Speaker 1: Before we get into the reunion, I would like to
Speaker 1: hear about Sina and you and then the dog.
Speaker 2: Yes, the dog.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 2: There's still a lot to unpack here.
Speaker 3: So Shina did physically assault me that night, and I
Speaker 3: have a permanent scar on my eyebrow, and at the moment,
Speaker 3: I thought I deserved it. That's why I just stood
Speaker 3: there and let it happen. She pushed me as hard
Speaker 3: as she could against a brick wall. The back of
Speaker 3: my head hit the wall pretty hard, and then she
Speaker 3: socked me in the eye and I was in shock.
Speaker 3: She threw my phone in the street and then called
Speaker 3: Arianna from her phone and I immediately ran to my
Speaker 3: phone and it was a brand new iPhone, so it's like, oh, no,
Speaker 3: it is it cracked, but it was fine. I called
Speaker 3: Tom immediately and I was like, Shina just punched me
Speaker 3: in the face, and he was like, oh, I know.
Speaker 3: I heard her say to Ariana, I just punched that
Speaker 3: bitch in her face and threw her phone in the street.
Speaker 3: So it's just nuts that she's doubled down on this
Speaker 3: narrative that I'm a liar and a cheat and that
Speaker 3: I completely fabricated this assault for whatever reason.
Speaker 2: I don't think that filing a restraining.
Speaker 3: Order was out of question because she was making this
Speaker 3: like punch emoji on a post that she made with Arianna,
Speaker 3: saying like, I've always got your back, and it just
Speaker 3: I didn't feel safe. So it's just unfortunate that.
Speaker 2: I've been. I don't know.
Speaker 3: It just doesn't make sense to me how I can
Speaker 3: be assaulted and then still has.
Speaker 2: So much vitriol and I think.
Speaker 1: And still be the villain. Yeah, yeah, did you sign
Speaker 1: up for this? Like? Did you sign up for all
Speaker 1: of this? That's what people will say. She signed Everyone
Speaker 1: knows what they're getting into. They've seen the show. She
Speaker 1: signed up for this.
Speaker 3: You know what, Bethany, I really thought that reality TV
Speaker 3: was going to be fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I thought it would be a great experience for me
Speaker 3: to step out of my comfort zone.
Speaker 1: So what I didn't ask you is how did you
Speaker 1: feel knowing someone that you thought you were in love
Speaker 1: with recorded you and then it ends up on a
Speaker 1: TV show? I mean, within a cast of a TV show.
Speaker 3: I felt very betrayed. I felt like I couldn't trust
Speaker 3: this person. I felt like my privacy didn't matter to him,
Speaker 3: and he didn't really.
Speaker 2: Give a good excuse.
Speaker 3: Besides, he wanted me to see it later on to
Speaker 3: see how beautiful I was. But if he would have
Speaker 3: asked for permission, I would have said no. When Tom
Speaker 3: and I were filming at my apartment, after filming got
Speaker 3: picked back up, I said to Tom, how can I
Speaker 3: trust you? You filmed me without my consent? And he
Speaker 3: admitted to it. But then after that scene wrapped, he said,
Speaker 3: why did you say that? Why did you say that
Speaker 3: on camera? You made me look bad? And I was like, well,
Speaker 3: because that's what happened, and like you know, and he
Speaker 3: ended up boycotting filming the rest of scandabal so that
Speaker 3: he could have editing rights to that scene to take
Speaker 3: out that species.
Speaker 1: He said, I'm not filming that you take that out. Yes,
Speaker 1: I've seen that happen before. Yeah, yeah, I've seen that happen. Yet, Wow,
Speaker 1: has he gotten the same level of hate that you
Speaker 1: have for the affair?
Speaker 2: I'm not sure.
Speaker 3: I think he's getting a lot of hate right now
Speaker 3: just being pompous and like being around town with a
Speaker 3: bunch of different girls.
Speaker 2: But I feel like it's true.
Speaker 3: The woman does the woman does get the short end
Speaker 3: of the stick.
