Speaker 1: Hey, ho hig, welcome to Motherfucker's when it's one O.
Speaker 1: How before we started this week's episode, I started it
Speaker 1: where we are welcome to my year. I am saying
Speaker 1: it's my year. I'm ready for to be ready for
Speaker 1: it to be my year. But I want you guys
Speaker 1: to be a part of my year as well as
Speaker 1: you guys know. We are on tour, baby, so I
Speaker 1: want to shout out. In twenty nineteen, we hit Philly,
Speaker 1: d C. And Boston. But this month, motherfucker Janua are
Speaker 1: what I can say, like Janiar Janier anyway, Jair, we're
Speaker 1: gonna be in the Midwest. So January the eighteenth, we
Speaker 1: will be a motherfucking Detroit, the modest city, and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna go to Chicago, which what is it? What
Speaker 1: do they call it? Was called the Bean, but that's
Speaker 1: Boston shot right on January. Call it that. I'm not
Speaker 1: for the shooter Chicago. I am for the lux shops,
Speaker 1: the nice hotels, maybe even a Soho house. Visit bitch
Speaker 1: shy Rack. I can stay, God damn because I'm still
Speaker 1: looking scammers. God damn it. I got the money now,
Speaker 1: but I still don't want to spend full price, um
Speaker 1: so how me. Also, as you guys know, we sold
Speaker 1: out motherfucking Sony Hall in eight days. Like that is
Speaker 1: sucking lit. I'm so proud of the Oar Hive. Yes,
Speaker 1: like yes, you guys and special announcing Braylon already said
Speaker 1: she'll come to every show. She's gonna host it for free,
Speaker 1: and we already started goddamn name. Also, so if you
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Speaker 1: have back to back shows, so that is January. In January,
Speaker 1: we will be live at Sony Hall. We have a
Speaker 1: lot of surprises for you. And Mandy is gonna not Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean I honestly thought, you know, she wasn't gonna
Speaker 1: do it. You guys have seen her, you know, promo
Speaker 1: real and I was like, Mandy, I feel like it's
Speaker 1: time and she was like, I don't do it. You
Speaker 1: never said I was sucking gonna see still barely opening.
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Speaker 1: don't know what you're walking to. This is Horrible Decisions.
Speaker 1: W h O r E. Look she see it. It's
Speaker 1: spelled up there on the screen. I just said Mandy
Speaker 1: was gonna hopefully stuck a dick on stage. I think
Speaker 1: she's not shocked that it's horrid, you know. Anyways, guys,
Speaker 1: welcome to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions in we
Speaker 1: motherfucking made it. We're still here. I don't know how,
Speaker 1: but we are, and I'm excited. God is good all
Speaker 1: the time, even though we don't know which guy we're
Speaker 1: talking about. Saw the guy asked you that Mandy me
Speaker 1: get along in this episode, Lord Father guy, and I
Speaker 1: ask you, Lord Father God, to tell old Bay and
Speaker 1: Beard Bay and they bitches to keep me in prayer
Speaker 1: in mercy, Lord, Father God, because I don't do this.
Speaker 1: So this is what you're doing. And you just added
Speaker 1: like you couldn't do this, and we did it on
Speaker 1: the Patriots couldn't do it. Yeah, she's making fun of
Speaker 1: the bit that that prays because fun. I'm just because
Speaker 1: Lindy Goat cheated on her, but they were separated anyway. Yes,
Speaker 1: any who, y'all know what it is. This is your girl,
Speaker 1: Mandy v a K A full core pumps a K
Speaker 1: a peg this motherfucker stallion ak peg Ryan a K
Speaker 1: that bitch and I am pastor wheezy pastors mrs. I'm
Speaker 1: doing anyway, y'all. We're joining by two lovely guests today,
Speaker 1: one who is a returning guest, which is crazy because
Speaker 1: you'll be come on like, oh, y'all need to have
Speaker 1: on the show. She was on episode six. All right,
Speaker 1: baby girl, I'm gonna get it together. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: go live. I'm trying to be professional and it keeps falling.
Speaker 1: Then we got to make it. I don't know what
Speaker 1: I would like to know. Wait, could she introduce us though?
Speaker 1: Suck it so episode six. You said that you have
Speaker 1: never had an orgasm and you don't masturbate. What how
Speaker 1: did you end up here again? And she's still my friend?
Speaker 1: You're hilarious. I thought we'd have some progression. There was progression.
Speaker 1: I got really on the cusp, like really close, and
Speaker 1: it wasn't finisation. It was from oral and then it
Speaker 1: just I didn't Adam. Maybe I didn't know what to
Speaker 1: do or I didn't know how to release or relax
Speaker 1: or whatever, but it's in your head. Yeah. I was like,
Speaker 1: have you gotten a vibrator yet? I want to? Oh? There,
Speaker 1: it is right there. Bro. I wanted to get her one,
Speaker 1: and she said no, I think you should. What makes
Speaker 1: you not watching me a vibrating toothbrush? It was like,
Speaker 1: ha no. She was like, look, so wait, you got
Speaker 1: right there? Wait? Why not are we talking to? Did?
Speaker 1: We said? Well? I didn't. I said we had here.
Speaker 1: We're gonna get to it in a second. But I
Speaker 1: don't know. One more question, Bro, It's been two years
Speaker 1: and I've really thought about this. Every time I see
Speaker 1: you on my feet, I'm like, we need be someone
Speaker 1: to come literally okay before we get integrated to Why
Speaker 1: not the fucking vibrator because this will make you coming
Speaker 1: in and it's feel like you gotta touch yourself with
Speaker 1: fingers before its boys, I'm in my head. I don't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable doing that. By the way, I love I
Speaker 1: just love your nails. I was just speaking about you
Speaker 1: where they were coming coming about me to my nails,
Speaker 1: and I was like, with y'all don't see my friends
Speaker 1: nails and I literally thought, yeah, but you're like, these
Speaker 1: are these would not be put into assholes because these
Speaker 1: are the stones that I'm scared will end up in
Speaker 1: the nigga ship because it came off as I was.
Speaker 1: I mean, if they have a sparkly ship, spark again
Speaker 1: like bitch daring things giving, I was cooking and a
Speaker 1: whole rhymes don't fell off. I said that she's gonna
Speaker 1: come open the greens and I let them know until
Speaker 1: I found it on the counter and I was like, Okay, bitch,
Speaker 1: ain't go eat a Ryan stone this year. Um well, anyways, yes,
Speaker 1: we are joined by my friend Comedia. Y'all may have
Speaker 1: seen her on motherfucking Wall and out. Y'all may follow her. Hey,
Speaker 1: y'all may know her from she had her own show
Speaker 1: and got damn Zu, I want to keep going with
Speaker 1: your accolades. She sells out her shows. She's on to
Speaker 1: on tour like the Big Doll from Martin Lawrence this year.
Speaker 1: I don't even talk about it, Girlcary girl. But everything
Speaker 1: I've been one has gotten me to this point. I'm ready,
Speaker 1: I'm prepared, and you know, I just hope I kill it.
Speaker 1: So I'm excited because everything you need to think about
Speaker 1: your trend to write when you're like wondering if you're
Speaker 1: going to kill something like bitch, I've been lit this
Speaker 1: whole time. What's going wrong? No, it's just the enemy
Speaker 1: gets in your mind that you're not good enough. They're
Speaker 1: not gonna laugh. You know, that's just negativity. And I'm
Speaker 1: just someone is really in her bag and her makeup. One.
Speaker 1: I just want to let you know this bitch just
Speaker 1: handed us seven million lipsticks. One of them it's called
Speaker 1: WiFi Bitch talks. You're my boy is one Lincoln Bio.
Speaker 1: Should we tell them about the WiFi story? Stupid? No? No,
Speaker 1: we like I love so. First of all, I am
Speaker 1: behind have because side Skittles. This is my assistant, Skittles,
Speaker 1: your stripper name, my manager, and this is my assistant,
Speaker 1: my best friend of seventeen years, friends two or twelve.
Speaker 1: I love it. It's a real friends and Okay, So
Speaker 1: there was a color It's called WiFi w I f I,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, it's WiFi, but I'll be
Speaker 1: cool and call it. It'll be called wife. And she's like,
Speaker 1: when people read it, they're say, it's like it's pronounced.
Speaker 1: She's like, no one's gonna know that. She didn't sell capitalized.
Speaker 1: The problem is the capitalization exactly. Yeah. When I looked
Speaker 1: at it, I was like, it's not gonna work. It's
Speaker 1: not gonna the colors critic, thank you, and all my
Speaker 1: favorite colors it is, I think the other one that
Speaker 1: I really like. I'm I know there's some niggas listening
Speaker 1: to this and you don't want to hear about no listing,
Speaker 1: but which one I just put on? There was little
Speaker 1: freestyle Lincoln Bio that made me feel like a slut
Speaker 1: just the name and color alone. It was very fly
Speaker 1: me out, very fly you gotta come out with it,
Speaker 1: fly me out color out. That gotta be like a
Speaker 1: whole red. Actually that's a great color name too. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I walked into us the four once and this isn't
Speaker 1: true story. Um, I was a little tipsy. It wasn't
Speaker 1: so after a happy hour and I looked at her
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm looking for a red bright red,
Speaker 1: a dark red, like in between, like a whole red.
Speaker 1: And she looked me dead in the face and was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I got it and she took me
Speaker 1: to color pop perfect. I think it was Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you have a hole ass red and is beautiful. It's
Speaker 1: maybe ground. Well, I'm glad you're here. We're gonna start
Speaker 1: off a little icebreakers because I know you you kind
Speaker 1: of don't know what you really want to read. Is
Speaker 1: that god fearing wife, mother of three? Don't scare my
Speaker 1: friend out fear? Well, these are just icebreakers. Okay. So
Speaker 1: the first at ease, especially going into would you rather
Speaker 1: have sex in five minute increments for the rest of
Speaker 1: your life or five hour increments for the rest of
Speaker 1: your five hour? You want to five hour really long,
Speaker 1: like I've been drying out five minutes. I was like,
Speaker 1: maybe you gotta come. I'm sorry, did you just say
Speaker 1: yes to five hours over five? I don't want to
Speaker 1: work for five five minutes? But I wouldn't want that
Speaker 1: in real life. If I had to choose between those two,
Speaker 1: I would choose five hours. If you had to choose,
Speaker 1: let me just say it one more time, if you
Speaker 1: had to choose for the rest of your life, any
Speaker 1: time you chose to engage in sex, it would last
Speaker 1: five minutes or five I have five hours sex, and
Speaker 1: so five minutes they you will fall off before that time.
