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Speaker 1: She's gonna have to find new parents now.

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Speaker 2: I'm thirty female and my husband is thirty four male,

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Speaker 2: and my stepdaughter is twelve. My stepdaughter's mom passed away

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Speaker 2: when she was two, and I came into her life

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Speaker 2: when she was eight. We have a close relationship that

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Speaker 2: I feel is normal for a stepparent. She doesn't call

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Speaker 2: me mom, and that's okay. I want her to do

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Speaker 2: Storytime Separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and Op says

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Speaker 2: these past few weeks she's been asking if I would

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Speaker 2: adopt her, apparently as she had talked with my husband

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Speaker 2: and he told her it would be a good idea

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Speaker 2: to ask me. I told her to let me think

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Speaker 2: about it. When I asked my husband why he thought

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Speaker 2: adoption was a good idea. He said it would make

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Speaker 2: her feel like family and prove her from feeling different

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Speaker 2: from our kids when the baby comes.

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Speaker 1: Real quick PowerPoint power point. I'm gonna need a PowerPoint

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Speaker 1: twelve year old.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to give me good reasons why I

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Speaker 2: should adopt you.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna need a pros and cons list, and I

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Speaker 1: need you to think about the cons here.

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Speaker 2: What can you do for me? Sharks, I'm here today

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Speaker 2: to ask you to adopt me. Gotta do a shark pitch.

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Speaker 2: I told him the kid's not even here yet, so

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Speaker 2: if that's the case, then let her therapist talk to

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Speaker 2: her about it. First. He asked why I didn't want

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Speaker 2: to adopt her. I told him that we aren't on

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Speaker 2: that level yet. She doesn't call me mom and has

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Speaker 2: never really treated me like a real mom, more like

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Speaker 2: a bonus adult when she needs one. And I said

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Speaker 2: that's fine, But if I adopt her, that means I'm

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Speaker 2: her mom, and if she doesn't see me as mom,

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Speaker 2: then why would I adopt her? I told her I

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Speaker 2: wouldn't adopt her right now, and she was sad and

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Speaker 2: started crying. It feels like she wants like this is

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Speaker 2: kind of the way that she's transitioning into seeing you

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Speaker 2: as mom.

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Speaker 1: Yes, legally on paper.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, you're not my mom and it's legal.

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Speaker 1: Oh but what if the school calls, They're gonna call

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Speaker 1: for my mom. And if it's not on paper, she

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Speaker 2: You can't come. You just can't come. It's the rules.

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Speaker 2: I see it to be real.

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Speaker 1: I've met twelve year old girls. Sometimes they can be evil.

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Speaker 2: Do you think that she's got another plot going on?

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Speaker 1: I don't know why, but that is in the back

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Speaker 1: of my head. In that could be, you know, from

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Speaker 1: twelve year old Riley getting rejected by the girls. That

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Speaker 1: would mean to me, Yeah, that could also be in

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Speaker 2: Maybe she just wants to be adopted and that's it,

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Speaker 2: no ulterior motives. I explain that she doesn't really see

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Speaker 2: me as mom and that if we got closer in

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Speaker 2: the future, I would consider it, But I think she

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Speaker 2: needs to understand what she's asking first. How long is

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Speaker 2: four years? So it's not like that long, but it

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Speaker 2: definitely would be, you know, fairly long for you know,

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Speaker 2: like those are pretty Yeah, it's a third the mental years.

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Speaker 1: Yea.

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Speaker 2: She told her grandmother on her mom's side, and they

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Speaker 2: said it was disrespectful of my husband to even suggest it. Well,

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Speaker 2: his family thinks I should just do it to make

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Speaker 2: the girl feel part of the family. I do think

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Speaker 2: it's weird that the dad brought it up to his

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Speaker 2: like it could have been, Hey, how do you feel

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Speaker 2: then if OPI was like, yeah, she if she's down,

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Speaker 1: Yes. This feels like a little game of chest somehow.

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Speaker 2: So he's trying to trap It feels like he's got

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Speaker 2: The main reason I won't adopt her is because I

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Speaker 2: not because she wants me to be her mom. Also,

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Speaker 2: she has other mother figures. Her grandmother and aunt have

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Speaker 2: I never said adopt was off the table. It just

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Speaker 2: Let me explain what I mean when I say she

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Speaker 2: doesn't treat me like a mom. If she was old

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Speaker 2: and nothing's wrong with that. Since I'm not her.

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Speaker 1: Mom, I see what you're saying.

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Speaker 2: But I know if I had my own daughter, that's

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Speaker 2: a mother daughter experience. I want so for things you

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Speaker 2: nothing's wrong with that. But if she was my daughter,

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Speaker 2: I would expect her to go to me. Do I

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Speaker 2: see her as my daughter? Kinda? I do, but I

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Speaker 2: also see her as a stepdaughter. I know some people

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Speaker 2: think feeling left out is a reason to get adopted,

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Speaker 2: but in my opinion, it's not. For example, last year,

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Speaker 2: that wouldn't have fixed the issue at all. It would

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Speaker 1: Hot take real quick. Yes, and now we're just giving

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Speaker 1: our best advice. We haven't been through any of this before,

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Speaker 1: so if you have, leave your comments down below. If

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Speaker 2: It feels like, oh, he wasn't trying to, you know,

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Speaker 2: bad relationship, no, But now it feels like the dad

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and right for the throat he's going rather than hey,

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Speaker 1: let's have a picnic, a family picnic. Let's I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I feel like he could he could work on the

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Speaker 1: See before the adoption, I'm stepdad, dude. We're playing Katan.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, do work every night.

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Speaker 1: Every night, we'ren Peyton, noil's getting some tea time going.

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Speaker 1: We're doing it all.

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Speaker 2: So if she feels like she doesn't belong, I'd rather

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Speaker 2: figure out why she feels that way rather than adopt

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Speaker 2: her and have her still feel that way about her

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Speaker 2: calling me mom. I assume if I adopt her she

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Speaker 2: But if she didn't, it would be okay. And I

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Speaker 2: didn't tell her I wouldn't adopt her. I said, nought

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Speaker 2: right now and maybe later when she's like fifteen to

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Speaker 2: planned to do family therapy sessions again and she's in

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Speaker 2: therapy and there are some comments there's a couple. Do

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Speaker 1: Again, haven't been through this before. I would try and

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think they should have talked about it before

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Speaker 2: hopes up about this adoption thing, and Hope about twelve, well,

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Speaker 2: it's like telling you know, it's like going to her

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Speaker 2: like the twelve year old and being like, we're going

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Speaker 2: to Disneyland before talking to Ope, and then Op's like, what,

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Speaker 2: we don't have the money for that, And then OP

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Speaker 1: That happened to a cousin of mine.

