WEBVTT - Quit Touching $hit

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeart

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<v Speaker 1>Radio and the Black Effect Network Talk.

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<v Speaker 2>You're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, what's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for

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<v Speaker 1>a new episode of We Talked Back, a show dedicated

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<v Speaker 1>to your dreamers and chasers. This is your co host,

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<v Speaker 1>A J. Holiday. What's up, Big Tim BM.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, y'all. I fucking love y'all. I'm so sick of

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<v Speaker 2>being disabled. I really am, you know what. Shout out

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<v Speaker 2>to all the people who are handling disabilities and taking

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<v Speaker 2>it in stride. I love y'all. Y'all are resilient, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so proud of y'all because I'm suffering right now.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not doing a good job at it. I'm getting fatter.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting fatter, an excuse now to be fat. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>all fat and sassy.

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<v Speaker 1>You ain't fat, y'all pleasantly plump. Okay, all right, you'll

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<v Speaker 1>get it off.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to get this second chin removed this month.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care. I'm just gonna go do it. I

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<v Speaker 2>ain't paying no rent money. I'm just gonna go ahead

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<v Speaker 2>and get this double chance. So when y'all see the

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<v Speaker 2>next recording, and y'all see me bandaged, jump about the face.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't ask no questions.

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<v Speaker 1>I got a new chin and maya motherfucking business.

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<v Speaker 2>How was your weekend?

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<v Speaker 1>Girl? I literally did not leave the house on Saturday,

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<v Speaker 1>had all intentions to do do so, but I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I finished the last couple episodes of Hands Made Tale

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<v Speaker 1>about to come out, right, Yeah, they're working on it now.

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<v Speaker 1>Apparently they started recording. They started filming this month September,

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<v Speaker 1>so I guess sometime next year we can expect the

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<v Speaker 1>season six. But I can't wait, bitch. I just knew

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<v Speaker 1>that motherfucker Serena was gonna be in the back of

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<v Speaker 1>that plane wait for me, in the back of that

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<v Speaker 1>train for June when June they finally was trying to

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<v Speaker 1>escape out of Canada. It is just it's a bit much, man.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not watching it. I watched Reasonable Doubt. That's my

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<v Speaker 2>ship right now.

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<v Speaker 1>So I've been hearing about that. So I can I

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<v Speaker 1>learn something from that shoulder?

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<v Speaker 2>No, not really.

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<v Speaker 1>See I'll be like a shit that got like low

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<v Speaker 1>hidden like this. This made me feel like this in

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<v Speaker 1>real life. Shit, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Like me. I feel like if you feel like you

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<v Speaker 2>can learn from Handsmaid's tales, then you probably can learn

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<v Speaker 2>from reasonable doubts.

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<v Speaker 1>How though, are they alike?

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<v Speaker 2>No, they're not alike. But I don't see what you're

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<v Speaker 2>learning from handsmaid stale.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Hey, look man, I'm out of the business of

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<v Speaker 1>debating people's perspective.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no debate. That's what I'm just saying. Just try

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<v Speaker 2>the show and see if you like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Is watching that and something else? Tell me, Lie, I've

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<v Speaker 1>even watching it. Yeah, it's is that I've been hearing

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<v Speaker 1>about telling me lies and reasonable doubt.

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<v Speaker 2>I oh, yeah, reasonable doubt is good. And then I

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<v Speaker 2>watched the Baylor in Colorado game over the weekend. That's

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<v Speaker 2>how you know a bitchally fucked up. I'm mean here

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<v Speaker 2>watching football, but that shit was actually no. I wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>bet and I was just it was on, and then

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<v Speaker 2>it actually started getting good to me, and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>this is actually entertaining.

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<v Speaker 1>Who knew, y'all. It's September twenty third, twenty twenty four,

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<v Speaker 1>and my prediction is that the Baltimore Ravens will be

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<v Speaker 1>going to the Super Bowl. I may, I know, it

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<v Speaker 1>may not look like it right now for you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Ravens fans or people who aren't fans. I'm not necessarily

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<v Speaker 1>a fan, but I had a premonition that they will

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<v Speaker 1>be going to the super Bowl this year, so I

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<v Speaker 1>might go ahead and put a couple hundred dollars on that.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel very strongly about it for some reason.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I guess we're gonna see y'all mark this date

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<v Speaker 2>until aj she's psychic or she was completely dead wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>Psychic got delusions line. And so Saturday, oh that was

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<v Speaker 1>Saturday nothing. And then Sunday I did go off to

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<v Speaker 1>dinner at least a very very nice I don't even

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<v Speaker 1>know if it's a new restaurant in Charleston. It's called

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<v Speaker 1>a Select. I was pleasantly surprised. It was so good,

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<v Speaker 1>like I always be pumping up my city. We got

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<v Speaker 1>some of the best food out this bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was date night. No.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually hung out with my homegirl and one of

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<v Speaker 1>her friends, one of her guy friends. I just met

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<v Speaker 1>them out. She wanted to get outside a little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>just to do something.

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<v Speaker 2>We got on the grill Sunday and my mama's well,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't get on shit. I just sat on the

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<v Speaker 2>couch because I can't do shit.

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<v Speaker 1>But we had off the grill. You ad off the grill.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I ate off the grill and that was it.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't do it. I can't wait for this. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know if I'm going to Homecoming no more,

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm looking at the math of the doctor. The

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<v Speaker 2>doctor said four more weeks on this, on this scooter

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<v Speaker 2>and the crutch. So I'm coming this October one, twenty six,

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<v Speaker 2>So we'll see.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a month from now.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the seventeenth, I'll be able to walk on the boot,

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<v Speaker 2>but I still have them on the boot. Who aren't

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<v Speaker 2>trying to walk on a boot in the Homecoming? Girl?

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<v Speaker 1>You that press right?

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<v Speaker 2>So we'll see what happened. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll see how I feel by then, please don't okay

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<v Speaker 1>there with.

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<v Speaker 2>One of my homeboys, he was like always, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>my little cousin loved your show, and I send me

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<v Speaker 2>the link so I can listen to some episodes. So

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<v Speaker 2>I sent him the link and he was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, what do you think? And he was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that's what I was like, No, tell me, really,

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<v Speaker 2>what do you think? He was like, I just felt

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<v Speaker 2>like I was listening to my mama and my auntie conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I picked up the phone and I was just

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<v Speaker 2>listening there.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, so we saw like Mama's and aunties. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's on brand.

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<v Speaker 2>Note. I was about writing to me, let's get innocence,

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<v Speaker 2>Didy Diddy, Diddy Diddy? Did he do it?

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<v Speaker 1>Did he not? Shah?

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<v Speaker 2>He did that?

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<v Speaker 1>Sit So last week we reported, not reported because we

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<v Speaker 1>ate reporters. Okay, so last week we talked about did

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<v Speaker 1>he prior to the actual charges coming out? So now

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<v Speaker 1>this week and the charges actually came out later in

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<v Speaker 1>the day last week. So so he's been arrested on

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<v Speaker 1>charges of racketeering, conspiracy, and sex trafficking. He did plead

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<v Speaker 1>not guilty on Tuesday and was ordered to remain in

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<v Speaker 1>custom until his federal trial in New York. So now

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<v Speaker 1>he's since been moved to Nork, New Jersey Prison, federal prison.

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<v Speaker 1>Did he has been trying to forfeit everything he fucking

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<v Speaker 1>owns to get a bail and they have denied him

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<v Speaker 1>now bond twice. He tried to put up his well,

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<v Speaker 1>he actually put up his house, his mom's house, offered

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<v Speaker 1>to turn in his passport, also kids passports, and the

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<v Speaker 1>judge an in't budget. Now, I feel like everybody deserves

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<v Speaker 1>to have bond, you know what I'm saying, Like, even

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<v Speaker 1>though we know they gonna give you a crazy as

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<v Speaker 1>bot just because they don't want you to get out,

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<v Speaker 1>but because he has the means to get out, They're like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>But we know other men in the similar situation have

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<v Speaker 1>been given bond in the past so they can prepare,

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<v Speaker 1>get their affairs together and shit like that. This is Diddy.

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<v Speaker 1>Why did he can't get a bond? Did he a

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<v Speaker 1>real terrorist?

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<v Speaker 2>For real? It looks like it seems it's a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people who have come out against him, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like they're coming out of the woodworks. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So. Damon Williams, the US Attorney for the Southern District

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<v Speaker 1>of New York who brought the indictment, was vague when

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<v Speaker 1>asked whether Didy or others would face more charges. Now

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<v Speaker 1>I know. I think they also put like some drug

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<v Speaker 1>charges on him too, Narcotics, the illicit drugs that he supports.

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<v Speaker 1>He had at these allegedly had at these uh freak

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<v Speaker 1>offs for him and guests. Apparently some of these guests

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<v Speaker 1>must have been there against their free will. It says

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<v Speaker 1>multiple witnesses who have worked with Combs have been meeting

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<v Speaker 1>with prosecutors. A source familiar with the federal investigation told

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<v Speaker 1>CNN at least one male sex worker is expected to

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<v Speaker 1>testify in front of the grand jury in a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of days, according to the source, who added, the witnesses

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<v Speaker 1>allegations go beyond the details in this week's indictment, So

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna be hearing some more shit, Okay. Apparently he

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<v Speaker 1>got like fifty victims and witnesses, over fifty victims and

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<v Speaker 1>witnesses in this.

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<v Speaker 2>Case, fifty victims and witnesses in trouble. Yeah, he's very

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<v Speaker 2>much in trouble.

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<v Speaker 1>He's in trouble. And on top of that, son, they're

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<v Speaker 1>saying Kim not.

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<v Speaker 2>So.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if y'all know Sloan Bella off YouTube

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<v Speaker 1>she's a psychic. So before all this should even happened

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<v Speaker 1>last year, I want to say, like maybe around like

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<v Speaker 1>January last year, February she put out an initial video.

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<v Speaker 1>She's been doing this for years, but she didn't get

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<v Speaker 1>like piped up until last year. When did he actually

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<v Speaker 1>the when Cassie actually put her civil suit out there?

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<v Speaker 1>Like that. When that became public, that's when people got

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<v Speaker 1>onto Sloan Bella. But she had predicted this months prior.

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<v Speaker 1>She really did all of this everything. Even this year,

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<v Speaker 1>she put out a video like round February she said,

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<v Speaker 1>by Easter, some more shit was gonna be happening with Diddy,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's gonna be other men that go down with him.

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<v Speaker 1>They raided his house in April. She said, Easter is

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<v Speaker 1>it's gonna be like an Easter egg hunt type shit.

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<v Speaker 1>This is how she was saying it on her show,

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<v Speaker 1>because I've been locked in since last year, like who

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck this is right up my alley. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she's predicted all of the things. You know, maybe she's

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<v Speaker 1>an agent, I don't know, and maybe she could be

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<v Speaker 1>the real thing, and she gets information from the cosmos.

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<v Speaker 1>Who knows, right, but Diddy asses in fucking trouble. But

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<v Speaker 1>one thing Sloan Bella did say is how she was

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<v Speaker 1>getting this information from Kim Peter from the other side.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's like, Kim ain't fucking around with Diddy. She's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get his ass from the other side. She couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>do it from this side, but so she's doing the

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<v Speaker 1>work from the other side. So on Friday, September twentieth,

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<v Speaker 1>Daily Mail reported that a sixty page book called Kim's

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<v Speaker 1>Lost Words was recently published were quietly published on September

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<v Speaker 1>sixth by Los Angeles based publisher Chris Todd and written

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<v Speaker 1>by Jamal T. Millwood. The unauthorized book, which is currently

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<v Speaker 1>for sale on Amazon, is allegedly comprised of Porter's diary

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<v Speaker 1>entries kept during her time with Puff and reportedly the

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<v Speaker 1>details instances of shocking abuse she experienced at the Disgrace

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<v Speaker 1>Mogul's hand. We don't know if it's true or not.

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<v Speaker 1>There's been people like I'll be sure, and then Camp

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<v Speaker 1>Porter's best friend who's come out and said, like this

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<v Speaker 1>is some bullshit. She never wrote a memoir. That's never happened,

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<v Speaker 1>But Sloan Bella says she did give a cell phone

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<v Speaker 1>with some stuff to some people. Somebody does have something

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<v Speaker 1>she was keeping tabs.

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<v Speaker 2>All in all, I feel really really bad for those girls.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel so bad for those girls. I know they

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<v Speaker 2>are embarrassed and shamed, humiliated. You never know what those

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<v Speaker 2>poor babies are feeling, so I just keep them lifted

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<v Speaker 2>in prayer. You know, it's three three four girls, he

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<v Speaker 2>got right. One one is too young to understand what's

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<v Speaker 2>going on, but the other three are probably greatly affected

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<v Speaker 2>by this publicly public humiliation.

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<v Speaker 1>And then like the camp Porter kids, like even the oldest,

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<v Speaker 1>not the oldest, the other little girl or third girl,

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<v Speaker 1>she is just like maybe a year older than the twins, but.

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<v Speaker 2>You're younger.

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<v Speaker 1>She just went to she just went to prom with

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<v Speaker 1>what's her name?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so a year younger than the twins. The twins

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<v Speaker 2>are older than her.

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<v Speaker 1>The twins are seventeen. I thought she was older than them.

