WEBVTT - Is This Interesting? 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:16.439 Hello, welcome. Do we know his parenting? I bet no, 0:00:16.840 --> 0:00:21.680 I'm Peter McNerney. Were parents. We're here, we're talking. We're 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:26.560 talking the real ship about parenting. Just step one in 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:38.080 and here resting. How skitterly, Bob, we're free form jazz singers. Now, 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:42.480 have you ever seen that YouTube video of I'm really 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:44.879 blinking right now? The actress from Sex and This, Kim 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:51.320 Cat Kim Catt. Yes, it's so good. It's so good. 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:56.640 Why do we both know that? Because it's a perfect 0:00:56.800 --> 0:01:00.720 video skittered a bar if you just want to see. 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.560 She's with her boyfriend and she's like, you know, we 0:01:03.720 --> 0:01:10.320 just like to hang and experiment, like and he is 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:14.520 he playing the bass? Yeah, something like that. Oh, he 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:20.479 is real serious. And she's like the fox went down 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:27.800 to the avenue and said, but it's so confident and 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:33.720 so embarrassing. She has no idea how lame it is. 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:37.600 It's perfect. It's maybe it's not unlike you, who I 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:43.240 know exactly how lame I am? Yeah. Anyway, parenting, parenting, parenting, 0:01:43.319 --> 0:01:46.000 that's what we're doing every day, every second. So are 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:50.080 we our kids are bad lately? I don't. I think 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:54.760 it's just the stress of everything, right, now they're not. 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:59.200 I was gonna say, the last two days have been 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:06.120 market different, positive compared to the terror that you speak of. Yeah, 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:08.920 well yeah, I mean there was a bit of a 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:11.680 melt on yesterday because we went to Brooklyn and had 0:02:11.680 --> 0:02:14.600 a big fun day and they got real tired and 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:20.680 melted down a bit. But overall great, Yeah, I mean, 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:23.799 they're also very adorable. But I had a very funny 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:28.000 story from the other night, which is Naven was having 0:02:28.000 --> 0:02:31.000 a huge tantrum and she was like, I was trying 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:34.040 to put her in pajamas, so she's like naked and angry, 0:02:34.600 --> 0:02:38.440 and um, I pulled some pajamas out of the drawer 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.160 and she was so mad and she wanted to put 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:44.360 them back in the drawer. Um. But instead of throwing 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:48.960 them back in the drawer, she Marie Condo rolled them 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:53.399 back up very angrily and carefully and then put them 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:56.480 back in the drawer. And it was because we've like 0:02:56.560 --> 0:02:58.840 we started rolling up the kids clothes because it's just 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:02.720 easier to see every But it was just so funny 0:03:02.800 --> 0:03:05.720 to watch a three year old do an angry Marie 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:13.760 Condo careful. I was like, wow, this is really my daughter. Yeah, 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:17.280 well she that's how she thinks folding happens. That's how 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:20.920 she sees me do it, and angrily, Yeah, I don't 0:03:21.000 --> 0:03:24.200 want to do this folding. I'm going to roll it. 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:29.040 It's just so funny. I love opening those doors and 0:03:29.040 --> 0:03:33.840 seeing all those little close burritos close. Yeah, they do 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:36.600 look cute, all their little clothes. It's like it's like 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:40.880 looking at a sushi display. Although my cousin told me 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:43.200 once that she doesn't fold her kids clothes at all 0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:45.920 because kids clothes are so tiny. She just throws them 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:48.320 all in the drawer. And I was like, that makes sense. 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:50.520 That's what I used to do until you made me 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:53.960 watch Marie Condo. Yeah, and then I got into it. 0:03:54.200 --> 0:03:56.839 Marie Condo, who I have to say, stole my whole 0:03:56.880 --> 0:04:01.520 system for my clothes that I've been using for years. 