1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Well, now it's time for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:03,279 --> 00:00:06,720 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:10,360 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HAARVFM dot com. 4 00:00:10,440 --> 00:00:12,799 Speaker 1: All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter, 5 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: and we could be reading your letter live on the air, 6 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 1: just like we're going to read this one right here, 7 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 1: right now, and you never know, it could be yours. 8 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:22,720 Speaker 1: Keep those letters coming. 9 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,760 Speaker 2: Yes right, Shirley, could be yours. Ladies and Jentlemen's time 10 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 2: for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend, Shirley Strawberry. 11 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: Thank you, my good friend. Junior. Subject numbers don't lie, 12 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:37,919 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm thirty three years old and single. 13 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:41,239 Speaker 1: My uncle is like a father to me, and he 14 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:44,640 Speaker 1: helped my mother raise me. He is a sweetheart of 15 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,199 Speaker 1: a man and he loves the Lord. He's active in 16 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 1: his church and he will help anyone that needs him. 17 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: He's worked all of his life and he's got a 18 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: little fortune saved up. He's fifty eight and he has 19 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 1: never been married, so he was anxious to settle down. 20 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:05,679 Speaker 1: The lady he's been seeing is not marriage material, and 21 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:09,400 Speaker 1: everyone in town knows it. The lady used to run 22 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: with my mother back when my mother was abusing alcohol 23 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:15,399 Speaker 1: and running the streets. She's known this woman for over 24 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: thirty years, and she told me that this woman had 25 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: a fling with my father while she was pregnant with me. 26 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 1: I try to be cordial with the woman because my 27 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,559 Speaker 1: uncle asked me to mind my manners around her. There's 28 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: a rumor that my mom's pastor used to mess with 29 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 1: this woman too. This is way too many bodies for 30 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: my uncle. My uncle asked my mom and I to 31 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: meet him at a jewelry store, and my mom instantly 32 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:42,760 Speaker 1: knew that he was about to get an engagement ring. 33 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: He got a very nice ring, and I stayed silent. 34 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: The next day, I called him and said that the 35 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: lady has been with a lot of men in our town. 36 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 1: My mother was in the background telling my uncle that 37 00:01:55,560 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: he's being used and numbers don't live. He said he'd 38 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,559 Speaker 1: take everything into account and talk with the woman before 39 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:07,240 Speaker 1: he asked her to marry him. A week later, they 40 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:11,120 Speaker 1: got married down at the courthouse and no one from 41 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: our family was invited. We tried calling him and he 42 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:18,959 Speaker 1: blocked all of us. I was only trying to help him. 43 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 1: How could my father figure shut me out and pick her? Hmmm, 44 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:29,079 Speaker 1: Well that's not a hard question, because haven't you heard 45 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: the term stay out of grown folks business? Well, you 46 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 1: know that's what you've done here. You've gotten in some 47 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 1: grown folks business that you had no business being in. Period. 48 00:02:41,840 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 1: He did it because he loves this woman or he 49 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:48,920 Speaker 1: can have sex with her, and whatever the reason is, 50 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:52,400 Speaker 1: none of your concern. Okay, he didn't pick her over you. 51 00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 1: This is not a competition. He picked the woman he 52 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:57,960 Speaker 1: wanted to spend his life with. You and your mom 53 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:02,680 Speaker 1: overstepped your med lane. You being messy, don't you think 54 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: if everyone in town knows about this woman, so does 55 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: your uncle who's fifty eight and you know, been out there. 56 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:14,800 Speaker 1: He knows what's going on, and that's who he's marrying. 57 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 1: He doesn't care, he doesn't care. That's who he's going 58 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: to marry. She is who he wants. Get used to 59 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: saying that and feeling that and knowing that because he's 60 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: done it already. Anyway, he's a grown man with a 61 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: few coins. He's worked hard for his money and now 62 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: he wants what he wants and he wants her. And 63 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:35,680 Speaker 1: what's it to you if he marries her. He's not 64 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 1: asking for your approval anyway. What are you afraid he 65 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: might give away his so called fortune because I see 66 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: you mentioned that in a letter he's got some coins 67 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: and there won't be anything left for you. Well, there 68 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 1: is a chance of that, and he is married to 69 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 1: her and things will go to her now. But you'll 70 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: be fine. You can't miss what you never had. So 71 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:00,800 Speaker 1: it's time now for you to constant trait on your 72 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 1: own life and leave your uncle alone and his new bride. 