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Speaker 1: They went too universal though. Oh that's something because Disneyland

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Speaker 2: It's super expensive. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Common On says

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Speaker 2: And since OP can't control what her husband does or

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Speaker 2: looks like Ope did a lot of assuming without actually

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Speaker 2: This fear would be amplified by the new baby on

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Speaker 2: how did the discussion between the husband and stepdaughter come about.

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Speaker 2: between OPI and her husband. Yeah, well, yeah, it does

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Speaker 2: it feels like I would agree with that common op

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Speaker 2: maybe she wanted to do all that and this was

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Speaker 1: OPI, maybe you needed to initiate some of that stuff.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, as eight year old, Well you couldn't initiate like

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Speaker 2: calling me mom, but ooh there are yeah, other things.

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Speaker 1: The thing she was saying, like if she went wedding

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Speaker 1: like me to go with you? Yeah? Hey you want

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Speaker 1: to go get some I don't know, fun coffee thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think there is. I don't think that you're

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Speaker 2: wrong about wanting to make sure that she knows what

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Speaker 2: adopting her would mean. But I do think that the

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Speaker 2: kind of relationship building falls a lot on you to

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Speaker 2: kind of push forward.

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Speaker 1: I now, because you're you're the adult. Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: Comment two says, I think she's asking because she doesn't

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Speaker 2: standing in your family is an incredibly valid reason. She's twelve.

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Speaker 2: She looks up to you think very carefully about what happens.

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Speaker 1: I had to hide my wheelchair from my stepsister.

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Speaker 1: I seventeen female have misaligned hips, causing significant pain when

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Speaker 1: We are here to give our best advice. We haven't

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Speaker 1: been through all these experiences, so if you have, please

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Speaker 2: That's absolutely crazy. No, you can't have my wheelchair. I

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Speaker 1: Also your Facebook post away from finding another wheelchair, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But it has a pillow.

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Speaker 1: I don't have any malice towards my step sailings. But

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Speaker 1: I've been stuck in my father's house during lockdown four.

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Speaker 1: I've only met them a handful of times. The issue

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Speaker 2: What's a colonial tour?

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Speaker 1: Hot? Take could see Abe Lincoln, George Washington. People make

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, they've got like one of those milk the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that.

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Speaker 2: What a butter churner? Yeah, I love butter.

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Speaker 1: Good. Mine's so dirty. What do that again? No, movement, it's.

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Speaker 2: A butter churner.

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Speaker 1: Move Uh, put your head out of the gutter.

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Speaker 2: So it was in the gutter.

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Speaker 2: Unbelievable, I know.

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Speaker 1: Agreed. I asked if she could get crutches from the

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Speaker 3: Just ask someone to carry you, OPI yeah, carry you,

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Speaker 2: See if anyone else you know has got crutches.

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Speaker 1: I could get a wheelchair today, posting on social media.

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Speaker 1: Yeah today today, she said, I could use the cane,

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Speaker 2: And also it's Op's birthday.

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Speaker 1: Let her have her old wheelchair for her birthday.

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Speaker 2: It's literally her birthday.

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Speaker 1: Get out of the keys of my car for my birthday.

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Speaker 1: Since I'm gonna go get Korean barbecue, I'm borrowing your car.

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Speaker 1: I need the keys of my car for our birthday.

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Speaker 2: Oh I'm borrowing. Can you just can you take a bike?

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Speaker 2: No k town? No, that would be crazy.

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Speaker 1: Ope, that's the same scenario. Yeah, I said, rescheduling was

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Speaker 1: She scoffed and said that would cost more than buying crutches.

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Speaker 2: Well, perfect, then you can buy the crutches.

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Speaker 1: I tried, explaining it would be cheaper than buying a

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Speaker 2: If you're at your dad's, then just don't give it

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Speaker 2: to her. What's she gonna do. She gotta steal a

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Speaker 1: Ope, you have the potential to do something really petty here.

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Speaker 1: What so petty?

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Speaker 2: What give them the wheelchair, sabotage the wheelchair, take out

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Speaker 1: I was saying, give them the wheelchair, put a lock

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Speaker 1: Feeling spiteful, I asked my friend if I could store

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Speaker 1: My plan was to play dump, saying I forgot it

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Speaker 2: All right, Yeah, that's what I was thinking. I was

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Speaker 1: Do you think it is?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Crutches?

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Speaker 1: Yep, well I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Thirty fifty bucks?

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Speaker 1: Okay, guess how much a wheelchair is?

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Speaker 2: A couple hundred probably like four.

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Speaker 1: Hundred okay, crutches right now? Twenty two dollars on Amazon,

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Speaker 1: or a cheap one on Amazon. One hundred twenty bucks.

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Speaker 2: For cheap wheelchair? Yeah, dang, well, Olpie's wheelchair. It's probably

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but you don't. It's an ACL dude.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fine, You're fine.

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Speaker 1: She can hop on one leg. Also, ACL, what's those

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Speaker 2: Yeah, get her one of those scooters. Those ones are

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Speaker 2: so much more cool. Lacel scooter Is that what acl scooter?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so funny. All the things that drive are

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Speaker 1: like twenty one hundred dollars day.

438
00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:30,240
Speaker 2: That's expensive. I honestly think that like insurance probably did

439
00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:32,880
Speaker 2: cover a little bit of the price of the crutches,

440
00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,320
Speaker 2: but she just didn't want to pay anything. She just

441
00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:36,240
Speaker 2: wants it free.

442
00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 1: It's called a knee scooter, by the way, for anyone

443
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,080
Speaker 1: that is looking this up, Okay, they're like one hundred

444
00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:44,200
Speaker 1: and fifty one hundred and twenty five one hundred bucks. Yeah,

445
00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:45,200
Speaker 1: one hundred bucks.

446
00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:48,160
Speaker 2: Okay, so get a knee scooter save twenty bucks.

447
00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:52,360
Speaker 1: Boom. When I tried screenshot some and send it to her,

448
00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:56,360
Speaker 1: she simply replied, we already have the wheelchair, so it's fine.

449
00:20:56,840 --> 00:20:59,199
Speaker 1: I feel like a knucklehead for hiding my chair, but

450
00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:01,440
Speaker 1: this will be the first time in years I'm actually

451
00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:04,480
Speaker 1: celebrating my birthday, and I don't want to spend it

452
00:21:04,560 --> 00:21:07,720
Speaker 1: in pain or resenting my stepsister for making me lose

453
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:11,360
Speaker 1: a lump sum of money I worked overtime for. Either way,

454
00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:14,800
Speaker 1: I'll be agitated because Mom won't listen to my suggestions

455
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,320
Speaker 1: or see things from my point of view. We haven't

456
00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 1: edit a few points to clarify. Yes, I'm turning eighteen

457
00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:24,600
Speaker 1: next week. After stepsister surgery, I pointed out both Amazon

458
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:28,920
Speaker 1: and CBS forty dollars crutches to mom before, but we

459
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:33,399
Speaker 1: already have your wheelchair. Answer. I ask why she's so

460
00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,320
Speaker 1: set on having my wheelchair this morning, and she replied

461
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:40,920
Speaker 1: that stepsister doesn't want crutches. She wants my wheelchair due

462
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:44,680
Speaker 1: to all the padding and extras I've added over the years.