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.720 I actually don't really do a burrito. I do more 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:12.520 of a flat Um. Yeah, well she doesn't do burritos, 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:14.920 but for small kids clothes, I do what kids close, 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:17.280 I do a full role. She's also way more careful 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:19.039 about the way she does it, like she can kind 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:22.240 of do it into like lay it on its end, 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:24.680 but kind of in a triangle. So it says standing up, 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:27.000 even if you don't have the other clothes to sandwich 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:31.719 in place. And I'm not that particular. I just like 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:34.920 to be able to see everything. Yeah. No, I've gotten 0:04:35.600 --> 0:04:40.360 really down where I had a folded outward and in 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:42.839 a certain side so that when it's in there, you 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:45.560 can see what's printed on the shirt, because the first 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:46.960 time I did, I do it all inward and you 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:49.840 don't know which shirt is which. Oh I see I 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:52.800 have a nearing hotward for years. This well I'm catching up. 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:59.560 Um yeah, we is this boring? Is this interesting? This 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:04.560 is fascinating? Everyone loves it. My friends and I, um we. 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:06.480 I've said this before in the podcast, but we use 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:09.480 this app called Marco Polo where we send each other 0:05:09.600 --> 0:05:12.839 videos and you can it's kind of like chatting with people, 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:15.279 but you don't have to schedule a time to FaceTime. 0:05:15.320 --> 0:05:19.920 You just leave a video message. And so I do 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:23.039 this thing whenever I whenever I feel like I'm rambling 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:25.400 onto along, and I suddenly realized that no one wants 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.680 to listen to this, I will be like, is this interesting? 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:32.400 And then we all just started doing it. Like anytime 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:35.760 someone starts trailing off, they're just like, is this interesting 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:39.119 so funny because I'll walk by and hear Marco Polo 0:05:39.160 --> 0:05:42.480 is going, and I've heard that phrase a lot of time. Yeah, 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.520 it's just like a nice note dissolve, like I think, 0:05:46.720 --> 0:05:49.560 because I think when you hang out with other like 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:54.000 comedy type people, it's like hard not to be constantly 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:58.520 aware of like whether you're creating good content. Do you 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.440 know what I mean? Like life? Yeah, well, because I've 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:03.920 used I've been in marco polo groups with other people, 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:07.320 like bigger groups, and when you're with people who do 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:09.480 are not like people you know from like improv or 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:14.440 stand up or whatever, they're like people will just ramble 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:18.800 for so long sometimes like and you're like, this person 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:22.080 is not editing themselves at all. Like it's just this 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:25.560 person has never watched a four or five minute video 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:32.599 of themselves doing improv, that's for sure. Anyway, Um, I 0:06:32.680 --> 0:06:38.200 lost my mind this weekend. Yeah, but emotional things going on, 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:42.560 very busy but very exciting stuff. But ah, so I 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:46.080 did my trick show on Saturday, and I was in 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:50.600 an emotional state. Um, I've been arguing with you a 0:06:50.640 --> 0:06:52.840 little bit that day, but I also had sweet things 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:56.520 going on, and Bryn told me me a lot that day. Yeah, 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:58.840 I mean, we don't need to get into it, but no, 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:02.919 we'll get into it big big things and but also 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:07.279 really positive things. And Bryn told me that he was 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:10.000 thankful for me, and it melted my heart. So I 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:12.520 went to go do an improv