WEBVTT - Posting Your Credit Scores - Hell Yes or Hell Nah?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Honey Germy. My parents are Dominican. I was born

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<v Speaker 1>and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a body positive advocate.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Carolina Bermudez Sony Nikata wins it, but I was

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<v Speaker 2>born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,

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<v Speaker 2>and a worker bee.

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<v Speaker 3>This is life in spanglish.

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<v Speaker 1>Carolina, you try to tell me your credits for or

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<v Speaker 1>is that something that you keep super private?

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't know that this is a point of discussion.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I don't know it all? Will I will

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<v Speaker 2>be honest. Am I supposed to know what my credit

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<v Speaker 2>score is offhand? Because I swear to you I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Kirlina, I checked this like every three days. I guess

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just grateful to have good credit at this point

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<v Speaker 1>in my life because I've had bad times in my

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<v Speaker 1>early nineteen twenty twenty one, twenty two, I did a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of f shit, So I check it all the

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<v Speaker 1>time now. But there's this new story going around, right.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a TikToker and she put a video up and

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<v Speaker 1>she's talking about how she added her credit score to

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<v Speaker 1>her hinge profile and she don't care. She's sharing her

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<v Speaker 1>impressive you know, credit score in hopes of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>snagging somebody on the app.

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<v Speaker 2>So wait, you sent me this article and now she's

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<v Speaker 2>been seen over one point three million times this clip

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<v Speaker 2>that she posted, and they're calling her.

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<v Speaker 3>A spreadsheet shan. This is great. Okay. So she has

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<v Speaker 3>more than ten thousand followers on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>You're her first of all. Credit score eight oh four? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>hands down? Okay, girl, you got that?

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<v Speaker 2>So wait, this says your credit score. If it's above

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<v Speaker 2>six seventy, it's considered good. Wow she has eight oh four.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, girl, like this woman, she can't be denied for

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<v Speaker 1>a damn thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Look at her? Wait, how old is this girl? Twenty six?

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<v Speaker 3>Hold on, let me see.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to make sure a twenty six year old

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<v Speaker 2>with an eight hundred and four credit score? Look at god?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh. Okay, so great. Great for her. She

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<v Speaker 2>said that she put it up there because she wants

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<v Speaker 2>to find a financially stable Wait, this is wild.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I am so glad. I am not dating anywhere.

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<v Speaker 2>She wants to find a financially savvy bachelor, and she

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<v Speaker 2>shared her impressive results online.

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<v Speaker 3>But can't people fake that? Like now with.

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<v Speaker 2>All of this AI and you know, CANVA and all

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<v Speaker 2>this other stuff, like couldn't somebody put that up there?

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<v Speaker 2>And then like, how do you really know that their

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<v Speaker 2>credit score is really that that?

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<v Speaker 1>I guess you can manipulate anything.

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<v Speaker 3>You can manipulate anything these days.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's over here talking about also this. She wants

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<v Speaker 1>a guy that respects and appreciates all the hard work

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<v Speaker 1>that she has put into her financial responsibilities. So I

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<v Speaker 1>guess she's trying to find somebody who takes you know,

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<v Speaker 1>financial credit credit score money. I guess she's trying to

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<v Speaker 1>find her equal. But guess what she gonna find, Carolina.

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<v Speaker 1>What's that a whole bunch of scammers trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>her to pushit in in her name for them. Can

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<v Speaker 1>you put this Benz in your name? Can you put

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<v Speaker 1>them up your life? Never bro, That's what she's gonna find.

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<v Speaker 1>A whole bunch of people that have a four hundred

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<v Speaker 1>credit score that need her help, and they gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>fine as hell, and she's not gonna be able to say.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I think this is just for me. It's a

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<v Speaker 2>little too much. And here's why. Now, I do believe

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<v Speaker 2>that you should get to know these things once you've

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<v Speaker 2>started dating somebody, like once you guys are at that

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<v Speaker 2>point where you think you're gonna be moving in together.

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<v Speaker 3>You think this person is.

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<v Speaker 2>Gonna be the one for you. You found your person.

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<v Speaker 2>That's when I think that you start discussing this, but

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<v Speaker 2>like to.

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<v Speaker 3>Just put that out there. I don't know. Maybe I'm

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<v Speaker 3>old fashioned. I don't think people need to be knowing all.

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<v Speaker 2>Of that information about me? Is there any mystery left

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<v Speaker 2>in dating?

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<v Speaker 3>Here?

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<v Speaker 1>Send the naked pictures you might show? Yo, eight oh four.

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<v Speaker 1>You already showed the total.

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<v Speaker 3>Well that's true.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I guess other people are posting themselves

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more provocatate.

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<v Speaker 1>What Mina's picture? Send me to a screen shot from

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<v Speaker 1>Experience my guy?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my goodness.

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<v Speaker 2>So wait, yeah, I'm gonna.

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<v Speaker 3>Be honest with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm looking at my bank account right now. That's why

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like a little I don't even know where to

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<v Speaker 2>look for my credit score.

