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Speaker 1: The Nicky Gliser Podcast.

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Speaker 2: Niki Glaser, here's Nicky.

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Speaker 3: Hello here, I am welcome to the show. It's the

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Speaker 3: Nicky Glazer Podcast. I'm Nicki Glazer. I'm still in Los Angeles, California.

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Speaker 3: Brian Frangie is also in La not in the same

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Speaker 3: place as me. Anya's here, Noah's here. It's a beautiful day,

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Speaker 3: no hurricane. Nothing else to report. Really, just got a coffee.

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Speaker 3: I'm reading a book that Brian got me called The

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Speaker 3: Baby Decision.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Brian.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I've been wanting to hear more about.

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Speaker 1: This, have you.

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Speaker 3: If you look at the girls chat, I have screenshots

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Speaker 3: of pages already shared that's triggering everyone.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, so only us energy?

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Speaker 1: Oh really?

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Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, Curson went to a raiki healer this weekend

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Speaker 3: and got and had a lot of like cool insight

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Speaker 3: into that stuff.

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Speaker 1: But this Baby Decision book.

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Speaker 3: So, Brian, you got this book because you were also

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Speaker 3: you had heard of it.

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Speaker 5: Or yeah, I bought the book. I don't know why

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Speaker 5: how I came up with this book. It must have

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Speaker 5: been reviews or no one recommended this book to me.

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Speaker 5: In fact, I think people no one mentioned this book

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Speaker 5: to me. I just ever told you I was reading.

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Speaker 5: People told me not to read it. They said, you

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Speaker 5: read this, problems are going to happen in your life,

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Speaker 5: Florida's what they said.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I think around last year I bought that book because

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Speaker 5: I was like, I don't know, I'm feeling really stressed

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Speaker 5: out about this and I just want to read a

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Speaker 5: book that helps me come to more confidence in my

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Speaker 5: decision making.

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Speaker 6: And I never read it. So book. Yeah, there's a lot.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, because it says if you've been having trouble

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Speaker 3: making decision, you've read all the articles.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, it's so.

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Speaker 3: Funny that people used to make decisions based off like

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Speaker 3: an article I read in Parents Weekly when there's really

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Speaker 3: a book that can help you that's this big.

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Speaker 1: It's a thick book.

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Speaker 3: You know, it's probably an inch thick, you guys, for

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Speaker 3: those of you not watching this, And yeah, I did

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Speaker 3: read articles.

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Speaker 5: The person who wrote that book actually has a group

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Speaker 5: that they have. They have many articles and they also

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Speaker 5: bring people in and have like a workshop where they

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Speaker 5: bring people in live to make this decision together. Oh wow,

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Speaker 5: like a therapist sort of like a therapist that specializes

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Speaker 5: in making a decision about having children.

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Speaker 3: Brian told me that it was a good book because

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Speaker 3: it's it's warmly empathetic and wide ranging manual. So it

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Speaker 3: gives you the pros and cons, so it doesn't side

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Speaker 3: with either way. Like this woman's not trying to get

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Speaker 3: you to like not have a baby or to have

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Speaker 3: a baby, and she just she gives you, like the

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Speaker 3: beginning of it. First of all, the beginning, I could

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Speaker 3: you could skip the first forty pages because it's about

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Speaker 3: what you're going to expect in the book, what to

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Speaker 3: expect when you're expecting reading this book, other book, every

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Speaker 3: other non every gift for read stop. So yeah, and

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Speaker 3: then you get to things and it's kind of asking

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Speaker 3: you to do a lot of visualization of like imagine

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Speaker 3: being pregnant, Imagine breastfeeding, Imagine your husband not helping at all.

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Speaker 3: Imagine getting divorced and having a baby. What that will

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Speaker 3: look like like, Imagine every fall. Imagine your baby is this?

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Speaker 3: Imagine your baby is uh not this? It's And so

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Speaker 3: I'm like, how is this book that's just page forty three?

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Speaker 1: How am I?

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Speaker 3: I'm asking me all the way down, I'm enjoying your screenshots.

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Speaker 1: I just saw these.

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Speaker 2: Can I just quickly show the YouTube viewer a Nikki

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Speaker 2: Glaser's screenshot. Here's a normal It's just part of a

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Speaker 2: book highlighted and then we moved that.

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Speaker 1: Actually, that's it. That's totally normal because I'm minding you

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Speaker 1: the whole book. I'm telling you, because I made a

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Speaker 1: little sentence to read.

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Speaker 2: You're getting defensive too fast what I'm saying, Guys, I love.

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Speaker 1: I love this commentary. Dear God, no, youar God no?

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Speaker 1: And then the other one is like, what did I

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Speaker 1: say on the other.

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Speaker 2: One, this one especially, did you mean this?

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Speaker 3: Or well, let me agree to you those screenshots that

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Speaker 3: I already did. Okay, So the first one is just

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Speaker 3: the greatest. It's just makes it everything like it says

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Speaker 3: everything pretty much that I've always felt. And this is

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Speaker 3: what I'm boggled by is that I think most people

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Speaker 3: biggest thing about that. I've been talking about the podcast

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Speaker 3: where why do people want kids? And why do people

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Speaker 3: have kids? I don't get it. My real problem is

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Speaker 3: why don't people think about having kids a little bit

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Speaker 3: more before they do it? And here's another thing, before

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Speaker 3: I get started rant commenced, Okay, I don't want to

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Speaker 3: hear how hard it is. I don't want to hear

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Speaker 3: how it was so much harder than you thought it

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Speaker 1: You know why, because everything you hear is that it's

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Speaker 1: harder than you Everyone says that.

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Speaker 3: So imagine how hard you think it is, and then

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Speaker 3: imagine it's harder than that. So does every time someone

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Speaker 3: says that it exponentially grows. No, it's harder than what

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Speaker 3: I imagined it would be harder. Being harder than that's

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Speaker 3: that I it's always gonna be harder I do. I

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Speaker 3: am You're allowed to complain. Please don't take this the

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Speaker 3: wrong way that if I think you have kids, you

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Speaker 3: can't say anything because you chose that. That is not

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Speaker 3: what I'm saying. I complain about my life. I chose

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Speaker 3: all the damn time. But don't be surprised when you're

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Speaker 1: Don't be surprised when your nipples hurt. Don't be surprised.

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Speaker 1: Don't be surprised by it. Don't I don't understand this.

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Speaker 3: I think there's something really funny about the fact that

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Speaker 3: literally I've been hearing since I was able to hear

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Speaker 3: and raising kids is way harder than you think it's

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Speaker 3: it's easier than you think. Literally zero people, maybe Nick Cannon,

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Speaker 3: but other than that, no one gets off easier with childhood.

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Speaker 1: So stop this, And I just that's the thing.

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Speaker 3: But I want to reiterate, if you do have kids

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Speaker 3: In fact, my sister never complains about being a mom,

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Speaker 3: to hear you let some of this out because I

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Speaker 3: this is really ridiculous and it still sucks, and you

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Speaker 3: the surprise over it or trying to get other people

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Speaker 3: We've been hearing it since we were four, don't care.

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Speaker 3: I knew what the age of four. I didn't want

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Speaker 2: Like an interesting take or a non unique take, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I guess that's it.

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Speaker 3: It's just it's the most could take ever because it's

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Speaker 3: she doesn't get that even what she imagines being hard,

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Speaker 3: it probably is. I probably would be a hypocrite if

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Speaker 5: Well, come on, we can imagine a little bit more.

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Speaker 5: I mean, just just imagine that it's harder than that.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Like when I hear about whenever I'm on a treadmill

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Speaker 1: Dam So if you think him that I was thinking

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Speaker 3: Because I go, I want to go, and I go,

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Speaker 3: think you're about to pass out right now? Seventeen more, bitch,

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Speaker 3: And I don't do it, but I just go. I

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Speaker 5: When I have a kid, I'm gonna imagine that the

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Speaker 5: They might he's gonna he's gonna try to kill me

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Speaker 6: And then I have the kid, and I'll be like,

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Speaker 1: Yes, It's like my friend Gabe.

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Speaker 6: Thought he'd be shooting me. Yeah, my friend.

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Speaker 3: Gabe, Kia you said a joke that he was he

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Speaker 3: got like busted for dealing drugs in college and to

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Speaker 1: And she goes for what.

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Speaker 3: He goes rape and she goes no, and he goes

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Speaker 1: Imagine do you still want it?

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Speaker 3: If it could be it could go the horrible way.

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Speaker 3: So here's the quote that I loved. So people are

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Speaker 3: on behalf of people who say, this is such a

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Speaker 3: tough decision. Why is this so tough for me?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 3: I think people go, if it's tough, then I should

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Speaker 3: just not have kids, because why is this so tough?

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Speaker 1: You should just know?

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Speaker 3: And I think they're also comparing themselves to women like

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Speaker 3: I do, who are just I've always.

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Speaker 1: Known I want to ma amana, And that really sultry

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Speaker 3: Go, oh, because your mom wasn't really around and you

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Speaker 1: So that's probably why, because you're forced to do that's snarky, jealous.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so it says, why is this decision so difficult?

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Speaker 3: My clients and workshop attendees, moan, are we the wishy,

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Speaker 6: Wow, they say, moan.

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Speaker 3: She says, moan, wouldn't most normal wouldn't most normal reasonable

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Speaker 3: Well that's what everyone thinks when I tell them like

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Speaker 3: Do you give a fuck if people get promoted over you?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and Brand's writ in that, and that's what this is.

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Speaker 1: That's exactly what this is for.

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Speaker 3: Like this is trying to encourage you so you can

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Speaker 1: And I have so many good dms that are like

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Speaker 3: I think at the end of all of this, Like

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Speaker 3: they're like, I don't have one and I want one.

439
00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:08,200
Speaker 3: Childless is supposed to be for women who want one,

440
00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:12,800
Speaker 3: and I go, no, I'm childless because I don't want one. Therefore,

441
00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:15,120
Speaker 3: it's not my fault that I don't have a kid.

442
00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:17,240
Speaker 3: It's as if I'm barren in my brain.

443
00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:18,320
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean?

444
00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:21,080
Speaker 3: Like a kid could really improve my life, but I

445
00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:24,399
Speaker 3: am also childless because I don't the same way some

446
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:27,639
Speaker 3: people's bodies can't have one for whatever reason. My brain

447
00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,080
Speaker 3: can't have one. And maybe I do want one in

448
00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:33,119
Speaker 3: my heart, but my brain won't let me. So isn't

449
00:20:33,119 --> 00:20:35,240
Speaker 3: that am I allowed to say I'm barren in the

450
00:20:35,240 --> 00:20:36,120
Speaker 3: brain a little bit?

451
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:41,560
Speaker 1: My heart needs don't fuck your brain. My heart needs

452
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:42,800
Speaker 1: to fuck my brain.

453
00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:47,280
Speaker 2: Oh you said my brain doesn't, but my heart does.

454
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:50,280
Speaker 1: It feels like it needs to rape my brain because

455
00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:54,480
Speaker 1: my brain doesn't want it. So okay, well, the hearts

456
00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: that's what it wants. The heart, what's what it wants

457
00:20:56,280 --> 00:20:57,879
Speaker 1: and you can't say no. Okay, Well we'll be right

458
00:20:57,920 --> 00:20:59,160
Speaker 1: back after my heart rapes my brain.

459
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,720
Speaker 5: If anybody has a wants to write a book called

460
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,760
Speaker 5: the Mattress Decision, I'll read it.

461
00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:11,440
Speaker 6: Because I'm having a lot of trouble. Why don't they

462
00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:13,960
Speaker 6: have a book for that? Oh?

463
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:19,520
Speaker 5: I Well, the temper pedic attack has now been thwarted, thankfully,

464
00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 5: and I was able to return my current mattress.

465
00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 6: It has not been picked up yet.

466
00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:27,240
Speaker 5: And I have Now I'm now getting a new temper

467
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 5: pedic mattress that's more basic, like a medium hybrid, that's

468
00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,719
Speaker 5: less expensive, like a two thousand dollars less expensive.

469
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,120
Speaker 6: So I'm hoping that does the trick.

470
00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,960
Speaker 5: If that doesn't work, then I'm going to begin sifting

471
00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:43,200
Speaker 5: through the hundreds of dms I got from besties recommending

472
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,960
Speaker 5: different mattresses. All the dms almost made it more difficult

473
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 5: to make the decision because everyone's try this mattress, this

474
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:52,199
Speaker 5: is the best mattress, Try this mattress, thiss and like

475
00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:54,280
Speaker 5: I trust all of you, I trust all of you

476
00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:56,280
Speaker 5: that you think that that's the best mattress, and I

477
00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:58,280
Speaker 5: believe you. But I just don't know which one of

478
00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:02,119
Speaker 5: those is. Insact, That's where I'm at right now. Yeah,

479
00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:06,760
Speaker 5: I mean everyone, I believe I'm so I envy these

480
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:10,120
Speaker 5: people because all these besties who have found their mattress.

481
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 5: I believe It's like if I was single and I

482
00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 5: saw people getting married and I'd envy them.

483
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:17,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, it is like that. I want you get Yes,

484
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:17,920
Speaker 1: we all did.

