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Speaker 3: On this show, we tend to focus a lot on

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Speaker 4: Brooking Jeffrey in the morning second date Update.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes you can tell right away if you're romantically compatible

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Speaker 1: So attractive Suddenly you're talking Jose's love language.

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Speaker 6: How you doing, Hey, guys, thanks for having me. Man.

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Speaker 1: God, any time we open these Andy talking about food,

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Speaker 6: Well, her name is Carla, Okay, and she's awesome. But

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Speaker 2: Asking someone about their pets is a good move always.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that personally lost me for dating Carla, but I'm

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Speaker 3: Yes, very low negative energy.

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Speaker 2: If you're just typed, ye will get zero.

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Speaker 6: It was great. We hung out way longer than we

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Speaker 6: Okay, thanks, I appreciate you, all, all right?

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Speaker 4: Hold on man brooking Jeffrey in the morning. Second date update.

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Speaker 3: I only do this maybe a couple times a year

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Speaker 1: This guy is so head over heels from her.

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Speaker 3: Seriously, I'm actually compared to all the other calls that

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Speaker 2: Andy, you're not putting an effort on.

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Speaker 3: And while we're all impressed by that stuff, for sure,

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Speaker 6: Yes, that definitely doesn't. I appreciate the kind words, and

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Speaker 6: No clue to Ganci, which is why I reached out

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Speaker 3: I'm going to dial her number right now. Good luck

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Speaker 8: Hello.

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Speaker 3: Hey, is Carla there?

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Speaker 6: Yeah?

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Speaker 8: This is she?

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Speaker 6: Who is this?

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Speaker 3: Hey, Carla?

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Speaker 1: Hi, Carla.

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Speaker 3: Love your name. By the way, my name is Gross.

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Speaker 3: It's jeff and I work on a radio show called

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Speaker 3: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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Speaker 1: Okay, she sounds like a real sailor, but it comes in.

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Speaker 3: It is. And we're not trying to shock you too much.

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Speaker 3: and you've met him before. He's a guy named Andy.

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Speaker 1: Oh whoa interesting that was a negative? Oh yeah, I

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Speaker 8: What is this about? I'm just I don't know what

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Speaker 3: This is a segment we do called second Date Update.

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Speaker 3: It's about your date and Andy according to him, said

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Speaker 8: There there are framed photos of him of Andy.

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Speaker 2: No, bro, I'm talking about my art, like him or

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Speaker 8: There were twenty of them him.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay. Maybe it's that motivational thing people do where

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Speaker 6: Hi, Carla, how are you hi?

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Speaker 8: And this is like embarrassing for you. I don't want

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Speaker 6: Great time and weren't necessarily responding back to me. And

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Speaker 6: Look Okay, I'm sorry, I'm I don't have very good

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Speaker 2: Can we ask, bro, like when you were putting up

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Speaker 6: I don't really. I don't have a lot of people

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Speaker 3: Okay, well, let's not hate on people that like to

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Speaker 2: You should use a woman's touch. Maybe you two can

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Speaker 1: Maybe you have a reasonable amount that he should have, Carla,

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Speaker 8: Like three macs?

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Speaker 6: How the world? I choose just three for my moment.

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Speaker 3: Actually, Andy, I have a good suggestion for you. They

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Speaker 6: Look, I'm definitely open to some options here, but I

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Speaker 1: He's taking this instride. Some people could have gotten really

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Speaker 3: He went through all of this effort just to get

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Speaker 1: I mean that gym picture she did say it was okay.

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Speaker 6: So, I mean, if you give me a second date

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Speaker 3: Now that you know everything, Carlo, you've heard what he

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Speaker 3: We would pay for it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, you guys can actually do that on your next date.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, pick your top one.

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Speaker 1: Hey, yeah, in front of us.

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Speaker 4: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 3: You know, today's second date was a good lesson for me.

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Speaker 3: No, because I have lots of frame photos of myself

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but good for him, he was open minded, he

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Speaker 3: If you email the show, well call that person who's

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Speaker 1: Ah, can't wait to see you again, and I put

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Speaker 3: Still feels good. Well, one of our listeners knows that

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Speaker 4: This, Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date Update.

