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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Samp this is John.

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Speaker 1: I stole my friend's girlfriend. Now I'm paying the price.

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Speaker 3: Uh oh, karma time.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty four year old guy and my ex

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Speaker 1: girlfriend in the story is twenty one years old. About

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Speaker 1: a year and a half ago, while I was studying

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Speaker 1: in Australia, some of my friends came over to visit

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Speaker 1: me and holiday at the same time. This included girl

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Speaker 1: A let's call her.

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Speaker 3: Maya Maya, and guy Larry. Larry's it starts the A

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Speaker 3: and his name's Larry.

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Speaker 1: No, they're both guy girl A and guys.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, Larry and Maya.

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Speaker 1: Got Larry and Maya. We're attached to each other. Both

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Speaker 1: friends of mine. I've known Larry for about four years,

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Speaker 1: but we were never close. I've known Maya for about

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Speaker 1: six months. They have been attached for a year and

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Speaker 1: a half when you say attached, do you just mean

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Speaker 1: they're dating?

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Speaker 3: Because some people are like dating, but some people are

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Speaker 3: literally attached. I know the difference.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. By the way, this comes from Silvery and if

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Speaker 3: So is, do I give off the vibes if I'm

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Speaker 3: dating Auntie or I'm attached to her dating? Does Sam

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Speaker 3: give off the vibes that he's dating Alley or that

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Speaker 3: he's attached to her dating?

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what the difference is. I think of

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Speaker 3: a couple that's attached. Yeah, there is a difference, you can.

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Speaker 1: Tell Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll think of this now. Halfway

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Speaker 1: through the trip, Larry had some important business deal going

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Speaker 1: on and he had to suddenly fly back. This was

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Speaker 1: about the fourth day and two s seven day holiday.

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Speaker 1: We were left with Maya's brother and Brianna, our friend.

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Speaker 1: Because we all slept together on the floor in the

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Speaker 1: living room, we would chat late into the night. By

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Speaker 1: Brianna would sleep rather early and both Maya and me

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Speaker 1: are night outs.

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Speaker 3: Uh oh, somehow.

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Speaker 1: We bonded through those two or three night talks. We chatted,

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Speaker 1: we laughed, we shared things close to our hearts. I

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Speaker 1: confided in her my problems and she did the same

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Speaker 1: for me. The last night, we came to the point

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Speaker 1: where I teared up a bit whilst sharing my problems.

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Speaker 1: She simply took out her iPod, found the song called

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Speaker 1: Lean on Me and let me listen to it. After that,

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Speaker 1: she told me, I'm your friend. I'm here for you.

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Speaker 1: That's wild. Imagine I'm trying to comfort you. Yeah, And

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Speaker 1: I put that song on and then I go, I'm

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Speaker 1: your friend, I'm here. If you did that, yeah, that

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Speaker 1: would be very good sharing someone up because it's so stupid. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Sometime during the night, I can't remember whether before or after,

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Speaker 1: we got into a huge tickling fight.

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Speaker 3: Uh oh, you've been in a tickle fight.

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Speaker 1: I have not been in a tickle fight, well, as

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Speaker 3: No, okay, well I've been in a few recently tickle

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Speaker 3: there's like a eleventh finger starting to poke around. Eow.

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Speaker 1: It's disgusting. Take that out. I hated that even her

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Speaker 1: brother woke up and joined in a bit. What what

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Speaker 1: is God? Who are these people you? It lasted for

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Speaker 1: maybe fifteen to twenty minutes, and we were tickling each

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Speaker 3: I hate this.

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Speaker 1: This is gross. I had tickle fights aren't inherently like spicy,

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Speaker 3: Tickle fighting with you know, someone you got a crush on,

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Speaker 1: Ew, that's gross. I apologize it's a bit blurry now,

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Speaker 1: but I remember that I don't think of the boyfriend

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Speaker 3: I'm assuming so I can check that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you me check it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's check. I wish I was smart enough for

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Speaker 3: probably let's see. No, no, you can say that story. Sorry

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Speaker 3: one yeh, twenty four year old guy.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Okay, so we just learned that this guy

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Speaker 3: Yeah, which she might be a little younger because this

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she was twenty and he would have been twenty

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so they're both okay, better to know.

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Speaker 1: I don't remember much after that, only that somehow the

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Speaker 1: next morning when we woke up, we were holding hands.

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Speaker 1: Were you guys like really intoxicated? What happened during this

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Speaker 3: Dude? You know, whenever you're sleeping on the ground next

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And plus probably the reason why he said attached

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Speaker 3: and not dating. Yeah, he was like they were an

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Speaker 3: be one of those desperate types.

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Speaker 1: I'm not ugly, I'm a little plump. At the time,

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Speaker 1: and self esteem was average. I knew how to play

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Speaker 3: Okay, that that's pretty If you can play guitar, that

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Speaker 1: You could play the guitar. I wasn't a loser in

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Speaker 1: not cool. After dating for about a month, though, my

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Speaker 3: Ooh, I've heard these things, but these couples are together

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's monkey branching.

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Speaker 3: She's monkey branching. But also, like, you know, my girlfriend

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you searched for the ten percent when you're leaving

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Speaker 1: the ninety. He was quiet, passive, unadventurous, et cetera. He

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Speaker 1: And she loved watching movies, but he hated watching movies.

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Speaker 1: What she's like, I hate reading and he's like movies

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Speaker 1: So she started talking about how she feels like a

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Speaker 1: salute and a witch, how she let him down, how

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Speaker 3: Me, I feel like she's talking to you as a

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Speaker 1: Literally, she's like, it's late, they're having their late night

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Speaker 1: that other guy. And he's like me and she's like, yeah, you.

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Speaker 1: I ignored the warning signs. We continue to date. We

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Speaker 1: Are you guys living together?

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Speaker 3: What's going on? No, they're just sleeping, That's all. I

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Speaker 1: Slowly, the spicy sleep started to slow though about a

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Speaker 1: Her ex boyfriend started to move on, started to lessen

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Speaker 3: Also, think this through. He should have thought this through

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Speaker 3: That's not fair to her. He shouldn't have done that.

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Speaker 1: He should always be there for his ex girlfriends.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, low key. One's more in the emotional side and

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Speaker 1: And one watches movies with her and one takes her

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Speaker 1: that like, oh, you've wronged your ex partners, so you

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Speaker 1: need to hang out with them to make up for that. No,

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Speaker 1: leave me alone. I don't know how he feels about her.

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Speaker 1: Locked in.

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Speaker 3: You kind of went through that right, Yes, leave me.

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Speaker 1: I don't want you there, my I don't know how

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Speaker 1: over at his place. She says they don't have spicy sleep.

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Speaker 1: They don't even sleep together. They just tickle each other.

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Speaker 1: She just sleeps over because he hardly even goes out

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Speaker 1: I've seen their messages. She can send him a wall

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Speaker 1: have no doubt that he gives her the cold shoulder

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Speaker 1: most of the time. Girl, Get a catch a hint,

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Speaker 1: Catch a hint, catch a hint.

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Speaker 3: You chose your man.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, he doesn't want to talk to you anymore.

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Speaker 3: You can't go back.

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Speaker 1: Stop setting him walls of text and me. I don't

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Speaker 1: know how to move on with life. I've begun to

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Speaker 1: truly love her. I've waited for her for a long time.

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Speaker 1: I've tolerated a lot of things. I've tolerated her sleeping

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Speaker 1: to him. Y'all are a poly couple at this point.

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Speaker 3: Trying to understand her perspective. Well, she just needs more

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Speaker 1: All of them need more friends because she created new friends.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, my solution is all of you need to go

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Speaker 3: Also for you right now, that's listening. Text that one

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Speaker 3: and you know, I think finding another community of people.

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Speaker 1: Anything. Get a hobby, Join pickleball, join pickleball, rock climbing

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Speaker 1: There is an update though, folks, same advice cut her off.

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Speaker 1: So I told her this was gonna end. I tried

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Speaker 1: I made my second mistake, giving in to her, Oh no,

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Speaker 1: had just about enough, just just not quite enough. In

436
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:19,160
Speaker 1: early February, I was overseas for four days on business.

437
00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,800
Speaker 1: Started a new job in January that I loved. Couldn't

438
00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:24,320
Speaker 1: be happier. I even went to the extent of text

439
00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:26,760
Speaker 1: messaging her when I touched down overseas to let her

440
00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:30,520
Speaker 1: know I had arrived safely. International SMS, thanks for letting

441
00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:32,720
Speaker 1: us know. When I got to the hotel after a

442
00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:35,160
Speaker 1: long day of work, the wireless there would only let

443
00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:38,000
Speaker 1: me log in on one device, so obviously I logged

444
00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,800
Speaker 1: in on my laptop. My phone had no Internet access,

445
00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:43,879
Speaker 1: so I couldn't whats up her. After surfing Reddit sharing

446
00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 1: some videos on Facebook, he suddenly es messed me out

447
00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:50,280
Speaker 1: of the blue, saying, so you have time to serve Facebook,

448
00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:53,399
Speaker 1: but no time to message me. I totally lost it.

