WEBVTT - Shining Bright but Doing the Work with Jenny McCarthy

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm heart Radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh oh is it the right stuff? The first time?

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<v Speaker 2>Then I met you? Yep, I'm not the singer. I've

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<v Speaker 2>got the lyrics.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have a funny story about nw kits on

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<v Speaker 1>the Block.

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<v Speaker 2>When I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably I want to say ten okay, Todd Erworth called,

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<v Speaker 1>who was my brother's best friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like, I don't know who Todd is got it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not supposed to.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was watching my VHS tape of nw kits

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<v Speaker 1>on the Block and got stuck with the Jordan when

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<v Speaker 1>he had the black hat thing, and I remember I

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<v Speaker 1>never I was like, hey Todd, yep, let me get

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<v Speaker 1>my brother. One second, I put the phone down and

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<v Speaker 1>then I see Jordan on the screen. Totally forgot to

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<v Speaker 1>connect my brother and Todd. And to this day I

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<v Speaker 1>still remember that. Isn't that sad?

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<v Speaker 2>Did Todd listen to you sing your heart out? I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know? Thank god it wasn't FaceTime back.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like the things we remember, like what i'd

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<v Speaker 1>give to remember half my some of my childhood.

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<v Speaker 2>I've forgotten a lot, well did, but I'd like to forget. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's different than forgetting it, remember, yeah, exactly. I always

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<v Speaker 2>thought I would marry Joey because we both had asthma

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<v Speaker 2>and we were both capricorns. How did you know I

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<v Speaker 2>get asthma because one of the concerts I went to

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<v Speaker 2>had an asthma attack and he had to go off stage.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was devastated, like my soulmate, weeping on my chair,

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<v Speaker 2>devastated that he might not make it. I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>you would add asthma still do really rods in the back.

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<v Speaker 2>Asthma seventh grade was a real trip. What do you

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<v Speaker 2>take for it? Albuterol as needed?

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<v Speaker 1>I've never seen you take albuterol.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't. I've been a lot better since I've

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<v Speaker 2>gotten older, or just I think healthier, probably, but I

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<v Speaker 2>still carry it with me. Do your kids at asthma?

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<v Speaker 2>Not that I know of. No, we were afraid Legie did.

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<v Speaker 2>But m oh, that's right. I do remember that I

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<v Speaker 2>was a respiratory kid. But I think we're on track.

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<v Speaker 1>So so I bring up new kids because we have

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<v Speaker 1>kind of a well, she's married to a new kid.

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<v Speaker 2>She did what we all dreamt to do. She sought out,

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<v Speaker 2>she actually achieved the goal.

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<v Speaker 1>We've got Jenny McCarthy. Wahlberg coming on, which I think

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<v Speaker 1>is kind of cool too, because she's I wonder if

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<v Speaker 1>she's tight with all what's his face? Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>Mark Wahlberg, marky Mark. Right, she would have to be

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<v Speaker 1>have to well you never.

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<v Speaker 2>Know what look like. That'd be fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but she's going to be on and then she's, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>do you watch the MASD singer.

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<v Speaker 2>I've watched an episode. It's tricky for me. What's tricky

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<v Speaker 2>in fact, the mascots are singing. That's hard for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I remember hearing the concept going this is

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<v Speaker 1>ridiculous because it just seemed crazy, and then I've watched

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<v Speaker 1>a few episodes and it's still in my mind so silly.

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<v Speaker 1>But also for some reason, I can't look away when

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<v Speaker 1>it's on.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you ever do it? I don't think they'd ever

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<v Speaker 2>asked me, but I would do it. Yeah, I need

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<v Speaker 2>to be on sete if that happens.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you can't they put they make you these it's

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's obviously very secretive. But my thing is

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<v Speaker 1>is like, when they're doing the guessing, that's what I

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<v Speaker 1>want to ask her to. I'm like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just it's just some.

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<v Speaker 2>People have such like obvious voices, right, that's what's crazy

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<v Speaker 2>to me. And there's so many people that have been

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<v Speaker 2>on that show. Yeah, and then they also don't they

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<v Speaker 2>do themes too? Huh yeah, okay, but she is also

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<v Speaker 2>a mass singer. Come on, no, I mean, who would

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<v Speaker 2>you dress up as a buy butterfly? Butterfly? I don't know, Actually, no,

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<v Speaker 2>what would you do? I think that would be a bird?

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<v Speaker 2>A bird, a song bird. That's pretty Yeah, it has

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<v Speaker 2>to have something a little more different though. I was like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't have to be like a Paris rod coming

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<v Speaker 2>out of here rod.

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<v Speaker 3>I've got.

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<v Speaker 2>A bird with a beret. Oh what would you do? WWJD.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a different I don't know, maybe like a baby

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<v Speaker 2>cream where I got to tell you, I didn't see

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<v Speaker 2>that one coming. Maybe. I don't know what I thought.

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<v Speaker 2>It felt like there was about forty five seconds between

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<v Speaker 2>the start of the book and the end of that word.

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<v Speaker 2>I guessed about seven things, and a baby wasn't one

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<v Speaker 2>of them.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I've ever seen like a giant

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<v Speaker 1>baby warning I want.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, now I want you to do it like a

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<v Speaker 2>baby sumo baby. Yeah, okay, feels like a really big office.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I think we got a fun Oh

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<v Speaker 2>that's incredible. Well they've never asked me because I can't sing,

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<v Speaker 2>all right. Well, so let's take a break and then

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<v Speaker 2>i'll take my breat off. Jenny On, you can get serious.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you you're everything I knew you'd be. It's just

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<v Speaker 2>one thing I know about you is you're just always

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<v Speaker 2>going to be hot. I mean, it's what we've been

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<v Speaker 2>counting on.

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<v Speaker 4>You guys are so sweet. Thank you so much. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>more flammable than anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we see they all are. We see the

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<v Speaker 1>fire in the back too, so don't don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Get too close to it.

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<v Speaker 3>Also fake is that a TV? And my name?

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<v Speaker 2>Listen and my lashes and listens my lips all going on?

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<v Speaker 2>It's right there Has there ever been a baby as

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<v Speaker 2>a mess singer? Like I mean, like Jess as a

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<v Speaker 2>baby totally? And the baby was one of my favorite characters.

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<v Speaker 2>But if you asked me for a million dollars, who

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<v Speaker 2>was the baby?

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<v Speaker 4>I cannot remember. There's been so many celebrities I can't remember.

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<v Speaker 4>But it was the cutest costume I think we ever had,

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<v Speaker 4>was the baby?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, so we're just asking like, who would you be

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<v Speaker 1>if you were the mess singer? And I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 1>had a different thing. So I was on a butterfly

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<v Speaker 1>or you know something, and then I was just I

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<v Speaker 1>said a baby, and then she just started laughing. But

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<v Speaker 1>I just think a baby costume would be so cute.

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<v Speaker 3>One hundred percent. It was so cute.

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<v Speaker 4>But we've had some like amazing ones, like the monster

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<v Speaker 4>one we had was really cute. The snail was cute,

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<v Speaker 4>which was Kermit the frog inside of a snail costume.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, wait, so we just got word that Larry the

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<v Speaker 2>cable guy was the baby. Does that see macurret?

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<v Speaker 3>That seems right, That's right.

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<v Speaker 2>That's way too much for that's like talk about cognitive dissonance.

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<v Speaker 2>That doesn't. That's really hard for me. That's two set

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<v Speaker 2>off very large words. So I'm not really oh about me.