463
00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:47,840
Speaker 2: Well, she can't have my wheelchair due to all the

464
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 2: padding and things. I added.

465
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,119
Speaker 1: I want to take your car because you spent so

466
00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,919
Speaker 1: much money on it and it goes really fast. This

467
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 1: Honda isn't fast.

468
00:21:58,119 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 2: It's not fast at all. It's Yeah, you're in a

469
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,080
Speaker 2: and you're like, well, I want the car that's all

470
00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 2: souped up.

471
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:05,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want my little Toyota. I was going

472
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:08,000
Speaker 1: back to the K Town thing. Yeah, exactly, Like they're

473
00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 1: both gonna get you there. Yeah, probably a little faster

474
00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 1: and more comfortable, But dude, it's an ACL.

475
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:16,440
Speaker 2: You're fine. You don't need it. I mean, like obviously

476
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:17,680
Speaker 2: ACL to be clear.

477
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:18,960
Speaker 1: To be clear, does hurt.

478
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:22,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, it does take a really long time to heal,

479
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 2: but op will never be able to walk in the

480
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 2: same way that you know, her stepsister probably will be

481
00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 2: in a like a year or a couple months.

482
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:33,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, that really got under my skin, and I haven't

483
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:36,440
Speaker 1: spoken to her since. I'm having a long sit down

484
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 1: with my dad when I get home mentally preparing for

485
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 1: the fallout.

486
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:43,840
Speaker 2: Also, if she needs you know, if the ACL surgery

487
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 2: you know, is so bad that she needs a wheelchair,

488
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,920
Speaker 2: then this is just a temporary fix anyway, because she's

489
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 2: only having it for the weekend. Is she gonna keep

490
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,679
Speaker 2: borrowing it from op and they're gonna like have joint

491
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:59,440
Speaker 2: custody of this wheelchair or are you gotta get another one? Later?

492
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 1: I was hoping that Opie could talk to the stepsister. Yeah, like, hey,

493
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,640
Speaker 1: I love it, girl, give this to you. I can't

494
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:09,200
Speaker 1: give it to you. I just want to give your

495
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 1: heads up before you get mad. But also I'm getting

496
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:15,359
Speaker 1: a hint that the stepsister would be brad about it,

497
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,399
Speaker 1: and you can't even make amends on that end.

498
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:21,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like they're probably just like their mom.

499
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 1: Oh boy, I think they're going to kick her to

500
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 1: the streets since she's eighteen with no will chair.

501
00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 2: I hope not. Well, no, they can't because Opie lives

502
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 2: with her dad right now or is staying with her dad.

503
00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:36,280
Speaker 2: So clearly like Opie would be fine even if they

504
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 2: didn't let her come over. Yeah, the mom's house.

505
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 1: Update, I'll be the first to them in that I'm

506
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 1: an idiot sandwich. After reading all the comments, I was

507
00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 1: going to speak to my dad about the whole situation,

508
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:52,680
Speaker 1: but being me, I simply said that stepsister was getting surgery,

509
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 1: so Mom wouldn't have time for me to hang with her.

510
00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 1: So I also ask if he'd be fine with me

511
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,800
Speaker 1: staying the weekend. And since I'd be gone all day

512
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 1: with friends and they were even talking about getting dinner afterwards,

513
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:09,639
Speaker 1: no use going to mom's which is three hours in

514
00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:11,240
Speaker 1: the opposite direction.

515
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:11,960
Speaker 2: Dang.

516
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 1: I had a ton of fun tearing the tour.

517
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:18,119
Speaker 3: Let's go, Yay, you got your tour and you had

518
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 3: your wheelchair sco queen.

519
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 1: It was really amazing. My friends kept rotating who would

520
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: push me, since people would have moved me forward for

521
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 1: the best few to anyone apprehensive about doing activities with

522
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:35,439
Speaker 1: a visible disability. Wheelchair cane guide dog et cetera. I

523
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:38,959
Speaker 1: couldn't express how fun it was. During the tour and

524
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,439
Speaker 1: at the restaurant, I used to have the mentality that

525
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,199
Speaker 1: I was always in people's way and was used to

526
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 1: getting stared at with my cane, But having friends show

527
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 1: up with a small cape for the back and other

528
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:55,800
Speaker 1: trinkets really gave me confidence. And if I ran into anything,

529
00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 1: I could blame it on the person driving.

530
00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 2: Ah, that's sweet. You have friends who like actually recognize

531
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,359
Speaker 2: that you have a disability rather than your mom and

532
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 2: like are supportive of you.

533
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:11,720
Speaker 1: One time I had a friend I would go and

534
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 1: play basketball at different places around the county and my

535
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 1: friend's dad was in a wheelchair. Kyle Justice's dad n

536
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 1: he would always been in a wheelchair. One time he

537
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: was like in front of a door, it's kind of

538
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 1: like hanging out, and this one person like opened it

539
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 1: and hit him and he's like, no, I can't walk anymore.

540
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 1: And they were like, I'm so sorry. He's like, it's fine,

541
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:37,400
Speaker 1: already couldn't walk. I also will never ever ever use

542
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 1: a handicap stall again because one time I did when

543
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,160
Speaker 1: I was in like seventh grade, Oh, like a stall,

544
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:43,919
Speaker 1: and then he came to use the bathroom and I

545
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 1: was in the handicaps Stoll was like, dang, I had

546
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 1: to like hear him move around to get in the

547
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 1: other stall, and I was like, dude, I could have

548
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 1: just easily went there, because you never.

549
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:57,400
Speaker 2: Think, yeah, oh they're just bigger. Yeah, you're like, oh.

550
00:25:56,680 --> 00:26:00,200
Speaker 1: Honestly, I never thought that people use handicap stalls because

551
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 1: they were handicapped. I just thought they were just bigger bathrooms. Yeah,

552
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,160
Speaker 1: And then that day I realized, oh, yeah.

553
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,680
Speaker 2: Well sometimes also in the women's in the women's bathroom,

554
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 2: it's because they have like the baby changing station.

555
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:15,680
Speaker 1: Got it. Well, I was neither they have the two change.

556
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 2: The baby or handicapped. You're a bad person.

557
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 1: I was. I felt horrible. Oh man, The idiot sandwich

558
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 1: part came when I was on my way home and

559
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,199
Speaker 1: I got a livid phone call from my dad. He

560
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 1: said that Mom had been trying to call me all day.

