1 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: We're back with another Sunday sampler. 2 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 2: The music panel returns on the Bobbycast and Eddie and 3 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:17,119 Speaker 2: I we're talking to Chris. Chris is way younger than 4 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 2: us and he did not know Millie Vanilly. We talk 5 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:23,319 Speaker 2: about that also some real controversies in music. We'll start 6 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:26,240 Speaker 2: with In the Vets Office with Doctor Josie. She sits 7 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 2: down with a highly acclaimed dog trainer, Nikki Varva, to 8 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 2: talk about training the most common behavioral issues and pets. 9 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 2: What she has to train the most, the kind of 10 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 2: dog she has to train the most. All of this 11 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 2: is awesome. You can check out this show and many more. 12 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 2: Just go search them up after you listen to this podcast. 13 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 2: So let's get started. Here's a clip of In the 14 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 2: Vets Office with Doctor Josie. 15 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 3: You're listening to In the Vets Office with Doctor Josie Horschak. 16 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 4: Taylor's so handsome. I was just telling NICKI, we've had 17 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,559 Speaker 4: dogs take poops in the studio. My dog bit Bobby 18 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:11,039 Speaker 4: last season, and Saylor's sitting here like a perfect angel. 19 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 5: So we had a long talk on the way. You know, 20 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 5: I was like, hey, behave your trainer's dog, you know, 21 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 5: don't embarrass me. 22 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 4: The bar is very high, very high. Well, we'll jump 23 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:21,039 Speaker 4: right into our case of the week. We always talk 24 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 4: about something that I've seen in practice. A lot of 25 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 4: times owners don't really know what's going on behind the 26 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 4: scenes in the trenches, as we say, and so the 27 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 4: case for this week is a sad one, but I 28 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 4: think it's important to talk about because we do see 29 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 4: it from time to time. It was one of my 30 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 4: owners called me and said, hey, you know, I left 31 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:42,400 Speaker 4: a bag of veggie straws out on the counter and 32 00:01:42,560 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 4: he had three dogs and one of them got up 33 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 4: on the counter, got the bag of food, brought them down. 34 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:50,920 Speaker 4: He came home from whatever aarond he was running, and 35 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 4: it was I think pretty gruesome. There was blood everywhere. 36 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 4: Two of the dogs had ganged up on the smaller 37 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 4: dog and beat them up pretty bad. 38 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 6: Which it's a sad story. 39 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:04,960 Speaker 4: It's not a great case of the week, but I 40 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:08,359 Speaker 4: think it's an important one to talk about because so 41 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 4: often we think about dogs fighting each other at the 42 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 4: dog park or getting into altercations when they're on the leash. 43 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:17,960 Speaker 4: But I in practice, we'll see dogs that live together 44 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 4: and that our siblings fight and hurt each other all 45 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 4: the time. So I'm a big proponent of when you're 46 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 4: leaving the house, putting them in a crate. What do 47 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 4: you think about that? 48 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:31,639 Speaker 5: One hundred percent? You know that, honestly, right there could 49 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:34,239 Speaker 5: just save that fight. You never know, I toltally this. 50 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 5: Nobody can ever guarantee what your dogs are going to 51 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 5: do when they're by themselves, whether it's a single dog 52 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 5: or multiple dogs. The safest thing that you can do 53 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 5: is just put them in a crate, right put them 54 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 5: in a crate. 55 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:45,639 Speaker 6: And you know, I'm at that. 56 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:47,919 Speaker 5: People say that's a band aid, but honestly, that could 57 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 5: have saved a big fight or losing a dog. And 58 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:53,799 Speaker 5: to that extent, yeah, and sadly we do see the 59 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:55,359 Speaker 5: big dog little dog. 60 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 4: Are altercations where we do lose these dogs. I mean 61 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 4: they can. It can be a life or death situation. 62 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:04,920 Speaker 4: And I find that owners feel guilty about the crate, 63 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 4: but it is so important. And I have found that 64 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 4: dogs really like their crate. They do. 65 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:10,799 Speaker 1: They love it. 66 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:13,079 Speaker 5: We put a lot of human emotion on it, you know, 67 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 5: they call them a cage or I want my dog 68 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 5: to just be a dog. Well, at the end of 69 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:21,200 Speaker 5: the day, they are a dog. And we can't expect 70 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 5: them to live in a human life and be able 71 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 5: to do the things that we expect them to do 72 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 5: when at the end of the day, they're a dog. 73 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 5: And so the crate honestly is a great way to put, 74 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 5: you know, your dog in a safe spot to where 75 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 5: they do feel comfortable. It is like their own room. 76 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 5: It's how we escape too. We like to go to 77 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 5: our own rooms and kind of relax. That's a great 78 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 5: place for your dog to go as well. We Cody 79 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,640 Speaker 5: and I will refer to our dog's create as their condo. Yes, 80 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 5: they have their own little condo and they can just relax, 81 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:48,960 Speaker 5: they can take a breath, like they don't have to 82 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 5: be on they don't have to be on alert. So 83 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 5: I think it's important for them to be able to 84 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 5: take a break just like you and I absolutely absolutely, 85 00:03:56,000 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 5: you know if you think about it, When dogs are 86 00:03:57,720 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 5: they're active twenty four to seven, you know, so they 87 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 5: I honestly really enjoy being able to go into their 88 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 5: crate and take a nap and turn off, you know. 89 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:07,160 Speaker 5: So it's great and again it's something that can really 90 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 5: I tell people all the time to prevent things from happening. 91 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:12,920 Speaker 5: Your create is your number one thing that can prevent 92 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 5: things from happening? 93 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 7: Yeah? 94 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 5: Absolutely, all right. 95 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 4: Next up, we will dive into some of our listener calls. 96 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 8: Hello, doctor Josie, your nephew, Hank is five months old. 97 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 8: He's a Portuguese water dog and he started humping. My 98 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 8: question is is this for sexual reasons or is there 99 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:32,040 Speaker 8: any other reasons why this would be happening and how 100 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 8: can we minimize that? 101 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:36,960 Speaker 4: Okay, that was my brother in law, Tanner, who just 102 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 4: got a puppy, and I get this question all the time. 103 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 4: I'm sure you do too as a trainer. Oh absolutely, 104 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:46,839 Speaker 4: Where dogs, puppies a lot of times as they're maturing 105 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 4: a little bit, and even adult dogs will hump. And 106 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 4: whether they're neutered or in spade or not, or even 107 00:04:53,880 --> 00:04:56,840 Speaker 4: a female dog, even a female dog, we will see humping. 108 00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 4: And it does not necessarily I would say, the majority 109 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 4: of that time does not equate to them being sexually aroused. 110 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 4: More than not, I find that it is, and I 111 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 4: would love to hear your opinion too. I find that 112 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 4: it's they are excited and overstimulated, and they're kind of 113 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 4: displacing that anxiety and excitement and it turns into humping. 114 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 4: But it's not hey, I'm want to have sex, exactly. 115 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 9: It is. 116 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 5: It happens a lot when dogs are very overstimulated, so 117 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 5: it's an outlet, so it's something that they can do. Now, 118 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:30,840 Speaker 5: some dogs will go into displacement, they get excited and 119 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 5: maybe go run and pick up a ball because they're 120 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 5: just trying to put their energy into something. And some dogs, 121 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 5: of course just start humping. 122 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 9: You know. 123 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 5: Yes, at times it can be a dominant kind of thing, 124 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 5: you know, where two dogs are sizing each other up, 125 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:45,160 Speaker 5: you know, kind of a little bit. Normally it's it's 126 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 5: always just overstimulation. Yeah, so brother Tanner, no worries. Hank 127 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:54,039 Speaker 5: Is is good to go. He's probably just really happy 128 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:55,239 Speaker 5: to be alive, exactly. 129 00:05:55,320 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 6: He's not attracted to you. 130 00:05:56,240 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 5: We're good, Yeah, all right. 131 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:02,159 Speaker 10: Next up, My name is Anne Then. I volunteer at 132 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:05,040 Speaker 10: a pet shelter in Delaware, and I had a question 133 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:08,800 Speaker 10: about dogs. We noticed one day all the dogs were 134 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:12,040 Speaker 10: going wild when one man approached. Now he's worked with 135 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:16,320 Speaker 10: these dogs before, but they were very very agitated by 136 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:18,800 Speaker 10: him this time. And he happened to be wearing a 137 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 10: bright orange almost a hunter orange shirt. Could this have 138 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:26,920 Speaker 10: been something that would have triggered the dogs. Is that 139 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 10: common for them to be triggered by certain colors? 