Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeart
Speaker 1: Radio and the Black Effect Network Talk.
Speaker 2: You're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.
Speaker 1: Well, what's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for
Speaker 1: a new episode of We Talked Back, a show dedicated
Speaker 1: to your dreamers and chasers. This is your co host,
Speaker 1: A J. Holiday. What's up, Big Tim BM.
Speaker 2: Hey, y'all. I fucking love y'all. I'm so sick of
Speaker 2: being disabled. I really am, you know what. Shout out
Speaker 2: to all the people who are handling disabilities and taking
Speaker 2: it in stride. I love y'all. Y'all are resilient, and
Speaker 2: I'm so proud of y'all because I'm suffering right now.
Speaker 2: I'm not doing a good job at it. I'm getting fatter.
Speaker 2: I'm getting fatter, an excuse now to be fat. I'm
Speaker 2: all fat and sassy.
Speaker 1: You ain't fat, y'all pleasantly plump. Okay, all right, you'll
Speaker 1: get it off.
Speaker 2: I'm going to get this second chin removed this month.
Speaker 2: I don't care. I'm just gonna go do it. I
Speaker 2: ain't paying no rent money. I'm just gonna go ahead
Speaker 2: and get this double chance. So when y'all see the
Speaker 2: next recording, and y'all see me bandaged, jump about the face.
Speaker 2: Don't ask no questions.
Speaker 1: I got a new chin and maya motherfucking business.
Speaker 2: How was your weekend?
Speaker 1: Girl? I literally did not leave the house on Saturday,
Speaker 1: had all intentions to do do so, but I didn't.
Speaker 1: I finished the last couple episodes of Hands Made Tale
Speaker 1: about to come out, right, Yeah, they're working on it now.
Speaker 1: Apparently they started recording. They started filming this month September,
Speaker 1: so I guess sometime next year we can expect the
Speaker 1: season six. But I can't wait, bitch. I just knew
Speaker 1: that motherfucker Serena was gonna be in the back of
Speaker 1: that plane wait for me, in the back of that
Speaker 1: train for June when June they finally was trying to
Speaker 1: escape out of Canada. It is just it's a bit much, man.
Speaker 2: I'm not watching it. I watched Reasonable Doubt. That's my
Speaker 2: ship right now.
Speaker 1: So I've been hearing about that. So I can I
Speaker 1: learn something from that shoulder?
Speaker 2: No, not really.
Speaker 1: See I'll be like a shit that got like low
Speaker 1: hidden like this. This made me feel like this in
Speaker 1: real life. Shit, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Like me. I feel like if you feel like you
Speaker 2: can learn from Handsmaid's tales, then you probably can learn
Speaker 2: from reasonable doubts.
Speaker 1: How though, are they alike?
Speaker 2: No, they're not alike. But I don't see what you're
Speaker 2: learning from handsmaid stale.
Speaker 1: Okay, Hey, look man, I'm out of the business of
Speaker 1: debating people's perspective.
Speaker 2: There's no debate. That's what I'm just saying. Just try
Speaker 2: the show and see if you like it.
Speaker 1: Is watching that and something else? Tell me, Lie, I've
Speaker 1: even watching it. Yeah, it's is that I've been hearing
Speaker 1: about telling me lies and reasonable doubt.
Speaker 2: I oh, yeah, reasonable doubt is good. And then I
Speaker 2: watched the Baylor in Colorado game over the weekend. That's
Speaker 2: how you know a bitchally fucked up. I'm mean here
Speaker 2: watching football, but that shit was actually no. I wasn't
Speaker 2: bet and I was just it was on, and then
Speaker 2: it actually started getting good to me, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: this is actually entertaining.
Speaker 1: Who knew, y'all. It's September twenty third, twenty twenty four,
Speaker 1: and my prediction is that the Baltimore Ravens will be
Speaker 1: going to the Super Bowl. I may, I know, it
Speaker 1: may not look like it right now for you know,
Speaker 1: Ravens fans or people who aren't fans. I'm not necessarily
Speaker 1: a fan, but I had a premonition that they will
Speaker 1: be going to the super Bowl this year, so I
Speaker 1: might go ahead and put a couple hundred dollars on that.
Speaker 1: I feel very strongly about it for some reason.
Speaker 2: Well, I guess we're gonna see y'all mark this date
Speaker 2: until aj she's psychic or she was completely dead wrong.
Speaker 1: Psychic got delusions line. And so Saturday, oh that was
Speaker 1: Saturday nothing. And then Sunday I did go off to
Speaker 1: dinner at least a very very nice I don't even
Speaker 1: know if it's a new restaurant in Charleston. It's called
Speaker 1: a Select. I was pleasantly surprised. It was so good,
Speaker 1: like I always be pumping up my city. We got
Speaker 1: some of the best food out this bitch.
Speaker 2: And it was date night. No.
Speaker 1: I actually hung out with my homegirl and one of
Speaker 1: her friends, one of her guy friends. I just met
Speaker 1: them out. She wanted to get outside a little bit,
Speaker 1: just to do something.
Speaker 2: We got on the grill Sunday and my mama's well,
Speaker 2: I didn't get on shit. I just sat on the
Speaker 2: couch because I can't do shit.
Speaker 1: But we had off the grill. You ad off the grill.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I ate off the grill and that was it.
Speaker 2: I can't do it. I can't wait for this. I
Speaker 2: don't even know if I'm going to Homecoming no more,
Speaker 2: because I'm looking at the math of the doctor. The
Speaker 2: doctor said four more weeks on this, on this scooter
Speaker 2: and the crutch. So I'm coming this October one, twenty six,
Speaker 2: So we'll see.
Speaker 1: That's a month from now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the seventeenth, I'll be able to walk on the boot,
Speaker 2: but I still have them on the boot. Who aren't
Speaker 2: trying to walk on a boot in the Homecoming? Girl?
Speaker 1: You that press right?
Speaker 2: So we'll see what happened. I don't know.
Speaker 1: We'll see how I feel by then, please don't okay
Speaker 1: there with.
Speaker 2: One of my homeboys, he was like always, you know,
Speaker 2: my little cousin loved your show, and I send me
Speaker 2: the link so I can listen to some episodes. So
Speaker 2: I sent him the link and he was like, I
Speaker 2: was like, what do you think? And he was like,
Speaker 2: I don't think that's what I was like, No, tell me, really,
Speaker 2: what do you think? He was like, I just felt
Speaker 2: like I was listening to my mama and my auntie conversation.
Speaker 2: Like I picked up the phone and I was just
Speaker 2: listening there.
Speaker 1: Now, so we saw like Mama's and aunties. I mean,
Speaker 1: I feel like that's on brand.
Speaker 2: Note. I was about writing to me, let's get innocence,
Speaker 2: Didy Diddy, Diddy Diddy? Did he do it?
Speaker 1: Did he not? Shah?
Speaker 2: He did that?
Speaker 1: Sit So last week we reported, not reported because we
Speaker 1: ate reporters. Okay, so last week we talked about did
Speaker 1: he prior to the actual charges coming out? So now
Speaker 1: this week and the charges actually came out later in
Speaker 1: the day last week. So so he's been arrested on
Speaker 1: charges of racketeering, conspiracy, and sex trafficking. He did plead
Speaker 1: not guilty on Tuesday and was ordered to remain in
Speaker 1: custom until his federal trial in New York. So now
Speaker 1: he's since been moved to Nork, New Jersey Prison, federal prison.
Speaker 1: Did he has been trying to forfeit everything he fucking
Speaker 1: owns to get a bail and they have denied him
Speaker 1: now bond twice. He tried to put up his well,
Speaker 1: he actually put up his house, his mom's house, offered
Speaker 1: to turn in his passport, also kids passports, and the
Speaker 1: judge an in't budget. Now, I feel like everybody deserves
Speaker 1: to have bond, you know what I'm saying, Like, even
Speaker 1: though we know they gonna give you a crazy as
Speaker 1: bot just because they don't want you to get out,
Speaker 1: but because he has the means to get out, They're like, no,
Speaker 1: But we know other men in the similar situation have
Speaker 1: been given bond in the past so they can prepare,
Speaker 1: get their affairs together and shit like that. This is Diddy.
Speaker 1: Why did he can't get a bond? Did he a
Speaker 1: real terrorist?
Speaker 2: For real? It looks like it seems it's a lot
Speaker 2: of people who have come out against him, you know,
Speaker 2: like they're coming out of the woodworks. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So. Damon Williams, the US Attorney for the Southern District
Speaker 1: of New York who brought the indictment, was vague when
Speaker 1: asked whether Didy or others would face more charges. Now
Speaker 1: I know. I think they also put like some drug
Speaker 1: charges on him too, Narcotics, the illicit drugs that he supports.