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<v Speaker 1>Well anyway, either way, they're still all kids. Yeah, young

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<v Speaker 1>young girls, And I don't think anybody's like we think

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<v Speaker 1>about them, but I don't know. I think about in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning, I think about what the hell is gonna

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<v Speaker 1>happen with diddy ass. I just hope that they have

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<v Speaker 1>a strong support system in place for them as well

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<v Speaker 1>for their mental health. And it's time. Yeah, yep, all.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So Andrew Schultz is under fire. So there's a

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<v Speaker 2>clip with James and fo Hide. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pronouncing that right, host of the Shits and Gigs.

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<v Speaker 1>Shits and Gigs, Shits and Gigs podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>They bring up the viral trend that has been claiming

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<v Speaker 2>their looks upgraded after dating or getting married to a

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<v Speaker 2>black woman, which Schultz seem to invest it to know about.

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<v Speaker 2>So you see a guy who has had a black girlfriend,

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<v Speaker 2>all of a sudden, he's got a buzz cut, a

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<v Speaker 2>clean shape out out, a clean shape.

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<v Speaker 1>Who wrote this shit, Well, he's daring from Europe, so

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<v Speaker 1>he probably did say shape out, yo.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, let me your blokes condition, and y'all know

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<v Speaker 2>y'all don't be getting y'all hair shaped up as often,

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<v Speaker 2>and let's all right anyway, So shape out. Dunking toe Shultz,

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<v Speaker 2>while trying to explain ir response, Shots, said they shaved

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<v Speaker 2>their hair because they started losing it because it's so

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<v Speaker 2>stressed being around black girl complaining about shit all the

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<v Speaker 2>fucking time. James and Foo High continue to laugh at

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<v Speaker 2>shots at it. They grow their beer because they need

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<v Speaker 2>a cushion when they get slapped the fuck out of

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<v Speaker 2>social media users begin dragon James and food High for

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<v Speaker 2>not defending black women in that moment. As a black woman,

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<v Speaker 2>the stuff Injury was saying about the black girlfriend effect

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<v Speaker 2>was racist. He made it completely about the angry black

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<v Speaker 2>woman in trope can we not rest and upset? YouTuber

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<v Speaker 2>YouTube user commented another person directed their rais shows by

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<v Speaker 2>posting the fact that you so comfortably talked the way

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<v Speaker 2>you did with two black men present only makes me

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<v Speaker 2>shudder to think you say what you say when black

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<v Speaker 2>people are not present. Damn, I'm reading like you girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuck you, you know you're reading like you. Listen, here's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing. We all talked shit about other races and

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<v Speaker 1>confidence with our friends. Okay, let's be very clear. Everybody

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<v Speaker 1>can be considered a little prejudiced, borderline or artist, Okay, whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's Andrew.

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<v Speaker 2>Schultz like racist. I don't absolutely not my personally.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely not. He just talking shit and look what it did.

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<v Speaker 1>It went fucking viral.

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<v Speaker 2>He talks about like the thing is everybody. He's an

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<v Speaker 2>equal opportunitist shit talker, and I had I can't like.

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<v Speaker 2>I laugh at him talking about handicapped people. I've laughed

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<v Speaker 2>at him talking about Armenian people. I've laughed at him

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<v Speaker 2>talking about white people. Now, I can't beget sensitive when

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<v Speaker 2>they when it's my turn. You know, That's how I

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<v Speaker 2>feel about Andrew. If he was just like always on

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<v Speaker 2>a black bitch neck then all right, motherfucker relax. But

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<v Speaker 2>because I know he's a comedian and he's equal opportunists,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't give it. I don't give it too much energy.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm curious to know if he's made in these

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<v Speaker 1>comments and to Charlemagne before, like they have any have

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<v Speaker 1>they had any moments where he might have said said

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<v Speaker 1>these kind of kind of jokes to Charlemagne.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh absolutely, if you watch, they're show brilliant idiots. Charmaine

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<v Speaker 2>always says it's only a matter of time before they

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<v Speaker 2>get says.

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<v Speaker 1>I listen, I am not easily offended for real, because

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<v Speaker 1>we on the internet from one or y'all like y'all

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<v Speaker 1>have y'all as saying the things like, I'm not easily

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<v Speaker 1>offended by the jokes because that's what comedians do. They

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<v Speaker 1>push the fucking line. So I'm not into police and comedians.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was funny as hell, because guess what,

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<v Speaker 1>Stereotypes really come from a real place sometimes, and people

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<v Speaker 1>actually observe behavior of other groups of people, right you know,

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<v Speaker 1>So maybe this is true for those two black men

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<v Speaker 1>that were in the room. Maybe they done got slapped

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<v Speaker 1>and they beard before by an angry black woman.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe but that don't mean and you can't get slapped,

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<v Speaker 2>that's what exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>And let's not talk about white mama's okay, and not

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<v Speaker 1>manipulate the whole goddamn family. Okay, we don't. Y'all don't

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<v Speaker 1>want us to go there about white women, and maybe

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<v Speaker 1>we'll do a whole comedy hour on them, which it

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<v Speaker 1>can be done exactly on anybody, honestly pick apart stereotypes

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<v Speaker 1>of all people and make some jokes about it. Right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but we're not giving you no whole We give you

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<v Speaker 1>a little past because we know you, and we know you.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't believe at all that he's a racist person.

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<v Speaker 1>We call white women Karen's and Becky's. We do that

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<v Speaker 1>on a daily like we we really like comedians talk

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<v Speaker 1>shit and they say cracker. We say cracker loud and

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<v Speaker 1>proud on this podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>You say that, say you.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely have said cracker on We talked Back.

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<v Speaker 2>With a slice of cheese on it because I would

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<v Speaker 2>like a target commercial.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Like, so everybody has said something like, don't be

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<v Speaker 1>a hypocrite. Okay, don't be a hypocrite. I'm not mad

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<v Speaker 1>and Andrew I like, he ain't gonna get canceled, just yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because I be down to cancel motherfucking out.

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<v Speaker 2>But he's still good.

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<v Speaker 1>In my book.

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<v Speaker 2>He's still okay in my book too. I ain't man,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, what happened with y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all need to stop playing with Jenna Jackson. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>happened with jan and Jackson. Listen, And I've been putting

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<v Speaker 1>in comments anytime I see something by Janet, like I

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<v Speaker 1>will throw hands about Janet and Whitney Houston, Like they

0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:12.400
<v Speaker 1>don't even got to ask me. It's just real life.

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<v Speaker 1>Like as soon as I see something about them, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you've literally tapped me in. So Janet Jackson was being

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<v Speaker 1>interviewed Saturday, and the interviewer asked her, you know, what

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<v Speaker 1>does she think about Kamala Harris possibly being the first

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<v Speaker 1>female black president, and Janna Jackson responded to the question

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<v Speaker 1>by saying, she's not black. That's what I heard. I

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<v Speaker 1>heard that she's Indian. When the interviewer interjected, saying that

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<v Speaker 1>Harris is both the singer wrongly this is what this

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<v Speaker 1>article says. It's not what I'm saying, right. They're saying

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<v Speaker 1>that the singer wrongly claimed the vice president's father was white.

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<v Speaker 1>I was told that they discovered her father was The

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<v Speaker 1>singer also said that either way the election swings, it

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<v Speaker 1>is going to be mayhem. I agree at this point.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it matters if Trump is elected or

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<v Speaker 1>Kamala Harris. I think we in trouble regardless. So on Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>El Misery L Misery, who claimed to be Jackson's manager,

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<v Speaker 1>told multiple outlets including Deadline People, Washington Post, and Variety,

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<v Speaker 1>that the singer recognized her original stations statements were based

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<v Speaker 1>on misinformation and she apologizes for any confusion cause. According

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<v Speaker 1>to BuzzFeed, which first reported El mystery Is comments on Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>he is as credit as credited as producer on her

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<v Speaker 1>upcoming documentary, and has been cited as Jackson's manager in

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<v Speaker 1>several previous stories about her and other outlets. Jackson's team, however,

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<v Speaker 1>clarified later on Sunday night that the apology was made

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<v Speaker 1>by someone who was not her manager and was not

0:20:08.160 --> 0:20:11.000
<v Speaker 1>authorized to speaking on her behalf. So this person was

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<v Speaker 1>working with Janet Jackson, But then you put a false

0:20:13.040 --> 0:20:15.639
<v Speaker 1>statement out saying that Janet Jackson apologized. So this is

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<v Speaker 1>Janet doubling down, like I would.

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<v Speaker 2>This person do that why would they put out something

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<v Speaker 2>that Janet didn't say.

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<v Speaker 1>Because Janet was being attacked online. So I guess as

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<v Speaker 1>a publicist, as a manager, I don't know. I guess

0:20:25.680 --> 0:20:28.200
<v Speaker 1>it was them in their minds putting out a fire.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, this is a case of I said

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<v Speaker 1>what I said, and it's really not a situation where

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<v Speaker 1>you need to be apologizing. I don't think it is. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I don't think it is. I mean, Kamala

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<v Speaker 1>Harris has been an Indian American her entire time in politics.

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<v Speaker 1>She's been a politician for twenty plus years black and

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<v Speaker 1>I keep saying this, it is a culture. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think that she necesscessarily identified as a Black American up

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<v Speaker 1>until now, and I don't and she really hasn't herself.

0:21:05.400 --> 0:21:08.800
<v Speaker 1>I think Black Americans are bringing her in like this

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<v Speaker 1>is a black woman. I don't think she still has.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yes, she did pledge AKA and she went

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<v Speaker 1>to a black HBCU, But we can't force people to

0:21:18.760 --> 0:21:24.399
<v Speaker 1>identify like we do. Not everybody has to identify as black.

0:21:24.640 --> 0:21:26.639
<v Speaker 1>But if this is the basis of what people are

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<v Speaker 1>voting for because she's a black woman, then maybe people

0:21:29.560 --> 0:21:31.280
<v Speaker 1>would like to hear from her like, hey, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you consider yourself?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so Jenny Jackson said, she did not apologize, and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like Again, I don't think it's a situation

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<v Speaker 1>where apology is warranted, like for what, I don't think?

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, what do you think about it?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't. I don't think about it. It doesn't matter

0:21:52.640 --> 0:21:55.600
<v Speaker 2>who gives Honestly, who gives a fuck about this what

0:21:55.760 --> 0:21:59.840
<v Speaker 2>Janet Jackson said to about Kamala Like, anytime I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 2>of our politics, I don't be. I don't go to

0:22:02.920 --> 0:22:06.800
<v Speaker 2>celebrity Janna Jackson things right, the world is an uproar.

0:22:07.000 --> 0:22:09.959
<v Speaker 2>Somebody get Jana Jackson on the line. It's never you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I think about it.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's a disrespect black people get right. They go

0:22:13.840 --> 0:22:16.440
<v Speaker 1>to our celebrities to see what we stand on things

0:22:16.480 --> 0:22:21.560
<v Speaker 1>instead of going to real You know, we have some

0:22:21.800 --> 0:22:27.560
<v Speaker 1>very great intellectuals in the black community who know what's

0:22:27.600 --> 0:22:30.720
<v Speaker 1>going on with politics, who can speak to it more

0:22:30.760 --> 0:22:36.359
<v Speaker 1>than any any I want to say, Comedian child, any celebrities,

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<v Speaker 1>So why not engage those people?

0:22:39.000 --> 0:22:39.199
<v Speaker 2>You know?

0:22:39.520 --> 0:22:41.960
<v Speaker 1>They never do so I feel like it's always a

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<v Speaker 1>slight when we all start talking about celebrities and politics.

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<v Speaker 1>I swear mm hmm. Just be prepared, That's all I

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<v Speaker 1>can say. Be prepared for whatever the outcome.

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<v Speaker 2>That's all you can be. M So, if y'all were

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<v Speaker 2>free this weekend, you probably saw where Tamari spoke on

0:23:08.640 --> 0:23:12.000
<v Speaker 2>her and her sister, her twin tamar Or not being

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<v Speaker 2>closed and the video was kind of sad. She was

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<v Speaker 2>saying that, uh, they aren't as close as they once were.

0:23:17.880 --> 0:23:21.160
<v Speaker 2>A source close to the matter spoke out about the twins'

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<v Speaker 2>current dynamic following the release of a first look teaser

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<v Speaker 2>for TIA's new reality series, which sparked concern among fans

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<v Speaker 2>because it featured a quote from her that suggested the

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<v Speaker 2>siblings had grown apart. The sisters are close, to insider

0:23:33.359 --> 0:23:38.920
<v Speaker 2>e told September twenty first, but the quote being referenced

0:23:39.080 --> 0:23:42.359
<v Speaker 2>was about their physical location. Timura lives in Napa and

0:23:42.400 --> 0:23:45.679
<v Speaker 2>Tia lives in Los Angeles. Dang. What she was saying

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<v Speaker 2>was it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, maybe they trying to clean it up now, Yeah,

0:23:52.760 --> 0:23:56.840
<v Speaker 1>it says On that teaser with WEE TV's Tiamaori My

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<v Speaker 1>Next Act, released September twentieth, Tia said, and a confessional

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<v Speaker 1>being alone has been the most challenging part of my divorce.

