WEBVTT - Facetiming on Myspace with Chelsea & Catherine 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:04.760 Hi, Katherine, Oh Hi Chelsea, Oh hello, what's up? Greetings 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:13.680 from Whistler. It's very white. There's a white, white winter wonderland. 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:16.640 Actually it's not really a winter wonderland. We've had kind 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:19.560 of a low snow season. Although I am heading out 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:23.240 today leaving for a week, and now they're expecting about 0:00:23.280 --> 0:00:26.120 a foot of snow. So hopefully when our return will 0:00:26.160 --> 0:00:27.800 be in better shape. Because you know, I have to 0:00:27.840 --> 0:00:31.640 film my ski video. Oh right, your birthday, ay ski video. 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:33.440 So we were going to do it last week because 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:35.440 I had my social media team come up for a 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:38.839 little sabbatical. They came up here and where I was like, 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:42.040 oh great, I said to Ricardo and Mina, who run 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:44.919 the company. It's called Crispy Chicken. That's what attracted me 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:46.720 to it. I'm trying still trying to get them to 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:48.839 change the name to Krispy Chicken Nuggets, but they're not 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:52.159 really biting on that one. Anyway, I had them come up. 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:54.520 The three of them came up and we were gonna 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:56.680 shoot my video and I was like, how proficient are 0:00:56.680 --> 0:01:00.000 you guys on snowboards because I will need your help. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:01.520 We I mean, we got to step it up this year. 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:04.640 We need a drone, I need a different backdrop. I 0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:06.560 want to ski through the trees. So we're trying to 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:08.800 coordinate all this, and I said, how proficient are you 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:11.039 and they're like, well, you know, we're not advanced or anything, 0:01:11.040 --> 0:01:13.520 but we can both, you know, film you on snowboards. 0:01:14.000 --> 0:01:16.360 And I would like to say that, No, they could not. 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:19.480 I took them out skiing. Thank god, I did not 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:22.360 try to film this with them. They I mean, Mina 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:24.480 is a little bit better, but Ricardo. I was like, Ricardo, 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:26.399 how often do you snowboard? He's like once a year. 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:29.560 I'm like, do you understand what we're dealing with here? 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:34.520 Someone skiing backwards and filming me or snowboarding back through 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:36.880 the tree or retreat. Well, I mean, I don't know 0:01:36.880 --> 0:01:38.840 how realistic that's going to be. So we'll see if 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:41.880 I even conquer that, because we're gonna need a few 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:44.319 camera men. But I'm in Whistler, so there's tons of 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:47.360 people here that can film skiing for years obviously, you know, 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:50.200 so I just have to find the right people. Yeah. I, 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:53.880 by the way, love Ricardo and Mina. They're fantastic. Yeah, 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:56.800 they're really really awesome, and we had a great time 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:59.720 we went to the zip lining, we went to the 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:01.960 BA Well, I dropped them off. I was like their 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:04.080 mama bear. I felt like I was shuttling my kids 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.440 around from carpool, you know. I would drop them off 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:08.079 at school and they picked them up three hours later. 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:09.640 I'm like, bye, guys. Then I dropped them off at 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:11.480 the grocery store so they could get all the Canadian 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:14.400 snacks to bring back, and then I'd picked them up 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:16.240 and then they'd get in the car and it just 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:20.440 would wreak of weed. I'm like, what is that smell? Anyway? 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:23.400 So that's been happening up here. Just I love having 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:26.400 people shuttle in and out of my little my ski chalet. 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:29.840 It's so fun. I know, Chelsea, can you settle a 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:34.440 marital argument for me? Really good? O? Yeah, I'd love to. So. 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:37.519 Our bedroom, we're having some work done on the garage, 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:39.400 was just right near our bedroom and our bad you 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:42.760 turning it into what are you turning into Brad's man cave? Well, 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:45.160 in addition to podcasting where it happens to be a 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:48.600 drummer and musician, So we're turning it into his music studio. 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:53.560 Oh music studio. Okay, that's bad in a man cave, Brad, Yeah, indeed, 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:55.680 he can be a lot louder in there. Meanwhile, I 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:57.079 just want to go out and say that my whole 0:02:57.120 --> 0:03:00.280 life is a man cavel. I want to do is 0:03:00.320 --> 0:03:02.720 be in my bed smoking weed and watching TV. So 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:04.560 I might as well have a man cave as well. 