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Speaker 1: basically how we started every podcast. Can you believe that

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Speaker 1: it's December? But I mean it's first of all, I'm

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Speaker 1: Since yeah, yeah, it's going to be a year. It

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Speaker 1: seems like such a fake year. God, I'm almost fifty.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, having some deep commos to start this,

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Speaker 1: I don't feel that's fine. Not the fifties bad, but

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Speaker 1: to Yeah, it's as fired. Well, we were talking and

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Speaker 1: been such a good year. I don't feel like it's

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Speaker 1: game all in life, let's go um. But we're moving

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Speaker 1: So I wanted to ask you. I like to do

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Speaker 1: So I mean my value was I mean, I, um,

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Speaker 1: like you know, a lot of my friends don't. And

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00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:06,160
Speaker 1: so I said yes, and I'm gonna go do that,

433
00:23:06,359 --> 00:23:08,680
Speaker 1: and it kind of just shifted in my narrative of

434
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:12,159
Speaker 1: like instead of looking at oh, she's not going to

435
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 1: be here that much longer and feeling like, I mean,

436
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:19,120
Speaker 1: I am sad about that, but like, also, she's still

437
00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:22,240
Speaker 1: here right now. Instead of focusing on that moment, focus

438
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 1: on the right now moment. And I think sort of

439
00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:25,879
Speaker 1: like what you're saying, as we all get older, you know,

440
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:29,280
Speaker 1: I'm watching my parents deal with the grief of losing

441
00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:32,160
Speaker 1: their parents, and so then it shifts your narrative too,

442
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:35,239
Speaker 1: of like, well, my parents are going to be here

443
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:38,359
Speaker 1: forever either, and so just really getting to experience the

444
00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 1: time that I have with them now and being grateful

445
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:43,520
Speaker 1: for the relationships that I have with both of my parents.

446
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:45,880
Speaker 1: I don't think anyone comes from a perfect family, but

447
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 1: I have so much respect for my parents, and they're

448
00:23:48,560 --> 00:23:50,639
Speaker 1: like growth and evolution in life, and they've taught me

449
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:54,199
Speaker 1: so much. And um, you know, my mom has been

450
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,200
Speaker 1: coming up here a lot more to see her mom,

451
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,160
Speaker 1: and sometimes I let work get in a way of that,

452
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 1: even like I'm oh, I'm so busy and it's stressful,

453
00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 1: and I would. She came last week and I was like,

454
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm so freaking lucky that I have

455
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 1: this mom who loves me so much and we get

456
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 1: to like hang together and have fun, and um, I'm

457
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:14,679
Speaker 1: just trying to really like embrace the present with that

458
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,720
Speaker 1: kind of stuff and fucking chili, like I mean, especially

459
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:21,199
Speaker 1: while you can like there's just so much to be

460
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:24,680
Speaker 1: grateful for. So I loved that reminder. And for me,

461
00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 1: when I read Maria's driver's caption, um, it just reminded me,

462
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 1: like the things that no longer serve us, Like there's

463
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 1: a lot that I've let go of, and a lot

464
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 1: of that a lot of times as narratives in my

465
00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 1: own head, and one of mine is that like some

466
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:42,919
Speaker 1: of the things that seem so important in the moment

467
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:45,919
Speaker 1: and that I'm so stressed about, like what is actually

468
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:48,680
Speaker 1: that urgent or what is actually the thing I need

469
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 1: to be super prioritizing. And for me on that Saturday

470
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: next Saturday, it's my grandmother and just being present with

471
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 1: her and enjoying that time that I have and not

472
00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 1: letting work or tiredness from the week get in the

473
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 1: way of that, you know, right right, And I think

474
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:08,879
Speaker 1: it's important, Like you know, it's whether it's Alzheimer's or

475
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 1: just aging or moving to a different city, like we

476
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 1: all like the person that you remember from your childhood,

477
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 1: whether she had Alzheimer's or not, she would be a

478
00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: different person today, you know. So it's like, how do

479
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 1: you experience the person that she is right now? Because

480
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,360
Speaker 1: there will be those moments where she will be lucid

481
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 1: and you like that's what you will take with you.