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<v Speaker 1>It's times like this when I feel in whish that

0:24:07.720 --> 0:24:11.399
<v Speaker 1>my sister and I were were still close and I

0:24:11.400 --> 0:24:13.600
<v Speaker 1>could pick up the phone and call her. They not

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<v Speaker 1>talk about geography.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, not talking about geography.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's just not where we are right now. So yeah,

0:24:21.960 --> 0:24:24.040
<v Speaker 1>they are not in the same city and they are

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<v Speaker 1>not on speaking terms, is what I'm hearing or what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm reading. However, she did give Tamara a shout out

0:24:30.680 --> 0:24:35.639
<v Speaker 1>on social media the day the promo was released. Girl Girl,

0:24:35.800 --> 0:24:36.480
<v Speaker 1>call your sister.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that was a cry for love from her, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, that's her twin sister. They came out to

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<v Speaker 2>pussy the same time, like they should be locked in

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<v Speaker 2>more than anybody else, you know, But you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Never you never know what goes on between people, right

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<v Speaker 1>and for you to get on like you had a

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<v Speaker 1>show coming out, right And if this is how this is,

0:24:55.680 --> 0:24:59.959
<v Speaker 1>this is not how you get back with somebody you love.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying by telling the work, because

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<v Speaker 1>nobody knew that they weren't good until now.

0:25:08.320 --> 0:25:10.560
<v Speaker 2>But maybe this might help them be good.

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<v Speaker 1>I think for me, if somebody, let's say, for instance,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not speaking about because of some shit that you

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<v Speaker 1>possibly did right the other person possibly didn't. We're not speaking.

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<v Speaker 1>That is not how to get back with me, you know,

0:25:23.960 --> 0:25:26.359
<v Speaker 1>by publicly telling people that we got a problem, because

0:25:26.359 --> 0:25:29.240
<v Speaker 1>obviously I've never spoken on whatever problem we have publicly,

0:25:30.119 --> 0:25:32.679
<v Speaker 1>and especially if you somebody like my sister, call me,

0:25:34.320 --> 0:25:36.560
<v Speaker 1>because if we're not in the same space while you

0:25:36.680 --> 0:25:40.320
<v Speaker 1>do this thing now, it leads people to speculate. I

0:25:40.440 --> 0:25:43.679
<v Speaker 1>just don't like speculation. I like to get ahead of

0:25:43.720 --> 0:25:45.720
<v Speaker 1>things and maybe put the put the right stuff out

0:25:45.720 --> 0:25:48.280
<v Speaker 1>there the first time, because what.

0:25:49.280 --> 0:25:53.000
<v Speaker 2>Let's not It seemed very heartfelt, It didn't seem like manipulative,

0:25:53.280 --> 0:25:56.600
<v Speaker 2>and it definitely brought people to the show. Maybe America

0:25:56.680 --> 0:25:59.359
<v Speaker 2>come on there and it'll be a check for her too, because.

0:25:59.600 --> 0:26:03.639
<v Speaker 1>She working but we don't know if she's working off

0:26:03.680 --> 0:26:07.280
<v Speaker 1>because it used to be on on the real which

0:26:07.400 --> 0:26:08.520
<v Speaker 1>ended what two years ago?

0:26:08.560 --> 0:26:10.359
<v Speaker 2>Now, Oh that I thought that was the one that

0:26:10.440 --> 0:26:11.000
<v Speaker 2>was married.

0:26:10.760 --> 0:26:13.439
<v Speaker 1>To everybody could be confused about who's who? Know, the

0:26:13.480 --> 0:26:15.399
<v Speaker 1>one was married to? The white guy? Is who was

0:26:15.400 --> 0:26:20.160
<v Speaker 1>on the reel? That's that's Tamara, Yeah, and Tia Mawy

0:26:20.400 --> 0:26:23.399
<v Speaker 1>her husband was just in that what's the movie divorce

0:26:23.440 --> 0:26:26.200
<v Speaker 1>in black divorcing Black? So he working? Do you think

0:26:26.240 --> 0:26:28.360
<v Speaker 1>that's possibly why they divorced.

0:26:28.800 --> 0:26:32.639
<v Speaker 2>Because he was unemployed? Yeah, well, finances is the number

0:26:33.000 --> 0:26:36.399
<v Speaker 2>one reason why marriage is dis all it's not infidelity,

0:26:36.640 --> 0:26:38.000
<v Speaker 2>is money.

0:26:38.080 --> 0:26:41.160
<v Speaker 1>So I just feel like, if he's not beating your

0:26:41.200 --> 0:26:43.000
<v Speaker 1>ass or.

0:26:42.800 --> 0:26:46.000
<v Speaker 2>We don't know, because he was very, very believable.

0:26:48.280 --> 0:26:50.440
<v Speaker 1>This man ain't beaten. I heard he was very nice.

0:26:50.440 --> 0:26:52.640
<v Speaker 1>I heard he was a very nice guy. But hey,

0:26:52.720 --> 0:26:55.760
<v Speaker 1>you don't know how somebody is if not haven't been

0:26:55.760 --> 0:26:57.679
<v Speaker 1>married to him for twenty years or however long they

0:26:57.760 --> 0:26:58.359
<v Speaker 1>had been together.

0:26:58.880 --> 0:27:01.800
<v Speaker 2>But the who ain't nice in the beginning?

0:27:02.720 --> 0:27:05.439
<v Speaker 1>Right? Gotcha bitch? And then all of a sudden the

0:27:05.480 --> 0:27:08.880
<v Speaker 1>real nigga show up. But TiO was saying, how hard

0:27:08.920 --> 0:27:11.359
<v Speaker 1>it is like now, like trying to like date and

0:27:11.400 --> 0:27:14.879
<v Speaker 1>stuff like that. I have to like it, Like post divorce, girl,

0:27:14.920 --> 0:27:17.520
<v Speaker 1>what your thought was outside? You ain't listening to these

0:27:17.560 --> 0:27:20.840
<v Speaker 1>single bitches like it's nothing out here. The pickings are

0:27:20.880 --> 0:27:22.240
<v Speaker 1>as slim women.

0:27:22.520 --> 0:27:25.960
<v Speaker 2>Okay, maybe they can reconcile though hopefully there's.

0:27:26.480 --> 0:27:30.119
<v Speaker 1>Poop in the dating pool. Okay, it's hard, so you

0:27:30.160 --> 0:27:32.080
<v Speaker 1>should have tried to kept your man a little like

0:27:32.200 --> 0:27:33.240
<v Speaker 1>a little harder man.

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:38.040
<v Speaker 2>It's hard out here, but maybe sometimes it takes separating

0:27:38.080 --> 0:27:40.160
<v Speaker 2>to see what you got. He might not be having

0:27:40.320 --> 0:27:43.359
<v Speaker 2>it easy out here with women either. You know, you

0:27:43.440 --> 0:27:43.880
<v Speaker 2>never know.

0:27:44.320 --> 0:27:44.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

0:27:46.320 --> 0:27:48.920
<v Speaker 2>Oh you said that looked like you had some inscts.

0:27:49.000 --> 0:27:51.919
<v Speaker 1>These niggas be having a way man, no matter what age.

0:27:52.800 --> 0:27:57.160
<v Speaker 1>I think women sometimes be tripping about how many options

0:27:57.280 --> 0:28:00.840
<v Speaker 1>we really have, like good options. Right, Yeah, you got

0:28:00.880 --> 0:28:02.760
<v Speaker 1>some men who definitely gonna drop some dick on you,

0:28:02.840 --> 0:28:05.560
<v Speaker 1>But how many of them gonna actually keep you is

0:28:05.600 --> 0:28:09.280
<v Speaker 1>the question. And I think women sometimes be delusional about

0:28:09.320 --> 0:28:13.080
<v Speaker 1>how many men gonna actually wipe them up. It's not

0:28:13.640 --> 0:28:16.720
<v Speaker 1>a lot. And men, men be having a way with

0:28:16.880 --> 0:28:22.479
<v Speaker 1>multiple great women. You're playing with everybody. Speaking of wifing

0:28:22.520 --> 0:28:26.480
<v Speaker 1>up and marrying child, David Banner, fifty year old, asked

0:28:26.520 --> 0:28:30.520
<v Speaker 1>talk about he ready for a marriage and children now.

0:28:31.000 --> 0:28:34.160
<v Speaker 1>He said, I'm tired. I want to find my wife,

0:28:34.359 --> 0:28:38.840
<v Speaker 1>have some kids. We chase all these esoteric goals and

0:28:38.920 --> 0:28:41.680
<v Speaker 1>sometimes we look back and we left the things that

0:28:41.800 --> 0:28:47.000
<v Speaker 1>really matter. The shorty say artists said, Oh, I hate

0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:49.240
<v Speaker 1>when they add quotes in there. Anyway, he said, I

0:28:49.240 --> 0:28:52.000
<v Speaker 1>looked up one day, I had all of them. I

0:28:52.000 --> 0:28:55.480
<v Speaker 1>had the music accolades, the film accolades, not the one,

0:28:55.560 --> 0:28:57.440
<v Speaker 1>not all the ones that I want, but a lot

0:28:57.520 --> 0:29:00.640
<v Speaker 1>of them. I had accomplished my goals and chased my

0:29:00.720 --> 0:29:03.440
<v Speaker 1>goal so long that when I looked up, I saw

0:29:03.480 --> 0:29:07.120
<v Speaker 1>that I had ran off and left everything else Banner

0:29:07.240 --> 0:29:10.440
<v Speaker 1>was wanted Banner has. Banner has wanted to get married

0:29:10.480 --> 0:29:13.160
<v Speaker 1>for some time, because in twenty seventeen, he released the

0:29:13.280 --> 0:29:18.360
<v Speaker 1>song Marry Me. The artist told Exell Nicole he wants

0:29:18.400 --> 0:29:22.640
<v Speaker 1>to be the marriage type. He said, I just want

0:29:22.640 --> 0:29:24.840
<v Speaker 1>to be the man that most black women want to marry.

0:29:25.720 --> 0:29:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I want to be a Black man that stands strong.

0:29:28.200 --> 0:29:31.120
<v Speaker 1>He said. I'm not perfect, but I want to be

0:29:31.200 --> 0:29:34.440
<v Speaker 1>the man women want to marry and that kids want

0:29:34.480 --> 0:29:37.360
<v Speaker 1>to be, want to be their father. I want to

0:29:37.400 --> 0:29:40.240
<v Speaker 1>be that man. When I die, I want people to

0:29:40.280 --> 0:29:44.520
<v Speaker 1>say that that's a strong African man. I am proud

0:29:44.560 --> 0:29:46.760
<v Speaker 1>that he's a part of my culture.

0:29:47.520 --> 0:29:50.800
<v Speaker 2>But I mean, fifty sounds old to be, you know,

0:29:50.800 --> 0:29:54.840
<v Speaker 2>feeling that way, But ultimately it's not for him because.

0:29:54.520 --> 0:29:55.320
<v Speaker 1>He's a man.

0:29:55.520 --> 0:29:58.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because he's a man, you know. And who said

0:29:58.200 --> 0:30:00.240
<v Speaker 2>he was looking for a fifty year old bitch? Right?

0:30:00.680 --> 0:30:03.240
<v Speaker 2>Getting a thirty year old woman, you know.

0:30:03.160 --> 0:30:05.360
<v Speaker 1>And I hope he get a fine ass twenty five

0:30:05.440 --> 0:30:09.680
<v Speaker 1>year with that fucking rad snapper, run his ass ragged,

0:30:09.800 --> 0:30:10.200
<v Speaker 1>my girl.

0:30:13.680 --> 0:30:17.360
<v Speaker 2>We're like Banner seems like a good guy like I

0:30:17.360 --> 0:30:19.200
<v Speaker 2>don't see him as a bad guy like who.

0:30:19.440 --> 0:30:22.320
<v Speaker 1>I never heard nothing crazy about him. I've always been

0:30:22.360 --> 0:30:26.200
<v Speaker 1>in love with David Banner. Always that nigga has always

0:30:26.840 --> 0:30:32.680
<v Speaker 1>sex symbol to me. I got to say, yeah, it's

0:30:32.680 --> 0:30:37.160
<v Speaker 1>too late now, nigga, it's too late. A bunch of

0:30:37.240 --> 0:30:40.000
<v Speaker 1>people wanted you people, and I had to move on

0:30:40.040 --> 0:30:41.600
<v Speaker 1>with They lost year. He gonna have to get him

0:30:41.600 --> 0:30:45.160
<v Speaker 1>a little young whoopa snapper and hopefully you know, she

0:30:45.280 --> 0:30:48.160
<v Speaker 1>don't hopefully she don't do him dirty. Hopefully hopefully she

0:30:48.160 --> 0:30:51.400
<v Speaker 1>don't break his heart. I hadn't heard no bad things

0:30:51.400 --> 0:30:54.320
<v Speaker 1>about David Banner and dating. I don't know anybody who's

0:30:54.400 --> 0:30:59.479
<v Speaker 1>dealt with him, So I don't know how he How

0:30:59.800 --> 0:31:03.080
<v Speaker 1>do you? How do you make it this long?

0:31:03.200 --> 0:31:04.440
<v Speaker 2>Like? Who is? Who?

0:31:04.560 --> 0:31:08.560
<v Speaker 1>Has he ever been attached to? Like woman? Like a woman?

0:31:09.640 --> 0:31:11.920
<v Speaker 1>Do you know anybody he's ever dated?

0:31:13.160 --> 0:31:15.280
<v Speaker 2>No? I can't think of a soul. I can't think

0:31:15.320 --> 0:31:15.760
<v Speaker 2>of anybody.

