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Speaker 2: This is Melissa would health uh, Melissa would Tepperberg. I

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Speaker 2: know Melissa. My recollection of you, Melissa is being at Marquis,

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Speaker 2: I think on Halloween in a costume and just like

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Speaker 2: saying I had a good costume.

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Speaker 1: That one year. That was my Marilyn Monroe year.

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Speaker 2: So I feel like, and I've known Noah, I can't

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Speaker 2: your husband. I don't know how long i've known him.

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Speaker 2: I have to have known him for thirty years easily,

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Speaker 2: there's yeah, it has to be thirty years. But so

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Speaker 2: I was there, which was also rare because I don't

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Speaker 2: go out that much even back then. And I was

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Speaker 2: at Marquis and I was wearing a marily mon Roe costume,

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Speaker 2: and I definitely feel like I looked good and I

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Speaker 2: saw Noah, and I feel like that's the first time

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Speaker 2: he reduced me to you in a formal way. I

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Speaker 2: could be wrong, but I feel like that's when you

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Speaker 2: and I really like met and talked for a minute,

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Speaker 2: and you were maybe cocktail waitressing.

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Speaker 3: We weren't dating when I was cocktail waitressing, so then

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Speaker 3: maybe I'm mixing stories. Were you cocktail waitressing when I

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Speaker 3: met you? I feel like I met you as a waitress,

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Speaker 3: because he wouldn't have told me you were a waitress.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like I met you as a waitress.

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Speaker 3: I don't think so. No, you could have, because I

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Speaker 3: literally met everyone when I was cocktail waitressing. But I

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Speaker 3: would remember. I think what he was saying is she

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Speaker 3: used to cocktail waitress here. That's how we met. But

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Speaker 3: when we started dating, I was no longer cocktail waitressing

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Speaker 3: or working for him.

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Speaker 2: So you were working for him as a cocktail waitress.

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Speaker 2: And then what did you go to do when you

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Speaker 2: got together?

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Speaker 1: Like, how did that?

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Speaker 2: I don't remember how that all happened, but I do, Yes,

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Speaker 2: I do think I met you as someone with him,

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Speaker 2: but it didn't seem like serious serious when I met you.

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Speaker 3: It was probably like the very very beginning.

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Speaker 2: Okay, great, So what happened You were working there and

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Speaker 2: tell me the.

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Speaker 1: Story from your perspective.

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Speaker 3: Well, I was working there for years. I was working

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Speaker 3: four nights a week, cockta waitressing at night, and then

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Speaker 3: during the day I would get up early go to casting.

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Speaker 3: It was like my days were insane. I like, think back,

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Speaker 3: and I really don't know how I did it because

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Speaker 3: I was just burning the candle at both ends. And

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Speaker 3: exactly right. Isn't it amazing? Like how you.

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Speaker 1: Were young, this is what it was. Yeah, and you

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Speaker 1: had work ethics right.

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Speaker 3: And I would also wake up before I even had

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Speaker 3: castings and work out for an hour, like it was

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Speaker 3: just unreal the lifestyle that I lived. But it just

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Speaker 3: got to the point where I started making real money modeling,

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Speaker 3: and I just, you know, cocktail waitressing and working in

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Speaker 3: really hard. It's so hard on you, not just physically

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Speaker 3: modeling full time. And that was like, you know, I

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Speaker 3: and Noah and I were always just friendly, but we

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Speaker 3: weren't even really friends. It was more just I looked

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Speaker 3: at him as my boss, you know. And then I,

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Speaker 3: you know, my ex and I broke up. And you

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Speaker 3: know how Noah is, he invites you to all the

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Speaker 3: when you stop saying things like I would never you know,

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Speaker 3: But we're so quick to judge a situation on what

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Speaker 3: we think we know. Someone asks, and I can own

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Speaker 3: that one hundred percent that I did that, and that's true.

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Speaker 3: It just blocked anything, you know that.

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Speaker 2: I was a cocktail waitress also, and this is interesting,

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Speaker 2: I'm realizing this in real time. So I was a

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Speaker 2: cocktail waitress in Boston at M eighty working for Seth Greenberg, who,

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Speaker 2: if I'm not mistaken, was one of Noah and his

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Speaker 1: Because did Noah go to school in.

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Speaker 2: Boston or no no j Okay, So this guy, Seth Greenberg,

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Speaker 1: That guy I.

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Speaker 2: Worked for him. So you and I went through the

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Speaker 2: same right of passage. Interestingly enough, I was a cocktail

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Speaker 2: Young because the last song that Seth would play every

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Speaker 2: night at M eighty and Paradise was Forever Young. So

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Speaker 2: funny stories back then. But yes, so okay, so I

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Speaker 2: have met you and then I met you other times

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Speaker 2: and we know each other not like friends, but we're

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Speaker 2: so it must be a very I don't want to

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Speaker 2: it that are really like going for it at all times.

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Speaker 2: Know what I mean, Like you have two you have

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Speaker 2: two peacocks in your house, which is interesting.

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Speaker 3: Right, we do, and both we're all fire signs in

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Speaker 3: my house and my kids are fire signs, so we're Wow,

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Speaker 3: there's a lot of heat heat. And yes, you know,

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Speaker 3: we're very much both very strong personalities. We're both bosses.

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Speaker 3: But I think the thing that works so well is

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Speaker 3: that we have so much respect and love and admiration

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And well, your husband is he likes entrepreneurial spirit

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Speaker 2: in other people. He respects it, he nods it, he

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Speaker 2: feeds off of it, he wants to hear from it,

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Speaker 2: like you know, there's never been a time that he

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Speaker 2: he doesn't like me, and I know he likes me,

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Speaker 2: but I just mean, like he knows that I'm a

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Speaker 2: gonna get, so always Yeah, so you, I but you're

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Speaker 2: at a different stage in your career. I mean, he's

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Speaker 2: So tell me how that all went down. I didn't

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Speaker 1: It makes sense.

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Speaker 2: You're beautiful, so you were modeling, you were casting, you

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Speaker 2: were trying to make a living in New York. Where

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Speaker 3: I mean I grew up. I grew up in a

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Speaker 3: And I think just growing up and knowing that so young,

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Speaker 2: But you're still also in the climb. You will hit

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Speaker 2: it doesn't matter that Noah was successful, like you were

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Speaker 2: is also more admirable because when you get with somebody

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Speaker 2: and the machine's too big, and you owe yourself to

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Speaker 2: to only take all you want to take everything off.

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Speaker 2: That's not something you really want to do. And I

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Speaker 2: mean even like Tuesday, No I don't want to go there. No,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to do that photoshoot.