482
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 1: Is like, thank god I got those final moments with her,

483
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 1: you know. It's um And look, it's the same way

484
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,679
Speaker 1: with my parents, Like I wish that they were still

485
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:46,159
Speaker 1: like young and vibrant in the way that I have

486
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:49,680
Speaker 1: memories of. So it's like now that when when I'm

487
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,200
Speaker 1: home and they seem old and I get annoyed because

488
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 1: they can't do the things that they used to do,

489
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,440
Speaker 1: I'm just like, thank god I have old parents. I

490
00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:00,080
Speaker 1: could not have them anymore. Um. So it's like I

491
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 1: need to check myself. And this was just like a

492
00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 1: really nice reminder of it. You know. It's I I

493
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 1: from Afar. Do I harbor some jealousy of the fact

494
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 1: that my sister can hop in the car and an

495
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,199
Speaker 1: hour later be at my parents house and having my

496
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 1: mom cook dinner. And it's like I would love to

497
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,359
Speaker 1: be able to do that. But because I chose a

498
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 1: different path in life that like, thank god my parents

499
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:25,440
Speaker 1: were like supportive and wanted me to follow my dreams

500
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:28,160
Speaker 1: and all of those things. Like I recognize that they

501
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:33,120
Speaker 1: suffered for my happiness. So if I can give them

502
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 1: the joy of just spending time with them, it's like

503
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm giving something back. Yeah, And I

504
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 1: think it's also like when you were just talking, I

505
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 1: was remembering, UM, my grandfather who was married to this grandmother. UM.

506
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:52,360
Speaker 1: He died from Parkinson's of some years back, and when

507
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 1: he was really sick, he was in a wheelchair, and

508
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: he was always a very active guy, and so it

509
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:58,640
Speaker 1: was really hard. Like I remember one day him saying,

510
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,879
Speaker 1: I never thought I would end up he and UM,

511
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 1: that was so hard. You know, that's also really hard disease.

512
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 1: But I remember one time, UM, I went to go

513
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 1: stay with him, similar situation, and we were sitting there,

514
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 1: like he's in this wheelchair so he can't be moving around,

515
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 1: and so he asked me to move him to the

516
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,639
Speaker 1: front window of their house and we sat and watched

517
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,080
Speaker 1: cars go by because he loves cars, and there would

518
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:24,719
Speaker 1: be some that would go by and he would tell me,

519
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:27,639
Speaker 1: like what they were like they would pass really fast

520
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: and he would be like, oh that was a blah

521
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 1: blah blah because he just knew because he loved cars.

522
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 1: And I will never forget that memory, like that was

523
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 1: I just remember feeling this like satisfied, warm feeling in

524
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 1: my heart the whole time I sat there. I sat

525
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 1: there with him for like two hours looking at cars,

526
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 1: and it's so silly, and it's just like, I can't

527
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:49,480
Speaker 1: you know that that moment, Like I never sit for

528
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: two hours and look out a window that, but that's

529
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 1: a memory I'll have forever. And um, I still feel

530
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 1: very connected to him, you know, even after he's gone.

531
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 1: And so just thinking about in those moments when you're

532
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 1: making the chili or you're watching the cars, like you're

533
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 1: building memories that keep those people alive in you no

534
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 1: matter what. And you know they're all a part of

535
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:14,679
Speaker 1: us anyway, And so what a gift. And if you

536
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 1: don't have a family, maybe it's your friends, or maybe

537
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 1: it's um connections you have with animals, Like I have

538
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 1: friends who feel that way about horses that they own,

539
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:25,439
Speaker 1: or cats or dogs or anything like that. And so

540
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: I think it's just whatever is in your life and

541
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 1: in the present moment, just pausing to find out, like

542
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 1: what is your heart's priority in this life? And we

543
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:38,240
Speaker 1: just get so lost sometimes from that. So there's something

544
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 1: that's not serving you, that's blocking you from that. Like

545
00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 1: this is such a good time of the year to

546
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 1: like just evaluate those things, you know, and really like

547
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,360
Speaker 1: seek out the things that can give you the moments

548
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 1: and to go make the chili and really embrace all

549
00:28:53,280 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: the beautiful things around you. I mean, well said, it's like,

550
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: you know, it's I think that UM, the as hopeful

551
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:10,680
Speaker 1: and as joyful as the holidays can be, they're sad

552
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 1: and stressful to a lot of people. And I think

553
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: it's important to UM to even like dig back into