449
00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:56,080
Speaker 1: I found that she was online on Facebook, messaged her

450
00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:58,800
Speaker 1: there and let her ab it. She yelled back at

451
00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:02,399
Speaker 1: me virtually, you know, all capstyle, and after ten minutes

452
00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:05,320
Speaker 1: or so of virtual arguing, I gave up, logged off

453
00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:07,640
Speaker 1: and went to bed. I got a very long Facebook

454
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:10,639
Speaker 1: message from her about two hours later. She apologize for

455
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:13,440
Speaker 1: what she did and she hoped that we could stay friends.

456
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:18,160
Speaker 3: Stop dude, he's addicted. He's addicted to ridiculously cycle.

457
00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:22,600
Speaker 1: In January, I had about enough, and then two sentences

458
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:25,159
Speaker 1: later said, it was February.

459
00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:28,919
Speaker 3: Dude, I do remember kind of seeing a girl and

460
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:31,800
Speaker 3: it was a little toxic and I kind of liked it.

461
00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:34,600
Speaker 3: It just kept going in that little circle, and I

462
00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:36,480
Speaker 3: was like, dude, you're going through a line right now.

463
00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:38,880
Speaker 3: This is best for you for me to leave. Yes,

464
00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:40,160
Speaker 3: now she's back with her ex.

465
00:21:40,280 --> 00:21:42,119
Speaker 1: Oo, dude, you are this story.

466
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Speaker 3: You're a pea because for a little bit, you're a pea.

467
00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 1: Oh No, I replied to her with a message that well,

468
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:53,160
Speaker 1: short wasn't cold, but neither was it warm. I would

469
00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:55,800
Speaker 1: say it was business like. I basically told her that

470
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 1: I could remain friends with her. No, you can't, but

471
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:01,919
Speaker 1: she had to stop this passive aggressive behavior or it

472
00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 1: wouldn't work. She replied with multiple messages yelling at me,

473
00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 1: saying that because she doesn't love me as a girlfriend,

474
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:11,160
Speaker 1: I'm no longer giving her any time, no longer putting

475
00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 1: effort into the relationship, et cetera. I didn't reply to that.

476
00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 1: I hadn't contacted her ever since. Ever since that night,

477
00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:20,959
Speaker 1: I finally took my life into my own hands. I've

478
00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 1: started lifting weights, started running regularly, and started watching my diet.

479
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:29,640
Speaker 1: I've spent more time practicing the guitar, re establishing old friends,

480
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 1: going out for drinks, and listening to good live music.

481
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Speaker 3: Look at you all right, all right.

482
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,359
Speaker 1: Literally, it feels like you left all of your friends

483
00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 1: behind when you became her friend.

484
00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:42,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, that happens when you get into a relationships sometimes.

485
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:45,359
Speaker 3: But he wasn't even in relationship technically, technically he wasn't.

486
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 1: But he was giving up all of his friendship for

487
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:48,920
Speaker 1: a situationship.

488
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, that was his girl. He thought it was his girl.

489
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:54,119
Speaker 1: He thought it was his girl. About a month after

490
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:56,919
Speaker 1: I started ignoring her, I returned all of her stuff

491
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 1: that she had left at my place via her sister,

492
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:01,600
Speaker 1: whom I'm still friends with. There was a little bit

493
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 1: of perverse joy in how happy and relieved I was

494
00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 1: to finally rid myself of all the last remaining signs

495
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 1: of her presence in my life. I had a reevaluation

496
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 1: last month when I met up with her sister and

497
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,159
Speaker 1: her dog, whom I missed so much. Quick background, I

498
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 1: used to walk her dog and play with her dog

499
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:20,160
Speaker 1: more than any member of her family except her father.

500
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:21,600
Speaker 3: Cool. I thank you for that.

501
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 1: I needed that. I needed that. When her dog saw

502
00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 1: me from far away, he started sprinting towards me at

503
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 1: a high speed and nearly bowled me over. I swear

504
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 1: I was so glad to see him after nearly two

505
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:34,640
Speaker 1: months of not playing with them. I told my friend

506
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:37,320
Speaker 1: after that night, you know, I know I'm over ex

507
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:40,680
Speaker 1: girlfriend's name sounds mean, but it's the truth. I miss

508
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 1: your dog more than I miss her, which is zero.

509
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 1: By the way, I missed when you guys listened to

510
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 1: full episodes of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify,

511
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,920
Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, We're iHeart Radio and search of Pokest story Time.

512
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 1: There is a little bit left to this story.

513
00:23:57,640 --> 00:24:00,399
Speaker 3: Folks left with.

514
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:02,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, just with we zero.

515
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:04,120
Speaker 3: You miss her so much.

516
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,280
Speaker 1: You miss her so much, Dude, you're just trying to

517
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 1: You're trying to You're kid in yourself.

518
00:24:08,119 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 3: It takes a minute to forget about ANX, It really does.

519
00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 3: Like sadly, sometimes when I think of a name in

520
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,440
Speaker 3: my head, my Hex's name pops up, and it's a curse.

521
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 3: It's hear to my head and it's a curse that

522
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 3: I can't get out. It's within the last five to

523
00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 3: six months has gotten a lot better. Hey, but I've

524
00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,359
Speaker 3: had to hold my tongue whenever I see Angie and

525
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 3: not to say the first name that comes to my

526
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:30,680
Speaker 3: mind because I'm like, why is that still there? Yeah?

527
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:31,399
Speaker 1: Get out? Of that.

528
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:33,119
Speaker 3: But this might not be your piece case. But that

529
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 3: don't take a minute, man. You're not over her, and

530
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 3: that's okay. That's okay man, and you're gonna be addicted

531
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 3: to it. And please don't put yourself in another Please.

532
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:42,680
Speaker 1: Don't get back to yeah yeah, take a minute. Yes,

533
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,359
Speaker 1: don't just rush into something.

534
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 3: Listen to all the live music that exists.

535
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 1: Please. Please, every time like you feel like you want

536
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 1: to go, text here, go to the live go to

537
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:55,200
Speaker 1: a jazz event. Please to all guys who have ever

538
00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:58,719
Speaker 1: been in my situation, are going through something similar, Chin up,

539
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:00,200
Speaker 1: bros mana.

540
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:00,640
Speaker 3: This is what he did.

541
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:05,280
Speaker 1: Chin up brose yeah, man up, delete her Facebook, hit

542
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 1: the gym, take back control of your life.

543
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 3: It's not bad advice.

544
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,720
Speaker 1: Countless others have done it. Now, finally I have two.

545
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,159
Speaker 1: You may think that you can never love another. You

546
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 1: may think you cannot move on. You may think that

547
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:19,400
Speaker 1: because you have so many mutual friends with her or him,

548
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:22,720
Speaker 1: you cannot break up and move on. You can believe

549
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:25,680
Speaker 1: in it and work to make it happen. I took

550
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,119
Speaker 1: the steps to take my life back, one step at

551
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:31,639
Speaker 1: a time. The result now I'm still overweight, but I

552
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 1: just ran a personal record of twelve kilometers last night.

553
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 1: This coming from a guy who's one hundred and seventy

554
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:41,920
Speaker 1: seven centimeters and ninety two kilograms. I was ninety eight

555
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 1: in January. To cheers, bro, and never stop believing in yourself.

556
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 3: Five eight what is ninety nine kilograms and pounds? Two

557
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 3: hundred pounds for all of our Americans. He's five eight

558
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 3: and two hundred pounds.

559
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 1: But folks, that's the end of that story.

560
00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:00,200
Speaker 3: Goodness, gracious man, Please.

561
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,679
Speaker 1: Get some I mean, it seems like you're working on it,

562
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 1: but yeah, on your self respect, and don't let your

563
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: life revolve around another person.

564
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 3: Don't. Please don't.

565
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:12,919
Speaker 1: Just in general, don't let your life unless you're a

566
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 1: security guard in charge of protecting the pope, I don't know, don't.

567
00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:19,439
Speaker 1: I mean, even then, you should have a life outside

568
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 1: of your job.

569
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, i'd say any security guards can do that. Yeah,

570
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 3: don't let it also revolve around you. But if that's

571
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:30,760
Speaker 3: their livelihood and they lose their client, that's true, they're

572
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:31,359
Speaker 3: out of a job.

573
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 1: They are out of a job.

574
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 3: So maybe this supplies to everyone, but security guards were personal.

