WEBVTT - Kathy & Susan at Sea! | Golden Hour 0:00:07.200 --> 0:00:11.800 Welcome back everybody, the Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. You 0:00:12.080 --> 0:00:14.400 have no idea what Kathy and I've been up to. 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:17.799 We're so happy to be back, Katy say hello, oh 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:21.520 my goodness, hello hello. Today we're going to answer more 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:25.040 of your fan questions. Make sure you're submitting those. We 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:26.479 love reading them. 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:29.720 All you have to do is go to bachelornation dot 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:35.120 com slash Golden Hour and submit all your questions, comments, everything. 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:39.959 Yes, send us everything, because we're here for you and 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:42.600 you know, we talk about everything and we try to 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:45.479 give the best advice that we can. And you know 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.199 what else you can also dm us on Instagram at 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:49.160 Bachelor Happy Hour. 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:55.720 Okay, before we get into today's episode, we have to 0:00:55.760 --> 0:00:59.280 give you guys updates on our crew. So far, Susan 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:03.760 and I are on a twelve day cruise to eleven 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:10.720 eleven okay, eleven, who's counting eleven days? We're doing Istanbul, Turkey. 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:14.600 We're starting in Athens, Greece, and oh my gosh, I 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:15.600 don't even know where to begin. 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:19.959 You want to talk about Athens? Kathy was so impressed 0:01:20.040 --> 0:01:24.200 with Athens. I mean we basically hiked and then hit 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:27.800 every store every restaurant. We only had twenty four hours. 0:01:28.120 --> 0:01:31.800 But how about the hotel. We had a little boutique 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:36.039 hotel rate in the center of everything, and was such 0:01:36.080 --> 0:01:39.400 a doll baby. We have a new friend, he was. 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:41.560 So let me say, for all of you who don't know, 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:45.720 Susan loves to shop. So we shopped till we dropped 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:49.480 on the first day. And then I was going to 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:53.520 the Acropolis, come hell or high water. So I got 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:57.400 up the next morning really early, and I went up. 0:01:57.680 --> 0:01:59.360 You and I no, no, no, no no. 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:03.640 We climbed up and we saw the videos out there, 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:08.840 saw the sunset. We did climb up. I wanted to 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:09.399 go in. 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:14.440 I wanted to touch the bas because it was too late. 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:18.440 There's yes, so at a certain time whatever, whatever. But 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:24.040 the views, how about it? And the rooftop of our hotel. 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:28.480 We looked at the Acropolis. I mean, it's just phenomenal. 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:31.040 You were it was phenomenal. And they light the Acropolis 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:33.680 up and night with four flights. But then I could 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:37.560 not leave Athens Grease without going, so Susan wanted to 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:40.320 sleep in a little bit. So Pathy got up by 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:46.040 herself and trucked up to the Acropolis. Found a shortcut, 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:49.320 you know, climbed through these beautiful streets and got in 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:51.960 and there were no tickets available, and I am so 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.640 proud of myself. I talked my way in and I 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:58.040 bought a ticket, and I got to walk around and 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:02.920 see the arthan On and you know these thousands of 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:09.680 year old structures, said, are incredible. Yes, yes, Kathy, what 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:12.800 happened Kathy that you said? You actually pulled out? Your 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:15.760 friend said, I need the video of this. You we 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:19.280 were trying to get in somewhere or something like. What 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:23.079 was it? I don't know. I mean, that's amazing. When 0:03:23.120 --> 0:03:24.120 I asked, so if. 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:27.640 Susan does we get right in what all that happened? 0:03:27.680 --> 0:03:29.680 I don't know, but we But let me just tell 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:32.240 you if y'all have not been to Athens, Greeze, and 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:35.760 you have not, so many of these World UNESCO sites 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:39.480 are amazing. And I will tell you the acrop list 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:43.000 is not disappoint You get up there and you're walking 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:47.040 and you can just feel the Greek mythology. You can 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:50.920 feel the gods. They're talking to you, Athena, Apollo, all 0:03:51.040 --> 0:03:54.640 those guys, they're all up there. It was an amazing day. 0:03:55.520 --> 0:03:59.320 And then what do we do feel, feel and taste 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:04.680 the food. It was unbelievable. I mean they know how 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:08.520 to cook. I enjoy food from every country. However, we 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:11.560 just got to Istanbul and we'll tell you about that later, 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:12.880 and that. 