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Speaker 1: Hello Sunshine, Hey Vesties. Today on the bright Side, we're

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Speaker 1: sitting down with trailblazing chef rest for tour and cookbook

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Speaker 1: author Ozma Khan.

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Speaker 2: You write your old story, you dictate what you want

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Speaker 2: to do with your life. You are not born to

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Speaker 2: crawl through life. You were born to fly free.

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Speaker 1: See Ozma's the visionary behind London's one and only Indian

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Speaker 1: restaurant with an all female team. The daughter of royal

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Speaker 1: parents in Calcutta, India, Ozma's had a fire in her

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Speaker 1: belly since the day she was born. But here's the twist.

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Speaker 1: She didn't learn how to cook until much later in life.

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Speaker 1: Now she's igniting a revolution in the culinary world, one

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Speaker 1: that places women front and center in professional kitchens, and

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Speaker 1: today she's sharing her recipe for change with us. It's Thursday,

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Speaker 1: August twenty second. I'm Simone Boyce.

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Speaker 3: I'm Danielle Robe and this is the bright Side from

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Speaker 3: Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to

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Speaker 3: share women's stories, to laugh, learn and brighten your day. Simone,

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Speaker 3: on a scale of one to ten, where your cooking

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Speaker 3: skills at?

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be too overconfident here. I feel

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Speaker 1: like a seven. Maybe seven, that's pretty good, seven eight

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Speaker 1: on some days, catch me on the holidays, maybe I'm

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Speaker 1: an eight.

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Speaker 2: How about you?

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Speaker 3: So wait, if we're talking like one to Ozma conn

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Speaker 3: or Jada laurentis you're a seven.

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Speaker 1: I mean you didn't say that.

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Speaker 3: That's thinking ten is professional executive chef.

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Speaker 1: No, okay, So if you're comparing me to a professional chef,

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Speaker 1: maybe I'll say I'm a six. But I think I'm

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Speaker 1: a pretty good home chef, home cook. I'll say that

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Speaker 1: that's awesome. How about you.

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Speaker 3: I'm sort of at a one. I rate myself a

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Speaker 3: one because I stop burning toast. But I make breakfast,

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Speaker 3: I make eggs. I can make great protein pancakes and

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Speaker 3: far as it goes for me.

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Speaker 1: Can you boil an egg?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 3: I learned how to boil an egg. But that's funny

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Speaker 3: that you ask, because today's guest couldn't even boil an

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Speaker 3: egg when she was in her twenties, and now she's

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Speaker 3: one of the brightest stars in London's culinary scene. Ozma

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Speaker 3: Kahn is an award winning chef, best selling cookbook author

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Speaker 3: show Chef's Table. She's the founder of one of the

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Speaker 3: city's top rated restaurants, Darjeeling Express. It's where she serves

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Speaker 1: I mean that is so cool, not just the fact

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Speaker 1: ages of the women here. It's just such an underrepresented

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Speaker 1: portion of this industry and Ozma's journey is incredible. She

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Speaker 1: was born to Indian royalty in Kolkatta, where she faced

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Speaker 1: these women who are second daughters, they're often completely forgotten

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Speaker 1: She did not let that stigma define her. In fact,

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Speaker 1: She made the kitchen her classroom and learned to master

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Speaker 3: You Know, something I love about her story is that

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Speaker 3: she started her restaurant with community at the center. She

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Speaker 3: in today's world, we talk a lot about women supporting

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Speaker 1: Ozma Khn lives it. It's so inspiring. And now she's

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Speaker 1: year and it's meant to be a masterclass on building flavor.

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Speaker 1: But all right, enough from us, let's bring her in.

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Speaker 1: Ozma Khn, welcome to the bright side.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: You are named one of the coolest people in food

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Speaker 3: and Wine by Business Insider in twenty nineteen, and just

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Speaker 3: you on Time Magazine's one hundred most Influential People. So

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Speaker 3: I cannot believe that you did not learn to cook

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Speaker 2: I just love to eat. Every family needs someone like me.

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Speaker 2: I love to eat. And I never imagined that I

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Speaker 2: have to cook for myself. I actually thought I would

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Speaker 2: And my kismuth was different. And I left Calcutta to

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Speaker 2: not knowing how to cook. It was such a huge move.

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Speaker 2: It was now prouting. The only person I knew was

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Speaker 2: effectively before I got married. I had an arranged marriage,

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Speaker 2: which is different from a forced marriage. Okay, arrange marriage

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Speaker 2: You couldn't call home. It was very expensive to make

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Speaker 2: even a short call. Traveling was expensive. You didn't see

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Speaker 2: you miss your family, you can even skype your dog

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Speaker 1: I want to talk about your upbringing a little bit

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Speaker 1: I mean, your cried when you were born. How would

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Speaker 2: Well, the interesting thing is, I think that my mother

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Speaker 2: but the extended family was not so nice. It also

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Speaker 2: And it is just these little things when it's so

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Speaker 2: don't understand that they leave scars so deep. For me,

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Speaker 2: those cars is where the fire came from. I wanted

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Speaker 2: My parents loved me a lot. My siblings are really

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Speaker 2: was so beautiful. She was this beautiful princess with long hair.

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Speaker 2: But the game changer was every time people were being

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Speaker 2: I realized then solidarity of a woman behind another woman,

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Speaker 2: It just made me realize. It changed everything for me,

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Speaker 2: and I'm so grateful for my sister.