485
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,480
Speaker 5: I envy the people who found a mattress. That's going

486
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:21,720
Speaker 5: the last and for at least.

487
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 3: Your wedding was triggering for many people, especially one girl

488
00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:27,679
Speaker 3: who had just gotten into a fake fight with her

489
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:31,119
Speaker 3: boyfriend and was sitting in the row three that I

490
00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:32,160
Speaker 3: didn't know was a fight.

491
00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 1: Did I tell you guys this, are you talking about yourself?

492
00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 1: Myself on girl's chet? Yeah? OK, yeah, this is incredible.

493
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 1: This is fucking insane.

494
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,080
Speaker 3: Well, I told Brian later, so everyone here knows about it,

495
00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:45,800
Speaker 3: but the listener doesn't.

496
00:22:45,800 --> 00:22:47,639
Speaker 2: One of the funniest things I've ever seen.

497
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 3: I'm headed to Brian's wedding with my boyfriend Chris, and

498
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,440
Speaker 3: we are walking to the wedding, and so we're getting

499
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 3: ready in our little cabin and it's kind of frantic

500
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 3: to get ready because we stayed in the hot tub

501
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,199
Speaker 3: too long and I'm blow dragging my hair and I

502
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 3: had to like steam my dress. That is like, it's

503
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 3: just there's a lot to do, and Chris is like

504
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:13,480
Speaker 3: slowly getting ready, and every time I turn around from

505
00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:15,280
Speaker 3: blow dragging my hair, he looks like cuter and cuter,

506
00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:16,800
Speaker 3: and I keep commenting on it. I'm like, you look

507
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,119
Speaker 3: so handsome, and he's not really giving it back. But

508
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:21,240
Speaker 3: that's fine because he's distracted with his thing and I

509
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:23,479
Speaker 3: don't look cute yet. Like I'll say the one thing

510
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:26,200
Speaker 3: about Chris convey he will not give me compliments unless

511
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 3: it's real. Like, just because I say he looks cute,

512
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 3: he's not gonna say it back. So I get the

513
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:35,439
Speaker 3: truth from him, and well, okay, no, it's no. I

514
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 3: actually appreciate it because if he just said it all

515
00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:39,720
Speaker 3: the time, I'd be like, oh yeah, yeah yeah. But

516
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:41,199
Speaker 3: when he says it really means a lot to me,

517
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:42,760
Speaker 3: and he says it a lot. Let me just make

518
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,400
Speaker 3: that very clear. He's very into the way I look

519
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 3: and I feel it all the time. But I was

520
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 3: feeling a little insecure this day. Probably I hadn't spray

521
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 3: to hand in a while. I was on my period,

522
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 3: I believe. And we're getting so I finally get dressed

523
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:00,400
Speaker 3: and I put on my like these boots and I'm like, oh,

524
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,880
Speaker 3: and I uh.

525
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 1: We start walking.

526
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 3: We exit the cabin right outside in the front steps,

527
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 3: and it's there's hail everywhere because it's just hailed like

528
00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:13,920
Speaker 3: fucking crazy. The ground is white. It looks like it's

529
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:18,439
Speaker 3: just all like flower petals everywhere. And I say, you

530
00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 3: look so cute. And he's stuffing his face with a

531
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 3: donut because he's just trying to like quickly like finish

532
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,439
Speaker 3: eating donuts before we go the ceremonies, like a snack,

533
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:29,280
Speaker 3: like you know, donuts, and he's eating them, and I go,

534
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:34,160
Speaker 3: is it the the powderned ones? Chocolate I had bought?

535
00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 3: I think they were chocolate because I bought him for

536
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,800
Speaker 3: him at the gas station. Even though you can pose

537
00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:41,920
Speaker 3: for me because they're too I can't stop eating them

538
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,119
Speaker 3: and I don't want them, but I always get them

539
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 3: because my boyfriend kind of forgets to eat a lot.

540
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:50,199
Speaker 3: So I had these donuts. He ate them, and I

541
00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 3: said to him, and as it's leaving my mouth, I realize,

542
00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 3: don't do this. Do you ever have that where you

543
00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:59,440
Speaker 3: like are talking and as it's coming out, You're like,

544
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 3: I shouldn't even finished the sentence, but it's feeling really good,

545
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 3: and I know it's wrong, like it it was.

546
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 1: You know, it's like word possessions.

547
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 3: What they say, Yeah, would you say?

548
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 4: I call it being possessed? Like it's not me in there. Yes,

549
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 4: I'm possessed by a demon. That's how it felt.

550
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:18,040
Speaker 1: And I said, that's like, are you gonna say I

551
00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:26,120
Speaker 1: look cute? Are you going to say I look cute?

552
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:29,960
Speaker 3: And I hated myself instantly for it. So I once

553
00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 3: I realized now having looked back on this moment, let

554
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:35,200
Speaker 3: me just kind of tell you what was going through

555
00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:38,280
Speaker 3: my head in that moment. I was so embarrassed of

556
00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:41,480
Speaker 3: what I had just said, like asking him, because I

557
00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:43,399
Speaker 3: know that whatever he gives me is not going to

558
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:45,440
Speaker 3: feel good because I've just asked for it. So I've

559
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:49,159
Speaker 3: just already defeated the purpose of what I want. I

560
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 3: know he's gonna feel annoyed that I asked, So I'm

561
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 3: in bear. I just know that it was the wrong

562
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:57,640
Speaker 3: thing to say, and I'm so humiliated I said it right,

563
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 3: so desperate, not even not said the right tone, And

564
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 3: so my mind is in a position of picturing whatever

565
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 3: comes out of his mouth is going to be really

566
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 3: fucking mad at me and annoyed. Because guess who's mad

567
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:12,480
Speaker 3: at me and annoyed? I am, so I now am looking.

568
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 3: My worldview has shifted to whatever he's gonna do, he's pissed.

569
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 3: There's no other way to interpret it. He could have

570
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:21,919
Speaker 3: smiled and been like laughed, and I would have been like,

571
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:24,760
Speaker 3: he's mad, because that's just so how I felt about

572
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 3: myself and I realized that now. So what he decided

573
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:31,080
Speaker 3: to do in the moment was have an exaggerated, like

574
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 3: mad response, like almost like a fake husband screaming at

575
00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 3: his wife like a joke.

576
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:40,159
Speaker 1: So he stuffed the doughnut in his mouth and it

577
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: was like, I told you to look fucking great all

578
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: the time.

579
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:45,879
Speaker 3: And it's like Bill Burr flying out of his mouth

580
00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:49,639
Speaker 3: like so exaggerated it was insane, right, So he stuffs

581
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 3: in his mouth and he goes he said. I don't

582
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 3: remember exactly what he said, but I know it had

583
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 3: the word fuck in it, which he never cusses at me,

584
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 3: like it's it would be. That's an insane He's never

585
00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 3: yelled at me, like Chris doesn't yell at me, like

586
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 3: there's no verbal abuse happening in our relationship at all

587
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 3: over ten years and emotional once you know, no, but

588
00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 3: that was early on from both of us, light dusting

589
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 3: in the beginning of our relationship on both sides, emotionally

590
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 3: but verbally from the the powder doughnut. It's not powder

591
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 3: but chocolate, but let's imagine it's spewing out in a

592
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 3: comic fashion. It like almost hits me in the face,

593
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 3: and he's also cussing. And from my interpretation, this is

594
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 3: just my boyfriend has now turned into a monster. Like

595
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 3: I you know, women talk about like this moment where

596
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,560
Speaker 3: they get married and suddenly their boyfriend starts hitting them

597
00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:44,720
Speaker 3: or their husband is now like it comes out of

598
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:46,359
Speaker 3: nowhere where they just.

599
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 6: You've heard these stories translucent skin and black float.

600
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:57,159
Speaker 3: Christenstein. And so I was like, oh my god, this

601
00:27:57,359 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 3: is it. Like he's changed, Like there's maybe this weekend

602
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 3: he got really comfortable with me never leaving him or something.

603
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:07,159
Speaker 3: Maybe I said something that gave him this like reassurance

604
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,639
Speaker 3: that now he can abuse me this way. And I

605
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 3: was shook, Like I didn't say anything. I just was

606
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 3: like I was because he screamed and then the Genra

607
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:22,640
Speaker 3: is spewing from his face in a very comedic fashion,

608
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:25,640
Speaker 3: and I am like, just but you're.

609
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: Relaying it as that what I'm not seeing it. I'm comedic.

610
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 3: I was almost because I was like, it was so ridiculous,

611
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 3: but I'm not laughing, no, But I'm also like, that

612
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:37,640
Speaker 3: was so unlike him to like talk with his mouth

613
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 3: open it and then scream, which he's never done, and

614
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 3: cuss all things that I'm just like, Okay, well, this

615
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 3: relationship's literally over. I will not be with someone who

616
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 3: talks to me this way. And now I have to

617
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 3: go to Brian's wedding and sit next to this person.

618
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 3: And I'm not going to make this about me and

619
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 3: like start crying in the bathroom or break up with

620
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 3: my boyfriend at my friend's wedding. So I go to

621
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,120
Speaker 3: the wedding and we walked to it and I say.

622
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 3: He then swallows the donut that is in his mouth,

623
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 3: and he goes, fine, he goes, he goes seriously, Nikki,

624
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 3: and now it's like calm down to like his normal tone,

625
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 3: and he goes, do you think I've gone three hours

626
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 3: in our whole relationship without telling you how good you look?

627
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 3: And I go and I just quietly was like, I'm sorry,

628
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 3: I know you're right, and I was just like abused woman,

629
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:22,959
Speaker 3: quiet like. But he didn't notice because he's like, we're

630
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 3: trying to get to the wedding. He didn't notice that.

631
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: I'm like.

632
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 3: Shell shocked woman. Tone right, I'm thinking that I just

633
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 3: want I hate him right now. I don't know who

634
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 3: this person is. I want to get through this day

635
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 3: and I want to leave, and it's a long road

636
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 3: before we leave. We have a reception to sit through.

637
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 3: I have to like smile and like it's going to

638
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 3: be hell so god.

639
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 1: Like spirally frozen.

640
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 2: I think in the moment you were even like it

641
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 2: is so out of character. It almost was like he

642
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 2: was doing a bit. But he he was.

643
00:29:56,200 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 3: Mouth yes, the like in a in a Homer Simpson

644
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 3: way funny cartoon, I said, cartoonish And by the way,

645
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 3: I do.

646
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 6: That with Ali.

647
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 5: Yes, sometimes I'll do something like that. I'll just pretend

648
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:14,000
Speaker 5: like we're an abusive relationship and yellow before.

649
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 1: Yes, Chris and I have done it before.

650
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 3: We do it in a New York accent, though usually

651
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 3: like a Jersey accent of like.

652
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 1: Why would you fucking do this? Johnny? Like I do

653
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 1: that kind of thing.

654
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 3: I am at your wedding spiraling and like crying because

655
00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 3: I see what true love looks like and it's not

656
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 3: what I have. Clearly I thought I did, But now

657
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,320
Speaker 3: this boyfriend, I'm like, I will never unsee what he

658
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 3: just did to me. There's literally nothing that will ever

659
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 3: excuse it. You know, when you have those moments where

660
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:44,240
Speaker 3: you go nothing could There's no thing he could say

661
00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 3: that will ever make me look at him the same

662
00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 3: way again, until I finally.

663
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: Days later, my god, So I talked it.

664
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 3: Away and I was like, I'll just have to bring

665
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 3: it up when we go to a couple therapy, right, like,

666
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 3: I can't. This is not something I'm gonna be able

667
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 3: to talk about on our own because he didn't even

668
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 3: seem to really notice it. Because usually let me just

669
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 3: also say this, if Chris and I get into an argument,

670
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:09,520
Speaker 3: which is usually never never involved screaming or yelling, we're

671
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 3: weird for a while, Like it's just not comfortable with us.

672
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 3: We're a little we don't touch each other, we're not

673
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 3: like we can't really fake it around people. We used

674
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 3: to be able to, we don't anymore, Like we more

675
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 3: stick to like what's going on. We'll literally say to

676
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:24,760
Speaker 3: people we go to dinner with, we're like not doing

677
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 3: well right now, Like we've said that before because we

678
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 3: don't fake it if things aren't good, which is good,

679
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 3: But the whole reception, everything's fine with this guy. He's

680
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:36,960
Speaker 3: touching my leg, he's putting his arm around me. This

681
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 3: makes me think even more he's fucking crazy, like he

682
00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 3: just did something, he snapped and now he's even going

683
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 3: off book for our fight mode, you know, like he's

684
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 3: he's now this guy that can like yell at his

685
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 3: wife and then just act like everything's okay. Like this

686
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 3: guy has lost it, you know, maybe elevation, sickness.

687
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: I don't know what's going on.

688
00:31:57,480 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 3: So he's really nice. The whole night, we have a

689
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 3: good time dancing. I kind of put it out of

690
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:03,240
Speaker 3: my head. I try to have a good time dancing

691
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 3: and having a good time the reception, But in the

692
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 3: back of my head, I'm like, my relationship's over. This

693
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 3: kind of sucks. This is the last night of this

694
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 3: because I have to like it. Not it's not over,

695
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 3: but it's like this is gonna take so long to

696
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 3: repair the damage that was done tonight. So two days later,

697
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 3: we're walking to into a restaurant and we're actually like

698
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 3: arm in arm and he's like, so, I'm like starting

699
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 3: to pack up my stuff.