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Speaker 3: You ever have a date with someone where you plan

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Speaker 3: forget dinner, let's do paintball instead.

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Speaker 1: Wright turn, you get.

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Speaker 3: A little closer and plans change again, and then your

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Speaker 7: Hey, thank you guys so much.

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Speaker 2: You get it.

449
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Speaker 1: There's a couple indecisive people, including myself on this show,

450
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Speaker 1: so understand you.

451
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Speaker 2: Yeah, are you indecisive? Do you keep changing plans? Or

452
00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:47,040
Speaker 2: does this the world keep changing your plans?

453
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Speaker 5: No?

454
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Speaker 7: I mean you know life is life, and you.

455
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Speaker 3: Know life is life, and well, I need to put

456
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Speaker 3: that on a bumper stick by.

457
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Speaker 6: Yeah.

458
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Speaker 3: Okay, but life was coming at you and you have

459
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Speaker 3: to switch things up.

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Speaker 9: Right, Yeah, I mean because after our first date, man,

461
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Speaker 9: she texts me and says she had a great time.

462
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Speaker 7: You want to do it again?

463
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Speaker 6: Right? Wait?

464
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Speaker 2: Wait?

465
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Speaker 1: Who is she? We don't know who she is?

466
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Speaker 9: Okay, her name is Lisa and absolutely gorgeous. She could

467
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Speaker 9: be Zoli's on Donna's older sister.

468
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Speaker 3: Whoa Yeah, wow, I don't know who that is, but

469
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Speaker 3: the name is the blue girl from Avatar.

470
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't really see what she looks like in

471
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Speaker 1: that anything like that then.

472
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Speaker 7: I mean she's not smurf fat, but she's beautiful.

473
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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, that's awesome, that's exciting. Where did you meet her?

474
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Speaker 1: Did you say, I'm sorry, but we we met on

475
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Speaker 1: a dating app? Okay?

476
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Speaker 7: And so yeah, we have the same interest and stuff

477
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Speaker 7: like that.

478
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Speaker 9: I have, like my own company, I have to travel

479
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Speaker 9: a lot, and I know with her with her job,

480
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Speaker 9: she has to travel.

481
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Speaker 1: So okay, that's always nice to find somebody who understands that.

482
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Speaker 9: Yeah, you're both business right right, But I mean, like

483
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Speaker 9: for three weeks, you know, we were just can we

484
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Speaker 9: meet here and she's like, oh no, my schedule, I

485
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Speaker 9: gotta go out of town. Okay, all right, first week

486
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Speaker 9: out of town. Then the following week I had to

487
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Speaker 9: go out of town. So one day I said, well, hey,

488
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Speaker 9: well what about here, let's meet at this place? She said, well,

489
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Speaker 9: you know, my girls were going to brunch a day.

490
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Speaker 9: I said, well, hey, after your brunch, let's just hang

491
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Speaker 9: out and just have some drinks or something more.

492
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Speaker 1: Drinks, because brunch doesn't come without drinks.

493
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Speaker 3: The fact that anybody could walk away from a brunch

494
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Speaker 3: is that's just impressive in itself, right right, And I.

495
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Speaker 9: Mean if we didn't go there, I mean it was

496
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Speaker 9: a nice little place that was next door that we

497
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Speaker 9: could have had our privacy.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well that's nice too, because like you're trying to

499
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Speaker 1: accommodate her busy schedule, and I'm sure she appreciated that.

500
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Speaker 3: Okay, So how did she respond to that idea?

501
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Speaker 9: Well, see, that's what I'm gonna say, man. Her response

502
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 9: was like, never mind, like what wait?

503
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Speaker 1: And this is after you'd already gone on one good date.

504
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Speaker 9: Right, We did on one good date, and I was

505
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Speaker 9: trying to get a half date by.

506
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Speaker 7: Going like after brunch.

507
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Speaker 9: But again I know, three weeks had passed. I know,

508
00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:07,359
Speaker 9: things happen and you get back into your routine. So

509
00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 9: I'm like, yo, at least let me see you or something.