575
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 1: Bodyguards, personal bodyguards. You gotta you gotta let your life

576
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 1: revolve around. Yeah, you can't, but everyone else. Your life

577
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: is your own, live it for yourself.

578
00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:51,120
Speaker 3: Wait, how did you get to the point where your

579
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:53,879
Speaker 3: ex was like trying to hang out with you? You

580
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:56,160
Speaker 3: were like, what did you just told him?

581
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:59,840
Speaker 1: You were like, because he apologized to me, and then

582
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: I I was like, I need you to stop texting me.

583
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 3: Okay, so you just put your boundary down and then

584
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 3: he stopped texting me. I wish that guy could have

585
00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:10,199
Speaker 3: known him to do that, you too, poor man. All right,

586
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 3: we got another story coming up.

587
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: Storry folks.

588
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 3: All right, cool, here we go. My boyfriend accused me

589
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 3: of stealing his money, but I didn't, Well, who did?

590
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 3: My boyfriend is accusing me of stealing his money? And

591
00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 3: even if he does find it later, would it be

592
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 3: stupid to still break up? By the way, this comes

593
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:29,720
Speaker 3: from Reddit user eighty nine. And if you want to

594
00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 3: speak your own stories, what are the r slash? Okay?

595
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 3: Story time subredding? So earlier today, him and I stopped

596
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 3: by the bank and he had to withdraw money for

597
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,199
Speaker 3: his employees. I'm still sitting in the car playing with

598
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 3: my phone MPJS. When he sits down, I'll remember is

599
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:45,360
Speaker 3: that he takes it out of the envelope, fans it out,

600
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:47,880
Speaker 3: puts it back in, and I don't know where he

601
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 3: puts it afterwards, because I was on my phone and

602
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 3: just glanced at him for a second. Tonight, he apparently

603
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 3: went in to look for it and it wasn't there,

604
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 3: and he calls me, asking where it is. He says

605
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 3: he puts it in the console in the middle of

606
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 3: his car and claims I saw it there. I keep

607
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 3: saying no, and I tell him he misplaced it, but

608
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 3: he says he swears he knows where it was, and

609
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 3: I was the only one that knew. Then later I

610
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,120
Speaker 3: found out that his brother also knew he had it

611
00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 3: in his car because he told him. On top of that,

612
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 3: I didn't find out he gives his brother the spare

613
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 3: keys to his car. He had all day to take it.

614
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 3: I was never alone, so I didn't have a second too.

615
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 3: He got a little little mystery on a little who

616
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:32,399
Speaker 3: done it? Oh, who do you think did it? Brother?

617
00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 3: I think probably the brother brother.

618
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, no pis are unless she's an unreliable narrator.

619
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: But I also think if your partner is accusing you

620
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 1: of like stealing, maybe not the best relationship.

621
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is payroll for his company, so this might

622
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:50,440
Speaker 3: be a few thousand dollars in cash we're talking about Earlier,

623
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 3: he thought I had clearly had time to take it

624
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 3: when he left the car. I reminded him I never

625
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 3: was left alone in it. Then I thought I had

626
00:28:58,240 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 3: two seconds to take it when he got out of

627
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 3: his car to go check the gas on his other car.

628
00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 3: But I told him he's an effing idiot because I

629
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 3: got out at the exact same time he did, and

630
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 3: for some reason, he thought I was sitting in his

631
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 3: car and had time to do that. Now, even if

632
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 3: I was alone in the car, why would he think

633
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 3: I took it. I'm typing this on twenty five hundred

634
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 3: dollars MacBook. He bought me. He's bought me the top

635
00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 3: of the line Apple products, iPads, every iPhone that I watch,

636
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 3: my pure Bread Husky, my PS four, my Wiu golden

637
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 3: diamond jewelry, give me a thousand bucks to spend on

638
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:32,959
Speaker 3: Black Friday, takes me around the world on the best vacations,

639
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 3: and I could keep going with a list that would

640
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 3: be longer than the Harry Potter book series.

641
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 1: Dude, he's given you all this money, and now he

642
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:40,360
Speaker 1: thinks that you're a gold digger.

643
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 3: Why would I need twenty five hundred bucks? Anything I

644
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 3: wanted was that much money, I'd get it for Christmas

645
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 3: with no questions asked. If I did take it and

646
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 3: bought stuff with it, well, hello, how did I afford

647
00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 3: those things? Taking it would not be beneficial at all

648
00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 3: because I couldn't spend it to buy anything. Before he

649
00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 3: made the money he makes. Now, I was always there

650
00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:59,560
Speaker 3: for him. He had no money to spend. He's always

651
00:29:59,600 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 3: trying to keep his business going, but it wasn't going

652
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 3: so well. He even had to ask me for money

653
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 3: to pay his employees. Well would he think that later

654
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 3: on I would be the ones stealing money?

655
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 1: Okay, I think he's in this mindset now that he

656
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 1: has money, of like, oh, now she's using me for

657
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: my money, like I give her all this stuff. She's

658
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 1: probably trying it. Like, I think he's in this kind

659
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: of everyone's out to get me mindset now that he

660
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: has money.

661
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, that makes sense. That makes sense. So we're seeing

662
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 3: his perspective in a way. Yeah, that she could be

663
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 3: looked at as a goal dirty And now we're looking at

664
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 3: the brothers, his brother twenty two. However, gets paid well

665
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 3: from him, He complains saying he doesn't, and he does

666
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 3: and gets gifts for holidays and birthday. He also bought

667
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 3: himself a car that he's been really needing money for

668
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,840
Speaker 3: and could put that money towards it without my boyfriend

669
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 3: seeing any change. Like I said, if I had it,

670
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 3: when would he notice the change and stuff I have?

671
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 3: But his brother has asked him for money on his car.

672
00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 3: Another big thing is that his brother doesn't like me,

673
00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 3: so why you're being frames little hoodwing tear? So why

674
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 3: not take it and blame me? If he knew we

675
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 3: went to the bank together. So I told my brother

676
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 3: say this, I better have it tomorrow back in my

677
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 3: car or you aren't getting paid anymore. It's his only

678
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 3: income and he needs to pay that car and gas

679
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 3: and other things. My girlfriend has a set of keys

680
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 3: to my cars and you have my spare, so one

681
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,720
Speaker 3: of you better return it and nothing happens. But the

682
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 3: twist is that he doesn't give me any keys, and

683
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 3: if it is there, then his brother took it. My

684
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 3: boyfriend doesn't seem like he wants to do that for

685
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 3: some reason. Anyways, what would you do about all of this?

686
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 3: What would you say? What if it never shows up?

687
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 3: What if my boyfriend lost it is just something to

688
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 3: end a five year relationship over that I've been in

689
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 3: since fifteen and him sixteen. He's saying he might have

690
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 3: to break up with me. What if this money has found?

691
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 3: What should I do? If it is not then what

692
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 3: should I do? If it is found? Do I break

693
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 3: up with him? Because of him thinking I do that

694
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 3: it's not even lost to twenty five hundred dollars he's

695
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 3: mad about. He's mad at the fact he thinks one

696
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 3: of us could steal from him. He doesn't trust me

697
00:31:58,560 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 3: when I swore on everything and we have some comments.

698
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 1: He doesn't trust you. You're not ending the relationship over

699
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: you know, maybe stealing or not. You're ending it because

700
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 1: he doesn't trust you.

701
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, trying to think if you swore on everything, Yeah,

702
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 3: that's hard or anything.

703
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 1: Friend, If you can't trust your girlfriend, why are you

704
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 1: with her? Yeah? If you can, like, yeah, SUREY wants

705
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,480
Speaker 1: to trust his brother, but you're literally paying everything for

706
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 1: this girl. Why would she steal your money?

707
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 3: Sort of like if you're like, I'll give you this, this,

708
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,000
Speaker 3: and this to get the twenty five hundred dollars back. Yeah,

709
00:32:30,080 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 3: if that's what it needs to do. I don't care.

710
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 3: Sometimes whenever couple's in this rut, you need like the

711
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 3: other person to hold, like you know, have your back,

712
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 3: even if the partner doesn't trust you for a moment,

713
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 3: because that moment may pass. They might not trust you

714
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 3: just for a second if you're willing to do that.

715
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 3: But if you think there is any coming back from this, yeah,

716
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 3: through it.

717
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 1: I think people accusing someone of stealing from you is

718
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 1: like super hard to come back from because one, you're

719
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: saying that you don't trust them, you're accusing them of

720
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 1: committing this, like you know, act against you. And also

721
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: the three I mean, I don't have a third one.

722
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 1: I did have a third one.

723
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 3: Uh, trust's thievery.

724
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 1: I don't remember what the third one is.