0:31:15.760 --> 0:31:18.160
<v Speaker 1>So David Banner, so he ain't been out here fucking

0:31:18.840 --> 0:31:21.080
<v Speaker 1>so you're not early with somebody and somebody and I

0:31:21.080 --> 0:31:21.720
<v Speaker 1>fell in love.

0:31:22.520 --> 0:31:24.120
<v Speaker 2>He was very quiet about it.

0:31:24.800 --> 0:31:27.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, somebody that I've been in love somewhere and you

0:31:28.000 --> 0:31:30.880
<v Speaker 1>let that woman go? What happened with that? I want

0:31:30.880 --> 0:31:32.600
<v Speaker 1>to talk to David Banner. Let's see, we could try

0:31:32.600 --> 0:31:33.720
<v Speaker 1>to get him on the show so you can have

0:31:33.760 --> 0:31:37.040
<v Speaker 1>a deeper discussion about the psychology of a fifty year

0:31:37.040 --> 0:31:39.360
<v Speaker 1>old nigga. Because they got a lot to say about

0:31:39.400 --> 0:31:42.040
<v Speaker 1>women just being thirty with no children and her husband.

0:31:43.080 --> 0:31:44.880
<v Speaker 1>You know, they got a lot to say about us.

0:31:44.920 --> 0:31:47.240
<v Speaker 1>But it's like, Okay, you a man fifty, because you

0:31:47.240 --> 0:31:50.800
<v Speaker 1>can get a younger woman, but something has to automatically

0:31:50.840 --> 0:31:54.360
<v Speaker 1>be wrong with a woman because she didn't have those

0:31:54.360 --> 0:32:00.480
<v Speaker 1>things by a certain time. Double standards. Double standards. Hate

0:32:00.520 --> 0:32:02.480
<v Speaker 1>double standards.

0:32:02.080 --> 0:32:06.000
<v Speaker 2>Me too, But I mean men can be sixty and

0:32:06.040 --> 0:32:08.200
<v Speaker 2>be like, I'm ready, and what can we say? You know,

0:32:09.400 --> 0:32:11.480
<v Speaker 2>because he can get him a little nice, little forty

0:32:11.640 --> 0:32:14.120
<v Speaker 2>thirty five year old forty year olds something to make kids?

0:32:14.320 --> 0:32:17.520
<v Speaker 2>How old it al pacino? And he just had a

0:32:17.560 --> 0:32:20.120
<v Speaker 2>baby something like that, eighty something years old with a

0:32:20.160 --> 0:32:23.560
<v Speaker 2>younger woman, So more power to him. I say all

0:32:23.720 --> 0:32:26.960
<v Speaker 2>men should wait until they ready. Don't get involved with

0:32:27.000 --> 0:32:30.160
<v Speaker 2>someone and making single mothers out of women and doing

0:32:30.240 --> 0:32:32.560
<v Speaker 2>all the things when you're not ready. If it take

0:32:32.600 --> 0:32:36.200
<v Speaker 2>you till sixty, wait till sixty, because I'm sure some

0:32:36.240 --> 0:32:38.040
<v Speaker 2>of the women that you ran through and leaving the

0:32:38.080 --> 0:32:41.080
<v Speaker 2>trails of tears behind you would be grateful if you

0:32:41.120 --> 0:32:43.400
<v Speaker 2>had just waited and didn't play in their face.

0:32:43.960 --> 0:32:47.040
<v Speaker 1>And keep your heart healthy, make sure you're running. David

0:32:47.040 --> 0:32:49.840
<v Speaker 1>Banner looked like he got a nice strong back. I

0:32:49.880 --> 0:32:56.640
<v Speaker 1>don't see ed in his future anytime soon. More power

0:32:56.760 --> 0:32:57.800
<v Speaker 1>to your David Banner.

0:32:58.600 --> 0:33:01.640
<v Speaker 2>Yep, all right. I saw a video over the weekend

0:33:01.640 --> 0:33:04.480
<v Speaker 2>that made me want to have this conversation. Tammy Rowman

0:33:04.640 --> 0:33:10.400
<v Speaker 2>was discussing password sharing and location sharing, and I wanted

0:33:10.400 --> 0:33:13.000
<v Speaker 2>to talk with AJ and you guys about what it

0:33:13.040 --> 0:33:16.120
<v Speaker 2>looks like in your relationships and what it should look

0:33:16.200 --> 0:33:20.400
<v Speaker 2>like in your relationship with password sharing and location squear sharing.

0:33:20.720 --> 0:33:27.120
<v Speaker 2>We'll be right back with that conversation, all.

0:33:27.120 --> 0:33:32.440
<v Speaker 1>Right, y'all, And we're back, okay, and absolutely fucking not

0:33:32.880 --> 0:33:36.880
<v Speaker 1>to kick the conversation off, No you can't have my

0:33:36.920 --> 0:33:41.680
<v Speaker 1>goddamn password, and no I'm not sharing my location. There's that.

0:33:43.240 --> 0:33:47.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't for me. If you want it, you can

0:33:47.800 --> 0:33:50.640
<v Speaker 2>have it, but I feel like there's a bigger issue

0:33:50.840 --> 0:33:52.920
<v Speaker 2>at hand if you want it, and we need to

0:33:52.960 --> 0:33:56.360
<v Speaker 2>discover what that is. But you can have it until

0:33:56.400 --> 0:33:59.640
<v Speaker 2>you feel comfortable, you know, to give me my password

0:33:59.680 --> 0:34:02.240
<v Speaker 2>back where I can have that privacy, because it's like

0:34:02.280 --> 0:34:04.960
<v Speaker 2>you're looking into my diary, you know. That's how it

0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:07.640
<v Speaker 2>feels when you want to have access to my phone

0:34:07.680 --> 0:34:10.360
<v Speaker 2>in that way, is like you want access to my diary,

0:34:10.440 --> 0:34:12.439
<v Speaker 2>because I mean, there are private things in your phone

0:34:12.440 --> 0:34:16.080
<v Speaker 2>that isn't for everybody, that's just for you, you know. So,

0:34:16.400 --> 0:34:19.840
<v Speaker 2>and in location sharing, the only real the way I

0:34:19.880 --> 0:34:21.920
<v Speaker 2>would feel like I would want my man to have

0:34:22.000 --> 0:34:24.799
<v Speaker 2>my location. It's for my safety, you know. If I'm

0:34:24.800 --> 0:34:27.560
<v Speaker 2>going out of town or if I'm going like on

0:34:27.600 --> 0:34:30.319
<v Speaker 2>a long distance drive or something like that, then I

0:34:30.320 --> 0:34:33.040
<v Speaker 2>can share my location with you. But otherwise it just

0:34:33.040 --> 0:34:36.440
<v Speaker 2>seems like control. All those things feel like control to me.

0:34:38.840 --> 0:34:43.160
<v Speaker 1>Neither one of us have been married yet. Okay, as

0:34:43.960 --> 0:34:46.439
<v Speaker 1>until you're married, you're single. I'm living with a whole

0:34:46.480 --> 0:34:49.839
<v Speaker 1>man and I'm still single as far as the thing goes, right,

0:34:51.520 --> 0:34:53.839
<v Speaker 1>if I get married or when I get married, I

0:34:53.880 --> 0:34:59.279
<v Speaker 1>probably would share my location with my significant other. I

0:34:59.320 --> 0:35:02.399
<v Speaker 1>don't have a problem with that. And actually the man

0:35:02.440 --> 0:35:05.480
<v Speaker 1>who I was engaged to, he was very adamant about

0:35:05.520 --> 0:35:07.839
<v Speaker 1>trying to get me to share my location with him.

0:35:07.840 --> 0:35:10.279
<v Speaker 1>But I knew you had a whole lot of shit

0:35:10.360 --> 0:35:13.000
<v Speaker 1>going on that you didn't think I knew about. So

0:35:13.200 --> 0:35:16.120
<v Speaker 1>you wanted me, you were in particular wanted in particular

0:35:16.160 --> 0:35:19.320
<v Speaker 1>wanting me to share my location and you not share

0:35:19.360 --> 0:35:25.000
<v Speaker 1>yours is a problem that is control, absolutely, you know.

0:35:25.080 --> 0:35:27.160
<v Speaker 1>So it's what they're trying to do with this information.

0:35:27.800 --> 0:35:30.239
<v Speaker 1>And then it's also like if there was never any

0:35:30.320 --> 0:35:34.120
<v Speaker 1>like insecurity issues leading up to you asking for these things,

0:35:34.640 --> 0:35:38.040
<v Speaker 1>then maybe I would consider it. But based on like

0:35:38.080 --> 0:35:41.920
<v Speaker 1>the things that I've already transpired in a relationship, dishonesty, lying,

0:35:42.320 --> 0:35:44.320
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Nigga, it was never honest

0:35:44.320 --> 0:35:46.879
<v Speaker 1>with me, Like bitches was literally knocking on the door,

0:35:47.680 --> 0:35:50.280
<v Speaker 1>scratching cars, all types of shit. Now I'm the one

0:35:51.080 --> 0:35:53.719
<v Speaker 1>you need my location. You got a lot of shit

0:35:53.800 --> 0:35:55.359
<v Speaker 1>going on, my boy, I.

0:35:55.239 --> 0:35:57.799
<v Speaker 2>Can't trust you because I've been so untrustworthy.

0:35:58.120 --> 0:36:02.200
<v Speaker 1>Yes That's what I'm hearing. Yeah, And actually that nigga

0:36:02.280 --> 0:36:04.959
<v Speaker 1>was logged into my social media for a whole year,

0:36:05.120 --> 0:36:07.040
<v Speaker 1>and I didn't know. We weren't even together.

0:36:08.440 --> 0:36:09.360
<v Speaker 2>Damn, that's crazy.

0:36:09.560 --> 0:36:11.600
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't until I let him have access to me.

0:36:11.800 --> 0:36:14.719
<v Speaker 1>Like we went out of town for my birthday and

0:36:14.760 --> 0:36:16.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't know why, but that was like our last

0:36:16.719 --> 0:36:21.120
<v Speaker 1>engagement for real, and he said some shit to me

0:36:21.239 --> 0:36:23.960
<v Speaker 1>that I knew. I don't use Facebook like that. I

0:36:23.960 --> 0:36:26.120
<v Speaker 1>haven't used Facebook for really years, but I did message

0:36:26.160 --> 0:36:28.840
<v Speaker 1>a nigga on Facebook that I was looking for, and

0:36:28.840 --> 0:36:32.040
<v Speaker 1>I knew I could find him on Facebook. He knew

0:36:32.040 --> 0:36:34.839
<v Speaker 1>about me messaging this person. He asked me about this

0:36:34.880 --> 0:36:36.880
<v Speaker 1>person in particular. I'm like, that's the only person I

0:36:36.960 --> 0:36:40.000
<v Speaker 1>messaged on Facebook. I haven't like really logged into Facebook

0:36:40.360 --> 0:36:44.719
<v Speaker 1>since twenty twelve at that point, so that I had

0:36:44.760 --> 0:36:46.600
<v Speaker 1>to go look at my cell phone and like, you know,

0:36:46.640 --> 0:36:48.840
<v Speaker 1>you can go into settings and see where you're logged

0:36:48.880 --> 0:36:53.000
<v Speaker 1>in at. He was logged into my social media, all

0:36:53.040 --> 0:36:57.719
<v Speaker 1>of my social media's Instagram and Facebook on another cell

0:36:57.719 --> 0:37:01.719
<v Speaker 1>phone of his for a year. That is a major

0:37:01.760 --> 0:37:03.320
<v Speaker 1>invasion of privacy.

0:37:03.080 --> 0:37:07.960
<v Speaker 2>And you're looking at whoever you're talking to for years.

0:37:08.000 --> 0:37:10.400
<v Speaker 1>Though he was bringing up conversations that I had with

0:37:10.440 --> 0:37:15.080
<v Speaker 1>people before I even knew he existed. That's dangerous.

0:37:15.760 --> 0:37:16.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's scary.

0:37:17.600 --> 0:37:21.279
<v Speaker 1>So this is why now, because of previous situations with people,

0:37:21.280 --> 0:37:25.400
<v Speaker 1>why I I'm very leary when somebody wants my location

0:37:26.000 --> 0:37:29.560
<v Speaker 1>or when somebody wants access to my to my personal effects,

0:37:29.600 --> 0:37:32.800
<v Speaker 1>because I don't really fuck with people about these things.

0:37:33.040 --> 0:37:36.440
<v Speaker 1>You know, Like I like to, everybody's in an individual.

0:37:36.480 --> 0:37:38.960
<v Speaker 1>Even though we're in a union, we're in a relationship,

0:37:39.040 --> 0:37:40.960
<v Speaker 1>you're still an individual. There are going to be some

0:37:41.000 --> 0:37:42.640
<v Speaker 1>things you don't want me to see just because I

0:37:42.719 --> 0:37:44.920
<v Speaker 1>might not understand because it's not for me to see.

0:37:45.320 --> 0:37:48.719
<v Speaker 2>Right that part, I agree.

0:37:50.840 --> 0:37:53.560
<v Speaker 1>So now you're going through my text messages or going

0:37:53.600 --> 0:37:57.719
<v Speaker 1>through my Instagram from years and years ago, and you're

0:37:57.800 --> 0:38:00.799
<v Speaker 1>reading it with your eyes and mind and it's just

0:38:00.840 --> 0:38:03.000
<v Speaker 1>not for you to see. So you might make something

0:38:03.040 --> 0:38:06.359
<v Speaker 1>out of nothing because you actually looking for some shit.