Speaker 1: I like that, What about five minutes? Five minutes? Now,
Speaker 1: I just like, I'm married. She's married as ready in
Speaker 1: thirty seconds. So the next one is. And this is
Speaker 1: kind of which it's choosing the lesser of both evils,
Speaker 1: because I think both of these suck. But would you
Speaker 1: rather only be able to have sex in showers or
Speaker 1: only be able to have sex in a car? Car? Car? Really,
Speaker 1: you look like a car shower sex car girl? You
Speaker 1: do them titties look like being in the car. See.
Speaker 1: I think shower sex is hard because you can't really
Speaker 1: feel Yeah, I feel like no, yeah, yeah, yeah, no.
Speaker 1: It's crazy because I thought of this, But now that
Speaker 1: y'all are saying it, I guess I would carry I'd
Speaker 1: be like going to get my hair done and I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: shower sex. I ain't never black cracking out the shower black.
Speaker 1: It's hair dye. When I went to do the Rihanna
Speaker 1: Red go a couple, You're everywhere the red everywhere everywhere.
Speaker 1: I want to add a hotel, you know. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's not let me write a note, not my peah. No,
Speaker 1: I was just I was just in Puerto Rico and
Speaker 1: I got real drunk, of course, and so I ordered
Speaker 1: like this. It was a hard shell chocolate over like
Speaker 1: ice cream. Well, bitch, they forgot my spoon and I
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna wait for them. So I'm eating a hard
Speaker 1: shell and ice cream with my with my hands, so
Speaker 1: but I'm wiping it on the sheets I wake up
Speaker 1: in the morning. It kind of looked like a little bad.
Speaker 1: I really want to say. I hope she noticed the chocolate.
Speaker 1: I'm having no anal sex, I promise, Okay. So this
Speaker 1: one I wanted, um just for us to have fun
Speaker 1: with celebrities. So I want to go around the table
Speaker 1: just yeah, because as long as it's we know she
Speaker 1: gonna say the baby goddamn. So this is a fun
Speaker 1: Mary kill. What celebrities would you fuck? Mary and kill?
Speaker 1: And I want to shout out to Mary to medicine
Speaker 1: because I got this game. While they were on the
Speaker 1: little are you gonna give us a list and we
Speaker 1: just have to say you get to three kill Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to give three yeah, Like I wanted all
Speaker 1: of us to say different ones because they know you'll
Speaker 1: kill whoever you want. You'll kill trump. I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna call with someone different, so you give three options, right,
Speaker 1: like we all say, right, okay, fine, okay, well I'm
Speaker 1: gonna make it. Okay, so carry your kills. Can't be
Speaker 1: the baby, damn all gonna because because we want to
Speaker 1: fun game, not like cheating answers. I would not kill
Speaker 1: the baby. I wouldn't Mary, Okay, so look look now
Speaker 1: be getting I love that, don't do the baby. After
Speaker 1: he picked up that girl in the seven Liven, I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, you know, look he walked around with
Speaker 1: big dig energy, like he's this big and he walked
Speaker 1: around like, what's up. I'm not nobody to me. Maybe
Speaker 1: you haven't came because God is saving your fucking first
Speaker 1: orgasm for him. When when okay, I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: ok the celebrities that I think everyone kind of agrees
Speaker 1: or kind of agrees to disagree. Okay, so fun Mary
Speaker 1: kill um Barack Obama, Nick Cannon and fuck that Trey song. Okay, sorry, Michelle,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you want to from Barack Obama. I would
Speaker 1: marry Nick Cannon, and I would kill Tray. Okay. I
Speaker 1: love Trey, that's that's the homie. But Trey is too
Speaker 1: much and it Cannon is like I've never dealt with
Speaker 1: Nick Cannon, him being my boss, but I know girls
Speaker 1: that have dealt with him, and he's very like passionate.
Speaker 1: He takes care of the women. He's very you know,
Speaker 1: and I didn't do it. I forgot that Nick was
Speaker 1: your bass. Yeah, I'm like, oh ship, but yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: what about that until it started? Um, I would definitely
Speaker 1: kill Nick Cannon. No, no shape, just but I've always
Speaker 1: found him to be like a little too cheesy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and like with women too, from what I've heard. Okay,
Speaker 1: but I heard his dick is like to his knee
Speaker 1: cap or something like that. I don't care big dicks
Speaker 1: a cheesy package. No, I'm good. I can come to
Speaker 1: Niga with a big dick. But if you like corny on,
Speaker 1: I don't suck some corny niggas with big old dicks.
Speaker 1: And I'll just be like, all right, don't talk after
Speaker 1: Mary Barack because regal pussy, you know, say, I'm trying
Speaker 1: to get the stamp of approval. Plus I would love
Speaker 1: to play step mom, so like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like I just I know, but like I saw one
Speaker 1: of them smoking weed and I'd be like, listen, this
Speaker 1: is how you gotta get down bitch underground parties and
Speaker 1: then you know, I would love to have a nice
Speaker 1: like an ex wife encounter with Michelle, Like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: would Petty then try songs? Are you allowed to answer
Speaker 1: this because you're married? Who are gonna Mary kill? I mean,
Speaker 1: it's the game. I would kill Trey songs, Okay for sure, Jesus, Um,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't marry Brock and you would. I would suck Nick. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I can pun with you all my name you. Um,
Speaker 1: I would funk all of them in real life. Um,
Speaker 1: that would be fun. I think they all would bring
Speaker 1: something different to the bedroom. Seriously, um rock sexes. I
Speaker 1: be tearing, you know, but I feel like Barrock, you
Speaker 1: know what, because I didn't dealt with niggas who wear
Speaker 1: suits and ship and maybe you don't times coupling. How
Speaker 1: you gonna lie one like he wore suits to work,
Speaker 1: and so he used to go into the bathroom because
Speaker 1: his pants felt really good on his dick, so he
Speaker 1: would get a little print. I would sex him at work,
Speaker 1: so he would like show me his print through his pants.
Speaker 1: So I really like niggas who are so I feel
Speaker 1: like it would be nasty and kinky. So Barrock, Um,
Speaker 1: you know, of course I would marry Barack. Um, I
Speaker 1: would kill honestly, I know he'll boss. But it's like
Speaker 1: like that movie with Christina Mili yawn. And then there's
Speaker 1: disc to Eminem and claiming Eminem is in the KKKA.
Speaker 1: There's just a lot when that's so crazy, just said
Speaker 1: Eminem's name. I just started a list of three white
Speaker 1: people for Mark. It was I just did my first
Speaker 1: sexty encounter. Wow, we may have to how did how
Speaker 1: did that go? Get finished? Okay? And then we'll get
Speaker 1: it okay. And then of course it was, um, oh
Speaker 1: could you read you read? No? No? Because I read
Speaker 1: it back like, who am so here? Did I ever
Speaker 1: send your usaid? Just too? Because so my our mutual friend,
Speaker 1: she used to day a guy who was in jail,
Speaker 1: and she didn't know how to write nasty to that nigga,
Speaker 1: So I used you would do it. I would, but
Speaker 1: I think it was sexing me back and didn't even
Speaker 1: know what it was. He thought it was right, So
Speaker 1: like I would copy and paste if she copy because
Speaker 1: he had a jail Like he had a cell phone
Speaker 1: in jail. Jake, he's talking my humble. I read it,
Speaker 1: thank you. So she would. She would literally copy and paste,
Speaker 1: but he would send back and she'd be like, okay,
Speaker 1: we don't respond back. So I'm literally sitting here sex
Speaker 1: and her nigga. Youah. Now, thank god she didn't go
Speaker 1: too far because he's gonna be like, but you want
Speaker 1: to peg me to fun? Okay, Okay, I knew the limits.
Speaker 1: God damn it. Okay. For the three raps, you guys
Speaker 1: are gonna be so fissed. First one do I well,
Speaker 1: I know post Malone machine gunn kill you Eem he's
Speaker 1: the only white want Mary post Malone kill eminem Mary
Speaker 1: post Malone cool? He has a gut? Isn't he's cool? What? No?
Speaker 1: Do not call him slow? Any marriage is we're not
Speaker 1: thinking physical, We're thinking normal. That's me. You got to
Speaker 1: think physical. I mean, yeah, but I'm keep saying you
Speaker 1: just want to once Mary is like, are you killing em?
Speaker 1: So I would um yes, kill himinem as well. I
Speaker 1: would fuck shoot out a machine gun Kelly, and then
Speaker 1: I would know Oh no, my bad, No, Mary, I'm Mary.
Speaker 1: You can't see that. Have you guys seen a picture
Speaker 1: of post Malone. He's ugly. I'm not. I don't even
Speaker 1: want to Okay, I'll post malone, Mary, machine gun Kelly,
Speaker 1: and I'm only fucking post Malone if you give me
Speaker 1: a check is evident. Why are we trying to kill
Speaker 1: this thing? It's like that a real thing? What because
Speaker 1: like I need to kill post Maloney's ugly as time?
Speaker 1: Are you keep saying for a check man? This game?
Speaker 1: This isn't for a check first ability kill? For my god,
Speaker 1: he's a fat, curly fat shade hair about publicity because
Speaker 1: this is two years ago, we're the same side. I
Speaker 1: was postible two years ago. I was now I want
Speaker 1: to uh diet Hill. He has two tattoos. Will Smith
Speaker 1: quite so bitch. I'm definitely definitarian Will with Jada because
Speaker 1: we're gonna know no, and I've said that that's my
Speaker 1: dream threesome couple. Really, Oh my god, Jada and I
Speaker 1: will because who Yeah, I feel like that's most people. No, No,
Speaker 1: Jada for sure. Jada is like will Will guy, Will,
Speaker 1: That's fine. I told you he ain't got to talk
Speaker 1: out to. And I heard Jason, well that's it. But
Speaker 1: I heard the into like some swinging, nasty Sha Taylor
Speaker 1: and her husband ship would be that would be like
Speaker 1: people right, Sorry, I would never do it. I really
Speaker 1: wanted to worry about be samone. That's why I listened
Speaker 1: to this podcast. And these bitches are horsing with her
Speaker 1: um and wallet. She was directing her swag. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I just love you. I don't really hear many women
Speaker 1: I think that have that much depth to their voice
Speaker 1: and like, are still sexy to us, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And even her features are very you know
Speaker 1: some they're masculine, you know, she's a little androgym. But
Speaker 1: it's weird because it's like I felt that so many
Speaker 1: times too, Like are you dying? Can you not die
Speaker 1: before your martin Lawrence? Her? What's happening? This is sparkling
Speaker 1: water Sparkler. Uh, well, we're gonna go ahead and get
Speaker 1: into our vanilla ship, our vanilla ships segment um, which
Speaker 1: will remain in unlike other segments we've done in the past.
