Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who
Speaker 1: talked about what's up, Welcome to a new episode, and
Speaker 1: we talked back, it's your girl, a J It's Tam Bam.
Speaker 1: I love y'all. Hey, like I'm starting to love y'all. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I'm hard on the whole. I had somebody my DM
Speaker 1: was like tell me that. It made me then feel
Speaker 1: so good to hear me say that I loved him.
Speaker 1: Every week I was like, I love you, and then
Speaker 1: I said it to her. I like, bitch, because I
Speaker 1: do love you. If nobody ever told Tam Bam loves you?
Speaker 1: What's up you'll? How was your weekend? My weekend was
Speaker 1: letty in the city. I got slow down because coronavirus
Speaker 1: is real, but I feel like I just got over it.
Speaker 1: So I got like a little like a little a
Speaker 1: thirty forty five days safety net, you know, where I
Speaker 1: just don't go crazy. And then I would go back
Speaker 1: into my safe space. But I just see even out
Speaker 1: there with no masks. I this this really happened. No,
Speaker 1: I had on a mask sometimes. I went on this
Speaker 1: dinner day on Friday night, and I put on this
Speaker 1: dress that I got from this little Blue Teak in
Speaker 1: Charlotte called Timeless Sheet. Shout out to Timeless Sheet. Both well, bitch,
Speaker 1: when I tell you I killed that little dress this weekend. Like,
Speaker 1: we walked in the restaurant and it was like a
Speaker 1: group I guess it was a birthday party, was men
Speaker 1: and women. And when I walked past the table, the
Speaker 1: table fell silent. Bitch. I was like, yeah, I know,
Speaker 1: and you know, because it's one thing when somebody think
Speaker 1: they're a bad bage, right to the bad bage actually
Speaker 1: walks in. It's like cricket, crickets, crickets. So the man
Speaker 1: who took me to dinner, his chest was pumped out
Speaker 1: all far like he had. It's just like, yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: beat y'all wit niggle, And this is exactly why we
Speaker 1: make men look better. Now. Everybody wanted him trying to
Speaker 1: figure out why there him because them holds at the
Speaker 1: table behind us. He's like, one of them is burning
Speaker 1: a hole in my head. She's trying to make eye
Speaker 1: contact with me. I was like, well, you're looking over there.
Speaker 1: You didn't be focused on the beach in front of you,
Speaker 1: because I feel like you wouldn't even notice that ship
Speaker 1: if you weren't looking at that table over there. I didn't.
Speaker 1: I didn't say focused on the bitch in front of you.
Speaker 1: I said, well, did you focus song me? He's stupid?
Speaker 1: You start thinking. To goodness, I'm about to ask no
Speaker 1: grown ass man to focus on you. Ain't. Somebody is
Speaker 1: to that table that fell solid eating meat? Catch your
Speaker 1: nigger by its toe? That was it? What else happened
Speaker 1: this weekend? Nothing else did? And do ship as per usual?
Speaker 1: Work out? Yeah, you're using the gym. I see you
Speaker 1: in the gym all weekend. That a little bit of shopping,
Speaker 1: That's about it. I did, man. I try to get
Speaker 1: in get it in both days this weekend, just as
Speaker 1: you don't never want to have no fun no more?
Speaker 1: Who are you? Justice? And like? Who me? Like? It
Speaker 1: ain't just me? No the bitches listening to the show. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about you. I do be want to have fun,
Speaker 1: but I'm trying to do something that's just all And
Speaker 1: I have a small time window. Did you need a
Speaker 1: million dollars by January one? That's really what the funk
Speaker 1: I need? Man? And plus like you in Charlotte that
Speaker 1: ship to dude, I'm not in Charlotte right now. So
Speaker 1: with the suck down here. I'm in Charleston, and it's
Speaker 1: like did you. I mean, there's a lot of nice
Speaker 1: places to go. It's a nice a lot of nice restaurants,
Speaker 1: like eating. That's about it. I'm gonna go out to
Speaker 1: a nice restaurant. But as far as hanging out, it's
Speaker 1: just like no place for like grown and sexy black adults.
Speaker 1: It's always gonna be like mixed with just file. You
Speaker 1: should create a place, but I could you make good food. No,
Speaker 1: it's gonna get shut down because don't speak, don't shoot
Speaker 1: your ship up and Charleston dog, niggas will shoot somebody
Speaker 1: gonna die in your spot, dog, it could be a
Speaker 1: nice gonna die. I'm not and I'm gonna be on
Speaker 1: there like I'm gonna be out there like Olivia Pope
Speaker 1: dragging a nigger body up my club because you can't
Speaker 1: die in here, nigga, you gotta die in the park
Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah, No, don't open up, don't open the lounge,
Speaker 1: don't do that. That's whack. It's so many nice places, man,
Speaker 1: but it's like the music gonna be whacked. I don't know,
Speaker 1: So I think I'm gonna go see Candy Man tonight.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like, let me tell you all story
Speaker 1: about my childhood. So I've been like afraid of Candy
Speaker 1: Man my entire life, and I have a traumatic story.