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:15.920 We haven't a discoveredy yet, but we're going to do it. Yes, 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:19.359 we're getting ready to so An, it's cruise ship. Wait, 0:04:19.480 --> 0:04:22.239 one more thing. I have to say. This cruise ship 0:04:22.480 --> 0:04:28.600 is amazing. The food is to die for. There's more restaurants. 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.000 In fact, I think, Susan, I haven't said this to 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:33.240 you yet. I think I could live on a cruise ship. 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:36.360 I don't need a bigger bedroom than what I have. Wait, 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:40.160 did you food for you? Did you know that, senior citizen? 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:41.200 This isn't known fact. 0:04:41.279 --> 0:04:47.120 It's been printed that many retire women, older women book 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:52.040 back to back cruises, like all year round. That's all 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:55.839 they do is cruise and it's probably cheaper than paying rent. 0:04:57.040 --> 0:04:59.440 Well, you know that is an idea. And I will say, 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:01.440 the people we are so friendly. You and I have 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:04.200 made so many friends. We just got on this ship 0:05:04.240 --> 0:05:06.640 a few days ago and we've made so many friends. 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:11.040 So I highly recommend it. I just think it's fabulous 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:15.320 food entertainment and someone comes in and makes my bed 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:16.200 every day. 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:20.200 The service is impeccable. Our little room Stewarts, they're here 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.760 every day. You come in in the afternoon. There's always 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:27.560 fresh ice, fresh sparkling water or still water. Everything's pristine. 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:30.520 It's a nice way to go and we love sharing 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:32.320 all this stuff with you. We have a lot more 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:35.599 to come, so stay tuned and thank you for letting 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:36.080 us share. 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:39.479 And let me just say, We've only been on this 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:42.560 ship a few days, but I get fresh towels, I 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:44.880 get something to make my bed. Susan, I hate to 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:46.960 tell you I may not ever get off this ship, 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:48.839 so just say, you know, we are. 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:49.960 Having a great time. 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:53.520 All right, Let's get into the episode, and let's start 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:56.200 with the question of the day. What is it like 0:05:56.360 --> 0:06:00.760 for you interacting with younger people when you're on vacation. 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:04.080 What are the dynamics of the cruise you're on now? 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:07.960 In terms of ages? Is it a lot of different ages? 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:10.080 You know, tell tell us what you think. What do 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:10.920 you think is isn't it? 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:13.440 That is one of the most amazing things. I've been 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.800 on several several cruises and a lot with children. This 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:22.720 is adults only. It is totally different than any cruise 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:26.799 that I've been on. Actually, there's a mixture of ages. 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:30.760 There are some younger ones and much older, so everybody 0:06:30.920 --> 0:06:35.640 kind of floats. There's short ones, tall ones, you know 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:38.120 what I mean. Here's what I there's a lot of 0:06:38.120 --> 0:06:41.920 gay influence. There's a few, and the shows are fabulous. 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:44.320 But I don't have a problem dealing with We made 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:47.800 young friends. Kathy, the Charlie who don't stop texting us. 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:49.359 He likes to chat. 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:54.160 We have found that if your whether you're sitting at 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:57.680 the pool, sitting at a restaurant, sitting at a bar, 0:06:58.160 --> 0:07:02.040 people just lean over. It doesn't matter what their ages, 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:05.839 they just want to chat. They're friendly. Everybody starts a 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:10.320 conversation with where are you from? And everybody knows somebody 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:13.440 from your hometown. So it's like this sort of built in, 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:17.640 great little community. And every day you meet new people 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.440 and you sit with new people, and you just feel 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:22.840 like you have this great new group of friends. We've 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:24.480 already exchanged phone numbers. 