WEBVTT - Pickin' and Choosin' 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:42.600 Love with he he he, laughing with if you watch 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:45.280 Coffee Time the baby, you know the name flame, my 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:47.960 role also known as my role Flame. Come in with 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:50.640 last and come in with jawn love lounds. Baby, you 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:53.120 better catch it when you can't drop a knowledge from 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:58.120 fatherhood to politics, shouting now comics just paying homics. What's up? Tips? Yeah? 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:00.600 You know she raped shot towns on speaking to the 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:03.760 ground a second. We're gonna last kind of the kicking 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:05.440 and at the end we leave it with just a 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:07.800 lift di spirit. Think you want to revisit tell your 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:10.040 first take a listen, Jill. Folks say it slip all 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:13.440 folks that we dig it. Don't do what you do. 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:19.240 Nois do what you don't, nois do what I do. No. 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:44.240 Good afternoon, Lauren, Good afternoon? Claim how are you? I'm good? 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:46.039 I'm good, y'all? Say I got myt with Lorna Woods 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:47.920 had from good times because that day with lorda war 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:50.400 more week? But what kind of week? You gotta look 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:55.640 at Lauren's weeds. I'm sparkling today, yes, Holiday Christmas, Christmas 0:01:55.680 --> 0:02:00.720 sparkling today like sparkling cider. Yes, Laura's taller a bottle, 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:03.840 a bottle of siding to Lauren. Lauren is like five 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:07.280 teen five teen and her flat feet baby, and you 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:10.600 know she used to dance with Debbie Allen the lays 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:14.440 kick My six o'clock. It's not even like four thirty. 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:17.480 It's like two oh five. Ship never needed to do 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:20.119 that in rehearsally, you'd be like six o'clock. I never 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:22.360 I never did another. I never did ane of that. 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:26.560 My six o'clock was for love, like, yeah, my six 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:28.800 clock was very different. Okay, we can we can talk 0:02:28.840 --> 0:02:31.520 about that later. How was your Christmas? Lauren? It was good? 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:34.160 Actually I cooked. I know you said that you cooked too, 0:02:34.160 --> 0:02:36.639 but I did too. Um. I cooked some barbecue chicken 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.519 wings and some regular chicken wings, and some mac and 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:44.079 cheese and some greens, and I cooked. That was almost 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:47.079 a traditional meal. Yeah, I didn't make it. I don't 0:02:47.080 --> 0:02:50.760 like turkey though. I don't like turkey or turkeys exactly. 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:52.919 We got a turkey? Is that? That ain't him? You know, 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:55.399 ain't get my glasses on. So we're gonna have nick 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:58.880 whenever you Lauren had to see it, because can see 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:04.440 it us, know when you hear Christmas was very quiet. Yeah, 0:03:04.440 --> 0:03:06.640 nobody came over, just me and the kids and my 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:09.800 friend LB of course. But that's somebody I haven't seen regularly, 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:13.720 and she gets prayed like everybody else. Everybody gets prayed 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:17.080 with light song. This morning, everybody in this studio got 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:20.080 sprayed with light Song. I don't know if it works 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:22.840 or not, but it's been working for me. Plus, Christmas 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:25.680 was very different than Ship because I don't know that 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:27.919 were you on the naughty or nice list? Long? I'm 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:32.280 always on the nice list. What do you mean everything? 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:36.400 She is an educated sister, but she cuts up, y'all. 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.600 You know she can't hang out with me and don't 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:42.200 cut up. That just doesn't even work. I told saying 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:44.200 that they could come to my house. I love you saying, 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:46.200 but nigger, the corona is real. He was going too 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:48.360 many different people houses. Want to stop, Honey. I sprayed 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:51.560 that nigga, Donna blitzon. I sprayed the shot out of 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:53.280 Rutolf because he kept sharing the light in my face 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:54.880 like the police and Ship. I sprayed the hell out 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:57.160 of Rutolf, the Routolf cause you know house and his 0:03:57.200 --> 0:04:02.160 nose was shine. The nigga was lights all. Sanda couldn't 0:04:02.160 --> 0:04:03.960 come to my house because if the rona is real, 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:06.560 and I ain't working with saying lead him, give yourself 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:08.880 that they're still sitting out there. You give him, said me, 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:10.280 two hours and just let the mirror, and they did 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:17.320 bring I didn't know that coming up to my house 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:19.520 because you got that you're going on. I don't even 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:21.000 like the bitch across the street, Honey, I don't know 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:22.560 what kind of hell she got you bringing ronans to 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:25.520 my house and give you a knock it off. Hello Nick, 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:28.599 welcome to laugh and learn everyone. Here's my partner head there, 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.760 very handsome Mr Nick Smith. Hello me. I love the 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:34.280 Charlie Brown tree in the background. Oh good, And I'm 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:36.560 trying to sit back so you're not like, Okay, Nick, 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:38.000 get out of my face while you're rolling up on 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:41.640 me like the police. How was your How was your Christmas? 