.120 course it was you know, it's inconvenient, and there's a 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:52.000 lot going on in your jet lagged and we didn't 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:54.080 fall asleep before in the morning, and things of that nature. 0:04:54.120 --> 0:04:57.120 But then we're walking to dinner on Sunday and walking 0:04:57.120 --> 0:05:00.080 down this cobblestone alley and I was like, man, and 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:04.239 we're walking down this small cobblestone narrow alley in Rome. 0:05:05.320 --> 0:05:07.840 That's you know, you just have like a moment realization 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:14.920 of how cool that really is. Um. Yeah, definitely you're 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:17.560 living the dream. Uh kurpa? What's going on with you? 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:19.839 Can you feel listening on what you're what you're up to, 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:23.039 what you've been up to, what life looks like? Um? 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:24.880 I know that's such a generic question. What are you're 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:27.279 supposed to go with that? But what have you been 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:30.280 up to lately? Um? I just moved to Santa Monica 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:34.599 with my boy, so that's been an adjustment, like living 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:38.920 with someone, but a good adjustment. Um. I'm doing Donal 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:42.840 hygiene still part time, like on the side. And then 0:05:42.880 --> 0:05:46.719 I just signed up actually for a life coaching program 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:49.800 to become like a life and wellness coach, so starting 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:53.279 that soon. Nice. Where Santa Monica did you guys move to? 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:56.720 We're right behind the high school if you know where 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:59.919 that is? Yeah, of course, very nice. I love Santa Monica. 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:05.720 I always regret not having lived like closer to the Promenade. 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:07.680 I guess I don't. I don't know why, but I've 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:09.720 always kind of wanted to live in that area. Yeah, 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:12.799 it's good. That's awesome. And so you live with your boyfriend. 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:15.800 You said, how long have you guys been together for? 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:21.599 We met right before COVID, So we met in February 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:25.880 of that kind of like sped things along because we 0:06:26.000 --> 0:06:30.359 basically were shocked up together all during COVID. So you 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.960 guys started dating in February. Obviously, the pandemic hits in March, 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:39.000 and then you decided to quarantine together. Yeah, damn, that 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:41.120 was well. You guys really figured out quickly whether this 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:44.120 relationship was going to make it or break it. Yeah, exactly. 0:06:45.600 --> 0:06:48.839 Let's yeah, what was it like a month in? Was 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:52.599 it awkward? Because I mean so many people wait months 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:55.920 years to move in with each other. But now you know, 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:58.680 like listen, you probably fart and you're like, hey, listen, 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.800 I don't know. Yeah, you know, dude, I there's So 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:03.760 there was actually a couple at the wedding. One of 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:07.599 the girls still has not farted in front of her husband. 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:11.520 They've been together since high school. High school, and they're 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:16.360 in you got me. I was like, he's like, he 0:07:16.720 --> 0:07:18.800 tells her, He's like, please far in front, I mean, please, 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.080 for love of god, she just doesn't want to, and 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:24.280 she she farted once in her sleep, talking about I 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:26.400 don't want to say their names, but yeah. But and 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:28.400 then of course I'm looking at Ashley and she's like 0:07:28.480 --> 0:07:32.360 stinking up the entire bedroom most nice. So was that 0:07:32.400 --> 0:07:34.040 weird for you, like when you guys first moved in, 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:36.080 where you're still in that like phase where you're like, 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.960 oh god, I need to like I don't know, like 0:07:39.000 --> 0:07:41.560 that scene from Bridesmaids where like Chris and Weeds put 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:44.760 makeup on um. I think things progressed pretty quickly, like 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:48.760 the makeup thing that was like done pretty fast. I 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:52.640 was like, I can't keep up this, like sarade, You're 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:54.280 going to see what I look like. And at the 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:56.640 time I was on acutane, so I was going through 0:07:56.680 --> 0:07:59.560 like gnarly acne. I was like, this, poor guy, if 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:04.160 