0:07:24.800 --> 0:07:29.360 And don't you find, Kathy that everybody's happy, they're on vacation, 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:31.480 everybody's in a good mood. They want to know who's 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:34.800 next to you. And fortunately for us, they kind of 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:37.600 a lot of people have recognized us. So we get 0:07:37.640 --> 0:07:40.600 to mingle and take pictures with these people and they 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:45.160 you know that they love that we're normal, well not normal, 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:48.440 but they love that we're social. And so many of 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:51.640 them have said to us, and I'll quit, I'm so 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:54.680 happy to see that you really are friends? Did you 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.520 remember that tat? How many times? Why do people think 0:07:57.520 --> 0:07:59.440 that we're not? I don't know. 0:08:00.080 --> 0:08:02.320 I will say though, the other thing that the cruise 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:06.600 sets up that I don't think happens at other vacation spots. 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:12.520 There's bingo night, there's games night, there's karaoke nights. So 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:16.640 there's these fabulous set up plans for everybody, and it 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:18.600 doesn't matter what age you are. 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:20.200 We were, you know. 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:23.480 Clapping for a gentleman that was probably in his late 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:25.520 seventies singing at Brig Sinatru. 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:28.000 I'm sorry, Kathy, I just jumped in there. I beg 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:31.880 your pardon. But how about that night you went to karaoke? Huh, 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:33.559 It's amazing. It's amazing. 0:08:33.640 --> 0:08:37.880 So I think I think that younger people and older 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:42.840 people on cruises had this unique opportunity to get to 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:47.800 know each other, make friends and really enjoy each other. 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:50.720 We've you know, I've shared pictures of my grandchildren and 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:55.440 my children, and people ask me all about Austin, Texas. 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:58.520 They want to come visit. It's really, you know, it's 0:08:58.600 --> 0:09:01.480 it's sort of like COVID when you're on a ship 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:04.079 and you can't get off. You just start having these 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:07.520 great conversations. Nobody's on their phones. It's great. 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:08.120 I love it. 0:09:08.160 --> 0:09:12.040 I recommend Lyley. 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:14.400 Now everybody's always happy. Yeah, it's a good time. It's 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:24.000 a good time. So what do you think cats? Should 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:25.840 we get into our fan questions? 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:30.280 Absolutely, let's go for it. 0:09:30.440 --> 0:09:35.839 Mel, Right, Hi, ladies, my friend and I adore your podcast. 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:39.760 I am curious about your thoughts on kids at weddings. 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:43.720 I'm getting married next year and I'm trying to decide 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:47.640 if there should be kids there or not. Also, any 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:53.200 other wedding planning advice you would have would be appreciated. 0:09:53.280 --> 0:09:57.800 Thank you. Well, hey, you need to call me. Susan's 0:09:57.800 --> 0:09:58.320 in efficient. 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:01.559 But you know what my advice is, Mel run Off 0:10:01.640 --> 0:10:06.959 and Elope, weddings are the most expensive thing on the planet. 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:11.440 The flowers are twice the price, the liquors twice the price. 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:16.559 Everything the musicians. I mean, but that isn't your question. 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:19.079 You asked if there should be kids or not, And 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:24.240 my thought is, talk to your fiance, see what she 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:30.199 or he would like to have, and if you guys, 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:32.720 come to a decision together. Because it is your day 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:37.520 and you get to do your wedding your way, and 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:40.720 that is my advice to you. I will say my 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:44.839 best wedding device is plan early, get it going early. 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:48.920 Because it's a lot to plan a wedding. Therefore, go 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:53.440 albe What about you, Susan, Yes, personally, it depends on 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:56.160 how formal your wedding is. There's some weddings that aren't 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:57.840 so formal, and I don't think it's a big deal 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:00.960 to have kids running around. However, if it were me 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:04.960 and you're asking me for my advice, absolutely no children 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.680 at a wedding. You want to enjoy yourself. The people 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:10.880 coming don't want to bring their kids unless you have 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:14.480 a babysitter upstairs in the hotel room. A wedding, I 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.480 think is for adults. If it's your own children, that's 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:21.160 a whole different story. Or if some the ring bearer 0:11:21.280 --> 0:11:24.480 or maybe your niece or nephew, the bride, little flower 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.320 girl they stay for part of it and then go upstairs. 