Speaker 1: All right. I was a little girl my family, we
Speaker 1: were having a family now. We were watching the movie
Speaker 1: and eat Chinese food, and the movie of the night
Speaker 1: was Candy Man. And my mom asked me, she was like,
Speaker 1: are you sure you want to watch this? You can
Speaker 1: go upstairs and watch something else, because this is really scary, baby,
Speaker 1: And I was like, I want to watch it. So
Speaker 1: I stayed down with everybody else and I watched that
Speaker 1: movie and it terrified the funk out of me, and
Speaker 1: I ate my little Chinese food, went to bed. It
Speaker 1: was like it was really late. The house is pitch
Speaker 1: black dark, and my stomach gets the motherfucking rumbling. That's that,
Speaker 1: And I was scared to go to the bathroom. I
Speaker 1: was terrified because it just pitched black and I couldn't
Speaker 1: turn on the light. So my grandma had sent me
Speaker 1: a boxer, like my grandma would send stuff down from
Speaker 1: New Jersey to for me and my sister, and it
Speaker 1: was a box in my room. I took the box.
Speaker 1: I took all the ship the contents out of the box,
Speaker 1: and I ship in the box, y'all. I do it
Speaker 1: in the box of my man room because I was
Speaker 1: so scared of canny man in the bathroom. It's my
Speaker 1: player was to take the box out as soon as
Speaker 1: the sun come up. I was gonna put it in
Speaker 1: the trash cat outside. But what happened was I went
Speaker 1: back to sleep. I must to wipe my ass with
Speaker 1: a soccer up now though my wapa woke me up.
Speaker 1: Tell what the fuck is that? Belly? Are why like that?
Speaker 1: Get yours up? She beat the ship out of me
Speaker 1: for do doing in the box in my room. I
Speaker 1: was so scared, dog man. Look man, black Mama's getting
Speaker 1: my fucking nerves, like trying to understand what happened. Like
Speaker 1: if you're look, if your kid ain't never shoot in
Speaker 1: a box before, I'm gonna need to understand what the
Speaker 1: fuck is going on first, Like my first thing is
Speaker 1: not to just beat the kid's ass. I'm gonna be like, yo,
Speaker 1: why did you do this? Why did you do this?
Speaker 1: My mama let me know that that was that? Okay,
Speaker 1: that's all she did. It's like if I knew my
Speaker 1: baby was that terrified dog to ship in the box
Speaker 1: in the room like I would really be sad for
Speaker 1: beating her ass about that. The fuck that's trauma, yo,
Speaker 1: what the heirs? So yeah, I'm gonna try to release
Speaker 1: that trauma. I'm gonna go watch the movie and then
Speaker 1: I'm gonna ship in the toilet after. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: oh my god. I hope you did. I hope you do.
Speaker 1: And then that's gonna be my closure. Remember I saw
Speaker 1: him dick in the box. Yo, y'all, don't tell nobody.
Speaker 1: I told y'all that this is between us, telling everybody
Speaker 1: between us. Okay, Hey, Candy Man came to make Candy
Speaker 1: Cando May came to make came to May. Let me
Speaker 1: stop for this motherfucker periance closet. Yes, I do record
Speaker 1: in a closet. My sister's big though. One of my sisters,
Speaker 1: she works at SLED with the South Carolina the Law
Speaker 1: Enforcement Division, right, and she said she tried Candy being
Speaker 1: up there in the bathroom, up there like that and
Speaker 1: again coming to the police station. Wait a minute, break,
Speaker 1: but she did, Candy Man in the bathroom. That is
Speaker 1: not coming there. She thought you was slick. I'm not
Speaker 1: coming up there. With your motherfucking police. She trying to
Speaker 1: send Candy Man up its te like she's trying to
Speaker 1: get her co workers slade, Like, why is she can
Speaker 1: juring that man up at work? Candy Man ain't crazy,
Speaker 1: He's not gonna sick and go to hell. Candy Man
Speaker 1: locked up in South Carolina? Hey, like the rest of
Speaker 1: every nigger will come to this, bitch, you're gonna get
Speaker 1: locked up, funker, no ball, like you're never gonna make
Speaker 1: it back with Oh good, that's funny, Yo, what the hell?
Speaker 1: Man look my stuff and me to get this. That
Speaker 1: was funny. Yeah, I want to see Candy Man. I
Speaker 1: used to like watch I like, for whatever reason do
Speaker 1: I like scary movies. I just like to feel scared
Speaker 1: like that and it's weird. But I like, I used
Speaker 1: to have like bad dreams, like something what happened? But
Speaker 1: I'm such a g now. I used to don't give
Speaker 1: a funk. I'd be in't here talking to ghosts and
Speaker 1: there I'll be watching the Conjuring and here by myself,
Speaker 1: just watching it like it don't scare me. Yeah, Oh,
Speaker 1: what's the other one? Not the Conjuring, it's another one.
Speaker 1: City and city is bit and Cities. That ship is Wicked.
Speaker 1: That's one of the ones I watched by myself. I
Speaker 1: can't watch that one by myself. The first one I
Speaker 1: watched with somebody. Now I watched the other by myself,
Speaker 1: but that the very first one. The city is one.
Speaker 1: That ship is Wicked. The Exorcism of Emily Rose. I
Speaker 1: watched that movie, and then I tried to reenact Emily Rose,
Speaker 1: like when she was all possessed on the floor. That
Speaker 1: was hilarious. We was in a drunken high. I say
Speaker 1: that was like twisted our body up and make it
Speaker 1: all weird sounds there like beach get off the floor. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because you you know, when you're drinking and smooking, you
Speaker 1: who your body open? Oh? She don't say much like that.