Speaker 1: He had at these allegedly had at these uh freak
Speaker 1: offs for him and guests. Apparently some of these guests
Speaker 1: must have been there against their free will. It says
Speaker 1: multiple witnesses who have worked with Combs have been meeting
Speaker 1: with prosecutors. A source familiar with the federal investigation told
Speaker 1: CNN at least one male sex worker is expected to
Speaker 1: testify in front of the grand jury in a couple
Speaker 1: of days, according to the source, who added, the witnesses
Speaker 1: allegations go beyond the details in this week's indictment, So
Speaker 1: we're gonna be hearing some more shit, Okay. Apparently he
Speaker 1: got like fifty victims and witnesses, over fifty victims and
Speaker 1: witnesses in this.
Speaker 2: Case, fifty victims and witnesses in trouble. Yeah, he's very
Speaker 2: much in trouble.
Speaker 1: He's in trouble. And on top of that, son, they're
Speaker 1: saying Kim not.
Speaker 2: So.
Speaker 1: I don't know if y'all know Sloan Bella off YouTube
Speaker 1: she's a psychic. So before all this should even happened
Speaker 1: last year, I want to say, like maybe around like
Speaker 1: January last year, February she put out an initial video.
Speaker 1: She's been doing this for years, but she didn't get
Speaker 1: like piped up until last year. When did he actually
Speaker 1: the when Cassie actually put her civil suit out there?
Speaker 1: Like that. When that became public, that's when people got
Speaker 1: onto Sloan Bella. But she had predicted this months prior.
Speaker 1: She really did all of this everything. Even this year,
Speaker 1: she put out a video like round February she said,
Speaker 1: by Easter, some more shit was gonna be happening with Diddy,
Speaker 1: and it's gonna be other men that go down with him.
Speaker 1: They raided his house in April. She said, Easter is
Speaker 1: it's gonna be like an Easter egg hunt type shit.
Speaker 1: This is how she was saying it on her show,
Speaker 1: because I've been locked in since last year, like who
Speaker 1: the fuck this is right up my alley. So yeah,
Speaker 1: she's predicted all of the things. You know, maybe she's
Speaker 1: an agent, I don't know, and maybe she could be
Speaker 1: the real thing, and she gets information from the cosmos.
Speaker 1: Who knows, right, but Diddy asses in fucking trouble. But
Speaker 1: one thing Sloan Bella did say is how she was
Speaker 1: getting this information from Kim Peter from the other side.
Speaker 1: So she's like, Kim ain't fucking around with Diddy. She's
Speaker 1: gonna get his ass from the other side. She couldn't
Speaker 1: do it from this side, but so she's doing the
Speaker 1: work from the other side. So on Friday, September twentieth,
Speaker 1: Daily Mail reported that a sixty page book called Kim's
Speaker 1: Lost Words was recently published were quietly published on September
Speaker 1: sixth by Los Angeles based publisher Chris Todd and written
Speaker 1: by Jamal T. Millwood. The unauthorized book, which is currently
Speaker 1: for sale on Amazon, is allegedly comprised of Porter's diary
Speaker 1: entries kept during her time with Puff and reportedly the
Speaker 1: details instances of shocking abuse she experienced at the Disgrace
Speaker 1: Mogul's hand. We don't know if it's true or not.
Speaker 1: There's been people like I'll be sure, and then Camp
Speaker 1: Porter's best friend who's come out and said, like this
Speaker 1: is some bullshit. She never wrote a memoir. That's never happened,
Speaker 1: But Sloan Bella says she did give a cell phone
Speaker 1: with some stuff to some people. Somebody does have something
Speaker 1: she was keeping tabs.
Speaker 2: All in all, I feel really really bad for those girls.
Speaker 2: I feel so bad for those girls. I know they
Speaker 2: are embarrassed and shamed, humiliated. You never know what those
Speaker 2: poor babies are feeling, so I just keep them lifted
Speaker 2: in prayer. You know, it's three three four girls, he
Speaker 2: got right. One one is too young to understand what's
Speaker 2: going on, but the other three are probably greatly affected
Speaker 2: by this publicly public humiliation.
Speaker 1: And then like the camp Porter kids, like even the oldest,
Speaker 1: not the oldest, the other little girl or third girl,
Speaker 1: she is just like maybe a year older than the twins, but.
Speaker 2: You're younger.
Speaker 1: She just went to she just went to prom with
Speaker 1: what's her name?
Speaker 2: Yeah, so a year younger than the twins. The twins
Speaker 2: are older than her.
Speaker 1: The twins are seventeen. I thought she was older than them.
Speaker 1: Well anyway, either way, they're still all kids. Yeah, young
Speaker 1: young girls, And I don't think anybody's like we think
Speaker 1: about them, but I don't know. I think about in
Speaker 1: the morning, I think about what the hell is gonna
Speaker 1: happen with diddy ass. I just hope that they have
Speaker 1: a strong support system in place for them as well
Speaker 1: for their mental health. And it's time. Yeah, yep, all.
Speaker 2: Right, So Andrew Schultz is under fire. So there's a
Speaker 2: clip with James and fo Hide. I don't know if
Speaker 2: I'm pronouncing that right, host of the Shits and Gigs.
Speaker 1: Shits and Gigs, Shits and Gigs podcasts.
Speaker 2: They bring up the viral trend that has been claiming
Speaker 2: their looks upgraded after dating or getting married to a
Speaker 2: black woman, which Schultz seem to invest it to know about.
Speaker 2: So you see a guy who has had a black girlfriend,
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, he's got a buzz cut, a
Speaker 2: clean shape out out, a clean shape.
Speaker 1: Who wrote this shit, Well, he's daring from Europe, so
Speaker 1: he probably did say shape out, yo.
Speaker 2: You know, let me your blokes condition, and y'all know
Speaker 2: y'all don't be getting y'all hair shaped up as often,
Speaker 2: and let's all right anyway, So shape out. Dunking toe Shultz,
Speaker 2: while trying to explain ir response, Shots, said they shaved
Speaker 2: their hair because they started losing it because it's so
Speaker 2: stressed being around black girl complaining about shit all the
Speaker 2: fucking time. James and Foo High continue to laugh at
Speaker 2: shots at it. They grow their beer because they need
Speaker 2: a cushion when they get slapped the fuck out of
Speaker 2: social media users begin dragon James and food High for
Speaker 2: not defending black women in that moment. As a black woman,
Speaker 2: the stuff Injury was saying about the black girlfriend effect
Speaker 2: was racist. He made it completely about the angry black
Speaker 2: woman in trope can we not rest and upset? YouTuber
Speaker 2: YouTube user commented another person directed their rais shows by
Speaker 2: posting the fact that you so comfortably talked the way
Speaker 2: you did with two black men present only makes me
Speaker 2: shudder to think you say what you say when black
Speaker 2: people are not present. Damn, I'm reading like you girl.
Speaker 1: Fuck you, you know you're reading like you. Listen, here's
Speaker 1: the thing. We all talked shit about other races and
Speaker 1: confidence with our friends. Okay, let's be very clear. Everybody
Speaker 1: can be considered a little prejudiced, borderline or artist, Okay, whatever.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's Andrew.
Speaker 2: Schultz like racist. I don't absolutely not my personally.
Speaker 1: Absolutely not. He just talking shit and look what it did.
Speaker 1: It went fucking viral.
Speaker 2: He talks about like the thing is everybody. He's an
Speaker 2: equal opportunitist shit talker, and I had I can't like.
Speaker 2: I laugh at him talking about handicapped people. I've laughed
Speaker 2: at him talking about Armenian people. I've laughed at him
Speaker 2: talking about white people. Now, I can't beget sensitive when
Speaker 2: they when it's my turn. You know, That's how I
Speaker 2: feel about Andrew. If he was just like always on
Speaker 2: a black bitch neck then all right, motherfucker relax. But
Speaker 2: because I know he's a comedian and he's equal opportunists,
Speaker 2: I don't give it. I don't give it too much energy.
Speaker 1: And I'm curious to know if he's made in these
Speaker 1: comments and to Charlemagne before, like they have any have
Speaker 1: they had any moments where he might have said said
Speaker 1: these kind of kind of jokes to Charlemagne.
Speaker 2: Oh absolutely, if you watch, they're show brilliant idiots. Charmaine
Speaker 2: always says it's only a matter of time before they
Speaker 2: get says.
Speaker 1: I listen, I am not easily offended for real, because
Speaker 1: we on the internet from one or y'all like y'all
Speaker 1: have y'all as saying the things like, I'm not easily
Speaker 1: offended by the jokes because that's what comedians do. They
Speaker 1: push the fucking line. So I'm not into police and comedians.
Speaker 1: I thought it was funny as hell, because guess what,
Speaker 1: Stereotypes really come from a real place sometimes, and people
Speaker 1: actually observe behavior of other groups of people, right you know,
Speaker 1: So maybe this is true for those two black men
Speaker 1: that were in the room. Maybe they done got slapped
Speaker 1: and they beard before by an angry black woman.