Speaker 1: That makes sense, does so Tom owns the bar with
Speaker 1: he owned shorts and Tom Tom and then Schwartz and Sandy.
Speaker 3: Yes.
Speaker 1: So the Beth Andy clause is something that was a
Speaker 1: result of my Skinny Girl deal. And it says that
Speaker 1: businesses that are showcased on reality shows that the cast
Speaker 1: members have to kick up to the network a percentage.
Speaker 1: So I assume that Bravo profits off of these bars
Speaker 1: and Lisa vander Pump's bars. So Tom is a is
Speaker 1: a partner in these bars.
Speaker 2: Yes he is.
Speaker 1: So he profits off of the marketing that the show provides,
Speaker 1: and then Bravo profits off of the sales and everybody
Speaker 1: was going into these bars. Is he a producer?
Speaker 3: He's not technically a producer. He's been on the series
Speaker 3: from day one, season one. H there. I don't know
Speaker 3: if I'm even a to disclose this information, but he did.
Speaker 3: He did tell me during negotiations for season eleven that
Speaker 3: he was offered a producer credit.
Speaker 2: For season eleven.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, so I think he was being rewarded for.
Speaker 2: The scandalal of it all. Wow, And.
Speaker 3: To me, that's just kind of gross because it seems
Speaker 3: it makes me skeptical, like was this really just something
Speaker 3: that was fabricated for this end result.
Speaker 1: You know, it sounds like everyone. It sounds like Lisa
Speaker 1: vander Pump is profiting, Bravo's profiting, Andy Cohen's definitely profiting,
Speaker 1: Tom is profiting, Arianna is profiting. So and you're in
Speaker 1: a death, you're in debt? Interesting and.
Speaker 2: Is Lisa vander.
Speaker 1: Pump in a position to protect you? Guys within this
Speaker 1: place you're working, Like, are you supposed to feel like
Speaker 1: someone's there to protect you, that there's someone to go to,
Speaker 1: a supervisor, a manager, a boss.
Speaker 3: There really isn't anybody that's a safe place to go to.
Speaker 3: I don't think that anybody on that show has my
Speaker 3: best interest at heart, So it's hard for me to
Speaker 3: be so trusting like I once was.
Speaker 1: And people have spent like Kristen has a spin off.
Speaker 1: She was fired years ago and now she's back and
Speaker 1: she has a spinoff coming right, Yes, So you kind
Speaker 1: of get sucked in and you'll do whatever it is
Speaker 1: because you want to get a spinoff and you want
Speaker 1: your bar to succeed. So it sounds logical that people
Speaker 1: would play the game because take a few punches, you're
Speaker 1: making money.
Speaker 3: You're selling your soul essentially, and this past season really
Speaker 3: did feel like the first season where I was like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, I am selling my soul. And it's
Speaker 3: interesting that you mentioned Kristen because Kristin was just starting
Speaker 3: about Kristin was just starting to talk about her tumultuous
Speaker 3: relationship with James and what happened behind closed doors, and
Speaker 3: then all of a sudden she's presented with the spinoff,
Speaker 3: which I believe is a way to silence her, to
Speaker 3: keep that under wraps so that the longevity of vander
Speaker 3: Pump Rules can continue.
Speaker 2: The realm, protect the realm.
Speaker 1: So there is there is an alleged physical abuse. There's
Speaker 1: a physical abuse allegation with Kristen and James, Yes, and
Speaker 1: people say something was cut out of and I've gotten
Speaker 1: people that have called me about other incidents related to that.
Speaker 1: And you think that a spinoff is good hush money
Speaker 1: for someone who was fired for like a racist an
Speaker 1: alleged racist act.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think she was in relation with Stassy and
Speaker 3: they both got fired at the same time. But I
Speaker 3: do believe what she has said about James. I know
Speaker 3: James is I've seen him be a violent person, so
Speaker 3: I have no doubt that what she's saying is true.
Speaker 3: I hope that one day it will come to light
Speaker 3: and there will be justice.
