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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocates Law dot com.

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Speaker 2: Cal is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Teresa. So in

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Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But first, Cal, how long has it been

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Speaker 2: since you heard from Teresa?

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Speaker 3: Uh, well, it's been like ten days since the last

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Speaker 3: time we talked.

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Speaker 1: Okay, oh yeah, so what was the exchange the last

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Speaker 1: time you talked or was it on the phone or

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Speaker 1: was it when you saw each other?

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Speaker 3: Well, so we went glamping, Yes, glamping like not real

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Speaker 3: like for real camping, Like she made that very clear

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Speaker 3: and it was actually my idea, but she was super

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Speaker 3: into it.

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Speaker 4: And it wasn't overnight.

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Speaker 3: It was just for the scene for our date, you know,

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Speaker 3: Like we could have stayed if we wanted to, We

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Speaker 3: had that option, but we just wanted to do something different.

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Speaker 4: She's like, oh, showing camping trip sort of. Yeah, we

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Speaker 4: just out in nature. I brought my projector so we

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Speaker 4: could binge on the bear inside of this thing. Okay,

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Speaker 4: I actually love that star, you know, romantic, right. It

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Speaker 4: was great.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so watch a little TV and then look at

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Speaker 2: the stars and then but you weren't staying overnight.

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Speaker 3: No, but we did have this little fire going. We

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Speaker 3: made spores, we draped the wine out of these big

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Speaker 3: old mugs I brought. And she let me play my

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Speaker 3: harmonica playlist, which is like not me playing like okay,

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Speaker 3: she she humored me and let me play it for

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Speaker 3: the vibe.

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Speaker 4: You big harmonica fan?

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Speaker 3: Is that it?

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Speaker 4: I love listening to it. I could ever play it though, Okay,

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Speaker 4: but no, like she's just really hilarious and kind of

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Speaker 4: like scary smart, you know what I mean. She kept

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Speaker 4: correcting the cooking terms and the bear out loud. I

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Speaker 4: loved it.

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Speaker 3: And it was a great night and we kissed sort

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Speaker 3: of like we'd book. Yeah, it was hot and moory.

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Speaker 5: Okay, this date sounds what could have gone wrong?

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: But she made me feel calm but excited at the

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Speaker 3: same time, and that's pretty rare. And she made me

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Speaker 3: forget to check my phone for like six hours.

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Speaker 4: Do you understand what that means for me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? And how did everything end with her?

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Speaker 6: Good?

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Speaker 3: I'm so I went on I've been on plenty of

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Speaker 3: dates since she like she felt like an actual person

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Speaker 3: and it ended great.

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Speaker 4: But there was like a bug situation.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm talking like full winged invasion style bugs out

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Speaker 3: of nowhere, and there was a swarm of something I

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Speaker 3: don't know what, don't ask me, but it started circling

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Speaker 4: She was screaming.

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Speaker 7: I pan ate that, but I was like aggressively zipped,

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Speaker 7: like z there up into the tent to protect her

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Speaker 7: right or handle it spicy. When I let her out,

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Speaker 7: the zipper grit stuck or I was trying to let

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Speaker 7: her out, and I know that was really frustrating, and

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Speaker 7: she I joked, I was like, wow, this will be

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Speaker 7: a story to tell our grandkids one day.

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Speaker 3: And I don't think she was amused by that at

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Speaker 3: all the whole that situation and so basically the date

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Speaker 3: was over.

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Speaker 5: Oh okay.

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Speaker 1: Was she not amused by not being able to get

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Speaker 3: Comment maybe the worst choice of words at the moment.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it helped that she couldn't get out

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Speaker 1: That might have been too much too soon, And I

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Speaker 1: get that maybe maybe I think the tent part would

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Speaker 1: be frustrating, But I don't know if you would go somebody.

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Speaker 5: It's not your fault that you're stuck in the tent.

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Speaker 4: No I didn't.

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Speaker 3: I just shut her in there to protect her.

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Speaker 2: Reason, But maybe that's what I was going. All right,

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Speaker 2: And you've heard nothing from her since your date.

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Speaker 4: That's been like almost two weeks.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll play a song come back, and

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Speaker 2: then call her and see if she'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: if you still want one. Okay, all right, cool, thanks,

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Speaker 2: all right, we'll get your first date follow up next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first date follow up,

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Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Cal is on the phone,

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Speaker 2: and Cal is getting ghosted by a woman named Teresa.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: a second date if he still wants one. Before we

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Speaker 2: call her, though, Cal, why do you tell us about

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Speaker 2: your date again?

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Speaker 4: Real quick? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Well, so we went glamping, not real camping, had a

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Speaker 3: great night watching the bear in our tent and everything

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Speaker 3: was fine. There was a little bug issue temporarily got

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Speaker 3: stuck in the tent and maybe have made a bad

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Speaker 3: joke about it, but otherwise she was amazing and the

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Speaker 3: night was great.

