1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,280 Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on tight, we got a fall you here. 2 00:00:02,320 --> 00:00:07,920 Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry letter subject my doctor has great hands. 3 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:11,559 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen, Shirley. I am a thirty three year old 4 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 1: single mom of three beautiful children. We recently moved to 5 00:00:15,640 --> 00:00:18,759 Speaker 1: another state and I had to find a new everything 6 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: school for the kids, dentist and doctor. I found a 7 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: great new guynacologist that came highly recommended by my new coworkers. 8 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: When I first met my doctor, he took my breath away, Shirley. 9 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:36,599 Speaker 1: He is six five and a creamy caramel complexion, with 10 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:42,520 Speaker 1: beautiful teeth and nice big hands. I was extremely nervous. Okay, 11 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: excuse me one second, Shirley, can you repeat the description? Okay? 12 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:52,160 Speaker 1: He was six to five and a creamy caramel complexion 13 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 1: with beautiful teeth and nice big hands. Wow, what you 14 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: know something? I just want to point this out on 15 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:05,759 Speaker 1: the bookie ends of your description, you the direct opposite 16 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: of Tommy. How tall you say? Six five? Is what 17 00:01:10,360 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: she's saying? Tommy five six d What you say? He's 18 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 1: got nice screamy caramel ski. Yes, Tommy got that. Now 19 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:21,759 Speaker 1: what do you say? Got beautiful teeth and nice big 20 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 1: Tommy got nice teeth. Huh. Now, what's the last part, 21 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 1: Nice big hands, I got a coon hands. You've a 22 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: go ahead. He goes on to say, I was extremely 23 00:01:36,400 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: nervous after I saw how fine he was. I was 24 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: also extremely aroused during the exam. I made a point 25 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 1: to tell him exactly how I was feeling, and he 26 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: just smiled and kept examining me. He kept it professional 27 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: the entire time. By my fourth visit, he was starting 28 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: to warm up. Yes, I kept making appointments with him 29 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: to get different consultations I know on procedures. He finally 30 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: admitted that he was attracted to me as well and 31 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 1: enjoyed our appointments. One thing led to another, and this 32 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: was by far the best trip to the doctor I 33 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: have ever had. I'll just say that he knows how 34 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: to use those big old hands of his. Since that day, 35 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:22,920 Speaker 1: I have had regularly scheduled visits with him, and he 36 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: makes sure I'm his last appointment of the day. The 37 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 1: problem is I am getting all caught up, but he 38 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 1: is married. We do not see each other outside of 39 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: the office, nor do we call or text each other. 40 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 1: He has made it clear that it is just what 41 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: it is. He does still allow me to keep my appointment, 42 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: even though his staff has been side eyeing me lately. 43 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: I'm addicted to him. Now what do I do? Please advise? Stop? Yeah, 44 00:02:54,639 --> 00:03:00,120 Speaker 1: you gotta stop. You gotta change doctors immediately. Yeah, you 45 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 1: gotta stop going up in there. This man is married. 46 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: What do you want? He can lose his license. There's 47 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 1: so much that can happen here. This is he's being 48 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:13,079 Speaker 1: an ethical all of that. You're you're visiting him too much. 49 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,840 Speaker 1: The staff could say something, Yeah, you're taking such a 50 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 1: risk here. What are you doing? I mean, you think 51 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:22,839 Speaker 1: he's gonna leave his wife for you? No, no, no, no, no, 52 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: change doctors immediately. You need to find a gynecologist on 53 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: your own. He came highly recommended by your new co workers. 