Speaker 1: It's it's so crazy. Sometimes reality TV is like the
Speaker 1: upside down. People are rewarded for bad behavior and you know, negativity,
Speaker 1: like I've said, bankruptcy. In no other world, you know,
Speaker 1: does does the does the boss the entity? Like pull
Speaker 1: in and highlight addiction, drinking affairs, bankruptcy, going to jail
Speaker 1: like that's you know, in other workplaces, that's frowned upon.
Speaker 1: So reality TV is the upside down, you know, and
Speaker 1: it's interesting. Yeah, I don't know. I like I said,
Speaker 1: I haven't watched the show, so I don't know about
Speaker 1: Kristin and I don't know about the firing. But then
Speaker 1: to the pendulum to swing and get a spinoff from
Speaker 1: fired to spinoff is a big it's an interesting swing.
Speaker 3: It is interesting because the cast members that were fired
Speaker 3: and canceled at that time now have this big comeback
Speaker 3: because this scandal is so salacious that we are the
Speaker 3: ultimate villains, Tom and I and now they have a
Speaker 3: platform to redeem themselves.
Speaker 1: Wow. Okay, all right, so we're going to get into
Speaker 1: the reunion. So because that's the last time really anyone
Speaker 1: saw you Yeah, I want to read something to you
Speaker 1: that you experienced, but I don't know if when you
Speaker 1: hear it, just read to you. And for the audience too,
Speaker 1: the audience that tuned in. The ratings were astronomical. It's
Speaker 1: the biggest event that Bravos had in a really long time.
Speaker 1: It's a cash cow millions, tens of millions of dollars advertisers.
Speaker 1: It was a ratings juggernaut. The ratings were I think
Speaker 1: I read somewhere total viewers were in like eleven million
Speaker 1: or something. I mean, how much greater were the ratings
Speaker 1: during Scandal than a normal season? And was the show failing?
Speaker 1: I've heard rumors that the show is failing. It was
Speaker 1: on autopilot and kind of on the way down, and
Speaker 1: scandalval revived it. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Alex Baskin went on record himself, he's our executive producer
Speaker 3: of Nder Pump Roles, and he said the show was
Speaker 3: going to be canceled the season ten and if it
Speaker 3: wasn't for scand of all, there wouldn't be another season.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: What were the ratings before and what were the ratings after?
Speaker 3: I don't know the numbers, but I would be very
Speaker 3: curious to know because well.
Speaker 1: It says vander pump Rule's viewers did not dip out
Speaker 1: of season ten finale. It hid highs for the Bravo show.
Speaker 1: The episode which showed the fault drew a combined audience
Speaker 1: of four point one million viewers on Bravo on Demand
Speaker 1: and the Peacock within three days of that viewership, Oh wow,
Speaker 1: two point four million in the demo to give everyone
Speaker 1: a frame of reference at the peak of successful housewives
Speaker 1: that I've been on, and of course Beverly Hills does
Speaker 1: really well. But like Atlanta back in the old days,
Speaker 1: the hey Day would get four million, like back in
Speaker 1: the Hay I don't but they never got two point
Speaker 1: four million in the demo. That's the sweet spot for Bravo.
Speaker 1: That's the advertisers. Like, the most I've ever seen for
Speaker 1: Housewives is with a one in front of it, maybe
Speaker 1: a million. That's astronomical that demo. Wow, yeah, the target, Yeah,
Speaker 1: the ratings are. I would be willing to bet that
Speaker 1: the demo was probably a couple hundred thousand when it
Speaker 1: was failing, and then it went up to two point
Speaker 1: four million. It probably shot up. Oh wow. Season ten
Speaker 1: reached over eleven and a half million. Total viewers. That is,
Speaker 1: that's bigger.
Speaker 2: Than network numbers.
Speaker 1: That's outrageous. More than one hundred and fifteen million hours
Speaker 1: of Season ten have been watched to date across both
Speaker 1: platforms as well as on small digital apps. Season ten
Speaker 1: reached over eleven and a half Holy shit, that's insane.