554
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 1: the memory bank to find, you know, the joyful memories

555
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: and the the strength that you need, like in those

556
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 1: joyful memories, like try to mind some of the strength

557
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 1: that you might need to like move forward, you know

558
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:35,360
Speaker 1: it can. I know that there are people that are

559
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 1: going to be alone and sad, and I mean, I

560
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: guess just lonely is the is the right word, UM,

561
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,480
Speaker 1: throughout the holidays. But like I do think it's to

562
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 1: take it back to like the peaks and valleys and

563
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: stuff it's like the sun. The sun is going to

564
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:51,719
Speaker 1: come up today, you know, And I mean it might

565
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: not a Nashville today. It hasn't, but but you know,

566
00:29:56,920 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 1: it's like and sit in that lonely to sit in

567
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 1: that sadness, but try and find some joy in another

568
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:06,200
Speaker 1: place to help pull yourself out of it. Well, I

569
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: will say this last year on Christmas, I had COVID

570
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: do you remember that? And Um, I was by myself

571
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:16,000
Speaker 1: and it was I was so like, I've never spent

572
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:18,320
Speaker 1: a Christmas by myself, which is a blessing. I know

573
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: to say that out loud. Um, but I got really

574
00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:24,560
Speaker 1: sad and I was kind of panicky, feeling almost of

575
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: just the idea of like being stuck by myself because

576
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: I couldn't leave my house because I had COVID. But

577
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 1: I remember I posted on Instagram like it just dawned

578
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 1: on me all of a sudden. I'm like, in two

579
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 1: or at that time, we actually have connection at our fingertips.

580
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 1: And so if you are alone, or you don't have

581
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: a family, or your friends are all gone, or you

582
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,840
Speaker 1: don't have very many friends, like, there are people and

583
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 1: support systems you can reach out to on social media

584
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 1: or in your friend. Like, if you guys are feeling

585
00:30:56,520 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 1: sadder alone, reach out to me and ship. We're here. Um,

586
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 1: And I just think that that there's a good way

587
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 1: that we can embrace that thing that we have now,

588
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 1: like that access that we have. There's a lot of

589
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 1: social media stuff that is overwhelming. I had a deep

590
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 1: dark scroll yesterday because I wasn't feeling well and I

591
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 1: was like deep doom scrolling on socials and I'm like,

592
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 1: I hate social media. But then it's like, no, I

593
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:22,880
Speaker 1: gotta remember there are these positive aspects of it, and

594
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 1: we do have access to people that we've never had before.

595
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: So if it is a hard time for you, like

596
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:31,360
Speaker 1: maybe making the chili is reaching out to a stranger

597
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 1: and sending them love on Christmas or something like that,

598
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:36,720
Speaker 1: like whatever it is. But I just think that we

599
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 1: do have options. And I just love this reminder because

600
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 1: to me, it's all about being present and not letting

601
00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:46,480
Speaker 1: the silly things that we let block us from real

602
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 1: life moments and memories, UM get in the way of that. Yeah,

603
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: all right, we have a couple of listener emails that

604
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 1: got a little more email than I thought. My eyes

605
00:31:56,400 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 1: are wet me to back, Um, I didn't want to

606
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: leave the year without reading to these are too like

607
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 1: um really thought out questions, and so I wanted to

608
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: get to you guys on these. This one comes from

609
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 1: Oh sorry, she has to be anonymous. Comes from anonymous.

610
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: She says, good morning. I'm a huge fan of the pod.

611
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 1: I love your friendship, and I love and y'all talk

612
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 1: about friendship. I have a friendship question and I would

613
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: love your advice about that. How do you slow down

614
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: a friendship? A little backstory. I have a good friend

615
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 1: over several years. She happens to be a lot, a

616
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 1: big personality who takes over the room. She's constantly in

617
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:42,200
Speaker 1: communication with me. I tend to be her emotional support person.

618
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 1: I enjoy her wit, her stories, and her friendship. However,

619
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 1: she takes a ton of my energy. Recently, I'm going

620
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 1: through some health issues in my family and I just

621
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 1: don't have the capacity to give her as much energy

622
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 1: as she seems to require. I want to say her friend,

623
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: but I'd like to be a little less of her

624
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: friend in frequency, on contact and energy. How do you

625
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 1: be a little less of a friend to a person?