Speaker 2: Maybe but that don't mean and you can't get slapped,
Speaker 2: that's what exactly.
Speaker 1: And let's not talk about white mama's okay, and not
Speaker 1: manipulate the whole goddamn family. Okay, we don't. Y'all don't
Speaker 1: want us to go there about white women, and maybe
Speaker 1: we'll do a whole comedy hour on them, which it
Speaker 1: can be done exactly on anybody, honestly pick apart stereotypes
Speaker 1: of all people and make some jokes about it. Right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but we're not giving you no whole We give you
Speaker 1: a little past because we know you, and we know you.
Speaker 2: I don't believe at all that he's a racist person.
Speaker 1: We call white women Karen's and Becky's. We do that
Speaker 1: on a daily like we we really like comedians talk
Speaker 1: shit and they say cracker. We say cracker loud and
Speaker 1: proud on this podcast.
Speaker 2: You say that, say you.
Speaker 1: Absolutely have said cracker on We talked Back.
Speaker 2: With a slice of cheese on it because I would
Speaker 2: like a target commercial.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Like, so everybody has said something like, don't be
Speaker 1: a hypocrite. Okay, don't be a hypocrite. I'm not mad
Speaker 1: and Andrew I like, he ain't gonna get canceled, just yeah,
Speaker 1: because I be down to cancel motherfucking out.
Speaker 2: But he's still good.
Speaker 1: In my book.
Speaker 2: He's still okay in my book too. I ain't man,
Speaker 2: all right, what happened with y'all?
Speaker 1: Y'all need to stop playing with Jenna Jackson. That's what
Speaker 1: happened with jan and Jackson. Listen, And I've been putting
Speaker 1: in comments anytime I see something by Janet, like I
Speaker 1: will throw hands about Janet and Whitney Houston, Like they
Speaker 1: don't even got to ask me. It's just real life.
Speaker 1: Like as soon as I see something about them, like,
Speaker 1: you've literally tapped me in. So Janet Jackson was being
Speaker 1: interviewed Saturday, and the interviewer asked her, you know, what
Speaker 1: does she think about Kamala Harris possibly being the first
Speaker 1: female black president, and Janna Jackson responded to the question
Speaker 1: by saying, she's not black. That's what I heard. I
Speaker 1: heard that she's Indian. When the interviewer interjected, saying that
Speaker 1: Harris is both the singer wrongly this is what this
Speaker 1: article says. It's not what I'm saying, right. They're saying
Speaker 1: that the singer wrongly claimed the vice president's father was white.
Speaker 1: I was told that they discovered her father was The
Speaker 1: singer also said that either way the election swings, it
Speaker 1: is going to be mayhem. I agree at this point.
Speaker 1: I don't think it matters if Trump is elected or
Speaker 1: Kamala Harris. I think we in trouble regardless. So on Sunday,
Speaker 1: El Misery L Misery, who claimed to be Jackson's manager,
Speaker 1: told multiple outlets including Deadline People, Washington Post, and Variety,
Speaker 1: that the singer recognized her original stations statements were based
Speaker 1: on misinformation and she apologizes for any confusion cause. According
Speaker 1: to BuzzFeed, which first reported El mystery Is comments on Sunday,
Speaker 1: he is as credit as credited as producer on her
Speaker 1: upcoming documentary, and has been cited as Jackson's manager in
Speaker 1: several previous stories about her and other outlets. Jackson's team, however,
Speaker 1: clarified later on Sunday night that the apology was made
Speaker 1: by someone who was not her manager and was not
Speaker 1: authorized to speaking on her behalf. So this person was
Speaker 1: working with Janet Jackson, But then you put a false
Speaker 1: statement out saying that Janet Jackson apologized. So this is
Speaker 1: Janet doubling down, like I would.
Speaker 2: This person do that why would they put out something
Speaker 2: that Janet didn't say.
Speaker 1: Because Janet was being attacked online. So I guess as
Speaker 1: a publicist, as a manager, I don't know. I guess
Speaker 1: it was them in their minds putting out a fire.
Speaker 1: But you know, this is a case of I said
Speaker 1: what I said, and it's really not a situation where
Speaker 1: you need to be apologizing. I don't think it is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't think it is. I mean, Kamala
Speaker 1: Harris has been an Indian American her entire time in politics.
Speaker 1: She's been a politician for twenty plus years black and
Speaker 1: I keep saying this, it is a culture. I don't
Speaker 1: think that she necesscessarily identified as a Black American up
Speaker 1: until now, and I don't and she really hasn't herself.
Speaker 1: I think Black Americans are bringing her in like this
Speaker 1: is a black woman. I don't think she still has.
Speaker 1: I mean, yes, she did pledge AKA and she went
Speaker 1: to a black HBCU, But we can't force people to
Speaker 1: identify like we do. Not everybody has to identify as black.
Speaker 1: But if this is the basis of what people are
Speaker 1: voting for because she's a black woman, then maybe people
Speaker 1: would like to hear from her like, hey, what do
Speaker 1: you consider yourself?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, so Jenny Jackson said, she did not apologize, and
Speaker 1: I don't like Again, I don't think it's a situation
Speaker 1: where apology is warranted, like for what, I don't think?
Speaker 1: So anyway, what do you think about it?
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't think about it. It doesn't matter
Speaker 2: who gives Honestly, who gives a fuck about this what
Speaker 2: Janet Jackson said to about Kamala Like, anytime I'm thinking
Speaker 2: of our politics, I don't be. I don't go to
Speaker 2: celebrity Janna Jackson things right, the world is an uproar.
Speaker 2: Somebody get Jana Jackson on the line. It's never you
Speaker 2: know what I think about it.
Speaker 1: But that's a disrespect black people get right. They go
Speaker 1: to our celebrities to see what we stand on things
Speaker 1: instead of going to real You know, we have some
Speaker 1: very great intellectuals in the black community who know what's
Speaker 1: going on with politics, who can speak to it more
Speaker 1: than any any I want to say, Comedian child, any celebrities,
Speaker 1: So why not engage those people?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: They never do so I feel like it's always a
Speaker 1: slight when we all start talking about celebrities and politics.
Speaker 1: I swear mm hmm. Just be prepared, That's all I
Speaker 1: can say. Be prepared for whatever the outcome.
Speaker 2: That's all you can be. M So, if y'all were
Speaker 2: free this weekend, you probably saw where Tamari spoke on
Speaker 2: her and her sister, her twin tamar Or not being
Speaker 2: closed and the video was kind of sad. She was
Speaker 2: saying that, uh, they aren't as close as they once were.
Speaker 2: A source close to the matter spoke out about the twins'
Speaker 2: current dynamic following the release of a first look teaser
Speaker 2: for TIA's new reality series, which sparked concern among fans
Speaker 2: because it featured a quote from her that suggested the
Speaker 2: siblings had grown apart. The sisters are close, to insider
Speaker 2: e told September twenty first, but the quote being referenced
Speaker 2: was about their physical location. Timura lives in Napa and
Speaker 2: Tia lives in Los Angeles. Dang. What she was saying
Speaker 2: was it.
Speaker 1: Oh, maybe they trying to clean it up now, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it says On that teaser with WEE TV's Tiamaori My
Speaker 1: Next Act, released September twentieth, Tia said, and a confessional
Speaker 1: being alone has been the most challenging part of my divorce.
Speaker 1: It's times like this when I feel in whish that
Speaker 1: my sister and I were were still close and I
Speaker 1: could pick up the phone and call her. They not
Speaker 1: talk about geography.
Speaker 2: Okay, not talking about geography.
Speaker 1: But that's just not where we are right now. So yeah,
Speaker 1: they are not in the same city and they are
Speaker 1: not on speaking terms, is what I'm hearing or what
Speaker 1: I'm reading. However, she did give Tamara a shout out
Speaker 1: on social media the day the promo was released. Girl Girl,
Speaker 1: call your sister.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was a cry for love from her, you know.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's her twin sister. They came out to
Speaker 2: pussy the same time, like they should be locked in
Speaker 2: more than anybody else, you know, But you don't.
Speaker 1: Never you never know what goes on between people, right
Speaker 1: and for you to get on like you had a
Speaker 1: show coming out, right And if this is how this is,
Speaker 1: this is not how you get back with somebody you love.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying by telling the work, because
Speaker 1: nobody knew that they weren't good until now.
Speaker 2: But maybe this might help them be good.
Speaker 1: I think for me, if somebody, let's say, for instance,
Speaker 1: we're not speaking about because of some shit that you
Speaker 1: possibly did right the other person possibly didn't. We're not speaking.