show in this just 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:17.680 mess of emotions. And I go out on stage and 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.800 at the Magnet Theater there's a little side section for 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:24.440 overflow seating and some there are some people sitting there 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:32.119 and two of them just had hot nachos and casadilla's 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:35.679 out on their lap, just eating a full, smelly meal. 0:07:37.280 --> 0:07:39.920 And normally that stuff stresses me out. I'm like, oh, 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:42.400 these people are not self aware. They're going to be 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:46.640 distracting during the show, and I'd worry about it, but 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:50.080 instead I just turned to them and I go, you 0:07:50.160 --> 0:07:53.320 can't eat in here. You gotta take that out. You 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.760 have to take that out. And I started yelling at 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:58.720 these people and they think it's a bit and they're like, well, 0:07:58.840 --> 0:08:00.680 that guy told me I could take get in. Who's 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:03.520 putting the house manager? I go, no, he didn't. His 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:05.560 job is to make sure you don't bring a foot. 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:07.240 And I yelled and I made them to put the 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:12.160 food away and I was joking, but I also legitimately 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:16.200 was making everyone in the theater uncomfortable. And then I 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:20.120 apologized and I joked it off, and then we started 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:23.680 the show, and I was so annoyed at them, and 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:26.000 then they're also happened to be that type of people 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.840 that two seconds in they just started talking to each other. Wow, 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:30.680 does this relate to what we're talking about? Where are 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:39.560 we going this? What? I don't know how they started 0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:41.920 talking and I stopped the show and I got three 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:43.840 inches from this guy's face and I said, you need 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:45.439 to shut the funk up or you need to get 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:49.960 out of here. And I really shamed him insane um, 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:54.239 but he stopped talking. Who goes to the theater theater 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:59.800 sits with their feet on the stage and thinks that 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:03.960 I can't hear them when they're just chatting away. The 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.480 point is I had my students the next day say 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:10.800 that it was very uncomfortable what I did, but that 0:09:11.120 --> 0:09:13.800 they said it was a very good show. The first 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:19.320 four minutes were very uncomfortable. But you know me, this 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:24.120 is not character. Please don't do that again. Father, This 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:29.520 is not in character for me. No, but you you 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:35.360 have this like white man confidence when you get to 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:38.920 you get to a certain level of anger and you're 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:46.000 just like, I deserve to be hurt. Like it's just, um, 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:48.240 I deserve to tell that guy to shut the funk up. 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:52.280 And I did, and I have no regrets. Don't go 0:09:52.360 --> 0:09:56.319 to a show and talk idiots, don't go to the theater. 0:09:57.440 --> 0:10:03.079 Don't bring smelly nachos into theater and then talk. Well, 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:06.760 maybe they thought it was like an Alamo drafthouse. They did. 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:08.080 I mean, they thought it was like a stand up 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:10.280 show where they're going to be drinks and tables. And 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:12.400 I'll tell you what. They had a great time, and 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:15.160 they thought it was really funny that I was rasing them. 