Speaker 1: I guess what decision we're about to make a horrible decision.
Speaker 1: Happy pried everybody. Mandy wanted us to do this episode alone.
Speaker 1: But I don't think we're gay enough. I think that
Speaker 1: you are very much gay. Bro. She's like, let's find
Speaker 1: someone gayer then, and I'm just like, I mean, I
Speaker 1: guess if we haven't ate enough couci on here to
Speaker 1: be like we have enough? If everyone is watching on YouTube,
Speaker 1: I think you understand what we mean by someone looks
Speaker 1: gayer than us? Right, that's crazy on purpose, that is
Speaker 1: what I felt like. Jade couldn't handle it. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: have said that, but she has known you for three
Speaker 1: to half minutes. If I knew Jade less night, I
Speaker 1: am trying to pictures but her pride month, I said,
Speaker 1: let's not funk up them again. Jade, Please, before we
Speaker 1: even introduce you to your pronounces, is she gonna was
Speaker 1: gone the first one? Deficode wasn't going to go out? Bro,
Speaker 1: How wasn't gonna see? It's so difficult. It's just too
Speaker 1: fucking different. No, no, no, it's not too difficult. Speak
Speaker 1: by yourself. Please, don't speak for yourself, speak for your
Speaker 1: god damn self doing that. I don't celebrate, and we're
Speaker 1: gonna celebrate them. Let's say this is so problematic, that's
Speaker 1: fine in language arts, I learned it as a plural word. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's a little difficult for me, that's all. Okay, I
Speaker 1: give up. Goddam. You ain't even google words, bro. You
Speaker 1: should be good at excitely, don't. Everybody who wanted to
Speaker 1: see here, son, I wasn't good at this? What is it?
Speaker 1: Fold little word? Anyways, Welcome to horrible decisions. We are
Speaker 1: not trying to get canceled, but welcome to another episode
Speaker 1: or Pride episode. Suk all of that. That's not what jade.
Speaker 1: Welcome so horrible decisions. It's gonna be here. We definitely
Speaker 1: wanted to have a Pride episode, of course, in honor
Speaker 1: of the month of June. We have a lot of
Speaker 1: gay men on here, though we have a lot of
Speaker 1: gay women. You'll be bringing them on because you'd be
Speaker 1: sucking them. You mean, I mean no. Sometimes I feel
Speaker 1: like it is easier to come come across like gay
Speaker 1: men than it is like lesbians, because everybody's like by
Speaker 1: now you know what I'm saying, but by is not lesbians?
Speaker 1: Can can I not look see looks to Jayang for women.
Speaker 1: That's what I made that as a point. It's easy
Speaker 1: to find gay men, but finding gay women or lesbians,
Speaker 1: I feel like everybody's by okay, so it is hard
Speaker 1: for me to sometimes find lesbian to come on the show.
Speaker 1: I hope you are all right. Can I also ask
Speaker 1: you um with your sexuality because I'll be looking for
Speaker 1: women to look like you. I ain't even gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: But when I know, seriously, I told you I have
Speaker 1: this issue when I went to couple of Cabana, right,
Speaker 1: so you know that's where the whole little parties and
Speaker 1: stuff being right in midtown, and I'll be I told y'all,
Speaker 1: and I've let y'all know, I want me a Bernie grinder, right.
Speaker 1: The problem is look and see not why is that?
Speaker 1: Literally one of my question is do you like your
Speaker 1: fetishized It's it's not even that they'd be fine as fun.
Speaker 1: The problem is the problem is no one that like.
Speaker 1: When I say I mean like not them lesbians, I'm
Speaker 1: talking about anyone but lipstick lesbians, which I funk everybody
Speaker 1: looks like me. I'll be wanting, like somebody come handle
Speaker 1: me a little bit. And the problem is when they
Speaker 1: find out I I like also real dick, They're like,
Speaker 1: they're not interested. Interesting. So is that a thing in
Speaker 1: the lesbian community where they have an issue with the
Speaker 1: bisexuals like my ass who still really want dick. But
Speaker 1: I'll take some fake dick too, but I also want
Speaker 1: real dick. Yeah, let's that I know, do not like
Speaker 1: they don't. It's the idea of like, I feel like
Speaker 1: a lot of people feel like, oh you like men too,
Speaker 1: and people have passed me and left for eyes. I've
Speaker 1: heard a lot of stories like that that has being
Speaker 1: entry into the words tell us a little bit about
Speaker 1: who you are, what you do, stuff like that. So
Speaker 1: I'm jade, as said, I'm a day trader. So I
Speaker 1: have a pretty easy schedule. You know. I trade in
Speaker 1: the morning and then I go to the gym and
Speaker 1: I spend the rest of my day, usually with my
Speaker 1: shorty or on horrible definitely flip in there. Definitely came
Speaker 1: in less than twenty four hours. Notice, yeah you have
Speaker 1: a shorty. Yeah we don't care. You don't see your
Speaker 1: fluk with it the all time. I'm just gonna do
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, we're open you what she look like
Speaker 1: she's thick and she's Latina. That's right, that's right, La,
Speaker 1: let's do it. Why can't you not about to edit
Speaker 1: your mic out for that she you are thinking Latin?
Speaker 1: I might be dating him them, that's hilarious. Um, question,
Speaker 1: you're open and and what I don't know because I
Speaker 1: feel like every lesbian we always make the joke that
Speaker 1: you know you haul on the second date. I'm super
Speaker 1: email like, how does an open relationship work in your
Speaker 1: lesbian relationship? Okay, so just to be clear, we are
Speaker 1: exclusively dating. We have not thrown true titles on anything.
Speaker 1: But um, we've just been like open to three songs
Speaker 1: and you know, things like that, you know, maybe if
Speaker 1: we're open to it giving someone a pass um. I
Speaker 1: feel like in my last relationship, I felt very confined sexually,
Speaker 1: and I've been very expressive sexually, like for like my
Speaker 1: whole life, and then to be in something so confined,
Speaker 1: I just kind of came out and I'm like viewing
Speaker 1: relationships very differently. I was very I was a serious
Speaker 1: serial like monogamous, like I'm not playing those games. But
Speaker 1: now I'm just like I just felt so like like
Speaker 1: tied up and I'm like now I'm like, no, I'm
Speaker 1: like loose and my partner is just like that, So
Speaker 1: what were they doing. I'm gonna say, yes, what were
Speaker 1: the conversations for that? Because that has been my issue
Speaker 1: with fully committing to women is they're just not only
Speaker 1: way more clinky than men, they do become very jealous
Speaker 1: very quickly. And so of course, I'm sure you have
Speaker 1: a lot of homegirls. How do you do like divide
Speaker 1: those lines between No, this is just the home girl.
Speaker 1: This isn't someone intimate when you're dating another woman. It's
Speaker 1: a little tricky because I've definitely fucked several of the
Speaker 1: home girls, so you know, but I don't know. It
Speaker 1: goes different every way. Um, every time I had one
Speaker 1: person I did, I told like all my friends that
Speaker 1: I had sucked, and then every time I hung out
Speaker 1: with them it was an issue. Yeah, I've had other
Speaker 1: people that were perfectly fine, but the person I'm doing
Speaker 1: with now, we just were so open. The communication is
Speaker 1: just like, so I feel like it would be hard
Speaker 1: for like, have you had any straight friends? And then
Speaker 1: he's like you can't hang Oh what wait for real? Yes, Jade,
Speaker 1: right now, for audib For those of you who are
Speaker 1: not watching us on the YouTube. She has her hair
Speaker 1: up in these dreadlocks in a bun and it is
Speaker 1: just so fucking big the hair is and you like
Speaker 1: to hide you and you know, for like a lesbian
Speaker 1: you kind of be like, damn, it's gonna be a
Speaker 1: short beat. Women do like No, that was the first
Speaker 1: thing I noticed when you walked in No shady. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was my first stud that I was attracted to,
Speaker 1: and she was on sex Cells last season. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm a little tall in her, Like, well, you just
Speaker 1: use the term and I'm curious and what I want
Speaker 1: to ask, Like she just said she was she interviewed
Speaker 1: young and maid. She referred to her as a stud.
Speaker 1: Now is there there's so much term yourself and what
Speaker 1: is offensive as well? Look see I oh, I pretty
Speaker 1: much try to be the safest and just say masculine presenting.
Speaker 1: So you kind of hear that a little bit more now.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's like real easy, real, Like no
Speaker 1: one's gonna really have issues with that, So that will
Speaker 1: have issues with the others, Like Dike, Definitely, I've heard
Speaker 1: that that word is like Okay, it's it's hard because
Speaker 1: like if someone is just calling you a dyke, Like
Speaker 1: what then is wrong with you? You know? But um,
Speaker 1: I know some people that, like some of my friends,
Speaker 1: might refer to themselves as like that's what I've heard
Speaker 1: that girl, the girl we had on christinaer Net, she'd
Speaker 1: be talking about she calls herself a dyke. But I
Speaker 1: think it's different, like it's it's the same way, like bro,
Speaker 1: we call each other niggas. But no, not that that's
Speaker 1: the point. You know. I didn't like the word. Okay,
Speaker 1: but have you ever called yourself any of those? Do
Speaker 1: you ever called yourself a stud? Stud? Yeah, definitely called
Speaker 1: myself a stud. I guess if I was to say one,
Speaker 1: I would say stuff okay, But again I'm more say
Speaker 1: masculine as someone who is so mask presenting. What do
Speaker 1: you think is the girliest ship you do? I'm so girly,
Speaker 1: that's the funny thing. Like where I mean, like, if
Speaker 1: you don't make up well not like physically, tell us
Speaker 1: so what are Yeah, what are the feminine traits than
Speaker 1: that you believe you have, which I loved it. You'll
Speaker 1: be crying. Well, that's not feminine. Girls man can cry too,
Speaker 1: I said they could. It's not feminized crying Okay, we
Speaker 1: want men to have emotions too, bitch, shut up. That's crazy.