510
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 9: You know, Let's let's just drive by each other and wave.

511
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 7: But oh, like what happened?

512
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Speaker 1: That is weird?

513
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,359
Speaker 2: Or maybe she does know like me and my friends

514
00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 2: get drinks, I don't want to meet up with you.

515
00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, planning stuff back to back can feel so overwhelmed.

516
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally.

517
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Speaker 1: Did she plan anything else with you after that?

518
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Speaker 7: She said never mind?

519
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Speaker 9: And I mean even she could have said, well, could

520
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 9: we meet before the brunch?

521
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Speaker 1: Oh god, that's so early. I let's get a great pair.

522
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Speaker 7: Yeah.

523
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Speaker 3: So before we keep going, let's just rewind back for

524
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Speaker 3: a second here, James, can we know a little bit

525
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,199
Speaker 3: about date number one? Oh that's a good point, Like

526
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Speaker 3: where did you guys go? What was so great about it?

527
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Speaker 3: Just give us a few details so that we know

528
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Speaker 3: what it was like.

529
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Speaker 9: So we went to this Italian restaurant, real nice during

530
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Speaker 9: happy hour and had a great time salad, you know, Pops,

531
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Speaker 9: and we're trying to watch those carbs and stuff, but you're.

532
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:15,959
Speaker 3: Salad, great time. Yeah, as much as much dressing as

533
00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,640
Speaker 3: you want to go exactly exactly.

534
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Speaker 1: I never understand why people who were worried about carbs

535
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Speaker 1: go to an Italian restaurant. That's all right, I mean,

536
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:27,880
Speaker 1: how was the conversation, the connection between you two?

537
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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean it was good. We had great conversation.

538
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:33,400
Speaker 9: We found out we liked certain things, you know, our

539
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:35,879
Speaker 9: spirit animal. I don't want to go into too much detail,

540
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Speaker 9: but okay.

541
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Speaker 7: Hey, I forgot to say, and she we did have

542
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Speaker 7: a kiss.

543
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 5: Oh you did.

544
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 1: Okay, there was a kiss, right, you.

545
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Speaker 7: Know at the end of the day.

546
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Speaker 9: Nothing to elaborate, but just nice kiss is like cool.

547
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Speaker 7: And then I get this text.

548
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Speaker 9: She enjoyed it, she had a great time, and she said,

549
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Speaker 9: let's do this again.

550
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Speaker 1: So there was like no doubt in your mind that

551
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Speaker 1: this was going somewhere exactly.

552
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Speaker 9: I think like the scheduling thing, I understood, but I don't.

553
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Speaker 7: I don't understand like why this was like never mind.

554
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 3: And so there hasn't been There's never been a second

555
00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:10,240
Speaker 3: meet up that's materialized out of all this.

556
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Speaker 1: I would like for it, But NA, why'd we say

557
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 1: there was one and a half then there was only

558
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Speaker 1: one half?

559
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 3: I guess.

560
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: It didn't happen. Yeah, it didn't.

561
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 3: Okay, well it did happen with her and her girlfriends.

562
00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 3: He just wasn't there.

563
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Speaker 2: That doesn't count for you in a guy's world.

564
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Speaker 1: That counts desperate man.

565
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Speaker 3: Well that's where we're at, James, is terrible.

566
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Speaker 2: Four dates last week. They all said no, but in.

567
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Speaker 3: My mind we were parties. So James, we're going to

568
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Speaker 3: reach out to Lisa for you. We'll see if she

569
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Speaker 3: picks up, and then we'll try and get you your

570
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Speaker 3: second date update right after this. Hold on.

571
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Speaker 4: I think brook and Jeffrey in the morning second date updates.

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Speaker 3: If you're just joining us for the second date update,

573
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Speaker 3: our listener, James has spent the last three weeks arranging

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Speaker 3: and rearranging plans, desperately trying to meet up with a

575
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 3: woman named Lisa, who he already went out with once,

576
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 3: and Brooks yawning about.