Speaker 1: That is not how to get back with me, you know,
Speaker 1: by publicly telling people that we got a problem, because
Speaker 1: obviously I've never spoken on whatever problem we have publicly,
Speaker 1: and especially if you somebody like my sister, call me,
Speaker 1: because if we're not in the same space while you
Speaker 1: do this thing now, it leads people to speculate. I
Speaker 1: just don't like speculation. I like to get ahead of
Speaker 1: things and maybe put the put the right stuff out
Speaker 1: there the first time, because what.
Speaker 2: Let's not It seemed very heartfelt, It didn't seem like manipulative,
Speaker 2: and it definitely brought people to the show. Maybe America
Speaker 2: come on there and it'll be a check for her too, because.
Speaker 1: She working but we don't know if she's working off
Speaker 1: because it used to be on on the real which
Speaker 1: ended what two years ago?
Speaker 2: Now, Oh that I thought that was the one that
Speaker 2: was married.
Speaker 1: To everybody could be confused about who's who? Know, the
Speaker 1: one was married to? The white guy? Is who was
Speaker 1: on the reel? That's that's Tamara, Yeah, and Tia Mawy
Speaker 1: her husband was just in that what's the movie divorce
Speaker 1: in black divorcing Black? So he working? Do you think
Speaker 1: that's possibly why they divorced.
Speaker 2: Because he was unemployed? Yeah, well, finances is the number
Speaker 2: one reason why marriage is dis all it's not infidelity,
Speaker 2: is money.
Speaker 1: So I just feel like, if he's not beating your
Speaker 1: ass or.
Speaker 2: We don't know, because he was very, very believable.
Speaker 1: This man ain't beaten. I heard he was very nice.
Speaker 1: I heard he was a very nice guy. But hey,
Speaker 1: you don't know how somebody is if not haven't been
Speaker 1: married to him for twenty years or however long they
Speaker 1: had been together.
Speaker 2: But the who ain't nice in the beginning?
Speaker 1: Right? Gotcha bitch? And then all of a sudden the
Speaker 1: real nigga show up. But TiO was saying, how hard
Speaker 1: it is like now, like trying to like date and
Speaker 1: stuff like that. I have to like it, Like post divorce, girl,
Speaker 1: what your thought was outside? You ain't listening to these
Speaker 1: single bitches like it's nothing out here. The pickings are
Speaker 1: as slim women.
Speaker 2: Okay, maybe they can reconcile though hopefully there's.
Speaker 1: Poop in the dating pool. Okay, it's hard, so you
Speaker 1: should have tried to kept your man a little like
Speaker 1: a little harder man.
Speaker 2: It's hard out here, but maybe sometimes it takes separating
Speaker 2: to see what you got. He might not be having
Speaker 2: it easy out here with women either. You know, you
Speaker 2: never know.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Oh you said that looked like you had some inscts.
Speaker 1: These niggas be having a way man, no matter what age.
Speaker 1: I think women sometimes be tripping about how many options
Speaker 1: we really have, like good options. Right, Yeah, you got
Speaker 1: some men who definitely gonna drop some dick on you,
Speaker 1: But how many of them gonna actually keep you is
Speaker 1: the question. And I think women sometimes be delusional about
Speaker 1: how many men gonna actually wipe them up. It's not
Speaker 1: a lot. And men, men be having a way with
Speaker 1: multiple great women. You're playing with everybody. Speaking of wifing
Speaker 1: up and marrying child, David Banner, fifty year old, asked
Speaker 1: talk about he ready for a marriage and children now.
Speaker 1: He said, I'm tired. I want to find my wife,
Speaker 1: have some kids. We chase all these esoteric goals and
Speaker 1: sometimes we look back and we left the things that
Speaker 1: really matter. The shorty say artists said, Oh, I hate
Speaker 1: when they add quotes in there. Anyway, he said, I
Speaker 1: looked up one day, I had all of them. I
Speaker 1: had the music accolades, the film accolades, not the one,
Speaker 1: not all the ones that I want, but a lot
Speaker 1: of them. I had accomplished my goals and chased my
Speaker 1: goal so long that when I looked up, I saw
Speaker 1: that I had ran off and left everything else Banner
Speaker 1: was wanted Banner has. Banner has wanted to get married
Speaker 1: for some time, because in twenty seventeen, he released the
Speaker 1: song Marry Me. The artist told Exell Nicole he wants
Speaker 1: to be the marriage type. He said, I just want
Speaker 1: to be the man that most black women want to marry.
Speaker 1: I want to be a Black man that stands strong.
Speaker 1: He said. I'm not perfect, but I want to be
Speaker 1: the man women want to marry and that kids want
Speaker 1: to be, want to be their father. I want to
Speaker 1: be that man. When I die, I want people to
Speaker 1: say that that's a strong African man. I am proud
Speaker 1: that he's a part of my culture.
Speaker 2: But I mean, fifty sounds old to be, you know,
Speaker 2: feeling that way, But ultimately it's not for him because.
Speaker 1: He's a man.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because he's a man, you know. And who said
Speaker 2: he was looking for a fifty year old bitch? Right?
Speaker 2: Getting a thirty year old woman, you know.
Speaker 1: And I hope he get a fine ass twenty five
Speaker 1: year with that fucking rad snapper, run his ass ragged,
Speaker 1: my girl.
Speaker 2: We're like Banner seems like a good guy like I
Speaker 2: don't see him as a bad guy like who.
Speaker 1: I never heard nothing crazy about him. I've always been
Speaker 1: in love with David Banner. Always that nigga has always
Speaker 1: sex symbol to me. I got to say, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: too late now, nigga, it's too late. A bunch of
Speaker 1: people wanted you people, and I had to move on
Speaker 1: with They lost year. He gonna have to get him
Speaker 1: a little young whoopa snapper and hopefully you know, she
Speaker 1: don't hopefully she don't do him dirty. Hopefully hopefully she
Speaker 1: don't break his heart. I hadn't heard no bad things
Speaker 1: about David Banner and dating. I don't know anybody who's
Speaker 1: dealt with him, So I don't know how he How
Speaker 1: do you? How do you make it this long?
Speaker 2: Like? Who is? Who?
Speaker 1: Has he ever been attached to? Like woman? Like a woman?
Speaker 1: Do you know anybody he's ever dated?
Speaker 2: No? I can't think of a soul. I can't think
Speaker 2: of anybody.
Speaker 1: So David Banner, so he ain't been out here fucking
Speaker 1: so you're not early with somebody and somebody and I
Speaker 1: fell in love.
Speaker 2: He was very quiet about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, somebody that I've been in love somewhere and you
Speaker 1: let that woman go? What happened with that? I want
Speaker 1: to talk to David Banner. Let's see, we could try
Speaker 1: to get him on the show so you can have
Speaker 1: a deeper discussion about the psychology of a fifty year
Speaker 1: old nigga. Because they got a lot to say about
Speaker 1: women just being thirty with no children and her husband.
Speaker 1: You know, they got a lot to say about us.
Speaker 1: But it's like, Okay, you a man fifty, because you
Speaker 1: can get a younger woman, but something has to automatically
Speaker 1: be wrong with a woman because she didn't have those
Speaker 1: things by a certain time. Double standards. Double standards. Hate
Speaker 1: double standards.
Speaker 2: Me too, But I mean men can be sixty and
Speaker 2: be like, I'm ready, and what can we say? You know,
Speaker 2: because he can get him a little nice, little forty
Speaker 2: thirty five year old forty year olds something to make kids?
Speaker 2: How old it al pacino? And he just had a
Speaker 2: baby something like that, eighty something years old with a
Speaker 2: younger woman, So more power to him. I say all
Speaker 2: men should wait until they ready. Don't get involved with
Speaker 2: someone and making single mothers out of women and doing
Speaker 2: all the things when you're not ready. If it take
Speaker 2: you till sixty, wait till sixty, because I'm sure some
Speaker 2: of the women that you ran through and leaving the
Speaker 2: trails of tears behind you would be grateful if you
Speaker 2: had just waited and didn't play in their face.
Speaker 1: And keep your heart healthy, make sure you're running. David
Speaker 1: Banner looked like he got a nice strong back. I
Speaker 1: don't see ed in his future anytime soon. More power
Speaker 1: to your David Banner.
Speaker 2: Yep, all right. I saw a video over the weekend
Speaker 2: that made me want to have this conversation. Tammy Rowman
Speaker 2: was discussing password sharing and location sharing, and I wanted
Speaker 2: to talk with AJ and you guys about what it
Speaker 2: looks like in your relationships and what it should look
Speaker 2: like in your relationship with password sharing and location squear sharing.
Speaker 2: We'll be right back with that conversation, all.
Speaker 1: Right, y'all, And we're back, okay, and absolutely fucking not
Speaker 1: to kick the conversation off, No you can't have my
Speaker 1: goddamn password, and no I'm not sharing my location. There's that.