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Speaker 4: Okay, are you ready for us to call her? Yeah? Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 4: here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Teresa. Please. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: Hey Teresa, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 4: It's called The Jewbill Show.

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Speaker 5: Hi, Teresa, I'm Nina, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: And my name is Jubell. How are you a good?

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Speaker 6: Wait? What is this like? Are you about to tell

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Speaker 6: me I want a trip or something?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 2: No, Also, I'm not sure it could end up in

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Speaker 2: a trip someday, Teresa. We do a segment on the

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Speaker 2: show it's called the first Date follow Up. That's where

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Speaker 2: if you go on a date with somebody and you

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Speaker 2: end up ghosting them, that person can email us to

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Speaker 2: get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 2: So we got an email about you.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, are you?

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Speaker 5: Are you ghosting somebody?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Is his name Cal?

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Speaker 6: Yes?

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Speaker 4: Okay?

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Speaker 2: Well Cal is the person who emailed us, and we

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Speaker 2: talked to him a by your date and he said

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Speaker 2: he really liked you, you thought you were awesome, but he

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Speaker 2: cannot figure out why. It's been about ten days and

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Speaker 2: you still have not gotten back to him. Would you

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Speaker 2: mind telling us?

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Speaker 6: Because he's a liar, a good one, but I caught him.

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Speaker 4: He's a liar.

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Speaker 5: Do you mean?

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Speaker 8: Okay, well, he watched the finale of The Bear before

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Speaker 8: our date.

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Speaker 6: Then we watched it with me, pretending he hadn't seen it.

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Speaker 5: Well, how do you know?

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Speaker 2: I know?

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Speaker 5: Well, yeah, I was gonna ask, how do you know?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, well he quoted in line before it happened.

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Speaker 5: Okay, okay, could he have seen that?

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Speaker 3: Wait?

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Speaker 4: Wait, wait, wait, that's why.

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Speaker 2: That is why, Theresa, that's cal He's actually on the

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Speaker 2: phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 6: What Yeah, my god, Well you're a liar.

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Speaker 4: No, that's not a lie. It's not a lie.

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Speaker 6: No, you're a liar. And I shouldn't be surprised that

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Speaker 3: Didn't think that mattered at all. I wanted to spend

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Speaker 3: trying to make it feel like a first time thing again, so.

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Speaker 6: Thoughtful Gaslight knew a projector and a s'more?

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Speaker 5: Did you actually watch the finale? Cow? Had you seen

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Speaker 5: it before you guys sat down to do that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Well, actually, like, leading up to the date, I

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Speaker 3: actually bringed the whole thing because I'd honestly never seen

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Speaker 4: But I liked it. It's really good.

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Speaker 6: So you lied about telling me that you've seen it before.

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Speaker 3: Also, okay, I'm sorry. I the only reason I did

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Speaker 3: it was because I really liked you. I didn't know

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Speaker 3: you about know what was going on. I just honestly

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Speaker 6: Uh uh, you're lying again.

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Speaker 4: It's not a lie, that's the truth.

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Speaker 5: Why does it make you so mad? Teresa? I feel

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Speaker 5: like it's kind of cute like that he watched all

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Speaker 5: of it because.

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Speaker 3: You liked it.

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Speaker 8: Well, if you want to date a liar, then fine,

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Speaker 8: go ahead. That's that's good for you. But you know,

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Speaker 8: for me, I can't do that.

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Speaker 6: I'm not a lot.

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Speaker 4: That's not fair.

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Speaker 5: Are you mad because he lied or because he's good

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 6: Actually that's a really good point.

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Speaker 5: I'm just curious.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to understand because this seems to be a

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Speaker 1: in her life happened with liars.

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Speaker 5: So she doesn't want to deal with that again.

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Speaker 6: Well, it's gonna lie about that? Like, how would I

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Speaker 6: know you're not gonna lie to me about other things?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 6: Is Cal even your name?

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Seriously, please, you gotta forgive me. I'm sorry, I am

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Speaker 4: really really sorry. I apologize. I will never lie again.

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Speaker 4: I saw him.

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Speaker 3: I swear to never lie again. Please forget me. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 6: Well, be sorry alone.

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Speaker 4: WHOA, she's just up, Cal? WHOA?

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Speaker 5: Seriously, Cal, that sounds like studdy. You don't even want

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Speaker 4: I don't know what just happened.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think this is deeper than you, Cal. I

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Speaker 5: don't think this is even about the Bear.

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Speaker 3: Well, at least now I know that she's got trust

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Speaker 3: issues and the Bear's not a bad show.

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Speaker 5: That's a good takeaway. I'm so sorry, but.

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Speaker 4: I've been watched twenty eight episodes for her.

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Speaker 5: WHOA, somebody will appreciate that.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, Cal? Yeah, thanks, Young, can did me a favor?

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Speaker 6: Actually you will?

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Speaker 4: First day follow up