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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not paying for my

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Speaker 1: sister to get pregnant?

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you're the a hole, but you

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Speaker 2: might belong in Alabama.

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Speaker 1: Yeehaw, baby. It is ridiculous that I have to even

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Speaker 1: ask this question. But since everyone in my family is

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Speaker 1: triggered by me, my own trust in my decisions is

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Speaker 1: eroding and I need some judgments.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's hear this judgment.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry. The good people of the internet have come

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Speaker 1: to judge.

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's what we're best to at over here on Reddit, I.

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Speaker 1: Thirty four female, have a sister twenty nine female, who's

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Speaker 1: been battling with infertility issues for the past five years.

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Speaker 1: Since I'm not married and don't plan on having any children,

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Speaker 1: my parents are desperately looking to have a grandchild, and

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Speaker 1: so they're doing everything they can to support my sister.

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Speaker 1: Some of her previous failed pregnancies were high risk and

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Speaker 1: she had to quit most of her jobs halfway after

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Speaker 1: getting pregnant, and her husband makes just enough to support

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Speaker 1: them both. So to help them out financially, my parents,

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Speaker 1: along with one of my parental aunts, set up a

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Speaker 1: small fund to support the IVF.

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Speaker 2: Procedures in vitro fertilization.

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Speaker 1: Basically to help someone get pregnant. The thing is, at

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Speaker 1: first everyone was motivated, and since we had at least

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Speaker 1: twenty five people from the community and my family who

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Speaker 1: chipped in every Christmas, it was okay and the burden

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Speaker 1: didn't just fall on me.

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Speaker 2: Although, oh whenever there's although, you know something's going done.

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Speaker 1: Since the start, I was pressured into contributing the most.

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Speaker 1: What is one person got to carry it a whole

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Speaker 1: load like that?

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Speaker 2: It seems like it should be distributed. This is democracy.

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Speaker 2: Everyone backs the boat, everyone pays their baby taxes, everyone

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Speaker 2: gets a boat a vote. Oh about democracy. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: they're also you get a boat, get a boat? Oprah

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Speaker 2: democracy omrocracy.

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Speaker 1: Over the years, many people have been just dropping out

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Speaker 1: like flocks. And now it's just seven of us, down

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Speaker 1: from twenty five that are contributing to this that are

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Speaker 1: contributing to this fund. So it's just seven of us,

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Speaker 1: including me, my retired parents and other retired aunts and

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Speaker 1: uncles who don't even have a fourth of the amounts

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Speaker 1: to donate. Since then, it has been nothing but pressure

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Speaker 1: to donate. From my side. I have stood my ground

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Speaker 1: and said no and everyone keeps guilt tripping me about it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if you don't have enough money to have a baby,

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Speaker 2: maybe you shouldn't should wait a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. That is such a tough one.

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Speaker 1: At a bare minimum, all the weight should not fall

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Speaker 1: on op shore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, but also it's like, but if they don't

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Speaker 2: have the money for that, then how do they get

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Speaker 2: to have the money for raising a kid.

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Speaker 1: My sister keeps on taking loans after loans after loans,

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Speaker 1: and I don't know, but the anger and stress of

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Speaker 1: all of this is being projected on me.

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Speaker 2: Oh so, so the sister is like going into debt.

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Speaker 2: Understand wanting a baby, but it's like he's going into

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Speaker 2: a ton of debt before you even had the kid. Like,

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Speaker 2: if they had invested in ku Quin instead of you know,

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Speaker 2: all this IVF they could have paid for like three ivfs,

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Speaker 2: then they would have been able to have all the

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Speaker 2: money they needed to pay for it if they invested

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Speaker 2: like five years ago.

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Speaker 1: Exactly, Like just keep investing over time and you can

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Speaker 1: earn over sixty percent interest on cucoin, So that would

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Speaker 1: have helped a lot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and everyone that uses our biolink and get twenty

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Speaker 2: five dollars free when they trade one hundred dollars.

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Speaker 1: That's right, So click our biolink and get your free money,

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Speaker 1: baby money. So I decided that this time around, I

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Speaker 1: no longer want to contribute as much. Mind you, I

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Speaker 1: used to contribute upwards of seven thousand dollars every year. O. Shit,

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Speaker 1: seven thousand dollars a year. Bro Oh, my god.

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Speaker 2: And she's not the only one.

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Speaker 1: And she's not that they had one point twenty five people,

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Speaker 1: so maybe she's having to just get him over and

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Speaker 1: over and over it.

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Speaker 2: Bro Oh, how she how she put into this like

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Speaker 2: probably like one hundred thousand dollars it could be.

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Speaker 1: After years of feeling used for money and being a doormat,

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Speaker 1: I had enough and I made my stand.

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Speaker 2: Make that stand, Ope, you.

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Speaker 1: Can't have my money anymore. I instead decided to start

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Speaker 1: and investing in a small baking side hustle with my friend,

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Speaker 1: which I kept hushed for a while till we publicized

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Speaker 1: it on our social media. Yeah, so now we're getting

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Speaker 1: into that we're putting the money towards this. My sister

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Speaker 1: found out and made a scene to my parents, saying

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Speaker 1: that I was being cruel and greedy with my money.

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Speaker 1: And when literally all this time, I was the one

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Speaker 1: contributing the most out of any of them.

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Speaker 2: Let Op start her baking business, Let her live in peace.

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Speaker 1: Come on, This baking side hustle had been a dream

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Speaker 1: of mine since I was young. And never mind the

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Speaker 1: fact that they don't want to support me because of

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Speaker 1: my sister's IVF issues are overshadowing everything. Yeah, yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: like they just want a grandchild. I don't care about

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Speaker 1: your little your little muffins, yeah, and your little banana

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Speaker 1: nutlos Yeah, raise those loafs. My sister says that baking

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Speaker 1: aspirations can be halted and continued later, but she only

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Speaker 1: has limited time left.

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Speaker 2: Sounds like that time ran out.

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Speaker 1: Man, Am I the a hole here?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: Please tell me I'm not just going crazy? Obviously, whatever

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Speaker 1: she says, I'm sticking to my baking business. Plus it's

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Speaker 1: co operated by my friend, so I can't just quit

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Speaker 1: the side hustle on a whim and leave them hanging.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. No, Op, you're not the a hole. You contributed

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Speaker 2: seven thousand dollars a year. How much money can you

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Speaker 2: possibly spend on this? This is not this is this

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Speaker 2: is Op? You're not the a hole? No, way, no way,