725
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 3: It's gone. We only got two guys, make up one

726
00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:17,200
Speaker 3: in your comments. We got comments here though, come number one.

727
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 3: I would feel comfortable in a relationship where I was

728
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 3: wrongfully accused of stealing, especially if it's been brought up

729
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 3: more than a few times. I don't think it would

730
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,959
Speaker 3: be wise to continue this relationship. You gave him a

731
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 3: pretty crafty plan to get back the money, seeing as

732
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 3: it sounds his brother could be the one other person

733
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,400
Speaker 3: who took it. Why can he accuse you but not

734
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:39,040
Speaker 3: his brother? Bounds off. We got an update. Hey's John

735
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 3: og host.

736
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick

737
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 2: three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

738
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

739
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 1: I just I think he's he's told you what he

740
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 1: thinks about you. And I think when someone says like

741
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:52,240
Speaker 1: they think so lowly, you know, so low of you,

742
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: Or I think when someone tells you that they think

743
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: so little of you that they think you could steal

744
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 1: from them, It's like, why what do I want to

745
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 1: be with someone who thinks I could do that?

746
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 3: Yeah? I feel like you framed the brother back in

747
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 3: some way, shape or form here.

748
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but even then, like even if you proved your innocence,

749
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would want to be with

750
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: someone who couldn't trust my word.

751
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,840
Speaker 3: Yeah. I'm just thinking this boyfriend might have a moment

752
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 3: of weakness. If you can't get rid of it, then yeah,

753
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 3: don't don't stay with it. Yeah, Okay. Update. So tonight,

754
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:23,280
Speaker 3: my boyfriend was hanging out with one of his friends

755
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 3: and his brother when he decided to bring up what

756
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 3: happened the other night. Went to his friend twenty mel.

757
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,360
Speaker 3: He started off by saying, so, three thousand dollars was

758
00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:32,400
Speaker 3: stolen on my car the other day. It could have

759
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:34,520
Speaker 3: only been two people. He turns over to his brother

760
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 3: and says, what would you do if you lost three

761
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 3: thousand dollars? His brother replied with, I don't know. I

762
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 3: don't know what i'd do if I lost fifteen hundred bucks.

763
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:46,280
Speaker 3: See that fifteen hundred bucks, he corrected it instead fifteen hundred.

764
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:47,280
Speaker 1: Your brother is an idiot.

765
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, brother is stupid. What the heck? Dude?

766
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, ah, I lost three thousand dollars. What would you

767
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,759
Speaker 1: do if you lost three thousand dollars? I don't know.

768
00:34:58,080 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: I don't know what I would do if I lost

769
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:06,080
Speaker 1: fifteen hundred dollars. That's what just happened. Oh, dude, you're stupid.

770
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 3: You're so own.

771
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: You're like a freaking like villain from a cartoon. You're like,

772
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:14,920
Speaker 1: how did you know that I was the villain all along?

773
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:17,279
Speaker 1: After I did my villain monologue?

774
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 3: Dude, Now, why would that be relevant? Well, if you

775
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:23,080
Speaker 3: read my original post, then you know I said twenty

776
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 3: five hundred dollars in my post. Why all the different

777
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,239
Speaker 3: amounts of money. That's because apparently my boyfriend had lied

778
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:31,400
Speaker 3: to all of us about pretty much how much money

779
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:33,960
Speaker 3: was really pulled. He told me twenty five hundred dollars

780
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 3: and told his brother three thousand. This entire time, I

781
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 3: really thought twenty five hundred dollars. So okay, well it

782
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:43,760
Speaker 3: seems like she passed. Yeah his test. Wow. Nice, Okay,

783
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 3: I don't blame him for doing that. Yeah, but now

784
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 3: we know who the culprit is. Yeah, it worked, it worked.

785
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 3: No one knew how much money was actually in the envelope.

786
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 3: My boyfriend called me tonight, very upset and angry because

787
00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 3: the moment he said that, he knew it had to

788
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:00,720
Speaker 3: be him. He was planning on that slip up to happen,

789
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 3: and you got lucky. Criminals wouldn't be criminals if they

790
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 3: were smart, now would they? Nobody about the person doesn't

791
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 3: make sense. Oh, I guess because they got caught. Yeah.

792
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:09,319
Speaker 1: I don't like that.

793
00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 3: I don't know. If you read some criminals, it's like.

794
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 1: Oh stupid, but like, well that's a separate issue.

795
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 3: Though, Yeah, the separate shoot. I read something that like

796
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:20,400
Speaker 3: fifty one percent of criminals who commit murder actually are caught.

797
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 3: So the forty nine percent of them are stupid for

798
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:23,160
Speaker 3: getting caught.

799
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: When you say, I mean some criminals from themselves, then

800
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:26,399
Speaker 1: is a.

801
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 3: Moral moral thing. But when you say there's like stupid

802
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 3: for getting caught, if it's a coin flip when you

803
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 3: say one half of the murders are smarter than the

804
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:34,760
Speaker 3: other half.

805
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 1: Or is it just but is it stupid or is

806
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:38,720
Speaker 1: like the person who caught them just smarter?

807
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:40,919
Speaker 3: But there are dumb crimes. I have a whole book

808
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 3: of them, Yah, dude, absolutely, I have a book. It's

809
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 3: called Weird but True but Crimes Edition. And on the

810
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 3: cover of it was Kataba County, North Carolina, and it

811
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 3: was like the county over next to me, and that

812
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 3: was a cover of it. And it was the stupidest

813
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:55,400
Speaker 3: crime in the book. It is ratt near you, dude.

814
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:57,320
Speaker 3: It was wild. I was like, yep, that's North Carolina.

815
00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:58,359
Speaker 1: That's right.

816
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 3: Nobody but the person who the money would have known

817
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 3: how much was in there and why was it a

818
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:05,840
Speaker 3: lower amount. He told me that he originally planned to

819
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 3: take out three thousand, but he pays his employees in

820
00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 3: twenties because hundreds are annoying to have to have. And

821
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:13,440
Speaker 3: when the lady at the bank said hold On may

822
00:37:13,480 --> 00:37:15,759
Speaker 3: have to get another drawer for more twenties, and so

823
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 3: he said that he would be fine and he'd come

824
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 3: back another day. I feel so relieved. I just found

825
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 3: out that he had lied about the amount. He also

826
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 3: told us one day that he found cameras and he's

827
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:27,879
Speaker 3: going to pull the footage as soon as the tech

828
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:30,800
Speaker 3: guy came in and did it. My reaction, how awesome

829
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 3: did you get the footage yet? Hurry up and do it.

830
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 3: What it's taking so long? His brother's reaction. He apparently

831
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 3: started to look around for cameras and seemed a bit nervous.

832
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 3: So the reactions to both.

833
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 1: I really feel like he could have done all of

834
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 1: this without accusing anyone, you know, instead of being like

835
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 1: my girlfriend you did it, or my brother you did it,

836
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:54,399
Speaker 1: and you know, ruining kind of both relationships, he could

837
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:58,120
Speaker 1: have just been like, someone stole my money. Yeah, ah,

838
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:00,640
Speaker 1: I have I have cameras in those who we can

839
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 1: find out. Like, you don't have to accuse anyone.

840
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 3: I agree, maybe accusing them once like hey did you

841
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:08,439
Speaker 3: take yeah, maybe asking not a few times. It doesn't

842
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 3: even have to necessarily be an accusation. It can just

843
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 3: be like Hey, do you know where did you see.

844
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:14,879
Speaker 1: The money I put? I had it in my car,

845
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,320
Speaker 1: but it's not there anymore. Doesn't even have to be

846
00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 1: an accusation. And then they both say no, yeah.

847
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 3: Yeah.

848
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 1: Literally, he could have framed this so much better. I

849
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 1: could have been like, hey, girlfriend, I have like and

850
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 1: he could still do his little plot. I had like

851
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 1: three thousand dollars that I put in the car. I

852
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:34,160
Speaker 1: don't know where it is. I'm a little worried. Do

853
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 1: you remember seeing it? I think I've misplaced it. Yeah,

854
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:38,800
Speaker 1: And then we go to the brother, Hey, brother, I

855
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: had I think it was Actually he told him her

856
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:43,759
Speaker 1: twenty five hundred, and then tells the brother, eh, three

857
00:38:43,840 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 1: thousand dollars in the car. You know, doesn't have to

858
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: accuse anyone until he has evidence. Yeah, because now your

859
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 1: girlfriend still my breakup with you, buddy.