140 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 4: I have two thoughts when I hear this, The first 141 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:36,320 Speaker 4: of which is dogs are pack animals. I think if 142 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:39,599 Speaker 4: maybe the other dogs had interactive with this person before, 143 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 4: but I think if one starts barking, they can all 144 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 4: sort of trigger each other and then spiral a bit. 145 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 4: The other thought, and not to get too scientific, is 146 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:51,480 Speaker 4: that dogs only have two cones in their retinas. Humans 147 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 4: have three, and so dogs can't really make out red 148 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:57,799 Speaker 4: or green colors. They can really only make out blues 149 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:00,600 Speaker 4: and yellows, and so I feel like orange kind of 150 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:03,480 Speaker 4: falls into that red category, and it can look like 151 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:05,600 Speaker 4: a very dark color to them. So it is very 152 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 4: possible that a big man wearing that color of shirt 153 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 4: could be causing them to be a little bit more 154 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:12,840 Speaker 4: fearful than usual. 155 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:13,440 Speaker 11: Yeah. 156 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:15,120 Speaker 5: Absolutely, And also so you got to think in a 157 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 5: rescue is my thing would be do you have a 158 00:07:17,840 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 5: new dog? Has the new dog? Is this the one 159 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 5: that started the barking? Isn't It causes everybody to bark. 160 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 5: So a lot of times when somebody says a dog 161 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 5: or dogs have done something out of the norm. It's 162 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 5: normally not out of the norm. You got to think 163 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 5: about what triggered it prior. You know, did the guy 164 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 5: come through a different door, did you know? There's all 165 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:38,280 Speaker 5: kinds of different things you go into it, but definitely, 166 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,640 Speaker 5: you know, dogs Again, I've seen dogs act differently when 167 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 5: they've actually been able to see a color, you know, 168 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 5: whether it be I'm mean, I have a chair in 169 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 5: the yard that's it blue, and now the dogs are like, 170 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 5: oh my god, what is that? Yeah, Mike's because they've 171 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 5: never been. 172 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 6: Able to see it before. 173 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 11: Yeah, I mean, so it does. 174 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 8: You know. 175 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 5: Dogs definitely can you know, change to routine or something 176 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:57,840 Speaker 5: that's different in their life and act different to it. 177 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 5: But definitely in a kennel situation, if one bar, they're 178 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:01,240 Speaker 5: all can explode. 179 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 10: Absolutely. 180 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 4: And I think one thing that you just said that 181 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 4: I think really rings true for me is routine. Dogs 182 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 4: are such routine natured creatures and just like you said, 183 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 4: of anything is different from the usual can really throw 184 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:16,120 Speaker 4: them off. 185 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 9: Absolutely, you know, going off the topic of what is 186 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 9: or what is in country, One thing I've noticed about 187 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 9: and I've been going through TikTok a lot lately, just 188 00:08:31,840 --> 00:08:34,360 Speaker 9: because it's eleven PM, I can't sleep, I can't help myself. 189 00:08:34,360 --> 00:08:35,400 Speaker 11: I grab it and I pull it out. 190 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:39,120 Speaker 9: A lot of nineties country stuff comes up through the 191 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 9: TikTok feed, stuff that isn't technically nineties country, but asking 192 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 9: around with writers and family and friends, basically, anything from 193 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:50,040 Speaker 9: like nineteen eighty six to two thousand and seven is 194 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 9: nineties country. 195 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 2: That's funny they would go up that high. Yeah. Yeah, 196 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 2: the late eighties stuff for sure, like a lot of 197 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 2: the Randy Travis stuff gets put into that, and some 198 00:08:57,120 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 2: of the George Straight from the late eighties. 199 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 11: Most of the Sanandoa hits you know, are from the eighties. Wow, 200 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 11: I didn't realize that. 201 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:05,559 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's eighty great point because that's definitely what it 202 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 2: could said that nineties where I guess it's the music 203 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:13,839 Speaker 2: that was wildly popular in that era. Since most of 204 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 2: it was the nineties, it's just all considered nine. 205 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:19,240 Speaker 12: And you think, like some of Tim McGrath's or like 206 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 12: some of his early two thousands feels like nineties, but 207 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:24,320 Speaker 12: it does already two thousand faith Hill, like a lot 208 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 12: of two thousand songs. 209 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 9: People think that Jessica, Jessica Andrews and Who I Am 210 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:30,199 Speaker 9: as a nineties country song, that's two thousand and one. 211 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 11: That's you know, I mean, it's close. It's not nineties though. 212 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 9: Other some people that think two thousand and four songs 213 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:36,959 Speaker 9: are a country or nineties country, you know, like live 214 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:39,760 Speaker 9: Like You Were Dying. Somebody wants reference on TikTok is 215 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 9: a nineties country song. I'm like, you're five years off. 216 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 9: That's like not even close. 217 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 2: So I guess it's just people that hear old good 218 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 2: semi contemporary country music. If it's good and semi contemporary, 219 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:51,840 Speaker 2: it must be nineties, it must be nineties country. It's 220 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:53,599 Speaker 2: funny that that is all classified that. 221 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:54,960 Speaker 11: But I do feel like a. 222 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 12: Lot of the eighties, even some of the late late eighties, 223 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:03,319 Speaker 12: like Garth Early, Garth nine Yeah, eighty nine, Yeah, like that, 224 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 12: the Dance eighty nine nineties because it was just really 225 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:12,400 Speaker 12: popular in that era when it popped, which just so 226 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:13,360 Speaker 12: happened to be the nineties. 227 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 9: Yes, most people too don't think of two thousands country 228 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 9: in the same way as nineties country. 229 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:22,559 Speaker 2: Well, I agree, except I'm married to someone that is 230 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 2: twelve years younger than me, and I felt the same way. 231 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 2: I was, like, I always had like two thousands sucked 232 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 2: like like twenty fourteen. I was like, man, just not 233 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:37,319 Speaker 2: a good era. And she's like, are you kidding Eastern Corbin, 234 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 2: are you kidding? And she starts listening off Joe and 235 00:10:42,520 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 2: Joe Nichols. She's like, if I did a New highwayman, 236 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:47,319 Speaker 2: I'm not kidding this what she said. She had to 237 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 2: be Easton Joe Nichols, Craig Morgan, and I figure the 238 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:56,720 Speaker 2: other one was yeah, but she that's that's Fred Yacht Club, 239 00:10:56,840 --> 00:10:59,440 Speaker 2: her jam that that era is like her. 240 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:03,079 Speaker 11: That is the guy that played your rehearsal dinner. It 241 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 11: was Josh Grace. Josh. 242 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 2: That would be her because she was a twenty ten 243 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 2: and that could have been two thousand and eight to 244 00:11:11,040 --> 00:11:11,640 Speaker 2: two thousand. 245 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:13,559 Speaker 11: I mean, that's the era I grew up on. 246 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 2: She it's her at some of the Tim McGraw stuff 247 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:18,959 Speaker 2: that I don't even know is her favorite Tim McGraw 248 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,160 Speaker 2: stuff because it happened after the early and before he 249 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:25,000 Speaker 2: kind of had this like reinvented. Yeah yeah, because he 250 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 2: never retired but like hit hard again. 251 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:29,240 Speaker 11: But I agree. 252 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 2: I always thought that I was like, that's the worst generation, 253 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:33,360 Speaker 2: but because she was right in it, and she's from Oklahoma, 254 00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:35,800 Speaker 2: she was like, no, no, this is my favorite, so 255 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:37,679 Speaker 2: I agree. The only person I've ever heard that from 256 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:38,079 Speaker 2: my wife. 257 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:41,719 Speaker 9: Though it gets overshadowed because nineties country is this very 258 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 9: prestigious thin to a lot of people, even people that 259 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:46,680 Speaker 9: didn't grow up in the nineties. And then obviously anything 260 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:50,480 Speaker 9: post Florida Georgia line breaking out is its own entity 261 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:53,000 Speaker 9: as well. So you have that twenty to twenty ten 262 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 9: kind of era that's kind of lost in the shuffle there. 263 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:57,319 Speaker 9: But still there's a lot of songs that are played 264 00:11:57,360 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 9: on the radio that were from that time period. 265 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:00,600 Speaker 2: I used to think too, it was just the age 266 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:02,680 Speaker 2: of the people that got to make the decisions being 267 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 2: that's funny, meaning the people that you know, us executives, 268 00:12:08,760 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 2: people that are playing, like putting songs in movies the 269 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 2: nineties because that was their thing, right. I don't think 270 00:12:16,520 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 2: that as much anymore. The nineties it was so commercially massive, Like. 271 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:25,640 Speaker 11: See, I always wondered that, like because we lived. 272 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:28,679 Speaker 9: It, or technology maybe took such advanced steps that might 273 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 9: have been a. 274 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 1: Well no, but it popped so hard. 275 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 2: Like the concerts, I mean, it was huge they made Yes, 276 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 2: nineties country was huge, but I lost over into mainstream 277 00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:39,520 Speaker 2: so much that people that didn't know country music started. 