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Speaker 2: It's either giving me philanthropy, or it's giving me so

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Speaker 2: much money I can't turn it down, or it's something

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Speaker 2: more honed, and then that's really the sweet spot because

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Speaker 2: that's when everything will flood in in a way that

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Speaker 2: like I did it precipice, and then you're really literally

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Speaker 2: to someone like you for sure, and you're probably not

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Speaker 1: But it's good to know that that will happen.

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Speaker 2: And that incided with a massive caddy, a plastic caddy

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Speaker 1: And my entire life, her entire life, I don't know what.

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Speaker 2: stunningly beautiful and fucked up house. What way more like

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Speaker 2: for seventy plus years, sixty years and never admitted it,

437
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 2: to the point where we'd be on vacation together and

438
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 2: I would be like this beliem mea cop up until

439
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:14,919
Speaker 2: I was in my teens in high school and college

440
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 2: and like following her like a crazy person, and like

441
00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 2: you could never get her to admit it, and it

442
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 2: would never. She would she would like, I mean, in

443
00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:25,040
Speaker 2: the bathroom for two hours, and she would yell at

444
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,159
Speaker 2: every waiter for things not being exactly runny and the

445
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:29,280
Speaker 2: way they're supposed to be, and she would yell at everybody,

446
00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 2: and she would smash the entire house.

447
00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:33,359
Speaker 1: And she was also an alcoholic and so like.

448
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 2: The slice of like I have seen the road that

449
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 2: you did not take like I have lived the road

450
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 2: as like that was my mother's child. Yeah, so it's

451
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 2: insane because you chose something that's extremely self loathing that

452
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:54,920
Speaker 2: you were doing, and then you could to get out

453
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 2: of it is impossible because it's not like you're taking

454
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:02,680
Speaker 2: away alcohol what you've done in your life. You're taking

455
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:04,479
Speaker 2: away something that's in your life all the time.

456
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:04,880
Speaker 1: It's food.

457
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 2: You have to have a relationship with food, which you

458
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 2: now do. And you talk about health and we can

459
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:10,440
Speaker 2: get into that, but I'm just saying it's very it's

460
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 2: a different type of thing because it is there and

461
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 2: it's tempting and you're emotional and you want to eat something,

462
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 2: and then you can eat more. You know, you have

463
00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,160
Speaker 2: the tools to get rid of it. And so it's

464
00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:20,880
Speaker 2: really a sick, crazy thing.

465
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,679
Speaker 3: It is. It really is. And I like, I feel

466
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 3: your pain so deeply because I was, you know, a

467
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:33,920
Speaker 3: product of that in different forms growing up, but then

468
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 3: I was becoming that too, and I saw it like

469
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:43,359
Speaker 3: I saw it so clearly, and I just knew in

470
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 3: that moment or there's this other road you can take

471
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:51,640
Speaker 3: that's scary as hell. I don't know, but I can

472
00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:56,160
Speaker 3: choose different like I can choose different things to cope,

473
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 3: because I think I started to just see like these

474
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 3: were coping mechanisms, these were the tools that I had

475
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 3: adapted over the years because I was living in survival mode,

476
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:13,200
Speaker 3: and I it was like, just like that moment, I

477
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 3: was like, I'm asking for help because I didn't know

478
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 3: what to do, truly, And I remember calling a friend

479
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 3: asking for her therapist information. And I think the moment

480
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:28,880
Speaker 3: you surrender to thinking that it's your strength that's going

481
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 3: to get you through every and like that was me

482
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:33,639
Speaker 3: my whole life, Like I'm like, I've got this, I

483
00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 3: can do this. I can work at the farm, and

484
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 3: I can get the money for the supplies my sister

485
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 3: needs for school. And it was like that was my

486
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 3: whole life feeling that way. And I think I always

487
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,160
Speaker 3: thought I could handle everything and I could take care

488
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:49,120
Speaker 3: of everything that's.

489
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,680
Speaker 2: From the outside. Though that's like attacking a problem that's

490
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 2: not like from the inside, you know what I mean.

491
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 2: I get that too, And you're right, I was going

492
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:57,199
Speaker 2: down the same role. I wasn't going down the same

493
00:26:57,240 --> 00:27:00,119
Speaker 2: road because I never made myself throw up, but controlling

494
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 2: by like going out being mad at myself, drinking, eating,

495
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:05,639
Speaker 2: feeling gross and then not eating for a couple of

496
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,159
Speaker 2: days and starting all over again. I didn't have a

497
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 2: good relationship with food, which was how I wrote my

498
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:11,640
Speaker 2: book Naturally Thin and became a natural food chef.

499
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:13,959
Speaker 1: So we have some similarities.

500
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 2: So you intervene and you get into therapy, and how

501
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:25,440
Speaker 2: does that morph into fitness and not drinking and these

502
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 2: healthy concoctions and this lifestyle that you now.

503
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: Live in.

504
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 2: And does it ever get tiring to be working out regularly?

505
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 2: Like for that to be your business, that people expect

506
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:42,440
Speaker 2: for you to always be exercising, that seems like challenging

507
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 2: to me. I think I've met Tracy Anderson and she

508
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 2: used to say, like people should be working at six

509
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:47,399
Speaker 2: days a week. And I think I got into like

510
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,479
Speaker 2: a very friendly argument or on my talk show, I

511
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 2: was like, what you know so? And I sometimes think

512
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 2: about you or think about her, and I'm like, what

513
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 2: is she just decide She's like doesn't want to work

514
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 2: out anymore. It's just wants to like walk.

515
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:57,439
Speaker 3: You know.

516
00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 2: I just think about it because it's like a lot

517
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 2: to get on the mat every day do with the

518
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 2: stuff you do. I don't do that ever I walk maximum.

519
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:05,919
Speaker 2: So I want to hear about like that whole journey

520
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 2: and all and the pressure and all that.

521
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:12,400
Speaker 3: I'm so glad you asked about it and and your

522
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 3: perspective because it's really important. So after like really doing

523
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 3: the work, and like when I say that, I mean

524
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 3: getting really honest with myself, which is really hard to do.

525
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 3: And I think people think they're doing that, but they're not.

526
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 3: And I feel as if just this entire journey is

527
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 3: I'm so radically transparent with myself and that's what has

528
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:42,479
Speaker 3: helped me continue to just I think, stay on this

529
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 3: path of internal growth because I you know, stay with

530
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 3: therapy because that has really helped me just let it

531
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 3: all out in a safe space where you're not dumping

532
00:28:56,840 --> 00:29:00,320
Speaker 3: on every single person in your life. But also, you know,

533
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 3: I had a horrible relationship to food, but over time

534
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:08,719
Speaker 3: healing my relationship to myself, I really realized it was

535
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 3: never the food, it was how I felt about me.