Speaker 1: I was at a clubhouse. Supernay are saying like, how
Speaker 1: how would one hijack human body? Like how would a
Speaker 1: spirit or something like? That's how nigga, When you know
Speaker 1: in your right mind, people commit commit people commit murders
Speaker 1: and crimes and all that ship all the time, and
Speaker 1: then you end up in sucking jail and county like
Speaker 1: what the fund did? I do you think they'd be possessed? Yes?
Speaker 1: I do think so, I think so? Yeah, you got well,
Speaker 1: I'm covered in the blood of Jesus. Okay, looking around,
Speaker 1: m If your head I started spinning on that, God,
Speaker 1: damn well, I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 1: right now. Sam, I'm gonna tell you right now, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna stab you first. I'm not about to wit. If
Speaker 1: my head starts may you're gonna stab me, bitch, go
Speaker 1: call up, call the pastor don't kill me. Damn Like, man,
Speaker 1: if that should start happened in real life, like what
Speaker 1: else wanna do? Well, I'm not about to risk you
Speaker 1: getting out the house. It's me. It is me. Hold on,
Speaker 1: what do I start coming to do the show like this?
Speaker 1: Go ahead say you're opening line. No bid, you're about
Speaker 1: to be like Shore, You'll off the list. Hey, this
Speaker 1: is we talk back, This is a J eight and
Speaker 1: this is I hate you Yo, you're joking. Oh man,
Speaker 1: but you know what I was about to say, like
Speaker 1: this would be the Wicked Ship. Listen, we didn't even
Speaker 1: went into what the funk we really want to talk
Speaker 1: about the day. But anyway, this sho is funny. Funny
Speaker 1: is telling me listen, what is you know? People be
Speaker 1: like maybe the people just don't say because they just
Speaker 1: know somebody's not gonna believe them. But what if those
Speaker 1: like one off situations with somebody who's never committed a crime,
Speaker 1: like and then they murder somebody right in their house
Speaker 1: or whoever they kill somebody, But really what happened is
Speaker 1: that my fucking head was spinning around and I had
Speaker 1: to kill them. Who's gonna believe that as much as
Speaker 1: people believe in spirits, as much as people believe in
Speaker 1: the Bible, all these different things, when she actually happens
Speaker 1: is like you're like if Jesus actually came back and
Speaker 1: they just be like, yeah, this is Jesus, y'all want me?
Speaker 1: Him's gonna be like, man, a little come back, Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like who the funk are y'all looking to come back?
Speaker 1: Looking for to come back? Jesus came back and like
Speaker 1: he had a stutter, and he was like, my children,
Speaker 1: you're going to baby hell man, not like a whole
Speaker 1: big hel but like baby, I just joke. He gave
Speaker 1: me this as a humor, So why are you chosing
Speaker 1: to stutter? Like what? Ain't nobody gonna leave as Jesus?
Speaker 1: Because we're looking for somebody to come through and be
Speaker 1: super think. Hey, y'all, boy looked up? Ah, so what
Speaker 1: we're talking about the day? I don't know. Let's go
Speaker 1: to commercial commercial break, So tell me about this fucking date, Tam.
Speaker 1: What are you are you going on a date with? So?
Speaker 1: Um the date? Okay, why do you look like that?
Speaker 1: I met this really nice guy and this parking lot
Speaker 1: and he was tall, dark and handsome, and he asked
Speaker 1: me for my number. I gave it to him and
Speaker 1: he asked me did I want to go to dinner?
Speaker 1: And he had a black card come pick me up.
Speaker 1: And we went to this nice restaurant here in Charlotte.
Speaker 1: And he's a really nice guy. He got his ship together.
Speaker 1: He's tall, dark and handsome and like he's got real potential.
Speaker 1: So I'm scared. So now bitches running? What the hell? Why?
Speaker 1: I mean? But y'all just met So it's not it's
Speaker 1: not like bad to be running now, But how do
Speaker 1: you how do why do you feel like you're running?
Speaker 1: Because he asked me out again for yesterday and I
Speaker 1: was like, nah, I didn't say no. I just kind
Speaker 1: of make myself unavailable because I'm I think. And I
Speaker 1: came to a conclusion I might be a commitment Folks,
Speaker 1: if this nigga, If this nigga wasn't ship and I
Speaker 1: was like, I never see any potential in him, I
Speaker 1: probably would have hung out with him. Again, it's backwards
Speaker 1: because now because the person like that I know that
Speaker 1: there is, this person can't hurt me because this ain't
Speaker 1: gonna never turn into nothing, So let me hang out
Speaker 1: with him. But when I see someone that's like got
Speaker 1: real potential to be something real, I get scared. Oh,
Speaker 1: this nigga gonna end up in leg Norman because I'm
Speaker 1: gonna fall in love and then I'm gonna have to
Speaker 1: kill him and put it and you're gonna have to
Speaker 1: carry me, help me carry his body to the lake.
Speaker 1: So is that really commitment fold or things that happen
Speaker 1: once you get committed to somebody, Because it's not really
Speaker 1: the commitment that you may have a phobia with. It
Speaker 1: might be like they're just a dumb ship that happens
Speaker 1: in relationships. Dog. So let's let's google what commitment phobia is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's see what the what the so we can get
Speaker 1: a better understanding. All Right, what is commit meant phobia?
Speaker 1: If you fear getting close to people are making relationship
Speaker 1: decisions that have a long lasting effect, such as getting married.