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:07.840 I love it. You just need a lazy boy, that's 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:11.040 all you need in there. But so, it smelled weirdly 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:14.000 like pine in our bedroom for the last couple of weeks, 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:17.360 and we can't figure out why. But I think it 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:21.440 kind of smells like weed. And in my opinion, weed 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:25.040 smells a little bit like pine needles. But my loving 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:30.720 husband thinks that that is absolutely ridiculous. It's skunky. Weed 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:34.560 is skunky. That's why they call it skunky weed. Right, Well, 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:37.800 not all weed is skunk. I mean, there's me that's 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:41.120 not skunky. So I think that you're right, Catherine, as usual, 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:44.840 that there can be a pine smell. For sure, when 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:47.440 I walk into my house, it is an overwhelming smell 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:49.800 of cannabis. My friend's daughter came over the other day 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:52.000 and she goes, she's seven, She goes, what's that smell? 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:55.520 I go, don't worry about it. You'll know when you're older. Yeah, 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:58.480 you're about to find out. But yeah, I think something 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:00.920 we can definitely smell like pine. Are you trying to 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.000 get rid of the smell or do you like the smell? No? 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.560 I mean it's it's a pleasant smell. But we're just like, 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:09.080 why suddenly does this smell like pine? We can't figure 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:11.920 it out. So and neither of us are stashing weed 0:04:12.000 --> 0:04:14.760 in the bedroom. But I think it smells like weed, 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:17.560 And well, why don't you start stashing weed? And then 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:19.920 that will overwhelm the pine smell, and then that will 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:27.200 create more symbiosis in your perfect more symbiosis and synergy. Well, 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:29.320 thank you for settling that argument. And I am so 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:31.640 glad that I won. Brad, how do you feel about 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:36.400 that outcome? I'm crushed. Okay, my life is a lie. Yeah, 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:38.160 this is, by the way, is something we've been discussing 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:40.960 for like a decade. He's like, we doesn't smell like pine. Well, 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:44.320 it doesn't always smell like skunks, but in this instance, 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.400 I think it smells like weed. And it smells like 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:50.719 skunky weed. Oh it doesn't. You don't smell pine? Oh? 0:04:51.120 --> 0:04:53.520 Oh I see, I see. Well it's interesting to me 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:55.599 that you're arguing about this, but yet the hard boiled 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:58.400 eggs weren't an issue for you at all. Brad Well, 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:00.280 I guess I gotta turn a blind eye to some Yeah, 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:03.000 it's interesting where you pick your battles. Well, I mean 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:04.960 that's marriage right there. You got to pick your battles 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:09.800 where you can. Exactly so chealously, I wanted to ask 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:14.920 you some thoughts about making friends as an adult. I 0:05:14.960 --> 0:05:18.200 find when I meet somebody that I really like and 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:20.120 I want to hang out with them more, I'm not 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:23.719 one hundred percent sure how to go about that, how 0:05:23.720 --> 0:05:26.039 to feel out if they're as into me as I 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:29.080 am into them. What are your thoughts? How do you 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.560 do it? Oh? That's so funny. I mean I'm always 0:05:31.600 --> 0:05:34.799 making friends as an adult, and you're also constantly meeting 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:37.360 new people. Yeah, I guess I'm lucky that way because 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.520 I'm always bouncing around to different places, so I get 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:42.560 to meet new people. I feel like it's a mutual connection. 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:45.520 When you have chemistry, it's kind of undeniable. So likely 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:48.560 if you're feeling something or like an attraction towards a 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.240 person that you want to just like, spend more time 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:52.719 with or hang out with in a non sexual way. 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:57.160 It's pretty easy. It's usually reciprocated. I find yeah, you know, 0:05:57.240 --> 0:05:59.039 like if someone's texting me going when are we going 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:01.200 to hang out, I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah, I feel 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:03.960 the same way. So I just don't feel like who 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:06.320 cares about rules as an adult, you know what I mean. 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:08.440 But it's not like you're a kid and you're so 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:11.279 self conscious and thinking about what other people think of you. 0:06:11.480 --> 0:06:14.039 Or maybe you are self conscious, but even so, it's 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:17.760 good to extend invitations and broaden your horizons always, Like 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:20.760 that's always a good idea to make sure you're keeping 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:24.320 everything fresh and making new acquaintances as well as friends. 