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Speaker 1: subject I left in the middle of the night. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I need your honest advice here because I

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Speaker 1: don't know how to handle this situation. I'm in my

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Speaker 1: my age. We are well above the age of foolishness,

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Speaker 1: but recently we had a big disagreement. I was staying

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Speaker 1: My ex husband is still single and he lives alone,

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Speaker 1: so when he called me at two thirty am, I

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Speaker 1: I needed to go and see about him. So I

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend got very upset with me, and we got

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Speaker 1: into a huge argument about it. I don't understand what

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Speaker 1: the big deal is. I would help anybody. I may

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Speaker 1: have shared too many details about my friendship with my

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Speaker 1: my ex still has me listed as a beneficiary on

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Speaker 1: his life insurance policy. Surely my man doesn't think I

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Speaker 1: still want my ex husband or vice versa. My man

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Speaker 1: said he was only angry because it was a safety

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Speaker 1: know it's deeper than that. So now I'm second guessing everything.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I should have even maybe I shouldn't have even

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Speaker 1: to go help my ex? What do you think please help? Okay?

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Speaker 1: After he called at two thirty am and you ran

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Speaker 1: your man definitely thinks you guys have something going on okay,

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Speaker 1: and that you guys still want each other. I mean,

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Speaker 1: who does this? I don't get it. Who does that?

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Speaker 1: Did your ex say something was wrong or seriously going on?

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Speaker 1: Like you say in the letter? I'll ask it this way.

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Speaker 1: What man is going to sit back can be okay

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Speaker 1: This is a man who happens to be your ex husband.

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Speaker 1: I mean, does this really sound reasonable to you? He

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Speaker 1: may have said that it was a safety issue with you,

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Speaker 1: but it was way more than that, and probably that too.

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Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, if it was a safety issue,

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Speaker 1: if he thought he should have gone along with you.

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Speaker 1: I can guarantee you he's not upset about you and

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Speaker 1: the life insurance thing. That's not anything for him to

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Speaker 1: ask you this, what if you were what were you

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Speaker 1: going to do for your ex? Did he say he

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Speaker 1: never You never said what it was. You just never

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Speaker 1: said you never said what it was? Help him do

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Speaker 1: what I mean? Couldn't it wait until later in the morning?

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Speaker 1: Otherwise it just sounds like a booty call. Said, I

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Speaker 1: don't see how you don't see that. You're right. You

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Speaker 1: shouldn't have answered the phone when you thought it was

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Speaker 1: could have waited. Whatever was Your man is right to

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Speaker 1: be mad. If he was at your house and a

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Speaker 1: You would be mad just like he is. So I

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Speaker 1: know you'd be highly upset and have a major attitude. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so you were wrong. You should have stayed there and

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Speaker 1: But I don't know, Steve. I can't believe this is

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Speaker 1: middle of the night. The name of this letter should

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Speaker 1: be how stupid this sound to you? Right? That's the

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Speaker 1: this sound to you? Shirley. I need your honest advice.

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Speaker 1: And Steve, yeah, I'm glad at you. I'm glad you

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Speaker 1: of foolishness. No, no, no, stop right there, he is

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Speaker 1: Let's go back to the title that I want to

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Speaker 1: We're laying in bed, phone rings two thirty. You figure

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Speaker 1: something seriously got to be wrong, so you sits up,

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Speaker 1: ex husband too, Fanny am, phone calls. It's prime booty time. Yea,

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Speaker 1: one more time, Prime booty time. Matter of fact, you're

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Speaker 1: At part two of your response to today, this woman

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Speaker 1: her laying next to her new boyfriend. It's her ex

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Speaker 1: what are you supposed to be? You're getting up to answer?

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Speaker 1: What is? We all know is a booty call? Shelon

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Speaker 1: know that? So why are we sitting up here trying

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Speaker 1: I would help anybody. Oh, so now you're tricking. Oh,

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Speaker 1: you would help anybody. So anybody that calls at two thirty,

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Speaker 1: explain something to you, lady. I'm sixty one. Let me

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Speaker 1: just dig off in my past a little bit here.

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Speaker 1: I didn't call a lot of women at tooth thirty

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Speaker 1: in the morning and said, it ain't ever been nothing wrong? Ever,

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Speaker 1: going down. The only thing wrong with me is I'm

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Speaker 1: need to be Yeah, I need some coming. I need

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Speaker 1: somebody to put me to sleep. I'm suffering from in

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Speaker 1: something new. I can't go to sleep, and you could

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Speaker 1: a man called a woman? Something's going old. Someone's on

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Speaker 1: the phone three o'clock in the moaning talking about she

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Speaker 1: can make it right? Did you hear me al Green

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Speaker 1: saying about this fil Now hear you answering it, trying

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Speaker 1: Al Green is at your house? Yeah? Right, my friendship

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Speaker 1: I have shared. I would help anybody. I may have

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Speaker 1: shared too many details about my friendship with my ex husband,

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Speaker 1: So now you're running your mouth too, Okay, And I

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Speaker 1: listed as a beneficiary on his life insurance policy. Oh well,

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Speaker 1: maybe that was it. Maybe you was going over there

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Speaker 1: and make sure you still called her. Well, but see,

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Speaker 1: but in order to make sure you have been a fisher,

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Speaker 1: you gotta provide benefit. See you get the beneficial? Are

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Speaker 1: you got to be the benefit? You understand? See that

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Speaker 1: what I'm talking about. Surely, surely my man doesn't think

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Speaker 1: I still want my ex husband or vice versa. Why

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Speaker 1: would you not heither put you on the policy? This

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Speaker 1: to heiter impiti me a sugar daddy. I'm your sugar

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Speaker 1: daddy now and when I'm gonna hello hello. This is

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Speaker 1: a matter of fact, your ex husband falls into the

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Speaker 1: so now, if you gotta sugar daddy, that's a super

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Speaker 1: sugar daddy that can provide sugar, living and gold. You

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Speaker 1: to do. M Now. My man said he was only

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Speaker 1: angry because it was a safety issue for me to

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Speaker 1: issue for you to leave in two thirty. The damn

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Speaker 1: with all he damn this man got a shurance policy.

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Speaker 1: Was I not supposed to go help my ex? Let's

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Speaker 1: talk about the help you probably provide it. Break it down,

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Speaker 1: Break it down. He's locked out of his house. Oh

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Speaker 1: and why do you have a key? He's sick and

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Speaker 1: only you can make him better. You better make a

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Speaker 1: song out of this. Noah, two thirty, Come on any morning.

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Speaker 1: Somebody just can't sleeve pick something phone and it called

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Speaker 1: Skippy ain't happy on mine. About to go out the

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Speaker 1: door I got. I bought both fires. I'm about to

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Speaker 1: give him some more because I'm beneficialing about to used

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Speaker 1: to be maverick, used to be mavering. Now I gotta

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Speaker 1: go and take care my beneficial status won't and I

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Speaker 1: won't heal, uh huh. He's leaving money when it ain't

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Speaker 1: no more heal. He got me now and I get

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Speaker 1: it then, So I go open, open, open, letting me

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Speaker 1: see that was that was excellent. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: A short thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. At my Girls, Shirley,

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