626
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 1: She doesn't read the room very well, so I'm a

627
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 1: little at a loss of how to slowly back away

628
00:33:09,480 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 1: but still maintain friendship. Thank you both. I really enjoy

629
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 1: your show, Chip. I mean, it's a tough one not

630
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 1: knowing like how they're communicating. But I would imagine in

631
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 1: the modern day there's probably a lot of texting going on. Um.

632
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:28,480
Speaker 1: I suffer from that thing where I feel like I

633
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:33,040
Speaker 1: have to text people back immediately, and I've been trying

634
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:36,360
Speaker 1: to be better about it and prioritize like how I

635
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 1: respond um and how quickly I respond to people, because

636
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: it does it sets up expectations. So I think in

637
00:33:44,800 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 1: any relationship, whether it's work or friendship or romantic, like,

638
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 1: you have to set boundaries and the responsibility of setting

639
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 1: a boundary is always on us, and it can be

640
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 1: a very uncomfortable thing. But like I think the easiest

641
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 1: one to start with this texting create more space in

642
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:09,319
Speaker 1: the time that it takes to respond and and I

643
00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:13,920
Speaker 1: think when you do that, um, you can say, hey,

644
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I've been dealing with health thing, or hey

645
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 1: I was dealing with my family, and you can drop

646
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 1: hints um that hopefully. I mean, this sounds like this

647
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 1: person has trouble reading the room. Um, but you can

648
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 1: drop hints that hopefully people will pick up like, oh ship,

649
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 1: I didn't realize that they were dealing with that, Because

650
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:38,240
Speaker 1: if it needs to escalate to where you're like, hey, listen,

651
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: I told you my family is we're dealing with some ship.

652
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:43,080
Speaker 1: Like I can't deal with this right now. It doesn't

653
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 1: feel like it came out of nowhere, Like I think

654
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 1: you can sort of gradually like be like, come on,

655
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: pick up these like nuggets and I'm dropping you. So

656
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:52,319
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be super dramatic out of the

657
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 1: gate um that said, I mean, I don't know. I

658
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: don't know this friend. It sounds like they are a

659
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 1: big personality, and I certainly have people like that in

660
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 1: my life. But I think it's just like it's also

661
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: fair to say to somebody like, hey, I love you.

662
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 1: I'm going through a really hard time right now, like

663
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 1: I just need a little bit of space, like and

664
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: I don't want you to make like think that this

665
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 1: is more than it is, Like I just need a

666
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: little bit of me time and I need to focus

667
00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 1: on myself and my family. And if somebody cannot understand

668
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 1: that they're not really your friend, and I think if

669
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:31,799
Speaker 1: ultimately gets to where they're not your friend, you might

670
00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:36,240
Speaker 1: be better off. You know. It's like we need friends

671
00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 1: that understand our needs. Yeah, I think that's very that's

672
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,560
Speaker 1: a very good point. I was whenever I was reading

673
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,800
Speaker 1: this email, I was thinking about one of the biggest

674
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 1: kind of lessons that keeps appearing in my life that

675
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 1: I've really Another thing that I've really accepted over the

676
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 1: last year is like every relationship that we have is

677
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 1: here to serve as a purpose for our higher grow,

678
00:35:57,400 --> 00:36:01,200
Speaker 1: like our growth within ourselves. And so easy for us

679
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 1: to be like, uh, they just don't do this, or

680
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,439
Speaker 1: they you know, they're too much, are they blah blah

681
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 1: blah blah blah, and put the focus on what the

682
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 1: other person is doing. And one of the biggest lessons

683
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: that I keep getting is like, yeah, but what is

684
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 1: that showing me about me? Like in this situation, there

685
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 1: doesn't sound like there's a lot of boundaries period, And

686
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 1: and that's not really just on the other person, you know, like, um,

687
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:26,880
Speaker 1: we can't look at other people and go, well, they

688
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:29,919
Speaker 1: don't read the room. Well, that's not really their job either.