Speaker 2: I don't for me. If you want it, you can
Speaker 2: have it, but I feel like there's a bigger issue
Speaker 2: at hand if you want it, and we need to
Speaker 2: discover what that is. But you can have it until
Speaker 2: you feel comfortable, you know, to give me my password
Speaker 2: back where I can have that privacy, because it's like
Speaker 2: you're looking into my diary, you know. That's how it
Speaker 2: feels when you want to have access to my phone
Speaker 2: in that way, is like you want access to my diary,
Speaker 2: because I mean, there are private things in your phone
Speaker 2: that isn't for everybody, that's just for you, you know. So,
Speaker 2: and in location sharing, the only real the way I
Speaker 2: would feel like I would want my man to have
Speaker 2: my location. It's for my safety, you know. If I'm
Speaker 2: going out of town or if I'm going like on
Speaker 2: a long distance drive or something like that, then I
Speaker 2: can share my location with you. But otherwise it just
Speaker 2: seems like control. All those things feel like control to me.
Speaker 1: Neither one of us have been married yet. Okay, as
Speaker 1: until you're married, you're single. I'm living with a whole
Speaker 1: man and I'm still single as far as the thing goes, right,
Speaker 1: if I get married or when I get married, I
Speaker 1: probably would share my location with my significant other. I
Speaker 1: don't have a problem with that. And actually the man
Speaker 1: who I was engaged to, he was very adamant about
Speaker 1: trying to get me to share my location with him.
Speaker 1: But I knew you had a whole lot of shit
Speaker 1: going on that you didn't think I knew about. So
Speaker 1: you wanted me, you were in particular wanted in particular
Speaker 1: wanting me to share my location and you not share
Speaker 1: yours is a problem that is control, absolutely, you know.
Speaker 1: So it's what they're trying to do with this information.
Speaker 1: And then it's also like if there was never any
Speaker 1: like insecurity issues leading up to you asking for these things,
Speaker 1: then maybe I would consider it. But based on like
Speaker 1: the things that I've already transpired in a relationship, dishonesty, lying,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Nigga, it was never honest
Speaker 1: with me, Like bitches was literally knocking on the door,
Speaker 1: scratching cars, all types of shit. Now I'm the one
Speaker 1: you need my location. You got a lot of shit
Speaker 1: going on, my boy, I.
Speaker 2: Can't trust you because I've been so untrustworthy.
Speaker 1: Yes That's what I'm hearing. Yeah, And actually that nigga
Speaker 1: was logged into my social media for a whole year,
Speaker 1: and I didn't know. We weren't even together.
Speaker 2: Damn, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: It wasn't until I let him have access to me.
Speaker 1: Like we went out of town for my birthday and
Speaker 1: I don't know why, but that was like our last
Speaker 1: engagement for real, and he said some shit to me
Speaker 1: that I knew. I don't use Facebook like that. I
Speaker 1: haven't used Facebook for really years, but I did message
Speaker 1: a nigga on Facebook that I was looking for, and
Speaker 1: I knew I could find him on Facebook. He knew
Speaker 1: about me messaging this person. He asked me about this
Speaker 1: person in particular. I'm like, that's the only person I
Speaker 1: messaged on Facebook. I haven't like really logged into Facebook
Speaker 1: since twenty twelve at that point, so that I had
Speaker 1: to go look at my cell phone and like, you know,
Speaker 1: you can go into settings and see where you're logged
Speaker 1: in at. He was logged into my social media, all
Speaker 1: of my social media's Instagram and Facebook on another cell
Speaker 1: phone of his for a year. That is a major
Speaker 1: invasion of privacy.
Speaker 2: And you're looking at whoever you're talking to for years.
Speaker 1: Though he was bringing up conversations that I had with
Speaker 1: people before I even knew he existed. That's dangerous.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's scary.
Speaker 1: So this is why now, because of previous situations with people,
Speaker 1: why I I'm very leary when somebody wants my location
Speaker 1: or when somebody wants access to my to my personal effects,
Speaker 1: because I don't really fuck with people about these things.
Speaker 1: You know, Like I like to, everybody's in an individual.
Speaker 1: Even though we're in a union, we're in a relationship,
Speaker 1: you're still an individual. There are going to be some
Speaker 1: things you don't want me to see just because I
Speaker 1: might not understand because it's not for me to see.
Speaker 2: Right that part, I agree.
Speaker 1: So now you're going through my text messages or going
Speaker 1: through my Instagram from years and years ago, and you're
Speaker 1: reading it with your eyes and mind and it's just
Speaker 1: not for you to see. So you might make something
Speaker 1: out of nothing because you actually looking for some shit.
Speaker 1: I'm not in to hurt my own feelings. I know
Speaker 1: there's a lot of women that are, but I'm not
Speaker 1: into hurting my own feelings. So I'm never like going
Speaker 1: into a Nigga cell phone for real. But I'll tell
Speaker 1: y'all when I have I go on your cell phone.
Speaker 1: When I'm ready to leave your ass, I go, wok,
Speaker 1: I will go looking for a reason to leave you.
Speaker 1: Not because I don't have a reason already, right, because
Speaker 1: I obviously got to this point because of things happening
Speaker 1: within the relationship. Right, But maybe you were good these
Speaker 1: last two weeks. But I'm still like, I can't get
Speaker 1: past what happened you know already in this relationship. I'm
Speaker 1: ready to leave. I might just go look for some shit,
Speaker 1: to start some shit so I can get the fuck
Speaker 1: up out of there.
Speaker 2: But why though, why not just be like, Hey, I
Speaker 2: don't want to do this anymore. I'm over there relationship,
Speaker 2: I'm no longer happy in it, and I'm gonna leave.
Speaker 1: Well, I won't tell them that I went in they phone.
Speaker 1: It'll just give me the internal motivation to leave again.
Speaker 1: Do you see what I'm saying. I'm still I still
Speaker 1: never let people know I've been in they shit. It
Speaker 1: wasn't until last year me and this niggamen separated for
Speaker 1: I don't know how long. It wasn't until last year
Speaker 1: that I actually told him, Nigga, I seen such and
Speaker 1: such and such on your phone, But I never said
Speaker 1: anything because I chose to be happy every day. I
Speaker 1: knew a lot of things, but I chose to be
Speaker 1: happy because I didn't want to start friction in my relationship.
Speaker 1: But a lot of people can't hold a piece like
Speaker 1: I can.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 1: Yeah I did.
Speaker 2: That's why I don't go in phones because once I
Speaker 2: see it, it ain't no peace. There's no more peace,
Speaker 2: you know. So I just mind my business and if
Speaker 2: it's meant for me to find it, it'll confine me.
Speaker 2: That's how I feel.
Speaker 1: About exactly, literally a bit message you on Instagram, popping
Speaker 1: up at the house, whatever it is. Because what was
Speaker 1: people doing? It's another part of this conversation. I want
Speaker 1: to get into what were people doing prior to cell
Speaker 1: phones and all that shit to get caught?
Speaker 2: You didn't, I say, I want to go back to
Speaker 2: the time when you didn't have access to each other
Speaker 2: in this way. I was like, I want to go
Speaker 2: back to when dating you wouldn't talk until you got
Speaker 2: home from work. And she's like, you wasn't old enough
Speaker 2: to be dating back then, and I was like, I
Speaker 2: still want to go.
Speaker 1: Back that shit. Last week, I still want to go
Speaker 1: back how were people getting caught cheating, because I guess
Speaker 1: that's what it really balls down to, partly, right, part
Speaker 1: of it could be the person's insecurity. And I did
Speaker 1: pull up like a couple of articles so we could talk,
Speaker 1: you know, talk about you know, why you may consider
Speaker 1: why you shouldn't give the passwords because it's subjective to
Speaker 1: the person's relationship, right, I mean not be for everybody.
Speaker 1: It's definitely not for gem Andi. Me, Okay, I need
Speaker 1: my independence. I don't like to feel smothered. I don't
Speaker 1: like to feel like I don't have a choice in
Speaker 1: any situation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, me either. I I got a lot of old.
Speaker 1: Like, oh porn in my phone, your own porn that
Speaker 1: you made.
Speaker 2: No like you know how guys were sending news and
Speaker 2: stuff like that. I still have one, and I just
Speaker 2: feel like, well, do I need to delete them when
Speaker 2: I get a man or can they just stay in
Speaker 2: the folder somewhere?
Speaker 1: You probably should delete him because he fucked around and
Speaker 1: getting that phone. And see Dick, Dick, Dick, Dick, Dick.
Speaker 2: It ain't that much. Dick seems like it's like I'm
Speaker 2: just like a perv.
Speaker 1: And I know, hold on, whose show was me on?
Speaker 1: And I have put Dick in my search, and it
Speaker 1: was like a lot of Dick.
Speaker 2: Like a lot of Carlos.
Speaker 1: It was a lot of conversations about Dix. It was
Speaker 1: Dix like because when you get a new like I
Speaker 1: just got this cell phone two weeks ago, like you
Speaker 1: still transferring all that data from years and years and
Speaker 1: years of having phones.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. So do I need to like
Speaker 2: delete all of that stuff a separate folder just because
Speaker 2: it's part of the history, the story of my life.