0:38:08.000 --> 0:38:09.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm not in to hurt my own feelings. I know

0:38:09.800 --> 0:38:11.719
<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of women that are, but I'm not

0:38:11.880 --> 0:38:14.359
<v Speaker 1>into hurting my own feelings. So I'm never like going

0:38:14.360 --> 0:38:16.799
<v Speaker 1>into a Nigga cell phone for real. But I'll tell

0:38:16.840 --> 0:38:20.600
<v Speaker 1>y'all when I have I go on your cell phone.

0:38:21.239 --> 0:38:25.800
<v Speaker 1>When I'm ready to leave your ass, I go, wok,

0:38:27.719 --> 0:38:30.440
<v Speaker 1>I will go looking for a reason to leave you.

0:38:30.560 --> 0:38:34.160
<v Speaker 1>Not because I don't have a reason already, right, because

0:38:34.239 --> 0:38:37.160
<v Speaker 1>I obviously got to this point because of things happening

0:38:37.200 --> 0:38:40.359
<v Speaker 1>within the relationship. Right, But maybe you were good these

0:38:40.440 --> 0:38:43.680
<v Speaker 1>last two weeks. But I'm still like, I can't get

0:38:43.719 --> 0:38:48.279
<v Speaker 1>past what happened you know already in this relationship. I'm

0:38:48.320 --> 0:38:51.760
<v Speaker 1>ready to leave. I might just go look for some shit,

0:38:51.960 --> 0:38:53.440
<v Speaker 1>to start some shit so I can get the fuck

0:38:53.480 --> 0:38:54.080
<v Speaker 1>up out of there.

0:38:55.000 --> 0:38:57.840
<v Speaker 2>But why though, why not just be like, Hey, I

0:38:57.840 --> 0:39:00.799
<v Speaker 2>don't want to do this anymore. I'm over there relationship,

0:39:00.800 --> 0:39:03.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm no longer happy in it, and I'm gonna leave.

0:39:04.560 --> 0:39:06.800
<v Speaker 1>Well, I won't tell them that I went in they phone.

0:39:07.880 --> 0:39:11.280
<v Speaker 1>It'll just give me the internal motivation to leave again.

0:39:11.440 --> 0:39:14.000
<v Speaker 1>Do you see what I'm saying. I'm still I still

0:39:14.160 --> 0:39:17.040
<v Speaker 1>never let people know I've been in they shit. It

0:39:17.120 --> 0:39:19.800
<v Speaker 1>wasn't until last year me and this niggamen separated for

0:39:19.840 --> 0:39:22.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how long. It wasn't until last year

0:39:22.640 --> 0:39:25.279
<v Speaker 1>that I actually told him, Nigga, I seen such and

0:39:25.320 --> 0:39:27.080
<v Speaker 1>such and such on your phone, But I never said

0:39:27.120 --> 0:39:31.840
<v Speaker 1>anything because I chose to be happy every day. I

0:39:31.880 --> 0:39:34.160
<v Speaker 1>knew a lot of things, but I chose to be

0:39:34.239 --> 0:39:36.600
<v Speaker 1>happy because I didn't want to start friction in my relationship.

0:39:37.719 --> 0:39:40.000
<v Speaker 1>But a lot of people can't hold a piece like

0:39:40.000 --> 0:39:40.239
<v Speaker 1>I can.

0:39:40.320 --> 0:39:41.440
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, I'm not doing that.

0:39:41.640 --> 0:39:42.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah I did.

0:39:42.800 --> 0:39:44.920
<v Speaker 2>That's why I don't go in phones because once I

0:39:44.960 --> 0:39:48.160
<v Speaker 2>see it, it ain't no peace. There's no more peace,

0:39:48.280 --> 0:39:51.160
<v Speaker 2>you know. So I just mind my business and if

0:39:51.200 --> 0:39:53.239
<v Speaker 2>it's meant for me to find it, it'll confine me.

0:39:53.440 --> 0:39:54.360
<v Speaker 2>That's how I feel.

0:39:54.120 --> 0:39:58.360
<v Speaker 1>About exactly, literally a bit message you on Instagram, popping

0:39:58.440 --> 0:40:00.200
<v Speaker 1>up at the house, whatever it is. Because what was

0:40:00.239 --> 0:40:02.480
<v Speaker 1>people doing? It's another part of this conversation. I want

0:40:02.520 --> 0:40:04.799
<v Speaker 1>to get into what were people doing prior to cell

0:40:04.800 --> 0:40:06.879
<v Speaker 1>phones and all that shit to get caught?

0:40:06.920 --> 0:40:08.719
<v Speaker 2>You didn't, I say, I want to go back to

0:40:08.760 --> 0:40:11.879
<v Speaker 2>the time when you didn't have access to each other

0:40:11.920 --> 0:40:13.319
<v Speaker 2>in this way. I was like, I want to go

0:40:13.440 --> 0:40:16.319
<v Speaker 2>back to when dating you wouldn't talk until you got

0:40:16.320 --> 0:40:19.040
<v Speaker 2>home from work. And she's like, you wasn't old enough

0:40:19.080 --> 0:40:21.480
<v Speaker 2>to be dating back then, and I was like, I

0:40:21.560 --> 0:40:22.359
<v Speaker 2>still want to go.

0:40:22.400 --> 0:40:27.440
<v Speaker 1>Back that shit. Last week, I still want to go

0:40:27.520 --> 0:40:32.040
<v Speaker 1>back how were people getting caught cheating, because I guess

0:40:32.040 --> 0:40:36.000
<v Speaker 1>that's what it really balls down to, partly, right, part

0:40:36.040 --> 0:40:38.359
<v Speaker 1>of it could be the person's insecurity. And I did

0:40:38.360 --> 0:40:40.959
<v Speaker 1>pull up like a couple of articles so we could talk,

0:40:41.160 --> 0:40:44.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, talk about you know, why you may consider

0:40:45.080 --> 0:40:49.279
<v Speaker 1>why you shouldn't give the passwords because it's subjective to

0:40:49.320 --> 0:40:52.400
<v Speaker 1>the person's relationship, right, I mean not be for everybody.

0:40:52.440 --> 0:40:56.480
<v Speaker 1>It's definitely not for gem Andi. Me, Okay, I need

0:40:56.480 --> 0:40:59.480
<v Speaker 1>my independence. I don't like to feel smothered. I don't

0:40:59.560 --> 0:41:01.440
<v Speaker 1>like to feel like I don't have a choice in

0:41:01.480 --> 0:41:02.240
<v Speaker 1>any situation.

0:41:03.160 --> 0:41:07.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, me either. I I got a lot of old.

0:41:08.840 --> 0:41:11.319
<v Speaker 1>Like, oh porn in my phone, your own porn that

0:41:11.360 --> 0:41:12.080
<v Speaker 1>you made.

0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:15.160
<v Speaker 2>No like you know how guys were sending news and

0:41:15.200 --> 0:41:18.239
<v Speaker 2>stuff like that. I still have one, and I just

0:41:18.280 --> 0:41:21.319
<v Speaker 2>feel like, well, do I need to delete them when

0:41:21.360 --> 0:41:23.120
<v Speaker 2>I get a man or can they just stay in

0:41:23.160 --> 0:41:24.600
<v Speaker 2>the folder somewhere?

0:41:25.840 --> 0:41:28.000
<v Speaker 1>You probably should delete him because he fucked around and

0:41:28.000 --> 0:41:30.160
<v Speaker 1>getting that phone. And see Dick, Dick, Dick, Dick, Dick.

0:41:30.320 --> 0:41:33.959
<v Speaker 2>It ain't that much. Dick seems like it's like I'm

0:41:34.000 --> 0:41:34.720
<v Speaker 2>just like a perv.

0:41:34.800 --> 0:41:36.799
<v Speaker 1>And I know, hold on, whose show was me on?

0:41:36.880 --> 0:41:39.080
<v Speaker 1>And I have put Dick in my search, and it

0:41:39.160 --> 0:41:40.320
<v Speaker 1>was like a lot of Dick.

0:41:40.400 --> 0:41:41.960
<v Speaker 2>Like a lot of Carlos.

0:41:44.480 --> 0:41:46.560
<v Speaker 1>It was a lot of conversations about Dix. It was

0:41:46.640 --> 0:41:50.080
<v Speaker 1>Dix like because when you get a new like I

0:41:50.200 --> 0:41:52.279
<v Speaker 1>just got this cell phone two weeks ago, like you

0:41:52.400 --> 0:41:55.040
<v Speaker 1>still transferring all that data from years and years and

0:41:55.120 --> 0:41:56.320
<v Speaker 1>years of having phones.

0:41:57.239 --> 0:41:58.840
<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying. So do I need to like

0:41:58.880 --> 0:42:04.320
<v Speaker 2>delete all of that stuff a separate folder just because

0:42:04.360 --> 0:42:06.720
<v Speaker 2>it's part of the history, the story of my life.

0:42:06.800 --> 0:42:08.799
<v Speaker 1>You should probably delete it or get this app called

0:42:08.800 --> 0:42:09.640
<v Speaker 1>the Vault and.

0:42:09.760 --> 0:42:12.200
<v Speaker 2>Hide it somebody in your eye.

0:42:13.440 --> 0:42:14.120
<v Speaker 1>And hide it.

0:42:14.239 --> 0:42:14.560
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:42:19.000 --> 0:42:21.719
<v Speaker 1>So this, uh, this is talking about passwords. This is

0:42:21.760 --> 0:42:25.439
<v Speaker 1>from PCMag dot com Sharing passwords with a partner, True

0:42:25.520 --> 0:42:28.480
<v Speaker 1>Love or Big Mistake. As the title of this article,

0:42:28.520 --> 0:42:31.479
<v Speaker 1>it says, here's why eighty one percent of Americans share

0:42:31.520 --> 0:42:35.200
<v Speaker 1>passwords with their partner and what happens after a breakup.

0:42:35.800 --> 0:42:38.719
<v Speaker 2>Wait, eighty one percent of Americans are sharing passwords.

0:42:38.760 --> 0:42:41.200
<v Speaker 1>That's what listen. So I had to go deep. I

0:42:41.640 --> 0:42:43.720
<v Speaker 1>read this first, and then I was like, wait, y'all

0:42:43.719 --> 0:42:46.359
<v Speaker 1>talk about Netflix passwords, And then we talked about cell

0:42:46.400 --> 0:42:51.080
<v Speaker 1>phone codes and share Instagram passwords. We talk about like

0:42:51.160 --> 0:42:52.960
<v Speaker 1>sharing apps and ships, so I ain't got to be

0:42:53.000 --> 0:42:53.400
<v Speaker 1>paid for.

0:42:55.080 --> 0:42:59.359
<v Speaker 2>That. I had longed into my HBO, max longed into

0:42:59.400 --> 0:43:02.040
<v Speaker 2>my Mexican over a nigga house so we could watch

0:43:02.120 --> 0:43:04.000
<v Speaker 2>Game of Throws. And then we had a fight, and

0:43:04.000 --> 0:43:07.040
<v Speaker 2>then I when I went home, well at home, I wasn't.

0:43:07.320 --> 0:43:09.520
<v Speaker 2>We didn't fight at his house, but we had an argument.

0:43:09.920 --> 0:43:11.799
<v Speaker 2>And then at home I made sure I changed my

0:43:11.880 --> 0:43:14.520
<v Speaker 2>password on purpose because I knew he was watching me

0:43:16.440 --> 0:43:19.680
<v Speaker 2>watch it with another bitch on my He was like,

0:43:19.680 --> 0:43:22.000
<v Speaker 2>did you change your Hbo password? And I was like,

0:43:22.080 --> 0:43:27.360
<v Speaker 2>what imagine? Imagine you at home at your house and.

0:43:28.960 --> 0:43:32.320
<v Speaker 1>Your husband. I gave somebody else your your passwords to

0:43:32.400 --> 0:43:35.919
<v Speaker 1>one of your accounts and she don't put her name

0:43:35.960 --> 0:43:36.359
<v Speaker 1>in the shit.

0:43:37.640 --> 0:43:41.920
<v Speaker 2>Oh she made a profile, Yes, aside bitch made a profile.

0:43:42.000 --> 0:43:48.120
<v Speaker 1>A side bitch made a profile. What what's your next step?

0:43:48.640 --> 0:43:52.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know because and then you

0:43:52.480 --> 0:43:56.160
<v Speaker 2>name it, uh both of ours or something like that.

0:44:00.000 --> 0:44:01.319
<v Speaker 2>Oh mine's too.

0:44:01.920 --> 0:44:06.960
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, that's real life story. They happen to

0:44:07.080 --> 0:44:10.520
<v Speaker 1>me now, not me because I beat a nigga up.

0:44:10.560 --> 0:44:12.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm just be honest with y'all. I do be beating

0:44:12.600 --> 0:44:17.440
<v Speaker 1>niggas up, not for real, but I might smack you.

0:44:17.480 --> 0:44:20.160
<v Speaker 1>I might smack you in your fucking beard. I might

0:44:20.600 --> 0:44:21.760
<v Speaker 1>because why you're letting.

0:44:21.520 --> 0:44:24.480
<v Speaker 2>This girl play? You wanted your woman to see that.