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<v Speaker 1>So, first of all, not in your bank account, Carolina.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so where do I'm Yeah, you know what I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna do. I'm gonna ask my financial planner when he

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<v Speaker 2>gets home.

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<v Speaker 1>To you, husband, I can't, she said. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that she's in her bank account.

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<v Speaker 3>Look, I don't even know cit right now, I want

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<v Speaker 3>to hang.

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<v Speaker 1>Up on this episode right now.

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<v Speaker 2>I went I went through my phase too, like when

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<v Speaker 2>I was in college and I was very careless, and

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<v Speaker 2>you know that they start sending you all of those

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<v Speaker 2>credit cards and you're out, Oh Victoria's secret, BB all

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<v Speaker 2>that back.

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<v Speaker 1>I ran down to the ground, Carolina.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So then I remember my parents and that was like

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<v Speaker 2>the big lesson. And I know I've spoken about this before.

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<v Speaker 2>My mom and dad were just like, good luck getting

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<v Speaker 2>out of that, because we're not giving you money for it,

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<v Speaker 2>like you will be paying the minimum payment that I

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<v Speaker 2>had a job, and I was just like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>like what am I going to do?

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<v Speaker 3>Like how do I get myself out of this?

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<v Speaker 2>And I had to pay back every last penny And

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<v Speaker 2>that was the biggest lesson that I learned.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, oh, f these credit cards.

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<v Speaker 2>If I don't have it, I am not buying it

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<v Speaker 2>because I knew what that felt like to pay that interest.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I think going through something like that early

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<v Speaker 2>on in life really taught me. And that really was

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<v Speaker 2>the lesson for me on how to budget my money

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<v Speaker 2>and you know.

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<v Speaker 3>What was important to me.

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<v Speaker 2>But there are people out here who are dating and

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<v Speaker 2>if you do get to that next level where you

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<v Speaker 2>want to spend your life with this person, I do

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<v Speaker 2>think that you should know at that point. Because people

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<v Speaker 2>got college debt, people have medical debt.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, you go to them.

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<v Speaker 2>You get in an ambulance right now in New York City,

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<v Speaker 2>you guys, and it is going to cost you a mint.

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<v Speaker 1>Carolina, people got easy past debt in the thousands.

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<v Speaker 3>Where is everybody going, by the way, just got out

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<v Speaker 3>five just just because the pandemic stuff like now you're outside.

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<v Speaker 1>That dumb ass easy pass never works, that's not their fault.

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<v Speaker 1>And then the easy pass be one twenty five and

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<v Speaker 1>then the penalty be fifty and all of that adds up.

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<v Speaker 1>I know people that owe easy past five thousand dollars

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<v Speaker 1>to Carolina and they can't even figure out how to

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<v Speaker 1>fix this.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, how on earth are they paying easy past five grand?

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<v Speaker 3>That is nuts, they're.

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<v Speaker 1>Not paying it. But you know what, like I none,

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<v Speaker 1>he used to always be like, my easy paths didn't

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<v Speaker 1>work here, my easy paths didn't work there. And then

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<v Speaker 1>at the end of the month I used to have

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<v Speaker 1>to sit there for an hour and go online and

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<v Speaker 1>enter the easy pass that account and get this knocked off,

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<v Speaker 1>and get that knocked off and get this pardoned. Some

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<v Speaker 1>people don't do that, Carolina. Some people like they take

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<v Speaker 1>the time it takes. I was like, it's easy passed

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<v Speaker 1>secretary for many, many years. And I know people that

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<v Speaker 1>are like, I'm never paying that, And I'm like, that's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna come back to bite you in the ass. But

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<v Speaker 1>guess what, Carolina, I don't want to date someone with

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<v Speaker 1>five thousand dollars worth of debt to the City of

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<v Speaker 1>New York.

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<v Speaker 2>I no, I can't blame you, no, absolutely, But I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>if this is a trend. So this girl, her name

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<v Speaker 2>was Leah Nicewander. She posted a similar video a few

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<v Speaker 2>months ago. Damn she she added her credit score there

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<v Speaker 2>was eight hundred and eleven. She is even better than

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<v Speaker 2>spreadsheet Shan Honey lessons.

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<v Speaker 3>She said that it got her a hundred likes. You

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<v Speaker 3>need to tell Bella to do this. Your sister. Your

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<v Speaker 3>sister's so single, right, is she still out there?

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<v Speaker 1>You got goodass credit, that bitch. I'm gonna tell him.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be like, yo, get your credit scored on your

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<v Speaker 1>bumble whatever, you got.

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<v Speaker 3>She said that she money.

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<v Speaker 2>She said she went on seventeen dates in thirty days.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl, I hope that Guka wasn't active because Jesus.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my no.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope these were coffee dates, babe. I hope that

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<v Speaker 2>this was just like a little you know, cocktail.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's see.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you say cocktails, right, what's.