Speaker 1: Eleven and a half million. I thought that was like
Speaker 1: not even true. Wow, that's crazy. And a lot of
Speaker 1: the most watched cable series of twenty twenty three in
Speaker 1: the eighteen to forty nine demo, which is the sweet spot,
Speaker 1: that's all the advertisers Bravo has made millions and millions
Speaker 1: of dollars. This is the realm they must protect. That
Speaker 1: is yeah, well wow, all right, so now we're going
Speaker 1: to get into it. That's shocking. I'm glad I read
Speaker 1: that before getting into the reunion. Okay, so it's all
Speaker 1: they cash their checks, Yes, they've all got ferraris. Let's go.
Speaker 2: And a lot of people are.
Speaker 3: Obviously tuning in for the first time hearing about scannabal
Speaker 3: and rewatching old episodes. A lot of people are rewatching
Speaker 3: past seasons that I went on. Yeah, oh yeah, of course,
Speaker 3: trying to figure out like, oh, did this happen in season.
Speaker 1: Oh no, all boats rise with the tide. Totally fan
Speaker 1: going back, and no one's making money on residuals. It's
Speaker 1: insane ratings. Wow, but anywhow. Okay, so let's take a breath.
Speaker 1: I want to I just got jacked up, so I
Speaker 1: want to get jacked down. I want to read to
Speaker 1: you from the reunion, the transcript some of Sorry, you
Speaker 1: were only really on the second of the reunion, Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: because there was a restraining order.
Speaker 3: I think technically I was only on the third part
Speaker 3: of the three part reunion. Okay. I was in the
Speaker 3: trailer watching the reunion.
Speaker 2: For the first two parts.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I watched the I watched all of the reunion.
Speaker 1: That's what I did watch in a couple of episodes,
Speaker 1: but of the scandal. But I watched the reunion and
Speaker 1: I got my pen and paper and I wrote some
Speaker 1: things down because I was in shock, and maybe not
Speaker 1: having watched ten years of this, I could sort of
Speaker 1: just see something in a vacuum, and and it isn't
Speaker 1: a vacuum because I haven't watched. If you've been duplicitive
Speaker 1: or dishonest, duplicitous or dishonest, or or things that people
Speaker 1: think about you. But I know that you're a human being.
Speaker 1: I know that you could be my daughter, and I
Speaker 1: know that Andy Cohen is a parent and Lisa vander
Speaker 1: Pump is a parent, and that your castmates are all
Speaker 1: going to war because they just were on the biggest
Speaker 1: show of twenty twenty three. So I'm putting all of
Speaker 1: this in my mind, and I just want to read
Speaker 1: to you what was said to you in a very
Speaker 1: short period of time on the reunion diabolical, demented, subhuman,
Speaker 1: Shut the fuck up, fuck you, fuck yourself with a
Speaker 1: fucking cheese grater. You're disgusting, and I wish the worst
Speaker 1: that can ever happen to a person on you. And
Speaker 1: then you said I feel like a piece of shit.
Speaker 1: And then it was said to you about you, she's
Speaker 1: a and then Lala says, my love, I think you
Speaker 1: need to get mentally evaluated. You're truly insane. And then
Speaker 1: you say, I'm getting mentally evaluated. And then it said
Speaker 1: to you you're a fucking psychopath, You're a dementor, you're
Speaker 1: a soul sucking individual. You are ugly, you're hideous, you're
Speaker 1: rotten on the inside, rotten rotten, like a moldy piece
Speaker 1: of fruit, rotten. You are nothing. You are nothing. You
Speaker 1: are nothing. But that's sinking because I know it's hard
Speaker 1: for you to let other people's thoughts go into your
Speaker 1: brain because you never have had an original thought of
Speaker 1: your own. You are nothing. You're dead to everybody. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry. Like that was actually said to you
Speaker 1: on national television. And then you said, no one handed
Speaker 1: you a tissue. I saw Ariana got a tissue. No
Speaker 1: one handed you a tissue. And then you started to
Speaker 1: walk off and Andy said, hold on, come back. What
Speaker 1: does that mean to you? Hearing those words like in
Speaker 1: a row, like I wrote them down and just read them.
