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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is Distrawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: Subject he doesn't like to wash. First, Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend and I are in our mid fifties. We've

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Speaker 1: been dating almost a year and are very much in

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Speaker 1: love with one another. Our sex life has its hills

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Speaker 1: and valleys due to his health conditions and his high hygiene.

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Speaker 1: He's on medication and we got it regulated, but we

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Speaker 1: can't seem to get past his hygiene issues. Before bedtime,

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Speaker 1: I like to take a nice hot bath or a shower,

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Speaker 1: and I'll usually invite him in to join me. He

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Speaker 1: never does. He thinks I'm asking because I want to

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Speaker 1: have sex in a tub or shower, but I'm asking

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Speaker 1: because he stinks. He sleeps in a T shirt and

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Speaker 1: underwear he's had on all day. When we met and

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Speaker 1: he was trying to impress me, he always smelled good

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Speaker 1: and had on fresh clothes. Now he's gotten too comfortable

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Speaker 1: with me and he won't bathe or wash up before

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Speaker 1: for play, so he pulled the covers back. I politely

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Speaker 1: wanted me to do that. I couldn't get past the

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Speaker 1: musty smell that was coming from the upper and lower

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Speaker 1: part of his body. It wasn't a strong smell, but

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Speaker 1: it's not what I want to come face to face

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Speaker 1: with if you get my drift. I finally let him

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Speaker 1: to me and went to sleep. He hasn't spoken to

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Speaker 1: email to tell me that he would be staying at

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Speaker 1: and I'm so turned off by him. This is not

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Speaker 1: how this was supposed to end up. How can I

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Speaker 1: get him to see that I love him but not

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Speaker 1: his body odor? Well, I don't know. I mean, you've

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Speaker 1: told him to take a shower, you know, I mean

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Speaker 1: what else can you do? I mean, I think for

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Speaker 1: me this is a deal breaker because it's just nasty.

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Speaker 1: It's too I think you must be a really wonderful

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Speaker 1: woman because you sound like it. You sound kind, supportive, loving, understanding.

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Speaker 1: All that and the fact that you're still with this

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Speaker 1: man who won't wash his bod I mean, come on,

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Speaker 1: body odor is a deal breaker for a lot of people.

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Speaker 1: You really can't make You can't force grown people to

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Speaker 1: take care of their hygiene. You can't do that. I mean,

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Speaker 1: is he lazy or just nasty or both? I just

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Speaker 1: It's just not This doesn't happen every blue moon. This

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Speaker 1: happens quite often, which is way too much. Who can

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Speaker 1: get romantic, who can be intimate? Who can you know,

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Speaker 1: do for play with someone who stinks it is a

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Speaker 1: it is. This is just trifling. I don't know what's worse,

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Speaker 1: what could be worse. When you told him to shower

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Speaker 1: and instead of showering, he turned his back to you

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Speaker 1: and got defensive and mad. And now he's emailing you

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Speaker 1: saying he'll be out of the house. Well that's good. Huh,

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Speaker 1: that's a good thing. It is stinky, but out of there.

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Speaker 1: He's not speaking to you. You may love him dearly,

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Speaker 1: but come on, let's face it. You're not going to

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Speaker 1: what he's missing while he's away and get somewhere and

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Speaker 1: doesn't do that, Steve, this is nasty. Well well well,

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Speaker 1: The biggest problem in this letter is both of y'allly

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Speaker 1: in y'all, mid fifties fifty funk is seasoned funk. See

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Speaker 1: when you're funking your fifties, it's been oh you it's oh,

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Speaker 1: it's a big difference. This funk. You sweat different when

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Speaker 1: Sex life is heals and valleys because of his health conditions,

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Speaker 1: and it's high g. He on medication when you when

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Speaker 1: you thank in your fifties and you you own your

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Speaker 1: own medication. Let me look at what's in your skin. Okay,

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Speaker 1: come on, hen us check piticilla, both, blood pressure, medicine.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, blood thinner, you know, viagral is, you know

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Speaker 1: a moxy silly, chittling juice boy. It's some stuff coming

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Speaker 1: out of his sick ass now, but we can't seem

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Speaker 1: to get past his higien. You know, before bed, just

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Speaker 1: lay like taking nice house, bad and shower now usually

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Speaker 1: I want to have sex in the tub of a shower,

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Speaker 1: But I'm asking just because he stake He's sleep in

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Speaker 1: out that Bobby cuing. You just come to bed swelling

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Speaker 1: like charcoal. Whitten me, you crack been sweating all day.