561
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 1: I'd blocked her number, and she claimed that both Mom

562
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: and stepdad were at the house asking for the wheelchair

563
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,720
Speaker 1: since I had promised to give it to them. When

564
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,760
Speaker 1: I clarified that Mom had said she wanted to use it,

565
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,199
Speaker 1: I told her about the trip, so I couldn't let

566
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 1: her borrow it. By the time I got home, Mom

567
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 1: and stepdad were already gone, and Dad was waiting on

568
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 1: the porch smoking a sick which meant he was very stressed.

569
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 1: My friend asked if I needed help getting my wheelchair

570
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,120
Speaker 1: into my car. I said, no, it's harder to yell

571
00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:05,440
Speaker 1: at a person in a wheelchair smart. He found it funny.

572
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 1: Dad didn't. Dad said he told Mom to buzz off.

573
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: She tried using the it's my kid logic, but it

574
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:16,359
Speaker 1: doesn't work since I was already four hours away. She

575
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,399
Speaker 1: then proceeded to throw a tantrum in her front yard,

576
00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 1: throwing herself on the floor and.

577
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 2: Crying, that's so embarrassing. I'm sorry. She threw herself on

578
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 2: the floor and started crying, that's so embarrassing.

579
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:34,879
Speaker 1: Let's think about the logic here. Mom is three hours

580
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 1: away from this house COVID time. Yeah, you know, gas

581
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: is pretty cheap. Things are pretty tough.

582
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,119
Speaker 2: She drove three hour, Well, it was three hours in

583
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:47,879
Speaker 2: the opposite direction of the tour. The tour so maybe

584
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 2: not necessarily an hour. Yeah, let's say like an hour

585
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 2: from wherever they were going. Hour and a half. She

586
00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:57,400
Speaker 2: drove an hour and a half to steal her daughter's

587
00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:00,640
Speaker 2: wheelchair and then threw a tantrum on the floor.

588
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 1: You could have spent twenty minutes driving somewhere if you

589
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 1: called around to pick up a wheelchair.

590
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 3: Also, just like gas prices, they were pretty good during

591
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:09,439
Speaker 3: that time.

592
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like I'm just thinking, you know how much

593
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 2: you spend on gas for like they back, Yeah, just

594
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:16,639
Speaker 2: bike some crutches.

595
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,480
Speaker 1: I bet you. They definitely stopped by the gas station

596
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 1: and got drinks and stuff. Yeah.

597
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:24,679
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, come on, you can spend thirty thirty dollars.

598
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,960
Speaker 1: Yeah they she's ohp sent her forty dollars crutches.

599
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can spend that.

600
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 1: It really doesn't surprise me. At this point, Stepdad just

601
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 1: gathered her up into the car and they left shortly after.

602
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 1: Quite the show, from what Dad said. Even some neighbors

603
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,520
Speaker 1: came out to see what the fuss was about. I've

604
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 1: heard anything from her since I got home, but I

605
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 1: did get a random, long paragraph text from what seemed

606
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: like the POV of a punted dog saying how could

607
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: you do this to me? And I thought we were family.

608
00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 1: Not sure if this was from my mom or stepsister.

609
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: Since I've blocked that number as will. I don't really care.

610
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: At this point. Dad is still agitated at me for

611
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 1: not telling the whole truth, but seeing as it's my

612
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,760
Speaker 1: birthday soon, I don't see him staying angry for long.

613
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, he can't stay mad at you. It's your birthday.

614
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't be mad at your disabled birthday girl.

615
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's probably what I can see based off of

616
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 2: this post. I feel like op is being like, but Dad,

617
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 2: I can't walk and it's my birthday, Well, you can't

618
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:28,840
Speaker 2: be mad at.

619
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 1: Me, and he throws are like a pekasig's yeah, and

620
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 1: he's like, all right, you're good, oh man. As for

621
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 1: going no contact with my mom, it's up in the air.

622
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: It's easier to say don't ever talk to her again,

623
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 1: especially when I see others with their moms. But I

624
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 1: guess it's time to see her for who she is

625
00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: rather than what I want her to be. It's nice

626
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:55,000
Speaker 1: to know others have strained relationships with their moms. Everyone

627
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: I know is pretty close with their parents, so I

628
00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 1: found myself trying very hard to have the same relationship.

629
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 1: I've since gone over the video in our ring doorbell

630
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 1: to see what had happened. Although you can't really see

631
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: what's happening. You can definitely hear mom screaming over anyone

632
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 1: who tries to tell her either to leave or calm down.

633
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 1: She always demanded to see me. That's when my dad

634
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 1: told her to buzz off, which set off the tantrum.

635
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: It would be funny if it was in a compilation

636
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:25,479
Speaker 1: somewhere on YouTube, but it's just sad at this point.

637
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 1: As for my dad being angry, he came in this

638
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: morning asking what we were doing for my birthday breakfast.

639
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 1: He's used to my mom being a little out there.

640
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 1: I've since shown him my post and he told me

641
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 1: about some old wounds I'd forgotten about. For example, my

642
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 1: mom had gone on a camping trip with her boyfriend

643
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 1: at the time during the week she was supposed to

644
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 1: have me fifty to fifty custody. She didn't call dad

645
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 1: until three days later, saying she wasn't getting a signal.

646
00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:55,719
Speaker 1: She still didn't come and get me until the next switch.

647
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 1: I really didn't want to go, but still her as

648
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 1: a kid waiting in the car for your other parent

649
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 1: just to not show. Dad dragged her back to court

650
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: to get primary custody. And if you know anything about

651
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 1: family court a father. Getting that is pretty hard. But

652
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: I hope you're rolling around having a great time. Yeah,

653
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 1: and more tours are coming your way.

654
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Speaker 2: willing to fight for you. Yeah, that's good. It seems

656
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Speaker 2: like you have one good parent.

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Speaker 1: And you have some cool friends.

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Speaker 2: My half brother's stepmother blame me for being a bad influence.

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Speaker 1: Be a better one than I.

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00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 2: Seventeen female, have a half brother, eight male. We share

666
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Speaker 2: a mom, but I have different dads. I don't see

667
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 2: him often since he primarily stays with his dad, who

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Speaker 2: I'll call Jeff. By the way, this comes from a

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Speaker 2: mother's secret lover. And if you want to submit your

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671
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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we haven't been through every

672
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 2: situation that we read about, but we try to give

673
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 2: the best advice we can. If you've been in these situations,

674
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 2: let us know what you would do, op says. Jeff

675
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 2: has been married to Amelia for a few years now.

676
00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 2: She has three kids prior to the relationship, and now

677
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 2: she and Jeff have had two more kids together. None

678
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 2: of their children are old enough to drive. Amelia doesn't

679
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,120
Speaker 2: like me because she sees me as an extension of

680
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 2: my mother. They had a falling out since my mom

681
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 2: dated Amelia's brother whoa way what wait sorry, Jeff married

682
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 2: Amelia yep, and then Opie's mom and Amelia were friends yep.