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:26.440 You never know what anyone's going to bring to the table. 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:28.760 So I always like to hang out with new people 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:31.760 all the time. I'm always interested in a different perspective, 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:34.839 you know. And I think a good thing to remember is, 0:06:34.880 --> 0:06:38.040 like we've talked about this a lot, that all relationships 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:41.720 don't last forever. You know, a lot of relationships and 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:43.560 and a lot of new people come into your life 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:45.799 for a reason as well, So you should be open 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:48.480 to that aspect of things of like, oh, this might 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:50.839 be somebody that I'm supposed to know, are supposed to 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:53.480 be friends with, and could be somebody that you're supposed 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:54.960 to be friends with for the rest of your life. 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:57.360 So I don't think there's any shame in reaching out 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.039 and being like, hey, you want to hang out, I'm 0:06:59.040 --> 0:07:01.760 into you or whatever. You know what's sad into you, 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:05.960 But you can say yeah, yeah, yeah. You don't want 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:09.000 people to think they're walking into a thruble situation. So 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:11.800 that's how we caught you. That's how I feel sometimes 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.120 when couples are trying to hang out with me and 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:17.880 my back ut up back, it's a duck up, get 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.720 away from me. I know what you're up to. I 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:23.200 once had two friends come over so funny. I was 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:27.080 leaving Reese Witherspoon's Christmas party years ago, and my friend 0:07:27.160 --> 0:07:29.800 and her husband drove me home and then I was like, 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:31.200 do you guys want to come in for a drink? 0:07:31.240 --> 0:07:33.520 And they came in. It was actually my friend Kate 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:35.640 and her ex husband, and they came in and they're 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:38.720 sitting at my kitchen counter and I made them cocktails 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.280 and then I said, just so you guys know, we're 0:07:41.320 --> 0:07:45.960 not hooking up, and they both looked at each other. 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:48.000 Like what, And I was like, I don't know what 0:07:48.120 --> 0:07:50.800 you guys are into, but I'm not into it. And 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:53.320 we've been friends ever, so gosh. We had a similar 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:56.320 experience with a couple of friends of ours, and Brad 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:57.840 had been hanging out with this guy. They were in 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.280 a band together. I had met him a few times 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:03.440 because he bartended. We just hit it off from the 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:06.200 very beginning. Absolutely love this guy. We were in the 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.280 car together, the three of us, and we were going 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:11.040 to meet his wife, and I think I met her 0:08:11.080 --> 0:08:14.200 once or twice, but you know, it was early stages, 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:18.040 and I made some joke about, oh, well, you know 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:20.440 this is the point where we ask you guys to 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:23.000 hook up with us or whatever, and he thought I 0:08:23.040 --> 0:08:25.440 was serious and just the back seat of the car 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:30.960 win deadly. That's horrible, like five seconds and I was like, Matt, 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:33.280 I'm joking. And then he was like, oh my god, 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:35.640 Thank goodness, because I was really enjoying hanging out with 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.440 you guys, and that was about to be over. I know, 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:40.800 I hate having to say I'm joking, though, you know, 0:08:41.000 --> 0:08:43.760 I know it's an la thing, like a good barometer 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.600 or measure of somebody who's worthy of hanging out with 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:49.559 a somebody who also knows that that's a joke. Yeah, 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.679 that takes it seriously. No offense to your friend. You 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:56.480 a new friend, that's okay. We still are very good 0:08:56.480 --> 0:08:58.280 friends with them to this day. That was like a 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:01.920 decade ago, so you know that's great advice. Thank you 0:09:01.960 --> 0:09:04.560 so much. Just to close it out, what's your go 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:07.120 to friend date when you're first meeting someone. Is it 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:10.200 let's grab dinner? Is it come over? What's your go 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:12.680 to I mean I recently made a new friend because 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:14.760 my neighbor called me. I think I talked about this. 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:17.120 My neighbor that I'm moved building a house next to 0:09:17.160 --> 0:09:18.920 you got in touch with me and was like, Hey, 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:21.200 I'm so excited that you're moving next to me. I 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:23.040 want to we're going to be best friends. He's a 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:25.840 gay guy, obviously, and he's like, I loved to party, 0:09:26.120 --> 0:09:28.080 I love everything you represent. I can't wait for us 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.120 to be neighbors. We're going to build a funicular behind 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.320 our houses to meet, or a zip line or whatever. 