Speaker 1: Um is our sex in the news. And I found
Speaker 1: this article UM that I really liked. UM. And it's
Speaker 1: from the New York Post, and it says that nearly
Speaker 1: half of Americans claim they had the best sex of
Speaker 1: their life in YESO, so that's what we're gonna talk
Speaker 1: about it to be. That's gonna say. So of people
Speaker 1: rate nineteen is their best sex yere um for sex yet.
Speaker 1: The poll of two thousand sexually active Americans also discovered
Speaker 1: nearly half forty seven percent say that their sex was
Speaker 1: better in two thousand nineteen than any other year. It
Speaker 1: was a year for experimenting, as one in six Americans
Speaker 1: tried phone sex for the very first time, and a
Speaker 1: further tried using a sex toy for the first time.
Speaker 1: Um you love to beach Um. They also say that
Speaker 1: results found from having anal sex for the very first time,
Speaker 1: using handcuffs and blindfolds are having a sexy photo shoot.
Speaker 1: Thirty eight percent of those survey became more adventurous with
Speaker 1: sex in twenty nineteen. I am gonna sit here and
Speaker 1: say that that's because so many people listen to horrible decisions.
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna toot my own horn. Not what
Speaker 1: I mean, um so, not what I mean. It says
Speaker 1: that seventy are happy with their sex lives. So I
Speaker 1: wanted to bring this up because I think that nineteen
Speaker 1: was a year where I think I've had the most
Speaker 1: three simes I've ever had, but also because I was
Speaker 1: and I think in the beginning of the year we
Speaker 1: don't anymore. But in the beginning of twenty nineteen, I
Speaker 1: was just surprised at even though we had been sucking
Speaker 1: for so long, how he kept getting better. Yeah you know, girl,
Speaker 1: And yeah I had I had loved that girl I
Speaker 1: was living through and it was I had my first
Speaker 1: an orgasm. We'll talk to We talked about him, but Jesus,
Speaker 1: he gave me. He gave me some of the best
Speaker 1: thick in my life. Also one of my lovers. Um
Speaker 1: we on a trip where we had like three threesomes
Speaker 1: together with like my friends, and it was I don't
Speaker 1: know when you started saying, this is crazy, this is
Speaker 1: I love. You have always dragged me for seeing it. Lovers,
Speaker 1: I always have said, and you were like lovers the niggas.
Speaker 1: I call him my lovers, and I appreciate it. I
Speaker 1: think it's a way better word than my hole. I like,
Speaker 1: I call him my hole too. I'm about to drop
Speaker 1: Mercers says I love all my hopes because I do
Speaker 1: love him, niggas. But but I would say that, like
Speaker 1: I said, I talked about my annal orgasm that I
Speaker 1: had for the very first time this year. Um, the
Speaker 1: threesomes and also just I think being in tune with
Speaker 1: myself and the person that I was having sex with
Speaker 1: literally coming every single fucking time, and we would we
Speaker 1: went three rounds every time. This is the person you
Speaker 1: cut that I cut off, which is now why I'm
Speaker 1: missible because I have a fux in October. Don't do that, bitch.
Speaker 1: I just looking at only thing. You know who it is? Right? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I hate to shut up. He ain't goddamn anyway. I
Speaker 1: mean it's fine. I don't know. I'd like to look
Speaker 1: at him. Do we have? So what about your best
Speaker 1: sex in my life? Okay? So I've been married for
Speaker 1: ten years. So when I got married was nineteen or
Speaker 1: I've been with my husband since I was nineteen, the
Speaker 1: same deck, the same deck, what a fucking So I
Speaker 1: would say that this year was the best sex of
Speaker 1: our lives and I think it's because I'm about to
Speaker 1: turn thirties, so you know how you're supposed to get
Speaker 1: into your prime. You look right now. I don't know
Speaker 1: if you'll can see a Magan looks like. I always
Speaker 1: post her ask because her body is natural. She's had
Speaker 1: that body literally sixth grades, always big hips and booty,
Speaker 1: and I always post her. She's like, put it on
Speaker 1: your close friends. Stop exploiting my body. I'm married, my husband.
Speaker 1: Take your hands. I'm like, damn, what do you look like? Y'all?
Speaker 1: We have a three ways ship? No, okay, afraid of
Speaker 1: threesomes because I don't know what that will unlock for me. Okay,
Speaker 1: do you have any attraction in women at all? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I think that like I think sexually. I
Speaker 1: think sexuality is a spectrum, so you're a spectrum. But
Speaker 1: I am attracted to females in the sense of, like,
Speaker 1: I think they're beautiful in my opinion, Like I know
Speaker 1: a lot of people have them in frivolous ways, and
Speaker 1: I have had frivolous threesomes, but like, what's the what's
Speaker 1: frivolous again? Like just like, oh I met you in
Speaker 1: a bar, But I think that when you have something
Speaker 1: very deep with a partner. I don't think like like
Speaker 1: you said, you don't know it unlocked for you, Like
Speaker 1: I don't think you can have moments like that, Like
Speaker 1: I really don't. There's there's two ways for it, right,
Speaker 1: you could have a frivolous three somewhere it's like no names,
Speaker 1: no fluids exchange, rob Don, you're out right anonymous thing.
Speaker 1: Or when you do have a deeper connection with someone,
Speaker 1: sometimes it is better to like have it feel more
Speaker 1: like a date and feel more like a chemistry connection,
Speaker 1: even if they are going to just leave after mainly
Speaker 1: because you and your husband don't have sex like that,
Speaker 1: or you don't have sex with other people like that,
Speaker 1: So it's like, why are we going to do this
Speaker 1: super raunchy thing together if this ain't really are lane
Speaker 1: And it can be really hard. I've talked to a
Speaker 1: lot of people so I was in a throuble, and
Speaker 1: I've talked about it on the show and have a
Speaker 1: lot of threasons, and I've always have people ask me like,
Speaker 1: how is my first one supposed to go? And it's
Speaker 1: such a hard Yeah, with your partner, it's such a
Speaker 1: hard question because I meet people that literally would rather
Speaker 1: not know anything else about you, just suck you and did.
Speaker 1: And then other people that are like, nah, that feels
Speaker 1: dirty and slimy to me. We're like a friendship. So
Speaker 1: you you've been with your partner for ten years and
Speaker 1: we're gonna get into that for the horrible decision, But
Speaker 1: so how would you gauge is the best sex? I
Speaker 1: think because we we've been through a lot in our
Speaker 1: marriage and there was a I'm sorry there was there
Speaker 1: was a point in time where, um, we weren't in
Speaker 1: a good spot and we weren't having sex and I
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, I'm not giving that nigga nothing.
Speaker 1: I'm not giving him this. You know, he don't deserve it.
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah blah. You know. And so I
Speaker 1: wouldn't have sex. And I'm not I'm not a sexual person.
Speaker 1: I like sex, but for me, it is intimacy, like
Speaker 1: I love passion, and you know what I'm saying, that
Speaker 1: like intimate stuff. And he and you got asking me,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like he's sexual, he's a man,
Speaker 1: And for me, I didn't I thought sex had to
Speaker 1: be romantic every time, and it isn't that way. Especially
Speaker 1: when you're married. It's damn sure, is it that? But
Speaker 1: I wanted to go on a sexual journey this year
Speaker 1: and kind of see where I could go and the
Speaker 1: dream man, so we just started trying. So we're still
Speaker 1: in the beginning phase phases. But I do think that
Speaker 1: it's important to try stuff up until you're not comfortable.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Like trying things could be
Speaker 1: as easy as like saying something new and bid yeah,
Speaker 1: and it can totally revamp your sex life. It's like
Speaker 1: just a word, just saying something that you found a
Speaker 1: good mix, like we found a good because I love
Speaker 1: the romance, and so I would. My new thing was
Speaker 1: I would buy lingerie every week. So I would buy lingerie.
Speaker 1: Do you think, um, once a week? No, I would.
Speaker 1: I would like it to be at least four or
Speaker 1: five times, but in reality it's probably two or three
Speaker 1: or three times a week a lot. You say this
Speaker 1: year it was that way. It hasn't always been that way,
Speaker 1: but this year, so that's amazing. I think that's great.
Speaker 1: What about you? What you have? The nineteen was my
Speaker 1: most sexual year of my life. I have vowed I'm
Speaker 1: going to be cell abate in the next person I
Speaker 1: have sex with will be my boyfriend. Girl me too.
Speaker 1: I just telling I mean, no, let's let's telling me
Speaker 1: about I'm talking about the free sex. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: unless they're gonna be my boyfriend. I think the next
Speaker 1: person I gave my body. For those of you who
Speaker 1: cannot see the YouTube, right now, I am sitting next
Speaker 1: to Megan Mandy sitting in sevisamone and Mandy just said
Speaker 1: for the free sex. And Megan tapped me and said,
Speaker 1: what's what is that? It's like free love? No? I
Speaker 1: mean not, because I mean in the space where I
Speaker 1: am looking for a partner, I'm not gonna cut off
Speaker 1: my hose and my hose look out, So me being
Speaker 1: with my hose, who look at I ain't gonna stop.
Speaker 1: But I don't count them the person. You're not sell
Speaker 1: a bit to anybody but for a boyfriend, because is
Speaker 1: while I'm dating, they ain't gonna know about my home.
Speaker 1: So if a sex worker said I'm celebrate I only
Speaker 1: have sex for work, is that celebrating? What are we
Speaker 1: gonna come up with another? I'm gonna be real, cell
Speaker 1: brusthy Okay, I'm gonna be real, y'all y'all's minds. I
Speaker 1: don't know that was Now you got a really exciting moment.
Speaker 1: We have a new segment that I toyed with the
Speaker 1: name You'll not be in my improv class. A toyed
Speaker 1: with the name on a recent episode hor Derves, and
Speaker 1: we are going to serve you every week. A new
Speaker 1: sex tip could be anal, your mouth, your nose, your ear,
Speaker 1: something really small like kissing something the same bed. Please
Speaker 1: feel free to submit your best sex tips to Horrible
Speaker 1: Decisions at Gmail. We would love to have user submitted
Speaker 1: sex tips see what we think. I'm kind of interested
Speaker 1: in seeing if guests maybe each time we have a guest,
Speaker 1: they can come in and give their best tip they have.
Speaker 1: So I'm interested in knowing. I don't think that, Um,
Speaker 1: you know, just because maybe you haven't had a bunch
Speaker 1: of study experience as us very sexual person. What do
Speaker 1: you do? What do you think is your thing in
Speaker 1: bed that you've noticed men love about you? Noticed that
Speaker 1: that's a tip that you could give. Um, I like,
Speaker 1: I'm a talker, could be in the bedroom. No, I
Speaker 1: don't need to be some on tone, but I'm like,
Speaker 1: it's funny because you it's funny it's funny because you
Speaker 1: and let are like my two goofiest friends, and I'd
Speaker 1: be like, damn, y'all hole, so goofy don't really suck
Speaker 1: without laughing, Like y'all always got motherfucking jokes. Y'all would
Speaker 1: look at the pea hole before you start sucking it like, hey, buddy,
Speaker 1: I'm coming, Like buddy, I'm coming. What is something that
Speaker 1: you say in bed that you think it's super sexy?