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:17.440 They didn't know that I hated their guts. They had 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:23.480 a great time. Yeah, boy, I thought this would be 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:24.959 a fun story and I just kind of angry. But 0:10:25.040 --> 0:10:28.160 I still don't understand how it really relates to what 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:32.000 we were talking about. But I think it relates to 0:10:32.480 --> 0:10:35.200 comedians know how to edit themselves. And so I decided 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.360 to ramble on. You're like, I'm a comedian, I have 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:41.440 something to say. Let me prove to you how I 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:47.840 can edit myself. I'm self aware. Is this interesting? You're 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:53.000 the opposite of this. Is this interesting? My version is 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:59.680 this is interesting, not a question? This is interesting? Um, yeah, anyway, 0:10:59.760 --> 0:11:03.160 our kids are crazy. I also think you know, it's 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:06.280 we've been trying to deal with a lot with our lives, 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:11.280 our bathroom renovation or holiday lead up and works ship, 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:15.560 and our kids have not gotten out of the house enough, 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:18.480 out of the apartment as much as they should. And 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:21.400 there I think we had we've had spent a whole 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:25.720 week inside waiting for a toilet to arrive. Yeah, which 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:27.480 it has all that, We have everything we need for 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:33.719 this reno patient renovation. You've done all this work and 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:36.440 I and you look forward to taking credit for it 0:11:36.480 --> 0:11:38.240 in one way or another. You don't even let me 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:41.400 finish because I was just about to do the exact 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:44.720 opposite of what you accused me of, which is to 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:50.560 say you have done all of it. Um, I've helped 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:53.080 only where you've asked me to. Well, I'll tell you 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:56.040 what is giving me slight anxiety about it now is 0:11:56.080 --> 0:12:01.720 that I ordered these tiles online and then their cement 0:12:01.840 --> 0:12:07.040 tiles and they showed up and they're very thick, like 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:12.200 over half an inch thick. And I don't think that's 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:16.360 an issue. But at this point, I'm so tired of 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:18.360 dealing with the renovation that I'm like, I'll just go 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:21.560 or like, I'll buy the cheapest floor tile on Friday 0:12:21.600 --> 0:12:23.280 if I need to. If I find out that the 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:26.360 contractor is like, we can't work with this. But they're 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:31.240 really cool tile. They're very cool. But yeah, but it's 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:33.160 a small it's a small chance that it's like seven 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:37.600 down the train and we'll find out soon. The floor 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:41.640 might be three inches above all the other floors, but 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:44.000 that's not even They're going to put a little legend. 0:12:44.640 --> 0:12:47.079 I talked to the guy. I've talked to a guy 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:50.360 about this, and I feel like I'm getting a lot 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:53.280 better about talking to the guys, do you know what 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:55.960 I mean? Like, I just i feel like I'm becoming 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:59.640 this person. That's just like if I'm confused with the guy, 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:02.079 gonna be like, what do you mean? What's that? How 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:05.400 does that work? What's going on? Like I'm just gonna 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:09.160 I'm not gonna get pushed around with these guys. Yeah, 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:13.520 there's no need. You're in charge. I don't want to 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:15.560 give you what you want. So okay, guy, you work 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:19.600 for me. Um, listen, guy, you work for me. Okay, 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:23.120 but please only palets on in front of my building, arauil, 0:13:23.160 --> 0:13:26.760 I will be in tears. How many pallets did we 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:29.400 have to throw away? Any three palelets? Is the answer? 