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<v Speaker 3>The famous saying?

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<v Speaker 2>The famous saying is tell me one or serve me

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<v Speaker 2>one a cocktail.

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<v Speaker 3>Have you ever heard that before? Let's see.

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<v Speaker 2>So people are saying that they don't want this to happen.

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<v Speaker 2>Another girl was begging, please don't do this.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm doomed.

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<v Speaker 2>Another person said if these people saw my credit score,

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<v Speaker 2>I would be blocked finances. See, that's the thing. It's like,

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<v Speaker 2>it goes back to how why are we so secretive?

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<v Speaker 2>And why am I so secretive about finances? There was

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<v Speaker 2>a study that was released and it talked about how

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<v Speaker 2>Americans would do so much better if we were open

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<v Speaker 2>about our salaries and if we actually discussed what we

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<v Speaker 2>were making versus what we weren't making and comparing it

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<v Speaker 2>to our coworkers and you know this and that, and

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<v Speaker 2>I think I think there's something there, But I would

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<v Speaker 2>let everybody else do it first, you first, and then me.

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<v Speaker 1>I know someone who loves asking people how much they make,

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<v Speaker 1>and we find that just weird cringe where like, this

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<v Speaker 1>person is an absolute weirdo. So I don't know about

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<v Speaker 1>sharing salaries and stuff like that that she's always like,

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<v Speaker 1>how much do you make? Oh? And how much do

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<v Speaker 1>you make? I'm like, this bitch is weirdo. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how around me.

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<v Speaker 3>No, you know, I think that there's tact that's involved

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<v Speaker 3>with it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that you can just go up to

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<v Speaker 2>anyone that maybe you're not even close to, or that

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<v Speaker 2>you don't really know, or maybe that isn't even in

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<v Speaker 2>the same department, because like, look, what people make in

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<v Speaker 2>the digital department is very different from what they make

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<v Speaker 2>in the programming department or what they make in the

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<v Speaker 2>management department.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. So I think that it has levels to

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<v Speaker 1>these salaries.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I definitely think so.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't think that you can compare yourself to

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<v Speaker 2>people who are not in that same department. But you know,

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<v Speaker 2>let's get into this a little bit more after this break. So, honey,

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<v Speaker 2>if somebody came up to you tomorrow and just said, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm about to go in for a negotiation. Would you

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<v Speaker 2>be willing to be open with me about what you

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<v Speaker 2>made when you first started in this industry? Would you

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<v Speaker 2>be willing to tell them that?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Hell yeah, Carolina. One of my first jobs ever. I

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<v Speaker 1>was eighteen, and I remember I was sitting in the

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<v Speaker 1>reception area and this when I yeah, her name was

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<v Speaker 1>als right, and I'm gonna sea and she came out.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, miha. She spoke to me in Spanish, and

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember what the salary was, but let's say

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<v Speaker 1>it was five hundred dollars a week, right, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>medija me. And she told me what they are going

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<v Speaker 1>to pay is five hundred dollars a week. Don't take

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<v Speaker 1>one penny less, tell them you want five fifty.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh what a gift.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, wow, you're not going to see you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not he ya, I'm sure. I'm sure she's passed

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<v Speaker 1>away since because she was like about like sixty or seventy,

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<v Speaker 1>God bless her soul. And she came to me and

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<v Speaker 1>I was sitting in reception. I remember having my little

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<v Speaker 1>piece of paper, my resume, and she told me exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what to ask for and they gave it to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember, and this was my first first corporate job,

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<v Speaker 1>So yes, one hundred percent. If someone came to me

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<v Speaker 1>and be like, oh, when you first started, how much

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<v Speaker 1>did you make? I am willing to say this is

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<v Speaker 1>how much they gave me, this is how much I

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<v Speaker 1>think they should give you. I don't have a problem

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<v Speaker 1>doing that.

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<v Speaker 2>I would definitely I think that that would totally be

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<v Speaker 2>my stance too. Like if it were somebody who came

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<v Speaker 2>up to me and they were getting an on air

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<v Speaker 2>job and they asked for my advice, I would totally

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<v Speaker 2>tell them if they.

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<v Speaker 3>Were getting low balled.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't know if I would feel comfortable, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>discussing what my salary is, especially.

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<v Speaker 1>With currently I don't think currently like I would not.

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<v Speaker 1>I would not disclose because there's levels, there's people that

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<v Speaker 1>get certain perks, you know, and I don't. I just

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to create friction between management and employees. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very private about how much money I make. Not

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm gaykeeping my bread, but because that's my personal information.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you need some guidance, if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>tell me this is when I get paid, do you

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<v Speaker 1>think it's good or do you think I could get more.

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<v Speaker 1>I will advise you, but I'm not disclosing.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I feel like there was something that I saw

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<v Speaker 2>a story about a woman who ended up seeing that

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<v Speaker 2>a job, her job, was posted with a higher salary.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you ever hear about the story about the woman?

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<v Speaker 3>Harly?