0:44:24.680 --> 0:44:27.160
<v Speaker 1>Exactly, and so why is she so comfortable to play

0:44:27.160 --> 0:44:29.560
<v Speaker 1>with me like that? See, let's go back to the

0:44:29.600 --> 0:44:31.520
<v Speaker 1>times when they didn't have all these things, right, bitch,

0:44:31.480 --> 0:44:34.359
<v Speaker 1>you can't get at your wife that easy. But yeah,

0:44:34.400 --> 0:44:35.640
<v Speaker 1>that happened to a friend of mine.

0:44:37.760 --> 0:44:39.880
<v Speaker 2>That's next level, next.

0:44:39.680 --> 0:44:43.239
<v Speaker 1>Level of disrespect. Okay, So it says. It starts with

0:44:43.280 --> 0:44:47.040
<v Speaker 1>a simple question, Hey, what's the Nextflix password? So that's

0:44:47.040 --> 0:44:51.000
<v Speaker 1>the first step, right, And just like that, you've joined

0:44:51.000 --> 0:44:53.920
<v Speaker 1>the eighty one percent of Americans who say they've shared

0:44:54.280 --> 0:44:57.520
<v Speaker 1>passwords with passwords with a partner. So they're starting with

0:44:57.600 --> 0:45:00.759
<v Speaker 1>like simple shit like that Netflix. Okay, So I share

0:45:00.760 --> 0:45:05.520
<v Speaker 1>accounts with multiple people, not just my partner, so it says,

0:45:05.520 --> 0:45:07.880
<v Speaker 1>according to a new survey of two thousand men and

0:45:07.960 --> 0:45:13.720
<v Speaker 1>women by Express VPN. This is a slightly higher number

0:45:13.760 --> 0:45:16.960
<v Speaker 1>than was found by a similar survey conducted in twenty

0:45:16.960 --> 0:45:23.200
<v Speaker 1>twenty one. As passive sharing is becoming more commonplace, particularly

0:45:23.280 --> 0:45:27.200
<v Speaker 1>among millennials. In gen z, it says Willingness to share

0:45:27.280 --> 0:45:31.760
<v Speaker 1>passwords and other types of personal data, including location, varies

0:45:31.760 --> 0:45:37.560
<v Speaker 1>by country. Express VPN conducted the survey with respondents from France, US,

0:45:37.600 --> 0:45:41.840
<v Speaker 1>Germany and UK. Willingness to fork over private information was

0:45:42.000 --> 0:45:47.000
<v Speaker 1>highest in France and US, with more skeptical Germans and

0:45:47.040 --> 0:45:50.080
<v Speaker 1>Brits holding out a bit more so eighty two percent

0:45:50.200 --> 0:45:53.800
<v Speaker 1>of French, eighty one percent Americans, seventy six of Germans

0:45:53.840 --> 0:45:56.520
<v Speaker 1>seventy one percent of Brits. Among Americans who have not

0:45:56.640 --> 0:45:59.600
<v Speaker 1>shared passwords with their partners, the top reasons given are

0:45:59.640 --> 0:46:02.239
<v Speaker 1>they they use the same password for different accounts, so

0:46:02.280 --> 0:46:04.080
<v Speaker 1>that that's one of my things. I do use it.

0:46:04.120 --> 0:46:06.839
<v Speaker 1>Even when I go and change all my passwords, I'm

0:46:06.920 --> 0:46:09.799
<v Speaker 1>usually changing them all to the same shit. So now

0:46:09.800 --> 0:46:12.080
<v Speaker 1>if I give you the password for one thing, and

0:46:12.120 --> 0:46:14.440
<v Speaker 1>I think that's how my ex got into my social

0:46:14.480 --> 0:46:21.520
<v Speaker 1>media because like he had the password for Netflix, it

0:46:21.600 --> 0:46:25.399
<v Speaker 1>says a desire to keep certain information private in case

0:46:25.440 --> 0:46:29.200
<v Speaker 1>of a breakup it's eighteen percent. It says fear of

0:46:29.960 --> 0:46:33.120
<v Speaker 1>tempting their significant other to check on them, twelve percent,

0:46:33.960 --> 0:46:37.080
<v Speaker 1>fear their privacy will no longer be protected ten percent,

0:46:37.239 --> 0:46:41.120
<v Speaker 1>and not wanting their significant significant other to see what

0:46:41.160 --> 0:46:46.239
<v Speaker 1>they're up to. Seven percent only seven that that's what

0:46:46.280 --> 0:46:48.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. It's people don't be honest when they do

0:46:48.200 --> 0:46:51.719
<v Speaker 1>these things, because I feel like one hundred percent the

0:46:51.800 --> 0:46:55.000
<v Speaker 1>reason why I'm not sharing is because it's not none

0:46:55.040 --> 0:46:57.160
<v Speaker 1>of your damn business. How about that? It's just my

0:46:57.280 --> 0:46:59.680
<v Speaker 1>private thing. Can I have one thing private?

0:47:00.520 --> 0:47:05.000
<v Speaker 2>It's my diary. You don't need to see what I'm searching.

0:47:05.080 --> 0:47:06.600
<v Speaker 2>You don't need to see what me and my friends

0:47:06.600 --> 0:47:08.880
<v Speaker 2>are talking about. You don't need to see my photos,

0:47:09.200 --> 0:47:10.839
<v Speaker 2>you don't need to see none of that. It's none

0:47:10.880 --> 0:47:14.799
<v Speaker 2>of your business. It's a trust issue, absolutely, So I

0:47:14.800 --> 0:47:16.720
<v Speaker 2>don't have no desire to go through a nigga phone

0:47:16.760 --> 0:47:17.560
<v Speaker 2>like zero.

0:47:18.880 --> 0:47:21.200
<v Speaker 1>Zero Yeah, Like I'm not into Why are you gonna

0:47:21.200 --> 0:47:22.120
<v Speaker 1>fuck your Monday up?

0:47:22.840 --> 0:47:23.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:47:23.840 --> 0:47:27.560
<v Speaker 1>Like everything was good like yesterday we have it, had

0:47:27.560 --> 0:47:29.440
<v Speaker 1>a great day, and then today you're just gonna go

0:47:29.560 --> 0:47:33.160
<v Speaker 1>look at my phone.

0:47:31.880 --> 0:47:34.279
<v Speaker 2>Like and try to ruin the day. Like, why are

0:47:34.320 --> 0:47:34.839
<v Speaker 2>you doing that?

0:47:34.880 --> 0:47:38.600
<v Speaker 1>You're selfish? Yeah, shit should not die, It says most

0:47:38.640 --> 0:47:42.920
<v Speaker 1>American couples were willing to share passwords before marriage. The

0:47:43.040 --> 0:47:48.640
<v Speaker 1>final third, thirty five percent, waited until after. Among all

0:47:48.760 --> 0:47:52.400
<v Speaker 1>couple surveyed, streaming service passwords are the most commonly shared,

0:47:52.440 --> 0:47:56.920
<v Speaker 1>followed by banking pins. Huh, that escalated quickly, it says,

0:47:57.000 --> 0:47:59.760
<v Speaker 1>And then it says social media passwords are the least

0:47:59.880 --> 0:48:03.719
<v Speaker 1>likely to be shared. So niggas is cheating on uh Snapchat?

0:48:05.520 --> 0:48:08.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, Snapchat is definitely for like looking at shit

0:48:08.719 --> 0:48:10.920
<v Speaker 2>you ain't got no business, or talking to people you

0:48:10.920 --> 0:48:14.520
<v Speaker 2>don't have no business because it deletes automatically.

0:48:15.200 --> 0:48:20.920
<v Speaker 1>Yep, it says. Digging into the reasons that couples exchange

0:48:20.960 --> 0:48:24.439
<v Speaker 1>this information, a survey found that cost saving top the list. Okay,

0:48:24.440 --> 0:48:27.440
<v Speaker 1>so that's like sharing apps forty four percent. But it

0:48:27.560 --> 0:48:31.880
<v Speaker 1>also but it's also about more than that. Survey responding

0:48:31.960 --> 0:48:37.719
<v Speaker 1>said they hope the sharing would improve transparency, trust, and loyalty,

0:48:37.880 --> 0:48:41.600
<v Speaker 1>bringing the pair closer. A small fraction twelve percent said

0:48:41.960 --> 0:48:46.200
<v Speaker 1>they did it as a means of preventing jealousy. So

0:48:46.239 --> 0:48:49.479
<v Speaker 1>you just offer up your shit because you don't want

0:48:49.480 --> 0:48:51.440
<v Speaker 1>your partner to be jealous. That's an internal issue that

0:48:51.480 --> 0:48:55.160
<v Speaker 1>they got to deal with. So you really not this.

0:48:55.280 --> 0:48:58.279
<v Speaker 1>If this person is insecure, giving them your password and

0:48:58.320 --> 0:49:01.120
<v Speaker 1>your location is not going to make them even any

0:49:01.160 --> 0:49:05.400
<v Speaker 1>more secure. It may even cause him to be more manic,

0:49:05.520 --> 0:49:08.719
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, like constantly checking it, constantly

0:49:08.719 --> 0:49:11.360
<v Speaker 1>trying to see where you at, calling to see, like

0:49:11.440 --> 0:49:14.880
<v Speaker 1>facetiming you to see your surroundings. Like you gotta know

0:49:15.239 --> 0:49:17.400
<v Speaker 1>your personnel. You got to know the type of person

0:49:17.400 --> 0:49:19.719
<v Speaker 1>you're dealing with before you just offer up that type.

0:49:19.480 --> 0:49:27.959
<v Speaker 2>Of yeah, I'll share, Like I kind of would want

0:49:28.000 --> 0:49:32.000
<v Speaker 2>my man to want my location. I mean where am

0:49:32.040 --> 0:49:32.920
<v Speaker 2>I at? That?

0:49:32.920 --> 0:49:35.080
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. If I'm married here, like I

0:49:35.120 --> 0:49:36.360
<v Speaker 1>need you to know where I'm at?

0:49:36.680 --> 0:49:38.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like where am I at? That? He's not that

0:49:38.840 --> 0:49:41.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't want him to know. I can't think of nowhere.

0:49:41.760 --> 0:49:43.120
<v Speaker 2>I could be that you.

0:49:43.360 --> 0:49:45.920
<v Speaker 1>On some other dick. That's what would be in that

0:49:45.960 --> 0:49:49.799
<v Speaker 1>person's mind, if they were somebody that's already insecure, you know,

0:49:49.960 --> 0:49:52.480
<v Speaker 1>like we had an episode or somebody said, you know,

0:49:52.680 --> 0:49:54.960
<v Speaker 1>you got your first bad bitch, Like some niggas don't

0:49:55.000 --> 0:49:57.360
<v Speaker 1>know how to handle that. So now you like stalking,

0:49:58.040 --> 0:50:00.799
<v Speaker 1>You stalking because you don't don't even know how to

0:50:00.840 --> 0:50:02.640
<v Speaker 1>deal with this person you thought you wanted.

0:50:03.400 --> 0:50:05.759
<v Speaker 2>But even if I wanted to be on some other dick,

0:50:06.760 --> 0:50:09.600
<v Speaker 2>I would still make it a location where you would

0:50:09.600 --> 0:50:11.040
<v Speaker 2>be comfortable with me being.

0:50:10.840 --> 0:50:12.440
<v Speaker 1>At your homegirl house.

0:50:12.880 --> 0:50:15.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like it would. There's ways around it, you know,

0:50:15.800 --> 0:50:21.239
<v Speaker 2>Like so I mean, it's just it's pointless. So I

0:50:21.280 --> 0:50:23.880
<v Speaker 2>would let me just say because and I don't want

0:50:23.920 --> 0:50:25.640
<v Speaker 2>my future man to be listening to this and like

0:50:25.640 --> 0:50:30.440
<v Speaker 2>that bitch is sneaky and could not. I wouldn't be

0:50:30.480 --> 0:50:36.080
<v Speaker 2>on no other dick period, Yeah, especially married, Like what

0:50:36.120 --> 0:50:36.600
<v Speaker 2>were we doing?

0:50:37.920 --> 0:50:40.440
<v Speaker 1>So I feel like when people if you have to

0:50:40.440 --> 0:50:44.320
<v Speaker 1>go to that extent of needing passwords and would you

0:50:44.400 --> 0:50:46.839
<v Speaker 1>let somebody answer your cell phone? You okay with that,

0:50:46.920 --> 0:50:51.200
<v Speaker 1>like when you get married and stuff like that. Yeah,

0:50:51.640 --> 0:50:54.839
<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm not answering my man's cell phone's not.

0:50:55.480 --> 0:50:57.279
<v Speaker 2>If he's if he'd be like baby, answer that.

0:50:57.360 --> 0:50:59.120
<v Speaker 1>If he tell me to. But I'm not just picking

0:50:59.200 --> 0:51:03.200
<v Speaker 1>up his phone answering. And then I don't like homegirls

0:51:03.200 --> 0:51:04.960
<v Speaker 1>who have me on speaker phone with a nigga in

0:51:04.960 --> 0:51:07.320
<v Speaker 1>the car, like I didn't even know that your dude

0:51:07.520 --> 0:51:10.600
<v Speaker 1>was right here. Like I understand, like some couples they

0:51:10.640 --> 0:51:14.480
<v Speaker 1>do everything together, they share everything. They don't need to

0:51:14.480 --> 0:51:15.719
<v Speaker 1>share my personal shit.