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:33.920 Toilet didn't come on a pallet? Yeah, toilet came on 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:38.520 the random guys back his back. A man trotted up 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:42.600 with a toilet upon his back instead. Have you ordered 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:49.000 yonder toilet? Come hither? Um? The home depot guy first 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:55.800 all hump de bow mostly great. But I didn't deliver 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:58.400 the toilet when they said they would. I called them 0:13:58.440 --> 0:14:02.280 and somebody figured it out. The guy it was the 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:05.040 last delivery, and so instead of bringing the truck, he 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:08.960 just threw the toilet into his car and drove on over. 0:14:09.640 --> 0:14:11.720 He's like, it's faster on the highway with us, and 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:16.280 he just comes carrying this super heavy toilet. Um. And 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:18.640 I was like, is this an insurance issue if something 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:21.960 happens in his personal car? And that's as much as 0:14:21.960 --> 0:14:28.640 I thought about it. Is this interesting? No, it's a 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:33.360 useful phrase. I am definitely gonna start using it. It's 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:37.320 a good cover. It's a good cover if you have 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:41.760 a constant inner monologue of low self esteem. Um, I 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:46.520 do it a natural version of that by talking louder. Yeah. 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:51.480 I teach a lot of improv classes, which has not 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:58.480 been good for curbing rambling, because you have sixteen people 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:00.920 that have to listen to you and are there to 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:02.800 listen to you and want to listen to you, so 0:15:04.040 --> 0:15:07.360 that I wouldn't necessarily say they're there to listen to you. 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:12.480 They're there to learn how to do impronise. You don't 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:19.480 think those two things are related. I just I there's 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:22.400 a feminist rant that I've been. It's been on my 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:24.560 been needing to get off my chest all week, which 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:29.400 I went to the dentist this week, and it's just 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:33.680 I'm just so tired of certain things like in like 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:36.880 just happening over and over again in my life. And 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:40.760 like I go to the dentist, This very nice dental 0:15:40.800 --> 0:15:43.880 hygienist woman who works there, spends half an hour cleaning 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:47.200 my teeth, being nice to me, talking to me, she like, 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:52.040 you know, explaining things. Um, she's like, you know, a 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:59.080 young mom. Whatever. Then the it's time for the dentist 0:15:59.160 --> 0:16:03.360 to come in and give his little inspection so we 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:05.080 can hear him talking the other room, and she goes 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:08.920 and checks on him multiple times, but he's very engaged 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:12.360 in man splaining teeth to another patient and just going 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:15.600 on and on, loving the sound of his voice. And 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:19.720 as the dentist of man splaining teeth, Yes, what is 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:23.400 his job to explain teeth? Yeah, it's literally his job 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:25.400 to come in in man's plain teeth at the end, 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:28.200 after this woman did all the work and then he 0:16:28.360 --> 0:16:30.800 and he probably makes three times which he makes, and 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:34.120 it makes me livid, and so I have to we 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:35.920 have to wait for him in the other room, literally 0:16:35.960 --> 0:16:39.440 like ten fifteen minutes that he's taking just talking about 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:43.120 teeth with this person. And then he comes in, you know, 0:16:43.280 --> 0:16:46.680 glances at my mouth, pokes around as like re explains 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:50.240 what this woman has said about teeth decay and leaves, 0:16:50.280 --> 0:16:52.880 and I'm just like I did. I didn't even need 0:16:52.960 --> 0:16:56.720 that man in my life. I had to wait for 0:16:56.800 --> 0:17:00.120 him for him to waste my time. This woman has 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:05.720 already done all the work, like I don't. It's it 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:09.480 just makes it's so the layers of annoyance, the fact 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:12.040 that he makes probably so much more money than her. 