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<v Speaker 2>That's my one smart word of the day, Jenny. Okay, wait,

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<v Speaker 2>so does the sometimes does the costume sway how you

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<v Speaker 2>feel about the singing? Because like a baby, like you

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<v Speaker 2>can't hate the baby?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you know what I think when I see a

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<v Speaker 3>super expensive costume, because you can tell us somewhere a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit more pricey. I was like, Oh, this must

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<v Speaker 3>be an a lister, This must.

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<v Speaker 4>Be someone that's going to be here around because they

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<v Speaker 4>spend so much money in this costume.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I'm I'm like, not that everyone's not an

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<v Speaker 3>A lister, but you know what I mean, a singer.

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<v Speaker 4>Let me just put a really fabulous singer, I would

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<v Speaker 4>think in the most expensive costume. No, so they'll trick

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<v Speaker 4>you to thinking like, oh, this one's going to be

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<v Speaker 4>here a while and it's not.

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<v Speaker 2>So I guess I figured that there's like some wardrobe warehouse,

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<v Speaker 2>like a costume warehouse, and they all get to go

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<v Speaker 2>pick one, but they get to like, DII why this,

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<v Speaker 2>Like is it Amazon?

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<v Speaker 4>They look, they get to It depends on when the

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<v Speaker 4>celebrities sign in sign up for the show, so sometimes

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<v Speaker 4>we get people that's like two days before. So the

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<v Speaker 4>costume designers are pulling together whatever they can, but for

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<v Speaker 4>the most part they do have and the celebrities come

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<v Speaker 4>in and consult. They're like, what do you want to be? Well,

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<v Speaker 4>I want to be a butterfly, and this is how

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<v Speaker 4>I think it should be. So you can have a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of the way you wanted to see it to

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<v Speaker 4>be or look unless you run out of time, then

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<v Speaker 4>you're scoreising.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So for my Google search, it started in with South Korea. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So because when I first saw the show in my mind,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, this is or when I heard the concept

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<v Speaker 1>because I have a one of my friends produced the show,

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<v Speaker 1>and so she's telling this to me and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, val like this sounds insane, right, like this

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<v Speaker 1>is like are we seriously going to watch this? And

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<v Speaker 1>I was just telling Kristen when I do catch it's

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<v Speaker 1>so hard for me not to watch because it just

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<v Speaker 1>sucks you in.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like the craziest idea. But what for you is

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<v Speaker 2>like when you heard about the show, and then what

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<v Speaker 2>has kept you there that long?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, when I first heard about the show, I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>this sounds weird and crazy and that match is who

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<v Speaker 4>I am.

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<v Speaker 3>So my agent was like he passed.

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<v Speaker 4>On it a couple times, and I'm like, why are

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<v Speaker 4>you passing? Like they want me to do it. I

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<v Speaker 4>think I can rock this show and it's so up

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<v Speaker 4>my alley, Like I took so many mushrooms and acid

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<v Speaker 4>in college. I'm like, it's just gonna be like another

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<v Speaker 4>mushroom acid trip. And sometimes it honestly feels like that.

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<v Speaker 4>But I'm like, damn, if I was on a little

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<v Speaker 4>bit of gummies right now, I'd be like, this show

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<v Speaker 4>would be a.

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<v Speaker 3>Whole other experience. But I'm sober. Don't get me wrong.

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<v Speaker 4>Although Ken makes me want to drink sometimes, but nonetheless,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm so happy though, because it was It turned out

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<v Speaker 4>to be a really successful show.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think it's because too, it checks all those.

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<v Speaker 4>Boxes, like you want your brain to kind of think

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<v Speaker 4>and try to guess who someone is. You know, I

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<v Speaker 4>love putting together the clue packages. It's kind of like

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<v Speaker 4>my wordal, you know. I just I love the those

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<v Speaker 4>kind of brain games.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, how long have you been sober?

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<v Speaker 2>For? No?

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<v Speaker 3>I just went sober on the show.

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<v Speaker 2>She was like, of actually last night, I'm like, is

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<v Speaker 2>there tea in here? I like to keep them guessing too.

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<v Speaker 2>They always think latte, they never think vodka. It's tricky.

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<v Speaker 3>I do enjoy my vodka.

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<v Speaker 2>I will say, Okay, I have I have relationship questions.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, please bring it.

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<v Speaker 2>You've done what we all set out to do, Jenny,

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<v Speaker 2>you married a new kid, and so that matters to

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of us. And I will say one of

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<v Speaker 2>my favorite things about you is a you've always been like.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're not much older than me, but I always

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you've just always been more confident, and so

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<v Speaker 2>I've kind of just looked it up to you in

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<v Speaker 2>that way. And so when I watch your relationship with

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<v Speaker 2>your sweet husband, I always love how it feels like

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<v Speaker 2>you're so and listen, I know social media is crazy,

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<v Speaker 2>but my husband was just at an event with you, actually,

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<v Speaker 2>like a recent one, Tim Tebow something. Oh yeah, he

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<v Speaker 2>played there, and he made sure to tell me this

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm sure there's some sort of like passive aggressive

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<v Speaker 2>comment in this that I need to like be retained.

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<v Speaker 2>But he made sure to tell me that you are

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<v Speaker 2>so all in for your husband. And he said, there

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<v Speaker 2>could be a million people in the room and she

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<v Speaker 2>is just it's him and her and I. That's how

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<v Speaker 2>I've always perceived you too. But you know, social media

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<v Speaker 2>can be deceiving, so I never know, but to have

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<v Speaker 2>his like eyewitness and that too, tell me how does

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<v Speaker 2>someone successful and beautiful and so independent and confident go

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<v Speaker 2>all in on a husband like that? Like what shifted

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<v Speaker 2>for you that makes you feel that way about him

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<v Speaker 2>and makes it so easy?

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<v Speaker 4>I'll tell you having a lot of failed relationships before

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<v Speaker 4>this and learning the lessons in those failed relationships and

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<v Speaker 4>not carrying that baggage over. So with each relationship, I

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<v Speaker 4>did the work on myself. And before I met Donnie,

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<v Speaker 4>I did a year of like celibacy and was like,

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<v Speaker 4>I ain't date no one. I'm not having sex with anybody.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just gonna work on myself. And I worked on

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<v Speaker 4>self love. I know that might sound corny, but I

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<v Speaker 4>did a lot of that kind of spiritual work, and

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<v Speaker 4>I kind of told the universe. I said, listen, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>now I consider myself cooked. I don't want to bring

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<v Speaker 4>anyone else. And that's half to baked. Because I would

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<v Speaker 4>date these guys and this might sound familiar to a

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<v Speaker 4>lot of people, where I feel like I would feel

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<v Speaker 4>really good about myself. I'd get in a relationship and

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<v Speaker 4>then I felt like a down shift, like I'm in

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<v Speaker 4>a stick shift and I'm gearing down on you, like

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<v Speaker 4>I have to lower my energy, lower my vibration, just

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<v Speaker 4>so that person could fee a little bit more comfortable.

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<v Speaker 3>And I realized that is that's a losing bet right there,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I.

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<v Speaker 4>Need to shine as bright as I possibly can and

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<v Speaker 4>have someone walk with me that shines bright in his

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<v Speaker 4>own lane and we move forward together. Because it was

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of like I would be like trying to

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<v Speaker 4>pick that person up. I've got energy, here's some So

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<v Speaker 4>after a year I still wasn't kind of looking And

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<v Speaker 4>then I interviewed Donnie on one of my talk shows

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<v Speaker 4>and was like, Oh, he's smart, he's funny, and he's.

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<v Speaker 3>Cute, and he's got a good book.

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<v Speaker 2>And we had just probably made you feel beautiful too,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I could see him just being complimed he of

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<v Speaker 2>you and making you feel like probably the only girl

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<v Speaker 2>in the room right totally.