536
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 3: I looked at the mirror and it all really really

537
00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 3: shifted when I started meditating. That was when it was

538
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 3: everything slowly, very very slowly. I started to see everything differently.

539
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 3: The most important thing I saw differently was myself. I

540
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 3: became so much more compassionate and loving and kind and

541
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:39,760
Speaker 3: empathetic towards everything I had gone through, towards who I

542
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 3: was you know today, And that shifted the way that

543
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 3: I started doing everything, the way that I was moving

544
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 3: my body. I started moving like I love myself like.

545
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 3: It's really amazing what happens when you're not beating yourself

546
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 3: up or going through a workout because of what you

547
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 3: ate the night before, torturing yourself. Fear based I call

548
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 3: that fear based exercise. Yes, fear based exercise. I did

549
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 3: it for years, and the crazy thing is I didn't

550
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 3: get to a happy place within myself. I actually gained

551
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 3: weight same living That weight was fight or flight, No,

552
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 3: one hundred percent.

553
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 2: That's what I tried to explain to people because it's

554
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 2: the same thing I was trying to explain to you

555
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 2: about business before. When you're white knuckling and holding onto everything. Yes,

556
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:24,719
Speaker 2: when people are broke, they have to work their asses

557
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 2: off and you have to get there. And I used

558
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 2: to have a five hundred dollars car with the crack

559
00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 2: windshield and I was up twenty four hours and that

560
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 2: was that. But once you hit, if you're still white

561
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 2: knuckling and you're like desperate about work.

562
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 1: It won't work.

563
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,560
Speaker 2: You have to like sort of allow for things not

564
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,959
Speaker 2: to happen and like let the blood flow in it.

565
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 2: And it's the same thing with relationship to food. I

566
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 2: feel the exact same way when when I was on

567
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 2: a diet and everything I.

568
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 1: Had to be steamed and we had all these rules.

569
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 2: That's when you were, you know, twenty thirty pounds heavier

570
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 2: because you just had a terrible relationship with it. It's

571
00:30:57,600 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 2: like something toxic. You're holding onto it. It won't your body,

572
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 2: your energy, it won't allow you to just have a

573
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 2: normal relationship with food. And exercise, by the way, people

574
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 2: have a bad People go exercise like crazy so they

575
00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 2: can eat, and then you're on another version of a treadmill.

576
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 2: I'm exercising or I have to go exercise because quote unquote.

577
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 1: I was bad.

578
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 2: You're not bad, you weren't good. It's just it's not

579
00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 2: your best friend or your enemy.

580
00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 3: It is food.

581
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:37,960
Speaker 2: So I think that part of exercise people have to

582
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 2: have a good relationship with it and they have to

583
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:42,720
Speaker 2: be able to just like do it because it's working

584
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 2: for them if they can. But if they can't you know,

585
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 2: some people are obsessed and running, obsessed about they're gonna

586
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 2: go on vacation because of their workouts.

587
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 1: They're not gonna enjoy it. They don't want to go

588
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 1: to this.

589
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 2: Office, this hotel in a business hotel because they're not

590
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 2: gonna have a gym, Like people get crazy. So I

591
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 2: feel like that can also be very noisy for people

592
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 2: if not managed to food.

593
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 1: The food and the exercise, I.

594
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 3: Mean, it just increases your cortisol, like your stress levels

595
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 3: are through the roof. And I was that person, so

596
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 3: I know how that way of life feels to live,

597
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 3: and it is heavy and it's daunting, and it's not enjoyable.

598
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 3: It's just not So Once I started meditating, and then

599
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:29,600
Speaker 3: I started moving and combining the two forms of exercise

600
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 3: that I liked, but there were to me, there were

601
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:36,479
Speaker 3: things within both of them that I wanted different, Like

602
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 3: I wanted yoga to have way more flow, and I

603
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 3: wanted pilates to feel less like here's this move. Stop.

604
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:47,480
Speaker 2: Yes, that's what I don't like about pilates. Yeah, calisthenics

605
00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 2: to me, So I.

606
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 3: Started blending them and literally moving in a way that

607
00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:57,480
Speaker 3: my body had never really moved before with the combination

608
00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 3: of the two, and I started setting up my phone

609
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 3: like I had an iPod or a tripod from Amazon.

610
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 3: I had no lighting, no sound, but I started sharing

611
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 3: these little things, like what it was like to wake

612
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 3: up in the morning and not reach for your phone

613
00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 3: first thing, or have coffee first thing in the morning,

614
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 3: and actually take a moment to be with your breath,

615
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 3: to be with what is in your life, which we're

616
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 3: all running from. We're running from ourselves, running from our

617
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 3: feelings and our thoughts and the things and the list

618
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 3: that we have to manage because it's a lot. But

619
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 3: I started to really understand and learn that when I

620
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 3: could actually bring myself into a place where I could

621
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 3: tap into my parasympathetic nervous system, which helps us. I

622
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 3: think of it as like the peaceful state where you

623
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 3: can rest and digest. And by the way, I had

624
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 3: cystoic acnea all over my face while I started this journey,

625
00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 3: which was a massquest to get to the bottom of that.

626
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 3: Because I had tried accutate. I saw every single doctor,

627
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 3: top dermatologist and was just told I needed to do

628
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:11,279
Speaker 3: a second round. Meanwhile knowing that what that pill was

629
00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 3: doing to destroy the microbiome and was horrible for my

630
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 3: enter system. Like I was just like, not adding up.

631
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: There has to be a different way. And I slowly

632
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:26,760
Speaker 3: started to discover through my practice there was a different way,

633
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:30,160
Speaker 3: and I started to feel really good and I was

634
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 3: living in a state of contentment and joy within myself

635
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:38,320
Speaker 3: that I was like, it was so contagious that I

636
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 3: had no idea how or what I was doing when

637
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 3: I was sharing it, but I knew there was something

638
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 3: greater than me that said you have to share this,

639
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:53,919
Speaker 3: You have to share the simplicity. So to go back

640
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:58,480
Speaker 3: to what you were saying about, does it ever feel heavy?

641
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:04,240
Speaker 3: Do I feel like it's too much to exercise? Truly consistently?

642
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,240
Speaker 3: Not one day have I ever felt that from doing

643
00:35:08,239 --> 00:35:10,520
Speaker 3: this for almost a decade. And I'll tell you why.