Speaker 2: Nobody should ever be spoken to like that.
Speaker 3: We're all human, we're just navigating through life, and we're
Speaker 3: bound to make mistakes. I know that I'm not lesser
Speaker 3: than or even greater than anybody else. That's one of
Speaker 3: the lessons that I learned at the Meadows.
Speaker 2: I also.
Speaker 3: Hearing that it's very difficult in that moment to accept
Speaker 3: those words that are being thrown at you, and it's
Speaker 3: much easier to disassociate.
Speaker 2: And just let it fly on over.
Speaker 3: Because who can even accept that and be like, oh,
Speaker 3: you're throwing this stuff at me, Let me look at it. Oh, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's all mine. No, Like, I can see that those
Speaker 3: words are filled with hate and are intended to put
Speaker 3: me down and make me feel like someone who is
Speaker 3: not worthy of love, who's not worthy of acceptance or
Speaker 3: living life. And I know that I am worthy. I
Speaker 3: think every single person on this earth is worthy of
Speaker 3: living a life full of love. I this might be
Speaker 3: a little bit of a tangent, but I'm adopted and
Speaker 3: my mom couldn't give birth. So her sister got pregnant
Speaker 3: with me and asked my mom if she wanted to
Speaker 3: have this baby, and so she gave birth to me
Speaker 3: and gave me to my adopted mom. And I think
Speaker 3: that I am a miracle to be able to live
Speaker 3: in this world, this planet we call earth, And I
Speaker 3: just can't accept those words good.
Speaker 1: And you know, I thought to myself, what must your
Speaker 1: parents think when they hear that? And like, you'll maybe
Speaker 1: one day have a daughter or a son, and like
Speaker 1: what would they think when this lives up? You know,
Speaker 1: and I have a daughter And if I would have
Speaker 1: killed someone honestly, so I don't know you and I
Speaker 1: don't know what happened. But I know you're a person,
Speaker 1: and I know that I've read somewhere that Andy said,
Speaker 1: like about Tommy is a human being or something, But like,
Speaker 1: has anyone said that you're a human being?
Speaker 2: No, I've been told that I'm sub human.
Speaker 1: So why do you think Andy said, hold on, come
Speaker 1: back to someone. He's been a Bravo executive, he's in
Speaker 1: a superior role, he's a parent, he's been a producer,
Speaker 1: and he's you know, he's fifty four years old. He's like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, he's a little older than I am. But like,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying your kid. But in this world with
Speaker 1: producers and a network and eleven and a half million viewers,
Speaker 1: you're the employee. You know, who's the protector of the employee?
Speaker 1: Where's you know you're gonna go to HR and say
Speaker 1: people call me subhuman? Piece of garbage?
Speaker 2: Like where's if I did? I don't know. They've be like, well,
Speaker 2: that's the nature of the beast.
Speaker 1: And then it was said to you you should leave
Speaker 1: and never come back. No one wants you buy Ariana
Speaker 1: gets a tissue and then sociopath, you have no more friends,
Speaker 1: you moron? So did someone ask you to come back,
Speaker 1: like on the reunion, did you walk away? Did someone
Speaker 1: ask you to come to come back?
Speaker 3: Honestly, I can't even remember. In that moment, I believe
Speaker 3: I walked away to get a sip of water, because
Speaker 3: when I get nervous, my mouth gets parched. And I
Speaker 3: kinda already knew that I would be emotionally abused by
Speaker 3: my cast members by going back and do and doing
Speaker 3: the reunion.
Speaker 1: It was like your penance.
Speaker 3: Yeah, It's like I have to own up to it,
Speaker 3: and I have to like, like, do I deserve this hate?
Speaker 3: Like is this hate justified? Because what I have done
Speaker 3: is so horrendous.
Speaker 1: Well, my therapist. I have a therapist called doctor Matt Pulowitz.