278 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 2: It was like the seventies whenever like disco or and 279 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 2: then even like the disco cowboy type stuff where people 280 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 2: in New York City but start wearing cowboy hats. 281 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, like I got that big or did that again 282 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:52,920 Speaker 1: in the Ninvember they did. 283 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:54,959 Speaker 9: A halftime show at the super Bowl, like there was 284 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 9: a nineties country Ye, there's a bunch of winter artists 285 00:12:57,760 --> 00:13:00,440 Speaker 9: be pretty. I mean, you would never think what happen 286 00:13:00,480 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 9: nowadays that. 287 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 2: They would say maybe maybe right now. I would for 288 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:05,240 Speaker 2: the first time, but never up until right now. 289 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 11: With Morgan and more. 290 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 1: I think that we have three. 291 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 2: Football stadium acts right now that aren't that that are 292 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:15,439 Speaker 2: under forty Morgan, Louke, Zach Bryant, who he says he's 293 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:16,560 Speaker 2: not countryartists, but that just makes. 294 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 11: It more of a country artist. They stream so much 295 00:13:18,880 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 11: more than anybody else, and everybody mad. 296 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, so but I agree there's no country artist. Okay, 297 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:26,560 Speaker 2: should I did it? But she also was a pop artist? Yes, 298 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 2: so yeah, that's but I stand by twenty tens bad Era. 299 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 11: I'm with you, bad Era. I don't know any of that, 300 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 11: so Eddie, I do. 301 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 2: And it's actually pretty given my wife plays and she's 302 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:47,440 Speaker 2: like what I'm like, I'm like, yeah, it's yeah, good. 303 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: Level cast up road, little food for your sol. 304 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 2: Life. Oh it's pretty much. It's pretty beautiful thing beautiful 305 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:08,160 Speaker 2: for that for a little more and it's exciting. Said ek, 306 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 2: you're kicking with full thing with Amy Brown. 307 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:16,599 Speaker 13: So we can miss people any time of year, but 308 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:21,600 Speaker 13: the holidays, which are mostly a time for joy and togetherness, 309 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 13: the holidays can also just be really tough when someone 310 00:14:25,440 --> 00:14:29,080 Speaker 13: you love isn't there anymore. If you're missing someone this 311 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 13: Thanksgiving and Christmas season, just know that you're not alone. 312 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:37,400 Speaker 13: I'm right there with you. I know so many others 313 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 13: listening are as well. And the focus for this thing 314 00:14:43,280 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 13: right now is going to be surviving the holidays without 315 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:48,360 Speaker 13: your loved ones. And if this topic isn't something that 316 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:51,080 Speaker 13: you've had to worry about, because well, there was a 317 00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 13: time in my life that this type of encouragement wouldn't 318 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 13: have yet resonated with me because I hadn't experienced the 319 00:14:58,280 --> 00:15:02,040 Speaker 13: loss of my mom, my dad, or someone super super 320 00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 13: close to me, or even experience divorce, which is the 321 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 13: death of a relationship. So you know, same vainish but Anyway, 322 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:14,600 Speaker 13: if this topic isn't for you, I get it, but 323 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:17,280 Speaker 13: maybe you could share this episode with someone that you 324 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 13: think might find this part helpful. And since Thanksgiving is 325 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 13: next week, we'll start with the conflicting feelings of gratitude 326 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 13: and sadness, disappointment, maybe even anger. I just want to 327 00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 13: remind you that it is okay to feel grateful and 328 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:39,000 Speaker 13: heartbroken at the same time. Grief is messy, and holidays 329 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:44,600 Speaker 13: magnify the messiness of it, for sure, like everything just amplified. 330 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:48,320 Speaker 13: So I want to normalize all emotions. They are all allowed. 331 00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 6: And my hope is though, that you're. 332 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:58,440 Speaker 13: Able to experience moments of happiness and joy alongside your sadness. 333 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 13: I suppose it really does depend on how fresh things 334 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:03,240 Speaker 13: are for you. 335 00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:04,520 Speaker 6: I get that. 336 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:08,880 Speaker 13: But wherever you are in this stage of your life, 337 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:11,960 Speaker 13: these are some tips or some things you can do 338 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 13: to survive the holidays with your heartbreak or your heart 339 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 13: that is aching right now. Incorporating traditions is something that 340 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:26,320 Speaker 13: can feel really special. Like if you've got your mom's 341 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 13: pie recipe and she always made it and she's no 342 00:16:29,960 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 13: longer with you, well, your new tradition is going to 343 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 13: be make that pie. Or if she had a favorite 344 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 13: pie she didn't make it, but it was somebody else's recipe, 345 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:42,760 Speaker 13: but she loved having it at Thanksgiving or Christmas, or 346 00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:45,760 Speaker 13: your new tradition even though no, maybe nobody else really 347 00:16:45,840 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 13: likes that pie, but your mom always did make the pie. 348 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 13: It's a simple way to feel their presence and have 349 00:16:54,800 --> 00:16:57,360 Speaker 13: them a part of the day even though they're not there. 350 00:16:57,760 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 13: Or if it's not a leve one that you lost 351 00:16:59,360 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 13: but the end of relationship, you can create new traditions 352 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 13: instead of trying to recreate past holidays, you know, just 353 00:17:08,080 --> 00:17:13,240 Speaker 13: embrace the opportunity to start fresh. Like for me, starting 354 00:17:13,320 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 13: some new traditions have helped shift the focus from what 355 00:17:17,520 --> 00:17:20,040 Speaker 13: is different about my life that I didn't think was 356 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:22,440 Speaker 13: going to be different, and what's missing from my life. 357 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 13: It shifts it to what's possible, like maybe you host 358 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:30,320 Speaker 13: friends coming over, Like if you're in a divorced situation, 359 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:33,560 Speaker 13: maybe you don't have your kids in your ex whoever 360 00:17:33,600 --> 00:17:36,359 Speaker 13: your co parenting has them. Well, what can you do 361 00:17:36,720 --> 00:17:40,520 Speaker 13: to bring other people together? A plan a casual day 362 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:44,120 Speaker 13: with close family and friends, or if you're solo, indulgent 363 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 13: something that you love like ordering your favorite takeout scheduling 364 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 13: some movie marathon, like your favorite actress is Julia Roberts. 365 00:17:53,560 --> 00:17:57,119 Speaker 13: Watch every movie she's ever been in in order that 366 00:17:57,200 --> 00:17:59,600 Speaker 13: they came out, Like, give yourself a little challenge like that. 367 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:02,080 Speaker 13: What else could you do? You could take a long walk. 368 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:04,280 Speaker 13: We talked about being outside and the first thing and 369 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:07,240 Speaker 13: how good that is for you. But maybe go take 370 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:09,439 Speaker 13: a drive to a really pretty place where you can 371 00:18:09,480 --> 00:18:12,560 Speaker 13: actually take a hike instead of just walking around your 372 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:15,080 Speaker 13: neighborhood or your neighborhood park, Like, is there a really 373 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:18,480 Speaker 13: cool place you could go to to hike? And remember 374 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:22,760 Speaker 13: that it's okay to say no to situations that feel overwhelming. 375 00:18:23,320 --> 00:18:27,360 Speaker 13: I think even if you've committed, because your family and friends, 376 00:18:27,800 --> 00:18:31,040 Speaker 13: if they know if you've experienced heartache and you're grieving 377 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:33,920 Speaker 13: the loss of something, they're going to understand if you've 378 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 13: changed your mind and you're not going to go. So 379 00:18:37,080 --> 00:18:39,920 Speaker 13: if you're not up for that big family gathering, do 380 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:43,440 Speaker 13: something smaller or do something by yourself. 381 00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:44,119 Speaker 6: That's up to you. 382 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:47,760 Speaker 13: I will say. There's a difference though, in locking yourself 383 00:18:47,880 --> 00:18:51,879 Speaker 13: in your room and isolating yourself from everybody because you 384 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:55,719 Speaker 13: don't want to face it all, and then creating solitude 385 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:57,800 Speaker 13: for yourself because that's what you need at the time. 386 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 13: So just try to assess where you are with that, 387 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:05,880 Speaker 13: allow yourself to grieve what's different, and then also look 388 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 13: for small moments of things to be thankful for. It's 389 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:12,880 Speaker 13: that gratitude piece, Like maybe it's the piece of having 390 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 13: a little extra time for yourself or a new chance 391 00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:19,159 Speaker 13: to redefine what the holidays look like for you in 392 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,680 Speaker 13: your own way. I'm going to be alone for Thanksgiving 393 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:26,879 Speaker 13: without my kids, and it's still new to me. It's 394 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:30,840 Speaker 13: still weird. We haven't been divorced that long. I think 395 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 13: maybe once I've got like maybe five years under my belt, 396 00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:38,640 Speaker 13: it'll finally feel real. But Thanksgiving and be in my house. 397 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 13: I've got some friends and i have things to do, 398 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:44,560 Speaker 13: but I'm just not gonna have my kids, which is 399 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:48,480 Speaker 13: gonna feel weird. So a way to look at that though, is, oh, 400 00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,200 Speaker 13: look at this time, I'm going to get for myself 401 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 13: to maybe focus on some things that I've been putting off, 402 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:57,360 Speaker 13: or I get to rest a little bit if it's 403 00:19:57,400 --> 00:19:59,919 Speaker 13: a loved one that's passed on. Something else you can 404 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 13: do before the meal is go around the table and 405 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 13: have everyone share a favorite memory. That is a special 406 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 13: way to turn grief into gratitude, and then it keeps 407 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 13: that person alive in a way, a part of the family, 408 00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:17,560 Speaker 13: like they're still there. You could also light a candle 409 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:21,040 Speaker 13: for them or play their favorite song while you're all 410 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:24,520 Speaker 13: cooking and prepping the food. And these are just little 411 00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:27,359 Speaker 13: things that can be really good for you and your family, 412 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 13: depending on who all is involved in the grieving process. 