Speaker 1: You should probably delete it or get this app called
Speaker 1: the Vault and.
Speaker 2: Hide it somebody in your eye.
Speaker 1: And hide it.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So this, uh, this is talking about passwords. This is
Speaker 1: from PCMag dot com Sharing passwords with a partner, True
Speaker 1: Love or Big Mistake. As the title of this article,
Speaker 1: it says, here's why eighty one percent of Americans share
Speaker 1: passwords with their partner and what happens after a breakup.
Speaker 2: Wait, eighty one percent of Americans are sharing passwords.
Speaker 1: That's what listen. So I had to go deep. I
Speaker 1: read this first, and then I was like, wait, y'all
Speaker 1: talk about Netflix passwords, And then we talked about cell
Speaker 1: phone codes and share Instagram passwords. We talk about like
Speaker 1: sharing apps and ships, so I ain't got to be
Speaker 1: paid for.
Speaker 2: That. I had longed into my HBO, max longed into
Speaker 2: my Mexican over a nigga house so we could watch
Speaker 2: Game of Throws. And then we had a fight, and
Speaker 2: then I when I went home, well at home, I wasn't.
Speaker 2: We didn't fight at his house, but we had an argument.
Speaker 2: And then at home I made sure I changed my
Speaker 2: password on purpose because I knew he was watching me
Speaker 2: watch it with another bitch on my He was like,
Speaker 2: did you change your Hbo password? And I was like,
Speaker 2: what imagine? Imagine you at home at your house and.
Speaker 1: Your husband. I gave somebody else your your passwords to
Speaker 1: one of your accounts and she don't put her name
Speaker 1: in the shit.
Speaker 2: Oh she made a profile, Yes, aside bitch made a profile.
Speaker 1: A side bitch made a profile. What what's your next step?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know because and then you
Speaker 2: name it, uh both of ours or something like that.
Speaker 2: Oh mine's too.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's real life story. They happen to
Speaker 1: me now, not me because I beat a nigga up.
Speaker 1: I'm just be honest with y'all. I do be beating
Speaker 1: niggas up, not for real, but I might smack you.
Speaker 1: I might smack you in your fucking beard. I might
Speaker 1: because why you're letting.
Speaker 2: This girl play? You wanted your woman to see that.
Speaker 1: Exactly, and so why is she so comfortable to play
Speaker 1: with me like that? See, let's go back to the
Speaker 1: times when they didn't have all these things, right, bitch,
Speaker 1: you can't get at your wife that easy. But yeah,
Speaker 1: that happened to a friend of mine.
Speaker 2: That's next level, next.
Speaker 1: Level of disrespect. Okay, So it says. It starts with
Speaker 1: a simple question, Hey, what's the Nextflix password? So that's
Speaker 1: the first step, right, And just like that, you've joined
Speaker 1: the eighty one percent of Americans who say they've shared
Speaker 1: passwords with passwords with a partner. So they're starting with
Speaker 1: like simple shit like that Netflix. Okay, So I share
Speaker 1: accounts with multiple people, not just my partner, so it says,
Speaker 1: according to a new survey of two thousand men and
Speaker 1: women by Express VPN. This is a slightly higher number
Speaker 1: than was found by a similar survey conducted in twenty
Speaker 1: twenty one. As passive sharing is becoming more commonplace, particularly
Speaker 1: among millennials. In gen z, it says Willingness to share
Speaker 1: passwords and other types of personal data, including location, varies
Speaker 1: by country. Express VPN conducted the survey with respondents from France, US,
Speaker 1: Germany and UK. Willingness to fork over private information was
Speaker 1: highest in France and US, with more skeptical Germans and
Speaker 1: Brits holding out a bit more so eighty two percent
Speaker 1: of French, eighty one percent Americans, seventy six of Germans
Speaker 1: seventy one percent of Brits. Among Americans who have not
Speaker 1: shared passwords with their partners, the top reasons given are
Speaker 1: they they use the same password for different accounts, so
Speaker 1: that that's one of my things. I do use it.
Speaker 1: Even when I go and change all my passwords, I'm
Speaker 1: usually changing them all to the same shit. So now
Speaker 1: if I give you the password for one thing, and
Speaker 1: I think that's how my ex got into my social
Speaker 1: media because like he had the password for Netflix, it
Speaker 1: says a desire to keep certain information private in case
Speaker 1: of a breakup it's eighteen percent. It says fear of
Speaker 1: tempting their significant other to check on them, twelve percent,
Speaker 1: fear their privacy will no longer be protected ten percent,
Speaker 1: and not wanting their significant significant other to see what
Speaker 1: they're up to. Seven percent only seven that that's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's people don't be honest when they do
Speaker 1: these things, because I feel like one hundred percent the
Speaker 1: reason why I'm not sharing is because it's not none
Speaker 1: of your damn business. How about that? It's just my
Speaker 1: private thing. Can I have one thing private?
Speaker 2: It's my diary. You don't need to see what I'm searching.
Speaker 2: You don't need to see what me and my friends
Speaker 2: are talking about. You don't need to see my photos,
Speaker 2: you don't need to see none of that. It's none
Speaker 2: of your business. It's a trust issue, absolutely, So I
Speaker 2: don't have no desire to go through a nigga phone
Speaker 2: like zero.
Speaker 1: Zero Yeah, Like I'm not into Why are you gonna
Speaker 1: fuck your Monday up?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Like everything was good like yesterday we have it, had
Speaker 1: a great day, and then today you're just gonna go
Speaker 1: look at my phone.
Speaker 2: Like and try to ruin the day. Like, why are
Speaker 2: you doing that?
Speaker 1: You're selfish? Yeah, shit should not die, It says most
Speaker 1: American couples were willing to share passwords before marriage. The
Speaker 1: final third, thirty five percent, waited until after. Among all
Speaker 1: couple surveyed, streaming service passwords are the most commonly shared,
Speaker 1: followed by banking pins. Huh, that escalated quickly, it says,
Speaker 1: And then it says social media passwords are the least
Speaker 1: likely to be shared. So niggas is cheating on uh Snapchat?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Snapchat is definitely for like looking at shit
Speaker 2: you ain't got no business, or talking to people you
Speaker 2: don't have no business because it deletes automatically.
Speaker 1: Yep, it says. Digging into the reasons that couples exchange
Speaker 1: this information, a survey found that cost saving top the list. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's like sharing apps forty four percent. But it
Speaker 1: also but it's also about more than that. Survey responding
Speaker 1: said they hope the sharing would improve transparency, trust, and loyalty,
Speaker 1: bringing the pair closer. A small fraction twelve percent said
Speaker 1: they did it as a means of preventing jealousy. So
Speaker 1: you just offer up your shit because you don't want
Speaker 1: your partner to be jealous. That's an internal issue that
Speaker 1: they got to deal with. So you really not this.
Speaker 1: If this person is insecure, giving them your password and
Speaker 1: your location is not going to make them even any
Speaker 1: more secure. It may even cause him to be more manic,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, like constantly checking it, constantly
Speaker 1: trying to see where you at, calling to see, like
Speaker 1: facetiming you to see your surroundings. Like you gotta know
Speaker 1: your personnel. You got to know the type of person
Speaker 1: you're dealing with before you just offer up that type.
Speaker 2: Of yeah, I'll share, Like I kind of would want
Speaker 2: my man to want my location. I mean where am
Speaker 2: I at? That?
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. If I'm married here, like I
Speaker 1: need you to know where I'm at?
Speaker 2: Yeah, like where am I at? That? He's not that
Speaker 2: I don't want him to know. I can't think of nowhere.
Speaker 2: I could be that you.
Speaker 1: On some other dick. That's what would be in that
Speaker 1: person's mind, if they were somebody that's already insecure, you know,
Speaker 1: like we had an episode or somebody said, you know,
Speaker 1: you got your first bad bitch, Like some niggas don't
Speaker 1: know how to handle that. So now you like stalking,
Speaker 1: You stalking because you don't don't even know how to
Speaker 1: deal with this person you thought you wanted.
Speaker 2: But even if I wanted to be on some other dick,
Speaker 2: I would still make it a location where you would
Speaker 2: be comfortable with me being.
Speaker 1: At your homegirl house.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like it would. There's ways around it, you know,
Speaker 2: Like so I mean, it's just it's pointless. So I
Speaker 2: would let me just say because and I don't want
Speaker 2: my future man to be listening to this and like
Speaker 2: that bitch is sneaky and could not. I wouldn't be
Speaker 2: on no other dick period, Yeah, especially married, Like what
Speaker 2: were we doing?
Speaker 1: So I feel like when people if you have to
Speaker 1: go to that extent of needing passwords and would you
Speaker 1: let somebody answer your cell phone? You okay with that,
Speaker 1: like when you get married and stuff like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not answering my man's cell phone's not.