683
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 1: And then and then Opie's mom dated Amelia's brother.

684
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 2: Dang uh wow, who turned out to be harmful, and

685
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 2: Amelia called my mom a liar. I don't want to

686
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 2: force a relationship with her, so I just leave it alone.

687
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 2: I rarely see my brother outside of birthdays, and I

688
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,719
Speaker 2: have no relationship with his step slash half siblings. I

689
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 2: live very close to my brother's school, and while I

690
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 2: generally don't like kids or being around them, I've agreed

691
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 2: to pick him up from school a handful of times

692
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 2: when Amelia couldn't. Jeff's hours don't allow him to do so,

693
00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 2: and she's a stay at home This all happened this

694
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 2: past May. I'm fairly alternative dyed hair and multiple facial piercings,

695
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 2: and I'm used to getting odd looks or questions from children,

696
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 2: but I never had to get out of the car

697
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 2: to pick my brother up, so this was never an issue.

698
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 2: My brother was sick and needed to be taken home early,

699
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 2: so Jeff called and asked me to pick him up.

700
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 2: I wasn't busy, so I agreed. This was the first

701
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 2: time I needed to actually enter the building, but I

702
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 2: was on the approved pickup list, so I didn't have

703
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 2: any issues. I went inside, got to the nurse, got

704
00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 2: my brother, and dropped him off back home with no

705
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 2: problems until Amelia called me the next day. What did

706
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 2: she do wrong here, oh, Amelia. I was unaware she

707
00:33:57,240 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 2: even had my number, so I declined her call first.

708
00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 2: When I finally answered, she began to scream at me

709
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 2: for getting her in trouble with the school. Huh, what

710
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 2: what's the issue here? I asked what she meant as again,

711
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:14,320
Speaker 2: I had no problems picking him up, and she started

712
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:18,759
Speaker 2: to berate me for scaring my brother's classmates. Apparently, one

713
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:20,839
Speaker 2: of the other children in the nurse's office had been

714
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:23,320
Speaker 2: scared of me, as well as a few kids asking

715
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 2: questions when I walked past open classrooms. I don't have

716
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 2: any extreme body modifications, literally, just hair and piercings. But

717
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:33,400
Speaker 2: the boy from the nurse cried to his teacher saying,

718
00:34:33,440 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 2: class as my brother. That's ridiculous. That little boy needs

719
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 2: to get over it. Why is he crying about hair?

720
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 2: What the heck?

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think through this kid's mind. Because kids

722
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:51,960
Speaker 1: react all crazy, yeah and whatever. But I don't know, No,

723
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 1: the kid can react that way, but the adults. Yes,

724
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 1: but the adults are like, oh, yeah, that's just how

725
00:34:57,600 --> 00:34:58,399
Speaker 1: people are. Yeah.

726
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 2: Yeah. Then you go and have a conversation with the kid,

727
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 2: be like no, you know, like everyone looks different, and

728
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 2: you know, she's not scared, she's really nice. She's just

729
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:11,560
Speaker 2: picking up her brother. You explain things to them. That's why.

730
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:14,880
Speaker 2: Like let's say a person doesn't have i don't know,

731
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 2: an arm, they're missing an arm, and a kid goes

732
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 2: like what does that man have an arm? And starts crying.

733
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 2: You'd be like, no, no, people have different, you know, bodies,

734
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 2: and we explain this politely.

735
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Speaker 1: The memes with kids looking at people that are like disabled,

736
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:34,600
Speaker 1: and like, what's that? Why is your arm all messed

737
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:36,800
Speaker 1: up like that? Why do you have a robot hand?

738
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 1: What do you do with that? Are you a robot?

739
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 2: Kids don't know what they're talking about, that's what you

740
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:42,839
Speaker 2: explain to them.

741
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and they're they're eight, they're eight.

742
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 2: The teacher then notified Amelia and requested I no longer

743
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:51,840
Speaker 2: do pickups. I don't even think this is legal. Maybe

744
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 2: not the right word, but I mean I should be

745
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 2: able to make a complaint about her requesting this since

746
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:59,440
Speaker 2: it was based on physical appearance. I caused no disruption

747
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 2: and the only people I even saw were the secretary,

748
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 2: front desk admin, the nurse, and the kids in the

749
00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:08,840
Speaker 2: nurse's office. Either way, Amelia told the teacher that was

750
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:10,759
Speaker 2: not an option, but she would tell me to take

751
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 2: out my piercings next time I was at the school.

752
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:16,239
Speaker 2: I feel like multiple empty holes in my face would

753
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 2: be scarier than piercings. But that's neither here nor there.

754
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm gonna need a picture of what you look

755
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 1: like now so I.

756
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 2: Can really I need to know if an eight year

757
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 2: old would be scared of you for real, or if

758
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:29,439
Speaker 2: that was just a sensitive eight year old.

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00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, is there, Like, I don't know a celebrity or

760
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 1: someone you could show us so we can kind of

761
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 1: get the vibe.

762
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, just tell us exactly what piercings you have. I

763
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 2: told Amelia I would not be taking out my piercings

764
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 2: every single time I picked them up, and that usually

765
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Speaker 2: I don't even go inside the building or see anyone

766
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:47,799
Speaker 2: for this to be a problem. I don't pick them

767
00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:50,480
Speaker 2: up often, but I have quite a few piercings. It

768
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 2: takes me around an hour, sometimes longer to take them

769
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 2: all out, clean them, and put them back in. Those

770
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 2: little balls are obnoxious to screw back in with long

771
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:01,359
Speaker 2: nails and shaky hands. While I wouldn't be cleaning them

772
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,399
Speaker 2: every time I picked them up, it is a long

773
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,799
Speaker 2: and tedious process that I don't like to do more

774
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,400
Speaker 2: than necessary. She told me it wasn't a big ask,

775
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 2: and while I agree it mostly isn't. I feel more

776
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 2: disrespected than anything, because I think that's a fairly unprofessional

777
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 2: way for the teacher to behave. Amelia told me the

778
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 2: teacher at every right to protect her students. How are

779
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 2: you protecting the students?

780
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:24,360
Speaker 1: Everyone closed your eyes, She's back.

781
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 2: That's absolutely ridiculous. What exactly are you protecting your students from.

782
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:30,720
Speaker 1: Literally, it's the easiest thing you can do to protect

783
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: the students from this. Oh everyone, watch out. There's there's

784
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 1: someone has a tattoo. Close your eyes, hurry, yeah, go ahead.

785
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 1: Oh no, this person doesn't have a leg. Guys, close

786
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:42,400
Speaker 1: your eyes, your eyes, it's a robot leg.