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:34.840 And I was like, oh, that's so fun. And we 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:36.760 were trying to hang out. We couldn't make it work. 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:40.280 And then I was in Sundance skiing in Park City, 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:42.679 and he was at Sundance at the festival and then 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:47.079 we met. We met up there and we had a 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:49.480 drink together. I think a drink, A drink is a 0:09:49.520 --> 0:09:51.920 good or a coffee, like if you're into coffee. I 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:54.400 don't really drink coffee. So whenever people suggest that, I'm 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:57.319 like whatever, that's life of meeting. Like I have business 0:09:57.320 --> 0:10:00.199 meetings over coffee, you know, where I pretend and to 0:10:00.280 --> 0:10:03.439 drink coffee or I have hot tea or who knows. 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:06.360 I never know what to get at a coffee place. Yeah, 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.920 you know what, Starbucks has those not to plug anything, 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:12.920 but Starbucks has those like refreshers that are like lightly sweet, 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:16.079 they're fruity, and they have a little tina bit of caffeine. 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.600 I like those when I'm not into coffee. Oh they 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:21.080 have caffeine. I like anything with caffeine. Yeah, it's got 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:23.559 a little caffeine. I think it's like maybe as much 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:25.240 as a cup of tea, or maybe it is a 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:26.679 cup of coffee. I don't know. You can ask them 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:29.040 about I love Thank you for that. Thank you for 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:33.559 that recommendation, Catherine. That is meaningful. So how is your 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:37.720 house going? I was actually wondering about this morning. Who 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:40.120 knows what the hell's happening with my house? I can't 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:44.120 even This is a perfect example of my impulsivity. I 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:46.439 wanted to get my family out of my house, so 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:48.280 I had to send them a strong message. I put 0:10:48.280 --> 0:10:50.760 the house on the market, and now I have been 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:55.160 homeless for two Yeah, and I've been in a rental. 0:10:55.360 --> 0:10:59.080 So oh, I have some other sad news to announce. Actually, 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:03.080 oh no, okay, I haven't publicly announced it because I 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:06.120 don't feel like it. But Bert is no longer with us. 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:10.040 I know. I'm so sorry to hear that thank you, 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:14.679 thank you, my poor little baby. He's so sweet. But 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:17.439 Bernice is still with us, who knows for how long, 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:20.960 So I'm gonna have to get her a little companion soon. Anyway, 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:24.400 So my baby boy is gone. Oh, I'm so sorry 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:26.480 to hear a thing thank you. He was such a 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:29.880 sweet Oh he was so robust when I got him, 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:32.920 and watching him kind of fall apart or deteriorate, it 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:36.040 was so like, oh, it's heartbreaking. But you know what 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:38.480 I feel like about dogs. I just feel like you 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:41.600 gotta pivot that love because you give out so much 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.480 love to them, and when you lose a dog, it's 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:47.240 such an easy transfer of love to find another dog 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:50.360 and give another dog a home and then give Bernice 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:54.280 another little someone to torture. And so I will be 0:11:54.440 --> 0:11:56.240 doing that. I'll be on the hunt for a new 0:11:56.320 --> 0:12:00.120 chow guys soon, Okay, well I will. I'm sure you 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:01.760 work at a lot of emails about this, so I 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:05.280 will send things along to you, guys. But yeah, I'm 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:08.880 so sorry. It's never easy. It's just never easy. I 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:10.720 know it's never easy. But you know what you have 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:12.920 to remember about dogs, It's like you gave them a life. 0:12:13.160 --> 0:12:15.720 He was at rescue and he was in bad shape 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:18.240 when I got him, and then he was loved so hard, 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:21.320 yes by his birth mother bought Bell, but also by 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:23.680 me and all my friends. And he was just such 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:25.679 a lover. I mean, I've never had a dog that 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:28.480 would lie on me all night long. I just love that. 