0:04:41.640 --> 0:04:46.240 Well I'm still celebrating naturally. You know me too. Look see, 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:50.360 we came prepared, We came prepared, We came with props. 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:56.080 I must be Scrooge, humble at all that you are 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:59.599 the gift that keeps giving. Oh that's what she said. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:05.479 Wait a minute, hell, hello lord, how you doing identifies 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:08.240 as he let me be respectful. That's what he said. There, 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:10.039 you go. I just had to clear that up with 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:12.320 some of my Flame mitts because they'd be confused and ship. 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:15.479 But you know this is the heat, the sheet and 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:18.279 the wist, so you get it all right here. And 0:05:18.320 --> 0:05:20.480 then you know, Flame people have an issue with you 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:24.880 and uh pronouns and things like that anyway, so you 0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:27.400 know you're gonna get it either way. You know that. 0:05:27.480 --> 0:05:28.920 Let me tell you what they're gonna get back today, 0:05:28.920 --> 0:05:32.599 because I'm feeling groovy. Baby, you don't get it back today. 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:36.880 It's a good an interesting show. It is. It's like 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.200 Flame teased in the little video I saw before we 0:05:39.400 --> 0:05:41.880 was showing that dress. That was I don't think we 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:44.680 can wear that to church on Sunday. You can't even 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:48.360 go to church on the Corona. Got anybody outside anybody 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:52.800 going to church? Anybody want to church? You worshing God 0:05:52.880 --> 0:05:55.200 from right here, right from from you know, I g 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:59.520 live with Flame and yeah, I love that. But no, 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:02.000 my my holiday was great, Lauren. How was your because 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:05.000 I know your parents and everybody are still here locally, 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.120 so at least you got a chance to see mom 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:10.080 and dad. Right. Yeah, No, my holiday was great. You know, 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:12.480 we hung out, my brother did a quick drive by 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:14.640 to drop off some gifts and I gave him his 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:17.480 I cooked, so it was very low key. We watched 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:19.560 some movies and you know, I was catching up on 0:06:19.560 --> 0:06:22.680 my black content on Netflix and it was good. How 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:26.280 was yours? Absolutely same thing? You know I watched? Uh, 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:29.440 I have to, you know, say, we're gonna talk about 0:06:29.440 --> 0:06:32.480 a little bit later. But Flame is always finding something 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:33.960 and saying, what do you mean you haven't seen this? 0:06:34.240 --> 0:06:37.120 You better watch this, and once again sit there. I'm 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:40.039 glad that you buy yourself crying and laughing and all that. 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:41.720 So I got a chance to catch up on a 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:43.479 couple of things. One of them was something that Flame 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:45.680 and recommended that. Well, talk about a little bit later, 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:48.520 but yes, and because Lauren watched the same thing, you're 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:50.320 not already started. We're gonna change the format. So we're 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:51.760 gonna have to start with that because you're not ready 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:53.920 open up the door. First of all, you didn't ask 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.000 me what how was my Christmas? Even though I did 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:59.040 get my Christmas present from you, thank you very much. Secondly, 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.800 my Christmas was fire. I ain't do a damn thing, 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:04.200 which I wish I was doing right now. And what 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:06.880 they watched, they co on their black content on Netflix. 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:09.240 What what did you watch, Lauren? I watched I Am 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:15.320 not your Negro. I am not your Negro. Yeah, what 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:17.880 did you think? Nick? I'm curious? What are your thoughts? 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:22.000 I was floored? Uh? Is you know? How? Wow? You know? 