Speaker 1: You might have up excuse me, you might have commitment phobia.
Speaker 1: It is common to fear the unknown, but people with
Speaker 1: commitment phobia can extend this fear to other parts of
Speaker 1: their life, especially romantic relationships. So are you really you
Speaker 1: really think? Like so I can tell you about me.
Speaker 1: Let me see, I don't think I have commitment phobia
Speaker 1: because I'm just going in the next situation, like I
Speaker 1: just get out some stupid like let's try it again.
Speaker 1: I go through like I've never been hurt before, like this,
Speaker 1: you're ready to love it? Yeah, Like and if the
Speaker 1: ship don't work out, listen, I will never have a
Speaker 1: problem like getting the going through even if I'm a
Speaker 1: hundred dogs, I'm leaving my husband and then they again
Speaker 1: making me happy. But that's you know, like nigga, fuck you,
Speaker 1: I'm out. That's the thing, because when I start loving
Speaker 1: of someone, I never stopped. I never stopped. Like even
Speaker 1: my niggas that I used to love. I still love
Speaker 1: the niggas. They can't come back no more, but I
Speaker 1: still well that's yeah, you still love them, You're not
Speaker 1: in love with them. Though, So once you love somebody's like,
Speaker 1: I always want to see you doing well. I don't
Speaker 1: never want nothing bad for you, but I'm not in
Speaker 1: love with you, so of course, like if you stop
Speaker 1: loving somebody like, I'll stop liking you. But I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna stop loving you. Yeah. So now you got this dude.
Speaker 1: He's a nice guy, tall, darker hands, acting interested in
Speaker 1: But we also know as a woman, you always gotta
Speaker 1: perceive a caution, man, because these niggas do be acting
Speaker 1: nice to get the port and then all of a sudden, dada,
Speaker 1: and look I told you, like you didn't tell me anything.
Speaker 1: You were very nice. You made me believe that you
Speaker 1: like me in a way, in a different way, like
Speaker 1: on a different level. Now you're busy. I'm just so busy, bitch,
Speaker 1: I kill your motherfucking ask So wait, while a nigga
Speaker 1: telling you he's busy, so you ain't telling some other
Speaker 1: nigga you busy? Stop asking me good questions, girl, you
Speaker 1: fucking serious, girl. Fuck you don't ask me ship that Max? Yes, girl,
Speaker 1: because we live like listen, I know, like why are
Speaker 1: you chasing this nigga? This a vy dick over here?
Speaker 1: Like I just want your attention. Come, I'm like, I'm available,
Speaker 1: Like we just can't stand when the nigga available, like
Speaker 1: you've got nothing to do, nigga, like we want to
Speaker 1: chase to me. So when a man's like pushing on you,
Speaker 1: like putting the pressure on you, like you gotta be ready,
Speaker 1: ready for the pressure, like when you think you're gonna
Speaker 1: be ready for the pressure. No, man, I don't never
Speaker 1: press niggas. I'm not pressing people. Whatever I follow, I
Speaker 1: follow their energy. That's how I end up in relationships.
Speaker 1: Whatever type of time you on, I'm on that same
Speaker 1: type of time. I don't never make no assumptions. I
Speaker 1: just tell you what I ain't sucking, and then if
Speaker 1: you want access to me, you'll adjust wherever the funk
Speaker 1: you got going on. That's just how it's gonna be.
Speaker 1: I know that's right. But when I like a nigga,
Speaker 1: I'll be available. That's why I'll try so hard enough
Speaker 1: to like motherfucker's because then I have become like little
Speaker 1: putty in their hands, and I hate that. It's the
Speaker 1: cancer and me. That's why you gotta play the game though.
Speaker 1: You gotta be able today, I know, but men like that,
Speaker 1: so you gotta be available today, right and then tomorrow.
Speaker 1: You gotta go stand nigga, like you gotta keep transferring
Speaker 1: that energy. It's just it's bad. We gotta play these games.
Speaker 1: But that's just that's the way to love goes. Like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's the way. Yeah, that's the way love goes. I
Speaker 1: don't know why you gott playing games at these dudes, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know why. I can't tell you. Look, I'm
Speaker 1: sucking with you, nigga. I want to marry you like
Speaker 1: I want to be with you. That the problem is
Speaker 1: women be fantasizing about every goddamn man they come in
Speaker 1: contact with. Every dude you see potentially you like it
Speaker 1: in your mind, like damn, I probably had this nigga, baby,
Speaker 1: I can probably marry him. But oh, he's just trying
Speaker 1: to like you imagine his name, like his last name,
Speaker 1: like tam Ala Jones. You know. The first thing I'm
Speaker 1: doing is like, what's this nigga sign? I'm going to
Speaker 1: a horoscope dot com and checking out compatibility. That ship
Speaker 1: is not real. I'm pulling his NATO and chart and
Speaker 1: all that. Nigga, What time was you born? Again? What
Speaker 1: can you actually mama? What time he was you believing
Speaker 1: that ship for I don't believe. Yeah, all these characteristics
Speaker 1: and ship aligned because of when you were born. Uh,
Speaker 1: well mine that we ever done in your nato chopping
Speaker 1: for oh, my ship aligns with me? Or maybe you
Speaker 1: alive with it because you were at it and now
Speaker 1: you started acting like what you read. No, because I
Speaker 1: don't be I can like ship. I just know some
Speaker 1: of the things that my name charts are characteristics of
Speaker 1: who I am. That's just all. So I feel like
Speaker 1: you gotta give take what you can get from the ship.