Speaker 2: If he's if he'd be like baby, answer that.
Speaker 1: If he tell me to. But I'm not just picking
Speaker 1: up his phone answering. And then I don't like homegirls
Speaker 1: who have me on speaker phone with a nigga in
Speaker 1: the car, like I didn't even know that your dude
Speaker 1: was right here. Like I understand, like some couples they
Speaker 1: do everything together, they share everything. They don't need to
Speaker 1: share my personal shit.
Speaker 2: You just got to be prepared and understand that your business,
Speaker 2: your your friend is there's a huge chance then she's
Speaker 2: telling her nigga your business.
Speaker 1: You have to different between telling and then I'm telling
Speaker 1: because I don't know you got me on speakerphone because
Speaker 1: you and your nigga just that close, Like I'm not
Speaker 1: close with your man though, right, why does he know?
Speaker 1: Why is he chiming in on?
Speaker 2: No, he should keep his mouth fucking right.
Speaker 1: That has happened to me, Like, why is he chiming
Speaker 1: in on this thing I'm telling my my best friend.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, that's a problem because shut your little
Speaker 2: bitch as un nobody was talking to you. But I
Speaker 2: always I always feel like my best friends are my
Speaker 2: friend's man know my business, anything that I've shared with her,
Speaker 2: there's a huge chance. We me.
Speaker 1: This is the chance, and I I it's some funny
Speaker 1: shit that we can laugh about. Yeah, I probably repeated it.
Speaker 1: But if it's like some personal shit, no for what
Speaker 1: and then you're gonna have your boyfriend looking at your
Speaker 1: friend crazy.
Speaker 2: Right, But there's you know that women use their men
Speaker 2: like they dieing, like they lay in the bed like,
Speaker 2: oh let me tell you talking, Yeah, let me tell
Speaker 2: you what Tammy told me today, you know, and it
Speaker 2: don't even be like malicious is just talking about shit
Speaker 2: that's in their life and that happens. That happens more
Speaker 2: than you realize. A nigga will know all about your BV, like, wow,
Speaker 2: your husband know I got BV. You know, ever everything
Speaker 2: because women just talk to they men, you know, So
Speaker 2: don't tell even if it's your best frien. Don't tell
Speaker 2: her shit that you don't want her husband to know.
Speaker 2: If it's something that you would be up. You wouldn't
Speaker 2: be okay with her husband knowing. Don't tell her.
Speaker 1: Hmm.
Speaker 2: I know that's terrible, but it's the truth.
Speaker 1: You know. I the friends where I have to say, look,
Speaker 1: don't repeat this. If I got to do that too much,
Speaker 1: because I know you be repeating shit. I'm probably stop
Speaker 1: telling you things. Yeah, you know, I probably. I don't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable telling you stuffing more because it's almost guaranteed.
Speaker 1: And some people didn't like they like you said, they
Speaker 1: don't do it with their intent. They just talk too
Speaker 1: fucking much, you know what I'm saying, just in general
Speaker 1: conversation and passing. They'd be done said some shit they
Speaker 1: don't got no business saying. Somebody just said some shit
Speaker 1: around me recently, and I'm like, I'm pretty sure that's
Speaker 1: some shit they was not supposed to repeat. Like I
Speaker 1: can point. I can actually, like just from somebody talking,
Speaker 1: I can determine, like that's some shit you ain't supposed
Speaker 1: to tell nobody. Somebody told you that and told you
Speaker 1: not to tell nobody. And now I know you just
Speaker 1: met me today.
Speaker 2: Oh that next level now youtual, But you don't know them,
Speaker 2: so it don't matter. That's the thing in six degrees
Speaker 2: of separation.
Speaker 1: I don't know them today, right, So you know what
Speaker 1: I wanted to add to this conversation, So can you
Speaker 1: tell me something like what are some ways like people
Speaker 1: got caught cheating before the cell phones and shit that
Speaker 1: you could think of.
Speaker 2: At the juke joint they pulled up on them because
Speaker 2: I don't know, like before before cell phones and all
Speaker 2: this social media and things like that, there was really
Speaker 2: it was really hard. You just had to be in
Speaker 2: the right place at the right time, or somebody had
Speaker 2: to see them, you know. I came up.
Speaker 1: I came up with a couple of things. So the
Speaker 1: very first one was this is the oldest one. It's
Speaker 1: just women's intuition. Bitchua god by her fucking sleep, like
Speaker 1: this nigga cheat, She just know all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: I had a dream last night. You just wake up
Speaker 1: and hit your fucking kid's daddy. I had a dream
Speaker 1: last night you was with Rebecca from down the street.
Speaker 1: Phone numbers in the pocket.
Speaker 2: But you don't. I don't know. I ain't never had
Speaker 2: no intuition like it was Rebecca and then it was
Speaker 2: that's next level. That's psychic, ain't it. Yeah, And I've
Speaker 2: had I've had intuition, but it be based on behavior,
Speaker 2: like you're moving different.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because what men don't realize is that they are
Speaker 1: very predictable, right, and women we do like consistency in
Speaker 1: the minute that you deviate outside of those that thing
Speaker 1: we on your ass. Last week, I just finally went
Speaker 1: and got my bicycle child form my mama house. So
Speaker 1: I bought a portable air pump from this old man
Speaker 1: I found somebody on Facebook marketplace selling them. Like it
Speaker 1: looks like like a portable charger, so you can put it.
Speaker 1: I can put it in my book bag, charge my bike,
Speaker 1: I mean, pump my air up. So I meet him
Speaker 1: at Zaxby's. I just sat there and talked to this
Speaker 1: old white man for a thirty minutes, child like he
Speaker 1: was my granddaddy or somebody we so much. So to
Speaker 1: where he's talking about how his second wife, who was
Speaker 1: a Gemini, divorced him. He said, I used to He said,
Speaker 1: I used to own a Firestone and it was this
Speaker 1: young girl who came up there one day. She came up,
Speaker 1: she put her ring her ring to the window and
Speaker 1: basically she was trying to pawn her ring to get
Speaker 1: new tires and brakes from Firestone. And he said, that's
Speaker 1: how it all started. He said, I used to go
Speaker 1: home between six thirty and six forty five every single day,
Speaker 1: never missed it. He said, I was late one day,
Speaker 1: then I was late the second day. He said. After
Speaker 1: the second time he was late, his wife got a
Speaker 1: private investigator on him after two times. So that was
Speaker 1: another way. Private investigators is what people had to do before.
Speaker 1: They could just go on your cell phone and see
Speaker 1: what you was up to.
Speaker 2: Right, it's too easy now, niggas had it easy back then,
Speaker 2: y'all could do what y'all wanted. Yes, I had a
Speaker 2: friend catch her nigga cheating because he was driving her
Speaker 2: Tesla and she had the Tesla app on her phone
Speaker 2: and she saw an address. Something just told her intuition. Look,
Speaker 2: let me look at where he at today tonight. And
Speaker 2: she looked at it and saw an address that was
Speaker 2: two houses down from the address of the bitch he
Speaker 2: had been cheating on her with prior. And she I
Speaker 2: don't know how she knew the girl's address from before,
Speaker 2: but you know, we'll find a way. So in the
Speaker 2: phone you two houses down from there. M M, no,
Speaker 2: you cheating again, nigga, And now I got to kill you.
Speaker 1: Calling your spouse somebody else's name.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that'll happen.
Speaker 1: That's how bitch niggas is getting caught. That's how bitches
Speaker 1: get caught too, right, Uh, playing on the phone, calling
Speaker 1: twice and hanging up the phone, ring twice and hang up.
Speaker 1: This is a house phone. Yeah, this is before cell phones,
Speaker 1: This is before pages. So somebody calling and hanging up
Speaker 1: that is your husband's side, bitch. Right now, he got
Speaker 1: to leave a house fifteen minutes later.
Speaker 2: And make a call on a payphone down the street,
Speaker 2: right the other woman simply pulling up to the house,
Speaker 2: and that a five year old. Today. What I'm go'a
Speaker 2: do with two more kids? What I'm gonna do with.
Speaker 1: Cause my next one was babies you know, you you
Speaker 1: were able to hide a whole family before cell phones,
Speaker 1: before pagers, before social media. You could hide a whole
Speaker 1: family and nobody knew until your funeral. That ain't working
Speaker 1: like that, No.
Speaker 2: I've seen that. I've seen that happen where a man
Speaker 2: was on his deathbed and his family was uh surrounding him,
Speaker 2: showering with him love as he's about the transition, and
Speaker 2: a eighteen year old boy walks in and said, this
Speaker 2: is my father, and everybody in the family is like,
Speaker 2: what shame? Yes, he had a whole and then and
Speaker 2: he's been a good father too. You wouldn't even know
Speaker 2: bad father. He was a very prison father. Ain't that crazy?
