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Speaker 1: A month later, I met and began an awesome friendship

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Speaker 1: oh Shizzle Jizzle on our slosh Okay storytimes, so I

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Speaker 1: read it. So. We do live in separate towns about

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Speaker 1: I'm not usually the jealous type unless there's a visible

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Speaker 1: And you know, you know, sometimes people change up a look.

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Speaker 1: You know, sometimes they're the same. They're the same for

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Speaker 2: That's true. This should be Broke Back Mountain, not Triangle Love.

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Speaker 2: Broke Back Mountain. That's what I'm getting here.

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Speaker 1: Yes, thankfully Eddie understood and it didn't ruin my friendship.

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Speaker 1: I was very upset about it. Tommy did apologize for

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Speaker 2: Now that is just unacceptable. On It's not something that

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Speaker 1: So I got pissed, especially knowing that if the tables

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Speaker 1: I you know, I feel like like something like this

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Speaker 1: So I ended it good, Op, it seems like you

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Speaker 1: Tommy did not take the break well, especially because it

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Speaker 2: Run? Run? Look? This other guy is trying to have

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Speaker 1: I realized I can't do this relationship if Tyler is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this person is a is a look you can't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so hypocritical, like so hypocritical, Like Opie wants to

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Speaker 1: So I stay with Tommy for God knows why. Over

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Speaker 1: this last several months, I went through a few rough times,

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Speaker 1: That includes for Thanksgiving, which one we had usually spent together,

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Speaker 1: So I confronted him about this long time not seeing

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Speaker 1: Exce's divorce lawyer says, send three years of complete financials

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Speaker 1: Wow? When I look up a recipe on my computer,

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Speaker 1: I know, Jesus, Dirs and company. Not somebody want to

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Speaker 1: I said to him, I'll put together in facts everything

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Speaker 1: You got it. I scanned to PDF every receipt I

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Speaker 1: I know what a guy. I downloaded every bank statement,

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Speaker 1: That is beautiful, It is great, all right, but what

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Speaker 1: That's right. He asked me to stop faxing and he

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Speaker 2: Again, that is so beautiful. Like we've all had moments

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Speaker 1: Is just delicious justice. Oh it's living malicious compliance for reasons.

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