700
00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: To move in.

701
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 3: And I go okay, and he's like, so we're doing

702
00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 3: this right, Like you want me to move in right.

703
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 3: I go, there's one thing I need to bring up

704
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 3: before you move in, and he's like.

705
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 6: Okay.

706
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 3: And we're walking into the restaurant when we're approaching the

707
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 3: hostess stand and I go, when you yelled at me

708
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 3: in Colorado on the way to Brian's wedding, I just

709
00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 3: I don't know who that was, and it's I still

710
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 3: can't get over it.

711
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 1: And he goes, what I didn't yell at you?

712
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 3: And I just stopped on a dime and I go,

713
00:32:57,280 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 3: we're not doing this, and I go, We're going back

714
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 3: outside because we're gonna start.

715
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:02,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start yelling.

716
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 3: If you tried to tell me that wasn't yelling at me,

717
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 3: like I thought, at least he would know exactly what

718
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 3: I was talking about.

719
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 1: Right, Like, he screamed at me and donut flew out

720
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:09,480
Speaker 1: his face.

721
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 3: So I I go, oh, I'm being gas lit, and

722
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 3: you're gonna tell me that wasn't yelling at me. I

723
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,280
Speaker 3: literally go. I looked at the hostess and I go,

724
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 3: we'll be right back. And I took him and I

725
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 3: swung him around because we're locked in arms, and we

726
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 3: went back outside, and I go, you yelled at me

727
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:25,280
Speaker 3: at Brian's wedding. Now I'm yelling right. And he's like, what,

728
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 3: I go, doughnut was spewing out of your face. And

729
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 3: he goes, that was a joke. And I go, what

730
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 3: He's like, that was a joke.

731
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 1: I would never talk to you that way, like I

732
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: was doing like our Dolorous bit where I go, Dolores,

733
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,959
Speaker 1: why'd you park that? Like I go, that's our Jersey

734
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 1: couple bit that we haven't done in a while.

735
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:45,560
Speaker 6: But I'm like, huh, we didn't say, Dolores.

736
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 1: No, And and like here's the truth.

737
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 3: I think he was annoyed at my thing, which is

738
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 3: one hundred percent valid because I was annoyed at it.

739
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: And I think it was.

740
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 3: A way to communicate and like an annoyance without committing

741
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 3: to it really and doing a character I don't think

742
00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 3: he meant to. He did not mean to scold me

743
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 3: or hurt me the way he did at all, because

744
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:08,359
Speaker 3: that's just not in him, but.

745
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:09,359
Speaker 1: It it was.

746
00:34:09,719 --> 00:34:11,560
Speaker 3: Do you ever have that moment where you go, there's

747
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 3: no way I'll ever forgive this person, and then they

748
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 3: come up with the thing that is the only way

749
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 3: you forgive them.

750
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 1: I was it was like someone.

751
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:23,360
Speaker 3: Took off a gigantic mountain backpack, like one of the

752
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,400
Speaker 3: ones that goes down to your like half down your

753
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,800
Speaker 3: legs like that when you're climbing Everest.

754
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, one of those. It was.

755
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 3: I was because I was like, I put it out

756
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 3: of my head for a little bit, because when things

757
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 3: like that happened to me that are traumatic, either good

758
00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 3: or bad. Sometimes when I meet a famous person, I

759
00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 3: forget about it. This is a new thing that's happening

760
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 3: to me too, where I have excitement in amnesia and

761
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:49,520
Speaker 3: I forget meeting people or having like run ins with

762
00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 3: celebrities that mean a lot to me. And then I'll

763
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,320
Speaker 3: meet them again and say, oh, nice to meet you,

764
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 3: and they go, I met you. I did with Larry

765
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 3: David I think I talked about on the show. But

766
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,799
Speaker 3: it's happened a couple times since then with people. But

767
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 3: I also have amnesia for really like awful things like that,

768
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 3: and I'll put it away until it's ready, And so

769
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:06,359
Speaker 3: I tucked it away, but man, I.

770
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: Almost like cried. I was like, that was a joke.

771
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:11,839
Speaker 3: I was like, first of all, don't let jokes go

772
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 3: until I laugh at them, Like, make sure I know

773
00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 3: it's a joke. It's so annoying because I'm a comedian

774
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 3: and Chris is really funny and this happens to us

775
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:22,800
Speaker 3: a lot where he will make jokes and I won't

776
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:25,840
Speaker 3: know he's joking, and it's a thing that happens to

777
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 3: me as a comedian that first of all, I can't

778
00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 3: take jokes like other people in terms of like if

779
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 3: you make fun of me, I will take it. I'm

780
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,880
Speaker 3: very very sensitive, but I should be. I dole it

781
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 3: out all the time. So there's this like obviously hypocritical.

782
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 1: Thing about me in that way. And I also don't

783
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:44,320
Speaker 1: understand jokes.

784
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 3: I don't think people are making jokes constantly like for me,

785
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 3: there's a place.

786
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 1: For jokes, and I don't. Brian did it to me yesterday.

787
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 1: He had me going for like two minutes about it.

788
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 1: God accept me.

789
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 5: I kept exaggerating and exaggerating again, just waiting.

790
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:01,720
Speaker 2: For you to laugh.

791
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,719
Speaker 3: So this is not just Chris that has dealt with this, Like,

792
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 3: I think it was as obvious as that Brian, what

793
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,360
Speaker 3: Chris had done, and that to me was not obvious

794
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 3: at all. Like I almost hold a little autistic because

795
00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:15,439
Speaker 3: nothing about that was different from the way you normally talk.

796
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 3: Or I just couldn't. I couldn't tell the difference. So

797
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 3: tell them what happened.

798
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 5: To be fair, I do have a very dry delivery,

799
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:23,719
Speaker 5: and I frequently get that, like, I didn't realize you

800
00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:25,399
Speaker 5: were joking, So it's not just you both.

801
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:27,879
Speaker 6: Is this the Barbie thing? Thank god you're talking about, Yes,

802
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 6: the Barbie thing.

803
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:32,879
Speaker 5: So our other friend hasn't seen the Barbie movie yet,

804
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 5: and she was saying that I don't want to go

805
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:37,719
Speaker 5: see it because I'm definitely gonna be let down because

806
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:39,919
Speaker 5: everyone's talking it up so much and saying how good

807
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,760
Speaker 5: it is and how fun it is. And then Nicky

808
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:43,640
Speaker 5: was like, it is good, it is fun, and she's like, well,

809
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 5: now I'm not going to I'm gonna be disappointed no

810
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 5: matter what. So then I go, well, I actually have

811
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:52,280
Speaker 5: several groups of friends who said it was the worst

812
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:55,720
Speaker 5: movie they've ever seen. They said it was too woke

813
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 5: and too preachy and it made them physically ill to

814
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,919
Speaker 5: sit through the movie. And then NICKI was like, what,

815
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 5: what the fuck? Who are these people? And I'm like, yes.

816
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 5: Several of them got up and walked out in the

817
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:09,759
Speaker 5: middle of the film and asked for their money back,

818
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:10,399
Speaker 5: and then.

819
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,720
Speaker 6: She's like what what? Who are these people?

820
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:17,400
Speaker 5: They wait to the alley and started spontaneously vomiting because

821
00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:18,799
Speaker 5: they were so disturbed.

822
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 3: They would they A couple of them said they would

823
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 3: rather eat shit than watch.

824
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:24,760
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, ever again.

825
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,360
Speaker 5: One friend said, I would rather take a shit in

826
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:31,320
Speaker 5: my hand and eat it than watch one more second

827
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:32,640
Speaker 5: of the Barbie movie?

828
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:35,480
Speaker 1: Is this a friend I know of yours? Because I

829
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 1: know a lot Brian and I have a lot of

830
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 1: friends in come in, So I go, if this was

831
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 1: Rob Stern, this sucks because I love Rob Stern and

832
00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:43,839
Speaker 1: I cannot be friends with someone who talked this way

833
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:46,920
Speaker 1: about the Barbie movie, like they sound insane. And so

834
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: Brian was going on and on and I everyone in

835
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:49,839
Speaker 1: the room.

836
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 3: There was two other girls in the room. They knew

837
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 3: he was joking, and they often don't know he's joking.

838
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 3: They don't know Brian as well as I do. And

839
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 3: so a lot of times I'm the one that's like

840
00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:01,080
Speaker 3: he's joking, but this time I was just that's this

841
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 3: is what the same mood I was in the other

842
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 3: that time that happened with Chris, Like I just miss

843
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 3: the joke and I wish I could go back because

844
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:09,600
Speaker 3: that night was kind of stolen from me.

845
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,319
Speaker 1: So you need to get remarried so I can. But

846
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: I did.

847
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 3: I will say that there was this moment of like

848
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 3: thinking my relationship was over and then watching yours and

849
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 3: I go, well, that's what I want, you know, Like

850
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:22,760
Speaker 3: it gave me like it was almost like a good

851
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 3: timing of it where it was like, Okay, don't give up,

852
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 3: and your whole vows were about like finding Ali when

853
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:30,799
Speaker 3: you had kind of given up, and so I was

854
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 3: already I was already like thinking of like I have

855
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:35,480
Speaker 3: to start over now, I have to put myself back

856
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 3: out there and hope I found someone that's more compatible

857
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 3: for me, that doesn't yell at me. Ten years into

858
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 3: our relationship one time, and thank god, it was a joke,

859
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,799
Speaker 3: and Chris was horrified that I didn't get it, like

860
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 3: he felt really misunderstood, which is another thing in our relationship.

861
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 1: He films up.

862
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 3: Yes, I think probably yeah, because he just realized this

863
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 3: whole night his girlfriend was like thinking that you were

864
00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 3: breaking up, Like he felt like he looked at the

865
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:00,880
Speaker 3: whole weekend and was having that like lashback of like,

866
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 3: well that wasn't real. You weren't happy then, And the

867
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 3: truth was no, I was in turmoil, you know, And

868
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 3: so I.

869
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: Think he how to get out of my apartment.

870
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:13,839
Speaker 3: And I was thinking about the summer rolls that we

871
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 3: were about to eat, and I was like, okay, so

872
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 3: now I know you're joking. Now just say I'm sorry

873
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 3: you felt that way, which is my big thing. It's like,

874
00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:22,280
Speaker 3: if you don't mean to hurt someone's feelings, it doesn't

875
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:24,319
Speaker 3: matter if you meant to or not.

876
00:39:24,719 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 1: You know, I don't believe in free will.

877
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 3: Brian certainly does, because yesterday we argued about it for

878
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 3: literally an hour and a half in front of these

879
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 3: two girls that we're talking about, and they honestly could

880
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 3: file like Workmen's comp for the torture of listening to

881
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 3: this debate. They are they were. They didn't say a

882
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 3: word the whole time. It was I wish this debate

883
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 3: was like for we could go out there for like,

884
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:46,360
Speaker 3: I mean, a bonus pod.

885
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:51,239
Speaker 5: I was, I, I understand you were getting you were

886
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 5: getting frustrated. You said, you're getting frustrated. I like debating

887
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 5: for almost like the joy of the debate me too,

888
00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:58,280
Speaker 5: just to have.

889
00:39:58,120 --> 00:40:01,359
Speaker 1: The philosophical because I felt like afterwards, because it did

890
00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:03,759
Speaker 1: get it got a little screamy, but in a way

891
00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:06,160
Speaker 1: that's like the way I scream, which is like, no, Brian,

892
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 1: like you don't see like it wasn't like I was

893
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:09,919
Speaker 1: mad at you. There were times I was a little

894
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: mad because I just felt like, why can't you get this?

895
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 1: You're smart? But it's because that's my fault.

896
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:18,759
Speaker 3: I didn't explain it right, but because there is no

897
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 3: like there's no argument it does there is no free will.

898
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 3: There's like no, that's my other thing is like, right, well,

899
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 3: it is true. It's like veganism. The two things I

900
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:29,239
Speaker 3: feel right about are veganism and no free will. Other

901
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 3: other than that, I'm pretty much wrong about everything, including

902
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 3: wanting to not be a mother.

903
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 1: So but I will.

904
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 3: Say that afterwards I felt closer to you, Like now,

905
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:42,399
Speaker 3: I feel like that is how I all.

906
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:44,320
Speaker 1: That is really how I bond with people.

907
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 3: Because I felt like as we were arguing and it

908
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 3: was going on for literally ninety minutes. You guys, non stop,

909
00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 3: one subject in one room. Ninety minutes, Probably wouldn't you say, Brian.

910
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, no, it was ninety minutes.

911
00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:58,320
Speaker 1: It was crazy.