Speaker 1: How you present?
Speaker 2: I guess he was moving and shaking thone. I don't know.
Speaker 1: That's all I got though. Those are the ways she
Speaker 1: was getting caught without having the cell phones back.
Speaker 2: In the day. Now your car now a nigga car.
Speaker 1: Catch him up period. One of my older cousins, I
Speaker 1: think I said this before, is she She would say that,
Speaker 1: You know, her and her husband had a rule and
Speaker 1: this was this was before the technology. No one can
Speaker 1: tell them that the other one is cheating. You'd have
Speaker 1: to tap him on the shoulder, like, you got to
Speaker 1: literally physically catch the catch your spouse cheating. So that's
Speaker 1: what the rule was between her and her husband and
Speaker 1: girl day, her husband tapped her on the shoulder while
Speaker 1: she was out with another man, caught her eyes dead like,
Speaker 1: so it gotta be an organic catch.
Speaker 2: Listen. I respect that, but I don't know if it
Speaker 2: be a tap on the shoulder or elbow to a y'all, you.
Speaker 1: Know, punch him in the beard right like, and get
Speaker 1: your some fucking cushion playing around with these damn cellphones
Speaker 1: and snapchat.
Speaker 2: You gotta be like, because are you? Are you a
Speaker 2: person who wouldn't allow your man to have female friends?
Speaker 1: No, absolutely not. I'm the person who point out fat
Speaker 1: asses in the street like, I'm not on nobody like that.
Speaker 1: If you can really bag them, you can have them,
Speaker 1: because you don't. He obviously don't like.
Speaker 2: Me, right and not the way he should.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he obviously don't like me. I don't really trip
Speaker 1: on a lot of things anymore. I just I'm in
Speaker 1: a different space nowadays. I never really tripped. I feel
Speaker 1: like I've always enabled people to do shady shit because
Speaker 1: I was never on your ass like that. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I just go with the floor whatever
Speaker 1: you tell me until I see otherwise. I'm not looking
Speaker 1: for shit. So somebody literally gonna have to message me
Speaker 1: on Instagram, which has happened. Somebody gonna literally have to
Speaker 1: pull up which has happened. I'm not looking for shit.
Speaker 2: One of my one of my cousins, she had a
Speaker 2: very platonic relationship with a male ever since college. They
Speaker 2: were like besties. They were like the best of friends.
Speaker 2: And then once he got with his wife now his wife,
Speaker 2: but she was his girlfriend at the time, she made
Speaker 2: him stop being her friend. And I just thought that
Speaker 2: would that suck, because like their relationship was not anything
Speaker 2: inappropriate ever, But she made him cut that shit off
Speaker 2: and he chose, I mean, he chose the woman he
Speaker 2: ended up burying, and then they weren't friends anymore. Do
Speaker 2: you feel like that's okay?
Speaker 1: No? And yes, because I can understand when men say
Speaker 1: that women can't have male friends, Because because call any
Speaker 1: one of your male friends, the niggas that you call
Speaker 1: homie brother, call them right now asking them if they
Speaker 1: want to fuck, and see what they say.
Speaker 2: I could call Terry.
Speaker 1: Right now and be like I want to so could
Speaker 1: I could? So could I. So it just depends on
Speaker 1: the friends. But I'm saying the majority of your friends,
Speaker 1: the majority of your guy friends are the people you
Speaker 1: call bro brother. This is how men think, This is
Speaker 1: how this is why men are uncomfortable with their women
Speaker 1: having guy friends. Women, right, we believe we can have
Speaker 1: guy friends, Like I got guy friends, and it may
Speaker 1: be one of my guy friends is somebody who I've
Speaker 1: actually been with many many years ago. And it's like,
Speaker 1: ill now on both ends, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like that's we really were supposed to just be friends
Speaker 1: one time and that shit wasn't it? And we friends, right,
Speaker 1: but my man would not become with him being my friend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I was like a guy was like,
Speaker 2: what you need male friends for when you got me,
Speaker 2: because these people have been friends long before you came,
Speaker 2: and they might be friends long after you go, you.
Speaker 1: Know, right, Yeah, we should be able to have opposite
Speaker 1: sex friends, absolutely, but men don't think it's possible for
Speaker 1: women to have friends. And that's really because they have issues.
Speaker 2: And that's why you need to stay on my phone
Speaker 2: because I'm gonna tell you I ain't friends with them, No, more.
Speaker 2: But that's still my homeboy, right.
Speaker 1: And see now when I got a lie to you
Speaker 1: about my friend, we can't be together. Yeah, yeah, my
Speaker 1: ex wanted me to get rid of everybody who ever
Speaker 1: knew me. Okay, he really wanted to consume me in
Speaker 1: that way.
Speaker 2: Listen, you could literally write a you know that my
Speaker 2: my the worst ex, My worst ex. That show on Netflix,
Speaker 2: have you seen it? It's about people who went had
Speaker 2: relationships with people and they were like terrible. A lot
Speaker 2: of these people try to kill him, but you literally
Speaker 2: could have an episode on there, not murder, but just
Speaker 2: from all the mental abuse that you experience.
Speaker 1: And then I don't feel like it was mental abuse
Speaker 1: because I'm not a person that can be abused. So
Speaker 1: it was really a battle for him to impose that thing.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. That's why we would fucking
Speaker 1: argue all the damn time, because I'm not somebody that's
Speaker 1: easily controlled. But I give a lot of grace. So
Speaker 1: when I get tired enough, I'm aa just cold turkeyo ass.
Speaker 1: You ain't gonna never ever have access to me in
Speaker 1: that way ever. Again.
Speaker 2: Nah, some of that shit was abuse, friend, But I
Speaker 2: guess I don't.
Speaker 1: Have a I don't have a victim mentality. It's just
Speaker 1: I was dealing with somebody who was having problems. That's
Speaker 1: how I feel for real. But in his mind, I
Speaker 1: could have caused those problems, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like I could have been a terrorist to him. That
Speaker 1: could be the story he's telling about me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you could be the villain in his story.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I'm at that point in my life where
Speaker 1: I'm okay being a villain for sure. And I just
Speaker 1: look at a girl. More power to your girl.
Speaker 2: You next, I'm a hit of Netflix, so you can so.
Speaker 1: Me and one of my homegirls that's gonna put together
Speaker 1: a book based on our worst relationships, like a little
Speaker 1: tell all right quick?
Speaker 2: Yeah you literally can't because I done heard some stories.
Speaker 1: Resa Tisa, don't got shipped on this story. Okay, she
Speaker 1: got a whole TV show coming out now, Resa Tisa, I.
Speaker 2: Know I'm excited to see you because I can't watch
Speaker 2: the TikTok series. I couldn't. I couldn't be bothered.
Speaker 1: I watched that whole ship. I watched that whole ship
Speaker 1: because I'm nosy. Yeah, but y'all listen if you want
Speaker 1: to share your passwords and your location with your significant other.
Speaker 1: More power to you. There's no I ain't doing that
Speaker 1: ship over here. Don't don't. Don't ask me about nothing.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna treat you like a child. Don't ask me
Speaker 1: for nothing. Else.
Speaker 2: I will share. But it just depends on the context
Speaker 2: in which the reasons why you need it, you know,
Speaker 2: why you feel like you want it, and.
Speaker 1: How you ask for it. It just it just can't
Speaker 1: feel like you're trying to control me. So you're gonna
Speaker 1: have to finesse me out these passwords and location.
Speaker 2: The location. I'm okay with that because.
Speaker 1: I like I'm okay with the location.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like feeling like my man don't play without me,
Speaker 2: And if y'all do something, he already know where the
Speaker 2: fuck I'm at, you know, But the password is next level.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I would have got got caught doing
Speaker 2: something terrible for me to give you my password.
Speaker 1: But even then, like you might as well leave, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you might as well leave when you get to that point.
Speaker 1: My trust is already gone.
Speaker 2: Listen. I can't even see myself doing the next man
Speaker 2: I get I'm just gonna be so good because I've
Speaker 2: been out here by myself for so long, I would
Speaker 2: not want to fuck it up in any way. I think, yeah.
Speaker 1: You full of shit.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 1: Anyway, you got a last last for the people.
Speaker 2: That was it. That's all I got.
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Speaker 2: a follow, I'll follow back sometimes if y'all got good content. Look,
Speaker 2: I'm saying that, like I got good content, I don't
Speaker 2: post it enough. I can't. I can't. I try to
Speaker 2: be better. I try to do better, but it's hard
Speaker 2: beating a slave to the content. Well, I love y'all
Speaker 2: despite everything. Remember speak now.
Speaker 1: And hold one goddamn passwords.
Speaker 2: Holy your password as hard as long as you can.
Speaker 1: Don't give it to them, hold them and don't be
Speaker 1: stressing that nigga out for his shit either, bye. For
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