Speaker 1: I'm Honey Germy. My parents are Dominican. I was born
Speaker 1: and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
Speaker 1: I'm a body positive advocate.
Speaker 2: I'm Carolina Bermudez Sony Nikata wins it, but I was
Speaker 2: born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,
Speaker 2: and a worker bee.
Speaker 3: This is life in spanglish.
Speaker 1: Carolina, you try to tell me your credits for or
Speaker 1: is that something that you keep super private?
Speaker 3: I didn't know that this is a point of discussion.
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know it all? Will I will
Speaker 2: be honest. Am I supposed to know what my credit
Speaker 2: score is offhand? Because I swear to you I don't.
Speaker 1: Kirlina, I checked this like every three days. I guess
Speaker 1: I'm just grateful to have good credit at this point
Speaker 1: in my life because I've had bad times in my
Speaker 1: early nineteen twenty twenty one, twenty two, I did a
Speaker 1: lot of f shit, So I check it all the
Speaker 1: time now. But there's this new story going around, right.
Speaker 1: It's a TikToker and she put a video up and
Speaker 1: she's talking about how she added her credit score to
Speaker 1: her hinge profile and she don't care. She's sharing her
Speaker 1: impressive you know, credit score in hopes of you know,
Speaker 1: snagging somebody on the app.
Speaker 2: So wait, you sent me this article and now she's
Speaker 2: been seen over one point three million times this clip
Speaker 2: that she posted, and they're calling her.
Speaker 3: A spreadsheet shan. This is great. Okay. So she has
Speaker 3: more than ten thousand followers on TikTok.
Speaker 1: You're her first of all. Credit score eight oh four? Okay,
Speaker 1: hands down? Okay, girl, you got that?
Speaker 2: So wait, this says your credit score. If it's above
Speaker 2: six seventy, it's considered good. Wow she has eight oh four.
Speaker 1: Yes, girl, like this woman, she can't be denied for
Speaker 1: a damn thing.
Speaker 3: Look at her? Wait, how old is this girl? Twenty six?
Speaker 3: Hold on, let me see.
Speaker 2: I want to make sure a twenty six year old
Speaker 2: with an eight hundred and four credit score? Look at god?
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. Okay, so great. Great for her. She
Speaker 2: said that she put it up there because she wants
Speaker 2: to find a financially stable Wait, this is wild.
Speaker 3: Okay, I am so glad. I am not dating anywhere.
Speaker 2: She wants to find a financially savvy bachelor, and she
Speaker 2: shared her impressive results online.
Speaker 3: But can't people fake that? Like now with.
Speaker 2: All of this AI and you know, CANVA and all
Speaker 2: this other stuff, like couldn't somebody put that up there?
Speaker 2: And then like, how do you really know that their
Speaker 2: credit score is really that that?
Speaker 1: I guess you can manipulate anything.
Speaker 3: You can manipulate anything these days.
Speaker 1: But she's over here talking about also this. She wants
Speaker 1: a guy that respects and appreciates all the hard work
Speaker 1: that she has put into her financial responsibilities. So I
Speaker 1: guess she's trying to find somebody who takes you know,
Speaker 1: financial credit credit score money. I guess she's trying to
Speaker 1: find her equal. But guess what she gonna find, Carolina.
Speaker 1: What's that a whole bunch of scammers trying to get
Speaker 1: her to pushit in in her name for them. Can
Speaker 1: you put this Benz in your name? Can you put
Speaker 1: them up your life? Never bro, That's what she's gonna find.
Speaker 1: A whole bunch of people that have a four hundred
Speaker 1: credit score that need her help, and they gonna be
Speaker 1: fine as hell, and she's not gonna be able to say.
Speaker 2: No, I think this is just for me. It's a
Speaker 2: little too much. And here's why. Now, I do believe
Speaker 2: that you should get to know these things once you've
Speaker 2: started dating somebody, like once you guys are at that
Speaker 2: point where you think you're gonna be moving in together.
Speaker 3: You think this person is.
Speaker 2: Gonna be the one for you. You found your person.
Speaker 2: That's when I think that you start discussing this, but
Speaker 2: like to.
Speaker 3: Just put that out there. I don't know. Maybe I'm
Speaker 3: old fashioned. I don't think people need to be knowing all.
Speaker 2: Of that information about me? Is there any mystery left
Speaker 2: in dating?
Speaker 3: Here?
Speaker 1: Send the naked pictures you might show? Yo, eight oh four.