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<v Speaker 4>And we and we've been married now ten years, will

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<v Speaker 4>be ten years in August, and it's and it's it's

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<v Speaker 4>not it's not like we just are like it's not

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<v Speaker 4>like a Disney movie where we're always like having a

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<v Speaker 4>bird fly on our shoulder and like tell a lot,

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<v Speaker 4>we do the work when there are bumps, when there

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<v Speaker 4>are triggers, like we sit down and we do this

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<v Speaker 4>thing called the work. It's actually called the work, and

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<v Speaker 4>it's by Byron Katie. I don't know if you've ever

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<v Speaker 4>heard of her before. What is that She is the

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<v Speaker 4>gold standard in changing my life Donnie's Life Byron Katie.

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<v Speaker 4>You can find a lot of YouTube videos of like

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<v Speaker 4>the work and she does these five questions in a

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<v Speaker 4>turnaround and.

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<v Speaker 3>You can actually print out the worksheet on her website.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's like, I am angry because da da da

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<v Speaker 4>da da, And you write these out and by the

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<v Speaker 4>end of the sheet you have an epiphany, an awakening,

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<v Speaker 4>a turnaround. And it's amazing how you can meet someone

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<v Speaker 4>that you're so mad at for a dumb reason or

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<v Speaker 4>a serious reason and find that space to heal, forgive,

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<v Speaker 4>love and move on.

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<v Speaker 3>And Donnie and I have always done.

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<v Speaker 4>That and we are closer than ever now if you're

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<v Speaker 4>ten years like, we call each other probably fifteen times

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<v Speaker 4>a day, and I I just love them.

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<v Speaker 3>I just love them. But it's also a reflection of

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<v Speaker 3>where you are.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, you have to work on you to reflect

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<v Speaker 4>because you're out a world reflection, you're.

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<v Speaker 3>In a world.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think was one of the biggest hurdles

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<v Speaker 2>that y'all face as a couple.

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<v Speaker 4>I guess initially there are always phases, you know. Maybe

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<v Speaker 4>one of the initials was like, will our kids? Because

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<v Speaker 4>we came together like Brady Bunch, both of us had

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<v Speaker 4>sons in the same age, like will our kids get along?

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<v Speaker 4>And will they look like us? And so that was

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<v Speaker 4>a very scary hurdle and it turned out great, of course,

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<v Speaker 4>but it was something we were kind of walking slowly

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<v Speaker 4>and making sure that all emotions were good and we

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<v Speaker 4>handled it correctly.

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<v Speaker 3>And then it was a matter of.

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<v Speaker 4>Recognizing patterns we were bringing into an old relationship. And

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<v Speaker 4>I can give you, guys a really clear, awesome example

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<v Speaker 4>that I might have not said before in a talk show,

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<v Speaker 4>but this might help somebody. So when Donnie and I

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<v Speaker 4>first started dating, he would walk into the room like

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<v Speaker 4>the bedroom, and I do this with my phone and

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<v Speaker 4>he'd be like hmm, and that would kind of he

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<v Speaker 4>was just taking note of it. And then the next time,

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<v Speaker 4>you don't come in the car and I'd be like this,

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<v Speaker 4>what are you doing for people that are listening? Only

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<v Speaker 4>I'm hiding my phone next to my body. I'm quickly

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<v Speaker 4>putting the phone down.

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<v Speaker 1>Or flipping it probably the other way too.

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>I do this a lot, not just because I'm like okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I do it as a like a all right, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>all yours right, you know, but not like private.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, but you're good to know, but I would

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<v Speaker 3>be like hiding it under a pillar like it was we.

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<v Speaker 2>It's under a rud you're moving furniture.

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<v Speaker 3>Look at the squirrel out the window distraction.

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<v Speaker 4>And so we early on before we even started having problems,

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<v Speaker 4>and it was kind of weird to date someone and

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<v Speaker 4>go like, will you go to a therapist with me

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<v Speaker 4>so we can establish foundation. So I'm like, how are

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<v Speaker 4>you a person that shuts down? Are you a person

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<v Speaker 4>that likes to talk it out? So we worked out

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<v Speaker 4>these things so when she comes up, we can handle

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<v Speaker 4>them correctly. So when we checked in with our therapists,

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<v Speaker 4>it's like, how are things, How are things going?

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<v Speaker 3>And Donnie said, you know, I'm there.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel myself becoming a little bit worried, resentful, jealous

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<v Speaker 4>of like why she's all of a sudden dropping her

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<v Speaker 4>phone or hiding her phone when I walk in a room,

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<v Speaker 4>I think, is she having an affair on me? Like

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<v Speaker 4>most people would hide their phone if they're, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>talking to somebody else, like maybe she still has guys around.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, wow, this goes to show you

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<v Speaker 4>how if you don't communicate with your partner, it would

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<v Speaker 4>be of course you would think that. But what really

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<v Speaker 4>happened was I was in kind of a terrible relationship

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<v Speaker 4>out of one of my many that I was in,

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<v Speaker 4>and he was the guy I was with was very controlling,

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<v Speaker 4>and so I used to have to put my phone

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<v Speaker 4>in a phone casket when I walked in the door, like.

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<v Speaker 2>Put the wrong thing in the casket. Sys maybe it

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<v Speaker 2>should have been the dude, not the phone, let me

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<v Speaker 2>tell you.

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<v Speaker 4>And that's one of the great relationships that taught me

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<v Speaker 4>self love though. That's the one that I realized, wait

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<v Speaker 4>a minute, I deserved better. But I went through years

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<v Speaker 4>of like having to hide my phone because I couldn't

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<v Speaker 4>be on it technically. It was very bizarre the fact

0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:34.000
<v Speaker 4>that I would let that happen too. I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>what the hell is wrong with me? But when Donnie,

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<v Speaker 4>when I explained that to him and went in detail

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<v Speaker 4>about that relationship, he was like, oh my god, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>so sorry. So immediately he got compassion that this was

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<v Speaker 4>a person that was suffering PTSD or trauma, that every

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<v Speaker 4>time she was fout on her phone she would get

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<v Speaker 4>a lashing. So he had such grace and compassion that

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<v Speaker 4>I was able to then. It still took me a

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<v Speaker 4>while to break that habit. But then he just caught

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<v Speaker 4>to be like, it's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Right because he knew it wasn't had anything to do

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<v Speaker 1>with him or exactly.

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<v Speaker 4>So you can see how it takes work to work through.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not just sunshine and roses and butterflies. You have

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<v Speaker 4>to do the work.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's why I think after ten years we are

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<v Speaker 3>closer than ever.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that. I really love that we're on year

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<v Speaker 2>nine right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, that's great.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my second husband learned a lot from the first.

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<v Speaker 2>I would say, yeah, And I think it's been interesting

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<v Speaker 2>because I think he grew up in a wildly avoidant

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<v Speaker 2>family and I just grew up, like I always say,

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<v Speaker 2>I grew up in all conflict, no resolution. He grew

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<v Speaker 2>up in only resolution, no conflict. So it is like

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<v Speaker 2>you know where I'm like, let's talk about it. But

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<v Speaker 2>there was never It wasn't even a good balance. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I came at him like, you know, crazyly.

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<v Speaker 3>I got you. I got friends like that too.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, where I'm like you just tell me and he's like, whoa,

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<v Speaker 2>this feels aggressive and I'm like, well, everything feels aggressive

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<v Speaker 2>if you're not just being silent. So it's been Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>like we've just been even recently. I was like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel kind of sad about this week coming

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<v Speaker 2>up bringing up something for me. And then we talked

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<v Speaker 2>about it and I felt better when I When I

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<v Speaker 2>sit on it and stir, it gets worse and it.