912
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 3: So I felt during it at some points this is

913
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:03,319
Speaker 3: gonna this might be bad for us, because I don't

914
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:05,880
Speaker 3: I've heard before that I come on really strong and

915
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:08,359
Speaker 3: that this can push people away. But because you were

916
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 3: engaged the whole time and didn't seem to give up,

917
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 3: I go, let's just keep going. Let's like, I don't know,

918
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 3: I'm not ready to give up. And so but by

919
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 3: the end of it, I was like, I have no

920
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 3: animosity to do or tim, I'm not carrying this around,

921
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 3: Like God, why doesn't he get it? We did not

922
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 3: agree on any We agreed on a couple points, but

923
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 3: like most points, did not agree. I do not feel

924
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,760
Speaker 3: satisfied that I did a good job of the debate

925
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:29,359
Speaker 3: because we walked away feeling the same way.

926
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 1: Nothing was accomplished in that way.

927
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:33,719
Speaker 3: But and two people were very annoyed to the point

928
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 3: where they never want to be around me again.

929
00:41:37,040 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 2: So because thinking you learned something like, neither of you

930
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:43,399
Speaker 2: are like, Okay, she had a.

931
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: Good point, he had a good point, No, I don't think.

932
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 5: So what I walked away from we found some common

933
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 5: ground and we were searching for we were trying to

934
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:54,400
Speaker 5: search for the thing that we agree on, and mostly

935
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:56,440
Speaker 5: we're trying to starch for what is the fundamental thing

936
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 5: we disagree on, because we don't even know really what

937
00:41:58,560 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 5: that is.

938
00:41:59,320 --> 00:41:59,800
Speaker 1: We've had it.

939
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:00,799
Speaker 6: I was searching for it.

940
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:04,120
Speaker 3: He kept saying, what's really upset me? Was like, but

941
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:06,879
Speaker 3: this doesn't matter to me. I don't care. And I go, oh,

942
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 3: so you don't care about you thing. You've argued for

943
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 3: ninety minutes, So you just wasted my fucking time.

944
00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 1: Like I didn't say fuck, but maybe I did. And

945
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 1: but I so you.

946
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:17,439
Speaker 6: Fucking fucking.

947
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:19,480
Speaker 1: Vegan donut.

948
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,840
Speaker 3: I will say though that I I do think that

949
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:26,040
Speaker 3: debating makes me feel closer to people like I really like.

950
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:28,880
Speaker 3: And it doesn't mean that we have to agree at

951
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 3: the end. It doesn't mean like fighting and not. It

952
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:33,839
Speaker 3: wasn't fighting. And I sound like my parents right now

953
00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 3: because my whole entire childhood, I would say stop fighting,

954
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 3: and they'd.

955
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: Go, we are arguing where not fighting? You know?

956
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 3: Like that was always my first stand up joke I

957
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 3: ever wrote, was in like fifth grade because my parents

958
00:42:46,320 --> 00:42:48,880
Speaker 3: would say, we're not fighting.

959
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:50,120
Speaker 1: I at least thought of it.

960
00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 3: I didn't think of it like this is a stand

961
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:52,960
Speaker 3: up joke, but it was my first thing that I

962
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 3: look back on and I go, oh, that was kind

963
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:56,839
Speaker 3: of a bit. Was my parents used to say, we're

964
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 3: not fighting, We're having a discussion. And in my head,

965
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 3: I was like, well, when we have discussions in my

966
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:05,840
Speaker 3: fourth class about you know where the red fern grows,

967
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 3: missus Stiffler doesn't throw a chair and scream fuck you,

968
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 3: ea ja or whatever. You know what I was saying,

969
00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 3: because it was like they always would say they discuss things,

970
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 3: and I'm like, well, I think you're screaming at each

971
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 3: other and nothing's getting resolved. So I do come from

972
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 3: a family of screamers and debaters.

973
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 1: But I liked it.

974
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 4: I just wanted to So I just wanted to share

975
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:30,799
Speaker 4: something because I relate to you in the way that

976
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 4: in my previous relationships, I used to bond with my

977
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 4: partner through arguing, and in my household, that's how we

978
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:41,840
Speaker 4: used to show emotions towards each other. It was like

979
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 4: through argument and there was never a resolution. But in

980
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:48,840
Speaker 4: this current relationship, we can't bond over arguing, we bond

981
00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 4: over the discussion that we have after. So now what

982
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 4: we do is if we have a fight, we're not

983
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:56,880
Speaker 4: allowed to hug at the end. And that's like for

984
00:43:57,040 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 4: my request because I don't wantative reinforce negative reinforcement, right,

985
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 4: but I don't want to receive the affection because my

986
00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:09,400
Speaker 4: love language is physical touch after we have a argument fight,

987
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:12,440
Speaker 4: because then my brain is like, ooh, are you a

988
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:14,240
Speaker 4: good hugging and kissing?

989
00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 1: That's interesting?

990
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 3: Well what if it's the hugging and kissing after the result?

991
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:18,120
Speaker 3: Like does it?

992
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 1: Can it be like we're fighting and then we discuss

993
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 1: and then there's a hug. No, we have to walk

994
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:24,799
Speaker 1: away from it, and then we can hug it.

995
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 7: Out smart no later It's really wow, what is like

996
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 7: really in tune with stuff that's so smart?

997
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:38,480
Speaker 3: I will say that I'd never feel closer to someone

998
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 3: debating romantically like I feel much closer to Brian, Like

999
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 3: he is someone that can like really hang with me

1000
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 3: in terms of because I like debating and I don't

1001
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 3: think a lot of my girlfriends do. And I think

1002
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:53,240
Speaker 3: it's a masculine trait that I have and it's nice

1003
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:56,279
Speaker 3: to be able to do that with a friend and

1004
00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 3: not have any ill will afterwards. I mean it could be.

1005
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 3: I mean maybe you had some. I don't want to

1006
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:03,400
Speaker 3: mean to speak for both of us, but I felt

1007
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 3: like none afterwards. I felt like almost cathartic and like, oh,

1008
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 3: we just had like a bonding sash.

1009
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 6: And yeah, I mean we have to.

1010
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:14,320
Speaker 5: We agreed on the We agreed on the ground rules

1011
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:18,920
Speaker 5: of what we were doing intrinsically without discussing tacitly without

1012
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 5: discussing it, which is that this is a debate for fun,

1013
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 5: and if at any point one of us is truly

1014
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 5: feeling upset or attacked, then it needs to end. But

1015
00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 5: that never happened. Yeah, that's what you got to go

1016
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 5: into debates like that. It was like for you know,

1017
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 5: some people do, like there is debate club, you know

1018
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 5: in school, Like some people do debate as a hobby.

1019
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 1: You'd probably it's fun. I have family.

1020
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 2: I really think I want to do it. Feel intimacy

1021
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 2: after fighting. I don't mind a debate, but I do

1022
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 2: not like an insult in that. Like, I'm good up

1023
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 2: until if there's any implication that I'm a fool or

1024
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 2: dumb or any criticism of me, I'm out I'm just

1025
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 2: like I'm done. Like I was in a debate with

1026
00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 2: I'm in this group and we talk about race issues

1027
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:07,759
Speaker 2: and I disagreed about something someone was saying and they

1028
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:10,439
Speaker 2: were like, I'm really disappointed in you. That's like such

1029
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 2: a Basically.

1030
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 3: I kept saying to Brian, you're smarter than this. I

1031
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:19,919
Speaker 3: was exactly using that. I'm sorry, Brian, if I made

1032
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 3: you feel stupid, that's a no. No, I mean, that's.

1033
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 5: That's that's not it's the fallacy that you can't use

1034
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 5: during a debate. But like I think, I think during

1035
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:31,800
Speaker 5: our debate, what I really appreciated was that they were

1036
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:36,440
Speaker 5: we were very self aware during the debate, where like

1037
00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:40,760
Speaker 5: sometimes you would say like I am feeling frustrated because

1038
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 5: I can't figure out the thing that can't get you

1039
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:46,319
Speaker 5: to understand this, and I would and then at one

1040
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 5: point I was like, the thing I want to do

1041
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 5: right now is attack Sam Harris personally, but I know

1042
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:54,320
Speaker 5: that that's wrong. So it's kind of like it was

1043
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 5: also self awareness that.

1044
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:00,480
Speaker 1: Look at this guy. I look at this guy and

1045
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 1: he showed me a picture and I was like, that's

1046
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:05,520
Speaker 1: not he was like in another picture of a guy

1047
00:47:05,560 --> 00:47:12,440
Speaker 1: that beautiful I go, you don't. I thought, don't start

1048
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 1: taking down Sam. He ris He's on the right side

1049
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:17,319
Speaker 1: of things, man, and he's like, he's he's saying that

1050
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:19,399
Speaker 1: molesters should just be able to molest because they can't

1051
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:21,920
Speaker 1: help their brains. I go, he is not saying that

1052
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 1: I said that, and I'm not really It was like,

1053
00:47:25,440 --> 00:47:26,360
Speaker 1: but it wasn't that.

1054
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:30,280
Speaker 3: He did it was it was I had a blaster

1055
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 3: Rooney doing it. And I do think I need to

1056
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 3: get into an adult debate club because of it. I

1057
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 3: don't I don't know the rules of debate, and so

1058
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:39,879
Speaker 3: I should maybe explore that a little bit. But as

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Speaker 5: Right, you're yeah more or a lot are things that

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Speaker 1: Today would be right back with more show. All right,

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Speaker 1: we're back, so.

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Speaker 5: We can you Can you save me a conversation or

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Speaker 5: two and just tell because I know that Ali listens

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Speaker 5: to Ali's mom listens to this. Can can you just tell?

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Speaker 5: Explain that you had a good time at the wedding

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Speaker 5: so that when they're listening to this, they're not going,

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Speaker 5: I mean, you did have a good time.

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Speaker 6: You enjoyed the wedding.

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Speaker 1: No, I true, I loved the way.

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Speaker 3: I want to be very clear that despite what was

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00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 3: going on in my brain, I had an amazing time

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Speaker 3: at the wedding. First of all, the food was the

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00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 3: greatest wedding food I've ever had in my life. I

1134
00:51:16,239 --> 00:51:19,520
Speaker 3: got double plates because there was vegan plates made especially

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Speaker 3: for me, and then I had the waitress go get

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Speaker 3: me more. I had so many Brussels sprouts. I The

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00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 3: music was amazing, The dancing was amazing, The company was amazing,

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Speaker 3: the place, the table settings were amazing. There was these

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Speaker 3: every they love national parks, Ali and Brian and so

1140
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Speaker 3: all the place sttings at the tables had these like

1141
00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 3: coasters that had national parks on them. And our said

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Speaker 3: Saint Louis H Gateway Arch because it's a national park.

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Speaker 1: And that was our table. And we were sitting with

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Speaker 1: Adam Conover.

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Speaker 3: And his wife girlfriend Lisa partner Lisa Hannah Walt, who

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00:51:55,280 --> 00:52:00,840
Speaker 3: is the animator for many things including uh BoJack Horseman and.

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00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:02,040
Speaker 6: And she created Tuca and Bertie.

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00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 3: And Tuka and Bertie starring Ali Wong who is able

1149
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 3: to you know, juggle it all and then and it

1150
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:12,319
Speaker 3: was like I really did put my emotion, Like I

1151
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 3: was not hijacked that whole night by my thought process.

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00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:17,480
Speaker 3: It was there was times when I went to the

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00:52:17,520 --> 00:52:19,399
Speaker 3: bathroom and had a little bit of a moment where

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00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:21,840
Speaker 3: I would like kind of just process what I what

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00:52:21,920 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 3: had happened. But when I stepped back in that room,

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00:52:23,719 --> 00:52:26,040
Speaker 3: you couldn't help but forget your worries and just have

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00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:29,080
Speaker 3: a great time singing and dancing along to music and

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00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:33,680
Speaker 3: celebrating Brian and Alley which was there was. I truly,

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Speaker 3: when I think back on your wedding, I'm not thinking

1160
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Speaker 3: about how I was thinking about the end of my relationship.

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Speaker 3: And that's why I hadn't even told it on the

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Speaker 3: podcast yet, because it's not the first thing I think

1163
00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 3: about when I think about your wedding at all. It

1164
00:52:44,200 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 3: was amazing, totally matched by Anna's wedding two weeks later.

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Speaker 3: I had the best wedding experience this summer ever. Great

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Speaker 3: weddings and by the way, great food at Anya's wedding too.

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Speaker 3: I can I just tell you what I discovered at

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Speaker 3: Onion's wedding that I didn't know was delicious grilling romane.

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Speaker 1: Oh I didn't get to that. Fuck what was he?

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00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 1: Are you fucking kidding me? Was it? Never think putting

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Speaker 1: olive oil and some salt and probably garlic on roman

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Speaker 1: lettuce and then roasting it or whatever the fuck they

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00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:21,719
Speaker 1: did grilling it. It was so you would think like, well,

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Speaker 1: that's not gonna be good.

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Speaker 3: It looked like soggy lettuce, no offense, That's what it

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Speaker 3: looked like it was. I went back, I ate probably

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Speaker 3: half the dish.

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Speaker 1: It was so fucking good.

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Speaker 6: That's awesome.

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Speaker 1: It was so good and the vegan I didn't know.

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Speaker 2: I thought they were gonna do like some vegan stuff,

1182
00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:37,640
Speaker 2: but I found out, like.

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Speaker 1: The viewers were amazing. Crab cakes.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I didn't know those weren't crab Those were

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Speaker 2: not crab what?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't eat them. That was vegan.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was vegan. It was like palm hearts.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how they get grabbed. Palm so good.