644
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:14,440
Speaker 3: Because the way that I started sharing this work was

645
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,720
Speaker 3: using what you have available to you, no longer feeling

646
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:20,319
Speaker 3: like you need all of the things to get something in,

647
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 3: and taking the time that you have and using that

648
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 3: getting something in. It was more about just squeezing it in.

649
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 3: You know, I had had Benjamin at this time and

650
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 3: would have him in the bouncy chair, and I you know,

651
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:40,439
Speaker 3: he'd be like sleeping in the chair and I would

652
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 3: get like a fifteen minute full body in and I

653
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:47,640
Speaker 3: was great for the day. And I started to realize

654
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 3: that my connection to exercise was physically focused for all

655
00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 3: of those years, But what I didn't really connect to

656
00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 3: until I started meditating was that this was strength my

657
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 3: mind in ways I didn't connect the two, and in return,

658
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 3: like the icing and the bonus on the cake, was

659
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 3: physically being in the best shape of my entire freaking life.

660
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 3: So I mean, I did all those things that you

661
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 3: were saying the hour of this the six seven, feeling

662
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:26,399
Speaker 3: like it needs to be this heavy thing in order

663
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 3: to see results, and I'm here to tell you and

664
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 3: why I am. So it's like this gets me out

665
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 3: of bed in the morning because I'm like, no, it

666
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:39,760
Speaker 3: doesn't have to be that way. And it's not about

667
00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:43,080
Speaker 3: I have to exercise today. It's that I get to

668
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:45,879
Speaker 3: I get to move my body in this way. And

669
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 3: I know damn well what it feels like to hate myself,

670
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 3: to feel like shit, to not want to get out

671
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 3: of bed, to not want to carry on. So exercise

672
00:36:59,880 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 3: is something that has given me life, and it's shown

673
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 3: me my own beauty and help me see things in

674
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 3: life that I've never been able to see, so I

675
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 3: don't look at it in that way anymore. And this

676
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 3: is this is medicine for my mind and my body,

677
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 3: and it has given me so much strength to do

678
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 3: all of the things that I'm doing. And it's it's

679
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 3: just revealed something to me that I think is so

680
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 3: important to just emphasize for all of these, you know,

681
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 3: the generations to come, all of the younger generations, the

682
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 3: ones before us, that there's a different way of doing

683
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 3: things and it doesn't have to fit into this mold

684
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:50,439
Speaker 3: that we've been told for so many years by some

685
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 3: of the you know, the most thought after professionals in

686
00:37:56,360 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 3: the space of fitness. And that's how I was able to,

687
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 3: you know, slowly start sharing on Instagram. And then it

688
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:07,799
Speaker 3: just got to the point where I was like, I

689
00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 3: need a home base, like I need somewhere people can

690
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 3: go to. And I, you know, I built my first site.

691
00:38:14,160 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 3: I built a subscription business. I built a paywall behind

692
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 3: the website. It was janky, it wasn't great, but I

693
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 3: did it. And I just started building this community. And

694
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:30,399
Speaker 3: it was through the connection of really listening and understanding

695
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:37,880
Speaker 3: what people wanted to really be broken down in how

696
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:41,680
Speaker 3: to way for not just like me showing my life

697
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:44,000
Speaker 3: in the way. I was like, how can you do

698
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 3: that too?

699
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:47,480
Speaker 2: Well, that's what I'm picking up the most. I used

700
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 2: to I had a part of I think it was

701
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:52,919
Speaker 2: naturally thin when it started. Use what you have when

702
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 2: you can, like do what you can when you can

703
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 2: use what you have, meaning if it's cooking, it's like

704
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 2: what's around. And if you're exercising, and like you said,

705
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:01,719
Speaker 2: if you can only do fifteen minutes or you can

706
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 2: do ten minutes, or you're stretching, or you're breathing, you're

707
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,400
Speaker 2: taking a walk, that's what you have available to you,

708
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:09,239
Speaker 2: versus saying, let me just not do anything, which I

709
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:11,479
Speaker 2: really do Like I.

710
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:12,839
Speaker 1: Like that and I get that.

711
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,920
Speaker 2: And are you did you start out meditating like on

712
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 2: an app? Did you go to one of these gurus?

713
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 2: What do you and how long do you do it for?

714
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 3: I started. I learned through transcendental meditation. I took a

715
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 3: weekend workshop and I practiced that way for a very

716
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 3: long time, but to the point where it started to

717
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 3: feel because in that model it's very much or philosophy,

718
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:43,799
Speaker 3: I should say, it's twenty minutes in the morning and

719
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 3: it's twenty minutes later in the day. That's forty minutes.

720
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 3: And I think when you hear that, most people run

721
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 3: check out. It's hard to stay consistent with that. So

722
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 3: I had discovered through having kids and still knowing that

723
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 3: this was so important and just being truly devoted to

724
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,719
Speaker 3: this practice because for me it was it was like

725
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:11,399
Speaker 3: that daily medication and that I was filling my mind

726
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:15,799
Speaker 3: and my body with. I started to blend different styles,

727
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 3: and I mean it's still this constant evolution of integrating

728
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 3: different things. Breathwork, mantra, a little bit of meditative movement,

729
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 3: and I was blending things in my own way, which

730
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 3: is kind of I mean what I've always enjoyed, right,

731
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 3: It's like learning something making it your Yeah, there's no rule.

732
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:41,280
Speaker 2: And people get intimidated. And you could take I've taken

733
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:44,759
Speaker 2: those beaded necklaces where it is all these different colored

734
00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 2: beads and they have a tassel for anyone listening, like

735
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 2: at a yoga class.

736
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:49,359
Speaker 1: They sell them. You can just take any necklace of yours.

737
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 2: You could take a rosary bead and like you go

738
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 2: one bead at a time, like you touch one bead

739
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 2: and then you take a breath in and out in

740
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,479
Speaker 2: your nose, and then you go to the next bead,

741
00:40:57,520 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 2: and then when you hit the tassel like you know,

742
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:01,800
Speaker 2: and then next time you could go all the way around.

743
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:06,320
Speaker 2: Or just breathing in and out is meditation. Just breathing

744
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:07,959
Speaker 2: in and out. And you don't have to be sitting

745
00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 2: up if it's uncomfortable, you can lay down like.

746
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:11,879
Speaker 1: You could do what you need to do. You could

747
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 1: be on a bench outside.

748
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 2: I think people get intimidated by the word meditation when

749
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:19,879
Speaker 2: it really is just being still present and breathing, and

750
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 2: you will get distracted, you will think of other things.

751
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:24,759
Speaker 2: Just do your best to get back to center. I

752
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,200
Speaker 2: think that that's that's the thing exactly.

