WEBVTT - Don't remember, plan

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that if there is something important you need

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<v Speaker 1>or want to do, don't count on remembering it. Pick

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<v Speaker 1>a time and plan it into your schedule instead. Over

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<v Speaker 1>the past few months, I have run several challenges where

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<v Speaker 1>I have people try out different strategies that can hopefully

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<v Speaker 1>help make their days more enjoyable. I often share the

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<v Speaker 1>strategy and then have people brainstorm how they will build

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<v Speaker 1>it into their lives. I ask people to anticipate any

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<v Speaker 1>challenges they might have with the strategy. Then after a

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<v Speaker 1>week or so, I ask whether they faced any challenges

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<v Speaker 1>in implementation. Inevitably, one of the most anticipated and experienced

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<v Speaker 1>challenges is actually remembering the strategy. Now, I get that

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<v Speaker 1>change is hard. So much of our time unfolds habitually,

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<v Speaker 1>and it is hard to build a new habit when

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<v Speaker 1>existing habits and routines are ingrained. Most of my listeners

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<v Speaker 1>lead really full lives, which makes it even harder to

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<v Speaker 1>do something new. Some challenges are truly difficult and require

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<v Speaker 1>getting a partner's buy in, or creating more support at home,

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<v Speaker 1>or asking a manager to do something different. But the

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<v Speaker 1>challenge of remembering to implement a strategy or remembering to

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<v Speaker 1>do anything really is much more solvable. If you find

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<v Speaker 1>yourself thinking that you would like to do something but

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<v Speaker 1>that it is hard to remember, or even if you

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<v Speaker 1>hear yourself saying I need to remember to do such

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<v Speaker 1>and such, just stop. Reframe your intention. You don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to remember to do anything. You can make a plan

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<v Speaker 1>to do it and then perhaps compliment that plan with

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<v Speaker 1>a reminder. Then your brain is free for other things

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<v Speaker 1>besides keeping track of all your to dos. So remembering

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<v Speaker 1>to water your plants may not go so well. Instead,

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<v Speaker 1>choose a time and create a recurring calendar item or

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<v Speaker 1>set an alarm on your phone that reminds you to

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<v Speaker 1>go water your plants. Remembering to ask your work friend

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<v Speaker 1>how her daughter's dance performance went may lead to you

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<v Speaker 1>forgetting to ask about it, But planning to ask about

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<v Speaker 1>it could be accomplished with a calendar item or an

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<v Speaker 1>email to your work account that you will see as

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<v Speaker 1>soon as you open your email Monday morning, which is

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<v Speaker 1>right before you see your friend. Then you can be

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<v Speaker 1>sure you will ask about the performance. If you hear

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<v Speaker 1>yourself talk talking about remembering to do something. Pause and

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<v Speaker 1>adjust your language, say plan to instead, and then adjust

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<v Speaker 1>your approach. Figure out when you will do the thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and then set a specific reminder that will nudge you

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<v Speaker 1>to do it at that time. You don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>remember remembering is hard. You've built out a plan with

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<v Speaker 1>reminders so you can be confident you will follow through

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<v Speaker 1>on the action in the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura

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