Speaker 1: You already showed the total.
Speaker 3: Well that's true.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I guess other people are posting themselves
Speaker 2: a little bit more provocatate.
Speaker 1: What Mina's picture? Send me to a screen shot from
Speaker 1: Experience my guy?
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness.
Speaker 2: So wait, yeah, I'm gonna.
Speaker 3: Be honest with you.
Speaker 2: I'm looking at my bank account right now. That's why
Speaker 2: I'm like a little I don't even know where to
Speaker 2: look for my credit score.
Speaker 1: So, first of all, not in your bank account, Carolina.
Speaker 2: Okay, so where do I'm Yeah, you know what I'm
Speaker 2: gonna do. I'm gonna ask my financial planner when he
Speaker 2: gets home.
Speaker 1: To you, husband, I can't, she said. First of all,
Speaker 1: the fact that she's in her bank account.
Speaker 3: Look, I don't even know cit right now, I want
Speaker 3: to hang.
Speaker 1: Up on this episode right now.
Speaker 2: I went I went through my phase too, like when
Speaker 2: I was in college and I was very careless, and
Speaker 2: you know that they start sending you all of those
Speaker 2: credit cards and you're out, Oh Victoria's secret, BB all
Speaker 2: that back.
Speaker 1: I ran down to the ground, Carolina.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So then I remember my parents and that was like
Speaker 2: the big lesson. And I know I've spoken about this before.
Speaker 2: My mom and dad were just like, good luck getting
Speaker 2: out of that, because we're not giving you money for it,
Speaker 2: like you will be paying the minimum payment that I
Speaker 2: had a job, and I was just like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: like what am I going to do?
Speaker 3: Like how do I get myself out of this?
Speaker 2: And I had to pay back every last penny And
Speaker 2: that was the biggest lesson that I learned.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, f these credit cards.
Speaker 2: If I don't have it, I am not buying it
Speaker 2: because I knew what that felt like to pay that interest.
Speaker 2: And so I think going through something like that early
Speaker 2: on in life really taught me. And that really was
Speaker 2: the lesson for me on how to budget my money
Speaker 2: and you know.
Speaker 3: What was important to me.
Speaker 2: But there are people out here who are dating and
Speaker 2: if you do get to that next level where you
Speaker 2: want to spend your life with this person, I do
Speaker 2: think that you should know at that point. Because people
Speaker 2: got college debt, people have medical debt.
Speaker 3: You know, you go to them.
Speaker 2: You get in an ambulance right now in New York City,
Speaker 2: you guys, and it is going to cost you a mint.
Speaker 1: Carolina, people got easy past debt in the thousands.
Speaker 3: Where is everybody going, by the way, just got out
Speaker 3: five just just because the pandemic stuff like now you're outside.
Speaker 1: That dumb ass easy pass never works, that's not their fault.
Speaker 1: And then the easy pass be one twenty five and
Speaker 1: then the penalty be fifty and all of that adds up.
Speaker 1: I know people that owe easy past five thousand dollars
Speaker 1: to Carolina and they can't even figure out how to
Speaker 1: fix this.
Speaker 2: Wait, how on earth are they paying easy past five grand?
Speaker 3: That is nuts, they're.
Speaker 1: Not paying it. But you know what, like I none,
Speaker 1: he used to always be like, my easy paths didn't
Speaker 1: work here, my easy paths didn't work there. And then
Speaker 1: at the end of the month I used to have
Speaker 1: to sit there for an hour and go online and
Speaker 1: enter the easy pass that account and get this knocked off,
Speaker 1: and get that knocked off and get this pardoned. Some
Speaker 1: people don't do that, Carolina. Some people like they take
Speaker 1: the time it takes. I was like, it's easy passed
Speaker 1: secretary for many, many years. And I know people that
Speaker 1: are like, I'm never paying that, And I'm like, that's
Speaker 1: gonna come back to bite you in the ass. But
Speaker 1: guess what, Carolina, I don't want to date someone with
Speaker 1: five thousand dollars worth of debt to the City of
Speaker 1: New York.
Speaker 2: I no, I can't blame you, no, absolutely, But I mean,
Speaker 2: if this is a trend. So this girl, her name
Speaker 2: was Leah Nicewander. She posted a similar video a few
Speaker 2: months ago. Damn she she added her credit score there
Speaker 2: was eight hundred and eleven. She is even better than
Speaker 2: spreadsheet Shan Honey lessons.
