1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the morning show. 2 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 2: I got a little note from Gandhi because everyone's wile 3 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 2: to just kind of checking to see how she's doing 4 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 2: and how you're doing, Danielle, and may I read this? 5 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 2: It's kind of personal. May I read this out loud? 6 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: Sure? 7 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:18,280 Speaker 2: What you wrote? Yeah, Elvis? I think my stars are 8 00:00:18,320 --> 00:00:21,800 Speaker 2: out of alignment with the Within the past couple of weeks, 9 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:24,760 Speaker 2: people have been saying the craziest things to me about 10 00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:28,480 Speaker 2: my character, my lifestyle, just a whole bunch of big 11 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:31,440 Speaker 2: feelings and they're all crappy. People have been lying to 12 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 2: my face about some stuff, and I'm reaching my limit. 13 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:37,559 Speaker 2: Usually I just let people vent and say what they 14 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 2: want to, but I've argued back a little and I 15 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 2: got then I got called a gas. 16 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:43,559 Speaker 1: Lighter on numerous occasions. 17 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:45,919 Speaker 2: Oh geezh, I hate that term gaslighting. I think we're 18 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:46,280 Speaker 2: done with that. 19 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: I think it's the worst. 20 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 2: Do you want to talk about this? I mean, is 21 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 2: it just everyone in Unison is just beating the crap 22 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:53,199 Speaker 2: out of you? 23 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: So no, I won't say everyone in Unison because I 24 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:59,279 Speaker 1: think that's dramatic. It feels like that. It is not 25 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 1: like that. Just a handful of people who I thought 26 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: or still think are fairly close to me, who just 27 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 1: have some crap to say. And I'm like, I was 28 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 1: very caught off guard by it. But you can't argue 29 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:12,480 Speaker 1: people out of their feelings. So if somebody feels that way, 30 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 1: you gotta let them feel that way and listen to 31 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 1: what they have to say. But then there were some 32 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:20,280 Speaker 1: accusations along the way of things that I just hardcore 33 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: disagree with, or the statement of the way something happened 34 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:25,840 Speaker 1: and it did not happen like that. And when you 35 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:28,520 Speaker 1: say it does not happen, you could call it a gaslighter. 36 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:31,319 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, huh. I'm not gaslighting 37 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: you by saying that is not what happened. If that's 38 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: actually not what happened, right, you are gaslighting me if 39 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: you tell me that stating facts is not true, right, 40 00:01:40,959 --> 00:01:44,680 Speaker 1: step it just listen. It's been crazy, and I do 41 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:47,320 Speaker 1: I not go lie. My feelings have been hurt and 42 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 1: I'm not used to my. 43 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 3: Feelings getting well. 44 00:01:50,760 --> 00:01:53,480 Speaker 2: Look, you know, we all agree that you are the 45 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 2: most caring, giving person in our family, and you're lovely 46 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 2: and you don't deserve that. And if someone wants to 47 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 2: have a conversation as you're air quotes, friend, then please 48 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 2: do so, but do it in a respectful manner. Yes, 49 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 2: and excuse me, and be open to what you have 50 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 2: to say about what they're saying about you. Yes, it's 51 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 2: so easy to throw someone up on the cross and 52 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 2: crucify them without really thinking about what you're saying and 53 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 2: what you're doing. And you know that's that's not cool. 54 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 2: And I'm hoping, I'm hoping it's no one within this 55 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:22,519 Speaker 2: close circle here. 56 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: No, it's people you guys don't even know. But I've 57 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: been thinking about. 58 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:30,640 Speaker 2: Well, I will tell you something from the oldest guy 59 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 2: in the room. This is where you start understanding why 60 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 2: you shed yourself in your life. You shed the people 61 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:43,839 Speaker 2: that are dead skin. There are people that you thought 62 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 2: at one time they meant something to you, and maybe 63 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 2: they did. But when they start talking to you like 64 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 2: that and they don't leave open a hole for the 65 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 2: possibility that they're wrong what they're saying to you, and 66 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:59,120 Speaker 2: they accuse you of gas lighting, okay, gas lighting, goodbye. 67 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 2: If they back you into a corner where you know, 68 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 2: sometimes you do need to defend yourself, you're saying a 69 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:06,959 Speaker 2: second ago, gandhi, I just let them vent and let 70 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 2: it go. Well, no, you know what, you you owe 71 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 2: it to yourself to defend yourself just as we would 72 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 2: defend you. Well, thank Daniel. Do you agree what I'm saying. 73 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 3: One hundred percent? 