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Speaker 3: Speaking like I have this this calamaria that I get

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Speaker 3: at Crossroads in Los Angeles, which is a vegan place,

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Speaker 3: and they.

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Speaker 1: Do yeah parts of palm Friday. Had you had that

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Speaker 1: with me?

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Speaker 2: Anya, weren't they soodus uttering right now?

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Speaker 1: Me Tarter Sauce.

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Speaker 2: Show guys, and that place on tour that was like

1197
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Speaker 2: vegan all vegan sushi. What is it called Planta? Oh

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Speaker 2: my god? They made us crab.

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Speaker 1: Cakes so good?

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Speaker 2: I am.

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Speaker 3: Can I ask you as a question, what you guys think.

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Speaker 3: I am getting a food truck for a giant number

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00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 3: of people this Friday, I think, and let's just assume

1204
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 3: most of these people aren't vegan. I am buying it though,

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Speaker 3: and I'm not trying to force my ways on anyone else,

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Speaker 3: Like I don't want to force people to be vegan

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Speaker 3: if they don't like it.

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna get a food truck.

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Speaker 3: If I were to do a vegan food truck, it

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Speaker 3: would be one that like makes stuff that, like everyone

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Speaker 3: agrees is fucking dope.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that's too?

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00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:50,920
Speaker 5: Like?

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00:54:51,280 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 3: Ugh, this girl, like, I'm giving a gift, but I'm like,

1215
00:54:54,760 --> 00:54:56,680
Speaker 3: I want you to have it the way I want it,

1216
00:54:57,040 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 3: or should I just get like meat and cheese, normal

1217
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 3: food because I don't care that people like that.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even know the crab cakes were not real.

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Speaker 2: This is a just a dilemma I had. And then

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Speaker 2: I just concluded, you know what, like I'm not vegan,

1221
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Speaker 2: but a few of my good friends are. The person

1222
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Speaker 2: marrying us is. And then Matt vegan options. You thought

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Speaker 2: you thought the crab cakes were not real? Yeah, like

1224
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:22,680
Speaker 2: the cakes, so you thought that you would opt.

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Speaker 1: For people that weren't vegan, and you did have it.

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Speaker 2: But I was still like, should we have chicken? And

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Speaker 2: Matt's like, Babe, people can do without meat for one

1228
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Speaker 2: meal of their lives, which is one hundred percent true,

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: But I just don't want anyone to go God.

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Speaker 1: But you know what if they think that they're la

1232
00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:44,040
Speaker 1: people are vegan anyway and people love free food, I'm

1233
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Speaker 1: telling you.

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Speaker 6: They're truck that can do both. That can't something do vegan.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to.

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Speaker 3: I'm kind of like, you know what, I think the

1237
00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:53,919
Speaker 3: one of people that don't like vegan food are cut

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00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:56,880
Speaker 3: and I would be in a place that actually is

1239
00:55:56,880 --> 00:56:01,320
Speaker 3: doing it right, that isn't making it like vegan like grossy.

1240
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Speaker 1: You know what I mean, Like, I know the difference.

1241
00:56:01,880 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 1: I like, I know the different vegan. Yeah.

1242
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:07,839
Speaker 3: I asked a girl that's helping me to look into it,

1243
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:09,799
Speaker 3: and but I was kind of so that you just

1244
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 3: confirmed what I already thought I was gonna do, which

1245
00:56:12,200 --> 00:56:15,759
Speaker 3: is the right thing, and and maybe someone will go

1246
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 3: you know what, I can't even tell the difference and

1247
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:20,400
Speaker 3: not like I saw when I did beat Bobby Flay.

1248
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Speaker 3: My proudest moment was when a guy made a vegan cheese. Yeah,

1249
00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:27,360
Speaker 3: on beat Bobby Flay, a guy made I was vegan.

1250
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 3: So the whole episode had to be vegan, and everyone

1251
00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:30,840
Speaker 3: seemed to be very like whoa.

1252
00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 1: I guess, And one.

1253
00:56:34,080 --> 00:56:36,560
Speaker 3: Of the judges was like this like New York, Like

1254
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 3: I like pepperoni and I'm like a pizza New York guy,

1255
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 3: and they were making Philly cheese steaks vegan, which is

1256
00:56:42,719 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 3: like a very hard thing to make vegan. In fact,

1257
00:56:45,160 --> 00:56:47,319
Speaker 3: the most disgusting vegan thing I've ever had was a

1258
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:49,759
Speaker 3: Philly cheese steak in Philly that was vegan. It was

1259
00:56:50,239 --> 00:56:53,239
Speaker 3: I've never had anything disgusting vegan, and it makes my

1260
00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:56,799
Speaker 3: stomach charn thinking about it. Because my friend, uh, this

1261
00:56:56,880 --> 00:56:58,720
Speaker 3: guy that I was like kind of interested in dating,

1262
00:56:59,200 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 3: he I ordered from a vegan place and he was

1263
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 3: trying to be like he liked me, so he was like, oh,

1264
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:05,600
Speaker 3: get something vegan too. I don't even eat vegan, but

1265
00:57:05,640 --> 00:57:07,440
Speaker 3: I'll do it. So he ordered a vegan cheese take

1266
00:57:07,480 --> 00:57:08,880
Speaker 3: and I was like, ew, I wouldn't get that. That

1267
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 3: seems gross but okay, and he was like, no, I

1268
00:57:11,080 --> 00:57:12,640
Speaker 3: think it'd be good. I'm vegan, I could do I

1269
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 3: could swig with this. And then he got it and

1270
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 3: offered me a bite, and I was like, that is disgusting,

1271
00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 3: and I lost respect for him because he was kind

1272
00:57:18,360 --> 00:57:20,200
Speaker 3: of pretending to like it, and I was like, he's

1273
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:22,640
Speaker 3: just doing that for me, and it is gross. So anyway,

1274
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:28,640
Speaker 3: they made these amazing, amazing vegan Philly Cheese Stakes because

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00:57:28,640 --> 00:57:31,520
Speaker 3: they're amazing chefs, Bobby and then the other chef he

1276
00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 3: was going against, and then the cool New yorka like

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Speaker 3: I don't know what about this.

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00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 1: He was Asian, by the way, I'm not even joking

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00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:43,480
Speaker 1: you he was, but he was still kind of like

1280
00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 1: a little bit New York like cool, and he was

1281
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:49,880
Speaker 1: like Italian Asian. I don't know how to describe it.

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Speaker 6: Blenty of friends like that, who are yes.

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00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 1: Are you this is a moment of you being fag.

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00:57:57,800 --> 00:57:59,600
Speaker 5: No, I grew up in New York and I have

1285
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:05,160
Speaker 5: friends to talk like, are from I mean, it's not

1286
00:58:05,560 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 5: that's not unusual.

1287
00:58:06,440 --> 00:58:10,680
Speaker 1: Okay. So was it Michael Voltaggio. No, it was one

1288
00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:11,360
Speaker 1: of the judges.

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00:58:11,400 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 3: So Michael Voltaggio was the other celebrity like that was

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Speaker 3: hosting it with me, and then it was one of

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00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:19,160
Speaker 3: the judges.

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Speaker 1: He was Asian, but he bit into this Philly cheese

1293
00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:24,920
Speaker 1: steak and he was like, oh God, this is as

1294
00:58:24,920 --> 00:58:25,360
Speaker 1: good as.

1295
00:58:25,240 --> 00:58:27,360
Speaker 3: Anything I've ever had. And he was so I knew

1296
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 3: he was. He was coming into it being like, what's

1297
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:31,960
Speaker 3: this going to be? And it was so awesome to

1298
00:58:32,000 --> 00:58:33,960
Speaker 3: see him go this is as good as any meat

1299
00:58:34,000 --> 00:58:35,000
Speaker 3: product I've ever had.

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Speaker 1: It was so nice. And by the way, there's a name.

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Speaker 1: Guess what I don't know.

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Speaker 4: If you want to watch the glazier episode of Beat

1303
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:45,600
Speaker 4: Bobby Flay, the next one will be September twenty first

1304
00:58:45,640 --> 00:58:49,440
Speaker 4: at six thirty pm, five thirty full time Sweets on

1305
00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:51,840
Speaker 4: the Food Network. It's a really good more errings that.

1306
00:58:52,640 --> 00:58:53,280
Speaker 4: Oh wow.

1307
00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:56,040
Speaker 3: And if you guys also want to watch F Boy Island,

1308
00:58:56,400 --> 00:58:58,200
Speaker 3: I should do a plug for that. It is coming

1309
00:58:58,240 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 3: out on the CW October twelfth.

1310
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Speaker 1: I'm very excited. Yes, Thursday, October twelfth. Is that the

1311
00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:08,560
Speaker 1: former season?

1312
00:59:08,840 --> 00:59:16,240
Speaker 3: No, this is season three, new season just recently, very

1313
00:59:16,360 --> 00:59:22,640
Speaker 3: very exciting, so much drama, so much comedy, the funniest

1314
00:59:22,680 --> 00:59:23,520
Speaker 3: season by far.

1315
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Speaker 2: The boys or do we know any of the boys?

1316
00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:31,840
Speaker 3: I can't tease any of the boys. You may or

1317
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 3: may not know people. If you watch, if you've never

1318
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 3: watched F Boy before, it doesn't matter. You can jump

1319
00:59:36,840 --> 00:59:39,120
Speaker 3: in the season. You don't need any prior knowledge.

1320
00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:39,400
Speaker 1: Okay.

1321
00:59:39,440 --> 00:59:41,600
Speaker 3: So that's the good news. And the other good news

1322
00:59:41,680 --> 00:59:43,560
Speaker 3: is on the CW. So this isn't You don't have

1323
00:59:43,600 --> 00:59:46,240
Speaker 3: to download a streamer. This is going to go straight

1324
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:50,160
Speaker 3: to what's that guy? Oh, that's Pierce Pierce. Yeah, So

1325
00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:52,360
Speaker 3: f Boy Island on Instagram, you can go there and

1326
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:54,080
Speaker 3: you can see they put up some of the guy's

1327
00:59:54,120 --> 00:59:56,880
Speaker 3: profiles and Pierce, we made fun of a lot that

1328
00:59:56,920 --> 00:59:57,960
Speaker 3: he looks like me.

1329
00:59:59,400 --> 01:00:02,360
Speaker 1: We he's the same style, and he does.

1330
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:04,840
Speaker 3: He does resemble me, and that is flattering to me

1331
01:00:04,840 --> 01:00:07,240
Speaker 3: because he is a gorgeous man. And without makeup, I

1332
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:10,000
Speaker 3: definitely look like Piers. Maybe with makeup, I look more

1333
01:00:10,040 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 3: like Piers. He's gorgeous. And so you'll see some guys

1334
01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:15,680
Speaker 3: on the f Boy Island Instagram. You can follow it

1335
01:00:15,720 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 3: there and follow along. But it is a insane season

1336
01:00:18,880 --> 01:00:21,480
Speaker 3: and it's really going to feel like the Bachelor Bacherette

1337
01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:23,120
Speaker 3: in the past in terms of like you have to

1338
01:00:23,160 --> 01:00:24,880
Speaker 3: wait a week to get the next episode. So it's

1339
01:00:24,880 --> 01:00:27,520
Speaker 3: gonna build momentum, it's going to build suspense, and you

1340
01:00:27,560 --> 01:00:29,600
Speaker 3: can watch it, and so can your parents, because you

1341
01:00:29,640 --> 01:00:31,120
Speaker 3: know your parents don't know how to work their fucking

1342
01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:34,600
Speaker 3: tuobi's or whatever. So just just is on normal cable.

1343
01:00:34,680 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 3: So look up CW whatever number it is on your

1344
01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:41,200
Speaker 3: dial and watch it live on Thursdays starting October twelfth

1345
01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:44,240
Speaker 3: on the CW set your DVRs now, it really mean

1346
01:00:44,280 --> 01:00:46,320
Speaker 3: a lot to me. Let me just say that the

1347
01:00:46,360 --> 01:00:50,480
Speaker 3: way ratings are right now, you guys, if twenty of

1348
01:00:50,520 --> 01:00:53,960
Speaker 3: you DVR this right now and watch it, never in

1349
01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:58,160
Speaker 3: the history of television in the you know, sixty seventy years,

1350
01:00:58,160 --> 01:00:59,600
Speaker 3: It's been around eighty years.

1351
01:00:59,600 --> 01:01:00,360
Speaker 1: I don't know how long.

1352
01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:04,800
Speaker 3: Your your little view of something really didn't matter because

1353
01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:08,120
Speaker 3: shows used to get like six million viewers because there

1354
01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 3: were three networks, right, and then we go to the

1355
01:01:09,960 --> 01:01:13,160
Speaker 3: nineties and it was still like a big everyone was

1356
01:01:13,200 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 3: watching stream like you know, cable and TV. So you're

1357
01:01:16,680 --> 01:01:19,080
Speaker 3: you were just one of millions and you didn't really matter.

1358
01:01:19,080 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 3: If you skipped out something, your rating didn't help.

1359
01:01:21,480 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 1: I'm not kidding you.