0:51:16.360 --> 0:51:20.800
<v Speaker 2>You just got to be prepared and understand that your business,

0:51:21.960 --> 0:51:26.640
<v Speaker 2>your your friend is there's a huge chance then she's

0:51:26.640 --> 0:51:28.279
<v Speaker 2>telling her nigga your business.

0:51:29.840 --> 0:51:32.400
<v Speaker 1>You have to different between telling and then I'm telling

0:51:32.440 --> 0:51:34.479
<v Speaker 1>because I don't know you got me on speakerphone because

0:51:34.480 --> 0:51:37.200
<v Speaker 1>you and your nigga just that close, Like I'm not

0:51:37.320 --> 0:51:40.520
<v Speaker 1>close with your man though, right, why does he know?

0:51:41.200 --> 0:51:42.680
<v Speaker 1>Why is he chiming in on?

0:51:43.600 --> 0:51:45.480
<v Speaker 2>No, he should keep his mouth fucking right.

0:51:46.040 --> 0:51:48.320
<v Speaker 1>That has happened to me, Like, why is he chiming

0:51:48.360 --> 0:51:51.440
<v Speaker 1>in on this thing I'm telling my my best friend.

0:51:51.640 --> 0:51:54.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, no, that's a problem because shut your little

0:51:54.680 --> 0:52:00.200
<v Speaker 2>bitch as un nobody was talking to you. But I

0:52:00.280 --> 0:52:03.480
<v Speaker 2>always I always feel like my best friends are my

0:52:03.600 --> 0:52:09.160
<v Speaker 2>friend's man know my business, anything that I've shared with her,

0:52:10.960 --> 0:52:13.160
<v Speaker 2>there's a huge chance. We me.

0:52:13.400 --> 0:52:15.160
<v Speaker 1>This is the chance, and I I it's some funny

0:52:15.160 --> 0:52:18.239
<v Speaker 1>shit that we can laugh about. Yeah, I probably repeated it.

0:52:18.480 --> 0:52:20.880
<v Speaker 1>But if it's like some personal shit, no for what

0:52:21.760 --> 0:52:23.759
<v Speaker 1>and then you're gonna have your boyfriend looking at your

0:52:23.800 --> 0:52:25.000
<v Speaker 1>friend crazy.

0:52:25.239 --> 0:52:29.560
<v Speaker 2>Right, But there's you know that women use their men

0:52:29.640 --> 0:52:31.640
<v Speaker 2>like they dieing, like they lay in the bed like,

0:52:31.680 --> 0:52:34.279
<v Speaker 2>oh let me tell you talking, Yeah, let me tell

0:52:34.280 --> 0:52:36.719
<v Speaker 2>you what Tammy told me today, you know, and it

0:52:36.760 --> 0:52:41.399
<v Speaker 2>don't even be like malicious is just talking about shit

0:52:41.640 --> 0:52:44.959
<v Speaker 2>that's in their life and that happens. That happens more

0:52:45.000 --> 0:52:49.879
<v Speaker 2>than you realize. A nigga will know all about your BV, like, wow,

0:52:50.000 --> 0:52:53.440
<v Speaker 2>your husband know I got BV. You know, ever everything

0:52:53.760 --> 0:52:58.160
<v Speaker 2>because women just talk to they men, you know, So

0:52:58.280 --> 0:53:00.839
<v Speaker 2>don't tell even if it's your best frien. Don't tell

0:53:00.840 --> 0:53:02.719
<v Speaker 2>her shit that you don't want her husband to know.

0:53:03.560 --> 0:53:06.440
<v Speaker 2>If it's something that you would be up. You wouldn't

0:53:06.440 --> 0:53:08.239
<v Speaker 2>be okay with her husband knowing. Don't tell her.

0:53:09.000 --> 0:53:09.239
<v Speaker 1>Hmm.

0:53:10.200 --> 0:53:12.239
<v Speaker 2>I know that's terrible, but it's the truth.

0:53:13.520 --> 0:53:16.360
<v Speaker 1>You know. I the friends where I have to say, look,

0:53:16.840 --> 0:53:19.480
<v Speaker 1>don't repeat this. If I got to do that too much,

0:53:19.560 --> 0:53:21.839
<v Speaker 1>because I know you be repeating shit. I'm probably stop

0:53:21.880 --> 0:53:25.480
<v Speaker 1>telling you things. Yeah, you know, I probably. I don't

0:53:25.480 --> 0:53:27.960
<v Speaker 1>feel comfortable telling you stuffing more because it's almost guaranteed.

0:53:28.000 --> 0:53:30.200
<v Speaker 1>And some people didn't like they like you said, they

0:53:30.200 --> 0:53:32.279
<v Speaker 1>don't do it with their intent. They just talk too

0:53:32.280 --> 0:53:34.200
<v Speaker 1>fucking much, you know what I'm saying, just in general

0:53:34.239 --> 0:53:36.840
<v Speaker 1>conversation and passing. They'd be done said some shit they

0:53:36.880 --> 0:53:39.799
<v Speaker 1>don't got no business saying. Somebody just said some shit

0:53:39.880 --> 0:53:42.120
<v Speaker 1>around me recently, and I'm like, I'm pretty sure that's

0:53:42.120 --> 0:53:43.960
<v Speaker 1>some shit they was not supposed to repeat. Like I

0:53:44.000 --> 0:53:47.439
<v Speaker 1>can point. I can actually, like just from somebody talking,

0:53:47.480 --> 0:53:49.640
<v Speaker 1>I can determine, like that's some shit you ain't supposed

0:53:49.640 --> 0:53:52.799
<v Speaker 1>to tell nobody. Somebody told you that and told you

0:53:52.840 --> 0:53:55.440
<v Speaker 1>not to tell nobody. And now I know you just

0:53:55.520 --> 0:53:56.160
<v Speaker 1>met me today.

0:53:57.719 --> 0:54:01.759
<v Speaker 2>Oh that next level now youtual, But you don't know them,

0:54:01.840 --> 0:54:05.760
<v Speaker 2>so it don't matter. That's the thing in six degrees

0:54:05.800 --> 0:54:06.360
<v Speaker 2>of separation.

0:54:06.440 --> 0:54:09.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't know them today, right, So you know what

0:54:09.080 --> 0:54:11.680
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to add to this conversation, So can you

0:54:11.680 --> 0:54:13.839
<v Speaker 1>tell me something like what are some ways like people

0:54:13.880 --> 0:54:17.719
<v Speaker 1>got caught cheating before the cell phones and shit that

0:54:17.760 --> 0:54:18.440
<v Speaker 1>you could think of.

0:54:19.400 --> 0:54:23.480
<v Speaker 2>At the juke joint they pulled up on them because

0:54:23.520 --> 0:54:27.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, like before before cell phones and all

0:54:27.239 --> 0:54:30.880
<v Speaker 2>this social media and things like that, there was really

0:54:30.960 --> 0:54:32.560
<v Speaker 2>it was really hard. You just had to be in

0:54:32.600 --> 0:54:35.120
<v Speaker 2>the right place at the right time, or somebody had

0:54:35.160 --> 0:54:37.719
<v Speaker 2>to see them, you know. I came up.

0:54:37.840 --> 0:54:40.080
<v Speaker 1>I came up with a couple of things. So the

0:54:40.200 --> 0:54:43.359
<v Speaker 1>very first one was this is the oldest one. It's

0:54:43.440 --> 0:54:47.279
<v Speaker 1>just women's intuition. Bitchua god by her fucking sleep, like

0:54:47.320 --> 0:54:53.240
<v Speaker 1>this nigga cheat, She just know all of a sudden,

0:54:53.280 --> 0:54:55.080
<v Speaker 1>I had a dream last night. You just wake up

0:54:55.120 --> 0:54:58.120
<v Speaker 1>and hit your fucking kid's daddy. I had a dream

0:54:58.200 --> 0:55:02.080
<v Speaker 1>last night you was with Rebecca from down the street.

0:55:02.560 --> 0:55:04.799
<v Speaker 1>Phone numbers in the pocket.

0:55:05.719 --> 0:55:07.759
<v Speaker 2>But you don't. I don't know. I ain't never had

0:55:07.760 --> 0:55:10.319
<v Speaker 2>no intuition like it was Rebecca and then it was

0:55:10.400 --> 0:55:14.200
<v Speaker 2>that's next level. That's psychic, ain't it. Yeah, And I've

0:55:14.280 --> 0:55:18.560
<v Speaker 2>had I've had intuition, but it be based on behavior,

0:55:18.960 --> 0:55:21.240
<v Speaker 2>like you're moving different.

0:55:22.080 --> 0:55:24.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because what men don't realize is that they are

0:55:25.000 --> 0:55:29.360
<v Speaker 1>very predictable, right, and women we do like consistency in

0:55:29.360 --> 0:55:32.839
<v Speaker 1>the minute that you deviate outside of those that thing

0:55:33.560 --> 0:55:37.040
<v Speaker 1>we on your ass. Last week, I just finally went

0:55:37.080 --> 0:55:40.040
<v Speaker 1>and got my bicycle child form my mama house. So

0:55:40.160 --> 0:55:43.480
<v Speaker 1>I bought a portable air pump from this old man

0:55:43.520 --> 0:55:45.759
<v Speaker 1>I found somebody on Facebook marketplace selling them. Like it

0:55:45.760 --> 0:55:48.160
<v Speaker 1>looks like like a portable charger, so you can put it.

0:55:48.160 --> 0:55:50.399
<v Speaker 1>I can put it in my book bag, charge my bike,

0:55:50.480 --> 0:55:53.520
<v Speaker 1>I mean, pump my air up. So I meet him

0:55:53.560 --> 0:55:56.360
<v Speaker 1>at Zaxby's. I just sat there and talked to this

0:55:56.400 --> 0:55:58.640
<v Speaker 1>old white man for a thirty minutes, child like he

0:55:58.760 --> 0:56:01.040
<v Speaker 1>was my granddaddy or somebody we so much. So to

0:56:01.080 --> 0:56:04.400
<v Speaker 1>where he's talking about how his second wife, who was

0:56:04.440 --> 0:56:07.960
<v Speaker 1>a Gemini, divorced him. He said, I used to He said,

0:56:07.960 --> 0:56:10.960
<v Speaker 1>I used to own a Firestone and it was this

0:56:11.040 --> 0:56:13.560
<v Speaker 1>young girl who came up there one day. She came up,

0:56:13.680 --> 0:56:17.080
<v Speaker 1>she put her ring her ring to the window and

0:56:17.120 --> 0:56:19.759
<v Speaker 1>basically she was trying to pawn her ring to get

0:56:19.880 --> 0:56:24.319
<v Speaker 1>new tires and brakes from Firestone. And he said, that's

0:56:24.360 --> 0:56:27.200
<v Speaker 1>how it all started. He said, I used to go

0:56:27.280 --> 0:56:31.000
<v Speaker 1>home between six thirty and six forty five every single day,

0:56:31.120 --> 0:56:33.719
<v Speaker 1>never missed it. He said, I was late one day,

0:56:34.640 --> 0:56:36.719
<v Speaker 1>then I was late the second day. He said. After

0:56:36.760 --> 0:56:39.239
<v Speaker 1>the second time he was late, his wife got a

0:56:39.320 --> 0:56:45.920
<v Speaker 1>private investigator on him after two times. So that was

0:56:45.960 --> 0:56:49.600
<v Speaker 1>another way. Private investigators is what people had to do before.

0:56:49.600 --> 0:56:51.719
<v Speaker 1>They could just go on your cell phone and see

0:56:51.719 --> 0:56:52.440
<v Speaker 1>what you was up to.

0:56:53.080 --> 0:56:58.080
<v Speaker 2>Right, it's too easy now, niggas had it easy back then,

0:56:58.160 --> 0:57:00.960
<v Speaker 2>y'all could do what y'all wanted. Yes, I had a

0:57:00.960 --> 0:57:03.960
<v Speaker 2>friend catch her nigga cheating because he was driving her

0:57:04.000 --> 0:57:06.640
<v Speaker 2>Tesla and she had the Tesla app on her phone

0:57:07.160 --> 0:57:11.880
<v Speaker 2>and she saw an address. Something just told her intuition. Look,

0:57:12.280 --> 0:57:16.360
<v Speaker 2>let me look at where he at today tonight. And

0:57:16.840 --> 0:57:19.560
<v Speaker 2>she looked at it and saw an address that was

0:57:20.360 --> 0:57:23.800
<v Speaker 2>two houses down from the address of the bitch he

0:57:23.880 --> 0:57:27.680
<v Speaker 2>had been cheating on her with prior. And she I

0:57:27.720 --> 0:57:29.560
<v Speaker 2>don't know how she knew the girl's address from before,

0:57:29.640 --> 0:57:31.880
<v Speaker 2>but you know, we'll find a way. So in the

0:57:31.920 --> 0:57:36.640
<v Speaker 2>phone you two houses down from there. M M, no,

0:57:36.720 --> 0:57:39.240
<v Speaker 2>you cheating again, nigga, And now I got to kill you.

0:57:43.160 --> 0:57:46.439
<v Speaker 1>Calling your spouse somebody else's name.

0:57:48.240 --> 0:57:50.480
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that'll happen.

0:57:51.040 --> 0:57:54.200
<v Speaker 1>That's how bitch niggas is getting caught. That's how bitches

0:57:54.240 --> 0:57:57.760
<v Speaker 1>get caught too, right, Uh, playing on the phone, calling

0:57:57.800 --> 0:58:01.360
<v Speaker 1>twice and hanging up the phone, ring twice and hang up.