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:24.600 Without getting it just seems like the more things change, 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:26.560 the more they stay the same. You know what, I'll 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:30.440 sounded like a cliche, but I think that, um what 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:32.880 I would have to say, and I'm not We're just 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:36.400 gonna say it. I think that James Baldwin easily was 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:42.360 one of the best writers and prolific thinkers, and unfortunately, 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:45.680 I just feel as though, um, we were a community 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:50.280 not ready to receive him in his fullness that he was. Uh, 0:07:50.320 --> 0:07:55.040 he was too much that we still need our communicators 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:58.800 and people who speak for or reflect the community to look, walk, 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:01.960 talk a certain way, and he was not having any 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:04.040 of that. He was going to be as authentic self. 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:06.840 And I think that that, unfortunately didn't afford him the 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:09.360 opportunity to us have to have the audience that I 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:11.160 felt like he deserved. Yeah, I would agree with that. 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:14.440 I think for me, the overarching theme that kept coming 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:17.880 up with his representation, um and just the lack thereof 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:20.240 that we have as you know, black folks in America. 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:23.360 It was just very interesting that they were using different 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:27.480 movies to help draw these correlations in parallels together to say, 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:29.880 while you may have been enjoying them in the moment, 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:33.400 this is how racist it really was, you know, and 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:35.400 so this is not something that should have been laughed 0:08:35.400 --> 0:08:37.400 about or people should have profited off of. This is 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:40.760 something that should have been addressed to something serious. So 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:44.640 that was my overall takeaway from it. I also just 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:48.000 loved how James Baldwin checked people when they really tried 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:50.400 to say, oh, we're you know, we're trying to make 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:53.360 strides and we keep apologizing. It's like, stop apologizing and 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:58.080 actually do something about it. So overall it was really great. Honestly, 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:00.720 I always loved just watching films like that, and you know, 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.200 thirteen than just you know, films that really tell you 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:06.360 about your history, the truth behind it. And we kind 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:08.080 of talked about that last week of just when you 0:09:08.160 --> 0:09:11.400 write history, write it correctly, So it was it's always 0:09:11.440 --> 0:09:13.520 refreshing to you know, get films that actually tell you 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:16.559 the truth and you get some more insight to your history. 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:19.320 I love James Bowen I thought that he was brilliant. 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:21.439 I thought that he was smarter. And I'm saying this 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:24.439 publicly on record that I thought to collectively he was 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:27.760 where he was smarter than Martin Luther, King, Malcolm X 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:32.000 and and Muhammad Ali Hua outdoor, all three of these men. Understand, 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:35.440 I'm not bashing any of them put together. But again, 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:38.400 he was ahead of his hand, and he was openly 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:41.480 gay and unapologetic about it. The same thing would be arrested. 0:09:41.640 --> 0:09:44.400 He was openly gay and unapologetic about it. But he 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:47.240 had such a place in the movement as far as 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:50.080 us with civil rights and everything. But this is this 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:53.640 goes back to detriment. It's not them, sometimes it's us, 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:58.920 And it's not them. It's sometimes it's us. I said, 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:01.320 hold on, niggas, hold at the one second before I 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:03.360 said I wanted to be people always say for them, 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:05.280 you should be advocate, you should be a speak I'm 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:08.120 not because I'm not gonna be judged on the content 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:10.400 of what I say. I'm gonna be judged on what 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:12.600 you see. And I'm gonna show these titties because they're pretty, 0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:14.880 and I'm gonna show these titties. I'm telling you and 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:18.480 black people. I said this black people who have more 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:21.440 of an issue with it than anyone else, because that's 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.880 who we are. I said what I said, James Baldwin 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:27.640 could have and his his what he said, And when 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:30.000 you are watching, y'all need to watch. Everything that he 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:34.600 said back in nine is relevant right now, probably more 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:37.720 so now than then. That shows you what a visionary 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:40.560 he was. But I wouldn't put myself in that position 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:42.559 because people are not gonna hear me. They're gonna see 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:45.000 these titties. Oh, I'm gonna show the play start