74 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 2: Yeah? 75 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 3: You know me, I'm not keep my mouth shuts me 76 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:20,799 Speaker 3: with something, I'm gonna go back. 77 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: So that's my first instinct. My first instinct is to 78 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: come out swinging like what are you talking about? Oh, 79 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:27,560 Speaker 1: you want to fight, let's fight. But then I'm trying 80 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: to be more mature and more of an adult about 81 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,919 Speaker 1: things and just let people say the things that they feel, 82 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: air it out, sit with it for a moment before 83 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: I just, you know, blindly swing back. But then when 84 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: I sit with it, I'm like still, no, no, I 85 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,040 Speaker 1: still don't agree with you. Yeah, I've thought about this, 86 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: and I think everything that you said was a pile 87 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,839 Speaker 1: of poppycock. And we can fight about this, but I don't. 88 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: I just I don't want to argue with people. I'm like, oh, 89 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: if that's how you feel about me, well okay. 90 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 2: You know arguing. Arguing can be different, different shades of arguing, right, 91 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 2: I mean, there's the defending yourself respectfully, or the is 92 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 2: like shut up, really, get f out of here? Even 93 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 2: know what I know, it's it's a stupid meme you 94 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 2: see all the time on Instagram. But when someone says 95 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:12,839 Speaker 2: something that offends you, it's always good to be as 96 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:18,919 Speaker 2: silent as you can. M just like that. Hear that, yes, 97 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 2: And then you can look at me in the eye 98 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:24,039 Speaker 2: and say, can you repeat what you just said to me? 99 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 2: And then have them repeat what they just said, and 100 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 2: sometimes that will make them go, oh god, okay, maybe 101 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 2: what I'm saying is stupid, And sometimes it doesn't, you know, 102 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 2: I don't know, but sometimes silence is the most deafening defense. 103 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 3: And then you just walk away, just turn and walk away, 104 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:43,640 Speaker 3: and they're left there going. 105 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 4: But I had somebody, you remember, somebody used to work 106 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 4: for us. That's something to me one time and I said, 107 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 4: wait a second, I'm not sure I heard that properly. 108 00:04:55,960 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 4: Can you just run that by me one more time? 109 00:04:57,920 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 4: It runs one more time, I want to make sure 110 00:04:59,920 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 4: I heard it. And they said it again and it 111 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:05,599 Speaker 4: was exactly what I thought they said. And I said, okay, cool, 112 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:07,640 Speaker 4: I'll get back to you right and. 113 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:09,719 Speaker 2: Then ask them, hey, did you hear what you just said. 114 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 2: But then at that point, you know, it's it's a 115 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:14,360 Speaker 2: back and forth thing, and maybe you don't want to 116 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:14,800 Speaker 2: get into them. 117 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: I don't know, And I think I've really been trying 118 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 1: to pay attention to this too lately. Never take advice 119 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: or criticism from somebody who is not doing something with 120 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,359 Speaker 1: their life that you would want to do. Yeah. So 121 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 1: if there's an idiot telling me that I'm an idiot, 122 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 1: do I care if I don't want to follow in 123 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: their footsteps of anything that they're doing. No, But sometimes 124 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 1: it stills things exactly. 125 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's that's friendship, and it's the disappointment. I mean, 126 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 2: you know what my dad always used to tell me, 127 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 2: You've got to lower your expectation of people. Sometimes I'm like, well, 128 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 2: I don't want to only that. Only surround yourself. Only 129 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 2: surround yourself with those few people who deserve you as 130 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 2: a friend. 131 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:54,039 Speaker 3: Yeah. 132 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 2: And then you know, I may sit here and tell 133 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 2: you your hair is red, and you you know for 134 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 2: a fact your hair isn't red. I see red, and 135 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:03,119 Speaker 2: so I'm going to tell you what I see, whether 136 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 2: it's right or wrong, and it's it's it's good. It's 137 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 2: good to know when you got to like, let people go. Yeah, 138 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 2: and it's okay. 139 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 3: I saw somebody posted this weekend, become more aware of 140 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:15,240 Speaker 3: what's really worth your energy, and I kept it and 141 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 3: I keep going back to look at it. And it's 142 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 3: true that with everything, not just with you know, you 143 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 3: know stuff in general, but with people also. 144 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:25,479 Speaker 1: No, totally, I completely agree. And I will say having 145 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: my feelings hurt was a new phenomenon that I haven't 146 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: felt in a very long time. 147 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 2: So I was like, ew, it's good. Your feelings are 148 00:06:32,960 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 2: hurt for a reason, so listen to your listen to 149 00:06:35,279 --> 00:06:37,920 Speaker 2: your heart. You're you, You are hurting for a reason. 150 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 2: That reason is your answer.