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Speaker 1: Eight one three five is how you get a hold

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Speaker 1: of friends show you can call him text the same number. Caitlin,

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Speaker 1: what how did this come to mind about your parents

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Speaker 1: teaching you a lesson?

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Speaker 2: Okay, so my friend Ashley and I have just similar dads.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how else to put it. They're kind

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Speaker 2: of hard asses, but they they parent differently than moms

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Speaker 2: I feel like. And so we were talking about the

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Speaker 2: worst lesson that our dad's taught us the hard way.

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Speaker 2: And my dad was trying to teach me to listen

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Speaker 2: because I had a very big issue with listening and

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Speaker 2: he knew that I don't listen. So how he did

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Speaker 2: this was we ordered sushi one night and he looked

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Speaker 2: at me. He brought me over to the wasabi and said, Kaylin,

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Speaker 2: do not eat that.

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Speaker 3: It is very hot, it is spicy.

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Speaker 4: Do not.

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Speaker 2: And he knows I don't like being told what not

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Speaker 3: He went in his bedroom.

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Speaker 2: He heard the loudest scream, he said he's ever heard

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Speaker 2: I put the whole wasabi in my mouth.

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And then for Ashley, she got caught drinking and so

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Speaker 2: her dad said, instead of like, you know, punishing her classically,

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Speaker 2: he sat her down and he poured a glass of

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Speaker 2: scotch and said, all right, if you can finish this

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Speaker 2: glass of scotch right now, I'll let you drink. You

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Speaker 2: think you're old enough to drink, I'll let you drink.

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Speaker 2: She puked, but she tried.

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Speaker 3: She tried.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And so then she never got caught drinking again.

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Speaker 2: She still did, but she didn't get caught.

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Speaker 1: How did your parents teach you a lesson? That's what

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Speaker 1: I want to know, because, and I'm sure my parents

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Speaker 1: will appreciate me telling the story. But we used to

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Speaker 1: go we grew up in Arizona. We used to go

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Speaker 1: to Mexico for like spring break or whatever. And I

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Speaker 1: don't know, maybe twelve thirteen, fourteen, they'd start letting me

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Speaker 3: No one's obviously driving. I don't have a driver's license, and.

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Speaker 1: I think they sort of just would let me take

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Speaker 1: little further. And I can remember one night just getting

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Speaker 1: I was sick. Next morning, eight o'clock, get up, come

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Speaker 1: on with vacation. We're going You're not sleeping all day.

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Speaker 1: We paid for this place, come on. And that was

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Speaker 1: their thing, was like, you're not wasting your whole day

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Speaker 1: the interesting thing is the probably there are probably people

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Speaker 1: going that's crazy, too young for that whatever. One we

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Speaker 1: couldn't go anywhere. Two I was always under their supervision.

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Speaker 1: And three I was one of the few people that

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Speaker 1: It's like there was it wasn't taboo. Like I had

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Speaker 1: already sort of done it under their supervision to us,

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Speaker 1: and I could only do it on vacation. I couldn't

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Speaker 3: But I don't.

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Speaker 1: People thought this was a crazy parenting tactic. But the

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Speaker 1: truth is, like I just didn't go nuts when I

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Speaker 1: I still pushed them, but it wasn't like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: this is this was all forbidden to me, so let

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Speaker 1: me do everything now. And a lot of people I

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Speaker 1: other people. And then and they went they took it

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Speaker 1: too far? Did your parents ever make you? Did they ever?

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Speaker 3: Because you rupil? You were like you were a criminal.

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Speaker 5: For me, they never helped me any in any way,

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Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. They never failed me out.

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Speaker 3: My parents never helped.

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Speaker 5: You ously, Like like a lot of my friends were

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Speaker 5: doing the same things I was doing, and their parents

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Speaker 5: Like I did the crime, I've got to do the

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Speaker 5: if you ever got pulled over or arrested, in our

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Speaker 5: local newspaper they would put out once a week. There

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Speaker 5: was like police reports, like like Kevin age eighteen from

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Speaker 5: this block, you know, got arrested. It's like the reports

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Speaker 5: were there, and it's just like you just had to

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Speaker 5: live with it. But never once did My parents were like,

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Speaker 5: all right, let me bail you out again, this and that,

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Speaker 5: like you you did it, you gotta, you gotta, you

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Speaker 3: So right, what about rule follower Jason Brown over here? Ooh,

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Speaker 3: so did you ever get in trouble? I did?