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<v Speaker 1>And I saw it two days after?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh you saw? Okay? Yeah, So this woman noticed that

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<v Speaker 3>on her company's job site, her exact job, the description

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<v Speaker 3>of exactly what she does was on there.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was like making and I don't know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>making up deceumber, like ten thousand dollars more than what

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<v Speaker 2>she was currently earning. So she went put up her resume,

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<v Speaker 2>applied for that job, and her company has the nerve

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<v Speaker 2>to tell her like, no, this is for a new hire.

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<v Speaker 2>She was like, why on earth would you pay somebody

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<v Speaker 2>that's a new hire more? And I've been here for years.

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<v Speaker 2>That is like insulting.

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<v Speaker 1>Insulting. Beyond is she did she apply for it? And

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<v Speaker 1>like re get her job? Or no?

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<v Speaker 3>I think she applied for it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what, I have to look it up again

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<v Speaker 2>because I remember, yes, I remember skimming it. But that

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<v Speaker 2>is case in point, like if she would have been

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<v Speaker 2>able to talk to other people, in her department. If

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<v Speaker 2>they were comparing things, she could say like, hey, wait

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<v Speaker 2>a minute, why am I getting paid less? Like maybe

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<v Speaker 2>I need to go when it's my time for my

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<v Speaker 2>annual review to discuss with them. Why is there such

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<v Speaker 2>a big discrepancy with what I'm getting paid and what

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<v Speaker 2>you guys are willing to pay somebody who's just coming

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<v Speaker 2>in off the street. Because that's where I would I

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<v Speaker 2>will say it, and I'll say it again and again

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<v Speaker 2>and again. These hoes ain't loyal.

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<v Speaker 3>These companies don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Care they are You are a number and they are

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<v Speaker 2>just trying to get the maximum for the minimum their

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<v Speaker 2>maximize does.

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<v Speaker 3>They're trying to get the maximum for the minimum on you.

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<v Speaker 3>And if you are not smart and if you are

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<v Speaker 3>not crafty, they will take you.

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<v Speaker 1>That is a fact. Like I have a friend she

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<v Speaker 1>works for a company and a position became available. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it was two of the same positions, and she wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to apply inter office and she was like, okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to apply for this job. Wow, it's like an

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<v Speaker 1>extra thirty thousand dollars a year. And they were like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>because you already work here, you wouldn't get an extra

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<v Speaker 1>thirty thousand dollars a year or why all we can

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<v Speaker 1>give an internal employee if they take that position is

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<v Speaker 1>a ten percent raise.

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<v Speaker 3>That is straight trash.

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<v Speaker 1>That's companies for you. Ten percent raise. You can't get

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<v Speaker 1>the thirty g's. You could get a ten percent bump

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<v Speaker 1>if you want.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I found the story. I found the story.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So this was on Yahoo News and it said

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<v Speaker 2>woman reapplies for her own job after higher salary offered

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<v Speaker 2>for the job in a new listing. Okay, So she

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<v Speaker 2>did a viral series of tweets where.

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<v Speaker 3>She stumbled upon a job posting on LinkedIn.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so she went to LinkedIn and it advertised the

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<v Speaker 2>salary range was thirty two thousand to ninety thousand dollars

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<v Speaker 2>more than they currently pay her.

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<v Speaker 3>Could you imagine thirty to ninety thousand dollars? That is

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<v Speaker 3>a giant range. Okay, that is life changing money.

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<v Speaker 2>If you made thirty to ninety thousand dollars more today, honey,

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<v Speaker 2>that would not like would that change your life?

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<v Speaker 3>It would change money? Core?

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>So she went on to say that she discovered the discrepancy.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's a new law in New York that requires

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<v Speaker 2>companies to include a pay range in their job postings. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>that job was in It was basically put out there

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<v Speaker 2>and intended to promote pay equity, but it also exposed

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<v Speaker 2>these unequal pay policies.

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<v Speaker 3>So she writes that she applied.

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<v Speaker 2>So then she said that she tweeted that she responded

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<v Speaker 2>to the posting by applying for her own job.

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<v Speaker 1>That she's currently in correct.

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<v Speaker 2>Then she expressed frustration in her current employer's performative inclusion

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<v Speaker 2>efforts and a lack of resolution regarding her own underpayment.

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<v Speaker 3>So she went on to say this is wild.

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<v Speaker 2>She argued for months about the pay in equity. She

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<v Speaker 2>told her managers multiple times that she knew she was

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<v Speaker 2>being underpaid.

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<v Speaker 3>She got the run around.

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<v Speaker 2>They said, they know they can they can't do this

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<v Speaker 2>right now, that it's a tough labor market, and so

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<v Speaker 2>she said that. Now, what she did was she posted

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<v Speaker 2>that link in the group chat of all of the

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<v Speaker 2>other employees who were being underpaid, and then they had

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<v Speaker 2>an emergency meeting.

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<v Speaker 3>This is so juicy, Oh my gosh, this is so good.