689
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 1: It's our job to communicate our needs and set boundaries

690
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:36,399
Speaker 1: where we need them. And so you know, I think

691
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 1: it's lovely when you can have a relationship where someone's like,

692
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 1: oh I just know you so well, or they're very

693
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 1: empathetic or intuitive about your needs. But that's just not

694
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,000
Speaker 1: going to be everyone. So instead of looking at this

695
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,359
Speaker 1: as like a problem, I think it's like an opportunity

696
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 1: actually for um a lot of growth on both ends

697
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:58,360
Speaker 1: and hopefully in your relationship. But if it's mirroring to you,

698
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:00,880
Speaker 1: or like what I hear is a lot of mirroring

699
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:04,720
Speaker 1: of like maybe there's not boundaries that are being said

700
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 1: to her the friend, and so if you're uncomfortable with

701
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: how much communication is happening, it's really on you to

702
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 1: to set that precedent, like you're saying, like I was

703
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 1: thinking exactly the same thing of like it's got to

704
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:21,000
Speaker 1: be a slower text response, like just becoming less available

705
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 1: because it doesn't sound like you're emotionally available to have

706
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 1: the capacity to respond. And that's not her fault and

707
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: that's not really your fault either, but it's just the

708
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:33,239
Speaker 1: situation right now. Um. So, like something I do with

709
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 1: friends is or with people when I'm in a hard

710
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: spot and I feel the urge like oh I have

711
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:40,800
Speaker 1: to respond, but I don't really have it in me.

712
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,919
Speaker 1: Is I put a one hour boundary on myself, like

713
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:47,919
Speaker 1: don't respond within an hour, And sometimes that's really hard

714
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 1: for me because I feel like people deserve that for me.

715
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 1: But if it's taking from my life force, like it's

716
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 1: not doing any of us any good. And I actually

717
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 1: know that my friends love me and care about me

718
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: enough that they I don't want me to do that,

719
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 1: so I don't have to tell them why or tell

720
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: them I'm even doing that, but it's just becoming like

721
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: slower in your response is like you said, so this

722
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 1: is not this back and forth pinging. Um. You also

723
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:13,680
Speaker 1: don't have to answer the phone every time, like if

724
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 1: they're calling and you can't answer at that moment or

725
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:18,520
Speaker 1: you're busy, like that's okay. You know, like they can

726
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 1: leave a message and you can call them back when

727
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:24,800
Speaker 1: you can or if you want to. UM. I differ

728
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:26,880
Speaker 1: in like we I don't think that you have to

729
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 1: explain unless you're you're comfortable doing that. But like something

730
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 1: that I do often do is over explain, and I'm

731
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 1: really working at trying to get better at that. But like,

732
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 1: really like when we set boundaries, we don't have to

733
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 1: go like well, I think they say, like a child

734
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 1: explained and adult informs. So like when I go into

735
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 1: my explaining, I'm like, hey, I can't do that because

736
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,359
Speaker 1: blah blah la la la, like and I'll list out

737
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 1: all the eight reasons I'm in like my child mode,

738
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: and I feel guilty not doing what the other person

739
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,879
Speaker 1: wants me to do, and so I'm over explaining as

740
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:04,720
Speaker 1: a people pleasing mechanism, like to keep them happy or

741
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: to not feel guilty myself, and like, that isn't what

742
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 1: I need to be doing, and that's actually not healthy

743
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 1: for the relationship. But like as an adult, hey, I

744
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 1: can't do that right now. I hope you have a blast.

745
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,680
Speaker 1: That's actually all we have to say, Like we don't

746
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:23,879
Speaker 1: owe anything else than that. And um, obviously, like Chips said,

747
00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 1: it's a little hard for us because we don't know

748
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 1: the situation fully or the relationship dynamic. But I would

749
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:32,359
Speaker 1: just start small and like do the small things. Take

750
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:34,319
Speaker 1: an hour to respond to a text, then you can

751
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:36,239
Speaker 1: take two hours, or you can you know, whatever it

752
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:39,720
Speaker 1: is that you need to do. But your health and um,

753
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 1: your mental health and emotional health is the priority and

754
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 1: your responsibility to take care of. So and and hopefully too.