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:30.400 They shouldn't be there when the alcohol's being served and 0:11:30.440 --> 0:11:34.440 so on. And Kathy, I'll second you on that start 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:39.160 early thing, because yeah, it is stressful, but if you 0:11:39.200 --> 0:11:42.720 get things accomplished early on, then don't sweat the small 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:48.000 stuff because after all, well it's a wedding. Things are 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.800 going to go wrong. But just have fun. 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.560 So two of the things I'm thinking about. One is 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:57.800 the little things that go wrong. Now, the only people 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:00.280 who are going to know are you? Are you, maybe 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:02.760 your fiance? No one else is going to notice, So 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:05.760 just have fun. No one's gonna notice. The other thing 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:10.280 I would say is, you guys have to work together 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:13.960 for this wedding, so really you've got to talk to 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:17.120 your fiance. You keep saying, I'm getting married, I want 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:20.560 to decide what to do. I think you really have 0:12:20.880 --> 0:12:25.000 to plan it with your partner. And one thing I 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:28.719 said to my daughter when she got married, enjoy the 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:33.160 moment because you're not hopefully only doing this once. So 0:12:33.640 --> 0:12:36.280 you know, hire a videographer, hire a photographer, do all that, 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:37.880 but try to enjoy the moment. 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:42.120 If your wedding planning it, you're not enjoying it as 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:46.640 much as the moment. I agree. But you know what, Kathy, 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:51.960 just to remind you, man don't have a lot to 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:55.120 do with making the wedding plans. Do you agree or not. 0:12:55.920 --> 0:12:58.040 I think it depends on the age. I think it 0:12:58.200 --> 0:13:01.840 totally depends on the age. That's true. That's true. And 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:05.040 we don't know how I yeah, we don't know how 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:07.600 old he is. But I think you know, I think 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:11.000 she had Times are changing, Susan, my daughter's husband. 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:12.520 He helped plan the wedding. 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:16.840 He had definite things he wanted at his wedding, and 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:18.400 that's why I say, I think it has to be 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:19.360 a combined effort. 0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:26.120 But Mal, don't forget to hire your officiant. Susan, were 0:13:26.160 --> 0:13:29.080 you o boy? Well, I'm glad you wrote in. We 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:31.680 appreciate it and we wish you nothing but the best. 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:35.040 Yeah, let us know, let us know how the wedding goes. 0:13:35.080 --> 0:13:38.440 It said next year. But you know what, enjoyed the 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:41.240 time of your fiance because the wedding is going to 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:43.280 come a whole lot faster and you think it is. 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:46.520 And by the way, May suggests for a honeymoon, take 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:48.280 adult only cruise. 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:49.319 You'll love it. 0:13:49.320 --> 0:13:51.880 It's so fun. There's lots of on our cruise. There 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:53.640 are lots of people who just got married. 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:57.720 Yeah, he's going to have the cruise lines books solid 0:13:57.800 --> 0:13:59.080 for the next ten years. 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:03.360 It's not a bad way to go, Susan, not right, 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.680 Let's move on to the next one. 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:09.280 This is from anonymous. Hi girls. 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.720 First of all, I love you both and listen all 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:17.600 the time. I honestly catch myself refreshing Spotify just to 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:21.240 see if there's a new episode. Lately, though, I've been 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:24.360 feeling kind of sad and stuck. I've been with my 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:28.400 best friend and boyfriend for eight years. He truly is 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:31.720 my person. He's been by my side through thick and thin, 0:14:32.120 --> 0:14:34.480 and I trust him with my whole heart, which is 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:37.600 a big deal for me. We're both twenty six and 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:41.680 trying our best, but we're struggling financially. He wants to 0:14:41.720 --> 0:14:44.600 propose and get married, but says he won't feel right 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:48.720 doing that until he's financially stable, which I deeply respect. 