Speaker 1: What we're more emotional? Like, we ain't just get through
Speaker 1: Mental Health Awareness month. I want to let maybe I
Speaker 1: am not shaming men for crying. Women are more emotionally
Speaker 1: and made crying a feminine trait. She just got to
Speaker 1: say something. Not really, honestly, it takes a lot for
Speaker 1: me to cry, okay, but I don't know, like people
Speaker 1: just say, like my mannerisms, will you kill a bug
Speaker 1: for your shorty? No? I am not that one the masculine. No.
Speaker 1: It's funny because you're just in her pool the other
Speaker 1: day and there was like a dead frog in there
Speaker 1: and we actually caught it on the video of me like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, like freaking out, like running away. I'm like, nah,
Speaker 1: I'm not that one. Can I ask you something? And
Speaker 1: this is not meant to be offensive. This is truly
Speaker 1: like a turn I heard once, and it was when
Speaker 1: we interviewed a trans man who talked about how before
Speaker 1: they were a no touch lesbian and when I was
Speaker 1: looking at women that were more mass presenting, touch me not,
Speaker 1: touch me not, and I was looking at girls that
Speaker 1: were mass presenting, so to speak, and one of my
Speaker 1: home girl like you like to eat pussy weight too
Speaker 1: much to funk with a bit like that, and I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, could you tell us have you ever
Speaker 1: felt like that, felt like you didn't want to be
Speaker 1: touched or anything like that, or ever felt ashamed of
Speaker 1: your genitals? Okay, so I was saying, Um, first coming
Speaker 1: into my sexuality, I was a little uncomfortable. Um, but
Speaker 1: I grew the hell up and I liked it. You know,
Speaker 1: I tried it. But there are probably partners that I
Speaker 1: have had that would probably be like, she doesn't like
Speaker 1: it too much, But it's like, no, they were just bad.
Speaker 1: That's how I feel like when terrible. I've been on
Speaker 1: here a lot being like I don't like head. It
Speaker 1: wasn't like I craze it because I hadn't really gotten
Speaker 1: it really good until my last partner. But with women,
Speaker 1: I will say I I'm good like I like to
Speaker 1: please women, So even though like I'm them presenting, I
Speaker 1: guess when when I'm with strictly women, I don't want
Speaker 1: them to touch me. I want to do all the work,
Speaker 1: let them lay there and when they're done, we could
Speaker 1: just cutle. Okay, but are you mostly fucking feminine women. Yes, okay,
Speaker 1: so I was just talk about this on Instagram today.
Speaker 1: I feel like feminine women. Most of the fems i've
Speaker 1: been with just give terrible heads. Yeah it's I don't
Speaker 1: know what it's about you. That's I don't know what's
Speaker 1: bad head. Yeah, that's why I was gonna at it
Speaker 1: like it hurts shout out and why does it feel
Speaker 1: like it's just ramming your tongue, Like oh my god,
Speaker 1: she was beautiful, and it was just like I had
Speaker 1: to be like ok and I just went back like
Speaker 1: I haven't had much good head from women, to be
Speaker 1: very honest, and I and I believe it. And the
Speaker 1: thing is like I've never had head from a mash
Speaker 1: one person. I mean like lesbian, but I know feams
Speaker 1: that enjoy the sex that they're having and a lot
Speaker 1: of times the masculine partner isn't enjoying the receiving part
Speaker 1: as much, and I'm just like, what is going on?
Speaker 1: It is also because so I like switch, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be knowing what's going on. So I've only ever been
Speaker 1: pegged by a woman, but I've never pegged a woman.
Speaker 1: I've only pegged O. Wait when you know, legit pegging
Speaker 1: like in the this is yet getting off of it
Speaker 1: is pegging is like it's not. I mean, like I
Speaker 1: believe I'm only strapped, but see I say it's my
Speaker 1: strap when I'm Pagan Megan's in the ass, but it's
Speaker 1: my strap but only been strapped. Okay, boy, but it's bussy. Okay,
Speaker 1: shout out to Pride. Mun We call Saucy Santana. I
Speaker 1: wish you got his number, bitch, he would have been here.
Speaker 1: I don't know, girls be on his dick. I don't
Speaker 1: he be tired of ship? What do you mean? There's
Speaker 1: like no way that you're telling me he be walking
Speaker 1: down the street and they'll be on his fuck No,
Speaker 1: Like I want to be his friend, yeah badly. Women
Speaker 1: want to be friends with gay men so bad. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Saucy the most gay nigger in the world right now,
Speaker 1: like some on Yeah, you're fucked. No, we gotta compete
Speaker 1: because that acid a little bit higher, a little bit
Speaker 1: bigger than the other day. He said, should I have
Speaker 1: another bbut before I do this music video? Like you
Speaker 1: love it so bad? Head looking too hard? Agreed, I
Speaker 1: would all don't want to ask you, which I feel
Speaker 1: like men always want to know this. When I was
Speaker 1: dating a woman and was monogamous until we got a nigger. Um,
Speaker 1: I will say like, I got so frustrated when I
Speaker 1: would just say, like I sucked my girl and dudes
Speaker 1: we like, I'll ain't suck. And I'm sure you've heard this.
Speaker 1: What is lesbian sex? Having sex with another woman? To me? Her?
Speaker 1: Is that your hand, your mouth, you're pussy whatever. I'm
Speaker 1: a favorite way to have sex with women. I love
Speaker 1: giving a head, but I love strapping a woman. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I love strapping too. Hey do you says there? Um, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I do like that. That's the one position I'm to
Speaker 1: take some work to get there. You gotta find it's
Speaker 1: the good clip to clip. You can anybody, right, That's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Like you can't just scissor with anybody.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's you you can, but like some
Speaker 1: people like the energy just ain't Well what did you
Speaker 1: mean by that when you asked that question? I wasn't
Speaker 1: like it, probably like it's probably just uncomfortable or maybe
Speaker 1: like with a certain person, they know the actual rhythm. Right.
Speaker 1: My own girl told me that she thinks she's too
Speaker 1: fat to the scissor. No, no, that she's like, I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm too much of a big girl to scissor,
Speaker 1: Like it's too much work to get. Maybe I don't understand.
Speaker 1: Don't you just lay to the side and cris cross that.
Speaker 1: I don't know. But the thing is like you're really
Speaker 1: trying to get, you know, y'all trying to really get.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you in there, you had to like cross
Speaker 1: this way, like it's both the other. Do y'all believe
Speaker 1: that there is a size requirement for that position, like
Speaker 1: a limit my only girl life. I've had text with
Speaker 1: the girl that was maybe a little bigg than you,
Speaker 1: and it wasn't hard. But I don't know. My own
Speaker 1: girl is big, but I still can't see what I
Speaker 1: think for her in her head. She's just like, oh
Speaker 1: my stomach, my titty, Oh that No, I don't think
Speaker 1: I'm rubbing my like everywhere Titti's mouth neck, I'm nasty
Speaker 1: to dude, was talking about feet, but you said to
Speaker 1: be your I love I love well. I want to
Speaker 1: get into our vanilla ship because the last time we
Speaker 1: had a lesbian guest on the show, we got into
Speaker 1: how the lack of conversation happens regarding as TDS A
Speaker 1: S t I S testing. UM. But before we get
Speaker 1: into that, UM, the vanilla ship for this week UM.
Speaker 1: I actually found this from the Helfington Post and the
Speaker 1: f d A hopes to lick S T I S
Speaker 1: by authorizing oral sex undis. Okay, So a brand of
Speaker 1: thin and stretchy single use late text panties called Laurels
Speaker 1: is catering to people who want to fill both pleasure
Speaker 1: and protection during ConA lingus it says that the FDA
Speaker 1: has given clearance to a lineup underwear that can prevent
Speaker 1: sexually transmitted infections from oral sex and analingus. UM. It
Speaker 1: says that the clearance means that the manufacturer has shown
Speaker 1: that its products is substantially equivalent to a similar product
Speaker 1: that already has FDA clearance, such as condoms, the product
Speaker 1: of the brand of the thin stretching latex. And one
Speaker 1: moment it says that it's proved that the oral sex
Speaker 1: undies were at least equivalent to the protection provided by
Speaker 1: dental dams. UM and of course you're familiar with dental dance.
Speaker 1: Will get into if where do you even find those
Speaker 1: things anymore? UM? If you use the sense and whatnot um,
Speaker 1: and then she just also says that she thinks that
Speaker 1: the pennies could also reduce anxiety and increased pleasure around
Speaker 1: that particular behavior. So I do know that that's a thing,
Speaker 1: because using protection during oral sex has somewhat been shamed upon,
Speaker 1: Like even in heterosexual sex with condoms, it's like only
Speaker 1: prostitutes put condoms on dicks to give oral sex. Like
Speaker 1: there's been a shame around sucking dick with a condom
Speaker 1: as well. I'm not gonna front think about it. If
Speaker 1: I put a condom on the next day before I
Speaker 1: sucked it, they'd be like, what do you think? It's like,
Speaker 1: you know, like that's what's in our head. I would
Speaker 1: probably feel the same way. But dude wrapped his turn
Speaker 1: up or a woman, I'd be like, wow, you really, like,
Speaker 1: don't funk with me. I know I have a show
Speaker 1: called Horrible Decisions God like lower saves. I think, have
Speaker 1: you ever used it? No? I mean she's like, you know, saying,
Speaker 1: we don't believe in save sex. We just know we
Speaker 1: don't like we don't want to save head. I want
Speaker 1: to talk about face sex with same sexes, Like what
Speaker 1: has there ever even been a conversation for it. Has
Speaker 1: a woman requested it? What does that conversation look like
Speaker 1: for you? If any regarding s t I s STDs
Speaker 1: so embarrassing, non existent, there is no conversation. I haven't know,
Speaker 1: We're all. I've had some women that I've dealt with
Speaker 1: that I knew regularly got tested. Okay, I guess I
Speaker 1: kind of like leaned on the faith of that, just
Speaker 1: like the niggas that'd be trying to tell me you're good,
Speaker 1: I'm good. Whild Yeah. I remember one time I'm like
Speaker 1: going to the I went to the doctors to get
Speaker 1: like blood work, and they're like, hey, you went to
Speaker 1: an STD test, and I was like, probably shouldn't get
Speaker 1: one of those. I mean, it is harder to contract it.