Speaker 1: But yes, I'm pulling Nigga's needle charts. And the dude
Speaker 1: you went on a date with what's his birthday? Girl?
Speaker 1: Don't get me the line that's your favorite, because I
Speaker 1: don't know nothing about the nigger. I don't know what's
Speaker 1: that nigger last name? Do you do? You gotta say it?
Speaker 1: But do you know it? Said? Did you ain't interesting? Um?
Speaker 1: One of them times? No, Um, I did talk to him.
Speaker 1: We did what we talked about, um triggers and try
Speaker 1: almost on our well it was our first date, but yeah,
Speaker 1: we talked about a lot of deep things and he
Speaker 1: just got out of relationship in uh January is he
Speaker 1: actually I would have been asked, are you actually even
Speaker 1: ready for another relationship? And how long was that relationship?
Speaker 1: Because if he wasn't a five year or two years?
Speaker 1: Get ready for them? Oh uh, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't know either, girl to dare to here. Yeah, I've
Speaker 1: been single since two thousand and sixteen. I've been out
Speaker 1: here and that's really not that long. It's it only
Speaker 1: feels like that long because we in our thirties. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. If you were single for six
Speaker 1: years in your twenties is like, hey, fun time, but
Speaker 1: it's fucking crunch time for a bit right now, bitch.
Speaker 1: You don't got no time to have commitment phobia if
Speaker 1: you really want a relationships? What I'm trying to decide?
Speaker 1: Do I really want a relationship? Because anytime somebody is
Speaker 1: seems like they could be potential, I get scared and
Speaker 1: I run. Teach me how to love, show me the
Speaker 1: way to send them my heart. Nigga, I'm so lost?
Speaker 1: All right? So past relationships, how you end up in
Speaker 1: a relationship? It just happened. Um, my last relationship, I
Speaker 1: was living in Europe. I didn't have any family there.
Speaker 1: I didn't have I had friends and have you know, girlfriends.
Speaker 1: I think my my last relationship happened. I was vulnerable
Speaker 1: and I kind of just what I wanted someone there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I really did. And then I only had one boyfriend
Speaker 1: before that in my life, and both of them niggas
Speaker 1: dumped me. So so now I want to do that
Speaker 1: no more? Why the hell I will? I will fuck it.
Speaker 1: The first one dumped me, all right. Me and him
Speaker 1: were together from I was sixteen to twenty six, so
Speaker 1: we were together a long time, and he had just
Speaker 1: he moved to Atlanta. He was starting to get real money,
Speaker 1: and he just wanted to be free. You know, we
Speaker 1: have been together since we were kids, so I get it.
Speaker 1: He just wanted to experience. He hadn't had enough experiences.
Speaker 1: Neither one of us had, all right, So that's why
Speaker 1: we broke up. It's the best thing I ever did,
Speaker 1: because after that, I left Atlanta and I moved to Europe,
Speaker 1: so I probably would have just been if we stayed together,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have had all these life experiences, so that's good.
Speaker 1: Then the other one broke up with me because he
Speaker 1: couldn't handle my mouth. He tried to come back though,
Speaker 1: but I used to talk real slick with him, so
Speaker 1: I have to have uh you know, And that's something
Speaker 1: I know that I gotta work on in my next relationship.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be so spicy at the mouth, but
Speaker 1: I also have to be with a man that I
Speaker 1: respect too. That's then, that's all it is, because you know,
Speaker 1: I'm just about to just be disrespecting something grown assmate
Speaker 1: who doesn't give you any reason because I'm not a
Speaker 1: bit just be Yeah, I don't want to be with
Speaker 1: anybody I can easily disrespect or just get so annoyed
Speaker 1: with to where I'm just cussing your ass out at
Speaker 1: the drop of a dome, because that is that's just disrespectful.
Speaker 1: That ship is disrespectful, especially for a woman to be
Speaker 1: talking to a man all crazy. I don't want to
Speaker 1: do that. But that's why I feel like I got
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna be scanning, gonna pop me in the mouth.
Speaker 1: I gotta have uh Alpha, not even scared that they're
Speaker 1: gonna pop me in the mouth, but just someone I
Speaker 1: respect so much that I wouldn't even try them like that, Like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's just a reason to you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It's not like you're even looking for a reason to
Speaker 1: try him. It's just like there's never a reason for
Speaker 1: me to try him or him to try me. It's
Speaker 1: just smooth sailing. Relationships are not always going to be like,
Speaker 1: you know, you don't have some fucking problems, but she
Speaker 1: ain't gonna be stupid to where y'all just gotta be
Speaker 1: right at each other's next. That relationship was toxic for
Speaker 1: so many different reasons. So and that was my only
Speaker 1: two boyfriends in life, and never since then, I'd be like, man,
Speaker 1: funck a boyfriend. But I've had four. I've been at
Speaker 1: four relationships my whole life, and I feel like, wait, mante,
Speaker 1: wait a minute, let me not lie. Hold on, I've
Speaker 1: had some situation ships, yeah, four, and then you know,
Speaker 1: like I probably had like one situation ship, but um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. You know, you're you gotta be especially
Speaker 1: like That's why I always want to talk to women
Speaker 1: in the twenties man, because man, the people you let
Speaker 1: have access to you, they're gonna mold you like they're
Speaker 1: going to They're gonna be like the reason how why
Speaker 1: you end up where you are. Either they're gonna be
Speaker 1: like good or they're gonna be a distraction, right, don't
Speaker 1: you know what? I'm changing places with me, miss selling.