Speaker 1: Or I let I say stuff to let dominate me,
Speaker 1: like do what you want to me or take it,
Speaker 1: but you know, like I'll take it. Do you tell
Speaker 1: do you tell people who you're not Like if you're
Speaker 1: just casually having sex, do you tell niggas that the
Speaker 1: seal pussy or this is yours? Yeah? Yeah, even when
Speaker 1: it's not put the giving up ownership during sex, Oh
Speaker 1: my god turns me on me. You know, I've told
Speaker 1: like I was like, use my pussy till you come,
Speaker 1: like do whatever you want to me, And I was like, damn,
Speaker 1: I'm hoping you'll sup my ass. Do what you want.
Speaker 1: You don't at the top, at the top, what you are?
Speaker 1: You know, it's fun once a quarter. Also make sure
Speaker 1: you do it like when you didn't drink coffee. That
Speaker 1: more like you have to be ready for you know,
Speaker 1: like me once and it was an accident. I ain't
Speaker 1: go I was supposed to have sex, but I didn't.
Speaker 1: But I told him. I was like, just so you know,
Speaker 1: there's only one hole available because my wisdom teeth were pooled,
Speaker 1: so head is not really option right now because I'm
Speaker 1: a side squeen it so it's like I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: be able to second. I can lick it like a cone,
Speaker 1: but I can't really stuck it. And then I ate
Speaker 1: um some some some ship that day Mexican and coffee,
Speaker 1: and I shot that that morning. So I was like,
Speaker 1: if I shot that morning, you ain't gonna put you
Speaker 1: a little dick in there and then it it's gonna
Speaker 1: be messy. So I was like, only have one hole
Speaker 1: out of the three available as long as you don't mind.
Speaker 1: Sounds okay. And I don't really be super super sexy
Speaker 1: in the moment, like I'm not like talking about sex
Speaker 1: and stuff. I get weird. But in texting you did fine,
Speaker 1: though I did so good. I don't like sexy sober,
Speaker 1: I don't like dick pigs. But he brought it out
Speaker 1: of me, and I was like, this is the first
Speaker 1: time where I'm like it was literally in the middle
Speaker 1: of the day during lunch, you say, what were you doing? Scene?
Speaker 1: So the first time this is all it started. I
Speaker 1: need to get off live by guys. So the first
Speaker 1: time that you and the sky started seexting. Okay, so
Speaker 1: this time I started, I'm like, I'm a very black
Speaker 1: and white person. I like, but this is what I
Speaker 1: was like. I like, you know, black and white, Like,
Speaker 1: I'm the type of person that's like yes or no.
Speaker 1: Don't tell me maybe because when you say maybe, in
Speaker 1: my mind that's already a yes. So I'd rather you
Speaker 1: say no then say yes later. I'm like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: he I was pissed. Now I'm happy. Don't say maybe
Speaker 1: because in my mind maybe means yes, so yes or no,
Speaker 1: up or down, left or right. So I was texting him.
Speaker 1: He was like, Okay, I got it. I got it.
Speaker 1: He was like in or out. I was like, and
Speaker 1: it wasn't awkward. It didn't like turn me off. It
Speaker 1: wasn't I didn't wasn't sexual. I was like in and
Speaker 1: he was like, okay, hard or soft. I was like
Speaker 1: hard and I was like like he just randomly said,
Speaker 1: let me text somebody. But I'm saying as I was,
Speaker 1: I was expressing to him that I'm a black and
Speaker 1: white person, so he's giving you. So then he was like, okay,
Speaker 1: black and white, upper down, left, right, I get it.
Speaker 1: Be very upfront and forward with you, he was. He
Speaker 1: was like, well, have another question. I was like yeah.
Speaker 1: He was like in or out and that started it.
Speaker 1: And he was like hard or soft. He was like
Speaker 1: front or back, And then I got excited. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my turn, I said. I think. I said, like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, something sexy like top of you know,
Speaker 1: on top or on bottom or outside or inside or
Speaker 1: you know, like this is a fun game. I just
Speaker 1: texted two niggas inter out. Let's see what happened. Already
Speaker 1: I told you no more take out, but it just
Speaker 1: went on. We sexed it for four hours. Did my makeup?
Speaker 1: I went to the club. I was in the club, like,
Speaker 1: did you notice your pussy being white while you were
Speaker 1: sexy in the club? Did you feel the butterfly thing happened?
Speaker 1: Where like it's a robbing that's the Bestially I never
Speaker 1: had never met him, You've never been Yeah, that's the
Speaker 1: best so we sex it for a long time, and
Speaker 1: did you guys ever end up having said? Was it good? Oh?
Speaker 1: As somebody like not prude at all, but like semi conservatives.
Speaker 1: I've tried to find the balance between who I really,
Speaker 1: my goofy childish self, and being like a sexy adult.
Speaker 1: So I'll stay with you. I'll be thirty in April.
Speaker 1: But I think I found that recently. But well, I'm
Speaker 1: interested in you said that you're you agree right about
Speaker 1: like you or semi conservatives. How do you think that
Speaker 1: you were able to navigate a conversation like that with
Speaker 1: someone you've never met. Do you think that's why you
Speaker 1: were able to do it because maybe you've never met him? No,
Speaker 1: I think I don't, Like, I've never sexed it in
Speaker 1: my life into him. If somebody ever did that, I'm like, like,
Speaker 1: what are you talking about? Top Like it turned me
Speaker 1: off even dick pigs, I'm like, I'd rather see titties.
Speaker 1: But with him, I don't know why the connection was
Speaker 1: like that. Maybe because we talked for so long before
Speaker 1: it was like any intimacy, so he had my mind already.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just really liked him, and when
Speaker 1: he did it It wasn't awkward at all, but I
Speaker 1: jumped right into it like it turned me on. It
Speaker 1: wasn't like like you think other people haven't been that
Speaker 1: smooth about it. Maybe we could we come enough. The
Speaker 1: first first face time was for hours. We talked about
Speaker 1: so much intellectual, deep stuff before we even got to
Speaker 1: that sex one, oh Sapio sexual bit. Yeah you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's why I used to tell stories while you were
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, I think you're that she was really hoping,
Speaker 1: you know, if you got my pleaser, you were willing
Speaker 1: to go that. I mean now that you just said
Speaker 1: of your when your order for us was do what
Speaker 1: you want with me, and that nigga said tell me
Speaker 1: a story. Bit you think did I talk about that?
Speaker 1: If you guys want to listen to what we're talking about,
Speaker 1: go back two episodes. I can't believe talked about that.
Speaker 1: He's like, did what I'm like once upon a time,
Speaker 1: I literally like driving a house, Like, what's the story
Speaker 1: going to be today? I'm all out of stories? Like
Speaker 1: he just want me to tell stories? Drinks today? Oh
Speaker 1: my god, dude, after you left, that's what? Okay? This
Speaker 1: was so I met someone that liked that same ship.
Speaker 1: What did I call it? Old guy about other people
Speaker 1: having sex with me? Yes? Weird? Like who was the
Speaker 1: old Hamptons guy that I sucked the one? What do
Speaker 1: I call him? No? Just I think he liked to
Speaker 1: fantasize about a girl like getting He would probably want
Speaker 1: to see me. It's a cold thing. Yeah, like a
Speaker 1: bron white dude, tasty to Hampton's. We have a fun
Speaker 1: time whatever. While he was I called him sick nipple fuck.
Speaker 1: That's right, that was his name, sick nipple fuck. So
Speaker 1: to make this very quick, basically he only could come
Speaker 1: with his nipples being tied, but so much arousal from
Speaker 1: the nipples that when I turned around and get fucked
Speaker 1: from the back, He's like, that doesn't work for me,
Speaker 1: and my nipples have to be He's like, no, he
Speaker 1: didn't say my nipples have He couldn't. He just said,
Speaker 1: oh that I don't like that position because there's no
Speaker 1: and then he took his hands and waved them over
Speaker 1: his chest and put stimulation. I was like, wow, okay,
Speaker 1: Literally it was like I had to turn. It was
Speaker 1: like if I took my hands off the knob, it
Speaker 1: would come like come apart. That's how much he needed
Speaker 1: his nipples touch. Long story short, I wanted him to
Speaker 1: come and I was like, tell me what you want.
Speaker 1: He's like, tell me the last guy you fucked. And
Speaker 1: I was like, Yo, what is So? It's weird because
Speaker 1: the guys, so, the guys that that I talked to,
Speaker 1: all my hose, all my holes are very the same
Speaker 1: in that matter where they're like, I want to see
Speaker 1: you suck dick or I want to see you get
Speaker 1: so they want me to send them videos of me
Speaker 1: fucking someone else all the time, or they're like, are
Speaker 1: you fucking anyone coming up? Like let me watch. They're
Speaker 1: really all of my homes, they really like what it's
Speaker 1: really the stuff in to an increased here on only fans.
Speaker 1: You need to make a close friends tab for these niggas.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you charge them for it. Dog Like I
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna I was gonna say, someone's name, is it Benny? No,
Speaker 1: it's actually not Benny. A few of my gay friends, right,
Speaker 1: they'll meet niggas on Grinder, they'll add them to their
Speaker 1: close friends thing and post like their dicks or like
Speaker 1: sexual ship on there. It's you need my friends in
Speaker 1: the ind well, my friends on the industry have have
Speaker 1: fences so their faith Instagrams and they're literally just people
Speaker 1: that they know to follow, but they don't put their
Speaker 1: face on there, and that's what they do. They post
Speaker 1: like next yes, and it's people like in the industry.
Speaker 1: I'll tell you who and he live in Atlanta, so
Speaker 1: he was I'll show you anyway, do I know when? Yes,
Speaker 1: we're gonna get into this week's horrible decision And it
Speaker 1: wouldn't be right unless it was you're my boyfriend. The
Speaker 1: we made the horrible decision this because you are listening
Speaker 1: to for women who are in different spaces in their
Speaker 1: love lives. And so with what I've seen you do
Speaker 1: over the gotten him last ten years, just you're really
Speaker 1: big with manifesting everything that you've gotten. Um. I think
Speaker 1: even with with horrible decisions, where we where we are now,
Speaker 1: we did we had no idea where this would take us.
Speaker 1: But with you from the very first day I met you,
Speaker 1: everything from a beauty line and being in beauty, from
Speaker 1: your music to you before you get to me. I'm
Speaker 1: so proud of y'all and I really respect what you
Speaker 1: do as women. Seriously, I would never be on this
Speaker 1: with the banana in my mouth. That's not me. But
Speaker 1: because it's you and y'all do that and living your truth.
