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Speaker 1: to listen in Callista call Us and she said this, So,

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Speaker 1: I'm just having like relationship issues and I keep going

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Speaker 1: We didn't have time to help her in the segment,

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Speaker 1: but now we have time to give her some advice.

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Speaker 1: So Callista tell us again, what's going on. I've just

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Speaker 1: been in a relationship with this person off and on

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Speaker 1: for the past I say four years. We did long

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Speaker 1: distance for like a little bit, and we ended up

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Speaker 1: like rekindling, and it's just been back in forth and

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Speaker 1: we broke up in June, and you know, he I

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Speaker 1: started dating and he didn't like that. So it's back

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Speaker 1: in forth and I don't know how to move on,

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Speaker 1: or if I even want to move on. I think

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Speaker 1: I just need like solid advice for what to do. Okay, well, hey,

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Speaker 1: it's been it. It's interesting because, like I feel in

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Speaker 1: the same exact situation. So I've been married for five

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Speaker 1: years and it's been very on and off for five years,

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Speaker 1: and right now in one of those off periods, and

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Speaker 1: for so long. And I know you said, like you

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Speaker 1: I think right now it's really important for both me

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Speaker 1: and you to like focus on ourselves build ourselves up

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Speaker 1: really want, you know. And as far as your ex boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: Same with me, it's off. So right now, it's just

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Speaker 1: time for us to make decisions for ourselves to become

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Speaker 1: our better selves. You know what I'm saying, girl, Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 1: So you guys are broken up right now? Yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: but still talking, still talking, and then he has a

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Speaker 1: problem if you're dating other people or with you dating

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Speaker 1: other people. Okay, So he doesn't like it, he does

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Speaker 1: he try to tell you what to do? Does he

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Speaker 1: try to tell you not to? No, he doesn't tell

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Speaker 1: me not to, but he definitely expressed us his jealousy. Okay.

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Speaker 1: And so you know it's an uncomfortable position to put

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to move on, right, And then now you're

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Speaker 1: showing me all of this affection again. Okay. And so oh,

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Speaker 1: and he's showing you affection, the affection that he didn't

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Speaker 1: show when you guys were together. No, it is when

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Speaker 1: we were together. But I think like at first, when

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Speaker 1: and you're ding like his thoughts on how you're moving forward,

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Speaker 1: it's not really gonna work. That's what I was just

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Speaker 1: he's sharing with you that he's upset because you're seeing

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Speaker 1: don't owe him anything too. You're not responsible for his emotions, right,

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Speaker 1: It's not your fault that he feels that way. He

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Speaker 1: Don't put that pressure on yourself, basically is what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: broken up with, you can't have his cake any Yeah,

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Speaker 1: absolutely not. And like I've been the same exact situation,

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Speaker 1: like bump that time to move forward and like move

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Speaker 1: where you should put your energy. Yeah, and keep your

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Speaker 1: you're gonna learn a lesson about sticking around and toughing

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Speaker 1: So you're learning something right now that is going to

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Speaker 1: be valuable for you as you move on with the

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Speaker 1: then use it in the future. All right, yes, you do,

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Speaker 1: all right, So let us know how it goes though.

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Speaker 1: Let us know if any of this advice helped. When

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Speaker 1: let us know how it worked out. Okay, all right,

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