Speaker 3: She said that it got her a hundred likes. You
Speaker 3: need to tell Bella to do this. Your sister. Your
Speaker 3: sister's so single, right, is she still out there?
Speaker 1: You got goodass credit, that bitch. I'm gonna tell him.
Speaker 1: I'll be like, yo, get your credit scored on your
Speaker 1: bumble whatever, you got.
Speaker 3: She said that she money.
Speaker 2: She said she went on seventeen dates in thirty days.
Speaker 1: Girl, I hope that Guka wasn't active because Jesus.
Speaker 3: Oh my no.
Speaker 2: I hope these were coffee dates, babe. I hope that
Speaker 2: this was just like a little you know, cocktail.
Speaker 3: Let's see.
Speaker 1: And when you say cocktails, right, what's.
Speaker 3: The famous saying?
Speaker 2: The famous saying is tell me one or serve me
Speaker 2: one a cocktail.
Speaker 3: Have you ever heard that before? Let's see.
Speaker 2: So people are saying that they don't want this to happen.
Speaker 2: Another girl was begging, please don't do this.
Speaker 3: I'm doomed.
Speaker 2: Another person said if these people saw my credit score,
Speaker 2: I would be blocked finances. See, that's the thing. It's like,
Speaker 2: it goes back to how why are we so secretive?
Speaker 2: And why am I so secretive about finances? There was
Speaker 2: a study that was released and it talked about how
Speaker 2: Americans would do so much better if we were open
Speaker 2: about our salaries and if we actually discussed what we
Speaker 2: were making versus what we weren't making and comparing it
Speaker 2: to our coworkers and you know this and that, and
Speaker 2: I think I think there's something there, But I would
Speaker 2: let everybody else do it first, you first, and then me.
Speaker 1: I know someone who loves asking people how much they make,
Speaker 1: and we find that just weird cringe where like, this
Speaker 1: person is an absolute weirdo. So I don't know about
Speaker 1: sharing salaries and stuff like that that she's always like,
Speaker 1: how much do you make? Oh? And how much do
Speaker 1: you make? I'm like, this bitch is weirdo. I don't
Speaker 1: know how around me.
Speaker 3: No, you know, I think that there's tact that's involved
Speaker 3: with it.
Speaker 2: I don't think that you can just go up to
Speaker 2: anyone that maybe you're not even close to, or that
Speaker 2: you don't really know, or maybe that isn't even in
Speaker 2: the same department, because like, look, what people make in
Speaker 2: the digital department is very different from what they make
Speaker 2: in the programming department or what they make in the
Speaker 2: management department.
Speaker 1: You know. So I think that it has levels to
Speaker 1: these salaries.
Speaker 3: Oh, I definitely think so.
Speaker 2: And I don't think that you can compare yourself to
Speaker 2: people who are not in that same department. But you know,
Speaker 2: let's get into this a little bit more after this break. So, honey,
Speaker 2: if somebody came up to you tomorrow and just said, hey,
Speaker 2: I'm about to go in for a negotiation. Would you
Speaker 2: be willing to be open with me about what you
Speaker 2: made when you first started in this industry? Would you
Speaker 2: be willing to tell them that?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: Hell yeah, Carolina. One of my first jobs ever. I
Speaker 1: was eighteen, and I remember I was sitting in the
Speaker 1: reception area and this when I yeah, her name was
Speaker 1: als right, and I'm gonna sea and she came out.
Speaker 1: She's like, miha. She spoke to me in Spanish, and
Speaker 1: I don't remember what the salary was, but let's say
Speaker 1: it was five hundred dollars a week, right, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: medija me. And she told me what they are going
Speaker 1: to pay is five hundred dollars a week. Don't take
Speaker 1: one penny less, tell them you want five fifty.
Speaker 3: Oh what a gift.
Speaker 1: And I was like, wow, you're not going to see you.
Speaker 1: I'm not he ya, I'm sure. I'm sure she's passed
Speaker 1: away since because she was like about like sixty or seventy,
Speaker 1: God bless her soul. And she came to me and
Speaker 1: I was sitting in reception. I remember having my little
Speaker 1: piece of paper, my resume, and she told me exactly
Speaker 1: what to ask for and they gave it to me.
Speaker 1: I remember, and this was my first first corporate job,
Speaker 1: So yes, one hundred percent. If someone came to me
Speaker 1: and be like, oh, when you first started, how much
Speaker 1: did you make? I am willing to say this is
Speaker 1: how much they gave me, this is how much I
Speaker 1: think they should give you. I don't have a problem
Speaker 1: doing that.