753
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 3: That's I think a lot of people, and myself included,

754
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:32,040
Speaker 3: I used to judge my practice. I would say I

755
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 3: didn't know that wasn't a good meditation. Oh I didn't

756
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 3: meditate today, or it wasn't deep enough. And every single

757
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 3: day is so different. I mean, somebodys are right. That's

758
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:43,880
Speaker 3: why I have walking meditation, lights up the wall, meditation,

759
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 3: lying down meditations. I mean I have meditated, and I

760
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 3: mean airplanes, benches, taxis any bathrooms, Like I before speaking

761
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:58,320
Speaker 3: or something, I always go into the bathroom.

762
00:41:58,400 --> 00:41:59,240
Speaker 1: I do a little moment.

763
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:04,319
Speaker 3: But it's just bringing that awareness and that consciousness right

764
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 3: that we spend a lot of time and energy scrolling

765
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:10,799
Speaker 3: on Instagram, so instead of doing that right, taking that

766
00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 3: active choice and coming back and just it's like watching

767
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:19,879
Speaker 3: that inflow and that outflow of breath even for one minute.

768
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 1: I agree, and it changes.

769
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 2: Like you could have a delay at an airport and

770
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:27,480
Speaker 2: you'll notice you react differently based on you're just generally

771
00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 2: how you deal with things. You'll see how your kids like, ah, mom,

772
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:31,719
Speaker 2: why wait what? And you're just like it is what

773
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 2: it is, like you're more of just you know, because

774
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 2: to your point, if you're about to do a speech,

775
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:38,919
Speaker 2: or if you're going into something, or if you're seeing

776
00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:41,800
Speaker 2: your in laws, or if there's a holiday dinner or some.

777
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: Shit show you've got to deal with.

778
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:47,120
Speaker 2: It's like taking a steak out of a freezer and

779
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 2: sticking it out in the sun. Otherwise, like you just

780
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 2: you sometimes need like to get some equilibrium in between

781
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 2: things going on, and breathing is a good way to

782
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 2: do that. Like and yes, sometime at the end of

783
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,239
Speaker 2: the night before you your own a bed, like to

784
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 2: try to breathe in and out fifteen times. You'll probably

785
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,840
Speaker 2: be asleep by the time you finish. And in the

786
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 2: morning to try and breathe out, breathe in and out

787
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:10,920
Speaker 2: fifteen to twenty five times, so it doesn't have to

788
00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:13,439
Speaker 2: be so daunting. I agree with that, and I don't

789
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 2: always do what I love yoga, but it's just nice

790
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 2: to know that it's something there that is like a

791
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 2: nice glass of water when you're thirsty, you could just

792
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 2: pick it up and like it's right there for you

793
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 2: because it's in your body.

794
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 1: So I think that's amazing.

795
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:29,560
Speaker 2: And does your fam does your family ever feel what

796
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: does Noah ever feel?

797
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 3: Like?

798
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 2: Is he fully quote unquote on board? Like if he

799
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 2: wakes up in the morning and he's always connected and

800
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:38,239
Speaker 2: he picks up his phone, do you care what he's doing?

801
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 2: Does it trigger you like does he have to be

802
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 2: part of this way of life completely?

803
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:44,880
Speaker 1: Or does he have his own way of life?

804
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 2: Like you know what I mean, because I'm sure he's

805
00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 2: I've seen him drink your smoothies and like do some

806
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 2: of it, But I can't imagine he's fully you know,

807
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 2: Noah would health now, so what is he like about this?

808
00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 3: You know, Noah? He well, I will I will fully

809
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:07,919
Speaker 3: admit that I tried to control that aspect of him

810
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 3: and just like, don't do this, do that, and that

811
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 3: doesn't work. And for anyone listening, the more push and

812
00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 3: pull and force, it's like just rubbing sandpaper together. So

813
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 3: for me, I think a lot of it was just

814
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 3: the acceptance of everyone around me, even family life, right,

815
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 3: Like you want to go home and share all these

816
00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 3: things that help crack you open, and I think, you know,

817
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 3: people only want to move towards what they're as far

818
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:40,759
Speaker 3: as they want to. So there was a lot of

819
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 3: work that had to go into me just letting things be.

820
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:49,319
Speaker 3: And you know, Noah has really made so many incredible

821
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 3: changes and shifts on his own. He has his own

822
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 3: habits that he loves. I mean, are there things he

823
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 3: still does, of course, But I've learned to nag less

824
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 3: because I can be a nagger and want things the

825
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 3: way I want them. It's something I'm always working on,

826
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 3: but I'm very aware of and just letting him be.

827
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:21,520
Speaker 3: And he's drinking the green juice, he's doing the things

828
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:27,000
Speaker 3: he works out regularly, and he's changed he's very different.

829
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:30,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, probably because he sees it. He's inspired. But we

830
00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 2: don't fix them. We fix you know, we work on ourselves.

831
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:35,080
Speaker 2: We don't work on others. It's very hard. I get that,

832
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:37,760
Speaker 2: Like you want to be like when you see something clearly,

833
00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 2: you know, it happens with our kids too. It'll happen

834
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:54,799
Speaker 2: as your kids get older. So the current state of

835
00:45:54,840 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 2: your business is it's obviously thriving. You have this subscription model,

836
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:03,640
Speaker 2: you work, you do a lot of different brand deals,

837
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 2: and you're in demand. And so what else is coming up?

838
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 2: What are you excited about? Like, what what is what's

839
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:11,359
Speaker 2: the next phase of this?

840
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:15,880
Speaker 3: What is the next phase of this? You know, it's

841
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 3: it's a lot of just continuing to tap in do

842
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 3: that feeling, like you talked about in the beginning of

843
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 3: like the things I really really love to do is

844
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 3: what I've just been focusing on more and I've been

845
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 3: doing more speaking, more motivational speaking, which I have always

846
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:39,839
Speaker 3: wanted to do. And even through having a podcast and

847
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 3: doing these incredible like member events with hundreds of people,

848
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 3: when I walk away from them, I'm like, it is insane.

849
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 3: I'm so high off life. But it's not just about

850
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:58,719
Speaker 3: you know, starting with the meditation, moving everyone. It's the talking.

851
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 1: It's you're good at it. I can tell and you're right.

852
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:04,239
Speaker 2: And it's a different animal to go travel somewhere, to

853
00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 2: stand up, to talk to people who want to hear,

854
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 2: and to educate people who don't, and it's just a

855
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 2: good interaction. It's like being in a live theater. It's

856
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 2: it's definitely different. It's so different, and I love it.