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<v Speaker 4>Comes out in different ways, like it'll seep out and

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<v Speaker 4>you're all of a sudden pissed about the toilet bowl seat.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, you're like so furious that the turt toy.

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<v Speaker 3>Why are you leaving it up or why are you

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<v Speaker 3>leaving it down?

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<v Speaker 4>When really, in actuality, it's what was bothering you exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>My therapist always says that you're giving it more energy

0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:24.560
<v Speaker 1>by holding it in, So if I release it, then

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<v Speaker 1>it's I'm like, oh, okay, I actually feel so much

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<v Speaker 1>better now.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I also actually sometimes when I say it out loud,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like that that was actually quite silly. I'm really

0:19:31.960 --> 0:19:33.480
<v Speaker 2>sorry actually, And you know.

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<v Speaker 3>It's another great tool that Donnie and I do, And.

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<v Speaker 4>We do this like like every time we'll have a

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<v Speaker 4>long flight, we'll play play this game called Questions, and

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<v Speaker 4>we'll we'll ask you out the questions.

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<v Speaker 3>There's no ego. You can ask anything you want.

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<v Speaker 4>You can bring up anything you want without saying like

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<v Speaker 4>why did you hold on to that so long? It's

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<v Speaker 4>just whatever. But we always ended with or if we

0:19:52.840 --> 0:19:55.040
<v Speaker 4>don't have anything to ask, it's one question, which is

0:19:55.600 --> 0:19:58.760
<v Speaker 4>what can I be doing better? And it's such a

0:19:58.960 --> 0:20:01.080
<v Speaker 4>wonderful question to ask in relationship. But do you have

0:20:01.119 --> 0:20:04.400
<v Speaker 4>to be secure and know that whatever your partner says,

0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:04.840
<v Speaker 4>you can't go.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean the defense needs to not be

0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:08.280
<v Speaker 1>on the top.

0:20:08.480 --> 0:20:08.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>Correct, correct, correct, And it's really quite beautiful because there's

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<v Speaker 4>so many things I learned about Donnie that I would

0:20:18.480 --> 0:20:20.639
<v Speaker 4>have never have guessed unless we played that little like

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<v Speaker 4>what can we do better for each other?

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<v Speaker 1>How old were you when you guys started, when you

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<v Speaker 1>guys got together?

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<v Speaker 3>I think forty one?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so was then the kids having a kid together

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<v Speaker 1>out of the question.

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<v Speaker 4>Or oh well not biologically, but you were done.

0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:44.560
<v Speaker 3>I was done, he was done. We five dogs.

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<v Speaker 2>Those are our babies now and everyone gets a lot.

0:20:47.680 --> 0:20:49.640
<v Speaker 2>I love that the kids get along too. Sets great.

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<v Speaker 1>And your son's working on the messinger, right, is that

0:20:51.760 --> 0:20:52.440
<v Speaker 1>what it is?

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<v Speaker 4>He's working the messing and it's so cute. He works

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<v Speaker 4>the audience loadens. He's like welcome everybody, and people are

0:20:58.520 --> 0:20:59.840
<v Speaker 4>excited to see him. I know.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the sweetest thing ever.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so sweet. How often are you doing that? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>how long do you record for? How long does that go?

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<v Speaker 4>It's about a month or so, maybe a month and

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<v Speaker 4>a half and for but we do two seasons, so

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<v Speaker 4>it's about maybe three months out of the year.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there anyone that had just I mean, obviously they

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<v Speaker 2>all kind of surprise you, but is there one that

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<v Speaker 2>you just were one memorable one that you were kind

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<v Speaker 2>of mind blown over.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. When my husband surprised me and I didn't know, Yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Was totally totally freaked out because we talk all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>But he was calling me.

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<v Speaker 4>He's like, I'm on set and he's in another set

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<v Speaker 4>next door with the same background of the set of

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<v Speaker 4>Blue Bloods, meaning like you know, an off stage kind

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<v Speaker 4>of exit door.

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<v Speaker 3>They all look like the same, So I never thought

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<v Speaker 3>for one second he was in the other room.

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<v Speaker 4>So when they took off that rooster mask, I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>that's when I thought I was on acid or mushrooms.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, what, uh, why the rooster you know,

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<v Speaker 4>that's the costume that they just had available.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I was going to make like a ceoc K joke.

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't sure what was going on. I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>what do we know about that?

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<v Speaker 3>Of those I don't think they care a girl. How

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<v Speaker 3>could you not? Donnie Wahlberg, is you know in a

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<v Speaker 3>rooster costume?

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<v Speaker 2>It's your husband, not mine. I mean, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>to make it an appropriate joke, but.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's just say rooster feet were very large.

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<v Speaker 2>But okay, can we can we ladies? Can we talk

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<v Speaker 2>about formless beautiful beauty?

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<v Speaker 1>Please?

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<v Speaker 3>Please please? I'm so excited.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, tell us everything.

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<v Speaker 3>I will. I'll tell you everything in a nutshell and

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<v Speaker 3>you'll appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>We're forty and we need we need some coverage here.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we also need clean makeup because like our daughters

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<v Speaker 2>are moving into that season too, and that's the part

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<v Speaker 2>the matter most to me too, that there's like an alternative.

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<v Speaker 1>For her and can you cover my malasma?

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<v Speaker 4>She'll cover right my Mommy clients are always like, thank

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<v Speaker 4>you so much because my daughter always bowers my makeup

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<v Speaker 4>and I know that your makeup is so incredibly clean.

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<v Speaker 4>The reason why I started is because God forbid, we

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<v Speaker 4>don't need a celebrity another celebrity makeup brand. But when

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<v Speaker 4>I did my homework, because I am vigilant on ingredients,

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<v Speaker 4>even at the grocery store, I couldn't can.

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<v Speaker 3>I swear, I couldn't forget do what you want. I

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<v Speaker 3>couldn't create that.

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<v Speaker 4>That makeup was like it's still it wasn't regulated after

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<v Speaker 4>eighty years, Like.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, what are you talking about?

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<v Speaker 4>And then I found out that there's formeldehyde in mascara,

0:23:39.480 --> 0:23:43.840
<v Speaker 4>there's hormone disruptors, there's forever chemicals which cause cancer in mascara,

0:23:43.960 --> 0:23:47.000
<v Speaker 4>in most mascara. And I remember the people saying good

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<v Speaker 4>luck trying to make a mescarra without the forever chemicals,

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<v Speaker 4>because I'm like you, you sit back and you watch me.

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<v Speaker 3>Did I bring it with me? But we made the

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<v Speaker 3>most incredible freaking mescarea. It's sold out. It's been sold out.

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<v Speaker 4>We won't be able to be in restock until probably

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<v Speaker 4>just because I had no idea. So many people care

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<v Speaker 4>also about ingredients, but performance too, because I would buy

0:24:06.400 --> 0:24:09.040
<v Speaker 4>these like organic makeups and I'd be like, row, you know,

0:24:09.240 --> 0:24:12.800
<v Speaker 4>it just didn't perform great. So we are so slow

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<v Speaker 4>to roll out products because they have to pass my stringent,

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<v Speaker 4>like vigilant ingredient thing.

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<v Speaker 3>We followed the EWG, the EWG.

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<v Speaker 4>Guidelines of non acceptable ingredients. If you don't know who

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<v Speaker 4>they are, the Environmental Working Group.