Speaker 1: He's a really nice guy. He's very gentle, he's very sweet.
Speaker 1: He's saved my life in a way that's about another
Speaker 1: story for another time. But I asked him to watch
Speaker 1: the reunion. I mean, a grown man who's a professional,
Speaker 1: And I said to him, will you watch this for me,
Speaker 1: and will you tell me what you think. He's a psychologist,
Speaker 1: he's obviously a therapist, and he said something interesting. He said,
Speaker 1: there's a difference between punishment and abuse. He said, punishment
Speaker 1: is your banished from the friend group. No almost speak
Speaker 1: to you. So let's say a wive's husband cheats, like
Speaker 1: she won't speak to him for six months, he's sleeping.
Speaker 2: In the doghouse.
Speaker 1: Maybe she doesn't to get a divorce. Maybe a divorce
Speaker 1: is a punishment. It's a punishment. He said. This was
Speaker 1: not a punishment from everybody. This was abuse, which was
Speaker 1: very interesting. And he said that the reunion, He said,
Speaker 1: have I ever witnessed an intervention or a situation where
Speaker 1: there's a group, like group therapy, or like a reunion,
Speaker 1: he said, in this particular case, usually there's a goal,
Speaker 1: he said, In this particular case, he said, there was
Speaker 1: no goal for conflict resolution. It was just a beat
Speaker 1: down on a treadmill. He said, it was a loop.
Speaker 1: It was just a constant beating that you know was abusive.
Speaker 1: And I looked up. You know, many studies say that
Speaker 1: emotional abuse can be as difficult as physical abuse. And
Speaker 1: I want to get into what then happened, the further
Speaker 1: abuse that you had online and what that was like after.
Speaker 1: But the definition of emotional abuse is a way to
Speaker 1: control by using emotions to embarrass, shame, Frighten, criticize blame
Speaker 1: or manipulate another and verbal aggression, intimidation, manipulation, and humiliation,
Speaker 1: which unfolds as a pattern of behavior over time that
Speaker 1: aims to diminish another person's sense of identity, dignity, and
Speaker 1: self worth. Do you feel like you've been emotionally abused?
Speaker 3: Absolutely? In the moment, I felt like I deserved it.
Speaker 3: But after taking some time away and seeing things more objectively,
Speaker 3: absolutely I was emotionally abused.
Speaker 1: And did you feel protected at all? By why do
Speaker 1: you think would you have expected a producer to maybe
Speaker 1: step in and stop or the host or Lisa show
Speaker 1: whose name is on the show, Like would you have
Speaker 1: expected someone to be like she's been beaten and let's
Speaker 1: stop this?
Speaker 2: Absolutely? Yeah?
Speaker 3: And I feel like a part of a reunion is
Speaker 3: to hear what people have to say about it. You
Speaker 3: got yourself into this mess. Now you need to lay
Speaker 3: in this bed that you made for yourself. What do
Speaker 3: you have to say for yourself? Like when people do
Speaker 3: things that are out of character, it's only human nature
Speaker 3: to want to know why and what do you have
Speaker 3: to say? Like are you remorseful? Or are you just laughing?
Speaker 3: But that wasn't There was no opportunity for me to
Speaker 3: even speak and share what I was going through and
Speaker 3: why I found Tom to be this person that I
Speaker 3: connected to in an emotional way that I didn't connect
Speaker 3: to anybody else, and what needs were I sorry, what
Speaker 3: needs were being met in this relationship and why did
Speaker 3: I compromise my values when everyone that has seen me
Speaker 3: since season five to season ten has seen this girl
Speaker 3: that's reserved, shy, naive, but very sweet, and season ten
Speaker 3: was so out of character for me. It just viewing
Speaker 3: that alone, it would make me want to know why
Speaker 3: what is going on internally with this girl to be
Speaker 3: involved in this situation, but that was not.
Speaker 2: The space for me.
Speaker 1: So but doctor Matt was right, there was no room
Speaker 1: for confide resolution. That wasn't the goal.
Speaker 2: Absolutely not