Speaker 1: I respect that because there's so many people that are
Speaker 1: just not who they are. You're aren't hurting anybody, You're
Speaker 1: not bashing anyone. You're being yourself and being sexually open
Speaker 1: and honest. And I think that it's perfectly fine to
Speaker 1: do in life as long as you're not hurting yourself
Speaker 1: for anyone. I'm not really respect that, thank you. I
Speaker 1: think rent open sexually and I love it that I
Speaker 1: could never never, but I love that I could never do.
Speaker 1: You know. I think it's dope that you're honest and
Speaker 1: you know who you are and you're like, this is me,
Speaker 1: take it or leave it. I love that. But I
Speaker 1: think that you're pretty much that way, just and you.
Speaker 1: And that's so when we were when me and Megan
Speaker 1: were talking outside and when I was thinking of what
Speaker 1: we talk would talk about this episode, Um, it did
Speaker 1: have a lot to do. We went out to dinner
Speaker 1: last night and so we were with Jonathanson Maul. We
Speaker 1: went after and we had a great dinner, but we
Speaker 1: were talking a lot about love relationships and a lot
Speaker 1: of us were single at the table or just out
Speaker 1: of relationships. Aside from you and you were giving a
Speaker 1: lot of relationship advice, and even with you and I,
Speaker 1: we've been talking about manifesting not only what we want
Speaker 1: in our career, but what we want from love or
Speaker 1: with a partner. So during this part of the episode, UM,
Speaker 1: I think that this will really sit to maybe every
Speaker 1: re listener because we have someone who's married, we have
Speaker 1: someone who's on the teter being in a relationship but
Speaker 1: not really sure what it is, but wants to be there.
Speaker 1: I didn't say I want to be there. You're kind
Speaker 1: of no, maybe not wanting to be there, but it's happening.
Speaker 1: Ecuse I don't You're you don't want to be in
Speaker 1: a relationship. I'm I'm in a relationship with a boyfriend
Speaker 1: who's not my boyfriend, and I don't want a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's not for me. You don't want monogamy? Um, well,
Speaker 1: we both don't have it. I mean we we sleep
Speaker 1: with people together, we sleep with people separate. But it's
Speaker 1: like it's very obvious that it's trending towards a relationship.
Speaker 1: Brandon twining our lives families were going on our went
Speaker 1: fourth vacation together. Like, so it's a lot and he's amazing,
Speaker 1: but I said on a Patreon episode, like he's becoming
Speaker 1: my best friend and that ship is very scary, And no,
Speaker 1: I don't I don't want a boyfriend. And where you're at,
Speaker 1: is you, like you said year about to be celibate
Speaker 1: because the next person you have sex with I want
Speaker 1: to be and you want to be in a relationship.
Speaker 1: And I'm also, I guess on the same line, is
Speaker 1: you not so much into monogamy, But I am actually
Speaker 1: looking for someone who's my partner, and I'm actually looking
Speaker 1: for someone who could be my partner and best friend. Um,
Speaker 1: And so that's something that I'm manifesting to her, even
Speaker 1: because I finally cut off that tie where I think
Speaker 1: for the last three years, our guests, Wheezy, my friends
Speaker 1: have all said was keeping me from that because he
Speaker 1: was someone I just fell back on because I was
Speaker 1: comfortable with him, um, even though I didn't want to
Speaker 1: be with him, and so cutting him off now and
Speaker 1: not even being able to have casual sex because I
Speaker 1: literally can't get out of my own head about it,
Speaker 1: I know that the next person, hopefully that I have
Speaker 1: sex with, for free. Um, not just playing, but the
Speaker 1: next person that I have sex with, someone that I've
Speaker 1: already made my boyfriend or were so much involved that
Speaker 1: that's where it's going. Um. And it's something that I've
Speaker 1: been very open with even when dating. So I am
Speaker 1: dating now, which is the fucking ghetto, uh, because he's project. Um,
Speaker 1: but I am dating now, and I'm I'm noticing that
Speaker 1: I'm saying it exactly up front, and which is why
Speaker 1: PhD fell off because he was in the space where
Speaker 1: he was telling me, listen, I just got out of
Speaker 1: a seven year relationship. I don't want to rush into
Speaker 1: a relationship and I just didn't even want the idea
Speaker 1: of being hurt six months on the and you tell
Speaker 1: me how long it wasn't good? Um, he's been siting
Speaker 1: for about a year and a half now. Um, but
Speaker 1: he's PhD. PhD they God sent you to picture of
Speaker 1: I know, cut him off already. UM yeah, I'm telling
Speaker 1: you when you have it, like, what's happening to me
Speaker 1: right now is crazy. And I just said I want
Speaker 1: to sucking other nigga just because I I'm like, this
Speaker 1: is what I wanted and it's here, and now I'm scared.
Speaker 1: I'm freaking out, bro, what's scaring you? It's just too perfect,
Speaker 1: We're too compatible. We fucking no, I didn't say that.
Speaker 1: She did that. She does. Vincent cut the fucking camera it.
Speaker 1: I love that. It's crazy because like, I don't want
Speaker 1: this at all. I just want to live my life.
Speaker 1: I want to fear of getting hurt. Yeah, I'm not gonna,
Speaker 1: but I just haven't been with someone that I if
Speaker 1: I could paint a picture of, like aesthetically, what they
Speaker 1: look like, and just like we'd be on the same energy,
Speaker 1: like that ship is wild ship and I and I
Speaker 1: just that's why I said the best friend thing is
Speaker 1: freaking me out. We talked ship together, like I can't
Speaker 1: handle goddamnita. It's funny because what y'all are saying is
Speaker 1: something that I'm actually going to bring up in therapy.
Speaker 1: I realized now with dating, that's my fear of dating
Speaker 1: and hopping into our relationship is that when you're seeing
Speaker 1: go in you're dating, you're vulnerable to pain. And so
Speaker 1: I've talked about on this relationship how I have dealt
Speaker 1: with married men are taken a manner, men who are
Speaker 1: technically not emotional, emotionally available and to me. And this
Speaker 1: is my fucked up way of thinking. I know that
Speaker 1: I can go in there and there I'm not being
Speaker 1: hurt because I can put up the wall because I
Speaker 1: know exactly what it is. You know what you make
Speaker 1: it up in your mind before you start, you know,
Speaker 1: you know. And so now that I'm in this dating
Speaker 1: space where everything is up in the air, I want
Speaker 1: to know if this person is telling me the truth
Speaker 1: or telling me you know, is he telling me what
Speaker 1: I want to hear just so that he can get
Speaker 1: to the next step before you know? And so And
Speaker 1: of course when I'm dealing with someone who's married or
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to become anything more to them than
Speaker 1: what we are. It's just free flowing. It is what
Speaker 1: it is. You take it or you leave it, and
Speaker 1: it's cool. But in terms of dating and being single,
Speaker 1: now is just like I'm opening myself to you hurting me.
Speaker 1: And I like to be in control of my feelings.
Speaker 1: I hate when someone can my day, my day, And
Speaker 1: when you're dating, you love someone and there's emotions involved.
Speaker 1: That person innately has control of how you moved during
Speaker 1: the day. And right now, with an iron on tour,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't believe in that. So you're married,
Speaker 1: I don't believe in that. I believe that you give
Speaker 1: power to what you want to give power to. Right, So, like,
Speaker 1: if if you hurt me, I allowed that to hurt me,
Speaker 1: like you did things to cause me to feel a
Speaker 1: certain way, but ultimately, like I have control over my
Speaker 1: we do. Because there are certain people that you say
Speaker 1: things to me, But my husband to me, I would
Speaker 1: be like yo, like, because I put him in a
Speaker 1: certain position in my life. Right, But how are you
Speaker 1: supposed to find love if you're not opening yourself to it.
Speaker 1: If you open yourself to love, you open yourself to pain.
Speaker 1: That's the risk of tame. Absolutely, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I don't think that to be in love and not
Speaker 1: being pain I agree with that. I just you told me,
Speaker 1: she said, I said, I can't wait to find my husband.
Speaker 1: She said, when you find your husband, that is going
Speaker 1: to be the person that hurts you most. And it's
Speaker 1: because you put him on that pedestal and love him
Speaker 1: so much that you give him access to you that
Speaker 1: nobody else has. No one else in the world has
Speaker 1: that us. And so I think whether it's intentional or
Speaker 1: it could still be a health I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I fear that like how and you you know me
Speaker 1: and Jordan's and that nigga, I feel like after that,
Speaker 1: I know I haven't been I know, and that was
Speaker 1: someone who like over years and even his family girl
Speaker 1: disgusting and we literally just saw each other when I
Speaker 1: was and I was just crazy. I could see him
Speaker 1: walking down the street. I probably wouldn't remember what he
Speaker 1: looks like. I got you gotta show me a picture.
Speaker 1: But even with that, like the control like to where
Speaker 1: we would be yelling and arguing, and then I would
Speaker 1: feel guilty for wanting to steal talk to him again,
Speaker 1: and like the emotions that I felt with that nigga,
Speaker 1: I don't see. This is why we can never pass judgment.
Speaker 1: I have to. I keep this thing is really on
Speaker 1: my mind about that wild ass video like video with
Speaker 1: the Jerry Smith thing. I just keep thinking about it
Speaker 1: because there's like a lot of judgment to unpack there.
Speaker 1: Yes it was crazy, but you were saying, like I
Speaker 1: feel guilty for talking to him. Someone treated you away,
Speaker 1: you keep talking to them. We could all sit on
Speaker 1: this podcast and say I would never let that happen.
Speaker 1: But when you just really don't know no one is
Speaker 1: when you would never open your heart to somebody like
Speaker 1: niggas make you act nuts. You So you think her
Speaker 1: praying like that was like wow, social media? Absolutely, I
Speaker 1: thought that. I think putting it on social media was wild.
Speaker 1: But I don't think what she did. I thought what
Speaker 1: she did was something that was courageous in a sense
Speaker 1: of social media people be putting some bullshit out about
Speaker 1: about their relationships. Absolutely, we're talking bull this, nigga. Look
Speaker 1: a look at showing te messages showing you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, screens. Why is it bad to do the
Speaker 1: right thing in the opposite of that? Why? Why was
Speaker 1: the right thing praying on Instagram? Though? But that's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying that I don't think it should have been
Speaker 1: on social media. So I've had two feelings about this.
Speaker 1: If you publicly cheat on me, you opened the gates
Speaker 1: for me to publicly address it. That's why I don't
Speaker 1: like that people are shooting on her for saying like
Speaker 1: she shouldn't have did it. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: I'm also that person because I'm like, that's fucking nuts.