there 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:47.240 because since you open that door and I know this 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:48.840 is going in the direction, this is what I love about, 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:51.320 laugh and learn. Why do you why did you call 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:52.960 off the black community? Why do you feel like black 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:54.960 people have a harder time with who you are and 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:57.480 how you represent than any other group because you grew 0:10:57.520 --> 0:10:59.319 up in a black household too. As much as you 0:10:59.360 --> 0:11:01.520 would like, there have to been something else, sometimes something 0:11:01.640 --> 0:11:04.680 with somebody else's house, it wasn't. Do you understand that 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:07.440 being gay in the black community, And y'all can hand 0:11:07.440 --> 0:11:08.760 me my ask for this one, because I know what 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:12.000 I'm saying. Being gay in the black community is worse 0:11:12.000 --> 0:11:14.880 than being the rapist or the child molester or the 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.720 serial killer in the family. In the black community, being 0:11:17.760 --> 0:11:21.040 gay has carries way more sinful weight in black ass 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:24.960 and black households than being a killer or the one 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:26.719 the uncle to come over and touch on all the 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:29.480 kids and ship. Yeah, and that's the truth. And if 0:11:29.520 --> 0:11:31.880 you fight, if you think that I'm you disagree with me, 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:33.920 weigh in to give us your opinion. I say it 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:35.600 what I said because guess what, I don't care what 0:11:35.640 --> 0:11:37.240 you think. And if you do want to weigh in 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:39.040 and give your opinion, this is where I'm gonna give 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:40.960 the little plug. As we move into the show, I 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:43.959 want everybody remember to type in capital letters because Flame 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:46.920 is reading and monitoring things that come across the screen. 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.280 Flame and Lauren have the iPad there. We want you 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:52.080 to join the conversation. We want you to comment, we 0:11:52.120 --> 0:11:54.200 want you to share it, we want you to subscribe. 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:56.520 But if you want to sound off into the conversation 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:59.040 and join us, want you to use those Flames typing 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:03.680 capital letters, find good lighting, have your headphones, and used 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:05.160 the Flame so that we know that you're ready to 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:07.440 join the converse before we move forward. I'm want Lawn 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:09.120 to weigh in on that lawrence. So you grew up, 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:11.840 you you do you have any gay people in your family? 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:13.800 I do? Do you have any people that go back 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:16.319 and forth to jail for other crimes? Oh? My god. 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:26.280 Well it was a comparison. I'm not saying, well, I 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:30.079 won't totally put my family's business on blast, but um, 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.000 there was a situation in my family where there was 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:35.600 an uncle, um, who was a little inappropriate with my 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:38.439 aunt who's my mom's sister. So and so how did 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:41.720 the family measure the gay one and the other one? 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:44.800 I would say, my family, We'll just talk about my 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:47.080 mom's side. You know, born and raised in New York 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:51.280 and Brooklyn, very progressive. You know, We've got musicians and 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:54.160 every artist that you can think of on my mom's 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.599 side of the family, So very inclusive. You know. It 0:12:57.720 --> 0:13:00.680 was never anything about, you know, if you were gay whatever, 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.720 you know, your sexuality was I think the only um 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:07.440 issue once that my grandmother took with her sister, who 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:09.839 you know was a lesbian, you know, and she passed 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:11.960 away from colon cancer a couple of years ago. But 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:14.600 one time she said to my mother, you know, everybody's 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:17.600 got a little lesbian into them. My grandmother didn't appreciate. 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:21.080 She didn't like that. But other than that, you know, 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:23.720 very inclusive. It was, it was never an issue. But 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:26.600 to your point, Flame, I I hear what you're saying, 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:28.920 and I can, I can, I can understand that. But 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:31.559 I think part of two of kind of what we 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.840 need to unpack here is, you know, some of these 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.800 norms that we have in the black community of why 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:40.760 we don't accept things come from what was ingrained in 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:44.320 us when we were slaves. That's my opinion. You know, 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:47.520 you guys can differ in in that space, but I 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:50.559 just feel like those societal norms that were set on 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:53.560 us are the reasons why we have these issues in 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:57.960 our communities today. And I completely agree, Lauren, And just 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:00.800 to piggyback off of that, because I I do want 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:03.040 us to wow. Wasn't I expecting this conversation at all? 