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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, what's good, y'all? And Cadeen Ellis, we have

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Speaker 1: something special for you today. We've got a little peek

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Speaker 1: of a new podcast that just launched with our Stitcher

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Speaker 1: fam It's called The Sugar. It's hosted by Tica Sumter,

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Speaker 1: she plays the mom on ABC's Mixed Dish, and Ty Randolph,

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Speaker 1: she's co president of Kevin Hart's l OL Network. The

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Speaker 1: Sugar is super relatable to me because Tica and Ty

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Speaker 1: are both boss moms just like me. The Sugar is

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Speaker 1: the Brown mama's guide to the sweet lives. It's a

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Speaker 1: safe place for black moms to talk about the complexities

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Speaker 1: of motherhood and celebrate their sweet sugar babies. I know

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Speaker 1: with our three whole boys, parenting can be so challenging

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Speaker 1: but also so much fun. I love that there's a

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Speaker 1: show where I can hear other women talk about those

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Speaker 1: things too. All right, We've got a little five minute

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Speaker 1: clip of The Sugar for you to hear right now.

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Speaker 1: If you like what you hear, subscribe to The Sugar

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Speaker 1: on Stitcher, Spotify, Apple Podcast, or wherever you're listening right

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Speaker 1: now so you don't miss an episode. The Sugar is

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Speaker 1: a place for mom's moms to be the undecided aunties

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Speaker 1: to talk all things motherhood. UM. We get the opportunity

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Speaker 1: to speak about things that a lot of the times

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Speaker 1: we're left out of the conversation, whether it's I vs.

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Speaker 1: Mental health, and also indulge in the joys of motherhood

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Speaker 1: and being where we are and and speaking on that,

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Speaker 1: whether it's you know, potty training to talking back to

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Speaker 1: how we are changing the story of how we raise

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Speaker 1: our kids. And this is a place where, you know,

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Speaker 1: when I first brought this idea to Tie and cultivated

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Speaker 1: it with her to become a bigger part of another

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Speaker 1: part of what we're doing, which is sugarberry, I was

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Speaker 1: pregnant with Ella, who's now three, but she was in

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Speaker 1: my belly and I was searching for a community. I

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Speaker 1: was searching for products. I was searching for other people

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Speaker 1: who looked like me and had fibroids and that I

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Speaker 1: wanted to talk about and understand and UM struggled with

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Speaker 1: as well. So this is a place of love, laughter,

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Speaker 1: UM understanding, and also getting a lot of UM resources

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Speaker 1: and advice, practical advice for us. I think as black women,

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Speaker 1: there's so many parts of our journey, and particularly our

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Speaker 1: journey to motherhood that we have to package up put

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Speaker 1: a bow on, and it's about strength and being a

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Speaker 1: superwoman and doing it all. And I really wanted a

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Speaker 1: place where we could actually unpack all of that and

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Speaker 1: be really real with each other and delicate. Um you know,

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Speaker 1: our broader mission at sugar Berry is to be a

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Speaker 1: brown mama's guide to the sweet life. We think, um

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Speaker 1: you know, we deserve to indulge, to and to be

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Speaker 1: vulnerable and to be lighthearted. Um you know, to find

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Speaker 1: the best resources for ourselves and our little ones. And

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Speaker 1: that's what this is about. And so I'm excited to share,

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Speaker 1: to share in the sugar and the sweetness, um you know,

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Speaker 1: but also to really be real. I remember, you know,

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Speaker 1: going through IVF myself and thinking this is the loneliest

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Speaker 1: place I've got a broken body. This is so tough

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Speaker 1: to navigate. And what's funny is the minute that I

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Speaker 1: started talking about it, the minute that I talked about

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Speaker 1: it at work or with girlfriends, you find out everyone's

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Speaker 1: going through the same thing or some variation of the

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Speaker 1: experience or have experienced, um you know, some areas of

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Speaker 1: doubt or frustration, but no one is having that exchange.

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Speaker 1: So I feel like, when we're really honest about what

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Speaker 1: our experiences are, it gives everyone else permission to do so.

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Speaker 1: Nobody's getting a gold medal at the end for saying

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Speaker 1: you did it all by yourself. Right, that's no one

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Speaker 1: even knows. By the way, no one can I say.

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Speaker 1: You don't get a gold medal for having a non

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Speaker 1: epidural pregnancy. Yes, you don't get a gold medal for

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Speaker 1: breastfeeding for two years. You don't get a gold medal

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Speaker 1: for sleep not sleeping and being okay. You don't get

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Speaker 1: a gold medal for anything, right. There there's no prize.

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Speaker 1: If you want the epidural, get the epidural. If you

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Speaker 1: want to bottle feed, bottle feed. But there's so much

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Speaker 1: mom guilt that other moms give us. I got guilt

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Speaker 1: guilted for having a C section that I could not control. Well,

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Speaker 1: moms need to be careful, we have to do that.

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Speaker 1: There's a thin line between advice and judgment, right, and

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Speaker 1: so everyone doesn't need our two cents. If you have

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Speaker 1: if you want to know what I did, great if

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Speaker 1: you don't find But whatever you choose, I'm sure your

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Speaker 1: kid's gonna be okay. If you're providing for them, if

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Speaker 1: they're safe, if they're loved. There's a whole spectrum of

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Speaker 1: right answers. Exactly now it's time for our mommy mantra.

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Speaker 1: Uh So, we're excited to introduce this segment. Every week

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Speaker 1: we will um you know, sign off or leave you

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Speaker 1: with a mommy mantra and it's an affirmation or a

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Speaker 1: bit of assurance just for mom's something sweet to carry

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Speaker 1: you through the week. I'd encouraging quote anything like that.

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Speaker 1: Um So, I have one go ahead. I'm allowed to

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Speaker 1: make a big deal out of things that feel really

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Speaker 1: big to me. That's from uh. I think it's Amy Carly. Um.

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Speaker 1: I just feel like sometimes people make the things that

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Speaker 1: Like you have a good life and you don't need

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Speaker 1: to complain about this, or you don't need to. I

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Speaker 1: don't even like saying it's complaining because you're talking about

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Speaker 1: a situation. And I think sometimes when you have or

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Speaker 1: you don't have, you can start feeling like, well, nobody

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Speaker 1: wants to hear me or hear my little problems, but

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Speaker 1: your problems are big to you. And I think it's

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Speaker 1: okay to um say them out loud and they they're valid,

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Speaker 1: and people sometimes make them invalid because they're not big

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Speaker 1: to them. So I think it's um I'm allowed to

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Speaker 1: big to me. I love that. It's it's some a

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Speaker 1: little what my mom always says to me. If it's

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Speaker 1: real to you, then it's real, right, So it's okay

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Speaker 1: to acknowledge it. You don't have to qualify it. It's

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Speaker 1: just this is what I'm going through, here's what it is.

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Speaker 1: I love that, So com Get Sugar. The Sugar is

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Speaker 1: out now. Listen on Stitcher, Apple podcast, or wherever you

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Speaker 1: get your podcasts.