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:33.640 Oh what a good boy. Yeah, well, just snuggle Bernie 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:36.160 a little extra hard next time you see her. And 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:39.040 also I loved what Laurel and Jackson said is that 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:42.680 we're going to see them again one day. Well, Chelsea, 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:46.479 I do have a couple of updates, okay from callers 0:12:46.880 --> 0:12:50.959 from previous episodes, So should we launch into those? Yeah, 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:54.679 all right, fantastic. This one is from our dear friend 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:59.080 Braden Cantelope, who was our sweet Canadian friend. He was 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:01.600 in his early twenty and he was like, I want 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:05.320 to study fashion, but I'm background friends and family and 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:08.560 I want to move to London. So Braden says, Hi, 0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:11.319 h Chelsea and Catherine, I hope you're both doing well. 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:14.120 I'm just emailing to say, while it's been a year, 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:18.360 I've finally moved to London. Once my visa was sorted 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.200 in November, I booked my flights for January and here 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:24.319 I am. I've been here nearly a month now, moving 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:28.400 into my beautiful flat tomorrow. Honestly, your advice did help 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:30.520 give me the little kick in the ass I needed 0:13:30.520 --> 0:13:32.960 to get over here, and boy, am I glad I did. 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:37.160 Thank you both for everything, Braid and Cantelope. PS. I've 0:13:37.160 --> 0:13:39.760 had a few viewers actually messaged me on my Instagram 0:13:39.760 --> 0:13:42.880 to see if I made the move. Most recently, someone 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:45.439 messaged me just the other day and said they're so 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.200 happy to see I made the move. How lovely of people. 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:52.000 Oh that's so sweet. I love our little community who 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:54.319 would have sunk it? You know what I mean? Seriously, 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:56.640 it's just lovely. I used to just be a bitch 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:59.360 on the E network, and now look at the wonderful 0:13:59.400 --> 0:14:02.920 work we're doing. Yes, I even had a maybe love 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:06.120 connection the other day. Someone had listened to you know, 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:08.760 someone who was single and said, hey, can you send 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:11.959 her my Instagram? So I did. We'll see a straight 0:14:12.000 --> 0:14:15.199 guy apparently, or at least sometimes straight. Yeah, we should 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:18.280 look into doing some sort of like matchmaking episode because 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:21.160 I really like to set people up and you know, 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:25.360 make people get together, force them. I love that. I 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:29.200 love that cool. And then our next follow up is 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:34.040 from Regina. She was the lesbian who was having an 0:14:34.080 --> 0:14:38.360 affair with a married woman and she has this to say, 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:42.040 Dear Chelsea, I had a fucking fantastic ten day trip 0:14:42.080 --> 0:14:45.400 to South America. Remember she was about to leave. That 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:48.240 started the day after we chatted. While I was gone, 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:52.080 I had close to zero communication with my lover slash coworker, 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:56.000 which is of course what we both needed. When I returned, 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:59.560 we amicably talked and agreed that the affair, both emotional 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:02.880 and physical, needed to stop. She has stated a few 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:05.400 times that she is quote going to tell her partner 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:07.720 the truth when she is ready, and who the fuck 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:09.800 knows when that will be. I could go into more 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:11.800 detail for you about how she's struggling with my new 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:15.560 lack of emotional investment in our relationship and my refusal 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:18.360 to be vulnerable with her anymore. I think that's great, 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:21.920 but it doesn't really matter. What does matter is talking 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:24.400 with you was the turning point in this seemingly endless 0:15:24.480 --> 0:15:27.560 roundabout that I couldn't stop circling. So thank you so 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:30.520 fucking much for that. I wanted things to change without 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:33.320 having to make any changes. The feedback I got from 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.600 you and Natasha was the kick in the ass I needed. Anyway, 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:39.320 I'm writing tonight to not only give you that brief update, 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:41.280 but also to ask one would be a good time 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:42.960 for us to get together so we can start our 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:47.000 own affair as per your proposal. I'm vaccinated in horny, 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:49.040 so let me know when works best for you. Kiss. 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:53.640 Now I have to start sleeping with my female callers. 0:15:53.080 --> 0:15:56.640 Such a burden, tricky. First of all, vaccinated it in 0:15:56.720 --> 0:15:59.320 Horny tour is over. We are starting a little big 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.240 bitch tour. Yeah okay, and we just added red Rocks 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:05.800 Oh that's amazing. Yeah, we added Red Rocks. We added 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:07.840 there's a bunch of new dates that we added. So 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:10.680 check on Chelseahandler dot com for tickets for my new tour, 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:14.120 which is going to start in April. A little big bitch. 