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<v Speaker 2>They only ban like fifteen things, and I'm sorry here,

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<v Speaker 2>we only ban like fifteen things, right, and like European

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<v Speaker 2>standard is like tens of thousands.

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<v Speaker 3>That's right.

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<v Speaker 4>We followed the EWG, which has nine hundred pages of

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<v Speaker 4>unacceptable ingredients. So we don't use telc in our eyeshadows

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<v Speaker 4>because there's a lot of asbestos in eyeshadows. That's why

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<v Speaker 4>I tell mommies, like, if your kids gonna play with stuff,

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<v Speaker 4>let them use the non asbestos makeup. Our lip glasses

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<v Speaker 4>are all ingredients you pronounce like alo.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I want this one here on the site right there.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like it's like a tan vibe adding to part.

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<v Speaker 4>Did we I think we got we're sending you guys.

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<v Speaker 4>That's what I heard, the whole kitten kaboodle. So you

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<v Speaker 4>guys want to get everything amazing. Yeah, I finally get

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<v Speaker 4>your Maskcara, but it sold out. It's still sold out, right, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>It's sold out.

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<v Speaker 4>But we just yeah, we just are about to launch,

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<v Speaker 4>if not already. We did launch the eyelashes and why

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<v Speaker 4>did I make lashes because they're amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Lashes are everything, they wake you up, they're just like you.

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<v Speaker 4>But the bands were always so thick or the lashes

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<v Speaker 4>look so ridiculous. I'm like, oh, it's dressed up for

0:25:34.600 --> 0:25:37.200
<v Speaker 4>Halloween every day wearing lashes like this, Like we all

0:25:37.240 --> 0:25:39.080
<v Speaker 4>know that girl that goes to yoga and those lashes

0:25:39.119 --> 0:25:40.960
<v Speaker 4>that are way too long. So I'm like, can I

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<v Speaker 4>make an every day and a pump up lash? So

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<v Speaker 4>the ones I'm morning today are flutter, which I love

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<v Speaker 4>because they're sohat good for everyday use. And then we

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<v Speaker 4>came out with a brush collection, which mine are kind

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<v Speaker 4>of dirty right now. But if you guys notice, and

0:25:56.240 --> 0:25:58.399
<v Speaker 4>I'm sure you guys have bought brushes, they're like forty

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<v Speaker 4>bucks a pop.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be really gross right now. I can't tell you

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<v Speaker 1>the last time I washed my brushes. I need new brush.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, they're also saying now not to wash your brushes

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<v Speaker 2>because then there's even more like I think it's just

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<v Speaker 2>like a new brush idea. So maybe this is what

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<v Speaker 2>we need.

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<v Speaker 4>This is what you need, and guess what you guys

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<v Speaker 4>are getting them, so you're both gonna be getting one.

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<v Speaker 4>But we have twelve brushes and they're super nice. They're

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<v Speaker 4>like fancy, fancy nice.

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<v Speaker 2>But does it come as a set, because that matter.

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<v Speaker 3>Comes with the whole set, the whole travel kit.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I wish you could marry me instead. I get

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<v Speaker 2>so frustrated because I'm not a makeup girl, and then

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<v Speaker 2>I get on to try to find a brush and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I don't know what I need and trying

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<v Speaker 2>to writ mean online is hard. I want like, just

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<v Speaker 2>give me what I need.

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<v Speaker 4>That's exactly right. This is exactly what you need. And

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<v Speaker 4>if you're still like is this the contour brush or

0:26:45.160 --> 0:26:47.200
<v Speaker 4>is this the blush brush? Like if you don't know,

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<v Speaker 4>if you follow us on TikTok, we have the most

0:26:50.680 --> 0:26:54.119
<v Speaker 4>amazing quick tutorials of like we blow up the shadows

0:26:54.119 --> 0:26:56.239
<v Speaker 4>of which ones the makeup artist is using, and then

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<v Speaker 4>it goes to the next color and it's like a

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<v Speaker 4>fifth because you don't who wants to watch it half

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<v Speaker 4>in our no one? So we put them down in

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<v Speaker 4>twenty seconds. So we show you which one to use

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<v Speaker 4>and which brush to use, so it's like easy PC.

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<v Speaker 1>When did the because I don't when do the brushes

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<v Speaker 1>hit the website? The eleventh Okay, so when people are

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<v Speaker 1>listening to this, then people.

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<v Speaker 4>Are listening to this, it will be up and you'll

0:27:19.720 --> 0:27:21.280
<v Speaker 4>guys be able to get them, but you're just gonna

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<v Speaker 4>get the whole kit and kaboodle.

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<v Speaker 2>And I problemly didn't know there was that bad of

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<v Speaker 2>stuff and it's kind of disturbing me now. I didn't

0:27:27.359 --> 0:27:29.560
<v Speaker 2>realize it was that bad of stuff in makeup. It's

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<v Speaker 2>like bad, bad, and it's what we put on our skin,

0:27:32.440 --> 0:27:34.680
<v Speaker 2>which makes me so sad, like it's our biggest organ

0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:37.600
<v Speaker 2>it makes me I have there's actually a EWG app

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<v Speaker 2>that's what I used to type in products for foods

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<v Speaker 2>and like anything for the baby.

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<v Speaker 4>We just submitted our we submitted our EWR all of

0:27:48.040 --> 0:27:50.800
<v Speaker 4>our products EWG and we're now in Phase two because

0:27:50.800 --> 0:27:53.520
<v Speaker 4>they go and then they do third party testing and everything.

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<v Speaker 3>So we made it through Test one.

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<v Speaker 4>Of course we were going to pass because we followed

0:27:57.680 --> 0:28:01.080
<v Speaker 4>their strict guidelines. And I'm just excited because I wanted

0:28:01.160 --> 0:28:03.080
<v Speaker 4>to be that brand where people go, I know I

0:28:03.119 --> 0:28:05.040
<v Speaker 4>can trust her. I know I can trust her because

0:28:05.160 --> 0:28:09.800
<v Speaker 4>now everyone cares about shareholders stakeholders, and that's their line.

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<v Speaker 3>Like when all these people are talking about clean.

0:28:11.359 --> 0:28:13.520
<v Speaker 4>Beauty and then I dive into their ingredients. I'm like,

0:28:13.720 --> 0:28:15.800
<v Speaker 4>whose standard are you going by for clean?

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's not how This actually makes me have some

0:28:18.840 --> 0:28:21.200
<v Speaker 2>more faith in that because EWG app, so do you

0:28:21.240 --> 0:28:23.040
<v Speaker 2>remember the think dirty app? And I might get thrown

0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:24.560
<v Speaker 2>under the bus for this, I don't really care. But

0:28:24.560 --> 0:28:27.120
<v Speaker 2>then I started to understand that people were buying into that,

0:28:27.240 --> 0:28:29.959
<v Speaker 2>and so then it wasn't always an honest take on

0:28:30.000 --> 0:28:33.080
<v Speaker 2>what the ingredients were because money was feeding it. So

0:28:33.240 --> 0:28:36.520
<v Speaker 2>I actually have more faith in the EWG app now

0:28:36.720 --> 0:28:40.520
<v Speaker 2>knowing that they're shaking you down, our sweet soul sister.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, if anybody's gonna shake down Jennymine Crthy.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, you know what why I followed their guidelines is

0:28:44.840 --> 0:28:48.600
<v Speaker 4>because they don't. They're the only agency that's not captured.