755
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 1: It's like if the way that you're reacting to somebody

756
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 1: or responding to somebody changes, maybe they'll notice and say, hey,

757
00:39:55,840 --> 00:40:00,040
Speaker 1: is everything okay? Something seems different? Yeah, you know, and

758
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:03,720
Speaker 1: it kind of flips the narrative and suddenly the friend

759
00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:06,480
Speaker 1: is reading the room or you know, might be reading

760
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:10,640
Speaker 1: the room right, Like, sometimes I'm so mad that people

761
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 1: aren't quote unquote reading the room. And I'm like, but

762
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:17,360
Speaker 1: I'm also sending major mixed messages like I'm not saying

763
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 1: I'm tired. I'm like, yeah, let's go, and I'm like, oh,

764
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 1: I'm so tired, like to myself. They have no clue. Um,

765
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 1: but yeah, Like, and I do think you made a

766
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 1: good point. If like you try to start setting boundaries

767
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:34,839
Speaker 1: or taking care of yourself and it's not received and

768
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,959
Speaker 1: it's or it's like continued to be violated, that does

769
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:41,440
Speaker 1: give you something to evaluate about the relationship because for

770
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 1: us to have these safe relationships, like boundaries have to

771
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 1: be a part of it. And I am so guilty,

772
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 1: Like I'm not saying any of this is an indictment.

773
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 1: I'm literally like, oh girl, I feel this Like this

774
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:57,240
Speaker 1: is also my you know, my lessons here, and especially

775
00:40:57,280 --> 00:40:58,800
Speaker 1: in the last couple of years, and I've had to

776
00:40:58,880 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 1: let go of some relationship hips because boundaries were not

777
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 1: being respected and I wasn't able to set them and

778
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 1: hold them because they were just walked all over. And

779
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 1: so you'll get information either way, I guess is the point.

780
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 1: And but most importantly, you know you have to take

781
00:41:15,360 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 1: care of your own health mentally and emotional and physical.

782
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 1: So sending you all the love on that and um

783
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 1: God's speed and the friendship. Hopefully it's like a way

784
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:28,399
Speaker 1: to really deepen the relationship. I think, yeah, that's true intimacy, right,

785
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 1: like telling someone what you need you Yeah, exactly. Okay,

786
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: one more question then we have to go. But this

787
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,399
Speaker 1: one comes from Whitney. She said, Hey, Kelly and Chip,

788
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 1: I was wondering if you two found any non alcoholic

789
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: drinks you enjoyed during your suber curious time. Any recommendations

790
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: for mocktails, non alcoholic brands you tried or liked, or

791
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 1: ones you didn't. Alcohol totally ruins my sleep as well,

792
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 1: but at times I want a glass of wine with

793
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 1: dinner for the taste, or a fun drink with friends.

794
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:01,319
Speaker 1: The options of non alcoholic beverages are tempting, but I

795
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: hate wasting money trying them if they taste terrible, So

796
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 1: usually I end up drinking sparkling water instead. I did

797
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 1: end up buying proxies and alcoholic wine as it seemed

798
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:14,359
Speaker 1: to have a better reviews. Um, and I'd be happy

799
00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 1: to share my reviews as well once they arrive. Do

800
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 1: you chip what? You just drink soda water? Right? I

801
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 1: just drink soda water with a lime. I'm also not

802
00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:25,280
Speaker 1: really the type that, like, I don't go to bars

803
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: and like get I very rarely order like a specialty cocktail. Um,

804
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 1: It's never really been my jam. I've just been like,

805
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 1: I drink like beer or tequila soda. Like that's kind

806
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: of it. So I and I actually and one of

807
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,279
Speaker 1: those people. I love water, Like, I'll drink a ton

808
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:43,919
Speaker 1: of water. I also eat a ton of ice. Yeah,

809
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 1: So when I'm on my my kick of not drinking,

810
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 1: it's usually just soda water with a lime or water

811
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 1: um yeah. Yeah, And I do think that kind of

812
00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:02,200
Speaker 1: satisfies the like, yeah, craving a little bit. Um, I

813
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 1: totally get wanting sometimes to have the like experience of

814
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 1: having a fake mocktail or whatever um for me. Ritual

815
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 1: has a really good tequila and a gin alternative, and like, actually,

816
00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:15,720
Speaker 1: I'm not a big gin I'm not a gin drinker

817
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 1: at all, but I told you, like, the one drink

818
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 1: that I would crave when I wasn't drinking at all

819
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:24,880
Speaker 1: was a dirty martini. And I don't know why because

820
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 1: that wasn't really like my drink ever, but I guess

821
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:30,600
Speaker 1: it was like the salty nature or whatever. So I

822
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 1: got the ritual Gin. I'm looking at it right now,

823
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: and um, I would make dirty martini sometimes with that,

824
00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 1: like a foe one, and I love that because then

825
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 1: it's like I have one and I'm like okay, like

826
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 1: that craving is done and it's just over. And um.