1360
01:01:23,160 --> 01:01:26,120
Speaker 3: Sixty of you watching the show could make me get

1361
01:01:26,160 --> 01:01:29,640
Speaker 3: another season of this. It actually your your vote matters

1362
01:01:30,040 --> 01:01:32,080
Speaker 3: more than ever. I'm not telling you. I'm not saying

1363
01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:34,680
Speaker 3: people with Nielsen boxes watch it. I'm just saying anyone

1364
01:01:34,760 --> 01:01:37,919
Speaker 3: watch it. I just want I know that that would

1365
01:01:37,920 --> 01:01:39,560
Speaker 3: make me feel special if I was a viewer, like,

1366
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:41,480
Speaker 3: because I know in the past when people have been like,

1367
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:43,600
Speaker 3: watch my thing, I'm like, does it really fucking matter?

1368
01:01:44,000 --> 01:01:48,000
Speaker 3: This actually does, because no one watches anything anymore and.

1369
01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:51,320
Speaker 2: Everything you have saturated watch it. Yes, But if you

1370
01:01:51,360 --> 01:01:54,400
Speaker 2: don't have TV, what if you only have streamers.

1371
01:01:53,880 --> 01:01:55,920
Speaker 3: And CW dot com and you can go you can

1372
01:01:55,960 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 3: download the CW app and stream it every week.

1373
01:01:58,640 --> 01:02:00,000
Speaker 1: Sure, get to find.

1374
01:01:59,800 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 6: Out if the CW is on Hulu. Yeah, it should be.

1375
01:02:03,280 --> 01:02:04,560
Speaker 1: I think one of those.

1376
01:02:06,160 --> 01:02:10,320
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, yeah, so yes, currently F Boy Island is

1377
01:02:10,360 --> 01:02:14,200
Speaker 5: on Hulu, but you can only watch season two, so

1378
01:02:14,720 --> 01:02:17,760
Speaker 5: I don't think you can watch CW live on Hulu

1379
01:02:18,040 --> 01:02:18,480
Speaker 5: at least that.

1380
01:02:18,600 --> 01:02:20,880
Speaker 3: It will probably be the next day, So Hulu the

1381
01:02:20,960 --> 01:02:23,760
Speaker 3: next day you can probably watch.

1382
01:02:23,880 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 1: F Boy three.

1383
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:26,000
Speaker 2: Yes, and make a difference.

1384
01:02:26,160 --> 01:02:26,600
Speaker 1: We will.

1385
01:02:26,640 --> 01:02:30,240
Speaker 3: It's so fun it's so funny. There are things this

1386
01:02:30,280 --> 01:02:32,600
Speaker 3: season that I just couldn't believe they let me say

1387
01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:35,640
Speaker 3: and do, and I'm just so fucking excited about it.

1388
01:02:35,680 --> 01:02:38,040
Speaker 3: So please check that out. I wanted to talk about

1389
01:02:38,200 --> 01:02:40,360
Speaker 3: the other night I was on a show. I don't

1390
01:02:40,400 --> 01:02:41,919
Speaker 3: want to name names because I don't want people figure

1391
01:02:41,920 --> 01:02:43,600
Speaker 3: out who I'm talking about, but I do want you

1392
01:02:43,680 --> 01:02:47,080
Speaker 3: to probably guess. I want people to like try to

1393
01:02:47,080 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 3: figure it out, but I want to make it so

1394
01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:51,360
Speaker 3: it's like leaves reasonable doubt because I don't want to

1395
01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:53,160
Speaker 3: give any specifics. But I was on the show with

1396
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:56,400
Speaker 3: some heavy hitters, right, it's pretty good show. And then

1397
01:02:56,400 --> 01:03:00,760
Speaker 3: the person that went on after me ran the light

1398
01:03:00,960 --> 01:03:03,440
Speaker 3: quite a bit. Now i'm talking to a comedian here,

1399
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:07,960
Speaker 3: Brian's here. Anya, You're very familiar with how times work

1400
01:03:08,000 --> 01:03:10,960
Speaker 3: and how shows run. You're performing yourself, What do you

1401
01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:15,040
Speaker 3: think is acceptable to run the light? You know, if

1402
01:03:15,080 --> 01:03:17,920
Speaker 3: you think you're pretty hot, shit, what do you think

1403
01:03:18,000 --> 01:03:20,120
Speaker 3: is acceptable amount.

1404
01:03:19,840 --> 01:03:21,600
Speaker 1: Of time on the running?

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01:03:22,480 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 3: Okay, so if you're doing a fifteen minute set, which

1406
01:03:24,520 --> 01:03:26,520
Speaker 3: these are fifteen minute sets, and there's five people on

1407
01:03:26,560 --> 01:03:29,919
Speaker 3: the show, let's say, or six doing a fifteen minute set,

1408
01:03:30,800 --> 01:03:32,600
Speaker 3: you can usually get the light. The person asks you

1409
01:03:32,640 --> 01:03:34,520
Speaker 3: the light guy goes, when do you want the light?

1410
01:03:34,720 --> 01:03:37,200
Speaker 3: I always say two minutes. That means a two minute light,

1411
01:03:37,280 --> 01:03:39,240
Speaker 3: meaning I have two minutes before it's fifteen minutes, So

1412
01:03:39,280 --> 01:03:42,400
Speaker 3: I get a light at thirteen minutes. This person definitely

1413
01:03:42,400 --> 01:03:45,360
Speaker 3: got asked when do you want the light? Definitely saw

1414
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:48,600
Speaker 3: the light because he's not a fucking idiot, and he's

1415
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:51,040
Speaker 3: performed at this place before. God, I gave him a gender.

1416
01:03:51,040 --> 01:03:54,160
Speaker 3: I was going to keep it gender or maybe a

1417
01:03:54,280 --> 01:03:54,880
Speaker 3: change the gender.

1418
01:03:54,920 --> 01:03:55,280
Speaker 1: You don't know.

1419
01:03:55,360 --> 01:04:00,200
Speaker 3: I work in very mysterious ways, so this person definitely

1420
01:04:00,240 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 3: knew where the light was coming from. Is not a stranger.

1421
01:04:04,040 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 3: I know it is, and ran the light and I

1422
01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:10,280
Speaker 3: just want to ask you guys what you think. And

1423
01:04:10,320 --> 01:04:12,560
Speaker 3: by the way, I've run the light before, I'm not

1424
01:04:12,600 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 3: immune to it. Because sometimes you get the light and

1425
01:04:14,480 --> 01:04:18,600
Speaker 3: you're like fuck either you end you close at like

1426
01:04:18,760 --> 01:04:21,200
Speaker 3: you know ten seconds to go, and you're right on schedule,

1427
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:22,840
Speaker 3: but your joke sucks, so you go, let me just

1428
01:04:22,880 --> 01:04:25,160
Speaker 3: fit in one more joke. And sometimes that joke is

1429
01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:27,560
Speaker 3: two minutes long because you just have to scramble and

1430
01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:27,920
Speaker 3: pick one.

1431
01:04:28,000 --> 01:04:29,680
Speaker 1: You go, fuck, I picked a two minute long joke.

1432
01:04:29,800 --> 01:04:32,560
Speaker 3: So sometimes you run the light two minutes, three minutes,

1433
01:04:33,520 --> 01:04:37,439
Speaker 3: four minutes. I start looking at my watch at three,

1434
01:04:38,040 --> 01:04:41,479
Speaker 3: I start getting angry. At four, what do you think

1435
01:04:41,560 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 3: is a time where you go, who the fuck do

1436
01:04:44,200 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 3: you think you are?

1437
01:04:45,320 --> 01:04:45,640
Speaker 1: Time?

1438
01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:49,280
Speaker 3: Because that's the time this person reached and I'm pissed

1439
01:04:49,280 --> 01:04:50,080
Speaker 3: about it, and am.

1440
01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:52,760
Speaker 1: I going to confirm this person? You fucking no? I

1441
01:04:52,800 --> 01:04:53,480
Speaker 1: won't no.

1442
01:04:53,600 --> 01:04:55,520
Speaker 3: At four is when I start looking and I start

1443
01:04:55,960 --> 01:04:57,400
Speaker 3: getting ready to text the sound guy.

1444
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 5: I think at five five minutes, it's worthy of being

1445
01:05:01,920 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 5: like you're making a mistake. But if the person does

1446
01:05:05,560 --> 01:05:09,200
Speaker 5: ten to fifteen minutes over the light, which is double

1447
01:05:09,400 --> 01:05:12,160
Speaker 5: the set, then that's fuck you. Who the fuck do

1448
01:05:12,200 --> 01:05:12,880
Speaker 5: you think you are?

1449
01:05:13,520 --> 01:05:14,320
Speaker 1: Double the set?

1450
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:17,360
Speaker 3: Okay, so at fifteen at thirty minutes, you think that's

1451
01:05:17,400 --> 01:05:18,560
Speaker 3: who the fuck do you think you are?

1452
01:05:19,680 --> 01:05:20,560
Speaker 6: Yeah, Like I would if.

1453
01:05:20,760 --> 01:05:23,360
Speaker 5: They went five minutes over, I'd be like, bro, but

1454
01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:26,680
Speaker 5: I wouldn't be like fuck you. So five minutes over,

1455
01:05:26,760 --> 01:05:29,160
Speaker 5: like that's pretty rude, but I'm not going to say

1456
01:05:29,200 --> 01:05:31,640
Speaker 5: fuck you to your face. But if they doubled their

1457
01:05:31,640 --> 01:05:34,680
Speaker 5: set fifteen minutes, which means which what that means is

1458
01:05:35,040 --> 01:05:37,760
Speaker 5: there is going to be a lesser known comedian who

1459
01:05:37,800 --> 01:05:39,120
Speaker 5: will not get to go up.

1460
01:05:39,040 --> 01:05:42,800
Speaker 3: Because Brian, there isn't going to be a lesser known

1461
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 3: comedian that gets to go up less time. There's going

1462
01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:47,600
Speaker 3: to be better known comedians who are ahead of you

1463
01:05:47,680 --> 01:05:49,360
Speaker 3: on the show who you need to be a little

1464
01:05:49,440 --> 01:05:52,440
Speaker 3: reverential to if you ask me, and not act like

1465
01:05:52,480 --> 01:05:54,640
Speaker 3: such a fucking big shot just because you're making more

1466
01:05:54,680 --> 01:05:55,720
Speaker 3: money than us right.

1467
01:05:55,640 --> 01:05:59,600
Speaker 1: Now, Like it is it? Oh, Mike, it's easy to

1468
01:05:59,640 --> 01:06:00,000
Speaker 1: figure out.

1469
01:06:00,280 --> 01:06:03,320
Speaker 3: But this person ran the light eleven minutes and do

1470
01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:05,800
Speaker 3: you want to know why? I know exactly eleven minutes

1471
01:06:05,880 --> 01:06:09,640
Speaker 3: because I texted the sound guy to say. I wrote

1472
01:06:09,680 --> 01:06:11,680
Speaker 3: to the sound guy because the person that was going

1473
01:06:11,680 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 3: on after him I was next to and I go,

1474
01:06:13,600 --> 01:06:17,120
Speaker 3: this is up. This is unacceptable, and he's like, yeah,

1475
01:06:17,400 --> 01:06:19,800
Speaker 3: we started making fun of this guy being like, he goes,

1476
01:06:19,880 --> 01:06:21,920
Speaker 3: I think he thought the light was begin your set,

1477
01:06:22,360 --> 01:06:24,240
Speaker 3: like he thought. He goes, oh, he got a fifteen

1478
01:06:24,240 --> 01:06:26,720
Speaker 3: minute light or whatever. He's making fun of him, so

1479
01:06:26,800 --> 01:06:28,960
Speaker 3: he's like but then he starts getting annoyed because it's

1480
01:06:28,960 --> 01:06:30,880
Speaker 3: like it's just this person wanted to go home.

1481
01:06:31,880 --> 01:06:33,600
Speaker 2: In the comic that was going up, the people gave

1482
01:06:33,680 --> 01:06:35,760
Speaker 2: him a follow up light, like one of those like

1483
01:06:35,840 --> 01:06:37,200
Speaker 2: come on, the lady's just on.

1484
01:06:37,440 --> 01:06:40,040
Speaker 3: You flick it on and it's just on. O. It's

1485
01:06:40,080 --> 01:06:41,400
Speaker 3: in the back of the room. It's a red light

1486
01:06:41,560 --> 01:06:45,080
Speaker 3: and it's just on. So this person went eleven minutes

1487
01:06:45,120 --> 01:06:47,280
Speaker 3: over and I texted the sound guy. The funniest part

1488
01:06:47,360 --> 01:06:48,800
Speaker 3: is I text the sound guy and I go, I

1489
01:06:48,840 --> 01:06:50,640
Speaker 3: want to I want to read the text exchange because

1490
01:06:50,680 --> 01:06:54,000
Speaker 3: it's really funny because he doesn't really know me that well.

1491
01:06:54,240 --> 01:06:57,720
Speaker 1: This sound guy and he didn't know know.