413 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 13: And the main thing that I want you to let 414 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:38,200 Speaker 13: soak in is that it is okay to laugh, to 415 00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 13: feel happy, and to enjoy the holidays. Your loved one 416 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:47,720 Speaker 13: would not want you to feel guilty for continuing to 417 00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:51,760 Speaker 13: live your life. So next week, whether you're surrounded by 418 00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:54,640 Speaker 13: people for Thanksgiving or you're spending the day more low key, 419 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:57,600 Speaker 13: know that it is okay to miss the people or 420 00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:01,879 Speaker 13: the life you thought you'd have. It's okay to cry 421 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:04,720 Speaker 13: and to celebrate all at once. 422 00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:21,960 Speaker 1: We're gonna do it live. Oh the one, two, three, 423 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:23,439 Speaker 1: sore losers? 424 00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:27,520 Speaker 14: What up, everybody? I am lunchbox. I know the most 425 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:29,960 Speaker 14: about sports, so I'll give you the sports facts, my 426 00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:34,320 Speaker 14: sports opinions because I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all. 427 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,680 Speaker 1: It's sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male. 428 00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 1: I live on the north side of Nashville with Bayser, 429 00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:39,400 Speaker 1: my wife. 430 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:40,160 Speaker 5: We do have a farm. 431 00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:43,640 Speaker 1: It's beautiful, a lot of acreage, no animals, a lot 432 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:48,880 Speaker 1: of crops. Hopefully soon corn pumpkins, rye. I believe maybe 433 00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:53,960 Speaker 1: a little fescue. Oh to be determined. Over to you, coach, 434 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: And here's a clip from this week's episode of The 435 00:21:57,359 --> 00:21:58,080 Speaker 1: Sore Losers. 436 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 11: The fight her around the World. 437 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:07,320 Speaker 14: Dude, what an absolute damn joke. I watched that girl fight. 438 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 14: That girl kicked the other girl's ass and somehow she lost. 439 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,040 Speaker 1: I believe the other one was the incumbent. She was 440 00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 1: a bigger girl. She was from Ireland. Uh, don't fact 441 00:22:17,920 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 1: check us on any of this stuff, but I think 442 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:24,480 Speaker 1: that she just it was that blow to the eye. 443 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:28,400 Speaker 1: Even those are braids, the slashed her. That's illegal. You're 444 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:30,920 Speaker 1: not allowed to leave with your head. I mean, as 445 00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:32,960 Speaker 1: a ref That's how the judges scored it. And I'll 446 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 1: hang up and listen over her eye was so nasty, 447 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:39,399 Speaker 1: so gross. Poor thing though she had to she had 448 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,600 Speaker 1: to battle through it. And the God blessed the surgeon 449 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:44,399 Speaker 1: they had on the side. He was putting jail. He 450 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:47,160 Speaker 1: was putting, uh, what's that stuff you put on your kids, man, 451 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:50,600 Speaker 1: super glue? Yeah, no, it's called something else, but it's like, 452 00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:55,119 Speaker 1: uh yeah, cup cupbomb or something man. And they were 453 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,399 Speaker 1: putting that all over it, and at at some points 454 00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,800 Speaker 1: it almost looked like you were seeing portions of her 455 00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:01,440 Speaker 1: eye you've never really seen before. 456 00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 14: Okay, now let's get to the main fight. First of all, 457 00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:07,200 Speaker 14: after the first that fight, they take thirty five minutes 458 00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 14: of nothing to get ready for the main fight, absolutely 459 00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 14: wasting my damn time. Having Jerry Jones and Cedric the 460 00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:17,520 Speaker 14: Entertainer interviewed by some lady that I don't know who she. 461 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 1: Is, that this is big for the Cowboys, this is 462 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:20,400 Speaker 1: a big game. 463 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 14: Chair leaders look great, Ah, yeah, we're here Cowboys. Damn, 464 00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:25,320 Speaker 14: we're just decide to host this thing. And then Michael 465 00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:26,240 Speaker 14: Irvin's on there. 466 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:27,120 Speaker 11: Like, what are we doing? 467 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:30,680 Speaker 1: I missed all that. I was frozen. Oh you're frozen. Yeah, 468 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 1: I was in a I was battling. It was me 469 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 1: versus Netflix was actually the prelims. 470 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,440 Speaker 14: And then right before they're about to walk out, my 471 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 14: Netflix goes frozen again, and then it says you might 472 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:44,880 Speaker 14: want to check your Internet it seems like you're having 473 00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 14: internet problems. I'm like, no, Netflix, I promise you I'm 474 00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,040 Speaker 14: not having Internet problems. It's a Netflix problem. They're like, 475 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,159 Speaker 14: here are three steps to check your Internet, and it's like, 476 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,960 Speaker 14: one go to the router. Two is the router color. 477 00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,359 Speaker 14: And I'm like, no, no, no, I don't need to 478 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:02,879 Speaker 14: go to the route. It's your damn stream that ain't working. 479 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,520 Speaker 14: The question is this were you battling this fight? Was 480 00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:08,960 Speaker 14: it you versus Netflix or did your Was your wife 481 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,840 Speaker 14: in on it too? The kids are helping you because 482 00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:11,840 Speaker 14: Baser wouldn't help me. 483 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,080 Speaker 1: I was on my own. I was on a damn 484 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,760 Speaker 1: island fighting this thing. And then I she said something. Actually, 485 00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 1: she did help me with that. She told me on Twitter. 486 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:22,000 Speaker 1: It says if you go two minutes delayed, it'll be good. 487 00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:23,480 Speaker 1: It's actually golden. 488 00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:25,680 Speaker 14: I never that's when you told Scuba and I that 489 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,560 Speaker 14: this was what we need to do. But I was 490 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:31,560 Speaker 14: battling it with my wife. She wasn't really doing anything. 491 00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:34,119 Speaker 14: She was just sitting on the couch. Then she went 492 00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:35,639 Speaker 14: and took a shower and then she came back and 493 00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:37,359 Speaker 14: she was like, well that sucks. 494 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:38,160 Speaker 11: This sucks. 495 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:40,800 Speaker 14: I feel bad for you this sucks, Like, how is 496 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:43,720 Speaker 14: Netflix this bad when this big of an event is coming. 497 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,600 Speaker 14: I'm like, I agree, so bad. But then it finally, 498 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 14: I don't know what happened. It started working and we 499 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:53,960 Speaker 14: do the walkouts started cooking right, and Jake Paul comes 500 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,639 Speaker 14: out in a fucking car and I'm like, what the 501 00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:57,719 Speaker 14: hell am I watching? 502 00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:01,679 Speaker 1: Love the showmanship, I'm not a gen z. I don't 503 00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,200 Speaker 1: I don't give up about his car. 504 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:05,480 Speaker 11: Who wins this fight? 505 00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:10,600 Speaker 14: And I immediately think this is the dumbest thing I 506 00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:11,960 Speaker 14: am I have ever watched. 507 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 11: I was like, this is wwe. 508 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,560 Speaker 14: The dude is coming out in a car and it 509 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:20,159 Speaker 14: is going so slow. My wife went, I don't know 510 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 14: what she went to do. If she went to go 511 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:25,080 Speaker 14: change laundry, do laundry, brush her teeth, get something to drink. 512 00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:26,119 Speaker 11: I have no idea what she did. 513 00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:29,880 Speaker 14: She comes back five minutes later and she goes, he's 514 00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 14: still in that damn car. A she goes, He's really 515 00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 14: gonna ride that all the way to the ring. I 516 00:25:38,880 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 14: was like, it appears, so. 517 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:43,040 Speaker 1: Did you not see the other shit? No, who was 518 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:45,280 Speaker 1: spraying his own cologne on him? 519 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:48,000 Speaker 14: His brother logan, Yeah, he had his spray guy the 520 00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:50,560 Speaker 14: logan was spraying the cologne on him, and I'm. 521 00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:51,960 Speaker 6: Like, this is so stupid. 522 00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:55,240 Speaker 1: We were in an ad, Bro, We're in a weed 523 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 1: to present commercial. We are in an advertisement. People say 524 00:25:58,320 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 1: we're in a simulation. 525 00:25:59,200 --> 00:25:59,440 Speaker 11: We're not. 526 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:01,640 Speaker 1: We're lifelong advertisement. 527 00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:03,520 Speaker 14: Why weren't they just drinking Prime the whole time? 528 00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,399 Speaker 1: Kidding me that stuff sells itself. Oh, he's got to 529 00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:08,439 Speaker 1: work on the ax spray. 530 00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:12,960 Speaker 14: Okay, well anyway, and then they have fifty two bodyguards 531 00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 14: walking down the thing with him around the car and 532 00:26:16,160 --> 00:26:18,439 Speaker 14: the car gets to like where it turns, and it's like, oh, 533 00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:19,680 Speaker 14: the car didn't know how to turn, so they have 534 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:21,119 Speaker 14: to get out of the damn car and walk the 535 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:21,640 Speaker 14: rest of way. 536 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 11: And I'm like, this is so stupid. 537 00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:29,920 Speaker 1: This is so dumb get Tyson, because this is where 538 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:34,560 Speaker 1: it got sad, Bro, when he started waddling. 