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Speaker 1: lay miserab and began to witness Broadway actors at their best,

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Speaker 1: conveying a message that though it was a period piece,

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Speaker 1: it is a dateless truth. As a father, a bereaved

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Speaker 1: father holds his son in his arms and praised through

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Speaker 1: the lyrics of a song, let him live. Until you

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Speaker 1: had a child that you really loved and their life

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Speaker 1: was threatening, You don't know what laymans are of is

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Speaker 1: or a toddler, or a teenager stricken with some dread

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Speaker 1: disease and said, just let him live. He doesn't have

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Speaker 2: To play.

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Speaker 1: Toured all over the world, because every true father wants

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Speaker 1: It was a lot of crowding. A big crowd gathered around,

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Speaker 1: people getting out of all types of limousines and cars

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Speaker 1: No line's no waiting over here. Come this way, Come

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Speaker 1: this way, Come this way. I've got bills for you,

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Speaker 1: I've got kits for you. I've got seating for you.

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Speaker 1: If you're seated in the lobby, go this way. All

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Speaker 1: this noise is going on, people rushing to get refreshments

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Speaker 1: before it all starts. And once it started, it nailed

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Speaker 1: me to my seat. You see, most men know that

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Speaker 1: atmospheres often developed outcomes. I will never forget the sound

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Speaker 1: Shrill scream could be heard audibly wailing at his forty

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Speaker 1: year old son's funeral because they did not let him live.

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Speaker 1: Or President Biden and doctor Jill Biden eyes filled with

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Speaker 1: if it only happened yesterday. I remember distinctly avoiding my

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Speaker 1: trip after I had arrived in South Africa, only to

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Speaker 1: find my own son, my young son, who is my

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Speaker 1: be possible? How could that even be possible. That's unthinkable

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Speaker 1: didn't sleep or eat till the plane landed back at DFW,

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Speaker 1: and all I wanted them to do was to let

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Speaker 1: He heard me coming down the hall. He said, that

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Speaker 1: and I'm coming now. And he was waiting on me.

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Speaker 1: as his mother was right by my side. I realize

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Speaker 1: that parenting never ever really stops or goes away today

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Speaker 1: in our country, in America, it has been said that

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Speaker 1: America is undergoing a massive structural shift. According to the

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Speaker 1: US Census Bureau, approximately eighteen point two million children, nearly

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Speaker 1: one in four, live without a biological, step or adoptive father.

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Speaker 1: Despite the persistent cultural stereotype of the absent black father,

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Speaker 1: racial demographics. I don't know how they stuck us with that,

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Speaker 1: the Gospel of the Book of Malachi, the sixth verse,

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Speaker 1: he will return the hearts of the parents to their children,

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Speaker 1: They're the premier breadwinners. Often in our homes, they are

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Speaker 1: And now we're living in now it is narrow minded

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Speaker 1: away childish things. But there are some things that are

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Speaker 1: the praise of his father saying, you did, good son.

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Speaker 1: The father carries the child after the mother is finished

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Speaker 1: her mind and even her body. And so this is

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Speaker 1: Often you go into a role that you have not seen,

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Speaker 1: Babies don't come with manuals or textbooks on how to

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Speaker 1: things that are not always in your purview, nor demonstrated

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Speaker 2: Oh but my.

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Speaker 1: God, let me tell you right now, it is difficult.

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Speaker 1: It is not just about what you say, it is

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Speaker 2: So a full fledged salute.

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Speaker 1: To all the fathers who stuck it out and hung

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Speaker 1: To all the fathers who ignored the voice that said,

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Speaker 1: and notes, just wanting their children to know that I

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Speaker 1: might be confined, but I'm still caring, and that it

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Speaker 1: we have faults, and we're not the heroes that you

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Speaker 2: We salute you.

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Speaker 1: We salute the little boy in you that didn't even

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Speaker 2: We salute you for the pta meetings you went to.

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Speaker 1: After you got off work, smelling like motorole, but you

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Speaker 1: come to say Happy Father's Day to you. It did

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Speaker 1: not go unnoticed, It was not unseen. It was valuable.

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Speaker 1: I surrender to the task I used to run from,

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Speaker 1: because now the little boy and me has got old

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Speaker 1: enough to take care of the little boy in you.

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Speaker 1: Happy Happy Father's Day to every man who raised a

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Speaker 1: to every man who blended a family that wasn't born together,

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Speaker 1: Happy Father's Day to every man who showed his daughter

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Speaker 1: Happy father Stay to you, to every man who made

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Speaker 2: Winning, just try, just fight back, Just get up again.

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Speaker 1: Scarred and bloody and tattered and torn and mud all

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Speaker 1: It may be the little boy down the street that

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