Speaker 2: I would definitely I think that that would totally be
Speaker 2: my stance too. Like if it were somebody who came
Speaker 2: up to me and they were getting an on air
Speaker 2: job and they asked for my advice, I would totally
Speaker 2: tell them if they.
Speaker 3: Were getting low balled.
Speaker 2: But I don't know if I would feel comfortable, you know,
Speaker 2: discussing what my salary is, especially.
Speaker 1: With currently I don't think currently like I would not.
Speaker 1: I would not disclose because there's levels, there's people that
Speaker 1: get certain perks, you know, and I don't. I just
Speaker 1: don't want to create friction between management and employees. So
Speaker 1: I'm very private about how much money I make. Not
Speaker 1: because I'm gaykeeping my bread, but because that's my personal information.
Speaker 1: But if you need some guidance, if you want to
Speaker 1: tell me this is when I get paid, do you
Speaker 1: think it's good or do you think I could get more.
Speaker 1: I will advise you, but I'm not disclosing.
Speaker 2: Well, I feel like there was something that I saw
Speaker 2: a story about a woman who ended up seeing that
Speaker 2: a job, her job, was posted with a higher salary.
Speaker 2: Did you ever hear about the story about the woman?
Speaker 3: Harly?
Speaker 1: And I saw it two days after?
Speaker 3: Oh you saw? Okay? Yeah, So this woman noticed that
Speaker 3: on her company's job site, her exact job, the description
Speaker 3: of exactly what she does was on there.
Speaker 2: But it was like making and I don't know, I'm
Speaker 2: making up deceumber, like ten thousand dollars more than what
Speaker 2: she was currently earning. So she went put up her resume,
Speaker 2: applied for that job, and her company has the nerve
Speaker 2: to tell her like, no, this is for a new hire.
Speaker 2: She was like, why on earth would you pay somebody
Speaker 2: that's a new hire more? And I've been here for years.
Speaker 2: That is like insulting.
Speaker 1: Insulting. Beyond is she did she apply for it? And
Speaker 1: like re get her job? Or no?
Speaker 3: I think she applied for it.
Speaker 2: You know what, I have to look it up again
Speaker 2: because I remember, yes, I remember skimming it. But that
Speaker 2: is case in point, like if she would have been
Speaker 2: able to talk to other people, in her department. If
Speaker 2: they were comparing things, she could say like, hey, wait
Speaker 2: a minute, why am I getting paid less? Like maybe
Speaker 2: I need to go when it's my time for my
Speaker 2: annual review to discuss with them. Why is there such
Speaker 2: a big discrepancy with what I'm getting paid and what
Speaker 2: you guys are willing to pay somebody who's just coming
Speaker 2: in off the street. Because that's where I would I
Speaker 2: will say it, and I'll say it again and again
Speaker 2: and again. These hoes ain't loyal.
Speaker 3: These companies don't.
Speaker 2: Care they are You are a number and they are
Speaker 2: just trying to get the maximum for the minimum their
Speaker 2: maximize does.
Speaker 3: They're trying to get the maximum for the minimum on you.
Speaker 3: And if you are not smart and if you are
Speaker 3: not crafty, they will take you.
Speaker 1: That is a fact. Like I have a friend she
Speaker 1: works for a company and a position became available. Well,
Speaker 1: it was two of the same positions, and she wanted
Speaker 1: to apply inter office and she was like, okay, I
Speaker 1: want to apply for this job. Wow, it's like an
Speaker 1: extra thirty thousand dollars a year. And they were like, well,
Speaker 1: because you already work here, you wouldn't get an extra
Speaker 1: thirty thousand dollars a year or why all we can
Speaker 1: give an internal employee if they take that position is
Speaker 1: a ten percent raise.
Speaker 3: That is straight trash.
Speaker 1: That's companies for you. Ten percent raise. You can't get
Speaker 1: the thirty g's. You could get a ten percent bump
Speaker 1: if you want.
Speaker 3: Okay, I found the story. I found the story.
Speaker 2: Okay, So this was on Yahoo News and it said
Speaker 2: woman reapplies for her own job after higher salary offered
Speaker 2: for the job in a new listing. Okay, So she
Speaker 2: did a viral series of tweets where.
Speaker 3: She stumbled upon a job posting on LinkedIn.