577
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 1: The recap that my coffee just has it hit.

578
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 3: Jess first date it was it was yes, according to her.

579
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Speaker 1: Out on that stuff, nobody would have known.

580
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,400
Speaker 3: I'm just looking around the room now.

581
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 2: Sixteen other people just yawned into.

582
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Speaker 3: Ye, I'm just saying, according to James and to Lisa

583
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Speaker 3: because she responded afterwards that it was great they had

584
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Speaker 3: a good kiss, a top notch Caesar salad, everything you

585
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:39,160
Speaker 3: could ever want in a romantic first meet up. And now,

586
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Speaker 3: after all that effort, the last thing that Lisa texted

587
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Speaker 3: him was never mind. It's one of the top three

588
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 3: worst things a woman can send to a guy. But James,

589
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 3: we're gonna try and help you get this thing back

590
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 3: on track.

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Speaker 7: All right, it sounds great.

592
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:54,880
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I feel like I only say never mind

593
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: when I'm mad.

594
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Speaker 3: That's a thing.

595
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it feels like a mad response, for sure. Did

596
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Speaker 1: have a period it at the end of never mind,

597
00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: it's like.

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00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 3: End of conversation.

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00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 2: Definitely, was it never mine? All right?

600
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:17,959
Speaker 3: Well, now I don't even know if she'll pick up,

601
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:21,679
Speaker 3: but seriously, let's see if she answers. I'm gonna dial

602
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:24,400
Speaker 3: her number right now. Hopefully we can get some answers

603
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 3: out of her. But here we go. Hello, Hey is

604
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 3: this Lisa. Yeah, we're we're a radio show called Brook

605
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 3: and Jeffrey in the Morning.

606
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Speaker 5: Hey, good morning, him asked, why are you calling me?

607
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:51,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're we're doing this segment it's called second Date Update,

608
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 3: where we try to help out listeners who have gone

609
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 3: out with somebody and they're having trouble arranging that second meetup.

610
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,919
Speaker 3: We try and help facility hate it or figure out

611
00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:03,920
Speaker 3: if there's a reason why the other person doesn't want

612
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 3: to see them again.

613
00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 2: And you can't say never mind. You have to participate.

614
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:10,400
Speaker 6: Okay, And you're calling.

615
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:14,880
Speaker 3: Me why because a little while ago, almost a month ago,

616
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 3: you went out with one of our listeners named it

617
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,400
Speaker 3: long ago, he said, three weeks ago with a guy

618
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 3: named James.

619
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:22,920
Speaker 6: Yeah.

620
00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 5: I'm not in contact with him.

621
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, he understands that we got that vibe.

622
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 1: It sounds like it things shifted, though. Did it shift

623
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 1: for you because at first he thought you were liking him.

624
00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, I guess.

625
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 3: I mean the thing that's confusing to him is that

626
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 3: after that first date, he said to you, guys even

627
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 3: texted each other about having a great time, and you

628
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:46,240
Speaker 3: said you really wanted to meet up again?

629
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Speaker 1: Or were you just pulling like a Lexus wood and

630
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 1: just trying to be nice?

631
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Speaker 6: Yeah?

632
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 5: You know, I mean honestly, I wouldn't have said it

633
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 5: if I didn't mean it, but that was them.

634
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 3: Okay, So something has changed?

635
00:28:59,240 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 1: Yeah what happened?

636
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 8: Well?

637
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 5: Okay, So, like I text him and I did tell

638
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 5: him that I had a wonderful time, and we were

639
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 5: trying to meet up to see each other.

640
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 1: Okay, and so at that point you're excited about him, right.

641
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean absolutely, But it went from let me

642
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:19,760
Speaker 5: buy you dinner, and then it went to let's get drinks,

643
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 5: then let me buy you drinks after brunch with my friends.

644
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:26,960
Speaker 5: And I'm the type of woman where if a guy

645
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 5: says he wants to buy.

646
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 9: Me dinner, then I'm going to hold him to that.

647
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 5: And you know, however, with jeans, our potential meetups became

648
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 5: progressively worse.