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<v Speaker 2>So the company allegedly then held an emergency meeting where

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<v Speaker 2>she told the job listing was meant to be an

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<v Speaker 2>internal posting kind of like your story, honey, okay, and

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<v Speaker 2>she said that it wasn't meant for anyone to apply

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<v Speaker 2>to externally because public companies legally have to post jobs

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<v Speaker 2>even if it's an internal conversation. She goes, but that

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't solve the fact that someone internally is now still

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<v Speaker 2>going to make thirty two thousand dollars plus.

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<v Speaker 3>More than me.

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<v Speaker 1>Unfair, same position, same jobs, saint pay.

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<v Speaker 2>So then, instead of the company's writers getting a raised

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<v Speaker 2>because all of them I guess banded together from what

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<v Speaker 2>this article is saying, they had discussions about potential layoffs.

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<v Speaker 3>See what I'm telling you, they will burn you. This

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<v Speaker 3>is so nuts.

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<v Speaker 1>Wrote layoffs because we want what you were going to

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<v Speaker 1>pay somebody else. Okay, no problem.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>So then she officially announced on her Twitter that she

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<v Speaker 2>was looking for new writing roles, preferably remote because she's

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<v Speaker 2>currently located in New York City.

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<v Speaker 3>She said that she that she would have thought of this.

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<v Speaker 2>She inherited this manage in the reorganization and learned that

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<v Speaker 2>they were paid substantially more than her, and she was

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<v Speaker 2>told that they couldn't adjust midyear, but they promised to

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<v Speaker 2>sort it out at bonus time. She goes, and by

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<v Speaker 2>the way, they did not fix it at bonus time.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course not.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh wow.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is just mind blowing, you know. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>where the argument lies. It's like, should people know what

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<v Speaker 2>other people are making? Should it be held close to

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<v Speaker 2>the best because like, also, if you're the person who's

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<v Speaker 2>getting paid thirty thousand plus dollars more, you're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want anybody coming in on my territory.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because then it becomes a problem and she's just

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<v Speaker 1>like yo, bro, like, well, we're gonna take from you

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<v Speaker 1>to give to this person. When it comes to money,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just funny style. But people should be paid what

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<v Speaker 1>they're worth. And I do believe everyone should have an

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<v Speaker 1>annual review. Everyone should have an annual increase. The cost

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<v Speaker 1>of living goes up, people should get bonuses, especially if

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<v Speaker 1>companies give bonuses to top wigs all the way to

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<v Speaker 1>the bottom. Even if it's one hundred dollar bonus, everyone

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<v Speaker 1>should see one if the CEO see one.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, there was another meme that I saw if if

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<v Speaker 2>your company celebrates you, instead of giving you bonuses, they

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<v Speaker 2>give you pizza parties.

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<v Speaker 3>Some food. You need to find a new.

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<v Speaker 1>At a great quarter pizza party.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, no, but I swear to you when

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not making this up. I saw that while I

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<v Speaker 2>was walking to the kitchen and they had the leftover

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<v Speaker 2>food from the breakfast club out there.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, listen, our building got food. That

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<v Speaker 1>got food for sure, breakfast at Elvis Saint Patty's Day,

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<v Speaker 1>we'd be having food at o R light of FM

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<v Speaker 1>that donuts. We gets to the food.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, who say, please tell me? Like why did

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<v Speaker 3>I just see that?

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<v Speaker 1>Pisa and was like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you know what, after the break, we have to

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<v Speaker 2>head to the salon and we can't wait, so let's

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<v Speaker 2>do that when we come back. All right, honey, Well,

0:20:22.920 --> 0:20:24.840
<v Speaker 2>getting back to the whole dating thing, you know, because

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<v Speaker 2>that's originally.

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<v Speaker 3>Where we started. You know what.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what happens on this podcast. We start with one thing,

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<v Speaker 2>and then we go to another and another and another,

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<v Speaker 2>and then like now look at us. Now we got

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<v Speaker 2>to like circle back. But we got a letter in

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<v Speaker 2>the salon and I want to read it to you,

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<v Speaker 2>and I want you to give me your reaction and

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<v Speaker 2>then we'll discuss it. Because you know, we're out here

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<v Speaker 2>in these streets trying to help people, but.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes we don't even know if we're helping you. So

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<v Speaker 3>let's see.

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<v Speaker 2>This comes from Rosa and she says, dear bestie's in

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<v Speaker 2>my head. I have been dating this man I met

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<v Speaker 2>on a dating app for a few months now. We

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<v Speaker 2>go on pretty lavish dates. Okay, let me tell you

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<v Speaker 2>it's private jets, yachts, he gives me, spending money, you

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<v Speaker 2>name it, I got it.

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<v Speaker 1>My husband, don't do this with me. No lavish private jets,

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<v Speaker 1>no yachts, no nothing. I'm sold on this man already.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Ok More, recently, though, he is telling me he doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>want me to work anymore, and I just don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if this is a good idea.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait, honey, honey, She goes.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if he is the one and giving

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<v Speaker 2>up my independence to be a sugar baby.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I'm gonna call it what it is. Seems very risky.