0:28:48.680 --> 0:28:51.440
<v Speaker 4>Because let's be honest, the FDA is captured. A lot

0:28:51.480 --> 0:28:54.240
<v Speaker 4>of these people have lobbyists that are just captured. EWG

0:28:54.400 --> 0:28:57.960
<v Speaker 4>does not have that. They're the only non captured agency

0:28:58.000 --> 0:29:01.520
<v Speaker 4>that are working on behalf of humanity, and that resonated

0:29:01.520 --> 0:29:03.400
<v Speaker 4>with me and I. You know, even though they drive

0:29:03.440 --> 0:29:05.520
<v Speaker 4>my chemists, my chemist is ready to jump out of

0:29:05.520 --> 0:29:08.080
<v Speaker 4>the window. I picture him like the last King and

0:29:08.120 --> 0:29:09.720
<v Speaker 4>Game of Thrones when he jumps out the window.

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<v Speaker 3>That's my visual every time I call him. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>but you can do it, buddy, you can figure this out.

0:29:14.120 --> 0:29:16.040
<v Speaker 4>Imagine you're we're going to raise a beauty bar and

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<v Speaker 4>they're all gonna be walking behind you, and we're gonna

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<v Speaker 4>be proud, because once we do it, then others will follow.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I really need this Messcare to come back

0:29:23.080 --> 0:29:25.920
<v Speaker 1>and stop, because I low the messcara I'm using right now,

0:29:25.960 --> 0:29:28.160
<v Speaker 1>like so bad. It keeps going underneath my eye to

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<v Speaker 1>you know when you put it on and then about

0:29:30.800 --> 0:29:33.400
<v Speaker 1>like two hours later because I sweat and it's just

0:29:33.400 --> 0:29:35.920
<v Speaker 1>like you see the black underneath there too. You can

0:29:35.960 --> 0:29:38.840
<v Speaker 1>almost guess it's organic mescaa when you see somebody with them.

0:29:38.680 --> 0:29:40.640
<v Speaker 2>And you're like, hey girl going for that clean makeup?

0:29:40.760 --> 0:29:42.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah me too, it's so clean.

0:29:42.720 --> 0:29:45.200
<v Speaker 4>Or you see those people using the mascara on the

0:29:45.200 --> 0:29:47.880
<v Speaker 4>influencers and the lashes all of a sudden go up

0:29:47.920 --> 0:29:50.160
<v Speaker 4>to here and you're like, well, it really elongates.

0:29:50.200 --> 0:29:52.200
<v Speaker 3>It long gates because there's microplastics in it.

0:29:52.440 --> 0:29:55.360
<v Speaker 4>They put microplastics in your mescarrat and make those long things.

0:29:55.360 --> 0:29:57.600
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, I don't want to microplastics in my eyes,

0:29:57.680 --> 0:30:02.280
<v Speaker 4>I'm already like leached out fake fingernails. Like it's about

0:30:02.560 --> 0:30:06.680
<v Speaker 4>like what you absorb in your like your lipstick. You're

0:30:06.760 --> 0:30:09.840
<v Speaker 4>practically eating it. Those things should be very mindful, especially

0:30:09.840 --> 0:30:11.000
<v Speaker 4>if your daughters are playing with it.

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<v Speaker 2>How did you start the foremost foremost beauty is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Did it start with other things in your life and

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<v Speaker 2>then it brought you to the makeup or was it

0:30:17.360 --> 0:30:20.480
<v Speaker 2>just obviously you know, we love makeup as girls. But

0:30:20.520 --> 0:30:23.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm curious if it started with a different with like

0:30:23.600 --> 0:30:25.000
<v Speaker 2>food or something before that.

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<v Speaker 3>With the clan, it started with food.

0:30:26.320 --> 0:30:28.480
<v Speaker 4>When my son was sick and diagnosed with a bunch

0:30:28.480 --> 0:30:31.479
<v Speaker 4>of stuff, I dove in to heat his healing, and

0:30:31.520 --> 0:30:34.080
<v Speaker 4>then once I got him under control, I decided to

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<v Speaker 4>look at myself and was like, oh, I'm a disaster.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I found out I had MTHFR gene mutation.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, okay, so this is even more important why you

0:30:43.080 --> 0:30:45.200
<v Speaker 4>need this kind of makeup? Because we eat is a

0:30:45.200 --> 0:30:47.400
<v Speaker 4>perfect example, and I only have a minute left. The

0:30:47.720 --> 0:30:51.960
<v Speaker 4>if you eat let's say fish tuna, most people who

0:30:52.000 --> 0:30:55.480
<v Speaker 4>don't have this gene mutation, they hold If you don't

0:30:55.520 --> 0:30:58.320
<v Speaker 4>have the mutation, you detox ninety percent of that mercury.

0:30:58.480 --> 0:31:01.760
<v Speaker 4>If you have the mutations, ninety percent of that mercury.

0:31:02.040 --> 0:31:03.800
<v Speaker 3>So we are methilation pathways.

0:31:03.840 --> 0:31:06.960
<v Speaker 4>Our detoxing has to be taking very seriously.

0:31:07.000 --> 0:31:07.800
<v Speaker 3>Infrared z on us.

0:31:07.800 --> 0:31:09.840
<v Speaker 4>Make sure you sweat, make sure you work out, lymphatic

0:31:09.840 --> 0:31:13.280
<v Speaker 4>system is clear, because we have to help aid our body.

0:31:13.000 --> 0:31:15.880
<v Speaker 3>Into cleansing those things. So I'm very mindful of what

0:31:15.960 --> 0:31:16.480
<v Speaker 3>goes in me.

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<v Speaker 2>Now well, and also thank you for what you do

0:31:18.960 --> 0:31:20.720
<v Speaker 2>with taka and stuff too. Actually went to an event

0:31:21.240 --> 0:31:24.080
<v Speaker 2>a couple years ago back in Los Angeles, so just

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<v Speaker 2>thank you for all the advocacy work that you do

0:31:25.880 --> 0:31:29.560
<v Speaker 2>on that side as well. So sure, but you're our

0:31:29.640 --> 0:31:31.320
<v Speaker 2>dream Jess, Joanny for coming on.

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<v Speaker 1>Appreciate you and I cannot wait to try formless beauty

0:31:34.160 --> 0:31:35.720
<v Speaker 1>and of course watch I'm the mass singer.

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<v Speaker 3>I know. I'm so grateful you guys, and I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 3>You'll have to let me know how much you'll love it.

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<v Speaker 2>Please get it perfect. We already love it. We love you.

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<v Speaker 3>I love you guys. Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>By home bye, so sweet, stunning. She never ages, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of if you would have told high school,

0:31:57.040 --> 0:32:01.000
<v Speaker 2>middle school Jana I just think it's meet the people

0:32:01.040 --> 0:32:03.320
<v Speaker 2>that we've been able to interview on the show, from

0:32:03.480 --> 0:32:08.520
<v Speaker 2>McConaughey to Jada to Jenny to there's very iconic people

0:32:08.560 --> 0:32:11.000
<v Speaker 2>that have come on that I have grown up with.

0:32:11.040 --> 0:32:14.040
<v Speaker 2>Remember Tiffany Theston. I was like, what is happening?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, you know? And then I mean even I don't know.

0:32:17.400 --> 0:32:19.080
<v Speaker 1>It's just there's there's times where I go, Okay, this

0:32:19.160 --> 0:32:21.959
<v Speaker 1>is cool. It's never lost on me. Yeah, Like I

0:32:22.000 --> 0:32:22.920
<v Speaker 1>was like, who gets.