73 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 1: Leave them alone. He doesn't want to hear it. That's 74 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 1: why he blocked you. Okay, let this go, Steve. 75 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 3: Well, that is pretty simple for me. Thirty three year 76 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 3: that the number the title of the letter is numbers. 77 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 3: Don't lie now, this thirty three year old single lady, 78 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:30,600 Speaker 3: which means she got time for this. Uh got an 79 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 3: uncle that's a father to us. You know, mother helped 80 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 3: helped her mother raise her. Here's the deal. 81 00:04:37,720 --> 00:04:40,160 Speaker 4: He's the sweetheart of a man, and he loves the Lord. 82 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:43,279 Speaker 3: He's active in the church and will help anybody that 83 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:48,040 Speaker 3: needs him. Well, people that loves the Lord and active 84 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 3: in the church, always willing to help somebody sometimes, you. 85 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 4: Know, they they just want that wild thing. You know 86 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:58,159 Speaker 4: they won't. 87 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 3: You know we we we've been serving the Lord. Yes, 88 00:05:02,240 --> 00:05:03,559 Speaker 3: we active in the church. 89 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 4: You know. Willis Saturday night and the church is closed, okay. 90 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 3: And Dupop I'm gonna call him dupop. Dupop wants a 91 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 3: wild thing, so Dupop. And then you said he's worked 92 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 3: all his life, he's got a little fortune saved up, 93 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:31,480 Speaker 3: saved up. He's never been married. So he was anxious 94 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 3: to settle down. He fifty eight. When did he get 95 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 3: anxious to settle down? He there sixty? Now he anxious 96 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 3: to settle down. You probably don't know a lot about 97 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 3: your uncle because your uncle ain't been single the whole 98 00:05:55,200 --> 00:05:59,720 Speaker 3: fifty eight years. Your uncle has done some things. Now 99 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,159 Speaker 3: you call him a sweetheart of a man all you want. 100 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 3: And I probably think he is a nice guy, especially 101 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:08,920 Speaker 3: to you and your mother. But do poping out there 102 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,840 Speaker 3: doing some things, and he doing some things with a 103 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,719 Speaker 3: little wild girl too, and little wild girl putting it 104 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 3: on it, and he wants to bury this girl. Y'all 105 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:22,360 Speaker 3: got a problem with it. And when I come back, 106 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:24,040 Speaker 3: I'll give you the rest of it. Ain't gonna be 107 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 3: much of nothing. You ain't gonna like what I'm about 108 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:30,160 Speaker 3: to say, I'm get out to what Cherley said. 109 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 4: It really ain't your business. 110 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:34,719 Speaker 3: We'll be back to find out that it ain't your 111 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 3: business right after this. 112 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: That's right at twenty three minutes after the hour. The 113 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:45,279 Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response is coming up to today 114 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:50,039 Speaker 1: Strawberry letter, Numbers don't lie. Right after this. 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Rocket Mortgage LLC licensed in fifty states, 125 00:07:21,360 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 2: n MLS Consumer Access dot Org number thirty thirty. 126 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject 127 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:30,440 Speaker 1: is numbers don't lie. 128 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 3: Well, there's thirty three year old single lady who's obviously 129 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 3: single because she got time for this. Her uncle's like 130 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:39,880 Speaker 3: a father to help her mother raise her. He's the 131 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:42,400 Speaker 3: sweetheart of a man. He loves the Lord. He's active 132 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:44,720 Speaker 3: in the church, and he will help anyone that needs him. 133 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 3: Like I said before to break, he's been loving the 134 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 3: Lord a long time and been active in the church. 135 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 3: Do pop on some wild things because church ain't open 136 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 3: on Saturday night, And before he go to church, Papa 137 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 3: wonna do some Wow. He'd have worked all his life. 138 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 3: He got a little fortune saved up. He's fifty eight. 139 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,840 Speaker 3: He's never been married, so he's anxious to settle down. 140 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 3: I don't know how you think anxious to settle down 141 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 3: starts at fifty eight. 142 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 4: But if don't, he's really late. 143 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:17,680 Speaker 3: The lady he's been seeing is not marriage material, and 144 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 3: everybody in town knows that. I want you to bear that. 145 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 3: I didn't mind, because I'm give that information back to 146 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 3: you shortly. The lady used to run with my mother 147 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 3: back when my mother was abusing alcohol and running the streets. 148 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 3: She's known this woman for thirty years, and she told 149 00:08:32,840 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 3: me that this woman had a fleeing with my father 150 00:08:36,240 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 3: while she was pregnant with me. Okay, and didn't you 151 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 3: say that was thirty years ago. 152 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 4: Did not you say that was thirty years ago? She did? 153 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:55,160 Speaker 4: Wasn't she running with your mama? This your mama, girl? 154 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 3: Now all of a sudden, your mama good enough to 155 00:08:58,720 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 3: be mama, but the the other lady ain't good enough 156 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 3: to be white? 