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:15.760 It's like I I just walked through the world and 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:19.639 these things make me feel crazy because it's like because 0:17:19.680 --> 0:17:23.840 like every industry, every industry has like designations, like different roles, 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:26.920 and they're like, well, the person who runs the office 0:17:27.359 --> 0:17:33.240 is lower on the totem pole and they get less money. Like, um, 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:37.080 I hear what you're saying. You also would love to 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:41.040 be the dentist. Well, I mean, I've been in charge 0:17:41.040 --> 0:17:43.840 of a lot of people who do things for me, 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:48.360 and so I empathize with the person that is not 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:50.640 doing the day to day. I've done all the day 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:53.800 to day. I also don't know enough enough about it 0:17:53.840 --> 0:17:56.760 being a dentist. I'm sure any dentist listening would have 0:17:56.840 --> 0:18:01.119 a lot to say about that. Um. See, that's the 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:06.320 thing as as a white man, you intrinsically assume that 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:10.959 he's more important. Um. I would assume that a person 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:15.359 who is a full dentist um has skills that the 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:19.359 dental higgenist does not are I don't know. I'm sure 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:22.960 he does, but I don't think it warrants the level 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:25.720 of importance and pay that he is getting up of. 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:28.640 I think what it when it matters is when there's 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:32.119 something wrong, and that's probably the difference. But you go 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:33.880 in and it's fine, and his job is a coming 0:18:33.880 --> 0:18:38.400 and go all right, yeah, nothing to add. But then 0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:43.160 as a society, we put our focus on having people 0:18:43.200 --> 0:18:46.000 for when things go wrong, and then we don't create 0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:50.800 prevention plans for a variety of issues. I think dentistry 0:18:50.960 --> 0:18:54.480 is over a kill on prevention. I don't need to floss. 0:18:55.800 --> 0:18:59.760 Floss is a fucking scam. I'll tell you last time. 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:02.840 I want the dentist not. This is not to invalidate 0:19:02.920 --> 0:19:06.480 your experience. I had a different one with the there's 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:08.880 a dentiligenist there that I love and she's my regular 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:12.120 person and she's great, and uh, but she wasn't there, 0:19:12.160 --> 0:19:15.320 and so I had this other, sweet young woman who 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:21.440 was the most condescending pat She was just like, yeah, 0:19:21.720 --> 0:19:24.960 well you know about flassing. Let see if a man 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:26.679 was saying that to you, you would have been like, 0:19:27.000 --> 0:19:31.840 he's right, No, fine, I don't care. The result was 0:19:32.640 --> 0:19:35.560 I've had a million dental hygienists before my life, and 0:19:35.600 --> 0:19:38.600 I've never had negative feelings towards any of them ever, 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:40.480 because who gives a ship, They're doing the job things. 0:19:40.560 --> 0:19:44.840 They mostly male, No dentifligens. I almost exclusively been women. 0:19:45.240 --> 0:19:48.560 Do not put sexism into my brain. This is the 0:19:48.600 --> 0:19:51.920 one dental higienist that I've had a negative thought about, 0:19:52.000 --> 0:19:55.520 and I despised her. I could not hide my hatred 0:19:56.080 --> 0:19:59.680 as she cleaned my teeth. She just so slowly and NonStop, 0:20:00.200 --> 0:20:04.680 like you know, these things matter. You know you think 0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:07.240 it doesn't matter, then you've gotta you gotta, you gotta 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:12.400 foss and you gotta. I do think I do agree 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:14.800 that the prevention of the dentist is a little bit overkill. 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:16.879 I think they're blowing it a little bit out of proportion, 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:21.640 but that's the job. But also I am amazed at 0:20:21.680 --> 0:20:25.800 their ability to think and talk about teeth day in 0:20:26.119 --> 0:20:29.520 and day, because I feel like I'm putting on a 0:20:29.560 --> 0:20:32.520 performance when i'm there, as though I think about teeth 0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:38.080 a lot, and I'm like, yeah, you're right, teeth, sure, 0:20:38.320 --> 0:20:44.400 canines incisors because they're always re explaining the most basic 0:20:44.600 --> 0:20:48.600 aspects of tooth aging, and they're like food gets stuck 0:20:48.640 --> 0:20:50.879 on the teeth, especially those ones in the back, and 0:20:51.359 --> 0:20:53.320 I'm just like I have to act like I've never 0:20:53.320 --> 0:20:57.040 heard it before. But like, also I'm interested in agree, 0:20:57.480 --> 0:21:02.800 Like I'm just like, yeah, totally. Like I will say, 0:21:02.840 --> 0:21:07.159 though about eight nine