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<v Speaker 3>Now seems to be the jumping off points.

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<v Speaker 2>So should I just tell him it's over or see

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<v Speaker 2>if we could potentially work this out? Any help is appreciated, me,

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<v Speaker 2>amigas from Rosa. Okay, So, Rosa, first of all, you

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<v Speaker 2>just gave it up because you said that you might

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<v Speaker 2>give up this guy. You don't know if he's the one,

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<v Speaker 2>and Honey is already trying to find out who this

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<v Speaker 2>man is.

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<v Speaker 1>And a bumble link profile.

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<v Speaker 2>No, this sounds like it's a Rayah date because private

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<v Speaker 2>jets and yachts for real, Like that gives her spending money, Okay. So,

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<v Speaker 2>like I think we've discussed things like this in the past.

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<v Speaker 2>I've never been in a relationship like that, like where

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<v Speaker 2>somebody is literally giving you money.

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<v Speaker 1>What's the name of Emmawi's sex life, That's what it's

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<v Speaker 1>giving right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh is it giving that? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Youma? He took her on the yacht and he had

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<v Speaker 1>her in the private in the private planes. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>this is giving right now. I don't know if this

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<v Speaker 1>man is fine, but let's talk about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, let's talk about it.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think the real issue for you, Rosa is

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<v Speaker 2>that he wants you to stop working, and when you

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<v Speaker 2>stop working, that basically is letting him know that you

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<v Speaker 2>are willing to receive whatever it is that he wants

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<v Speaker 2>to give you to maintain your lifestyle. Right, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't you say that, Honey, Like once she stops working,

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<v Speaker 2>like you're basically depending on him you become a dependent.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh of course. Yet if all your income is gonna

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<v Speaker 1>come from him, heat a boss, Now, you're not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>stop working. You just have a different boss.

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<v Speaker 3>Correct. You just took the words out of my mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna say, you may not be working at

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<v Speaker 2>a nine to five, baby, but you're gonna be working

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<v Speaker 2>for this man, because once he is in charge and

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<v Speaker 2>in control, you're gonna have to do whatever it is

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<v Speaker 2>that he says he wants you to do.

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<v Speaker 3>Right. So, I think I always tell.

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<v Speaker 2>Not me bringing up my kids, I always tell my kids,

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<v Speaker 2>pay attention to your gut.

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<v Speaker 3>Whenever you get that uh oh feeling, listen to that.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't mean that you have to like necessarily go

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<v Speaker 2>in that direction, but listen to it. Androsa, I think

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting that uh oh feeling right now, and I

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<v Speaker 2>think you really need to listen to that.

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<v Speaker 1>He not doing wrong, Carolina, He's just suggesting. I think

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<v Speaker 1>she should give it a little more time, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy a little more this if she can do it

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<v Speaker 1>well her job. But don't dump him just yet.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I don't think she should dump him yet.

0:24:07.800 --> 0:24:09.359
<v Speaker 2>I think what she needs to do is have a

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<v Speaker 2>real like sit down and do like the whole real talk, Like, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she needs to dig deep within herself. You

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<v Speaker 1>trying to be a sugar baby or you trying to

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<v Speaker 1>be a business woman, You got to pick a sigh.

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<v Speaker 3>Well.

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<v Speaker 2>And also, you know, please don't take this the wrong

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<v Speaker 2>way because I don't mean this, and it may come

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<v Speaker 2>off as you know, somebody may be like, oh, what

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<v Speaker 2>is she trying to say?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what kind of a.

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<v Speaker 2>Job you have that will allow you to go on

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<v Speaker 2>these vacations and these things. So you know, perhaps it's

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<v Speaker 2>something that is like twenty hours a week, because I know,

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<v Speaker 2>a forty hour week job. You just can't be bouncing

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<v Speaker 2>like that, you know what I mean. So it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>is this job that you're currently in really the rest

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<v Speaker 2>of your career?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this what you're looking for for the rest of

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<v Speaker 3>your career?

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<v Speaker 2>Because if so, you know, then maybe you do need

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<v Speaker 2>to dedicate more time to what it is and invest

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<v Speaker 2>more in yourself so that you can end up buying

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<v Speaker 2>those things for yourself in the long run.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I'll tell you, after twenty years of.