539 00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:40,879 Speaker 11: Into the room. Then they're like, and now the introduction for. 540 00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:45,679 Speaker 14: What is the name Logan Ball, Jake Paul Jake Baw, 541 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:47,960 Speaker 14: Where are the damnit I can't remember his damn name, 542 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:50,280 Speaker 14: Logan Jake Ball. 543 00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:57,120 Speaker 15: He's an entrepreneur, he's a YouTube both and he's an influencer. 544 00:26:57,480 --> 00:27:02,920 Speaker 15: He's this here's that light it said, gentleman Jake. I'm like, 545 00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:05,800 Speaker 15: do we have to say he's a YouTuber? Like who 546 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:08,520 Speaker 15: gives a ship like that? Doesn't need to be a 547 00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:12,200 Speaker 15: the announcement, like what are we doing? Like what is 548 00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:13,920 Speaker 15: going on anyway? 549 00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:16,480 Speaker 1: So then they I didn't know You're gonna have hot 550 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:21,199 Speaker 1: takes on the intro. Dude, I was puckered. I had 551 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,480 Speaker 1: every parlay what was. 552 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,280 Speaker 14: There to be puckered abart about? Once they said Mike 553 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:29,480 Speaker 14: Tyson's name, and he comes out, and here's the. 554 00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:31,639 Speaker 1: I needed that best you go eight rounds. 555 00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:40,720 Speaker 14: There is nobody with Mike Tyson, so bro, he said, damn. 556 00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,960 Speaker 1: It, I'm going alone, man, I don't he didn't, Dude. 557 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,399 Speaker 1: That was kind of sad. He didn't have one person 558 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:46,520 Speaker 1: in his entourage, not. 559 00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:48,560 Speaker 14: A single person. 560 00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 11: That's gonna. 561 00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:53,920 Speaker 1: Gon dude, we're gonna be so alone when these cameras 562 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,560 Speaker 1: and MIC's fade. Oh my gosh, dude, we're gonna be 563 00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,800 Speaker 1: so alone, even more lonelier than if these things had 564 00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:01,200 Speaker 1: now ever been there in the first place. 565 00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:05,240 Speaker 11: And they show him and the first thing I see 566 00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:07,800 Speaker 11: is a damn me praise right, And I'm. 567 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:32,880 Speaker 7: Like, oh my god, man, this is a really special episode. 568 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:34,879 Speaker 7: For me and one that has been an idea of 569 00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:38,760 Speaker 7: mine for so many years. Now I am joined by 570 00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:42,680 Speaker 7: Missus Manning, who was one of my high school teachers and, 571 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 7: as I like to say, my angel in high school 572 00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 7: that really helped save my life in a lot of ways. 573 00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:53,120 Speaker 3: How are you, Missus mann I'm doing fabulous. I am 574 00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:55,120 Speaker 3: so happy to get to sit here and chat with 575 00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:58,200 Speaker 3: you today, and you are too kinked. I just happened 576 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:00,320 Speaker 3: to be somebody who is able to be in the 577 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:02,400 Speaker 3: right place at the right time. So I'm glad that 578 00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:04,600 Speaker 3: you think of me that way, But you might be 579 00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:05,640 Speaker 3: a little too generous. 580 00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,720 Speaker 7: Missus Manning was a safe space for me when I 581 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:12,960 Speaker 7: was going through a really horrible bullying situation in high school. 582 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 7: These were girls who I had, once upon a time 583 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:16,960 Speaker 7: thought were my friends. 584 00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:21,080 Speaker 6: And that quickly changed and I didn't like being at school. 585 00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,880 Speaker 7: It was a really dark time for me. So we're 586 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 7: going to pull on some past memories here though, Missus Manny. 587 00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,400 Speaker 7: We're going to see if you recall things in kind 588 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:31,800 Speaker 7: of a similar way for me, but from your experience 589 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 7: as a teacher, and we're going to kind of walk 590 00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,320 Speaker 7: this back a little bit. At this time, you were 591 00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,400 Speaker 7: a math teacher, which was ironic because it was my 592 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:38,440 Speaker 7: most horrible subject. 593 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:40,200 Speaker 6: And I still didn't stay I'm not good at math. 594 00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 3: Stop that, stop that. 595 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 8: I want to know. 596 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:46,960 Speaker 3: Can you still remember the distant formula song? No, okay, 597 00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:48,160 Speaker 3: now my heart's broke good? 598 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,080 Speaker 6: And it was never a reflection of you as a teacher. 599 00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:52,480 Speaker 6: I just was never good at math. 600 00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:53,080 Speaker 5: And you know this. 601 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,440 Speaker 6: You know this because not only did I spend a 602 00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:56,800 Speaker 6: lot of time post all. 603 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:59,240 Speaker 7: Of this happening, but free I was. And they're getting 604 00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 7: tutored off because it was so bad at math. 605 00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:02,680 Speaker 1: You have to quit this. 606 00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:06,560 Speaker 3: You had straight a's in every class you ever took, ever, 607 00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 3: like truly a real straight a all four years of 608 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:12,040 Speaker 3: high school. So you may not have liked it, but 609 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:13,760 Speaker 3: you were definitely better than you think. 610 00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,880 Speaker 6: Okay, well, I'll try and start changing my narrative on that. 611 00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 6: But it was rough for me. 612 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 7: But from your experience at this time, and we'll get 613 00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:24,720 Speaker 7: to like the career change that happened later. But when 614 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 7: you were a math teacher and you had your student 615 00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:30,160 Speaker 7: who you know, was going through something and became this 616 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,080 Speaker 7: like safe haven classroom for you, what was that experience 617 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:33,720 Speaker 7: like for you? 618 00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:37,360 Speaker 3: You know, being in the classroom is so unique because 619 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:41,160 Speaker 3: you've got twenty five different stories that are sitting right 620 00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,000 Speaker 3: there in front of you, and if you take the 621 00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:45,840 Speaker 3: time to really get to know each one of them, like, 622 00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,480 Speaker 3: what a privilege to get to be a part of 623 00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:50,880 Speaker 3: that small piece of that story and hopefully get to 624 00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:55,280 Speaker 3: be a right spot in somebody's day. You, girlfriend, you 625 00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,920 Speaker 3: had a lot going on, and a lot of people 626 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,959 Speaker 3: may not see that on the outside. You obviously are 627 00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:06,040 Speaker 3: beautiful and always have been, but you had these leadership positions, 628 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,600 Speaker 3: and you were involved, and you were athletic, and. 629 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:09,360 Speaker 14: You were smart. 630 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:12,040 Speaker 3: But all of those things are great, they don't necessarily 631 00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,800 Speaker 3: shield us or protect us from some of the ugliness 632 00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,280 Speaker 3: that's in the world. And so if you take the 633 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:20,280 Speaker 3: time to see what's really going on underneath the surface, 634 00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:22,760 Speaker 3: it's pretty special. If you can try to do something 635 00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:24,959 Speaker 3: to help make that a better experience for somebody. 636 00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:29,720 Speaker 7: Yeah, and you not only were this safe space in 637 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:32,120 Speaker 7: the school when the bullying situation was happening for me, 638 00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:36,400 Speaker 7: there was often being rumors spread about me on multiple levels. 639 00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:39,520 Speaker 7: And the reason I would often find a safe haven 640 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:41,240 Speaker 7: in your classroom it was because I didn't want to 641 00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:45,120 Speaker 7: be around people as the classes were changing and getting 642 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:49,120 Speaker 7: looked at as a kid who's sixteen, seventeen years old, 643 00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:52,400 Speaker 7: I didn't want to be around three hundred people who 644 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:54,920 Speaker 7: seemed to think that there was all these horrible things 645 00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:57,320 Speaker 7: happening in my life and none of them were true, 646 00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:00,360 Speaker 7: but I couldn't do anything about it, and so able 647 00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:02,800 Speaker 7: to come to your classroom just between pretty much every 648 00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:05,560 Speaker 7: I guess I don't know what they're called anymore, but 649 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:08,640 Speaker 7: every single break in between classes, I was just like running. 