Speaker 1: So you gotta be careful man, who you give your
Speaker 1: energy to. Man, especially in your twenties, like you're supposed
Speaker 1: to be looking for your mate in your twenties. Man,
Speaker 1: But have the real live discernment. God damn man. I
Speaker 1: wish I could rewind, but I don't have no regrets.
Speaker 1: Sit up in the jail. I sit up in that jail. Hey,
Speaker 1: nigga's gonna be calling up here saying you told Tasha
Speaker 1: to be You're damn right there and told j told
Speaker 1: that it's a big brown reset button on the top
Speaker 1: of the nigga. Don't listen to a j And if
Speaker 1: you got a bay hair, you canna really see it, right, No, AJ,
Speaker 1: this is bad advice. You're gonna get somebody asked beat
Speaker 1: this week. This is good bad advice, right, And look,
Speaker 1: we'll be right back. Then let's pay some more fucking
Speaker 1: bills because we always got all these bills. Goddamn, it's
Speaker 1: like twelve bills at this point. But we'll be back,
Speaker 1: all right, So y'all be back. Let's hop a two
Speaker 1: hour dumb bitch Uh advice story segment dumb bitch stories,
Speaker 1: because we've all been a dumb bitch at least. What's
Speaker 1: a twice that's week? I don't know, man, So this
Speaker 1: dumb bitch story apparently from what I'm reading, this person
Speaker 1: maybe in prison right now, and it's a woman. So, um,
Speaker 1: I guess she gotta sell you in there. She listening
Speaker 1: and we talked back. We appreciate you, prison bay, it says. Okay.
Speaker 1: So my sister introduced me to one of her guy friends.
Speaker 1: Mind you, I just got out of a horrible relationship,
Speaker 1: so my mind was still lost. We started texting back
Speaker 1: and forth getting to know each other. He has a
Speaker 1: he owns a beauty supply store and also sells drugs.
Speaker 1: She says. Um, let me resay that he owns a
Speaker 1: beauty supply store and it's a street pharmacist, which I
Speaker 1: didn't mind because most of the guys I date are
Speaker 1: in the street ship, are into street ship. So he
Speaker 1: took me out of town and for my birthday we
Speaker 1: went to a five star hotel. He bought me all
Speaker 1: type of designer shoes and clothes, took me to the
Speaker 1: best clubs in town. We had a great time and
Speaker 1: the sex was great. After we got back from my
Speaker 1: birthday trip, he asked me if I could start making
Speaker 1: trips for him. You know what that means. I agreed
Speaker 1: because I was broke coming out of my last relationship,
Speaker 1: and I had two kids to feed. So I take
Speaker 1: a trip, you know from I'm not gonna put these
Speaker 1: city names in there. So I took a trip from
Speaker 1: point A to point B, making two hundred and fifty
Speaker 1: dollars a trip. How you driving for nigga for to hell? No, See,
Speaker 1: that's why y'all asked jail right now? You wasn't smart
Speaker 1: funness that nigga point when she when she accepted that
Speaker 1: two fifty, that nigga probably was like so fuck yeah.
Speaker 1: So um, that shows the value. I'm just telling you. Anyway,
Speaker 1: let me continue. Can we just say how far it
Speaker 1: was point A to b um ten minutes? No, point
Speaker 1: A too B was roughly I'll say an hour and
Speaker 1: a half, two hours. I'll say about let's say three hours.
Speaker 1: I'll say three hours, three hours for two hundred fifty dollars.
Speaker 1: There you gonna just work for uber. It might be
Speaker 1: two hours. I'll just say two hours. So yeah, two
Speaker 1: hundred dollars to two hours and then that's four hours around.
Speaker 1: So we could have made more doing uber or live
Speaker 1: exactly all right, So she does, she does mention, she said,
Speaker 1: which was not great money, but I needed it. So
Speaker 1: one day, one of the customers died in an apartment
Speaker 1: where he stored his stuff. He called me to come
Speaker 1: down and clean out the apartment before he calls the cops.
Speaker 1: I drove three hours there, leaving my kids, so it
Speaker 1: is a three hour trip there. He goes, I drive
Speaker 1: three hours there leaving my kids with my mom to do. So,
Speaker 1: so I get down there to clean out the apartment
Speaker 1: and put the stuff in my car. It's a dead
Speaker 1: body in there. No, I don't she put drugs in
Speaker 1: her car, but the person whose dad is in the house. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: Once we got godun cleaning an apartment, I call the
Speaker 1: cops once he was gone because he didn't want the
Speaker 1: cops to know he was there and ordered the body.
Speaker 1: So she's she's saying that he instructed her to clean
Speaker 1: the apartment out he left, and once she cleaned apartment
Speaker 1: out and then call the cops to report the body,
Speaker 1: and she and she does so, and that's what she is. Listen,
Speaker 1: let me finished they came and took the report gave
Speaker 1: I gave him the name. I gave them my name
Speaker 1: and number. So I went to his house. Once the
Speaker 1: police did their job. Forgot to tell y'all he was married,
Speaker 1: She said, I told him. I um, I told him.