Speaker 1: Ten minutes of crying on Instagram because that to me
Speaker 1: was too much. Now I think there's like just honestly
Speaker 1: taste level, like my taste to cry and scream. And
Speaker 1: then I also felt like it felt like a backwards prayer,
Speaker 1: like you want to heal her heart, but then also
Speaker 1: like have mercy. I don't know what's gonna happen to
Speaker 1: you because what you did to God's daughter, it was
Speaker 1: like if you guys that I don't want to get
Speaker 1: too much into this because we literally spent like ten
Speaker 1: or fifteen minutes talking about it on our on our patriarch.
Speaker 1: So this week, UM, but I do want to ask
Speaker 1: you guys, um in the realm of dating, so so
Speaker 1: be small. I'm gonna ask you, um, what should we
Speaker 1: as women do to manifest what we want out of
Speaker 1: a man? And I do want to switch it to
Speaker 1: you because now that you have a husband, was that manifested?
Speaker 1: So I want to ask you what you're doing. I
Speaker 1: will say what I'm trying to do. I'm just now
Speaker 1: starting this journey. UM. Two thousand nineteen, I felt like, Um,
Speaker 1: I kept meeting guys who were bachelor's and but last
Speaker 1: year I was almost sexual I ever been. I was
Speaker 1: open he's a bachelor. He doesn't want to be committed.
Speaker 1: But you're acting like a bachelor, but you're attracting bachelor's
Speaker 1: like you wanna you want a husband, act like a wife.
Speaker 1: You can't be out here dating and fucking and you're
Speaker 1: acting like a bachelor attracting I feel no, I agree, No, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: The way you act, how how am I saying I
Speaker 1: would meet a guy? He dating so many girls, like
Speaker 1: you're dating so many guys. What's the problem. You're attracting
Speaker 1: people that just be Are you not supposed to so? Like,
Speaker 1: let's say, no, I don't know about what you mean
Speaker 1: about acting, but should I not be casually dating and
Speaker 1: enjoying my life until I meet somebody? No, that's not
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I was really acting like a bachelor way,
Speaker 1: not seriously dating, having sex with whoever I wanted to
Speaker 1: have sex with, just kicking it. But and that's not
Speaker 1: what I want to tell me that this is one thing.
Speaker 1: This is what I'm interested in knowing, and I actually
Speaker 1: I'm curious and picking your brain about that. I have
Speaker 1: a friend of mine married for a long time, and
Speaker 1: whenever I get with her, she gets fucking wild. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, she's not even like this right. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's because she didn't get that out. If you
Speaker 1: don't ee for me, I got it out, you have
Speaker 1: to like. But just because you're doing those things, I
Speaker 1: don't think that doesn't mean they don't they're not putting
Speaker 1: you in the way of love. I think that you
Speaker 1: could find love and not be ready for it if
Speaker 1: you didn't have ship like that happens to you, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. But I feel like what I'm
Speaker 1: trying now is to change my mindset to I'm not
Speaker 1: just kicking it because that's not what I want. I
Speaker 1: don't want to just kick it. So now my mindset is, Okay,
Speaker 1: you want a boyfriend, you want a husband, take a
Speaker 1: step back and really date, trying to get to know people,
Speaker 1: trying to see who you're dating, not just physical girl.
Speaker 1: He's so I'm a fucking tonight. No, we want a husband.
Speaker 1: Let's slow down. We don't just want to have fun anymore.
Speaker 1: So that's why I'm like, Okay, let me be cell abate,
Speaker 1: be still learned. Do I really like this nigga? Do
Speaker 1: not like his lifestyle? I really like this nigga? Like
Speaker 1: there was a guy. I was like, I like him
Speaker 1: so much. She was like, you don't like him. You
Speaker 1: like the lifestyle, like the you like the idea of him,
Speaker 1: you like that he has money, you like that you
Speaker 1: can party with him. You like that. You don't like him.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, fuck, you're right. So it's like, wait
Speaker 1: and get to know somebody, because I'm now looking for
Speaker 1: a husband. I'm not looking for fun. So if I'm
Speaker 1: not looking for fun, I can't run around in the
Speaker 1: nightlife acting like a bachelor. But that's not what I want,
Speaker 1: is this. I'm really trying to manifest a husband, so
Speaker 1: I think I just want to I want to relationship.
Speaker 1: So I'm a sit steal. Yeah, can I like what
Speaker 1: about you? Did you manifest before you got into your
Speaker 1: marriage or even before you guys were dating? Was that
Speaker 1: something you manifested? I mean, like I said, I met
Speaker 1: my husband, I was nineteen, so um wold story. I
Speaker 1: went to Bible College. I like literally was like such
Speaker 1: a good like you still are so, but I was
Speaker 1: like I went to Bible College. Like I lost my
Speaker 1: Virginia when I was sixteen on my stepmother's couch with
Speaker 1: a drug dealer. Was very awkward. Damn we all had that.
Speaker 1: So I had sex. Um, I had sex to sixteen
Speaker 1: and was sexually active until I went into Bible College
Speaker 1: and I decided I wasn't going to have sex anymore.
Speaker 1: And I said, the next person I had sex with
Speaker 1: is going to be my husband. And the next person
Speaker 1: I had sex with was my husband. So I waited
Speaker 1: until until we got married. No. Um, I didn't mean
Speaker 1: it to be petty. I actually like, No, I definitely
Speaker 1: had sex with my husband. I think it was the
Speaker 1: first night we but but I said, the person that
Speaker 1: I have sex with next is whatever reason, I felt
Speaker 1: comfortable in that moment having sex with him, and we've
Speaker 1: been married for ten years. I love that you actually
Speaker 1: brought that up, because that was one of my questions. UM.
Speaker 1: I put, does sex complicate dating? Um? Should you have
Speaker 1: sex with someone to gauge the compatibility first or hold off?
Speaker 1: And we were talking about that. I was like, well,
Speaker 1: what have you married? Someone? In the dick is actually
Speaker 1: what did we break up? And I'm like you always
Speaker 1: said over the years, which is why I was really
Speaker 1: surprised when you were said that next person I thought
Speaker 1: has to be my boyfriend because you've always said I
Speaker 1: don't want to waste time. But in this case, like
Speaker 1: to me, I believe in that manifesting. But I am
Speaker 1: still big on this person still meeting my sexual qualification.
Speaker 1: Feel like that can be learned. I think sex. I
Speaker 1: think you're sex. It's the journey and you have to
Speaker 1: you have to figure out what you both like. Like
Speaker 1: me and my husband, I met him at nineteen. I
Speaker 1: didn't know what the hell I was doing at nineteen.
Speaker 1: Do you remember the first time you had sex to
Speaker 1: you had no fucking clue what you were doing. I
Speaker 1: just want to say that I know right now. So
Speaker 1: this is how late my life's been. I've started talking
Speaker 1: to a nigga that I sucked a decade ago, and
Speaker 1: so we're talking about our sex life a decade ago,
Speaker 1: and he's like, you, you were such a free like
Speaker 1: and we're talking like we just had sex yesterday and
Speaker 1: it literally has been about ten years. And I'm just like, Nick,
Speaker 1: do you know what? I'm like? What I'm damn? Yeah.
Speaker 1: But also it's funny because I used to refer to
Speaker 1: him as the biggest dick in the world, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I wonder if you're still that because I've had a
Speaker 1: lot since you feeling too. They've been making you think
Speaker 1: have you ever like fucked somebody when you're in it
Speaker 1: and it's amazing? And then you them again You're like,
Speaker 1: this is I was doing? This is not how I
Speaker 1: remember it. So the last question that I wanted to
Speaker 1: have and I want everyone to to kind of maybe
Speaker 1: give um one to two things that they thought was
Speaker 1: wrong in manifesting love or a relationship or what you
Speaker 1: want out of a partner. Um in this realm of
Speaker 1: dating outside of being a bachelor, what are we doing wrong?
Speaker 1: I feel their way to look at yourself and see, damn,
Speaker 1: where where am I sucking up? That I haven't landed?
Speaker 1: Who I'm looking for? Things or what I want? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I have two things. One I'm looking sit still, focus
Speaker 1: on you. And the second thing, which kind of coincides
Speaker 1: with that, get yourself together. You have all these requirements.
Speaker 1: You want this, you want this, you want this, have
Speaker 1: the ship, and you want you not even providing I
Speaker 1: mean a man that's mentally stable, that you're not mentally
Speaker 1: to therapy. We were talking about my best friend. We
Speaker 1: have these talks all the time. We are just traumatize
Speaker 1: as people hurt people hurting people I have so much
Speaker 1: stuff under the rug. I haven't dealt with my mom
Speaker 1: to my stepmom to i'mbout to be thirty. Fix that
Speaker 1: first before you even try to come with the man.
Speaker 1: And now you're going off on hand for some of
Speaker 1: your stepmom Dan when he was eight eight, you still
Speaker 1: got to deal with family stuff where you even try
Speaker 1: to be equally yoked with me. People really project their
Speaker 1: PTSD into relationships and it's scary. I mean, I've been
Speaker 1: that person before, you know what I mean. And I've
Speaker 1: been to a lot of therapy and I've definitely watched
Speaker 1: myself do it. I've seen a nigga walk outside and
Speaker 1: I'd be like, so you like because the last nigga right,
Speaker 1: And it's like, you do have to heal? How to heal?
Speaker 1: I think the biggest thing, too, is making sure that
Speaker 1: there's some space in between. Like I'm a serial data right,
Speaker 1: and I do it in a very social way. I
Speaker 1: love the apps, I love stuff like that. But if
Speaker 1: I meet someone that is great, maybe they're not super amazing,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, yes, this is it. I
Speaker 1: can work with it. Yeah he's a little cheesy, but
Speaker 1: like no, we is good, Like no like, definitely let
Speaker 1: that time in space. He'll also know and understand that
Speaker 1: not every person you fuck. Don't put too much pressure
Speaker 1: on yourself has to be the last one. But like,
Speaker 1: don't it doesn't have to be the last one. There
Speaker 1: can be people placed in your lives for a season
Speaker 1: and that's okay. It is okay to just enjoy an
Speaker 1: experience with someone and it can end. I think there's
Speaker 1: way too much pressure, and it's mainly from other people,
Speaker 1: like either the energy of wishing bad or saying something's
Speaker 1: gonna end, or saying, oh well this is for right now,
Speaker 1: like fuck them, motherfucker's bro. Like, I don't like to
Speaker 1: talk like that about people and their ship, but I
Speaker 1: think also the fear of letting something end is really
Speaker 1: what holds us all back. I think that you have
Speaker 1: to determine what you really want, like honestly, ask yourself
Speaker 1: what I really really how are you really want to
Speaker 1: read right now? Just like I really want to be
Speaker 1: I want to do I really want to have kids?