650 00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,360 Speaker 7: I would even be across the other entire end of 651 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:13,680 Speaker 7: the school and come there for a few minutes and 652 00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:15,600 Speaker 7: then run back to the other side because it was 653 00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:20,280 Speaker 7: just that safe place for me. How did you manage 654 00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:21,840 Speaker 7: that where you're like, do I need to do something 655 00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:23,320 Speaker 7: about this or do I just need to let her 656 00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:25,880 Speaker 7: keep doing this until because I don't know that you 657 00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,000 Speaker 7: knew a lot of the stuff that was happening until 658 00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:30,720 Speaker 7: it kind of progressed further. What was that for you 659 00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,280 Speaker 7: where you were like, how do I navigate this situation 660 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:35,000 Speaker 7: and still make her feel safe? 661 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,280 Speaker 3: You're right, I kind of came into it late, so 662 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:39,880 Speaker 3: I don't know if you remember, But shocker to the 663 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:41,960 Speaker 3: people who know me. I don't have a lot of 664 00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:47,080 Speaker 3: background and cheerleading. It was absolutely not my wheelhouse. But 665 00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:49,520 Speaker 3: I kind of got to step in and kind of 666 00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:52,680 Speaker 3: help finish out a season, and that is one of 667 00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:54,400 Speaker 3: the ways I got to learn a little bit more 668 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,600 Speaker 3: about what was going on kind of with you and 669 00:32:57,560 --> 00:33:01,200 Speaker 3: just wow, just wow. Truly, I can attribute that one 670 00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:04,600 Speaker 3: experience to why I went back to school and I 671 00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:07,680 Speaker 3: decided to get a degree in counseling instead of administration 672 00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:11,520 Speaker 3: because I looked at what was happening within this group 673 00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:15,640 Speaker 3: of girls and the power struggle and the bullying that's 674 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:18,400 Speaker 3: not what a lot of people think of as bullying, 675 00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:22,880 Speaker 3: but that true relational aggression that happened, and I went, 676 00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,080 Speaker 3: I'm not prepared to deal with this. I need to 677 00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:27,200 Speaker 3: if there's somewhere I can make a difference in how 678 00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:29,200 Speaker 3: to do better by my students. This is something I 679 00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:31,840 Speaker 3: need to learn more about. So, yeah, coaching cheer for 680 00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:34,640 Speaker 3: me was a real catalyst that shot me into this 681 00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 3: new career path, and I'm grateful that I was there 682 00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:41,120 Speaker 3: and I'm glad that I could help you. I would 683 00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,160 Speaker 3: never do it again, no chance. 684 00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:07,479 Speaker 14: Cary Line, She's a queen of talking and was solemn. 685 00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:12,680 Speaker 11: She's getting really not afraid to feel its episode, So just. 686 00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:13,359 Speaker 2: Let it flow. 687 00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:15,400 Speaker 11: No one can do it quiet. 688 00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:20,320 Speaker 16: Cary Line is sound a Caroline. 689 00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:24,719 Speaker 17: And the only set of rules for me now is like, 690 00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:28,080 Speaker 17: do I actually does this feel honest to me? Does 691 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,279 Speaker 17: it feel real to me? Is it gonna have an 692 00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,759 Speaker 17: impact on my listeners? Is it gonna help other people? 693 00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:37,480 Speaker 17: Because for me, you know, I also I changed what 694 00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,759 Speaker 17: my idea of success was, like what success looks like 695 00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:41,040 Speaker 17: for me? 696 00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:41,920 Speaker 10: Okay, what was it? 697 00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:42,360 Speaker 2: What is it? 698 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:46,400 Speaker 17: Well, before it was you know, radio hits, it was awards, 699 00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:49,480 Speaker 17: you know, it was the kind of industry accolades and 700 00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:51,160 Speaker 17: I did. I got a lot of those when I 701 00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:54,239 Speaker 17: was in Canada, and I'm very grateful for them. And 702 00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:57,920 Speaker 17: it was really fun winning those awards and going to 703 00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,200 Speaker 17: the after party and you know, everybody's praising you and everything. 704 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:03,560 Speaker 17: But then you see how quickly those same people don't 705 00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:05,840 Speaker 17: give a shit about you when you're not winning anymore, 706 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,520 Speaker 17: and you realize how fleeting and how actually kind of 707 00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:11,880 Speaker 17: invalu like, how not valuable those things really are. And 708 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:14,880 Speaker 17: I also, you know, recognized how much I had fixated 709 00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:16,880 Speaker 17: on those things in my life, thinking that they were 710 00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 17: the only things that made me valuable. And it all 711 00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:23,520 Speaker 17: stems back to that. Yeah, And it's like, you know, 712 00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:27,920 Speaker 17: I always any in anything I'm doing, in any endeavor, 713 00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:31,160 Speaker 17: I always am thinking big picture, big, big, big picture, 714 00:35:31,640 --> 00:35:34,200 Speaker 17: zoom all the way out to like when I'm like 715 00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:36,840 Speaker 17: old and like it's about to be my time to go, 716 00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,440 Speaker 17: what are the things that I'm going to think about? 717 00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,360 Speaker 17: What will I look back on? What is going to 718 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:45,839 Speaker 17: you know, what will my legacy comprise of? What are 719 00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,000 Speaker 17: the things that people are going to remember about me 720 00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:49,600 Speaker 17: and say about me when I'm gone? 721 00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:50,640 Speaker 1: And what I created. 722 00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:53,680 Speaker 17: I'm not going to think about the money I made 723 00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:56,920 Speaker 17: or the awards on the shelf or you know, and 724 00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:58,920 Speaker 17: people aren't going to say, oh that Megan Patrick, she 725 00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:00,680 Speaker 17: sure made a lot of money, Like why would I 726 00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:01,320 Speaker 17: care about that? 727 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:02,279 Speaker 2: Now? 728 00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:03,880 Speaker 17: I want to write songs, you know. It's why I 729 00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,520 Speaker 17: wrote songs like Blood from a Stone and Boy who 730 00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:09,320 Speaker 17: Cried Drunk and Whether you Love Me or not? Because 731 00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,719 Speaker 17: I have a platform and I have a voice. And 732 00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:15,280 Speaker 17: I believe that God gave me these gifts for something 733 00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,000 Speaker 17: more than just making a career out of it. I 734 00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,800 Speaker 17: believe that He gave me these gifts to help others 735 00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:23,279 Speaker 17: because I think that I have a talent outside of 736 00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:27,680 Speaker 17: just singing to motivate and inspire people and make them 737 00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,560 Speaker 17: want to be their best selves, and just leading by 738 00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:36,040 Speaker 17: example of like, hey, you know, if I can do 739 00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:38,919 Speaker 17: this for myself, if I can, you know, rise above 740 00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:41,680 Speaker 17: all these things that have happened to me, then you 741 00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:45,600 Speaker 17: can too, and opening up the conversation, especially, you know, 742 00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:49,399 Speaker 17: like with blood from a stone, it's a very kind 743 00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:53,240 Speaker 17: of like there's a lot of like stigma around especially 744 00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:57,000 Speaker 17: I think daughters that no longer have relationships with their mothers. 745 00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:58,799 Speaker 17: You know, it's like I feel like the daughters are 746 00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:01,560 Speaker 17: expected to sort of be become the caretaker of like 747 00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:03,920 Speaker 17: their parents as they get older, and like you're suppose 748 00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,399 Speaker 17: you're always the one that's the oldest daughter, right, You're 749 00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:08,840 Speaker 17: supposed to take care of everybody else. And you know, 750 00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:12,400 Speaker 17: I there's a lot of judgment that comes from people 751 00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:16,840 Speaker 17: who haven't grown up in like an abusive situation, and 752 00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:18,719 Speaker 17: they're just but it's your mother, Like how could you 753 00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:22,360 Speaker 17: just like do that, Like you're you're a bad person, 754 00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,640 Speaker 17: Like how could you just do that to your own mother? 755 00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,880 Speaker 17: And and it's it comes down to this this simple 756 00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:31,040 Speaker 17: question of like, okay, well, have you ever met like 757 00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:33,880 Speaker 17: an asshole, like someone who is not a good person 758 00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,719 Speaker 17: who abuses other people? And the answer is like, of 759 00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:38,680 Speaker 17: course yes for most people. And it's like, okay, well 760 00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:42,560 Speaker 17: that could be someone's mother, father, brother, sister, you know whatever. 761 00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:47,680 Speaker 17: Like being blood related is not, is not, doesn't give 762 00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:50,200 Speaker 17: the excuse to to abuse the people closest to you. 763 00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:52,719 Speaker 17: And at the end of the day, like if that's 764 00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,359 Speaker 17: the person who is hurting you the most, like why 765 00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:58,640 Speaker 17: should why should you feel bad about setting those boundaries, 766 00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:02,520 Speaker 17: And that conversation needs to be had about how damaging 767 00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:04,000 Speaker 17: it is. And I feel like there are a lot 768 00:38:04,080 --> 00:38:08,719 Speaker 17: of people in my generation because therapy and mental health 769 00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:12,680 Speaker 17: has become a bigger conversation. You know, they are going 770 00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:16,239 Speaker 17: to therapy and going, oh, actually, the most damaging thing 771 00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:19,840 Speaker 17: in my life is a parent, And you know, I 772 00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:23,320 Speaker 17: think it just needs to be normalized that it's okay 773 00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,320 Speaker 17: for you to set those boundaries and not have that 774 00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:29,440 Speaker 17: relationship with a family member if it's if it's damaging 775 00:38:29,520 --> 00:38:32,600 Speaker 17: to you. So I just hope it opens up that conversation, 776 00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:34,600 Speaker 17: and I hope it gives permission to a lot of 777 00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:39,279 Speaker 17: other people who have been through what I've been through 778 00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:41,840 Speaker 17: or where I'm at. I hope it gives them permission 779 00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:44,960 Speaker 17: to move on. And I'm not saying that it's not 780 00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,640 Speaker 17: still painful for me, Like, of course, it is, like 781 00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:52,600 Speaker 17: she still exists, you know, she still is my the 782 00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,560 Speaker 17: person who gave birth to me. And there are moments 783 00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,680 Speaker 17: where you know, something big happens, or you know, moments 784 00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:00,280 Speaker 17: where you're like, I'm going to call all the people 785 00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:03,040 Speaker 17: I love and tell them about this moment. And I 786 00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:05,279 Speaker 17: have that fleeting moment of I'm going to call her, 787 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,320 Speaker 17: and then I remember, like that's that doesn't exist for me, 788 00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:11,280 Speaker 17: But also the person I wish I could call doesn't 789 00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:11,879 Speaker 17: exist either. 790 00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:15,400 Speaker 6: Mm, that's I have to remember that, like heavy. 