827
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:46,320
Speaker 1: Mostly it would be like when I'm with my friends

828
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:48,760
Speaker 1: and they're drinking martinis, you know, and I just wanted

829
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:53,319
Speaker 1: to have something. Um. I also love amethyst. They have

830
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:57,240
Speaker 1: these like botanical drinks and I would make like yummy cocktails,

831
00:43:57,280 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 1: but it's like they're all infused like que number blueberry,

832
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:05,120
Speaker 1: all of these different infusions. Um, and I'm figured out

833
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:09,319
Speaker 1: a way to make like fake spicy marks or things

834
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:11,360
Speaker 1: like that that tasted really good. And so it was

835
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: just it felt like a treat, I guess, and kind

836
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 1: of Lacroix can do that for me. Sometimes too silly,

837
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 1: but it's like the sparkly, fizzy, like good tasting stuff

838
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 1: as far as wine, like, none of them are going

839
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 1: to be as good as as real one. But I

840
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 1: did find this brand Free that is so cheap and

841
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 1: it's probably so terrible. It's probably got so much sugar.

842
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 1: But every now and again, like when we would be traveling.

843
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:35,920
Speaker 1: That told you that was the hardest thing for me

844
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:38,439
Speaker 1: was when we would be on vacation and you guys

845
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:40,400
Speaker 1: were all drinking and I was just like, uh, like

846
00:44:40,719 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 1: the association of vacation boxing and having a beverage to

847
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 1: do that was that was a hard one. Um. So

848
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 1: there's this brand called Free. It's f R E and

849
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:55,320
Speaker 1: I don't know, I liked their white wine for some reason,

850
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,200
Speaker 1: so it just tasted good. And they have a fake

851
00:44:57,280 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 1: champagne too, So if you're looking for something for New

852
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 1: Year's and it's also like five dollars a bottle, she

853
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:05,839
Speaker 1: would bring like a whole suitcase full of bit right,

854
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 1: Like I have to check a bag, you guys, because

855
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 1: I have a lot of liquids. It's they're like man,

856
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 1: it's a hundred and fifty pounds. Also he's exaggerating. Okay, yeah,

857
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:24,239
Speaker 1: funny story, chip, Um. But yeah, so those are some options.

858
00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 1: And then like Chips said, you know he does the

859
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:28,719
Speaker 1: ice and just the soda water. It usually is just

860
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 1: the action of moving a drink to your mouth. It's

861
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 1: like once you get over that and you realize like,

862
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:35,920
Speaker 1: oh hey, it's kind of cool not to feel like

863
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 1: tipsy or definitely cool not to feel hungover. Um, that

864
00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 1: can kind of satisfy the cravings. And most people aren't

865
00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:45,439
Speaker 1: even paying attention, like they just think here drinking, so

866
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:48,399
Speaker 1: as they notice is because they don't want to look

867
00:45:48,440 --> 00:45:53,239
Speaker 1: like idiots, right right, I did notice, Like I mean

868
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 1: I have noticed. It's even prior to my little super

869
00:45:57,440 --> 00:46:02,560
Speaker 1: curiosity period. Um, so many places are now offering like mom,

870
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 1: it's a thing. There's a place in Austin called Sands

871
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 1: Bar and it's all mock tails. I'm like, I kind

872
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: of want to open one in Nashville. It's just like,

873
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:18,839
Speaker 1: I definitely think the option of having either. Like it's

874
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 1: like I was looking at my little bar in my

875
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:24,280
Speaker 1: house the other day and I literally have the equal

876
00:46:24,320 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 1: amounts of actual alcohol and non alcoholic options and that

877
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:31,799
Speaker 1: felt so good to me. I'm like, this to me

878
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 1: is how it should be. Is like, if people come

879
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 1: over and they want to drink, they could have a drink.