857
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 3: So I've been I've been doing more of that, which

858
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 3: has been really exciting. But I am very much in

859
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:26,960
Speaker 3: this place right now as talking about this last night,

860
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:30,480
Speaker 3: where I feel like they're you know, in our lives

861
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:37,840
Speaker 3: and being i think, very motivated, independent, ambitious, strong women.

862
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:40,880
Speaker 3: There's this need where it's like okay, well I've done that,

863
00:47:40,960 --> 00:47:45,920
Speaker 3: like what else? And I'm learning to just soften into

864
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 3: like being with what is instead of just going for

865
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:54,120
Speaker 3: everything if that makes any sense, Like just it.

866
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 2: Makes all the sense. It's noisy. It's noisy, and if

867
00:47:57,080 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: it quiets down, you can sit. If you always thinking

868
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 2: about what you're going, Like, we're in this world offe

869
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 2: be productive and we're Americans and there's no lunch and

870
00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:09,360
Speaker 2: pros play herd and money never sleep. You know, the

871
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 2: most creative times I've ever had are between sleep and wake.

872
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 2: And everybody thinks I'm like an animal because I'm always working,

873
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:20,320
Speaker 2: and I'm really not. I just my mind is always working.

874
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 2: That's hard for me. But I define my entire life

875
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 2: by how much time I have off and how much

876
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:28,880
Speaker 2: free time and have a little I actually have to do.

877
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 1: I don't like to be tethered.

878
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 2: I don't like to have to go, and it's very

879
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:34,760
Speaker 2: hard for people around me because people are constantly throwing

880
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:37,080
Speaker 2: opportunities and money and covers and things at me. And

881
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:39,759
Speaker 2: I'm always saying no, walked away from millions of dollars

882
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 2: on television, walked right out. But when I did and

883
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:47,759
Speaker 2: kept doing that, so many more things come. So like

884
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:50,640
Speaker 2: things will show up at your door, but you wouldn't

885
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 2: have been able to see them, and you wouldn't have

886
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 2: been able to think of them in the same way

887
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:57,719
Speaker 2: if your mind is so crowded with noisiness of what

888
00:48:57,760 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 2: you're supposed to be doing, and finding the white noise

889
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 2: will just it's something that you have that's a process

890
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 2: you actually have to trust.

891
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:05,400
Speaker 1: It's like the ocean.

892
00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:08,040
Speaker 2: There are gonna be sets that are crazy and you're

893
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,359
Speaker 2: gonna ride those waves. You're not gonna not ride the waves.

894
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:12,360
Speaker 2: The wave is right there, You're gonna take the wave.

895
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 2: But then there's gonna be the com set. You're not

896
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:16,879
Speaker 2: supposed to be rushing out in between, because we rush

897
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:18,719
Speaker 2: out in between, you get caught and the riptide, then

898
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 2: you miss the good waves, then you miss the calm,

899
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 2: and then it's a total shit show. So you have

900
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:26,600
Speaker 2: to have that patience and trust in the ocean and

901
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 2: its cycle, because that is really where the sweet spot is.

902
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:32,480
Speaker 2: And I definitely have found that because for me to

903
00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 2: be having more opportunities and making more money doing eighty

904
00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:41,480
Speaker 2: percent less than I ever did now is nuts.

905
00:49:41,800 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 1: It doesn't.

906
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 2: It's because I really honestly was like, I kind of

907
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:45,839
Speaker 2: want to retire. I just want to be with my daughter,

908
00:49:45,880 --> 00:49:48,200
Speaker 2: I want to do philanthropy, I don't want all this

909
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:51,279
Speaker 2: stuff anymore. And then just amazing things came, but you

910
00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 2: can work them differently. So I think that that's why

911
00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 2: I said that to you in the beginning, because I'm

912
00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 2: very like I pick up on people and I feel

913
00:49:58,440 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 2: like you're doing incredibly well, and you're not going to

914
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 2: walk away from the tables while they're hot.

915
00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:03,640
Speaker 1: No one would do that.

916
00:50:04,400 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 2: But if you're willing to walk away from the tables

917
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:09,439
Speaker 2: when they start going cold, they're never going to really

918
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:11,360
Speaker 2: go cold. It's just going to be a different type

919
00:50:11,440 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 2: of tables. Not desperation. Now that you're desperate, Yeah, I

920
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 2: know that feeling of hunger. There's just a line between it.

921
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:21,800
Speaker 3: There is and the more space that I give myself.

922
00:50:21,920 --> 00:50:26,320
Speaker 3: I am the queen at saying no to ninety ninety

923
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 3: five percent of everything that comes in because I really

924
00:50:30,800 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 3: look at how I spend my time and I'm I

925
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 3: preserve my energy. I know what it takes to film

926
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:42,160
Speaker 3: the way that I film, you know, like I record workouts.

927
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:45,839
Speaker 3: I mean I strive to a good three four days

928
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 3: a week on top of doing the podcast two days

929
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 3: a week with sometimes two guests each day. It's a

930
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 3: lot of it's a lot of energy. I love. I

931
00:50:58,600 --> 00:51:02,160
Speaker 3: love it. I feel like there's people who are born

932
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 3: to do it or it's a struggle, and for me

933
00:51:04,719 --> 00:51:07,239
Speaker 3: it's it's very natural. I love it. But then on

934
00:51:07,280 --> 00:51:09,520
Speaker 3: top of that, I also have a team of people,

935
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:13,319
Speaker 3: we have creators on the It's those elements where I'm like, Okay,

936
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:18,440
Speaker 3: I can't do all the things and have the time

937
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:22,040
Speaker 3: to make sure I'm there for my kids in the

938
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 3: way that I want to show up as a mother.

939
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:28,839
Speaker 3: So I take so much off my plate and I'm

940
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 3: all about preserving my piece.

941
00:51:31,480 --> 00:51:34,240
Speaker 2: And it's hard to manage people to managing a team

942
00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 2: and a business is the hardest, and it's the biggest

943
00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 2: time suck because it's hardest, the biggest, the worst. It's

944
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 2: the pieces are moving. And also if you try to

945
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 2: please everybody, you please nobody. And the worst is when

946
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 2: I remember being pregnant and moody and like I had

947
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 2: too much going on, and it all sounds good on

948
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 2: that little qute calendar and on an email. Sure, that

949
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:57,799
Speaker 2: sounds amazing. Oh my god, it's so adorable, and then

950
00:51:57,840 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 2: it's there, and then you hate everyone around you that

951
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 2: it's and then you're moody and you're then if you're present,

952
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 2: which you are, you're moody, and you're like, this won't work.

953
00:52:06,080 --> 00:52:09,000
Speaker 2: I have to be happy and everything I'm doing otherwise,

954
00:52:09,040 --> 00:52:09,560
Speaker 2: what the hell?