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:53.160 But it's still hard. We don't live together yet, not 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:56.720 because we don't want to, but because life is so expensive. 0:14:56.960 --> 0:14:59.600 We're both living at home trying to save, but no 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:02.960 matter how much we do. It never feels like enough. 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:06.520 Between student loans, car payments, and the cost of everything, 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:10.960 it feels impossible. We'd remove fine a house but be 0:15:11.120 --> 0:15:14.800 happy with even a small apartment. Yet everything just feels 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.000 out of reach. I don't even know if I'm looking 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:20.200 for advice or just needing to vent, but lately life 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:24.240 just feels so heavy, especially when it seems like everyone 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:28.920 else is celebrating new beginnings while we're just treading water. 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:33.280 Oh not, bless you know what, You're allowed to feel 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.640 these feelings. I mean, that's what makes us. But maybe 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:40.360 you need to sit down or hire somebody to help 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:42.640 you go on a specific kind of budget so that 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:46.800 you're saving X amount of dollars to achieve the goals 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:50.000 that you want. It is going to take some time, 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:53.160 and maybe you could have started this a while ago. 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:56.480 I get your staying you're surviving, but if you're living 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:59.800 at moms, then there is a way to be saving 0:15:59.840 --> 0:16:01.440 some movie for starters. 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:04.440 Kathy, what do you yeah? I mean, I yeah, I 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:06.560 think this is tough. I mean, I don't know what 0:16:06.640 --> 0:16:10.040 their jobs are. I don't know what you guys, I 0:16:10.040 --> 0:16:14.040 don't know what you're doing. But student loans are really high, 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:17.920 the interest rates are high, car payments are high, insurance 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:22.320 is high. But if you're living at home and you 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:25.800 guys aren't able to save money, then I agree with Susan. 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:29.600 I think it's time to sort of reevaluate where your 0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:34.720 money's going and set a budget because maybe you know, 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:38.000 you go out to dinner too much, maybe you buy 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:41.120 too many clothes, maybe one too many vacations. I don't 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:45.040 know what it is, but life can feel heavy when 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:48.960 the weight of financial pressure is on you. So Anonymous, 0:16:49.360 --> 0:16:52.560 maybe get some advice on how to get on a 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:58.440 more stable footing with your with your partner. And if 0:16:58.440 --> 0:17:01.680 you're feeling sad and stuck, maybe you've got some other 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:05.760 things going on in your life. I will say to you, 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:08.680 it doesn't matter what age you are. We all struggle. 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:12.720 We all have financial issues. It's about managing your money 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:13.639 and your time. 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:18.240 And it does feel impossible that and the other trick 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:22.040 is it is going to take time. However, if you 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:24.520 are paying rent at home at first, I didn't think 0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:27.159 you would be because your your parents student lines are 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:29.960 the worst. If you are and you're paying rent, then 0:17:30.000 --> 0:17:32.920 maybe you could get a small apartment. Figure it out. 0:17:33.119 --> 0:17:36.080 If you don't want to wait, you know that's a possibility, 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:38.800 but take a check, a self check on what you're 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:41.400 spending every week. Well, Kathy made me know it. 0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:44.200 And I was like, wow, I was going to say, 0:17:44.280 --> 0:17:49.040 right down, I did this right down. You know, look 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:51.760 at where you're spending your money and write down every 0:17:52.119 --> 0:17:55.480 dollar you spend for a month. And I think you 0:17:55.680 --> 0:18:00.439 and your partner will see that you're probably spending money 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:04.280 in ways that you can cut and put towards a 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:07.800 savings for an apartment. So you know, do that first. 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:10.200 Try and give yourself you've heard of a fit check, 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:12.520 give yourself a budget check. 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:16.760 And decide what you're going to save out of each paycheck. 