860
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:54,839
Speaker 3: Yeah accusing. Yeah. It's sad because and also another thing,

861
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 3: I think he knows it was his brother, but he

862
00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 3: wanted to be the girlfriend to fresh up. Yeah, that's

863
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 3: why I was so hard on her. It's sad because

864
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 3: we are the only two people he trusts the most,

865
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 3: and that's the one that should have been watched. He

866
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:08,279
Speaker 3: gives his brother so much money, and that dream car

867
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 3: that he has is because his brother pays for him

868
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 3: to have it. He also pays him to have an apartment.

869
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 3: And he's one hundred percent sure it was him because

870
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 3: everyone knows this. Workers get way more than fifteen hundred dollars,

871
00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 3: so that would never be just a guess that someone

872
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,479
Speaker 3: would take. By the way, and if you had a guest,

873
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 3: you can also watch more stories on your favorite podcast platform.

874
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 3: Just search up Okay Stories on Apple, iHeartRadio, or Spotify. Boom, Dude,

875
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 3: what we got stories there?

876
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 1: Stories?

877
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 3: Yeah? What do you do next, Sophia? Oh, we got

878
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 3: like a third left? Wow? But what would you do next?

879
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:43,600
Speaker 1: I The thing is that you kind of ruined your

880
00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 1: relationship with your girlfriend.

881
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:45,920
Speaker 3: I don't know.

882
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 1: She seems like she's still uncertain about, you know, breaaking

883
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 1: over them. So maybe maybe you've lucked out and you

884
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 1: found this very forgiven girlfriend. But he said, I mean,

885
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:58,240
Speaker 1: op said, oh, we're the two people that he trusts

886
00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:01,439
Speaker 1: most in the world. No, you're not, Like if these

887
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:03,680
Speaker 1: are the two people that you trust most in the world,

888
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 1: and that's how he treats you, Guys, you trust no one.

889
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:10,400
Speaker 3: If you still want to be with them, apologize. He

890
00:40:10,440 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 3: needs to apologize a lot and bring up why that

891
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:17,080
Speaker 3: he went about it that way, and things to do differently,

892
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:18,879
Speaker 3: how to speak to you, and how to fight, because

893
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 3: I feel like another part of the couples is people

894
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,399
Speaker 3: may not know how to fight with one another. Yeah, Ange,

895
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 3: you know, I've had a conversation. I like to have

896
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,479
Speaker 3: my moment to like kind of clear up my mind

897
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 3: to know how to think. Because beforehand, whenever I would

898
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:33,000
Speaker 3: fight with my ex, I'd be like, I just need

899
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 3: a moment process, but then she would badger me with like,

900
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 3: what are you feeling right now? What are you feeling

901
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 3: right now? And I didn't feel comfortable telling her how

902
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 3: I felt because I wanted her to hear what she

903
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:42,400
Speaker 3: wanted to hear and not how I actually felt.

904
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 1: Dude, that's what I Yeah, that's my thing. I'm like,

905
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 1: I need a moment to process things, and then I

906
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 1: write it out. And I'm like, I'm so much better

907
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 1: at writing out my emotions that I am, like, you know,

908
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 1: on the spot.

909
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 3: I ever come out on the spot of how I

910
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 3: actually feel. I feel upset, I feel angry, and I'm

911
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 3: definitely gonna say something. I'm gonna regret. Yeah, you're gonna

912
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 3: push me to point. Oh, I've told her that, and

913
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 3: it seems like you're in the same page of like

914
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 3: you need just a second process second. So I feel

915
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:07,799
Speaker 3: like this couple needs to talk about how they need

916
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 3: to fight with one another. Yeah, so it doesn't seem.

917
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 1: It's very accusatory and it's superccusory. Yeah.

918
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 3: Absolutely, I will update you on what happens. It was brother,

919
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 3: if he does anything, I doubt it. He loves him

920
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 3: way too much. I know that if he found out

921
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:22,839
Speaker 3: it was me, I'd be gone. I don't care, though,

922
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 3: I'm just glad that he knows I can be trusted

923
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 3: and not his brother.

924
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:29,879
Speaker 1: Dude, But he he didn't think that. He didn't think

925
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,239
Speaker 1: that you could be trusted. That's the whole problem. Like,

926
00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: I feel like he is really glossing over that point.

927
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:38,439
Speaker 1: What just happened. He accused you of stealing from him,

928
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: and he truly believed that you were capable of that,

929
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 1: despite you say no, I am not.

930
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, this could be a little long winded rant. Yeah,

931
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 3: but I've realized the situation happened to me personally, I

932
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 3: kind of I took screenshots of what happened, put it

933
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 3: into AI told it to give me a Reddit story,

934
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:57,000
Speaker 3: and I read it as if we read a Reddit

935
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 3: story here. Yeah, but I knew the people personally, and

936
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 3: I knew everyone's dynamics in a way. We may not

937
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 3: understand all the dynamics here, and we're just reading off

938
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:06,880
Speaker 3: the face of it because OPI may be speaking in

939
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:08,759
Speaker 3: a way where we can't trust the boyfriend, and he's

940
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 3: actually a great person and very trustworthy. But I think

941
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 3: you do need to question some of the things of

942
00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:16,959
Speaker 3: your relationship, of seeing if you do want to stay

943
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 3: with them, and if this is just a slip up,

944
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:20,359
Speaker 3: because couples have slip ups and you can come back

945
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 3: from it. The thing is, yes, okay.

946
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 1: I think that they could penially come back from this. Okay,

947
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 1: if he really apologized, apologize, if he came to her

948
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 1: and said, I am so sorry that I didn't trust you.

949
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 1: You said that I should have believed you. That was wrong.

950
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:39,880
Speaker 1: I should have approached this differently. And they had a

951
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 1: whole conversation about God and how to approach arguments. But

952
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 1: here it feels like he was like, well, sorry, I

953
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 1: was wrong about that because it was my brother the

954
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 1: whole time. Yeah, yeah, it's like like if the Scooby

955
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:58,959
Speaker 1: Doo gang like accused a business owner being the bad guy,

956
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 1: and then he was like, I'm not the bad guy,

957
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 1: and they found out he wasn't the bad guy, and

958
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 1: they were like, oh, sorry, I guess we're going at

959
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 1: like there's there's no consequences for him, you know. He's like, oh,

960
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: it's fine, it doesn't actually matter. We just move on

961
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:14,440
Speaker 1: to the next actual bad guy. Yeah, you're actually ruining

962
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: your own business bad guy.

963
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:19,959
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, He's like comments, I'm insanely curious about what

964
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:23,879
Speaker 3: this business is. All employees paid with straight cash. Your

965
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 3: twenty one year old boyfriend can buy cars and pay

966
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,480
Speaker 3: for extra apartments. He's doing like lawn care or like

967
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 3: that kind of thing. That's my assumption. What do you

968
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:34,239
Speaker 3: call that stuff? Lawn care, long care, like landscaping. He's

969
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:37,640
Speaker 3: just landscaping. He's doing landscaping. I suppose that you add

970
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,880
Speaker 3: if your significant other immediately accused you of stealing the money,

971
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:44,120
Speaker 3: he doesn't trust you, Yep, one of the basic requirements

972
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 3: of any healthy relationship. Did he apologize for doubting to you?

973
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:49,560
Speaker 3: At least he says a lot of people are wondering

974
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 3: he's slightly famous. I guess YouTuber.

975
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:59,360
Speaker 1: Oh yikes, No, no YouTubers. Wait, I'm confused.

976
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,680
Speaker 3: Now, dude, that's fifteen cash.

977
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:05,839
Speaker 1: Wait that dude, that's why he's so rich. He's got

978
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 1: that YouTube money's if he's a famous YouTuber. Okay, now

979
00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:12,880
Speaker 1: he's have that mindset. He's like, I'm famous YouTuber. Every

980
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 1: everyone's trying to steal my money. Yeah, everyone's trying to

981
00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 1: use my pay.

982
00:44:17,440 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 3: I have a few people in my mind who I

983
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 3: think this might be one. Why the heck are you

984
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:25,600
Speaker 3: pulling cash and paying your employees. You need to get

985
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 3: them out as contractors and pay them that way because

986
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:30,719
Speaker 3: your taxes that fifteen hundred dollars you're gonna have to

987
00:44:30,719 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 3: pay taxes on buddy.

988
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 1: I mean like, yeah, actually, I really don't understand why

989
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 1: you're using it in cash. Yeah, Like, what the heck?

990
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 3: Like, I don't know, zell them, zell them that and

991
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 3: then you can see a footprint of it. Because if

992
00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 3: you say cash, you say you're paid. My police say,

993
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 3: get it work.

994
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 1: Sound's so suspicious when you're paying your employees in cash, unless.

995
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 3: You're employees or people you're walking up on the street

996
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:49,680
Speaker 3: and do an interviews for like, for one hundred dollars.

997
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:51,879
Speaker 3: Can you do blah blah blah blah blah. That makes sense,

998
00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:55,800
Speaker 3: that makes sense, But this doesn't. Okay, okay, okay, okay.