he can deal with this, like the God's end actually 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:07.560 takes a speA lack of I don't know, something like 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:15.200 that something. Yeah, So no, it was just really easy. Like, 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:18.920 of course there were awkward moments, but like I didn't 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.200 feel like I had to like be someone else. So 0:08:21.240 --> 0:08:23.960 I was like, Okay, I knew, like this is this 0:08:24.040 --> 0:08:27.600 is solid. That's a great sign. Yeah, that is that 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:29.200 is a good sign. You know, Klin still is not 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:31.880 farted in front of me, what's still waiting for that 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:38.600 special moment? Even in her sleep. Uh well, yeah, I'm 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:42.280 usually asleep before her, and she is awake after or 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:43.800 before me too, so I don't really get to like 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:48.320 see her sleep. Very Have you ever walked into if 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:50.720 that makes sense, have I have you ever walked into 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:53.320 a room and smelt possibly a fart and been like 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:55.920 that had to have been her, had to have been her? 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:01.240 Uh No, I don't think so. Wow, No, I don't 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:05.480 think so. That's just um, that's just she's she just 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:07.640 doesn't want to be seen, I guess in that light, 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:10.040 which I guess. Okay, more power to her. But I'm 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:11.439 in the same I'm in the same boat as your friend. 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:14.319 I'm like, just do it, just do it for me. Um, 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:16.200 how did you meet the boyfriend? Because I don't think 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:18.200 we've talked to you. We have talked to you on 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:20.120 this podcast before, but I don't think we've talked to 0:09:20.120 --> 0:09:23.160 you since having met the boyfriend, have we? Um? I 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:27.559 don't think so. I So we met on bumble oh yeah, 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:30.240 on the apps, and I think we had matched a 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:33.520 few months. So we matched like twenty nineteen, but like 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:37.560 things just kept getting pushed off and like I would 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:41.520 cancel or something would happen. And then finally in February 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:43.960 he was like, I have an extra concert ticket. Do 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:45.440 you just want to go with me to this show? 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:48.560 And I was like okay, and yeah, the rest is 0:09:48.640 --> 0:09:52.760 history and the rest what was the show? Dermot Kennedy. 0:09:55.240 --> 0:09:57.640 It's like I was curious, like what band you guys 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:01.679 really bonded over? No, it was, yeah, Dermy Kenny. He's 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:04.080 a really good artist. You guys should look him up. Well, 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:07.560 I der M Kennedy sing. I think it's more like pop, 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:10.560 but like soul full pop. I don't know how to 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:18.720 explain it. It's okay, Google, says Irish singer songwriter. Yes, okay, nice, 0:10:18.880 --> 0:10:21.560 Well let's get to know. Okay, So go if you're 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:23.679 listening to this podcast and you're on the fence about 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:25.719 going on a bumble date with your guy, maybe take 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:29.600 him to an Irish Kennedy date. Irish Dermy Kennedy date. 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:32.319 Oh my god, my tongue twisted there. How was a 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:36.520 concert being the first date? Like okay, yeah, because that's 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:39.199 really risky and I knew going into it this could 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:41.120 be the best date or this could be the worst 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:44.360 date because you're stuck with someone for so long. And 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:47.079 we did dinner before so that was like a good 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:49.520 way to feel it out and like see if there 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:52.400 was any chemistry beforehand. We got to talk a little 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:56.600 bit um and then the concert was great because I mean, 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:58.640 even if it hadn't gone well, I could just like 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:02.760 watch the concert or him and be fine. But no, 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:05.520 it went well. It was all good. Yeah, that's a 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:10.600 gamble because even dinner beforehand, you're committing uh, a good 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:14.560 five hours with this human being. Usually on this podcast, 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:16.760 we always advocate getting drinks with someone on the first 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:19.520 day because then you can or either coffee or drinks 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:21.600 because then you can go have one drink. If it's 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:23.480 not going well, then you're like, okay, have a good one. 