54 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: So if he's there doctor too, is he doing the 55 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 1: same thing to them? Come on, come on, you gotta 56 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: get a new guynecologist period, Steve. Well, well, well, really, 57 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:48,000 Speaker 1: no way to go about this except to him disagree 58 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 1: with Shelley. First of all, I hear you, Shellley. She'dn't 59 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: met his big fine dude, six five, creamy calmeo, fine, 60 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 1: pretty teem, big old hand. You know she's just going 61 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 1: in there. And she told him you know this. Now, 62 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: keep in mind, ladies, and I don't want to be 63 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 1: offensive in any way. I don't really know what the 64 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: examination entails, to be perfectly honest with you, I just don't. 65 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 1: I'm assuming somebody touches something. That's all I'm gonna say 66 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 1: about it. She said she was extremely aroused doing the examination, 67 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 1: and then she made a point to tell him exactly 68 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 1: how she was feeling. He smiled, and he kept examining me. 69 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 1: I don't know what that means, but he kept on home. 70 00:04:46,440 --> 00:04:51,720 Speaker 1: But he's professional the entire time. But by my fourth visit, 71 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: now I don't know who go to this A guy 72 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,920 Speaker 1: of colleges. Yes, yes, she down there for the fourth 73 00:04:56,960 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: time already this week. It can't be that. And ain't 74 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: that fine? He was starting to warm up pleasant. Yeah. 75 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:11,080 Speaker 1: I kept making appointments with him to get different consultations, 76 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 1: consultations or procedious So now, ain't doing something with these hands? 77 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: He finally admitted that he was attracted to me as 78 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: well and enjoyed our appointments. One thing led to another, 79 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:28,600 Speaker 1: and on this last trip to the doctor, all I 80 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:31,360 Speaker 1: could say is he know how to use them big 81 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 1: old hands or his Now, you know, I'm a man 82 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 1: with big hands, but I'm not a doctor, and I 83 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:43,840 Speaker 1: know based on this letter, I must keep my hands 84 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:48,320 Speaker 1: to myself. Yes, but surely I got to correct you 85 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: with one thing. She ain't taking no risk at all? 86 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,720 Speaker 1: What do you mean? What risk is she taking? The 87 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 1: man is married, she's been in his office four times. 88 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: Any woman alive knows that you don't go togist. I agree, 89 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 1: I agree, But what's her risk? And her risk is 90 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:13,159 Speaker 1: that she's he's married, Steve period. What's her risk? What 91 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 1: did she lose? She's single mother? Three? Okay, we'll talk 92 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: about this when we come back, all right, Please by 93 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 1: saying the same thirty year old single mother, three beautiful kids, 94 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:33,080 Speaker 1: switch jobs, switch cities, got a new doctor, gyna collegist, 95 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: six to five, creamy, caramel, pretty t big hands. She 96 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: and the damming him. She didn't got all her hot 97 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 1: and bothered aroused. She made a point to tell him 98 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: how she was feeling. He kept on examining, He kept 99 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 1: it professional entire time. By my fourth visit, he was 100 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:56,040 Speaker 1: starting to warm up. I don't know, most women out 101 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:59,119 Speaker 1: here don't like going to the Gady say, no woman 102 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:01,599 Speaker 1: likes to go to go, so they down. Is he 103 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 1: downed that full time? Probably this week? Yeah? So yeah, 104 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: now one of the and everybody looking at because why 105 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: you keep coming down here? Yes? And then I get 106 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 1: consultations and procedures. He finally admitted he was attracted to me. 107 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: Excuse me, one thing led to another. All I have 108 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: to say is he knows how to use them big 109 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 1: old hands or his. Since that day, I have regularly 110 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 1: scheduled visions. He makes sure i'm his last. One other 111 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: day probably is I'm getting caught up. But he is married. 112 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: We don't see each other outside the office, nor do 113 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:42,560 Speaker 1: we call or text each other. He's made it clear 114 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 1: that this is just what it is. He still allows 115 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: me to keep my point, even though his staff had 116 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: been side on me. I'm addicted to him. Now, what 117 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 1: Shirley said, you got to break it off right away 118 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 1: because he's you this you you got too much to risk, 119 00:07:55,880 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: And Shirley, let's get back into the discussion. She risks nothing. 120 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 1: What does she have to risk? All right? Well, I 121 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:06,239 Speaker 1: don't really think that so much. The point of the letter, Steve. 