Speaker 1: And that's probably why herpes for sure, because skin to skin, right,
Speaker 1: But it is harder to contract if you even if
Speaker 1: you sucking dick, like if you're dealing with like what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, you don't want harder for cont but you
Speaker 1: can get so many things in your mouth, but it's
Speaker 1: it's so much. It's like, bro, I don't have it
Speaker 1: in my phone, but I remember when we had Christen
Speaker 1: the Mass difference and like men and women, particularly because
Speaker 1: with us we have to quote unquote and maybe the
Speaker 1: wrong word like interior organs, I guess you could say, right,
Speaker 1: like whereas with men, like their secretion is different, it
Speaker 1: goes directly inside like ours is a little bit different.
Speaker 1: The sex we have is different, right unless you have
Speaker 1: a cut in your mouth during head It's like, how
Speaker 1: else are we gonna contract this herpes? Herpes with skinned
Speaker 1: to skin is so well, then my other question would be,
Speaker 1: because there are things that still go inside, what protection
Speaker 1: measures do you take for sex toys? Because if you're
Speaker 1: having threesomes, are bringing other women in and sex toys
Speaker 1: are being shared. That is also like I know when
Speaker 1: I go to the sex club, if we bring a
Speaker 1: dial do or even if anyone just comes and plays
Speaker 1: with me in my room, if we're using my toys,
Speaker 1: condoms are going on everything, So like what measures do
Speaker 1: you take? Like do you use them condoms when you're
Speaker 1: using toys with other people? What does that look like? Um? Honestly, like, Um,
Speaker 1: if I'm just like sucking someone, I'm just gonna I'm
Speaker 1: probably not gonna use anything, but I'm gonna just I'm
Speaker 1: gonna definitely sterilize it. I don't boil it. Yeah, exactly,
Speaker 1: I'll boil it. We're good next go um. If it
Speaker 1: was a situation where we're bringing multiple partners, and I
Speaker 1: would probably just like she was a different strap for
Speaker 1: every partner. Absolutely not really one strap. You say, this
Speaker 1: is me, but this is the thing. If you're pissing
Speaker 1: me off because you get a new girl, she's like,
Speaker 1: you need to get a new strap. No niggers on
Speaker 1: getting new dicks. That's actually really good point, like right now,
Speaker 1: But I ain't told you that was Lei her name
Speaker 1: on my trap. I don't give a funk. If I
Speaker 1: was a lesbian, lesbian for real, for real, and I
Speaker 1: got to pick the dick I wanted. Oh baby, you're
Speaker 1: not just giving me what you got. We're gonna go
Speaker 1: buy what I want. How big is your strap? The
Speaker 1: my newest one is not and a half. That's kind
Speaker 1: of big. Yeah, normally I stick with the eight eight
Speaker 1: and a half. And then sure he was like, well,
Speaker 1: actually no, we went to get something a little thicker. Okay,
Speaker 1: ficker maybe yeah, you know I like to feel stretched
Speaker 1: out right, so I emploways do that though, And it's
Speaker 1: it's a different type. It's clearly way more poorous than
Speaker 1: actual skin and dick. So I see, like I have
Speaker 1: to use so much lube when I have a really
Speaker 1: like bitch. I'm still getting fun by King Noir's dial though,
Speaker 1: and that ship, maybe I'll be like on it, put
Speaker 1: lube on it. What it's the ship is huge? So
Speaker 1: I just had my girls like for like, we use
Speaker 1: lube definitely, or I like getting my strip sucked, so
Speaker 1: oh my god, why not? I just always want to
Speaker 1: see somebody's second But I used sucking a goddamn plastic
Speaker 1: but you know what that was like for that like
Speaker 1: that it's more of like a submissive thing to just yeah,
Speaker 1: it's just said, see it's fun such twizards and said,
Speaker 1: let me ask you, do you like penetrative sex for yourself? No,
Speaker 1: I wish I did, but I don't. What about even fingers?
Speaker 1: And I don't I wish I did, and like um
Speaker 1: with okay, yeah, definitely I should assume no, you know whatsoever,
Speaker 1: I'm open to trying it like maybe like a little
Speaker 1: like toy. Oh, I'm definitely getting my assay, but like
Speaker 1: but plugs and stuff, you'd be I would try it, okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: why not. I mean it's June baby, all right. The
Speaker 1: banks I've got their rainbow flags out and your house
Speaker 1: is open uper here and uper the car. I'm like,
Speaker 1: all right, well they can I ask you what your
Speaker 1: thoughts are about that? Like I also see um Burger
Speaker 1: King is doing topics bottom. That was funny, but I
Speaker 1: didn't know how I feel about that. I mean even
Speaker 1: like like like all of these like corporations, of course
Speaker 1: they're waving their rainbow flags. So um, we see that
Speaker 1: they did the same ship with Juneteenth. Do you feel
Speaker 1: pander too when you see all of these corporations do
Speaker 1: these things and you're like, you're around y'all really don't
Speaker 1: be doing this exactly year around y'all don't care. So
Speaker 1: why are we making it a big thing now? I
Speaker 1: like this exactly you guys, I'll be trying to We
Speaker 1: talked about eating couci every other episode. Yeah. No, it's
Speaker 1: just it's just like, are you being genuine about it?
Speaker 1: I don't think so. Um. And then you see a
Speaker 1: lot of institutions or just companies that you know, you
Speaker 1: go and you look at things going on hr you're
Speaker 1: having discrimination against like things like this. But hey, out
Speaker 1: into the world. You want to be loud and proud
Speaker 1: and act like we accept everybody, when a lot of
Speaker 1: times you realize that that's not really what it's about.
Speaker 1: Can we get deep for a moment when we talked
Speaker 1: about discrimination and like feeling scared for life because of
Speaker 1: your sexual orientation. We always hear about it from men.
Speaker 1: Have you had a time in your life where you
Speaker 1: were like scared to be gay? I don't know where
Speaker 1: where are you from? Um, I'm from Jersey, South Jersey.
Speaker 1: It's a lot more liberal up here. Yeah, I'm twenty nine,
Speaker 1: twenty nine, So yeah, Like, have you had a moment
Speaker 1: in your life, whether be church or family member where
Speaker 1: you were like scared? Um, definitely, I wasn't actually crazy. Yeah.
Speaker 1: When I first thought I was gay, was I want
Speaker 1: to say, in third grade and I had like one
Speaker 1: friend and we'd like playhouse. I was always a guy
Speaker 1: like I didn't you know, I didn't know anything. Um,
Speaker 1: Like I had never really seen any like women on
Speaker 1: women action on TV or anything. But I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just kind of like related with that and we
Speaker 1: would do like a little stupid ship thing and I
Speaker 1: would be like every I like my gay. But I
Speaker 1: grew up so religious, Like I went to Christian private
Speaker 1: schools my whole life, except for like two years of
Speaker 1: public school. You taught that gay was bad. Yes, well
Speaker 1: I don't even feel like I was really taught it
Speaker 1: so much because I don't think I really like paid attention.
Speaker 1: I was always in kind of even like the Bible,
Speaker 1: like the little kids church and stuff that they're not
Speaker 1: talking about that. But I do remember thinking I was
Speaker 1: gay and my friend coming to school one day and
Speaker 1: being like, yeah, my pastor said, if you're gay, you
Speaker 1: go to Hell. And I was like, oh, ship, like
Speaker 1: because I had grew going down, I wasn't going to
Speaker 1: private schools my whole life, you know, so like, um,
Speaker 1: where where we are taught, you know, religious and stuff
Speaker 1: like that. So I get reinforcement in the classroom. I
Speaker 1: get reinforcement Sunday at church Wednesday when we go to
Speaker 1: Bible study, and I get it reinforced all the time
Speaker 1: at home. Jesus, Like I can't even have a conversation
Speaker 1: with my mother and and not go to like well God,
Speaker 1: the Bible. I'm like really, yeah, so frustrating. I'm like, girl,
Speaker 1: I get it, but damn talking like a regular person.
Speaker 1: But yeah, but I remember after that being so scared
Speaker 1: like every day, like I'm like third grade, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to Hell, but hell, oh my god,
Speaker 1: Like I remember you knew that early. I did, and
Speaker 1: then I literally like try to like unlearned. Like I
Speaker 1: was so scared of like going to Hell that I
Speaker 1: like convinced myself like I wasn't gay. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: like maybe like I can't be gay, so like I
Speaker 1: just kind of like ignored those things. And then it
Speaker 1: wasn't until later in high school where I'm like, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm like I really think yeah, you know, but um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. And then when I got into college,
Speaker 1: I really got more, you know, Like I had a
Speaker 1: track coach. She was, you know, a stud like like
Speaker 1: like it looks like a straight nigga, you know, like
Speaker 1: and I remember her saying to me, um and um.
Speaker 1: When I was in high school, she was like, oh,
Speaker 1: like are you gay? And I'm like no, like because
Speaker 1: at that time I really didn't think I was. I
Speaker 1: never like gave myself the opportunity to you know, explore that.
Speaker 1: So I was just like no, and she was like
Speaker 1: to like go to college, you know, you're gonna be
Speaker 1: all for your own. You gotta carpet on your face.
Speaker 1: She's like, you gotta go off for your own and
Speaker 1: she's like, you'll have your own experience and you'd be
Speaker 1: like whoever you want to be there, And I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: I didn't think nothing of it in college, never looked back.
Speaker 1: So so and so you went all the way back
Speaker 1: to third grade. You knew there was an attraction to girls.
Speaker 1: Then you get to high school, still that attraction, but
Speaker 1: you never acted on it until college. So there was
Speaker 1: no sex, no kissing. No, you really just tried to
Speaker 1: steer away from me. The thing is, I really believed it.