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:26.800 I'm good. But no, Yeah, that was usually my go to. 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:29.600 But something was telling me like go to the concert, 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:31.880 like yeah, say yes, And I was like, okay, listen 0:11:31.920 --> 0:11:36.280 to your gut. Yeah, damn. How you guys live together? 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:39.000 And I've got a question, how do you work part 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:44.000 time as a dental high as a dental hygienist. How 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:47.480 does that work? So luckily? As a dental higgenis. You 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:52.600 can either work in different offices, like so most donal 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:56.560 higgenists don't have a full time office because office don't 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:59.400 want to pay you or want to give you benefits, 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:03.640 so you're always part time, usually at a few offices. 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.840 And then there's also something you could do called temp work. 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:09.840 So if an office hasn't has a high jenis that 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:12.960 calls out sick or is going on maternity leaves, stuff 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:15.840 like that, they'll look for a high jenis that is 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:19.080 open to temping, and you'll just go either for the 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:22.559 week to help out, or the day or a few months. 0:12:23.040 --> 0:12:26.199 So that's what I've been doing. Okay, Nice, that makes sense. 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.040 I've always wondered because I always thought that was just 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:32.240 like a like a normal Monday through Friday's nine five 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:34.120 kind of job, you know. Yeah, No, it has a 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:39.440 lot of flexibility. It's nice. Okay, that's cool. Um, well, Jared, 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:41.040 what else? What else do we have for Kirtpie? Well? 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:44.800 Always curious, Kirpa, because you were obviously on Colton season 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:48.320 of the Bachelor, But if my regulation, you were never 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:52.080 on a season of Paradise, right, No, I wasn't was there? Ever? 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:55.400 I'm very curious as to why you were never on 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:59.800 Paradise because was that ever a conversation. Yeah, I went 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:03.240 were all like the medical testing and everything, and it 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:07.880 just never happened. They didn't need me, So I don't know, 0:13:08.440 --> 0:13:10.800 so you wanted to go. I mean I was open 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.840 to it because at the time, when it was after 0:13:13.880 --> 0:13:16.520 Colton season, I went through all the testing, I wasn't 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:20.640 dating anyone, um, so I was like, yeah, if it happens, 0:13:20.640 --> 0:13:23.440 it happens. And I like all the girls from Colton 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:25.120 season we're going on. So I was like, it would 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:27.559 be fun to like even hang out there and even 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:29.480 if I don't meet someone there, like just have a 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:33.240 good time. Yeah. That's so crazy. Yeah, because when you 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:35.280 were coming in the podcast, I was like, oh, Kurpa, Yeah, 0:13:35.320 --> 0:13:39.079 of course I know Curpa. And then I was obviously 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:43.200 researching you creepy um. But then I realized you were 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:46.080 never on Paradise, but you made such an I just 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:48.679 remember you. I remember so like you made such an 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:50.400 impact on Colton season. It's kind of shocking that you 0:13:50.440 --> 0:13:53.560 were never on Paradise. I guess I just assumed, um, 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:56.000 But so Colton was there only one season in Paradise 0:13:56.040 --> 0:13:59.520 after your season to the Bachelor and then COVID hit. 