Speaker 1: I told the police exactly what he wanted me to say,
Speaker 1: and we had sex right before I left. So they
Speaker 1: funk with your dead body in there. Girl, you ain't listening.
Speaker 1: So apparently it is all mixed up how she's writing this.
Speaker 1: So apparently once she left, she she she did what
Speaker 1: he told her to do. She cleaned the apartment and
Speaker 1: I'll put the stuff in her car, called the police
Speaker 1: once he left, and then he then she now drive
Speaker 1: drives back to where they're farming. Now she's at his house. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so they have sex and then she leaves, she said.
Speaker 1: So as I'm driving home, like, I got pulled over
Speaker 1: with all his drugs in my trunk. The police found
Speaker 1: eight ounces of crack, five zips it's five zip blocked
Speaker 1: bags of pills, and three pounds of marijuana. So they
Speaker 1: locked me up because I refused to tell them where
Speaker 1: I got the drugs from. So I had to sit
Speaker 1: in jail until I saw the judge to find out
Speaker 1: what my charges would be. Come to find out, the
Speaker 1: lady that died in the apartment overdose on some of
Speaker 1: the crack that was laced with finting on. You know
Speaker 1: that ramping right now? I know it was. It was
Speaker 1: a crack they found in my trunk. So my bill
Speaker 1: was at the two million dollars. While I was in
Speaker 1: jail waiting for trial, I found out I was pregnant
Speaker 1: with his baby. Damn, Um, I had. I had my
Speaker 1: family put their house up to help me get out
Speaker 1: of jail and get a lawyer. Once my family came
Speaker 1: up with three hundred thousand dollars, I was released. Once
Speaker 1: I got released, I was trying to make contact with him.
Speaker 1: He blocked my number. I tried calling his mom. She
Speaker 1: blocked my number. I went to the store and they
Speaker 1: wouldn't me in. So once my lawyer got the paperwork, Um,
Speaker 1: it turns out he was the one that called the
Speaker 1: cops on me and had them pulled me over. To
Speaker 1: put an end to the story. I'm in jail right
Speaker 1: now during twenty five years for being a Ride or
Speaker 1: Die girl love dumb bitch of the year. Damn, this
Speaker 1: is a sad story. That's horrible. Actually, that's a horrible story.
Speaker 1: It is doing that reminds me of that movie Broken
Speaker 1: Down Palace. You ever seen that? M hmm. These girls
Speaker 1: were on a trip abroad and they met some guys
Speaker 1: and um, they were like getting drunk and having sex
Speaker 1: and just being young. And these men set them up
Speaker 1: with drugs on the on the flight, put drugs in
Speaker 1: their bag to make them like a decoy for the
Speaker 1: big load that was leaving. And they went to prison
Speaker 1: in Thailand and had to do time in Thailand like years.
Speaker 1: And is that a real stories based on the real story,
Speaker 1: it's called Broken Down Palace? Wow? Yeah? Man, young women
Speaker 1: man yea. And then she has two children she left
Speaker 1: out here, like you gotta be real careful when dealing
Speaker 1: with people. He knew he had a dumb bitch at
Speaker 1: two fifty dollars. I'm gonna just I'm gonna just say
Speaker 1: that first, once you accepted that to actually do trips
Speaker 1: and ship like, he spiced you up, took you out
Speaker 1: of town, brought you some nice ship and then immediately
Speaker 1: trying to put you to work. Don't be giving these
Speaker 1: niggas y'all home addresses, because you know what that means.
Speaker 1: If somebody said what they want to sense the ship
Speaker 1: to your address, you don't do that because postal will
Speaker 1: show up to your ship. Damn st five years du
Speaker 1: all for caring about the because that's all she did
Speaker 1: was care about him. She was accepted. Did she care
Speaker 1: about him or was she trying to get money for
Speaker 1: her children? She cared too, though you will you and
Speaker 1: they're married, cleaning up drugs, taking up drugs and calling
Speaker 1: the police. And a nigger could never I never who
Speaker 1: do what? You couldn't even call me on the phone.
Speaker 1: But no ship like that, I would hang up and block.
Speaker 1: I would change my number right there. Don't call me
Speaker 1: about no ship like that? Are you stupid? I don't know, Listen,
Speaker 1: I ain't never been down as bitch like that. I've
Speaker 1: been in some real nigga ship, but I put myself in,
Speaker 1: but not like it's not gonna be some ship. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's kind of wicked man. Man. I remember and
Speaker 1: colleged me and this nigga was smoking Swede in his
Speaker 1: car and camping security got behind us and I was like, nigga,
Speaker 1: pull over so I can get out, and he said,
Speaker 1: what you mean like this is not barding and Clyde, bitch,
Speaker 1: let me out this motherfucker car. Are you stupid girl?
Speaker 1: You're already caught at that point. Were you gonna get
Speaker 1: out of run? Oh? No? He let me out. He
Speaker 1: drove fast. They wasn't right behind us, and I was like,
Speaker 1: pull over and let me out. Did he get locked?
Speaker 1: And I don't know what happened today. Hey, look for
Speaker 1: the record that he've been listening. We are not no
Speaker 1: ing that ship now. I ain't telling you can count
Speaker 1: on that. I ain't go open my mouth. I ain't
Speaker 1: telling ship. If somebody coming like they're gonna have to
Speaker 1: do their job, I ain't gonna be able to tell
Speaker 1: ship because you can't tell. Don't tell me ship. So
Speaker 1: if they ask you anything, when I say, I don't know,
Speaker 1: that's the truth, right, Yo, boy, you got to be
Speaker 1: more careful. Man. I feel so sad. That is so sad.