Speaker 1: Uh No, I've never had sex with a man. So
Speaker 1: you are girls Latin section. What's to me means you
Speaker 1: never like oh wait, sorry, that's the other side. If
Speaker 1: you're a gay man, that's never that's a gold star gay.
Speaker 1: If you came out of a stomach, you've even been
Speaker 1: near vain that I realized that is insane, that's crazy.
Speaker 1: You've never we've never, I've never heard of that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a thing like you are gay, got it? So
Speaker 1: what you you go to college, you start having experiences
Speaker 1: and I'm assuming getting more comfortable with your gayness? What
Speaker 1: about women you were sleeping with? What did they want
Speaker 1: to hide that they were sucking you? Or how did
Speaker 1: like how did that happen? And when you meet women
Speaker 1: that aren't out or things like that, how do you feel,
Speaker 1: um have I girls are usually pretty fun being open.
Speaker 1: I have only been in two situations where the women
Speaker 1: aren't were so open. Both of them were like African
Speaker 1: and very religious, and you know kind of like they're
Speaker 1: usually like stricter households. Do you feel that the d
Speaker 1: L can also be used that in terms with women
Speaker 1: as well? Like we heard that we hear the term
Speaker 1: down low a lot with men who are not comfortable
Speaker 1: coming out. Bro, you like Harry Clinton is not you
Speaker 1: mean they've been saying she's been gay all time, but
Speaker 1: but she hasn't come out and said she's married to
Speaker 1: a man. That's d L. D's people that right now,
Speaker 1: But we don't know. No, No, that means, is there
Speaker 1: any proof that Hillary Clinton has a She ord have
Speaker 1: been a couchie by another Actually I have to say no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you. She may don't be masculine presenting,
Speaker 1: but that doesn't make her about it is that the suits.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying that Casio all like sucking Comlo whatever.
Speaker 1: But Hillary Clinton, they've been Sam's gay. They the internet
Speaker 1: enquired National Fire. My mom was reading paper bro not
Speaker 1: you playing final on Hillary Clinton. They've been saying Hillary
Speaker 1: was gay. Google it. That would be interesting if man
Speaker 1: imagine she came out. Ain't it crazy that Mirando looked gay?
Speaker 1: And then she was all sex with city But that
Speaker 1: the same haircut as Mandy. Oh no, she did not
Speaker 1: baby marine, never have no thing away. She wasn't this fly.
Speaker 1: Let's go back a little bit. So family, let's talk
Speaker 1: about coming out. Um you know, tell us you're coming
Speaker 1: out story with your family and if you had any
Speaker 1: family members that you could lean on, um, I guess
Speaker 1: you could. I never secondly came out get out. My
Speaker 1: mom apparently have been stalking my Twitter for a month.
Speaker 1: I had no idea. I'm a broke college shoot always
Speaker 1: asking for like, hey, I get like queen. I was
Speaker 1: like whatever, right, So one day my mom was tired
Speaker 1: of me getting tattoos. Didn't have many, but she was like,
Speaker 1: don't be wasting money that we sent you for school, lad, Right,
Speaker 1: So one day, in one Twitter I'm talking to my friend,
Speaker 1: one of my teammates at the time, and I was like,
Speaker 1: she said, I'm abouna get a tattoo, and I'm like, okay, cool,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get a tattoo with you. I was like,
Speaker 1: I think I have enough money for it. So we're
Speaker 1: talking about that. My mom text me, I swear to
Speaker 1: God like five minutes later and goes, if you get
Speaker 1: another tattoo, that's the last time you're gonna get from us.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, ship, like you can only see that
Speaker 1: on Twitter. Meanwhile, I had a girlfriend at the time
Speaker 1: that was like kind of posting the bat you're about
Speaker 1: it on Twitter. This is little like I was. Oh.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm going there, I know, and she's
Speaker 1: probably seen everything. Avery, I'm deleting everything like fuck, she's
Speaker 1: gonna know. Okay out. And then, honestly, like me and
Speaker 1: my mom were always cool. She had me very young,
Speaker 1: so you know that whole like single parent relationship. No,
Speaker 1: you all you got. But then honestly, once she knew
Speaker 1: I was gay, the relationship just changed drastically or not
Speaker 1: as well. No, I had siblings very late, like withou
Speaker 1: was so those are my babies. But yeah, So it
Speaker 1: was pretty much like I felt like the only child
Speaker 1: for a while because even when they come like so
Speaker 1: young and I like went off to college, you know,
Speaker 1: but our relationship changed drastically. There is none Yeah you know,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm a sad. I'm just kind of like listen,
Speaker 1: like either like me or you don't get there, and
Speaker 1: do you know what this room to grow for people
Speaker 1: Like yeah, it took a while for me to get
Speaker 1: to the point of being like, okay with the relationship
Speaker 1: how it is, but I'm like I have so many
Speaker 1: people that support loved me that like, Okay, she ever
Speaker 1: flat out asked you? And have you ever flat out
Speaker 1: said it? Or it's just um, well we did have
Speaker 1: a conversation about it, um she's like I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't want to tell you. She's like, you know,
Speaker 1: like why don't you want to tell me? And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't really know. For a while, I
Speaker 1: leaned on the like maybe it's a phase because I
Speaker 1: was like new into exploring that, so I wasn't really sure.
Speaker 1: I'm the type of person like whoever I am, I
Speaker 1: can stand on it all day long, but I didn't
Speaker 1: want to come out to my mom who's like so
Speaker 1: like all my ass out it when I wasn't a
Speaker 1: hundred percent sure. But once I knew, I remember her
Speaker 1: saying like, do you have any convictions about it or whatever?
Speaker 1: And I'm like no. And I think that was like
Speaker 1: the moment she realized like, oh, this's been really gay
Speaker 1: like and it's not going nowhere because she turns up
Speaker 1: the Bible so much and you were in Bible study
Speaker 1: and church and all that. What is your relationship to
Speaker 1: the church then, if if any and and has your
Speaker 1: sexuality pushed you away or brought you closer? Definitely pushed
Speaker 1: me away. Um. It was just crazy because like growing
Speaker 1: up so religious, like I always saw myself I pick
Speaker 1: the church and raising my kid in the church and
Speaker 1: all these things. Um, but I do believe in God. Um.
Speaker 1: I just feel like, especially in the Black community, you
Speaker 1: hear about homosexuality all the time, but I feel like
Speaker 1: it's rooted in just toxic masculinity because you have all
Speaker 1: these a lot of like you know, black creatures and
Speaker 1: these no Black churches and they that's kind of like
Speaker 1: what you're growing up around. And the black community is
Speaker 1: like a lot of like homophobic ship and I feel
Speaker 1: like they get there, they start preaching, and they're like
Speaker 1: also putting their views on things, because I'm like, why
Speaker 1: are we talking on this every Sunday? All this every Sunday,
Speaker 1: every Sunday. I'm like, just about how same sex is?
Speaker 1: It's wrong? Is this? Is that? Like all these things,
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: they even really say no in the Bible from what
Speaker 1: I like, listen, maybe maybe interpreted doesn't talking about sodomy
Speaker 1: or something and that homosexual talk about a lot of
Speaker 1: it you stories of Brianda, but I'm pretty sure they
Speaker 1: have talked about like men and men. Know a lot
Speaker 1: of you ain't men and men thought they have been
Speaker 1: translate a lot of things have been translated as men
Speaker 1: and men was really before translation, like men to be
Speaker 1: a board, so like pedophilia, pedophilia. But when you get
Speaker 1: like the King James version and the translations, they're a
Speaker 1: little off. Oh so King James said s that they
Speaker 1: can eat that. He said, don't King James changed it
Speaker 1: when they were really talking about boys, like you'll see
Speaker 1: a lot of those, um but shrimp and we can't
Speaker 1: bump coaches anyway, this one. But as I'm saying to God,
Speaker 1: says love all the children, love that neighbor, do this
Speaker 1: and that, and then they pick and choose which ones
Speaker 1: makes sense for them to feel like they living on earth.
Speaker 1: And you clearly know my money. If you you're probably
Speaker 1: one of our tribe. And I feel like we have
Speaker 1: to do our due diligence with having a lesbian on
Speaker 1: because the niggas needed you here. We need your best
Speaker 1: sex tip. It can be. It doesn't even have to
Speaker 1: be head. Just something about pleasing women that I that
Speaker 1: you feel like is either your gift sent from God
Speaker 1: and King James himself or you've learned along that really
Speaker 1: improved your sex um. I just think the most importan
Speaker 1: a thing with sex is just learning someone's body, paying attention,
Speaker 1: because it's just like how many times have we had
Speaker 1: sex and someone's doing something and we clearly don't like
Speaker 1: it and they just keep doing it. Also, like if
Speaker 1: anyone's like moving their needs towards you during head and like,
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean I'm gonna come, it means I'm uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: You need to read. Definitely. I think he was with
Speaker 1: eating I've got some head reason And when her is
Speaker 1: she moving away from you. It's not good, Yo, it's
Speaker 1: not good. The head guy was so soft, and I
Speaker 1: complimented him on that, like, wow, like you were really gentle.