0:32:22.760 --> 0:32:25.520
<v Speaker 2>A chance to like chat with people like this? Well,

0:32:25.560 --> 0:32:28.160
<v Speaker 2>and you kind of you you did something really beautiful,

0:32:28.400 --> 0:32:33.440
<v Speaker 2>beautiful for me the other day when we when uh,

0:32:33.600 --> 0:32:36.280
<v Speaker 2>I got asked to take Jolie to go to Dallas

0:32:36.400 --> 0:32:39.320
<v Speaker 2>for the opening of the American Girl Store Doll Store,

0:32:40.000 --> 0:32:41.760
<v Speaker 2>and I'm just like, oh, like I just I'm gonna

0:32:41.760 --> 0:32:43.400
<v Speaker 2>have to figure this out and then move this and

0:32:43.600 --> 0:32:45.120
<v Speaker 2>but then we have to go to Chicago.

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<v Speaker 3>The next day.

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<v Speaker 1>And and you kind of you went, how cool is

0:32:48.440 --> 0:32:50.560
<v Speaker 1>that that you get the opportunity to just go to

0:32:50.680 --> 0:32:51.840
<v Speaker 1>Dallas take your daughter?

0:32:51.920 --> 0:32:53.160
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, you are so right.

0:32:53.280 --> 0:32:56.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm too consumed by everything else that have to do

0:32:56.240 --> 0:32:58.000
<v Speaker 1>to Okay, who's gonna take care of room? And then this,

0:32:58.080 --> 0:33:01.680
<v Speaker 1>that and the other, and it's just and the opportunities

0:33:01.760 --> 0:33:04.240
<v Speaker 1>are so cool that we get to do like crazy

0:33:04.240 --> 0:33:08.040
<v Speaker 1>cool and it just for myself joy and gratefulness of

0:33:08.040 --> 0:33:10.400
<v Speaker 1>that whole entire day. I'm like, I kept saying, how

0:33:10.480 --> 0:33:12.160
<v Speaker 1>cool is this that we get to do this together?

0:33:12.240 --> 0:33:15.080
<v Speaker 1>How grateful am I that we got the opportunity to

0:33:15.120 --> 0:33:17.800
<v Speaker 1>go do this together? How blessed are we that we're able?

0:33:18.080 --> 0:33:20.200
<v Speaker 1>You know that I have someone flexible that can help

0:33:20.240 --> 0:33:21.160
<v Speaker 1>with Roman right now.

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<v Speaker 2>You know I've had to do it too, because I,

0:33:23.680 --> 0:33:26.000
<v Speaker 2>you know, me like love to be home with the babies. Yes,

0:33:26.720 --> 0:33:30.440
<v Speaker 2>And I think part of our last couple of years

0:33:30.480 --> 0:33:33.240
<v Speaker 2>of marriage is because I'm so this is what I do,

0:33:33.280 --> 0:33:37.120
<v Speaker 2>and like I'm very boundary and boundary with no soft edges.

0:33:37.160 --> 0:33:39.920
<v Speaker 2>So now I'm trying to have boundaries with like softer edges.

0:33:40.080 --> 0:33:43.480
<v Speaker 2>But traveling with Preston matters so much to him because

0:33:43.480 --> 0:33:47.080
<v Speaker 2>it's lonely, Like two hundred nights a year, I'm home alone,

0:33:47.160 --> 0:33:49.200
<v Speaker 2>but I'm home alone with our babies. Like the people

0:33:49.200 --> 0:33:53.160
<v Speaker 2>we've made. He's not alone, but he is alone, and

0:33:53.240 --> 0:33:55.680
<v Speaker 2>so from him, to have a piece of one of

0:33:55.760 --> 0:33:58.920
<v Speaker 2>us out with him matters so I'm trying to reframe

0:33:58.960 --> 0:34:01.400
<v Speaker 2>it from myself on the marrior front, where I'm like, Okay,

0:34:02.120 --> 0:34:04.280
<v Speaker 2>I really I can't wait to take that trip with you.

0:34:04.640 --> 0:34:07.120
<v Speaker 2>I mean, we got paid to go to Aruba. That's

0:34:07.160 --> 0:34:10.000
<v Speaker 2>really cool. Like he did a show there. I'm sharing

0:34:10.080 --> 0:34:12.120
<v Speaker 2>him in some sense, but I'm also in Aruba with

0:34:12.120 --> 0:34:13.520
<v Speaker 2>my husband and that's really cool too.

0:34:14.640 --> 0:34:18.239
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean yes, and also it's important to have

0:34:18.320 --> 0:34:21.200
<v Speaker 1>those times together as much as even though I had

0:34:21.239 --> 0:34:25.800
<v Speaker 1>so much anxiety going to Mexico, No, it's funny, Julie.

0:34:26.000 --> 0:34:29.319
<v Speaker 1>Julie texted me. She goes, why on earth did you

0:34:29.360 --> 0:34:33.040
<v Speaker 1>book an earlier flight to come home to do a

0:34:33.040 --> 0:34:37.839
<v Speaker 1>bedtime routine that you do five million, ka trillion times?

0:34:38.480 --> 0:34:41.440
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, because, Julie, you know me. She's like,

0:34:41.480 --> 0:34:43.200
<v Speaker 1>I know you're anxiously attached and you had to get

0:34:43.200 --> 0:34:46.799
<v Speaker 1>back to the baby. I was like, yeah, yeah, And.

0:34:46.719 --> 0:34:49.000
<v Speaker 2>Then when I got home, I'm like, why didn't I say,

0:34:49.239 --> 0:34:51.919
<v Speaker 2>I know, but baby steps were doing it. We went,

0:34:52.360 --> 0:34:54.000
<v Speaker 2>we both did a trip in two weeks, and I'm

0:34:54.000 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 2>proud of us.

0:34:54.600 --> 0:34:57.439
<v Speaker 1>Right, But it was one of those moments where I go, Okay,

0:34:57.520 --> 0:35:01.759
<v Speaker 1>Julie had a point there, because I remember the first

0:35:01.840 --> 0:35:04.760
<v Speaker 1>day Alan and I got to Mexico again three days

0:35:05.760 --> 0:35:10.480
<v Speaker 1>or three nights, and he was like, this is going

0:35:10.560 --> 0:35:12.200
<v Speaker 1>to be over before we know it. Let's just sink

0:35:12.400 --> 0:35:14.600
<v Speaker 1>it just let's just sink every moment in and let's

0:35:14.640 --> 0:35:17.200
<v Speaker 1>take it all in. And then the last day, I'm like,

0:35:17.239 --> 0:35:19.200
<v Speaker 1>it's just time goes by so fast. It really is

0:35:19.239 --> 0:35:21.560
<v Speaker 1>a thief that but I was like, I wish I

0:35:21.560 --> 0:35:24.879
<v Speaker 1>would have enjoyed it even more. Instead, I was like, Okay,

0:35:24.920 --> 0:35:26.279
<v Speaker 1>I got two more sleeps here and then two more

0:35:26.320 --> 0:35:29.440
<v Speaker 1>days I get to go home instead of going.

0:35:28.880 --> 0:35:31.120
<v Speaker 2>You texted me when I was on that trip last

0:35:31.120 --> 0:35:33.279
<v Speaker 2>and that I said, your timing, Like I was right.

0:35:33.280 --> 0:35:34.640
<v Speaker 2>I was like, can I get out of here today?

0:35:34.760 --> 0:35:34.800
<v Speaker 3>Like?

0:35:34.840 --> 0:35:35.480
<v Speaker 2>Get me out of here?

0:35:35.520 --> 0:35:37.960
<v Speaker 1>Well, and that's why I got the earlier flight because

0:35:38.000 --> 0:35:39.239
<v Speaker 1>we were on the last flight out, Like I don't

0:35:39.239 --> 0:35:40.440
<v Speaker 1>want make the last flight out because I miss this

0:35:40.480 --> 0:35:42.799
<v Speaker 1>flights the Oh my gosh. Then I start to get anxiety,

0:35:43.840 --> 0:35:46.239
<v Speaker 1>and so in my mind, I'm like, why didn't I

0:35:46.320 --> 0:35:50.560
<v Speaker 1>just allow myself to just chill and fun. I did.