955
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 1: What are we doing?

956
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,400
Speaker 2: Like no one forced me to do any of this,

957
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 2: And it's when it affects your personality and then the

958
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:17,520
Speaker 2: wheels start to come off where you have to like

959
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:19,759
Speaker 2: be like, no, I won't do anything if I'm not

960
00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:22,239
Speaker 2: doing it well and if I can't be kind and

961
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:24,799
Speaker 2: happy doing it. And I've seen both sides of that

962
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:26,120
Speaker 2: for myself for sure.

963
00:52:26,960 --> 00:52:30,440
Speaker 3: The same. I'm laughing so hard because it's so true.

964
00:52:30,520 --> 00:52:34,720
Speaker 3: I think we are just a culture who thrives off

965
00:52:35,040 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 3: back to backs and we're going all day. And by

966
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:40,040
Speaker 3: the way, I am a slur, like I got a

967
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:44,239
Speaker 3: machine you stacked? No, me too, stack things? Yeah, I

968
00:52:44,320 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 3: know in a day that would take people a month.

969
00:52:47,440 --> 00:52:50,880
Speaker 3: I'm not it's not I'm not bragging. It is just

970
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:54,240
Speaker 3: in my bones. I got fud of what I can handle.

971
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:56,759
Speaker 3: I know I'm speaking to someone who knows no.

972
00:52:56,840 --> 00:52:59,800
Speaker 2: But then you also have a recover and it becomes

973
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 2: this ebb and flow. It's almost like a work binge.

974
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:04,279
Speaker 2: To be honest, if I'm being honest with myself, it's

975
00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:07,960
Speaker 2: almost like because your I called stacking, which is great,

976
00:53:08,719 --> 00:53:10,800
Speaker 2: But if I'm really gonna get really in touch with

977
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 2: the truth, it's not that unlike like eating so much

978
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:15,640
Speaker 2: and then starving because I find that I am a

979
00:53:15,719 --> 00:53:16,320
Speaker 2: roller coaster.

980
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:16,719
Speaker 1: I am.

981
00:53:17,040 --> 00:53:20,359
Speaker 2: I will stack it be so ultimately productive, but then

982
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 2: get the fuck away from me.

983
00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 1: For a couple of days. Yeah, so that you know.

984
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:28,080
Speaker 3: No, I'm doing that. I don't just anymore. I mean

985
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 3: I have there are still these moments where I have to,

986
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,479
Speaker 3: you know, level set and be like okay that day,

987
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:39,960
Speaker 3: drain the life to not do that again. But I

988
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:43,560
Speaker 3: am very different now, Like I know, I am a machine,

989
00:53:43,880 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 3: but I also take care of myself in a way

990
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:50,680
Speaker 3: and I really try to. I don't love the word.

991
00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 3: I mean it's like, of course you try to balance things,

992
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 3: but what is balance when you're.

993
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:59,440
Speaker 2: Trying to prep and post and hydri Yeah, and also

994
00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:01,840
Speaker 2: just like cushing yourself for the blow, because it's not

995
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 2: going to always be a perfect situation. And it happens

996
00:54:04,600 --> 00:54:06,360
Speaker 2: with your kids, it happens with the lacrosse game, it

997
00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 2: happens with screwing something up. I mean, it happens with everything,

998
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:11,880
Speaker 2: not just work. I get it, And I think the

999
00:54:11,960 --> 00:54:14,920
Speaker 2: ultimate goal is to be able to be present a

1000
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 2: lot of my present in both and not in a

1001
00:54:17,239 --> 00:54:19,080
Speaker 2: cheesy way. I just mean like, if you're with your

1002
00:54:19,160 --> 00:54:20,759
Speaker 2: kids and you're on your phone the whole time, then

1003
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:23,319
Speaker 2: you're not really with your kids. If you're working and

1004
00:54:23,360 --> 00:54:25,960
Speaker 2: you're calling your kids all day because you're feeling guilty,

1005
00:54:26,239 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 2: you're not really working like you got to. Just if

1006
00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:30,799
Speaker 2: you commit to whatever it is, it's being parent on

1007
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 2: that day going to that game, you're there, you're not

1008
00:54:33,040 --> 00:54:34,600
Speaker 2: on the game on your phone the whole time, and

1009
00:54:34,640 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 2: if you're at work, you're not on the phone with

1010
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:36,359
Speaker 2: your kids.

1011
00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:38,560
Speaker 1: Like that's the thing. Otherwise, don't do it.

1012
00:54:38,640 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 2: Sometimes I commit to one out of two of my

1013
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:44,719
Speaker 2: daughter's games a week because otherwise it becomes this thing

1014
00:54:44,760 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 2: where I'm just stripped and I'm just checking the boxes

1015
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 2: and doing. Yeah, I'd just go to the game, be

1016
00:54:49,719 --> 00:54:52,600
Speaker 2: the mom, get the crossbody, water purse and the chair

1017
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 2: on my back and bring the snacks and the dogs

1018
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 2: and show up and be super mom. And the other day,

1019
00:54:57,400 --> 00:55:02,040
Speaker 2: you know, the expectations aren't there, so you're doing amazing.

1020
00:55:02,200 --> 00:55:05,000
Speaker 2: I think it's great. And now talking to you really

1021
00:55:05,040 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 2: like getting more textual with it has been really interesting,

1022
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:09,360
Speaker 2: and I just think it's wonderful.

1023
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 1: I think it's I'm really happy for you.

1024
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 2: I'm proud of you, and I'm happy that you found

1025
00:55:13,560 --> 00:55:16,200
Speaker 2: this place in your life and I'm happy you're sharing it.

1026
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:18,320
Speaker 1: It's it is contagious. I think it's beautiful.

1027
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:23,240
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Bethany. Thank you, Cea. You've always

1028
00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 3: just been so inspiring to me. A woman who's never

1029
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 3: been afraid to just share her voice in the way

1030
00:55:31,160 --> 00:55:33,080
Speaker 3: that she wants to share it. And I think that

1031
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:36,680
Speaker 3: we need more women who are not afraid to be

1032
00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:39,360
Speaker 3: who they are and to use their voice in ways

1033
00:55:39,440 --> 00:55:43,680
Speaker 3: that can change the way people see things themselves and

1034
00:55:44,560 --> 00:55:48,560
Speaker 3: just create a movement in this world of goodness, like

1035
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 3: we just need people who care and are doing things

1036
00:55:52,440 --> 00:55:54,480
Speaker 3: for the better, good for all of us.

1037
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 2: So well, likewise, thank you so much. I appreciate it.