649
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 3: So you you felt like as the conversation went on,

650
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 3: he was willing to put less effort into meeting up

651
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 3: with you.

652
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 5: Listen, when a man says that he wants to buy

653
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 5: you dinner, then I expect him to buy me dinner,

654
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 5: not say, okay, let me buy your dinner and dinner.

655
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 5: Next thing is like, okay, you know what, you know what,

656
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 5: let me get you drinks, you know what, you know what,

657
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 5: Let's just meet up after you hang out with your

658
00:29:58,080 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 5: friends and we'll just spend a little ten minutes.

659
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 3: Okay.

660
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 1: So it didn't make you feel special, But did you

661
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 1: have time to get dinner? I thought you didn't have time.

662
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 5: Well, there were times that I didn't have time, and

663
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 5: there were times where he didn't have time. But you

664
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 5: make time, plan it out and you make time. It's

665
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 5: just not a drive by. Oh let me just see

666
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 5: you real quick and keep going like I don't even

667
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 5: know you like that.

668
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Speaker 1: It's so weird because like I think he took it

669
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Speaker 1: as he was putting an extra effort to try.

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Speaker 5: To make it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like shift around you and I know that you know,

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Speaker 3: making time is very important. He's made time to be

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Speaker 3: on the phone with you right now listening on the

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Speaker 3: other line waiting to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: Talk about effort.

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Speaker 5: You didn't tell me that he was going to be on.

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Speaker 6: A phone, Yeah, we did.

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Speaker 3: Just now, I think this is a misunderstanding. Honestly, James

679
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Speaker 3: talked to her.

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Speaker 9: Well, yeah, I mean, Lisa, I'm not treating you as

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Speaker 9: a drive by.

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Speaker 7: I was trying to make time so I.

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Speaker 9: Can at least see you and so we can have conversation.

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Speaker 9: But that was the whole purpose of doing it. You

685
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Speaker 9: can get to know me, James.

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Speaker 5: You text me, let me buy you dinner, and having

687
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Speaker 5: drinks after being with my girls is not buy any dinner.

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Speaker 9: Well, I didn't realize I had to be a bread

689
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Speaker 9: basket in order to hang out with.

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Speaker 1: You that I don't even know what that means either.

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Speaker 7: I don't mean that you go to dinner.

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Speaker 9: They usually give you bread before you have your dinner

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Speaker 9: to feed a meal to her.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know that that's exactly what she's saying there.

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Speaker 7: No, that's exactly what she's saying.

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Speaker 9: Because if I'm giving an effort to meet you and

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Speaker 9: you said you want to get dinner with it's two

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Speaker 9: people at the same time.

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Speaker 5: You know, God, wait, you suggest dinner after the brunch.

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Speaker 5: You could have said we went, you can go to

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Speaker 5: dinner after brunch. I mean, like, not directly after, but

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Speaker 5: later on that same day.

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Speaker 6: Clearly I had time to go to brunch.

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Speaker 5: Then maybe later on that evening I would have had

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Speaker 5: time for dinner. But you didn't think about that?

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Speaker 7: Said maybe no neither neither did you think about that?

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Speaker 7: And I didn't know you love language with food like that?

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Speaker 7: How about that I didn't know you loved the.

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Speaker 5: Time and consideration?

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Speaker 10: Then either you are Yeah, I think I think, honestly

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00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 10: everybody needs to just relax just a little bit, because

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Speaker 10: this just sounds like a big communication misunderstanding.

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Speaker 3: We're forgetting that they had a great first date. They

714
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 3: both admitted it. That's true that the conversation was great

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Speaker 3: and the chemistry was on and the only problem that

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00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 3: has come up is communicating how and when to meet

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Speaker 3: up the second time.

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Speaker 1: So, James, I mean that would be like, do you

719
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Speaker 1: not want to meet her for dinner?

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Speaker 7: Like, isn't dinner at this point?

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Speaker 9: I'd rather just send a door dash and she can

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Speaker 9: have a full course meal.