999
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 3: Small group of people he works for gets paid in cash.

1000
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:00,959
Speaker 3: It's YouTube, so he gives them two or three hundred

1001
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:03,319
Speaker 3: dollars per video twice a week in cash. Because he's

1002
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:05,800
Speaker 3: only twenty one and figuring out things about his business

1003
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 3: after it's getting big. He said, he wants to do

1004
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 3: checks at the start of next year. Okay, at least

1005
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 3: he's looking into that.

1006
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:15,240
Speaker 1: Why you can't just sell it. It's so much easier

1007
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:16,760
Speaker 1: and no one steals your money.

1008
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 3: If you can figure out how to do YouTube videos

1009
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:21,160
Speaker 3: with YouTube, you can figure out how to pay people

1010
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:21,720
Speaker 3: with checks.

1011
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 1: Like she said, he's only twenty one. He just doesn't

1012
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 1: know anybody.

1013
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, that's this is what's getting us on fire,

1014
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 3: because we're YouTubers and we know how this well.

1015
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 1: So I just don't use cash.

1016
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:37,439
Speaker 3: Maybe doing she just doesn't understand what ten thousand dollars

1017
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 3: look like. It's not that big.

1018
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 1: It's not that big I did that that. We're just

1019
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 1: mad because like he just feels like he's an old man.

1020
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:46,319
Speaker 1: He's like I can't put my money in the banks.

1021
00:45:46,560 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 3: They're still getting charge because YouTube's paying you and you're

1022
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:51,840
Speaker 3: getting charged. O. Never mind taxes, dude, he said he

1023
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 3: wants to do checks at the start next year. He

1024
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:55,680
Speaker 3: just never really expected to go anywhere, and he used

1025
00:45:55,719 --> 00:45:57,440
Speaker 3: to pay them a way smaller amount in cash.

1026
00:45:57,480 --> 00:45:59,239
Speaker 1: That still doesn't make sense even if you're paying the

1027
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 1: twenty bucks sell Venomo.

1028
00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:02,879
Speaker 3: I don't know smaller amounts. But once you get into

1029
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:05,399
Speaker 3: like the hundreds, Yeah, then you can use his tax

1030
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 3: ride up. Well, call me a boring middle aged business owner,

1031
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 3: but please get him an appointment with the decent payroll

1032
00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 3: company for all the days. Seriously, he needs to get

1033
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:16,720
Speaker 3: legal on all of this. The government is not stupid

1034
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 3: or as blind as he may think on how the

1035
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:19,680
Speaker 3: money moves around.

1036
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, it feels like he's trying to evade taxes, dude.

1037
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 3: Just checks is worse than just cash. Just checks leaves

1038
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 3: a paper and an electronic show of unpaid taxes that

1039
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:31,480
Speaker 3: cash does not. And yeah, cash is God's gift to

1040
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:32,320
Speaker 3: small businesses.

1041
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 1: Oh wait, that person's pro cash.

1042
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 3: Okay, well I may need to understand how to do it.

1043
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I just I just feel like

1044
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:42,160
Speaker 1: zelling it or you know, some sort of electronic transfer

1045
00:46:42,400 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 1: is safer and easier.

1046
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 3: For contractors because he's the contractors you're working with.

1047
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:49,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, it's Sam. We'ready to get back to these stories.

1048
00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:51,360
Speaker 2: But here's three minutes of bads from our sponsors.

1049
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 3: He says, he's trying to get all that done. He

1050
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 3: got into financial advisor. YouTube used to be a small

1051
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 3: thing he started doing when we first started dating five

1052
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:01,360
Speaker 3: years ago. It wasn't anything he was doing. He started

1053
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 3: and paid friends like twenty to fifty bucks.

1054
00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:05,360
Speaker 1: Isn't that kind of makes sense why you would be

1055
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 1: doing we're doing a cash Yeah, if he's like sixteen

1056
00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 1: or you know, because he started when.

1057
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 3: He was but yeah, yeah, probably sixteen. Yeah. Then last

1058
00:47:12,120 --> 00:47:14,439
Speaker 3: year he decided to really work on it, and now

1059
00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 3: it's doing great and he hasn't out of the playing

1060
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:20,480
Speaker 3: them in cash part. But his advisor is working with him. Okay,

1061
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:23,200
Speaker 3: so he's working on it now. Everyone's like on this part.

1062
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 3: This is so funny, just like how we were. Yeah, reply,

1063
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:27,879
Speaker 3: just heads up that can really come back and bite

1064
00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:30,359
Speaker 3: him in the future. The RS doesn't care if it's

1065
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:33,399
Speaker 3: his business first, if he gets audited, he can get

1066
00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 3: ft hard. I would really stress to get things fixed.

1067
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:39,560
Speaker 3: Not because it's right, but that's really not something you

1068
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 3: want hanging over you. Comment to what she said in

1069
00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:45,480
Speaker 3: the original post wasn't exactly accusatory. He wanted to rule

1070
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:47,799
Speaker 3: her out, which is fair. First up, when that much

1071
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:49,320
Speaker 3: money goes missing from your car.

1072
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 1: No, No, it was accusatory because she said that he

1073
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:56,720
Speaker 1: said that he would probably have to break up with her. Yep,

1074
00:47:56,880 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 1: he literally said we might have to break up over this.

1075
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, bringing it up once. Sorry, non accused doory multiple times.

1076
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:04,960
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have to break up you. I don't think

1077
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,239
Speaker 3: it's gonna work out. Accusatory unless who's doing it for

1078
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:07,640
Speaker 3: a video.

1079
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:12,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like pulling the pretending my girlfriend stole my

1080
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:15,440
Speaker 1: money break and then threatening to break up with her.

1081
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 1: Than that.

1082
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 3: You can do any about anything. Do you get a

1083
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 3: reaction thing?

1084
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:19,479
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1085
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, now still break up? Comment three. So your boyfriend

1086
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 3: didn't see his brother muching lifestyle as a red flag

1087
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,360
Speaker 3: for theft. His brother feels entitled to your boyfriend's money,

1088
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:31,400
Speaker 3: regardless of the consequences. All you may think not to

1089
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:33,560
Speaker 3: ask for an apology from your boyfriend. I think you

1090
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,960
Speaker 3: should definitely demand one from the thieving brother. Comment four. Okay,

1091
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 3: so you don't care that he hasn't apparently apologized for

1092
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:43,200
Speaker 3: accusing you, because that would be the appropriate thing to do. Hope,

1093
00:48:43,239 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 3: he says he has apologized. He also said he's glad

1094
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 3: it was his brother over me, because it would upset

1095
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:50,279
Speaker 3: him way more if it was me.

1096
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: Definitely, Okay, bad apology.

1097
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 3: You.

1098
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:56,319
Speaker 1: I would have broken up with you for sure.

1099
00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:58,400
Speaker 3: Now he's trying to figure out what to do with

1100
00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 3: his brother and the situation. I'm staying away from that.

1101
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:03,239
Speaker 3: I'm an update to this. I'm finding it up.

1102
00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 1: I was such a bad apology. It was terrible. Oh

1103
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Thank god it was my brother. I have

1104
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:11,880
Speaker 1: to go take care of that now. That's what that

1105
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 1: felt like. It wasn't like, hey, let's work on this. Yeah,

1106
00:49:16,239 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 1: he's like a you two. He's like a gaming streamer

1107
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:21,279
Speaker 1: or something, and he's like, I don't know how to

1108
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:22,920
Speaker 1: talk about this. Dang it.

1109
00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:27,839
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. What he makes anywhere from twenty K

1110
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:32,319
Speaker 3: to sixty K a month, depending on the month a month. WHOA. Well,

1111
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:33,719
Speaker 3: that's the end of that story, and we got one

1112
00:49:33,719 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 3: more short one for you. We're gonna read.

1113
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 1: All right mass story. I caught my friend's fiance saying

1114
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:42,799
Speaker 1: awful things about his kid, so I recorded it.

1115
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:44,600
Speaker 3: Stop talking about the kids that way.

1116
00:49:44,800 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 1: I was invited to the bachelorette party for my friend's fiance.

1117
00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:50,800
Speaker 1: It was over the long weekend ientification rental on the beach.

1118
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:55,239
Speaker 1: There was booze, a hot tub, and great food. It

1119
00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:58,960
Speaker 1: was definitely it. By the way, this comes from Rhubarb

1120
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: Spear ten to fifty and if you want to spit

1121
00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 1: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay, storytime

1122
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:05,759
Speaker 1: supper day. So at one point I was on the

1123
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:08,560
Speaker 1: deck looking at the ocean, and the bride was wasted

1124
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 1: in the hot tub with two of her friends. She

1125
00:50:10,560 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 1: said she felt more relaxed than she had in a while.