1492
01:06:57,720 --> 01:06:59,880
Speaker 5: That they're missing the light. It's like sometimes the light

1493
01:07:00,080 --> 01:07:01,840
Speaker 5: goes on and you don't see it and you're like,

1494
01:07:01,880 --> 01:07:03,600
Speaker 5: oh my god, how long have I been up here for?

1495
01:07:03,960 --> 01:07:05,960
Speaker 5: And then you're like, I'm so sorry. That doesn't last

1496
01:07:06,160 --> 01:07:07,320
Speaker 5: eleven extra minutes.

1497
01:07:07,360 --> 01:07:07,600
Speaker 6: Though.

1498
01:07:08,040 --> 01:07:11,080
Speaker 2: The infuriating thing is, I bet no women do this.

1499
01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:15,840
Speaker 2: I bet it's final all male comedians. Women do do this.

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01:07:15,960 --> 01:07:17,960
Speaker 2: There's women who do this, but I will say I

1501
01:07:17,960 --> 01:07:18,600
Speaker 2: have never.

1502
01:07:18,400 --> 01:07:19,200
Speaker 1: I haven't seen this.

1503
01:07:19,240 --> 01:07:21,400
Speaker 3: But the only time I've seen this happen is one

1504
01:07:21,440 --> 01:07:23,960
Speaker 3: time I was working with the Sclars in Canada, the

1505
01:07:24,000 --> 01:07:27,040
Speaker 3: Sclore brothers and John dor who is a fucking dream

1506
01:07:27,160 --> 01:07:29,760
Speaker 3: of a person. John dor Dori one of the funniest

1507
01:07:29,800 --> 01:07:32,280
Speaker 3: people ever. His Conan with Rory Scovel is one of

1508
01:07:32,320 --> 01:07:34,560
Speaker 3: the best YouTube clips I ever show people. They do

1509
01:07:35,120 --> 01:07:38,520
Speaker 3: a duet on Conan that is like Conan says, we

1510
01:07:38,560 --> 01:07:42,400
Speaker 3: excellently booked two comedians tonight are booking that we fucked up,

1511
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:44,920
Speaker 3: and they're just going to perform together, and so they

1512
01:07:44,960 --> 01:07:47,560
Speaker 3: go out and do their sets at the same time.

1513
01:07:47,640 --> 01:07:49,320
Speaker 3: You can't understand either of them, but they have it

1514
01:07:49,400 --> 01:07:51,880
Speaker 3: choreographed perfectly. It's one of the funniest things ever. So anyway,

1515
01:07:51,960 --> 01:07:55,080
Speaker 3: John dor went twenty five minutes over and the scolars

1516
01:07:55,120 --> 01:07:57,040
Speaker 3: and I were like, what is going on? This is

1517
01:07:57,040 --> 01:07:59,800
Speaker 3: a thirty minute scent and he's doing forty five. And

1518
01:08:00,480 --> 01:08:03,280
Speaker 3: at the end of it, John really was like, I'm

1519
01:08:03,360 --> 01:08:05,080
Speaker 3: so sorry with I don't even know what.

1520
01:08:05,080 --> 01:08:07,080
Speaker 1: I was thinking. Like you could tell he was shocked

1521
01:08:07,080 --> 01:08:07,400
Speaker 1: by it.

1522
01:08:07,600 --> 01:08:11,640
Speaker 3: Listen, I have gone over egregiously before, and egregiously I

1523
01:08:11,720 --> 01:08:16,000
Speaker 3: mean five six minutes, but it's because I'm last on

1524
01:08:16,080 --> 01:08:18,680
Speaker 3: the show, or I know that the show is a

1525
01:08:18,760 --> 01:08:20,720
Speaker 3: late show so it can run late. So I know

1526
01:08:20,760 --> 01:08:23,080
Speaker 3: that the person to make him go late too, so

1527
01:08:23,200 --> 01:08:26,400
Speaker 3: this person. So I wrote to the sound guy, hey

1528
01:08:26,439 --> 01:08:27,280
Speaker 3: do you have an uh?

1529
01:08:27,280 --> 01:08:28,840
Speaker 1: I go, I go.

1530
01:08:28,960 --> 01:08:30,840
Speaker 3: Please let me know how long he's been on, just

1531
01:08:30,880 --> 01:08:33,760
Speaker 3: for my own curiosity. He goes twenty so far I

1532
01:08:33,800 --> 01:08:36,320
Speaker 3: thumbed up it. I said, I want him to keep going.

1533
01:08:36,400 --> 01:08:39,519
Speaker 3: This is unreal, And he goes seriously because I was like,

1534
01:08:39,800 --> 01:08:41,479
Speaker 3: sometimes when I when they start running the light, I

1535
01:08:41,520 --> 01:08:42,360
Speaker 3: want to I want.

1536
01:08:42,200 --> 01:08:44,160
Speaker 1: Them to go like I want the.

1537
01:08:46,320 --> 01:08:46,519
Speaker 3: World.

1538
01:08:46,800 --> 01:08:48,360
Speaker 1: Yes, so this is twenty right.

1539
01:08:48,400 --> 01:08:50,360
Speaker 3: So now he's five over, which is to me, this

1540
01:08:50,439 --> 01:08:52,639
Speaker 3: is I've I told you at four minutes, I start going,

1541
01:08:52,680 --> 01:08:54,400
Speaker 3: I want to text the sound guy. Five minutes I'm

1542
01:08:54,439 --> 01:08:57,439
Speaker 3: texting the sound guy and I go, I want him

1543
01:08:57,479 --> 01:09:00,840
Speaker 3: to keep going. This is unreal. He goes, seriously, I

1544
01:09:00,880 --> 01:09:04,200
Speaker 3: said it because he came to a point where he

1545
01:09:04,200 --> 01:09:06,000
Speaker 3: could finish, you know, there was the end of the joke.

1546
01:09:06,400 --> 01:09:07,920
Speaker 3: And he puts his leg up on the stool and

1547
01:09:07,920 --> 01:09:11,760
Speaker 3: he starts going at it again. I go, he's not done.

1548
01:09:12,040 --> 01:09:14,280
Speaker 3: And then the guy, the sound guy wrote back killing

1549
01:09:14,680 --> 01:09:16,280
Speaker 3: and I go, oh my god, this sound guy thinks

1550
01:09:16,320 --> 01:09:18,360
Speaker 3: I'm saying this is unreal, like I want him to

1551
01:09:18,439 --> 01:09:20,720
Speaker 3: keep going, like I love this bit, and I go,

1552
01:09:20,920 --> 01:09:23,200
Speaker 3: oh my god, I'm saying all this because I'm annoyed.

1553
01:09:23,680 --> 01:09:26,000
Speaker 3: Unreal as in, how do comics run the light like this,

1554
01:09:26,240 --> 01:09:29,679
Speaker 3: especially in front of blank the person who is he's

1555
01:09:30,360 --> 01:09:33,040
Speaker 3: you know, going in front of who is someone who

1556
01:09:33,400 --> 01:09:36,680
Speaker 3: deserves a lot of respect for his business. And then

1557
01:09:36,720 --> 01:09:39,679
Speaker 3: we start we kept talking shit, and that's a sound

1558
01:09:39,680 --> 01:09:42,400
Speaker 3: guy who I will not say the name of, but

1559
01:09:43,080 --> 01:09:47,840
Speaker 3: uh yeah, I should I confront this person because I

1560
01:09:47,840 --> 01:09:50,280
Speaker 3: feel like talking. I think I want to to say something.

1561
01:09:50,320 --> 01:09:52,760
Speaker 3: This person would not look at me. Afterwards, we didn't

1562
01:09:52,760 --> 01:09:55,800
Speaker 3: talk to each other. In the green room. So this

1563
01:09:55,840 --> 01:09:57,719
Speaker 3: person and I did not talk to each other after

1564
01:09:57,760 --> 01:10:01,840
Speaker 3: the show. I just think he I think he kind

1565
01:10:01,840 --> 01:10:03,639
Speaker 3: of gets maybe he gets the vibe.

1566
01:10:03,640 --> 01:10:07,439
Speaker 1: I don't care for him very much. And do you

1567
01:10:07,439 --> 01:10:08,280
Speaker 1: know who it is, Brian?

1568
01:10:09,600 --> 01:10:12,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, you told me, Oh okay, But I don't think

1569
01:10:12,520 --> 01:10:14,799
Speaker 5: I don't think you should confront this person. I think

1570
01:10:14,880 --> 01:10:19,200
Speaker 5: that it's pointless. It's like it's the deed is done.

1571
01:10:19,360 --> 01:10:21,479
Speaker 5: It was just us show and in the grand scheme

1572
01:10:21,520 --> 01:10:25,120
Speaker 5: of things, that show means less than nothing to anybody.

1573
01:10:25,200 --> 01:10:26,120
Speaker 6: So maybe he'll.

1574
01:10:26,000 --> 01:10:29,280
Speaker 3: Keep what I'm talking about. No, he's going to keep

1575
01:10:29,320 --> 01:10:31,280
Speaker 3: doing it. And what I want to know is why

1576
01:10:31,280 --> 01:10:33,680
Speaker 3: did you do that? Why did you need to work

1577
01:10:33,720 --> 01:10:36,640
Speaker 3: on that bit that was perfectly worked out? That's what

1578
01:10:36,640 --> 01:10:38,479
Speaker 3: I kind of want to ask him, is why did

1579
01:10:38,520 --> 01:10:40,639
Speaker 3: you do that? Because the answer is I think I'm

1580
01:10:40,680 --> 01:10:41,800
Speaker 3: better than you.

1581
01:10:41,800 --> 01:10:46,479
Speaker 1: No, I was. I went before him. Oh I see,

1582
01:10:46,840 --> 01:10:49,640
Speaker 1: so I it wasn't It didn't affect me. This was

1583
01:10:49,680 --> 01:10:55,200
Speaker 1: not me to give a shit. Yeah, I mean everyone

1584
01:10:55,600 --> 01:10:58,519
Speaker 1: everyone couldn't believe it. And the person afterwards, even this.

1585
01:10:58,600 --> 01:11:00,240
Speaker 2: Person know.

1586
01:11:02,240 --> 01:11:03,080
Speaker 1: That he ran the light.

1587
01:11:04,920 --> 01:11:09,720
Speaker 3: That people were annoyed. No, but I'm sorry he's been

1588
01:11:09,720 --> 01:11:12,000
Speaker 3: in the business long enough. You know the rule of

1589
01:11:12,040 --> 01:11:15,040
Speaker 3: the light. You don't do eleven minutes, which is what

1590
01:11:15,160 --> 01:11:18,599
Speaker 3: percentage of fifteen minutes is eleven minutes an eighty percent

1591
01:11:18,680 --> 01:11:20,720
Speaker 3: of your set. You don't do an You don't do

1592
01:11:20,760 --> 01:11:23,280
Speaker 3: a one to eighty. You do one hundred percent of

1593
01:11:23,280 --> 01:11:25,519
Speaker 3: your set. Yeah, he gave it one hundred and eighty percent.

1594
01:11:25,560 --> 01:11:28,040
Speaker 3: I'll tell you that. When people say I gave this

1595
01:11:28,080 --> 01:11:30,840
Speaker 3: two one hundred and ten percent, he gave it one

1596
01:11:30,920 --> 01:11:32,040
Speaker 3: hundred and eighty percent.

1597
01:11:32,400 --> 01:11:35,479
Speaker 1: This guy, it just you know, I just you know

1598
01:11:35,520 --> 01:11:37,400
Speaker 1: what I want to do. I just want to say, why,

1599
01:11:37,800 --> 01:11:39,600
Speaker 1: why did you think that was okay?

1600
01:11:39,640 --> 01:11:44,439
Speaker 5: Maybe he was thinking that I'm crushing this audience is

1601
01:11:44,479 --> 01:11:47,000
Speaker 5: loving me, and you're here for me. It's the show

1602
01:11:47,080 --> 01:11:48,840
Speaker 5: for me to be up here longer, because this is

1603
01:11:49,040 --> 01:11:49,679
Speaker 5: what's a good answer.

1604
01:11:50,000 --> 01:11:52,000
Speaker 3: See, I would take that answer and I would say,

1605
01:11:52,000 --> 01:11:55,160
Speaker 3: you know what, if you if they were there for you,

1606
01:11:55,200 --> 01:11:57,360
Speaker 3: I could see how this would go. But how about

1607
01:11:57,400 --> 01:11:59,600
Speaker 3: you do the courtesy that Bill Bird did to me

1608
01:12:00,160 --> 01:12:03,400
Speaker 3: when he bumped me and bumped I'm saying that's usually

1609
01:12:03,400 --> 01:12:05,720
Speaker 3: as a negative connotation. He just got up before me

1610
01:12:05,760 --> 01:12:08,160
Speaker 3: and wasn't on the list, and he went over to me,

1611
01:12:08,200 --> 01:12:09,760
Speaker 3: which he did not need to do because he's Bill

1612
01:12:09,800 --> 01:12:11,960
Speaker 3: Fuckingburn He can do whatever he wants in my mind,

1613
01:12:12,680 --> 01:12:14,639
Speaker 3: But he went over. He found me, and he said,

1614
01:12:14,640 --> 01:12:16,640
Speaker 3: do you mind if I go in front of you?