Speaker 1: Like I want to write her. I want to write her.
Speaker 1: I want to see her care package, but then she
Speaker 1: might asks some money. People just get care packages. You
Speaker 1: can buy. You can put stuff on the canteen, like
Speaker 1: I think you can send. I don't know. I would
Speaker 1: assume she's in federal prison. There's no way she's in
Speaker 1: the state printed prison. You know, state prison. You can
Speaker 1: like send them like canteen packages through this website or whatever,
Speaker 1: but I don't know about federal prison. You probably just
Speaker 1: have to send him some money. But they may have
Speaker 1: the same canteen type system where you could send them
Speaker 1: like candy bars, Like they'll package the stuff up and
Speaker 1: ship it, but you have to the ship is inflated
Speaker 1: to so much like the candy bar might cost five dollars. Damn. Yes,
Speaker 1: you're getting the box of bullshit that you probably would
Speaker 1: pay fifteen dollars for at the grocery store. You're paying
Speaker 1: fifty or sixty dollars for to send it to them
Speaker 1: in prison. Damn. The prison system is real wicked like prison.
Speaker 1: Know the person is in prison too, And now you
Speaker 1: also punishing a family. You're trying to get as much
Speaker 1: money extorting their family to take care of them, because
Speaker 1: what can that person do from jail. They can make
Speaker 1: the couple of dollars a month or whatever working in
Speaker 1: pay for nothing slaves exactly. They'd be in their pretty
Speaker 1: mother license plates and doing all kinds of different ships,
Speaker 1: working cleaning the streets, working for the city. A lot
Speaker 1: of things are made for damn near free man. That's
Speaker 1: why we got to make some changes in the black community. Man.
Speaker 1: That ships it's um, it's just like a helpless feeling.
Speaker 1: It's just a real helpless feeling. Man. You'd be trying
Speaker 1: to tell ladies, don't be moving, no dope for these niggas,
Speaker 1: especially if you're not getting paid, and be smart, because
Speaker 1: that is not getting paid. No, be smart. Hey, look
Speaker 1: I need a percentage. I'm the one taking all the
Speaker 1: fucking ridge exactly. He called the police on her, fucked her,
Speaker 1: then called the police on her so she could go
Speaker 1: to prison for his drugs because because he knew he
Speaker 1: couldn't sell them drugs. No more could he have because
Speaker 1: it's a death on that fitting all lace drugs, right,
Speaker 1: there's the body on it, yep. So that if she
Speaker 1: gotta be doing federal time, because then that that escalates
Speaker 1: your charges if if if a murder happens, um and
Speaker 1: the commission of a crime like whatever the crime is
Speaker 1: that ship man, a little scale that they got for
Speaker 1: federal time. Man, that ship is crazy. That ship is
Speaker 1: helled crazy. Man. That's sad. We'll stay strong to us.
Speaker 1: We love you over here. We talked back, keep tuning in,
Speaker 1: and we have no advice. We don't have advice for
Speaker 1: you because you're already in there. We have advice for
Speaker 1: women that's just not or women who out here doing
Speaker 1: that type of ship because they need money. Be real
Speaker 1: smart man. If you're gonna do that ship, smart and
Speaker 1: make them pay out worth your don't do that ship
Speaker 1: because if you're in prison, be having hell of bitches.
Speaker 1: Men in prison be having a lot of women. I
Speaker 1: know I went to prison. Women don't be having nobody.
Speaker 1: I went to jail to see this nigga that I
Speaker 1: thought was my nigga one time, and you had to
Speaker 1: sign in, and I've seen that other bitch name on
Speaker 1: the signing book from earlier. I like, ain't that about
Speaker 1: a bit? I would? I would punish his ass. You
Speaker 1: can never get me back on the phone. How are
Speaker 1: you gonna have this bitch come to here? He used
Speaker 1: to send me checks from the jail. They used to
Speaker 1: look like inco text chicks. Thank you baby yo uh.
Speaker 1: And look that's how the funk we got for y'all.
Speaker 1: Of That story was stressful. That story stressed me out,
Speaker 1: and why I feel hot The funk is after cot
Speaker 1: because that ship, that story, man, that's that's a sad story.
Speaker 1: That could be a movie. Girl, I'm not gonna say
Speaker 1: that could have been me. But boy, you are really gone.
Speaker 1: I wasn't some ship a few years ago, tam, you know,
Speaker 1: but not that type of ship that right there. Listen,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I would have been trying to get
Speaker 1: money together to get the fuck once I had made
Speaker 1: that three all fune No, I was definitely out the country.
Speaker 1: I would have tried to get up out of here.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you got nick, but from your mom America,
Speaker 1: not South America. But we're gonna check your mama house.
Speaker 1: How oh yeah, well they've better still pay that ball.
Speaker 1: But like, I'll send your money from Cuba. But when
Speaker 1: I tell you I was gonna catch a Greyhound bus
Speaker 1: to Miami beachum, I had to swim that ninety miles
Speaker 1: from Miami to Cuba. I was out of there. I
Speaker 1: can see that lazy we're floating in the water down that.
Speaker 1: But y'all turned to Mermaid and you talk about twenty
Speaker 1: five years what excuse me? I can't do it? All right, y'all, listen,
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