Speaker 2: Okay, so she went to LinkedIn and it advertised the
Speaker 2: salary range was thirty two thousand to ninety thousand dollars
Speaker 2: more than they currently pay her.
Speaker 3: Could you imagine thirty to ninety thousand dollars? That is
Speaker 3: a giant range. Okay, that is life changing money.
Speaker 2: If you made thirty to ninety thousand dollars more today, honey,
Speaker 2: that would not like would that change your life?
Speaker 3: It would change money? Core?
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 3: So she went on to say that she discovered the discrepancy.
Speaker 2: And there's a new law in New York that requires
Speaker 2: companies to include a pay range in their job postings. Okay,
Speaker 2: that job was in It was basically put out there
Speaker 2: and intended to promote pay equity, but it also exposed
Speaker 2: these unequal pay policies.
Speaker 3: So she writes that she applied.
Speaker 2: So then she said that she tweeted that she responded
Speaker 2: to the posting by applying for her own job.
Speaker 1: That she's currently in correct.
Speaker 2: Then she expressed frustration in her current employer's performative inclusion
Speaker 2: efforts and a lack of resolution regarding her own underpayment.
Speaker 3: So she went on to say this is wild.
Speaker 2: She argued for months about the pay in equity. She
Speaker 2: told her managers multiple times that she knew she was
Speaker 2: being underpaid.
Speaker 3: She got the run around.
Speaker 2: They said, they know they can they can't do this
Speaker 2: right now, that it's a tough labor market, and so
Speaker 2: she said that. Now, what she did was she posted
Speaker 2: that link in the group chat of all of the
Speaker 2: other employees who were being underpaid, and then they had
Speaker 2: an emergency meeting.
Speaker 3: This is so juicy, Oh my gosh, this is so good.
Speaker 2: So the company allegedly then held an emergency meeting where
Speaker 2: she told the job listing was meant to be an
Speaker 2: internal posting kind of like your story, honey, okay, and
Speaker 2: she said that it wasn't meant for anyone to apply
Speaker 2: to externally because public companies legally have to post jobs
Speaker 2: even if it's an internal conversation. She goes, but that
Speaker 2: doesn't solve the fact that someone internally is now still
Speaker 2: going to make thirty two thousand dollars plus.
Speaker 3: More than me.
Speaker 1: Unfair, same position, same jobs, saint pay.
Speaker 2: So then, instead of the company's writers getting a raised
Speaker 2: because all of them I guess banded together from what
Speaker 2: this article is saying, they had discussions about potential layoffs.
Speaker 3: See what I'm telling you, they will burn you. This
Speaker 3: is so nuts.
Speaker 1: Wrote layoffs because we want what you were going to
Speaker 1: pay somebody else. Okay, no problem.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 2: So then she officially announced on her Twitter that she
Speaker 2: was looking for new writing roles, preferably remote because she's
Speaker 2: currently located in New York City.
Speaker 3: She said that she that she would have thought of this.
Speaker 2: She inherited this manage in the reorganization and learned that
Speaker 2: they were paid substantially more than her, and she was
Speaker 2: told that they couldn't adjust midyear, but they promised to
Speaker 2: sort it out at bonus time. She goes, and by
Speaker 2: the way, they did not fix it at bonus time.
Speaker 1: Of course not.
Speaker 3: Uh wow.
Speaker 2: So this is just mind blowing, you know. And that's
Speaker 2: where the argument lies. It's like, should people know what
Speaker 2: other people are making? Should it be held close to
Speaker 2: the best because like, also, if you're the person who's
Speaker 2: getting paid thirty thousand plus dollars more, you're like, hey,
Speaker 2: I don't want anybody coming in on my territory.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because then it becomes a problem and she's just
Speaker 1: like yo, bro, like, well, we're gonna take from you
Speaker 1: to give to this person. When it comes to money,
Speaker 1: it's just funny style. But people should be paid what
Speaker 1: they're worth. And I do believe everyone should have an
Speaker 1: annual review. Everyone should have an annual increase. The cost
Speaker 1: of living goes up, people should get bonuses, especially if
Speaker 1: companies give bonuses to top wigs all the way to
Speaker 1: the bottom. Even if it's one hundred dollar bonus, everyone
Speaker 1: should see one if the CEO see one.
Speaker 2: Now, there was another meme that I saw if if
Speaker 2: your company celebrates you, instead of giving you bonuses, they
Speaker 2: give you pizza parties.
Speaker 3: Some food. You need to find a new.