Speaker 1: I was like, even your fingers. When I felt his
Speaker 1: fingers go inside of me, I kept thinking he was
Speaker 1: gonna go deeper and he was like, oh, like I
Speaker 1: just start that way and I wait for someone to
Speaker 1: tell me more. Why don't we all think like that. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's important, but I think even where with dealing with men,
Speaker 1: that's the thing too, write there's still this ego where
Speaker 1: they don't want to feel like they need direction or
Speaker 1: or anything like that is dirty talking my name. I
Speaker 1: believe it. Do you do you appreciate direction from tell
Speaker 1: me there right there? Oh left in? I love that. Literally,
Speaker 1: I don't get that. I had one girl that I
Speaker 1: dated and she was so aggressive and I'd be like
Speaker 1: I would have to get up like and hold her
Speaker 1: head like this does not feel good. We like to
Speaker 1: do it like that. I would be like this doesn't
Speaker 1: feel good, and she's like, oh, just like just let
Speaker 1: me do it. I'm like I was like, okay, I
Speaker 1: was right, I'm gonna lay here this entire time. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna come I'm not gonna move, So what is
Speaker 1: the purpose of this? Just so you eat? I mean,
Speaker 1: people definitely eat, like give a head for them. Sometimes
Speaker 1: sometimes I do. I'll be forgetting when it gets too messy,
Speaker 1: I will say, though, and maybe we're maybe maybe we
Speaker 1: can speak to this. But to be fair, I do
Speaker 1: think sucking dick is way easier than eating pussy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it is like like I don't know, but I feel
Speaker 1: like it would be like it's like there's a there
Speaker 1: when someone's sucking your strap, right, generally, it looks like
Speaker 1: the same motion, even if there's more hands or more spit,
Speaker 1: it looks like the same motion. With eating pussy, it
Speaker 1: kind of looked different every time, every time your hands,
Speaker 1: your mouth, turning, your face, like on the type of
Speaker 1: person I wanted the whole face. Some people want like
Speaker 1: just to clip like it's some people want your pussy holes.
Speaker 1: Some people don't. Like I don't know. I don't mean
Speaker 1: I don't need it either. You Actually, I mean I
Speaker 1: love on the pussy my whole volva, but I don't
Speaker 1: need you to just focus on the whole. For the
Speaker 1: men listening right, they may be wondering, why do you
Speaker 1: want your strap sucked. If you can't feel it, what
Speaker 1: pleasure is there? And okay, what what pleasure do you
Speaker 1: receive from getting your straps sucked? Because it's not attached
Speaker 1: to you know what I mean? It's it's we're so
Speaker 1: about the visuals. It's just sexy. It is um and
Speaker 1: it gives me what is fox? I think it's like
Speaker 1: titty fucking like what's the point of that happen? But
Speaker 1: also feel the titties? All right? Fine? Sorry? Now yeah,
Speaker 1: the visual like the noise, oh, all of it, me too,
Speaker 1: all of it. I have a fence though, and I
Speaker 1: just and I have be posting my shorties. I can
Speaker 1: watch strap doing on see I got something I want
Speaker 1: to see one Hr. You can't just be asking to
Speaker 1: see but your fists? What you mean? I just want
Speaker 1: to know. I just want to see it, the best
Speaker 1: one I don't know. Please take your time pick it,
Speaker 1: please please, I want to see it, Mandy said. Hr. Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: we don't watch the nigga fuck his own asshole because
Speaker 1: he what is that? You asked to see it? You
Speaker 1: asked to see it, but I am your calls. This
Speaker 1: is someone you met less than twenty four hours ago.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Jade, when you walked in the door and
Speaker 1: saw the horrible and you look down the page, did
Speaker 1: you say that would be a moment where I didn't
Speaker 1: need to see this strap? I mean, you want to share?
Speaker 1: I thank you, But what does that mean? So it
Speaker 1: means you're sharing it in the world, right with the
Speaker 1: people that she wants to see it. I'm not so bad,
Speaker 1: but let me see it. You just play the audio.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, her eyes fun. Oh this is hot.
Speaker 1: I can't see right right across the brag okay, okay,
Speaker 1: right across the train. I asked you why you should
Speaker 1: cut a lot of horrible decisions, and it's mainly because,
Speaker 1: like sometimes people are whacked and wow you okay, let's
Speaker 1: talk about the finger sniff tests. Oh yeah, no, no,
Speaker 1: Now this is this is giving masculinergy because there are
Speaker 1: men that do the fingers. I honestly normally, normally. I
Speaker 1: it's not a thing for me. Okay, but I learned
Speaker 1: after one situation. So it was just one girl. I'm
Speaker 1: in college. She lived in the dormnext had a badass.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh yeah, taking down yes, yes, So
Speaker 1: she was like, oh, it's trying for me. So you know,
Speaker 1: the moment came, her friend or roommate is in the
Speaker 1: bed over there. Uh so I'm like, what's going on.
Speaker 1: She's like, no, it's okay, it's okay. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: lights are on everything, she's going to sleep, and I'm
Speaker 1: like fuck it. So you know, I'm finging her, but
Speaker 1: like I'm not like, I'm like, you know, our heads
Speaker 1: and stuff, our clothes, our faces are close, you know,
Speaker 1: finger cool. She's enjoying it. So now I'm like, I
Speaker 1: am about to give her some head. I went down there.
Speaker 1: Before I even go all the way down, I smell like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, what the fund is that? It smelled
Speaker 1: like sewage. Oh? I was like no, because I sniffed
Speaker 1: my fingers and almost passed the funk out. I was girl,
Speaker 1: so like, so you put it back on her face.
Speaker 1: So I was like, when you start putting her face,
Speaker 1: what you supposed to do with now you bring it
Speaker 1: up to them and make them lick your fingers? Yes,
Speaker 1: what I mean obviously I'm assuming you saw. So I
Speaker 1: was just like, oh my god. So now I'm like
Speaker 1: this bitch, you gotta have the STD because this is wow,
Speaker 1: Like how you smell like dizzy something that he hadn't
Speaker 1: have son because this ain't normal. So I was like,
Speaker 1: oh ship, So I just like I rolled over and
Speaker 1: I was like, I was like, hold on the right
Speaker 1: fact I went to the bathroom wash my hands. I
Speaker 1: was like, oh fuck no. So then I got back
Speaker 1: into bed with her because I'm trying to like I
Speaker 1: don't be trying to embarrass people when we have sex,
Speaker 1: like if it's bad, like I'm not gonna be here like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, you're so terrible. You just sat here
Speaker 1: and said you pulled the bitch up for me and
Speaker 1: your pussy and said you're doing an awful job. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I mean that was my girlfriend. Okay, so it's
Speaker 1: like something hurts, so I can't stop you. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be like smells. I'm not gonna be like,
Speaker 1: damn it, you didn't tell it. I got out of there.
Speaker 1: I laid there and I was like she's like, oh,
Speaker 1: like why do you stop. I was like, oh, like
Speaker 1: I'm I'm gonna come back tomorrow. I'm gonna come back
Speaker 1: tomorrow when you get so poked. And I was like no, no,
Speaker 1: like let's go, let's go. I was like no, like
Speaker 1: there's no way. She didn't smell herself. Like, as a woman,
Speaker 1: we know when a smell is different, when this charge
Speaker 1: is different. When I talk like, you would assume that
Speaker 1: most women do. Know. My mom said, if you can,
Speaker 1: if you can smell it, everybody everyone period, Yeah they can.
Speaker 1: I'm like, man, I like, I wasn't even all the
Speaker 1: way down there and I smelled it. Maybe he's normal
Speaker 1: for her at this point. I don't know. She was
Speaker 1: kind of a little bit. I saw you mentioned squirting,
Speaker 1: and I'm curious because I think a lot of people
Speaker 1: are like trying to make someone squirt. I don't know
Speaker 1: if they could do it in a car. So do
Speaker 1: you have a squirting trick? And if so, tell us,
Speaker 1: And if you don't, just tell us your squirting stories. Okay,
Speaker 1: So of course any girl would. I definitely want to,
Speaker 1: you know a little. You want to show off, right,
Speaker 1: so people leave hands are the easiest way to get
Speaker 1: it off your first time. Okay. So I had one
Speaker 1: girlfriend that she always wanted to so she would like
Speaker 1: explore her body all the time, and then like somehow
Speaker 1: we just like start doing it all the time. It
Speaker 1: was great. Cool. Now I'm like current girl, She's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I've done it before. Whatever. So what I
Speaker 1: realized with her works is if there's clip stimulation, so
Speaker 1: like she might be like rubbing her ship and I
Speaker 1: might either be finger her or fucking her. But I noticed,
Speaker 1: like when I'm not that deep in and she's doing it, Wow,
Speaker 1: you know, men are like convinced. I'm sorry, I really
Speaker 1: believe this. The more they're jamming it their hands inside
Speaker 1: of you, the more they're gonna reach this button. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I've definitely been like done that before, badly,
Speaker 1: I mean, because you're watching it in a porn Yeah,
Speaker 1: aggressiveness earlier. That's why I'm thinking. I'm like, yeah, when
Speaker 1: I was when I was younger, I would watch porn.
Speaker 1: They're slamming the door. Yes, we weren't yet. We're not
Speaker 1: being taught to be gentle. We're trying to do all
Speaker 1: the crazy heart be taught. Not. My homeboy told me recently,
Speaker 1: I mean he ain't ship. When we were eating the
Speaker 1: other day and I told him about a sexual experience
Speaker 1: I had where like I was like kissed and cuddled
Speaker 1: after and he was like, weezy, I love you. I
Speaker 1: need to tell you something. I said, Okay, he was
Speaker 1: like I fuck every bitch like day about girl. He's like,
Speaker 1: because nobody wants to be slut it out unless they
Speaker 1: asked for it. Bro, He's like, you need somebody for
Speaker 1: the first time, like treat them kindly and like let
Speaker 1: them tell you how much harder they needed. He's like,
Speaker 1: I'm a grown ass man and I'm sucking growing ass
Speaker 1: women and they do not want to not be kissed
Speaker 1: and slammed into the market headboard, like they're going to
Speaker 1: tell you when they need it. And he's right for
Speaker 1: the most part. I'm sure that's not the same, but
Speaker 1: I actually agree with that because when I do want
Speaker 1: it harder, I'm gonna tell you. He's like, I kiss bitches,
Speaker 1: I'll lick him everywhere, like I just sucking do whatever
Speaker 1: I want. He was like an after sex. I like
Speaker 1: lay them the balls too. I was like, damn, my girls,
Speaker 1: be like why do you fuck me? Like he loved me.