Speaker 1: Do I would I rather have my career? You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Ask yourself what you really want, and
Speaker 1: don't think that you have to be confined to whatever
Speaker 1: society says you have to be Oh, you have to
Speaker 1: be married by thirty you have to have kids by
Speaker 1: thirty five, or that's not what you want, that's not
Speaker 1: what you have to start chasing something that you weren't
Speaker 1: meant to be, or people's societal it's your friends. People
Speaker 1: feel alone when their friends are together. Like, I mean,
Speaker 1: the reason I just said no, I don't want that
Speaker 1: a boyfriend is because I think there's a lot of
Speaker 1: weight in the term boyfriend. I have someone that is
Speaker 1: becoming my best friend, is my lover. I care about
Speaker 1: a lot I've called a partner, you love whatever, But boyfriend,
Speaker 1: I think takes it to this committal scary ruins it. Boyfriend?
Speaker 1: Why don't like that? You know what I'm saying. Like,
Speaker 1: but if you guys are having an open conversation and
Speaker 1: you set your expectations early, like, what does that look
Speaker 1: like to you? Right? So? Like what is love looks
Speaker 1: differently for all of us, and I think you have
Speaker 1: to have that conversation. Like I'm feeling you. We have
Speaker 1: this energy, we have this vibe, and I feel like
Speaker 1: I want to be committed to you in some way,
Speaker 1: But what does that look like for us? I mean,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, like defining your relationship. I
Speaker 1: think it's like everything. I'm appreciating that the boundaries conversation
Speaker 1: is happening. But I think what's also kind of scary
Speaker 1: about what happened is we both just thought we were
Speaker 1: gonna fuck right. Because when you start something up, when
Speaker 1: it's like a real like I talked about Jeeves, like oh, yes,
Speaker 1: I'm looking for someone too, this is great, we're compatible.
Speaker 1: Let's take things slow. When you just fucking motherfucker and
Speaker 1: then it grows, it's like, yeah, it's funny because that
Speaker 1: was actually going to be my exact thing that I
Speaker 1: felt like I've done wrong, um in terms of what
Speaker 1: I want. Now I'm being a lot more vocal upfront
Speaker 1: with what I want because I feel like why I've
Speaker 1: been in the situation, ships or relationships, whatever you wanna
Speaker 1: call them, that I've been over the over the last
Speaker 1: decade is because I've done just that. I started where
Speaker 1: we just sucked, and then now we're fucking this two
Speaker 1: ye years later, three years later, seven years later, um, An,
Speaker 1: emotions have attached and I never really said what I
Speaker 1: wanted or expected out of you, and now we're just
Speaker 1: going with the flow. And now when there's any conversation
Speaker 1: about well I want to elevate this, Well what the
Speaker 1: fund You've been fine with what we've been doing. Why
Speaker 1: do you want something new now? And it is the
Speaker 1: fact that you do grow, you do change, you do
Speaker 1: want more out of somebody as the time goes on.
Speaker 1: And this isn't necessarily at all, but with Jordan and
Speaker 1: and Q and the other guys that have been in
Speaker 1: my life to where it started off as just sucking
Speaker 1: and I thought I was okay with just sucking, and
Speaker 1: then until I like you and now I'm stuck in
Speaker 1: it probably isn't going to go where I wanted to
Speaker 1: do it because I left it there for so long, right,
Speaker 1: And so to me, now that's where even when I'm
Speaker 1: talking to guys, I said, I won't do that again.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be in a situation ship. I
Speaker 1: don't want to literally be vocal a friend or do
Speaker 1: you get And it's just like and if you don't
Speaker 1: do if you don't want that, people think that's scary,
Speaker 1: Like why would you talk about marriage on the first
Speaker 1: day the second date if you don't ever want to
Speaker 1: get married? What's the point? I do think that the
Speaker 1: first date, like, yes, maybe expectations should be set, But
Speaker 1: I also think that you can block your blessings by
Speaker 1: being like, well, I need but I think that being
Speaker 1: communicative about what you are looking for people there. If
Speaker 1: you can go on a dating app and see that
Speaker 1: people say no hookups, you can be in person and
Speaker 1: say I'm not looking for that either. Yeah, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean A matter of fact, to be honest
Speaker 1: with you. The dude that I'm talking about now, Brooklyn
Speaker 1: Bay old baby whatever, I've changed his name, but with
Speaker 1: each other. So I met him in January and we
Speaker 1: stopped talking. We fucked in the summertime, and it's been
Speaker 1: going strong ever since. He said to me recently. I
Speaker 1: was like, why didn't we like keep it going or whatever?
Speaker 1: And he was like, you were looking for something I
Speaker 1: couldn't give you, I think. And he said that to
Speaker 1: me and I was like, how did you know that?
Speaker 1: He was like, because you told me that. He was
Speaker 1: like on our second day. He was like, you were
Speaker 1: looking for something and I was like, I don't really
Speaker 1: know what was it. I remember, yeah, I remember too.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I said it. So I was
Speaker 1: dating a girl at the time I wanted a partner
Speaker 1: in our throttle and I found one and it didn't
Speaker 1: work out with that, with with um, with them, I mean,
Speaker 1: fine breakup. It wasn't like fuck you nigga today. I
Speaker 1: was just like, okay, this isn't working. But that was
Speaker 1: what happened. And he was like, he was like, I
Speaker 1: couldn't handle that, and he was like, I couldn't be
Speaker 1: what you were looking for. And that's the thing. I
Speaker 1: think we need to be okay with the response that
Speaker 1: we get and think that it's something that a lot
Speaker 1: of women do, but something that I've done is where
Speaker 1: that's why PhD is out the picture. They would tell
Speaker 1: me where they were and I was like acting like
Speaker 1: I was okay with it, hope. And that's where I
Speaker 1: think a lot of us go wrong where they told
Speaker 1: you from. So now I'm telling you from the start.
Speaker 1: And if that's something that you can't give me, well
Speaker 1: then all right, well I'm gonna let you go. You
Speaker 1: go out of your house of sex with whoever you're fucking.
Speaker 1: But that I don't love you, ye like, yeah, and
Speaker 1: I would. I can go to and cancel you and
Speaker 1: that's it, and I'm fine. And there's so many options
Speaker 1: out here. I feel like we do like see someone
Speaker 1: and automatically we're like, oh my god, this is my husband,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is the one for me. I
Speaker 1: have to make it work when in reality, if he's
Speaker 1: not aligning or she's not aligning with really where you're at,
Speaker 1: it's okay to be like, well, let's revisit this maybe
Speaker 1: when we get on the same page and you don't
Speaker 1: lose my number, hit me up looking or just like
Speaker 1: being okay with just walking away. Okay, okay, was walking away.
Speaker 1: And I think that you have to be okay with
Speaker 1: you first, Like you have to truly love you first
Speaker 1: and make you yourself happy, because then your happiness isn't
Speaker 1: dependent on somebody else. Girl. I mean, but it's so
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, there is a lot of weight
Speaker 1: in that because there are happy people that get happy
Speaker 1: with someone else and they lose themselves and they're fucked,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like, I mean, that is
Speaker 1: the hardest part. So, like, I think that a lot
Speaker 1: of people say that you have to be happy with yourself.
Speaker 1: You have to be happy with yourself. I know plenty
Speaker 1: of great women that are confident, happy get in a
Speaker 1: relationship and you can lose yourself. And I think that
Speaker 1: when that happens, you really start to depend on that person.
Speaker 1: You can you intertwine your lives, so it's like now
Speaker 1: you're sharing your happiness, and then when that piece is gone,
Speaker 1: you're fucked. So that's why there's a lot of times
Speaker 1: where like you read something like that, you've got to
Speaker 1: be happy with you. You can't depend on a man. True,
Speaker 1: but I'm being death. I know amazing people that have
Speaker 1: been sucked over by heartbreak and they completely lose themselves.
Speaker 1: And I think there's a lot of maintenance that you
Speaker 1: have to do in the middle of your relationship. It
Speaker 1: has to be a constant. Old time is a serious thing,
Speaker 1: friend time, vacation, things without each other, because if you
Speaker 1: don't learn to have that, you're fun. A matter of fact,
Speaker 1: to be real with you, this New Year's right, so
Speaker 1: he's going to Europe. I'm going to Mexico. First thing
Speaker 1: out of arm I was like, okay, well, let's just
Speaker 1: do Mexico together. And it was like, let me go
Speaker 1: be with my friends. You'd be with your friends, will
Speaker 1: do our little thing. And it was like literally something
Speaker 1: I know we both suggestion because it was like fun.
Speaker 1: This is how we're treating everything, Thanksgiving, Christmas, every thing, Birthday?
Speaker 1: How much can we do? This is when it gets
Speaker 1: too codependent. Yes, And I think that when you're dating
Speaker 1: you should I feel like you should be. There are
Speaker 1: days that you shouldn't be available. He knows. Every Thursday,
Speaker 1: I'm not available. That's the time I go out with
Speaker 1: my girls. Every other Saturday, I'm not available. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Have some type of consistency and schedule
Speaker 1: about your life so that way you do have that
Speaker 1: girl time. You do have that. Every Wednesday is the
Speaker 1: night I read like anyone someone, I don't care if
Speaker 1: you already have friends. That is weird. And I've seen
Speaker 1: relationships like that where they're so codependent on each other
Speaker 1: and your friends like a bitch I talked to you
Speaker 1: in six years where that bro, that's the worst I've
Speaker 1: been there. I would like to apologize to any friend.
Speaker 1: I've done that too, like in the past. I mean
Speaker 1: not recently, but like some years ago. You talk. You know,
Speaker 1: I haven't involved y'all? All? Yeah, and and bring that
Speaker 1: out I do. Before we get out of here, want
Speaker 1: to get to our homemail real quick. Because we don't
Speaker 1: win over in y'all still get our episodes? God damnit. Anyways, ladies,
Speaker 1: how do y'all find these men? So what we're talking about? Dating? Um?
Speaker 1: This listener said, Hi, I'm twenty five and getting back
Speaker 1: into the dating world after being in a two and
Speaker 1: a half year relationship. I've I'm involved with a few
Speaker 1: guys who are really cool and that I've been very
Speaker 1: upfront about, um what I wanted from them, which is sex,
Speaker 1: and things with them have been pretty well. My issue
Speaker 1: with them and other guys is that I'm still not
Speaker 1: finding men who are willing to explore sexually like I am.
Speaker 1: The guys are either acting like they want a relationship,
Speaker 1: which I know they don't want that for me, and
Speaker 1: I already told them I don't want that and it's
Speaker 1: a turn off. And they even act like they're not
Speaker 1: really interested in threesomes, like they're low key possessive. I'm
Speaker 1: ready to level up from vanilla sex. How do you
Speaker 1: find men who are open to trying different things sexually?
Speaker 1: Is the age? Do they just not want that from me?