1615
01:12:16,880 --> 01:12:20,800
Speaker 3: And he asked, unlike one other comedian that used to

1616
01:12:20,800 --> 01:12:22,800
Speaker 3: bump me all the time and never fucking ask who

1617
01:12:22,840 --> 01:12:25,960
Speaker 3: thinks he's a hot shot because he was this guy back.

1618
01:12:25,760 --> 01:12:27,679
Speaker 1: In the day. Now he's kind of fallen from grace.

1619
01:12:28,360 --> 01:12:30,759
Speaker 3: But you know why this guy would This guy probably

1620
01:12:30,760 --> 01:12:32,280
Speaker 3: would have done this back in the day, even when

1621
01:12:32,320 --> 01:12:34,000
Speaker 3: he wasn't a big deal.

1622
01:12:34,479 --> 01:12:37,479
Speaker 1: But I don't I don't care for it. I don't

1623
01:12:37,479 --> 01:12:38,240
Speaker 1: care how big you are.

1624
01:12:38,240 --> 01:12:39,800
Speaker 3: I don't care how much you think the audience is

1625
01:12:39,800 --> 01:12:42,719
Speaker 3: there for you have a little respect for the show,

1626
01:12:42,920 --> 01:12:44,960
Speaker 3: the run of show, for the waite staff who has

1627
01:12:45,000 --> 01:12:48,120
Speaker 3: to deal with these patrons for longer and reset the

1628
01:12:48,160 --> 01:12:54,080
Speaker 3: room in an urgent way. And also, don't don't give

1629
01:12:54,360 --> 01:12:56,880
Speaker 3: you know what I think he would say, probably that

1630
01:12:57,000 --> 01:12:59,720
Speaker 3: bit just took that long. And that's what me and

1631
01:12:59,760 --> 01:13:02,120
Speaker 3: my friend we're laughing about, was like, we know what

1632
01:13:02,160 --> 01:13:04,040
Speaker 3: it's like to get in you you pick a bit

1633
01:13:04,080 --> 01:13:05,680
Speaker 3: to finish up with and you go, oh shit, this

1634
01:13:05,720 --> 01:13:08,080
Speaker 3: is a seven minute bit, but I only have two minutes.

1635
01:13:08,720 --> 01:13:10,520
Speaker 1: You make edits because.

1636
01:13:10,280 --> 01:13:13,559
Speaker 3: You're a professional and you know your own material and

1637
01:13:13,600 --> 01:13:15,240
Speaker 3: you know how to make cuts. If you don't know

1638
01:13:15,240 --> 01:13:17,799
Speaker 3: how to do that, go back to the open MIC's bitch,

1639
01:13:18,080 --> 01:13:20,280
Speaker 3: you don't, you're not good enough. I have to stick

1640
01:13:20,320 --> 01:13:22,479
Speaker 3: to your seven minute bet exactly the way it is

1641
01:13:22,680 --> 01:13:25,360
Speaker 3: with your fucking dumb thirty second pauses.

1642
01:13:25,080 --> 01:13:25,800
Speaker 1: That no one needs.

1643
01:13:25,800 --> 01:13:28,720
Speaker 3: So we all are waiting a baited breat breath, all

1644
01:13:28,720 --> 01:13:29,920
Speaker 3: of this like performative shit.

1645
01:13:30,360 --> 01:13:33,120
Speaker 1: I'm pissed, and it's really say that.

1646
01:13:33,240 --> 01:13:37,400
Speaker 5: I've literally I've ended sets by saying, well, I can't

1647
01:13:37,400 --> 01:13:40,320
Speaker 5: finish the bit. I'mount of time. I guess you're gonna

1648
01:13:40,320 --> 01:13:42,560
Speaker 5: have to see me some other time. Goodbye, And I

1649
01:13:42,560 --> 01:13:45,320
Speaker 5: would leave that way that's happened before. That's cool, like,

1650
01:13:45,360 --> 01:13:48,160
Speaker 5: especially if you're opening up for somebody like I, like,

1651
01:13:48,200 --> 01:13:50,200
Speaker 5: oh my god, I realized that I'm a couple of

1652
01:13:50,240 --> 01:13:52,320
Speaker 5: minutes over. There's no way I can finish this bit

1653
01:13:52,760 --> 01:13:53,920
Speaker 5: and you're not here to see me.

1654
01:13:54,000 --> 01:13:55,519
Speaker 6: I'm out, or at least.

1655
01:13:55,360 --> 01:13:57,599
Speaker 2: If you get carry it away and you're like, god,

1656
01:13:57,640 --> 01:14:00,000
Speaker 2: I'm having so much fun out here in the crowd

1657
01:14:00,200 --> 01:14:03,040
Speaker 2: just loving it. And then well, if you go over

1658
01:14:03,160 --> 01:14:06,240
Speaker 2: and everyone goes over, own it, get off stage and

1659
01:14:06,280 --> 01:14:07,760
Speaker 2: be like, sorry, I went way over.

1660
01:14:08,040 --> 01:14:10,000
Speaker 1: I'm not going to do that. I apologize to every

1661
01:14:10,760 --> 01:14:12,320
Speaker 1: eleven minutes.

1662
01:14:12,640 --> 01:14:15,400
Speaker 5: But the key fact here is that this was the

1663
01:14:15,439 --> 01:14:17,720
Speaker 5: early show, and so that's not just being rude to

1664
01:14:17,760 --> 01:14:20,080
Speaker 5: the comedians, it's being rude to the staff because they

1665
01:14:20,080 --> 01:14:22,360
Speaker 5: have a very short amount of time to turn around

1666
01:14:22,400 --> 01:14:26,120
Speaker 5: the room for the next show, and to extend that

1667
01:14:26,200 --> 01:14:29,880
Speaker 5: show by even ten minutes makes their job nearly impossible.

1668
01:14:30,000 --> 01:14:32,040
Speaker 3: Which just stick to what your time is. You're only

1669
01:14:32,040 --> 01:14:34,280
Speaker 3: getting paid three hundred bucks for the spot, like do

1670
01:14:34,400 --> 01:14:36,880
Speaker 3: your time. Don't act like it's like, well, I need

1671
01:14:36,920 --> 01:14:38,920
Speaker 3: to do the time that you know I get paid for,

1672
01:14:39,080 --> 01:14:41,840
Speaker 3: Like we're all getting paid the same. But I will

1673
01:14:41,880 --> 01:14:43,439
Speaker 3: say that Mark Marin over the weekend, I went to

1674
01:14:43,479 --> 01:14:45,000
Speaker 3: the Country store and he was in front of me,

1675
01:14:45,040 --> 01:14:46,720
Speaker 3: and I was late for my next set, so I

1676
01:14:46,720 --> 01:14:49,080
Speaker 3: had to be on stage. And if I get on

1677
01:14:49,080 --> 01:14:51,120
Speaker 3: stage exactly what I'm supposed to do, I'm already late

1678
01:14:51,160 --> 01:14:53,519
Speaker 3: for my next set, but I already have it arranged

1679
01:14:53,520 --> 01:14:55,200
Speaker 3: that it's going to be okay with the next set.

1680
01:14:55,600 --> 01:14:57,000
Speaker 1: So Mark Marin's on stage.

1681
01:14:57,360 --> 01:15:00,400
Speaker 3: He starts running the light a little bit in a okay,

1682
01:15:00,400 --> 01:15:03,120
Speaker 3: wait two minutes over. I'm still like, what, it's fine,

1683
01:15:03,240 --> 01:15:05,040
Speaker 3: he's as long as he's like finishing up the bit

1684
01:15:05,120 --> 01:15:07,439
Speaker 3: that started before the light began, I'm fine.

1685
01:15:07,479 --> 01:15:08,240
Speaker 1: And it's Mark Maren.

1686
01:15:08,280 --> 01:15:10,120
Speaker 3: By the way, Mark Maren can do whatever he wants.

1687
01:15:10,240 --> 01:15:12,360
Speaker 3: He's a goat, right, and he kind of looks like

1688
01:15:12,400 --> 01:15:17,120
Speaker 3: a goat sometimes. So he he finishes a bit, and

1689
01:15:17,120 --> 01:15:18,920
Speaker 3: then it wasn't what he wanted it to be, and

1690
01:15:18,920 --> 01:15:21,080
Speaker 3: I could tell. And I'm in the back of the

1691
01:15:21,160 --> 01:15:23,919
Speaker 3: room and I'm like like, kind of looking like Mark.

1692
01:15:23,760 --> 01:15:24,439
Speaker 1: Please finish.

1693
01:15:24,520 --> 01:15:26,280
Speaker 3: I gotta make my set, And I'm texting with my

1694
01:15:26,280 --> 01:15:28,320
Speaker 3: next set, being like and I'm telling the girl in

1695
01:15:28,400 --> 01:15:30,439
Speaker 3: the booth, I'm texting that in next set, saying I'm

1696
01:15:30,439 --> 01:15:32,120
Speaker 3: gonna be late. But I'm also telling the girl who's

1697
01:15:32,160 --> 01:15:33,960
Speaker 3: running the light at this place, I can't do fifteen minutes.

1698
01:15:33,960 --> 01:15:34,759
Speaker 1: I have to do eight minutes.

1699
01:15:34,800 --> 01:15:37,000
Speaker 3: I'm gonna make miss my next set, so I'm cutting

1700
01:15:37,040 --> 01:15:39,400
Speaker 3: my time as Mark goes on. So then Mark goes

1701
01:15:39,600 --> 01:15:41,120
Speaker 3: he knows I'm next because he's bringing me up, and

1702
01:15:41,120 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 3: he goes Nikki can I do one more bit. I'm sorry,

1703
01:15:44,479 --> 01:15:46,040
Speaker 3: you don't care if I do one more bit. And

1704
01:15:46,080 --> 01:15:48,439
Speaker 3: the woman next to me has seen me panicking up

1705
01:15:48,520 --> 01:15:50,559
Speaker 3: unto this point. And the woman next to me is

1706
01:15:50,560 --> 01:15:52,840
Speaker 3: my old roommate's mother, who's a little brazen and might

1707
01:15:52,840 --> 01:15:53,960
Speaker 3: have had a couple of cocktails.

1708
01:15:54,280 --> 01:15:58,439
Speaker 1: So I go, it's fine. She goes no, she like

1709
01:15:58,520 --> 01:16:03,439
Speaker 1: shouts es, but it's not okay. And I got and

1710
01:16:03,439 --> 01:16:04,080
Speaker 1: I go, Mark.

1711
01:16:03,920 --> 01:16:06,240
Speaker 3: It's not it's fine, And I go God, and I

1712
01:16:06,360 --> 01:16:08,080
Speaker 3: lean back in my chair kind of like uh fuck,

1713
01:16:08,240 --> 01:16:10,719
Speaker 3: not at Mark, but because I gave him permission he asked,

1714
01:16:10,920 --> 01:16:13,760
Speaker 3: but more at the situation. And then Mark's friend is

1715
01:16:13,840 --> 01:16:16,200
Speaker 3: next to me, Tom Sharpling, a guy who's been on

1716
01:16:16,240 --> 01:16:18,559
Speaker 3: our podcast before. But Tom Starling came in with Mark,

1717
01:16:18,600 --> 01:16:20,360
Speaker 3: and I forgot Tom was sitting there. And then Tom

1718
01:16:20,439 --> 01:16:22,920
Speaker 3: saw me get exasperated, and I knew he was gonna

1719
01:16:22,920 --> 01:16:24,680
Speaker 3: tell Mark. So I go over to Tom and I go,

1720
01:16:24,920 --> 01:16:27,120
Speaker 3: will you please not tell Mark that I'm upset that

1721
01:16:27,160 --> 01:16:29,360
Speaker 3: he's running the light because I did give him permission.

1722
01:16:29,560 --> 01:16:31,320
Speaker 1: I'm just in my own head, and.

1723
01:16:31,280 --> 01:16:33,920
Speaker 3: So I will say that I do allow people to

1724
01:16:34,000 --> 01:16:35,840
Speaker 3: run the light when they ask or they acknowledge it,

1725
01:16:35,880 --> 01:16:37,720
Speaker 3: I don't care, but when you think you're hot shit,

1726
01:16:38,960 --> 01:16:40,479
Speaker 3: and I hope I never get to a place in

1727
01:16:40,520 --> 01:16:42,240
Speaker 3: my career where I think I'm such hot shit that

1728
01:16:42,280 --> 01:16:45,000
Speaker 3: I can treat other people worse and like I'm better

1729
01:16:45,040 --> 01:16:47,680
Speaker 3: than them, because to this person, you're not better than us.

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Speaker 3: You aren't And the only thing that makes you feel

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Speaker 3: good is to do stuff like this because you do

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Speaker 3: feel so so small and you you probably should go

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Speaker 3: to therapy, is my advice. And that's a podcast for

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Speaker 3: this today, for this today, Thank you for being here,

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Speaker 3: baby decisions, rants, relationship worries, wedding appreciation.

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Speaker 1: We will see you tomorrow

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Speaker 3: On the show Jobica and oh and you just go

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Speaker 3: see me on tour Chicago September fifteenth, Pory, Illinois, September sixteenth,

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Speaker 3: bunch of other dates at Mickey Glazer dot com