157 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 4: Make up your mind now, you do. 158 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 3: Know people change, then your mother change. Oh, but this 159 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:17,320 Speaker 3: lady can't change. She used to run with your mother 160 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:21,439 Speaker 3: back when your mama was abusing alcohol and running the streets. 161 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 3: She's known this woman for thirty years. Told me that 162 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:26,960 Speaker 3: this woman had a fleeing with my father while she 163 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:35,479 Speaker 3: was pregnant with me. That's what your mama told you. Okay, So, 164 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:40,079 Speaker 3: so wasn't y'all out there running the streets and abusing alcohol? 165 00:09:41,120 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 4: Okay? 166 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 3: I try to be callingial with the woman because my 167 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:49,319 Speaker 3: uncle asked me to mind my manners around her. There's 168 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 3: a rumor that my mom's pastor used to mess with 169 00:09:53,480 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 3: this woman too. That's way too many bodies for my uncle. 170 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:03,560 Speaker 3: Wait a minute, now, a rumor is that your mother's 171 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:07,960 Speaker 3: pastor used to mess with this woman too. Excuse me, 172 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 3: you don't see nothing wrong with the pastor though, So 173 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:18,439 Speaker 3: you gonna skip over your mama's pastor and go right 174 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 3: back to her being wrong. This is way too many 175 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 3: bodies from my uncle. My uncle asked my mom and 176 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 3: I to meetium at a jewelry store. My mom instantly 177 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,480 Speaker 3: knew he was gonna get an engagement ring. He got 178 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 3: a very nice ring, and I stayed silent. Next day 179 00:10:33,520 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 3: I called him and said that the lady has been 180 00:10:35,679 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 3: with a lot of men in our town. You know 181 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:43,000 Speaker 3: nothing about it. You're operating off a rumor and something 182 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 3: your drunk mama said happened thirty some years ago. No, 183 00:10:47,559 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 3: while she was drunk and pregnant with you, her drunk 184 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:54,560 Speaker 3: friend slept with her husband. What My mother was in 185 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:57,320 Speaker 3: the background telling my uncle that he's being used and 186 00:10:57,480 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 3: numbers don't lie. He said he'd take every thing into 187 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 3: account and talk with the woman before they asked to marry. 188 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 3: A week later, they got married at the courthouse. See 189 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 3: when he went to talk to her, she put some 190 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:12,480 Speaker 3: more of that happy thing on him. See she puts 191 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 3: some more of that thing on him. So right after 192 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:18,599 Speaker 3: they got talking and he said, I'm man hunting tomorrow. 193 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 4: I show appreciate you. Clear up these numbers. 194 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 1: After gil, he listened to me this how talke Abigail. 195 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:29,079 Speaker 3: Abgail listened to talking to Jill Linda and Jihn. Linda 196 00:11:29,320 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 3: told me John Linda, John Linda said that and and 197 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:41,880 Speaker 3: and and my niece of Pathia, Jilna was talking to 198 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 3: me about. 199 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 4: You, uh. 200 00:11:45,520 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 3: And they said that you had messed with the past 201 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:51,440 Speaker 3: and clear offers, and that you had slept with uh 202 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:57,880 Speaker 3: uh Abigail's uh husband while they were married. 203 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,360 Speaker 4: I didn't do that, he. 204 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 3: Said, Well, I gotta ask you a couple more questions. 205 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 3: What was you doing with these men back then? 206 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 4: I'll show you. 207 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 3: Then when they got through he met me later they 208 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:19,840 Speaker 3: got married down at the coat house, and no one 209 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 3: from my family was invited because y'all disapproved of the woman. 210 00:12:24,559 --> 00:12:27,679 Speaker 3: We tried calling him, he blocked all of us. I 211 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:30,520 Speaker 3: was only trying to help him. How could my father 212 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 3: figure shut me out and pick her? 213 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 4: What? How he picked her? That choice was so easy? 214 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:48,120 Speaker 4: Do you know what she doing to you? What's her name? 215 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:49,560 Speaker 4: What's her name? 216 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:58,080 Speaker 3: All Linda is putting from the Abigail is her mom? 217 00:12:58,320 --> 00:12:58,600 Speaker 4: Mom? 218 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, all them to put it on, put the thing 219 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:03,959 Speaker 3: on him. I'm talking about he can't even see good 220 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 3: no more. And he just happened because. 221 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:17,200 Speaker 4: What was his name, Theopol, the polease. 222 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:22,160 Speaker 3: Okay, well they named him after the one eyed Cyclops 223 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 3: because that's what they used to call him when he was. 224 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 4: The Clopsous. Yeah. 225 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:36,559 Speaker 1: Please leave your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram 226 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:38,840 Speaker 1: and Facebook at Steve Harvey f M, and check us 227 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:42,680 Speaker 1: out on the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. 228 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:45,199 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.