0:35:50.600 --> 0:35:53.400
<v Speaker 2>I really did have a great time. It's just you know, baby,

0:35:53.480 --> 0:35:56.640
<v Speaker 2>and good too, yeah is it?

0:35:56.960 --> 0:35:57.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

0:35:57.280 --> 0:36:00.879
<v Speaker 2>Because I mean like almost four months. Okay. I don't

0:36:00.880 --> 0:36:03.280
<v Speaker 2>know who made the timeline for you when the partum

0:36:03.360 --> 0:36:06.320
<v Speaker 2>is over, but you're like, I had my first period,

0:36:06.320 --> 0:36:10.600
<v Speaker 2>so that's over, and I'm like, oh, it's every eight days, okay,

0:36:11.640 --> 0:36:15.399
<v Speaker 2>y don ky. The postpartum post part of anxiety. Of

0:36:15.440 --> 0:36:17.879
<v Speaker 2>that piece of it though, is like primal, so it's

0:36:17.920 --> 0:36:20.400
<v Speaker 2>like you wanting to get back to him is actually

0:36:20.440 --> 0:36:22.120
<v Speaker 2>like the way God made you. It's it's a good thing,

0:36:22.960 --> 0:36:27.600
<v Speaker 2>you know. It's on with that subject is when we

0:36:27.640 --> 0:36:31.640
<v Speaker 2>went to go watch whill watching, they were saying, I know,

0:36:32.160 --> 0:36:33.759
<v Speaker 2>but you got to just like follow me on this one.

0:36:33.840 --> 0:36:35.879
<v Speaker 2>But I just love the term. I mean, I did

0:36:36.239 --> 0:36:38.120
<v Speaker 2>know that was a piece of this that's exciting. So

0:36:38.160 --> 0:36:41.080
<v Speaker 2>for me, water is kind of my relax It's almost

0:36:41.160 --> 0:36:42.759
<v Speaker 2>like my anxiety pill. So I love to be out

0:36:42.760 --> 0:36:44.880
<v Speaker 2>in the water. So it's like, Alan, let's go get

0:36:44.920 --> 0:36:47.480
<v Speaker 2>a boat. There's well watching. So we ordered this little

0:36:48.400 --> 0:36:50.840
<v Speaker 2>got this little guy to take us out there and

0:36:51.239 --> 0:36:53.640
<v Speaker 2>we were watching the whales and he was telling us

0:36:53.680 --> 0:36:59.239
<v Speaker 2>about an orca, which did you know, so in did

0:36:59.280 --> 0:37:02.200
<v Speaker 2>you know that a killer like orca whale is actually

0:37:02.239 --> 0:37:02.640
<v Speaker 2>a dolphin?

0:37:03.960 --> 0:37:04.359
<v Speaker 3>Mm hmm.

0:37:05.239 --> 0:37:08.360
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I heard this yeah, we did some dolphin experience,

0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:11.560
<v Speaker 2>I think true story, So okay, keep going.

0:37:11.600 --> 0:37:15.560
<v Speaker 1>Parents familiar so anyways, but then the orca, it's really

0:37:15.680 --> 0:37:18.879
<v Speaker 1>it's so disturbing and so but this is the whole

0:37:19.040 --> 0:37:19.839
<v Speaker 1>mother primal thing.

0:37:19.920 --> 0:37:23.080
<v Speaker 2>Just seriously follow So I'm on a romantic whale watching

0:37:23.120 --> 0:37:24.000
<v Speaker 2>story in my brain.

0:37:24.200 --> 0:37:27.480
<v Speaker 1>Suddenly, you know, So the orca is they like the

0:37:27.520 --> 0:37:30.440
<v Speaker 1>baby whales and so sad. So that but the moms

0:37:30.760 --> 0:37:34.760
<v Speaker 1>they know this, so that to protect their baby whales

0:37:35.160 --> 0:37:37.759
<v Speaker 1>they literally like put them on their stomachs and then

0:37:37.800 --> 0:37:40.080
<v Speaker 1>like roll over to protect them from the orca.

0:37:40.160 --> 0:37:41.400
<v Speaker 2>I know. It was so sad that guy was like

0:37:41.440 --> 0:37:41.880
<v Speaker 2>telling us this.

0:37:41.960 --> 0:37:43.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I just want to go home to Roman

0:37:44.400 --> 0:37:46.719
<v Speaker 1>him on my stomach roll I want to roll over.

0:37:46.960 --> 0:37:47.120
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:37:47.239 --> 0:37:50.799
<v Speaker 1>Protection, But I know, but that sort of them had

0:37:50.840 --> 0:37:53.840
<v Speaker 1>me thinking about that again. That motherly instinct to protect

0:37:53.880 --> 0:37:55.960
<v Speaker 1>your child, that's all it is. So it's okay that

0:37:56.000 --> 0:37:57.120
<v Speaker 1>you don't want to be away from him.

0:37:57.160 --> 0:37:59.520
<v Speaker 2>I know. Also we have to remember to be with

0:37:59.520 --> 0:38:01.720
<v Speaker 2>the people we made them with. So that's where I'm at.

0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:03.880
<v Speaker 1>I know, And we we did. We had like the

0:38:03.920 --> 0:38:04.600
<v Speaker 1>best time.

0:38:05.000 --> 0:38:08.520
<v Speaker 2>I actually really think like I need it more than

0:38:08.560 --> 0:38:11.000
<v Speaker 2>I think I need it when I'm with him, because

0:38:11.040 --> 0:38:15.880
<v Speaker 2>we're we're only each other's sole focus, and I miss

0:38:16.000 --> 0:38:20.239
<v Speaker 2>being taken care of like that. Like it's different. Like

0:38:20.640 --> 0:38:22.200
<v Speaker 2>I fell asleep on the plane. I woke up to

0:38:22.239 --> 0:38:25.759
<v Speaker 2>him like playing with my hair, and I was like, oh,

0:38:25.800 --> 0:38:28.919
<v Speaker 2>like I felt sweet. I know, well, he's he's good

0:38:28.920 --> 0:38:32.239
<v Speaker 2>at that. We've just there's all this like messiness in

0:38:32.280 --> 0:38:34.480
<v Speaker 2>between of like the industry and the travel and the

0:38:34.520 --> 0:38:36.279
<v Speaker 2>feelings and that you don't get to talk to each

0:38:36.320 --> 0:38:37.960
<v Speaker 2>other or see each other, you know, Like I think

0:38:38.200 --> 0:38:39.560
<v Speaker 2>you start to sort it out and it really just

0:38:39.640 --> 0:38:44.200
<v Speaker 2>comes back to like really fairly easy if you're just

0:38:44.239 --> 0:38:46.319
<v Speaker 2>talking to each other and spending time with each other.

0:38:46.480 --> 0:38:49.120
<v Speaker 1>Mama's it's okay to miss your babies, but go be

0:38:49.239 --> 0:38:50.399
<v Speaker 1>with the ones he made him with.

0:38:50.719 --> 0:38:53.600
<v Speaker 2>That's right. I'm really proud of you. We've done it

0:38:54.200 --> 0:38:56.360
<v Speaker 2>all right, friends, see you next week. I want to

0:38:56.400 --> 0:39:01.160
<v Speaker 2>be like Jenny and Donnie. I'm playing in town.

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<v Speaker 4>Mhm