787
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 2: And that either way, I shouldn't be punishing her because

788
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 2: she wasn't the one asking. I was even more offended

789
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 2: by this because I'm not a threat or danger. I

790
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:53,760
Speaker 2: literally am just alternative. I realized I didn't mention this before,

791
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 2: but my outfit was also entirely appropriate. It was plain

792
00:37:57,280 --> 00:38:01,479
Speaker 2: black sweatpants and a teenage mutant ninja turtlesh Amelia said

793
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,600
Speaker 2: this was the reason she didn't allow me to be

794
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:06,520
Speaker 2: around her kids. I've never asked to be around them

795
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 2: since I don't like kids, I said, if she is

796
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 2: an issue with me, she can lose my number and

797
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 2: find someone else to pick my brother up. When she can't.

798
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 2: She continued to scream at me and tell me I

799
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 2: was just like my mom, which was when I finally

800
00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 2: hung up and blocked her. When you're trying to get

801
00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 2: someone to do something for you. It's not helpful to

802
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:24,359
Speaker 2: scream at.

803
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 1: Them unless you don't want them to.

804
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 2: Do it yet, unless you don't want them to do that.

805
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 1: Thing, which I'm getting that vibe.

806
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:32,799
Speaker 2: I've seen my brother maybe twice since then, since I

807
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 2: primarily communicate with him through Jeff. We play roadblocks together,

808
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 2: but he doesn't have a phone or social media. Jeff

809
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 2: told me he was disappointed, and I told him he

810
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 2: has no authority over me, so I don't really care

811
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:44,399
Speaker 2: what he had to say.

812
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: I told Jeff he's eight.

813
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, no, Jeff's not eight. Jeff's her dad.

814
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 1: Oh, Jeff's Matt disappointed? Yeah, oh, I thought the eight

815
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 1: year old was disapt.

816
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 2: Everybody, I'm disappointing you. I don't care what you have

817
00:38:57,560 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 2: to say. You're eight. Let's play roadblocks.

818
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 1: Get on here.

819
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 2: The issue hasn't been discussed since then until today. My

820
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 2: brother starts school next week, and Jeff called me and

821
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,800
Speaker 2: told me Amilia requested I started picking up my brother

822
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 2: up again. I said no and reminded him of what

823
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,719
Speaker 2: happened last time. He began to get very aggressive, saying

824
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 2: that they weren't asking for much. I told him it

825
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 2: was no longer about the request, and it was how

826
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 2: his wife spoke to me. I said I wouldn't do

827
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 2: them any favors of any kind. He began to guilt

828
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 2: trip me and ask how my brother would feel knowing

829
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:32,280
Speaker 2: his sister can't stand to be around him, and threaten

830
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 2: to not let me come to my brother's birthday in

831
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 2: a few weeks. I told Jeff I don't care about

832
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 2: not attending my brother's birthday since I don't even like kids,

833
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:42,799
Speaker 2: and I would just see my brother. Another time, he

834
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 2: told me he wouldn't let me be around my brother

835
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 2: until I apologized to his wife and agreed to pick

836
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:50,440
Speaker 2: my brother up from school. Again, I told him I

837
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,200
Speaker 2: would only agree to pick my brother up with an

838
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 2: apology from Amelia and hung up. This puts me in

839
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:58,359
Speaker 2: a kind of difficult position because I could just see

840
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:00,799
Speaker 2: my brother when he has visitation with her, but we

841
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 2: aren't on speaking terms right now. I would have to

842
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 2: break our temporary no contact in order to do this.

843
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 2: I live with my dad and his mother and see

844
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 2: my mom one to two times a month max. My

845
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,480
Speaker 2: dad and grandma say I should just suck it up

846
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:16,360
Speaker 2: and apologize to Amelia. They don't have a good relationship

847
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,720
Speaker 2: with my mom and she hasn't been allowed to step

848
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 2: foot in the house since I was twelve. But I

849
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 2: really don't want to do this. Me and my brother

850
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 2: aren't particularly close, but we have a good relationship and

851
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 2: I don't want to jeopardize it because of an issue

852
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 2: I have with his stepmom. I know he enjoys spending

853
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 2: time with me because I'm his only sister. All of

854
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 2: Amelia and Jeff's kids are boys, so I don't want

855
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:38,879
Speaker 2: to hurt him over this. Am I the a hole

856
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 2: for refusing to pick my brother up from his school

857
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:45,400
Speaker 2: until his stepmom apologizes? And there is an edit? But uh,

858
00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:47,319
Speaker 2: what do you think Gopie should do?

859
00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 1: Just not pick up the brother? I don't know, rite

860
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,880
Speaker 1: the brother, get the brother like a little gift, yo. Man.

861
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 2: The thing is, they need you more than you.

862
00:40:56,280 --> 00:41:00,839
Speaker 1: Need them exactly. All I see is you help and

863
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:04,880
Speaker 1: them being I don't know, I guess like angry that

864
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 1: you helped or helped in your own way and not

865
00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:10,759
Speaker 1: by their ways, and then now is demanding you to

866
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 1: help more. Yeah, how does that make any sense? You

867
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 1: just don't help anymore? Yeah?

868
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:16,960
Speaker 2: I think if you could like figure out a day

869
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:18,799
Speaker 2: where you could go talk to your brother and say like, hey,

870
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 2: still love hanging out with you. If they say that,

871
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 2: I don't, that's not true.

872
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: There's some big adult problems. You don't even want to know,

873
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 1: big adult stuff. Oh what's that? So you know how

874
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:32,839
Speaker 1: God Silla and King Kong like had that movie where

875
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 1: they were finding each other and then you just explain

876
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:35,399
Speaker 1: that way.

877
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 2: But eight year olds are pretty smart. I feel like

878
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 2: when you're you know, when you're eight, you yeah, you

879
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:40,920
Speaker 2: kind of figure out what's going on.

880
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 1: Dude. My brothers when they were eight were very too sharp.

881
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 2: No, I've maybe said a lot of it.

882
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 1: You're I feel like, very witty people people.

883
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 2: I think people kind of mis understand. Not probably not parents,

884
00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:58,280
Speaker 2: but people don't have kids and misunderstand. Like when kids

885
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:01,799
Speaker 2: starts to be able to, you know, understand things, and

886
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 2: I feel like, you know, around like five, they're they're

887
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 2: talking in full set. They get things, they understand what's

888
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 2: going on.

889
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:13,600
Speaker 1: Especially the youngest brother out of four, like Rider was

890
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 1: walking like yeah, I think like fourteen months in mm hmm, yeah,

891
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 1: he's actly.

892
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:22,239
Speaker 2: Two year olds running. They're running around two Roalds are crazy.

893
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 2: Two year olds have so much.

894
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 1: Energy, especially if they were born during the VID years. Yeah,

895
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,239
Speaker 1: have you ever seen a COVID baby? I have, They're

896
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:31,359
Speaker 1: somehow have superpowers. Dude.