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<v Speaker 2>Work, I am not getting on private jets and yachts yet,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm gonna get there.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Dama manager.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, Well, yeah, no, and that's fair too. You know what,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't even think about that, honey, How how silly

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<v Speaker 2>of me? Because yeah, there are so many people who

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<v Speaker 2>can do remote jobs. And that's why I said, it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to come off as a fence and

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<v Speaker 2>but that's why I'm curious as to like what it

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<v Speaker 2>is that you actually do that allows you to live

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<v Speaker 2>this type of a lifestyle where you don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>show up every day because most people you got to

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<v Speaker 2>show up if you have a job.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Yeah, I feel like we need a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>more details and we can put a life plan together

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<v Speaker 1>for Rosa because I want her working on that PJ,

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<v Speaker 1>I want her working on that yacht. I want her

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<v Speaker 1>to just shut down on her computer at three and

0:26:02.320 --> 0:26:07.320
<v Speaker 1>enjoy Centrope cons Paris, Italy. I want her to live

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<v Speaker 1>her life because in Brooklyn all the Bronx, or in Harlem,

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<v Speaker 1>I rather shd be just setting the world with a

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<v Speaker 1>little mad computer working remote and if things don't work out,

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<v Speaker 1>come back to wherever you're from. Girl.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, but you know what, also, if this person is

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<v Speaker 2>that successful and has the ability to do all of

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<v Speaker 2>these things, and you want to keep working, why not

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<v Speaker 2>ask for his input or help.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought you were going to say, tell him give

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<v Speaker 1>you a job.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, no, that's what I'm saying, or say like, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>I do want you know, I can't just accept gifts

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<v Speaker 3>from you and things like this from you. I need

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<v Speaker 3>a purpose. You know. There are some women who have

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<v Speaker 3>no problem.

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<v Speaker 2>And again we're not here to judge like some women

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<v Speaker 2>just like I mean, look these sugar babies, they got

0:26:54.520 --> 0:26:59.040
<v Speaker 2>the body. They're young, you know, but like eventually your

0:26:59.040 --> 0:27:01.720
<v Speaker 2>body changes, you know what I mean, Your needs change,

0:27:01.760 --> 0:27:04.200
<v Speaker 2>your interest change or wants change, and.

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<v Speaker 1>So then that's when your sugar daddy becomes an eighty

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<v Speaker 1>year old not a fifty year old.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, and anicle smith.

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<v Speaker 2>You calm down over there, all right, you relax with

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<v Speaker 2>all of these what was he an oil billionaire?

0:27:17.240 --> 0:27:20.440
<v Speaker 1>That's when your your sugar daddy become an oil tycoon

0:27:20.480 --> 0:27:22.439
<v Speaker 1>that's in a wheelchair like a inn a Cole smith.

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<v Speaker 3>But no, I'm just curious as to why he wants

0:27:25.359 --> 0:27:26.439
<v Speaker 3>her to stop working.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably probably so he can be with her all the

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<v Speaker 1>time travel because it's like, okay, Karlina, if somebody calls

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<v Speaker 1>me right now, and they're like, Nita, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>Japan and I want you to come with me. And

0:27:37.880 --> 0:27:40.080
<v Speaker 1>then I start with this shit, Oh well, you know

0:27:40.160 --> 0:27:42.440
<v Speaker 1>I got to hit my boss.

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<v Speaker 3>Right right right.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't want to hear that. They're like, there's a

0:27:45.640 --> 0:27:51.600
<v Speaker 1>how much you make eighty So it's really like it's

0:27:51.600 --> 0:27:55.280
<v Speaker 1>really up to Rosa, Like how good is your job? Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Like is this your vision for the rest of your life?

0:27:57.320 --> 0:27:59.679
<v Speaker 2>Like are you working in something that you can picture

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<v Speaker 2>yourself that if this relationship goes to the side, that

0:28:02.600 --> 0:28:06.840
<v Speaker 2>you can continue on this journey for yourself or is

0:28:06.840 --> 0:28:08.959
<v Speaker 2>it something where you're just kind of like, eh, I

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<v Speaker 2>just need a job, like I don't want to I

0:28:10.600 --> 0:28:13.199
<v Speaker 2>don't want to depend on somebody one hundred percent, Like

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<v Speaker 2>this gives me enough for my car payment, my part,

0:28:17.200 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean. So it's like there's there

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<v Speaker 2>are so many details here that I would love to

0:28:21.680 --> 0:28:22.480
<v Speaker 2>find out more.

0:28:23.000 --> 0:28:24.320
<v Speaker 1>Got more details too.

0:28:24.800 --> 0:28:26.600
<v Speaker 3>I don't want more details, and I want to picture

0:28:26.720 --> 0:28:27.240
<v Speaker 3>this man.

0:28:27.440 --> 0:28:29.640
<v Speaker 1>I want I want to picture this man too, And.

0:28:29.600 --> 0:28:31.359
<v Speaker 3>I want to know how old this man's is.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, well if she's a sugar baby, that mean

0:28:33.680 --> 0:28:35.800
<v Speaker 1>he old, but he'd be fine. Of old a man.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm not gonna know. He could be a he

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<v Speaker 3>could be a professional athlete.

0:28:39.400 --> 0:28:41.640
<v Speaker 1>Here we go, he'll be in shape.

0:28:41.880 --> 0:28:44.520
<v Speaker 2>I love how we are already thinking of who her

0:28:44.720 --> 0:28:45.800
<v Speaker 2>potential guy is.