Speaker 1: At a great quarter pizza party.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, no, but I swear to you when
Speaker 2: I'm not making this up. I saw that while I
Speaker 2: was walking to the kitchen and they had the leftover
Speaker 2: food from the breakfast club out there.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, listen, our building got food. That
Speaker 1: got food for sure, breakfast at Elvis Saint Patty's Day,
Speaker 1: we'd be having food at o R light of FM
Speaker 1: that donuts. We gets to the food.
Speaker 3: I said, who say, please tell me? Like why did
Speaker 3: I just see that?
Speaker 1: Pisa and was like, oh my god.
Speaker 2: Well, you know what, after the break, we have to
Speaker 2: head to the salon and we can't wait, so let's
Speaker 2: do that when we come back. All right, honey, Well,
Speaker 2: getting back to the whole dating thing, you know, because
Speaker 2: that's originally.
Speaker 3: Where we started. You know what.
Speaker 2: That's what happens on this podcast. We start with one thing,
Speaker 2: and then we go to another and another and another,
Speaker 2: and then like now look at us. Now we got
Speaker 2: to like circle back. But we got a letter in
Speaker 2: the salon and I want to read it to you,
Speaker 2: and I want you to give me your reaction and
Speaker 2: then we'll discuss it. Because you know, we're out here
Speaker 2: in these streets trying to help people, but.
Speaker 3: Sometimes we don't even know if we're helping you. So
Speaker 3: let's see.
Speaker 2: This comes from Rosa and she says, dear bestie's in
Speaker 2: my head. I have been dating this man I met
Speaker 2: on a dating app for a few months now. We
Speaker 2: go on pretty lavish dates. Okay, let me tell you
Speaker 2: it's private jets, yachts, he gives me, spending money, you
Speaker 2: name it, I got it.
Speaker 1: My husband, don't do this with me. No lavish private jets,
Speaker 1: no yachts, no nothing. I'm sold on this man already.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 2: Ok More, recently, though, he is telling me he doesn't
Speaker 2: want me to work anymore, and I just don't know
Speaker 2: if this is a good idea.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Wait, honey, honey, She goes.
Speaker 2: I don't know if he is the one and giving
Speaker 2: up my independence to be a sugar baby.
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm gonna call it what it is. Seems very risky.
Speaker 3: Now seems to be the jumping off points.
Speaker 2: So should I just tell him it's over or see
Speaker 2: if we could potentially work this out? Any help is appreciated, me,
Speaker 2: amigas from Rosa. Okay, So, Rosa, first of all, you
Speaker 2: just gave it up because you said that you might
Speaker 2: give up this guy. You don't know if he's the one,
Speaker 2: and Honey is already trying to find out who this
Speaker 2: man is.
Speaker 1: And a bumble link profile.
Speaker 2: No, this sounds like it's a Rayah date because private
Speaker 2: jets and yachts for real, Like that gives her spending money, Okay. So,
Speaker 2: like I think we've discussed things like this in the past.
Speaker 2: I've never been in a relationship like that, like where
Speaker 2: somebody is literally giving you money.
Speaker 1: What's the name of Emmawi's sex life, That's what it's
Speaker 1: giving right now?
Speaker 3: Oh is it giving that? Okay?
Speaker 1: Youma? He took her on the yacht and he had
Speaker 1: her in the private in the private planes. That's what
Speaker 1: this is giving right now. I don't know if this
Speaker 1: man is fine, but let's talk about it.
Speaker 3: Well, let's talk about it.
Speaker 2: So I think the real issue for you, Rosa is
Speaker 2: that he wants you to stop working, and when you
Speaker 2: stop working, that basically is letting him know that you
Speaker 2: are willing to receive whatever it is that he wants
Speaker 2: to give you to maintain your lifestyle. Right, I mean,
Speaker 2: wouldn't you say that, Honey, Like once she stops working,
Speaker 2: like you're basically depending on him you become a dependent.
Speaker 1: Oh of course. Yet if all your income is gonna
Speaker 1: come from him, heat a boss, Now, you're not gonna
Speaker 1: stop working. You just have a different boss.
Speaker 3: Correct. You just took the words out of my mouth.
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, you may not be working at
Speaker 2: a nine to five, baby, but you're gonna be working
Speaker 2: for this man, because once he is in charge and
Speaker 2: in control, you're gonna have to do whatever it is
Speaker 2: that he says he wants you to do.
Speaker 3: Right. So, I think I always tell.