Speaker 1: I'm like, girl, chill. That was like our like our
Speaker 1: first couple of times. I'm like, girl, now I want
Speaker 1: to get into kind of what dating is like because
Speaker 1: are masculine presenting. Yeah, that birthberry butter for all You'll
Speaker 1: take spending By the way, y'all if you're not watching
Speaker 1: on YouTube, her shirt said Jade's shirt says paper pussy piece,
Speaker 1: give you peace. Amen, there you go. What is that conversation? Like?
Speaker 1: Is there ever? Like? We both bitches, So let's go Dusch.
Speaker 1: Do you not go dusch? Do you take the bill?
Speaker 1: What's up? Okay? So to a certain my dominance, I
Speaker 1: want to pay, Like I just feel like that's just
Speaker 1: I don't know, that's just I'm one. I'm just like,
Speaker 1: regardless of sexuality all those things, I am a very
Speaker 1: generous person. Um. So like even like there's times I'll
Speaker 1: go with my friends at all, like cover for my friends. Um,
Speaker 1: but when I'm taking a woman out, most likely i'm
Speaker 1: asking her on a date. So I feel like if
Speaker 1: I'm asking you on a day, I definitely should be
Speaker 1: the one paying. I'm not going to ask you to
Speaker 1: come out and have you pay like, um but yeah
Speaker 1: there's somewhere kick there's a bit kicking her man right now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't really I agree. I don't relieve you asked.
Speaker 1: You can go Dutch, okay, but I don't really I
Speaker 1: don't want my girl going Dutch with me, So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna pay unless the only time, like my girl ever
Speaker 1: pays it and she's like, I want to take you out,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, da, you splanted me today. Okay, but
Speaker 1: look even last night we went to day and she paid. Um,
Speaker 1: but not ons and times I'm probably gonna pay. I've
Speaker 1: always said I hate Dutch, but I'd rather like pay,
Speaker 1: you pay, I pay whatever. Yeah, Like it just seems weird.
Speaker 1: Just going it feels a real HOMEI once we started
Speaker 1: splitting a check, yeah, and I get dry. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: was gonna say, I'll literally split a check with a
Speaker 1: guy I'm not interested in, just so he knows, doesn't see.
Speaker 1: I don't say that when you used to be I'm
Speaker 1: on a date when we were when when I was
Speaker 1: poor going out to eat. That's a different handy when
Speaker 1: I was actually dating, So you didn't say that. I
Speaker 1: used to say that. Used to be like I don't
Speaker 1: give an if I never want to see you again,
Speaker 1: that's why he gotta pay. I Okay, you did. They
Speaker 1: can run to take back. Let him run it right, Okay, Broka,
Speaker 1: how as bitch, what are you about to say? Old
Speaker 1: episodes like splitting though I do think it establishes friendship. Um,
Speaker 1: but I just think I never knew that. And I
Speaker 1: think honestly, for like whole male we've had people writing
Speaker 1: and say, like for women that are exploring their sati
Speaker 1: sexuality with other women, like what do I do on
Speaker 1: the date? What would you reckon? Or what do you
Speaker 1: think happens with two lips lesbians? I honestly feel like period?
Speaker 1: Who not period? But I guess like in that situation,
Speaker 1: whoever asked what on the day should be paying? Do
Speaker 1: you believe that with two lips of lesbians one always takes?
Speaker 1: Like do you think there's gender roles? Do you think
Speaker 1: someone becomes quote unquote the man because it happened to
Speaker 1: me in patriarchy? Like? Did that good? Of course? Like
Speaker 1: you don't want to play into those, right, I feel like,
Speaker 1: but I do feel like I kind of play into
Speaker 1: them a little bit myself. You open doors and ship. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And my thing is like I want my woman like whenever,
Speaker 1: like I'm like married or whatever. I don't want my
Speaker 1: woman to have to work like I want to just
Speaker 1: you see even the way you're talking, I've never and
Speaker 1: this is I know your care I've never called my
Speaker 1: girl like and I don't know why. I like whenever
Speaker 1: I'm no lie, that's some real like mask. But like
Speaker 1: I'm that bitch type ship my woman? Did she say
Speaker 1: that was talking about you? I with her girl, I
Speaker 1: say the same thing about me and my girl, Like
Speaker 1: that's you. You already doing it, You alreadyven know. But
Speaker 1: I do think though, like I'm sure there's a world
Speaker 1: where maybe something can be fluid. I don't know, but
Speaker 1: I haven't really seen it all the way yet. Most
Speaker 1: lesbian friends that I do have, there's a difference. I
Speaker 1: feel like too, um those gender roles come out a
Speaker 1: lot more with women that mostly date met so like
Speaker 1: I can say, like I've dated, I haven't really dated
Speaker 1: maybe any lesbians, not because I don't want to. It's
Speaker 1: just like I don't really come across a lot of lesbians.
Speaker 1: You're going to like lesbian clubs I have, but it's
Speaker 1: just like every especially in the city, it's just like everybody.
Speaker 1: I'm sucked everybody, like everybody. It's everything. I go to
Speaker 1: lesbian clubs, they be fighting, don't don't. That's why I
Speaker 1: stopped going. Every time I went in the bitch I
Speaker 1: went with fight fighting people, and I just went I
Speaker 1: went with somebody was like the way people looked at me.
Speaker 1: I was like, baby fighting, it'd be, it'd be, it'd
Speaker 1: be a lot happening sometimes. And so I just I
Speaker 1: got into like gay nightclub seeing a little late. I
Speaker 1: guess you could say not even late, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just wasn't And even the woman there. There's a
Speaker 1: lot of straight women that are there. Ye, yeah, a lot.
Speaker 1: I mean, do you have a problem with because I
Speaker 1: know gay men have said how much they hate when
Speaker 1: women come in and just want to hang out with
Speaker 1: the game. Do you hate when straight women consume this
Speaker 1: space because this is y'all space, and y'all don't have many.
Speaker 1: I can't even say I'm mad abou because I don't
Speaker 1: even know. You don't know, they just look like a feminini,
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know until like we're having a
Speaker 1: conversation if but I do remember one I'm being at
Speaker 1: a club. One girl like wasn't trying to dance with me.
Speaker 1: She was like, I'm straight, what save right? Okay? But
Speaker 1: you okay, you straight? You can't it. Sometimes I will say,
Speaker 1: people get way to up their own ask thinking that
Speaker 1: every lesbian wants to fuck you like never, I mean,
Speaker 1: it's the same with. I mean that's the problem with
Speaker 1: men too. Men think that gays are always just trying
Speaker 1: to turn them out. Is that a thing with you too,
Speaker 1: Like do you feel like even you just younger being
Speaker 1: in a room, did they think you want to conquer
Speaker 1: their straightness? I feel don't get wrong, I feel like
Speaker 1: the women be with it, but like, but I'd be like, girl,
Speaker 1: I don't want you like I'm not. I've definitely had
Speaker 1: girls where I like, like, I'm social, So if I
Speaker 1: go I could go to a club, bar or whatever
Speaker 1: by myself and I'm gonna have a blast. So like,
Speaker 1: I'm open to talking to people and stuff. And sometimes
Speaker 1: people like, oh, you know I have a girlfriend, maybe
Speaker 1: we are you not in my sype? What is that type?
Speaker 1: I don't have them. Yeah, if you lined up all
Speaker 1: my exes, you'd be like nobody. Another question. Mandy made
Speaker 1: the Brittany Grinder comment, and it made me think about
Speaker 1: So when I had a girlfriend maybe two years of
Speaker 1: the show, and uh after that, I mean, even though
Speaker 1: I had continually talked about women, once I had a girlfriend,
Speaker 1: I had the most pussy thrown at me. Like my
Speaker 1: ex when we went to Miami. Oh, she was sick.
Speaker 1: Of me bro because girls were you remember every home,
Speaker 1: I was like, I want you to be my first girl.
Speaker 1: I want to do this. You also admit openly that
Speaker 1: you fans. I didn't say I wouldn't puk me because
Speaker 1: either I think it's I'll be writing at for homet
Speaker 1: like that. You know what I'm saying, Like women just
Speaker 1: the way they're like, I want eating my first Like
Speaker 1: but yeah, like at the end of the day, I'm
Speaker 1: still fucking bitches that fuck pitches like to me the
Speaker 1: first thing and like knocking me off the checklist was
Speaker 1: so fucking annoying. And I'm curious because you are mass
Speaker 1: presenting if a lot of girls are like, oh, I
Speaker 1: could fuck you because you don't look like a girl
Speaker 1: to me, and how it makes you feel, like do
Speaker 1: you give a fun? No one has necessarily said that
Speaker 1: to me, but I've definitely been like the first for
Speaker 1: a lot of like straight women. But I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't feel any type of way
Speaker 1: about it. If I feel like you're like feticizing me
Speaker 1: or like being weird, then obviously like no, have you
Speaker 1: ever had a nigger want to suck you? I mean yes,
Speaker 1: it's so annoying. Oh yeah, they don't be trying much,
Speaker 1: is it like maybe like on a home girl ship
Speaker 1: And then they'd be like like, I've definitely had friends
Speaker 1: at all. I've won. I grown up to like I
Speaker 1: never really have guy friends. I don't know why. I
Speaker 1: feel like I know I always have. Because she was
Speaker 1: trying to hide her gaines was trying to let's go
Speaker 1: hang out. No, I don't know, I just always I
Speaker 1: feel like I just connect with women more. Um, but yeah,
Speaker 1: I've definitely had friends that were like, oh, yeah, we're cool,
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, like we're out and
Speaker 1: he's like, yeah, so you he would never fuck no,
Speaker 1: like an if I did, it would not yo. I
Speaker 1: remember this one guy. He hits me up like oh
Speaker 1: yeah we should hang I'm okay cool, Like we're both
Speaker 1: kind of like in like the art scene like where
Speaker 1: I'm at, and I'm like, okay cool. He's like a
Speaker 1: really dope photographer and he's like, yeah, yeah, I'll get you.