897
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 2: I had to babysit a COVID a two year old

898
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:36,959
Speaker 2: who this was in twenty twenty three.

899
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:37,480
Speaker 1: Yeah.

900
00:42:37,680 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 2: Uh and oh my goodness. She was so cute, but

901
00:42:39,960 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 2: she had so much entergy. We would I would babysit

902
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 2: her for five hours at a time, like every time

903
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:47,359
Speaker 2: I would go, and literally would not stop running in

904
00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 2: those five hours. Like we would do laps around the

905
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:52,880
Speaker 2: house because I don't know, we all our games were

906
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 2: always some sort of TAG related Yeah yeah, or I

907
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:59,240
Speaker 2: don't know, with toys, but it was literally like constant running.

908
00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:00,760
Speaker 2: I got such work out.

909
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 1: It's crazy. I would love the finish walk.

910
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:05,319
Speaker 2: Can they just go?

911
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:07,360
Speaker 1: If I was a babysitter and your kid has a

912
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 1: bunch of energy, I would love to come with the

913
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 1: clipboard and just have a list of activities and see

914
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:15,439
Speaker 1: how many reps I can do with this kid before

915
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 1: they get tired. Tag. They seem to like this tag thing,

916
00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 1: all right, go go go.

917
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 2: You just tire them out at times. Later you need

918
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:30,400
Speaker 2: to tell your eight year old brother that.

919
00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: You love them.

920
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 2: You love them? Yeah, edit A few of the reply

921
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 2: seemed kind of confused since the post is long. To clarify,

922
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 2: I'm a girl and I have zero relation to Jeff

923
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 2: or Amelia. Me and my brother share a mother and

924
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 2: stay with our respective fathers. His being Jeff. Amelia is

925
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 2: Jeff's wife, my brother's stepmom. I do not live with

926
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 2: Amelia and Jeff. It's crazy that, Like I think I

927
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 2: understood that, but just having that laid out clearly, it's

928
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:58,920
Speaker 2: pretty insane that they're expecting so much of OPI, but

929
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:01,360
Speaker 2: also being rude when they're asking for this favor.

930
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:02,320
Speaker 1: Crazy.

931
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:04,880
Speaker 2: I've decided to take advice from a few comments and

932
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,840
Speaker 2: call the school and ask if there's a policy stating

933
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 2: I cannot pick my brother up with facial piercings. That's

934
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:14,080
Speaker 2: also a probably better idea, because that way you can

935
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 2: just go back to picking them up and don't have

936
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 2: to take your piercings out.

937
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:19,040
Speaker 1: Straight to the source, I will.

938
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 2: Likely either agree to disagree with Amelia, depending on how

939
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 2: the call with the school goes and her reaction, or

940
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 2: resume contact with my mom to see my brother during visitation.

941
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:30,240
Speaker 2: Thanks for the advice, and there is an update.

942
00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into it.

943
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 2: I did what many of you said and emailed the

944
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 2: school to ask if there wasn't any policy stating I

945
00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 2: couldn't do pickups or drop offs or be on campus

946
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:43,640
Speaker 2: due to piercings. Like most of you said, they said, no, Oh,

947
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 2: do you think that the Amelia lied about it just

948
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:50,160
Speaker 2: because she didn't want ope towaar piercings?

949
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:54,000
Speaker 1: Probably? I would also ask that, yeah, hey, I was

950
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:56,320
Speaker 1: in here a few weeks ago. I upset a kid?

951
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 1: Are they okay? Is anything okay?

952
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:00,400
Speaker 2: They're like, what kid, what are you talking about? I

953
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:02,359
Speaker 2: explained why I was asking, and they said they would

954
00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 2: ask the teacher about the incident, but told me there

955
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:06,399
Speaker 2: was nothing they could do if Amelia took me off

956
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 2: the pickup list. I thanked them and gave them my number,

957
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 2: requesting they call me once they were done investigating the

958
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,720
Speaker 2: incident with the teacher. The next day at the school

959
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 2: called me to let me know the teacher confirmed there

960
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 2: was a staring issue, and a few questions from my

961
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 2: brother's classmates. I had stood in the doorway and waited

962
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:24,399
Speaker 2: for him to collect his things after checking him out

963
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 2: of the nurse's office, but that was all and she

964
00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:32,880
Speaker 2: did not say anything of the sort to Amelia. Oh well, well, well,

965
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,760
Speaker 2: I decided to call Jeff and let him know about

966
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 2: my conversation with the school and reiterated I would only

967
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 2: continue to pick my brother up with an apology from

968
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 2: his wife or at least some kind of acknowledgment that

969
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:46,080
Speaker 2: she lied to me. He told me he would have

970
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 2: Amelia call me, so I unblocked her and waited.

971
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:51,359
Speaker 1: Dang, it looks like, Dann, you have all the cards

972
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 1: in your hand over Yeah, and they have none of that.

973
00:45:54,760 --> 00:45:57,480
Speaker 1: Oh wait, they do have one, the blame card, and

974
00:45:57,520 --> 00:45:59,120
Speaker 1: it's not working. I'm working.

975
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:02,480
Speaker 2: She did all to apologize, but it was very reluctant,

976
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:05,520
Speaker 2: and she dropped the bombshell but she's pregnant again and

977
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 2: used that as an excuse.

978
00:46:07,360 --> 00:46:09,920
Speaker 1: Come on, she had the pregnant cards, like.

979
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:13,279
Speaker 2: Oh, it's I just reacted so badly because I'm I'm

980
00:46:13,320 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 2: hormonal hormones.

981
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:15,799
Speaker 1: Dang it, that's it.

982
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 2: We shouldn't you know?

983
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 1: It would be funny as if we had cards, Like

984
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:21,879
Speaker 1: there's like a u O game where like you can

985
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 1: put a card down and it has different effects. I

986
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:24,800
Speaker 1: guess like Pokemon.

987
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 2: Two, I play hormonal.

988
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 1: I played pregnant card. I affects hormones and cons like

989
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 1: I don't know causes. Yeah, hey it's sam og host.

990
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 2: We get it back to these delectable stories. But here's

991
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:39,720
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992
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 2: the show. I decided to just let it go because

993
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:44,760
Speaker 2: I don't want to damage my relationship with my brother,

994
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 2: and it just wasn't worth it until today, when I

995
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 2: picked my brother up, he asked why I have so

996
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 2: much metal in my face. He's never said anything before

997
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 2: about the piercings unless I've gotten a new one, so

998
00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:57,840
Speaker 2: we asked what caused him to bring it up again.