122 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 1: The point of the letter is is that she's out 123 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: of order. She shouldn't be doing getting involved with this 124 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: married man. Period. He's her doctor. Keep it clinical. I 125 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: just think keep c Yeah. Okay, Steve, this is this, 126 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 1: well how many times? Let me let me put it 127 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:27,480 Speaker 1: to you like this so you can understand kind of 128 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 1: what women go through. Okay, at the gynecologist, she's this 129 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:34,360 Speaker 1: is her fourth procedure, she said, her fourth time going 130 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:38,679 Speaker 1: in the fourth appointment. Uh, maybe equivalent to you guys 131 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:41,959 Speaker 1: going to the proctologist or something. Oh no, it ain't. No, 132 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: I'm just saying no. I'm just saying, yeah, I'm gonna 133 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:50,040 Speaker 1: throw that out. Okay, ruling, ruling, we have to throw 134 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 1: that out. I'm gonna tell you one thing right now. 135 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:57,719 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, what they're doing to us is violation 136 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:03,480 Speaker 1: on principles of man. Who Hey, we don't like going 137 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 1: there either. I believe you. I don't take nothing away 138 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 1: from it. I don't even know what it is. I'm 139 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:13,719 Speaker 1: pretty sure that going to the guy the colleges, it's 140 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:16,679 Speaker 1: everything you say it is, Yeah, I bet you it is. 141 00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 1: And then something I'm just trying to give you something 142 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 1: to n n Now. Instruments, yes, instruments, instruments, yes, So 143 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:31,960 Speaker 1: that's what we're trying to tell you. Ain't nobody signing 144 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:39,560 Speaker 1: up for that minutes. Yes, yes, yes, yes, it is 145 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:45,439 Speaker 1: not pleasant. I'll be tripping with this prostate ejam going yeah, okay, 146 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: but I've never been here where you ain't gonna put 147 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:56,040 Speaker 1: no instrument. I'm well, I'm just saying you're not gonna 148 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 1: come up in the hill with no applies at all, 149 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 1: this hill und on my booty. I'm just gonna put 150 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: it out there. Well, as much as you hate that, 151 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:07,400 Speaker 1: women to do is take a clamp and pride open 152 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 1: and then stick something. Now, I'm just this is what 153 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: I'm talking about, a prostate example. Well, this is what 154 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 1: I'm trying to tell you. This is you can kind 155 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: of compare it to that if that's the only comparison 156 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 1: we have. You hate going to the proctologist. We don't 157 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:24,720 Speaker 1: like going to the gun. I believe it, sureley, But 158 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: I don't want you to say that it's like a 159 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: prostate e giving you something that you can compare it with. 160 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 1: I don't know what to compare itive. Okay, Okay, okay, cool, Okay, 161 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:38,840 Speaker 1: that's the closest thing. That's the closest thing. Just stop, 162 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 1: because see when this man put this glove on and 163 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: then tell you to lay on your side. Yeah, that's 164 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:54,840 Speaker 1: one way. Yeah, relax, relax, relax, stop clinching, stop clinching. Yes, okay, 165 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:58,560 Speaker 1: the same thing. I'm trying to you out, the same thing, 166 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 1: except for art feeder and stirrups. Surely I believe you, 167 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 1: I promise you. I'm not. I'm not comparing this, making 168 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: this worse to what a woman go through. Please don't 169 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:13,200 Speaker 1: misunderstand me. I have the ultimate respect for whatever it 170 00:11:13,360 --> 00:11:16,400 Speaker 1: is y'all doing. I'm just telling you respect this over 171 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: here too, down prostating, because it's the real deal. We 172 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:24,120 Speaker 1: do respect it. I'm just trying to give you a 173 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:27,079 Speaker 1: point of reference, that's all. I don't like the reference. 174 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:30,600 Speaker 1: I don't The fact that you don't like it doesn't 175 00:11:30,640 --> 00:11:33,840 Speaker 1: make it. Why do you why we do not see 176 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 1: each other outside the office? Okay, I don't. I don't 177 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 1: care what you do. I'm just because you made me 178 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 1: think I got to go to the doctors, prostate saying 179 00:11:45,840 --> 00:11:50,959 Speaker 1: for I go on this trip. I'm fitting cry. Yeah, 180 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:54,640 Speaker 1: she needs to change doctors and cut out all this foolishness. 181 00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: All right, listen, we gotta get out of here. You 182 00:11:57,400 --> 00:11:59,959 Speaker 1: can email us or Instagram. That's your thoughts. On Today, 183 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter Big on hand Steve Harvey FM. You can 184 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 1: check out the Strawberry Letter podcast as well. You're listening 185 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:10,679 Speaker 1: to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.