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:02.679 I think, so maybe that has something to do that. 0:14:02.760 --> 0:14:04.440 Maybe they were like, we'll bring her on, like if 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:06.640 she's still single next year, maybe something didn't work out, 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:09.839 and then obviously COVID hit and everything. Yeah, but then 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:12.400 now you're dating Taylor, which is very sweet. So you 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.720 guys have been dating so the big in the pandemics 0:14:16.040 --> 0:14:19.640 for over two years. Yeah. Yeah, and so like, I mean, 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:22.200 what's what's the status? You think this is it? Are 0:14:22.240 --> 0:14:25.880 you guys obviously is this the one you foresee an 0:14:25.880 --> 0:14:30.920 engagement marriage? Yeah? No, definitely, We've talked about it. I 0:14:30.960 --> 0:14:33.360 think I want to be in a place where I'm 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:35.720 more like financially stable and know what I'm going to 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:37.960 do in life, because I'm still trying to figure that 0:14:38.000 --> 0:14:41.280 out because I don't. I do want to get out 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:45.320 of dental hygiene completely, so I think at some point, yes, 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:49.960 that's coming, but I'm okay to wait, Okay, that's good too. 0:14:50.000 --> 0:14:54.320 How old are you? I'm thirty. You got plenty of time. Yeah, yeah, 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:56.880 that makes sense. Yeah, we're not going to rush it 0:14:57.040 --> 0:15:00.400 just because people are expecting it. Yeah. Well, and so 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:02.400 can we talk about this for a second as well, 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:05.200 because according to this it says you've been engaged before. 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:09.640 Is that right? Yes, I was engaged. I got engaged 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:16.120 when I was twenty four, I think or twenty three. Yeah, 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:19.280 got you what and what like kind of experiences did 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:23.720 you learn from that? Because obviously super young and I 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:26.280 know what, every will gets engaged with the intention of 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:28.200 breaking off an engagement, right, So like what did you 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:32.640 want to take away from all that? Um? Well, I 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:35.960 think back then when I first got engaged, I was 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:37.840 kind of going with the motions like, oh, this is 0:15:37.840 --> 0:15:40.400 what you're supposed to do, like you meet someone, you 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.880 get engaged, you have kids, whatever, whatever, And so I 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:47.000 was more in that mindset and not thinking like is 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:52.240 this gonna like really make me happy? And so I 0:15:52.280 --> 0:15:55.200 think at a certain point I just like had a 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:57.920 break down and I was like, this is not the 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:01.680 person I want to be with, Like were family issues, 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:03.960 Like his family wasn't a big fan of me. So 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:06.840 I was like, this is clearly is not the person. 0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:10.520 And so that's why it ended. You said his family 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:13.040 wasn't a big fan of you. Yeah, more of like 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:15.720 a race thing, not like they didn't like my personality 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:19.120 or anything. They just preferred that he was someone that 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:27.200 wasn't the same ethnicity. That's so stup. Yeah, unfortunately unfortunately. Indeed, 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:29.080 I'm I'm very sorry that you went through that, and 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:33.240 thank god you didn't end up with that guy. I 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:34.880 don't know, I don't know if what his thoughts on 0:16:34.960 --> 0:16:37.400 it were. That's um yeah, I mean we always talked 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:39.800 about on that on this podcast about how important it 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:44.160 is to um like have be get along with the family, 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:47.400 or how important is it in order to get engaged 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:49.880 with someone, Like if you don't get along with the 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:52.360 mother in law or the family, you know, is that 0:16:52.520 --> 0:16:55.360 kind of a huge red flag that might factor into 0:16:55.360 --> 0:16:59.640 whether you get married to someone. Yeah, it is absolutely. You, Like, 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.400 you're going to be spending holidays and lots of time 0:17:02.400 --> 0:17:04.280 with these people. You want to get along with them 0:17:04.320 --> 0:17:09.119 and be accepted. Yeah. Yeah, And this new boyfriend of 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:11.679 yours obviously there's no issues with all that. Now. His 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:14.280 family is actually coming into town today for his birthday, 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:17.200 so we're all gonna hang out and they're staying with us. 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:20.880 So we get along really really well. Nice. When when 0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:22.800 did you meet the family, Because you guys started dating 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:26.119 during COVID, did you meet like through a zoom No. 