1126
00:50:13,239 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 1: I assumed she was referring to wedding planning. One of

1127
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:17,920
Speaker 1: her friends asked if she was having trouble with the

1128
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 1: little monster. She said no, that he was manageable for now.

1129
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 1: At that point I realized they were talking about my

1130
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:27,840
Speaker 1: friend's son. Wait, I'm just making sure friends fiance Okay,

1131
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:29,920
Speaker 1: so this is the friend's fiance. Okay. I took out

1132
00:50:29,960 --> 00:50:33,080
Speaker 1: my phone and started recording them. The bride's friends said

1133
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 1: horrible stuff about my friend's son, and the bride responded

1134
00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 1: positively to everything, laughing and agreeing. Then she said that

1135
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 1: it was tea baddie wasn't old enough to send to

1136
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: military school. I stopped recording when their topic changed. I

1137
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:49,239
Speaker 1: don't think they ever realized I was close enough to

1138
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 1: hear them. When we got back, I asked to meet

1139
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 1: with my friend and I played in the recording. He

1140
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,880
Speaker 1: was quiet well, he listened. After the recording was finished,

1141
00:50:56,880 --> 00:50:58,879
Speaker 1: he asked me to send it him, which I did.

1142
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 1: Then he asked me to deleat it, which I said

1143
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 1: I would do, but haven't yet. I feel like an

1144
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:06,439
Speaker 1: ale for interfering. I really do. However, I'm worried about

1145
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 1: my friend's son. Depending on what my friend does, I

1146
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:11,800
Speaker 1: might need to send this recording to the poor boy's family.

1147
00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 1: Who else is the family? What isn't your friend the family?

1148
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:18,919
Speaker 1: I feel like I've overstepped, but what else can I do?

1149
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 1: Was I being an ale? And there are some comments?

1150
00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: And an update?

1151
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:30,239
Speaker 3: He responds, Okay, sorry, yeah, one, I don't know how

1152
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 3: I feel about recording. But how else would they believe?

1153
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:35,160
Speaker 3: They might not have believed?

1154
00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 1: Op? Yeah, I mean I don't think that you interfered

1155
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,440
Speaker 1: in a way that wasn't fair, Like, this is his

1156
00:51:41,600 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 1: kid and he should know that his fiance doesn't hates

1157
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:44,600
Speaker 1: his kid.

1158
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 3: Due the day before my great grandpa married his second wife,

1159
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:52,080
Speaker 3: some kid spuilt something on the carpet. She just went

1160
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:54,759
Speaker 3: off on him the day before they got married. He

1161
00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:55,879
Speaker 3: still went through with it.

1162
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:56,719
Speaker 1: Yikes.

1163
00:51:57,000 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 3: And it's crazy how close to the wedding day that is.

1164
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 3: You know what's cheaper canceling wedding than getting divorced?

1165
00:52:03,640 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, unless you have no money. I don't know, but yeah,

1166
00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 1: don't have to pay for lawyers and all of that stuff.

1167
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:11,240
Speaker 1: And it's just not as there's not as much stuff

1168
00:52:11,320 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 1: to do when you cancel a wedding. I mean, like, yeah,

1169
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:15,640
Speaker 1: you have to go through refunds and stuff, but at

1170
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:18,839
Speaker 1: least you don't have to go through sports true comments.

1171
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:21,960
Speaker 1: Have you never said anything stupid or you didn't mean well,

1172
00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 1: wasted or exaggerated feelings? Is there even a kernel of

1173
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 1: truth to what she was saying about the difficulty of

1174
00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:29,600
Speaker 1: the kid or about his acts? Did you have ulterior

1175
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:32,440
Speaker 1: motives and breaking up the marriage? Why does everyone feel

1176
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 1: the need to be vigilante and snitch these days? Bit

1177
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 1: of hearts common hope. He says, yes, I have. I

1178
00:52:38,800 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 1: just worry about this little boy. It's bad enough that

1179
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,879
Speaker 1: his mom isn't in his life anymore. He deserves love

1180
00:52:43,880 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 1: and support. When I have said stupid things while wasted,

1181
00:52:46,719 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 1: they're usually wound up being consequences for me later, and

1182
00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:53,239
Speaker 1: often I ended up needing to apologize to someone afterwards.

1183
00:52:53,400 --> 00:52:56,040
Speaker 1: Commenter says, is he a little monster? Though? How old

1184
00:52:56,120 --> 00:52:58,160
Speaker 1: is he? Does he have behavior issues or is it

1185
00:52:58,200 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 1: more because from bad parenting? Op He says, he's not

1186
00:53:01,160 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 1: a monster at all. I'm sorry. He's two years old.

1187
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 1: He doesn't have any behaviors atypical for his age group.

1188
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:08,160
Speaker 1: The worst thing he does is that he keeps trying

1189
00:53:08,160 --> 00:53:09,800
Speaker 1: to take his clothes off in public because it's so

1190
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:12,439
Speaker 1: hot this summer. He's two. That's a very regular two

1191
00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 1: year old thing to do. My friend is a great

1192
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 1: dad who loves his son very much. And there is

1193
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:18,719
Speaker 1: an update. I mean like.

1194
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 3: Military school.

1195
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's crazy to be like, I got done this

1196
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:24,640
Speaker 1: kid to military school.

1197
00:53:24,719 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 3: She started normalizing it make a military school for two

1198
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:28,279
Speaker 3: year old? Why not?

1199
00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:32,440
Speaker 1: It's a military school for two year old? A military preschool? Yikes.

1200
00:53:32,520 --> 00:53:34,840
Speaker 1: It always makes me think of Francis from Malcolm in

1201
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 1: the Middle Military School. Yeah, I think your friend deserved

1202
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:43,280
Speaker 1: to know that his fiance hated his two year old son. Yeah,

1203
00:53:43,360 --> 00:53:46,160
Speaker 1: his son deserves a part like his dad, to be

1204
00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:48,240
Speaker 1: with a partner who like actually wants a child.

1205
00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 3: And the dynamics between step parents and.

1206
00:53:51,840 --> 00:53:53,520
Speaker 1: Kids already complicated.

1207
00:53:53,640 --> 00:53:57,319
Speaker 3: It's very complicated. They're already like an uphill battle right now,

1208
00:53:57,600 --> 00:54:00,239
Speaker 3: not worth it. And you've lied to your partners saying

1209
00:54:00,239 --> 00:54:03,279
Speaker 3: everything's gonna be fine. Yeah, it's reality, it's not. And

1210
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:04,719
Speaker 3: you hate their two year old? Yeah?

1211
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 1: Why why did you want to go like that two

1212
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:07,440
Speaker 1: year old's not gonna go away?

1213
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 3: I mean, did you hear where they were for the weekend?

1214
00:54:09,520 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 3: And nice sort of plays hot tub?

1215
00:54:11,400 --> 00:54:14,920
Speaker 1: Who's hot? Friends of who'sy? Friends? We have that?

1216
00:54:15,320 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 3: You do have?

1217
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:16,880
Speaker 1: That? That could just be our house?

1218
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:17,399
Speaker 3: Were they here?

1219
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:20,880
Speaker 1: Update? Yesterday Friday afternoon, I got a text from my

1220
00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:24,359
Speaker 1: friend asking me to block his fiance's number. WHOA. I

1221
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:27,320
Speaker 1: was bitthrowned by the request and asked if everything was okay.

1222
00:54:27,440 --> 00:54:29,319
Speaker 1: He said he couldn't talk right now and asked me

1223
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:31,960
Speaker 1: to block the number. So I blocked the number. I

1224
00:54:32,000 --> 00:54:34,719
Speaker 1: have this weird glitch with my Androatto, where if a

1225
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:37,240
Speaker 1: block number calls me, it shows up in my recent

1226
00:54:37,280 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 1: calls as a missed call on my car's screen, even

1227
00:54:40,080 --> 00:54:42,359
Speaker 1: though on my actual phone it doesn't ring at all.

1228
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:45,160
Speaker 1: I was driving later and saw a ton of miss

1229
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 1: calls from her. There were so many it exceeded what

1230
00:54:47,840 --> 00:54:51,960
Speaker 1: my car will show me. I kept the number blocked. Yeah, okay.

1231
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:55,439
Speaker 1: The pro was like, she's coming for you, She's coumming. Later,

1232
00:54:55,600 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 1: my friend's best friend, who was supposed to be the

1233
00:54:57,600 --> 00:54:59,759
Speaker 1: best man, followed me and asked me if I had

1234
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:03,200
Speaker 1: heard from our friend. I said yes and asked why.