0:58:01.400 --> 0:58:04.440
<v Speaker 1>This is a house phone. Yeah, this is before cell phones,

0:58:04.480 --> 0:58:08.200
<v Speaker 1>This is before pages. So somebody calling and hanging up

0:58:08.560 --> 0:58:12.880
<v Speaker 1>that is your husband's side, bitch. Right now, he got

0:58:12.880 --> 0:58:15.080
<v Speaker 1>to leave a house fifteen minutes later.

0:58:16.440 --> 0:58:18.680
<v Speaker 2>And make a call on a payphone down the street,

0:58:19.040 --> 0:58:23.840
<v Speaker 2>right the other woman simply pulling up to the house,

0:58:24.400 --> 0:58:27.080
<v Speaker 2>and that a five year old. Today. What I'm go'a

0:58:27.120 --> 0:58:29.120
<v Speaker 2>do with two more kids? What I'm gonna do with.

0:58:31.400 --> 0:58:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Cause my next one was babies you know, you you

0:58:33.720 --> 0:58:36.760
<v Speaker 1>were able to hide a whole family before cell phones,

0:58:38.280 --> 0:58:41.400
<v Speaker 1>before pagers, before social media. You could hide a whole

0:58:41.440 --> 0:58:44.840
<v Speaker 1>family and nobody knew until your funeral. That ain't working

0:58:44.920 --> 0:58:45.240
<v Speaker 1>like that, No.

0:58:45.480 --> 0:58:49.240
<v Speaker 2>I've seen that. I've seen that happen where a man

0:58:49.400 --> 0:58:53.240
<v Speaker 2>was on his deathbed and his family was uh surrounding him,

0:58:53.280 --> 0:58:56.440
<v Speaker 2>showering with him love as he's about the transition, and

0:58:56.520 --> 0:59:00.200
<v Speaker 2>a eighteen year old boy walks in and said, this

0:59:00.280 --> 0:59:03.320
<v Speaker 2>is my father, and everybody in the family is like,

0:59:06.000 --> 0:59:10.160
<v Speaker 2>what shame? Yes, he had a whole and then and

0:59:10.200 --> 0:59:12.880
<v Speaker 2>he's been a good father too. You wouldn't even know

0:59:12.960 --> 0:59:17.200
<v Speaker 2>bad father. He was a very prison father. Ain't that crazy?

0:59:17.520 --> 0:59:18.320
<v Speaker 1>How you present?

0:59:20.680 --> 0:59:25.120
<v Speaker 2>I guess he was moving and shaking thone. I don't know.

0:59:27.880 --> 0:59:30.080
<v Speaker 1>That's all I got though. Those are the ways she

0:59:30.160 --> 0:59:32.480
<v Speaker 1>was getting caught without having the cell phones back.

0:59:32.320 --> 0:59:35.800
<v Speaker 2>In the day. Now your car now a nigga car.

0:59:35.880 --> 0:59:39.360
<v Speaker 1>Catch him up period. One of my older cousins, I

0:59:39.400 --> 0:59:42.360
<v Speaker 1>think I said this before, is she She would say that,

0:59:42.480 --> 0:59:44.960
<v Speaker 1>You know, her and her husband had a rule and

0:59:44.960 --> 0:59:48.439
<v Speaker 1>this was this was before the technology. No one can

0:59:48.520 --> 0:59:51.520
<v Speaker 1>tell them that the other one is cheating. You'd have

0:59:51.600 --> 0:59:54.640
<v Speaker 1>to tap him on the shoulder, like, you got to

0:59:54.680 --> 0:59:57.880
<v Speaker 1>literally physically catch the catch your spouse cheating. So that's

0:59:57.920 --> 0:59:59.680
<v Speaker 1>what the rule was between her and her husband and

0:59:59.680 --> 1:00:02.560
<v Speaker 1>girl day, her husband tapped her on the shoulder while

1:00:02.600 --> 1:00:08.040
<v Speaker 1>she was out with another man, caught her eyes dead like,

1:00:08.120 --> 1:00:11.560
<v Speaker 1>so it gotta be an organic catch.

1:00:12.440 --> 1:00:14.800
<v Speaker 2>Listen. I respect that, but I don't know if it

1:00:14.920 --> 1:00:18.440
<v Speaker 2>be a tap on the shoulder or elbow to a y'all, you.

1:00:18.400 --> 1:00:26.120
<v Speaker 1>Know, punch him in the beard right like, and get

1:00:26.120 --> 1:00:29.600
<v Speaker 1>your some fucking cushion playing around with these damn cellphones

1:00:29.600 --> 1:00:30.360
<v Speaker 1>and snapchat.

1:00:30.880 --> 1:00:33.800
<v Speaker 2>You gotta be like, because are you? Are you a

1:00:33.840 --> 1:00:36.640
<v Speaker 2>person who wouldn't allow your man to have female friends?

1:00:36.760 --> 1:00:39.560
<v Speaker 1>No, absolutely not. I'm the person who point out fat

1:00:39.560 --> 1:00:42.800
<v Speaker 1>asses in the street like, I'm not on nobody like that.

1:00:42.880 --> 1:00:44.800
<v Speaker 1>If you can really bag them, you can have them,

1:00:45.160 --> 1:00:46.800
<v Speaker 1>because you don't. He obviously don't like.

1:00:46.760 --> 1:00:49.720
<v Speaker 2>Me, right and not the way he should.

1:00:50.080 --> 1:00:53.240
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he obviously don't like me. I don't really trip

1:00:53.280 --> 1:00:55.320
<v Speaker 1>on a lot of things anymore. I just I'm in

1:00:55.400 --> 1:00:58.840
<v Speaker 1>a different space nowadays. I never really tripped. I feel

1:00:58.840 --> 1:01:01.520
<v Speaker 1>like I've always enabled people to do shady shit because

1:01:01.560 --> 1:01:04.200
<v Speaker 1>I was never on your ass like that. You know

1:01:04.200 --> 1:01:06.000
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. I just go with the floor whatever

1:01:06.040 --> 1:01:08.880
<v Speaker 1>you tell me until I see otherwise. I'm not looking

1:01:08.880 --> 1:01:11.040
<v Speaker 1>for shit. So somebody literally gonna have to message me

1:01:11.080 --> 1:01:13.760
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram, which has happened. Somebody gonna literally have to

1:01:13.760 --> 1:01:17.760
<v Speaker 1>pull up which has happened. I'm not looking for shit.

1:01:18.560 --> 1:01:21.480
<v Speaker 2>One of my one of my cousins, she had a

1:01:21.600 --> 1:01:25.320
<v Speaker 2>very platonic relationship with a male ever since college. They

1:01:25.360 --> 1:01:27.640
<v Speaker 2>were like besties. They were like the best of friends.

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<v Speaker 2>And then once he got with his wife now his wife,

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<v Speaker 2>but she was his girlfriend at the time, she made

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<v Speaker 2>him stop being her friend. And I just thought that

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<v Speaker 2>would that suck, because like their relationship was not anything

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<v Speaker 2>inappropriate ever, But she made him cut that shit off

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<v Speaker 2>and he chose, I mean, he chose the woman he

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<v Speaker 2>ended up burying, and then they weren't friends anymore. Do

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like that's okay?

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<v Speaker 1>No? And yes, because I can understand when men say

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<v Speaker 1>that women can't have male friends, Because because call any

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<v Speaker 1>one of your male friends, the niggas that you call

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<v Speaker 1>homie brother, call them right now asking them if they

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<v Speaker 1>want to fuck, and see what they say.

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<v Speaker 2>I could call Terry.

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<v Speaker 1>Right now and be like I want to so could

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<v Speaker 1>I could? So could I. So it just depends on

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<v Speaker 1>the friends. But I'm saying the majority of your friends,

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<v Speaker 1>the majority of your guy friends are the people you

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<v Speaker 1>call bro brother. This is how men think, This is

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<v Speaker 1>how this is why men are uncomfortable with their women

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<v Speaker 1>having guy friends. Women, right, we believe we can have

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<v Speaker 1>guy friends, Like I got guy friends, and it may

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<v Speaker 1>be one of my guy friends is somebody who I've

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<v Speaker 1>actually been with many many years ago. And it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>ill now on both ends, you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>Like that's we really were supposed to just be friends

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<v Speaker 1>one time and that shit wasn't it? And we friends, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but my man would not become with him being my friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's why I was like a guy was like,

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<v Speaker 2>what you need male friends for when you got me,

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<v Speaker 2>because these people have been friends long before you came,

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<v Speaker 2>and they might be friends long after you go, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, right, Yeah, we should be able to have opposite

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<v Speaker 1>sex friends, absolutely, but men don't think it's possible for

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<v Speaker 1>women to have friends. And that's really because they have issues.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why you need to stay on my phone

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm gonna tell you I ain't friends with them, No, more.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's still my homeboy, right.

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<v Speaker 1>And see now when I got a lie to you

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<v Speaker 1>about my friend, we can't be together. Yeah, yeah, my

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<v Speaker 1>ex wanted me to get rid of everybody who ever

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<v Speaker 1>knew me. Okay, he really wanted to consume me in

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<v Speaker 1>that way.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, you could literally write a you know that my

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<v Speaker 2>my the worst ex, My worst ex. That show on Netflix,

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<v Speaker 2>have you seen it? It's about people who went had

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<v Speaker 2>relationships with people and they were like terrible. A lot

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<v Speaker 2>of these people try to kill him, but you literally

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<v Speaker 2>could have an episode on there, not murder, but just

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<v Speaker 2>from all the mental abuse that you experience.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I don't feel like it was mental abuse

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm not a person that can be abused. So

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<v Speaker 1>it was really a battle for him to impose that thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. That's why we would fucking

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<v Speaker 1>argue all the damn time, because I'm not somebody that's

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<v Speaker 1>easily controlled. But I give a lot of grace. So

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<v Speaker 1>when I get tired enough, I'm aa just cold turkeyo ass.

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<v Speaker 1>You ain't gonna never ever have access to me in

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<v Speaker 1>that way ever. Again.

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<v Speaker 2>Nah, some of that shit was abuse, friend, But I

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<v Speaker 2>guess I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Have a I don't have a victim mentality. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>I was dealing with somebody who was having problems. That's

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<v Speaker 1>how I feel for real. But in his mind, I

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<v Speaker 1>could have caused those problems, you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I could have been a terrorist to him. That

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<v Speaker 1>could be the story he's telling about me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you could be the villain in his story.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. And I'm at that point in my life where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm okay being a villain for sure. And I just

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<v Speaker 1>look at a girl. More power to your girl.

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<v Speaker 2>You next, I'm a hit of Netflix, so you can so.

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<v Speaker 1>Me and one of my homegirls that's gonna put together

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<v Speaker 1>a book based on our worst relationships, like a little

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<v Speaker 1>tell all right quick?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah you literally can't because I done heard some stories.

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<v Speaker 1>Resa Tisa, don't got shipped on this story. Okay, she

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<v Speaker 1>got a whole TV show coming out now, Resa Tisa, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Know I'm excited to see you because I can't watch

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<v Speaker 2>the TikTok series. I couldn't. I couldn't be bothered.

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<v Speaker 1>I watched that whole ship. I watched that whole ship

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm nosy. Yeah, but y'all listen if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to share your passwords and your location with your significant other.

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<v Speaker 1>More power to you. There's no I ain't doing that

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<v Speaker 1>ship over here. Don't don't. Don't ask me about nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna treat you like a child. Don't ask me

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<v Speaker 1>for nothing. Else.

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<v Speaker 2>I will share. But it just depends on the context

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<v Speaker 2>in which the reasons why you need it, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>why you feel like you want it, and.

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<v Speaker 1>How you ask for it. It just it just can't

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you're trying to control me. So you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have to finesse me out these passwords and location.

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<v Speaker 2>The location. I'm okay with that because.

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<v Speaker 1>I like I'm okay with the location.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I like feeling like my man don't play without me,

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<v Speaker 2>And if y'all do something, he already know where the

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<v Speaker 2>fuck I'm at, you know, But the password is next level.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I would have got got caught doing

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<v Speaker 2>something terrible for me to give you my password.

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<v Speaker 1>But even then, like you might as well leave, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you might as well leave when you get to that point.

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<v Speaker 1>My trust is already gone.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen. I can't even see myself doing the next man

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<v Speaker 2>I get I'm just gonna be so good because I've

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<v Speaker 2>been out here by myself for so long, I would

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<v Speaker 2>not want to fuck it up in any way. I think, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You full of shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, you got a last last for the people.

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<v Speaker 2>That was it. That's all I got.

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<v Speaker 2>Down y'all's official taim ma'am on Instagram. Y'all give me

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<v Speaker 2>a follow, I'll follow back sometimes if y'all got good content. Look,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying that, like I got good content, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>post it enough. I can't. I can't. I try to

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<v Speaker 2>be better. I try to do better, but it's hard

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<v Speaker 2>beating a slave to the content. Well, I love y'all

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<v Speaker 2>despite everything. Remember speak now.

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<v Speaker 1>And hold one goddamn passwords.

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<v Speaker 2>Holy your password as hard as long as you can.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't give it to them, hold them and don't be

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<v Speaker 1>stressing that nigga out for his shit either, bye. For

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