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:29.800 I actually so his family lives in Chicago, and I 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:32.320 think it was we're man in February. I think it 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:33.960 was like July. He was like, do you want to 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:38.480 go to Chicago? And I was like, okay, yeah. I 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:41.760 met them pretty early on compared to like I think 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:45.600 if I had been dating someone outside of COVID times, 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:52.200 everything just was very quick. Yeah, well that's that's kind 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:54.359 of like the blessing on the curse of COVID, right, 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:57.040 kind of gives you the the chance to speed things 0:17:57.080 --> 0:18:00.400 up a little bit more. Well, that's great. I mean 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:04.080 just hearing you talked about everything, hearing about how you've 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:06.480 been engaged before and now you're in this relationship, and 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:10.200 how you see it happening again, because I always, I guess, 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:11.600 I don't know how I feel about it in the 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:13.440 sense where it's like if you're talking to someone that's 0:18:13.440 --> 0:18:15.840 been in a relationship for two years, that's never been 0:18:15.840 --> 0:18:18.520 in like a serious long term relationship, and they're always 0:18:18.520 --> 0:18:21.960 talking about getting engaged next, you always kind of are like, okay, sure, 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:24.600 But knowing that you've obviously been through it already before, 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:25.960 I think there holds a little bit more weight to 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:29.640 the idea of it, right, Yeah, definitely, Yeah, so that's good. 0:18:29.840 --> 0:18:32.480 I'm really happy for you guys. Thank you. What does 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:34.040 he do for work? Let's make sure he's up to 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:37.000 your standards. Let's make sure he's uh if it's the Bill, No, 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:40.479 he's great. He's a graphic designer. He works for Hawk Media, 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:44.639 and he's extremely talented. So he definitely is up to 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:50.480 my standards. Okay, Okay, I guess we'll let this happen then. Um, 0:18:50.520 --> 0:18:53.560 that's good. Okay, Well, congratulations. I hope you guys. Obviously 0:18:53.840 --> 0:18:55.359 I wish you all the best. I guess I should 0:18:55.359 --> 0:18:58.240 say you. Um. We're gonna take a quick break though, 0:18:58.280 --> 0:19:00.919 and then we're gonna come back with Jared's favorite segment 0:19:01.080 --> 0:19:08.280 of the uh hot topics. Bro, hot topics, damn hot topics. 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:09.760 You were here last week, so we don't have to 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:14.640 suffer through this, so but stay tuned the other brake. 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:17.280 We'll be right back. I'm just kidding. I love the 0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:31.520 hot topics Mastard. All right, welcome back to help I 0:19:31.840 --> 0:19:36.880 suck at dating myself. Dean Kirpa, you're still here. We're 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:39.480 going to get into some hot topics. The first one 0:19:39.800 --> 0:19:44.200 is about a fifty six year old Utah grandma who's 0:19:44.240 --> 0:19:49.000 serving as a surrogate for her son whose wife has 0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:54.439 had a hysterectomy. First of all, I don't know this. 0:19:54.960 --> 0:19:59.160 I know the word hys directed me. I'm gonna be honest. 0:19:59.200 --> 0:20:01.119 Think it's where you get what does it that? What 0:20:01.240 --> 0:20:06.520 does that exactly entail? I think it's yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:20:06.640 --> 0:20:11.159 all the female reproductive stuff taken out, So you're essentially 0:20:11.240 --> 0:20:16.680 it's like getting a vasectomy for a woman basically. Oh okay, 0:20:16.680 --> 0:20:19.280 way yeah, yeah, sorry, way more intense. I didn't mean 0:20:19.280 --> 0:20:25.200 it down play that at all. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:20:25.320 --> 0:20:28.960 fair point. Well, at fifty six, Nancy Hawk will soon 0:20:29.000 --> 0:20:31.080 experience something truly unique. So I'm reading from the People 0:20:31.200 --> 0:20:35.240 article music the People article about this. She's going to 0:20:35.320 --> 0:20:39.280 give birth to her own granddaughter. Now she's serving as 0:20:39.320 --> 0:20:41.160 a sturry gift for her thirty two year old son, 0:20:41.320 --> 0:20:45.400 Jeff and his wife Cambria. Now Jeff and Cambria, they're 0:20:45.440 --> 0:20:50.160 already parents two twins that are three years old, and 0:20:50.720 --> 0:20:53.119 apparently they went on to have a lot of complications 0:20:53.200 --> 0:20:56.320 from the birth of her twin boys. Now the couple 0:20:56.359 --> 0:20:58.680 hope to have a fifth child. They had Oh my god, 0:20:58.680 --> 0:21:00.600 excuse me. So they've had two boys and twins, so 0:21:00.640 --> 0:21:03.720 there are four kids. They wanted a fifth, but Cambria, 0:21:03.880 --> 0:21:05.639 the wife, had a hyster direct to me, like we 0:21:05.680 --> 0:21:08.720 talked about following apparently a pretty traumatic birth of their 0:21:08.720 --> 0:21:12.080 twins in September of last year, because now they're well 0:21:12.200 --> 0:21:14.120 a couple of years three year old, three year old 0:21:14.160 --> 0:21:19.399 twins um and so, uh, they go on to talk about. 0:21:19.480 --> 0:21:23.320 Then that's when Nancy, the the grandma, stepped in and 0:21:23.359 --> 0:21:25.439 said that I just suddenly had a feeling a few 0:21:25.480 --> 0:21:29.240 months ago after that I should offer to be the surrogate. 0:21:29.320 --> 0:21:31.240 This is what she told. She said, I told my 0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:33.879 son and he teared up and was shocked. I hadn't 0:21:33.920 --> 0:21:36.239