999
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 2: A lot of you were correct. One of Amelia's older

1000
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,680
Speaker 2: sons had asked to get his ears pierced, and she

1001
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:06,440
Speaker 2: attributed it to me. Even though I never see my

1002
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 2: brother's step or half brothers. She's been complaining about it

1003
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 2: often around my brother, I guess, trying to bait him

1004
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:15,839
Speaker 2: into saying my piercings bothered or scared him too. I

1005
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:18,399
Speaker 2: asked him if they did scare him, and he said no,

1006
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:21,480
Speaker 2: and he doesn't really think about them. But Amelia constantly

1007
00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:23,799
Speaker 2: said things like I just don't understand why she does

1008
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 2: that to herself. She's so pretty without the metal crowding

1009
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 2: her face. I'm not sure how relevant this is, but

1010
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 2: her and my mom were close friends before they're falling out.

1011
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 2: Amelia has a son about a year and a half

1012
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:36,799
Speaker 2: younger than me, not the one asking to get his

1013
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:39,439
Speaker 2: ears pierced, and she often joked about setting us up

1014
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 2: before I started leaning more alternative. That's weird, Like, I

1015
00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:45,839
Speaker 2: know that you guys aren't related at all, but it

1016
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:48,600
Speaker 2: is just it just feels weird to want to set

1017
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:53,040
Speaker 2: up your son with your steps soun's step son's half sister.

1018
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 2: That's weird. I think that's where the she's so pretty

1019
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: comments come from. I was frustrated, but didn't want to

1020
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:03,320
Speaker 2: upset my brother, so I just decided to change the subject.

1021
00:48:03,480 --> 00:48:06,239
Speaker 2: Instead of dropping my brother off and immediately leaving, I

1022
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 2: told Amelia I wanted to come inside and speak to her.

1023
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:10,440
Speaker 1: Uh oh.

1024
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:12,359
Speaker 2: She told me it wasn't a good time, and I

1025
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:15,400
Speaker 2: insisted it was, so she came outside and we talked

1026
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:17,960
Speaker 2: on the porch. I told her again that if my

1027
00:48:18,040 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 2: piercings were an issue, she could find someone else to

1028
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:22,920
Speaker 2: pick my brother up, but I would appreciate it if

1029
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:25,960
Speaker 2: she stopped complaining about them. To the rest of the family.

1030
00:48:26,280 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 2: She told me it was none of my concern what

1031
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:30,359
Speaker 2: she said in the privacy of her own home, and

1032
00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 2: I said, it was my concern when she was actively

1033
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 2: trying to bait my half brother into speaking negatively about me.

1034
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 2: Do you have any final thoughts?

1035
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 1: She played the hormone card, she tried to and you

1036
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:41,080
Speaker 1: called her bluff. Yeah.

1037
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 2: I also liked that. She was like, oh, it's not

1038
00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 2: a good time, and Ope was like, yeah, it is

1039
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:45,399
Speaker 2: is right now.

1040
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 1: I love the tenacity the other right word. I love

1041
00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 1: the tenacity you have Europi and I wish more people

1042
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:54,040
Speaker 1: shared this when calling others BS out.

1043
00:48:54,160 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 2: Mm HMMU.

1044
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 1: I'm going through a situation right now where I need

1045
00:48:56,920 --> 00:48:59,920
Speaker 1: to call some BS out. I don't have the tenacity

1046
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 1: to do it.

1047
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:03,840
Speaker 2: M you gotta keep pushing, Can you lend me some yeah,

1048
00:49:04,080 --> 00:49:06,879
Speaker 2: handsome over. Ope. She again told me she could say

1049
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:08,799
Speaker 2: whatever she wanted in her own house, and I was

1050
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:10,080
Speaker 2: just too tired to argue.

1051
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 1: Dude, Okay, real quick on that comment. Yeah, yeah, you

1052
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 1: can say whatever you want your own house. But somehow

1053
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:17,400
Speaker 1: it got out of the house. It came into my ears.

1054
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:20,720
Speaker 2: Oh that's so funny, because you're what you're saying inside

1055
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 2: your house, I'm hearing about So how how is that private?

1056
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:27,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it is my concern because it's somehow leaving

1057
00:49:27,680 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 1: your house and traveling all the way to my ears.

1058
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:31,959
Speaker 2: That would be like saying, oh, like if a parent

1059
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 2: was teaching their kid, no, it was saying bad words

1060
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:37,839
Speaker 2: or something in their own house, and then teacher says like, hey,

1061
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:40,280
Speaker 2: your kid's been like using a lot of swear words,

1062
00:49:40,280 --> 00:49:42,279
Speaker 2: and they're like, well, I can say whatever I wanted

1063
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,320
Speaker 2: the privacy of my own home. It's like, well, yeah,

1064
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:47,240
Speaker 2: but it's gonna get out when you have kids, their little.

1065
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:50,439
Speaker 1: Parents, they are Oh my gosh, they are.

1066
00:49:51,040 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 2: She again told me she could say whatever she wanted

1067
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 2: in her own house, and I was just too tired

1068
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 2: to argue. I told her if my brother came to

1069
00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 2: me again to tell me she'd been complaining about me,

1070
00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 2: I would stop picking him up and just see him

1071
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:05,320
Speaker 2: during my mom's visitations with him. She was very happy,

1072
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 2: but agreed and went back inside, slamming the door in

1073
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:10,920
Speaker 2: my face. This should be the last update. I'm just

1074
00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 2: going to tolerate Amelia in order to maintain contact with

1075
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:16,520
Speaker 2: my brother because I don't care about her antics. And

1076
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:19,439
Speaker 2: I have enough other things going on. I'll continue only

1077
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:23,399
Speaker 2: communicating with Amelia and Jeff when necessary, and hopefully nothing

1078
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 2: else will come out of this. Thanks for the support, y'all.

1079
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story, folks.

1080
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:29,359
Speaker 1: Well or move.

1081
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're doing great, Op, You're doing great.

1082
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: This I think that was kind of like the best

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Speaker 2: thing that you could have done.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, good, step by step, Check them with the school,

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Speaker 1: check them with the teacher. Yeah, confronting the mom. Is

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Speaker 1: there a way for you to step back from See

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Speaker 1: The thing though, is if you step back and don't

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Speaker 1: help as much, it's gonna directly affect the brother.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you get less contact with the brother. So I

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Speaker 2: think Op's strategy here of just being like, if you

1092
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Speaker 2: don't respect me, I'm not gonna drive, yeah, you know,

1093
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Speaker 2: and you need me to drive, because if they didn't

1094
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Speaker 2: need her, then they'd do it her, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, they'd say you can't ever pick them up again.

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Speaker 2: By exactly, but they need her to pick them up.

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Speaker 1: Such a silly way of trying to get an apology

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Speaker 1: out of Ope. Yeah, and then it just blows up

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Speaker 1: in your face yep and doesn't work.

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Speaker 2: Silly, silly, But that's the end of that story and

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Speaker 2: the end of this episode. So if you love us,

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