1235
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 1: He sent me a screenshot from the fiance's Facebook talking

1236
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:08,800
Speaker 1: about how people show you their true colors and saying

1237
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 1: she was newly thangal. I tried to call my friend,

1238
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:15,120
Speaker 1: but he didn't answer. Night I finally heard back from him.

1239
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:17,040
Speaker 1: The long and short of it is that he asked

1240
00:55:17,040 --> 00:55:19,279
Speaker 1: her about how she feels about his son. She said

1241
00:55:19,280 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 1: he's adorable and sweet. My friend played her the recording

1242
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 1: and she asked where he got it. He refused to

1243
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:28,600
Speaker 1: tell her, saying it shouldn't matter. She immediately guessed it

1244
00:55:28,640 --> 00:55:31,240
Speaker 1: was me. He refused to confirm that she was angry

1245
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:33,840
Speaker 1: that he wouldn't tell her. I recorded her conversation and

1246
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 1: said she can't trust him anymore and call off the wedding.

1247
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:38,160
Speaker 3: She wait read of it.

1248
00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:40,719
Speaker 1: She called off the wedding. She called it off. She

1249
00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 1: called off the wed.

1250
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:43,160
Speaker 3: She didn't want to be the one that got the

1251
00:55:43,160 --> 00:55:45,280
Speaker 3: wedding called off on. It's like, I'm quid I'm quitting

1252
00:55:45,320 --> 00:55:48,320
Speaker 3: my job. Bright night, bite you're fo I'm quiddi.

1253
00:55:48,480 --> 00:55:51,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. Yikes. Well, you know, good for you, it's

1254
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 1: good for the friend in the long run. Sucks probably

1255
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 1: right now. Not a great update, but since so many

1256
00:55:56,280 --> 00:55:57,960
Speaker 1: of you were invested, I thought you'd want to know.

1257
00:55:58,160 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 3: She woant to be the one to dump him, not

1258
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 3: the dump yike, dude. My mom railed me one time

1259
00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:06,800
Speaker 3: with a comment like that. She was like, I was

1260
00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:09,920
Speaker 3: talking about how one of our friends recently broke up

1261
00:56:09,960 --> 00:56:12,240
Speaker 3: with a girl and the girl still gave them something

1262
00:56:12,280 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 3: at the breakup. Yeah, And I was like, dude, that mom,

1263
00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 3: isn't that crazy light That's never happened me. She me with,

1264
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:19,960
Speaker 3: but you're the one that usually gets breaked up with.

1265
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:22,759
Speaker 3: You haven't broken up with anyone, right? Who have you

1266
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 3: broken up with that. You don't, my mom, that's not

1267
00:56:24,680 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 3: that's not the point. We're talking about this person. We're

1268
00:56:27,200 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 3: not talking about me. Yeah, that's not. No, that's not

1269
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 3: the point here.

1270
00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:33,560
Speaker 1: I called you out, man, she did. But there's a

1271
00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:36,440
Speaker 1: second update. Bridezilla called up wedding to my friend and

1272
00:56:36,560 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 1: is now suing him. This past week has been nuts,

1273
00:56:40,239 --> 00:56:42,760
Speaker 1: what feels like forever ago. I was at my friend's

1274
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:45,960
Speaker 1: fiance's bachelorette party. At the party, she said and reacted

1275
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:49,319
Speaker 1: positively to inappropriate statements about my friend's son. So I

1276
00:56:49,400 --> 00:56:51,919
Speaker 1: recorded her and sent the recording to my friend. When

1277
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:53,960
Speaker 1: my friend played the recording for her, she wanted to

1278
00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:56,279
Speaker 1: know where he got it, but he refused to tell her.

1279
00:56:56,320 --> 00:56:58,839
Speaker 1: He called off the wedding, stating that she couldn't trust him.

1280
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:01,040
Speaker 1: I just found out that she has declared her intention

1281
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:03,880
Speaker 1: to sue my friend for any funds she had already

1282
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 1: spent on the wedding, even though she left him. He

1283
00:57:07,080 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 1: has had a lot of money too. You sorry, you can't, Quinn,

1284
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:12,400
Speaker 1: and also gets severed, you can't. It's not how it works.

1285
00:57:12,440 --> 00:57:14,760
Speaker 1: Probably around as much as she has, so if anything,

1286
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:17,720
Speaker 1: she should be compensating him. He's also telling people that

1287
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 1: she left him because she feared for her safety as

1288
00:57:20,160 --> 00:57:22,600
Speaker 1: he was spying on her and having her followed a

1289
00:57:22,640 --> 00:57:25,240
Speaker 1: complete lie. She has gone from saying that my friend

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Speaker 1: is the love of her life that she can't wait

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Speaker 1: to spend forever with to saying he is manipulative, patrolling,

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Speaker 1: and has ruined her life quite at turn. She probably

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Speaker 1: wants around twenty five K to reimburse her for her dress,

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Speaker 1: the cake deposit, the flores fee, the wedding planner's fee,

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Speaker 1: and her emotional pain and suffering. It's an absolute mess.

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Speaker 1: And the wedding was supposed to be in eight days.

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Speaker 3: Oh wait wait, wait, wait the emotional pain and suffering.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for her canceling. She can't pled it. It was

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Speaker 1: supposed to be eight days. So several people already have

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Speaker 1: non refundable travel arrangements and are completely confused by the way.

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Speaker 1: I'm confused by you guys aren't listening to full episodes

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Speaker 1: of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple podcast,

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Speaker 1: or iHeart Radio and search up. Okay, sorry, time do

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Speaker 1: it too, dude? What man? That is the end? Sorry,

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Speaker 1: that's not the end of that story. We have a

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Speaker 1: little bit left of the story.

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Speaker 3: This is wild. This is so crazy.

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Speaker 1: He's like suing him for the emotional distress of her

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Speaker 1: talking bad about his son and getting caught.

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Speaker 3: How does that even work? I don't understand this one.

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Speaker 3: You better count sue because you're definitely gonna get that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: free money.

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Speaker 1: We should say thank you, thank you. Actually she opened

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Speaker 1: it up. Man, I have her number blocked, but she

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Speaker 1: emailed me saying she would accept monetary contributions towards my

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Speaker 1: friend's debt from me, since this situation is all my

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Speaker 1: fault because she knows I'm the one who recorded her. Girl,

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Speaker 1: how are you not taking any blame you said those.

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Speaker 3: Things, dude, You're just seeing what your marriage could have been. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: she was in it for the money the whole time,

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Speaker 3: the whole time. This is what it looks like.

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Speaker 1: I reported the email a spam and ignored it. My

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Speaker 1: friend already paid for the venue and the cave, so

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Speaker 1: he is considering throwing some sort of impromptu fundraiser for

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Speaker 1: a local charity that day.

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Speaker 3: Lovely, all right, what a guy.

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Speaker 1: Wow, But it's probably too close to the date in

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Speaker 1: question to get the word out. Never too close, let's

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Speaker 1: get the word out. Just starts spamming Facebook being like, hey,

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Speaker 1: we're doing a charity event. Yep, this whole sequence well,

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Speaker 1: everyone who's probably going to the wedding is probably can

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Speaker 1: still come. Maybe not her side, but you can still

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Speaker 1: invite everyone else and be like, hey, no wedding, but uh,

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Speaker 1: we're doing a charity fundraiser coming out come on. This

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Speaker 1: whole sequence of events has me in utter disbelief. And

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Speaker 1: comment one says it doesn't math. Oh, the wedding was

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Speaker 1: supposed to be today. Can't wait for the follow up

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Speaker 1: where she the x crashes and trash is a charity

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Speaker 1: function because it was supposed to be her wedding reception. Ope,

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Speaker 1: he deserves a medal for discovering the mask coming off

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Speaker 1: just in time before everything gets so much harder. I

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Speaker 1: hope her friend finds peace. Opie says she did not.

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Speaker 1: She made some dramatic posts, but that's it. She also

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Speaker 1: stopped threatening to sue. You did make a complaint to

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Speaker 1: the ethics board for the industry my friend works in,

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Speaker 1: though they mostly deal with professional transgressions, not relationship ones,

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Speaker 1: so I don't think that will go anywhere.

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Speaker 3: All right, And there you have it. There we go.

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Speaker 1: You've been released from marrying a crazy person. Whoa wowie wow.

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Speaker 1: That lady is a lot piece of work.

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Speaker 3: Good luck, good buck. Hopefully find another person.

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Speaker 1: Hopefully the charity event went well.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that'd be sick to see. I've never heard of

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Speaker 3: that before a charity. That's a great idea to do

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Speaker 3: this for charity.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah, But folks, that's the end of that

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Speaker 1: story and the end of this episode. So if you

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Speaker 1: love us, make sure to subscribe We love you, and

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Speaker 1: see it tomorrow.