Speaker 1: This is like probably like for Uber and Left or
Speaker 1: right before, and he was like, yeah, yeah, I'll get
Speaker 1: you like a taxi, I'll call you. Taxes in my
Speaker 1: career were kicking. I'm like, all right, cool, I'm thinking,
Speaker 1: Matt is I'm clearly gay and he's like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: know I dikes before I'm like, oh my god, he
Speaker 1: said this, what does that happened with me? Like he
Speaker 1: was trying to yo. I was like goodbye, Like I'm good.
Speaker 1: Have you had gay men wanting to drop them up? Yes?
Speaker 1: And I would definitely do it. I know that's right. Interesting, Yes,
Speaker 1: let's unpack this. It was anything not bad because like
Speaker 1: as a lesbian, clearly you're attracted to chet's pussy, right
Speaker 1: like like I feel like that's it is strapping up
Speaker 1: a gay man part of the fluidity for you. You
Speaker 1: think you could try and or is it just because
Speaker 1: you know you get to funk a man and they
Speaker 1: wouldn't be sucking you. M yeah, well my thing is too.
Speaker 1: I think that feminine men are attractive. Um See, they
Speaker 1: get the bitches, they get the straight bitches. That's the
Speaker 1: ones that I'm you're not sucking me, but i'd be
Speaker 1: down to just like trying. Yeah, but I always as
Speaker 1: I don't know, them dicking balls come out, they keep
Speaker 1: it in. Now, I don't know the time came I
Speaker 1: was someone that's probably going to give it head, you like,
Speaker 1: I gotta sucking dick. I'm not sucking dick. That's as
Speaker 1: far as I see, as far I can eat fussy
Speaker 1: like maybe I mean like I think I was. I
Speaker 1: got one more question before home O two about your pronounsa.
Speaker 1: So why do you think it is that you're able
Speaker 1: to be comfortable to you? I don't know a lot
Speaker 1: of my friends, and I would call them studs and women.
Speaker 1: I've hung out with it her studs like get annoyed
Speaker 1: sometimes when people reckon, is there a woman? But I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be real with you, Like I find it sexier
Speaker 1: when someone has like, I think you're pretty, but I
Speaker 1: also think you're fine, and I like I like that
Speaker 1: you're Like there's a handsome thing and I don't know
Speaker 1: what's it doing right? But yeah, Like, have you ever
Speaker 1: felt like there was a point where you maybe wanted
Speaker 1: to be more manly and or more mask or like
Speaker 1: and when I say manly, I mean actually appear to
Speaker 1: be a man? Like do you feel insulted when someone
Speaker 1: says ma'am? And what's made you chose she instead of them? Okay, y'all,
Speaker 1: y'all don't know me obviously, Like, so y'all tell me
Speaker 1: y'all opinion. I get called sir all the time, Like
Speaker 1: if you saw me, what you think I was going? No,
Speaker 1: I don't think so either, But I get called sir.
Speaker 1: I mean, or you could just look like a real
Speaker 1: pretty feminine man maybe, but those like the pronouns on
Speaker 1: the street for me are like he him like, generally
Speaker 1: try to call you with how your quote unquote dressed
Speaker 1: like a dressed someone? How they on the phone too.
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, I ain't called you. I get sir
Speaker 1: on the phone. Girl, I like, my name is Jade, bitch.
Speaker 1: Drive through? Would I'd be going down to and it'd
Speaker 1: be like pull pull through, sir, it's ma'am, it's you.
Speaker 1: I'm taking it's ma'am. It's ma'am. It's ma'm to you. Yeah.
Speaker 1: How does that make you feel? Do you when you
Speaker 1: were younger at least, did you feel that? Okay? So
Speaker 1: like no, no, like I've never And that's the thing
Speaker 1: that people always feel, like, oh, when you dress more
Speaker 1: masculine or you wear a strap, well now like I'm
Speaker 1: just wearing it throughout the day. But you know something,
Speaker 1: but I don't um. Some people feel like you want
Speaker 1: to be a man like. That's like such a narrative,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I've never in my life wanted to
Speaker 1: be a man like. So no, there's never been a
Speaker 1: time where I wanted to come off like. I like
Speaker 1: my appearance to be more masculine because that's what I
Speaker 1: feel comfortable with. But as what I identified with is
Speaker 1: a woman, I feel like a woman. I'm happy to
Speaker 1: be a woman. I don't want any other way. So,
Speaker 1: but when I would get called sir, he him all
Speaker 1: those things, I'm not like, man, have that like a
Speaker 1: shade to throw it like mask girls a lot, like
Speaker 1: you're mad because we're sucking your bitches and blue period.
Speaker 1: Let's get into home mail. It's a really really short one,
Speaker 1: and I felt like it was good for all of
Speaker 1: us to answer, do you guys? And they were talking
Speaker 1: to Mandy and I, but I want you to jump
Speaker 1: into get slut shained by men or women more? And
Speaker 1: how do you handle it? If so, what do you think? Um?
Speaker 1: I think Over the years, it was girls, and then
Speaker 1: once I had a podcast, it was men because niggas
Speaker 1: are more likely to make a fake page and call
Speaker 1: me a horror God, damn, it's so much fucking effort. Bro.
Speaker 1: Why that's why the YouTube comments be so so so
Speaker 1: much because they could go in there and notmous um.
Speaker 1: I don't really know. And I saw that question, I
Speaker 1: was trying to think. I would say it was even
Speaker 1: across the years. I don't think yeah, I mean, honestly,
Speaker 1: I think it was even. No, I would say men.
Speaker 1: I don't think I was really ever slest shamed by
Speaker 1: women because all of my friends rose I was friends
Speaker 1: with escorts, porn stars literally like we all got all
Speaker 1: of my friends were hos. So actually I never was
Speaker 1: really sleight shamed. As as much as I was fat
Speaker 1: shamed by women. I was body shamed way more by
Speaker 1: women than men believe it. So that's the shaming that
Speaker 1: I got from women was definitely um physical never never
Speaker 1: bodies because I was always working the niggas they wanted anyway,
Speaker 1: How how did most women make you feel like that? Like?
Speaker 1: What what were they saying? And how about what you said?
Speaker 1: They were body shaming here? Oh yeah, I mean it
Speaker 1: was always about my weight. It was always about um
Speaker 1: why I was getting like they didn't believe I was
Speaker 1: sucking the niggas that I was really fucking your face
Speaker 1: is online. I even I've even had a girl say so,
Speaker 1: me and her were both sucking his nigga on the colts,
Speaker 1: and he actually got you ain't gonna bleep it out.
Speaker 1: That's fine, he ain't there no more. But uh yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe they'd be gone every year. Um not NFL, not
Speaker 1: for long. Um. Anyways, so he was sucking this bitch
Speaker 1: in Miami and she found out that he was also
Speaker 1: sucking me, and he found it so like it turned
Speaker 1: him on more. How much him sucking me bothered her
Speaker 1: because she felt like my body wasn't like done enough.
Speaker 1: I didn't have a small enough ways. I was a
Speaker 1: big bitch. How dare he sucked me and fuck her?
Speaker 1: We weren't in the same league, or so she thought.
Speaker 1: And so a lot of a lot of the issues
Speaker 1: were like where women would be like, ill, bit you
Speaker 1: not even all that. That's crazy. That and not to
Speaker 1: me is an insecurity. I've never felt that with body type.
Speaker 1: I've only felt that with like the type of bit
Speaker 1: you fucking like, I'm gonna get insulted if you fucking
Speaker 1: at least cheating on me with a bitch, that's whack.
Speaker 1: But with a white bitch, and I only ask you,
Speaker 1: because we see that with looks and they're what's it
Speaker 1: called the the fuck the the pivot They Fred not
Speaker 1: fred Um the other Ni goddamn Channing got in trouble
Speaker 1: for calling Russell Wilson whack or corny. So to you,
Speaker 1: clearly we know what isn't ugly? Okay, so that it
Speaker 1: was looks. No, you just said it wasn't lot I
Speaker 1: met body type. I'm sorry, okay, Like I've never thought
Speaker 1: that body type attributed to like attractivity, like uly, bitch.
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm gonna be real with you. I didn't
Speaker 1: say white women were ugly, but the men that I date,
Speaker 1: I like, I don't find it. I don't think it's
Speaker 1: cool for niggas to just a bunch of white bitches,
Speaker 1: and like think it's a look for you, especially lit
Speaker 1: black men or black women, Like I think we should
Speaker 1: be finding our counterpart I BELI even black families. I
Speaker 1: understand I'm mixed. So y'all might feel like I can't
Speaker 1: do that gun host it, but I am and get
Speaker 1: over it. But also, you used to date white men,
Speaker 1: Yeah I did, and I stopped, bro, Like I realized
Speaker 1: it just really wasn't it really didn't make sense at
Speaker 1: the end of the day. Like, don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: I'd probably a white boy. When I go to yourpe
Speaker 1: I'm probably getting white You're engaged a white women, tell
Speaker 1: us get out. It's more like this. It's just it's
Speaker 1: it's more so when you realize like one of I
Speaker 1: can't say it because y'all know who it is, but
Speaker 1: being so proud in your blackness and wanting to pursue
Speaker 1: black shit in surrounding yourself, like even my studio, right,
Speaker 1: Like I make it a point to hire black and
Speaker 1: brown people. What I look like marrying and starting his
Speaker 1: family and getting all this money together with the white dude.
Speaker 1: It's just not no for real, and like so for
Speaker 1: me when I and also like there's an abundance of
Speaker 1: attractive black people in the world, attractive Latino's, attractive brown people, Indians, Asians, whatever, bro,
Speaker 1: So when I know that someone's on a streak of
Speaker 1: fucking white people, to me, you're looking for it, because
Speaker 1: it ain't hard for me to find a find ball sucking.