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:05.960 But I think it's one of those things to where um, 0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:09.880 for whatever reason, families are more comfortable saying to the 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.720 girls in the family, we've heard this. I won't speak 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:15.480 for anybody else, but go put some clothes on because 0:14:15.480 --> 0:14:17.880 so and so is coming over here. And you would 0:14:17.920 --> 0:14:23.240 think that, well, why why is it all of a sudden, 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:25.360 Now this girl is put in a space of shame. 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:28.400 Something's wrong with her body that she can't be She 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:31.200 was just running around here with Aunt Lauren and and 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:34.280 and an antique Karen h in her shorts and her 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:36.560 little tooth. Topic there was not a problem. But now 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:39.360 because somebody in the family is coming over there, everybody 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:41.280 kind of knows and they kind of whisper about, but 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:42.880 they don't want to say anything. Go put some go 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:44.760 put on some pants because uncle so and so is 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:47.840 coming over here. That that that's a problem. Yeah, but 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:49.760 let's but let's talk about that though, because where is 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:51.760 that origin come from. If we're going to take you 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:54.000 back to what I just said, let's think about how 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.960 we were on plantations as black folks, and we had 0:14:56.960 --> 0:15:00.200 these white women who were married to our masters, and 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:04.840 they were very insecure about black women because these white 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:07.160 women were coming in and sleeping with black women. They 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.520 were cheating on them, right, white man, so exactly white men. 0:15:10.600 --> 0:15:13.920 So the issue became that, oh, she's dressed inappropriately, so 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:16.560 she needs to cover up. And then that's just how that, 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:19.120 you know, narrative transcends through time. That's how I feel. 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.240 I don't know about that one. We're both of y'all 0:15:21.320 --> 0:15:24.520 because y'all not parents. Because in my house, when is 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:27.280 he and my daughter got boobs? One day she came 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.000 out to the room head boobs. I'm a girl. When 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:31.560 you get those? She got from you? I said, man 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:35.200 was put on your grew though. Any who, but she 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:38.200 has My son is there and he's a eighteen. He's seventeen, 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:41.640 she's seventeen. Put some clothes on. I think it's inappropriate 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:44.040 to walk around me. Is disrespectful to me as your father, 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:47.600 and it's disrespectful to your brother because even though you 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:50.240 all are related, he's a teenager. I'm not saying that 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:53.040 it's some perversion thinking in the house, but you don't 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:56.080 know how another person is thinking, or you're looking at somebody. 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:57.560 I used to have a problem with my mother walking 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:00.200 around scandidly dressed in the home. So would you put 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:01.880 some clothes on? She slapped the hell out of me. 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:03.880 One day I asked her again, would you put some 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:06.000 clothes on? I didn't want to see all of that, 0:16:06.080 --> 0:16:14.480 But does that make a difference? I see nickers want 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:16.840 to go, I'll do it tonight. A love louds I 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:19.400 get your asser back tonight, nigga, right now we're on 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:24.400 the show. I just think that as a father of daughters, 0:16:24.440 --> 0:16:27.760 that it starts with respect to me. So if if 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:29.640 I asked you to respect me as your dad, you 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:32.640 respect yourself with other me. And that's what I'm looking at. 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:34.400 And I don't want to see my daughter walking around 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:36.600 brawl this with a boo. I mean, I don't do it, 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:38.680 you know, and I got boom. So I'm a very 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:40.680 different looking dad. But I make sure I have on 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:42.720 my clothes. I keep on my jogging pants and a 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:45.720 T shirt around my children. You know, I'm not never scared. 0:16:45.760 --> 0:16:47.440 I don't even know my children have every well, one 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:49.720 I'm walked in on me, so had ever seen me 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:53.240 naked before? But yeah, I mean that's happened. I've done that, 0:16:53.280 --> 0:16:55.160 to have walked in on my dad naked. But as 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:58.680 a father of a daughter, I want her to respect 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.760 me because as a man, so I figured like she'll 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:05.440 respect other mean, because it's kind of respecting yourself your daughter. 