791 00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:18,440 Speaker 17: That the person I the conversation, the conversation and the 792 00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:21,680 Speaker 17: moment I'm wishing to have doesn't exist for me. It's 793 00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:24,359 Speaker 17: not in the cards for me. But that doesn't mean 794 00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:27,279 Speaker 17: that I you know that God hasn't provided me with 795 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:30,640 Speaker 17: so many other people that that feel that help to 796 00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,759 Speaker 17: fill that hole. My amazing mother in law, you know, 797 00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:37,120 Speaker 17: my stepmom. Like I am, I am incredibly blessed with 798 00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,480 Speaker 17: so many people that love me for just who I am, 799 00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,279 Speaker 17: regardless of the money I make or the success that 800 00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:46,759 Speaker 17: I have. I have, you know, surrounded myself with good 801 00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,160 Speaker 17: people that love me for all the right reasons, and 802 00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:51,520 Speaker 17: so I just I keep my focus on that and 803 00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:53,359 Speaker 17: not what I don't have. I mean, some people don't 804 00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,279 Speaker 17: even get like one good parent. I have an awesome dad, 805 00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:57,319 Speaker 17: you know, and we're very close. 806 00:39:57,440 --> 00:39:58,760 Speaker 6: So did your parents divorce? 807 00:39:58,800 --> 00:39:59,000 Speaker 5: Young? 808 00:39:59,440 --> 00:39:59,719 Speaker 7: M M? 809 00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:03,800 Speaker 1: So your dad was in there in the How was that? 810 00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:06,480 Speaker 18: Because you wrote a song called iron Man, which could 811 00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:09,319 Speaker 18: not portray your dad more oppositely than your mom. Yeah, 812 00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:13,799 Speaker 18: so they were married like thirty five years. So how 813 00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:17,120 Speaker 18: did that separation happened where your dad was so awesome 814 00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:19,680 Speaker 18: and your mom was so toxic? 815 00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:24,360 Speaker 17: Well, I think he I think he took the brunt 816 00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:27,680 Speaker 17: of a lot of it. He tried to shelter us 817 00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:29,800 Speaker 17: and shield us from a lot of things, you know, 818 00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:32,839 Speaker 17: and he stayed as long as he did for us, 819 00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:34,799 Speaker 17: you know, for me and my sister. He don't want 820 00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:40,000 Speaker 17: to leave you, you know, and also like he was 821 00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:46,319 Speaker 17: also an abusive relationship, you know. So yeah, and we've 822 00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,279 Speaker 17: all had to do a lot of healing, my dad, 823 00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:51,600 Speaker 17: my sister, me, But thankfully, you know, we've been able 824 00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:54,839 Speaker 17: to do that together. We've had a lot of long 825 00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:58,480 Speaker 17: talks and conversations, and you know, I can always call 826 00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:01,320 Speaker 17: them when I'm going through something thing you know that 827 00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:04,520 Speaker 17: pertains to her. I mean, obviously putting out this song, 828 00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:07,239 Speaker 17: you know, I didn't really know how that would be 829 00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,640 Speaker 17: received or if something was going to happen. 830 00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:10,800 Speaker 8: You know. 831 00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:13,719 Speaker 17: I still she still hasn't spoken to me or reached out. 832 00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:18,240 Speaker 17: She does other things though, like you know, before before 833 00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:20,840 Speaker 17: the song came out. Yeah, she would like comment on stuff, 834 00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:23,160 Speaker 17: like on social media, like when I got Yeah, like 835 00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:25,440 Speaker 17: when I got my first gold record. You know, she 836 00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,240 Speaker 17: left a comment like, oh, just so proud of you, honey, 837 00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:32,080 Speaker 17: like love you. And it's like, you haven't spoken in 838 00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,840 Speaker 17: a year even after that email, yes, and it's like 839 00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:39,399 Speaker 17: and that's when I realized, Oh, she doesn't she doesn't 840 00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:41,160 Speaker 17: really care about being my mom, but she still wants 841 00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:46,120 Speaker 17: to be Megan Patrick's mom. And that just further, you know, 842 00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:49,359 Speaker 17: just further spoke to the whole the golden child thing. 843 00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,239 Speaker 17: She was still trying to hang on. She thought that 844 00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:53,840 Speaker 17: she could just kind of hang on to the pieces 845 00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:58,200 Speaker 17: of me that that you know, reflected well on her, like, oh, 846 00:41:58,200 --> 00:42:01,080 Speaker 17: well I'm successful. So by proxy, so she you know, 847 00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:05,040 Speaker 17: and but without actually having a relationship with me, And 848 00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:07,800 Speaker 17: that was really that was really hurtful, you know, that 849 00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:11,080 Speaker 17: was that was a step beyond It was like worse 850 00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:14,600 Speaker 17: than the silence, because it just goes to show like 851 00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:18,120 Speaker 17: just how much she really doesn't care, you know, how 852 00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:20,320 Speaker 17: any of that affects me. And she will do whatever 853 00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:25,239 Speaker 17: she wants to do for herself. And you know, there's 854 00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:26,880 Speaker 17: been a lot of things that she's done where she 855 00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:29,960 Speaker 17: has sort of peripherally tried to be around me or 856 00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:33,719 Speaker 17: attach herself to me without ever actually acknowledging the letter 857 00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:38,000 Speaker 17: or acknowledging the issue, you know, at the root of everything. 858 00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:40,359 Speaker 17: And so for me, and I'm sure there's some people 859 00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:42,320 Speaker 17: that would say, oh, that's you know, she's just trying 860 00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:47,959 Speaker 17: to reach out in her own way. No bull shit, 861 00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,400 Speaker 17: that's no. If she wants a relationship with me, she 862 00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:55,719 Speaker 17: can start with I'm sorry, and let's talk about all 863 00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:57,960 Speaker 17: the ways that I've heard you and how we fix 864 00:42:58,040 --> 00:42:59,120 Speaker 17: that and how I can do better. 865 00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,399 Speaker 16: Hey, it's Mike d And this week on Movie Mike's 866 00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:04,680 Speaker 16: Movie Podcast, I got a little vulnerable talking about a 867 00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:07,680 Speaker 16: new movie called A Real Pain starring Jesse Eisenberg and 868 00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:11,480 Speaker 16: Kirian Colchin, who you may know from Succession. This movie 869 00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:14,480 Speaker 16: hit me in such a way that I wasn't expecting, 870 00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:17,320 Speaker 16: and I talked about things I've never talked about before. 871 00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:20,719 Speaker 16: They played two cousins who are the complete opposites, and 872 00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:23,080 Speaker 16: I think I saw a lot of myself and Jesse 873 00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:25,760 Speaker 16: Eisenberg's character. I talked about it here in this review, 874 00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,359 Speaker 16: had a lot of nice messages of people reaching out 875 00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:30,880 Speaker 16: saying they appreciated me being so open about it, so 876 00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:32,000 Speaker 16: I wanted to share this with you. 877 00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:32,239 Speaker 1: Now. 878 00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:34,680 Speaker 16: Here's a little bit of my spoiler free review of 879 00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:36,759 Speaker 16: A Real Pain. Be sure to check out the full 880 00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:41,920 Speaker 16: review on my podcast movie Mike's Movie podcast, Let's Get 881 00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:44,200 Speaker 16: Into It Now. A spoiler free movie review of A 882 00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:48,000 Speaker 16: Real Pain starring Kirian Colchin and Jesse Eisenberg, also written 883 00:43:48,120 --> 00:43:51,280 Speaker 16: and directed by Jesse Eisenberg. You have two very opposite 884 00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:54,760 Speaker 16: people here. Jesse Eisenberg plays a character named David. Kirian 885 00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:58,160 Speaker 16: Cochin plays a character named Benji. They are cousins. They 886 00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,160 Speaker 16: are at this point and they're like mid to late 887 00:44:00,280 --> 00:44:02,960 Speaker 16: thirties where they're kind of had a falling out, and 888 00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:06,080 Speaker 16: you learn more and more details about their relationship as 889 00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,480 Speaker 16: the movie unfolds. But the movie starts with them going 890 00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:11,319 Speaker 16: on a trip because their grandmother just died. They're going 891 00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,560 Speaker 16: to poll in and it's the first time they've seen 892 00:44:13,600 --> 00:44:16,000 Speaker 16: each other in a very long time. And what I 893 00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:19,560 Speaker 16: loved about the start of this movie is within five minutes, 894 00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:22,279 Speaker 16: you know all the details about these characters that you 895 00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:24,560 Speaker 16: need to know. And that was a really strong opening 896 00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:28,600 Speaker 16: because starts out with Jesse Eisenberg's character driving to the airport. 897 00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,719 Speaker 16: He's in an uber and he calls his cousin like 898 00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:35,200 Speaker 16: five times because he is so anxious and just selling them, Hey, 899 00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:35,880 Speaker 16: there's traffic here. 900 00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,040 Speaker 11: If you haven't left yet, I hope you've left by now. 901 00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:39,120 Speaker 11: Hey calling you again. 