1038
00:55:57,800 --> 00:55:59,240
Speaker 2: Thank you for coming. I'm so excited.

1039
00:55:59,280 --> 00:56:00,799
Speaker 1: Was wonderful. The girl we're gonna be Oh my god,

1040
00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 1: I loved her. That was amazing.

1041
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:04,640
Speaker 2: Oh well, thank you, Melissa. It was really wonderful. So

1042
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:07,359
Speaker 2: let's get together in the Hamptons. We're starting soon. I'm

1043
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:08,000
Speaker 2: so excited.

1044
00:56:08,280 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 3: Amazing. I know I know where your old house was

1045
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:13,440
Speaker 3: because Noah had shown me when we're driving around.

1046
00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:14,960
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna say it this out loud.

1047
00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:15,640
Speaker 3: Maybe I'll do you.

1048
00:56:15,800 --> 00:56:18,640
Speaker 2: I'm in my adventure era and I'm kind of on

1049
00:56:18,719 --> 00:56:21,640
Speaker 2: the verge besides my hair today, I'm kind of on

1050
00:56:21,719 --> 00:56:23,640
Speaker 2: the verge of a glow up just so you know,

1051
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:27,640
Speaker 2: I started nature walking every day but most days if

1052
00:56:27,640 --> 00:56:29,680
Speaker 2: it's nice out, and I started doing my yoga at

1053
00:56:29,680 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 2: home with this app that I like. So usually once

1054
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 2: I get started, I do my beach walk. I'm gonna

1055
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 2: be on the beach now, and I'm just about to

1056
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:38,439
Speaker 2: start a glow up. So I feel like you could

1057
00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 2: take credit for.

1058
00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:40,480
Speaker 1: Part of that. I feel like I want to do.

1059
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:42,840
Speaker 2: If I I used to go, like I said to

1060
00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:45,279
Speaker 2: Tracy Anderson, if I would go twice a week, I

1061
00:56:45,280 --> 00:56:46,919
Speaker 2: would have been on the cover of Sports all straight.

1062
00:56:46,960 --> 00:56:49,760
Speaker 2: I would have been the president of the United States.

1063
00:56:49,920 --> 00:56:52,520
Speaker 2: If you work out with me twice in a week

1064
00:56:52,560 --> 00:56:55,319
Speaker 2: in the summer, we could do it before and after,

1065
00:56:55,400 --> 00:56:59,560
Speaker 2: and the results will be remarkable, remarkable.

1066
00:56:59,360 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 3: I know they will. And listen, let's talk, because I

1067
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 3: would seriously do something with you.

1068
00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 1: We'll come to you. Let's do something.

1069
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:09,800
Speaker 3: I'm going to show you like this is what I

1070
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:13,239
Speaker 3: always say, because I don't typically do privates, right, But

1071
00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 3: of course there's certain things I love to do it.

1072
00:57:16,840 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 3: I love the class energy.

1073
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:21,080
Speaker 1: But I'm on the verge of a glow up, though, Melissa.

1074
00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 3: So I'm ready to It's also just to show how

1075
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 3: less is more and the art of like you will

1076
00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 3: be amazed. Give me twenty minutes, and.

1077
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 2: I want you to create something from me with my

1078
00:57:32,720 --> 00:57:36,120
Speaker 2: workouts online every day after Okay, that's all right. What

1079
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 2: I want to do is come to your house and

1080
00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 2: just take off my clothes and sleep with you. No,

1081
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:43,760
Speaker 2: I want to come to your house and take off

1082
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:46,560
Speaker 2: my clothes and show you my body, which is like

1083
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Speaker 2: thinner fifty three year old woman needs a little tightness,

1084
00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 2: needs a little like.

1085
00:57:53,240 --> 00:57:55,520
Speaker 3: I've seen you in a bikini in Miami and you

1086
00:57:55,600 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 3: are a babe. Please listen, I rock a bikini. That's

1087
00:57:59,000 --> 00:57:59,760
Speaker 3: what I'm saying.

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00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:02,840
Speaker 2: We are so close, like if I tighten it up

1089
00:58:02,840 --> 00:58:04,880
Speaker 2: a little, like the butt is a little in pancakey.

1090
00:58:04,920 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 1: It's like that, you know. I mean, yes, I pull it.

1091
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 3: It's good.

1092
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 2: It's good, but it could be great, and this is

1093
00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:12,560
Speaker 2: the summer for it. So I want to come over

1094
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:15,760
Speaker 2: and I want to like be in like a Dove campaign,

1095
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 2: just like wear normal like you know, I want to

1096
00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:19,520
Speaker 2: wear a bra and I want to show you and

1097
00:58:19,720 --> 00:58:21,919
Speaker 2: we'll take a picture, and I want you to give

1098
00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:24,400
Speaker 2: me a prescription. I can tell you what I'm already doing,

1099
00:58:24,840 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 2: and I will take the X number of time, and

1100
00:58:27,080 --> 00:58:29,120
Speaker 2: then we will come back and we will regroup and

1101
00:58:29,160 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 2: we will see how the glow up looks.

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00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:36,200
Speaker 3: I will guide you, and I feel very confident that

1103
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 3: you are going to well because you're going to see

1104
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:42,240
Speaker 3: how it fits into your life and you don't believe.

1105
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:44,040
Speaker 3: And it's like you can do it at home and

1106
00:58:44,080 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 3: your daughter, I mean the amount of mother daughters that

1107
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 3: that is the part that I mean, if anyone can

1108
00:58:52,160 --> 00:58:55,320
Speaker 3: get me, it's when the moms come up and they're like,

1109
00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:58,320
Speaker 3: you help my daughter through the heart, and she's like,

1110
00:58:58,320 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 3: can I do it with her?

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00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:00,960
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, right, brain would love it too.

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00:59:01,000 --> 00:59:04,960
Speaker 2: It's cute, right the mom You're like, yes, okay, no,

1113
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:06,880
Speaker 2: you have the moms. The moms are the back yeah,

1114
00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:11,320
Speaker 2: the book. But I want to see results, Melissa, what help? Okay, Okay,

1115
00:59:11,640 --> 00:59:13,480
Speaker 2: I want to see results. Otherwise I'll just go to

1116
00:59:13,560 --> 00:59:16,400
Speaker 2: Marquis with Noah and dance on a speaker and get

1117
00:59:16,400 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 2: in shape that way. But something's got to give, So

1118
00:59:18,840 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 2: I'm ready for.

1119
00:59:19,480 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 1: My glow up.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, amazing, I awesome, have a good day. Thank

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Speaker 3: you so much. Thank