880
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:37,920
Speaker 1: If people come over and they don't want to drink

881
00:46:37,920 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: but they want to sit and hang with everyone, I

882
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:42,520
Speaker 1: can make them a fun, yummy mocktail, you know. Like

883
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 1: I don't know, I just like that idea of like

884
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 1: normalizing not drinking too, like just whatever works for each

885
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 1: person and not feeling this pressure of like you have

886
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,879
Speaker 1: to be drinking or if you don't drink, like what's

887
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 1: wrong with this person? You know, I don't know. We're

888
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 1: stations and those are some of my favorites. None of

889
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 1: that is sponsored, Damn I wish it was. But um

890
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:10,879
Speaker 1: actually add those names into the description of this podcast too.

891
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 1: But Chip, I ask you this every time, but I

892
00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 1: feel like I already know the answer. But is there

893
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 1: anything that you want to leave the people with in

894
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:22,800
Speaker 1: I mean, this is it. This is your last chance

895
00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:27,040
Speaker 1: to say any words of wisdom, anything you learned, any

896
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 1: loving kind notes you would like to leave the listeners with. Well, Um,

897
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 1: you know, I I just want to say thanks again

898
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 1: for listening. Really, I mean I had a couple of

899
00:47:39,800 --> 00:47:42,799
Speaker 1: moments last week where people sort of came up to

900
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 1: me and um told me how much they love the

901
00:47:45,640 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 1: podcast or their wife loved the podcast or um. And

902
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 1: you know I've said this before, like I forget that

903
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:56,520
Speaker 1: people listen, and it's just like it's really nice to

904
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 1: hear that, like we can slide into people's lives and

905
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 1: bring them some joy and UM, you know, I look

906
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 1: forward to continuing to do that. Thank you for the

907
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:10,919
Speaker 1: opportunity to like, you know, have an outlet. You know. Yeah,

908
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 1: this podcast has made me more vulnerable. It's made me

909
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:16,560
Speaker 1: talk about things that I never thought I would talk about.

910
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:18,840
Speaker 1: And I think it's probably easier because I forget that

911
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:23,360
Speaker 1: people listen, you know. UM, And so you know I

912
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:28,080
Speaker 1: appreciate it and always say hi and um, yeah, so

913
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 1: thanks for listening. I guess is, Hey, we'll see you

914
00:48:31,239 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 1: next year. Our new tagline should be thanks for letting

915
00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 1: a slide into your lives stay wet. Like I was

916
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 1: gonna say, of course, you make it sexual. Now I

917
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 1: can like all have pictures like Chip, but like it's

918
00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 1: like this little snake sliding around just like sliding. I

919
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:54,719
Speaker 1: was like just letting them in Okay, there's so many

920
00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 1: ways you could go with it. I'm just gonna stop

921
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:58,840
Speaker 1: myself because I probably I haven't had enough coffee to

922
00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 1: make it funny. Oh my god. But I will second

923
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:05,279
Speaker 1: all of those notes you made. Thank you guys so

924
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:08,920
Speaker 1: much for listening and always for saying hi and sliding

925
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:11,800
Speaker 1: into our d m s. Everyone's just sliding around everywhere

926
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 1: right now, but it does. I mean, this is like

927
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:18,600
Speaker 1: such a therapeutic situation for me and I know, like

928
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:20,279
Speaker 1: for our friendship. It's so funny get to talk to

929
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 1: you at least once a week if we get to

930
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:26,759
Speaker 1: see each other. Um, but it is always growing and

931
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:30,799
Speaker 1: learning and entertaining moment for both of us. And so

932
00:49:31,200 --> 00:49:35,080
Speaker 1: thank you guys for providing us with that outlet. And

933
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 1: we'll keep showing up if you do. So happy with

934
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:45,640
Speaker 1: a bang for everyone. And see you just made it

935
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:52,719
Speaker 1: sexual because that's a bang sliding and bang. So I mean,

936
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:55,000
Speaker 1: I might be forty seven, but I'll always be thirteen.

937
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:05,440
Speaker 1: Same um as you guys go in three as you

938
00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:09,600
Speaker 1: slide on into I hope that it goes out with

939
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Speaker 1: a bang of no fuck, it wouldn't be me if

940
00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:17,200
Speaker 1: I didn't mess it up one more time. As you

941
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 1: slide into I hope you leave two with a bang,

942
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:25,040
Speaker 1: and you always remember to live on the edge, and

943
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:30,439
Speaker 1: you know you keep you keep living on the edge,

944
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:35,719
Speaker 1: and always remember, guys, I promised to keep messing that

945
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 1: up forever and ever and ever. Welcome by