0:28:46.040 --> 0:28:49.440
<v Speaker 1>Well, I'm gonna give you a real ghetto ass hood story, Carolina.

0:28:49.040 --> 0:28:50.960
<v Speaker 3>Give it to me. I love a good ghetto ass

0:28:50.960 --> 0:28:52.800
<v Speaker 3>hood story. You know. I live for that.

0:28:53.000 --> 0:28:56.040
<v Speaker 1>When we were young, like living in New York, right,

0:28:56.600 --> 0:28:59.840
<v Speaker 1>we would date drug dealers, right, yeah, drug dealers. You

0:28:59.880 --> 0:29:02.800
<v Speaker 1>have meet him and then all of a sudden, Friday, Saturday,

0:29:02.840 --> 0:29:05.560
<v Speaker 1>Sunday you hang in. Monday comes You're like, he's like,

0:29:05.560 --> 0:29:07.840
<v Speaker 1>what's up for tomorrow? Ain't not enough for tomorrow? I

0:29:07.880 --> 0:29:10.160
<v Speaker 1>gotta go to work. Guess what they would always say?

0:29:10.800 --> 0:29:13.960
<v Speaker 1>What would they say, I'm gonna pay for your workday?

0:29:14.640 --> 0:29:17.040
<v Speaker 1>And you would think about it. Sometimes we're like, I

0:29:17.080 --> 0:29:19.080
<v Speaker 1>don't know, or what if I pay for the whole week?

0:29:19.160 --> 0:29:21.160
<v Speaker 1>How much you make a week? And I know plenty

0:29:21.200 --> 0:29:22.960
<v Speaker 1>of girls that used to be like, yo, I make

0:29:23.000 --> 0:29:24.720
<v Speaker 1>a thousand dollars a week, and they feel like, here's

0:29:24.760 --> 0:29:26.320
<v Speaker 1>a thousand dollars. Just hang out with me for the

0:29:26.360 --> 0:29:28.680
<v Speaker 1>rest of the week. So maybe Rosa could be like

0:29:28.760 --> 0:29:31.480
<v Speaker 1>this is how much I make a year. It's one

0:29:31.600 --> 0:29:39.280
<v Speaker 1>fifty baltamune check it yahday.

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<v Speaker 3>No no no, no no, no perl rosa.

0:29:38.880 --> 0:29:41.640
<v Speaker 2>If it's Santo suenta, you always have to add to

0:29:41.720 --> 0:29:42.200
<v Speaker 2>a baby.

0:29:42.240 --> 0:29:45.800
<v Speaker 3>So yes, you know what I mean.

0:29:46.920 --> 0:29:49.280
<v Speaker 1>Manda mun Zel, Oh no, no, Zell is not that

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<v Speaker 1>much money.

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<v Speaker 3>It'll cap, it'll cap. But no, you know what, like

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<v Speaker 3>nak I said, go on, Mamita, you know so, don't

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<v Speaker 3>say one fifty, go up always you're at a premium baby.

0:30:00.200 --> 0:30:15.480
<v Speaker 1>Be like a certificado Mio dolbanco. One day notice and

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<v Speaker 1>we aut of here.

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<v Speaker 3>Can a rinca. It's a check and you.

0:30:19.960 --> 0:30:22.040
<v Speaker 1>Gotta be certified bank check. Are you praisy? You got?

0:30:22.200 --> 0:30:24.440
<v Speaker 1>You gotta be certified. We gotta buy it together, and

0:30:24.440 --> 0:30:26.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna deposit it in the teller right next to

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<v Speaker 1>the one where you bought it.

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<v Speaker 3>I am dying, right, that is hell.

0:30:31.320 --> 0:30:33.080
<v Speaker 2>But you know what, it's true. I think that there

0:30:33.120 --> 0:30:38.000
<v Speaker 2>are obviously more details here. Look, everything in the salon

0:30:38.200 --> 0:30:40.600
<v Speaker 2>can be solved.

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<v Speaker 3>By having a discussion.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we always go back to that, right, It's

0:30:44.920 --> 0:30:48.520
<v Speaker 2>all about communication and having a conversation with somebody. I

0:30:48.560 --> 0:30:52.680
<v Speaker 2>think this truly like, if you want to like come

0:30:52.720 --> 0:30:56.840
<v Speaker 2>to a resolution, you have to have a conversation about it.

0:30:56.880 --> 0:30:59.320
<v Speaker 2>And then this is how we do here at Life

0:30:59.320 --> 0:31:03.000
<v Speaker 2>in Spanguish. We either come back to a conversation or

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<v Speaker 2>a ghetto ass hood story because that's what we donita.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, Well listen, Rosa, let us know what happens.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm at the Real Carolina.

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<v Speaker 1>Hit me up on the Gram. I am honey German.

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<v Speaker 1>it for Carolina.

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<v Speaker 3>It's working for a burken baby. And send us pictures

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<v Speaker 3>because we want to see it on that yacht.

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