Speaker 2: Not me bringing up my kids, I always tell my kids,
Speaker 2: pay attention to your gut.
Speaker 3: Whenever you get that uh oh feeling, listen to that.
Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that you have to like necessarily go
Speaker 2: in that direction, but listen to it. Androsa, I think
Speaker 2: you're getting that uh oh feeling right now, and I
Speaker 2: think you really need to listen to that.
Speaker 1: He not doing wrong, Carolina, He's just suggesting. I think
Speaker 1: she should give it a little more time, you know,
Speaker 1: enjoy a little more this if she can do it
Speaker 1: well her job. But don't dump him just yet.
Speaker 3: No, I don't think she should dump him yet.
Speaker 2: I think what she needs to do is have a
Speaker 2: real like sit down and do like the whole real talk, Like, Okay.
Speaker 1: I think she needs to dig deep within herself. You
Speaker 1: trying to be a sugar baby or you trying to
Speaker 1: be a business woman, You got to pick a sigh.
Speaker 3: Well.
Speaker 2: And also, you know, please don't take this the wrong
Speaker 2: way because I don't mean this, and it may come
Speaker 2: off as you know, somebody may be like, oh, what
Speaker 2: is she trying to say?
Speaker 3: I don't know what kind of a.
Speaker 2: Job you have that will allow you to go on
Speaker 2: these vacations and these things. So you know, perhaps it's
Speaker 2: something that is like twenty hours a week, because I know,
Speaker 2: a forty hour week job. You just can't be bouncing
Speaker 2: like that, you know what I mean. So it's like,
Speaker 2: is this job that you're currently in really the rest
Speaker 2: of your career?
Speaker 3: Is this what you're looking for for the rest of
Speaker 3: your career?
Speaker 2: Because if so, you know, then maybe you do need
Speaker 2: to dedicate more time to what it is and invest
Speaker 2: more in yourself so that you can end up buying
Speaker 2: those things for yourself in the long run.
Speaker 3: Like I'll tell you, after twenty years of.
Speaker 2: Work, I am not getting on private jets and yachts yet,
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna get there.
Speaker 1: You know, Dama manager.
Speaker 2: Right, Well, yeah, no, and that's fair too. You know what,
Speaker 2: I didn't even think about that, honey, How how silly
Speaker 2: of me? Because yeah, there are so many people who
Speaker 2: can do remote jobs. And that's why I said, it's like,
Speaker 2: I don't want to come off as a fence and
Speaker 2: but that's why I'm curious as to like what it
Speaker 2: is that you actually do that allows you to live
Speaker 2: this type of a lifestyle where you don't have to
Speaker 2: show up every day because most people you got to
Speaker 2: show up if you have a job.
Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I feel like we need a little bit
Speaker 1: more details and we can put a life plan together
Speaker 1: for Rosa because I want her working on that PJ,
Speaker 1: I want her working on that yacht. I want her
Speaker 1: to just shut down on her computer at three and
Speaker 1: enjoy Centrope cons Paris, Italy. I want her to live
Speaker 1: her life because in Brooklyn all the Bronx, or in Harlem,
Speaker 1: I rather shd be just setting the world with a
Speaker 1: little mad computer working remote and if things don't work out,
Speaker 1: come back to wherever you're from. Girl.
Speaker 2: Well, but you know what, also, if this person is
Speaker 2: that successful and has the ability to do all of
Speaker 2: these things, and you want to keep working, why not
Speaker 2: ask for his input or help.
Speaker 1: I thought you were going to say, tell him give
Speaker 1: you a job.
Speaker 3: Well, no, that's what I'm saying, or say like, hey,
Speaker 3: I do want you know, I can't just accept gifts
Speaker 3: from you and things like this from you. I need
Speaker 3: a purpose. You know. There are some women who have
Speaker 3: no problem.
Speaker 2: And again we're not here to judge like some women
Speaker 2: just like I mean, look these sugar babies, they got
Speaker 2: the body. They're young, you know, but like eventually your
Speaker 2: body changes, you know what I mean, Your needs change,
Speaker 2: your interest change or wants change, and.
Speaker 1: So then that's when your sugar daddy becomes an eighty
Speaker 1: year old not a fifty year old.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, and anicle smith.
Speaker 2: You calm down over there, all right, you relax with
Speaker 2: all of these what was he an oil billionaire?
Speaker 1: That's when your your sugar daddy become an oil tycoon
Speaker 1: that's in a wheelchair like a inn a Cole smith.