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:08.680 You don't know, would you feel appropriate walking around your dad? 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:10.720 You know it was a young team. You know, I 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:13.000 never would, And I mean I agree with that part 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:15.000 of what you're saying, but so, I mean, I think 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.480 it's both of those things. I think, you know, black 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:20.560 women were hyper sexualized at a very young age and 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:23.520 it's carried on. And to your point, you know, you 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:26.159 do have to have that dividing line of Okay, I'm 0:17:26.200 --> 0:17:28.520 still your father. You need to respect me because that's 0:17:28.520 --> 0:17:30.680 how I am. And you know with my father as well, 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:33.360 we definitely have those lines drawn in the sand. Well, 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:36.480 since you have three teenagers at home, I have to ask, 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:40.440 did Santa visit the Parker's Santa didn't come in my house. 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:42.439 I think you had the corona we sprayed anything outside 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:44.399 on the chimney. But we already talked about that. You 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:46.760 can't Santa couldn't come to my house because that nink 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:48.560 went to too many different people house with that ship. 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:51.120 Uh So, let's move on because I want to talk 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:53.280 about something I want to I know we I know 0:17:53.400 --> 0:17:55.359 this is often cause what's the first subject, Lauren? We 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:57.640 need to talk about these automated cars. Yeah, we want 0:17:57.640 --> 0:17:59.600 to talk about the car. I do want to just 0:17:59.680 --> 0:18:01.960 say shout out to the family in Ohio. I think 0:18:01.960 --> 0:18:04.800 his name was Andre. The police they they just killed 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:07.719 the guy in Ohio and shot him and the police 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:10.600 officer if a police officer was fired. But here's my thing, 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:13.840 is it getting any better? Honestly? Since George Floyd you 0:18:13.920 --> 0:18:15.560 shoot me and then you keep telling me put my 0:18:15.600 --> 0:18:17.760 hand behind your back, nigga, you can't. I can't move 0:18:17.800 --> 0:18:20.320 my arm because you didn't shot me in it. The police, 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:23.160 we talked about this last week. It's not they don't 0:18:23.200 --> 0:18:26.400 need to redo the police. They need to reform it. 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:29.359 It needs to be some changes. You cannot keep putting 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:32.760 around pig in a square hole does not work. I 0:18:32.800 --> 0:18:35.960 do think, though, this particular situation is different. Um. And 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:39.440 I say that simply because one I want to applaud, 0:18:39.800 --> 0:18:41.800 you know, I think that I never want people to 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:45.040 think that somehow, uh you know, we we have something 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.959 against law enforcement, because I if I will speak for me, 0:18:48.080 --> 0:18:51.240 I don't. But I think that their reform is necessary 0:18:51.480 --> 0:18:55.640 in this situation. I applaud leadership because they active swiftly. 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:58.840 Not only did that officer not have his body camera 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:02.879 on like he will suppose too, he violated. They acted quickly. 0:19:02.920 --> 0:19:05.480 There was no oh, we're going to suspend with pay 0:19:05.560 --> 0:19:08.920 while we figure out and we investigate. No, he's fired. 0:19:09.000 --> 0:19:12.240 We will continue to investigate. We made a mistake because 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:14.800 this guy was on our on our payroll, and he 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:16.760 did not act the way he had been trained to 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:18.800 do and what the policy was. So I like that 0:19:18.880 --> 0:19:22.000 swift action. I also like the swift action of the 0:19:22.080 --> 0:19:25.240 officers who responded this weekend on Christmas morning to that 0:19:25.320 --> 0:19:28.840 bombing in Nashville, who immediately started knocking on doors and 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:30.360 and they looked out for each other and they got 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:32.840 people out of harm's way. Um. I just think that 0:19:32.880 --> 0:19:37.200 there are times when uh, there are many officers who 0:19:37.359 --> 0:19:39.520 there are more I believe, who do the right thing 0:19:39.640 --> 0:19:42.880 more often than not. And unfortunately it's those bad apples 0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:46.040 that keep popping up, making the entire force look bad. 0:19:46.640 --> 0:19:49.480 And Nikolas cleaning up of that meeting, nigger, you better 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:51.800 clean up for that wash your meat statement. You better 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:55.040 make a deal that the dealer is I will never 0:19:55.200 --> 0:19:58.320 wash my That's it's still ridiculous. It's as ridiculous then 0:19:58.400 --> 0:20:01.080 as it is now. Her friend she said that your 0:20:01.119 --> 0:20:05.480 meats stayed quite clean. I'm just telling you I knew her. Hey, Hey, hey, 0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:08.240 any who, let's go back because we were going somewhere 0:20:08.240 --> 0:20:09.800 else and we didn't get all sides because you brought 0:20:09.840 --> 0:20:12.000 up that bombing baby. I knew that was not no bomber. 0:20:12.000 --> 0:20:13.520 I knew that was a terrorist. And I knew he 0:20:13.560 --> 0:20:15.439 wasn't black because they didn't show his picture because they 0:20:15.440 --> 0:20:17.080