Speaker 1: It's just not that's to me where it is weird
Speaker 1: where it's like you're searching for this like white woman
Speaker 1: or a white bird like, but the trend for you
Speaker 1: to be on the trend where you just keep at it,
Speaker 1: that to me is when like you must like it
Speaker 1: or a whole bunch of snow bunnies and that son like,
Speaker 1: why woman as have been disturbed? I was so confused,
Speaker 1: Mandy like, And it's funny because I remember like the
Speaker 1: closure talk that we had and he was just like,
Speaker 1: He's like, I know what you're saying, but you know
Speaker 1: every girlfriend I have was black. I'm like, but you
Speaker 1: know when wh white girls ain't to look for you either,
Speaker 1: And I've said all his girlfriends were lit. I really
Speaker 1: can't find a girlfriend he had that wasn't ape. A
Speaker 1: matter of fact, one of them lives between New York
Speaker 1: and l A. I want to be her friends so bad.
Speaker 1: She just lit as styles and she pretty. I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: why you had to fuck that bitch? But anyway, uh,
Speaker 1: I say that to say, he was like, in my head,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't date them, so I'm just smashing and dashing
Speaker 1: and I could do it with white girls easy. And
Speaker 1: I just don't believe that. To me, if you're like
Speaker 1: that obsessive about sucking hose, like you're gonna fuchs you
Speaker 1: want to fuck. You're not sucking people that you won't
Speaker 1: end up with, like, shut up. And I do think
Speaker 1: it's just weird when someone gets to that point. So
Speaker 1: for me again, I do get insulted when I'll see
Speaker 1: you niggas a bunch of white girls not be like,
Speaker 1: what then do you want me for? And or girls
Speaker 1: that are ugly? Okay? And I know people say ugly subjective.
Speaker 1: It's ugly. It's subjective, not really, it sure is. It
Speaker 1: is because I'll be calling some of the some of
Speaker 1: the niggas my friends be fucking is ugly, and they'd
Speaker 1: be like, they're not, and I'd be like, the ugly
Speaker 1: niggas and I knew they were ugly. You had that
Speaker 1: one ugly, Oh my god, Jamaican, the DJ. I know, y'all.
Speaker 1: He was the ugliest motherfuck's out. I've never seen a
Speaker 1: mother was ugly. Oh, I know you can find him
Speaker 1: was ugly, all right. And when I tell you, and
Speaker 1: she got cheated on that nick nigga cheating on her?
Speaker 1: How you don't know one because I used to put
Speaker 1: back there. I liked ugly niggas. They're funny. No, she
Speaker 1: was like nineteen, she don't know what about Dick is
Speaker 1: a nineteen Yeah, I'll take it back. I'm not unfun
Speaker 1: like if that even walked by me in the street
Speaker 1: and told people to be like please and my excuse
Speaker 1: now is like it was before I had chitties BT before.
Speaker 1: All right, all right, well Jay, thank you so much?
Speaker 1: Do you do you want to? Also want to say,
Speaker 1: do you want to shut out on not defense not
Speaker 1: don't you gotta accept she's gonna get flooded with thousands
Speaker 1: of nerves? What messages do you want? Because I'm serious,
Speaker 1: like people are gonna throw but she has a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: I know That's what I'm saying. What kind of messages
Speaker 1: do you want? Would you want it to be like
Speaker 1: three some type ship? If any We're down for a
Speaker 1: third okay for she no just sex sex? Did you
Speaker 1: tell your girl you were coming on here? And how
Speaker 1: did you feel about it? I was saying, so Yesay
Speaker 1: was like it's so funny because I'm like, I feel
Speaker 1: the most myself with her. If anyone I dated and
Speaker 1: I was like, there's other people would date it, and
Speaker 1: I probably would have been like, yeah, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 1: But he thought it was like dope. She's like I'm
Speaker 1: so excited for you. That's cool. Let's be cool now. Wait,
Speaker 1: do what your handle? It's Jade of all Trades? What
Speaker 1: a Z? I love that name. By the way, that's
Speaker 1: a really good name. What does z Z? Well? I'm
Speaker 1: telling you they're coming. Prepare yourself, Prepare for sure, love
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Speaker 1: episode of horrible decisions ladies and left everything you do.
Speaker 1: I just found something out. I'm freaking out. I have
Speaker 1: no clue what to do. I was just informed by
Speaker 1: my boyfriend that his ex has herpes and did while
Speaker 1: they were together. She wasn't having an outbreak then they
Speaker 1: never fully had sex. I don't know what the funk
Speaker 1: that means, but I know your episode with Ella. That's
Speaker 1: still possible to even get it then, and it's extremely common,
Speaker 1: so I'm not upset over the possibility that have her
Speaker 1: have herpes. I'm piste off that I was just informed
Speaker 1: of this almost a year into our relationship, he's never
Speaker 1: been tested for it or an STD in general. It
Speaker 1: was dumb and not like me to still have sex
Speaker 1: with him after that. But I immediately got tested on
Speaker 1: my own. But as discussed on Ella's episode, they don't
Speaker 1: test for her pies. Not caring about your own sexual
Speaker 1: health is one thing, but I feel like not caring
Speaker 1: about your partner's sexual health is another. I don't care
Speaker 1: if I have it, like I said, but I just
Speaker 1: feel very betrayed and disrespected. I'm not sure what to do.
Speaker 1: He knows I'm mad at him, but with dumping him
Speaker 1: be over dramatic. I feel like hiding something is kind
Speaker 1: of a deal breaker. Please help me. I'm a patron.
Speaker 1: You can read this on there too. Um So, she
Speaker 1: mentioned that she got tested, but really realize that they
Speaker 1: don't test for her bees. That's only because you have
Speaker 1: to just ask. So they do test you for her
Speaker 1: bees if you go in for an STD screening, however,
Speaker 1: you have to ask for them to include her pies.
Speaker 1: So she's just saying like she got tested after but
Speaker 1: but like, like, you know, it's something you've got to
Speaker 1: request or it, so just go back and requested. I
Speaker 1: think the interesting thing is is dumping him over dramatic
Speaker 1: because she said it's not about the herpes, it's about
Speaker 1: um the deal breaker from hiding something. I'll be honest
Speaker 1: with you, and I surprised I'm even saying this, But
Speaker 1: I don't even know if he realized he was hiding something.
Speaker 1: And here's why. If a year later he told you,
Speaker 1: I yes, Like, I think here's the the interesting thing.
Speaker 1: You can be mad that he didn't care enough about
Speaker 1: your health because that is something that's super important that
Speaker 1: people don't give a funk about. Right, People care about
Speaker 1: them selves, and people are worried about their own ship.
Speaker 1: Not everyone is as conci conscientious about others around them.
Speaker 1: That's why people voted for Trump. Right, That's like just
Speaker 1: a more larger issue. People are not selfless like they
Speaker 1: need to be. That is an issue for you. Let
Speaker 1: that be the issue for you. But if he eventually
Speaker 1: told you, he probably never realized that he was quote
Speaker 1: unquote lying, right, So I don't know if dumping him
Speaker 1: for that would be over dramatic. I think dumping him
Speaker 1: should be because you feel like he doesn't care about
Speaker 1: that as much more than he hid it. Because I
Speaker 1: don't know if they hid it. I think that this
Speaker 1: would be a time for you both to talk about
Speaker 1: your sexual health and being that he never went and
Speaker 1: got tested. To me, there's nothing technically wrong with him
Speaker 1: not disclosing the health of someone else. I think that
Speaker 1: this is something to where you could both to take
Speaker 1: as a learning lesson. But the fact that he didn't
Speaker 1: disclose something that could be very private to someone else uh.
Speaker 1: To me, it's more so the fact that he never
Speaker 1: thought the need to go and get tested, which means
Speaker 1: he may not see herpes as a big deal, which
Speaker 1: means the two of you may need to open up
Speaker 1: about your views on sexual health as it pertains to
Speaker 1: as TVs And this could be the time to where
Speaker 1: you both go and get tested together, or you find
Speaker 1: or you find out from him why herpes isn't a
Speaker 1: big deal to him. Maybe he feels like it's not
Speaker 1: that big of a deal as long as you don't
Speaker 1: get outbreaks, or maybe he feels like how or maybe
Speaker 1: he feels like so many people in the world. I mean,
Speaker 1: we talked about it even on the episode. Eighty percent
Speaker 1: of people have have some form of herpie simplex. Of course,
Speaker 1: there's the one on your mouth and the one on
Speaker 1: your genitals, but also herpes can can end up in
Speaker 1: any moist area on your body. You can get herpes
Speaker 1: and your goddamn arn't pit. So I think that it's
Speaker 1: important for you, guys to discuss your views on sexually
Speaker 1: transmitted disease and your sexual health and not use this
Speaker 1: as a time to to to badger him or or
Speaker 1: punish him by breaking up with him. But this is
Speaker 1: a chance for you to educate him and maybe see
Speaker 1: where his views are on this. Yeah. I think that's
Speaker 1: a really important thing, is that he may not just
Speaker 1: understand and um, everything is a learning moment and a
Speaker 1: teaching moment. Excuse me, And when it happens like this,
Speaker 1: especially if we told you a year later, it doesn't
Speaker 1: sound like a lie. Um. Also, bitch, what is never
Speaker 1: fully had sex? Because you look white? Zilly? And I
Speaker 1: wonder if this is some white people, because when white
Speaker 1: people say we hooked up, I'm like, what that means?
Speaker 1: I don't know what hooked up means? Do you know
Speaker 1: what it means? Man? Do because I don't hooked up
Speaker 1: without sex. Maybe just make people be like, yeah, we
Speaker 1: hooked up once, and you're like what I'm saying hooking
Speaker 1: hooking up the sex. That's what I thought, so what
Speaker 1: I'm up. But hooking up is the same way we
Speaker 1: talked about dating, meaning something depending on the person or
Speaker 1: I mean. But we also say oral sex is sex.
Speaker 1: So my nigga's still set. Okay, well, maybe that's what
Speaker 1: she means they never fully had sex. When she said
Speaker 1: they never fully had sex, that made me think to myself, Wundy,
Speaker 1: they drive or played and right