Speaker 3: But no, I'm just curious as to why he wants
Speaker 3: her to stop working.
Speaker 1: Probably probably so he can be with her all the
Speaker 1: time travel because it's like, okay, Karlina, if somebody calls
Speaker 1: me right now, and they're like, Nita, I'm going to
Speaker 1: Japan and I want you to come with me. And
Speaker 1: then I start with this shit, Oh well, you know
Speaker 1: I got to hit my boss.
Speaker 3: Right right right.
Speaker 1: They don't want to hear that. They're like, there's a
Speaker 1: how much you make eighty So it's really like it's
Speaker 1: really up to Rosa, Like how good is your job? Right?
Speaker 2: Like is this your vision for the rest of your life?
Speaker 2: Like are you working in something that you can picture
Speaker 2: yourself that if this relationship goes to the side, that
Speaker 2: you can continue on this journey for yourself or is
Speaker 2: it something where you're just kind of like, eh, I
Speaker 2: just need a job, like I don't want to I
Speaker 2: don't want to depend on somebody one hundred percent, Like
Speaker 2: this gives me enough for my car payment, my part,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. So it's like there's there
Speaker 2: are so many details here that I would love to
Speaker 2: find out more.
Speaker 1: Got more details too.
Speaker 3: I don't want more details, and I want to picture
Speaker 3: this man.
Speaker 1: I want I want to picture this man too, And.
Speaker 3: I want to know how old this man's is.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, well if she's a sugar baby, that mean
Speaker 1: he old, but he'd be fine. Of old a man.
Speaker 3: So I'm not gonna know. He could be a he
Speaker 3: could be a professional athlete.
Speaker 1: Here we go, he'll be in shape.
Speaker 2: I love how we are already thinking of who her
Speaker 2: potential guy is.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm gonna give you a real ghetto ass hood story, Carolina.
Speaker 3: Give it to me. I love a good ghetto ass
Speaker 3: hood story. You know. I live for that.
Speaker 1: When we were young, like living in New York, right,
Speaker 1: we would date drug dealers, right, yeah, drug dealers. You
Speaker 1: have meet him and then all of a sudden, Friday, Saturday,
Speaker 1: Sunday you hang in. Monday comes You're like, he's like,
Speaker 1: what's up for tomorrow? Ain't not enough for tomorrow? I
Speaker 1: gotta go to work. Guess what they would always say?
Speaker 1: What would they say, I'm gonna pay for your workday?
Speaker 1: And you would think about it. Sometimes we're like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, or what if I pay for the whole week?
Speaker 1: How much you make a week? And I know plenty
Speaker 1: of girls that used to be like, yo, I make
Speaker 1: a thousand dollars a week, and they feel like, here's
Speaker 1: a thousand dollars. Just hang out with me for the
Speaker 1: rest of the week. So maybe Rosa could be like
Speaker 1: this is how much I make a year. It's one
Speaker 1: fifty baltamune check it yahday.
Speaker 3: No no no, no no, no perl rosa.
Speaker 2: If it's Santo suenta, you always have to add to
Speaker 2: a baby.
Speaker 3: So yes, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Manda mun Zel, Oh no, no, Zell is not that
Speaker 1: much money.
Speaker 3: It'll cap, it'll cap. But no, you know what, like
Speaker 3: nak I said, go on, Mamita, you know so, don't
Speaker 3: say one fifty, go up always you're at a premium baby.
Speaker 1: Be like a certificado Mio dolbanco. One day notice and
Speaker 1: we aut of here.
Speaker 3: Can a rinca. It's a check and you.
Speaker 1: Gotta be certified bank check. Are you praisy? You got?
Speaker 1: You gotta be certified. We gotta buy it together, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna deposit it in the teller right next to
Speaker 1: the one where you bought it.
Speaker 3: I am dying, right, that is hell.
Speaker 2: But you know what, it's true. I think that there
Speaker 2: are obviously more details here. Look, everything in the salon
Speaker 2: can be solved.
Speaker 3: By having a discussion.
Speaker 2: I think we always go back to that, right, It's
Speaker 2: all about communication and having a conversation with somebody. I
Speaker 2: think this truly like, if you want to like come
Speaker 2: to a resolution, you have to have a conversation about it.
Speaker 2: And then this is how we do here at Life
Speaker 2: in Spanguish. We either come back to a conversation or
Speaker 2: a ghetto ass hood story because that's what we donita.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Well listen, Rosa, let us know what happens.
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