Speaker 1: Should I try someone of a different race? I'm black,
Speaker 1: by the way, and I don't want to think race
Speaker 1: plays apart. But I know there are stigmas of certain
Speaker 1: on certain things, and I'm really only attracted to black men?
Speaker 1: Is it just my horrible taste in men? Thanks? Please
Speaker 1: help a sexually frustrated woman. I actually started sucking white
Speaker 1: guys for that reason and was that's like kind of
Speaker 1: how my white guy fucking started, because I was like, Okay, well,
Speaker 1: like I know I'm into b DSM and niggas won't
Speaker 1: like it him bondaged on like the whole thing fifty
Speaker 1: shades right, that's a that's a I think household name
Speaker 1: for But I knew I was liking that nasty ship,
Speaker 1: and I was just assuming niggas wouldn't like it. That
Speaker 1: was really it was all assumption, like yeah, because I
Speaker 1: want to speak on the other end of the spectrum.
Speaker 1: I've never been with uh latina, a white Asian. I
Speaker 1: mean they've been mixed sometimes, but always with black and
Speaker 1: they never even Puerto Rican black nicks only speak Spanish. UM,
Speaker 1: so they're not because they're black only. I've only dealt
Speaker 1: with UM with black men, and so I wouldn't say
Speaker 1: that you do have to switch race. I will say
Speaker 1: they are a little bit more guarded and opening up
Speaker 1: about what they do. But not only that, I think
Speaker 1: the number one thing that I hear too is niggas
Speaker 1: be scared to be exposed, and so they have a
Speaker 1: fear that they're going to be judged by even the
Speaker 1: woman that they're talking to. I mean, we're in this
Speaker 1: era of shots and all that ship UM, and so
Speaker 1: I've literally clearly I talked about pegging. I've pegged black men.
Speaker 1: I've had three simple with black men. I've been the
Speaker 1: sex clubs with black men. I've you know, done the
Speaker 1: spitting and mouths, the b DSM, the bondage that I've
Speaker 1: done everything with black men. So I don't want any
Speaker 1: of our listeners UM to feel like they have to
Speaker 1: step out of their race to get away from vanilla sex. UM.
Speaker 1: I will say that you need to be okay with
Speaker 1: maybe just not involving yourself with someone who's not open sexually. UM.
Speaker 1: I brought up a recent UM conversation where I was
Speaker 1: talking to this football player and he knew I pegged
Speaker 1: some niggas and he felt like, oh, well, if they
Speaker 1: let you peg them, then you don't niggas that sucked
Speaker 1: other niggas, which means you're sucking gay man and I
Speaker 1: don't want to suck you because I don't want to
Speaker 1: a woman who was sucking gay men and it was
Speaker 1: just the folk, and I was like, well, I'm fine
Speaker 1: with just us never having sex. You're going into this
Speaker 1: and guess what, you don't know all of the partners
Speaker 1: of the women that you've had sex with. Now. It
Speaker 1: was just like, you have to be okay with just
Speaker 1: not having sex with someone who doesn't match your sexual
Speaker 1: um compatibility. And it's as simple as a question period,
Speaker 1: literally as simple as period, Are you open sexually, sexually
Speaker 1: or or to this or would you ever do this?
Speaker 1: Star there into our relationship? Would you be open to
Speaker 1: trying new things? You know what I'm saying. It's as
Speaker 1: simple as literally asking a question. But if she's dealing
Speaker 1: with so many men now that aren't there, I think
Speaker 1: you have to be okay with just not giving up
Speaker 1: the pussy. I would ask if she said, like, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be real like five, I was peggan because twenty two,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, I think that a younger
Speaker 1: man can be regarded. And also if you don't have
Speaker 1: enough confidence to ask for what you want, that's another
Speaker 1: thing too, Like let's say, like, you know what you want,
Speaker 1: men will receive it that way. But if you're like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe we could. No, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: tell you that. What I'm saying as a woman, you
Speaker 1: need to know what you like, what do you like?
Speaker 1: You need to know what turns you on. You need
Speaker 1: to know the spots to touch, so that way when
Speaker 1: you come you know, when you're about to have sex
Speaker 1: with a man, you know what you like. This is
Speaker 1: what I like. Well, what Whey said makes a lot
Speaker 1: of sense. She's she said she wants to get away
Speaker 1: from vanilla sex, so a lot of these things that
Speaker 1: maybe she's introducing in the text message. She's also not
Speaker 1: confident that she's like she's try with somebody. She just
Speaker 1: wants she and she I really don't know how deep
Speaker 1: you want to explore. But I literally the only thing
Speaker 1: I will say about age is yes, it's true if
Speaker 1: you funk with someone a little older, they've been around
Speaker 1: the block. They're not usually gonna be like Teeter tottering
Speaker 1: on whether they'll do something or not with you, and
Speaker 1: they may have already experienced it. So you might like that.
Speaker 1: I mean, but I can't see how young men. Young
Speaker 1: men are vibrant and want to try to ship. I'm
Speaker 1: saying it's it's a toss up. I just will say
Speaker 1: that I think that with older men, they probably already
Speaker 1: been through and can help you go through the things
Speaker 1: that you want to go through. So I am so
Speaker 1: glad that you guys were able to join us. I
Speaker 1: hope that y'all enjoyed this long episode. There were jokes,
Speaker 1: there was storytelling, and then we got able to open
Speaker 1: up a little bit more about what we're looking for.
Speaker 1: I think the word um of the year should be manifestation.
Speaker 1: You talk about manifesting so much and I just love it.
Speaker 1: Like I said, you manifested everything. What can people expect
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Speaker 1: Decisions by UM. Make it clear that you're not interested
Speaker 1: in jumping straight into a relationship off bat, that it
Speaker 1: is fine to date multiple people at once. I'm I'm
Speaker 1: asking what you think about that, because in dating right now,
Speaker 1: I'm making it very clear what I'm dating for and
Speaker 1: I'm dating with purpose. I'm not dating to fuck, I'm
Speaker 1: not dating for a situation ship. I'm not dating just
Speaker 1: to have someone in my phone, wish me good night
Speaker 1: and good morning. I'm dating with purpose, So this is
Speaker 1: actually something that I would suggest against. So what about you.
Speaker 1: The entirety of me being on the show, I've been
Speaker 1: waiting for this. I've been waiting to talk about this.
Speaker 1: I have goose bumps. Actually, I've been waiting for this
Speaker 1: subject in particular only because I agree with the article
Speaker 1: because I'm on the opposite spectrum of where you are
Speaker 1: socially in regards to dating. Because I was in a
Speaker 1: relationship for four years. It ended a few months ago,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to go back into the rigamaro
Speaker 1: of being in a relationship. But niggas don't like to
Speaker 1: be lonely. So what I do is I will never
Speaker 1: put you in a situation to where I'm hypnotizing you
Speaker 1: into thinking something that is not because I don't like
Speaker 1: using people for personal benefit. So what I say is
Speaker 1: off the bat like. Look, I'm not looking to be serious.
Speaker 1: I'm just looking to have somebody on my side. I'm
Speaker 1: looking to show with somebody. But this isn't that. If
Speaker 1: you're in a position to where you only date niggas
Speaker 1: with the hope that I become your boyfriend, I'm probably
Speaker 1: never gonna become your boyfriend, and we should stop this now.
Speaker 1: This is what I say verbatim. Some women or with it,
Speaker 1: some womenate. Some women say that they're with it and
Speaker 1: they wind up not being with it. But you know
Speaker 1: you only I'm just all about honesty because what a
Speaker 1: lot of niggas do, my friends included, is to let
Speaker 1: the woman think whatever they want to think because they
Speaker 1: don't want to lose the pussy. I just hate that
Speaker 1: there's so much emphasis for men to just like live
Speaker 1: for the pussy. Not lying. That's that's it. That's that's
Speaker 1: that's strong. It's not it's coercion. They're co worse a
Speaker 1: woman think manipulation and lying is two different things because
Speaker 1: manipulation I never lied to you. True. Well, I'm excited
Speaker 1: that you're even kind of opened up about, um, where
Speaker 1: you are dating, because actually the horrible decision for this
Speaker 1: week is we are livingingleh in an cut. Well, it's
Speaker 1: not nineties, I can say what thousands kind of world is.
Speaker 1: Keep your head up. I Hey, so it's crazy because
Speaker 1: you are living single as a black man. I'm living
Speaker 1: single as a black woman. Um, but a lot of
Speaker 1: people put value on whether they're being claimed or not
Speaker 1: by the opposite sex or the same sex, um if
Speaker 1: they're in the alphabet community as they have been labeled recently. UM, So,
Speaker 1: I wanted to start off by saying, you are what
Speaker 1: thirty approaching thirty almost thirty in February? Okay, and I
Speaker 1: will be thirty next year as well, and we are single,
Speaker 1: and I wanted to, um, I guess start the conversation
Speaker 1: off with why are you single? Um? Well I recently. Ever,
Speaker 1: if everybody listening to this that wants to get my
Speaker 1: show a chance, listen to seventeen point one. Uh. As
Speaker 1: I said earlier in the episode, I was in a
Speaker 1: relationship for four years and it ended, and me just
Speaker 1: being honest with myself, I pretty much wasted my excess
Speaker 1: time because she dated me off of potential as opposed
Speaker 1: to who I really am. And as of right now,
Speaker 1: can you go into that more? What do you mean
Speaker 1: she dated you on your potential instead of who you are?
Speaker 1: So and in my experience and with a whole bunch
Speaker 1: of experience with my friends as well, uh, women will
Speaker 1: be in our life and they'll see that I'm charming,
Speaker 1: They'll see them smart to see that the most spoken whatever,
Speaker 1: and that should aligned with things that they see for
Speaker 1: me as opposed to being with me for me, So
Speaker 1: they'll put all this ship on top of on my
Speaker 1: plate and put me in all these hypothetical scenarios or
Speaker 1: what I should be doing as opposed to just appreciating
Speaker 1: me for who I am. So because of that, years
Speaker 1: and years went by and she started to feel disappointment
Speaker 1: because I wasn't matching up to who she thought I
Speaker 1: should be at the time when I'm the opposite spectrum.
Speaker 1: I was just accepting her for who she was as
Speaker 1: a person. So just the psychology of where we both
Speaker 1: were at was just never matching up. So where I'm
Speaker 1: at right now is I'm not willing to go back
Speaker 1: into where I was at because now I'm more free,
Speaker 1: I'm able to do more stuff, I'm able to be
Speaker 1: more creative, I don't feel as bound, I don't feel
Speaker 1: guilty being with my friends, and it's a certain level
Speaker 1: of freedom that I'm enjoying right now that I don't
Speaker 1: want to have stripped away. That just naturally stripped away
Speaker 1: when you're in a relationship