years ago, I hadn't been to 0:21:07.200 --> 0:21:09.439 the dentist forever. And I went to the dentist and 0:21:09.520 --> 0:21:14.920 this another general highgienist said, have you um received our 0:21:15.119 --> 0:21:19.920 toothbrushing tutorial? And in my head, I did a major 0:21:20.080 --> 0:21:22.639 eye roll and I'm like, you're not going to teach 0:21:22.680 --> 0:21:25.760 me how to brush my teeth? And I was like, um, 0:21:25.800 --> 0:21:28.239 I don't know, and she goes, great, let's do it. 0:21:28.320 --> 0:21:32.080 And she puts up some fake teeth and the toothbrush 0:21:32.200 --> 0:21:34.399 and she starts starts showing me the best way to 0:21:34.400 --> 0:21:38.600 brush your teeth. And I'll be damned, I learned something 0:21:38.680 --> 0:21:44.000 from it. Uh. And since then, every time I go 0:21:44.040 --> 0:21:49.080 to the dentist, they say, your teeth are immaculate. My 0:21:49.119 --> 0:21:52.560 favorite thing is my dentist high gentist. I do like said, 0:21:53.680 --> 0:21:56.920 if you told me that you did floss, I would 0:21:56.920 --> 0:22:00.080 have believed you. That's how good I was brushing. And 0:22:00.119 --> 0:22:03.639 I have that woman, the previous woman to think and 0:22:03.680 --> 0:22:06.160 I wanted to say, oh, you're not going to teach 0:22:06.200 --> 0:22:09.440 me someone I don't know, you be open to being 0:22:09.680 --> 0:22:12.800 not knowing? Well. The woman that my dunetle high she 0:22:12.880 --> 0:22:15.200 was like, been, you've been flossing and I was like, 0:22:15.560 --> 0:22:17.720 not as much as I should. And she was like 0:22:17.840 --> 0:22:19.840 everyone says that, and I was like, yeah, because I 0:22:19.880 --> 0:22:21.359 don't want to get caught in a lie and I 0:22:21.400 --> 0:22:25.120 don't floss enough. None of us do. Well, that's so, 0:22:25.680 --> 0:22:29.359 but they can't really tell. That's the thing. The time before, 0:22:29.480 --> 0:22:32.520 two times ago, I finally decided I'm so sick of 0:22:32.600 --> 0:22:35.919 lying to the dentist. So she goes, how often do 0:22:35.920 --> 0:22:40.480 you floss? And I go never? And then she said, Wow, 0:22:41.320 --> 0:22:43.280 if you told me you flossed, I would have believed you. 0:22:43.480 --> 0:22:47.880 And it was the most validating thing that has ever happened. Okay, 0:22:47.920 --> 0:22:49.880 but here's the thing. I think this is another one 0:22:49.880 --> 0:22:52.880 of the lies of Western medicine, is that we place 0:22:52.960 --> 0:22:55.600 all this importance on brushing our teeth and cleaning them 0:22:55.720 --> 0:22:59.960 when realistically, I think our diet has a way big 0:23:00.080 --> 0:23:02.320 or impact on what's going on with our teeth. Um, 0:23:02.440 --> 0:23:05.400 let me just say in college, when I went home 0:23:05.440 --> 0:23:09.720 for Thanksgiving and had eleven cavities, I'll disagree with you 0:23:10.000 --> 0:23:11.960 on that one, because there's a way to do it wrong, 0:23:12.040 --> 0:23:14.480 and it's to be scared and alone in college and 0:23:14.520 --> 0:23:17.480 have a mountain dew every night and be shoddy with 0:23:17.520 --> 0:23:20.920 your brushing. I literally just said, diet has a bigger impact. 0:23:22.000 --> 0:23:24.159 So you just proved me right by saying you had 0:23:24.160 --> 0:23:26.920 a mountain dew every night. Well, and also I didn't 0:23:26.920 --> 0:23:34.160 brush well. I think drinking like sugary beverages. I thought 0:23:34.160 --> 0:23:36.320 you were saying what you put in your stomach matters 0:23:36.320 --> 0:23:38.880 more than what you put on your teeth. I think 0:23:38.880 --> 0:23:41.919 it's both like you have sugary stuff like hang on 0:23:41.960 --> 0:23:44.800 your mouth all the time, but also your body. I 0:23:44.840 --> 0:23:49.119 think when you're coding your insides and like chemicals and 0:23:49.160 --> 0:23:53.480 sugar and not like the actual food nutrients doesn't help. 0:23:53.600 --> 0:23:57.359 It doesn't help your body's ability to recover and fight 0:23:57.359 --> 0:24:01.200 infections and things like. Yeah, well, after three hours in 0:24:01.240 --> 0:24:04.399 the duchess chair getting all those services filled, I stopped 0:24:04.440 --> 0:24:08.119 drinking soda forever and I've had no issue since. Is 0:24:08.160 --> 0:24:24.879 this interesting? Interesting? And now it's time for did you know? 0:24:25.400 --> 0:24:29.920 This is where we share something parenting related that we've 0:24:30.000 --> 0:24:35.679 learned from something we've read or seen or dreamed. Elizabeth 0:24:36.160 --> 0:24:39.000 in uh So, I want to talk about an article 0:24:39.280 --> 0:24:43.840 from the Atlantic. It's called stop trying to Sorry, stop 0:24:43.920 --> 0:24:47.199 trying to raise successful kids. You gotta give credit to 0:24:47.200 --> 0:24:50.399 your sister who sent this to my sister sent um 0:24:50.480 --> 0:24:56.879 the subtitle is and start raising kind ones, and um, 0:24:56.960 --> 0:24:59.840 it's just sort of a cool explanation of why you 0:25:00.000 --> 0:25:02.640 should not be so focused on achievement for your kids 0:25:02.680 --> 0:25:07.359 and make sure you're um, you know, praising them for 0:25:07.440 --> 0:25:11.320 kindness and reminding them of that. It says, kids learn 0:25:11.359 --> 0:25:13.800 what's important to adults not by listening to what we say, 0:25:13.840 --> 0:25:16.600 but by noticing what gets our attention. And in many 0:25:16.600 --> 0:25:20.119 developed societies, parents now pay more attention to individual achievement 0:25:20.160 --> 0:25:23.800 and happiness than anything else. However much we praise kindness 0:25:23.800 --> 0:25:26.679 and caring, we're not actually showing our kids that we 0:25:26.760 --> 0:25:29.720