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:19.240 And I don't care how short you are that week, 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:22.720 you save that amount that goes first. My dad taught 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:24.760 me that that was a little hard to do. It 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:28.080 really was. But we wish you luck and let us know, 0:18:28.440 --> 0:18:32.440 let us know, don't get so depressed over it, because 0:18:33.119 --> 0:18:36.919 it's life, it's part of it. Your want and need 0:18:36.960 --> 0:18:40.040 for this should make you pull back a little bit 0:18:40.119 --> 0:18:42.200 and make it happen. You can make it happen. 0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:46.720 Yeah, yes, you know what I learned a long time ago. 0:18:48.160 --> 0:18:54.880 There is always more month than money always always. 0:18:54.920 --> 0:18:57.320 And on that note, anonymous, good luck. 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:01.480 I'd let us know, let us far and be thankful, 0:19:01.680 --> 0:19:03.080 and be thankful for February. 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:08.040 It only has twenty eight days. Good luck. We wish 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:11.600 you the best. Thank you so much for writing again. 0:19:11.680 --> 0:19:16.040 All right now we have an anonymous again. Hi, ladies, 0:19:16.960 --> 0:19:18.440 I miss seeing you weekly. 0:19:18.800 --> 0:19:19.000 Ah. 0:19:20.240 --> 0:19:24.119 Kathy's so excited to see you on Bachelor in Paradise. 0:19:24.200 --> 0:19:28.320 We all are. We can't we can't wait. I'm having 0:19:28.359 --> 0:19:32.240 some trouble in my new relationship. I really like him, 0:19:32.720 --> 0:19:38.240 but he's having some trouble completing his tasks. If you 0:19:38.480 --> 0:19:44.720 catch my ouch. He said he's had trouble with this before, 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:48.680 so I know it's not me. Well that's a good thing, 0:19:49.119 --> 0:19:53.240 but I can't help thinking I could be doing more 0:19:53.960 --> 0:19:56.320 and I just don't know what to do. Any advice 0:19:56.480 --> 0:20:02.520 is appreciate it, thank you. Okay, what do you think 0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:02.920 that means? 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:03.199 Right? 0:20:03.280 --> 0:20:06.080 Guys? You know I want to say it like it is. 0:20:07.000 --> 0:20:09.359 There's a few things you can do, and if I 0:20:09.400 --> 0:20:11.359 get it, I don't how old you is. Some men 0:20:11.600 --> 0:20:14.600 start that earlier than others. First, take a trip to 0:20:14.640 --> 0:20:18.280 the doc and see if the magic pill. The Seattle 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:22.000 sort of viag or whatever is okay with his system. 0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:26.439 And then if that doesn't work and you have a 0:20:26.640 --> 0:20:31.679 good open communication line, then you would probably I would 0:20:31.760 --> 0:20:35.280 introduce some toys that he could use with you to 0:20:35.400 --> 0:20:38.640 help satisfy your needs. I don't think there's anything wrong 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:41.480 with that. What do you think? So wait, the first 0:20:41.520 --> 0:20:44.600 trip is to the doctor. I would think, yeah, ceep, 0:20:44.640 --> 0:20:47.680 he can get some help. Sometimes the little magic pill 0:20:47.720 --> 0:20:49.240 helps a man. Sometimes. 0:20:49.359 --> 0:20:52.280 Let me just say, another benefit of being a cruise 0:20:52.280 --> 0:21:00.760 ship man overboard. Oh just kidding, I'm sure. I mean 0:21:00.840 --> 0:21:04.440 it's listen, can you do? I mean, I think he's 0:21:04.440 --> 0:21:08.600 got to be What she or he does not say 0:21:09.480 --> 0:21:14.600 is whether or not he's willing to get help. 0:21:16.640 --> 0:21:17.560 Anonymous rights. 0:21:17.680 --> 0:21:20.560 I can't help thinking I could be doing more and 0:21:20.600 --> 0:21:23.680 that I don't like that for you to say that, anonymous, 0:21:23.720 --> 0:21:28.440 because sometimes it has nothing to do with you. Well, 0:21:28.520 --> 0:21:34.879 sometimes sometimes it's the other person's just chemical, you know, 0:21:35.040 --> 0:21:39.680 chemistry chemical. So get him, get him her, whoever this is, 0:21:40.119 --> 0:21:41.760 get him to talk about it and go to a 0:21:41.840 --> 0:21:44.000 doctor and see if they can help. But for you 0:21:44.119 --> 0:21:47.440 to say you could be doing morey, maybe. 0:21:47.160 --> 0:21:50.560 She's not an initiator. Maybe she's just feeling all this 0:21:50.760 --> 0:21:54.080 and laying back and not doing anything. Maybe you could 0:21:54.080 --> 0:21:57.600 initiate If that's the case, If you feel like you 0:21:57.640 --> 0:22:01.000 could be doing more, maybe you could started up and 0:22:01.400 --> 0:22:01.919 hold on? 0:22:02.119 --> 0:22:06.199 Are you seriously hold on, Susan? Are you seriously going 0:22:06.240 --> 0:22:09.919 to tell me that a guy gets in bed with 0:22:09.960 --> 0:22:11.920 a guy, a girl gets in bed with a girl, 0:22:12.040 --> 0:22:13.960 a guy gets in bed with a girl, whatever the 0:22:14.000 --> 0:22:17.639 situation is. Are you seriously going to tell me that 0:22:17.720 --> 0:22:22.120 if one's interested and the other one isn't, that initiating 0:22:23.080 --> 0:22:24.400 repeatedly is going to change. 0:22:25.840 --> 0:22:32.120 I think it gets things started when they get set 0:22:32.160 --> 0:22:34.480 in their ways and they know they're they're having a 0:22:34.520 --> 0:22:38.040 hard time to get an erection, so they stop trying. 0:22:38.720 --> 0:22:41.960 You still try and let them know your needs. There's 0:22:42.040 --> 0:22:43.360 nothing wrong with that. 0:22:44.119 --> 0:22:49.000 I agree, But this person says, I can't help thinking I. 0:22:48.920 --> 0:22:52.399 Could be doing more. That's what I'm saying. If we 0:22:52.520 --> 0:22:55.359 don't know how she is, maybe she's just laying next 0:22:55.359 --> 0:22:58.040 to him feeling like maybe I should maybe, and she's 0:22:58.080 --> 0:23:00.879 not doing anything. So he's just in a past watching 0:23:00.880 --> 0:23:03.080 football and going to sleep. You know what I mean, 0:23:03.359 --> 0:23:07.440 She's got to know him. You're not going to grind 0:23:07.440 --> 0:23:09.840 and it means that I would be and I'd be 0:23:09.960 --> 0:23:14.600 chatting about But men also would feel you don't want 0:23:14.600 --> 0:23:18.560