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Speaker 1: Stay with us, everyone, We're taking a quick break and

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Speaker 1: then we'll be right back with the Asthma Khan, and

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Speaker 1: we're back talking food and community with Ozma Khan. The

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Speaker 1: I mean, like you said, those scars put a fire

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Speaker 1: high praise from food critics and earned you a spot

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Speaker 1: But I actually heard you say that this was not deliberate,

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's very easy for me to now create

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Speaker 2: women who could cook like me. Intuitively, instinctively, we are

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Speaker 2: a deeply patriarchal society. The men who are now cooking

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Speaker 2: They learned as a professional cook in culinary school and

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Speaker 2: supper clubs, it was all the women and all the

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Speaker 2: men told me, oh, no, you need professionals. Why is

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Speaker 2: it that life experience doesn't mean that I'm professional?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 2: I also am not a chef. I never called myself

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Speaker 2: I can call myself a doctor. I have a PhD

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Speaker 2: in British constitutional law. Chef is a vocational qualification. None

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Speaker 2: of us have that. But we know how to cook.

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Speaker 2: And yet everyone told me your restaurant's going to fail.

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Speaker 2: You cannot open a restaurant just with women who've never

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Speaker 2: Patience that's the most important thing. You should be cooking

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Speaker 2: The double shift, which is the backbone of all restaurants,

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Speaker 3: Have you seen other kitchens adopt your model because it's

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Speaker 2: Not yet, but I live in Hope. I hope that

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Speaker 2: We are extremely successful. I'm saying this because not out

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Speaker 2: There's overwhelming pressure to conform. But I am determined to

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Speaker 1: It's very important, so clear that that flame that was

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Speaker 1: you are just imbuing the women in your kitchens with

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Speaker 2: This is the big difference. I have to show that team,

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Speaker 2: Too many founders, too many leaders, do this. I stand

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Speaker 2: I want that to be dignity, and no one should

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Speaker 2: Asthma.

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Speaker 3: You mentioned the politics of food earlier, and people see

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Speaker 2: Sometimes. Yes, so we are in a situation where food

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Speaker 2: And there's so much bullying that happens in schools where

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Speaker 2: And I want everybody to cook my food. You can

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Speaker 2: Please listen to our stories, talk to us. Don't dismiss

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Speaker 2: the problem is that for too long this has been happening.

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Speaker 2: that because with that lack of respect for our culture,

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Speaker 3: There's room at the table for my food, but not

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Speaker 2: I think it is the most powerful decade of my

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Speaker 2: They laughed at me. And they said, oh, what a

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Speaker 2: In every sport where there's baseball, a cricket, we have

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Speaker 2: You can't defeat me. You cannot defeat powerful women in

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Speaker 2: The night is never endless. And I think all of

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Speaker 2: I know every day I live one day less. I

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Speaker 1: I need you in my ear every morning. I just

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Speaker 1: need you to give me a daily pep talk so

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Speaker 1: because when I as I'm listening to you speak, it's

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Speaker 1: like this incredibly moving motivational material that just is so energizing.

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Speaker 1: You have been the light for those women who are

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Speaker 1: in your kitchen. And I want to talk about some

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Speaker 1: Why why is that so important?

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Speaker 2: You can teach people's skills. You cannot teach attitude. You

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Speaker 2: cannot teach them resilience. That doesn't happen. So if they

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Speaker 2: you can teach them, you can guide them, you can

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Speaker 2: hup them. I don't know how to cook. I'm pretty

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Speaker 2: understand my culinary heritage, my respect for women who cooked.

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Speaker 2: This cannot be taught. You need to feel it.

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Speaker 1: When I think about the kinds of conversations that we

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Speaker 1: want to have on our show, The bright Side, you

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Speaker 1: are like straight up the middle because you are knocking

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Speaker 1: your second act out of the park. And that's something

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Speaker 1: that we talk about a lot, is transformation, reinvention. And

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Speaker 1: I think one of the reasons why we feel it's

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Speaker 1: anyone listening who feels it might be too late for them.

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Speaker 2: Do not allow anyone to label you, to put a

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Speaker 2: tell everybody there's no box big enough. I will be

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Speaker 2: who I want to be. I am the captain of

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Speaker 2: my ship. You don't get on my ship and tell

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Speaker 2: me where to go. You don't do that. I think

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Speaker 2: this is so important. We are allowed, we are pushed

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Speaker 2: Even well beinging friends, female friends will always kind of

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Speaker 2: You're the smart one, You're the nerdy one, you're the

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Speaker 2: techy one. You are none of these. You are every

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Speaker 2: day you can be a new person. You write your

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Speaker 2: own story. The world should not write your story. You

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Speaker 2: write your story. You dictate what you want to do

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Speaker 2: with your life. You are not born to crawl through life.

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Speaker 2: You were born to fly free. If everybody else tells

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Speaker 2: you where to go, this is not your destiny. We

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Speaker 2: all have a beautiful story, and I think that you

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Speaker 2: embrace that. And there's a little voice inside us. Let's

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Speaker 2: shut down everybody, shut down all that noise and listen

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Speaker 2: to that voice that is telling you who you really are.

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Speaker 3: Ozma, thank you so much. This has been truly one

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Speaker 3: of my favorite conversations we've had so far.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you so much, Ozma. Ozma Kahn is

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Speaker 1: the chef and owner of the Darjeeling Express in London

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Speaker 1: and an author of multiple esteemed cookbooks.

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Speaker 3: That's it for today's show. Tomorrow, we're popping off with

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Speaker 3: the hosts of the Go Touch Grass podcast, Millie Tamaraz

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Speaker 3: and Elise Morales. Listen and follow the bright Side on

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Speaker 3: the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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Speaker 1: I'm Simone Voice. You can find me at simone Voice

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Speaker 1: on Instagram and.

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Speaker 3: Tiktok'm Danielle Robe on Instagram and TikTok.

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Speaker 2: That's r O b A. Y.

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Speaker 1: See you tomorrow, folks. Keep looking on the bright side.