902 00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:41,560 Speaker 16: Don't want to leave it another message, And that tells 903 00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,719 Speaker 16: you everything you need to know about that character being 904 00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:47,480 Speaker 16: very high stressed, just very tightly wound, worrying about every 905 00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:51,720 Speaker 16: single detail on this trip. And then you have Kirie 906 00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:55,120 Speaker 16: and Colkin's character who hasn't replied any of his phone calls, 907 00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:57,719 Speaker 16: as he listened to any of his messages, and he's 908 00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:00,359 Speaker 16: just hanging out at the airport. He's like, Yeah, I've 909 00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:02,319 Speaker 16: been here for like a couple hours few hours because 910 00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:04,320 Speaker 16: I like to come here and people watch, so that 911 00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:07,279 Speaker 16: really tells you the complete opposite nature of both of 912 00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:11,399 Speaker 16: these characters. And the more and more you learn about 913 00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:14,040 Speaker 16: each of them, the more I realize how much I 914 00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:16,839 Speaker 16: am like Jesse Eisenberg's character. And I have to say, 915 00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:18,759 Speaker 16: it didn't make me feel that good, because that's something 916 00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:24,920 Speaker 16: I've been struggling with recently, because being so anxious and 917 00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:28,680 Speaker 16: worried about just the little parts of life and having 918 00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:32,399 Speaker 16: things in order, worrying about your job. In this movie, 919 00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:34,960 Speaker 16: he is married, also has a very young son, so 920 00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:38,440 Speaker 16: not at that phase of my life yet. But all 921 00:45:38,520 --> 00:45:42,520 Speaker 16: of the characteristics of Jesse Eisenberg I saw myself in, 922 00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:45,760 Speaker 16: and all the characteristics of Benji played by Kirie and Colkin, 923 00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:50,040 Speaker 16: I saw what I've been trying to achieve my entire 924 00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:53,279 Speaker 16: adult life. And there's some moments in this movie where 925 00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,200 Speaker 16: they butt head so much because they're so different, and 926 00:45:56,840 --> 00:45:58,560 Speaker 16: you could say they're like a nod couple, But I 927 00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:00,560 Speaker 16: feel like that's such an old reference still an old 928 00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:03,359 Speaker 16: movie of like what's really clean and one's really messy? 929 00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:04,320 Speaker 16: How will they get together? 930 00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:05,600 Speaker 17: It's not really like that. 931 00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:10,919 Speaker 16: It's more that Jesse Eisenberg has changed over the course 932 00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:12,920 Speaker 16: of his life to be more adult because he is 933 00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,480 Speaker 16: in his mid to late thirties, and Kirie and Colkin 934 00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:20,520 Speaker 16: is very much just still care free and has a 935 00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:23,840 Speaker 16: much different approach to life. Doesn't give a crap about anything, 936 00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,320 Speaker 16: and that is something that I have strived to be 937 00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:29,359 Speaker 16: a little bit more. I would love to be bore, 938 00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:31,719 Speaker 16: care free, and not just because I feel like I 939 00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:33,520 Speaker 16: would have less stress. I think I would always carry 940 00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:35,520 Speaker 16: the stress with me because that is something I've had 941 00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:38,360 Speaker 16: since a very young age. But I think there are 942 00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:41,040 Speaker 16: moments in this movie that I thought, I want to 943 00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:45,239 Speaker 16: be more charismatic and be able to light a room 944 00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:48,360 Speaker 16: up when I walk into it, and I feel that 945 00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:50,719 Speaker 16: that is something that I've just tried to do. 946 00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:53,319 Speaker 11: But because over the course of. 947 00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:55,560 Speaker 16: My life, I've always been known as the quiet guy, 948 00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:58,040 Speaker 16: which I hate. I mean, I come on here and 949 00:46:58,080 --> 00:47:00,160 Speaker 16: I talk forty five minutes to an hour or a 950 00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:03,080 Speaker 16: week about movies, and I could do that every single 951 00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:05,680 Speaker 16: day and I would still be the quiet guy. And 952 00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:09,000 Speaker 16: there was something about this movie bringing out Benji's character 953 00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,960 Speaker 16: of him being able to connect with people. That is 954 00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:15,399 Speaker 16: something I've been just trying to do my entire life 955 00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:18,440 Speaker 16: of if I ever go hang out with a new 956 00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:20,960 Speaker 16: group of people, oh, I feel very tense. That is 957 00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:23,520 Speaker 16: hard for me to make new friends in a small 958 00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:26,399 Speaker 16: group big groups. I go on stage and tell jokes. 959 00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:29,640 Speaker 16: That's no problem to me. I'm connecting that way because 960 00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:33,399 Speaker 16: to me, that doesn't feel real. You give me five 961 00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:35,440 Speaker 16: hundred people, one thousand people, it doesn't matter. I've done 962 00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:35,839 Speaker 16: that before. 963 00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:36,680 Speaker 11: That is easy to me. 964 00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:39,360 Speaker 16: But connecting with just a small group of people, I 965 00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:41,839 Speaker 16: can't do it. And if I went to hang out 966 00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:45,719 Speaker 16: with people like for a weekend and like, hey, here's Mike, 967 00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:49,359 Speaker 16: and you hang out for the entire weekend, I don't 968 00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:52,200 Speaker 16: feel like I would bond with those people. And I 969 00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:55,800 Speaker 16: feel that that is something I've tried to do because 970 00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,520 Speaker 16: I have met people that I enjoy after just an 971 00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:01,320 Speaker 16: hour and meeting with them, and I want to be 972 00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:03,840 Speaker 16: around them more. I want to know what they have 973 00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,719 Speaker 16: thoughts about. And there are people I like so instantly 974 00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:10,719 Speaker 16: that I always wish that I could be that type 975 00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:13,160 Speaker 16: of person. Some of my friends are those type of 976 00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,920 Speaker 16: people who can just talk to anybody, strike up a conversation, 977 00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:18,799 Speaker 16: and get all these details out of people because they 978 00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:22,400 Speaker 16: are so warm and friendly and inviting. And there's a 979 00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:26,200 Speaker 16: moment in this movie where Kirian Colkin learns something about 980 00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:28,440 Speaker 16: the other members of this tour group that they go 981 00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,640 Speaker 16: on because they go on this trip to Poland, but 982 00:48:30,719 --> 00:48:34,040 Speaker 16: they are joining this tour guide who has like a 983 00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,320 Speaker 16: very interesting cast of people with him, and you have 984 00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:41,040 Speaker 16: Kirian Colkin's character who is learning all these things about 985 00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:44,160 Speaker 16: other people because he's genuinely curious. He likes talking to people, 986 00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:46,680 Speaker 16: and they all start to like him. Some of them 987 00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:49,400 Speaker 16: don't like him for that same reason, but some of 988 00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:51,680 Speaker 16: them form like a really strong relationship with him just 989 00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:56,440 Speaker 16: because he has that warm nature, that charismatic nature who 990 00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,200 Speaker 16: he is somebody who just comes into a room says 991 00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:02,799 Speaker 16: what he says, and people connect with that. And I've 992 00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:05,600 Speaker 16: always wanted to do that because I feel, over the 993 00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:09,239 Speaker 16: course of my life that sometimes I feel that people 994 00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:12,200 Speaker 16: just don't like me. Not just that they don't like me, 995 00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:16,239 Speaker 16: it's that I don't do enough things for people to 996 00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:18,840 Speaker 16: have an opinion on me, where I don't say a 997 00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,200 Speaker 16: whole lot, I don't put a lot out there. So 998 00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:23,160 Speaker 16: it's not that people don't like me, because like I 999 00:49:23,239 --> 00:49:25,600 Speaker 16: don't like that guy it's just because I feel that 1000 00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:29,239 Speaker 16: I kind of blend into the background sometimes that people 1001 00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:32,640 Speaker 16: don't like me, but they also don't like they don't 1002 00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:35,320 Speaker 16: hate me, and I think that's almost worse. That is 1003 00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:38,799 Speaker 16: something I've just been fighting because, like I said, going 1004 00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:42,160 Speaker 16: back to that example, if if you met people, spend 1005 00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:45,640 Speaker 16: a weekend with them, I feel like I'm so forgettable 1006 00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:48,600 Speaker 16: for that reason. And I think people genuinely think I'm 1007 00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:52,320 Speaker 16: a nice person. I'm a nice guy, but there's just 1008 00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:55,680 Speaker 16: something about not being able to connect with people in 1009 00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:58,560 Speaker 16: that way that I've been striving to do my entire 1010 00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:01,360 Speaker 16: adult life, maybe even since I was a teenager, Like 1011 00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:03,839 Speaker 16: I didn't have friends then, but I feel like even 1012 00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:06,759 Speaker 16: growing up now, like I just want to have that. 1013 00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:10,440 Speaker 16: And there are moments in this movie where it really 1014 00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:13,200 Speaker 16: was like, did they make this movie just for me, 1015 00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:16,600 Speaker 16: Jesse Eisenberg, did you like hack into my computer and 1016 00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:19,759 Speaker 16: find all my journals and all my notes and listen 1017 00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:22,279 Speaker 16: to this podcast Of all these things I've struggled with, 1018 00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:26,279 Speaker 16: and I haven't watched a movie that just nailed that 1019 00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:29,000 Speaker 16: aspect of my life, because this is probably something I 1020 00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:32,360 Speaker 16: should talk about in therapy, but it just really struck 1021 00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:35,200 Speaker 16: a chord with me and unnersed something in me. So 1022 00:50:35,320 --> 00:50:38,160 Speaker 16: for a real pain, I give it four point five 1023 00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:42,920 Speaker 16: out of five. I would say that point five is 1024 00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:46,040 Speaker 16: more of the emotional impact that had on me, so 1025 00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:49,000 Speaker 16: for any other person who doesn't struggle with that, it's 1026 00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:52,359 Speaker 16: probably still a four out of five. A really great movie, though, 1027 00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:54,520 Speaker 16: definitely check it out if you want to get in 1028 00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:56,480 Speaker 16: early on some of the movies. They got to be 1029 00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:57,600 Speaker 16: nominated for Best Picture. 1030 00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:09,600 Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to this week's Sunday Sampler. New episodes 1031 00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:11,120 Speaker 2: from all the shows are out, so go check them out. 1032 00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:14,719 Speaker 2: The Bobby Cast, Four Things with Amy Brown, Sore Losers Movie, 1033 00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:18,080 Speaker 2: Mike's Movie Podcast, Get Real with Caroline Hobby, Take This 1034 00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:20,719 Speaker 2: Personally with Morgan Hulsman. Any of those you'd like that, 1035 00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:23,680 Speaker 2: go check out the full episode, subscribe, have a great week, 1036 00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:24,240 Speaker 2: Bye everybody,