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Speaker 6: This was really bad. So my grandma got me a

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Speaker 6: brand new car when I sixteen. When I turned sixteen,

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Speaker 6: and I decided to go on this road that had

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Speaker 6: a lot of potholes and completely total the car, like

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Speaker 6: My parents were pissed, obviously, right, So their punishment to

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Speaker 6: me so that I understood, you know, the value of

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Speaker 6: two opal colored Ford Explorer nice with no air conditioning

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Speaker 6: all summer and then start going to class. And my

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Speaker 6: He's like, no, you're going to learn, you're driving, and

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Speaker 6: you're paying for the guests because you're driving the expressway

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Speaker 6: with this giant car. So that was their way of

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Speaker 6: being like, you need to value what people get you.

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Speaker 3: I got. How did your parents break you up? The

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Speaker 3: seventh grade?

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Speaker 4: Yes, you know. I decided to change my life on

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Speaker 4: my own with that. The highest one was trying to

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Speaker 4: wear heels as like a twelve year old. I really

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Speaker 4: wanted to wear heels really really bad, and my sister

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Speaker 4: kept saying, you're too young for that, You're too young, and.

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Speaker 3: I was like, but all the girls are wearing the wedges.

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Speaker 3: I want to wear the wedge. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So she let me wear the wedges to church and

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Speaker 3: But still I got my drive.

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Speaker 1: My parents let me drive when I was sixteen, and

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Speaker 1: the thing was like, don't get a speeding ticket. If

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Speaker 1: their insurance. Of course, like all of our insurance is screwed.

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Speaker 1: Like I don't even know if that's true. But anyway,

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Speaker 1: it was like, don't get a speeding ticket. That's irresponsible.

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Speaker 1: I got a speeding ticket when I was like seventeen,

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Speaker 1: coming back from work in the middle of the night

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Speaker 1: at Blockbuster Video.

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Speaker 3: So I didn't tell them.

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Speaker 1: I booked the driver's ad Yeah, because you could get

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Speaker 1: the points.

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Speaker 3: The points.

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Speaker 1: Didn't you pay it and get the points you go

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Speaker 1: booked the class, paid for the class, took the class

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Speaker 1: all without them knowing. And then I sat them down

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Speaker 1: and I said, guys, I have to tell you something.

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Speaker 1: I got a speeding ticket, and and my mom starts

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Speaker 1: to load up, like she you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: you can tell you know when your parents are about

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Speaker 3: She starts to load up.

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Speaker 1: And then I was like, but I paid for the

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Speaker 1: and you could her mouth was open, like her hand

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Speaker 1: was up and an oh, like what can you say?

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Speaker 1: Like I just I got ahead of the whole thing,

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Speaker 1: because you're gonna go to drivers, I already did. You're

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Speaker 3: That was it. That was it though. And my sister,

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Speaker 3: on the other hand, here we go, My girl lied

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Speaker 3: all the time, didn't take anything. She probably got fifty

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Speaker 1: Nobody cared about anything when my that's the difference between

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Speaker 1: the first and the second, especially when they're eight years apart.

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Speaker 2: Oh don't I know it.

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Speaker 3: But my sister, she wouldn't have done that.

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Speaker 1: She would have like forgotten about it, hope nobody ever

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Speaker 1: the ticket away a kicky over here, y right, yeah,

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Speaker 1: hoping that it never you know, that nothing would ever

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Speaker 3: That's what my sister would have done, and I love

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Speaker 3: her for it.

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Speaker 1: When I was about ten, I found a pack of

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Speaker 1: old cigarettes in my parents' cupboard. My mom said, you

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Speaker 1: want to smoke them, go ahead, but you suck as

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Speaker 1: hard as you can, real hard. So I did it,

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Speaker 1: lost it along on the back steps that day, and

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Speaker 1: she said, if you ever want to smoke that's what

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Speaker 1: it feels like cured. Yeah, I had my own keys

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Speaker 1: to the house and other text but I would still

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Speaker 1: sneak out after curfew. So one night my parents hired

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Speaker 1: the house.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I love that. I love it. See that is

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