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:17.000 It's gonna be so good. I've been writing all my 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:20.800 material while I'm writing a fucking book. I'm like Jesus, 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:23.760 I have too much to do. Too much writing. You 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:26.320 gotta be out there having more life experiences so you 0:16:26.640 --> 0:16:29.200 have something to writing. I know, maybe I should sleep less, 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:32.040 watch Last TV and sleepless of smoke less pot. I'd 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:34.560 probably ben a lot more productive. But not always helps, 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:38.560 always help. I'm using this as downtime. Yeah, well, as 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:41.760 you're should. It's vacation time. But back to the matchmaking thing. 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:45.960 If anyone is wanting to be hooked up or match maked, 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:51.800 match made, anyone would be match maked, let us know 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:54.600 right in for that, because we will try and facilitate that. 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:56.400 And if you are a straight man and you are 0:16:56.480 --> 0:17:00.040 listening and you are single, we can definitely help you 0:17:00.120 --> 0:17:03.040 because the ratio of women to men listening to this 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:07.960 is very high. Yes, and right, matchmaking in the subject line, 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:10.919 so I know, and we'll see what we can do 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:14.840 for you. That's a good idea. I like that. Yeah, 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:16.960 maybe we'll have to have a matchmaker on or somebody 0:17:16.960 --> 0:17:19.480 who knows about relationships. We don't need a matchmaker. I 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:22.480 know what to do. Isn't it a mitzvah? If you 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:26.280 set up three couples who get married? Is it? I think? So? 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:29.240 I just set up a couple, one couple, a gay couple. 0:17:29.280 --> 0:17:31.000 I don't know what's going to happen with them yet. 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:33.600 Or yeah, if you're a gay couple. I mean, gay 0:17:33.600 --> 0:17:35.320 people want to be set up and they're all listening 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.680 to this, So that's that's a good idea to right 0:17:37.720 --> 0:17:40.640 in for that. But also, you know, straight guys would 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:43.680 be nice to have some in the mix, unmarried straight guys, 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:49.320 as we learned last with your sisters. Oh yeah, unmarried. Please, 0:17:51.080 --> 0:17:53.800 everyone who participates in this must be unmarried. We'll just 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:56.239 put it that way. Can you imagine? That's that's the 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:59.800 next headline, Chelsea Handler hooks up married woman with married man. 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:08.280 It's just Ashley Madison, Chelsea Madison, Chelsea, Chelsea, Christina Barcelona Chelsea. 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:10.320 Next up, we have a new segment that we're going 0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:13.080 to be doing calling in back up with Better Help. 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:15.160 You want to tell us a little bit more about that. Yes, 0:18:15.359 --> 0:18:18.159 So sometimes we get questions where I just don't feel 0:18:18.200 --> 0:18:21.679 it's appropriate for me to be answering. And obviously I 0:18:21.800 --> 0:18:24.040 joke about being a medical professional, but we know that 0:18:24.080 --> 0:18:27.600 I'm not. I have no certification or degree. I am 0:18:27.680 --> 0:18:30.680 just really just spouting stuff straight out of my ass. 0:18:30.840 --> 0:18:33.440 So we are doing this thing where we have Better 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:36.639 Health Therapists, which you know, they're a sponsor of the podcast, 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:39.680 and they do great work. It's online therapy, Better Help, 0:18:39.720 --> 0:18:44.440 it's affordable, all of it's so accessible for anybody who's 0:18:44.480 --> 0:18:47.240 having trouble or going through something. So we decided to 0:18:47.320 --> 0:18:50.000 work together in concert with them, and when we have 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:53.520 some questions that we don't feel like I could answer appropriately, 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:57.439 we are calling in somebody who is more skilled. And 0:18:57.520 --> 0:19:01.879 with that, David Yaddish, licensed therapist and clinical operations manager 0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:03.440 at Better Help, is going to join us in a 0:19:03.480 --> 0:19:07.840 little bit great OC says dear Chelsea. I love listening 0:19:07.840 --> 0:19:09.720 to your podcast, and I've noticed that you are a 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:13.640 big proponent of therapy, whether it's individual or couples therapy. 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:17.560 I come from Asia, where therapies very taboo, therapies looked 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:19.840 at as something is very wrong with you, or it's 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:22.479 also like how pathetic are you that you need therapy 0:19:22.520 --> 0:19:25.439 and can't solve your own problems. I've had many issues 0:19:25.480 --> 0:19:27.760 from my childhood, from my relationship with my mom, who 0:19:27.800 --> 0:19:30.240 passed away when I was twenty five years old. I'm 0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:33.480 forty three now, so my husband recommended that I do therapy. 0:19:34.119 --> 0:19:35.840 I did it for a month or two despite my 0:19:35.880 --> 0:19:38.280 cultural belief, and I was never able to be one 0:19:38.320 --> 0:19:41.359 hundred percent open with the therapist. She did listen a 0:19:41.400 --> 0:19:43.840 lot and complimented me a lot. To be honest, it 0:19:43.880 --> 0:19:46.480 made me feel great. She then concluded that I was 0:19:46.560 --> 0:19:50.000 totally fine and there was nothing wrong with me. Now 0:19:50.040 --> 0:19:52.680