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Speaker 1: You got your same damn drawls that crack sweat strong,

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Speaker 1: and you fifty five and you old big, and you

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Speaker 1: taking hot blood pressure metasine. All right, hold on, Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: let first Steve's response coming up in twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Subject of this letter today, he doesn't

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Speaker 1: like to wash. First, we'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today Strawberry letters, the nasty one. He doesn't

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Speaker 1: like to wash. First, fifty year old couple, Cavin funk him,

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Speaker 1: he don't want one. Cavin funk, got all old ass funk,

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Speaker 1: mox Is selling, Tyler All, Hennessy chidl and Jude Viagria,

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Speaker 1: Peter Seller. He got all kinds of stuff being gay,

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Speaker 1: got all kinds of stuff, got done back all been

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Speaker 1: taking scossel, mushy. You just got vicked. Vapor rob on

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Speaker 1: his chest because he can't breathe good, yeah yeah, and

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Speaker 1: then he got the nerd and not want to wash.

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Speaker 1: You need to get some of this off for you.

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Speaker 1: Nights staying just full of peals. She's still with him.

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Speaker 1: Then before bed, she liked taking nice bath and invite him.

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Speaker 1: He never does because he thinks she asked him for

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Speaker 1: staked this man sleeping the T shirt and underwear. He

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Speaker 1: then got the same draws on with the crack sweat

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Speaker 1: on it. When we met. He was trying to impress me.

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Speaker 1: Always smell good, had on fresh clothes. Now he can

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Speaker 1: gotten comfortable. He won't bathe all washed up before he

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Speaker 1: me to do that. So that must be you know,

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Speaker 1: some folk play Jeff for him. But now what you

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Speaker 1: can't do it? You can't boy you need If you

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Speaker 1: can't take them draws all the way off, people, you're

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Speaker 1: off slow, because if you snatch them off, they bust

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Speaker 1: into flames. The holy step out your drawing for you

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Speaker 1: the covers back funk, just out loose in the room

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Speaker 1: Now see when you add them covers on you, it

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Speaker 1: just up dancing all of a sudden, Brothers Johnson at

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Speaker 1: the foot of the bed was too good. Time, get

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Speaker 1: the funk out my face, get the fun. So now

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Speaker 1: I couldn't get past the musty smell that was coming

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Speaker 1: from the upper and lower part of his body. All

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Speaker 1: the upper part is rough, but that lower part funk.

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Speaker 1: We got to get see this well, it's all types

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Speaker 1: of things that's happening. It's stuff that's been and shut up,

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Speaker 1: zipped up, mashed you walking but cheeks rubbing against each

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Speaker 1: Sweat crack drips down into the draws and soaks the

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Speaker 1: lord part of the underwell. Not a zipper has kept

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Speaker 1: the package all hot all damn day. Now that hennessy

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Speaker 1: is seeping out all that penicillin that lord body who

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Speaker 1: Now she said it wasn't a strong bill, But it's

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Speaker 1: not what I want to come face to faith with.

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Speaker 1: You know, my drip. We ain't got to get in there.

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Speaker 1: I finally let him know that what his problem is

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Speaker 1: After I told his little funk ask what was wrong,

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Speaker 1: You had to get out that damn bad you know,

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Speaker 1: I did this up, No you didn't. Still, now his

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Speaker 1: he said her email. But thank god for that good thing.

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Speaker 1: You didn't drop the note off. Gonna send me an

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Speaker 1: you courted me, been with me, used to smell good.

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Speaker 1: That's who I want back. Make me happy and I

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Speaker 1: do whatever you want to do. But you guys to

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Speaker 1: wash something now. Listen, idn't ran the water holes from

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Speaker 1: I got that high pressure nas alone. Now. Now what

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Speaker 1: I want you to do it put your jocket strap on.

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna need your whole crack just power washed

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