723
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Speaker 1: I think she just wants the energy, not someone to

724
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Speaker 1: pay for her dinner. She just wants the thoughtfulness, is

725
00:32:58,160 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: what it sounds like.

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Speaker 3: Exactly, Lisa, this was thoughtful. When we first talked to James,

727
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 3: he described you as Zoe Saldana's younger, hotter sister.

728
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 7: No, I actually said the older.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm trying to protect you here, James, So maybe

730
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Speaker 3: he just go with what I said.

731
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Speaker 9: He called me the older?

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Speaker 3: How did the compliment backfire?

733
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Speaker 1: Yeah? I mean, how about this? How about this? Think

734
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Speaker 1: of this, Lisa. He went out of his way to

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Speaker 1: get a radio station to call you because he wanted

736
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Speaker 1: to see you that much. That is effort.

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Speaker 5: It sounds like he had you called me to embarrass me. No, No,

738
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Speaker 5: it doesn't sound he was trying.

739
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Speaker 6: To flatter me.

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Speaker 3: No, it's the opposite. He wants to go out and

741
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Speaker 3: actually spend time at a dinner with you, a dinner

742
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Speaker 3: that we would pay for if you'll agree to meet

743
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Speaker 3: up with him again.

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Speaker 2: Well that was at the start.

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Speaker 3: I don't know about Yeah, delete the last three weeks

746
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Speaker 3: from your mind and just remember after that first date

747
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Speaker 3: how good you felt about each other.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 5: Know, no, because I feel like he's gonna he might

750
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Speaker 5: stand me up.

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00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 1: What why would he stand you?

752
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 3: Us?

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Speaker 6: Create?

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Speaker 9: Okay, no, no, no, no, no, she's creating stuff now. Now

755
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,839
Speaker 9: she's going from a happy hour to a hostile hour,

756
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Speaker 9: which is gonna probably lead to a hottle dinner.

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Speaker 1: This is okay, hostile hour? Yeah, okay, so wait, does

758
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Speaker 1: that mean that you're not interested in a date?

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Speaker 3: He said? No? They what did I hear?

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00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm not interested in going on with that?

761
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:35,320
Speaker 9: Went back? Okay, okay, that's okay.

762
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:37,280
Speaker 7: The feeling is mutual.

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Speaker 3: Wow, okay, Well this one doesn't work out.

764
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Speaker 1: They've shifted.

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Speaker 3: Those shifted In Jesus words, life is life?

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Speaker 6: Ye?

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Speaker 3: Life? And right now? Am I right? James?

768
00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:52,800
Speaker 7: Yeah? The thrill is gone.

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Speaker 2: But the second dates or second date.

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Speaker 3: They really are.

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Speaker 4: Brooking Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 3: You know, by the end of that call. I don't

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Speaker 3: know if there was anything that we could have said

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Speaker 3: to save that situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they kind of took over.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think dating is hard for both of them

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Speaker 1: right now, and they just took it out on each other.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm just saying about you know what I mean,

779
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 1: Like it's just like, ah, I hate it all. They're

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Speaker 1: both too busy to sleep deprived. Maybe it's like.

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Speaker 2: Well, I want more than thirty minutes. I want a

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Speaker 2: full dinner. I just want to see you.

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Speaker 3: Right. But on a positive note, James did give us

784
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Speaker 3: three of our top quotes for the entire year. Happy

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Speaker 3: Hour turned into Hostile Hour. Life keeps on life in

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Speaker 3: movie and you want a bread basket with that wine

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Speaker 3: that I don't think I I kind of workshopped it, James.

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Speaker 3: I changed it a little bit, but.

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Speaker 1: I mean I always want a bread basket, So is always.

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Speaker 6: Going to be yes.

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Speaker 3: The whole thing was promises made, promises not kept. Goodness

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00:35:58,040 --> 00:35:59,960
Speaker 3: is we don't make any promises. When you go listen

793
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 3: and do us on podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey just

794
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 3: life is life in all that that's how we do

795
00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 3: Go check it out online wherever you get your podcasts

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00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:09,240
Speaker 3: at Brook and Jeffrey